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Ensure your guest list doesn’t grow beyond the size of your big day with these diplomatic pointers words Elizabeth Chester
Thomas Frost
When you begin your guest list journey as a newly engaged couple, you may
list, and questions you may want to consider at this stage include: are relationships
have little idea of the logistics that lie ahead, and the pandemic has added
good? How far will people need to travel? When was the last time you saw them?
another element to narrowing down your list. However big your day was
Did you attend their weddings?
looking previously, if you managed to marry within the rules and regulations that surrounded the Covid pandemic, you had no choice but to stick to low
Saying that, if you have the room (and the desire!), a wedding is a great time to
numbers. But as things return to some semblance of normality, guest lists
reunite family members who may not have seen each other for some time. How
can grow again. So, restrictions aside, how do you begin to tailor your list so
about a Zoom catch-up first if you’re not sure how relations have matured over the
it’s not just a tally of everyone you’ve ever met?
years? This might give you a clearer idea of whether your romantic reunion will be fond or foul!
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A good place to start is family. A wedding day can bring relatives from all over the
When it comes to guest lists, animosity amongst families needs to be handled very
globe together, so start with immediate family and work outwards. While immediate
sensitively and upfront. Before casual guest list mentions go out like a scattergun,
family members may be easy to include, wider family may become trickier. Being
make sure you and your spouse-to-be are clear on who is a definite and who may be
related to someone doesn’t automatically mean they command a place on your guest
a maybe. Talk to anyone who doesn’t get on, and make it clear to any feuders
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