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OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
B A LT I M O R E J E W I S H H O M E . C O M
Dear Navidaters,
Dear Navidaters,
My question may be different than those you usually receive, but I would really appreciate your advice. I see many girls writing about their lack of suggestions, and I wanted to bring up the opposite side. As a mainstream guy from a good family who went to typical schools and yeshivas, I am struggling with the very real problem of too many suggestions. My inbox is flooded with resumes; I have shadchanim and mothers and random people in the street hounding me constantly; and I am more than overwhelmed. At this point, it is so hard to decide who to go out with and how to prioritize in an endless list of seemingly similar girls. On paper, they all sound great. The shadchanim always tell me this girl is “exactly what you’re looking for.” I am grateful to have a lot of suggestions for dates but it is still hard for me. I can either attempt to sort through huge piles of resumes that all seem the same and that every reference describes as “normal, beautiful, smart, fun, and growing” and still be confused or say yes to every person and spend lots of money and time and effort going on dates every night. Either way, I am not doing these girls or myself a favor as I am burned out and exhausted by even the thought of another date. What advice can you offer me? Thanks, Moshe Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.
Our intention is not to offer any definitive
conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
