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In spite of the 2020 pandemic, how to find

Hope in the darkness tips to

Feel better now

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BETTER BODY 17 . 6 Tips to feel better now 19 . Brain benders 20 . We see what you’re doing 21 . Boost your immunity 22 . Ready to move forward?

BETTER LIFE 23 . 10 Questions for God 29 . Money matters 30 . Laughter Rx 31 . Value matters 35 . A change for the better

BETTER FOOD 37 . Strawberry-rhubarb cobbler

38 . DIY funnel cake 38 . Cucumber limeade 38 . Food Q&A 39 . Food focus - Bananas

BETTER NOW

BETTER HOME

5 . Today Matters 6 . Keep on keepin’ on 7 . Better Stuff 8 . Top 5

9 . What stories we will tell 12 . DIY what makes you crazy 13 . Home organization 15 . Home renovations 16 . Grow an extra row

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It’s time to say

Goodbye

Publisher

funny Facebooker posted, “Most months have 30 days, except for March and April which have 300!” These have been strange days for sure. When this began, we talked about not even doing an issue, but then realized this was the most important time of all to get a message of hope into the world. This will be an online only issue, and this will be our last. The reason isn’t really because of the Coronavirus, but more of a realization of where God is pointing me. For the last decade, I knew that this was what I was supposed to do - help people meet Jesus in a way that didn’t freak them out. It’s been a wonderful experience, and I’ve learned far more than I’ve provided on these pages for 10 years. Probably the biggest eye-opener for me has been seeing how little people truly know about God. Even people who go to church every week (when there’s not a pandemic!). While it’s been a little quieter and a little slower lately, I’ve felt such a discontent with my focus. While I know people need help in many areas of their lives, the one we need most (how to know and experience a lifechanging encounter with God), doesn’t get much attention. Hence why so many are panicked right now. At the end of last year, I knew God wanted me to tell people what I really knew about: Him. What I know is that He is in charge, that you can count on Him in every way, that when you spend time with Him everything-EVERYTHING-in your life will change. You can have absolute trust in Him, live without fear and worry, and experience joy no matter what the circumstances. I know that you don’t have to “cope,” but could absolutely be whole. So, while I’m signing off from this platform, I’ll be stepping up to a new one. I’m creating an online program to help people learn how to find God, do life with Him in a real way, find their purpose, and live an eternal-focused life - the one God planned for you all along. The one you’ll wish you would’ve been living a long time ago. If that sounds interesting to you, you can find out more at www.BeingBetter.org. May God bless you like crazy! Jennifer Winquist, Editor-in-chief jennifer@BeingBetterMagazine.com

And this is the way to have eternal life - to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth. -Jesus [John 17:3]

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Everyone has the power to impact the outcome of his life. The way to do it is to focus on today….

Today is the only time you have. It’s too late for yesterday. And you can’t depend on tomorrow. -John Maxwell

Now

BETTER

f there’s ever been a time to “seize the day,” these days are that time. While John Maxwell has written many books on how to succeed in life (both personally and professionally), in a recent online event he said this book, Today Matters, would be the one to read in our current circumstances. In Today Matters, motivational teacher and bestselling author John C. Maxwell offers a hands-on and inspiring guide with twelve daily practices to help you control your daily agenda, make time for people you love, and find success in your career. You’ll learn to: • Assess where you’re at and discover how to make your life a masterpiece every day. • Prioritize your day and how to get things done. • Expand your creativity and thinking to add value to yourself and others. • Manage your money (instead of letting it manage you). • Strengthen your faith and discover the four powerful tools it gives you. • Improve and build relationships. And you’ll find much, much more, including exercises at the end of every chapter to put these practices into your life as soon as possible. There’s a great time to begin a more successful life. It’s called today.

John C. Maxwell is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, coach, and speaker who has sold more than thirty million books in fifty languages. Dr. Maxwell speaks each year to thousands including Fortune 500 companies, presidents of nations, and the world’s top business leaders. Available on Amazon and other book outlets.

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BETTER / Now

Keep on keepin’ on T When it’s time to

hings have been tough lately. Really tough. No one wants hard things, but sometimes there’s nothing we can do except keep pushing on. Be inspired by some others who have had to press on in spite of their circumstances and have triumphed. Albert Einstein’s teachers thought he was lazy and wouldn’t make anything of himself. J.K. Rowling’s first novel was rejected a dozen times. Stephen King’s was rejected 30 times. Funny men Jim Carrey and Tyler Perry were both homeless at one point in their lives. Oprah Winfrey grew up poor, was abused, and had her baby die, all before she was 15.

No record label would sign Jay-Z. Stephen Spielberg was rejected by USC’s School of Cinema Arts twice. Pro-surfer Bethany Hamilton had her arm bitten off by a shark.

Charlize Theron witnessed her mother kill her alcoholic father. Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before creating the light bulb.

Loren Brill, started baking when she was diagnosed with cancer. Today, her award-winning cookies drive her thriving business. SweetLorens.com President Franklin D. Roosevelt became partially paralyzed at 39.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that didn’t work.” - Thomas Edison

“One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” -Andre Gide, Nobel prize

“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy or any of your time or any of your space.” -Johnny Cash

Keep on keepin’ on and who knows where your perseverance will take you.

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BETTER Stuff

Chocolate stuff These all-natural, Dark Chocolate Oven-Roasted Almonds are dusted with real cocoa blended with a bit of sugar and natural, no-calorie stevia, making them a delicious snack packed with nutrition. Almonds are naturally loaded with vitamin E, fiber, and 5 g of protein plus other good-for-your health stuff.

Quarantine stuff

A young girl asked her dad, “Why is my sister’s name Paris?” Her dad replied, “We conceived her when we were in Paris.” “Oh, Thanks Dad,” she replied. He patted her head, “No problem Quarantine.” Quarantine Day 1: I have enough food and supplies to last me months, maybe even years.

Quotable stuff

Day 1 + 45 min.: I’m at the store. I needed a Twix bar.

“Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities - always see them, for they’re always there.” ─ Norman Vincent Peale

Day 2 of no sports: I found a woman on my couch. Apparently she’s my wife. She seems nice.

Sanitizing stuff

In some hospitals, UVD robots are destroying bacteria, viruses (including the Coronavirus) and other harmful microbes. Bulbs emit concentrated UV-C ultraviolet light. It’s hazardous to humans, so the bots do their job alone in the room. A few minutes later there’s a smell, much like burned hair.

“Knowing something doesn’t change your life. Doing something does.” ─ Marie Forleo “Nothing is impossible. The word itself says, ‘I’m possible!’” ─Audrey Hepburn

Green stuff Giving yourself a face massage with a jade roller can have real benefits. One dermotologist said it can improve circulation and lymphatic drainage, so you look more glowing and less puffy. Advocates say the technique helps brighten skin, and even reduces the appearance of wrinkles. If nothing else, it’s a very relaxing experience.

Hot stuff

Jade roller by Ysrisny is $12.95 on Amazon.

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Googled stuff Topping the list of most Googled recipes during isolation was Banana bread. In case you need a good one: 1/3 c shortening, 1/2 c sugar, 2 eggs, 1 3/4 c flour, 1 t baking powder, 1/2 t baking soda, 1/2 t salt, 1 c mashed bananas. Cream shortening and sugar. Add eggs. Mix dry ingredients and add to wet. Stir in bananas. Pour batter into a greased loaf pan and bake at 3500F for 45 min - 1 hr.

If you’ve wanted to try air frying, here’s the ultimate machine with 8-in-1 functionality: Air fry, air roast, air broil, bake, bagel, toast, dehydrate, and keep warm all in one appliance. Plus, it flips up so you can reclaim your counter space. Ninja SP101 Foodi is under $250.

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Top 5

things you are

Kitchen handles

Scrub appliance and cabinet handles once a week. You know you touched the raw bacon when you put it in the pan and — even with your best effort to use your two clean fingers to reopen the fridge to put it away — you know you failed.

Computer stuff

Maybe you’ve thought, now and again, to wipe off your keyboard. After all, you can see the crumbs from your breakfast. But, when was the last time you wiped down your mouse? How about those plugs and cables you connect and disconnect all the time? It’s time to wipe ‘em all down.

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forgetting to clean The ins and outs

Many of us have gotten a little better lately at cleaning in general. One thing we may have realized is that all our doorknobs need to be sanitized from our comings and goings. Something that’s easy to forget is wiping down light switches and railings as well. Some warm soapy water with a rag works wonders.

Drink containers

We have our favorite coffee cup and water bottle that we refill over and over without giving it a regular bath like we should. Plunge it into some hot soapy water and give it a good scrub head to toe.

Faucet

The faucets in your home may be one big petri dish of germs and cooties. Think about all the gross stuff you’ve needed to wash off your hands, and unless you have one of those touchless faucets, you’ve got all of the goo and slime intermingling on the handle of your faucet. Gross. You need to scrub that thing every single day! Faucet by iofoto/Shutterstock.com

BETTER / Now

Home

BETTER Have you considered

What stories we will tell

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t’s been a crazy time to say the least. It’s not been the norm. Things have been different. What will we remember from all of this? For those who lived through the Great Depression in the 30s, they had stories to share. When 9/11 happened, everyone can tell you where they were that day. This pandemic is a little bit of a different beast, but in the years to come we’ll have something to say about our experience too. What will that be? For most of us who aren’t entrenched in the sickness aspect, our stories will be different. We may remember that we depleted the toilet paper supply from store shelves, started “getting together” online, that we couldn’t go to church, and that we had to stay home - quarantined. “How did you spend your time?” our grandkids will ask. Here are a few ideas for what we might say...

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That’s when...

“I made something interesting.” You probably have the tools, the train set, the paints, or the crochet pattern. Crack ‘em out and get crackin.’ How to own it: If crafting or carpentry aren’t speaking to you, channel your favorite celebrity chef or write some music. Do you.

1. That’s when... “I logged some miles.”

How to own it: Challenge yourself to a goal: 15K steps per day, to walk through one new park each week, or do a lap around your block each day.

That’s when...

“I started eating better.”

People have talked about putting on the “Covid 15” as we’re squirreled away, doing nothing but eating. Take the opportunity to eat well and change your outcome. How to own it: A Mediterranean Diet continues to show off as one that truly does a body good.

That’s when...

“I contacted all of my relatives.” Since we truly are all in this together, why not reach out to family you rarely talk to? Check in and feel connected. How to own it: Call a relative in another country. Reconnect with distant family and friends. Set up a group “call” on Zoom and have a virtual family reunion.

That’s when...

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We don’t want to brag about how we binge-watched Netflix. Get off the beaten path, walk your dog (or your honey), or set a goal on your treadmill.

BETTER / Home We all want those businesses in our community to be there for the long haul. Do what you can do. How to own it: Order some takeout, place an order online and have it shipped.

That’s when...

“I gathered memories.” We all have that thing we’ve wanted to learn or books we planned to read. Start learning it. Start reading them. How to own it: Find a topic that interests you and search online for resources, podcasts, books, and videos.

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That’s when...

Most of us have boxes of photos and just shy of a billion digital photos that need sorted. Let’s deal with that mess.

“I supported local businesses.”

That’s when...

“I took stock.” We save a lot of stuff over the years. “memorabilia” we call it. But when do we look through all that stuff we have boxed away? Now’s the time. How to own it: Grab a box and enjoy going down memory lane - with a purpose. After you take it in, pitch what isn’t impactful. If you’re “saving it for the kids,” nows the time to check with them and see if they’ll really want it.

How to own it: Focus on one year or one event. Determine your end result: An album, scrapbook, or digital layout that can be printed are wins. Or, just eliminating the embarrassing photos even feels liberating.

That’s when...

“I focused on others.” When we take our eyes off ourselves and look out into the world around us, we see needs everywhere. We all feel better when we do something outside of ourselves, and we feel empowered when we take action. How to own it: Be a better pet parent, do something for those closest to you, and find one tangible way to serve someone in the world this week - find ways to do that even if you can’t be physically present.. www.beingbettermagazine.com / Vol 10 . No 2 . 2020

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What makes you crazy S It’s time to DIY

o maybe you’ve been home a little more than usual, and you’ve started to notice a few things. Things that have bugged you but now it’s just apparent something needs to change. Not to worry, there is a solution. Here are a few suggestions on how to solve what’s making you crazy.

Pan storage Finding a way to store bulky and awkward pans and lids needs to end! Here is one ingenious approach. DIY IT: This takes some skills, tools, and time but the step-by-step with pictures are provided. Find the DIY for the pot-and-pan-pullout at FamilyHandyMan.com.

Linen closet hack Finding storage for towels and bath essentials can be inexpensive, attractive, and fast thanks to this handy idea from MyWeeAbode.com. DIY IT: Secure a few baskets to the wall using long screws and sheetrock anchors. For more ideas, go to myweeabode.com.

Litter box fix If the cat’s litter box is a source of contention, this may be the answer. A lidded, topentry litter box helps contain the odors better, makes sure all the waste goes in the box (and not over the edge), and cuts way down on tracking litter out of the box. DIY IT: Cut a hole in the lid of any large tote. Boom! Done. (Just make sure it’s tall enough for the cat to sit without crouching.) Or order the Petmate Litter Pan (shown) for around $20.

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Home Organization

BETTER / Home

Let’s do this thing BY gina erickson

e are all #alonetogether during this time and organization has landed at the top of many to-do lists. Since we are not able to go out and shop for new supplies to organize with, here are a few ideas to get you started with where you are and what you have: Before getting started, here are a few tips to shift your perspective:

Prepare your process 1. Be thankful.

Look around at your belongings and remember how fortunate you are to HAVE all of these belongings!

2. Question yourself.

Focus on practical questions while you are going through items: A. Is it useful? B. Do I use it? C. Have I used it? If any of the answers are ‘no’, ask yourself ‘why not?’ then let that answer determine if it stays or goes.

3. Assess realistically.

For sentimental items ask: A. Is this sentimental? B. How sentimental is this item? C. Imagine life 10 years from now and ask yourself if this item will still serve a purpose? Does it have a story attached to it to pass along to children? Can you envision your family or children using it one day?

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Sort it out

Let’s get started on those spaces in your home! It’s important to start and stay in one area until you’re done. This way, you do not have multiple piles which can become overwhelming quickly.

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Re-organizing: Once you have thoroughly sorted through your items and have made the decision on what stays, it’s important to put it back in a place where this item is functional, accessible, and can be used often!

What do you have that you have not used in the last year? Trends have us trying new homemade recipes and ditching fancy appliances (goodbye bread maker!). Now is a great time to go through cabinets, drawers, and pantry spaces to clear out any items you aren’t using.

Kitchen:

Organize like-items together. For example: make a drawer or utensil holder for all cooking utensils, oven mitts, and knives. This way, all of your kitchen utility items are close by, visible, and can be used effortlessly!

Here are a few suggestions: 1. Consolidate kitchen gadgets. More than likely, you don’t need 4 garlic presses. Pick your favorite one and put the others in a plastic tote to donate at a later time.

Bathrooms:

Look through cabinets and drawers to sort through expired cosmetics, toiletries, and medicine. You can find a Makeup Expiration Date checklist online.

3. Sort out baking dishes and pans. If you have multiple of the same (or very similar pieces), pick your favorite or most used and place the remaining ones in a bin to donate at a later time.

If space allows, organize your clothing from heaviest to lightest. This means putting heavier items such as sweaters, shawls, and pull-overs together at one end, long sleeve shirts next, then tanks and tees at the other end. You can even “sub-categorize” by color as well. This is visually appealing and helps you find things much easier. Grab extra bins or baskets you may have in the house to put likeaccessories together such as: scarves, hats/gloves, leggings, undershirts, or socks. Keep all like-items together and label each basket accordingly.

Papers and Mail:

Sort through old papers and mail. Shred any personal or confidential information that is no longer pertinent like old receipts, bank statements, medical bills, work documents, etc.* If you don’t have a shredder, set them aside to take to a bank or office supply store to shred at a later date.

Closets:

*Make sure you don’t shred any documents that you are required to keep for tax or legal purposes.

A. Start with the items you have worn in the past few months. Place those aside to keep. B. Take a look at the remaining items and ask yourself if these are pieces you will wear or if its time to part from them. When you can, take them to a donation site.

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The rest:

Continue the process in other rooms: Sort items into like-categories and then place items in an accessible and easy-to-reach area. For sentimental items, be sure to label bins, bags, or items clearly so that you know where these precious items are for the future.

Photos: Guy by ASDF_MEDIA, sort dresses by varandah, makeup by Becky Starsmore, papers by hareluya, and bins by Kostikova Natalia/Shutterstock.com

2. Sort through the pantry. Go through expired canned goods and non-perishables. Make a list of items you use on a regular basis to re-stock when you make a grocery store trip.

Closets:

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Home Renovations It’s not like HGTV

with Dan vanderlinden

Dan VanderLinden and his crew have been doing home renovations for over 30 years.

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Picking your contractor

f you’ve been imagining a new space in your home or an updated one, how that all happens may not be what you imagine. Everyone seems to love the programs on HGTV, but some may leave you feeling like renovations will be filled with expensive unknowns or that it will all come together in a few short days. Dan VanderLinden, owner of Remodeling Services, has some insight to paint the proper perspective.

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The timeline

“Most of our customers have been our customers for years, sometimes even decades, so they know what it takes to get a project done. Perhaps the biggest misconception first-time home remodelers have is how long it will take. Each job is different, but be aware that things take time. Once plans are solidified, supplies need to be purchased, work and subcontractors scheduled. You want it done right, not fast.”

job the contractor will be working on. That is typically not the case. While sheetrock “mud” or paint is drying, the plumber is plumbing, or the electrician is wiring, the contractor will be elsewhere. Yet, this should not delay the schedule.”

The unknowns

“Some of the remodeling shows reveal dramatic or expensive problems that pop up during the remodel. In our experience, that is really rare. We may come across something unexpected but most times we just deal with it and it’s not even worth talking about.”

“In almost every case, the jobs we’ve done come by word of mouth. If you know someone who’s had good work done, ask them who did it and how the experience was. The likability factor is big. You need to know if they are trustworthy and dependable. If you don’t like them or feel uneasy about something, that’s important. Remember, they are going to be like family while this project goes on. Before it’s all over, we know a lot about each other – we’ve seen you at your best, your worst, and what you have. Make sure it’s a good fit.” Having realistic expectations, and a contractor you like, goes a long way to enjoying not only your renovation but the process as well.

Not the only job

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Grow an extra row Let’s garden and

with Randy Burnight - Up from the earth

with. If you are limited on space you can garden in a 5 gallon bucket. That’s fine for growing peppers, tomatoes, or cucumbers.”

What to plant

“If you like to eat it, plant it. If you want some instant gratification, plant some radishes. They’ll be ready in 24 to 30 days, and you can plant them early.”

What to sow

“Some things are better to plant as a starter plant instead of a seed because they take so long to mature. Get starter plants if you want tomatoes, peppers, cabbage, onion sets, or broccoli.”

Whatever you plant, make sure to grow an extra row, and share it with the community.

ver the last couple of months, we’ve all understood better that what we always thought we could count on is not guaranteed in the future. Perhaps that’s why more people are considering gardening for the first time. Master Gardener, Randy Burnight, founded Up From The Earth in 2014 and since then his team has encouraged gardeners to share their overflow in the community. “I have to commend our community. This has been such an amazing community effort! Over the last 6 seasons, more than 130,000 pounds of produce has gone into our food pantry system!” So how can we be successful with our gardens this year? Randy has some suggestions.

Up from the Earth is a voluntary system for connecting home gardeners who plant, grow, and share produce to people in need. The program encourages home gardeners to “grow an extra row” and distribution of excess fruits and veggies to those in need through 28+ existing food pantries. Find Up from the Earth on Facebook or go to their website for info and drop off sites. upfromtheearth.wixsite.com/siouxland

Get comfortable

“Some people love gardening and being outdoors. For me, pulling weeds after a rain is therapeutic. If you’re just starting out, start small so you don’t overwhelm yourself. When you have success you’ll be more encouraged to continue. Do what you’re comfortable

Make gardening a family project. Kids will have fun learning as they see results from their efforts. These kids show off the peas they helped grow.

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Body

6 tips

BETTER

to feeling better now in this new normal

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hat is going on is scary and uncertain. There are things that are out of our control, nothing seems predictable, and for many, our sense of safety is gone. But, Amy Bloch, executive director with Catholic Charities, has some tips on how to move forward. “When people are afraid they often become paralyzed. Losing a job, the ability to see friends and coworkers, not being able to participate in activities, and simply the loss of normalcy is unsettling. Doing what you can with what’s left will help you feel empowered. Here are a few tips to start the process.”

TIP #1 .

Take media breaks. It's easy to get overwhelmed with a constant barrage of news - most of which is negative. Set a time limit on your news consumption each day (maybe 15 min.) and choose trusted sites.

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TIP #2 .

Be connected. While physical distancing may still be encouraged, connecting with loved ones and your crew is still possible and necessary. Pick up the phone or use social media tools. Schedule coffee with a group of friends on a video call. Think about who needs encouragement: a neighbor who is alone, your sister who works at the hospital, or a friend who recently lost their spouse. Be a hope giver.

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6 tips

TIP #3 .

Find gratitude. Instead of thinking of everything that's a problem and all the negatives, take time each day to list the good. “I'm so grateful I still have a job.” “I finally have time to tackle those small projects.” “I’m learning what’s important to me.”

to feeling better now

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“Gratitude turns what we have

TIP #4 .

Have a routine. While things may not be like they used to, embrace the "new normal," and create a routine that works now. Simply having structure and routine in your day goes a long way to help you feel on track.

into enough.”

-Melody Beattie

TIP #6 .

Pray. Sitting with God and talking about things helps you find peace. If you want Him to lead the way in your life, tell Him.

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“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

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-Philippians 4: 6-7

Amy says, “Please remember that you don’t have to feel like you’re alone in this. If you are struggling with things and feeling depressed or anxious, we are always here for you - adults and kids. Feel free to email or call us any time 712-252-4547. “There is a also a peer-run listening line you can reach out to. Just call or text Iowa Warm Line at 855-800-1239. “Taking steps to get the help you need emotionally and mentally will help you feel better now.”

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TIP #5 .

Get outside. A little sunshine and fresh air will do you a world of good. Do your work planning on the deck, check Facebook on your porch, walk around the block and say "hi" (from a distance). Breathe.

Brain benders

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Changing season

These summer scenes may look the same, but there are seven subtle differences. Can you find them all?

Riddle me this

Can you answer each of these riddles?

1. What did the bee say to the flower?

2. What is that which every one can divide, but no one can see where it has been divided?

3. What is black when you buy it, red when you use it, and gray when you throw it away? 4. What 4-letter word can be written forward,

backward or upside down, and can still be read from left to right?

5. I'm white, and used for cutting and grinding. When I'm damaged, humans usually remove me or fill me. For most animals I am a useful tool. What am I?

Drinking deduction

Bert, Karen, and Dave are drinking soda. George, Helen, and Steve are drinking coffee.

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Using logic, can you determine whether Elizabeth is drinking coffee or soda?

In the dog house

Can you find the two doggie dens that are exactly the same?

ANSWERS

Riddle me this: 1) Hello, honey! 2) Water. 3) Charcoal. 4) NOON. 5) Teeth. Drinking deduction: Elizabeth is drinking coffee. The letter E appears twice in her name, as it does in the names of the others that are drinking coffee. In the dog house: B & F are the same. Changing season: Clockwise from top right: Missing bubble on tree, missing flower, missing black spot on dog, missing tuft of grass under the car, no water in bucket, missing fog light, color of dad's shorts.

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We see what you’re [not] doing

with david welch

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ince most of us have been instructed to stay at home, the honest truth is we are getting pretty laid back (aka: lazy). Ask the doctors and nurses on the other end of those telemed calls and they will report many people calling while lying in bed, still in their jammies. That’s okay if you’re sick, but most of us are not sick. David Welch, PA at Midwest Pain Clinics has a warning about our lack of movement. “For people with pain, it’s going to get worse if you are just laying around. Lack of mobility leads to stiffness, de-conditioning, and maybe even blood clots. Fibromyalgia is worse when people aren’t moving. “You’ve got to move around. If you can’t get outside, do some things inside. Find new uses for household items: Do arm curls with cans of tomatoes, lift your toddler, use a bicycle inner tube for an exercise band. Some local clubs have free online workouts. Keep up your stamina. Make a plan to stay moving. Prepare to be at your best.”

Boost your immunity

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higher risk because of his diabetes. Some studies show a 7% mortality with diabetes (infections love high blood sugar) and a 10% mortality with heart disease. Compare that to a less than 1% for those who have no complicating factors. In America, 60% have at least one chronic health condition and 40% have more than one. The root of almost all disease is system malfunction.

60% of Americans have at least one chronic health condition.

Dr. Pat Luse & Amy who lost over 50 pounds in 3 months on the 7 Systems Plan.

hen the experts started listing health factors that put us at risk for getting Coronavirus, it was a wake-up call for many. Suddenly, we went from thinking we weren't so bad to the realization that our lifestyle was not landing us in the best category. Dr. Pat Luse, author of the 7 Systems Plan, says now is a great time to improve your health, and it can start turning around very quickly. In 12 short weeks, Amy lost 57 pounds, fixed her sleep problems, sky rocketed her energy, and ramped up her immune system. With the coronavirus nightmare, it was perfect timing to regain her health. Sadly, most people aren’t ready for an attack on their systems. Many of us followed Tom Hanks’ struggle with the coronavirus, he was at a

The good news is that most health problems (systems malfunctions) are reversible. In my last article, I discussed Brandon, who lost diabetes and 40 pounds in 90 days with the 7 Systems Plan! Unfortunately, this won’t be the last pandemic, and we all need our systems to be functioning optimally, especially the immune system. It is now known that our gut health controls at least 70% of our immune system. Our gut is critical to your overall immune, physical, mental, and emotional health. If you have a stressed and imbalanced gut, it leads to a stressed, imbalanced life... and compromised immunity! We must take action to strengthen the immune system of our body.

If you have a stressed and imbalanced gut, it leads to a stressed, imbalanced life… and compromised immunity!

With some simple tests, Amy found out which of her 7 Systems were not functioning optimally. These system malfunctions were the root cause of her obesity, low energy, and sleep problems. She followed the 7 Systems Plan, got online coaching, and was educated on how to make this progress permanent. If you’d like to lose weight, improve your immune system, and experience some of the same great results as Amy, there’s no time like the present.

To attend Dr. Pat Luse's free (online) information meeting on The 7 Systems Plan, call for dates and to sign up: 402-494-5173.

Dr. Pat Luse teaches The 7 Systems course online from his office at Tri-State Physicians and Physical Therapy Clinic in So. Sioux City, NE.

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Are you ready to move

Forward?

with shari black

they have peace. Others feel panicked and have no peace. If you are someone who is looking for a way to move forward, you will find your way if you simply do things to move you there.”

Shari Black, Mary Kay Director, can help you reach your goals for the future.

Shari works with women who are looking to move forward and be independent entrepreneurs. Call or email her if this is you! www.marykay.com/sblack10011 Email: shariblack31@gmail.com 330-310-4569

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hat type of person are you? Shari Black, a former oncology nurse practitioner who now helps women find their potential, sees there are basically two kinds: Those who look for a way to move forward and those who stay stuck. “Early in my career as an oncology nurse, I wondered how families made

it through. At 45, when my own husband died from cancer I knew the answer. You get through it because you have to. If you don’t make a conscious decision to move forward you stay stuck. That is where bitterness and resentment grows. The same is true for all of life’s hardships. We have to decide what our response will be. “I decided I was going to be happy again. I kept thinking there has to be meaning in this. When I went back to work I realized how much more effective I could be now that I knew the full scope of that kind of a journey. “Hard things change you. You can put the pieces of a broken mirror back together but it’s not the same. It has cracks, and it gives a different perspective. Now as I move forward in my life and business I know there are way worse things that have happened to me and I can weather them. “During this time of such ambiguity, it’s easy to get stuck. The people who are weathering this well are those with faith in God because

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ecently, we asked people what questions they would ask God right now if they could. Some people had gone to church their whole lives and others had rarely, if ever, gone; however, the questions are pretty much the same. We picked out the top 10 and gave them to a few pastors to tell us what God’s book has to say. As the pastors answer the questions, take time to look up the Bible verses they reference. Let God speak to you.

Question #1 God, are you trying to test us, punish us, or teach us something? Pastor Chris: As I think back on some of the most difficult events in my own life, it was those events that ended up profoundly shaping my spiritual journey. God will often use difficulties to test and refine my faith. During those times, God was teaching me to draw close to Him, that He was near, that His grace was enough, that He does still care even in the midst of pain and suffering. It’s there that I am reminded that Jesus also went through pain and suffering on the cross that ultimately brought about the redemption of all mankind for those who put their trust in Him. His pain and suffering brought about the ultimate hope that we have. I can look

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Proverbs 3:5-6, Isaiah 26:3-4, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Romans 8:28).

Pastor Gene: The pandemic is certainly a trial, and God uses trials to refine us (James 1:2-4). It is also within the realm of possibilities that God is pouring out His wrath. Hebrews 12:25-28: “God’s wrath has been poured out on the nations in judgment. He has demonstrated His righteous anger.” However, there isn’t a neat-and-tidy way to determine cause-and-effect in tying physical sufferings to personal sins (Luke 13:1–5; John 9:1–3). All in all, when we are faced with tribulations, God reminds us that He is our help and that He alone is our strength (Psalm 121:1-2; 73:25-26). Pastor BJ: I do think God teaches us through circumstances and experiences in life. In Psalm 32:8, we read what may be God’s message to David,“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.” God knows all and is able to teach us who are limited. Experiences of difficulty often put us in a spot where we may be more open to God. More open to learning and being

Holy Bible references: Pastor Gene (ESV), Pastor B.J. (NIV), Pastor Chris (NLT)

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molded and shaped. To growing. In

Romans 5:3-5, Paul writes about growing,

“…we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.”

A common truth to learn and relearn throughout life is about our need for and dependence on God. Paul wrote about being given a thorn in the flesh to keep from becoming conceited. And even though he wanted it gone, he was told “My [the Lord’s] grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). Like Paul, difficulties and hardships can help teach us that when we are weak, we are strong through the power of Christ. And that the Lord’s grace is enough for us in whatever we experience. In all times, like this pandemic, it is important that we are open and seek God, asking what God may want to teach us in this time.

Question #2 God, why do you let bad things happen? Pastor Chris: In Genesis 2-3, God had a close personal intimate relationship with Adam and Eve. There was peace and harmony in the world. God gave them one rule: Don’t eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. Adam and Eve decided to willfully disobey God and do what they wanted to do. At that point sin entered the world and the world became a broken place. God tossed Adam and eve out of the garden, they were separated from God and no longer had a close intimate relationship with him. Things were no longer as they should be. From this point forward things were cataclysmically changed. This is the basic reason for why bad things happen. The world is now a broken place and things are not as they

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Pastor Gene: God is not only love but He is just. His anger and discipline are real (Psalm 7:11; Romans 1:18; Hebrews 12:3-7). Jesus tells us that we will have trouble in this world (John 16:33). The Bible also promises us that, “God works all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28) We also know that discipline (Hebrews 12:3-7) and trials (James 1:2-4) have a purpose in refining our faith. Pastor BJ: One reason God lets bad things happen is because God gives us free will (Joshua 24:15 demonstrates free will). Free will is what allowed Adam and Eve to choose what they did when sin entered the world (Genesis 3). Free will is what allows us to choose what we do, including when we sin. This sin results in bad consequences both directly (e.g. – a sin against someone) and indirectly (e.g. – because all of creation is impacted by sin, one can experience sickness or starvation several steps removed). If God did not let bad things happen, our free will would need to be taken away.

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Question #5

God, people are dying. What happens when I die?

God, I’m scared. When I don’t know what’s coming how can I not be afraid?

Pastor Chris: Those who believe in Jesus Christ and have put their faith in what He did for them on the cross will get to spend eternal life with God in Heaven (John 3:16 & Revelation 21:1-7). Those who have not put their faith in Jesus Christ will spend eternity in Hell (Matthew 25 & Revelation 20:10-15). Pastor Gene: What happens to you when you die depends on your relationship with Jesus Christ. “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)

Question #4 God, is this the end of the world? Pastor Gene: We know the world is coming to an end (Matthew 24:3-14). We also know the signs of the end of this age (Matthew 25). However, we don’t know the day or the hour (Matthew 24:36). Be careful that you don’t listen to those claiming to know.

Pastor Chris: When I am filled with fear and worry I turn to Philippians 4:6-7 in which God says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Typically, when I am worried or anxious about something, it is usually something that is out of my control, and when I fret over something that I cannot control that is the recipe for anxiety and fearfulness. I need to put my trust in the one who is in control. In order to center myself, I ask myself these four questions: 1) Do I truly believe that God loves me? (Romans 8:38)

2) Do I believe that God gives good gifts to his children? (Matthew 7:11) 3) Do I believe that God is sovereign? (Proverbs 3:5-6)

4) Do I believe that God is working all things together for my good and His glory? (Romans 8:38)

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Pastor Gene: Granted, there is a lot of uncertainly and instability in our world. It is not a lighthearted matter. Whether financial crisis, war, disease, or natural disaster, there are several things that threaten life and liberty. However, instead of fear and worry, we can have faith and confidence in Jesus Christ. Even in the worst of times, we can pray and give thanks as He promises an inner peace (Philippians 4:6-7; John 14:27). For that matter, God gave us a Spirit of power and not fear (2 Timothy 1:7). Pastor BJ: This is a very normal and realistic response in the face of threat and unknown. I think the reality is that we are always vulnerable. I think we often live with the illusion we’re “in control” and don’t see our vulnerability. Situations like this pandemic or a poor health diagnosis/prognosis or many other things can remind us of our vulnerability. Despite this, we actually don’t need to be afraid. We don’t need to be afraid by…

2) Knowing that God who is with us, is supremely capable. Psalm 103:19 says, “The LORD has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all.” God is bigger than this pandemic. Bigger than our greatest fears. 3) Focusing on God. We can avoid fear by turning our focus away from the concerns of this life and toward God. One thing I took away from the book Too Busy Not to Pray is my need to focus more upon God, the mountain-mover, rather than the mountain(s) in my life. This doesn’t mean ignoring needs and concerns. It is important to do what God gives us the ability to do. But, our first step (and ongoing) needs to be focusing on God. Praying to God. Then, we do what we can using our minds, abilities, and resources (which are provided by God). And keep praying through it all (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Instead of being afraid, we can actually have peace no matter what our situation. Paul writes, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every

situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7) Instead of being anxious, we can seek God out of gratitude and talk with God about what is on our heart and mind. And this leads to peace.

Question #6 God, how do we trust the government and our leaders when there’s so much conflicting information? Pastor Chris: Whenever I am doubting the leaders of our nation I need to remind myself of who is ultimately in charge and who puts those leaders in positions of authority and then balance that with praying for those leaders, at the same time praying that God would give me wisdom and discernment in how to respond. (Daniel 2:20-21, Mark 12:13-17, 1 Peter 2:13-14, and Colossians 1:16-17)

Pastor Gene: We are called to respect government officials and those who have authority (1 Peter 2:13-15; Romans 13:17). However, these officials and agencies are fallible, occasionally incompetent, and sometimes evil. We need to pray for them and validate their claims. All in all, ultimately our trust is in the Lord (Proverbs 3:5-6). Pastor BJ: It is important to recognize and respect authority. And, our trust ultimately needs to be in God. Not in humanity. Not in healthcare, protocols, or leaders. Our trust needs to be in God. Even the best human efforts are flawed. Mine sure are. In Proverbs 3:5-6 we read, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Submitting or surrendering to the Lord requires trust in the Lord.

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If I can truly answer yes to all of these questions, then I can put my case in His hands and trust him with it. (1 Peter 2:23, 5:7) (If you can’t answer yes to these, make sure to read the answers for #7 & #8.)

1) Knowing God is with us. When we put our trust in God, our security and well-being can be found in God. In Isaiah 41:10 we read, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” God offers to be with us and help us.

Question #7 God, do you love me?

Pastor Chris: 1 John 4:8-10 says that God is love; it’s the essence of who He is. With God, love is not something He does, it is who He is. God does not love me because of what I do, God loves me because of who He is. God proved once and for all how much He loves us by sending His son Jesus Christ to die on a cross while we were yet sinners (Romans 5:8). He took the punishment for my crime even when I didn’t deserve it. He extended to us this life changing gift of grace and forgiveness that restores our relationship with Him if we are willing to receive it. Ephesians 3:17-19 says that God’s love is so high, so long, so deep and so wide that we can’t even begin to humanly comprehend it. And in Romans 8:38 it says that there is nothing you can do to make God love you less - nothing. There is nothing you can do to make God love you less, nothing, not even on your worst day! God’s love is unconditional, and there is nothing you can do to separate yourself from God’s love through Jesus Christ. Pastor Gene: God loves the whole world enough to send His one and only Son, Jesus Christ, to die for our sins and give us eternal life (John 3:16; Romans 5:8). No one has a greater love than the one who willingly dies for others like Jesus did for us (John 15:13). In fact, God loves us with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). With that said, the question isn’t whether God loves us but rather, whether we love God.

No one has a greater love than the one who willingly dies for others like Jesus did. Pastor BJ: Yes. God loves us probably more than we can ever imagine this side of heaven. Jesus tells us that… “God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into

BETTER / Life the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him” (John 3:1617). That is love.

Question #8 God, how can I make sure I go to heaven if I die?

Pastor Chris: Romans 3:23 says that we are all sinners and our sin separates us from God. But the good news is found in Romans 5:8 which says that God loves you, and He demonstrated how much he loves you by sending His son Jesus to die on a cross for our sins. In Romans 10:9-10 it says that if you believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord you will be saved and go to Heaven. In a practical sense, you simply pray to Jesus and invite him into your life and make Him the leader and Lord of your life. While the words don’t matter as much as what the genuine desire of your heart is, your prayer might look something like this: “Dear Jesus, I admit that my way of life is not working, I admit my sinfulness and believe that you died on a cross to forgive my sins. Today, I invite you into my life and commit my life to you. Please make me new and fill my life with a renewed passion and purpose. Amen.” And then in 1 John 5:11-13 it says, “This is what God has testified: He has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have God’s Son does not have life. I have written this to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, so that you may know you have eternal life.” By believing the truth of these scriptures you can have a deep confidence that you will go to heaven when you die. Pastor Gene: We are saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ. In other words, we are saved by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone (Ephesians 2:8-9). You can’t work hard enough or do enough good things to earn a place in heaven. Your only hope is to call upon the name of the Lord in faith (Romans 10:13).

Pastor BJ: This is an important question with or without a pandemic. Life is short; less than a blink in the span of eternity. The way any of us can be sure of entering heaven after this life is by putting our faith and trust in Jesus. When Paul and Silas were in prison, the jailer in charge of Paul and Silas asked a similar question. “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?” They replied, “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household.” (Acts. 16:30-31)

Living with assurance of salvation in the next life allows us to live with hope and freedom in this life. Living ready to die helps one to live. Paul says more about this in his letter to the Romans. He writes, “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” (Romans 10:9-10).

Living ready to die helps one to live.

Question #9 God, how do I know what to do? Pastor Chris: Once you have a personal relationship with the God of the universe, His presence now dwells within you through the Holy Spirit. You can talk to God through prayer and God will begin to speak into your life as well, and you can begin to understand your purpose in life and what God wants you to do. I believe that there are five main ways that God will speak to His people: 1) God will speak to us through His creation. (Psalm 19:1-4) 2) Through the Holy spirit to our thoughts. (1Kings 19:12)

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4) Through life’s past and current circumstances. (Acts 16:6-10) 5) And the main way God speaks to us is through His Word, the Bible. (2 Timothy 3:16)

When you pursue all of these avenues and all five of these things seem to be pointing in the same direction, I believe that you can be confident in what God is calling you to do. Pastor Gene: There are innumerable situations that we don’t, won’t, and possibly can’t know what to do. We often lack knowledge and experience to know what to do. In some situations, not even the experts know what to do. However, as we pray and ask God for wisdom and discernment (James 1:5-8), we are wise to listen to professionals with experience and expertise (e.g. doctors, lawyers, law enforcement, etc.). With that said, ultimately God is our help in time of trouble (Psalm 121:1-2).

Question #10 God, how do I pray?

Pastor Chris: Prayer is simply a conversation with God. Scripture says that we can come boldly before the throne of God. Your prayer does not need to be lengthy and showy, it just needs to be authentic and genuine. You can talk to God like you are talking to a friend over coffee about anything that matters to you. If it matters to you it matters to God. (1Peter 5:7)

Pastor BJ: Jesus shared about how to pray. In Matthew 6, we read of Jesus teaching us to pray not to be seen by others. He also teaches us to not go on and on, thinking many words are better. It can help to think of prayer much like talking with a friend. Jesus gave a model for prayer in what is called the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-13).

The answer God has the answers to all of our tough questions: they are all found in Jesus. An overall message God is trying to tell us in the Bible is that God loves us. The important question now is whether you will make Jesus your final answer. That is where your peace will be found…no matter what’s going on. If you don’t have a Bible, download a free Bible app @ www.youversion.com

You can pray anytime and anywhere, prayer can be a constant conversation with God all day long about whatever is going on in your life. (1Thessalonians 5:16-18)

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PRAISE REPENT ASK YIELD P – Praise God for who He is and what He has done. Speak to God the truth of how amazing God is. R – Repent by confessing your sins, asking for forgiveness, and turning away from it. A – Ask God for what you need. Y – Yield by spending time everyday listening for what God wants you to hear from Him. Recognizing that God’s will is best, surrendering our will to His. These are some ideas to guide your time with God. Above all, be real with Him and ask for His help and leading.

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3) Through wise Christian council.

Pastor Gene: In troubled times, it is possible we do not know what to pray for, but it is encouraging to know that the Spirit of God intercedes for us when this happens (Romans 8:26-27). Otherwise, using the model for prayer that Jesus gave us (Matthew 6:9-13), we are instructed to praise the Father for who He is and revere His name, anticipate the coming of Jesus with joy and expectation, request God’s will to be done and expect to be part of His plan, ask God to meet our daily needs, ask God to forgive our sins, and plead with God to deliver us from the power of sin. We also know that we should pray for those in authority (1 Timothy 2:2) and the needs of others (3 John 1:2). And don’t forget, claim God’s promises (John 16:24).

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How to be better right now where

Money matters M oney is tight more than ever right now, and it can be hard to know what to do. We listened to what experts were saying to navigate this crazy time.

1. What to do now

If you are in a very unstable financial situation right now, on a recent podcast, financial guru Dave Ramsey advised focusing your finances in this order: 1) Food 2) Lights/Water 3) Mortgage/Rent “Do keep gas in your car. Do look for an interim job...You can make some money to continue to run your home for a period of time.”

2. Avoid these big mistakes

1) Don’t let fear drive your decisions. 2) Don’t take a line of credit on your home or use credit cards to get by. 3) Don’t go to payday loan places. 4) Don’t make purchases to make yourself feel better about this hard time (like buying a new TV or boat when you should be paying off debt). 5) Do not delay payments if you can afford them. Anthony O’Neal, a trusted voice on money matters says, “Don’t take advantage of forbearance plans.” This isn’t loan forgiveness or even deferment, it is just a delay. You could end up paying multiple months at once. Do not cash in your 401k.

3. Be the only one

It’s easy to follow the crowd during a crisis - which may be the wrong way. When he read an article about how someone bought their kid an iPad because they didn’t want their child to be the only one without it, Dr. John Delony, a Ph.D. in psychology, and his friend started saying, “Be the only one.” Thinking if everyone else is living on credit cards, I’m going to be the only one who doesn’t. If everyone else is treating their spouse badly, I’m going to be the only one who doesn’t do that. Over time you’ll reap the benefits by doing what no one else will do. How will you be the only one?

4. Never feel like this again

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Financial experts all agree that having a $1500 emergency fund put away is key to peace when the unexpected comes. Also, having 3 to 6 months of expenses put away to cover bills and essentials helps us weather the storms. If you haven’t had this cushion then you have probably felt fear in this troubling time. Don’t let that fear be wasted. Decide now to do what you need to do to never feel that financial anxiety again.

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Laughter is the

best medicine.

The things we say... Whoever said, "Out of sight, out of mind" never had a spider disappear in their bedroom.

Body of Knowledge

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For nail health, dermatologists’ #1 recommendation is to leave your cuticles alone. The cuticle is a natural barrier to fungus and bacteria. Once cuticles are breached, protection is lost.

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In a German study, people with severe nail problems took supplements of biotin (a member of the vitamin B family) for several months and 91% had significant improvement. One supplement that experts say won't work: Gelatin.

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Studies show that those who suffer most from dry, brittle nails were those who regularly indulged in manicures and pedicures.

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The American Academy of Dermatology advises that the condition of your nails can sometimes reflect health issues. Discolored, slowgrowing, or thickening nails could indicate things like liver issues, kidney or lung disease, diabetes, or anemia.

"I need to talk to you." That one sentence has the power to make you remember every bad thing you've done your whole life. I want my last words to be, "I have a million dollars hidden in the..." If you say "gullible" slowly it sounds like "oranges." Things people say: "It's Friday!" What home-workers say: "It's Friday?"

In the know

[Almost] worthless facts.

In quarantine it's really hard to end phone calls. Now when you say, "Okay, I have to run," they know you're lying.

Better perspective

Improve your way of thinking

In a crisis, sometimes you just have to find the funny. Here are some good attempts people have offered... For the first time in history, we can save the human race by lying in front of the TV doing nothing. Let's not screw this up! Eventually, everyone will be quarantined to their houses and in 9 months we'll have a baby boom, and we'll call them "Coronials." How I expected my apocalypse outfit to look:

The most-hated food worldwide is beets. The name for the shape of Pringles is called a ‘Hyperbolic Paraboloid’. Sliced bread became commercially available in the summer of 1928. Alligators and manatees co-exist amiably in Florida waters. Blue is the favored color choice for toothbrushes.

What it is:

Three dogs survived the sinking of the Titanic. People do not sneeze in their sleep because the area that signals that response shuts down. Your brain is about 60% fat. The American bison is the national animal of USA. In Scotland the national animal is a unicorn.

Day 1 of quarantine: "I'm going to take this as an opportunity to improve my health." Day 2 of quarantine: "Due to personal reasons, I am eating lasagna in my shower." Tip to help you stop eating during quarantine: Put on your swimsuit instead of your sweats. You're welcome.

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What do you put a price tag on? What value have you put on yourself?

Your value matters

by Doug collins

am writing this at a time of economic uncertainty. Our world has begun to question some things it once held as valuable. Sports and Entertainment are on hold; toilet paper is heavily in demand. It all seems a little strange. Yet these examples point to something very crucial to living a well-adjusted life. Understanding our actual, intrinsic value is key to our relationships, interactions with others, and ultimately our happiness.

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A solid understanding of our value leads to peace and grace and the ability to weather many storms. Are others determining your value? Many people I talk with have a value that fluctuates. That is to say that they receive their value from outside themselves (external locus). This could be the opinions of others (“you’re beautiful,” “I don’t like you,” “you’ve got great taste…” for example), or it could be tied to achievements or failures (winning a game, losing a job, etc.). There is a big problem with this: it is way too subjective. Allowing others to determine my value will leave me constantly scrambling to please others

of themselves in the world around them. “Kara” used to be a victim of this very trap. She was told by school teachers that she was dumb because she displayed signs of ADHD and she was harder to work with than other students. She began to believe it so strongly that no one else could convince her that she was smart. This led to a general apathy in school that eventually developed into a full-on academic malaise. She got bad grades, and those grades reinforced the idea that she was dumb. (This is known as a self-actuating prophesy). Receive the lie, and it becomes truth. (or fight them) in order to feel good about myself. In the end, I will have trouble being me. Are you living as if a lie is the truth? Beyond the daily struggles of receiving and weighing so much input, there is a greater problem. Often people become a product of what others have told them. This is especially true of children and people who have been raised in abusive situations (this includes verbal and psychological abuse). There is an old saying that goes something like, “if you repeat a lie long enough, it becomes truth.” I won’t debate the general veracity of that idea here, but I will say that it applies strongly to the subject of self-worth. Here is the problem: If you are told, for example, that you are dumb long enough, you may begin to believe it. Once you have started to believe it, it is easy to find people and events to support that claim. We tend not to try to refute the negative, and the false narrative becomes an accepted reality. The person who has been told they are dumb begins to believe it. That belief then begins to change their interactions and expectations

I call this Inappropriate Shame (yes, there is an appropriate kind). Inappropriate shame is destructive. In what ways do you feel “less than?” Inappropriate shame and the hurt that accompanies it will create anxiety, distrust, and an inability to be at peace. Inappropriate shame is shame conferred on me by the actions or opinions of someone else as a result of anger, thoughtlessness, or their own experiences of hurt. IT WAS NEVER ABOUT ME. But it produces a place of pain in me that must be guarded. The damage from previous experiences is so great that I cannot let anyone into that protected place in my heart. There are other ways besides feeling dumb where people experience this over-active self-devaluation. The list is long, and I discover more examples all the time, but generally it includes any way that we perceive ourselves as inadequate. This includes perceptions of: ugliness, too short, too tall, too fat, too skinny, fear that our personal hygiene is inadequate, concern that any of a host of personal features is too prominent or embarrassingly different, fear that I talk too much, fear that I

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have nothing valid to say, fear that I am unlovable, fear that I don’t do enough, fear that I can’t please people, and fear that my dreams don’t matter or may be unrealistic. The key here is fear, and the fear is generated by an overly active level of input from people that fail to see me as valuable. Those voices can become my own internal voice. What do you pull back from? People respond to such input in various ways. Some people react to this with avoidance, they simply withdraw from life. I have known some that refused to participate in various activities because they were sure that it would end with everyone thinking or saying something negative about them. Imagine the person, afraid that they are dumb, who is invited to play a game like Trivial Pursuit. Why would they subject themselves to a contest that will make their knowledge or intelligence (or feared lack of knowledge) so evident to everyone else? Instead they pull back. They sit it out. They don’t apply for the job that they perceive as being too much for them. “Kara,” from the example above, eventually got a job and found out that she was one of the smartest people in her hiring class. The transformation was dramatic. What triggers a negative reaction? Others become abusive in an attempt to keep people away from the sensitive part of themselves. (“A strong offense is the best defense”). They may have trouble expressing their deepest

feelings for fear they will be made fun of. Sometimes people overcompensate. “Mark” presented himself to the world as gruff and angry. He insulted people in a manner that sounded like joking, but had a bite to it. He was argumentative and even threatening at times. “Mark” had come from a home where rough joking and “put downs” were common. He was unsure of what was true and had little confidence in himself. He feared compliments more than anything because so often compliments had turned into inappropriate shame through a joking additional comment. (i.e. “You did a good job on your homework” and then someone adds, “for an idiot”). Such moments of hope that are turned into shame can be very devastating. “Mark” eventually worked through his fears and learned to stop the coarse jesting that he was producing. He came to a place of being brave enough to be honest about himself and to be honest with the world around him in a manner consistent with how he wanted to be treated. For Mark, the transformation was gradual and painful, but that is how growth often happens. How do you project confidence? Someone with low self-esteem may put on a big show, acting very confident when, in fact, they are frightened that someone may not like them for who they are. Comedian Robin Williams admitted in one of his first televised interviews that he was very nervous in that setting. His zany, almost manic behavior was an outgrowth of his discomfort. In his case people loved it and his popularity soared. (This may have only made the underlying problems worse). He is famous for saying, “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” This, in my opinion, is very telling. For all of his success, Robin had not come to a place of knowing that he was enough. Often times those around us love us, but we have to receive the love. Applause can make us feel

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valuable for a moment but we find it to be empty in the end. Are you a people pleaser? Alternately, some may become “people pleasers” - going out of their way (to ridiculous lengths) to make or keep everybody else happy. “Karen” works hard and takes care of others. If there is a food-related event (Christmas, Easter, Birthdays, Office food day, etc.), she will be involved. But she won’t just bring her required dish, she will be up until 1:00 am the night before. She will arrive with the required dish, and a batch of homemade cupcakes and a salad that everyone seems to love

and… She cannot stop. Someone said something like, “Karen, you are the best cook. Where do you come up with these recipes?” or “You are so great. We can always count on you to take care of us.” Positive reinforcement can be like a drug. Those who do not know their value can become easily addicted. “Karen” is still working on this today, but she is beginning to see that she has value without catering to the needs or wants of others. It is enough that she does her part and does not try to do everyone else’s. What are you agreeing with that you shouldn’t be? I tell a lot of people, “No one can say anything hurtful to you unless you already agree with it or you are afraid it might be true.”

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BETTER / Life We all do dumb things, for example, but a singular, unwise act is not enough to classify any of us as “dumb.” Yet if we have been told we are dumb long enough it is possible that we might find a casual remark from someone to be devastating. The lack of self-worth and incumbent poor reactions to feedback can lead to a life that is not fulfilling, empty relationships, a wandering spirit, and even depression. To illustrate those outcomes further, we get to a place where nothing satisfies, we can be in relationships where the “good” feeling only lasts a short time and there is a repeated feeling of loss, and our spirit itself begins to be unable to connect meaningfully to things or people. (Loss of secure attachment). A feeling of resignation or fatalism may take over and hope is gradually abandoned.

perform. I can also accept losses and set-backs without an emotional crisis. Not winning the race is an example of Appropriate Shame. Appropriate shame is a recognition of failure to meet a particular goal that helps me to understand truth about myself in a constructive way. (Another form of appropriate shame also keeps us from running around in public without clothes or shouting things in the middle of someone else’s speech). Participation medals rob people of this. There is nothing wrong with being second, or third, or last. Giving something our best effort and being happy for the winner are healthy levels of connection to the contest. Appropriate shame can even sting a little bit. I sometimes refer to what I call “American Idol Syndrome.” That

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Lack of understanding about my value will rob me of truth and depth in all of my relationships. Are you assessing the facts? It does not need to be this way. The opposite of what I have been describing so far is called an “inner locus (location) of control” (or evaluation). In this case, my value is determined by things inside me. My thoughts, understanding, and the collected measurements of myself over time result in a perception that is much less influenced by what is outside me. I develop a greater understanding of my value as a result of hundreds and thousands of units of input. (For example, winning the 100-meter dash would tell me that I am not slow, but getting second in the next race would tell me that I am not fastest. It is possible that the data can change with effort or be supported by further measurements). The end result is an ever-sharper picture of who I am that is data-based, not opinion-based, and (hopefully) a greater understanding that my value is separate from this cascade of external information. The goal is to get to a place where I can run and even compete without the need to win. By knowing my value, I can run without fear or pressure to

If I am angry, it is a good indicator that I am doing this activity to make myself look good. I am trying to bolster my self-worth through external manipulation. This would indicate that I need or want validation. This response leads me to conclude that I am unsure of my value. If I am offended, I am believing that my goodness is obvious. I am trying to project an image that is not available for negotiation and not universally recognized. This would indicate that I have slipped to the other side. I am now creating my own image without regard to anything or anyone else. This response leads me to conclude that I am unwilling to have my value examined – even by me. If I can smile while someone else is accusing me of something wrong (that is not true), or assigning me a motive that would paint me in a bad light, it shows a confidence that I have measured my motives and goals in advance. I have asked myself the difficult, related questions. This response leads me to conclude that I have a reasonable understanding of my value, and it is not threatened by an attempt at inappropriate shame.

is to say that some people think they can sing despite all the evidence to the contrary. They have failed to accept appropriate shame and use it to inform their self-worth. It’s not necessarily an easy path to negotiate for all of us. So how do I know if I have a good understanding of my self-worth? A good, general measurement has to do with how we react to input. For example, if I am doing a good thing, feeding a homeless person perhaps, and they snatch the food from me and say something like, “I bet you think you’re something special, feeding us poor people.” I will have a reaction to that statement.

Do an honest evaluation A balance of internal and external cues is the best way to gain a clear understanding of who I am in the world. Learning to have a correct view of my value and still listen to trusted sources is important to overcoming feelings of inadequacy and fearful perceptions. Trusted sources or, as I sometimes call them, “Honest Allies” are people in my life whose opinions and perceptions are the epitome of constructive criticism. Their honesty helps me see myself clearly. They have proven over time that they care about me and present a balanced view to me. Years ago I began to say, “Never trust the nicest things your friends say or the cruelest words of your enemies.”

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But healthy things like balanced input, Appropriate Shame, and Honest Allies are only a part of the equation. Establishing value has no magic wand. I cannot simply understand all that I have shared with you so far and be cured. The place of questioning my value or underestimating it is a place that I had to come to over time. By similar understanding, having a good sense of my value will also take time. I must begin a process that replaces the bad input with good. Replacing bad for good Sometimes that includes replacing people who damage me with people who care about me. I must know that I will have set backs. As surely as I begin to accept myself as valuable, someone will come along to speak ugliness in my direction. I must understand that those who have the greatest access to my life have the greatest impact. I am speaking here of biological connections (i.e. mother, father, siblings, etc.) and emotional connections (friends, spouse, significant other). This is because I hope that these people care about me. If I am to have a reasonable understanding of my value, I may have to accept that these people are the very ones that have damaged it or reinforced the damage others have done. I need distance, social or emotional, from their input. I must identify and listen to my allies. The only way to combat lies is with the truth. The more you have been filled up with hurtful words and inappropriate shame, the more truth you will have to receive to replace it, and the greater amount of time and effort it will take. It will be a process. It begins with receiving the understanding that you are more than what you have been shamed into believing. I must begin a process of good, thoughtful, and thorough evaluation.

I recommend to people that they try writing themselves a letter (in third person, as if from someone else), outlining good and bad characteristics and behaviors. I also recommend doing what I call a fact sheet. Take any feature (character, appearance, talent) and create a ledger. Supporting thoughts on one side and opposing thoughts on the other. For example, the runner described above. On one side is the fact that they won the 100-meter race, on the opposing side the fact that they didn’t win the next race. Filling the ledger this way may help me gauge the truth about my abilities. But I must also remember to give myself some space. The happiest and most well-adjusted people are those who sing for joy not for talent. They cannot be stopped because their motive is not about self. You are beautiful if beauty is in you, what the outside looks like is only a stumbling-block for those who will not look deeper.

is an understanding of value. Each of the sheep were valuable. Every. Single. One. Our value is so great that the God of heaven would go completely out of His way to rescue us. He does not rest until we are found. It wasn’t the expensive sheep, or the best sheep, or the most beautiful. It was the missing sheep. The shepherd was not content to have 99% of his flock. He wanted every one to be safe. He had a caring level of concern for each, individual, sheep. I believe in a logical progression of thought. It is very basic for me. I believe that there is a God in heaven, creator of all. I believe that He allows us the freedom to choose. I believe that He values us so highly that He set a plan in motion before we existed that would lead us to life. He sacrificed His Son, Jesus Christ, for us. If we will accept that we cannot save ourselves or ever find a way to please God from our own actions, we are ready to receive the free gift of salvation. At that moment, I am in full agreement that the God of the universe places great value in me. He has given His own Son to redeem me. All of this brings me to a place that allows me to know my value and minimize the influence of those outside voices. I stand complete in Him. I stand in a place where I am free to be myself, with all of my good and bad qualities, and be valuable.

Where your true value lies That brings us to the most important thought of all. There is still an underlying level of value that I must understand. I must come to grips with the most foundational thought of the universe. I am loved…and this in spite of me. In the Bible, there is a story about a shepherd who has 100 sheep. Jesus is telling the story (Matthew 18:10-14), and He explains that if one were lost, a good shepherd would go out and find the one and bring it home. This

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I have received the message that I am loved. …All other input is of lesser value.

Pastor Doug Collins is a graduate of Morningside College with degrees in psychology and religious studies. He has pastored at Radiant Life for the past 10 years.

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Change for the better W A few things that are a

hen the Coronavirus started impacting our lives, life as we knew it came to a screeching halt. Many things seem chaotic, and while many of us wish things would go back to “normal,” a few things have actually gotten better. Things that we’d all like to stay that way.

The Water

In Venice, for the first time in a very long time, the canal water is clear enough to see fish and dolphins are returning.

Interestingly, many people have been wondering aloud on social media whether the birds have gotten louder. One person wrote on Facebook, “I used to think there weren’t really any birds in Wuhan, because you rarely saw them and never heard them. I now know they were just muted and crowded out by the traffic and the people.”

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We need to pay attention to the things that we should have been noticing all along and make sure we don’t lose sight of them again.

The Sky

In large cities, air pollution is down drastically. In some cities by 30% or more. Los Angeles, New York, Manila, and Milan’s clear skies have some residents seeing their “true” view for the first time. According to a Stanford professor, the reduction in pollution is likely to have saved tens of thousands of lives among children and the elderly in China alone.

The Quiet

Not long ago, a busy intersection in Boston near the college, you’d be exposed to a noise level of 95 decibels. Extended or repeated exposure to sounds at or above 85 decibels damages our hearing. When the city shut down, the intersection reads under 68 decibels. That’s the level of a normal conversation. www.beingbettermagazine.com / Vol 10 . No 2 . 2020

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Food

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ay hello to the bounty of fresh fruit this season! Strawberries and rhubarb are a great combo of sweet and sour. If you don’t need dessert for a crowd, mix up the dry ingredients for the topping and keep half in an air-tight container for another time. Half the berry mixture and put into a smaller crock to create a mini version of the recipe.

Filling

2 pts strawberries, sliced 2 c rhubarb, cut into 1/2” pieces 1/2 c sugar 2 T quick-cooking tapioca (or 1 T cornstarch) 1/4 t each: cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger

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Topping

11/2 c flour 1/4 c sugar 11/2 t baking powder 1/2 t baking soda 1/2 t salt 1/4 t each: cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger 2 T butter cut into pieces 1 c buttermilk (or 1 c milk + 1 t vinegar)

To make

1. Combine all filling ingredients and put into a 9” deep-dish pie pan and let stand 15 min. 2. Preheat oven to 400°F. 3. In a large bowl, stir together all dry topping ingredients. Using a pastry cutter or 2 forks, cut butter into the dry mixture until crumbly. Stir in the milk with a fork just until combined. 4. Drop large spoonfuls of dough on top of filling. Sprinkle with a little granulated sugar (about 1 T). 5. Bake 40 to 50 minutes or until browned and bubbly. Cool slightly. Dust with powdered sugar. Serve warm. Makes 8 servings.

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DIY Funnel Cake

hile we may miss out on some of our favorite activities this summer, we don’t have to lose out on the fun foods of the season! One of those is a warm and crispy funnel cake. It’s really not much more work than whipping up some pancakes. Just watch out for the hot grease.

Food

Q&A

Q. How do I stop eating when I’m at home so much!? A. Just like the “Freshman 15” that people put on when they go to college, being in a new environment where the option to eat is easy requires some rules. Set some guidelines for your schedule. It’s okay to eat a little something every couple of hours as long as you’re

Fried summer fun. Heat some vegetable oil in an electric skill or deep-fry pan to 3750F. Put some paper towels on a wire rack and set aside. Combine 21/2 c. flour, 1/4 c. sugar, 2 t. baking powder, and 1 t. baking soda. In another bowl, beat 2 eggs slightly then whisk in 2 c. milk, 2 T. maple syrup, and 1/2 t. vanilla. Pour into dry mixture and combine until smooth. Pour mixture into a squeeze bottle with a wide tip opening. Squeeze 1/4 of the batter in circles and zig-zags into the hot oil. Fry for about 2 minutes or until golden brown. Transfer to rack. Dust with powdered sugar in a sieve. Garnish with fruit, whipped cream, or chocolate if you like. Makes 4.

f you’re planting cucumbers this year, it’s not unusual to get more than you really need. You can make pickles, put them in salads, and use them instead of a cracker for light snacks topped with cheese and fruit. For a refreshing summer sipper, combine 1 c. sugar, 1 T. lime zest, and 1 c. water and bring to a simmer in a small saucepan, stirring constantly until sugar dissolves - about 5 minutes. Remove from heat and stir in 1/4 c mint leaves and let cool for 30 minutes. When cool, pour through a sieve into a pitcher. Squeeze the juice from 5-6 limes into the pitcher. Add a medium cucumber, halved and thinly sliced. Refrigerate at least one hour. Just before serving, stir in 2 cups of cold sparkling water.

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1) Scoop up hummus dip with carrots, grape tomatoes, and peppers. 2) Mix a can of water-packed tuna with a dollop of pickle relish and a little light mayo. Put on crackers or cucumber slices.

giving your body something nutritious. This can actually get your body burning calories instead of collecting them. Experts suggest eating a little protein and some veggies. You basically can’t have too many veggies, so just keep portions in check for other items.

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Refreshing Cucumber Limeade

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It's a boy!

Go totally

A study by The Royal Society found that women who consumed high levels of potassium (eating bananas) prior to conception were more likely to have a baby boy than those who did not.

Bananas

Not only do people love the taste of bananas, they are high in fiber, can help us sleep better, aid in weight loss, support gut health and control blood sugar, protect our vision, reduce kidney cancer risk, and so much more. Have a bunch!

Prevent aches and pains

Banana facts

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• Bananas float in water. • Bananas are actually classified as a berry. • Americans eat bananas more than any other fruit. About 11 lbs. per person a year. • Research shows that the levels of nutrients rise as bananas ripen. • A bunch of bananas is called a hand and a single banana is a finger.

If you are going to work out or have kids who have growing pains (like achy legs in the night), bananas make a great preworkout or pre-bedtime snack. Loaded with potassium and magnesium, they support muscle relaxation and function.

Enhance your mood

Bananas can actually cheer you up! They contain amino acid, tryptophan, and Vitamin B6, which together help the body produce serotonin - a chemical that produces wellbeing and happiness. Try a banana smoothie for a dose of happy: Blend 1 large banana, ¼ cup plain Greek yogurt, ¼ cup milk, ½ teaspoon vanilla, and ½ cup ice. Overripe bananas work great. Just throw them in the freezer in their peelings until you need them.

Super-simple

Banana Cream Pie Crust

Finely crush 1 package of graham crackers. Combine with 3 T sugar and 1/4 cup melted butter. Press evenly into bottom and sides of a 9" pie pan. Chill 1 hour.

Banana creme filling

Slice bananas into the crust until twothirds full. Prepare a package of instant banana pudding, following the pie directions on the box. Pour over bananas covering completely.

Topping

Once the pudding is set (about 5 min.), spread prepared whipped topping on top. Chill until ready to serve. Garnish with additional banana slices if you like.

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Articles inside

Home Organization . Let's do this thing

A few things that are a Change for the better

It’s time to DIY What makes you crazy

Refreshing Cucumber Limeade

Super-simple Banana cream pie

Go totally Bananas . Banana facts & smoothie recipe

Food Q&A. How do I stop eating when I'm at home so much?!

DIY Funnel Cake

Better perspective . It's all how you look at it

In the know . [Almost] worthless facts

How to be better right now where MONEY MATTERS

Laughter Rx . The things we say...

Body of Knowledge . Nail health

Brain benders . Drinking deduction

Brain benders . Changing seasons

Brain benders . Riddle me this

Googled Stuff

Funny Quarantine Stuff

It’s time to say, Goodbye

What do you put a price tag on? What value have you put on yourself? Your value matters

6 tips to feeling better now in this new normal

Let’s garden and Grow an extra row

Are you ready to move Forward?

We see what you’re [not] doing

Strawberry-Rhubarb Cobbler

It’s not like HGTV Home Renovations

It’s time to DIY What makes you crazy

Answers to your top 10 questions for God

Boost your immunity and lose weight

Have you considered: What stories we will tell - 9 ideas

Top 5 things you are forgetting to clean