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Stacey Curnow Purpose and Success Coach Author, speaker and Purpose and Success Coach Stacey Curnow shares her wisdom and transformational journey. Cover Photo Credit: Catherine Vibert Photography www.CatherineVibert.com
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DECEMBER 2014 | JANUARY 2015 CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE Wisdom & Self-Growth 20 EXPECTATION HANGOVER LESSONS by Christine Hassler Have you ever put your heart and soul into something and then the outcome you expected did not come true? If you are like me, what happens next is all the good feelings you had while in the creation process evaporate into an Expectation Hangover, and you find yourself asking, “Why is this happening?” The truth is, EVERY circumstance and outcome is for your Highest Good — even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time.
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24 COVER FEATURE: INTERVIEW WITH STACEY CURNOW, PURPOSE AND SUCCESS COACH by Linda Joy Introducing the fabulous Stacey Curnow, Purpose and Success Coach and Aspire Magazine’s new Life Purpose Expert Columnist! Stacey recently left behind a 20-year career in nurse-midwifery – helping women give birth to babies — to help women (and some very cool men) give birth to their BIG dreams. In this interview you’ll learn about the pivotal moment in Stacey’s journey that led to the transformational work she is passionate about, how you can invite more joy and purpose in your life and so much more.
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30 LIVING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION: THE ZEN GUIDE TO THE LAW OF ATTRACTION by Boni Lonnsburry Aspire Magazine welcomes Boni Lonnsburry as our Conscious Creation Expert Columnist with her column “Living the Law of Attraction.” Do you want to be a Zen creator? There are ways to crate easily, elegantly and gracefully. Follow these ten strategies to allow your dreams to bloom.
“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” BRENE BROWN
36 L IVING THE GODDESS LIFESTYLE: FINDING PEACE AMONGST THE HOLIDAY CHAOS by Lisa Marie Rosati Have you ever noticed how stressed and overwhelmed most people become dur-ing the holiday season? If you’re anything like me, you have a load of things to get done and accomplished in a very short
amount of time. I believe you can live your life in sync with nature, Universal Law and in communion with the Divine and I share a few of my favorite Life MagickTM practices to help ground you and bring peace amidst the holiday frenzy.
40 L IVE YOUR PURPOSE: MOVE FROM APPRENTICE TO MASTER AND MAKE YOUR LIFE A MASTERPIECE! by Stacey Curnow One of the reasons I quit my hospital job earlier this year was to enjoy spending time with my son at this time in his young life. I was full of fear about leaving the security of a steady job and afterwards I had many moments of self-doubt. Six months later, I’m past those doubts. Instead, I’m enjoying profound gratitude for the life I am creating in each moment. Join me and begin your transformational journey from apprentice to master. The result may just turn out to be a master-piece.
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44 A YEAR WITHOUT FEAR: WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE BE LIKE? by Tama Kieves I invite you to step beyond the hypnotism of what you think you can and cannot do. Here’s what’s true: You are loved. You have everything you need. You are more powerful than you know. Perhaps fear, unquestioned negative beliefs or old stories have kept you from your boldest possibilities. Well, that’s about to change. I invite you to wake up to your own fearless potential.
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“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” MAYA ANGELOU
48 HOW TO LET JOY BE YOUR GUIDE TO A LIFE YOU LOVE by Tina Van Leuven What would make 2015 an amazing year for you? Are there any dreams you’ve been longing to manifest? If so, then let’s go on a little journey together to dis-cover how joy can be your guide to creating a life you love. I invite you to set aside some time to review what to leave behind and choose what’s coming with you as you’re about to step into a brand new year.
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being. “Joy is a state of ur own joy Being tuned into yo e you through channel will guid with grace.” challenging times Tina Van Leuven
51 5 DIFFERENT TYPES OF LIFESTYLE DESIGNERS. WHICH ONE ARE YOU? by Bailey Frumen Lifestyle Design is the conscious act of putting yourself in the driver’s seat as the designer of your destiny. Lifestyle Design allows you to dream BIG. Step one is asking yourself, “What do I want to achieve, become, believe, see, or even wear in my future?” Step two is to carve out a new lifestyle to help you achieve your goals in a way that feels authentic and empowering to you. There are 5 types of Lifestyle Designers. Find out which type you are and maximize your potential.
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“In every given moment we have a divine spiritual assignment in front of us: Choose love or choose fear.” GABRIELLE BERNSTEIN
Health & Wellness 56 YOGA MYTHS – DON’T LET THESE 3 COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS KEEP YOU OFF THE MAT by Meagan McCrary Yoga has come a long way since its hippie days of the 60s and 70s. I remember taking my first class when I was twelve years old. I went with my grandma and fell asleep. I didn’t take another class until after college. Luckily Yoga has gained a lot more attention and most people have a good idea of the benefits of a Yoga practice — still, there are a few common misconceptions worth addressing. I will debunk the top three myths and reasons or not practicing Yoga.
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59 THE WISE WOMAN WAY: CREATING A LIFE YOU LOVE by Susun Weed We are each unique individuals, seeking fulfillment in our own distinctive ways. There are no right answers about how to live the life you love. There are no wrong answers to living the life you love. If you wish to create a life you love, you have to begin with loving yourself exactly as you are. Be willing to listen to your heart, gut, and womb. Let your soul shine through and fall in love with your life.
64 TRANSFORMING YOUR RELATIONSHIP: BRICK OR GLASS™? by Stacey Martino Creating a relationship you love begins with the conscious choice to do so. Every time you are faced with an “uncomfortable”
thought or feeling in relationship to someone (including your partner), you have an opportunity. You are building the foundation of your unshakable love… “brick by brick.” One of the empowering tools that Paul and I created to teach and empower our relationship clients is called “Brick or Glass™” which I share with you here.
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CONTENTS 68 EMBRACING ALL ASPECTS OF OUR SELVES: THE PATH TO RELATIONSHIP BALANCE by Shakti Gawain I believe that our work in this lifetime is to create awareness of all the parts of ourselves. Each part has a purpose, has information for us, and is necessary for us to achieve the balance and wholeness we are searching for. Ultimately, com-ing to embrace all aspects of our selves is the path to enjoying more balance in our relationships as well.
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“We don’t choose our wildest dreams. They choose us.” TAMA KIEVES
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71 COMING HOME TO OURSELVES by Jane Garapick Once upon a time, people pleasing was all I knew, and the only way I knew to be loved and accepted. I learned that there is a very high price to pay when we become everything someone else wants us to be, instead of being true to who we really are. We become disconnected from our true selves. Until one day, in a way that’s very different for each of us, that little girl inside us, the one who desperately longs to be heard, finally gets her turn.
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76 HOLISTIC BUSINESS SUCCESS SECRETS: 5 KEY SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES TO GROW YOUR HOLISTIC BUSINESS by Shelley Riutta, MSE, LPC Aspire Magazine welcomes Shelley Riutta, MSE, LPC as our Conscious Business Expert Columnist with her column “Holistic Business Success Secrets.” You have a “Holistic Business” if you are a therapist, healer, coach or health practitioner who works from a mind, body, and spirit approach with your clients. You are a deeply spiritual person, so why does your faith go out the window when you hit bumps in the road on the path of developing your business? I invite you to learn five spiritual principles to get past the obstacles and grow your holistic business today.
CONTENTS 82 FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE: FOUR WAYS TO DISCOVER YOUR UNIQUE CAREER OR BUSINESS PATH by Lisa Michaels Do you feel off track with your life purpose? Then you’re probably looking to the outside world to define the goal-centered roles you play in life. Instead, consider living your life’s purpose as a soul-filled creative process to take your career to the next level. The clear, nurturance of knowing your life’s purpose will clear the way to increase personal prosperity in the work aspects of your life.
“If your goals aren’t synced with the substance of your heart, then achieving them won’t matter much.” DANIELLE LAPORTE
85 INSPIRED TO WRITE? CREATING A WRITING LIFE by Lisa Tener Have you ever kept a journal? Or do you like to write poetry once in a while—something private, just for you? If you have, then I imagine you’ve experienced the healing that can come from getting your experiences and feelings out on the page. As you create time, physical space and spaciousness in your life for writing, you’ll be able to explore the many ways writing can bring more happiness, joy, connection and power into your life and the lives of those you share your time with.
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Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges of intimate relationship. Through strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation System™, individuals learn to use her proven strategies and tools to create an unshakable love and unleashed passion that lasts a lifetime. Stacey firmly believes that it does NOT take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. Trained and certified by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Stacey is a certified marriage educator and divorce preventionist. www.LoveandPassionCoach.com
Passionista Lisa Marie Rosati is an Inner Goddess Catalyst for women and the Creatrix of The Goddess Lifestyle Plan. Lisa mentors women on how become a Modern Day Goddess by consciously designing a luscious Goddess life, cultivating radiant health and creating a lucrative business using and directing their feminine fire. www.GoddessLifestylePlan.com www.sugarfreegoddess.com
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Stacey Curnow helps women find and live their purpose. She left behind a 20-year career as a nurse-midwife, helping women give birth to babies, to help you give birth to your BIG dreams. You can sample her work by reading The Purpose and Passion Guidebook: 6 Steps to Doing Good, Feeling Good and Achieving Your Dreams which you can claim on her website. It will inspire you to tap into your deepest desires, claim your true value and identify your soul’s work in order to live your best life. www.StaceyCurnow.com
An award-winning authority on writing and publishing books, Lisa Tener guides you to joyfully express yourself in writing. She blogs for the Huffington Post, serves on the faculty of Harvard Medical School’s publishing course, and teaches her own Award Winning Book Writing Courses in person and by interactive teleseminar. www.LisaTener.com
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Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC is the founder and President of the Global Association of Holistic Psychotherapy and Coaching (GAHP). She is a Holistic Psychotherapist and creator of a 6-Figure Holistic Psychotherapy Practice. Because of her success at creating a thriving Holistic Practice she launched the Global Association of Holistic Psychotherapy and Coaching (GAHP), which supports Holistic Therapists, Healers, Coaches and Health Practitioners to learn more about Holistic Methods and develop Thriving 6 Figure Holistic Practices. This quickly became a multi-6 Figure business and one of the leading Holistic Training and Holistic Business Building Organizations in the world. www.TheGAHP.com
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ne of the most challenging parts of an Expectation Hangover is feeling that we’ve failed, that we haven’t met the standards or goals we’ve set for ourselves — especially if we’ve poured our hearts into the attempt. Not getting our desired outcome is one of the seemingly cruel ways the Universe teaches us the lesson that the journey of life is more important than the destination. We feel so alive in those moments when we are pouring our blood, sweat, and tears into something we believe in. We feel inspiration, enthusiasm, and passion. Those are all wonderful things to experience, and we like the feelings that accompany them. But as soon as we realize that the dream we had
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our heart set on did not come true, all the good feelings evaporate into an Expectation Hangover, and we find ourselves asking, “Why is this happening?” Good question. During my own Expectation Hangovers, I have wanted to know exactly why it was happening, both so I could do something about it and so I could counteract my uncomfortable feelings of uncertainty. We think that if only we knew why something was happening, we could change it and not have to endure the Expectation Hangover. The main reason disappointment happens is to teach us paradigm-shifting life lessons. An Expectation Hangover is a wild card
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that causes us to start looking within and, ultimately, to turn in a different direction. On the surface Expectation Hangovers might appear to create disharmony, but they actually have a harmonizing effect because the unexpected is what leads to innovation and novelty. We don’t voluntarily sign up for the lessons Expectation Hangovers teach, because they threaten the things our ego clings to: control, security, and external results. Warning: the lessons I’m about to share won’t be very satisfying to your ego and won’t necessarily give you the kind of answers you desire. For now, I invite you to open your mind to understanding these lessons, and when we get to our treatment plan in part 2, you’ll learn some tools for working with them.
LESSON 2: YOUR COMFORT ZONE IS A TRAP We all have a comfort zone that we have constructed based on what feels safe and manageable. In this comfort zone, we make certain choices and engage in specific behaviors that reinforce feelings of security. It feels familiar; we know all the ins and outs. Occasionally, we will take a step beyond it, but usually only if we have made a careful list of pros and cons and feel a degree of safety about our level of risk. But our comfort zone does not feel comfortable because it is healthy; it feels so cozy because it is familiar and reinforces the illusion of control.
LESSON 1: CONTROL IS AN ILLUSION We are great at putting time and energy into achieving the results we want. And the more effort we put in, the more we feel entitled to get the results. When our expectations are met, we feel a sense of security and accomplishment; we feel safe and on track. We expect that life will evolve according to our plan and that people will behave in a predictable way. We all love control because the unknown is downright scary. In fact, I think control has become the master addiction. But the truth is we really don’t have complete control over our lives, and nothing illuminates that truth more brightly than an Expectation Hangover.
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...our comfort zone does not feel comfortable because it is healthy; it feels so cozy because it is familiar and reinforces the illusion of control.
Imagine a plant that has outgrown the pot it was planted in. What would happen? It would never grow into the plant it was destined to become unless it was replanted. Your comfort zone is like a shell of restriction, not protection. That’s why I get so excited when someone has an Expectation Hangover; I know it’s the Universe’s way of making someone uncomfortable enough to bust out of their comfort zone of limitation so they can grow into their full potential. The human experience is one of continuous evolution. Within each of us there is an evolutionary impulse to transform. We are not static beings; change is unavoidable. If we resist or fear change, an Expectation Hangover comes along to help us evolve. No matter what your circumstances, do not settle for complacency or “good enough.” You deserve and are capable of so much more.
LESSON 3: IT AIN’T OUT THERE Perhaps you can relate to the pattern of when/then and if/then thinking: When I get that raise, then I’ll feel financially secure. When I get married, then I’ll feel worthy. When I get a little more experience, then I can start my business. If I had not been laid off, then I would not be depressed. If I lose five pounds, then I’ll feel confident. If I had not made that mistake, then I’d feel proud of myself. The number of when/thens and if/ thens our ego can buy into is infinite. Fulfillment is not something we make happen. Trying to measure up to all our internal and external expectations leaves most of us living as human doings rather than human beings. It is only when we have the courage to let go of what we expect to happen that we begin to experience the kind of fulfillment that lasts. Each Expectation Hangover is an opportunity to let go of something external that we have clung to for worth, safety, or love, and to find — inside ourselves — the experience we are looking for. LESSON 4: YOU ARE NOT BEING PUNISHED During an Expectation Hangover, we have a tendency to think we have done something to deserve the disappointment. We buy into the common misunderstanding that bad things happen to us to test us, or even as payback for something we did wrong. Most of us, whether consciously or unconsciously, carry around a fear that the Universe (or God, Spirit, or Higher Power) is judging us in some way. So when things don’t go our way, we believe the suffering we experience is penance. This could not be further from the truth.
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The truth is that every circumstance or situation is for your Highest Good — even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time. The Universe does not punish, test, or keep a list of good/ bad and right/wrong behavior. You didn’t do anything wrong. You have always been doing the best you could. Really. Even if you do not totally believe this yet, begin to consider it. Beating yourself up and continuing to believe that you are being tested or punished will only perpetuate your Expectation Hangover and potentially make it worse. What appear to be tests and trials in your life are actually priceless gifts and teachings.
Adapted from the book Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life ©2014 by Christine Hassler. Published with permission of New World Library http://www.newworldlibrary.com Read Online!
Christine Hassler - Christine is the author of 20 Something, 20 Everything, The 20 Something Manifesto, and most recently Expectation Hangover. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about. For over a decade she has been sharing her passion as a speaker, retreat facilitator and life coach specializing in relationships, career & life purpose, and fulfillment. Visit her online at www.christinehassler.com.
“It is only when we h ave the courag e to let go of what we e happen tha xpect to t we begin to experience the kind of fulfillment that lasts.” Christin
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Keep these lessons in mind and begin looking at your life as a grand adventure that offers many opportunities to grow. When we are committed to our values but set our expectations free, we create more space for unexpected opportunities that can lead to happiness rather than a hangover.