DEARANONYMOUS

Trust is the core foundation in any relationship and even more so in ENM When trust is broken, it can be devastating! The good news is it can generally be rebuilt with time, patience, and communication from all parties involved I would first suggest looking at why and how the trust was broken

Have a conversation with each other and see what the reasoning was for the deceit (or whatever it was that resulted in the loss of trust), and figure out what and how to go about rebuilding the trust Each situation is unique and each person may need something different to help them be able to trust again. The key to success here is communicating

The person whose trust was broken needs to be able to communicate how and why they felt that way, and in what ways it can be made right This may not always be clear and may take time to figure out what is needed, but communicating that to the partner that broke the trust is vital

The partner that broke the trust needs to be open, understanding, and willing to work with their partner to remedy the situation, IF that is something they are wanting as well.

For crossing a boundary, It may be best to sit down and talk about why that boundary was crossed. Was it done with intent, or in the heat of the moment? Identifying this can help you navigate how to approach the breaking of trust and what may need to change moving forward. If it was in the heat of the moment, consider putting up some safeguards before that is ever crossed again. These are things to help prevent that boundary from being crossed in the heat of the moment.

They act as speed bumps if you will to remind of the upcoming boundary If it was intentional, that is a very different conversation One which will require deeper diving and lots more conversation to figure out the reason for that boundary being crossed. In both instances, being able to effectively communicate AND understand your p ome and rebuild