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THE ZERO-DRAMA GUIDE TO BRIDESMAIDS Gathering your squad, sharing in all the
common to see ‘bridesmen’ in the bridal party these
to take on tasks – such as organising the hen do – so
excitement together and knowing they’ll be
days whether that’s a brother, close friend, or any
if you have people who already know and like each
by your side – literally and figuratively – come
other male you’d love to include.
other, it can minimise any potential awkwardness.
To make the most of this special chapter, we’ve
“Consider who would make a good bridesmaid/
“I have close friends from different groups and really
enlisted some expert advice to help you select
bridesman in supporting you with your dress fittings,
wanted to see them all ‘represented’ in my bridal
your bridal party while avoiding any potential
the hen do and getting ready on the day,” says Jessica
party,” says Amelia. “However, it started to get a bit
pitfalls to keep your bridesmaids – and yourself –
Kearney from Ardour & Bow Weddings & Events
awkward with how to narrow them down – and this
happy from the get-go.
(ardourandbow.co.uk). “For your maid/man of honour,
was before I’d even decided who to ask, so I could
W-day, is a wonderful part of wedding planning.
you want someone organised and unflappable, so bear
predict that awkwardness would definitely spill over!
CHOOSE WISELY
this in mind when choosing. It’s always nice to include
I decided in the end to ask my two sisters to be my
For those brides who are just starting to think about
family members, but ultimately the choice should
‘on-the-day’ bridesmaids, my friends from university
who to have as bridesmaids, consider personalities
always be entirely yours.”
who I’m still close with to help me organise my hen do,
and life situations. Some of your closest friends, while
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and my school friends to do a reading at the ceremony.
being a hugely important part of your life, might be
CONSIDER THE DYNAMICS
This kept all the roles clear and meant there weren’t
more comfortable out of the spotlight, supporting you
It’s also important to consider how your bridal party
too many people trying to do things they weren’t
in a different way. Be prepared to ask them honestly
will get on with each other. It can be tempting to
comfortable with.”
whether they’d like to be a bridesmaid and be aware
pick one close friend from each friendship group (for
that the answer isn’t necessarily going to be yes.
example, a school friend, a sister, a uni mate), but this
WHO AND HOW MANY?
will result in a group who don’t necessarily know each
Don’t be put off by whether someone has been a
Also, while we’re saying ‘bridesmaids’, please don’t
other. There’s nothing wrong with this – however,
bridesmaid before. The important bit is what they
think you have to stick to a girl squad! It’s much more
it can be a lot easier for the bridesmaids to team up
mean to you, and how you can support each other in
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