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elebrities have tremendous influence over their followers. Mothers are even more influential! We recently chatted with some of our local celebrity moms to get some of their proven ‘mummy strategies’. Soca entertainer Jo Jo; gospel artiste Nisa Nora; radio personality Whitney Husbands; TV news anchor Francesca Hawkins, Jamoo entertainer Marge Blackman and politician Ayanna Webster Roy all shared on various aspects of motherhood:
Be open to advice Listen to your own parents/guardians/ mentors. They have done this before with you so they can definitely give you some advice for your own. Even if they are not the best example they can teach you. – Jo Jo Whitney Husbands
for her and when I put money into her account, most of the times she is with me and she is only 16 months. I explain to her why I am doing this. It’s all about leading by example. – Whitney Husbands
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Teach them morals and values! I used to go to church - not often- but since having my daughter I make it mandatory that I attend church every Sunday. Sometimes I miss, but I want her to experience church at that early age. – Whitney Husbands
Lead by example No one is perfect, but be careful of how you express yourself in front of your kids. They are like sponges, soaking up everything. Always be that ‘good example’ they need to mould their little minds in the right way. – Jo Jo I was horrible with saving and I wish that I did not splurge the money that I did. Since my daughter was in my belly I started saving. I opened an account
Let them know their rights, but more importantly let them understand the responsibilities that go hand in hand with rights. Teach them that actions have consequences and always enforce rules. – Ayanna Webster Roy
Build healthy relationships TALK TO YOUR KIDS...no one spoke to me. As an adult I see the value in a conversation... especially the uncomfortable ones. I’m soundly convinced that I would have made better decisions had I gotten more than ah "good morning" from my guardians. Kids need to know that the platform is open to them beyond their basic needs in the form of open, earnest, And REAL conversations with them. – Nisa Nora Build a relationship with your child that allows them to be open and honest with you. That way it becomes easy for them to come to you for advice or open up about what is going on in their lives. Remember to love each child the way in which he or she should be loved as no two children are the same. – Ayanna Webster Roy
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Care and attention Feed your kids healthy food. A healthy body is a healthy mind –
Discipline them! Both parents should commit to an agreeable level of discipline never too intense to feel like abuse but just enough to make a firm point. Seriously, cut they tail! – Jo Jo
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Take care of yourself It is sometimes perceived that a mother should forget herself and only take care of her children and make her needs and her wants secondary. I have learnt that you have to take care of yourself first. You have to take care of your children as well - emotionally, physically, financially and socially, but you also should do that for yourself first. The happier you are and the more you love yourself, the more you are going to love your children and this is not just for your children alone. In any relationship this is the approach that anyone should have. – Marge
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Budget! I think most mothers are amazing home economists and are the ones who make every sacrifice in the world possible to make sure the children are in the best possible circumstances. There are the obvious tips to save on the budget, such as home cooked food and snacks for example. Overall I’d say raising
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children in hard times is more about an approach than saving on one item or another. By this I mean, encouraging children to enjoy joy the simple things, natural fun, friendships, sharing and giving and helping. All this is free and ultimately makes for happier children. – Francesca Hawkins We are sure that these tips have been helpful! In the words of Whitney Husbands remember that “we can give so many tips but you have to know how YOU want to see your child develop into an amazing woman or a fantastic man on this earth.”
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HOOKIE WEEKEND SET TO TAKE T & ET CARNIVAL CULTURE TO DC NEWS
HOOKIE WEEKEND BRINGS THE VERY BEST OF CARIBBEAN CULTURE AND ENTERTAINMENT TO THE NATION’S CAPITAL ON JUNE 21ST-24TH 2018
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his June, fete veterans as well as newbies to the infectious culture will descend on Washington DC from various parts of the US, Canada and the Caribbean to partake in an authentic Caribbean Carnival experience complete with fetes, pool parties, live performances, J’ouvert and Mas. This summertime cure for carnival tabanca commences on Thursday June 21st with the kickoff party, “Release Therapy”. This signature event which takes place at the trendy nightspot Karma, sets the foundation and tone for Hookie Weekend and features no cover charge and music from top local and international DJs. Release Therapy gives attendees a platform to morph from workmode into a Carnival state of mind. It also presents an opportunity for them to get familiar and reacquainted with the faces they will encounter for the forthcoming 3 days of non-stop pace.
Non-stop, refreshing vibes are promised for the upcoming Hookie DC event
From fete gear to swim wear, following Release Therapy, Hookie Weekend patrons will get to experience the famous “Hookie D.C.” on Friday June 22nd at the RFK Stadium. Considered by several discerning international partiers as a true summer classic, the 9th installment of this premium pool party promises to be filled with vibes, pulsating music, live entertain-
ment, an assortment of Caribbean cuisine and apparel vendors, beautiful people, and of course a huge pool to keep feters refreshed. In addition to Release Therapy and Hookie DC, the Hookie Weekend will captivate crowds with paint, power and Soca at the DC’s best and only J’ouvert experience, “Lion’s Pride J’ouvert” on Saturday June 23rd and the alternative mas concept, “Riddim
& Road” on Sunday June 24th (which allows the masquerader creative freedom as costume designer). The DJ line up for the blockbuster weekend includes Back to Basics, Tony X, Riggo Suave & Freeze Intl. (NYC), Dr. Jay (Toronto), Barrie Hype (Miami), 2018 Red Bull 3Style finalist JusJay (Barbados), DJ Avalanche (VI) and DJ Majestic, DJ Hazzard & Mystic Vibes 6.0 (DC). Most notably, 2018 marks the return of the popular fete franchise “Shine” to Washington DC. After a 7 year hiatus, this key Caribbean Diaspora staple produced by Back to Basics Entertainment celebrates its homecoming during this year’s Hookie Weekend on June 23rd. More information on Hookie weekend can be found on the Hookielife website or the hookielife instagram and facebook pages. Courtesy Sonique Solutions
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orty-four years since its first release, the highly acclaimed local film Bim, will screen once again at We Beat’s We Film Night, on Wednesday 06 June 2018, at 7pm. The free screening, at the St James Amphitheatre, is presented by the trinidad+tobago film festival (ttff) in partnership with the St James Community Improvement Committee and ttff's official technical partner North Eleven Projections. Described as “the best T&T film ever made” by film critic B.C Pires, Bim is revered as a West Indian cult classic of Caribbean Cinema. The script was written by local playwright and newspaper journalist, Raoul Pantin and co-produced by Susanne Nunez, wife of the director, Hugh A. Robertson. Bim tells the story of Bheem Singh, who is sent to live with his 2
aunt in Port of Spain. Bullied at school and abused at home, he runs away and begins a life of petty crime. After returning to the countryside—and taking a new name, Bim—he becomes leader of the sugar workers, and eventually leader of the colony’s opposition party. It isn’t long, however, before his violent past catches up
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with him. The role of Bim is played by Ralph Maraj, a politician, playwright and actor, of both stage and screen. Music for the film was written by the late Andre Tanker who worked with some of the country’s best musicians to fuse African and Indian rhythms. Shot a decade after our coun-
try’s independence, Bim did not open to much fanfare in 1975. However, it was shown at the United States Virgin Islands Film Festival in St Thomas in 1975 and at the CARIFESTA Film Festival in Jamaica and Los Angeles Film Festival, both in 1976. Bruce Paddington, founder and festival director of the ttff described the film as "one of the most important films to be produced in Trinidad and Tobago and ... one of the classics of Caribbean cinema". Bim screens on Wednesday 06 June, 7pm, at the St James Amphitheatre, next door to the St James Police Station on the Western Main Road. Rated PG, admission is free and drinks and refreshments will be on Sale. Patrons should feel free to bring their own blankets and mats.
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ueen speaks to female royalty or excellence within a particular field. There are some women who have demonstrated the capacity to reign over all others in the realm of beauty, education and business. One such Queen is 1986 Ms. World winner, Mrs. Giselle Jeanne-Marie Laronde-West who at just 23 years topped a field of beauties including then aspiring actress Halle Berry, captivating the attention of the entire world. Giselle would later apply her grace and intelligence to a thriving career in PR, Communications and Marketing, Customer Service and Hospitality. This Queen would eventually usher two boys into the world by natural birth, adding motherhood to the exquisite blend she was creating. She describes her journey into motherhood as wonderful, “I cherished my moments with my babies, breast-feeding them both and loving the moments when I had to. I loved the quiet moments and valued the time getting to know them and their personalities… I did everything with them and tried not to miss a play, football match or swim or polo meets. They were both athletes and there was much dropping and picking up, but most times I enjoyed staying to see them perform in whatever they did.” She attributes her ability to synergize her roles as career woman and mother to the buffer provided by her husband and the accessibility of quality caretakers both within and outside of the family, “I never let becoming a parent complicate my career. Having a good support system in place is of course what made it easier. We need to make sure we have good baby sitters, grandmothers who are willing to baby sit and supportive husbands who would share all the duties; housework, baby chores, cooking, extra-curricular activities etcetera.” Some women lament the challenges which motherhood poses to their physical beauty; their personal maintenance and the way they generally feel about themselves. Comments 4
like “I used to be a hot number until I had them” or “those were my days” are not rare. However Giselle offers a perspective on beauty which positions inner beauty as paramount while at the same time prioritizing the needs of the child, “my beauty sits within and if my hair was disheveled or uncombed because I was busy dealing with the children, then so be it. It was easy to fix myself up quickly to go to work because I did not get caught up in trying to look overly glamourous all the time. So going from Pampers to a meeting room or social event, was
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never a challenge.” Mrs. Laronde-West went on to emphasize how the knowledge of the well-being and safety of her children allowed her to function better on the job, in a sense showing how the role of the mother can actually complement one’s career as opposed to being a liability, Also, once I was neat and tidy and I was sure my children were happy and satisfied I could go to work and get things done because I was not worrying about them all day,” she stated. While Giselle admits that maintaining a steady exercise routine was a bit difficult, she alludes to the fact that sometimes the issue revolves around time management and not so much parenting, “Getting time to properly exercise proved a challenge when they were younger, but I realize that it was not just them, sometimes my job or other career commitments also hindered my time for exercise…Then again, that should not be an excuse. Now that they are grown boys, I should make sure I get the time to exercise so that I
sustain my outer beauty now that am in my twilight years.” she says while laughing. Mrs. Laronde West’s accomplishments were widely celebrated by Trinidad and Tobago. Then British West Indies Airways (BWIA) named a plane in her honour. She is the recipient of the Chaconia medal and a special issue of postage stamps was also issued in her name. Three decades after these accolades, she says that she does not yearn to be celebrated in an elaborate way by her sons for Mother’s day. “As long as I hear from both my sons on this day am happy… no need for a big celebration. They bring joy to my world.” Apart from her title, her reign, her travels, the opportunities, her career and life’s experiences, motherhood has taught her priceless lessons. She has learnt in her words: “to be patient; that true love is really unconditional, that nothing is worth more than making sure your children have a good upbringing, a good fun life and are happy during their formative years.”
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or many of us, mothers hold a very special place in our hearts. More so, they are the epitome of comfort, love and compassion and they offer it freely exactly when it most needed. The stories recalled by multiple Olympic medallist Richard Thompson, former T&T football captain Kenwyne Jones and former Soca Warrior turned ESPN analyst Shaka Hislop serve as reminders that no matter how old you are, a mother’s presence and support will always offer a level of comfort only she can provide.
Richard Thompson Of the many memorable moments I have with my Mother, there’s a recent one that is dear to me. In January of this year, I had hip surgery in Louisiana and I stayed there for just over two months’ post-operation to do my rehabilitation. My wife stayed with me for the first two weeks, then had to return to Florida for our son to get back to school. Once she left, my Mom and Dad came up to help as there was very little I could do for myself initially. Dad stayed for two weeks then had to get back to Trinidad. It was just Mummy and I from there and every morning I woke up to cooked breakfast, came back from rehab with lunch on the table, had my laundry done and folded, and we watched Family Feud every night as she loves the GSN. My wife has taken over many of these 6
BELOVED SPORTING FIGURES RECALL TOUCHING MOMENTS WITH THEIR MOMS Written by D. Nandlal
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responsibilities in my adult life, but it felt special to relive my old days with Mummy and sharing this quality time with her really helped me to overcome a difficult time. Once a mother, forever a mother, and there’s no question that she’ll always be here for me when I need her. This is why she’ll forever be special to me. Kenwyne Jones There are so many instances with my mom that I deem memorable… Particularly when I think back of all the sacrifices she made for her kids. She would make sure to do whatever it took to ensure we were safe and happy. She was also the type of mom who always comforted us when we needed it the most. Most of all I think the values she made sure to instill in us is something that will forever live on in all her children. She is definitely a great, loving example of what a great mother is. Shaka Hislop Despite having many memories with my mom, the one that stands out to me the most dates all the way back to 2005. It was the day before the last game of the season and I was playing for Portsmouth at the time. I got the news that my contract would not be renewed even though I was previously informed that it would have been by one of the directors. The news completely crushed me. Here I was married with four kids and out of a job. I felt like giving up. Fortunately enough, that same day mom and dad were coming to visit me in England. Needless to say when she reached I was in an awful mood and possibly at my lowest point. Yet despite all this, mom was able to break through all those negative emotions and comforted me in a way only my mother can. She helped to remind me what was important, refocus on what truly mattered and regain
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a sense of optimism. Her presence alone was all I needed for my sprits to be lifted. By the time she left, I was in a much better place and was able to get my emotions together. My optimism paid off as a year later as I was playing for West Ham United and at the
World Cup representing Trinidad and Tobago. I guess the saying is right “Mother knows best” Can you recall a special moment with your mom? Visit our website www.amgtt.com and share it with us. Shaka his mom and dad
REGIONAL NEWS bados back in December after she went back home for the street renaming ceremony for “Rihanna Drive” during Barbados Independence Day. Rihanna’s forthcoming album, which she said was inspired by Bob Marley, has already reportedly confirmed features from Reggae icon Buju Banton and Sizzla Kalonji.
SPICE SET FOR ROLE ON LOVE & HIP HOP ATLANTA RIHANNA AND POPCAAN TO DROP COLLABORATION The Bajan pop star and Jamaican entertainer recently teamed up for a Dancehall banger that could be featured on Rihanna’s upcoming Reggae album and/or Popcaan’s forthcoming project. “The Rihanna and Popcaan track is already recorded we just don’t know when to release of if it should be featured on her album or his upcoming project,” a source said, adding that “one thing for sure is it’s going to drop in the next few months and it’s a certified hit.” The Caribbean superstars linked up in Bar-
Dancehall megastar, Spice, is set to become a feature on the upcoming season of VH1’s Love & Hip Hop Atlanta, which starts airing in midMarch. The award-winning deejay, regarded by some as the new ‘Queen of Dancehall’ will be making a crossover from dancehall into the American music industry for the new season. She will feature on the show alongside Karlie Redd, Erica Mena, and Stevie J, who she is expected to hit the studio with. Spice was a guest on Love & Hip Hop Atlanta last season when the cast filmed an episode in Jamaica. The entertainer, whose real name is Grace Hamilton, has been known to venture into the
WORLD NEWS alone in these big, beautiful homes, which you're like, gosh, I mean, these homes are unreal," Bella says. "But to be honest, since we've gotten engaged, John and I have probably shared our bed together maybe 30 days total out of, like, six months. Or, like, 40 days." She also revealed she's holding out hope for reconciliation with Cena. "John is such an amazing man. He really is the love of my life. I truly hope one day that we can work it out and get back together. I think there is hope."
NIKKI BELLA SAYS SHE ONLY SHARED A BED WITH JOHN CENA '30 DAYS TOTAL OUT OF 6 MONTHS' PRIOR TO SPLIT Nikki Bella is giving fans a glimpse into what led to her split from her former fiancé, John Cena. In a new clip from an all-new episode of Total Bellas, taped before their breakup last month, the 34-year-old wrestler admits she was feeling "lonely." "What's hard at times and what people don't realize about my relationship is I'm alone a lot and I'm 8
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hip-hop industry with singles such as her remix of Panda in 2016, her remix of Bodak Yellow in 2017 and her recent single, Duffle Bag this year. She has stated her intention to release more hip-hop tracks in the immediate future as she aims to garner major crossover success on the heels of becoming the first Jamaican female celebrity to top one million Instagram followers.
FRIEND SAYS MARGOT KIDDER HAD UNUSUAL WISH FOR HER REMAINS Friends are recalling the life of Margot Kidder, who died April 13th at age 69 in her home in Livingston. The actress was best known for playing Lois Lane opposite Christopher Reeve's "Superman." Her acting career slowed after a public breakdown in the mid-1990s, and she became an activist for progressive causes and mental health awareness. She was especially fond of animals, and was actively involved with the Stafford Animal Shelter in Livingston. They posted a memorial to her on Monday, saying, "May you always be surrounded by dogs. We will miss you Margie!" Writer and indie film director Ted Geoghe-
gan posted on Twitter, saying he knew Margaret well and that she had an unusual request for her body. "Margot lived at the foot of Canyon Mountain, right outside of Livingston. Like much of Montana, the area was filled with wolves. But instead of fearing them, Margot loved them," Geoghegan writes. "She left meat out for the wolves so she could watch them come down the mountain and eat from the safety of her home. ... She'd asked her closest friends - if they stopped by her place and found her dead - to tell no one, place her naked body in a bedsheet, drag it up Canyon Mountain, and leave her for her other friends, the wolves." Geoghegan says he was sad to hear of her passing before cheekily adding. "I would have dragged you up the hill."
ET&T MODEL MANIA Name: Afiya Lamont Age: 21 Hometown: Mt Lambert Hobbies: Nature, Singing, The Arts and Sports. Afiya Lamont has that natural model essence which enables her to pull off various looks with minimal effort. That does not mean she isn’t a hard worker. The young fashionista has been working on her craft ever since her late start only two years ago. In that period, she has made her way into the frames of esteemed photographers such as Sancho Francisco, Jimmyontherun101, Itanie Gordon and Jianmin Huang. Ms. Lamont balances her modeling duties with her studies and a customer service job. Her long term goal is to become a graphic designer and she is currently pursuing Visual Communication Design at UTT in order to achieve that. Afiya definitely has her head on, but she is no slouch when it comes to her fashion/style game as well. When asked about her favourite designers she stated, “Internationally it will be CoCo Chanel… this lady made me fall in love with wearing a black dress with red lip. Locally, it will be Robert Anthony Young (The Cloth) because I love hand painted work and am also a big fan of tribal prints which lots of his work contains.” Afiya admits that she doesn’t get angry or flustered easily, but she is a stickler for punctuality. Plus, she constantly strives for perfection and is not inclined to settle for less. This attention to detail is evident when she shows off her singing abilities. She can belt out notes with the best of them. With that said, she takes a relatively lax approach to maintaining her looks. She is thankful for good genes and a high metabolism which means she seldom needs to do more than an afternoon walk around the savannah to stay in shape. However, the model says she will soon start a more systematic diet and workout plan as she seeks to amp up her progress. 10 ET&T • MAY, 2018 • www.amgtt.com
Photographer @ jimmyontherun101 Creative Director @ militantminimalist Fashion Stylist Crystal Ivy London @ ivystyleschronicles Make Up @ladonna. mua.kong Hair @enmodhair CLOTHING Jacket and Hat @ ecliffelie Earring @shopzaveza
Photographer @ sanchofrancisco MUA @islandgirlglam Creative / Styling @ militantminimalist Designers @loudbyafiya @africanarkjewellery @_mahoganystuff_ Shoes @ blaanix_212location Production @tt_esc @ ffconvention
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NAME: Nicholas Ramoutar AGE: 27 HEIGHT: 5’ 9” WEIGHT: 180lbs CAREER: Chemical Engineer /
Personal Trainer BRIEFS OR BOXERS: Briefs FAVOURITE SCENT: Giorgio Armani - Aqua Di Gio FAVOURITE THING: I love to cook DESCRIBE YOUR DREAM GIRL: A close relationship with God is number one, but besides that, my “dream girl” would be Rachel McAdams from the Notebook. YOU WERE HEARTBROKEN: Yes YOUR HERO: My Mom FAVOURITE FOOD: Saltfish
and Coconut Bake THE WAY TO YOUR HEART IS: Food YOU’D NEVER: I would never disrespect my woman. WHAT ABOUT PETS: I don’t like them, but I don’t hate them either. BEFORE YOU DIE YOU’LL: Go Backpacking through Europe. FAVOURITE ARTIST: John Legend FAVOURITE MUSIC: R&B FAVOURITE PLACE FOR A MEAL: I’m addicted to sushi these days, so anywhere that
serves good sushi. HAVE YOU EVER CHEATED: NEVER! THE FREAKIEST THING YOU HAVE EVER DONE: No comment..lol WHERE’S YOUR WEAK SPOT: Maybe my abs? I’m not sure. WHAT'S YOUR MOTIVATION: Becoming a better person and helping others. HOW DO YOU MAINTAIN YOUR BODY: Weight training, cardio and a balanced diet. Consistency is the key to success.
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ET&T MONEER PRESENTS THUNDER FASHION FOR IFW 2018 C onceptualized by Aaron Moneer, The Island Fashion Week (formerly the Island Fashion Show) is fast becoming one of the most anticipated annual events in local fashion. The event which has extended its wings to the region has seen some of the Caribbean’s top design talent and hottest up and coming models set flame to catwalks. This year was no different as the event revealed several spectacular and memorable pieces and moments. Here we feature some of the terrific work by show director Aaron Moneer who unveiled his most recent line entitled Thunder. Sofeeyah looks stunning in ravishing red.
The embellished upper makes this piece worn by Leteisha stand out.
This flowing all-black ensemble worn by Anastasia is a sight to behold.
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ET&T FASHION Some simple bulky accessories take Faith’s flowing dress to the next level.
Aaliya looks amazing in this chic, off-shoulder design.
Tameika makes the most of this dress with a bold colour contrast at its base.
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nternational soca artiste and self-professed Queen of Bacchanal Destra Garcia took time to share her experiences with motherhood with us. It was clear from start that she enjoys loves being a mother as much as she enjoys being a performer. In this very open and honest interview, she shared with us the joys and challenges she faces on a daily basis, the strategies for overcoming them and more. ET&T: How do you feel about your role as a mother? Destra: The most important role at the moment is motherhood and it has always been a priority growing up. My grandmother did not have an easy life, but she made sure to give her kids everything they needed… NOT wanted. Love always existed within our household. As for my mom, she gave up her chance of having a successful career to raise me and my sibling. She was always reliable and I wanted to do the same for my kid. ET&T: Do you want more children? Destra: Definitely. Actually, I want a house full of kids, but with my demanding schedule it is very difficult to accomplish that. When I was pregnant with Xaiya, I took a year off. I am not sure if I am willing to do that again. However, I do want at least one more and it’s on my mind. ET&T: If you had to send a message out to young moms, what would it be? Destra: Remember your own childhood. Remind yourself what made you happy and sad. Then, aim to raise a better version of yourself. Think of it as a second chance to grow up. If you had awesome parents, great! Do what they did. If you didn’t, be sure to
do the opposite. Always put your children first. This will allow you to have less to regrets. Children also have a way of remembering everything. You hear them recalling a memory when they get old “my mummy use to do this…” make sure when they finish that sentence it’s a good story they are remembering. ET&T: What is the most fulfilling part of being a mother? Destra: Seeing Xai smile. I do try not to spoil her and give her a balance. She’s involved in so many activities, piano, ballet, track… So I started rewarding her when she achieves something. I think this will transcend to the future as I
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believe in the mantra hard work pays off and I want Xai to learn that as well. ET&T: If you had to narrow it down to just one, what is the fondest memory of Xaiya? Destra: Xaiya makes memories every day. But having gone through 18 hours of labour with a natural birth when I met her for the first time I knew it was all worth it. I also remember her first cry sounded like a scale and the doctor turned to me and said “Oh she’s a singer.” She’s definitely her own little person. ET&T: How do you strike that balance between
being an international soca artiste and a mom? Destra: The traveling is the biggest challenge to date. I try not to stay anywhere too long. if I fly out to a nearby country I try to return the same day, although that’s not always possible. The drawback with this is I tend not to see and explore the places I go to perform. It’s a sacrifice for sure, but when you have a child your life belongs to them. When Xaiya goes to school I try to use that time for my errands and responsibilities such as gym, recording etc. Once she’s back home, it is full-on mummy duties. I use this time to listen to her stories. I believe you have to listen
HOT SEAT to your children’s stories despite how repetitive or mundane it might be because that’s how you know what’s happening in their lives. It may be the key helping you discover things that may be happening in their world such as bullying, the character of their friends and more. Listen to your kids and be sure they are comfortable enough to talk to you. ET&T: What’s your dream for your child? Destra: I want her to be the best she can be. I keep saying I don’t want her in entertainment, but yet it seems so much of her talents is of an artistic nature. I want her to be happy. Grow up and have a career she loves like I love mine. Find a man that adores her like how her father adores me and of course realize how much her mom sacrificed for her. But mostly to live her life to the fullest. ET&T: What are mornings like at your home? Destra: Chaotic… I am always the last to go to bed and the first to wake up. I have to make sure her pencils are sharpened, pack away any books she may have left out etc. It is also hard to wake her up in the first place. It takes at least 15 mins to do so. Then she has to watch TV while she’s doing her hair in between saying ‘ouch’ because of how thick her hair is. But despite the chaos, it is fun. That’s why I always try to be around for it. When I am not able to be around, my family steps in. Of course, there are times when Xai says “Mummy I wish you could stay.” But most times she’ll be fine with me leaving and would say things like “Go and mash up the place.” ET&T: What morals and values do you insist on instilling in Xaiya? Destra: Respect has and always will be imperative in our household. As a rule, growing up, the younger needed to listen to the elder. Parents, family, Godparents, teachers etc. I try to teach Xaiya this as well and as I mentioned before the importance of hard work. Also, believing in herself.
It is hard enough being a woman in this world. Lastly, I try to make her understand that as she gets older, she will gain more freedom. For example, she is not allowed to watch any of my performances on YouTube. I try to shield her from things that are not age appropriate and I let her know that this is for her wellbeing. ET&T: Do you ever feel overwhelmed? Destra: Yes. I do. I always feel as if I never have enough time. Between my schedule and Xaiya, there never seems to be enough hours in the day. There are times when she needs me and I am away and I either have to do it virtually or not at all. Also, I am still in therapy for my broken ankle which occurred at a previous performance. This has affected my mobility for sure, but it also affected my personal appearance which means no heels, something I love and makes me feel confident. Some days it is hard battling with all these issues. During these times I try to focus on things that make me strong and when I am alone at home I engage in conversation with God and let everything out. Then once that is over, I pull it back together and move on. I try never to stay in a depressed state. ET&T: What do you wish for yourself this Mother’s day? Destra: Sleep! I wish I could just sleep. Yes. Also, a nice chocolate cake and coconut ice cream! ET&T: Any last words Destra: Yes. Some people spend time trying to figure when it’s time the right time to become a mom. I don’t believe there’s a right time. Before I was pregnant I was extremely career driven. Then it happened and I decided I was going to embrace it. It’s the best job I could ever dream of and I won’t change it for the world. I also want to wish all the hardworking and dedicated mothers out there a very Happy Mother’s Day! Keep up the good work and always be reminded, we are raising the future. www.amgtt.com •
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GLAM GOD PRESENTS… SHORTZ T
he Glam Manor at Santa Cruz was the venue for the annual birthday party of Anthony ‘Glam God’ Gomez. The resident host went with a new theme this year for his afternoon/ evening poolside affair. Entitled Shortz, specially invited guests were asked to keep their outfits and small talk as short as possible and enjoy the vibe. Premium drinks and food were on hand to sustain energy levels as those present quickly burned through their calories dancing to the epic music on display. Here’s a little bit of the action that took place on 19th May.
Enjoying some drinks early
An early couple pic
Before the bacchanal
Basking amid the beautiful backdrop
Glam girls ready to go
Enrico in Terminator mode
Calm before the vibes storm
Her pic would not be denied
They came to have fun
Glam God shows his baller status
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Mush builds a vibe
Hot chick and the guns for protection
They had fun together
Opting for the short tube dress
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Coffee sans milk
Such an innocent smile…
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The customary dessert cakes
A Glam Bash regular
Photo time with the Birthday Boy
Paps!
Shorts and sips
Feeling sexy
Thick girls rock!
Ladies looking fresh
Wine to the side
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Smiling in her shorts
It’s not a jam unless it’s ram
When the music hits you
Don’t hurt him
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SPLASH OF ORANGE 6
es Klassiques Now L and Forever promised another epic event that
was not to be missed and on Saturday May 5 2018, the delivered for their patrons with a Splash of Orange 6. Piarco Village Suites was the venue for the all-inclusive affair which had a wide array of sumptuous “delectabites” and non-stop premium drinks! The evening air was filled with sensational sounds and the patrons could not get enough as they danced and swayed the night away. For the full gallery, check us out on Facebook.
Enjoying the vibe
Long and flowing
Hampers were on hand
A solo smile
Making the most of the menu
Photo time!
Doubling up for the pic
Maintaining the flow
Say cheese!
It’s all in the hips
Enjoying the action
Using the props on hand
Looking good
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Posing for pics
Erphaan gave a solid account of himself
Capturing the memories
They worked hard behind the scenes
Shaking a leg
A smiling duo
Ole talk makes a good lime great
Coupled up
Playing chune after chune
A happy camper
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Feeling herself
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ET&T EVENTS EXTRA
PRESS PRESENTATION OF ST LUCIA JAZZ 2018
he St Lucia Tourism association hosted the Trinidad and Tobago launch of the Saint Lucia Jazz Festival at the Hyatt Regency in mid-April. The media presentation saw key members of the orT ganizing committee excitedly share plans on how the event was carded to take place in May. At the
launch it was stated that festival is going back to its “roots” and as such will feature an all jazz cast. The reason given was that the mixing of jazz with other music genres over the years was a turn off to the jazz purists who wanted authentic jazz. The event was headlined by new jazz super group R+R=NOW which was put together by Robert Glasper and also comprised Terrace Martin, Christian Scott aTunde Adjuah, Derrick Hodge, Taylor McFerrin Justin Tyson. Here are a few photos.
STANFORD ALUMNI & KBTT’S STUDY ABROAD CONFERENCE
tanford alumni and The Knowledge Bank, Trinidad and Tobago joined forces to host a quite noble project on May 6th. The Study Abroad conference at The University of Trinidad and Tobago, S Valsayn Campus caters for youth between the ages 16 and 35 years old, with specific emphasis on
providing coaching and mentorship to students from low-income families. The goal was to promote higher learning opportunities for youth from under-served and under-represented communities through the creation of a social forum for the exchange of key knowledge on study abroad opportunities. an esteemed panel along with hard-working volunteers ensured the event was a success as attendees were given precious tools to assist with their tertiary education goals. Here’s a peek of what went done. For more, check us on Facebook.
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YOU BE THE JUDGE
n this time of free-thinking and oversensitivity due to police brutality the Itimes FP squad has often found ourselves under fire for their decisions. Somethere is upheaval when we apprehend those we suspect of flouting fashion laws. As such, we decided to leave it to you to decide if these random candidates are fashionably fit or have fashionably failed. Feel free to hit us up on Facebook or www.amgtt.com to voice your opinions.
ISLAND CELEBRITIES
PAPARAZZI
- JEHUE GORDON, ANDREW LEWIS AND RO’DEY SHARE A PHOTO OP AT ECCLIF’S FASHION SHOW
SHAL ROCKS A STRANGE COMBINATION OF SWEATPANTS AND FLANNEL AT AN EVENT
DJ’S DING DONG AND KAOTIC LINK UP FOR A PHOTO
BARBER DEV POSES AT PERCEPTION PRE LIME
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CELEB PROFILE
RACHEL MEGHAN MARKLE
Age: 36 (August 4, 1981) Claim to Fame: Meghan Markle pursued a career as a screen actress, appearing in a number of TV series before landing the recurring role of Rachel Zane on the USA Network show Suits. Markle was the subject of international headlines in 2016 upon the revelation of her romance with Prince Harry of Great Britain.
The two announced their engagement late the following year then wed on May 19th, 2018 making her the Duchess of Sussex. Markle also ran the lifestyle blog The Tig from 2014 to 2017. Now retired from acting, Markle spends her time doing humanitarian work. Markle was a counsellor for international charity One Young World, speak-
ing at the 2014 annual summit in Dublin on the topics of gender equality and modern day slavery. Also in 2014, she traveled to Afghanistan and Spain as part of the United Service Organizations Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff Holiday Tour. In 2016, Markle became a global ambassador for World Vision Canada, traveling to Rwanda for the Clean
Water Campaign, the agency's campaign to provide safe, clean drinking water and she traveled to India to raise awareness of issues concerning women. She has also worked with the United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women as an Advocate. Markle again attended the One Young World summit in 2016.
MOVIES
TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK T
hese two upcoming films are based on ensemble casts which work together as teams for a common goal.
Ocean’s 8 Just like its predecessors, the latest entry into the Ocean’s franchise is star-studded. However, this time it is an allfemale lead cast. Sandra Bullock, Cate Blanchett, Anne Hathaway, Olivia Munn, Rihanna, Helena Bonham Carter, Mindy Kailing, Dakota Fanning and more act in this Gary Ross film. Here’s the synopsis. Upon her release from prison, Debbie, the estranged sister of legendary conman Danny Ocean, puts together a team of unstoppable crooks to pull of the heist of the century. Their goal is New York City's annual Met Gala, and a necklace
worth in excess of 150 million dollars. Uncle Drew After draining his life savings to enter a team in the Rucker Classic street ball tournament in Harlem, Dax (LilRel Howery) is dealt a series of unfortunate setbacks, including losing his team to his longtime rival (Nick Kroll). Desperate to win the tournament and the cash prize,
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Dax stumbles upon the man, the myth, the legend Uncle Drew (NBA All-Star Kyrie Irving) and convinces him to return to the court one more time. The two men embark on a road trip to round up Drew's old basketball squad (Shaquille O'Neal, Chris Webber, Reggie Miller, Nate Robinson, and Lisa Leslie) and prove that a group of septuagenarians can still win the big one.
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