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“Many children have been bullied or treated badly for being ‘different’ or not fitting typical stereotypes. It used to be for being ‘too nerdy’, ‘not sporty enough’ or for the way they looked. But nowadays, we find that children and teens are being bullied for being too smart, too pretty or for excelling in a specific field,” says Cassey Chambers of the South African Depression & Anxiety Group (SADAG). It’s important that we teach our children to have confidence in themselves as well as crucial coping mechanisms to deal with adversity, whatever the situation,” says Chambers. How to Recognise if Your Child is Being Bullied “Most children will speak up very quickly if they are becoming the focus of bullies. It’s so important to be connected to our children. This means being very aware of their body language and decoding their behaviour. Take their feelings seriously and make it easy for them to share with you, it will be easier to pick up the early warning signs,” says Cawood, who is also the author of the Boundaries series of parenting books. “It is especially important to tune into the inner world of the more withdrawn child,” says Cawood. “Quieter children often bottle up their fears and anxieties – making it difficult to pick up problems. Look out for any changes in behaviour, for instance, a normally confident child who suddenly becomes afraid and develops stomach aches or headaches; or a quiet child who becomes even more withdrawn,” says Cawood. Don’t forget that shy children who are bullied may be humiliated and ashamed by the negative attention and try to hide it, blaming themselves. Another response to being bullied is a display of unusually aggressive behaviour, says Adam. A decline in academic performance, or avoiding school, are other signs to look out for.

What You Can Do The most effective thing you can do is focus on the issue and develop a plan, says Chambers. Reassure your child that they were right to tell you, don’t promise to keep it a secret, discuss practical ways to solve the problem, and talk to teachers and other parents – if there’s one bullied child, there will be others. Equipping Your Child to Cope “From as young as possible, teach your child that they have the right to say ‘no’, that they do not have to endure treatment that undermines or abuses them,” says Cawood. “Children are allowed to have feelings – negative and positive, and they should be encouraged to express their negative feelings in assertive ways. Many children still feel disempowered because they are told to be quiet, not to back-chat adults or to make a fuss,” she says. Rather alarmingly, Cawood says children are often encouraged to ‘just do it back to the bully’, which not only encourages the aggression to continue, it also does not help a child learn the real skills of assertiveness. “We need to teach our children what is right and wrong in terms of how you speak to other children. This is a skill which sounds so obvious but is often left out of our children’s education at home,” says clinical psychologist Justine Bartlett, who is in private practice in Durban. Teach your children to: • • • • •

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“Children are often so afraid of being bullied by others that they will jeopardise their own values and integrity, and be too scared to stand up for others,” observes Cawood. “We need to help children, from as young as possible, to have empathy for others. Ask: ‘How do you think it felt to be treated like that?’ this will help children put themselves in others’ shoes,” says Cawood. Ways to Help Stamp Out Bullying Adam points out that we need to start with ourselves by converting aggressive habits to calmer, more positive approaches. This in turn will impact our children. “Violent acts should be openly discussed at home so that children learn that they are unacceptable,” she says. Schools should have anti-bullying policies that are implemented with serious consequences for those who contravene, setting an example to all, says Adam. “Bullying policies should actively involve parents on various levels, making it a combined effort,” she adds. Work with teachers, suggests SADAG: • Notify teachers of the situation in writing. Schools are obligated to respond to bullying. • Discuss ways the school can help, such as by developing a bullying awareness program. • Join the PTA and raise awareness of bullying as an issue. • Offer to speak to the school board and be the ‘bullying expert’. • If your child has disabilities, you can build bullying prevention goals into your child's Individualized Education Program (IEP). Anti-bullying rules should be part of every school’s code of conduct, but, says Cawood, “Schools can only do so much – the main lessons are learnt at home, where violence and intimidation are too often observed by children. They see adults swear and treat others aggressively. Children often feel disregarded and disconnected – and then act out their aggression on children who are younger or weaker than they are,” she says. Teaching your child coping skills and to stand up for herself and her beliefs can turn a potentially damaging situation into an opportunity for growth. Since being victimised, Kelly Gibson has

started speaking out publicly against bullying and reaching out to other children offering hope, support and change (take a look at her website respectme.co.za). She’s shown that we need not perpetuate a cycle of violence and anger. Call for Help Childline 0800 055 555 or visit childlinesa.org.za The South African Depression and Anxiety Group Available 7 days a week from 8am–8pm. 0800 567 567,011 262 6396, SMS 31393 or visit sadag.co.za Types of Bullying Bullying can take a number of forms. According to the experts, any repeated behaviour by a child that deliberately hurts another can be termed bullying. physical: Apart from hitting and shoving, children can intimidate each other with mere physical presence, towering over a smaller child or pushing past more forcefully than necessary, says clinical psychologist Justine Bartlett. emotional: The difficulty with nasty words, criticism and insults is that these are more difficult to spot – and children will often not admit to being bullied in this way. But it can have much more serious consequences and far-reaching effects than physical abuse. Constant emotional bullying can lead to the development of a dysfunctional self-image, low self-confidence, anxiety and depression. social: Bullying by ostracising or singling out can be the most painful, which is where permeating social networking websites and cellphone applications are used to disastrous effect. Unlike traditional forms of bullying, young people who are the targets of “electronic aggression” are at greater risk for depression than their abusers, according to a survey conducted by researchers at the National Institutes of Health (US), and published in the Journal of Adolescent Health. Consider limiting your child’s online access and helping them develop more active outdoor interests. Source: http://www.childmag.co.za

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