AGE AIN’T NOTHING
BUT A NUMBER
From 22 years old to 109 years young, these women are defying their ages and reminding us that we’re more alike than different!
FOUNDER & PRESIDENT
Connection Coach, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator, Meditation Teacher, Reiki Master, Doula, Sound Healer, Author, and Attorney Imani Monica McCullough is a vibrant voice for women worldwide. Through her transformative platform, YANAsisters, she thrives on helping women live more passionate and authentic lives.
EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
A writer since she was 8 years old, a reader since 3, today Kellyn O.McGee’s essence of being a learner and teacher shows up as a law professor, editor, certified yoga teacher, podcast lover, and owner of a virtual book cellar –with a collection waiting for the right moment to be savored.
AGE AIN’T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER
CONTRIBUTORS
Ruth Crawford, DHL is a 109-yearold retired educator and volunteer who resides in Augusta, Georgia.
Janice Glaspie is a 70-year-old retired account manager who resides in Arlington, Texas.
Lisa Hannibal is a 40-year-old board-certified natural wellness practitioner who resides in Houston, Texas.
Christine Hanley is a 93-year-old retired nurse who resides in Atlanta, Georgia.
Katrina Léonce is a 60-year-old real estate agent who resides in Atlanta, Georgia.
Ware is a 31-year-old pilot/ flight instructor who resides in Phoenix, Arizona.
Deloris BryantBooker, PhD is an 85-year-old retired educator who resides in Atlanta, Georgia.
Jenn Maxell is a 54-year-old minister, speaker, and author who resides in Atlanta, Georgia.
India Wyatt is a 22-year-old recent college graduate who resides in Atlanta, Georgia.
Kinaya
IN THIS ISSUE
INTERVIEWS OF NINE WOMEN WHO ARE DEFYING THEIR AGES!
8 “GEORGIA ON MY MIND”
- Ruth Crawford, DHL (age 109) taught school for over 38 years, then volunteered for over 30 years. She is the mother of one son, three grandchildren, and five great grandchildren.
11 “UNFORGETTABLE”Christine Hanley (age 93) enjoyed a life of service as a registered nurse until her retirement. She has two children, five grandchildren, and 12 great-grandchildren.
13 “SEPTEMBER” - Deloris Bryant-Booker, PhD (age 85)is a retired educator who loves travel, people, and learning new things. Her heartbeats are her two sisters, two children, four grandchildren, and two great grandchildren.
18 “BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP” - Janice Glaspie (age 70) is a wife, mother of three, and “Granna” of four. Since retiring from corporate America, she teaches Sunday School, travels, enjoys concerts, and gardens.
22 “SHINING STAR”Katrina Léonce (age 60) is a world traveler, an avid reader, a Pilates fanatic, and an awardwinning real estate agent, but her most revered titles are “Mom” and “Lovey.”
24 “THE GLAMOROUS LIFE” - Jenn Maxell (age 54)and her husband are founders of The Breakthrough Fellowship church. She is also the founder of ministries for women/girls, a featured minister/speaker, and a published author. Among Jenn’s greatest accomplishments are her 3 children.
27 “BREATHE AGAIN” - Lisa Hannibal (age 40) is a vibrant mom of one, navigating through life with a golden compass. She is a board-certified natural wellness
practitioner and business owner, living a passionfilled life.
29 “GET READY, READY”Kinaya Ware (age 31) is a pilot/flight instructor who loves being outdoors, laying out on beaches, and spending time with her family. Her current goal is to fly 737s for an airline.
32 “TIL THE END OF TIME” -India Wyatt (age 22) recently graduated from North Carolina Central University and now works as a dedicated medical assistant. When not at work, she is immersed in a good book or embarking on an outdoor adventure.
31 What is YANAsisters?
LETTER FROM THE FOUNDER
My sisters,
Sometimes I worry.
I worry that these old knees of mine have seen their last “drop it like it’s hot” move on the dancefloor.
I worry that menopause – and all of its splendor – will never, ever end.
But most of all, if I’m honest, I worry that one day I’ll just be a “ma’am,” instead of the young woman I still feel like inside, even when I see the more mature model staring back at me in the mirror.
And then I remember.
I remember one of my first YANAsisters retreats when I freaked out after learning that our youngest expected participant was 23 years old and our oldest was almost 80. I was in full-blown panic mode about whether
and how I could bring together women with a difference of more than 50 years of life experience.
That day, I decided that the very thing that could have divided us would be our superpower. I decided that when women came to future YANAsisters retreats, there would be no focus on age, unless it was relevant to the topic at hand. And for that matter, no focus on education, careers, financial status – or any of the things that try to divide us.
Why? Because we’re all women. Women at different stages of life, yes. But women nonetheless who all want the same things: to
be seen, heard, affirmed, supported, loved –and yes, to not feel alone.
And guess what? That was one of the most beautiful retreats we’ve had, with longlasting bonds that crossed generations. We all learned from each other, embracing both the wisdom that comes from having been on this planet for “a minute” and the wisdom that comes from fresh, new perspectives. We transported to a place where there was no age or any other “ism” to separate us and accepted that every single woman had something to share and a story to tell.
It’s with this in mind that we conceived this issue of CONNECT, which includes interviews with nine women who span in age from 22 to 109 (yes, you read that right!). We wanted to spotlight AMAZING women who are defying their ages not just physically, but also with their views on life and accomplishments that have followed. We also wanted to show that no matter the age, we are more alike than different... I may be biased, but I think this is one of our best issues yet.
For those who are in a “warmer season of life” or beyond, as you read these shares, I challenge you (and myself) to stop letting age dictate our lives. If we get hot, forget something, or hear our knees creak, we can’t let that stop the show. We’ve got to do what we can to keep our bodies and minds healthy, and ride this ride until the wheels fall off – holding on to our youthful energy and zest for life until the end. AGE AIN’T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER.
For those who are in an earlier season of life, as you read these shares, I challenge you to remember that age should never define us. Never, ever let anyone tell you you’re too young (or old) to be or do anything that God has placed in your heart. Learn from those who have gone before you, yes, but also remember that your destiny is in your and God’s hands. AGE AIN’T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER.
Finally, now that I’ve experienced retreats and meetups where participants’ ages vary so widely, I can’t imagine it any other way. So, my ask is that you keep sharing this magazine and information about YANAsisters with women of ALL ages so that we will continue to be the intergenerational wisdom circle we were obviously destined to be.
To the beautiful women who opened their hearts to us in this issue, I say a huge THANK YOU.
To those who are reading, I hope the stories inspire you and remind you NOT to act your age... and, as always, that you are never alone.
Yoga
IS A PRAYER
by Kellyn McGee
I feel like I’ve lived a hundred lifetimes.
Not physically. (I don’t feel that tired!) What I mean is there are events and people in my life that were so important but seem so long ago. And I wonder how I’ve fit in all that I’ve lived.
A friend and I were talking about the things we’ve seen come and go in our lifetimethings that were significant to us, but are now relics, museum artifacts. For example, I’ve listened to music on the 8-Track, 45s, the LP, the 12”, the cassette tape, the cassette single, the CD, the iPod, and, now, streaming services. I have fond memories of listening on each of those mediums, but I couldn’t play music on most of them today. The first 45 I owned, at 7 years old, was “Bennie and the Jets.” But it was only a few years ago – decades later – that I saw a clip of Elton John performing the song on Soul Train. (Thank you, YouTube!) I finally understood how a little Black girl in Georgia came to know and love a song by a British man.
While I was mulling over a draft of this column, I took a yoga class, during which I thought about how much my practice has changed and grown in the almost-decade since I began. There was a time when I had a list of “advanced” poses that I wanted to perfect. Some I did (although “perfection” is subjective). With some others, I finally realized that my body wasn’t made to do “that” in “that” way. But what came to me on the mat during the class was that I wouldn’t be where I am without the hundreds of practices behind me. It took all those practices for me to realize that I don’t have to do a headstand in order for my being on the mat to have meaning.
I’ve come to realize that the music formats, the yoga practices, my relationships, my jobs, my “ideal” weight and my post-menopausal weight, places I’ve lived, countries I’ve visited,
my successes, my struggles, all of these have gotten me to the age I am right now. And, after deep contemplation, I’ll take it. :)
While reading the responses of the contributors in this issue, I am in awe by how each of them is embracing her age, where she is right now. And how, collectively, they are our history. Each one a representation of our past, present, and future. As are you. As am I. The age we hold up on each birthdaywhether with a big smile or a big “what???” - is just a marker commemorating the path we’ve taken.
As you read this issue, I hope you’re embracing the joys and the lessons you’ve encountered on the way to your number. Without it, we wouldn’t be who we are and where we are today. And I’m glad we’re here.
When my friend Christine Crawford agreed to interview her 109-year-old grandmother for this issue, I was ecstatic! But I also didn’t know what to expect, given that - well, her grandmother is 109!
I certainly didn’t expect Christine to send me such thoughtful responses, along with video footage of her grandmother, Dr. Ruth B. Crawford, expressing gratitude to her Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. sisters for serenading her on the porch of her Augusta home for her birthday. Nor did I anticipate the local news story that highlighted her birthday and achievements that same day, or to see her in attendance at a recent Paine College Alumni Association meeting where she received the prestigious Legend Award.
GEORGIA ON MY MIND
An
Interview of Dr. Ruth B. Crawford
Written by Imani Monica McCullough
But that’s exactly what happened and more.
Through these means, I learned more about the woman affectionately known as “G.G.” to her grandkids and great-grandkids than ever before, which only heightened my admiration for her incredible life.
Let me just highlight a few of the things that make her so remarkable.
We’ll start with the obvious: Ruth B. Crawford was born on May 25, 1915, in Hart County, Georgia, during a time when Woodrow Wilson was President and when Black people - although technically free - were without most of the rights we take for granted today. Despite the adversities she faced, Ruth B. Crawford vigorously pursued her education. She graduated from Paine College in 1939 and went on to impact many lives as an educator. In fact, she was recognized as Richmond County Teacher of the Year in
both the segregated school system and the first integrated system. Later, she earned a Bachelor of Arts in Education from Paine College, a Master of Science in Education from Indiana University, and an Honorary Doctorate of Humane Letters from Paine College.
And if 38 years of service as an educator wasn’t enough, at the “young” age of 62, Ruth B. Crawford started her second lifetime of service, founding Shiloh Comprehensive Community Center, where she served for 30 years as its Founding Executive Administrator. Her work helped provide food, clothing, and shelter to those in need, assistance to the elderly, and rehabilitation to first-time criminal offenders.
“Living 109 years is G.G.’s least noteworthy accomplishment. I’m most inspired by the fact that she is still remembered for contributions to her community. Her former 5th grade
students talk about her classroom, although she retired almost 50 years ago. Those who received tutoring and summer lunch at the community center she founded still ask how she’s doing, although she retired from that volunteer career 17 years ago,” Christine said.
During the interview, Christine asked her grandmother what advice she’d give to other women, and her grandmother jokingly (or not so jokingly) replied, “Have a lot of children to take care of you.” Then, turning more serious, she spoke about how proud she is of her family. Thankfully, although she only has one son and daughter-in-law, “G.G.” has a village of loved ones, including three grandchildren, five great-grandchildren, and the entire Augusta community, all of whom adore her.
Finally, she voiced what we all know to be true: even when surrounded by love,
it can be hard to reach an age where “all your friends have left you.” Nonetheless, she perseveres by continuing to contribute to the community. At 109, Ruth Crawford remains active in various organizations. She is a lifetime member of the NAACP, a Paine College Alumni Association lifetime member, and a lifetime member of the Georgia Retired Teachers Association. She is the founder and a present member of the local chapter of the National Association of University Women, a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, and a member and Trustee Emeritus of Williams Memorial Christian Methodist Episcopal Church. Her continued service matches the simple yet profound advice she shared for our readers: “Think, write, and make friends.” As a friend to many, a scholar, and the author of three books: “Woods Afire,” “The Greatest Story Never Told,” and “Peace, Power, and Purpose of Volunteering” - this is advice she’s lived by.
“G.G.” didn’t talk much about the past during her interview, except to mention her childhood fondness for “anything good, especially sweets” and to briefly recall her first job as a teacher. But she was quick to note that the biggest change she’s seen in the world is “changes in religion.” Relatedly, when asked about the secret to her long life, her succinct response was, “God’s will” – a testament to the strong faith that she lives by each day.
“G.G.’s faith is mature in a way that is hard for me to comprehend. She’s at a stage now where she gets mad at God (that she is still alive) and yet her love and trust in Him is unfailing. When so much of her memory and body fails her, her trust and love of God is honest and constant.”
We thank you, Dr. Ruth B. Crawford, for being an inspiration to us all!
UNFORGETTABLE
An Interview of Christine Hanley
AGE
When and where were you born?
June 13, 1931, in Tuskegee, Alabama.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
I don’t remember. [Herbert Hoover]
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
The Great Depression and World War II. Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
Airplane rides.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
Legal racial segregation ended, and integration is much better now.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child? French fries.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child? Hopscotch.
What was your first job? I was a waitress.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
Anything by Nat King Cole.
What are you most proud of?
Seeing my children and grandchildren graduate from school and pursue their education.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
Eat healthy foods.
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
I look young for my age and my mind is still sharp. I stay active and get lots of sleep.
READ YOUR BIBLE EVERYDAY AND TRY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE ACCORDING TO IT.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
I enjoy everything, especially watching my kids’ accomplishments and growth.
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
I would go back to 18 when I married my husband.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner?
I would tell myself to continue learning and getting more education, like an advanced nursing degree.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
Read your Bible everyday and try to live your life according to it.
An Interview of Deloris Bryant-Booker, PhD
SEPTEMBER AGE 85
When and where were you born?
September 11, 1938, in Fort Valley, Georgia.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
Franklin D. Roosevelt.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
World War II and the death of the president.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
The explosion of technology, which led to space exploration.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
The exploration of space.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
Rev. Dr. Martin L. King Jr.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
Mars Bars.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
I loved to read and play with paper dolls, designing clothes for them and creating story lines about their lives. I also loved listening to the radio, especially the show, “Let’s Pretend” on Saturday mornings.
What was your first job?
My first real job after graduating from college was as a digital computer programmer.
What was your first car?
1965 Ford Mustang.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
One of my favorites was “September.”
What was your favorite movie as a child? “Uncle Remus” and “Gone with the Wind” were my favorites.
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
I don’t remember any fads.
What are you most proud of?
I am most proud of “making it” as a twicedivorced woman with two children. I went back to school after my first divorce and got a credential in Elementary Education. Later, I received my M.A. degree in Education of Exceptional Children and, at the age of 56, a PhD in Educational Administration.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
Age is just a number. I once read an advice column about someone considering an advanced degree who said, “but it will take four years, and I’ll be 45 years old.” And the response was, “How old will you be in four years, if you don’t go to school?” You only live once, so enjoy the ride. Fortunately, I watched my parents continue to be active, enthusiastic participants in so many things for many years. They were carrying meals on wheels
to the old people when they were in their seventies, and my mother lived to be 104 years old! They never said, “but I’m too old to do this or that.” They looked to the future every day and they were my examples.
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
I do what I want to do. Rarely have I ever said, “but I’m this age or that age.” I play bridge regularly with friends. I am a docent at the High Museum of Art in Atlanta. I’m on the Board of my Homeowners Association and serve on a ministry at church. I’m active in the DeKalb Democratic Party. I volunteer at
the Food Pantry at my church, helping people get their birth certificates and helping them register to vote. I belong to two book clubs and I look forward to learning new things. My friends and I have season tickets to the theater and enjoy events in Atlanta.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
I enjoyed reaching the age and years in service that allowed me to retire and have more time to do many things that I didn’t have time to do when I worked full-time. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVED my job as an educator. Remember, “I touch the future, I teach.” But after retiring, I have been able to spend time with my grandchildren, learn pottery, play bridge, volunteer in many
places, travel, stay up as late as I want, and sleep late. What I have enjoyed least is having arthritic knees, failing hearing (which we are trying to correct), having others try to determine what I can or should do, and fighting the infrequent instances of “ageism.”
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
I’d probably go back to my college years because that was a time of growth and expansion. Knowing what I know now, I’d make better use of the time, explore more, trust myself more, and try more new things. It was a fun time, and I enjoyed it, so maybe I just would like to go back because it was a time when I was becoming me. Would I be a different me if I had to do it all over again?
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self?
What do you wish you’d known sooner? First of all, I would tell myself to keep on believing and trusting in GOD. I would tell myself to listen to and trust myself more, to be more confident earlier rather than later. To follow my dreams, even if they seem unrealistic. I wish I’d known what any of us would like to know -- that life is going to be a lot of things, but you can make the best of it if only you believe. Build your house on solid ground. I started to say that I wished I’d known sooner that you can’t trust everyone, but I changed my mind. I’d rather start out trusting and be proven wrong than go through life being suspicious and wary and perhaps missing out on something good.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
I’d tell them what I just told my younger self. Believe in God. Believe in yourself. Have faith. Trust. Trust yourself and your instincts. Honor and obey your parents. Honor yourself. Be kind to yourself and others. Follow your dreams, even if they seem unrealistic. Live for today. Plan for tomorrow. It’s a great big world. There’s a lot to see and enjoy. Find role models and follow them. Age is just a number.
President when you were born?
Most significant world event? Invention you are most amazed by? Favorite candy or food as a child? Your First car?
AGE AIN’T BUT A
BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP
An Interview of Janice Glaspie
When and where were you born?
March 15, 1954, in Galveston, Texas.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
Dwight D. Eisenhower.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
President Kennedy was assassinated when I was in the 4th grade.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
Cell phones.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
Morality has declined tremendously.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
I don’t think there’s any “public figure” that has influenced me, but I believe my mother was my biggest influencer.
AGE 70
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
Maple Nut Goodies from Sears. (Yes, they sold candy!)
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
Reading and sewing.
What was your first job? Foley’s department store, as a salesclerk.
What was your first car? A yellow 1971 Pinto.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
"Beauty is Only Skin Deep” by The Temptations, “Message to Michael” by Dionne Warwick, “Don’t Mess With Bill” by The Marvelettes, and “My Cherie Amour” by Stevie Wonder.
What was your favorite movie as a child? Mary Poppins.
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
Guys used to wear afro picks in their hair.
What are you most proud of?
I’m most proud of my family and happy to have been married for 49+ years. I’m just blessed to be a part of the family that God put me in.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
First, always pray! Second, keep your body moving. Third, take care of your skin. Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
Others have told me I don’t look my age, so I think exercise, water, rest, and the right skin products help. All by the grace of God.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
I’ve enjoyed the flexibility that comes with being retired. However, I haven’t enjoyed the physical signs of aging, such as wrinkles and struggling to get up from the floor. (Despite lifting 20-pound weights with my trainer, I sometimes need help getting up from the floor!) Still, I feel blessed and am thankful to be 70.
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
I would say age 55 because that was the prime of my life. I was in good shape, close to retirement, and still feeling good. I had raised my children and was waiting on
grandchildren... Most people at 55 don’t look their age, so it’s a time when most haven’t yet experienced significant physical changes. By that age, you’ve accomplished a lot and gained wisdom, leading to a more stable life. I also enjoyed being a teenager when we were free and innocent. A typical day for us included learning new dances and playing our records. Everything was simple, and back then the world had a stronger sense of morality and community. Everyone in the neighborhood watched out for each other. It was a true village, and it was just fun. If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner?
If I’d known then what I know now, I would have worked out more and taken better care of myself. I might have even become a vegetarian, as I think that would have benefited me in the long run.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
I would say, enjoy the moments. Expectations are great, but sometimes they can lead to stress when you’re always reaching for the next thing. Sometimes it’s better to enjoy where you are while you’re there. Or as I’ve heard it said, “Bloom where you are planted.” And always, always trust God (Proverbs 3:5-6).
I WOULD SAY, ENJOY THE MOMENTS. EXPECTATIONS ARE GREAT, BUT SOMETIMES THEY CAN LEAD TO STRESS WHEN YOU’RE ALWAYS REACHING FOR THE NEXT THING.
SHINING STAR
An Interview of Katrina Léonce
When and where were you born?
October 27, 1963, in San Diego, California.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
John F. Kennedy.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
Although I was only 5, Dr. Martin Luther King’s assassination was the first time I recall experiencing death. There was great sadness and anger that swept through my family, our community, and church; and I didn’t truly understand the anger until decades later.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
Social media and its impact on culture.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
Cell phones in the 90’s were a game changer!
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
Oprah Winfrey.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
Red Hots candy.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
I have always been an avid reader.
What was your first job? Babysitting.
What was your first car? A Volvo.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
“ABC” by the Jackson 5, “Ring My Bell” by Anita Ward, “Shining Star” by Earth Wind and Fire, and “Superstition” by Steve Wonder.
What was your favorite movie as a child? “Jaws” was my favorite movie.
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
The “Jheri Curl” hair style. It was a drippy, greasy mess. :-)
What are you most proud of?
Being the best mom I could be, and my dedication to this important role has paid off, as my daughters are great mothers.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
Life is short, live your best life NOW!
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
Following a plant-based and meat-free diet, drinking half my body weight in water daily, prayer and meditation, exercise, maintaining an active social life with a village of great friends, and keeping stress to a minimum.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
Most: Each birthday prompts me to do a life evaluation and set sustainable goals for the coming year. I also create a monthly calendar reminder to check in on those goals to ensure I’m on track.
Least: The “list” of must-do items that come with each milestone. My current list includes a 30-minute morning walk, strength training, 7-9 hours of sleep, substituting liquor for an occasional glass of wine or a nonalcoholic beverage when being social, 50 SPF sunscreen even when I’m not at the beach,
and challenging my brain with the Words with Friends puzzle game or something similar.
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
My twenties! I was excited about being a mother, hopeful about my future, and grateful that I was able to save and buy my first home as a single parent at 22. Lots of fun times with friends.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner?
Don’t worry, everything will all work out. Life will have lots of ups and downs, but the way you handle these challenges will make all the difference.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
Prioritize your self-care, enjoy life, and cherish moments with loved ones.
LIFEglamorous
An Interview of Jennifer Watley Maxell
When and where were you born?
June 27,1970, in Atlanta, Georgia.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
Richard Nixon.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
The emergence of Hip Hop. Hip Hop narrated the struggle for freedom in South Africa during Apartheid, it narrated the fall of the Berlin Wall, it narrated the silenced global spread of AIDS, and it even narrated ways of relating to the Divine that were outside of my own Christian upbringing.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
The World Wide Web! The idea of being able to communicate with each other, shop, and research on the computer seemed crazy and improbable, like something out of “The Jetsons.”
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
While many people still claim to believe in some type of deity, many do not practice their faith in a way that shapes community. The Black Church was the hub of my community growing up. Even those who weren’t Christians respected our beliefs and participated in communal traditions held at the church. Now that hub has been lost.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
My Father.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
My mother’s peach cobbler and Now and Later candy.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
Spending summers with my grandparents.
What was your first job?
I worked for my grandfather selling t-shirts at a church convention when I was 12. He taught me that a fair day’s work deserves a fair day’s pay.
What was your first car?
An Oldsmobile Firenza that was wrecked the day I got it. Someone ran a red light as my mom was driving it home.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
“The Glamorous Life” by Sheila E. and “The Pleasure Principle” by Janet Jackson.
What was your favorite movie as a child?
“The Fish That Saved Pittsburgh,” which introduced me to Dr. J.
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
Using Kool-Aid to color our hair. It worked until you either washed your hair or it rained.
What are you most proud of?
(i)My Family: My husband and I have been married for over 30 years. We have three young adult kids and have navigated two houses, two dogs, caring for parents, and cofounding a church while holding multiple day jobs. We’re still here, and we’re better friends than we’ve ever been.
(ii) My Ministry: I’ve founded/co-founded The Breakthrough Fellowship, The Ellipsis Experience, and The Flourish Conference, and I’ve written three books, all with the goal of helping people find spiritual healing, transformation, and liberation through an intimate relationship with Jesus.
(iii) Myself: I grew up as a very average Black girl. Never the smartest, coolest, most athletic, or prettiest. Painfully shy and insecure, I kept a lot of trauma bottled up inside of me until I just couldn’t anymore. That’s when I met Jesus, for real, for real. He showed me that the person I had become was not the person God created me to be, and I started becoming me that day.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
Beauty fades, but a person who is interesting and fun never gets old.
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
I know so many people who unnecessarily limit themselves; they talk about what’s appropriate at a certain age, what they can
or cannot wear at a certain age, etc. But I follow my heart and what gives me life. I am also clear about who God created me to be and my purpose in the world. Living into that identity and purpose is life-giving and keeps me constantly growing and excited about what’s ahead. Vitality, growth, joy, and excitement are all associated with youth in our culture, so I believe people who embody those qualities are seen as ageless.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
Most: Increased confidence and decisiveness. I’m a recovering perfectionist, and I’ve learned that an authentic life is much more rewarding than one perceived by others as perfect. Least: My body ain’t loyal, lol! The physical consequences of aging are just cruel. We can do a lot to mitigate them, but at a point, learning to accept and work with them is sobering.
If you could go back to any age, what would it be and why?
I wouldn’t go back to any age. Nostalgia makes us think there was something magical in our past, but there isn’t. Each age and stage has given me something priceless.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner?
When I went to seminary, my dad gave me a great piece of advice. He said, “You know more than you think you do. You’ll be fine.” He was right. Believing that we are enough to navigate and thrive through any situation really is a superpower.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
Black women matter, and we deserve love, happiness, and care; but we have to apply it first to ourselves, then to others. We have endured so much trauma individually and collectively that has damaged us; however, healing is real and powerful. So get to know Jesus, drink your water, take the medicine, fix your credit, get your sugar under control, have the conversation, go to therapy – do whatever you have to do to be healed, whole, and well. You deserve it, and those who love you need it.
FANTASY
When and where were you born?
December 7, 1983, in Houston, Texas.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
Ronald Reagan.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
9/11. I remember being in history class in high school when the first tower of the World Trade Center was hit. We were able to get the television plugged in just in time to see the second tower fall down.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
The iPhone.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
Politics. Strategies are now focused on getting the undereducated, under-involved voter to the polls with little to no valuable information to make an informed decision.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
Maya Angelou. Her ability to make such a cultural impact while being a single mom inspires me to believe I can be and do anything.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
Lemon Tootsie Rolls.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
Learning dance moves from my favorite music videos on MTV with my cousins.
What was your first job?
Sales at a fashion boutique.
What was your first car?
Toyota Rav 4.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
“Fantasy” by Mariah Carey and “Breathe Again” by Toni Braxton.
An interview of Lisa Hannibal
What was your favorite movie as a child?
“Never Ending Story” was my favorite.
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
We cut the waistband off our jeans to make them extra low waist. I remember my mom losing it because I “destroyed” brand new jeans. LOL
What are you most proud of?
I am most proud of being resilient. My generation has had to evolve through the technology age where something new is coming out every day. We’ve had to learn and adapt to the ever-changing environment.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
You can’t fight the facts, but you can fight the evidence! Use SPF and start your anti-aging regimen in your 30s to maintain your youthful appearance.
How would others say you are defying your age? What's the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
Remember that age is just a number.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
I love the wisdom that comes with experience. It’s fascinating to talk with my younger friends about life situations. I often smile, understanding exactly what they are talking about, yet recognizing the flaws in their thinking. What I least enjoy are the physical issues associated with aging. When I went to my physical therapist for shoulder pain, I was told I had frozen shoulder, often caused by aging and loss of hormones. Eeek! That stinks just a bit!
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
18 years old. Had I known how important it was to take college seriously, I would have done a few things differently.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner? You’re not supposed to blend in. Collaboration is necessary to survive and get along, but don’t blend in. When have you ever looked in a box of crayons and said, “Oh wow! I love the way all the colors are different shades of blue?” Be the only yellow crayon in the box. Remember, you are needed. Without yellow, there is no green or orange, sure - but most importantly, without yellow... there is no YELLOW!
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
Fall so deeply in love with yourself that you protect the precious person you love. Be your best friend and do something hard so that when difficult times come, they look really small!
GET READY, READY!
An interview of Kinaya Ware
AGE 31
When and where were you born?
January 12, 1993, in Austin, Texas.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
Bill Clinton.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
Hurricane Katrina in 2005.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
Facebook – an innovation that changed the internet and social media as we know it.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
The influence that social media has on the way people view themselves.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
Michelle Obama.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
Dairy Queen’s vanilla cone dipped in chocolate.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
Playing outside with my family.
What was your first job?
Working at my grandmother’s restaurant and decor businesses.
What was your first car?
A 1999 Honda Civic.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
“Get Ready, Ready” by DJ Jubilee.
What was your favorite movie as a child?
“Troy,” yes, Troy!
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
Beauty Supply slippers.
What are you most proud of?
My family and our love for each other.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
Don’t stress and wash your face with COLD WATER!
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
I left an established career as a flight attendant to become a pilot, a career that people typically enter at a younger age. I’m defying my age by not letting social norms define me.
What have you enjoyed most about aging?
What have you enjoyed least about aging?
Most: The wisdom that comes with aging. Least: The sudden decline in my metabolism.
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
My early 20s. I was old enough to feel a new boldness about being in control of my decisions, but still young enough to make
bad ones and give myself grace. In my early 30s, I’m much harder on myself about making smart, sound decisions.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner?
Secure your finances ASAP as best you can. I wish I understood finances and had financial literacy sooner.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
As James Brown said, you have to take responsibility to “Do right by yourself.” That is no one else’s job or responsibility.
YOU HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY TO ‘DO RIGHT BY YOURSELF.’ THAT IS NO ONE ELSE’S JOB OR RESPONSIBILITY.
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We defy the notion that differences divide us. We are women who are all shapes, sizes, skin tones and swag. But our spirits—our souls— are every bit the same. And we only have one rule. Leave all judgment at the door. You arrived here today, not by coincidence, but because you know existing isn’t enough. We believe that too, and we want to support you to manifest something meaningful in your life—whether that something is more joy,
more freedom, more confidence and selflove, a more fulfilling profession or a better relationship. YANA is as much about recovery as it discovery. As you exhale your pain and inhale your passion and purpose, you will find you can do—and be—anything. But first, Superwoman, you must take off the cape.
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TIL THE END OF TIME
An Interview of India Wyatt
When and where were you born?
August 17, 2001, in Atlanta, Georgia.
Who was President of the United States when you were born?
George W. Bush.
What was the most significant world event during your childhood?
When Barack Obama became the first Black President in history.
Which invention from your lifetime are you most amazed by?
The widespread influence of Apple products, from cutting-edge gadgets to industry-leading security measures and groundbreaking contributions to the music industry.
What is the biggest change you’ve seen in the world in your lifetime?
The impact of Covid-19.
What public figure/celebrity has influenced you the most in your lifetime?
The Honorable Louis Farrakhan.
What was your favorite food or candy as a child?
Gummy Life Savers.
What was your favorite hobby/pastime as a child?
Swimming at the YMCA with my family.
What was your first job?
Working as an ice cream scooper at Ben and Jerry’s.
What was your first car?
A Red PT Cruiser.
What was a popular/favorite song from when you were younger?
“Til the End of Time” by Beyoncé and Justin Timberlake.
What was your favorite movie as a child?
“The Proud Family” was my favorite movie.
What’s the weirdest fad you remember from your childhood?
The fashion of the early 2000s - from knitted ponchos and capris, to wedged sandals paired with long floral skirts.
What are you most proud of?
Graduating college and securing a job just one month after graduation, especially in a field that I genuinely enjoy.
What’s the best advice you’ve gotten about aging?
Each year brings valuable lessons to pass on to the next generation. It’s about soaking in all that life has to offer, learning from it, and then passing those lessons on to others who may benefit from them. It’s a beautiful way to embrace the wisdom gained through experience and share it with those around us.
How would others say you are defying your age? What’s the secret to defying what it means to be your age?
Others might say I’m defying my age by embracing the art of observing and learning from my elders. Understanding that there’s nothing entirely new under the sun, I believe the key to navigating your twenties is to remain teachable. It’s about recognizing that you don’t know everything and can’t do it all alone. Asking questions, seeking advice, and learning from the mistakes of those who’ve come before you can be invaluable in shaping your path forward.
What have you enjoyed most and least about aging?
What I’ve enjoyed most is the newfound independence to explore life without parental boundaries. It’s liberating to make my own decisions and chart my own course. However, I must admit, the responsibilities that come with aging, like paying bills, haven’t been as enjoyable.
If you could go back to any age, what would it be? Why?
If I could go back to 17, the year I graduated high school and entered college, I would tell
myself that I am destined for greatness and to stay focused on my goals. It’s important to believe in myself and to remain dedicated to pursuing my dreams, despite any challenges or doubts that may arise along the way.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? What do you wish you’d known sooner?
I would advise my younger self that every season in life has a purpose, and it will either bring blessings or lessons. Embracing this perspective allows us to turn challenges into opportunities for growth. Learning to see the good in every situation has been transformative for me; it’s led to positive outcomes and victories in various aspects of life.
What other life advice would you pass along to women of any age?
I would encourage women not to let your age, your past, or any obstacle hinder you from becoming the person you were meant to be. Embrace each experience as an opportunity for growth and learning, even when it seems like there’s nothing more to glean. Trust in your journey and believe in your ability to overcome challenges and fulfill your potential.
YANA AGE AIN,T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER Playlist
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Georgia On My Mind (Ray Charles)
Unforgettable (Nat King Cole)
Message to Michael (Dionne Warwick)
Don’t Mess With Bill (The Marvelettes)
Beauty is Only Skin Deep (The Temptations)
My Cherie Amour (Stevie Wonder)
ABC (Jackson 5)
Ring my Bell (Anita Ward)
Shining Star (Earth Wind & Fire)
Superstition (Stevie Wonder)
September (Earth Wind & Fire)
There’ll Never Be (Switch)
The Glamorous Life (Sheila E.)
The Pleasure Principle (Janet Jackson)
Breathe Again (Toni Braxton)
Fantasy (Mariah Carey)
Get Ready, Ready (DJ Jubilee)
Til the end of time (Beyonce and Justin Timberlake)
Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number (Aaliyah)
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