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inspired advice for new & expecting parents
BREASTFEEDING
YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED
BIRTHING OPTIONS WHO TO VISIT FOR CARE AND WHERE TO HAVE YOUR BABY
MANAGING
Toddler Tantrums
KYAL & KARA
STARTING
SCHOOL The latest in child care & early learning
Dining out
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WHAT TO EAT + WHAT TO AVOID WHEN
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CONTENTS autumn 2018
FEATURE STORIES 20. BIRTHING OPTIONS Congratulations, you're pregnant! Now what?
BIRTHING OPTIONS EXPLAINED WHO TO VISIT FOR CARE AND WHERE TO HAVE YOUR BABY
28. TODDLER TANTRUMS How to cope in the midst of an epic meltdown 30. STARTING SCHOOL What's new in child care and early learning 49. EATING OUT WITH KIDS Tips for a peaceful dining out experience with little ones
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TANTRUMS: What's normal & what's not
HEALTH & WELLBEING
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(LIFE)STYLE & FASHION 09. BREASTFEEDING (NON) ESSENTIALS You don't need any of it but you'll want ALL of it! 10. BABY SHOWER STYLE Everything you need for the perfect baby shower or gender reveal party 14. NURSERY STYLE Twinkle Twinkle Little Star!
REGULAR ARTICLES 08. HIGHLIGHT
40. WEIGHT GAIN DURING PREGNANCY How much is too much?
52. TRAVEL Magical Melbourne fun for the whole family
44. WHAT TO EAT AND WHAT TO AVOID WHEN PREGNANT Your guide to the best sources of vital pregnancy nutrients
58. ASK THE EXPERT Your breastfeeding questions answered
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welcome//autumn 2018
EDITOR’S LETTER Welcome to the very first issue of SABaby magazine, a new baby sibling for SATeen. Just like pregnancy, the last few months have been both a challenge and an exciting time for everyone involved, with lots of planning, research, worry and yes - labouring! When I had my first baby almost 16 years ago there were there no digital cameras (I had to scan this photo!), the internet was still in its infancy and my friends were all out clubbing while I was up doing night feeds, so I relied heavily on magazines for advice and information. Now my little sister is starting to grow her young family and I see that while so much has changed, so much is still the same. New and expecting parents are still looking for guidance and support through one of life's most unique experiences. You're not alone - we're here to help. Enjoy!
Nicole x
MAGAZINE PUBLISHED BY AVERY MAGAZINES Editor Nicole Aspinall CONTRIBUTORS Michelle Blumfield, Clare Collins, Hannah Dahlen, Jenna Hollis, Melanie McVean, Gayatri Nair, Lyn O'Grady, Monique Robinson, Siân Robinson, Victoria Taddeo COVER PHOTO Grace Picôt ADVERTISING ENQUIRIES Phone 8182 6253 Email sales@averymagazine.com.au GENERAL ENQUIRIES Phone 8182 6253 Email hello@averymagazine.com.au Post PO Box 715, Prospect East SA 5082 Web www.sa-baby.com.au DISTRIBUTION Romeo's Foodland, IGA & SupaIGA stores, SA www.romeosretailgroup.com.au
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COVER STORY KARA DEMMRICH OPENS UP ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF RE-CONNECTING WITH YOUR PARTNER AND THE VALUE OF A FIVE-MINUTE BREAK.
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HOT CROSS YUM! START TRADITIONS They're only available for a limited time so make the most of these fresh treats and start a family Easter weekend breakfast tradition at the same time. Serve them simply; toasted, split open and spread with butter or 'spice' them up with sweet toppings like maple syrup and icecream or fillings such as nutella and sliced strawberries. YUM!
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FEAST ON SEAFOOD
Traditionally, meat is abstained from on Good Friday. Many of us could benefit from more fish in our diets, so this presents the perfect opportunity to try something new.
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KIDS IN THE KITCHEN
Get little ones involved in creating sweet treats to share with friends and family like these easy gingerbread easter cookies.
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WHEN IT COMES TO CHOCOLATE CHOOSE QUALITY OVER QUANTITY
200g icing sugar 1. Cream the butter and sugar together in a bowl until light and smooth. Stir in the egg with 1 tbsp flour. Stir in the remaining flour, baking powder, mixed spice and ginger until the mixture comes together as a dough. Cover and chill for 30 minutes. 2. Preheat the oven to 160°C. On a floured surface, roll out the dough to 1cm thick. Stamp out biscuits using a cookie cutter and place on to baking sheets in batches. Bake for 10-12 minutes, until just golden. Transfer to a wire rack and leave to cool completely. 3. Mix the icing sugar with 1½ tbsp water. Spoon into a piping bag and ice the cookies with patterns of your choice.
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MEET THE
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TIRED, IRRITABLE CHILDREN. MY TASK IS TO RESOLVE THESE PROBLEMS, AND TO HELP PARENTS ENJOY SEEING THEMSELVES AS
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ome of the things we do as parents only make sense to parents. Watching your baby sleeping soundly? Totally absorbing! It’s amazing how fulfilling it can be to simply watch your baby sleep contentedly. And when your baby wakes after a full night’s sleep and sees you walk into their room, their obvious joy at your arrival is magical too. These are moments when life is completely fulfilling and there is nothing – and I mean absolutely nothing – that you would rather do than care for and be with your child.
When your baby or child sleeps all night and wakes happy and is excited by your arrival, well, it’s just... magic. Having said this, parenting and especially the beginning of the journey, can be complex. There are challenges and busy times ahead. All women tell me exactly the same thing. They never realised how busy they were going to be as mothers. but also how the advice which they receive is totally inconsistent. There seems to be no consensus in giving advice to new parents. Even more difficult is that so much advice has a significant emotional overlay. Guilt can be a common companion. Where do you go for practical and evidence based advice?
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SUCCESSFUL AT PARENTING.
Successful parenting I’ve often thought about a strange anomaly in our culture. To drive a car, you need a licence. To work as a professional, you need training and qualifications. But to become a parent - not a problem! Here’s a brand new, completely vulnerable human being whom you love to distraction. “OK dear, time to go home now. Good luck!”. My point is that neither you nor I have or had training in being a parent. I want families to start the parenting journey feeling optimistic and knowing that, with a little help, they will be a huge success. My own journey into this field began when I met and married my wife Maryanne. To our pleasant surprise we were soon pregnant. When my own children were young I discovered that I’d made an extremely lucky choice in finding a woman who was a magician with children. From the start, our babies slept like angels. As a young father, naturally I saw this as normal because it was all I knew. I made mistakes but was firmly and affectionately redirected. Back at work, I soon discovered that my happy experience was not always shared by my patients. Sleepless, tearful children often made life very challenging for the families in my care. Over time, I became more confident about the strategies that I taught based upon my own experience. As I saw the benefits for children and families, my enthusiasm grew until it became a major part of my practice.
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Practical and evidence based advice
My central aims are to help you achieve the joy of parenting and to see children in my care thrive.
wellbeing//baby
“Women report an 85% reduction in maternal depression after the first visit,” Dr Brian Symon, BMJ.
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NEW MUMMY ON THE BLOCK BY GAYATRI NAIR
THE LIVING ROOM’S KARA DEMMRICH OPENS UP TO SA-BABY ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF RE-CONNECTING WITH YOUR PARTNER AND THE VALUE OF A FIVE-MINUTE BREAK.
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ara and Kyal Demmrich are no strangers to the Aussie consciousness. They are a well-loved couple who caught everyone’s attention with their unique furniture design style on the Australian television series, The Block. They then went on to become a regular feature on Network 10’s The Living Room and have also established a hugely successful design and construction business. Just over a year ago, the ocean-loving couple became parents to baby Ziya, and since then parenthood has taken precedence over everything else.
One of the many mantras that Kara and Kyal fervently follow, post becoming parents, is striving to function as a team. “Don’t forget your partner or ignore the power of re-connecting. Among all the nurturing, don’t forget to take time out for each other. When you do that, you become better parents and a stronger team,” says Kara. “Parenting is a time and energy consuming experience. But when you take that 10 minutes out to be with your partner, it strengthens the foundation on which you will build your lives as parents,” she adds.
A CONSTANT JUGGLE
Having a baby and managing a prosperous business is a juggle that the couple seems to have mastered perfectly. “We love what we do, and our work has never felt like a ‘job’ to us. But when you throw a baby into the mix, things change. We have slowed down considerably, and do not take on every project that comes our way. We have had to become more organised. We still have a lot of work on our plates, but Ziya is our priority. After all, there are only so many hours in a day. They grow up so fast, and we don’t want to miss a thing,” she says.
BEING READY
Kara, who has a degree in Physiotherapy, adds that though having a child is a wonderful experience, one should opt for parenthood only when both the partners are ready. There should be no room for regrets. “Kyal and I spoke about having kids for years. But there were numerous things to achieve before we walked the parenthood road, like travelling and establishing our business. Moreover, I wasn’t ready then, and I think it is imperative for the woman to be mentally ready. After all, she will be carrying the baby for nine months, and breastfeed it for an extended period. These tasks require a great deal of commitment on behalf of the mother, and are a huge responsibility,” she says.
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RENOVATING with a toddler and morning sickness!
Kyal can sense when Kara is getting overwhelmed and will take Ziya out for a walk to give her time to cope.
Kara’s caution stems from her being one of nine siblings. “I grew up in a big family and was always surrounded by babies. Therefore, I know babies are hard work. Kyal grew up in a relatively smaller family and has just one sibling. It is important to understand that parenting is not a switch that can be turned off at whim,” she says. However, at the end of 2016, both Kara and Kyal were ready to be parents. “I thought it would take us time to get pregnant. But we were lucky and got pregnant the very first time!” says Kara. The 32-year-old remembers feeling an avalanche of mixed emotions on hearing about her pregnancy. “I was instantly excited and overwhelmed! I realised our lives were going to change forever. Initially, Kyal was too scared to accept the results. He didn’t want to jinx it. But when he realised I was pregnant for sure, his excitement knew no bounds,” she says. The couple are now "stoked" to be expecting their second child in May and can't wait to meet another little Demmrich. "Many people ask us if we planned for them to be so close. Kyal and his brother are 11 months apart and he has always wanted to have our children close together, so an 18 month gap sounds perfect to me!" says Kara.
BEING IN SYNC
The childhood sweethearts have been together for 15 years. Kara was 16, and finishing school when she met then 17-yearold Kyal. “And, as they say, it was love at first sight,” chuckles Kara. “We just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary in February!” she adds. Being in sync with each other - an obvious consequence of being together for so long - has allowed the couple to handle parenting better. “We understand and beautifully complement each other. We want similar things from our son, and our parenting style reflects that. We both want Ziya to have strong values, be polite and respectful, and be a good person. And we work together to achieve that,” she says. This synchronization also helps one partner ease the other out of an overwhelming situation. “Kyal can sense when I am getting overwhelmed. He would immediately take Ziya out for a walk on the beach, giving me time to cope. Sometimes, all we need is a five-minute break, and we are good to go,” says Kara.
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ZIYA IS OUR PRIORITY. THERE ARE ONLY SO MANY HOURS IN A DAY, THEY GROW UP SO FAST AND WE DON’T WANT TO MISS A THING.
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Kara is focusing on enjoying her second pregnancy and "embracing the miracle of growing a human"
STRUGGLES AND SUPPORT
Kara went back to working when Ziya was seven weeks old. “The first few months were a struggle. Ziya came with us everywhere, and it was stressful to travel with a crying newborn in a car. We did have a family member to help us out, but it was not easy,” she says. The challenges of being a parent are constantly evolving, adds Kara. “Earlier he would just eat and poop. But now he is so active and wants to explore everything, and as a parent, I have to constantly keep him entertained. Now that’s a tough task!” she says. Kara credits her close friends for being her support system. “We are lucky to have some amazing friends in our life. They also have kids of the same age, and they understand the struggles we go through. We exchange notes on our parenting and seek each other out during a crisis. I am glad to say they are always just a call away. And, after a long stressful day it is nice to have someone you can relate to and share a good laugh,” she adds. "Now that I'm (expecting another baby) I'm focusing on enjoying this pregnancy more than I did first time around. When I was pregnant with Ziya, I was really not prepared for how much my body would change, and it wasn't until the last couple of months that I really began to embrace the miracle of growing a human. Now that I have Ziya to look at every day, it blows my mind even more to know that we'll meet another little Demmrich soon."
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AN EMOTIONAL CONNECT
There’s a discernible shift in Kara’s voice when she speaks about breastfeeding. “I really like breastfeeding. Sometimes Ziya looks directly into my eyes while being fed, and for those few minutes, I feel we are connected as one. Those are probably my favourite parenthood moments,” she says. Kara has a word of advice for new parents to be. “Be flexible and try to go with the flow. It impossible to want to do everything or to pay attention to everything. Your baby will always be the priority. Therefore, plan everything around it, and let some things go,” Kara says.
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BIRTHING OPTIONS EXPLAINED
FOR MANY WOMEN, GETTING PREGNANT IS THE EASY PART. AFTER THAT LINE APPEARS ON THE PREGNANCY TEST, IT CAN BE DIFFICULT TO WORK OUT WHO TO VISIT FOR CARE, AND WHERE YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR BABY.
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he first step for most women is to go to their General Practitioner (GP). Your GP will arrange blood tests, ask about your health and past pregnancies, and confirm the pregnancy. The GP should tell you about the variety of choices available to you and then give you a referral to your choice of provider or place of birth. More than 300,000 women give birth in Australia each year. Most (97%) give birth in hospitals (72% of these in public and 28% in private), 2% deliver in birth centres, 0.3% have their baby at home and 0.3% are born before they arrive in a hospital or birth centre.
Care in public hospitals is free, though you may face some out-of-pocket costs if you opt for shared care with your GP. You may also need to pay for blood tests, ultrasounds and antenatal classes.
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Around 67% of women have a vaginal birth (this includes 10% who have a vacuum or forceps) and 33% have a caesarean section.
GOING PUBLIC Care in public hospitals is free, though you may face some out-of-pocket costs if you opt for shared care with your GP. Women may also need to pay for blood tests, ultrasounds and antenatal classes.
Hospital clinics Women who book in to give birth at their local hospital maternity unit will have most of their pregnancy appointments with midwives and some with obstetricians. When they give birth, they are attended by the midwives and obestricians on duty at the time. They may see a range of different midwives and obstetricians throughout pregnancy and their birth.
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Continuity of midwifery care Continuity of midwifery care involves a small group of midwives who work together to provide antenatal, labour, birth and postnatal care to women. This means you get to know your midwife and they will be on call for the birth. Midwifery continuity of care models are associated with the least intervention. This includes caesarean section, using forceps or a vacuum to deliver, or cutting an episiotomy to make the vaginal opening wider. They also tend to be the most satisfying for women and are the most cost-effective. Book early as these programs get full very early and have waiting lists.
General Practitioner (GP) programs Most hospitals offer women the option of having their pregnancy care shared between a General Practitioner and a hospital. You will be asked to come to the hospital for antenatal visits when you book and at several other times during pregnancy.
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Midwives regard the emotional, psychological and social needs of women as a high priority, so midwifery is described as a social model of care. Obstetricians are medical doctors with specialist training in caring for women during pregnancy, the birth and immediately after. Their particular skill is in dealing with complications that may arise. Many major public hospitals have clinics run by midwives. These are sometimes located in the community and are called “outreach clinics�.
If you develop any complications you will be asked to
see the hospital doctors for specialist care. Hospital midwives attend the birth and provide postnatal care. In some cases, particularly in rural areas, General Practitioners may also attend the birth, especially if they are a GP obstetrician.
More than 300,000 women give birth in Australia each year. Most (72%) give birth in public hospitals and 28% in private, 2% deliver in birth centres, 0.3% have their baby at home and 0.3% are born before they arrive in a hospital or birth centre. Birth centre care Depending on where you live and whether you have any health or pregnancy complications, you may be able to have your care through a birth centre. These look and feel different to the clinical environment of hospitals, and often have beds and furnishings that create a homelike environment. Some birth centres are called stand-alone birth centres and are not connected to an obstetric hospital. Others are alongside a hospital. Women who deliver in a birth centre have lower intervention rates than those who deliver in hospitals and seem more satisfied than with other forms of care. Book early as birth centres are very popular and often have long waiting lists.
Publicly funded home birth There are 3 publicly funded home-birth programs attached to public hospitals in South Australia. These provide the opportunity for very low-risk women who don’t live far from the hospital to have a home birth without the associated risks and costs. Most publicly funded home-birth programs set a restricted distance (time or kilometres) from the hospital.
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PRIVATE CARE If you have the appropriate private health insurance (or are uninsured and willing to pay) you can choose a private obstetrician for your antenatal care and to attend your birth in a private or public hospital (depending on where they have practising rights).
Private Obstetricians Costs for childbirth in a private hospital are around $8,500. Obstetricians’ fees can be up to an additional $10,000 per birth. Check with your health fund to see if you are covered for this care. Women love the continuity of care they get with private obstetricians. They like knowing the person who is at the birth will be familiar to them and if there are complications they will have an experienced obstetrician on hand.
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If you have the appropriate private health insurance (or are uninsured and willing to pay) you can choose a private obstetrician for your antenatal care and to attend your birth in a private or public hospital.
Women experience more intervention under this model of care. If this is a concern, find an obstetrician whose policies (on how you can give birth, who is suitable for a vaginal birth, and when to induce) meet your needs. This might include asking about their intervention rates, particularly caesarean section rates. Private obstetricians usually come to the delivery ward just before the birth. Midwives provide all the labour care and communicate on the phone with the obstetrician. In the postnatal ward, midwives will also be the ones to care for you.
Private midwives In some states, private midwives attend births in hospital, birth centres and the home. Private midwives provide the majority of home births. They work for themselves rather than a heath service. This means a cost is associated with this service, which can range between $3,000 and $6,000. Women are able to get $1,0002,000 back from Medicare if the midwife is eligible with a Medicare provider number. Some private health funds will also give rebates for midwifery care. If you plan to give birth at home with a private midwife and complications occur during the pregnancy or birth, you will be advised to have your baby in hospital and your midwife will go with you.
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WHEN ONLY THE BEST WILL DO
EVERY BIRTH IS UNIQUE, AND WHILE THE VAST MAJORITY ARE UNCOMPLICATED – IT’S WISE TO BE PREPARED FOR THE UNEXPECTED. CHOOSING A HOSPITAL THAT’S PREPARED FOR AN EMERGENCY SITUATION CAN PROVIDE ADDED PEACE OF MIND TO NEW PARENTS.
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alvary North Adelaide Hospital has one of the best equipped maternity units in South Australia, with an Intensive Care Unit, Level 5 Special Care Nursery and 24-hour onsite doctor to provide mother and baby with the very best care. “We’ve helped deliver more than 75,000 babies and we know just how important it is to have emergency back-up,” Calvary North Adelaide Chief Executive Sharon Kendall said. “While most births go as planned for both mother and baby, there are times when the unexpected happens. “You can relax at Calvary North Adelaide knowing our specialist teams are here to support you and your baby to receive the best care 24 hours a day.” Specialist intensivists provide care to adults in Intensive Care Unit, while the Level 5 Nursery is equipped to treat
premature and highly dependent newborns from 32 weeks gestation. Both are supported by onsite obstetricians and paediatricians whose number one priority is the health of you and your baby. “Having both an ICU and Special Care Nursery onsite means it’s less likely for mothers and babies to be separated should one or both of them require specialist care,” Ms Kendall said. “At times of stress this is hugely important to families and it’s something we are proud to be able to provide.” Calvary North Adelaide has a rich history in maternal care, recording its first birth just two years after the hospital was founded in 1900. Centrally located in leafy North Adelaide, the Hospital provides private rooms and ample parking for guests. At Calvary North Adelaide Hospital we are here for you through pregnancy, birth and beyond. >> For further information visit the Calvary Babies website at www.calvarybabies.com.au
We know babies don’t come with instructions. Calvary North Adelaide Hospital will support you through pregnancy, birth and beyond.
We’ll tell you what to expect Our team of obstetricians and gynaecologists will ensure you get the support you need before, during and after your pregnancy. We’ll help you manage the unexpected Calvary North Adelaide has one of the best equipped maternity units in South Australia, with a Level 5 special care nursery, Intensive Care Unit and 24-hour onsite doctor. We’ll be by your side on your journey as a new parent Our care doesn’t end when you leave. Our midwives will continue to offer 24-hour support, 7 days a week when you need help and guidance.
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Pack your BAGS! WHAT TO PACK For labour: old nightie or loose tee dressing gown, slippers/socks lots of old underwear your own pillow if you're particular journal/notepad/'New Baby' book lollies or lollipops lip balm massage/aromatherapy oils soothing music of your choice a good book or magazine to read For your partner: snacks and drinks a change of clothes pain killers
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For after the birth: plenty of nursing bras/tops breast pads and nipple cream lots of maternity pads front opening shirts or pyjamas plastic bag for soiled clothes Metamucil, Ural, multi-vitamins scent-free toiletries loose/comfortable going home outfit For your baby: several sleepsuits and singlets baby blankets and muslin squares nappies, wipes & bags for soiled nappies socks or booties, mittens and a hat toiletries: nail scissors, baby bath lotion comfortable going home outfit infant car seat, correctly fitted a gift from your newborn to any siblings CHECKLIST Medicare Card/health insurance details birth plan and maternity notes camera/video camera and charger mobile phone and charger change for vending machines cash or credit card Leave jewellery, large amounts of cash and other valuables at home.
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SUKIN BABY GENTLE FRAGRANCE-FREE BODY WASH $13.95
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ASHFORD HOSPITAL ASHFORD HOSPITAL IS WELL KNOWN IN THE COMMUNITY FOR PROVIDING EXCELLENCE IN MATERNITY CARE BEFORE, DURING AND AFTER THE BIRTH OF A CHILD. BUT IT’S THE EXTRA SERVICES THEY OFFER THAT CAN MATTER THE MOST WHEN YOU CHOOSE PRIVATE MATERNITY CARE.
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shford Hospital has the essentials covered with an experienced and highly skilled team of health professionals who will work together to ensure that you have a safe and memorable experience. With the largest number of private Obstetricians to choose from in South Australia, dedicated Paediatricians on-site and a caring team of Midwives you and your baby will be provided with a personalised experience in a nurturing environment.
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The Ashford maternity area is equipped with 6 state of the art labour suites and 20 private rooms with ensuites. Ashford Hospital also has the highest level of private critical care and neonatal care available for mother and baby in South Australia so you can be assured that your safety is paramount. But it’s the extra services, that you may not be aware of, that can make all the difference and provide your family with the best possible start. Ashford Hospital values the role of partners and believe that having your partner involved in the early moments will assist you to develop your relationship as a family. The rooms at Ashford are designed to cater for partners to stay overnight and provide a lounge chair that converts to a comfortable sofa bed. Partners are also provided with three meals a day, free of charge. Ashford Hospital has an extensive maternity education program which
will assist you and your family throughout the entire journey. These sessions include; Preparing for Pregnancy, Health during Pregnancy, Having & Caring for Your Baby, and Establishing Breastfeeding. The support does not stop when you leave hospital, with a Newborn and Lactation Support Service available and regular Parents and Babies Information Sessions open to all new mothers. Ashford also offers a class just for new fathers that discusses early parenting and what to expect with a newborn baby. All sessions are presented by Ashford Hospital Obstetricians, Paediatricians or Midwives. The maternity page on the hospital’s website provides additional information on the extra services they offer. >> If you wish to receive more information or to attend a tour of the unit you can contact their Maternity Services Manager on 08 8375 5218.
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HYPNOSIS is a relaxed state of focus attention that can facilitate therapeutic changes in perception, mood and behaviour.
CHILDBIRTH HYPNOSIS
Jamie Logan
HYPNOTHERAPY CAN AID IN PREPARING WOMEN FOR THE LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE OF PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH AND CAN ASSIST WITH RELIEVING WOMEN FROM ANXIETIES, WORRIES AND FEAR.
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he 9 months of pregnancy culminate in birth, an experience many women fear because the process of birth is ‘painful’. While labour has been described as one of the most intense forms of pain that can be experienced it also represents enormous physiological and psychological challenges for women and involves one of the greatest transitions in a woman’s life.
Hypnosis has been extensively used in obstetrics, particularly in the antenatal period in preparation for childbirth. The use of hypnotherapy in pregnancy and childbirth has been practiced for more than a century and has extensive literature support. The multitude of advantages for using hypnosis in childbirth include: • Decreasing pain during labour and childbirth • Decreasing the need for pain relief medication • Decreasing the first stage of labour • Decreasing the average duration of labour
“Birth is not only about making babies. It’s about making mothers; strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and believe in their inner strength” Barbara Katz – Professor of Sociology
• Increase the incidence of spontaneous vaginal delivery • Decrease in the level of medical intervention • Improved Apgar scores of babies The anxiety state of women in childbirth could have a detrimental effect on the outcome of their birth experience and there are huge benefits to be gained by preparing women for childbirth with the use of hypnotherapy.
Jamie Logan is a Registered Nurse and Registered Midwife with a Masters of Midwifery. She is also a Clinical Hypnotist and a Member of the South Australian Society of Hypnosis and the Australian Society of Hypnosis
B U M P & M I N D Childbirth Hypnosis CHILDBIRTH PREPARATION INDUCING LABOUR PRETERM LABOUR NAUSEA & VOMITING FEARS, PHOBIAS & ANXIETY Jamie 0410 575 595
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HYPNOBIRTHING
TRAINING WOULD YOU LIKE TO KNOW HOW HYPNOBIRTHING TECHNIQUES WORK?
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he unconscious mind is responsible for nearly all of our bodily functions, which includes your belief system. In a state of deep relaxation during hypnosis, your mind will be filled with positive images, language, and associations of birth. As a mum to be, you will be able to call on these tools at the right time. Your hypnotherapy practitioner will show you a different way of having your baby that
will prepare your mind and body for a confident, comfortable and joyful birth. Hypnosis is similar to meditation. Your unconscious mind is very much like a computer. It holds good programs and un-resourceful ones. Using Hypnosis is like running a virus protector on your computer – it discovers corrupt programs that need to be wiped, such as the belief that birth will be painful. Hypnobirthing
teaches you how to achieve a state of deep concentration and relaxation. More importantly, releasing all your fears through visualization, deep breathing, reframing, and affirmations. >> For more information contact Liza Perks, Enhanced Hypnobirthing Master Practitioner and Trainer on 0408 855 448.
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A PARENTS GUIDE TO
MANAGING TANTRUMS The first almighty toddler tantrum is a milestone in every child’s development that will never make the baby book. Epic meltdowns, especially those in public, can throw even the most confident parent off their game.
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etween the ages of one and four, nearly 90% of children will have occasional tantrums. They involve children expressing their anger and frustration by screaming, crying, falling to the floor, flailing limbs, hitting, kicking, throwing items and, in some children, holding their breath. Tantrums often start when a child wants something they can’t have, wants to avoid something, wants attention or if the child is hungry, tired, unwell or just frustrated. But the cause can often be nonsensical, as blogger Greg Pembroke parodied in his book Reasons my Kid is Crying (which include “I let him play on the grass”, “We told him the pig says ‘oink’,” and “The neighbour’s dog isn’t outside”). Tantrum throwing peaks at age two, as children experience the perfect storm of not being able to express
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themselves verbally while simultaneously developing their sense of autonomy and independence.
WHAT’S NORMAL AND WHAT’S NOT? While part of normal child development, tantrums are a common reason for parents to seek psychiatric help for their child. At the more serious end of tantrum
behaviour, around 7% of children exhibit tantrums multiple times a day, lasting for 15 minutes or more. Half of these children usually have an underlying behavioural or developmental problem. Tantrums that might be classed as “abnormal” tend to be those that continue past the preschool age, last longer than 15 minutes, involve
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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD HAS A MELTDOWN For the 90% of parents who are experiencing tantrums as part of normal child development, the best way to deal with them is to try to avoid them. It’s easier said than done, but as much as you can, be consistent and predictable with rules and routines. And ensure expectations of your child are appropriate for their age. Offer choices in decision-making to encourage independence while ensuring the available options are acceptable to you as a parent. For example, “Would you like a yoghurt or a cracker?” (Not “what would you like to eat?”). Or, “Would you like to listen to Play School or Wiggles in the car today?” (Not “what do you want to listen to?” Doing that one wrong can end up with months of playing Alvin and the Chipmunks Greatest Hits, which is as bad as it sounds). A regular mealtime and sleep routine will help avoid the hungry and overtired
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BY MONIQUE ROBINSON EARLY CAREER FELLOW, TELETHON KIDS INSTITUTE, UNIVERSITY OF WESTERN AUSTRALIA
the child injuring themselves or others, occur more than five times a day, or where mood is low between tantrums instead of returning to normal. Other signs that tantrums are more severe are when they occur with nonparental adults or happen out of the blue, with no seeming provocation. Unsurprisingly, the family of a child who is prone to frequent tantrums may also need support. One recent study found that half of all mothers of children presenting for help with tantrum behaviours had a mental health problem themselves, commonly depression and anxiety. Other family factors that were associated with frequent or severe tantrums in children include maternal irritability, marital stress, low parental education level, when child care is exclusively provided by the mother, and when corporal punishment is used in the home. All of this paints a picture of a family under considerable stress, whether it precedes or results from the child’s tantrums. Either way, frequent tantrums are likely to escalate stress in the home so it’s important the whole family system is given means to cope.
meltdowns, and removing sources of frustration for the child (such as a jar of biscuits they can see but not reach) can also help. As the child gets older, encourage your child to express how they are feeling in words. The words to describe emotions can also be mirrored back to children to help teach emotional literacy, for example “You seem really angry about this” or “I can tell that this has made you feel really sad”. As much as consistency is important as a parent, so is picking your battles. If the issue isn’t important or compromising safety, it might not be worth the showdown. Also, remember to give your child plenty of positive attention when their behaviour warrants it, as a child who is feeling overlooked may provoke negative attention just to get any attention at all. If prevention hasn’t worked, a few strategies may help. Remain calm, don’t escalate the situation and don’t cave in to ensure tantrums are not seen as a productive exercise. Time-outs, where the child is moved away from the problem situation, can help both parent and child to calm down. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends one minute of time-out per year of the child’s age. If you’re in a public place, try to redirect the child’s attention and if that doesn’t work, keep calm and leave the location if necessary. Finally, many years ago in a study of chimpanzees researchers observed the phenomenon of reconciliation after conflict. Just like chimpanzees, more than onethird of toddlers want to end their tantrum with a hug, known as “post-tantrum affiliation”. It’s a nice way to signal the end of the crisis and a return to being part of normal family life with the knowledge that, for most families, the tantrum phase will pass.
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START SCHOOL HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD
PARENTS ARE KEY TO HELPING LITTLE ONES NAVIGATE THE SOCIAL, EMOTIONAL, COGNITIVE AND PRACTICAL CHANGES THAT COME WITH STARTING FORMAL EDUCATION.
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tarting school is an important milestone for children and their families. This transition involves changes to your family routine, your network of friends and acquaintances and also how your child sees him or herself. It’s a big step for little people – and their carers. Remember that family members may all respond quite differently. Some may be excited by the prospect of new experiences and friends. Others may be hesitant or overwhelmed at the loss of familiar people and places, and the prospect of change and new expectations.
PREPARE Being prepared for practical changes may help. Gently encourage self-help skills and independence and involve your child in simple choices in the weeks before school.
DISCUSS Think through the types of changes ahead so you can anticipate questions or concerns your child might have. For instance: Is the physical environment of the school bigger or different to what they are used to? Your child will need to learn to navigate this space, learning where toilets and their classroom are. Can you help familiarise them? Where can they go for help? Are the school rules and routines different to what your child is used to? These may cover eating arrangements, going to the toilet, lining up, or putting up a hand to speak. This might be a topic for discussion. Remember, children can worry about things that adults would not think twice about. Encourage your child to ask any questions they have.
EMPATHISE Remain alert to signs of worry in the early weeks and months, even in children who are outwardly confident. Make it a habit to check in with them regularly. This external transition occurs at a time when a child’s internal world is undergoing rapid change. Children’s cognitive development (covering their memory span, learning capacity and cognitive processing speed) is proceeding rapidly as they begin to form basic concepts of time, number and logic. Beginning formal school challenges children because it requires the negotiation of changes in physical and
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Lyn O'Grady Community Psychologist
learning environments, rules and routines. They also need to develop new relationships with children and adults, which can impact on the way they see themselves and their family. No wonder those first few months are particularly taxing.
SUPPORT ‘School readiness’ refers to the abilities your child needs to be able to manage all of these changes. Schools are increasingly alert to the importance of partnership with families, and the way parents and carers can support children as they develop skills they need at school. Take advantage of transition activities as much as possible as an opportunity to become familiar with the school, the staff and routines. Preparations begin well before the first day, but they also continue for days, weeks and months into the new school year. When parents and carers are confident and positive, the child will also feel capable and more able to enjoy the experience of school. THIS ARTICLE WAS ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON WWW.PSYCHLOPAEDIA.ORG
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EDUCATION high·light WHAT'S NEW IN EARLY LEARNING
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rom 2 July 2018 Australia will have a New Child Care Package. The new, simpler package will replace the current Child Care Benefit and the Child Care Rebate with a single Child Care Subsidy. Some of the key changes that you can expect to see from the New Child Care Package include; • The Child Care Subsidy will be subject to a new, three-step activity test. Families will be eligible for 36100 hours of subsidised child care per fortnight depending on their combined hours of work, training, study or other recognised activity. • Low income families who don't meet the activity test criteria will still be able to access 24 hours of
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subsidised care per fortnight as part of the Child Care Safety Net. • Children must meet immunisation requirements and both parents must work or study at least 8 hours a fortnight to receive the subsidy. • There will be exemptions to the activity test for parents who legitinately cannot meet the requirements, such as those receiving Disability Support Pension and other circumstances on a case-by-case basis. • Up to 85 per cent of the actual fee charged (to an hourly rate cap) will be paid direct to the supplier. The subsidy
gradually decreases to 20 per cent when a family's income reaches $340,000. • Families with an income of more than $185,710 will be subject to a cap of $10,000 on total Child Care Subsidy payments. • Families who earn more than $350,000 a year will not be eligible for the Child Care Subsidy. >> To get an estimate of what your new subsidy might be, the Department of Education and Training have created an easy to use online calculator at www.education.gov.au
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DISCOVER THE
REGGIO EMILIA APPROACH TO LEARNING “ONCE CHILDREN SEE THEMSELVES AS AUTHORS AND INVENTORS, ONCE THEY ARE HELPED TO DISCOVER THE PLEASURE OF ENQUIRY, THEIR MOTIVATION AND INTEREST EXPLODE.” Loris Malaguzzi, founding father of Reggio Emilia
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he Reggio Emilia approach was started by Loris Malaguzzi and parents in the villages around Reggio Emilia in Italy following the devastating effects of World War II. Parents and educators sought a new approach to teaching their children based on the idea that a child's early years of development have a significant impact on who they become in later life. With this as their foundation they created a program built on the principles of respect, responsibility, and community through exploration and discovery in a supportive and enriching environment based
on the interests of the children through a self-guided curriculum. The Reggio Emilia approach to teaching young children puts the natural development of children as well as the close relationships that they share with their environment at the centre of its philosophy. The child is educated for the formation of the whole person; spiritually, socially, culturally, academically, physically and intellectually to become truly alive and filled with a lifelong love of learning. Reggio Emilia children are seen as competent, strong and amazing individuals who have rights and responsibilities as global citizens and need to realise their potentials.
Children are encouraged to express themselves in a variety of ways, referred to as ‘The Hundred Languages’. Teachers aim to develop the child’s natural curiosity, imagination and creativity through play and exploration. The curriculum and teaching methods seek to provide children with the freedom to make meaning using a variety of media, for example; drawing, movement, painting, music and puppetry. Programs are play-based and developmentally appropriate. Children are given many opportunities to develop socialisation, self regulation, literacy and numeracy skills in ways that are meaningful to the child. >> The Ignatius Early Years’ curriculum, at Saint Ignatius’ College, embraces the interests of children and responds to their curiosity based way of learning through the methods of the Reggio Emilia approach. To find out more visit Ignatius.sa.edu.au
Ignite your heart Saint Ignatius’ College is a co-educational Catholic school in the Jesuit tradition. At Ignatius we strive to maximise every student’s potential, empowering them to make a difference in the world. SCHOOL TOURS Join us for a tour of our Ignatius Early Years, Junior School or Senior School campus to experience what makes us uniquely Ignatian. Meet our staff and students and explore our grounds and facilities. CRICOS no: 00603F
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Go, set the world alight.
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Early Learning Centre Nurturing the unique abilities of your child
Quality early childhood education is critical as children gain the essential skills, knowledge and dispositions for confidence and success in school and life. The Early Learning Centre (ELC) provides a safe and nurturing environment, and is the first step into education at Concordia College. Our highly qualified and experienced educators implement the International Baccalaureate Primary Years Programme (IB PYP) and the Early Years Learning Framework. This provides children with a wide range of play-based experiences that help build a firm foundation for future learning. We take inspiration from the Reggio Emilia philosophy and recognise children as strong, competent and resourceful. The use of state of the art technology provides endless possibilities for learning. Nature play is embedded in our ELC programme. Our wonderful, newly completed outdoor space, including the undercover sandpit, water course, veggie patch, mud kitchen and cubby house, provide fun and varied learning opportunities.
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The ELC is part of the St John’s Campus, providing access to whole school facilities and resources. Specialist teachers in music, art, physical education and German work with the ELC children. Close collaboration with the Primary School also allows for a smooth transition to Reception. Our Centre is approved as a long day care provider and is open for 48 weeks of the year. Optional after school and holiday care is available. Eligible families can claim Child Care Benefits for ELC fees. Our ELC has been awarded an Exceeding National Quality Standard rating by the Australian Children’s Education and Care Quality Authority. Visit the Concordia College ELC by joining a Principal’s Tour of the St John’s Campus (ELC – Year 6), 20 Highgate Street, Highgate. • •
Thursday, 22 March at 9.15 am Tuesday, 22 May at 9.15 am
Book your place on a tour via the College website www.concordia.sa.edu.au or phone 8271 4299 for enrolment enquiries.
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THE MONTESSORI CHILD follows their own natural developmental trajectory through engagement in spontaneous, purposeful activities
LEARNING THE MONTESSORI WAY
BY CREATING TAILORED LEARNING PLANS FOR EACH CHILD, THE MONTESSORI
By Debbie Appleby, Principal, Montessori Manor
WHAT IS THE MONTESSORI METHOD? The Montessori child pursues the same basic activities covered in any classroom, but is taught in a way that does not pressure them into learning, yet encourages the maximum response. In a Montessori environment, children are free to choose from a wide range of activities to assist this process, working with each for as long as their individual attention spans dictate to ensure success. In the classroom the children are guided in their learning, number work and letter work, but without too much adult interference. The result is that they gain tremendous confidence and independence. They learn through specially designed materials which stimulate their senses and imagination. This way of learning optimises children’s inherent inner drive and their ability to discover and develop. Children
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METHOD OFFERS A COLLABORATIVE, CHALLENGING AND ENJOYABLE WAY OF LEARNING WHICH BECOMES AN ESSENTIAL FOUNDATION FOR LIFE.
learn best when they are interested and the ‘follow the child’ philosophy is based upon their natural and very individual interests in learning.
A REMARKABLE PHILOSOPHY Born into a progressive and ambitious family, Maria Montessori chose to study engineering and mathematics at a time when higher education for girls was considered unnecessary. Even more remarkably, she went on to qualify as her country’s first female doctor. Her early work aiding the development of children with disabilities showed her that with a special kind of help and encouragement, they were capable of learning far more than had been considered possible at the time. Dr Montessori began to develop special learning materials to help these children to follow a normal academic program and to enter the state school system. The results of these experiments were so impressive that she
expanded the scale of her work. She aimed to show that if her special children, working with carefully structured materials, could achieve a standard approaching National Average, then other children, also working with the same materials could reach an even higher standard. However, even she did not dream that her theory would result in the discovery of an almost limitless academic potential within the average child. In addition, individual teaching combined with the child being free to work at their own level means that Montessori Education also provides a stimulating and enriching environment for the gifted child. In 1907 Maria Montessori opened her first school, situated in a slum area of San Lorenzo. She was so encouraged by the results that she began publishing books and giving lectures to share her discoveries. Thus the Montessori Method of Education was born. >> Discover how the program assists children to reach their full potential. Contact Debbie on 8396 2633 or visit www.montessorimanor.com.au
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EARLY LEARNING IS CHILD'S PLAY
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t is widely recognised that children who have access to quality education programs in the early years gain greater social and cognitive skills which deliver improved opportunities later in life. Driven by a strong belief that care and education are intrinsically linked, degreequalified early childhood teaching staff at the privately owned and operated Ranges Early Learning and Infant Toddler Centres at Stirling, and the Gawler Riverside Early Learning Centre, strive to provide each child with the opportunity to realise their own potential in an open, inquiry-based learning environment.
Children are given the freedom to create their own experiences, with learning supported through play to encourage self-expression, curiosity, wonder, amazement and fun. All three centres have a strong focus on education for children of all ages, working with families on age appropriate development oportunities in a collaborative and inclusive child centred environment. The aim is to nurture and encourage holistic development of the child in an environment that is safe, stimulating and promotes positive relationships for all.
>> There are currently vacancies for all ages at all centres. Please call 8339 2308 to enrol in The Ranges, Stirling and 8522 6662 to enquire about Gawler Riverside.
Gawler Riverside ELC has been servicing the Gawler community for more than 20 years. Now under new ownership, the centre is dedicated to enhancing the existing fantastic child care that has previously been delivered with quality educational programs for all age groups.
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NOTICE THE DIFFERENCE AT
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rom the moment you enter the Ladybird Manor you will notice a difference. Beauty, reality and order are the words to describe the atmosphere in Adelaide's most prestigious Montessori Early Learning Centre.
A SAFE AND HOME-LIKE ENVIRONMENT
ONLY THE BEST Adelaide's most prestigious Montessori Early Learning Centre since 2007 Now accepting registrations of interest for enrolment for children 4 months - 5 years 121-139 Grote Street, Adelaide E anne@ladybirdmanor.com.au M 0431 211 952 T 8212 1350
Ladybird Manor offers the best early educational development, through the world-renowned Montessori Method, in conjunction with the Early Years Learning Framework. Each child is considered unique and educational programs are tailored to bring out the best in every child. Only the best qualified Montessori professionals with teaching qualifications are employed at Montessori Manor. All staff are dedicated to their jobs and passionate about educating children. Additionally, specialist teachers with relevant experience and credentials in their field of expertise offer a variety of extracurricular programs to cater for the individual interests of children. Soccer, piano, ballet, voice and swimming lessons provide children with the life skills and confidence to become whoever they choose to be.
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The Manor is flawlessly maintained and includes a landscaped garden and quiet play areas for the children’s enjoyment. Each room has a unique appeal and is beautifully decorated with tasteful furniture and soft furnishings, creating a graceful living space to ensure children feel safe and at home. The Manor utilises the highest level of security, offering parents peace of mind with exclusive site access via a personalised remote control and swipe card to enter the premises.
>> Step through our open door and into our happy Centre
today! Now accepting registrations of interest for enrolment for children 4 months - 5 years. Contact Anne on 0431 211 952 or email anne@ladybirdmanor.com.au
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IDENTIFYING LEARNING PROBLEMS EARLY THE SOONER LEARNING PROBLEMS ARE IDENTIFIED, THE EASIER
Life…
THEY ARE TO DEAL WITH, SAYS PSYCHOLOGIST MARIA DE IONNO FROM BRAIN SOLUTIONS PLUS. HERE SHE IDENTIFIES FIVE KEY WARNING SIGNS AT THE PRE-SCHOOL AGE AND SHARES WHAT WE CAN DO TO HELP EVEN BEFORE SCHOOL.
made easier L earning to read, one of the most important tasks for a child beginning school is easy for some. For others it can be overwhelming. It doesn’t take long for them to consider themselves poor achievers and develop low self-esteem. But it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s agreed that earlier intervention means better outcomes. You can intervene (while having fun!) well before school starts if you notice any of the following in your pre-schooler.
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DID LITTLE CRAWLING, CONFUSES LEFT/RIGHT Crawling helps integrate left and right brain functions, develop spatial awareness and depth perception - all needed for developing skills including reading, such as managing letters and words and recognising the differences between b/d, n/u, was/saw, net/ten, roof/floor. If your child has trouble in this area try the following: Make “tunnels” to crawl under, have fun with 'Michael Jackson style' dance moves: right leg/left arm etc, do the Hokey Pokey, play marching songs and engage in activities that develop these skills "I’m putting my left hand to my right shoulder” etc
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ENJOYS YOU READING TO THEM, BUT DOES NOT SHOW ANY INTEREST IN LOOKING AT THE PAGE
FINDS IT HARD LEARNING THE ALPHABET, REMEMBERING ADDRESSES OR MIXES UP LONG WORDS/RHYMES
Ignore the fact that they are not looking. Keep reading to them and talking to them about what you are reading. They’ll learn to love and tell stories and develop large vocabularies.
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'Sequential tasks' are where one thing must be said after another, exactly. Start by playing 'concentration'. Order blocks by colour or size, then cover them and have your child copy. Read poems, rhymes and songs together e.g. Old Macdonald had a Farm & The Old Woman who Swallowed a Fly help remember sequences. Make sure children can do one step (develop mastery) before moving to the next.
SPOKE LATE/HAS UNCLEAR SPEECH Have them match your mouth shapes. Stick your tongue out between your teeth, up behind your teeth, up towards your palate, then blow air through, to make sounds "th", "s", "d", "t", "sh", "ch" etc. Exaggerate lip movements: "moooo" like a cow, "squeeeeeak" like a mouse, act "oh" so surprised. Make up tongue twisters together: Sam shows six shoes. Lively rabbit run.
GREAT AT HANDS-ON TASKS AND TALKING Encourage their strengths in these areas. Record, video and “publish” to family members to help develop a good sense of self-esteem. >> With practice, skills should improve. If they don’t there could be underlying processing or other issues. Consult with a professional.
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WEIGHT GAIN DURING PREGNANCY: HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH?
During a healthy pregnancy, women gain weight as the baby grows. This is normal and necessary. But recent research indicates that excessive weight gain during pregnancy increases health risks for mothers and their children. So how do you get the right balance?
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WEIGHT GAIN GUIDELINES Recommended weight gain in pregnancy is based on body weight and body mass index (BMI) prior to becoming pregnant. If your pre-pregnancy BMI is: • less than 18.5, aim to gain between 12.5 and 18 kg • 18.5 to 24.9, aim to gain 11.5 to 16 kg • 25.0 to 29.9, aim to gain 7 to 11.5 kg • 30 or more, aim to gain just 5 to 9 kg. Most weight gain occurs from week 13. For some women, body weight will not change too much during the first trimester of pregnancy, particularly for women who have had morning (noon and night) sickness. Weight gain recommendations are higher for those having twins, with the target range depending on the woman’s pre-pregnancy BMI: 18.5-24.9 (weight gain: 17-25 kg), 25-29.9 (weight gain: 14-23 kg) and 30 or more (weight gain: 11-19 kg).
AUTHORS: CLARE COLLINS, PROFESSOR IN NUTRITION AND DIETETICS, UNIVERSITY OF NEWCASTLE JENNA HOLLIS, CONJOINT LECTURER, UNIVERSITY OF NEWCASTLE SIÂN ROBINSON, PROFESSOR OF NUTRITIONAL EPIDEMIOLOGY, UNIVERSITY OF SOUTHAMPTON
It’s important for women not to try and lose weight during pregnancy. Dieting or limiting food intake could mean the baby doesn’t get enough nutrients needed for their development.
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A recent review covering more than one million pregnancies found half the women gained too much weight. Even women who started pregnancy at a healthy weight (those with a BMI of 18.5 to 24.9) typically gained too much weight. Our study of women in the United Kingdom found excessive weight gain was more common among women who were having their first baby.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT? Gaining too much weight in pregnancy can affect the mother’s health. Excess weight gain has been linked to a higher risk of developing diabetes in pregnancy, high blood pressure, and complications during birth. It can also affect the health of the baby in both the short-term and in the future. In a review of one million pregnancies, mothers who gained too much weight in pregnancy were more likely to have babies with a high birth weight compared to other mothers. Children of the mothers who gained too much weight were then at a higher risk of becoming obese as a child or adult. Excess pregnancy weight gain can also make it more challenging to lose weight after the baby is born. Our recent study showed that women who gained more weight than recommended retained, on average, an extra 4kg six months after their baby was born. Of concern is that this extra weight can still be retained decades after pregnancy. Not shifting those extra few kilos after pregnancy increases the chances of developing obesity in the future. Not gaining enough weight in pregnancy can also be a problem. Weight gain below the recommendations is associated with having a baby that is small for gestational age, or a preterm birth.
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FIVE TIPS FOR HEALTHY PREGNANCY WEIGHT GAIN
1. START A CONVERSATION WITH A DOCTOR OR MIDWIFE. While talking about weight during antenatal visits can make some pregnant women feel anxious, knowing how much weight is appropriate can help improve the pregnancy outcomes for women and their infants. Having this conversation is important because a doctor or midwife can provide support. They can also refer pregnant women to a dietitian or other service, if needed.
2. TRACK WEIGHT GAIN FROM EARLY IN PREGNANCY. Monitoring weight in pregnancy can help keep weight gain “on track”. Try a pregnancy weight tracker. Start recording weight as early in pregnancy as possible. Remember every pregnancy is different, and the amount of weight gained each week won’t be identical. But it’s a great way to “keep check” and see whether weight gain patterns are tracking above or below the recommendations.
3. FOCUS ON HEALTHY EATING. It’s a myth that you need to “eat for two” during pregnancy. During the first trimester, dietary energy needs (measured in calories or kilojoules) are only slightly higher so the amount of food eaten should remain about the same. But nutrient requirements increase, particularly for folate, iodine and iron, so women need to be mindful of the nutritional quality of food eaten. While more food energy is needed during the second and third trimester, the amount of extra food is less than most people think. It would be the equivalent of a sandwich (such as egg, beef, hummus or cheese), or a yoghurt and banana. Use the Eat-for-Health Calculator available at www.eatforhealth.gov.au to calculate the recommended daily serves from the five food groups to give you an idea of what you should be eating during pregnancy.
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4. EXERCISE REGULARLY. Being active is important during pregnancy. The national recommendations advise the accumulation of 150 minutes of exercise each week. Many exercises are safe during pregnancy, such as walking, swimming, stationary cycling and pregnancy-specific exercise classes. Doctors, midwives, exercise physiologists and physiotherapists can provide advice about the best options.
Many exercises are safe during pregnancy, such as walking, swimming, stationary cycling and pregnancy-specific exercise classes. 5. ENLIST THE SUPPORT OF A PARTNER AND FAMILY. Having a healthy lifestyle that includes eating healthily and being active is not just important for the mother and baby in pregnancy, but can also benefit other family members.
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HEALTH CHECK:
WHAT TO EAT & AVOID DURING PREGNANCY As soon as women announce “I’m having a baby!”, the congratulations are quickly followed by long lists of dos and don'ts about food. Try ginger for morning sickness. Avoid soft cheese because of listeria. Eat more meat to boost your iron. Eat this fish – but not that one, because of mercury. Pregnant women are understandably confused. So how do you strike the balance between nutrition and safety, when so many things are off the menu?
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URING PREGNANCY, WOMEN NEED TO CONSUME A VARIETY OF DIFFERENT FOODS AND NEED MORE OF THE MAIN PREGNANCY NUTRIENTS: PROTEIN, FOLATE, CALCIUM, IRON, ZINC, IODINE, AND FIBRE. HERE’S A QUICK GUIDE TO THE BEST SOURCES.
PROTEIN FOLATE GREEN LEAFY VEGETABLES
CHICKEN
SEAFOOD
LEGUMES
EGGS
FORTIFIED BREAD & CEREALS
LEAN MEAT
DAIRY NUTS & SEEDS
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CALCIUM
IRON
red meat
ZINC
IODINE
FIBRE
fruit/veg with skin on
canned fish
with bones
oysters, canned & other fish
egg yolks
tofu/miso
wheat germ/ wholegrains
wholegrain breads/cereals
fortified soy milks
We have recently shown that a moderate intake of protein (18-20% of a total energy intake) allows pregnant women to eat the best range of foods across all the healthy core groups in the Australian Guide to Healthy Eating, while optimising vitamin and mineral intakes. Interestingly, the protein to carbohydrate ratio was related to the amount of muscle and fat tissue in the developing baby. While more research is needed, it may contribute to the risk of developing diabetes in the future.
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HOW MUCH? The Australian dietary guidelines advise pregnant women to consume the following number of servings from the five core food groups each day. SERVINGS PER DAY
SERVING SIZE (g)
SERVING SIZE (kJ)
VEGETABLES & LEGUMES
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75g
100-350kJ
1/2 cup cooked green or orange vegetables
1 cup raw salad vegetables
1/2 medium potato or one tomato
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150g
350kJ
one medium piece (apple, banana, orange)
two small pieces (apricots, kiwi fruit)
one cup diced or canned fruit
500kJ
one slice of bread
1/2 cup cooked rice pasta or porridge
1/4 cup muesli or 3 crispbreads
500-600kJ
65g lean cooked meat, 80g lean cooked poultry
100g cooked fish
2 eggs, 170g tofu, 30g nuts or 1 cup cooked beans
500-600kJ
250mL milk
200g yoghurt
2 slices (40g) cheese
GRAINS & CEREALS *mostly wholegrain
LEAN MEATS & POULTRY, FISH, EGGS, TOFU, NUTS & SEEDS MILK, YOGHURT, CHEESE or ALTERNATIVES
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Fish and seafood are important sources of protein and minerals. They are low in saturated fat and are a major source of omega-3 fatty acids. During pregnancy, omega-3s play an important role in the baby’s developing central nervous system, the brain and retina in eyes. Research shows that maternal omega-3 fatty acid consumption during pregnancy reduces the risk of preterm birth, and increases the length of gestation and therefore birth weight.* Deficiency of omega-3s is associated with irreversible visual and behaviours deficits in children, as well as an increased risk of depression, pre-eclampsia and pregnancy hypertension in the mother. Population surveys in the United Kingdom and United States show that pregnant women don’t eat enough fish and therefore omega-3s, partly due to fears about adverse effects of mercury and other toxins (such as polychlorinated biphenyls). We have shown that pregnant women in Australia also eat less fish than is recommended. But when we estimated what their weekly exposure to mercury would be from eating two to three serves a week, it was well below the targets. Pregnant women in Australia can safely eat fish.
AUTHORS: CLARE COLLINS, PROFESSOR IN NUTRITION AND DIETETICS, UNIVERSITY OF NEWCASTLE MICHELLE BLUMFIELD, POSTDOCTORAL RESEARCHER, PRIORITY RESEARCH CENTRE, PHYSICAL ACTIVITY AND NUTRITION, UNIVERSITY OF NEWCASTLE
Nausea and vomiting affects about three in four pregnancies. While the data on fetal risks associated with drug treatment are controversial, non-drug approaches are a good place to start. Eating small snacks rather than big meals can help alleviate morning sickness. Limit exposure to food odours by having foods that do not smell as much during cooking or by reducing cooking time with stir-frys or a BBQ cooked outdoors. Nausea can be worse in the presence of hunger, so avoid an empty stomach by having small, frequent meals and snacks comprised of foods that you can tolerate and don’t have much smell, such as fruit or nuts, or raisin bread or sandwiches, or yoghurt. Very cold drinks can help with the nausea and prevent dehydration. You could try ginger as a ginger tablet, cold ginger beer or ginger cordial. While only some evidence supports the use of ginger and/or vitamin B6 supplements to relieve nausea of pregnancy, they’re unlikely to cause harm.
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LISTERIA RISK Due to changes in the immune system during pregnancy, women are more susceptible to food poisoning. But by avoiding all foods that carry a risk for harbouring listeria, women are consuming fewer nutrients. You don’t have to go without. For every item on the “no” list, there are a number of alternatives: Avoid pre-packaged cold meats. This includes deli meats and sandwich bars. Instead, choose freshly cooked seafood one to two times per week and/or canned fish up to four times a week. Choose home-cooked meat instead and make it into homemade sandwiches. Avoid ready-to-eat pre-cooked chicken pieces, especially if cold. Instead, choose home-cooked chicken or hot take-away whole chicken or large pieces – but eat it immediately. Avoid raw and chilled seafood including oysters, sashimi or sushi, smoked salmon, ready-to-eat peeled prawns, prawn cocktails, sandwich fillings, and prawn salads. Don’t eat shark (flake) or billfish (swordfish, broadbill and marlin). Limit orange roughy (deep sea
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perch) or catfish to once per week. Instead choose other fish species, including canned salmon and tuna two to three times a week. Avoid salads (fruit and vegetables) that are preprepared or pre-packaged or from salad bars or smorgasbords. Instead, choose freshly prepared homemade salads (with leafy greens or other salad vegetables), fresh fruit, or canned or frozen fruits and vegetables. Avoid soft, semi-soft and surface-ripened cheeses such as brie, Camembert, ricotta, feta and blue cheese. Instead, choose hard cheeses such as Cheddar or tasty, processed cheese, cheese spreads, or plain cottage cheese if packaged by the manufacturer. Opt for hard cheeses to reduce the risk of listeria food poisoning. Avoid soft serve ice cream and unpasteurised dairy products such as raw goat’s milk. Instead choose packaged frozen ice cream and pasteurised dairy products such as milk, yoghurt, custard and dairy desserts. Listeria can live in lower temperatures, so take extra care with foods served cold, and avoid buffets and smorgasbords altogether. Cooking, however, kills listeria but the food needs to be heated until steam rises. And remember to always wash your hands before handling food or starting to prepare foods.
CONSTIPATION Up to 40% of pregnant women develop constipation. This is caused by rising levels of progesterone and oestrogen, and the relaxation of muscles of the bowel. Low fluid and fibre intakes can also play a role.
Mild constipation can be selftreated by increasing highfibre foods, including soluble (oats, lentils, dried peas and beans, psyllium) and insoluble (wholemeal and wholegrain breads and cereals, wheat bran, vegetables and fruit) fibres. To counter constipation in pregnancy aim for 25 to 28 grams of fibre per day, drink plenty of water (1.5 to two litres per day) and exercise regularly. Some oral iron supplements can cause constipation. If medication is required, only use what your doctor prescribes as not all laxatives are safe during pregnancy.
MULTIVITAMINS Women planning or in early pregnancy are likely to need a folic acid supplement to reduce the risk of the baby having a neural-tube defect, and iodine for the developing brain and nervous system. Multivitamin supplements may be recommended when there is a fairly high chance of not meeting nutrient needs from food. This is more likely for pregnant adolescents, vegetarians, those on pre-existing special diets, individuals with drug, tobacco and alcohol addictions, or obese pregnant women on medically restricted diets to limit weight gain. Pregnancy is an important time to focus on what you eat. The food-based recommendations in the Australian Dietary Guidelines will help you enjoy a variety of foods while getting the best mix of nutrients important at this time.
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Victoria Taddeo IF THE THOUGHT OF TAKING YOUR KIDS TO A FANCY RESTAURANT STRESSES YOU OUT, YOU'RE
Make your own menus, set the table, dress up a bit and have fun with it. Don't forget to say 'please' and 'thank you' when talking to your 'wait staff'.
NOT ALONE. TRY THESE TIPS FOR A PEACEFUL DINING OUT EXPERIENCE WITH LITTLE ONES. START AT HOME It's important children learn how to act appropriately in different situations. Knowing what is acceptable behaviour can improve a child's confidence, reduce anxiety and help with social skills in general. Start by demonstrating and practicing basic manners and dining etiquette at home during normal meal times. What your child is capable of depends on their age but all kids who are able to should be encouraged to sit still at the table, keep unneccessary noise to a minimum, use their good manners and eat with cutlery. Before going anywhere, explain to your kids what kind of behavior you want to see at the restaurant and talk to older children about respecting other diners' experience.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT Have a rehearsal dinner at home before embarking on your first major dining outing. Playing 'restaurant', where the kids can ‘order’ their food and learn how to conduct themselves when in an eatery is a creative and fun way to familiarise little ones with the restaurant environment.
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Single mum Sarah was worried about attending an upcoming wedding with her 2 year old son Patrick who had trouble adapting to change. "A few weeks before the wedding we started adding a tablecloth and a vase of flowers to the lunch table so he could get used to the distractions and made a game of introducing him to all the details that might come up and that were foreign to him, or that might present a challenge to him, such as placing a napkin in his lap, or drinking out of a tall glass with lots of ice in it and using a straw for the first time."
DO YOUR RESEARCH Not all restaurants embrace children so start by playing it safe and pick one that promotes its family friendly features such as an indoor playground or kids eat free offers so you know they are accepting of and accommodating to young kids. Call ahead and reserve a table, check the menu options for familiar items and find out if there's room for a pram or book a high chair if needed. You want to avoid uneccessary wait times with hungry kids in tow so organise as much as you can now.
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EATING OUT WITH LITTLE KIDS
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PACK A SURVIVAL KIT Bring along a couple of (quiet!) toys, colouring books, drawing pads or card games to keep fidgety children occupied until the food is served. Avoid electronics that could disturb other diners and rely instead on old-school interactive games that encourage thoughtful observation and exploration like eye spy, which can easily be adapted to different ages by seeking out colours or 'sounds like' clues rather than letters.
TAKE IT SLOW Start with child friendly and casual restaurants when first dining out with kids. Everyone will enjoy themselves more if you're not worried about relying on unknown cuisines to fill picky tummies or scared about what might happen in a quiet, expensive venue. Save the fine dining, experimental experiences until they become familiar with how eating out works, and you have the confidence of a few positive past experiences behind you.
PLAN YOUR OUTING Tired and hungry children are no fun for anyone so consider having your meal earlier, in off peak times when restaurants and cafĂŠs are less busy. Waiting for food in a crowded dining room after bedtime is asking for trouble! An early start allows time to recover from any unforseen delays and should see you arrive home in perfect time to launch into the usual evening bath and bed routine.
MAKE IT WORTH THEIR WHILE It might sound strange to pack food for a dinner out, but it's actually a good idea to bring a little healthy snack such as bread sticks, cucumber, carrot, cheese and crackers, just in case the wait for food takes extra long, or disaster strikes and that bowl of spaghetti you ordered turns up with lots of not-very-well-hidden broccoli in it.
Ensure the experience is inclusive and entertaining for the kids by engaging them in conversation to fill the empty space. Ask questions about the foods they are trying, encourage them to describe the taste or identify ingredients. Steer the conversation in a direction they can engage with such as their favourite movie or a detailed examination of the dessert menu. And be sure to tell them how proud you are of their good behaviour.
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THE BISTRO AT THE MAWSON LAKES HOTEL OFFERS A MIX OF CULINARY DELIGHTS, FROM THE DELICATE CRISPY THAI STYLE BEEF TO THE SIGNATURE MAWSON'S MEGA SCHNITZEL CHALLENGE.
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he spacious dining room has ample space to stretch your legs, accommodate a pram and high chair if needed, and enjoy the great company of family and friends with fabulous food and wine. Full buffet and continental breakfast is served from 6.30am weekdays and 7am weekends and Public Holidays. Kids under 4 Free. All Day Dining 11am 'til 9pm Sunday - Thursday and 11am 'til 10pm Friday and Saturday. All kids meals include a soft drink and are now $5 all day every day in the bistro except Monday to Friday 3pm-6pm when kids eat free. >> 10 Main Street Mawson Lakes, phone 8360 3500.
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FAMILY-FRIENDLY DINING PARADISE THE PARADISE HOTEL HAS JUST UNDERGONE A $3 MILLION RENOVATION AND THE POPULAR PUB HAS RE-OPENED AS A STYLISH, FAMILY-FOCUSED VENUE WITH A REVAMPED MENU, TWO IN-HOUSE KIDS' THEATRES AND A NEW DINING AREA
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aradise Hotel has recently re-opened its doors to local families after extensive renovations designed to make the popular pub more family-focused. Now featuring two in-house theatre rooms screening all of your kids favourite movies and TV shows, the hotel is set up for a fun, family-oriented dining experience. "We added the two theatre rooms for kids' activities and screenings" Hotel Manager Mr Prosser said. A new menu sees some of the old favourites such as rotisserie chicken, seafood platter and slow-roasted steak joined by fresh new offerings like
mediterranean greek lamb salad and haloumi fries. The accomanying kids menu offers healthier options including grilled flathead and a lean prime beef burger alongside the more traditional chicken breast nuggets and chips. The perfect destination for any celebration, The Paradise Hotel is a great suburban pub with great food offerings. Enjoy paradise and experience high quality food and service in a fresh and new family friendly environment.
>> Located at 700 Lower North East Road, Paradise, The Paradise Hotel is open seven days a week from 8:30am till late.
SOMETHING TO SUIT EVERYONE. Serving a variety of modern dishes alongside good old fashioned pub favourites and a kids menu with a healthy option they won't even realise is helathy, Paradise Hotel has something to suit everyone.
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MAGICAL MELBOURNE If you think Melbourne is all cafés and high fashion, think again! The World's Most Liveable City has something for the whole family to enjoy.
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amed the World’s Most Liveable City for a seventh time in a row, Melbourne is on a roll and showing no signs of slowing down. For families with little ones looking for memorable experiences to take back home, Victoria is on entertainment overload for both the young, and the young at heart with something to suit everyone.
MELBOURNE STAR OBSERVATION WHEEL See Melbourne from a different perspective. The Melbourne Star experience is your visual introduction to Melbourne's skyline and beyond on the 40-storey high observation wheel. Flights on the Melbourne Star are a spectacular way to get your bearings, with uninterrupted 360 degree views of the unique attractions and the Bay before you. The largest solid steel construction in the world, the Melbourne Star is an engineering wonder. It is a one-of-a-kind, and its seven pointed star design, echoing the seven stars of the Australian flag, is an iconic feature of the Melbourne skyline. The L.E.D. light show every night highlights the star within a star design, a kaleidoscope of colour on Melbourne’s skyline. Visit www.melbournestar.com
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SEA LIFE MELBOURNE AQUARIUM Home to thousands of aquatic animals, Sea Life Melbourne Aquarium takes you on an interactive adventure from the depths of the ocean to the icy waters of Antarctica. With interactive animal encounters, iconic state of the art displays and animal feeds, the Aquarium is an excellent, educational and engaging experience, not to be missed. Visit www.melbourneaquarium.com.au
LEGOLAND DISCOVERY CENTRE The ultimate indoor lego playground features plenty of family fun with rides, build and play zones, a 4D cinema and much more. Visit www.melbourne.legolanddiscoverycentre.com.au
ARTVO ArtVo is a new immersive art gallery or ‘trick art’ gallery – the first of its kind in Australia. Over 100 3D, reality-defying artworks – featuring YOU!
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SOVEREIGN HILL Sovereign Hill brings to life the excitement of Australia's 1850s gold rushes. Named Australia’s best ‘Major Tourist Attraction’ four times, Sovereign Hill provides a unique Australian experience and a full day of entertainment. There’s real gold to be panned – and it’s ‘finders keepers’, an underground gold mine, street theatre and the opportunity to meet costumed goldfields characters. Visit www.sovereignhill.com.au
Unlike normal art museums, visitors are encouraged to touch and interact with the artworks, photographing themselves and becoming part of the installation. Themed zones to explore feature incredible, interactive large scale artworks, painted directly on to the walls and floors – with additional sculptural elements added to allow visitors to immerse themselves into different scenes, locations and famous paintings. Visit www.artvo.com.au
The award-winning Otway Fly Treetop Adventures is one of Australia’s premier treetop walks. Enjoy the magnificent Otway Ranges, where you can soak up the breath-taking birds-eye view of the rainforest on the Treetop Walk or for the daredevil, soar through the leafy treetops on the awe-inspiring Zipline Tour. Don’t miss the 45-metre tall Spiral Tower and the cantilever perched above Young’s Creek – a truly exhilarating experience as you gently sway with the rainforest canopy. You can also embrace your inner explorer and go on an exciting interactive adventure experience that sees budding rangers journey deep into the rainforest, searching for ancient tree species and some of the unique wildlife that call this enchanting part of Australia home. Visit www.otwayfly.com.au
EUREKA SKYDECK Eureka Skydeck, the highest public vantage point in the Southern Hemisphere, is located on the 88th floor of Eureka Tower. Families who dare can even embark on The Edge, a 3m by 3m transparent glass cube suspended 285m above ground which slides out to provide a breathtaking 360-degree view of Melbourne and beyond. Visit www.eurekaskydeck.com.au
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Melbourne Zoo Werribee Open Range Zoo Healesville Sanctuary Luna Park Playtime Crown Fairy Park Science Works Queen Victoria Markets Cooks' Cottage Federation Square Botanic Gardens
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1. BEING A WORKING MUM!
SO YOU THOUGHT THE FIRST FEW MONTHS OF MOTHERHOOD WERE 'CHALLENGING'. NOW YOU’VE RETURNED TO WORK, AND YOU’VE DISCOVERED A WHOLE NEW MEANING TO THE WORD...
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FROM JUGGLING THE CHILDREN, YOUR JOB AND HOUSEHOLD WORK, TO MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND PARTNER! WORKING MUMS ARE OFTEN LEFT WITH A NAGGING FEELING OF GUILT THAT THEY’RE NOT LIVING UP TO THEIR OWN EXPECTATIONS. HERE’S A LIST OF WHAT WORKING MUMS SHOULD STOP FEELING GUILTY ABOUT…
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any mothers return to their jobs because they enjoy working and it actually makes them a better mum, while countless don’t have a choice and need to contribute financially to their family. A survey by UK magazine Mother & Baby revealed that six out of ten mums welcome the financial and emotional independence of employment but feel guilty about leaving their children at home or in care and missing out on key moments in their development. Kasey Edwards, author of Guilt Trip said working mums also experience guilt when they find having a career is fulfilling. “I spent years feeling guilty about not finding motherhood totally and utterly fulfilling,” she said. “But I’ve now reached a point of being able to admit without a shred of guilt that I want to work.”
“It is not a reflection on how much I love my children; my desire to work isn’t about my children at all. It’s about me.” Mia Freedman, co-creator of online media platform Mamamia, said mothers, among other aspects of employment, enjoy the challenge of returning to work and having an identity away from being a mum. “We like the challenge and the satisfaction and the pride of knowing we’re good at what we do. We like that it means we can support ourselves or our children if we have to,” Mia wrote. And finally… “We like that we get to be out in the world with other adults and close the door when we go to the toilet.” Takeaway message – returning to work is important to keep an identity away from being a mum, interact with adults, support your family financially and ensure you continue to satisfy your professional desires.
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2. ASKING SOMEONE TO LOOK AFTER YOUR KIDS Returning to work also normally means dropping your children at childcare, calling on the grandparents to babysit, or hiring a nanny. It’s important to remember that you’re not the first mum in Australia to engage others to care for your children. In fact, the most recent ABS statistics reveal that under the age of two, 22% of children usually attend formal child care
members, in-home nanny care). For children five and over, 14% usually attend formal childcare and 32% informal childcare. Multiple research projects have shown that attending childcare is actually beneficial to a child’s development. Adelaide University research found children who receive quality childcare at age two to three, are more likely to be attentive and better deal with their emotions as they start school. Additional studies have shown that kids who attend childcare have a high-level ability to perform everyday skills and greater overall social development.
“I’VE NOW REACHED A POINT OF BEING ABLE TO ADMIT WITHOUT A SHRED OF GUILT THAT I WANT TO WORK.” (regulated care away from their home), while 32% usually attend informal child care (grandparents, older siblings, family
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If you continue to feel guilt over sending your kids to childcare and would prefer personalised in-home care, or you need help outside 9am-5pm, consider hiring a nanny. There are many advantages of using a nanny, including the flexibility of being able to create schedules that work for you. Nannies also provide consistency and stability which allows your children to develop sustainable bonds. Also, clear the idea that nannies are only for the rich and famous. In this modern era, nannies are increasingly becoming a critical part of the domestic operation. They provide permanence for your children and a level of care that is second only to family. Takeaway message: Don’t feel guilty about asking others to look after your children – it’s of benefit for you and your kids. The next time you want a date night with your partner or night out with your friends – hire a babysitter!
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3. THE SEARCH FOR BALANCE (it's a fairytale concept)
SOME OTHER THINGS WORKING MUMS FEEL GUILTY ABOUT – BUT SHOULDN’T!
The phrase ‘work–life balance’ became part of the US vocabulary in the mid-1980s, to describe the notion that you could equally balance your work and personal life, interests and passions. An admirable concept, but is this just a fairytale concept? Yes, according to many women. Angela Counsel, author of Secret Mums Business, firmly believes worklife balance does not exist. “Most women think work-life balance is simply the balance between life and work, with equal amounts on either side of the equation,” she said. “Imagine a see-saw with work on one side and the rest of your life on the other, one which you need to keep level. It’s completely unattainable and women are making themselves ill through stress and worry when they can’t get this perfect.” Takeaway message: there is no such thing as work-life balance, it’s an external pressure women put on themselves, and you’re just going to feel dissatisfied with the realisation you can’t reach it.
FINDING TIME FOR YOURSELF. As a working mum you’ll have much less time to yourself, but whether it’s reading, going to the gym, having a coffee without the kids – whatever you enjoy – don’t feel guilty about having time to yourself.
SAYING “NO”. You can’t do it all – it’s fine to say no to play dates, no to cooking an elaborate cake and no to drinks with colleagues after work.
SHARING PARENTING WITH YOUR PARTNER. The workload increases for everyone when you have children and the more you can share, the better. From drop-off and pick-up at childcare and working from home when your children get sick to sharing the domestic activity, parenting should be a shared responsibility where possible. >> To enquire about hiring a nanny visit Hessel Group, www.hesselgroup.com.au or call 08 8462 0222.
We understand that your family is unique. That is why we offer flexible care and support options that looks at your individual needs to find the best home based solution.
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KEEPING OUR KIDS SAFE IN CARS RED CROSS BABY SEATS IS A TEAM OF CHILD RESTRAINT SPECIALISTS WHO HAVE BEEN INSTALLING AND CHECKING CHILD RESTRAINTS FOR OVER 35 YEARS. LOCATED AT MILE END IN ADELAIDE, PORT PIRIE AND PORT AUGUSTA, THE TEAM ARE HELPING FAMILIES ACROSS ADELAIDE AND THE STATE WITH THEIR CHILD RESTRAINT NEEDS.
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tatistics show that children who are restrained incorrectly in a car are seven times more likely to be seriously injured in an accident. Children’s safety is paramount to the Red Cross Baby Seats team and choosing the right child restraint can be confusing, but here is some advice to help set you on the right track. Our very youngest passengers
need to travel in either a capsule/ carrier or rear facing car seat for at least 6 months, but usually much longer. Travelling in a rear facing position is the safest way. As our children grow they can progress to a forward facing car seat and they should stay in this type of child restraint until they grow out of it. Children, from around 4 years can then progress to a booster seat or harnessed seat for older children. Having a properly fitted and adjusted
child restraint is only the first step. Knowing how to use it correctly will give you the confidence that your precious cargo is safe while travelling. Choosing the right restraint for you isn’t always the same for someone else and other factors need to be considered such as: the type of vehicle, if you carry other passengers or have other child seats in the car. The team at Red Cross Baby seats will find what works best for you.
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your baby home? Our child restraint professionals can help you choose what’s right for you. We hire capsules and carriers, we sell new car seats and boosters, and we professionally install and instruct you on the use of your car seat even if you purchase your seat elsewhere.
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, ASK Melanie McVean al Midwife & Internation t Lactation Consultan
No one told me breastfeeding would hurt so much! Is this normal?
A: If this is your first time breastfeeding, then it is a whole new experience.
Your breasts are sensitive and so, yes, when starting out, it can be uncomfortable, very uncomfortable. Discomfort that is accompanied by nipple or breast damage however, may be caused by the way baby is latching, which could also be affecting their intake, so you should definitely seek some advice from a qualified health professional.
Q: CAN I
BREASTFEED WHILE ON MEDICATION?
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It really depends on the medication. There are quite clear guidelines on the safety of medications with breastfeeding, including many breastfeeding safe alternative medications, so you should discuss the fact that you’re breastfeeding with your care provider so that they can prescribe a medication that is safe for breastfeeding.
Q: MY BABY FEEDS SO OFTEN, A:
WHY IS HE NOT SATISFIED?
Babies need to feed every 2-3 hours, around 8 times in a day at minimum. If your wonderful baby is feeding much more often than that, try extending the length of each feed. There is no set amount of time, but your clever baby should look “full” and settled after a feed. Babies often fall asleep on the breast, but it doesn’t mean they are finished. Keep your baby stimulated and feeding effectively as long as possible. You can monitor milk intake through wees too. In the first couple of days, the number of wees should match the days since birth, but after day 6–7, your baby should be having at least 8 wees in a day. Any less than this could mean baby isn’t getting enough. If you don’t hear your baby swallowing when feeding or you have any questions or concerns about feeding, please contact your care provider right away because this is so important.
Q: I HAVE
REALLY SMALL BREASTS, WILL I BE ABLE TO FEED SUCCESSFULLY?
A: Breast size has nothing
to do with your ability to breastfeed. Small breasts are not a problem. Women’s bodies are amazing and their breastmilk supply is controlled by how much, and how effectively your beautiful baby feeds. Lots of skin to skin time can also stimulate more milk production.
Melanie McVean RM, IBCL: In addition to Co-founding No Pong, Australia's fastest growing deodorant brand with her husband Chris, Melanie is also a Registered Midwife, Clinical Educator, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant and advocate for women's health.
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