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I’mexcitedtosharethislatesteditionofWomenThriveMagazine, wherewe’recelebratingthetransformativepowerofSelf-CareandSelfLove.Asweheadintothefinalstretchoftheyear,it’stheperfect momenttopauseandreflect:Howwellareyoucaringforyourself?
“ Sometimes, self-care isn’t about perfection or doing more it’s about allowing ourselves to not be okay“
Witheverythinggoingoninourlives,it’seasytoputothersfirstand letself-caresliptothebottomoftheprioritylist.Butself-careisn’ta luxury it’sessential.Behindthehighlightreelsofourlives,thereare oftensilentstruggleswekeeptoourselves.Nomatterhowsuccessfulor positivewemayappearontheoutside,it’sokaytoadmitthatnotevery dayfeelsalright
Sometimes,self-careisn’taboutperfectionordoingmore it’sabout allowingourselvestonotbeokayandaskingforhelpwhenweneedit. Thismonth,let’sembracevulnerabilityandrememberthatrealgrowth happenswhenwecareforourwholeselves,bothinjoyandinstruggle
Thisissueisheretoinspireyoutoloveandcareforyourselfina deeper,moremeaningfulway.Inourcoverstory,SorayaBarrerashares herwisdomonhowshehasbeenthrivinginherthirtiesandhasgone frompeople-pleasingtoempowerment.
You’llalsofindempoweringarticlesonbuildingastrongfoundation ofself-care,masteringtheartofbalance,anddiscoveringhowtocreate lastingfinancialfreedomfromtheinsideout.
Here’stonourishingyoursoulandlovingyourselffullyand unapologetically!
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Table of Contents
Thriving Over 30 - From People Pleasing to Empowerment
Negotiating in Love: Successful Business Strategies to Improve Your Relationship
Women Thrive Podcast Season 4
Just Love Yourself More But How? Unlocking Self-Love: The Art of Setting Boundaries
Success from the Inside Out: Building Financial Freedom with a Foundation of Self-Care
Women Thrive Author’s Summit
Turn Out the Lights on Imposter Syndrome- Permanently
Discover Innate Freedom by Unlocking the Art of Self-love
Making Yourself as a Mompreneur: Balancing Motherhood and Entrepreneurship
Embracing Self-Love: Transform Your Life Through Forgiveness
How Our Children Reflect Our Hidden Trauma
Negotiating in Love:
Turn Out the Lights on Imposter Syndrome- Permanently / P20
“In my 30s, I’ve learned that selfcare is not a luxury but a necessity.”
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Women Thrive Advertising Opportunity Is Time Management Really About Time? Or is it Ab Something Else?
Women Thrive Magazine: The Gift That Keeps on G
Creativity, Family, Hard Work, and Giving Back: The Three Faces
Why Saying “No” is the Ultimate Self-Care Hack
Dare to Be Different: Unleash Your Unique Personal Brand
REWIRE YOUR Personal Growth
The Power of Mentorship and Authenticity in Professional Growth
The Curly Hair Struggle: Embracing My Hair, Embracing Myself
Gratitude is an Everyday Attitude How to Adjust Your Attitude Accordingly Women Thrive Community
Cassandra Love Lambert
Just Love Yourself More But How? Unlocking Self-Love: The Art of Setting Boundaries / P12
SELF-CARE
Ella Rivkin
Success from the Inside Out:Building Financial Freedom with a Foundation of Self-Care / P16
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Thriving Over 30 - From People Pleasing to Empowerment
by Soraya Barrera
Entering your 30s is a milestone that often marks a shift in mindset and priorities. For many millennials, including myself, this decade can be a transformative journey from people-pleasing tendencies to internal empowerment Reflecting on my journey, I’ve discovered that this period is not just about navigating challenges but about redefining ourselves and our dreams.
The transition from our 20s to 30s can be daunting, but it’s also a chance to shed old patterns and embrace a more authentic version of ourselves. I’ve learned that the thirties are a time to build on our experiences, trust our instincts, and focus on what genuinely matters This journey of selfdiscovery and empowerment is at the heart of my mission to inspire others to make the most of this transformative decade, and for women not to fear turning 30
Photo Credit: Charlotte Clemie
Breaking Free from People-Pleasing
In my 20s, I was trapped in a cycle of peoplepleasing, always striving to meet others’ expectations at the expense of my own peace My 30s taught me a powerful lesson: saying no is not an act of rejection but a declaration of self-respect. This shift has been liberating. It’s about setting boundaries that honor my well-being, allowing me to focus on what truly matters By embracing this mindset, I’ve found greater clarity and joy in both my personal and professional life.
From Toxic Environments to Valued Expertise
I remember reading an article in Forbes about the 10 signs it’s time to leave a toxic workplace, that gave me the push to say yes to a work interview that fell on my lap when I was not even looking for a new job Leaving a toxic work environment was one of the scariest, and at the same time the bravest, decisions I have ever made. In my 20s, I stayed in roles that drained my energy and diminished my selfworth I didn’t stand up for myself and demand better salary, or conditions, I just said yes to everything. Now, I’ve found a place where my skills are celebrated, and my contributions are valued. This journey has reinforced my belief that we deserve to work in environments that foster growth and respect When we align ourselves with spaces that appreciate our talents, we unlock our fullest potential.
"In my 30s, I’ve learned that selfcare is not a luxury but a necessity."
Photo credit: Stacey Clark
Prioritizing Self-Care Over Guilt
One of the most transformative lessons of my 30s has been learning to prioritize my health without feeling guilty. In the past, I often felt selfish for focusing on self-care, fearing it would lead to missing out or falling behind Now, I understand that self-care is not a luxury but a necessity. By prioritizing my well-being, I’ve achieved a more balanced life, and I am better equipped to contribute positively to the world around me
Empowering Through Action
These personal revelations are at the heart of my Be Timeless campaign and my podcast, Females Thriving Over 30. Be Timeless celebrates the idea that our dreams have no expiration date and I encourage women to pursue their passions fearlessly, emphasizing that time should never dictate our sense of achievement or self-worth. On the other hand, Females Thriving Over 30 offers a platform for sharing stories of resilience, wisdom, and empowerment. Through these initiatives, I aim to inspire women to embrace their unique journeys and achieve their dreams, regardless of societal expectations
"Our dreams have no expiration date, and I encourage women to pursue their passions fearlessly."
Leading with Courage and Inspiration
As I reflect on my 30s, I’m reminded of the strength and resilience we all possess. My journey has been about breaking free from old patterns, embracing self-care, and finding value and fulfillment in my own path Through my campaigns and podcast, I hope to inspire others to embark on their own transformative journeys. Let’s break the mold, challenge societal norms, and create a world where every woman feels empowered to shine
Remember to check the Women Thrive Magazine website for more inspiring stories and join me in embracing the Be Timeless philosophy. Also, tune into Females Thriving Over 30 for inspiration and guidance Let’s build a community where dreams know no boundaries and every woman thrives.
Spanish expat thriving in the UK, VP of Operations empowering 100's of women, and host of a hit podcast, Females Thriving Over 30, which celebrates the achievements of women over 30 and challenges societal expectations about age and success. Former beauty Queen (UK's National Ms and International Ms) who recently competed in the Ms Great Britain pageant
Soraya Barrera
Finding Common Ground Instead of Compromising
In the boardroom, the goal of any negotiation is to reach a win-win outcome where both parties feel they’ve gained something of value In personal relationships, we must avoid the trap of compromise When we do, both partners feel like they’ve lost something Don’t settle for compromises that breed resentment Aim for win-win solutions that honor both your needs and your partner’s
This requires creativity and a willingness to look beyond immediate desires. For instance, if one partner wants to move to a new city for a career opportunity and the other is hesitant, you must explore options together Let’s try a trial period Remote work is an option. You can maintain connections in the current city while exploring new opportunities By working together to find solutions that benefit both of you, you show that you are a team partners in love and life. It is essential to set clear boundaries and expectations It is crucial to have a contract in love
Just as business contracts lay out the roles, responsibilities, and expectations of all parties involved, clear boundaries and expectations are vital for a healthy relationship. They prevent misunderstandings and guarantee that both partners know what to expect from each other. This “contracting” does not have to be formal, but it must be explicit
Start by having regular check-ins to discuss your values, priorities, and any concerns These conversations will cover various topics, from how you manage finances to how you share household responsibilities and even how much time you spend on individual hobbies or with friends. The goal is to create a shared understanding of what’s important to each of you, not to impose rules
When both partners agree, resentment is reduced, and a harmonious, supportive relationship results Make decisions rationally, not emotionally
“Themostsuccessfulrelationships arethosewherebothpartnersfeel heard,valued,andunderstood. Thisisjustastrueinany successfulbusinesspartnership.”
Bringing Objectivity to Your Relationship
Emotions are an integral part of any relationship However, when it comes to decision-making, they can cloud our judgment Successful business leaders make decisions based on data, analysis, and strategic thinking Love is not a business, but you can still benefit from introducing some level of objectivity to help you navigate difficult situations more effectively
When faced with a challenging decision, take a step back and consider the issue rationally. What are the pros and cons? This decision will impact you both in the short and long term Discussing these questions together is the best way to prevent kneejerk reactions and make more thoughtful, balanced choices
One practical method is to agree on a coolingoff period before making major decisions. This allows both partners to process their emotions and return to the discussion with a clear head. Another approach is establishing clear decisionmaking criteria that both partners agree on, such as financial stability, personal happiness, or long-term career goals. Focus on shared values to make decisions that are rational and aligned with your relationship’s bigger picture.
Mutual respect, clear communication, and a shared vision are the building blocks of successful relationships, just as they are of successful businesses. Use negotiation strategies from the boardroom in your personal life to create a loving, resilient relationship. Use active listening, seek win-win solutions, set clear boundaries, and make rational decisions to help you and your partner navigate challenges and grow together The most successful relationships are those where both partners feel heard, valued, and understood This is just as true in any successful business partnership
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Just Love Yourself More But How? Unlocking Self-Love: The Art of Setting Boundaries
by Cassandra Love Lambert
Have you ever been told to “just love yourself more” and found yourself thinking, “But how?” Like many, I used to cringe at this advice, feeling it was as vague as telling someone to “be happy”. It felt dismissive, especially when my requests for actionable steps were met with silence or superficial tips like spa days and manicures. These acts, while lovely, didn't fill the void of selfworth I was desperately trying to bridge.
For decades, I chased external validations, hoping they'd somehow translate into internal love. I did facials, massages, working out I did it all, only to find myself in the same cycles of toxic relationships and self-doubt I felt perpetually not enough, as if there was an inherent flaw in me that I couldn't manicure away
My turning point came not at a beauty salon but in a therapy session in my thirties after a challenging chapter of becoming a single mom There, I learned the word that would redefine my life: boundaries Growing up, the concept was as foreign to me as a language I never heard But here was a revelation: loving myself wasn't about accepting everything and everyone to prove my resilience or healing No, it was about knowing what to accept into my life and what to gracefully, yet firmly, keep out
Self-love, I discovered, begins with setting boundaries It's about understanding your triggers, those raw spots in your psyche that, when touched, throw you into turmoil For me, one such boundary was around pornography, linked deeply to childhood trauma. For years, I tried to suppress my discomfort, thinking I needed to ‘get over it’ to be healed. It was liberating to realize that healing meant honoring my limits, not erasing them.
Creating boundaries is like building a personal haven where you honor all parts of yourself, especially those needing protection. It’s declaring what you will not tolerate, not because you're inflexible, but because you understand your worth. Setting these limits sends a powerful message to yourself and others about what you deserve, and I want every woman to experience this in full.
Here's how you can start cultivating this profound self-love:
Identify Your Deal Breakers:
Know what does not serve you This clarity helps you decide where people fit in your life or if they fit at all. Remember, not every square peg will fit into your round hole It’s your Queendom, so you can choose who stays and who goes
Trust Your Inner Compass, Listen to Your Body and Emotions:
Your body often knows what your mind hasn't yet processed That feeling of unease, the tightness in your chest, or the sudden drop in your stomach isn’t random. These sensations are your body’s way of waving red flags Your body will communicate this to you when someone or something doesn't feel right Pay attention to these physical cues.
Communicate Your Boundaries: It's not enough to set them; you must voice them This might push against others’ boundaries, and that's okay. It's not about conflict; it’s about compatibility and self-respect This will save you heartache in the long run
Embrace and Honor All of You:
Every quirk, every scar, every fear Self-love is the unapologetic celebration of your ENTIRE being. When someone or something challenges your boundaries, it’s not a call for you to change but a sign that they might not have a place in your life
Watch Your Self-Esteem Flourish:
Your confidence grows with every boundary you enforce It's like watching a plant thrive with the proper care – your care
By embracing these principles, the journey to selflove becomes less about altering yourself to fit into someone else's narrative and more about writing your own The key to loving yourself isn't found in accepting others’ actions towards you, but in the sacred space you create for yourself through boundaries. Here, in this space, self-love blossoms naturally, and from here, everything else aligns
I am passionate about guiding women on their journey to self-love. Being the guide I never had, I find it incredibly fulfilling to support others in experiencing self-love sooner than I did Through my Pain into Power Process, we dive into self-love and boundaries once women have balanced their systems and learned how to self-soothe and regulate their emotions This aspect is at the heart of my process; once you learn and experience it, you can never go back and unlearn it. It’s one of my favorite parts of the work I do with high-achieving moms and future moms
If you’re curious about the Pain into Power Process, you can explore it at www casandralovelambert com
Life before I embraced self-love was filled with chaos and emptiness Since undergoing the transformational journey of loving myself, I feel fulfilled and ignited with purpose and passion I want every woman to experience this profound change. Take your first step set boundaries that honor yourself and watch your self-worth soar
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Cassandra Love Lambert, the visionary behind C-Love, is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Transformational Coach and Artist Certified in Clinical EFT, Brainspotting, and Somatic Attachment Therapy, she offers hope and transformation to women seeking healing and empowerment Cassandra's personal journey through C-PTSD from sexual abuse and an emotionally unavailable parent deeply informs her practice, guiding others towards self-love and wholeness
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Building Financial Freedom with
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by Ella Rivkin
As a refugee from the former Soviet Union, I arrived in the U.S. with just $100 and a dream. Like many immigrants, I was determined to build a better life. I worked tirelessly to create a thriving business, achieve financial security, and provide for my family. From the outside, it looked like I had it all But inside, I was struggling
Despite my success, I was exhausted: physically, mentally, and emotionally I kept chasing the next goal, thinking it would bring happiness, but it never did I was so focused on building my business that I had neglected the most important foundation: myself
Then, everything changed During what was supposed to be a relaxing vacation, I had a serious bike accident that shattered my arm and left me unable to work for months As I lay in the hospital, unable to move, I had no choice but to reflect on my life That pause became a breakthrough moment I realized that all the success I had built was meaningless without taking care of myself I had been so focused on doing on achieving that I had forgotten the importance of being
“I was so focused on building my business that I had neglected the most importantfoundation: myself.”
That accident taught me something powerful: real success starts from the inside out If I wanted to maintain my financial freedom and build a life I truly loved, I needed a strong foundation of self-care Today, my morning routine yoga, meditation, walking on the beach, swimming, and biking is not just a ritual; it’s the foundation for everything I do. These practices keep me grounded, energized, and focused, giving me the clarity I need to navigate both my personal and professional life. Self-care and financial freedom are deeply connected. When you take care of yourself, you gain the clarity, energy, and resilience needed for lasting success. I had to learn this the hard way, but now, it’s the foundation of how I live and how I help others achieve financial freedom.
5 Steps to Build a Strong Foundation for Financial Freedom
To achieve true financial freedom, you need more than just hard work and business strategies. You need a foundation of self-care, clarity, and purpose. Here are five steps that helped me transform my life from the inside out:
1. Own Your Time
Like many women, I was juggling everything taking care of my children, family, household, and running a business I was putting everyone else first, and it left me depleted Time is our most valuable asset, and how we spend it shapes our lives I realized that if I didn’t reclaim control of my time, no one else would Today, my morning routine of that exercises my body and brings peace to my mind is how I prioritize myself and recharge I’ve made “me-time” nonnegotiable because it fuels everything else I do Whether it’s reading, exercising, or simply relaxing, you must make time for self-care Set boundaries that protect your time, and don’t let others fill your schedule with tasks that drain you
Key words: Time management, ownership, boundaries
2. Align Your Goals with Your Vision of a Perfect Life
Success isn’t just about checking off tasks; it’s about living a life that reflects your true desires I realized that my goals weren’t aligned with the life I wanted they were just tasks keeping me busy Instead of focusing on what I was doing, I began focusing on who I wanted to be and how I wanted my life to feel
Take a moment to ask yourself: What is your perfect day? What do you want your ideal life to look like? Knowing why you do what you do is crucial to setting goals that align with your wellbeing. Shift your mindset to “Be, Do, Have” be the person who lives your ideal life, do the actions that support that, and have the results that bring true fulfillment.
Key words: Vision, purpose, perfect life, be, do, have
3. Create a Financial Plan for Freedom
Part of reclaiming my life involved taking control of my finances. I used to think that working harder and earning more was the answer, but real financial freedom is about making your money work for you. I developed a financial strategy that allowed me to build passive income and secure my future
This gave me the freedom to spend time with my family without constantly worrying about money
Your financial health is essential to your overall well-being Start today by creating a financial plan that gives you control and flexibility Building passive income streams and smart investment strategies can provide security and freedom
Key words: Financial freedom, passive income, control
“Time is our most valuable asset, and how we spend it shapes our lives. I realized that if I didn’t reclaim control of my time, no one else would.“
4. Develop a Mindset of Growth
When I was recovering from my accident, I realized I needed to shift my mindset. For years, I was stuck in a pattern of working harder, thinking that was the only way to succeed. But real growth comes from working smarter, not harder. I invested in coaches, workshops, and programs to expand my mindset and approach challenges differently.
Cultivate a mindset of growth, learning, and change. When you open yourself to new ideas and different approaches, you create opportunities for personal and professional growth. Don’t let fear or old habits hold you back. Growth comes when you step outside your comfort zone and embrace change.
Key words: Growth mindset, learning, expansion
5. Build a Life You Love
Ultimately, the goal of self-care and financial independence is to create a life you truly love For too long, I was living a life that looked successful but didn’t feel fulfilling When I began prioritizing myself, aligning my goals with my well-being, and taking control of my finances, I started designing a life that brought me joy
Take control of your life by identifying what makes you happy and building your life around those things
You have the power to create a life that brings you fulfillment, balance, and joy every day
Key words: Joy, fulfillment, design your life
Conclusion: It’s All In Your Hands
These five steps aren’t just about self-care they’re about taking control of your entire life: your time, well-being, finances, and mindset My journey taught me that the life you want is truly in your hands No one else can create it for you
Success, happiness, and fulfillment are not mutually exclusive When you take the time to care for yourself, you build a life that not only looks successful but feels meaningful You don’t have to wait for a major life event to make changes start today Reclaim your time, align your goals, take charge of your financial freedom, and develop a mindset of growth Most importantly, build a life you love At the end of the day, It’s All In Your Hands!
“Iusedtothinkthat workingharderand earningmorewasthe answer,butreal financialfreedomis aboutmakingyour moneyworkforyou.”
Ella Rivkin is a financial expert and founder of ERPS Group, dedicated to empowering business owners and individuals worldwide to achieve their Personal, Professional, and Financial goals Guided by the principle “It's All In Your Hands!”, she helps clients create lasting success and a positive ripple effect in their lives and businesses
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As a heart-centered solopreneur in the selfdevelopment or spiritual wellness arena, you have no doubt experienced all the traditional marketing advise around “finding your niche” (is “spiritual wellness” even a niche??) and “knowing your ideal client avatar” and “make it about your client’s pain points and how you solve them” – all the standard marketing best practices What you don’t get told is that all these tactics and approaches are the second step in your holistic wellness solopreneur business The first step is to connect to your inner Soul-driven Purpose for unleashing your business into the world in the first place and holding the energy of that Purpose like it is a bucking bronco through all the ups, downs, and sideways that will arise in your entrepreneurial journey – no easy feat! The energy you hold and the mindset behind it are the essential first steps to creating success on your own terms and to vanquish imposter syndrome.
What is imposter syndrome and how does it show up in heart-centered solopreneurs?
In layman’s terms, imposter syndrome is a mix of self-doubt, feelings of inadequacy, and comparison-itis that results in a belief you are not measuring up and will therefore be discovered as a “fraud”. Psychologists describe it as the psychological experience of feeling like a fraud despite success and accomplishments to the contrary. This is a harsh reality and it is way more common than you might think – potentially occurring in as much as 82% of the population at least once in their lifetime, according to a metastudy done by the Stanford University School of Medicine – impacting all demographics to include women, men, students, employees, all ages, many races/ethnicities, entrepreneurs, health practitioners, and business leaders and CEOs, regardless of job, social status, or education level You are not alone!
“ Imposter syndrome is a mix of self-doubt, feelings of inadequacy, and comparison-itis that results in a belief you are not measuring up and will therefore be discovered as a ‘fraud’.”
While not an official diagnosable syndrome in psychological terms, it is still very real and shows up in various ways, often causing us to selfsabotage, limit ourselves in what we set out to do or accomplish, or overachieve in our perfectionism and burn ourselves out in the process of proving our own worth or competence This tendency has multiple impacts in our Selves, our lives, and our businesses Have you experienced:
Pursuing the latest shiny object tactic instead of focusing on that one significant needlemoving but very uncomfortable action?
Delaying your launch multiple times because you or it is “not quite ready for primetime” and you need to do “a little more research”?
Beating yourself up because your launch numbers, social media followers, readership, or subscriber numbers are “not where they should be” or “aren’t as many as so-n-so’s?”
Experiencing self-doubt or doubt about “why you are doing this” because there is a lack of external validation or responsiveness?
Having an inability to say “no” to a difficult client? Over-delivering? Undercharging?
Taking one more class, getting one more certification, pursuing one more credential so that others see you as the expert you want to be seen as but don’t believe you already are? Any of these mindsets and tendencies can take us out of the game in a heartbeat, and in many cases may have already – think of how many times you’ve NOT done something from a lack of confidence A coaching business as a solopreneur can be a hard sell, it is true It is also true that the practitioners who are putting their hearts into helping others are also the ones who can change the world for the better – it is so worth continuing to fight the good fight for your business and the impact it could have on the world!
Turn out the lights, the party is over!
So how do you “turn out the lights” on the imposter syndrome party? In the Women Thrive’s article The Real Essence of Success, the author states how feeling true self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth are essential for actually feeling successful In the context of a heart-centered coaching business, these feelings must be embodied in the work you are doing in the world for you to feel successful and to be able to stand in your own power without external validation or comparison-itis. Here is my holistic mind-bodyspirit formula to foster the confidence in yourself and eliminate imposter syndrome in your life or coaching business:
Anchor into your Indomitable Why Know and embody your Diamond Light Contribution
Create Success on Your Own Terms and Embody your Unique Energy of Success
You can experience this formula in my forthcoming mini-course called The Wolf you Feed Series: Vanquishing Imposter Syndrome in Life and Business or through one-on-one coaching with me.
Behind each of these steps is the cultivation of your beliefs, mindset, and emotions – the core elements of your inner game – which create the energetics that can level up your solopreneur coaching practice and create success on your own terms Clarity on your Indomitable Why and your Unique Energy of Success becomes the conviction behind why you do what you do and the passion to do it in your own authentic and unique way
When you anchor into these energetics, mindsets, and beliefs, you vanquish imposter syndrome for good – because, after all, who else is like you? Absolutely Nobody!
Shelli Roberts is a Life Alchemist, Energy Healer, Author, and Speaker She is a faculty member of the Inspired Living University, has been a guest on numerous spiritual podcasts, and holds multiple certifications in coaching and energy healing modalities Her passion and calling is to guide awakened souls to experiencing their most joyful expression of life and in their Soul-full business through Soul-self-awareness and healing the inner dimensions Allowing your outer expression to shine radiantly!
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In 2015, I hit rock bottom. I was in pain and despair Looking into the mirror
I couldn’t believe the young healthy woman I once knew was disappearing in front of me I didn't recognise her any more
I was confused, exhausted and frightened that the pain I was experiencing would define my existence.
Through my tears and pain one morning, I thought “if this is how my life is going to be, then I don't want to be here”.
Comparing my appearance now to how it was prior to the event upset me
When I suffered my stroke, the right side of my face drooped and it was difficult to put makeup on I was always particular about my appearance and loved to dress up and look good, now I felt ugly and my once toned body was disappearing fast.
I was unable to perform my gym workouts and yoga.
Self-love and self-worth had definitely left the building. My marriage by then had sadly ended.
“Who will want me like this anyway?”
Despite the hard work, studying and running my own business and trying to move through each day living with chronic pain, doing volunteer work for the stroke association, working with adult and children’s hospices as a massage therapist, I still found it incredibly difficult to accept and love myself.
Then in 2015, the day I stopped giving my power away to everyone including the medical system, the day I decided I was worthy and deserved to be here in this beautiful world, the day I decided that I do matter, the day I decided to love myself and find another way to heal without prescribed medications, this was the first day on my self-love journey
I could see that I wasn’t broken and that my body was amazing, it was doing all it could to adapt and survive
I somehow dug deep and found this inner reservoir of understanding and began to like myself.
I befriended my body and started to love it and be grateful for all that it has been through.
Practicing radical self-compassion is the medicine we all need.
We all are beautiful just as we are; somehow we forget this because in this competitive society that we live in, we can distort how we feel about ourselves. We often are looking for this positive self-evaluation in order to feel valued and worthy.
Scrolling through social media posts believing that someone is prettier, slimmer, healthier and wealthier than us.
"Self-love is more effective than selfcriticism; let the driving force be love, not fear."
“This kind of compulsive concern with I, me and mine isn't the same as loving ourselves. Loving ourselves points us to capacities of resilience,compassion, and understanding within that are simply part of being alive.”
- Sharon Salzburg, The Force of Kindness
You are enough just as you are. Self love starts from within, it's not about seeking love on the outside.
Know your worth and stop comparing yourself to others, make a commitment to love how you feel inside deep at your core, that's what matters.
A beautiful act of radical self compassion is accepting who you are.
Take the time to go on your own selflove journey, look within to heal yourselfthis is the art of self love, one step, one day at a time. The more you love yourself the more confident, happy and grateful you will become and this radiates out into your life and to everyone you meet Self-love is more effective than selfcriticism, let the driving force be love not fear.
It’s time to be kinder to yourself. Raise the bar of kindness for yourself. Can you be softer with yourself? Consider if you went through something massive and traumatizing,being tough on yourself is not going to help your journey to self-love. Self-love = healing. Kindness is soft, criticism is hard. How often do we praise our friends but criticize ourselves? Imagine a child or friend going through a tough situation, how would you talk to them? What tone of voice would you use? And what would you say?
1: Practice now by talking to yourself in the same way: I like to close my eyes and place my hand over my heart as I do this, helping to connect with my inner child (we all have one, she's listening)
2: Self love journal: Write down 3 things you like about yourself daily. If you find this difficult to do, try one a day and by the end of the week you will have 7.
3: Positive self talk: Look in the mirror, your mirror is your best friend. Repeat “I am worthy, I am enough, I love myself, I am beautiful inside and out. Morning and Evening ”
4: Boundaries: It's so important to have healthy boundaries. Boundaries indicate respect for yourself which translates to loving yourself, it’s a beautiful act of self-love and everyone will benefit in return.
5: Date with yourself: Make space in your diary every week just for you, make it into a weekly ritual. How would that look? What does your ritual look like?
Perhaps sitting in the garden with your favourite drink, journalling, meditating or reading a book, dancing to your favourite tunes, eating cake or chocolate or both?
Make it fun, make it joyful, make your time matter. This is the art of self-love.
The most powerful relationship you can have is with yourself make it a loving one
Nikki Hillhouse
Nikki is an experienced Meditation teacher, Mind Detox practitioner, Therapeutic coach and Retreat facilitator. With an extensive background in holistic health Nikki's mission is to help and empower others to overcome their most challenging obstacles Enabling you to reconnect with your authentic self - transcend your fears to live your best life fully and completely
Making Yourself as a Mompreneur: Balancing Motherhood and Entrepreneurship
by Michelle Paczesny
Michelle Paczesny
I am Michelle Paczesny, a devoted Mom, savvy Business Strategist, Digital Creator, and skilled Social Media Marketing Expert. As the founder of Everyday MOMpreneur Coaching, I empower women to turn their passions into successful online businesses. Join me on a journey to entrepreneurial success!
Self-Care:
In today's fast-paced world, the rise of mompreneurs – mothers who are also entrepreneurs – has been on the steady increase Balancing the demands of motherhood with the challenges of running a business is no easy feat, but many women are embracing the opportunity to create their own paths and redefine success on their own terms. In this article, we will explore the journey of making yourself as a mompreneur, navigating the unique challenges and rewards that come with combining motherhood and entrepreneurship
The Mompreneur Journey:
The decision to become a mompreneur often stems from a desire for flexibility, independence, and the pursuit of passions beyond traditional motherhood roles Many moms find themselves drawn to entrepreneurship as a way to create a career that aligns with their values, allows them to prioritize family, and offers the freedom to pursue their professional goals on their own terms
Balancing Act:
One of the biggest challenges faced by mompreneurs is finding the balance between running a business and taking care of their families Juggling the demands of work and motherhood requires careful planning, time management, and prioritization Setting boundaries, creating schedules, and delegating tasks can help mompreneurs navigate the complexities of balancing their dual roles effectively
Support System:
Building a strong support system is essential for mompreneurs Whether it’s enlisting the help of family members, hiring child-care providers, or collaborating with other mompreneurs, having a network of support can provide the encouragement, guidance, and assistance needed to navigate the challenges of motherhood and entrepreneurship Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who understand the unique journey of being a mompreneur can offer a sense of camaraderie and empowerment
Prioritizing self-care is crucial for mompreneurs to maintain their well-being and sustain their energy levels. Taking time for self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, relaxation, and pursuing hobbies can help mompreneurs recharge, reduce stress, and enhance their overall sense of well-being. Nurturing oneself allows mompreneurs to show up as their best selves for both their families and their businesses
Empowering Mindset:
Cultivating an empowering mindset is key for mompreneurs to overcome self-doubt, embrace their strengths, and pursue their entrepreneurial dreams with confidence Believing in oneself, setting realistic goals, and celebrating accomplishments – both big and small –can help mompreneurs stay motivated and resilient in the face of challenges Embracing a growth mindset, learning from failures, and seeking opportunities for personal and professional growth are essential for mompreneurs to thrive in their entrepreneurial endeavors
Becoming a mompreneur is a journey that requires courage, resilience, and determination By balancing the demands of motherhood with the challenges of entrepreneurship, mompreneurs are redefining success and creating fulfilling careers that align with their values and passions Navigating the complexities of being a mompreneur involves finding a balance, building a support system, prioritizing self-care, and cultivating an empowering mindset With dedication, perseverance, and a strong sense of purpose, mompreneurs can make themselves and their businesses thrive, creating a legacy of empowerment and inspiration for future generations of female entrepreneurs
“As we help our children navigate their world, we simultaneously confront and address our own unresolved traumas.”
As I was getting ready to take the largest stage as the Keynote Speaker for a local domestic violence shelter in my hometown, I became slightly nervous. Not because I was an inexperienced speaker I had performed many speeches up until that time It was because I was going to expose him my father Expose him for abusing my mother and all four of his children I was going to do this on a public stage in front of over five hundred people Although a gut-check created an uncertainty of whether I wanted to broadcast the truth to my audience, I ignored that message Instead, I told myself and my biggest supporters that “it was time” to reveal the truth
I was minutes away from walking up the stairs to the stage One of my closest friends handed me his phone and said my former husband needed to speak with me I stepped away slightly from the stage and said, “Hello? I’m about to take the stage?” With a cracked voice, he said, “I am so sorry, your dad is gone ” I couldn’t believe what I heard Shock and disbelief set in and the next thing I knew was that I was sitting on the carpet to the right of the stage trembling. Consequently, I never took the stage that day.
The morning of my Keynote speech, my mother called and asked my then husband to drive to my childhood home to check on my dad because he was not answering his phone. She was visiting my sister after another abusive episode with my dad. I was angry that morning. My dad had ruined many events in our lives. I remember saying, “He’s probably drunk on the back patio like he always is this time of day”. Despite my anger, my former husband went to check on my father. As I walked to the venue of the event alone, I thought, “Can’t he just die?” I had this thought many times in my lifetime. Little did I know that day would be the last time I would have that thought As a result of facing the reality of his death, I felt lost Those statements haunted me for years I obsessed over thoughts in my head; “ Did he hear what I thought and said?”, “Could he forgive me?” “Did I cause him to die with my thoughts?”
My dad’s sudden passing brought up so many emotions from the past And they surfaced in many different ways Anger, resentment, unworthiness, negative thoughts, shame, guilt, overdrinking, and unhealthy eating habits were just to name a few One or a combination of these emotions and acts arrived in my life daily depending on the trigger I lived in constant regret, and I was just plain unhappy
Fast forward thirteen years from my father’s passing. After re-discovering myself, I have finally been able to heal from the past trauma I endured. I was able to forgive my father for all his transgressions and for all those who have hurt me in the past. Upon finding forgiveness, I also found self-love.
There were a few steps I took to find forgiveness for my abusive father and ultimately finding self-love. Here are a few insights to the steps I took
First: Self-Care is the Key! Ever listened to the announcement when flying in an airplane? Put the air mask on yourself before placing it on children or helping family members This concept is one of the main keys to finding self-love When we nourish our soul, we are able to love ourselves Do something each day that brings you joy It could be getting your nails done, taking an “uninterrupted” bath, journaling, meditation, or exercising Finding something each day that brings a smile to your face and warms your heart is the key to cultivating self-love
Second: Set Boundaries and Just Say “No”
With a service-oriented personality and a goal of helping people daily, it is hard for me to say “no” when I am asked for help When we stretch ourselves thin or say “yes” to obligations that drain us, we then have nothing left to give and become resentful, bitter, and frustrated One of my favorite lessons was from my therapist If you had two glasses of water and you pour all the water into an empty glass, then you have nothing else to give. Saying “no” allows us keep some of our energy for ourselves to practice self-care.
Third: Find you Inner Child
Throughout my healing journey, I have learned to connect with my inner child. In my endeavors to connect to my inner child, I have learned to have less judgment, greater compassion, and exponential love for myself. Although as a young child I did not have love and affection due to my father’s abuse, I have been able to re-frame the past by changing the way that I speak to myself. I have learned not to beat myself up over mistakes and imperfections, and I have been able to love myself more than I ever thought possible
Finding forgiveness is a predecessor to selflove Embrace the possibilities of how you can create a new way of life by implementing the steps above You won’t regret how your life can change by putting yourself first and finding selflove you truly deserve
Natalie Baird-King
Natalie Baird-King is a forgiveness expert and the acclaimed author of Forgiving Unforgivable ~ The Four Essential Secrets to Overcome Trauma, Stand Empowered, and Step into Purpose She is a TEDx speaker, forgiveness culture enthusiast, advocate and a board-certified family law attorney and mediator Natalie has been featured on podcasts, ABC, CBS, NBC, and other acclaimed news outlets
www forgivingunforgivable com
How Our Children Reflect Our Hidden Trauma
by Vivien Ramos
Parenting is often seen as a journey of nurturing and guiding our children
However, there’s a profound and sometimes overlooked aspect of parenting: our children act as mirrors, reflecting our own hidden traumas and unresolved issues This concept, while perhaps unconventional, offers a powerful lens through which to view our roles as parents Understanding this dynamic can lead to significant personal growth and improved parenting practices
The Reflective Nature of Parenting
Much like the saying, “You cannot teach without being taught”, raising children involves more than guiding them it requires us to grow and evolve ourselves. As we help our children navigate their world, we simultaneously confront and address our own unresolved traumas.
The Role of Consciousness in Parenting
Our journey toward healing begins by addressing past traumas, whether consciously or subconsciously held. Spiritually, this process involves recognizing and embracing the unconditional love that has always been present within us. By releasing past hurts and negative beliefs, we can better connect with our true essence of love and wholeness.
“As we help our children navigate their world, we simultaneously confront and address our own unresolved traumas.”
In understanding how our mind works, it's crucial to differentiate between three levels of consciousness:
1. The Conscious Mind:
This part of us relies on logical thinking and past experiences to navigate life It focuses on survival and often creates stories and judgments based on memories This mindset can limit our ability to access deeper, more intuitive guidance from our Higher Self.
2. The Subconscious Mind: Our beliefs, whether positive or negative, shape our reality. Children, being highly sensitive, often absorb their parents’ beliefs and emotions, which can significantly impact their self-perception and emotional health.
3. The Superconscious Mind: Also known as the Higher Self awareness, this aspect of our consciousness encompasses a timeless understanding of our past, present, and future. It provides universal guidance and knowledge, helping us align with our true potential and create more fulfilling lives.
The Mirror Effect of Newborns When a baby is born, parents face a choice: acknowledge that the newborn serves as a mirror reflecting their own perfection and greatness, or deny this reflection and succumb to ego-driven judgments Newborns are inherently free of selflimiting beliefs and maintain a strong connection to their intuition and Higher Self This purity can highlight the contrast between our ideal selves and our unresolved issues Interactions with a baby can evoke a wide range of emotions, from joy and pride to feelings of inadequacy
“The healing aspect of parenting lies in recognizing and accepting our own imperfections as we witness our child's purity.“
can prompt us to see our own perfection However, many parents struggle with this concept, often projecting their own insecurities and perceived flaws onto their children.
ThePathtoHealingThroughParenting
The healing aspect of parenting lies in recognizing and accepting our own imperfections as we witness our child's purity. By embracing our child’s innate wholeness, we can come to terms with our own, understanding that only what is perfect can create perfection. Parents who see their children through a lens of flawlessness can begin to dismantle their own self-limiting beliefs and recognize their inherent value.
Conversely, parents who hold onto negative beliefs about themselves may project these onto their children, perpetuating cycles of self-doubt and inadequacy. This cycle can lead to passing on generational limiting beliefs, such as “I’m not good enough” or “there’s something wrong with me,” affecting the child’s development and self-image.
Conclusion
Parenting offers a unique opportunity for selfreflection and growth. By viewing our children as mirrors that reflect our own hidden traumas and unresolved issues, we can embark on a journey of personal healing and transformation. This perspective encourages us to take responsibility for our own beliefs and behaviors, ultimately leading to more conscious and fulfilling parenting. By addressing and releasing our own limiting beliefs, we create a more nurturing environment for our children and foster a deeper connection with our true selves
Vivien Ramos
Vivien Ramos, originally from Germany, earned a Master’s in Clinical Psychology from the University of Vienna, Austria. After gaining experience as a psychologist in both school and hospital settings, she chose to explore a spiritually inspired approach to healing. Certified as a Subconscious Healer, she now offers intuitive sessions near Los Angeles to help her clients release transgenerational trauma and connect with the Higher Self
Is Time Management Really About Time? Or
is it
About Something Else?
by Christina Nylese
Time management is about keeping a clean calendar and being more organized, right?
That’s what a lot of my clients think when they come to me for support, feeling all over the place with their lists of ‘to dos’ with no clear direction on how to get things done But what they learn about themselves along their way to more organized living may just surprise you
The Struggle
I had a client, Sue, who felt out of control trying to micromanage her husband’s drinking When she sought help, her husband was in rehab, and she was struggling to return to a routine focused on selfcare During the two months of his treatment, she had achieved nothing
“Life still feels chaotic,” she said “There’s all of these things that I want to get back to, like yoga, acupuncture and eating healthy, but I just don’t know how to get there ”
We began with my signature time management system, Reclaim Your Time, that involves three steps: 1) Declutter, 2) Time Block, and 3) Setting Boundaries Sue was initially intimidated by the process, but once she started using the system, she began to notice deeper issues influencing her time management challenges.
A Holistic Approach to Time
For high-achieving women like Sue, setting clear goals, taking aligned action, and maintaining productivity are crucial for living an abundant life. However, when life throws a curveball and knocks you off balance, it can feel like everything is out of control. An efficient time management system is a tool for getting back on track. By starting this process, you may uncover deeper aspects of yourself that affect how you live your life.
Let’s look at this holistically and explore factors beyond scheduling that can help you understand your ability to manage time and feel in control.
“An efficient time management system is a tool for getting back on track.”
Physical Factors
Low Energy: Lack of sleep, exercise, or nutritious food can result in low energy levels, impacting productivity. This can make your most important actions feel very overwhelming causing you to procrastinate or panic, feeling like there isn’t enough time.
Stress: Stress causes fatigue which makes it hard to stay focused and alert. Fatigue and brain fog interfere with efficient problem-solving and create a cycle where stress reduces productivity, which then increases stress further.
Brain Health: Poor nutrition, sleep and exercise can also impact cognitive function, making it difficult to concentrate or make decisions
Emotional Factors
Emotional Overload: Unresolved emotions such as anxiety, anger or sadness can cause distraction or avoidance, complicating time management Emotional overload can impair clear thinking and focused work, leading to frustration and feeling like giving up
Fear of Failure or Success: Fear of failure can cause us to procrastinate which only prolongs our discomfort, while fear of success can have us filling our schedules with busy work rather than meaningful tasks that align with our goal
Some may avoid revenue-generating activities due to fear of managing large sums of money
People Pleasing: The need to feel accepted by others causes us to say ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no,’ leaving little time for personal priorities. This can lead to burnout and feeling like we have no control over our time.
"Effective time management isn't just about organizing your schedule – it's about uncovering and addressing the deeper issues that affect how you live your life."
Spiritual Factors
Lack of Purpose: When we aren’t clear on our life purpose, prioritizing tasks can feel impossible. Acting with no direction can make us feel defeated and out of alignment with our spiritual goals.
Disconnected with Self: Misalignment with our spiritual goals can make us lose our sense of Self, causing us to drift through life without clear priorities, making it difficult to manage time effectively.
Inner Peace and Mindfulness: A lack of mindfulness or spiritual grounding can lead to constant mental chatter and distraction, leaving you to feel scattered and unfocused
When Sue became comfortable with her new approach to time management, she gained the clarity she needed to start envisioning what her life could look like She implemented routines that helped her build resilience, improve her emotional and physical health, and feel more confident in herself
She realized that she had been expending a lot of mental and emotional energy trying to control her husband and that managing her time differently allowed her to refocus on herself
Using the Reclaim Your Time system helped her set and honor boundaries and prioritize herself once again
“I am not the same person that I was three months ago,” says Sue. “Learning how to manage my time helped me to see the areas of my life that were out of balance that were making it so difficult to get anything accomplished.”
Sue’s story illustrates that effective time management isn't just about organizing your schedule - it’s about uncovering and addressing the deeper issues that affect how you live your life. When you take a holistic approach, you not only reclaim your time but also your sense of self and purpose.
How would your life change if you addressed the underlying issues affecting your time management, and what’s stopping you from taking that first step
Christina Nylese
Christina is a Holistic Life and Time Management Coach who helps highachieving women live more abundantly without feeling out of control Her work began with women in recovery, drawing from her own 13 years of sobriety, and has since expanded to support women who “do so much but don’t get much done”.
Women play numerous roles daily, requiring them to present different faces that each authentically resemble their responsibilities. Erin Duvall’s mission is to reveal her roles and ‘faces’ through her successful endeavors in music, motherhood, and entrepreneurship Collectively known as The Three Faces of Erin, she aims to inspire others to embrace their roles, unmask their true selves, and find what drives them
The
Musical Face
Texas-born singer-songwriter Erin Duvall was raised on a foundation of country, blues, gospel, and rock 'n' roll Her unique approach to music has drawn comparisons to Janis Joplin, Natalie Maines, and Susan Tedeschi As the fourth of five children, Erin learned to advocate for herself from an early age, always knowing she wanted to perform Her raspy country vocals set her apart in today’s country music scene, delivering roadhouse bluesy tunes and sultry sounds that captivate listeners
Erin’s debut album, Out of Focus, was recorded in 2010 with producer and songwriter Rob Giles, known for his solo work and collaborations with Andy Summers of The Police and the band The Rescues. Currently, Erin is working with Terry and Simeon Baker of Baker Brothers Music to blend country, gospel, and rock 'n' roll into a unique sound that showcases her musical roots.
The Motherhood Face
Taking a pause from her music career, Erin embraced motherhood, becoming a dedicated single mother to four beautiful children Her experience as a single mother underscores the importance of hard work and following one’s dreams Balancing her career with her responsibilities as a mother, Erin embodies resilience and dedication, serving as a role model for women everywhere
The Entrepreneurial Face
As a mompreneur, Erin created and founded the children’s animated character Aunty E, who teaches children about all types of music The animated world of Aunty E started in 2006 with producer Billy Henry, features over twenty characters, a book series, and an album. Billy Henry has worked with prominent acts like The Chicks, Courtyard Hounds, Fleetwood Mac, and Shakira. This project, dear to Erin’s heart, is currently being revamped and is set to inspire and educate children about music.
Erin Duvall’s multifaceted journey from her musical career to her entrepreneurial ventures and philanthropic efforts serves as an inspiration to women everywhere. Her commitment to creativity, family, hard work, and giving back highlights the importance of embracing all roles and finding what truly inspires us.
Erin Duvall
Erin Duvall is a multifaceted individual whose life and work span three inspiring faces: devoted mother, passionate advocate, and relentless entrepreneur. Her personal and professional journey is a testament to her strength and commitment to helping others.
by Tina Kapp
Kailea
Be honest when was the last time you said “no” and didn’t feel guilty about it?
If you’re drawing a blank, you’re not alone In a world where being constantly available and agreeable seems like the norm, simply saying no can feel like a radical act. But here’s a lifechanging truth: learning to say “no” more often could be the best self-care move you’ll ever make
Forget the cliché “me time”, the face masks and bubble baths for a moment real self-care is about boundaries, protecting your energy, and unapologetically putting yourself first.
Why Saying No Feels So Damn Hard
You know the scenario: your friend wants to meet up when you’re beyond tired, or your colleague dumps an extra project on you just as you’re wrapping up your day. You know you’re exhausted, but instead of saying no, you go along with it Then comes the creeping regret, resentment, and the inevitable “why didn’t I just say no?”
For so many of us, the idea of saying no is wrapped up in fear fear of letting people down, fear of being seen as selfish, or worse, fear of missing out Society teaches us that saying yes is polite, that we should be helpful and accommodating.
But here’s the catch: when you’re constantly saying yes to others, you’re actually saying no to yourself
The Guilt Factor
Saying no comes with a side of guilt because we’ve been socially conditioned to believe that being constantly available makes us better friends, partners, or colleagues. And for women especially, there’s that added expectation to be nurturing and “playing nice” in every situation
It feels good to be seen as helpful and reliable, right? But that can come at a steep cost. When you’re always putting others’ needs ahead of your own, you’re left drained and depleted
So, what’s left for you at the end of the day?
Not much The exhaustion sets in, and you end up running on empty, thinking you’re supposed to be happy just being “useful”. But the more you give, the less you have to offer, until your own needs become a mere afterthought
The Emotional Price of Always Saying Yes
Let’s talk about what really happens when you keep saying yes It’s not just about the physical exhaustion although that’s real. The emotional toll can be just as heavy. Every time you agree to something you don’t want to do; you’re telling yourself that your own needs don’t matter Slowly but surely, you chip away at your selfworth because you’re reinforcing the belief that everyone else’s priorities come before your own. The result? Resentment, burnout, and eventually, a disconnect from your own desires and well-being And let’s not forget the stress and anxiety that come with it You can’t keep giving when your cup is running empty. It’s not sustainable, and over time, it takes a toll on your mental and physical health We get to hear those stories from our readers and speakers first hand Boundaries Are Self-Care
Here’s the thing: setting boundaries is one of the most radical forms of self-care. Saying no doesn’t make you selfish it makes you smart. It’s not about shutting people out; it’s about protecting your energy and your mental health Boundaries are the way you teach others how to treat you and, more importantly, how you treat yourself. Put those energy vampires in their place –unapologetic!
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Reframe
Your Thinking Around “No” Saying no is not a dirty word and it doesn’t make you rude it makes you empowered When you say no to things that don’t serve you, you’re saying yes to the things that do. You’re creating space for what truly matters Isn’t that what self-
You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation
Here’s a freeing idea: “Sorry, I can’t make it” is a complete sentence. You don’t need to justify why you’re turning something down. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you can’t take on that extra work project or why you need to stay in rather than go out
Keep it simple. People respect honesty, and they’ll respect your boundaries if you state them with confidence
Set Boundaries With Kindness
Setting boundaries isn’t about being harsh In fact, you can be firm and kind at the same time. For example, “I’d love to help, but I’m focused on my own projects right now” is a gracious way to say no while protecting your time
Boundaries can be loving they’re there to protect you.
The Benefits of Saying No More Often
When you start saying no, you’ll have more time and energy to focus on the things that truly bring you joy You’ll stop feeling resentful and start feeling aligned again And here’s a bonus: saying no doesn’t just improve your life, it can truly improve your relationships. When you’re clear about your limits, people know where they stand with you You’ll feel more authentic, and others will appreciate your honesty
And let’s not forget about your self-esteem. Every time you say no, you reinforce the idea that you are deserving of time, rest, love, and respect Because guess what? You are
“Saying no isn’t about pushing people away—it’s about inviting yourself in”
So, What Would Happen if You Started Saying No?
Imagine if you started owning your “no” more often How much time would you gain back in your week? How much energy would you have for the things that truly matter? Would you feel more in control, less stressed, and maybe even finally have the mental space to work on that project you’ve been putting off?
Saying no isn’t about pushing people away it’s about inviting yourself in. By learning to prioritize your needs, you create space for growth, peace, and fulfilment So, the next time someone asks for your time, energy, or emotional labor, ask yourself this: does saying yes to them mean saying no to myself? If the answer is yes, then maybe it’s time to say no and give yourself permission to protect your own well-being
Because at the end of the day, self-care isn’t just about treating yourself—it’s about protecting yourself.
And sometimes, the most powerful act of self-love is simply learning to say “no”
Have you started yet?
WOMEN THRIVE BOOK SERIES
I’m sitting at the small wooden desk in the tiny country schoolhouse, desperately trying to look busy. My head is down, but I don’t know what I’m meant to do. The words on the pages are blending together, forming strange symbols and I struggle to stay focused until I notice the worn, big black shoes that have arrived at the foot of my desk. My teacher is here and I don't want to make eye contact with him. I feel ashamed and stupid, why can’t he leave me alone? Little did I know, but his words were going to change my world
“Lauren”, he said, “I think you have word blindness and you’re never going to learn how to read and write like the other children ”
My journey from word blindness to branding brilliance has taught me a profound truth: our greatest disabilities can often become our biggest assets It's through adversity that we discover our true potential, our unique strengths, and the courage to defy expectations
When I was diagnosed with dyslexia, I was told that I would struggle academically and professionally Yet, these limitations forced me to develop alternative ways of learning and thinking I learned to rely on my visual and creative strengths, to think differently, and to approach problems from unconventional angles
Dare to Be Different: Unleash Your Unique Personal Brand
by Lauren Clemett
It was through these experiences that I discovered my passion for neurobrandingunderstanding how the brain ‘sees’ brands, and how it retains images My ability to remember the shape of words, helped me retain the shape of brands It helped me see the world through a different lens, to empathise with diverse audiences, and communicating complex ideas in a relatable way became my superpower.
As I built my career and worked in advertising agencies, then owned my own consultancies, I realised that my dyslexia had given me a distinct advantage. It shaped my perspective, honed my problem-solving skills, and instilled in me a deep sense of empathy and understanding about how the world sees personal brands.
I was able to apply my Neurobranding approach to personal brands, helping businesses like Ajay of Ezi Office Supplies, Michael from Burgundy Bespoke Jewellery and Melanie at Vivaciti, who continue to leverage their identities into memorable brands.
"Our greatest disabilities can often become our biggest assets. It's through adversity that we discover our true potential, our unique strengths, and the courage to defy expectations."
I believe that it is essential to embrace all of our talents and skills, regardless of our perceived limitations This is especially important for women as we often overlook our own abilities by focusing on those around us instead. I’ve learned, through working with hundreds of thought leaders, innovators, entrepreneurs and change makers, as the Managing Director of The Audacious agency, that our individual qualities equal our unique value and that’s what makes us stand out from the crowd and connect with others on a deeper level.
Recognising and celebrating our differences is only part of the equation. We must also overcome the internal barriers that can hold us back: the “Itty-bitty-shitty-committee” of selfdoubt and fear. This is really the best way to overcome the dreaded imposter syndrome we often face as leaders who continually grow and develop into the influencers we need to become
These negative voices can be powerful, but they are not based on reality They are often rooted in limiting beliefs and past experiences To overcome them, we must challenge our assumptions, cultivate self-compassion, and believe in our own abilities
Embracing our unique strengths and overcoming self-doubt, enables us to step up into the spotlight and become the leaders we deserve to be Only then can we truly inspire others, make a positive impact on the world, and create a legacy that will last for generations
Here are four steps to help you on your journey:
Embrace Your True Self:
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Take some time to reflect on, recognise and then celebrate your unique qualities This is one of the most powerful benefits of entering awardsyou get to look back at what you have achieved and where you have come from
Find Your Brand True North:
1 Get fully clear on your passion, purpose, and values. This will not only guide your actions and decisions, it will help you focus on what you are born to do, helping you avoid distractions and banish comparisonitis that entrepreneurs often suffer from. Don't be afraid to be different!
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Overcome Self-Doubt:
Challenge negative thoughts and beliefs. Look at the facts. Where were you and what are you now? What challenges have you been through and what did you learn? Cultivate selfcompassion and believe in your abilities to handle anything life throws at you.
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Create More Impact and Influence:
Step up into the spotlight, share your story, and inspire others That’s why Women Thrive is such a great community to belong to! Carve your own pathway, tread where others fear to go Be bold, brave and audacious!
It's a chaotic world, full of overwhelm, with haters, social media stalkers and the dreaded keyboard warriors but you have far more than that to offer
When you start taking the steps to refine who you are, and deciding what you want to be known and recognised for, you can unlock your full potential, create a meaningful life, and make a lasting impact on the world.
Lauren Clemett
Known as the Brand Navigator, Lauren is an International AwardWinning Personal Branding Specialist with over 30 years’ experience in brand management, working within world-leading advertising agencies She is a five-time bestselling author, Neurobranding expert and CEO of The Audacious Agency, where she helps entrepreneurs, leaders and change-makers build their profile to standout and be well known, well paid and wanted
REWIREYOUR
Personal Growth
by Rajni Julka
REWIRE YOUR PERSONAL GROWTH
“Don't go through life, grow through life.”
- Eric Butterworth
If you are not valued as a person, you are less valued as a professional At the moment, there’s a lot of talk about Skills Passports, gaining qualifications and climbing the career ladder Personal growth is the self-development of personality, perspective, and outlook towards life It is an ongoing process of emotional, mental, social and spiritual growth by doing things that improve you and the world around you This process needs to be person-centred and led by you
Be selfish and think about yourself, your future and your career –
How To Begin Your Journey of Personal Development? The first thing to do is to get a deeper awareness of yourself. From there, you need to understand your motivations, blockers, and set meaningful goals. As an expert mentor, I help clients through the above journey and, when working with the 5D framework to triangulate mindsets and methods, to create success.
Discover:Here I spend time to get to know you, build trust and align expectations.
Desire:Then we try to understand what your desire is.
Determine:We then spend time to determine what’s holding you back and what we must do about it.
Deliver:Then, in the time between sessions, you deliver against the plan.
Delight and Deliberate: Finally, we celebrate success while deliberating over what worked and what didn't, and what to do further
Stay in alignment with your greatness, not in trying to ‘be’ greater.
Personal growth often requires a shift in mindset
Looking at personal growth as a removal process is a big mindset shift It isn’t enough to think about it or try to practice it, you have to shift the thinking you have around growth and around who you are If you have a belief that you aren’t good enough, that you don’t stack up to others, that you are somehow missing some important skill or trait to achieve success, you are operating from a mindset that requires you to be or do more to have personal growth But when you truly believe that you are already enough, that you were born with unique strengths, gifts & wisdom, and that you can embrace all of who you are, then personal growth becomes about staying in alignment with your greatness, not in trying to ‘be’ greater. Mindset is a tricky beast. Shifting mindset is about rewiring our brains, minds, and bodies for personal growth & development as an enrichment process.
See how amazing this mindset shift really is? It transforms every aspect of our lives to be in joy and aliveness.
Setting the Stage for Self-Improvement and Future Enhancement - Improved Motivation.
The first step in this rewarding process is to acknowledge the need for change and growth. The act of self-improvement is proactive and intentional; it requires commitment and the understanding that personal development is a continuous pursuit. …
Frustration with your current life is a red flag that signals a need for personal development of some sort - a sign that your inward and outward journeys are misaligned and something isn't adding up.
The decision to actively engage in personal development is empowering It means taking control of your life, shaping your future, and finding your path to success and happiness
“Developing yourself is your job. It's your commitment to your future self and must continue even if no one else cares”
Assessing Your Current State
Before you start mapping out your future, it’s crucial to understand where you currently stand in life. Developing yourself is your job. It’s your commitment to your future self and must continue even if no one else cares. Ask yourself tough questions, and be honest with your answers. Are your habits and actions aligning with your long-term aspirations? Are there areas of your life that you’re neglecting? Reflecting on your current state helps in identifying strengths to build upon weaknesses.
Setting Clear Objectives
Clarity is a powerful weapon in the arsenal of personal development. Without clear objectives, your efforts can become scattered, leading to frustration and burnout Start with defining your long-term visions and then break them down into smaller, achievable goals
Not all habits that serve you well today will continue to serve you in time to come. So, it’s important to evolve your habits as you evolve.
Sort What isn’t Serving you from what is Serving You
Before we can remove what no longer serves us or do less, we need to discern what matters from what doesn’t This can be as simple as getting out a clean piece of paper and making two columns: what serves you and what doesn’t You can start scanning your life and work to know what is depleting you
Your body is so wise and often even when your mind tries to cover up your feelings, your body provides you with the truth.
Health and Wellness
Your physical and mental well-being are the cornerstones of a successful and fulfilling life Incorporating regular exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, and getting enough sleep are the basics of physical health However, practicing mindfulness, meditation, and seeking therapy when needed are equally important for your mental health
Development of the self is not just about the intellect or knowledge but about physical and emotional aspects of our being Personal development is a lifelong pursuit that has the power to transform every facet of your life By setting clear objectives, continuously developing your skills, nurturing relationships, prioritizing your health, and managing your finances wisely, you can make your future better. Remember, the key to a better future lies within you, and every step you take brings you closer to the life you envision for yourself.
“Development of the self is not just about the intellect or knowledge but about physical and emotional aspects of our being. Personal development is a lifelong pursuit that has the power to transform every facet of your life.”
Rajni Julka
With 18+ years of experience in dynamic thought leadership and 15+ years of administrative leadership, Ms Rajni Julka, an IIM Indore Alumnus, has been catering to organizations with ed-tech strategy, business excellence for project planning, course development & operations Having a unique blend of strong industry & academia experience as her signature strength, she is a well-known speaker & Transformational Expert
Obstacles are a part of every job. The question is how we deal with them when they arise.
Early in my career, I felt that I had to excel at every aspect of my work to be valued I would try to overcome every obstacle on my own without seeking help This was not a great idea, as I learned the hard way It took a while, but I got the message that seeking help from others was a strength rather than a weakness. Once that realization took hold, I set about creating a network of colleagues –internal and external – that I could tap into on matters large and small. Over the years, I’ve found that this approach has made a huge difference for me personally and professionally. I also have found that I seek out obstacles and challenges now that I am much more equipped to navigate them.
This is why I know mentorship is so important. Early in my career, I was fortunate to have a wonderful mentor who supported me as I progressed in my career. Now, I pay it forward and help guide other young women trying to advance their careers.
One of the best pieces of advice I received from my mentor was to actively embrace challenges and never shy away from obstacles Instead, look for opportunities in less obvious places, and don’t be afraid of trying to create something from nothing
by Julie Casteel
Over the years, I’ve followed that advice, seeking opportunities that others did not find attractive like selling in the most challenging territories or that didn’t exist, like creating a new position within the organization and presenting it to management I strongly believe every woman in business should have a mentor Building social capital at work can be challenging, especially in settings where there are fewer women When I mentor an individual, one of the key things I try to do is encourage them to venture outside their specific area of expertise and open themselves to learning new disciplines For instance, I’ll encourage a young woman on the sales and marketing team to learn more about the financial side of the business because that breadth of knowledge could help her make it to the C-suite someday
As a strong believer in mentorship, I founded the Women of ibex, a program for female-identifying employees designed to inspire, empower, and transform It aims to increase opportunities and create growth, advancement, and success through education, mentoring, and networking The program promotes an environment that recognizes the value of women’s contributions within ibex and beyond the company
Lastly, don’t be afraid to be yourself. As women, we often think we need to conform and restrict how we present ourselves in professional settings. I was far too tentative at the beginning of my career and was reluctant to fully integrate my personality into my work. The reality, however, is that you will come across as more authentic and be more successful when you allow your true self to shine.
Julie Casteel is the Chief Strategic Accounts Officer and CMO at ibex, where she oversees the company’s largest, most tenured clients and ibex’s marketing strategy Julie has been responsible for new client sales efforts for ibex since 2016 She also led the company through a strategic rebranding movement to a public market, as well as helping drive the company’s consistent double-digit yearover-year growth
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Jellyfish tentacles move in unpredictable directions. To some, they look repulsive, to others they are a beauty of the sea. I feel for these misunderstood creatures. There is so much more beneath those curly tentacles.
I’ll never forget the smell of burnt hair every morning. I meticulously sprayed each section with designer chemicals that could blur vision. I could hear crackling and sizzling, as my hair lay pressured between two constricting sheets of metal, but curved into the palm of my hand like a treasured heirloom I always worried, did I remember to unplug it from the wall? I must be careful not to get too close or this hair straightener will likely burn away more of me than planned
From time to time, these hair-owing moments come rushing back like a tidal wave There was the time my middle school crush finally noticed me in class He grabbed one of my curls, pulled it down straight, and watched it boink back up The entire class laughed I was utterly shocked and ashamed, but I started laughing with them too He let me know that my hair looked like the bottom of an old beat-up broomstick and recommended I should wear it smooth
So I did I stopped embracing my hair and fell in line One time I’d left for prom with straight hair and ran out at the end of the dance like Cinderella before my date could see me That girl would be completely unrecognizable to them, and especially to myself.
I stopped joining friends well into my college years at the pool or a beach day, all because people might find out the real me, and discover I’m a straight fraud.
“Happier,healthierteam,whorarely getsickandenjoytheirworkbecause theyarenotbeingtreatedlikea 'productionline'butasindividuals, whoworkbestwhentheyfeelgood, theyneedtoTRANSFORMhowthey dealwithstress.”
To really know me is to know my early years revolved around my hair-straightening schedule. By the time I turned 30, I’d hidden my natural hair for 18+ years
An estimated 65% of the U S population has some form of curly hair but sadly less than 35% embrace it But why? There is plenty of evidence to support conflicting ideas behind hairstory when the idea of good and bad hair took shape Slaves with straight hair were offered better opportunities than those with curlier hair Yet, royal families adorned their curly hair with crowns and hairpins, while poor families were frowned upon with natural curls
However, in a spiritual perspective, “Hair is an extension of the nervous system Each hair follicle is an exteriorized nerve, a strand of highly evolved 'feelers' or 'antennae' to the subtle cosmic energy around you,” Yogi Bhajan explains There is also sacred geometry in each spiral pattern Your curls are sacred! I love this powerful reframe.
Jess Levy
Flashback to one day back in that bathroom, burnt hair in one hand, straightener in the other But all of a sudden my hair wouldn't straighten anymore I’d press down on each strand. It wasn’t smoothing the curl. I was dumbstruck and wondered if the weather had different plans for me Clearly straightening my hair hasn’t straightened out my life, so I decided to throw the appliance in the trash can. I looked out the window and noticed the most incredible skyline
At 33, I now see my curls as a reflection of my spontaneous personality Bringing the shame out of the shadows has deeply soothed my soul. If embracing my hair and sharing my story publicly inspires even one reader, then it’s all worth it
The key to being a creative force and successful fempreneur lies in each curl pattern growth is never linear. Curly hair or not, we are all different in some way. And we get a daily opportunity to choose to commit to that which makes us different
As Women Thrive Magazine's Cassandra Love Lambert puts it, I turned my pain into power. From that day on, the more my natural hair started to peak through, the more I felt at home
Jess Levy is a Writer, Marketer & Communications Manager, and Human Design Guide A California native and ex-techie working in Silicon Valley by day, traveling by weekend searching for those hidden gems to write about She loves planning local and international trips to nourish her creative soul She’s now back home by the beaches of San Diego and loves guiding small businesses to creatively share their message with the world
Gratitude is an Everyday Attitude.
How to Adjust your Attitude Accordingly
by Melissa Gorecki
There was a time when I thought I was very grateful for my life and everything in it I read a book that changed my perspective about gratitude and altered my entire life I realized I had been thankful, but not to the level I should be I created a new habit by committing to a 30-day gratitude practice It made me realize there is so much to be grateful for that I had never imagined
Gratitude is the ultimate prayer Saying thank you for what we currently have is the way to welcome more things in. Before you can receive all that life has for you, you must be grateful for everything. Here are ways to practice gratitude that will change your life if you allow it to. Commit to doing these practices for at least 30 days. I know you will want to continue past that once you see the magic work in your life. Are you ready to have life’s miracles unlocked?
First, look at your life and all your past and current circumstances. Now, say ‘thank you’. Good or bad, whatever your perception, you must say thank you. Things you experienced have made you who you are, and be grateful, even if you are not where you want to be
Write ten things you are grateful for and why you are thankful Get specific and focus on the feeling of gratitude Here are writing prompts to help you start:
I am so happy and grateful for because . With all my heart I am thankful for because . I am grateful now that because .
Every morning and before bed say thank you Write it on a Post-it note and put it where you can see it when you open your eyes in the morning
Think to yourself, “Thank you for my breath” as you wake. Sit for a moment and be present in the feeling of gratitude as you are fortunate enough to be alive another day.
Before bed say, “Thank you for all the experiences in my path today” and think about the best thing that happened to you during the day
Gratitude will always bring you more of what you want to see in your life, especially when you are being intentional
As you are grateful for what you have, also have gratitude for things that have not shown up in your reality. When you can feel gratitude for the thing that has not come to life yet, you are a magnet attracting it in.
As we take the time daily to write about things we are grateful for, we may not know what to write about Here are different topics you can cover to make sure you are saying thank you as much as you can; practice will improve your life in these areas:
Health/Wellness (physical, mental, emotional)
Money/Finances (money you have earned throughout your life and currently)
Life
Spirituality
Love
Relationships (children, spouses, family members, colleagues, etc )
Gratitude is a daily practice When we are grateful for what we have, we attract more. I challenge you to make a promise to yourself and spend the next 30 days changing your perspective on gratitude and watching the miracles that enter your life. Gratitude is a miracle magnet. Get ready to live a magical life with two simple words
Thank you
Melissa helps women overcome obstacles and elevate to the next level in life.
Melissa Gorecki
