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When the DIXIE CLASSIC FAIR opens Friday, Oct. 4, at 421 27th St. NW in Winston-Salem, it will be 137 years old. In 2020, it will be called something else, although the name hasn’t been decided yet. The event will continue annually in its present form and place, but its nine-day run this year will be the last time it’s known by the name it’s had since 1956.

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THAI SQUARE is a new entry into the Greensboro restaurant scene, located next door to the new Sprouts market. The interior is bright and airy, with white walls decorated in greenery and a few Thai-themed accessories. Personnel are welcoming and attentive. 10 Revolution Mill will officially open GALLERY 1250 and host their first art exhibit, “Triple Vision” on Oct. 11 at 1250 Revolution Mill Dr. in Greensboro. The opening reception will be from 5:30 to 8:30 p.m., and the exhibit will run through early January 2020... 11 Fresh from its successful screenings of the award-winning documentary Fiddlin’ in Winston-Salem and Elkin, the RiverRun International Film Festival’s Films With Class program has announced its six-film INDIE LENS POP-UP screening series. 12 The Day Shall Come is a likable but lackadaisical satire that marks writer/director Chris Morris’s first feature since Four Lions nearly a decade ago. Billed as being “based on a hundred stories,” this amiable but aimless comedy details an FBI sting operation in South Beach. 13 When the CEO of a company resigns, it doesn’t usually make the front page. But it’s a YES! WEEKLY

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different story when that resignation involves the state’s largest HEALTH INSURER, serious criminal charges and corporate cover-ups. 17 Therapist and horse trainer STACEY CARTER is a resilient survivor; deeply compassionate, but tough enough to wryly joke about losing a man she loved to a serial killer. “I think it’s my karma that I’ll probably never find a hoof trimmer that I really like because I didn’t appreciate Josh when he was here,” she said with a tearful smile. 18 There have been some vaping-related ILLNESSES that have been reported by the media over the last month or so. 20 “From The Ground Up” a collaborative site-specific dance performance involving Texas-based FORKLIFT DANCEWORKs and grounds workers at Wake Forest University will change that when the event unfolds with three performances this week on the school’s Winston-Salem campus. 21 Greensboro folkster EMILY STEWART is strumming her way around North Carolina and riding out the lingering summer with a fruitful harvest of regular shows on the horizon.

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WHAT: Shop The Block is back Oct. 3-6! Now’s a great time to shop local and enjoy downtown shopping. A free Coupon Book comprised of each of the participants’ deals along with a complimentary tote bag will be available at each participating retail outlet. WHEN: Oct. 3-6 WHERE: Downtown Winston-Salem MORE: For more information (including the deal each store is offering), please visit www.downtownws.com/shop-the-block

WHAT: Join us in downtown Greensboro for October’s First Friday! Explore new art exhibits, listen to live music, shop with local retailers and dine on delicious food as we celebrate all our amazing city has to offer! #FirstFridayGSO is co-hosted by ArtsGreensboro and Downtown Greensboro. WHEN: 6-9 p.m. WHERE: Downtown Greensboro MORE: Free event.

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SUNDAY SAT 5 10TH ANNUAL WESTERWOOD ART AND SOLE WHAT: The artists of Greensboro’s Westerwood neighborhood open their homes/ studios to show their paintings, fiber art, photography, mixed media, pottery, woodworking, drawings and more! Art will be for sale, bands will play, and a lot of fun will be had. WHEN: 10 a.m. - 5 p.m. WHERE: Westerwood Neighborhood, Fairmont Street in Greensboro. MORE: Free event.

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WHAT: Join us in Greensboro, NC as the Repticon team brings you another great two-day reptile show and sale. This show features everything that you’ve come to love most about Repticon’s two days of fun and excitement! See live animals from around the world and purchase pets and pet products direct from the experts at amazing prices you won’t find anywhere. WHEN: Oct. 5-6, 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. WHERE: Greensboro Coliseum Complex. 1921 W. Gate City Blvd. in Greensboro. MORE: Tickets: $12 adult | $5 ages 5-12

WHAT: The Kernersville Food Truck Festival is back! Come hungry, thirsty, and ready to jam! Family + Dog Friendly! Must be 21+ with a valid ID for alcohol, wristbands will be given out at the front gate. No outside alcohol allowed. ATM on site. Parking available throughout downtown Kernersville. WHEN: Noon - 7 p.m. WHERE: The Brewer’s Kettle. 308 E. Mountain St. in Kernersville. MORE: Free event.

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Break the Chain Kennel Kru is a nonprofit organization in the Triad that goes into underserved communities to help dogs that are chained up outside. Since their opening three years ago, BTCKennelKru has built two kennels a month on weekends. Sylvia Mayon, the organization’s founder, said the significance of the organization stems from her childhood. “When I was growing up, I never had a pet because my parents abandoned me,” Mayon said. When Mayon got married to her husband, Andrew, the couple adopted an abandoned puppy, Kona, and Mayon grew attached. After reflecting on her abusive childhood, she wanted to help animals in need, particularly the ones who were tied up outdoors. BTCKennelKru receives tips from neighbors and animal control for those who need assistance with their tethered outdoor dog. Mayon said most families that are referred are families that have disabled owners, no car, or who are elderly. Families that receive BTCKennelKru’s assistance must meet specific requirements: all dogs must be spayed/ neutered, the owner must receive government assistance, the owner must agree to follow-up visits, and a family member is asked to pay to help BTCKennelKru build another’s kennel. Mayon said she conducts a phone interview with the family, and then sets up a home visit. During the home visit, Mayon and her team can get to know the family and see the space that is available for a kennel, which are 10 feet by 20 feet. The family is put on a waiting list for a kennel for their dog. “Just because you chain a dog does not mean you are a bad person,” Mayon said. “[Some people] do not have the education or resources to know any different.” Each kennel built is decked out with tarps, straw, cedar, new toys, bowls, a dog house, a new collar, treats and food. After a kennel is built for a family, Mayon and her team conduct home visits about every five to six weeks to follow up. “Home visits also allow us to build a relationship with the family and deepen the relationship with the dog,” Mayon said. BTCKennelKru has teamed up with Dr. Oliver from Benessere Animal Hospital to assist with any appointments or check-ins that a dog might need. Together, Mayon WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

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said, this partnership has allowed for the family to receive a discount for services. Mayon noted that the family pays as much as they can to get their dog the medications and treatments needed, and BTCKennelKru will cover the rest of the cost. As a result of this partnership, 25-30 dogs have had the opportunity to be treated for heartworms, Mayon said. BTCKennelKru also has a partnership with Project Bark, which helps with spaying and neutering as well as educating families about it. “When a family qualifies for Project Bark, they automatically qualify for our program,” Mayon said. When bad weather hits such as snow, extreme heat, frigid temperatures or rain, all outside dogs can be boarded. “We have different partners such as Camp Bow Wow in Greensboro and Fur Babies that help us with this task,” Mayon said. A few months ago, Mayon said that BTCKennelKru met a family with four boys that had lost their husband/father. The family had a high-energy dog chained to the porch because the dog had not been trained. Mayon said that BTCKennelKru was able to give the dog a kennel and was able to pay for a dog trainer so that he could live inside the house. “This is the extent we will go to better the lives of dogs and their families.” On Oct. 6, BTCKennelKru will hold its seventh annual Spooktacular fundraising event at Northwood Animal Hospital from noon to 4 p.m. with music, pet contests and food vendors. Entry is free, but donations of pet food, supplies or cash are encouraged. For more information, visit the Northwood Animal Hospital website, www. northwoodah.com/. !

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Chow down with John Batchelor at Thai Square BY JOHN BATCHELOR | john.e.batchelor@gmail.com Overall Rating: Food: Generally quality ingredients, with significant attention to presentations Ambience: Open and airy Service: Welcoming and attentive Value: Moderate prices relative to the Triad market Ratings range from Not Recommended or Acceptable to one (satisfactory), two (good), three (very good), four (excellent) or five (truly exceptional) stars. Most recent visit: Sept. 25

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In general, this kitchen devotes more attention to presentations than is usual for the genre, at least in the Triad, and sometimes higher quality ingredients appear as well. My wife and I started one evening with Fresh Rolls. These are large, with soft rice paper rolled around crisp shredded lettuce, celery, fresh basil, carrot slivers and large shrimp, all pleasantly chilled, decorated with large fresh Thai basil leaves. A peanut/soy sauce lends additional flavor. Thai Dumplings are available steamed or fried. Personally, I prefer steamed, because I like the soft texture that process imparts. They enclose ground and blended chicken, pork and shrimp, redolent of Thai spices. Crispy Rolls are presented in a big martini glass. They are filled with sliced vegetables and fried, crisp, as the title indicates, but not greasy. Sweet and sour sauce, sourced from the bottom of the glass, adds bite. My wife is particularly fond of Thai salad entrées. In Som Tom, firm (but not tough) shrimp join shredded papaya, ground peanuts and diced tomatoes, along with carrots and a spicy Thai chili dressing. Very pleasant, especially if you are seeking a light main course. The longest section of the entrée menu offers a choice of proteins or vegetarian ingredients in various preparations, priced according to your selection. In all entrées, multiple fresh vegetables arrived al dente- just right. We ordered Pad Kraprow with chicken. The meat is minced, so specific locations on the bird are unidentifiable, but clear, natural

Som Tom with Shrimp chicken flavor emerges, marred a little by occasional gristle. Onions, green peppers, garlic and abundant Thai basil leaves convey a complex flavor medley. “Ginger” is based on giant slices of onion, green pepper, carrots, mushrooms, zucchini and fresh ginger. We chose beef in this case, which turned out to be thin, very lean and moderately flavored, albeit well-matched to the other ingredients. I tried Red Thai Curry in a seafood combination. This is bathed in coconut milk with bamboo shoots, green peppers, fresh green beans, carrots and lots of Thai basil. Medium-sized shrimp and scallops were tender, and mussels emitted a fresh, clean flavor. The squid had been heavily scored, making it possible to bite through an otherwise nearly impenetrable texture, which added nothing to the flavor profile. Overall, however, I really liked the fairly spicy impact of the curry. One menu page lists Signature Dishes. Pla Sam Rod is a whole flounder, an absolute knockout, well worth a special visit in its own right. Working around the bones requires some effort, but it pays off. Cooked tomatoes and pineapple soften the impact of spicy-hot Thai chili and garlic sauce, augmented by fresh cilantro and basil. Cilantro Shrimp are sautéed in white wine and garlic butter, classic ingredients in many cultures. This is a colorful presentation with the deep green of fresh cilantro leaves and broccoli contrasting with bright orange carrot slices. The

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be daunting for almost any guests. I’ll probably ask for a higher level of intensity when I return, and I will return for sure! ! JOHN BATCHELOR has been writing about eating and drinking since 1981. Over a thousand of his articles have been published. He is also author of two travel/cookbooks: Chefs of the Coast: Restaurants and Recipes from the North Carolina Coast, and Chefs of the Mountains: Restaurants and Recipes from Western North Carolina. Contact him at john.e.batchelor@gmail.com or see his blog, johnbatchelordiningandtravel.blogspot.com.

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evolution Mill will officially open Gallery 1250 and host their first art exhibit, “Triple Vision,” on Oct. 11 at 1250 Revolution Mill Dr. in Greensboro. The opening reception will be from 5:30 to 8:30 p.m., and the exhibit will run through early January 2020, said artist and director of Gallery Terry Rader 1250 Jan Lukens. Lukens said that The Bearded Goat would provide drinks and everyone is invited to Contributor this free event with complimentary food. Gallery 1250 is not to be confused with the Central Gallery, which is still operating and located at 1150 Revolution Mill Dr. “Annunciation” by Michael Northuis Lukens said that Gallery 1250 is a 2,800 square foot art gallery that was formerly known as 5 feet by 6.5 feet. Lukens said he would the WamRev Gallery, a satellite exhibition show two existing paintings along with space that was utilized by the Weathfive works that he did specifically to be erspoon Art Museum. During a period revealed for the first time at this show. of time awaiting grants, Revolution Mill “Because I am best known as an equesdecided to host the first WamRev Gallery trian painter, I decided to make a sharp exhibit. This featured James Cameron, detour from my usual subject matter and a mural street artist from Raleigh, who do several paintings that were both fun painted the entire gallery’s 18-foot walls and challenging to create,” Lukens said. from floor to ceiling in green geomet“I hope my friends that have followed my ric patterns with only house paint and career are pleasantly surprised.” masking tape during the same week that Lukens grew up in Greensboro and beLukens moved his studio across the hall. gan painting horses professionally in 1992 The WamRev Gallery art opening for Camafter 15 years as an advertising illustrator. eron was in October 2016. He later attended Lyme Academy College “Because the grants were not received of Fine Arts and the National Academy of and the walls were covered with a mural, Design in New York. Lukens has painted the Weatherspoon was unable to use the equestrian portraits of three Olympic gold space, and the gallery was only used for medalists in show jumping. His paintings business meetings and events for the next “Kids with Sparklers” by Roy Nydorf “BellaDonna” by Jan Lukens are in the permanent collection of the two and a half years,” Lukens said. National Sporting Library & Museum and Lukens said he pushed to utilize the Ralph Lauren; he also has gallery reprepainting from Yale, and he received a career retrospecspace as an art gallery again and was sentation in New York and Atlanta. tive in 2012 from the GreenHill Center for North Carolina asked to submit a business proposal. Management at Lukens said that Gallery 1250 “has been and will conArt. He is known for a wealth of work from over 40 Revolution Mill responded by making him the director. tinue to be used for business meetings that are held freyears that includes paintings, prints, etchings, drawings, He contacted two other artist friends, Roy Nydorf and quently in the space.” He said the gallery would be open wood carvings and multimedia works. Michael Northuis, and invited them to the gallery so from 9 a.m. to 7 p.m., seven days a week, and that it is Lukens said that Northuis would be showing up to 20 they could do the first show together. After a lengthy best to call ahead to see if a meeting is scheduled. ! oil-on-canvas imaginative, figurative paintings in smalldiscussion, they all decided it was a good idea. That to-medium formats. Northuis, who lives in Greensboro, happened in June, and the walls were re-painted in July. is from Holland, Michigan, and has been a painting Lukens said he is pleased to be a part of Gallery 1250’s TERRY RADER is a freelance writer, poet, singer/songwriter, wellness instructor at Art Alliance of Greensboro since 2000. first exhibition with two of his good friends whose art herbalist, flower essences practitioner and owner of Paws n’ Peace o’ Mind Northuis has a Master’s of Fine Arts in painting from he has admired for decades. cat/dog/house sitting. The University of North Carolina at Greensboro and was Lukens said that Nydorf would be showing several also a visiting lecturer at both UNCG (1985-1990) and figurative oil paintings and at least one large sculpture WANNA Guilford College (1990-2001). Northuis received a career that will be suspended from the ceiling. Nydorf, who retrospective from the Columbia Museum of Art in 2013. lives in Oak Ridge, is a native New Yorker and recently Oct. 11, 5:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m., “Triple Vision” Opening Reception, Lukens plans to exhibit seven large oil paintings. retired as head of the art department at Guilford exhibit runs through early January 2020 at Gallery 1250, located at The smallest one is 3 feet by 4 feet and the largest is College. Nydorf has a Master’s of Fine Arts degree in 1250 Revolution Mill Dr. in Greensboro, (336) 285-9858.

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RiverRun rolls out Indie Lens Pop-Up schedule Fresh from its successful screenings of the award-winning documentary Fiddlin’ in Winston-Salem and Elkin, the RiverRun International Film Festival’s Films With Class program has announced its Mark Burger six-film Indie Lens Pop-Up screening series. The series Contributor is set to kick off on Tuesday, Oct. 15 with the acclaimed feature documentary Decade of Fire. All screenings are free and will be held at the Forsyth County Central Library (660 W. 5th St.) in Winston-Salem and the Wallingham Theater at the Yadkin Cultural Arts Center (226 E. Main St.) in Yadkinville. A panel discussion will follow each screening. (There are also additional dates yet to be announced for Greensboro.) “The Indie Lens films explore topics of major importance to our world and to our community,” observed RiverRun executive director Rob Davis. “The post-screening panel discussions, comprised of local speakers, serve to illuminate the film topics, spark conversations and identify area resources for our audiences.” The Indie Lens Pop-Up neighborhood screening series is designed to bring people together for community-driven conversations around documentaries broadcast on the award-winning PBS

series Independent Lens on UNC-TV. With communities undergoing increased polarization and division, these events provide a gathering place to watch and discuss the documentaries at hundreds of events hosted by series partners across the nation. In the last decade, nearly 6,500 Indie Lens Pop-Up screenings have brought an estimated 370,000 participants together to discuss issues that impact local communities. “This season, audiences from across the country will convene around this new slate of Indie Lens Pop-Up films,” said Sherry Simpson Dean, senior director of Engagement & Impact at ITVS. “Each of these films offers an incredible opportunity to hear diverse stories, engage with neighbors and become part of our Indie Lens Pop-Up community, where everyone is welcome, and open discussion and dialogue are encouraged.” The first screening, Decade of Fire, was written, produced and co-directed by Vivian Vazquez Irizarry and Gretchen Hildebran, and explores the spate of tragic fires that rocked the Bronx during the 1970s. It will be screened Oct. 15 at 6 p.m. in Winston-Salem, and will feature panelists Mayor Allen Joines; James Perry, president and CEO, Urban League of Winston-Salem; George Redd, director of program services for Habitat for Humanity, Winston-Salem; and Dr. Keith Vareen, pastor of Providence Baptist Church in Kernersville.

in Bladenboro, North Carolina, in 2014. The film, narrated by Danny Glover, will be screened at 6 p.m. on Feb. 18 in WinstonSalem and at 7 p.m. on Feb. 27 in Yadkinville. Bedlam, the documentary feature debut of Emmy-nominated filmmaker Kenneth Paul Rosenberg, takes a hard look at the national crisis surroundBedlam ing the care of the mentally ill and was filmed over five years. Bedlam will be screened at 7 Director Ray Santisteban’s documenp.m. on March 12 in Yadkin and at 6 p.m. tary The First Rainbow Coalition examines on March 17 in Winston-Salem. the efforts of the Chicago Black Panther The series concludes with director Party to establish ties with other commuMatt Wolf’s Recorder: The Marion Stokes nity-based movements in 1969 to conProject, which chronicles the life of Marion front such issues as police brutality and Stokes, a radical Communist activist who sub-standard housing. It will be screening became a reclusive archivist. For three at 7 p.m. on Nov. 14 in Yadkinville and 6 decades, she recorded television 24 hours p.m. on Dec. 3 in Winston-Salem, with a day, seven days a week– beginning in panelists to be announced later. 1979 with the Iranian hostage crisis and Eating Up Easter is a documentary ending in 2012, when she died while news about the impact of tourism on Easter of the Sandy Hook shooting played on Island (Rapa Nui), and the efforts of the television, leaving behind some 70,000 indigenous population and environmenVHS cassettes. Recorder will be screened tal activists to preserve the beauty and at 7 p.m. on May 7 in Yadkinville and at 6 culture of the land. The film, which was p.m. on May 19 in Winston-Salem. directed by native Rapa Nui filmmaker The 2020 RiverRun International Film Sergio Mata’u Rapu, will be screened at 6 Festival will take place on March 26 - April p.m. on Jan. 21, 2020 in Winston-Salem, 5, 2020. and 7 p.m. on Jan. 23 in Yadkinville. For more information about these Writer/producer/director Jacqueline screenings or other RiverRun events, visit Olive’s award-winning documentary the official website: riverrunfilm.com/ ! feature debut Always in Season delves into the circumstances surrounding the mysterious death of Lennon Lacy, a black See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on teenager found hanging from a swing set Burgervideo.com. © 2019, Mark Burger.

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he Day Shall Come is a likable but lackadaisical satire that marks writer/director Chris Morris’s first feature since Four Lions nearly a decade ago. Billed as being “based on a hundred stories,” this amiable but aimMark Burger less comedy details an FBI sting operation in South Beach. The target is Moses Al Shabaz (Marchant Contributor Davis), a local activist who fronts what he calls a “black jihad.” There are only a handful of soldiers in his “movement” – not including family members – and it’s fairly evident that the good-natured, if self-deluded, Moses is hardly a threat to national security, as he preaches equality, charity and nonviolence. Even Kendra Glack (Anna Kendrick), the agent charged with funding Moses’s ministry, soon realizes that Moses is essentially harmless, but is irresistibly swept up in the conflicting interests of the operation, represented by aggressive local cops and her boss (Denis O’Hare). To them, Moses is a perfect mark – particu-

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larly when it comes to fueling their ambitions. Kendra’s pleas for common sense go ignored. Moses, meanwhile, guilelessly goes on about his business, attempting to procure first automatic weapons and then nukes, simply in the hope of providing for his family and his community outreach efforts, utterly unaware that he’s under constant surveillance. The cast, including Danielle Brooks (as Moses’s exasperated wife), James Adomian (as an obnoxious cop), Jim Gaffigan, Adam David Thompson and Michael Braun, is certainly game. Still, the necessary screwball touch needed to give the story heft and irony is, for the most part, absent. Unlike the thematically similar American Hustle (2013) or War Dogs (2016), both of which were based on specific cases, The Day Shall Come rambles along toward an ending that has more potency than what has preceded it. It’s a nice try, and a pleasant timekiller, but there’s the unmistakable feeling that, with a little more care, this could – and should – have been sharper. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2019, Mark Burger.

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hen the CEO of a company resigns, it doesn’t usually make the front page. But it’s a different story when that resignation involves the state’s largest health inJim Longworth surer, serious criminal charges and corporate cover-ups. This Longworth is the alleged saga at Large of Patrick Conway, who had served as President and Chief Executive Officer of Blue Cross Blue Shield of North Carolina since October 2017, before stepping down last week amidst a flurry of troubling developments. On June 22 of this year, Conway reportedly became intoxicated, then loaded his two children into the family car, and went for a drive. After being pulled over by police for allegedly side-swiping a tractor-trailer along Interstate 85 in Randolph County, Conway refused to take a breathalyzer test, so he was arrested for reckless driving and driving while impaired. He was also charged with two counts of child abuse, and his license was revoked for 30 days. Early last week, after sitting on this information for over three months, the Blue Cross board finally decided to go public. Did they fire Conway? No. Did they dock Conway’s pay? No. Instead, the BCBS board issued a statement that praised Conway’s service to the company, “Patrick’s strong leadership will continue to be an asset, and he will remain as President and CEO.” Are you kidding me? What leadership? Do you mean the kind of leadership in which a father endangers the lives of his own daughters and puts other motorists at risk? More likely, the board was referring to the kind of leadership in which a man spends his days figuring out how to increase our health care premiums, raise our deductibles and deny our claims so that he can improve the company’s bottom line. In response to the Blue Cross board’s announcement, State Insurance Commissioner Mike Causey sent a letter to BCBS Board Chair Frank Holding, in which, according to Tribune News Service, he called the charges against Conway, “alarming.” Causey also wrote, “What is even more WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

alarming is the appearance that the board and the executive team worked to hide the arrest from the public’s attention…Then was almost dismissive of the troubling charges when reported in the news media. One would expect the board and executive team to be much more accountable, responsible, and transparent to their policyholders and to the public at large.” But Causey’s outrage grew when he began to learn even more details about the June arrest that were withheld from him by big Blue’s board. For one thing, he wasn’t told of the accident, only the charges. Then came disclosure by WRAL-TV of the actual police report where Conway told the arresting officer, “You had a choice. You could have let me go. You don’t know who I am. I am a doctor, a CEO of a company. I’ll call Governor Cooper and get you in trouble.” Causey then issued a new statement, “The Blue Cross board misrepresented to the Department of Insurance the actual arrest – telling me that the (arrest) was without incident, and was a routine arrest… the arrest was anything but routine…I cannot move forward with any type of trust and confidence in the CEO at BCBS NC. ” Causey’s words were handwriting on the wall for Conway who announced his resignation that same day. Perhaps if Patrick Conway had worked in the mailroom at Blue Cross, instead of the executive suite, then the charges against him wouldn’t have had as much public relevance. But the CEO of a health insurance company who endangers the health and lives of others doesn’t deserve a second chance. Neither, by the way, does the Blue Cross board, who, along with Conway, violated the company’s own Code of Conduct. According to the Blue Cross website, that Code requires “ethical and lawful conduct for every employee and member of our Board of Trustees.” So much for honoring a code. Conway should have been fired three months ago, and now he’s finally gone. But the Blue Cross board, which Commissioner Causey accused of a “cover-up,” is still operating, and that should be of great concern to every policyholder in the state. !

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It started out innocently enough. A road-tripping couple stopped in Grosse Tete, Louisiana, on Sept. 18 to let their deaf pup relieve himself. As they Chuck Shepherd stretched their legs, they wandered over to the Tiger Truck Stop petting zoo and an enclosure that’s home to Caspar the Camel, and the man started throwing treats inside. But when their dog breached the fence to get at the treats, the woman, ignoring “No Trespassing” signs, followed. As she chased the dog, her husband shoved the camel and swatted him with his hat. That’s when Caspar lost his cool, settling his 600-pound camel booty right on top of the woman; she told officers from the Iberville Parish Sheriff’s Office that she did the only thing she could do: “I bit his balls to get him off of me.” Deputy Louis Hamilton Jr. cited the couple for leash law violations and criminal trespassing, siding with Caspar: “The camel did nothing wrong,” Hamilton told The Advocate. “The camel has never been ag-

gressive.” A veterinarian treated the camel with antibiotics after the incident.

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A Trumbull County (Ohio) sheriff’s deputy pulled over an Amish buggy on Donley Road early on the morning of Sept. 15 after the officer noticed a few oddities about the vehicle. For one, there were two Amish men inside who were drinking, and on the buggy’s roof rode a 12-pack of beer. And, according to Fox 8, the old-fashioned conveyance sported an unlikely modern convenience: a stereo system with large speakers. As soon as the buggy came to a stop, the two men jumped out and escaped into heavy woods near the road. Meanwhile, the horse, trailing the buggy, took off. The officer was able to catch up with the horse and have the buggy towed; the drivers were still at large. The buggy “is a vehicle, it’s on the roadway and the ... laws do apply,” said Chief Deputy Joe Dragovich. “You’re not allowed to drink and drive or operate a buggy.”

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— The Tennessee Titans were all fired up for their NFL home opener on Sept. 15 at

Nissan Stadium in Nashville. Accordingly, so was some of their pyrotechnic equipment — which caught fire during player introductions, spreading flames and thick, black smoke near one end zone. According to Bleacher Report, no one was hurt, and flames were extinguished quickly. But the NFL, taking its usual proactive stance, placed a ban on “all flame effects and pyrotechnics used on its playing fields” until an investigation can be completed. — Police arrived at the home of Vernelle Jackson, 83, in Norway, Maine, on Sept. 17, inquiring about the whereabouts of another unnamed woman in her 80s who had reportedly lived with Jackson. As police excavated the back yard and the story unfolded, Jackson admitted to authorities and WMTW News 8 that she was the one who buried the woman, about 18 months ago. “She begged me when she passed away that she didn’t have enough insurance to bury her, and I don’t have it. And she said, ‘Will you promise me to bury me in your yard so I’ll be close?’ ... I finally agreed to do it to satisfy her,” Jackson explained. “I put her in a tarp. I didn’t carry her. I have COPD. I couldn’t breathe that good.” She was surprised to learn that she would have needed a permit to legally bury her friend in her yard, and she’s still unclear whether she’s in trouble with the law. The State Medical Examiner’s office is working to ID the body and determine the cause of death.

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Two football-crazed fans of Kansas City Chiefs QB Patrick Mahomes couldn’t quite pull off a heist in Lawrence, Kansas, on Sept. 16. Pulling up to a McDonald’s, the two ran inside, grabbed a life-size cardboard cutout of Mahomes and ran out, stuffing the promotional piece into their car. Lawrence Police spokesman Patrick Compton told the Lawrence JournalWorld that as they received the call about the theft, they were working a car crash nearby — in which one of the vehicles just happened to have a Mahomes cutout in the back seat. Officers questioned the suspects and ordered them to appear for alleged theft. Flat Pat was returned to the McDonald’s.

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Paul Nixon, 51, is sought in Harris County, Texas, on charges of felony aggravated perjury after taking a novel approach to divorce. Nixon filed for divorce in February but forged his wife’s signature and the name of a notary on the legal papers, the New York Post reported. A judge declared the divorce final in April — but the wife didn’t find out until May, when she noticed strange spending habits of his. “She started finding things

showing that he was spending money on jewelry, so she confronted him and he told her that they were actually divorced,” Constable Mark Herman said. “They are still married. The fraudulent divorce papers have been retracted.” However, Nixon, who could face 10 years in prison, had so far eluded police.

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Kristine, 45, and Michael, 43, Barnett of Lafayette, Indiana, adopted a 6-year-old Ukrainian-born girl, Natalia Grace, with dwarfism in 2010. Nine years later, much to their confusion, they are charged with abandoning her. Within their first few weeks as a family, the Barnetts noticed that Natalia seemed to be older than they had been told, with a sophisticated vocabulary, pubic hair and menstrual periods. A doctor ordered bone density tests to check her age, and results suggested she was at least 14. So they began to treat her like a teenager. Then, the Barnetts claim, Natalia began making death threats against them. At a psychiatric hospital where she was treated, she told doctors she was much older and wanted to kill her family. “She was standing over people in the middle of the night. We had to hide all the sharp objects,” Kristine Barnett told The Daily Mail. In 2012, they legally changed her age (from 8 to 22) and helped her get benefits so she could continue to receive psychiatric care, and in 2013, with Natalia living independently in an apartment, the Barnetts and their son moved to Canada. Soon after, they lost touch with the girl. But inexplicably, a second set of bone density tests, performed in 2010, surfaced, arguing that Natalia was at that time just 8 years old, and she told police herself in 2014 that she had been “left alone” when her parents moved to Canada. Michael and Kristine Barnett surrendered to the Tippecanoe County Sheriff’s Department on Sept. 18 and 19, charged with abandonment of Natalia.

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Paramedics responded to a home in Detroit on the evening of Sept. 21 where a man was suffering from a heart attack. But as they worked on the victim, another man took a woman into a bedroom in the home and stabbed her. Then he ran out of the house and, according to Fox2, is still on the loose. The woman died at the scene, and the heart attack victim did not survive. Police are still trying to figure out the relationships between the three people. !

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herapist and horse trainer Stacey Carter is a resilient survivor; deeply compassionate, but tough enough to wryly joke about losing a man she loved Ian McDowell to a serial killer. “I think it’s my karma that I’ll probContributor ably never find a hoof trimmer that I really like because I didn’t appreciate Josh when he was here,” she said with a tearful smile. Carter and Josh Wetzler broke up in 2005, the year after their son Jared was born. Four years later, Pazuzu Algarad murdered Wetzler. The breakup was partially over marijuana and mushrooms. Carter had no moral objections to what she considered harmless drugs but didn’t want Jared living with a father who sold them. Wetzler was a skilled harrier, or hoof trimmer, who refused to shoe horses, believing that practice inhumane. This lost him jobs even before he was arrested YES! WEEKLY

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for purchasing mushrooms through the mail. With a felony on his record, he could no longer work in the trade he loved. It was probably selling pot that led him to the house in Clemmons where Algarad shot him and buried him in the backyard. Algarad, born Jonathan Lawson, was already notorious in Clemmons and Winston-Salem for the drug-fueled parties in the home he shared with his mother and his girlfriend. When gossip started circulating that Algarad had boasted of murdering a man named Josh, Carter became the second person to tell the sheriff’s departments of Davie and Forsyth Counties that corpses were said to be buried behind the Lawson home. The remains of Wetzler and Tommy Welch remained there for five years, during which time the Forsyth County Sheriff’s Office received multiple reports, including one by Algarad’s own mother, of murders there. How and why are explained in filmmaker Patricia Gillespie’s five-part true-crime series The Devil You Know, which recently completed its run on Viceland, and can be viewed on Viceland’s YouTube channel. Over lunch in a Winston-Salem restaurant, Carter stressed that Wetzler was not part of Pazuzu’s circle and had nothing to

do with heroin, the drug most frequently used at parties in the Lawson home. “I think Josh probably went there to sell weed, didn’t like what he saw, and said something that got him killed,” she said. “Despite some of the later gossip, it was sudden and unpremeditated. Josh wasn’t held captive, he wasn’t starved or tortured, and he wasn’t mutilated.” She described Wetzler as sarcastic and unfiltered, a man who would have readily mocked what another friend called Pazuzu’s “Hot Topic edgelord pseudoSatanism,” and would have been appalled by Pazuzu’s claims of animal sacrifices. “I used to joke that Josh could piss off the Pope,” Carter said. “I can easily see him getting into an argument and pissing off Pazuzu, who was probably drunk and high on heroin, and who had been diagnosed with schizophrenia as a child.” When Algarad and his girlfriend Amber Burch were arrested in October 2014 for the 2009 murders of Wetzler and Welch, Algarad was already on probation for a 2012 conviction of accessory after the fact in the shooting death of Joseph Emmrick Chandler, a Clemmons man whose body was found at Donnaha Park in June 2010. In the fifth episode of The Devil You Know, journalist Chad Nance has a moving

Stacey Carter with Zella, the abandoned horse she rescued conversation with Chandler’s mother, who accuses authorities of treating her son as “just another dead black man.” The documentary makes a strong case for Chandler’s death being more than the “involuntary manslaughter” charge that Algarad’s friend Nicholas Pasquale Rizzi was convicted of, and suggests that Algarad was more than just an accessory. Carter said she finds it distressing that Algarad “walked away with probation” in a shooting death, yet Wetzler “had his life ruined” by a felony conviction for purchasing mushrooms through the mail. Carter was born in Salisbury, which she left in 1999 and returned to in 2015. Her

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father bought her a mare named Baby when she was 12. “I had no idea what I was doing, so my mom reluctantly started taking lessons so she could help me,” Carter said. “I rode competitively and taught lessons through high school. I did not anticipate getting a job in the horse business; I was actually pre-med up until my junior year of college. As a medical ethics major, I became completely disillusioned by the health care system. This was in 1991 when managed care was all the rage. I was appalled by how little attention the physicians paid to the patients, how quickly they prescribed a pill rather than a lifestyle change, and how the whole thing operated to fill the pockets of the insurance companies.” Later, she learned about equine therapy, also called equine-assisted therapy (EAT), a form of experiential therapy that involves interactions between patients and horses. “For the past 15 years, I have been dedicated to understanding the horse and how relationships with them can be mutually healing.” She said she first met Wetzler in the summer of 1999, when she went on a rambling cross-country trip with her dog JoJo. “I didn’t exactly have a plan, other than a lot of Widespread Panic shows, a big box of falafel mix and some friends scattered across the country that I planned to visit.” In Olympia, Washington, she “ended up at a big farmhouse where there was to be a party the following day.” Later that night, she said Wetzler came home from his job at the Olympia Cheese Factory, they met, talked on the couch, and “had one of the best days ever” the next day. Carter and Wetzler ended up traveling together, “but driving a ‘77 Chevy van around gets expensive, so we ended up back in North Carolina,” she said. “Josh decided to go to horseshoeing school, and after that, we moved to Mocksville. We rented a farm for a year or so but wanted to have our own place to operate a horse business.” “Around that time, Josh got turned onto barefoot hoof trimming,” Carter continued. “Horseshoes can create many detrimental effects, and people were beginning to realize that it was better to mimic the natural wear of mustang hooves. True to his nature, Josh stopped putting shoes on horses. He just wouldn’t do it, even though we really needed the money. He lost a lot of clients that way. He was great at what he did, and if he was alive today, he would be absolutely amazing. It is hard to find a really good hoof trimmer that is also patient and kind with the horses.” WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

(At left) Josh Wetzler with Stacey Carter at Ziggy’s in Winston-Salem (Below) Josh and Stacey with a dog

Wetzler was an idealist who “had trouble integrating his intuition, beliefs and experiences into the ordinary world,” she said. “Believe it or not, I was the practical one!” She also called him “a devoted father who loved his son more than anything in the world. We really had some magical times, and I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything.” “We were engaged, had land together and considered ourselves common-law married, but we never went through with a wedding,” she continued. “I moved out in 2005 when Jared was an infant. I wanted to sell the property, but Josh wanted to stay. Our relationship was strained, but we shared custody of Jared and would meet each other several times a week. That summer, I was in a riding accident; a horse landed on top of me. While recuperating, I found out that Josh hadn’t been paying the mortgage. There was nothing I could do and the bank foreclosed.” “When he got arrested for having mushrooms delivered through the mail, he lost custody of Jared,” Carter explained. “He would still visit Jared, but couldn’t take him anywhere. He didn’t have much money and had to pay for his probation. He was a felon and couldn’t find a job. I didn’t see much of Josh toward the end, although he did come for the weekend shortly before he disappeared. He seemed to be in a decent headspace, and we had a good time. He talked about working at the Renaissance Fair. He was helping the people that ran the camel rides. They wanted to take him on the road with them, but he couldn’t go because of the felony.” “One of the things that stands out from this case is how someone like Josh can become a felon, and someone like Pazuzu can continue to do what he did for so long without any consequences,”

she said. “When the search warrants were unsealed, and Winston-Salem Journal reporter Michael Hewlett told me the full extent of what had happened, I was in complete shock. I was not aware that Terina Billings had reported the crime soon after it happened, and that two anonymous Crimestopper tips, and even Pazuzu’s mother Cynthia, had done so at various points after myself, my source and Sylvia Lebeau did. It wasn’t until Matt Flowers went to the police and demanded action that anything was found.” She said that she was most pleased with her friend Patricia Gillespie’s documentary series. “Trish’s original vision was to focus on the causes and possible solutions to major issues that need to be addressed,” Carter said. “These include unchecked mental illness, injustices rooted in financial disparity, the opioid epidemic, and the failure of the war on drugs. These are things that affect all of us in some way. While the documentary focuses on a specific incident and the people that were directly involved, these kinds of things are happen-

ing all the time throughout the country. I wanted to make this film to inspire action and change. There is no quick fix for these problems,” she continued. “The government can’t fix it. It is up to communities to create themselves in a way that supports and protects individuals. Often addiction and mental illness are rooted in traumatic experiences. Apathy and escapism stem from a sense of hopelessness. I want to talk about how we can provide support to heal rather than attempt to punish the problem away.” Gillespie suggested I ask Carter how she first met Flowers, the Iraq War veteran who finally got the Forsyth County Sheriff’s Office to dig up the Lawson backyard after law enforcement had allegedly ignored multiple reports from women. “During the filming Matt Flowers came to my parents’ farm and rode a horse with me,” Carter said. “He was a natural. The horse brought out a gentleness in Matt that might not be seen by most people. Their connection was instant. I was hoping to see that scene in the film, but it was left out. While this was just one small act, these are the kinds of things that really make a difference. Creating spaces of healing and connection might be the most powerful action we can take.” I asked her to talk about HeartCentered Horsemanship, the business she created that encompasses training, instruction and therapeutic services. “Changing and shaping behavior begins with creating a space of safety and a connection based on trust and mutual respect,” Carter explained. “I believe this is true with people and with horses. The horses have taught me a tremendous amount about how we can heal from past trauma. I am beginning a new endeavor with Healing Connections, a partnership with Midnight’s Promise Equine Rescue, that will bring therapists and their clients to the horse sanctuary to participate in mutually beneficial practices that develop trust, release triggers and facilitate relaxation. I believe in the future health care will be something we do rather than something we take. It is about how we live our lives each day. It is about how we treat ourselves and others. It is about embodying practices that are nurturing. It is about finding our center of calm, peace, and love and extending that to others. Children should learn these practices at a young age. I believe that is how we will change the world.” ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of. OCTOBER 2-8, 2019 YES! WEEKLY

Vaping concerns impacting marijuana legalization There have been some vaping-related illnesses that have been reported by the media over the last month or so. As of Sept. 24, the CDC reported that there are “805 confirmed and Charles Freeman probable patient cases of lung injury associated with eContributor cigarette product use or vaping,” and that 12 people have died. At this point, the actual cause of the sickness is unknown and still under investigation. Many questions still need to be answered, and as in many cases, the substance that was being vaped is unknown. Is it the vaping process itself? What was in the liquid that was vaped in these cases? All of the reported cases confirm a history of e-cigarette or vaping usage. Some reports suggest the affected people obtained the vape liquids illegally. Further, some vape oils were nicotine-based, others were THC-based and some people used both. So, the challenge at this point is just trying to get to some clear answers and data to isolate the cause. Vaping involves inhaling an aerosolized substance (nicotine or THC) mixed with solvents or other chemicals. When it is obtained from the black market illegally, it is unregulated and could contain potentially harmful substances. Some people question the long-term effects of vaping even sourced from legitimate companies. To me, it draws parallels with the alcohol market. When liquor is made illegally (and it still is in places), the consumer cannot be confident of

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what has gone into the creation of that product. Whereas, if you go to the ABC Store to purchase alcohol, government regulations have been followed in making those products due to public health considerations. The processes can be costly to the manufacturer, but public health is critically important. The legal marijuana industry is transitioning from an illegal market to a legal market, and I think a lot of confusion remains about products consumed from each market. Are products from the legal market safer? “Safe” is probably a somewhat subjective word in this case; but at a minimum, you could verify that the product has met government standards of safety. I wonder if these types of illnesses and issues have been going on for a while given the unregulated creations on the illegal market. But, then again, we are just now hearing about it due to the rising adoption of legalization across the country. Vaping started as an alternative to smoking cigarettes. It was developed as a “lower risk” product that would actually help people stop smoking. The technology is relatively new, and tobacco companies are still spending a lot of research and development money bringing various types of vape devices to market. A standard has not really been established at this point. Vaping has started to replace tobacco usage for some people, but vaping has also attracted new users who have never smoked before. The rapid increase in teenage vaping has been a hot topic for the FDA, which is concerned that vaping could undermine decades of work to break teenage addiction to nicotine. Presently, there are efforts to ban flavored vape liquids in hopes of discouraging use by young people. Vaping is also a popular “method of

delivery” among marijuana consumers. Vapes’ share of recreational cannabis sales is approximately 30% in California and 15% in Colorado. Safety questions are being posed to store owners in legal cannabis states given the national health scare. Many have already seen a decline in vape sales since the news has surfaced as consumers are choosing other alternatives. I believe consumer awareness and questions about testing and supply chain verification ultimately enhance product integrity in the future, similar to the path of alcohol. Still, the ultimate results of this investigation could have some lasting effect on the legal marijuana industry. Typically, vaping is more attractive to consumers than smoking. Many states have seen dry leaf sales decline over time after legalization while concentrates (which include vape oils) tend to rise. If the CDC and FDA discover a harmful substance in the vape oil, regulations could be put in place to prevent inclusion of that chemical in the future. However, if they found the vaping process itself is causing these mysterious illnesses, it would almost certainly hurt the appeal of this method of delivery. The current majority view is that the most common way cannabis will be consumed in the future is through beverages. So, while vaping will likely have a segment of the market, it will still only be one of several different ways to consume marijuana. I do not see health concerns with regards to vaping having any impact at all on demand for marijuana, either recreationally or medicinally at this point. The consumer would just simply choose an alternative method of delivery. Now that hemp has been removed from Schedule 1 of the controlled substances list, and there is more public support for federal mari-

juana legalization, we should begin to see more and more testing on the plants and products in the future, so that any public safety issues can be addressed. Disclosure: AdaptFirst Investments LLC (AFI) is providing this information for educational purposes only and does not intend to make an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any specific securities, investments, or investment strategies. Investments involve risk and unless otherwise stated, are not guaranteed. Commentary of any kind in this article is based on AFI’s opinion and analysis, and not representative of future performance of any security or market. AFI AND CONTENT SOURCES MAKE NO REPRESENTATIONS AND DISCLAIM ALL WARRANTIES OF ANY KIND IN CONNECTION WITH THE SUBJECT MATTER OR ABOUT THE ACCURACY, COMPLETENESS AND SUITABILITY OF THE INFORMATION FOR ANY PURPOSE. Use of the article information is at reader’s own risk. Personalized investment advice can only be rendered after engagement of AFI for services, execution of the required documentation, and receipt of required disclosures. Please contact AFI for further information. Information presented is not intended as tax or legal advice. Readers should consult legal or tax professionals for specific information regarding their individual situation. ! CHARLES FREEMAN is a Chartered Financial Analyst and President of AdaptFirst Investments in Greensboro, NC. With over 20 years in the investment industry, Charles helps clients find and invest proactively in potential future trends and attractive investment opportunities. Charles has been published or featured in Investor’s Business Daily, The Saturday Evening Post, WXII 12 News, HQ Greensboro, and more. To learn more, visit www.adaptfirst.com

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Whatever its name, this fair is a Classic When the Dixie Classic Fair opens Friday, Oct. 4, at 421 27th St. NW in Winston-Salem, it will be 137 years old. In 2020, it will be called something else, although the name hasn’t been Ian McDowell decided yet. The event will continue annually in its presContributor ent form and place, but its nine-day run this year will be the last time it’s known by the name it’s had since 1956. The largest fair in the Piedmont (and second-largest in the state) began in 1882 as a grain exposition in the former town of Salem. Originally called the Wheat Fair, it was the first official such celebration in Forsyth County. In its opening year, it featured 28 wheat exhibitors, agricultural displays, speakers and a band. In 1883, it was renamed the Wheat and Cattle Fair, and in 1898, the Wheat and Cattle Fair was combined with the Piedmont Tobacco Fair to become the Winston-Salem Tobacco Fair. In 1901, it became the Forsyth County Fair. In 1951, it was held for the first time at its current site, and in 1956, it became Dixie Classic Fair for Northwest North Carolina. In 2007, for the 125th anniversary, the fair set an attendance record of 371,219 making it the 50th largest fair in North America. WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

This year’s fair includes such classic rides and attractions as the Claw, the Cliffhanger, Cuckoo House, the Fireball 2000, the Giant Wheel, the Haunted Mansion, the Thunderbolt, the Zipper and Zyklon, as well as new five new ones: The Space Shuttle, Sky Fighter, Helicopter, Dizzy Dragon and Circus Train. Free grandstand entertainment includes rodeos, demolition derbies, Figure 8 racing and performers Midnight Star, Joe Diffie, Jordan Feliz with I Am They and Hannah Kerr. Other attractions include Racing Pigs, Marvelous Mutts, Stock Dogs, a barnyard petting zoo and a butterfly encounter. Raleigh’s Mariachi Los Galleros make their Dixie Classic debut this year, performing throughout the fair. On Monday, Oct. 11 Winston-Salem’s J.O.T. (aka Grande Gato), CEO of Soul-Full Productions, will perform his hip-hop/rap/R&B renditions. Oct. 11 is also Hispanic Heritage night, hosted by Los Acoustic Guys. “We like to think our Fair is ever-evolving and incorporating all aspects of our community, this year we really tried to look at new subtle ways to improve those items, everything from security to entertainment,” wrote Winston-Salem Fairground’s Public Assembly Facilities and Venue Manager Robert Mulhearn in an email about what is new this year. “The biggest change this year will be at the entrance gates. You can expect to see enhanced security with bag checks and walk through metal detectors. This was an initiative the City and WSPD have been working on for years, and it has finally come to fruition to enact.”

He wrote that his organization is also excited by the addition of a VIP parking lot. “We have partnered with the app FanPark to sell $16 VIP reserved parking all 10 days of the Fair. These guaranteed spaces, a rock’s throw away from the main entrance, would be particularly handy on Saturday the 12th when Wake Forest is playing Louisville. Instead of circling the block, you can buy a space in advance and GPS straight to the lot. Easy and convenient.” He wrote he was also proud to announce some new attractions. “The Paul Bunyan Lumberjacks perform log rolling, wood chopping, ax throwing and put on a really great show. They even have a little dog that log rolls! And we have also added a mariachi band this year, with Mariachi Los Galleros roaming the Fairgrounds all throughout the day, playing free music for our guests.” He said his favorite thing about the fair is the competitive entries. “The majority are housed in the Education Building, and there are thousands! I think it’s not as known as it should be that anyone, anywhere can enter artwork, photography, collections, antiques, cakes or whatever; there are hundreds of categories, and most of them are completely free to enter. At the end of the day, all items are judged with cash prizes, and even three overall winners are chosen to go to the State Fair in Raleigh.” A fair wouldn’t be a fair without a variety of fried foods. Mulhearn wrote in

an email that his favorite fair goodies are fried Oreos, “a good ole freshly-dipped foot-long corndog, and you can’t go wrong with Peachey’s Donuts, which are like Krispy Kreme on steroids!” “The Fried Butter is back, and of course the Krispy Kreme burger is a staple,” he continued. “The Munchie Wagon always rolls out something new; we just haven’t found out what yet.” Mulhearn wrote in an email that everyone could have a good time at the fair because there is a little something for everyone and because the $8 price point makes it more accessible. “You can come for as low as $8 and literally not spend anything else if you chose and still be entertained for a day. I don’t think people truly realize that once you enter the grounds, you can listen to music, visit attractions, watch entertainment, share entries and more, all without spending another dollar. A good way to save is by purchasing your tickets and ride wristbands in advance. A wristband, in particular, is $40 during the Fair, but $25 in advance!” For more information, including tickets, events and vendors, go to the Dixie Classic Fair website, dcfair.com. The FanPark app is available through the Apple App Store or the Google Play Store. ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of. OCTOBER 2-8, 2019 YES! WEEKLY

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Composer Graham Reynolds to provide music for WFU Creative Dance Project

roundskeepers often work quickly and then move on. They beautify and maintain spaces, weilding blowers, rakes, dump trucks, chainsaws, John Adamian mowers, brooms, @adamianjohn power-washers, wood chippers and more so that comContributor munities can enjoy and use fields, paths, buildings, wooded areas and walkways. But generally, the groundskeepers and landscapers are not there to be the center of attention. “From The Ground Up” a collaborative site-specific dance performance involving Texas-based Forklift Danceworks and grounds workers at Wake Forest University will change that when the event unfolds with three performances this week on the school’s Winston-Salem campus. The performances will take place Oct. 3-5 at 7 p.m. in Wake Forest University’s Hearn Plaza. Choreographer and Forklift Artistic Director Allison Orr and Associate Artistic Director Krissie Marty have been working with employees from the Landscaping, Custodial, Waste Reduction, Maintenance and Utility departments to tell their stories through movement, and to celebrate the grace, skill and efficiency of these individuals and their work. Sixtyfive members of those teams will perform the dance, which will also involve some of their equipment. Wake Forest students

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are also involved in the production. Expect mowers and blowers and synchronized machinery on the quad. If Busby Berkeley had ever had a summer job trimming shrubs, or if Richard Wagner’s concept of “gesamtkunstwerk” (a complete and total work of art) had been conceived while operating a weedeater, they might have come up with something along these lines. Forklift Danceworks focuses on building connections with communities and putting the spotlight on the particular types of physical movement that many workers enact almost as an afterthought in the course of their days. They also make a point of creating dances with people that don’t necessarily consider PHOTO BY themselves to be BILL MCCULLOUGH dancers. Last year, the organization collaborated with food service workers at Williams College in Massachusetts. Also on-hand for the event will be composer Graham Reynolds, a frequent musical collaborator with Forklift Danceworks. Reynolds has worked with the group for numerous projects. He’ll be performing a score that will allow for some impro-

visation with a group of area musicians, members of the Wake Forest gamelan ensemble and others. I spoke with Reynolds about his music earlier this week by phone from his home in Austin, Texas. As with the members of the facilities and maintenance workers, Reynolds is used to working in a fashion that partly intended to be in the background or not to occupy the center of people’s attention. Much of Reynolds’ writing has been in the area of film scoring. He’s worked on many projects by the award-winning Austin-based filmmaker Richard Linklater. Reynolds scored Linklater’s films A Scanner Darkly, Bernie, Before Midnight, and Where’d You Go, Bernadette?, among others. Reynolds has written classically oriented pieces, but his musical roots are equally in the world of jazz improvisation. The score for “From the Ground Up” allows Reynolds to pull from his different areas of expertise. “We treat it a little bit like a jazz chart,” he said. “There are themes composed, and there are beats and a basic structure. Everybody in the band is an improviser.” The scope of the production is immense with dozens and dozens of performers, machinery, the vastness of the university quad and the uncertainty of the open-air element. “The number of moving pieces involved is pretty amazing,” Reynolds said. The improvisational aspect allows the musicians to keep pace with and respond to the fluid nature of the choreography, where not every bit of movement will be synchronized or entirely pre-determined. “It’s not like it’s a ballet, where they know how many steps they’re going to take,” Reynolds said.

There are connections to be made between the worlds of film scoring and music for dance. “It’s time-based art, there’s a structure and some sort of story, along those lines, and you’re supporting that structure,” Reynolds said. “In film, you don’t have music the whole time, whereas in dance, almost always once the show starts there’s music, and it doesn’t stop until the show’s over. And the music is more directly connected to the movement.” One could say that Reynolds’ varied career shows the imprint of Duke Ellington, a composer and American musical titan whom Reynolds has a deep reverence for. Reynolds paid tribute to Ellington in a 2011 record of portraits, re-imagined and re-arranged pieces by Duke. It ranged from chamber pieces to DJ-helmed remixes. Ellington, of course, got his start making hot dance music, moved into more ambitious classically-leaning suites and long-form pieces, did some film scoring and, toward the end of his life, worked with choreographers like Alvin Ailey. “I think of Ellington as a model of what I try to do,” Reynolds said. “He had a band of readers and improvisers. He kept evolving over time. He embraced the voices of other contributors. And I love bringing people in that can do things that I can’t. Ellington was also someone with a massive output. He was composing all the time, performing all the time.” In that same mode, Reynolds said he likes to stay busy, taking his interests and channeling them into his writing. His recent and upcoming projects involve crossborder collaborations with Mexican and Texan DJs, composers and performers; a record that showcases music inspired by science, and another project that features a 14-person ensemble playing a country and western suite. “If I’m interested in something, I try to turn it into work,” Reynolds said. ! JOHN ADAMIAN lives in Winston-Salem, and his writing has appeared in Wired, The Believer, Relix, Arthur, Modern Farmer, the Hartford Courant and numerous other publications.

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Emily Stewart and the lingering summer Greensboro folkster Emily Stewart is strumming her way around North Carolina and riding out the lingering summer with a fruitful harvest of regular shows on the horizon. “Do you really have Katei Cranford to use the ‘F-word’?” Stewart asked in reference to the Contributor changing seasons. “This warm weather is helping me live in denial,” she continued. “Let’s just say that when it really sets in, I’ll be breaking out my tuning fork that matches the vibration of the sun to trick my body into being warm and happy.” An enthusiast amateur farmer in the field and professional folkster in the street, Stewart came to Greensboro from Alabama by way of Guilford College. A literal run-in with farm-equipment tipped her toward music in her early 20s. “I got hit by a tractor when I was 23 and had some extra time on my hands,” she explained. “At first, I mostly played guitar, but I got tricked into playing banjo shortly after that and really loved it. Music is super healing.” She’s since added an array of instruments into her arsenal: banjo, dobro, guitar, harmonica, honkelulu, lap dulcimer, and she’s not stopping. “Lately I’ve been falling in love with the zhongruan, a Chinese instrument that feels like a giant bassy banjo with a gorgeous tone.” An artist interested in contrast, Stewart could settle in between Billie Holiday and Kris Kristofferson, though she’d be likely barefoot in the process. Influences from narrative songbirds akin to Emmy Lou Harris and Lorretta Lynn naturally attach to Stewart on her own, “but accompany-

ing others is often an entirely different story, depending on what the song is crying out for,” she said. Stewart’s ear for accompaniment has been developing over the years, with her current involvements spanning a handful of musical amalgamations. “I’ve really enjoyed the kaleidoscope approach of working with different musicians depending on the gig and the vibe,” she said. That kaleidoscope spans a sort of twangy Triad rat pack of revolving artists who tour the local acoustic circuit. “My favorite term that has emerged from that crew is the talk of being a ‘Friendonfest,’” Stewart said, referencing the Glendonfest gathering hosted by Laura Jane Vincent. “I love dialing it down into a duet with Matty and have learned a lot from strategizing arrangements together one-on-one,” Stewart said about Magpie Thief, her band duo with longtime collaborator Matty Sheets, with whom she’s covered the most ground and released two records. Stewart also regularly duos with viola wizardess Kasey Horton on Tuesdays at the Filling Station in Greensboro. “We share such an intuitive connection that it feels like we never have to talk about anything, we can just play and read each other’s minds, which is a beautiful thing,” Stewart said of Horton, with whom she also shares a monthly residency in Charlotte amongst general showbills. Recently, Stewart has strummed-up a trio with Nicholas Bullins and T.J. Holt, in which she incorporates mandolin and pedal steel with vocal harmonies. Pete Pawsey, Momma Molasses, Ben Singer and more fall under Stewart’s umbrella of associated performers in her circuit, a routine developed by a “grow with what you know” approach to shows. “The circuit approach probably results from the fact that booking and scheduling

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in a super organized fashion are not my strongest suits,” Stewart admitted. Organization may not be Stewart’s strongest skill set, but she tends to her craft like her garden and looks forward to incorporating more long-haul tours. In the meantime, there’s Stewart’s actual garden, which she lamented is “winding down,” with a notable exception being “the spicy pepper party” totaling around 45 plants. “The

ghost peppers are even growing double, just in time for Halloween.” As the weather eventually cools, Stewart will warm herself being a gal on the go, planting songs like seeds around central North Carolina. She’s got an EP in the works, after which she hopes to venture back to Alabama for a fulllength record. “I’ve had a working plan for a storyoriented album called ‘Blessin’ Hearts and Takin’ Names,’ that I’d like to take to Muscle Shoals,” she explained. But before Stewart takes her banjo back to Alabama, she’s got a regular slot on Tuesdays with Horton at the Filling Station and plenty of shows scattered around the state. Upcoming Triad gigs include the Dan Riverkeeper Benefit at the Mad Bean in Madison on Oct. 4; Bonnie & Clyde’s Saloon in Winston-Salem on Oct. 5; and Oktoberfest at Oasis in Siler City on Oct. 13. ! KATEI CRANFORD Is a Triad music nerd who hosts the Tuesday Tour Report, a radio show that runs like a mixtape of bands touring N.C. the following week, 5:30-7 p.m. on WUAG 103.1fm.

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129 W Main St | 336.258.8240 reevestheater.com Oct 5: The Martha Bassett Show James Maddock Oct 6: Josh Fest: A Benefit Concert Oct 11: Reeves House Band plays The Allman Brothers

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Oct 12: Darrell Scott Oct 18: The Celverlys Oct 19: Rex McGee Oct 25: David Holt’s State of Music Presents Rising Stars Oct 26: Zoe & cloyd Album Release w/ Laurelyn Dossett Nov 1: Hannah Aldridge w/ James Vincent Carroll Nov 2: The Martha Bassett Show Sam Baker Nov 9: LoneHollow

THE BLIND TIGER

523 S Elm St | 336.271.2686 artistikanightclub.com Oct 4: DJ Dan the Player Oct 5: DJ Paco and DJ Dan the Player

1819 Spring Garden St | 336.272.9888 theblindtiger.com Sep 27: Jordan Hollywood w/ Ed E Ruger & Friends Sep 28: Lowborn w/ special guest Companyon, A Light Divided, & More Oct 1: SuicideGirls: Blackheart Burlesque Oct 2: The kitchen Dwellers w/ Highstrung Bluegrass Band Oct 4: Trial By Fire - A Tribute to Journey Oct 5: Fear The United Oct 8: The Ghost of Paul Revere w/ Animal Years Oct 10: Talib kweli Oct 11: Zoso - A Led Zeppelin Experience Oct 12: Of Mice & Men w/ For The Fallen Dreams, Thousand Below, Blood Bather Oct 20: Matisyahu Oct 23: TAUk - Feed The Beast Tour 2019

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ARIZONA PETE’S

2900 Patterson St #A | 336.632.9889 arizonapetes.com Oct 4: 1-2-3 Friday

ARTISTIkA NIGHT CLUB

120 Stage Coach Tr. | 336.292.2211 Oct 5: Sing Hallelujah!

BEERTHIRTY

505 N. Greene St Oct 4: Pound Cake Oct 11: Craig Baldwin Oct 18: Dave Moran Oct 25: Lyn koonce Nov 1: Chad Barnard Nov 8: Gerry Stanek Nov 15: Craig Baldwin Nov 22: Dana Bearror Nov 23: Almost Vintage Nov 29: kathy And Jeff Brooks Dec 6: Dave Moran Dec 13: Stewart Coley

310 S. Greene Street | 336.333.2605 carolinatheatre.com October 2: Miranda Sings - Who Wants My kid? Oct 4: UNCG Jazz Ensembles I and II Oct 6: Amythyst kiah Oct 11: Heather Mae Oct 16: Ernest Turner Trio Oct 18: The Earls of Leicester Oct 18: Grant Maloy Smith Oct 19: The Wood Brothers Oct 20: Alash

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1700 Spring Garden St | 336.272.5559 corner-bar.com Oct 3: Live Thursdays

COMEDY ZONE

1126 S Holden Rd | 336.333.1034 thecomedyzone.com Oct 2: Doug Stanhope Oct 4: Hailey Boyle Oct 5: Hailey Boyle Oct 11: Tim Young Oct 12: Tim Young Oct 18: Cee-Jay Oct 19: Cee-Jay

COMMON GROUNDS 11602 S Elm Ave | 336.698.388 Oct 12: Mind of the Devil Oct 23: Andrew kasab Nov 8: Arthur Buezo

CONE DENIM

117 S Elm St | 336.378.9646 cdecgreensboro.com Oct 4: Non Point Oct 5: Mason Ramsey Oct 17: Michael Ray & Jimmie Allen Oct 18: Yacht Rock Schooner Oct 25: Girls and Biscuits Oct 31: The Mantras

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HAM’S NEW GARDEN

1635 New Garden Rd | 336.288.4544 hamsrestaurants.com

LEVENELEVEN BREWING

1111 Coliseum Blvd | 336.265.8600 Oct 2: kirby Heard and Mike Robbian Oct 4: Laura Jane Vincent Oct 9: Doug Baker Oct 11: Arcus Hyatt Oct 12: Bobbie Needham Oct 13: The Bigdumbhick Oct 19: Arcus Hyatt

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348 South Elm St | 336.510.9678 Oct 4: William Hinson Oct 4: The National Reserve Oct 5: The Balkin Brothers Oct 6: Turkey Buzzards Oct 25: Billingsley Oct 27: Good Morning Bedlam Nov 8: Courtney Puckett feat. Carrie Webster

RODY’S TavERN

5105 Michaux Road | 336.282.0950 rodystavern.com Oct 2: Michy & Tony Oct 5: Wickerbach

THE IDIOT BOx COMEDY CLuB

502 N. Greene St | 336.274.2699 www.idiotboxers.com Oct 26: Stewart Huff Oct 30: Todd Glass

THE W BISTRO & BaR 324 Elm St | 336.763.4091 @thewdowntown Oct 4: Karaoke Oct 5: Live DJ Oct 6: Live DJ

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118 E Main St | 336.207.1999 thedeckatrivertwist.com Oct 3: Dylan Mounce Oct 4: Big Daddy Mojo Oct 5: Brothers Pearl Oct 10: Watch Tower Duo Oct 11: Soul Central Oct 12: Lilly Brothers Oct 17: Cory Luetjen Oct 18: Zach Evans Band Oct 19: Jaxon Jill www.yesweekly.COm

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191 Lowes Foods Dr | 336.747.3059 OldNicksPubNC.com Oct 4: Music Bingo/Karaoke Oct 5: Carolina Groove Society Oct 11: Music Bingo/Karaoke Oct 12: The Shelter Band Oct 18: Music Bingo/Karaoke Oct 19: Blue City Bombers Oct 25: Music Bingo/Karaoke Oct 26: Halloween Party w/ The Pop Guns Nov 1: Music Bingo/Karaoke Nov 2: 60 Watt Combo Nov 8: Music Bingo/Karaoke Nov 9: Exit 180 Nov 15: Music Bingo/Karaoke Nov 16: Lasater union Nov 22: Music Bingo/Karaoke Nov 23: andrew Millsaps Band Nov 29: Music Bingo/Karaoke Nov 30: Gypsy Danger

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408 West 4th St | 336.331.3431 facebook.com/bulls-tavern Oct 3: Bird Dog Jubilee Oct 4: Balkun Brothers Oct 5: TerraBaNG Oct 11: BadCameo Oct 12: The Hooplas OCtOber 2-8, 2019 YES! WEEKLY

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NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING REGARDING THE PROPOSAL TO WIDEN U.S. 158 (REIDSVILLE ROAD) FROM U.S. 421 / I-40 BUSINESS TO BELEWS CREEK ROAD (S.R. 1965) IN FORSYTH COUNTY

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FIDDLIN’ FISH BREWING COMPANY 772 Trade St | 336.999.8945 fiddlinfish.com Oct 4: Salem Songwriters Oct 5: Lisa & The Saints

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STIP PROJECT NO. R-2577A The N.C. Department of Transportation will hold a public meeting regarding the proposed widening of U.S. 158 (Reidsville Road) from north of U.S. 421 / I-40 Business to Belews Creek Road (S.R. 1965) in Forsyth County. The primary purpose of this project is to improve traffic operations. A public meeting will be held from 4-6 p.m. on Thursday, Oct. 10 at Gospel Light Baptist Church located at 890 Walkertown-Guthrie Road in Winston-Salem.

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MAC & NELLI’S

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The purpose of this meeting is to inform the public of the project and gather input on the proposed design. As information becomes available, it may be viewed on the NCDOT public meeting webpage: https://www.ncdot.gov/news/public-meetings or the project website: https://www.Publicinput.com/US158-Walkertown-area The public may attend at any time during the meeting hours, as no formal presentation will be made. NCDOT representatives will be available to answer questions and receive comments. The comments and information received will be taken into consideration as work on the project develops. The opportunity to submit comments will be provided at the meeting or can be done by phone, email, or mail by Oct. 25, 2019. For additional information, contact NCDOT Division Highway 9 Project Engineer Connie James, PE, at 375 Silas Creek Parkway, Winston Salem, NC 27127, (336) 747-7800 or ckjames1@ncdot.gov. NCDOT will provide auxiliary aids and services under the Americans with Disabilities Act for disabled persons who wish to participate in this meeting. Anyone requiring special services should contact Tony Gallagher, Environmental Analysis Unit, at 1598 Mail Service Center, Raleigh, NC 27699-1598, (919) 707-6069 or magallagher@ncdot.gov as early as possible so that arrangements can be made.

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MILNER’S

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2700 E Independence Blvd | 704.372.3600 www.boplex.com oct 16: bethel music oct 18: ray Lamontagne

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309 W Morgan St | 919.560.3030 www.carolinatheatre.org oct 4: andy grammer oct 19: Fleetwood mac

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WinSton-SaLEm Fairground 421 W 27th St | 336.727.2236 www.wsfairgrounds.com oct 7: midnight Star oct 8: Joe diffie oct 9: Jordan Feliz

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310 S Greene St | 336.333.2605 www.carolinatheatre.com oct 6: amythyst Kiah oct 11: heather mae oct 11: pLc Land Jam 2019 oct 16: Ernest turner trio oct 18: the Earls of Leicester oct 18: grant maloy Smith oct 19: the Wood brothers oct 20: alash

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220 E Commerce Ave | 336.883.3401 www.highpointtheatre.com

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3801 Rock Quarry Rd | 919.831.6400 www.livenation.com oct 5: ZZ top oct 12: Luke bryan

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BARTENDER: Christopher Corral BAR: Fridas Mexican Kitchen and Cantina AGE: 27 WHERE ARE YOU FROM? Los Angeles, California HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BARTENDING? A few years. HOW DID YOU BECOME A BARTENDER? I started out serving at a restaurant/bar about six years ago in Kernersville, N.C., and one day the bartender stepped out for her break and left me and a few other servers to watch the bar. It became busy, and there were quite a few people who wanted some mix drinks and Bloody Marys. So, in that rush of a crowd, I decided to collect all my knowledge of mixing drinks for house parties, and I did the thing, I made the drinks. The funny thing is though, is that my customers actually guided me on making those Bloody Marys for them because I had never made them before. So throughout the years of serving, I learned how to bartend and not just when the bartender steps out. I was trained. I now bartend and serve at Fridas Mexican Kitchen and Cantina. I love it. I love our margaritas, and the bar looks fabulous WHAT DO YOU ENJOY ABOUT BARTENDING? I enjoy making drinks for family and friends when I’m at home or a friend’s house and especially when I’m behind the bar at work. I always wonder and ask what kind of drinks my customers favor, and I always come up with something they might like we have on our menu. I’m interested in my customers and what they like, and so it makes me feel good to give it to them. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO MAKE? I love making the Cactus Pear Margarita because it’s simple to make and it tastes delicious. The color purple is really pretty, and so is the edible flower that tops it. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO DRINK? I’ve gone through many favorite drinks, but right now, my favorite drink would be the Cucumber Margarita.

The Cucumber Margarita smells and tastes so fresh, light, healthy and delicious that I’ll skip my salad for it. It’s made with fresh, smashed cucumber slices, tequila, melon liqueur and citrus juices. WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND AS AN AFTER-DINNER DRINK? I recommend a RumChata and over the rocks with that. It tastes like horchata but better. Rumchata is bottled from a made from scratch cream liqueur recipe that uses five times distilled Caribbean rum and real dairy cream with a touch of cinnamon, vanilla, sugar and other flavors. A glass of RumChata is a dessert. WHAT’S THE CRAZIEST THING YOU’VE SEEN WHILE BARTENDING? It was karaoke night at Fridas, and I was bartending when a pretty lady I was taking care of had asked me to dance with her and so I did, and we were having a ball until a man comes in to try and fight me for her. I felt more alive than ever and I thought it was kind of crazy to almost getting my butt kicked for a dance. It happens though. She is a beautiful lady, so I understood. WHAT’S THE BEST TIP YOU’VE EVER GOTTEN? The biggest tip I’ve ever received would have to be from a really nice birthday party I served. They left me $200 and a slice of cake that was so good. The best tip I’ve ever gotten would have to be from a really nice group of guys that love the traditional margarita and Miller Light. They come in often and say they are going to own the bar one day. They will usually buy me a shot of Don Julio tequila for the end of the night, and they leave me really nice tips. I love my customers.

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My friend thinks I’d do better in dating if I went on those sites that match people according to “similarities.” Most of the Amy Alkon couples I know aren’t that similar. Could those sites be wrong? Advice How much does Goddess similarity matter for being a good match with somebody and the chances of a relationship working out long-term? — Single Woman There are points of difference that are simply a bridge too far — like if one partner enjoys shooting dinner with a crossbow and the other bursts into tears every time a short-order cook cracks an egg into a frying pan. However, there are three areas in which partner harmony seems essential to happy coupledom. If couples have clashing construction8.pdf 1 2/24/2019 01:34:58 religious beliefs, political orientations, or

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values, “it’s found to cause tremendous problems in a marriage,” explained psychologist David Buss at a recent evolutionary psychology conference. Sure, there are couples with differences in these areas who make a go of it, but in general, the committed Catholic and the aggressive atheist go together like peanut butter and a leaf blower. Beyond the big three — shared religion, political orientation, and values — the notion that you and your partner need to be all matchy-matchy to be happy together just isn’t supported by science. In fact, a whole lot of science finds otherwise. Admittedly, the notion that partners should match like a pair of nightstands has powerful intuitive appeal — hitting us in our craving for consistency and order. This, perhaps, leads many people — including many psychologists — to buy into the bliss-ofthe-clones myth, the notion that we’ll be happiest if we find somebody just like us. Not surprisingly, dating sites take advantage of this widely believed myth, hawking features like the “billion points of similarity” compatibility test. (Obviously, they can’t sell memberships with “Hey, it’s a crapshoot!”)

Dating sites advertising themselves with a meaningless test might not seem like a big deal. But it reinforces the myth that partner similarity equals romantic happiness, and this belief has a real downside, according to research by psychologist Michael I. Norton and his colleagues. Consider that when we first meet a person, we get excited about all of our apparent similarities: “You like sticking up banks! I like sticking up banks!” At this point, and in the early days of a relationship, we’re prone to identify similarities where none exist, spinning ambiguities — vague or missing details about a person — into support for their being just like us. But Norton explains that as partners get to know each other, dissimilarities begin to surface. And this leads partners who were initially stoked about how alike they seemed to be to become less satisfied with each other and the relationship. Interestingly, it seems that dissimilarity between partners actually gets an undeserved bad rap. Discovering this took more sophisticated methodology than used in previous research, in which scientists basically tallied up ways partners were alike

and different and then looked at how satisfied they were with their relationship. Psychologist Manon van Scheppingen and her colleagues instead explored interactions between romantic partners’ personality traits over an eight-year period. Their findings suggest that partners don’t have to match perfectly on traits; in fact, sometimes, their having differences is ideal. Take conscientiousness, a personality trait reflecting self-control and a sense of responsibility to others. According to the team’s research, if one partner was low in conscientiousness, their relationship worked better, and they were happier when they were with somebody higher in conscientiousness. Likewise, relationships worked better when partners had varying levels of extraversion, rather than being two outgoing peas in a pod. The one distinct exception — where the researchers found similarity was consistently best — was for women only, regarding “agreeableness.” This personality trait plays out in kindness, cooperativeness, warmth, and concern for others. When a woman’s partner had a similar level of agreeableness, it was associated

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with the woman finding her partner more supportive. The upshot of this stew of findings is that happy coupledom seems to depend on an interplay of factors. This in turn suggests that what makes for happy relationships is largely “process” — how two people communicate, foster each other’s growth, solve problems, and manage the intractable ones. Beyond this and beyond the three vital areas where partners need to be in tune — religion, politics, and values — what seems important is for partners to not be sharply different in ways that will make them unhappy together. To avoid that, you need to dig into yourself and figure out what your deal breakers are. For example, if you’re an urban girl like me, no amount of love would change your belief that there’s only one reason to spend a month in a cabin in the wilderness without indoor plumbing, and it’s because you’ve been kidnapped and are tied to a chair. ! GOT A problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave, #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or e-mail AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com) © 2019 Amy Alkon Distributed by Creators.Com.

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