Being Better in Siouxland . Spring 2018

Spring 2018

Stuff that just might make your life better

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Two local women fighting to save others from the darkness: Sister Shirley Fineran & Marissa Messinger

Steps to your

Dream Bedroom The germiest stuff you’ll touch today Spring cleaning starts here

First Comes Love

Then comes the stuff you don’t want to skip

Trending

-Health coaches -Photo restoration -Charcoal

Spring fashions Build your look

Come for Brunch Put together quick dishes they’ll devour

Shining a light in the darkness to

Stop Human Trafficking How you can help and maybe save someone you love

Take this magazine with you. When you’re done, give it away.

Last year, we helped over 800 children that were victims of abuse.

70%

were victims of sexual abuse.

78%

were under the age of 12.

40% were under the age of 6.

The number of children who are abused sexually, physically, and emotionally in our community is growing…doubling over the last ten years.

The Mercy Child Advocacy Center is the only one of its kind within 100 miles of Sioux City, assisting law enforcement and the courts in getting perpetrators off the street, allowing the abused to tell their story, keeping them safe and protecting their dignity.

For more information, or to give to the Mercy Child Advocacy Center, please call 712.279.2475.

Or, email Lea Greathouse at greathlj@mercyhealth.com.

99% know their abuser.

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CONTENTS BEING BETTER / SPRING 2018

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14 . Setting up a home office Making an office for two.

BETTER HOME

15 . 7 Steps=Dream bedroom Create your perfect space.

19 . Being a good pet parent Three things to help you prepare.

20 . Spring

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Where all the good stuff starts.

22 . Have you done it?

If not, you probably will.

23 . First comes love, then...

The stuff you don’t want to skip.

25 . Got skills? Let’s build

Oh, the things that women can do.

26 . Choose your color

What to know before you buy siding.

Cinnamon bites by Mark Karrrer. Dog family By nd3000 and bedroom By Gaf_Lila/Shutterstock.com

BETTER BODY

27 . Your future health It comes with options.

28 . The rules have changed New options when delivering baby.

29 . Maybe you can

What may change everything.

30 . Brain benders

BETTER NOW 7 . College Survivor

How to survive college debt free.

9 . Better stuff

Fun stuff to exercise your noggin.

12 . Top 5

Ways to improve your memory.

13 . My best advice

Stuff to make you smile.

Three experts weigh in.

10 . Tips & Trends

14 . Q & A: Who to call

What people are talking about now.

What to do when someone dies.

31 . The last laugh

You might not want to have it.

32 . What works for you

Weight loss that works for you.

33 . Live a real life

Conquering fibromyalgia pain. www.beingbettermagazine.com / Spring 2018

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43. Money matters Tips to save money.

44 . No fly zone?

Know the rules of flying your drone.

45. Spring forward fashion How to dress for the season.

48. What everyone agrees on

Help during an unplanned pregnancy.

BETTER FOOD

49 . Come for brunch

Delightful mid-morning options.

34 . The germiest stuff

Where to start your spring cleaning.

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35 . A big part of your life

Publisher

BEING BETTER MAGAZINE, LLC. Sioux City, IA

Editor-in-Chief

JENNIFER WINQUIST jennifer@beingbettermagazine.com

Copy editors

MIKARA BONHAM BARB MICKELSON

Photography

MARK KARRER

SALES Account Executive

JESSIQUE STEELE jess@beingbettermagazine.com

Are you seeing it?

35 . I broke my tooth

BETTER LIFE

37 . Stop human trafficking Shining light into a dark place.

©2018 ­Being Better magazine.

Please ask publisher’s permission before using content for other public purposes.

52 . Strawberry patch

Think beyond the shortcake.

54 . Food focus: Asparagus Welcome the harbinger of spring.

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New advances in getting a crown.

LETTER / From the editor

Warning: You may not want to read this. Or do you?

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Photo By Igor Zh/Shutterstock.com

am going to break so many rules right now it’s going to make your head explode. Wow...you’re still reading. You are a brave soul.

This page is supposed to be me telling you about what is so great in this issue. That is kind of silly for two reasons. 1. Most people don’t read this page. It’s okay, I’m trying not to take it personally. 2. If you are reading it then odds are you’ll keep going. Let’s move on.

The next, and probably bigger rule I’m going to break is talking about religion. Technically, I’m not going to talk about religion, I’m going to talk about Easter. Since this issue is coming out so close to Easter we didn’t really include anything - but, it’s such a big deal I didn’t want to let it go. And, well, it’s 11:30 at night and there is no one here to stop me.

As I’m writing this, America’s beloved pastor Billy Graham has just passed away. He never missed an opportunity to tell people about Jesus so I’m going to channel a little Rev. Graham right now. If you want to know what Easter and Jesus are all about hang with me. I mean, you were willing to see if your head exploded, so no sense wimping out now.

Easter is the culmination of the biggest rescue mission of all time. The Bible lays it out - God created us in his own image. We messed up and picked our way over God’s way (that’s sin). God gave us free will, and he let us figure out what we knew in the beginning: Letting God be our Father and leading our lives is actually what we want. To be loved and cared for. But, by the time we figured that out, the damage was done. Our relationship with God was broken, permanently.

But God loved us and he wasn’t giving up on us. He decided to rescue us from sin and ourselves. Somebody had to pay our bill, to fulfill our death sentence. He sent His Son Jesus to save us. He pushed you out of the hands of the executioner and laid down on the cross instead. He stamped your bill PAID IN FULL. He died for you. But then He came back to life. That’s Easter.

Your only job is to accept this gift of grace. If you want that Easter rescue mission to include you, just tell God. This is not a little thing. God wants everything - not just part of your life...all of it and all of you. You have to want to walk away from the sin in your life (that’s being repentant) and to follow Jesus. He’ll show you how to do life, how to get through things, how to live the life that will bring you peace and great joy. Oh, there’s going to be hard stuff, but you’ll have Jesus to see you through it.

If you’re ready, just invite Jesus Christ to come. Here’s what you might say: Heavenly Father, I know that I’ve messed up with You. Please forgive me and save me. I believe Your Son Jesus died for my sins and rose from the dead. I want to turn from my sins and I want You to take over my life and show me how to live. I want to trust and follow Jesus as my Lord and Savior.

In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.

Did your head explode? Pretty awesome I know. There, I’m done breaking rules. Go and enjoy the rest of the issue...and your life of Being Better!

Happy Easter From the Bible

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23 “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.” Proverbs 14:12 “But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear.” Isaiah 59:2 “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Romans 6:23 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this not from yourselves, it is a gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast.” Ephesians 2: 8-9 “Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” John 1:12 “That if you confess with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”

Romans 10:9

Jennifer Winquist, Editor-in-Chief jennifer@BeingBetterMagazine.com

And this is the way to have eternal life - to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth. -Jesus [John 17:3] www.beingbettermagazine.com / Spring 2018

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If you think a college education and college debt go hand in hand think again.

Siouxland local Phyllis Friederich has a plan that can change all that.

Now

How to survive college debt free

BETTER

Enter your future both brighter and lighter by lifting the financial burden.

College Survivor is a College Scholarship and Grant “Teaching Book.” Not only does this process provide you the “Why,” Where,” and “When,” it teaches you “HOW.” The College Survivor strategy coaches you step by step through the process. You will develop a Dream Team and execute a guided plan of action. You are no longer alone trying to apply for scholarships.

This book

∙ Mentors you so that you can define your goals. ∙ Coaches you to develop your Dream Team. ∙ Guides you on how to gather important info. ∙ Directs you to the best scholarship and grant resources. ∙ Shows you how to organize critical information. ∙ Helps you develop your plan of attack. ∙ Demonstrates how to execute your plan. ∙ Gives tips for evaluating your plan. ∙ Provides a tool to manage your bank of winnings.

Did you know that scholarships begin as early as kindergarten and continue to grad school and beyond? Whether you are a parent, grandparent, under-grad, graduate, trade school student, single parent, or adult looking to go back to school, you’ll find valuable insight and instruction in this book on how to get funds for higher education.

“No matter who you are, or what your situation is, there are ways to get money for college. Don’t give up on your dreams.” -Phyllis

Phyllis Friederich is a professional trainer and motivational speaker. When she graduated from Texas A&M as a single parent, she owed just $2,300. She made her mark in Corporate America earning two Presidential Cups in addition to numerous awards and appointments for leadership and team development.

In her new book College Survivor, Phyllis unveils her personal strategy for success by utilizing a teamwork method.

This method provides higher success rates because you don’t get stuck or overwhelmed.

Order direct starting March 1st or on Amazon starting May 1st.

Find out more at www.collegesurvivorbook.com. www.beingbettermagazine.com / Spring 2018

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BETTER / Now

Providing fun, safe & adaptive recreational experiences for children, teens, and adults with disabilities.

About Camp High Hopes Camp High Hopes offers a fun, safe, and adaptive recreational environment to waiver and nonwaiver campers with disabilities. Each day is designed to offer a fun, safe, and adaptive recreational environment for people with disabilities, their friends, and families. Our high quality programs include experiences in archery, canoeing, and outdoor education, amongst others, for individuals and groups with disabilities. Coming from Iowa, Nebraska, and South Dakota, campers arrive with anticipation and excitement, leaving with smiles, new friends, and fond memories for years to come.

Visit our Camp Sessions section online at www.camphighhopes.com for further details, session dates and more information.

Call 712-224-CAMP (2267) or register online at www.camphighhopes.com

Sleep Away Camp - $598 Day Camp - $208

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BETTER / Now

BETTER Stuff

Iced stuff

Now that it’s warming up you may be trading your hot brew for an iced coffee. If you like it chilled try this trick: Pour leftover coffee into ice cube trays and freeze. You can have your iced java without it getting watered down before you’re finish.

Smart aleck stuff

Jumpy Monkey coffee by Mark Karrer. Iced cofee By pui chatthaphat, Coffee cubes By Y Photo Studio, Open fridge By Andrey_Popov, and Hollywood star By melissamn/Shutterstock.com

A man was checking in with God on a few things.

He asked, “God, how long is a million years to you?”

God said, “A million years is like a second.” Then the man asked, “How much is a million dollars to you?”

God answered, “A million dollars is like a penny.”

The man smiled and said, “Could you spare a penny?”

God said, “Sure. Just wait a second.”

Shopping stuff

Samsung’s Family Hub refrigerator gives you the ability to see what’s inside your fridge from wherever you are...and it can give you the news and weather too. It’s about five grand. Want to know what’s inside your refrigerator? Take a picture before you go to the store. Then you can see if you need to pick up ketchup with your phone just the same. And you’ll have more money to buy your groceries since you didn’t get the high-tech fridge.

Quotable stuff

Funny stuff

Hey, this might be good as this!

Tasty stuff Jumpy Monkey exists to bring delicious coffee to Siouxland (and beyond) while employing disabled and special needs people. Great coffee for a great cause. Get some online for your home or office, or do a fund-raiser for your organization. Find out more at www.jumpymonkey.com or call - 712-943-3026.

306 1st St. Suite 1, Sgt. Bluff, IA

Available on Amazon

Gadgety stuff

“When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost.” ─Billy Graham

A few years ago we would have been so impressed with this, but now we kind of expect it. Many new cars now have apps available so you can unlock and start your vehicle or check your fuel level from your bedroom.

Leaving at the same time each day?

You can schedule your vehicle to start automatically from your phone.

“There are many ways of going forward, but only one way of standing still.”

─Franklin D. Roosevelt “Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.” ─ Dale Carnegie

Hollywood stuff

Maybe the most unlikely star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, in fact, the star in one of the most coveted spots right in front of Mann’s Chinese Theater, is none other than that of evangelist Billy Graham. He received the honor for his work in radio in 1989. When asked if he minded that his name would be embossed on a street that is often synonymous with sin, Rev. Graham didn’t flinch.

“We’re all sinners,” he replied. “Everybody you meet all over the world is a sinner. The word sin means you’ve broken with the laws of God. We’ve all done that. So I couldn’t condemn Hollywood Blvd any more than any other place.” www.beingbettermagazine.com / Spring 2018

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BETTER / Now

Tips & Trends Drapes are back. Sort of.

Meet your coaches

“Windows went through a minimalist phase with little to no window treatments in sight. That trend is losing some ground, and an old friend is coming back around but in an updated fashion.” That’s the word from Siouxland local Pam Kallsen, Decorator Consultant with JC Penney.

Let’s face it. There’s stuff that we just don’t know how to do.

The doctor tells us to eat better, to lose weight, and to reduce stress, but HOW? The truth is most people don’t know how to fuel their body the right way and what they should do to get the results they want. That’s where a coach comes in. Jeff and Erin, certified health coaches, can be your coach - and it’s probably not Siouxland locals, Erin Kiel and Jeff Bahrenfuss, what you’re with Strive Health & Wellness, help you reach thinking.

What’s new

“When people think of drapery, images of bulky fabric traversing an extensive rod system may come to mind.

Today, stationary panels act as accents to the window, adding style and character. Blinds or shutters provide the functional aspects for light control and privacy.”

What’s in style

If your windows need an update, contact Pam Kallsen, Decorator Consultant, at JCPenney at the Sioux City, IA store at Southern Hills Mall, and she can show you lots of options even for challenging window styles. You can reach her at 712-276-2747 ext. 287 or email her at pkallsen@jcp.com . Free in-home consultation.

your goals in a trending and effective way.

What it’s not. They’re not going to meet you at the gym.

You “meet” online, chat through emails, texts, and learn at group get-togethers with like-minded individuals. It’s meant to be comfortable and accessible.

Why you want it. Jeff says, “Everybody has different goals. There’s no one-size-fits-all program. We talk to figure out what’s going to work for you. Then we set up a plan.

We’re there to go from A to B with you.” Erin adds, “We’re available throughout your day to support you, motivate you, and answer your questions. Even when you don’t know what to eat at the restaurant or a social gathering.”

Jeff and Erin teach you how to control portions, habits of health, and how to prepare healthy meals - and that’s just the beginning. To find out more, message them: www.facebook.com/strivehealthandwellness Email: strivewellness@hotmail.com . 605-937-8450 or 605-937-8457

Charcoal. Your face will thank you.

Charcoal is all the rage for face care. Charcoal works like a magnet to draw out impurities, so it helps clarify and detoxify your skin.

Beautycounter’s charcoal bar soap and mask also contain green tea extract and witch hazel to refine pores and balance skin. It’s perfect for all skin types, particularly those who are oily or acne-prone. Charcoal Cleansing Bar, $24.

Balancing + Charcoal Mask, $48.

Balancing collection (right), $138.

To order go to www.beautycounter.com/haleyclements.

Beautycounter is 100% transparent with what is in each product. Our mission is to get safer products into the hands of everyone. Locally, contact Haley Clements with questions and to order products. Call or text 678-622-9109 . Email HaleyAClements@gmail.com

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Jeff & Erin by Mark Karrer. Window treatment image courtesy of JC Penney. Beauty Country products courtesy of Beauty Counter.

Pam says, “Gray tones are incredibly popular right now. Geometric and Moroccan patterns are trending, and florals are gaining more followers.”

That being said, Pam adds, “In the Midwest, you can’t go wrong with neutrals.”

BETTER / Now

Turning back the hands of time Time marches on and those old photos of family and friends show it. With today’s technology, old photos can find new life. Ed Rosston of FastFrame in Sioux City has the ability to restore old pictures and frame antique photos - even those in outdated shapes and sizes.

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ccording to Ed, every photo is going to fade over time.

“Light, heat, and humidity take their toll. In the Midwest, we’re not going to avoid that. But, we can slow down the process as much as possible.”

was an unusual shape and size, but we were able to do a custom frame that showcased this keepsake image beautifully.

“There are some things that are priceless and you want to do what you can to preserve them.”

Ed said, “With today’s knowledge and technology, you can restore and protect those irreplaceable images for decades to come.”

The top, left image was taken at a photo booth in 1927 and the near left image is a new, restored image.

Slowing down time

“If you want to protect an existing photo, putting it into a frame that protects it from UV light and the elements is key. Quality glass is a big component as is the matting that touches the picture.”

Bug splat By Basjan Bernard and car on road By Freedom_Studio/Shutterstock.com

What’s possible. “A young man

died, and the only picture of him was in a bad setting. We were able to replace the background, and it became a treasured gift for his father.

“We’ve dealt with a lot of things like tears, scratches, and fading. We can colorize, add certain effects, and in most cases give a great outcome. What we can’t do is make a fuzzy image clear. You can’t improve on detail that isn’t there.

Ed adds, “A woman came in with an old photo of herself that was in a broken frame.

The frame

Not just bad for the bug

As the weather warms up the bugs take flight, and many will meet their maker on the hood of your car. While they get the worst end of the deal, your car suffers too. John Bergdale with Hamilton Touchless says over time they can leave a lasting impression.

Bug tatoos?

"The importance of getting bugs and bird poo off is that it can actually leave a tattoo. The residue washes off, and may even feel smooth, but the pattern of the item is still there.

"Waxing is a big factor. It adds a layer of protection from bugs, birds, sun, and the elements and keeps them from damaging your vehicle."

It's a good idea to get your car washed and waxed now so it's ready for whatever nature dishes out.

A photo of the Storm Lake Fire Department in 1950 had seen better days. FastFrame restored and colorized it making the vintage photo a classic work of art.

FastFrame . 1929 Hamilton Blvd. . Sioux City, IA .

Open Mon-Fri 10 - 6 & Sat 10 - 4 . 712-224-2140 www.fastframesiouxcity.com . erosston@cableone.net

Time and exposure to light discolored the photo on the left, leaving the tell-tale shape of the original framing.

Technology today allows us to wipe away the years.

Hamilton Touchless . 12229 Hamilton Blvd.

Sioux City, IA . 712-255-3209 Open Mon-Fri 7-7 . Sat & Sun 8-6 www.hamiltontouchless.com www.beingbettermagazine.com / Spring 2018

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Top 5

BETTER / Now

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ways to improve

your memory

Stop multi-tasking

A study from Scotland found people with jobs that require lots of high-level, complex brain processes (engineers, for example) tend to have better memories when they were older.

Do things that require your brain to work like reading, playing an instrument, playing cards, and shouting answers during TV game shows to keep your brain honed and engaged.

Eat well

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Write things down so you can see what you want to remember.

Say out loud what you need to know.

“I need to go to the store for sandwich bags, cheese, and cucumbers.” Equate the list to something.

I have three children, and I need three things from the store.

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Get enough sleep Studies show, the less you sleep the more your cognitive abilities—including your memory—suffer.

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Move your body

Stacks of research have linked exercise to a more robust memory. Recent studies from the British Journal of Sports Medicine showed that among older women, bloodpumping exercise (like aerobics or swimming) significantly increased the volume of the brain’s hippocampus—which helps with verbal memory and learning. The authors say the more you move, the more oxygen and nutrient-carrying blood gets to and feeds your brain. So, move your body if you want to stimulate your memory.

Brain plug by Aksabir and green brain by Anton Balazh/Shutterstock.com

The Mediterranean diet is ranked as one of the most healthful diets on Earth. It focuses on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, beans, legumes, healthy fats, (like olive oil, nuts, and fish) and lean protein. Research shows that closely following the MedDiet results in slower rates of cognitive decline and improvements in cognitive function. Two specific benefits indicated were with long-term and working memory. For more on brain foods see page 53.

Engage your senses

My best advice

DR. CODY DAVIS

CHIROPRACTOR CHIROPRACTIC FIRST OF IOWA

MY BEST ADVICE:

“Help your body help you.”

“As a Chiropractor, I often see cases where patients have injuries that could easily be prevented. Over working, pushing themselves, or eating a poor diet. We work with patients to stay ahead of injuries, as well as how to incorporate activity and nutrition for optimal function. Create a lifestyle where you can help your body, before injury or illness, and get regular adjustments.”

Stretch and stay moving “This is a crucial one. We all want to keep our mobility. Stretching throughout the day will further help avoid injury and allow your body to keep going.”

Be aware of what you're doing “It is so important for people to know what is going in or on their bodies.

So much of what is tied to our health, our brain function, muscles, or inflammation, is due to what we put in our body. Eating a well-balanced diet, organic if possible, and being aware of the chemicals in every day products we use, is crucial to our health. Be aware. Read labels and know what’s going in your body.”

Chiropractic First . 4242 Gordon Dr. Sioux City, IA . 712-560-8913 www.chiropracticfirstofiowa.com Your first consultation is always free.

RHONDA CAPRON

OWNER RHONDA’S SENIOR SERVICES

MY BEST ADVICE:

“Make every moment a good moment.”

“When someone in your life has dementia, it can be hard to understand how to interact with them. Just realize that all they have is this one moment.”

How to relate “Talk to them. What did they like and who were they? A teacher, a traveler, or animal lover? Find pictures and talk about the things they loved. If they can’t communicate, you may need to carry the whole conversation. It’s important to hold their hand and look them in the eye.”

The hard topics “If they ask where a deceased spouse is, telling them could be devastating.

All you have to say is that he’s not here right now and then redirect them to focus on something else. All they have is this moment, so make it a good one.”

When it’s time for help “If you see them failing with personal care and safety is an issue, you need to make a change. That’s where we can help. We are like an extension of a good daughter, and give one-on-one contact – that’s what stimulates people.”

Rhonda Capron and her team provide non-medical care for seniors to keep them active in their own homes. 712-281-5631. www.rhondasseniors.com

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experts in their field weigh in

JOHN BAKER

CEO/PRESIDENT CW SUTER SERVICES

MY BEST ADVICE:

“Do this before summer.”

“Before it's 100 degrees take a few minutes to do some maintenance on your air conditioner now, and make sure it's ready to go.”

1. Shut the power off. “Turn off the circuit breaker for the air conditioner in the electrical panel, or turn off the 240 volt disconnect which is usually located outside by the air conditioner.”

2. Change the filter. “This will ensure that air flow is maximized and that the unit is running at max efficiency.”

3. Clean the air conditioner coils.

“Take the top off the unit and spray water from the inside to clean the coils.

Clean up leaves, plants, and debris from the coils and around the unit.”

4. Check the refrigerant piping.

“The piping usually has insulation over it. Make sure that it didn't kink or get bent during the winter which can result in leaks.”

“Turn the power back on and test it.

If your system seems to be cooling properly you should be ready for summer. If there's an issue, call a professional-again, before it's 1000.”

CW Suter Services . 1800 11th St . Sioux City, IA . 712-252-3007. www.cwsuter.com

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BETTER / Now Stuff people wonder about

Q&A Who to call

Setting up a home office for two

Q. If I come home and find my elderly mother has died, do I still call 911 - or the funeral home?

Meyer Brothers Funeral Homes in Sioux City 3220 Stone Park Blvd. & 6200 M’side Ave. 712-255-0131. Email: mbfh@cableone.net

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Set your focus. Is it too distracting for you to face your partner? Does facing a wall feel too confined? Maybe having your back to the window throws too much light on your computer screen. Where you sit in the room can make a big difference to feeling comfortable and at ease, so try different options for a few days to find the best one.

W

ith more and more people working from home, setting up a home office that functions well is huge.

If you and your partner are both working from home, creating an office that feels more permanent can make a lot of sense.

See the future. Plan for the now and the later. Think of all the ways you’ll use the space (maybe meeting clients or doubling for kids doing homework) and choose a solution that can grow with you.

But, before you buy the builtins, make sure you know what is going to work for you.

Give it a test drive. Work in your space for awhile to figure out what obstacles you run into. What will you need quick access to (files, printer, books)?

Make sure your built-in plan

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Man on phone By Spectral-Design , Working couple By nd3000, upscale office and black and white office By Rodenberg Photography, and blue office By Artazum/Shutterstock.com

A. First, call 911.

Dale Meyer with Meyer Brothers Funeral Homes says, “You should call 911 in almost all instances. The only exceptions might be if the deceased person has been under a doctor’s care and the death isn’t unexpected, then you may start with their doctor’s office. If they’ve been on Hospice, contacting their nurse or Hospice provider is fine.

“Someone who is a medical professional has to officially pronounce the person dead. People who are both untrained and invested emotionally may assume their loved one is gone when they aren’t.

Paramedics who come on a 911 call can make that determination.

“When your loved one has been pronounced dead, then the funeral home can be called. They will come to the place of death to remove the body and set up an appointment with the family to make the funeral arrangements.”

accommodates those crucial items.

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to your

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Dream Bedroom

By All About Space/Shutterstock.com

The bedroom of your dreams awaits, and getting it might not be as hard [or expensive] as you may have imagined.

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7 Steps to your

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s your bedroom an oasis for your weary body? Is it a place you love? Is it your dream space? If the answer is no, but you’d like it to be all those things, we have some ideas. In seven strategic steps, we’ll walk you through everything you need to do to get there. Plus, we’ll be mindful that not everyone has loads of time, money, or skills like the people we admire on HGTV.

[Step 1: Find inspiration

Find what you love. Go through your magazine images, Pinterest pins, Houzz, and HGTV ideas. Find two or three that really speak to you and make a list of what you specifically like. Nail down some details like colors, furniture styles, bedding looks, accessories, and window treatments that you’d like to have.

Tip for success: If your budget is tight or non-existent, or you just like an adventure, start looking for your needs at secondhand shops or rummage sales. You may find the perfect piece and save hundreds.

Tip for success: While you may love your inspiration room, use it for direction not something to duplicate exactly. Not only will this keep you from being disappointed when you can’t find everything exactly, it will also allow you to make it uniquely yours.

[Step 2: Take inventory

Know what you have and what you need.

Unless you are starting fresh, or have nothing to reuse or

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Black bedroom By Stephen Coburn, blue floral bedroom By Gaf_Lila, and tan bedroom By Rodenberg Photography/Shutterstock.com

re-purpose, take stock of what you are starting with. If your inspiration room features a seat at the end of the bed think through options you may already have - an old trunk or foot stool, maybe a sofa table (imagine cutting the legs down).

Make a list of what you have and what you’ll need to buy.

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[Step 4: Freshen up

Begin the transformation. Painting or papering the walls will freshen up any space - and can be motivating to complete the project.

Tip for success: DO NOT pick out a paint swatch in the store and buy paint immediately. Bring the swatch home and see what the color looks like in your room with your lighting. You may be surprised at how different the color looks. It’s a good idea to get the little paint samples and paint an area on your wall to make sure you really like it before you have gallons of it.

[pStep 3: Set your focus

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Start with what’s important. For most bedrooms, the focal point is usually the bed, but it could be some artwork or a great rug. Start with what’s important to you and build from that. Hold up other elements you’re considering against your focal piece to determine if it works together. This helps you move confidently toward your goal.

Tip for success: Don’t paint until you’ve identified your main style element. It’s a lot easier to find

[Step 5: Floor it

Lay a foundation. Bare floors are still the trend but most people prefer a little warmth and comfort underfoot in the bedroom.

There are two popular options for rugs in the bedroom: a room-size rug or a bedside one. For a smaller option try a runner, sheepskin, or small area rug to step out of bed on. If you want a big rug, at its largest it should be at least a foot away from the wall on all sides.

Tip for success: If you already have carpet and the floor underneath isn’t pretty or would require a ton of work, try putting an area rug over the existing carpet. Area rugs are great items to look for secondhand.

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[Step 6: Have a good bedside manner

Make your space functional. Good bedroom lighting is a must and you can’t go wrong with matching bedside lamps. After all, you’ve got books to read, a cell phone to charge, and a place for your coffee in the morning.

Whether you use a crate, vintage suitcase, or standard end table it’s best to have them about mattress height up to six inches higher. If you are replacing overhead lighting, you won’t regret a dimable option.

[Step 7: Show some style

It’s all about the details.

A lot of a bedroom’s character comes through in the accents. Look at your room and see what’s missing, where it feels empty or boring.

Add plants, pillows, pictures and art. Unless you have a very tall headboard, there are two options that almost always work well.

Choose one large piece of art or create a grid with framed pieces that are the same size.

Tip for success: Remember, there are design guidelines but in the end all that matters is that you and whoever you share the room with love it. Make it a comfortable, functional, and an inviting space where you can truly live and rest.

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Tip for success: Another option in place of bedside tables is to hang floating shelves on each side of the bed - or just one side if space is an issue. Hang them about mattress height.

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ou see those bundles of fur and it’s hard to resist the cuteness. The cuddliness. The companionship. Before you rush to the shelter to adopt your barking (or purring) bundle of joy, you need to do a little assessment. A little soul searching and reality check. Too many people make quick decisions without considering everything. Let’s make sure you make the right decision for you and your pet.

an emergency arose. Where will you keep the pet when you leave? Are you willing to deal with inevitable messes, training, and scheduling your time for walks, feedings, and play? A pet will be part of your day-to-day life. Make sure you are ready to make him part of the family.

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Do your homework. Before you go to pick out your pet, know what type of pet is going to work for you. If people in your family have allergies a bishon or poodle might be best. Do you have room for a big dog? If you have kids or other pets in the home, that needs to be a big consideration.

If you hate vacuuming you should know what breeds shed less. Can you handle a high-energy pet who needs lots of exercise, or do you want one that’s more docile?

Understanding what your needs and expectations of a pet are will help you get the right one that fits with your lifestyle.

Be kind. Understand that pets are a part of the family.

Don’t think, “It’s just a dog/cat and it can stay outside.”

These animals are breathing, living creatures and they have feelings. Be ready to give them a great life.

Embrace reality. A pet can’t be what we want today and not what we want tomorrow. A pet can live 15+ years. If you’re thinking, “We can try it and see,” reconsider. This decision should be a life-long commitment. Adopting a pet is much like having a child in your home. Think through how much it will cost to feed your pet each week, how much vaccinations will be, and if you’d have funds if

Once you’re ready to be a great pet parent, the Humane Society staff has worked with the pets there and will help you find just the right pet to be part of your family.

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Where all the good stuff starts

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home, get comfortable, and enjoy what we’ve worked so hard for.

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suggestions to grow a healthy lawn, clean up your landscaping, and get your outdoor area on the right track.

Clear the field “The first job is to give your lawn some breathing room. We need to get rid of all the dead stuff left over from fall and winter - that’s called dethatching the lawn. We use a power rake, but you can achieve the same result with a hard rake. This opens up the lawn so the fertilizer can actually get to the roots and not just sit on top of all the debris.”

Timing: April How to: Go over the lawn twice. Rake horizontally then vertically to bring

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hy on earth would anyone live in the Midwest when we have bitterly cold winters here and uncomfortably humid summers?

Maybe it fulfills a deep need to justifiably complain about something.

Maybe it’s because we are a tough crowd who believes dealing with hard things makes us even stronger. And maybe we see that we can have a good life in spite of our occassional weather challenges. When spring comes, we welcome it with open arms. As things come to life outdoors, so do we.

It’s no wonder we work at creating outdoor spaces where we can feel at

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up all the dead grass and debris. Use a broom rake to gather it all up.

Get growing “If you didn’t seed in the fall, it’s good to do in the spring because Mother Nature is helping you with moisture, so you don’t have to water as much.

Adding more seed to an existing lawn is called over-seeding and is something to do each year until your lawn is very thick. Over-seeding simply means adding more grass seed to thicken up your lawn. Having a thicker lawn is the first step in keeping your lawn healthy and helps prevent weeds (it chokes them out).”

Timing: Mid-April is probably a good time. The ground needs to be at least 550 for grass seed to germinate.

How to: Use a seed spreader to disperse seed evenly across the lawn or add to thin or bare areas.

Clean it up “Cleaning up the landscaping along your foundation where you have mulch or rocks will brighten things up and add curb appeal. Get all the dead stuff cleared out around your perennials and shrubs. If you have mulch, each year some of it deteriorates, settles, or blows away so it will need to be refreshed to keep weeds and debris out. Top it off or replace it. This is usually a lot easier to do before things start growing in.”

Timing: April/May How to: This is probably going to involve getting your hands dirty.

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When you want a beautiful lawn and just want someone to come and take care of it for you, Curt and Chad will be happy to help. They’ll come out and give free estimates and discuss your goals and options.

application cycle. It’s easier to be proactive then reactive to a problem later.”

Timing: If you overseed, put a starter fertilizer to get the grass going.

Otherwise, wait to fertilize until you’ve mowed once.

How to: Follow the product instructions.

Stop the invasion “If you have had a weed issue in the past, it’s not a bad idea to do a preimmergent which is a barrier that stops crabgrass and any weeds.”

Timing: Mid-April/May. If you’re over-seeding, you’ll need to make sure the new grass is growing and has been mowed twice. If you seed early enough you may be able to do a pre-immergent application before weeds emerge.

How to: Follow the product instructions.

Feed your lawn “Fertilizing helps your lawn stay healthy. We use a golf-course grade fertilizer that provides a slow release which is best for the longevity of your lawn. Plus, you only need four applications of fertilizer if it’s the good stuff. Lower quality feed often suggests seven applications.

“Good fertilizer is going to give you a healthier lawn and a better stand of grass. If you don’t feel you need to fertilize the odds are weeds will come.

A sparse lawn gives space for weeds.

It’s not a bad idea to get on a regular

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The Crosstrek is really reliable and Consumer Reports put it at the top of its class with a rating of 90.

“If you haven’t gotten into an SUV or crossover yet, it’s probably just a matter of time. How do I know?

Because I’m Jensen.”

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First comes love

Then comes...

[the stuff you don’t want to skip] WITH JEFF THELANDER Spiritual Formation Director Sunnybrook Community Church

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hen you’re in love, you think that feeling is invincible. That you’ll always feel the same way. Remember that the people who are now divorced thought the same thing.

Whether you are planning on getting hitched one day or are hitting some pitfalls inside your marriage, now’s the time to learn some things.

Jeff Thelander, who mentors couples at Sunnybrook Church, has seen marriage from the inside (being married for 20 years) and from the backside (meeting with married couples who are struggling). Let his insight speak into your relationship.

Make relationship investments.

Jeff says, “The biggest thing that wrecks relationships is not knowing how to effectively communicate.

When people come in for premarital counseling, we give them a survey to complete. Couples answer 150 questions on things like handling finances, religion, how they’ll discipline their children, what the roles in the home with be, and how often they’ll have sex. They go in thinking they’ve talked about everything, but they get questions on topics from an angle they hadn’t thought of. When we compare both sides they see where their answers don’t line up. That’s where the conversations need to happen.

“You can’t know exactly what it’s like until you’re doing life in the marriage, but you can be equipped to deal with things.

Make investments ahead to prepare for trouble later.

You have to learn how to talk about things.”

to break down into trying to outdo the hurt the other is inflicting. We end up making darts out of our past issues. Decide that your spouse has your best interests at heart. When an issue comes up tell yourself, ‘I’m going to choose to believe the best.’ When your partner has to work late don’t think, ‘He just doesn’t want to have to deal with the kids tonight!’ Instead, remember to believe the best. ‘He works so hard to provide for us.’

If you really think there’s a problem, share your concerns from the ‘believing the best’ mindset. ‘Honey, I know you work hard to provide for us,

Believe the best.

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What’s your love language?

“We take our couples through Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages book. You need to know how your spouse feels loved. For some it’s WORDS OF AFFIRMATION hearing they did a good job, that you’re proud of them. For others it’s ACTS OF SERVICE - getting help carrying the groceries, emptying the dishwasher. Some people like RECEIVING GIFTS. Some need to have QUALITY TIME with the one they love. Others respond to PHYSICAL TOUCH - a hug, holding hands in public.

“Knowing this information is sometimes used negatively when we’re mad. If I know my wife’s love language is acts of service and we’ve had a fight, I may decide that I don’t feel like helping out. I’m not going to take care of the dishes like she’d like.

“That ususally doesn’t work to solve the problem.

It typically just begins a negative cycle.

“When my wife comes home, tired, and sees that I haven’t taken care of the dishes, she decides to withhold words of affirmation that make me feel loved.

“Instead, use your love language to reverse the cycle. If we’ve had a hard day and I come home and pick up the house before she gets home, she feels that love. It’s far more likely to set the stage for healing - not going toward more hurting.”

Remember, love is a verb.

“Love is an action. Yes, it’s a feeling, but it’s not what drives us. I love when I act even when I don’t feel like it. I do things for my wife regardless, sacrificially. We can fortify our marriage by setting our default to act in love at all times. When there are times of frustration, disconnection, or we’re drifting apart, I need to return to speaking into what my spouse’s love language is. That’s how we serve each other.”

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The heart of building strong marriages is knowing our spouse’s love language and pouring into that. That’s love in action.

“Whatever you pour into your spouse the more likely they’ll pour the same into you. Will that be hurt or healing?”

Get some help from The Guy you invited to your wedding.

“Spend time praying not just for each other but with each other. Don’t disregard this.

This can be such a powerful thing. If this is weird for you, just start by holding hands and talk about what you’re thankful for. Once we get to a point where we’re comfortable sharing thankfulness, it gets easier. Then, when we’re going through a stressful time in our marriage, with a child, our job, or another family member, you talk to God about that. ‘God at this time we just need...’ and you spend maybe two to three minutes. Pretty soon it’s this normal thing.

“Prayer is so critical. Because when we make a vow before God for our marriage, we should invite him into it every day. I have never had a couple that I’ve counseled say, ‘I think our biggest problem is that we pray too much.’ The opposite is typically true. When people are stressed and things are going bad people often can’t remember the last time they’ve prayed.”

There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage.

“We have couples at Sunnybrook Church who meet with couples who are going through hard times. Those couples are capable of understanding struggles, because they (me included) have all been through them. It’s in the mistakes that we’ve made that help us help others.

Couples think they are the only ones in conflict. Every couple will have conflicts. It’s not about having conflict, it’s about what you do to process it.”

“Ephesians 5:21-33 gives a beautiful picture of what marriage should look like. If both sides go into it with love and with a mindset to serve the other in great ways, it’s a win-win. It’s never too late to choose to take that path either.”

When you’re in love, don’t skip key steps in ensuring its survival.

If you’d like to find out about the premarital quiz and mentoring, OR if you and your spouse are struggling, you can reach out to Jeff Thelander at Sunnybrook Church. Email him at JeffT@Sunnybrookchurch.org.

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but I really want you here too. What can we do?’

“Talk about it with love and figure out a solution. The key is communication.”

Got skills?

Let’s build Oh, the things that women can do

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hen we think of women building a home it’s our tendency to envision them doing that from the inside out nurturing their family, decorating, cleaning, making meals, and negotiating soccer schedules. But this is the 21st century and women can and will do so much more. Sometimes building a home from the outside in.

If you’re ready to get your hands dirty, National Women Build Week (NWBW) is a week-long event that invites women to actively help families build strength, stability, and independence through housing. It’s an annual event created by Habitat for Humanity’s Women Build program and partnered with Lowe’s.

The program invites women to devote at least one day to help families in their community and spotlight the homeownership challenges faced by women.

NWBW is held each year during the week leading up to Mother’s Day - Saturday, May 6 through Friday, May 12, 2018. Siouxland Habitat for Humanity hosts this event during this time to reinforce the

message that every woman can make a difference through learning and using construction skills. Across the nation, more than 98,000 women from all 50 states have volunteered at the nine previous NWBW events.

Though our neighborhoods are comprised largely of women and children, they are also the population’s most likely to be affected by poor living conditions. Their Women Build events provide the opportunity for women to take a proactive step in serving their communities.

Their events are available to any woman who wants to learn to build and construct a home. No experience is necessary. Volunteers work

under the guidance of construction professionals and alongside other volunteers and future Habitat homeowners. Whether you’re learning a new skill or simply adding a few to your tool belt, this is a rewarding experience for all involved, and improves the community that you share.

Women Build is also a terrific way to involve your friends and family in crucial work with a lasting impact.

Women helping women sends a positive and powerful message.

You can also come alone and make new friends! The atmosphere is collaborative and friendly.

If you’re ready to learn some new skills, use ones you already have, and help women build a home and a life, join the fun.

For more information about the 2018 Women Build event in Siouxland or to get involved, call 712-255-6244 ext 200 or email office@siouxlandhabitat.org.

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a couple of tips before you get going.

"Steel and vinyl are both very popular right now and the quality, function, and options are better than ever before. Once you decide on your preference of steel or vinyl, the biggest factor is looking at the warranty of the product you are going to get."

Keep your color. “Your siding is going to be exposed to the harshest elements and fading can happen. It's important to note the warranty in this area. It will spell out how many hunter units they allow. In other words, how much fading is acceptable before they will replace it."

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normal homeowner's policy."

Read before you cut. “For do-ityourself-ers, make sure you look through the warranty before you do your installation. If you have problems later on and you haven't done it by their instructions, your warranty may be void.

"Two items that trip up many is cutting the pieces a little too long and nailing the siding on too tight. The siding needs to be able to move as the cold and heat causes it to contract and expand.”

"To make sure you're not sorry later, find the best product with the warranty you feel comfortable with, and pick your color from that line.

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Your future health it comes with options

When Dr. Hannah Dewald joined the team at Siouxland Obstetrics & Gynecology, PC she brought a long-awaited skill set (see pg 28) and the future of how patient care is evolving. One that gives people options.

What do patients want these days?

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Dr. Hannah Dewald with Siouxland OBGYN has two favorite things she likes to do “I love hanging out with my family (husband Matt and kids Leif, 1, and Annika, 3) and I love my job.”

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“They want to have a say in their care. In the past, doctors were trained to be more paternalistic - I’m the doctor and this is the way it’s done. I think newer docs are being trained to share in the decision making with the patient. I feel as someone’s doctor I’m here to tell you what I think is safest and best, to share the pros and cons of different options, but ultimately the decisions for your body are up to you.”

What is important when people are choosing a doctor?

“To find a doctor that they trust, that listens, and who takes their concerns seriously.”

Why did you choose obstetrics?

“When I saw how OB docs were there for women at such an important, crucial, and memorable time in their lives, that really impressed me. I saw them jump up in emergency situations and save babies and moms. Plus, it’s the only place in the hospital where patients are excited to be there.”

Are there a lot of late night calls?

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“My first night on call here I had a first-time mom who was struggling, and I was afraid she was headed for a c-section. I was able to adjust the baby in the birth canal and baby was able to be delivered naturally. It’s in those moments that I can’t believe I get to do this for my life. You know you picked the right field when you get called in the middle of the night and you don’t mind because you’re excited to be there for your patients.”

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The doctors of Siouxland Obstetrics & Gynecology, PC. From left, Dr. Melissa Holtz, Dr. Tauhni Hunt, Dr. Paul Eastman, Dr. Angela Aldrich, and Dr. Hannah Dewald.

Why is it a big deal?

Dr. Dewald shares, “Women finally have choices. Women feel differently about how to deliver their baby.

Having a vaginal delivery is a unique experience and some women don’t want to miss that.

“It’s important to note that many people think having a c-section is no big deal. It’s perceived as, ‘Oh, I’m just going in to having my baby.’ As

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delivery doctors and obstetricians, we see it as major surgery. With surgery there are risks. You can develop scar tissue in your abdomen and pelvis so there’s more possibility for injury to tissue with future pregnancies, you have a little bit longer recovery time, plus more risk for infection and dangerous complications like blood clots in the legs or lungs.

In the 1970’s just 5% of women had a c-section. In 2016 the rate was 32%.

“There are risks with a vaginal delivery as well. The good news is that now there are more options for women to make the best decision for their family and situation.”

Who’s a good/bad candidate?

“We’ll talk with each patient who’s had a c-section to see if doing a vaginal delivery makes sense. You might not be a good candidate if you’ve had more than two c-sections, have a higher BMI, or if your last c-section

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If I want a VBAC can I still go to my family doctor?

“Yes. If your family practice doc takes care of you and you want a VBAC you just need to have an OBGYN on hand for the procedure when you deliver.

Your doc can refer you to us. We like to see patients starting around 28 weeks along.”

Times change and with advances so do the rules. Have a conversation with your doctor and know that you now have options.

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very woman who has had a baby knows the rule: If you have a c-section, every birth after that will also have to be by c-section. Now, we all know that rules were made to be broken, but this one doesn’t even qualify as a rule anymore. Now you have a choice.

Dr. Hannah Dewald with Siouxland Obstetrics & Gynocology, PC was performing a procedure known as a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) in Colorado. When she came to Sioux City, it wasn’t an option for women here - unless they were willing to go to Omaha or Sioux Falls to have their baby. She and the Siouxland OBGYN team changed all that.

delivery was pretty recent. We’ll also look at the reason for your last c-section. For example, if you were pushing for a few hours and then needed a c-section - big baby vs. small pelvis - that may be a factor.

“We’re here to counsel each patient on what is safe and what their plans are for their family. If they only want one or two children, it’s not as big of a problem if they do want a c-section.

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few years back, we were part of a health fair at a large Siouxland business. A woman who had attended the fair ended up coming into the store looking for a pair of shoes for her very sore feet. What she really got was something pretty amazing," reports Jim Ewoldt with Peak Performance.

“A week after she bought the shoes, she came back into the store - she was looking for me. She explained who she was and mentioned her recent purchase. I remembered her and then she said, 'These shoes saved my job and my marriage.'”

A job and a marriage

“She explained that her job required her to be on her feet all day and that it had taken its toll. Her feet had been so terribly, terribly sore. She had many years in with the company and didn't want to leave and lose her benefits, but her husband was feeling abandoned because she never felt like doing anything after work. She felt she was going to have to quit her job or lose her husband. It's crazy to think all she needed was a new pair of shoes.

“We see it all the time. People don't

“Of course we also have shoes for sports and running too. Sometimes races come down to the shoes. Maybe, just maybe, the race for love could be affected too. have the right size or the right type of support. We assess each situation and make sure we get people in the right shoe for their needs.

Frostbite in a fox hole

“We had a gentleman come in well, he was brought in by his wife and daughter. He was a Korean War vet who'd gotten frostbite on his toes in a fox hole. He had been wearing a very soft shoe which is nice and soft, but it's like walking on a water bed - there's no stability. We put him into the right shoe and as he walked across the room. His wife had tears in her eyes and the daughter was smiling from ear to ear. They said he hadn't walked that well in years.

“No one wants to lose their mobility. No one wants to need help walking.

People have pride and want to do things for

“We had a guy who was just an okay runner so he wasn't really enjoying it as much as he wanted. He came in for some advice and we got him into a better shoe. He started running more races and winning more races. He met a gal at one of those races. They got married and have three kids. If we didn't have shoes that helped him love running, he wouldn't have the love of his life.

“Okay, so maybe that didn't have a lot to do with us, but our stories are why we do what we do. We see how important it can be for someone to make one little change. Something as simple as getting shoes that help you in your life may take you from can't to maybe I can.

“We hope we can help you with your story.”

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Brain benders

BETTER / Body

Find the fruit I’m a fruit. If you take away my first letter I’m a crime. If you take away the first two letters I’m an animal. If you take away my first and last letter I’m a type of music. What am I?

Being human

You are a human, so of course you know what is going on inside your own body. Right?

Bone up 1. How many bones are in an adult’s body?

A. 86 C. 206 B. 97 D. 310

Water, water everywhere 4. What percentage of our bodies are water?

A. 40% C. 66% B. 52% D. 71%

2. Where are the smallest bones found?

A. Hand C. Ear B. Foot D. Back

A wild hair 5. How many hair follicles are on the average human head?

A. 75,000 C. 225,000 B. 100,000 D. 300,000 Think fast 6. At what speed does a sneeze happen?

A. 50 mph B. 100 mph

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Sudoku

Name that food

First, I threw away the outside and cooked the inside. Then I ate the outside and threw away the inside.

What did I eat?

Word grid

Fill in each empty space with the vowels below so that each column and each row is a word.

7 5 2 3 8 5 4

A A E E I O O

D R P R P D P N S Who’s the doc?

A dad and his son were riding their bikes and crashed. Two ambulances came and took them to different hospitals. The man’s son was in the operating room and the doctor said, “I can’t operate on you. You’re my son.”

How is that possible?

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Every sudoku has a unique solution that can be reached logically. Enter numbers into the blank spaces so that each row, column, and 3x3 box contains all the numbers 1 to 9.

9

9 8

6 4 3 2 6 1

7 8 9 4

6 7 ANSWERS Find the fruit: It’s a grape: Rape, Ape, Rap Body quiz: 1) C. 2) C. The smallest bones in the human body are found in the ears. There are three tiny bones that are found in your middle ear - the malleus, incus, and stapes. 3) B. 4) C. 5) B. 6) B Name that food: Corn on the cob.

Who’s the doc? The boy’s mother is the doctor.

7 1 D R I P

1 2 3 7 5 8 3 9

R O D A

O P E N

P E A S

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It’s a stretch 3. If your digestive system was stretched out how long would it be?

A. 10’ C. 50’ B. 30’ D. 70’

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You might want to avoid having

The last laugh WITH SIOUXLAND UROLOGY ASSOCIATES PC

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typically nothing to worry about. More women get it than men and it is very common.”

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Can I stop it from happening?

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hat’s the deal?

Suddenly you can’t laugh, lift anything, or God forbid, sneeze without wetting yourself a little. Is something broken in there?

Siouxland Urology Associates has the answer. “People have heard the commercials on TV about overactive bladder but that has some different causes. When you leak a little urine when you exert yourself, that’s probably urinary incontinence.”

Should I be worried?

“If you’re concerned, see a doctor to rule out any other issues and for the best advice for your particular situation.

We incorporate different tests to determine bladder issues. We may do

Spicy, sugary, and acidic foods may trigger some incontinence.

What’s going on down there?

“Your bladder is a hollow organ in the lower abdomen that stores urine.

Overactive bladder is a condition where the bladder squeezes urine out at the wrong time. Symptoms for that can include going eight or more times a day and/or a couple of times at night. You may have a sudden, strong need to urinate immediately - and you might not make it to the restroom.

Urinary incontinence is a loss of bladder control. If you only lose control when you do something like sneeze, laugh, or cough that’s called stress incontinence.”

“Whether you haven’t experienced it yet or want it to stop, there are a few ways that might help. Depending on your situation, it may just be a temporary issue. It’s not unusual for women to have a little incontinence during their pregnancy.

“Focusing on overall health is a good start. Being overweight can put pressure on your organs. Smoking, some medicines, foods, and some diseases (like diabetes) may be playing a part too. Eat more fiber to prevent constipation - which is a cause of urinary incontinence.

Your kidneys filter 120-150 quarts of blood each day to produce up to 2 quarts of urine. Ureters carry the urine from the kidneys to the bladder.

urine tests, x-rays, and an examination of the bladder wall with a scope called a cystoscope. Treatment depends on the cause of the problem. It may include medicines and, in severe cases, surgery.

“If your leaking is simply a case of stress incontinence, while that may be embarrassing and uncomfortable, it’s

“Often, as we age, the muscles in our bladder and urethra lose some of their strength. For women, weak pelvic floor muscles may be the culprit so strengthening your core and pelvic floor muscles may help.

“If things don’t improve, see your doctor so you can feel free to laugh again.”

Yoga and Pilates’ movements can help to strengthen your core and pelvic floor muscles.

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BETTER / Body

Weight loss: What works is

What works for you

A “

WITH DR. SUNNAH DOESKEN

board-certified family medicine physician.

your weight - genetics, work, life - so your approach needs to be customized.

There are so many options and it’s just knowing what your goals are to determine how you’ll get there.”

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What are YOUR goals?

Dr. Doesken says, “As a doctor, it’s my job to tell you what’s going on and to offer suggestions that I believe will be best. Then, we discuss it and determine the course of action to take.

“I’m just an advisor. I’m here to be a cheerleader and a problem solver. You are in charge of deciding on the goal.

We can work together at getting there.”

Put the goal in sight “Set small goals, not one giant one.

You’ll feel much better to reach a one month goal of losing a few pounds than a big goal you won’t see for many months. Let little victories spur you on.”

Be realistic “Don’t change everything at once.

Choose one thing to start with (like watching portions, cutting out sugary beverages, or working out). When that becomes a habit, add the next thing.

“Setbacks are likely so having a support system (your doctor, health coach, nutritionist, or friend who can motivate you) will keep you on track.

“Uncovering what works for you is a process - one that will work for you if you just continue moving forward.”

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man came into my office. He knew he needed to lose weight, but every plan said that he’d have to give up so many of his favorite foods.

He was willing to give up some, but he knew it would be so hard to cut out eating tortillas. It was part of his culture. Part of his family’s lifestyle.”

Dr. Sunnah Doesken at Family Medicine Center had a solution: “Don’t give them up.”

“No plan is going to work for everyone. Many things factor into

Dr. Sunnah Doesken is a

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Conquering fibromyalgia pain so you can

Live a real life WITH MIDWEST PAIN CLINICS

Midwest Pain Clinics . 211 Sioux Point Rd., Suite 200 . Dakota Dunes SD, 57049 605242-3456 . www.midwestpainclinics.com

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f you suffer with constant pain, grogginess, and mental cloudiness, it’s hard to be fully engaged in life. It’s like a half-life.

Let’s live a real, full life instead.

Fibromyalgia is a disorder of widespread pain that affects the muscles and soft tissue. Plus, people feel drained, sleepy, and experience memory and mood problems. Researchers believe that fibromyalgia messes with how your brain processes pain signals. It seems to turn up the knob on painful sensations.

Who’s at risk?

According to Dave Welch, PA with Midwest Pain Clinics, “Women are far more likely to get fibromyalgia. It’s pretty rare for a man to get it. Typically, we see it in women over age 45. Other than that, there’s not much to go on to know who’s at risk. Research hasn’t given any specific answers yet. We just don’t know why people get it.”

Do I have it?

Dave says, “With so little info on why this occurs, there’s no way to know for certain, other than eliminating what it’s not. The docs will do tests to weed things out. They’ll rule out any autoimmune disorder – like rheumatoid arthritis or lupus. If they’re left with no cause they can pinpoint it to, fibromyalgia is the possibility that’s left.”

Dr. Cook (third from right), David Welch, PA (center), and nurse practitioner Amy Klimisch (third from left) and their staff work together so you can participate in life again.

Common symptoms • Widespread pain. You have pain that has lasted for months and the pain is in several areas of your body.

• Fatigue. You feel groggy even though you’ve gotten rest.

Sleep may be disrupted by pain or things like restless legs syndrome and sleep apnea.

• Fibro-fog. You feel like you can’t focus or concentrate on mental tasks.

How do I deal with the pain?

According to Dave, “Everyone with fibromyalgia is unique. Where your pain is, how bad it is, and how it’s limiting you. So, just like how fibromyalgia is diagnosed - by a process of elimination - that’s how we approach pain management. There are a lot of options and we start with the most natural and go from there. If something doesn’t work we try the next one until we find a solution for you.

“While there are over-the-counter medications and prescription drugs we can try, here are a few options that may help that are more natural with fewer risks of side effects.”

Natural remedies. “First of all, eat right. A healthy diet may do wonders.

Adding things like turmeric, fish oil, B12 and folate (folic acid), magnesium, and St. John’s wart have shown to be helpful for many.”

Physical activity. “Keeping active is critical for your fibromyalgia care.

Things like yoga, swimming, and walking may be comfortable exercises that don’t exacerbate the pain.”

Non-medical therapy. “Some people have found relief from things like acupuncture, deep tissue massage (if you can tolerate it), and cupping where heated glass cups are applied to the skin, creating suction as a way of stimulating blood flow and reducing pain and inflammation.”

Learning not to hurt. “Sometimes people don’t know they can learn to mentally manage their pain. One of the things we offer is cognitive behavioral therapy. We can teach people how to think differently. Sometimes our culture and experiences have not equipped us to deal with pain. We can help rewire that thinking and pain can be surprisingly more manageable.

Finding what works means being able to live a real life.

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BETTER / Body

The germiest stuff you’ll touch today AKA: Where to start your spring cleaning The things around your house you think are the dirtiest may not be as bad as you think - because you probably clean those. Let’s take inventory of some items people rarely think to clean.

Here are some of the worst in no particular order.

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Salt & pepper shakers.

Think about it. We touch them when we’re eating and they’re in the midst of food.

Think they get a little gross?

Yep. It’s time to scrub them down with a hot, soapy rag...a clean one.

Refrigerator handle.

hard to clean all those cracks and crannies. But lurking in those crevices are things like Staph, Coliform, yeast, and mold. Blasting it with canned air will get rid of the potato chip crumbs, but we need to wipe off the stuff that is alive and growing in there.

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You pretty much can’t find a germier item then a kitchen sponge and a dishrag isn’t much better. A sponge can contain 10 million bacteria per square inch. Studies show that a quarter of all dishrags are teaming with E. Coli. Salmonella shows up in a whole bunch too. The recommendation is to use a brush instead when possible - one that can be thrown into the dishwasher. When you do use a dishrag, start with a clean one every day.

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We make breakfast. Crack some eggs, put the bacon on the griddle and before we wipe our hands we open the fridge to put the rest away. Despite our efforts to only use the two fingers we think we don’t have as much gunk on, that handle is basically a petri dish growing all kinds of funky stuff.

Time to disinfect it and add that to our weekly, if not daily, list of things to clean.

Toothbrush & holder.

It sits there, right next to our toilet, where it is subject to wetness, mouth germs, toothpaste residue, and a host of beautifying and cleaning over-spray. And if you don’t close the lid when you flush the toilet, you don’t want to know what else is landing on your toothbrush. A report from NSF International , the public health organization, found 27% of toothbrush holders were home to Coliform bacteria—a sickness-causing family of microorganism that includes Salmonella and E. coli. Clean it up.

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Phone. Skin infection,

pneumonia, and food poisoning, plus other awful conditions, come from a little something called Staphylococcus aureus. Guess where that could be lurking? Yeah. Let’s take it out of our pocket and disinfect it before we put against our head for the hundredth time today.

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3 4

Keyboard. We get it. It’s

Sponges & dishrags.

5 6

Remote. We hang out on the couch, watching TV when we’re sick. We eat while we’re watching the game. The only time we ever wipe off the remote is when we drip chip dip on it - and then just that spot. Wipe down the whole thing, just this once.

BETTER / Body

If it’s

And that’s how

A big part of your life I broke you should be able to see it my tooth A

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ou are not like anybody else.

And what you do everyday is unique, so perhaps you should have glasses that work for your specific, one-of-a-kind life.

We may have grown up having a few options for eye wear. If you were in sports you could get glasses that were a little more durable, there were glasses just for reading, and ones for driving.

According to Dr. Janet Fett with Kincaid, Fett & Tharp Vision Source, in South Sioux City, today’s eye wear can get ultra-specific.

Dr. Fett says, “Your vision needs for reading a book that you hold below you is different than trying to read a computer screen, and the angle changes again if you’re trying to read music. For key elements in your life, eye wear can adapt for you.

“There’s not just one solution for people who do sports. If you are playing basketball, which is one of the leading sports where eye injuries are reported, eye wear safety is a necessity.

If you are a golfer, traditional lenses may limit teeing off and viewing the ball in flight. For target and game shooting, lighting of the situation is key. A fisherman needs lenses that

Drs. Kincaid, Fett & Tharp Vision Source think about safety as much as seeing and they have eye wear options for all the things that are important to you. 402-494-5533 1000 W. 29th St. Ste. 302 . So. Sioux City, NE www.visionsource-kftvision.com

control the glare off the water.

“No matter what the biggest parts of your life are, there are options that make sure that you can see it.”

grown man tattles on his nine-yearold self. “I was sitting at the kitchen counter and got cold. I scrunched up my legs inside my shirt and pulled in my arms. The barstool had no arms and now, a human egg, I flip onto my Humpty face breaking off my front tooth on the floor.”

At Family 1st Dental, they hear all kinds of stories. Dr. Barr says, “At the movies you bite into an old maid and break off a piece of your tooth...and you’re leaving on vacation the next day. Before, you’d have to come in to get a temporary crown while the real one was being created. Today, with CEREC we can do it all in one visit.

The technology has gotten so good we can do the whole thing in the office.”

Dr. Kurth adds, “Before you had to bite into this gooey mold. Now it’s all digital. We use a computer wand attached to the computer to create your custom crown. It’s about 90 minutes from start to finish but only about 15 minutes working in a patient’s mouth. The rest of the time you just hang out. You can even watch the machine carve the crown. It’s much more convenient for the patient without multiple appointments.”

No matter how you end up breaking a tooth, fixing it is just about as interesting.

Whether you do sports, spend a lot of time in front of a screen, play music, or have other interests where seeing is critical, eye wear has evolved to fit your unique life.

“Where your family comes first.” www.familyfirstdental.com.

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BETTER / Body

Laughter Laughter is the

If you Google search the word “askew,” the search results will be slightly tilted.

best medicine.

Actual answers from kids’ tests.

Problem: “You fell on the playground and scratched your knee.” Come up with a solution. Get up and deal with it.

Body of Knowledge

[Take a breath

A newborn’s airway is unique so he can breath through his nose and feed at the same time. Older kids and adults must stop breathing in order to swallow.

[Set a trap

Where was the Declaration of Independence signed? At the bottom.

Imagine you lived in Abraham Lincoln’s time. What would you ask him or tell him? I’d tell him not to go to a play ever.

Name six animals that live specifically in the Arctic: 2 polar bears and 4 seals.

What is the highest frequency noise a human can register? Mariah Carey.

What is your favorite hue? Jackman.

[Smell the danger

The first cells were probably..?

Lonely.

Our sense of smell helps us be safe.

We can detect spoiled food, if there’s a gas leak, and when we forget something on the stove.

[Get growing

Pinocchio’s nose grew when he lied.

Human noses grow regardless. Our noses reach full size in our late teens but continue to grow each year.

[Nothing to sneeze at

Our bodies can make more than 1.5 liters of mucus each day. Mucus keeps our internal parts well lubricated and contains antibodies and enzymes to deal with intruders.

“Make the most of yourself....for that is all there is of you.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson How we act when no one’s watching tells more about us than how we behave publicly. If we take care not to litter, clean up after ourselves, and leave things as we found them when no one else would know, it makes us a person we (and our mothers) will be proud of.

What do you think is the best solution to overpopulation? Hunger Games.

What ended in 1986? 1985.

In the know

[Almost] worthless facts.

The first product to have a bar code was Wrigley’s gum.

The average person blinks 15-20 times each minute. That means our eyes are closed about 10% of the time we’re awake.

From 1975-1995 there were only four states that didn’t have any earthquakes: Florida, Iowa, North Dakota, and Wisconsin.

Be polite

“Kindness and politeness are not overrated at all. They’re underused.”

- Tommy Lee Jones

Say thank you. Hold the door open.

This can make someone else’s day... and maybe yours too.

One-fourth of all your bones are in your feet.

If you put raisins in champagne (or other carbonated beverage) they will sink and rise continuously.

One in every four Americans has appeared on television in one way or another.

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Improve your public side

Be respectful

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Listen

“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.” -Doug Larson Listening shows others we value their stories, ideas, and insight and it’s how we learn new things.

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Breathing through your nose helps trap bad stuff like dust, pollution, allergens, smoke, bacteria, viruses, and more. It eventually will be swallowed instead of going into your lungs. Your stomach is better at handling bad stuff.

Better socially

Stop

Human Trafficking

I

Life

Shining light in the darkness to

BETTER

BY JENNIFER WINQUIST

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f you think that human trafficking is only something that happens in other countries or in big cities, not here in Siouxland, you are not alone, but you are very, very wrong.

Local individuals and agencies who are combating human trafficking will tell you it is worse than you can possibly imagine. Much, much worse.

Please know that this is something that could happen to your own child or someone you know and love.

Our goal in this article is not to frighten you but to empower you. Knowledge is power and when we understand how we can prevent it, recognize it, and reach out to save those in it (and stop putting up with those who perpetrate it and purchase it), then lives can be better in Siouxland.

Slavery Human trafficking is modern day slavery.

Half

It is suspected that half of all sextrafficking victims are children.

30-60

The average age of men who buy sex.

Most are married and fathers.

12 -24

The age most victims are lured into human trafficking. 29% are 12-17 years old.

80% are under 30. *

*According to nsvc.org

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Stop

Human trafficking

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Being groomed For obtaining younger kids, a groomer is often used. Sister Shirley Fineran, who is the Director of Field Education and Assistant Professor of Social Work at Briar Cliff University, explains.

“The bad news is, almost anyone can be a groomer. It may be someone your child goes to school with, perhaps their same age. A woman who becomes a trusted friend. Someone they meet online in a chat room or on Craig’s list.

“The groomer is going to do things to gain their trust over time. They may chat about things to get and give information to build a relationship.

They may give them, or encourage them to get, a secret phone or apps to hide their conversations. They may buy them expensive gifts.

“At some point they will get them to go with them - and they may never come back, or they will convince them to do something that they will never want to tell.”

How they do it Amy explains one method, “What does every young girl want? To feel loved and beautiful. A guy meets a girl through a mutual friend or at a party and convinces her that he can take care of her (struggling college student or single mom). He sells her on this great adventure. It’ll be a great weekend - fun, food, alcohol, at a bar, or a friend’s house. In the process of having fun, you are coerced into

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Team practices, classes, and parties are used by groomers to recruit and manipulate kids.

Trafficked in place Sister Shirley adds, “Sometimes people are trafficked where they live.

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Parents may traffic their own children for money or drugs. Young people being trafficked may become so fearful of being found out they don’t know how to get out. Or, their lives, or those of their family, have been threatened so believably that they continue to do whatever the trafficker tells them. One woman tells of her trafficker picking her up every night (starting when she was 15) and bringing her back home before school. She did that every day for years.”

If your kid has one of these then you need to do this with it.

Parents absolutely need to patrol their child’s social media. It is not invasive if a life is saved.

How to prevent it Sex trafficking is forcing someone to sell themselves for sex without giving them the option of stopping. Sister Shirley cautions, “While some people are more likely to be trafficked, like those in foster care or aging out of it, everyone is at risk. It happens in every economic area. It’s all about who they can control.”

Trust your gut “When you watch someone and you get that feeling that something’s not right, pay attention to it. For example, a convenience store is a likely area.

Watch for people who don’t engage.

If you see a couple of girls together and they don’t look at you or respond when you say hi, that’s a red flag.

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hen we hear about human trafficking, let’s admit it, most of us don’t think that it’s something that will ever happen in our neck of the woods. Not here in Siouxland. The fact is where there are naive people it may be even more prevalent. Human traffickers prey upon the unaware.

I was talking with someone about this topic and they told me about a story they saw on Facebook (aka: the holy grail of factual information that is completely trustworthy). Apparently, a dad with his two small children were at the mall. He noticed two men following them and watching his every move.

They were waiting to grab his children so they could sell them into sex trafficking. I asked Amy Munderloh, director of Haven House in South Sioux City, if that’s how it happens.

Amy warns, “While that might happen, it’s really a misconception.

The people who are engaged in human trafficking are stealthy. They make themselves out to be good people just wanting to offer their love and support. They make false promises of a new life or fast money.

“They go after people who they can reel in. College students who need money. The young, single mom who’s broke. The homeless seeking shelter.

The high school (or middle school) girl who wants to be loved. The confused LGBTQ kid.”

having sex with someone for money through false promises or threats. You are told no one will ever know what you did. But then, ‘Oh, you thought it was just the one time? Well, we have pictures and video. You wouldn’t want that on the Internet now would you?

Want mom to see that? You’ll need to do it again, or else.’

“The shame is huge and they keep doing it for fear they’ll be exposed. It is forced prostitution and many times drugs like methamphetamines are involved to control the victim. They become a slave to that trafficker. Once you’re in it’s very hard to get out.”

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Maybe they seem a little fearful. What young girl these days doesn’t have a cell phone or purse? This may indicate someone is trying to keep control of them. If you notice a tattoo and it’s the same as someone they’re with, that can be a mark of ownership. Having someone’s name tattooed on your neck isn’t normal. If they go out and get into a car that’s waiting for them, that’s a sign of someone that’s controlling them. It’s good to take down the license plate number, but even more importantly, the make of the car. Many

times they switch license plates. If you see something that’s not normal, that doesn’t feel right, call! Call the National Human Trafficking Hotline.

You don’t have to KNOW a person is

being trafficked, you just have to sense something’s wrong and convey that information (yourself) to the hotline.

Call the national hotline number (not just local law enforcement), because that gets the FBI involved. In smaller communities, they may not have protocols in place to handle human trafficking. The hotline people will get the right people involved.”

Pay attention and be snoopy “This is where you can’t be too careful,” Sister Shirley stresses. “If you notice that someone in your family or at school all of a sudden has new clothes and you don’t know where they got them, or expensive types of gifts and material possessions, this is a big warning sign that someone is lavishing them with gifts. It is really important that parents or someone intervenes quickly. This groomer, this person who’s telling them, ‘I love you,’ this boyfriend is getting stronger and gaining more control. He’s telling the younger person, ‘Now you can’t tell anybody about this.’

“Be aware that they may have a secret phone and/or secret apps.

One app looks like a calculator, but it’s a way to chat under the radar. If your child has been manipulated by their groomer (who they believe is their boyfriend, friend, or confidant) they may not be forthcoming with information. You need to be diligent especially if you see signs.

“If you see them start doing actions and behaviors that they haven’t done before, make a call, get some help and information. Many times, once they’ve drawn them in, they will take them out of the community so they don’t have resources to contact anyone when they realize they were tricked.”

It may be nothing, but make the call if you suspect something may not be right. If it is something, that could mean everything to that person. You may be the only voice they have.

Dealing with the after For those who have been through the devastation of being trafficked and gotten out, their lives may be spared but the emotional and spiritual

Getting help If you need help dealing with sexual assault and domestic violence in the Siouxland area you can contact one of these agencies. Their services are free and confidential.

Haven House

Family Services Center Locations in Wayne & South Sioux City, NE

24-HOUR CRISIS LINE: 800-440-4633

Email: hh@havenhousefsc.org www.havenhousefsc.org

CSADV

Council on Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence Located in Sioux City, IA

24/7 CRISIS LINE: 800-982-7233

www.csadvsiouxland.org

If you suspect human trafficking or need help call the

National Human TraffickingHotline 1-888-3737-888

or Text “HELP” or “INFO” to BEFREE (233-733) 3 pm - 11 pm Eastern time.

If you are a survivor of sex trafficking and need help to rest, heal, recover, and develop life skills to become empowered, independent, and self-sufficient, there is help in Siouxland.

Lila Mae’s House

Siouxland Restoration Center Contact us today 712-899-6211

E: restorationcentersxlnd@gmail.com Please donate to Lila Mae’s House: Mail to: Lila Mae’s House, P.O. Box 1281, Sioux City, IA 51102 Online: www.GoFundMe.com/ LMHsurvivors4life THANK YOU!

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BETTER / Life healing may take years. Women need a lot of support and space to get back their dignity, self worth, and confidence. Sister Shirley has a plan.

“Three years ago, I went to a conference. Teresa Flores, who is a sex trafficking survivor - the 15-year-old I mentioned earlier - wrote the book Slave Across the Street. After years of abuse she was eventually beaten and left for dead. Women often take their own life just to get out of the life.

Usually by the time they are in the life for any length of time, the trafficker has threatened to kill them and their family. They feel there is no way out.

They are routinely beaten and watch other women beaten as well - or killed. Teresa explained that what they experience is much like Stockholm syndrome or PTSD. “After the workshop, I went home. In my prayer room I told God I needed to do more than I was doing to help these women. I sat there until the idea for Lila Mae’s House came to me.

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Marissa Messinger, who is on our cover and who posed as our sex-trafficking victim on pg 37, is a senior at Briar Cliff. She herself is a survivor of sexual assault and a powerful advocate for change.

Advocating for change “I became a passionate advocate for sexual assault awareness after my freshmen year of college when I was raped. It impacted my life in every way possible making daily activities very difficult. At the time, Briar Cliff built a wall of support around me that truly helped me heal. As I did, I felt compelled to share my story, become educated, and advocate. In 2017, I served as Miss Polk County Lila’s House will be home to seven women who and competed for the title of Miss are sex trafficking survivors. Its location is secret.

Iowa with my platform, The 5 W’s of Sexual Assault. I advocated on and self-sufficient.

“The plan is for seven women to live Capitol Hill for a bill that gave sexual assault survivors the right to a civil in the house for two years. Last year, protection order. The bill was someone gave us a house on a nice signed into law last May. This piece of land and we will open April my friends and I plan this summer. We still have a to bring awareness to this lot of money to raise and we is sexual assault campus and hopefully the need plenty of volunteers, awareness community of Siouxland. I but anyone who knows me month. plan to keep on going.” knows this will happen.”

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Sister Shirley and Marissa photos by Mark Karrer. House illustration By Anna de la Cruz/Shutterstock.com

I envisioned a safe place where survivors could come and rest and find healing. A place where they could engage in life and get better in every way. When they left they would be able to get a job, have life skills, become empowered, independent,

Sister Shirley Fineran is a social work professor at Briar Cliff college. She is asked almost daily to speak at organizations on Human Trafficking.

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ho owns this B&B? None other than Bridget Hoefling. You know her by her Southern drawl you’ve been hearing on Tri-State Nursing’s ads for years. She also owns this great Bed & Breakfast in her hometown of Marble Falls, TX. If you’re looking for a getaway this year for you and your spouse or for your family, Bridget has a couple of options.

She has The Big House (right) which can sleep up to 12 guests and The Cozy Cottage with two bedrooms. Rent a room or the whole place.

Located right on Main Street, you’ll find great shopping, “Market Days on Main,” and much more. Lake Marble Falls (the Colorado river) is just minutes away where the annual drag boat race, Walkway of Lights, as well as many other events take place.

Check out the website for all the details and area attractions.

AMENITIES

Bridget’s Bed & Breakfast is located in Marble Falls, TX - called the Bluebonnet Capital of Texas, as the highways and byways are filled with colorful wildflowers in April and May.

• Four Patio Areas with fire pits BETTER / • Free Wi-fi • Six- seat “limo” golf cart for

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escorts to main street Continental Breakfast 6-11am Deck Pet Friendly (minimal fee) Horseshoe and Washer pits Washer/Dryer Available Vending/Ice Machines Irons/Ironing Boards Hot Tub Close to several wineries, hiking, fishing, and lake • 45 minutes to Austin, TX or Fredricksburg, TX

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Clockwise from top left: The Queen Elizabeth room and bathroom and kitchen in The Big House. The Grande Room in The Cozy Cottage.

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Register Now for summer classes The First Tee is a program that teaches kids golf and so much more. Our mission is to impact the lives of young people by providing educational programs that build character, instill life-changing values, and promote healthy choices through the game of golf.

GETTING STARTED WHO CAN PLAY? The First Tee offers group lessons to youth up to age 18 regardless of background or previous experience.

Our coaches are trained to make kids feel comfortable and ensure they have a positive, non-intimidating experience. All we ask is young people come with an open mind and positive attitude.

COST/WHAT YOU NEED The program fee is $85 per youth and includes The First Tee shirt, golf bag tag, Life Skills Book, and award ceremony. You don’t need to bring anything but a desire to learn.

We want all kids to be able to join and scholarships are available.

MORE THAN A GAME 85% OF ALUMNI SAY THE FIRST TEE HELPED THEM BECOME A BETTER STUDENT. At The First Tee, kids and teens are learning to play golf along with life lessons and leadership skills. And it’s making a difference. Our programs are positively impacting youth, their families, and their communities.

WHY IS GOLF DIFFERENT FROM OTHER SPORTS? Players learn values like honesty and responsibility by calling penalties on themselves and reporting their own score. By participating in The First Tee, youth are introduced to Nine Core Values which are incorporated throughout the program.

JOIN US Registration due by May 11th for classes June 4th - August 2nd Register online at www.thefirstteesiouxland.org MANDATORY PARENT/GUARDIAN ORIENTATION MEETING Orientation for parents/guardians will be held in May at each of the golf courses below. Check the website for dates and times.

Floyd Golf Course 2801 Ordway Ave., Sioux City, IA Sun Valley Golf Course 2101 Military Rd., Sioux City, IA Deer Run Golf Course 801 1st Ave. S., Hinton, IA

June 4 - Aug 2 Register by May 11th

COACHES/ VOLUNTEERS If you enjoy golf and want to pour into the lives of kids, contact us to find out how to get involved.

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FOR MORE INFORMATION CONTACT: Treyla Lee Siouxland Youth Golf Association . P.O. Box 1234 . Sioux City, IA 51102 712-898-2910 . www.thefirstteesiouxland.org . email: sygagolf@outlook.com

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Golf ball background By photofriday, golf icon By Lisses/Shutterstock.com

SUMMER CLASSES

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Money matters

TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR FINANCES IN 2018 WITH SIOUXLAND FEDERAL CREDIT UNION

Tips To Save Money 1. Track your expenses. Before you get started on your saving plan, track your expenses. There are specific expenses that occur every month, as well as other costs that occur on a situational basis. Keep record of all expenditures by entering them into your budget sheet. By recording your utility bill, groceries, fuel expenses, and other payments for an entire month, you will have a good understanding of how you spend your money. Then you can decide the areas to cut expenses.

Money jar By panpilai paipa/Shutterstock.com

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ost people plan to save money, but by the time the paycheck reaches their account, saving money seems so much harder. Instant gratification and frequent spending have become the new “normal.” Day by day, the wants of consumers are escalating and in some cases have almost become confused with actual needs. This mindset can impact monthly budgeting in negative ways.

A heavy-spending lifestyle could become a never-ending cycle, and many people struggle to get out of it. Unfortunately, there is no quick answer or short cut. However, a bit of planning, self-control, and willpower can help you to pursue your goals of saving.

You may have tried saving money before but were unable to stick to your saving plans. It happens.

2. Emergency fund. Most Americans don’t save enough for what they want, let alone for what they need: about 60% of us have less than $1,000 in savings now. Building and maintaining an emergency fund is vital for financial security; it’s the difference between keeping up with your monthly bills and sliding into debt and possible bankruptcy.

3. Carry a list. Take a list along when you shop for groceries or other household items. With a list, you may be less tempted to pick up random stuff that you may not need at that moment.

4. Do comparative price checks. Do comparative price checks when you go shopping. If you are unaware of the average prices charged for items, then

Siouxland Federal Credit Union has five convenient locations: South Sioux City, Dakota Dunes, and three locations in Sioux City. We’re a secure, convenient, friendly, and helpful place for all your financial needs. 402-494-2073. www.siouxlandfederalcu.com Federally Insured by NCUA

you may get fooled into paying high prices. It will take up some of your time, but it may be worth it in the long run when you’re saving money. Also, keep an eye out for discount offers and seasonal sales–these may provide great money-saving opportunities.

5. Stop relying on credit cards. It’s way too easy to swipe a card when you don’t have the cash. There are many benefits to using credit cards, but the best way to avoid overspending is to avoid using your credit card if you don’t have the cash to pay for that purchase. Either carry cash with you to make that purchase or have the money available to immediately pay back what you spent on the credit card. Ensuring that you have the cash available before making a purchase will help drive you to stay on budget and ignore those impulses to make unnecessary purchases.

6. Use a separate bank account for saving. Keep the amount you save every month separate from the checking account that you use for dayto-day purchases, so you will be less likely to accidentally spend it.

Put a little away each week and you can see how quickly it starts adding up.

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Are you in the

No fly zone?

Know the rules of flying your drone WITH BRIAN NICKUM

Mother’s Day will be here before you know it, so plan ahead and get something special. We have all sorts of gifts for moms that can be personalized with custom embroidery, printing, and bling.

All items reasonably priced.

Prices vary based on the personalization options you choose.

As a commercially licensed FAA UAS Remote Pilot, Brian Nickum offers UAS drone photography and videography for you and your business within the Siouxland area. Licensed & Insured.

Geosphere Design Studio 712-490-2336. www.gdstudio.net

Come in and choose your style or go to our website for ideas and options.

100% cotton twill distressed baseball hat comes in a variety of colors and sayings.

ts Great Gif ! for Mom

Totes in a variety of sizes and colors can be personalized with lots of sayings and bling.

Shop in our store or order online

Little Red Embroidery Co . 712-259-7811 406 4th St. Suite A . Sgt. Bluff, IA E: LittleRedEmbroidery@hotmail.com

www.littleredembroidery.com

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Register your drone. “The Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) requires all drone owners to register each drone weighing between 0.55 and 55 pounds. This has been in effect since Dec 12, 2017.”

Don’t assume you can fly anywhere.

“Most people think they can fly their drone anywhere. This is not the case. There are a lot of restrictions and No Drone Zones are popping up throughout the country. Visit knowbeforeyoufly.org to learn more about no drone zones.”

Avoid crowds. “People may want to record their kid’s sporting events using a drone. While this sounds like a great idea, it is illegal. Recreational drones cannot fly over groups of people. There is a lot of liability if the drone would crash on someone or cause damage to structures. Even if you have a commercial license, you have to apply for a waiver to fly over people/events.

That waiver is tricky to get.”

Know where you are. “Another big “no fly” zone is within five miles of

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an airport. It’s a good general rule to stay away from airports, but you can get permission to fly within the five miles of an airport if you get proper authorization from the control tower.

Use Google Maps or a handy drone app called AirMap to see where you are and how far away you are from the airport. You may find that the five miles away from an airport rule covers a majority of the city. If that’s the case, you’re grounded until you get the proper clearance to fly.”

Parks may not be wide open. “Many national parks don’t allow drones due to too many accidents. Be sure to do your research before heading out.”

Professional assistance is available.

“Drones are fun but knowing the rules will keep you out of hot water. If you need some videos or photos, hiring a professional may be the way to go to save yourself from any liability issues.”

Flying since 2016, Brian takes product photos and videos, property videos, and has assisted in insurance damage claims as shown above.

Little Red products by Mark Karrer. Drone flying by Halfpoint/Shutterstock.com. Aerial of farm by Brian Nickum.

Short and long sleeve shirts in several styles show mom’s team spirit and activity pride!

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here are a lot of practical and fun reasons to fly a drone, but many people end up breaking the law because they don’t know the rules. Brian Nickum shares some valuable tips to stay out of trouble.

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Spring fashion

forward WITH JENNI HANNI-SCHMITZ, LU LA ROE

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Fashion photos by Mark Karrer. Cherry blossoms By OHishiapply/Shutterstock.com

pring is here and it’s time to put away the bulky sweaters and sweats, but it doesn’t mean we won’t be comfortable.

Jenni Hanni-Schmitz, who sells Lularoe clothing at her home boutique says, “Our clothing is modest, comfortable, and makes everybody feel so good.”

Why Lularoe?

Jenni says, “I’ve never gotten so many compliments until I started wearing Lularoe and I love hearing that my clients get them too!

My boutique is a safe place to shop, and many women, especially those who struggle to find their size at the mall, get emotional when they find clothing that fits, is affordable, and trendy!”

How’s it work?

“There are a lot of styles and the patterns are always changing. With solids and prints it’s easy to mix and match. There are sizes from XXS to 3X. Our styles look great on any woman no matter what her size or age.”

Jenni and Sara are both wearing the Amelia dress $65.

Harvey Jacket $100

Amy is wearing our Shirley Kimono $48 Perfect T $36 Cassie Skirt $35 Amy is Sara’s mom.

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Jenni’s pattern mixing 101:

1. Strips/Polka dots/Leopard are all considered neutrals.

2. Pattern size is important. Mix a small scale pattern with a large scale to help appease the eye.

3. Strive to have a common color between the articles of clothing. This will help pull the outfit together.

Bonus: Stripes and Florals are always a great choice together.

jenni

Classic T $35 Jill Skirt $55 Shirley Kimono $48

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Classic T $35 Madison Skirt $46 Sarah Cardigan $70

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Irma $35 Leggings $25

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sara

Lynnae (peach top) $38 Jill Skirt $55 Leggings $25

Budget-stretching tip: Jenni says, “Many of our pieces can be mixed and matched with other pieces, as well as styled in different ways. Choose a few staples to create many outfits.”

Can you tell that one of the hot colors of the year is Ultra Violet?

To shop, join Jenni’s Facebook group to see the latest items, specials, and times for shopping at her in-home boutique. To join the group and follow her on social media, go to www.shopllrjenni.com

Fashion photos by Mark Karrer. Cherry blossoms By OHishiapply/Shutterstock.com

amy

Maria Dress $68 Harvey Jacket $100

Perfect T $36 Carly (teal dress) $55 Shirley Kimono $48

Leggings $25 Madison Skirt (with flowers) $46

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Pro-life or Pro-choice

What everyone agrees on WITH KRISTI NATHANIEL Client Services Director at HER HEALTH

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o matter what side of the discussion you’re on regarding pregnancy, there are a few things that seem to be universal when an unplanned pregnancy occurs. Client Services Director, Kristi Nathaniel, with Her Health Women’s Center has seen a lot of similarities and reactions to the very difficult situation young women and men find themselves in. Kristy offers some perspective for those who may find themselves in that situation.

It’s not just about me. “Women from all walks of life come in. The decisions they need to make aren’t just about their life or that of their baby’s. There are other people who will be greatly affected by their decision. A girl’s parents may want her to finish college or want a grandchild. Other children they already have are considered. The baby’s father has an opinion. Many times the girl is waiting for input from the people who matter most.

“A young gal came in unsure of what her baby daddy really wanted. The father went from being very quiet, but when he saw his baby on the ultrasound his face lit up and he was smiling from ear to ear. She turned to look at him expecting the worst, but seeing his face changed everything.

Today they are together raising their baby. Most women don’t want to feel alone in making such a big decision. They might not agree with the input they get, but they want to know what key people think.”

It’s not an easy decision. “Recently, a girl came in who was very pro-life, but she was in a difficult situation. She sat there crying because she realized that she wasn’t completely ruling out abortion. Another girl came in very pro-choice, also crying, and said, ‘I never realized how hard this decision is.’”

Women need help. “We realize what a huge issue an unplanned pregnancy is. We really try to be that neutral party to help women make a decision. Women feel so comfortable with us because we’re a complete stranger – we’re here to help them talk through and sort through all their feelings – for real. Everyone agrees that women need help and we’re this safe place where they can explore all their options and get their questions answered.”

Her Health Women’s Center offers FREE and CONFIDENTIAL pregnancy services.

Contact us today. 5732 Sunnybrook Drive, Sioux City, IA www.herhealthwomenscenter.org . Call: 712-224-2000 or Text: 712-522-2920

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Couple By Estrada Anton and Reflection girl By Jose AS Reyes/Shutterstock.com

It’s a baby. “It’s interesting how we hear about certain laws and language that gets promoted around the topic of pregnancy. Whenever we have a gal come in, every single one of them refers to what is inside them as a baby. No one talks about dealing with the tissue - or whatever. 100% of our clients call it a baby.”

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Delightful mid-morning

menu options

Food

Come for Brunch

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Grab a few items at

Palmer Specialty Foods

(in the back corner of Palmer Candy) to whip up a homemade brunch without all the work.

Food photos by Mark Karrer

Chocolate Banana Donuts

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Apple Butter Mini Cinnamon Rolls

Apple Butter Mini Cinnamon Rolls

Bite-size to partner with other menu items without overpowering them.

8 oz tube crescent roll dough 2 T butter Vann’s Saigon Cinnamon Brown sugar For the Apple Butter Icing: 3 t Blackberry Patch Apple Butter Syrup, divided 1 tablespoon skim milk ¾ cup powdered sugar.

Preheat oven according to roll package directions. Lay out half the dough (4 triangles) and pinch all the seams together, flip dough and again pinch the seams. Using a rolling pin, smooth the seams and roll the dough into a square about ¼" thick. Create another dough square with the other half.

Brush each square with half the butter and sprinkle with as much cinnamon and brown sugar as you like. Roll each into a log and cut into 8 pieces. Spray a mini muffin tin with non-stick cooking spray and arrange a mini cinnamon roll in each. Bake according to

package directions.

While cinnamon rolls are still warm, drizzle 1 teaspoon of Blackberry Patch Apple Butter Syrup over each roll.

Whisk remaining Blackberry Patch Apple Butter Syrup and milk in a bowl. Add in powdered sugar until desired consistency is reached. Drizzle over cinnamon rolls.

Breakfast Pizza with Chorizo

Sunnyside up in a whole new way.

14" par-baked pizza crust 1 C My Brother’s Fire Roasted Salsa ¼ C green onions, sliced, include white and green parts, divided 2 7 oz links Fermin chorizo, sliced 2 C Dimock Garden Medley Cheese shredded 4 eggs Kosher Salt and black pepper to taste 1 avocado, peeled & sliced, for garnish

Breakfast Pizza with Chorizo

Food photos by Mark Karrer

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Heat oven to 4500F. Top par-baked crust with salsa, half the green onions, and chorizo. Cover with cheese. Form four small indentations in the cheese.

Carefully crack 1 egg into each.

Season with salt and pepper. Bake 10-12 minutes or until cheese starts to brown and egg whites are firm but yolk is stills slightly runny. Garish with remaining green onions and avocado slices.

Chocolate Banana Donuts shown on pg 49

BETTER / Food Classic Bellini

Ready in less time then going to the donut shop.

Invisible Chef Chocolate Banana Donuts & Dots Mix Packet #1 3 T unsalted butter (melted) ¼ cup milk ∙ 1 egg

Sweet Beet & Horseradish Bagels & Lox

Classic Bellini

An elegant and fun brunch classic that goes together in a snap.

1 oz Stirring’s Simple Peach Bellini Cocktail Mixer 3 oz of your favorite champagne

Sweet Beet & Horseradish Bagels & Lox

Dressed up bagels take center stage.

Food photos by Mark Karrer

2 Bagels, halved ½ cup cream cheese, softened 4 slices red onion 4 slices tomato ¼ lb sliced lox/smoked salmon ¼ C Terrapin Ridge Farms Sweet Beet & Horseradish Mustard 2 T Mustapha’s Capers Cut bagels in half horizontally and toast. Spread 2 tablespoons cream cheese onto bagel slices. Top each half with one slice onion, one slice tomato, and two slices of lox/smoked salmon. Garnish each with one tablespoon of Terrapin Ridge Farms Sweet Beet & Horseradish Mustard and sprinkle with capers.

Preheat oven to 3750F. Lightly grease a donut pan (available at Palmer Specialty Foods) or mini muffin pan.

In a medium bowl, mix together the milk, egg, and butter. Add the donut mix and stir. Fill the donut wells about half full (do not overfill). Bake about 10-12 minutes until the donuts spring back when touched.

Glaze: Mix Packet No. 2 with 1 tablespoon unsalted butter (melted) and 2-3 tablespoons milk or cream.

Brush the crumbs off the donuts and dip completely cooled donut into the glaze. While the glaze is still wet, sprinkle the toasted coconut (Packet No. 3) on top.

Pour chilled Bellini cocktail mixer into a champagne flute and fill the flute with your favorite champagne.

Garnish with fresh peaches if desired.

Items in blue available at

Palmer Specialty Food (located inside Palmer Candy Company) 405 Wesley Parkway, Sioux City, IA 712-258-7790 www.palmerspecialtyfoods.com

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Strawberry patch Think beyond the shortcake

Strawberry apple monsters After school snack you’ll all approve of

Apples, cored and cut into quarters Peanut butter Strawberries, cored and sliced Sunflower kernels Candy eyeballs From each apple section, cut a wedge into the side forming the monster’s mouth. Spread a little peanut butter into bottom of the mouth opening. Push sunflower kernel teeth in the upper edge. “Glue” on candy eyes with a dab of peanut butter and insert a strawberry tongue.

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trawberries are so delicious, and there are lots of ways to enjoy them. So, let’s try some new and wonderful ways.

Get the kids to help make some monsters, whip up a protein-packed snack, or make something extra special for that special someone. Smiles guaranteed.

Strawberry cheesecake chia seed pudding Makes a protein-packed snack

1/8 t vanilla 2 t sugar 2 T chia seeds

In a blender, combine cottage cheese, Greek yogurt, strawberries, almond milk, vanilla, and sugar, then blend until very smooth, scraping with a spatula as needed. Stir in the chia seeds, pour into a container, cover, and refrigerate at least 24 hours. Stir before serving and top with additional strawberries.

No-bake strawberry chocolate tart

Looks as good as it tastes, plus it’s so easy Crust: 32 Oreo cookies 1/2 c butter, melted Filling: 7 oz heavy cream

7 oz milk chocolate

3.5 oz bittersweet chocolate Filling: 10 oz fresh strawberries, tops removed

Optional, chopped nuts (almonds, pistachios) Crush or process Oreo cookies into fine crumbs. Pour melted butter over the crushed cookies and mix well. Press the mixture into the bottom and edges of a rectangular 5x14 inch tart pan. Put it in the freezer while you make the rest. In a saucepan, heat cream slowly. When it’s hot (not boiling), remove from heat and stir in chocolate until melted. Pour into crust, and top with fresh strawberries.

Refrigerate for a couple of hours or overnight. Top with nuts before serving if desired.

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Apple monsters By Elena Shashkina, Pudding By Africa Studio, and Chocolate tart By Stepanek Photography/Shutterstock.com

1/4 c cottage cheese 1 T Greek yogurt 1/2 c chopped strawberries 1/2 c almond milk

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Memory boosting foods

Food

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he Mediterranean diet is loaded with fruits, vegetables, whole grains, fish, and olive oil. Together, these foods help improve the health of blood vessels, reducing the risk for a memory-damaging stroke. That’s according to an article by Harvard Medical Health. So, basically, eat healthy food and you’ll probably have good mental health too. For fish, try salmon, herring, and sardines. These are high in omega-3 fatty acids, which have been linked to lower levels of beta-amyloid proteins in the blood and better vascular health.

Here are a few other powerful brain foods.

Blueberries have been touted as “brain berries.” In animal studies, eating blueberries significantly improved both the learning capacity and motor skills, making older animals mentally equal to younger animals.

Q. How can I eat healthy and not annihilate my budget?

A. Let’s start with produce.

Adding fresh fruits and veggies is a big part of eating well. Most nutrition experts push for eating at least five servings each day. Here are three tips to save money on these staples.

Nuts & seeds are good sources of vitamin E which is shown to reduce cognitive decline as we age.

Avocado contributes to healthy blood flow and lower blood pressure - both which affect brain health.

Tis the season

Olive oil has been found to protect memory and learning ability as well as safeguard against cognitive decline.

Sizing things up Oatmeal By Oksana Mizina, Shopping woman By LDprod, and Hanging tomatoes By Del Boy/Shutterstock.com

to size things down

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great step toward downsizing your size is to do a portion patrol.

In the U.S. we have gotten so used to super-sized meals we don’t know what a normal serving size is anymore. You’ve probably seen these before, but take a minute to visualize how your plate is sizing up. Size down as needed.

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1 tsp serving

For a 1 teaspoon serving of fats [olive oil and vegetable oil], visualize the end of your thumb.

1/4-cup serving

[Ex: nuts and dried fruit] Visualize a large chicken egg.

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Buy the stuff that’s in season. Fruits and veggies that are in season will be at the best price. Not only does this keep your budget in shape, it also keeps your menu interesting.

Don’t fear frozen

1-cup serving

Often, frozen veggies are just as nutritious as fresh. Watch for sales and you’ll not only save money, you’ll also save prep time as they’re ready to go.

[Ex: Milk, soup, cut-up fruit] Visualize: A baseball

1/2-cup serving [Ex: Ice cream, cooked beans, cooked pasta, cooked rice, a piece of whole fruit] Visualize: A tennis ball

2 Tbsp/1 oz serving [Ex: Peanut butter, hummus, dried fruit, salad dressing] Visualize: A golf ball

3 oz meat serving

Grow your own

Now’s the perfect time to think about having homegrown veggies. Even if you don’t have space for a garden, you can grow herbs, spinach, radishes, beets, and more in containers on your porch, patio, or near a sunny window.

A hanging basket works well for growing cherry tomatoes. Better find some friends to share them with.

[Ex: steak, chicken, pork] Visualize: The size and thickness of a deck of cards.

Making a hamburger? Visualize a hockey puck.

3 oz of fish is about the length of your checkbook.

2 oz cheese serving For hard cheese, one serving should be the size of 4 dice.

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Asparagus is the harbinger of spring. Once the ground thaws, asparagus get growing. It can push up at a rate of six inches or more a day.

Asparagus

Despite it’s strange appearance, asparagus is well-loved by many. Plus, it’s a healthy choice - it’s high in fiber, folate, and potassium. Asparagus has bone-building vitamin K and many antioxidants, including vitamins E, A and C. Each spear has just 4 calories and zero fat or cholesterol.

Be adventurous. Asparagus does grow in the wild. The best places to find it is in areas with wet, sandy soil. If you find some never pull it. Instead, cut it as close to the ground as possible.

Asparagus facts

Ingredients: 1 lb fresh asparagus, cut into 1” pieces 1/2 c chopped onion 14.5 oz can chicken broth 2 T butter

Asparagus can be enjoyed in so many ways. Fix it as a simple side dish, main dish or soup, or create a delicious hors d’oeuvre like Bacon-Wrapped Asparagus. Drizzle asparagus with olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper. Cut strips of bacon lengthwise and wrap around asparagus. Place on a wire rack inside a cookie sheet. Bake at 4000F for 20-25 min. turning after halfway.

2 T flour 1 t salt Pinch black pepper 1 c milk 1/2 c sour cream 1 t lemon juice

Directions: In a large saucepan, combine asparagus, onion, and 1/2 cup chicken broth. Cover and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer uncovered about 12 minutes. Pour into a blender and puree until smooth. In the same saucepan, over low heat, melt the butter and stir in the flour, salt, and pepper. Slowly whisk in the rest of the chicken broth, and cook over medium heat, stirring constantly until it boils. Stir in the asparagus puree and the milk. Put the sour cream in a small bowl and stir in a cup of the hot soup and the lemon juice. Add the mixture to the soup. Stir until it’s hot but not boiling. Serve immediately.

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Asparagus appetizers

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Creamy asparagus soup

Asparagus bunches By frank60, wild asparagus By Pfeiffer, bacon wrapped on tray By mubus7, bacon wrapped bundles By janosmarton, and soup By Cesarz/Shutterstock.com

• Asparagus is one of three vegetables common in North American that comes from a perennial plant (along with artichokes and rhubarb).

• It generally takes 3 years from the initial crown planting before you can harvest your asparagus.

• Once established, plants can be harvested each spring for 15 years or more.

• Once cut, asparagus has a short shelf-life. Only young asparagus is eaten. Once the buds start to open the asparagus becomes woody and unpalatable.

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