Bridal Fantasy 2009 Magazine- Part 1

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BRIDAL FANTASY MAGAZINE

2009 EDITION

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Table of Contents

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Eco-Friendly Style and Theme Stunning Stationery Cost Saver: Pick & Play Music Matters Planning Perfection

News & Extras

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Effortless Entertaining Best Friends Forever Wedding Watch: Once Upon a Time Wedding Watch: A Love Story Blending Backgrounds Calgary Weddings Edmonton Weddings Ask Gay About Your Day Pimp My Wedding Ride

Couture Cakes 10 11 180 182

Editor’s Letter Bridal Fantasy Contributors Select Advertisers Advertisers Listings

Fashion & Beauty 23 29 30 30 32 36 60 61 62 65 67

Bridal Boost Veils Spanish Couture The Bridal Mini Under It All Eco Fashion Beauty & the Bride Face the Facts Bridal Beauty Secrets Hair Hype Finishing Touches

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Features 17 52 82 106 121 178

Dress Drama Petal Pushers Make Your Marriage a Life-Long Affair Sun Worship Imagine Your Day by WEM Aisling Slattery, our Cover Girl

Planning the Party 38 45 46 47 134 135 138 139 142

Dream Day Décor Colour Crazy Your Unique Wedding Party Places Dance the Night Away Chair Flair Liquor & the Rules The Venue Verdict Green Venue

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Cake Art Sweets for my Sweet Cake Trends

Gifts & Goodies 154 155 162 162 170 171

Fabulous Favours Container Craze Register Me Stainless Steel Appeal Bridesmaid Boutique Counting Time

Fabulous Flowers 54 56 57 57 58

Natural Flowers Get Flower Empowered Flower TIps Cost Saver: U-Pick Flowers An Alberta Gem

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Health and Lifestyle

33 34 110 110 111 112 114 115 116 118

163 165 166 168

The New Suit Luxury and Style All Decked Out Up and Cummerbund Cutting Edge Details Formalwear Facts Generations Artisan Accessories Going Global Celebrity Groom Q&A

Our Space Perfect Pearls Your Are What You Eat Fit to be Wed

Charming Children 172 177 177 177

Little Nippers Stealing the Scene Tips for Success Roles including the Little ones

Empowerment

Cultural Color

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Relationship Revolution Sparked By Love Tips for Maintenance Relationship Revelations How to Stay Calm, Cool and Collected We Talk About Everything Bliss After “I Do” Until Debt Do Us Part

Arabian Nights Indian Spice Tartan Treasures

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The Photographer 146 153

Covering Your Day Choosing a Wedding Photographer

Travel The World 92 96 97 98 100 101 102

The Great Getaway Italian Amore Effortless Escape: First Class Destination Wedding Station Rocky Mountain Hidden Gems Big Sky Country Romance in the Rockies

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Editor’s Letter Contributors Editor-in-Chief Gay Derk Associate Editor Heidi Dennis Contributing Editor Sereena Schneider Creative Design The Bridal Fantasy Team Photography and Art Director Darrell Derk Creative Director Mandy Bilous Clothing Styling Sterling Derk Mandy Bilous Heidi Dennis

Celebrating Family and Friends

Design and Production Kurt Kowalchuk Marek Konarzewski Sylvia Kysela RR Donnelley, Edmonton

the important “I do” to the colour of your flowers and the style of your gown. Don’t be afraid to create

Graphic Design Mandy Bilous

your own style, your own vision. With the help of your wedding vendors, your event can be spectacular.

Marketing & Sales Edward Langer Heidi Dennis Mandy Bilous Circulation & Distribution Heidi Dennis Gay Derk Article Contributors Angela Schrempf Avanti Salon Spa Blair & Melissa Dunkley Boris Derow Calgary Counselling Centre Curtis Comeau Dr. Brenda Wade Darren Jacklin Gillian Proctor Jason M. Currey Juliana Williams Kim-Maru Striebel Paul Steier Prestige Limousines Putting On The Ritz Rebecca & Jared Chamberlain Sherrill Campbell Wayne Lee Weddings in Tuscany Make-up Artists Avanti Salon Spa Chocolate Mousse Salon & Spa Mousy Brown’s Salon & Spa Nikolas Syhatheb Hair Stylists Avanti Salon Spa Chocolate Mousse Salon & Spa Mousy Brown’s Salon & Spa Nikolas Syhatheb Photography Andrew Peter Bradley Photography Cody Tait Corey Thompson Curtis Comeau, Instant Memories Dong Kim Infused Studios Klyment Tan – Klyment.com Inc Larissa Locke Mandy Bilous Nikolas Syhatheb Sarah Chung Publishers Gay and Darrell Derk Derks Media Werks Derks Fine Group of Companies

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Realizing your vision of what you want your wedding to be, starts with a multitude of choices. From

Even if your budget is tight, it doesn’t mean luxury and glamour can’t be included. We certainly learned that this year with our eldest son, Landon’s wedding. The right backdrop, the additional personal and cultural touches can make your look unified, creative and intimate.

As you take center stage for the event that will celebrate and bring your family & friends together, let the warmth, love and intensity of your feelings for each other guide your choices and embellish your celebration with the thing that matters to you most and not what may be on a list or plan.

Part of our mission at Bridal Fantasy has always been to help couples develop a caring, secure, loving relationship. The positive energy that is created in this type of relationship magnifies in intensity and carries over into other areas of your life. We have some great contributors; Dr. Brenda Wade (an Oprah guest), Darren Jacklin, Wayne Lee, Blair & Melissa Dunkley and more just to help you in this area.

Be assured when you truly follow your heart, it will always lead you down the right path.

Celebrate in Love, Gay Derk

On the Cover Dress: S2 Bride Jewelry: Meg Lammers for Bridal Fantasy Hair: Red Bloom Salon Makeup: Joanne Black, MAC Cosmetics Photography: Andrew Peter Bradley Photography Model: Aisling Slattery, CityTV, Calgary Flowers: Flower Fusion Stylists: Mandy Bilous, Heidi Dennis

Bridal Fantasy is published by Derks Formals, a division of Derks Fine Group of Companies. Bridal Fantasy Magazine is published once a year. The views and opinions herein do not necessarily represent those of Bridal Fantasy, its publisher, editor or employees. No part of this publication may be reproduced without the written consent of the publisher.

Bridal Fantasy Contributors

Mandy Bilous

Sereena Schneider

Darrell Derk

Photography

Klyment Tan

Rina & Anthony Chan

Andrew Peter Bradley

Curtis Comeau

The Heart of the Wedding It’s all about ‘over-the-top’ for 2009 weddings. Think Carrie in the movie, Sex and the City… alright, maybe ditching a veil in exchange for a bird stuck to the side of your head is a little too over-the-top, but her bridal style illustrates that edgy is definitely where it’s at.

Like the movie tagline urges, feel free to “get Carrie-d away” with roses. Say goodbye to the girly gerbera daisy days, and embrace dramatic elegance in oversized roses. Perhaps their sophisticated appeal reflects the upward shift for the average age of newlyweds, now 27 and 29 for women and men respectively. In the world of Haute Couture bridal fashion, oversized roses accent any focal point on a dress creation. The infamous Canadian designer Ines Di Santo’s latest line includes a ruffled rose on the shoulder of a one-strap dress.

Straps are back. So are sleeves. From exotic lace halter-style gowns to dainty spaghetti strap detailing, a little extra coverage on top is the latest answer to the strapless craze.

Accessorizing your gown has gone to Statue of Liberty heights; think very vintage brooches, fabric flowers, over the elbow gloves and lacy bolero-style jackets. For the first time ever, view Bridal Fantasy’s new high-fashion jewellery line in the fashion section of this magazine. Headbands are huge. Once again, the rose makes a statement as an asymmetrical flower crown, and chic feather headbands give your look a 20’s twist.

Heidi Dennis, Associate Editor

For men, fashion is just as important. Think jewel-toned accent colors like Carrie’s bridesmaids: ruby red, emerald green and a deep sapphire blue. These days, men play a larger role in planning the wedding; have your groom-to-be check out our Celebrity Groom Q & A featuring Joel Gotlib from CTV. Don’t forget, when it comes to your wedding, the heart of the matter really is your relationship.

Get ready, get set, get married!

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hoosing your wedding gown is one of the biggest decisions of your whole wedding. You want it to fit with your theme – tradition, urban, retro – and you want it to make you feel like a princess.

Look through bridal magazines and online. When you find a gown you like, rip the picture out of the magazine or print it. You will want to take these with you to the bridal shops you are checking out. If you have questions on the shops you want to shop at, check them out with the Better Business Bureau.

Full service bridal stores provide you with assistance from start to finish. Make sure to call your bridal shop beforehand, a lot of stores are by appointment only. This ensures you get quality, one-on-one service with your bridal consultant. Bring all of the pertinent information for your wedding day with you. Your wedding date, pictures of dresses you like, the overall theme of your wedding and your wedding dress budget (this should include any accessories like a headpiece, veil, jewelry, shoes, undergarments and alterations, to name a few).

A great money-saving idea for your wedding dress is to buy off the rack. This usually only works if you fit sample sizes (generally a size 8) but it is a viable option. Talk to your bridal consultant about any off-the-rack options they may have. Do not order a dress you haven’t seen or tried on. Many dresses look fabulous in the catalogue but won’t fit you the same way they fit the model, or vice-versa.

Dress: #DA8065-1 Available: Gemini Fashions Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Flowers: Kuhlmann’s Floral Boutique Hair & Makeup: Chocolate Mousse Salon & Spa

Opposite Page Dress Left to Right: Back Row: Bells & Bows Bridal Centre, Gemini Fashions, Pure Bridal, Pure Bridal Front Row: Denilore Bridal, Bells and Bows Bridal Centre

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Royal embellishment glitter on this shiny, sexy silk satin gown, with it’s figure enhancing bodice A fabulous gown with feminine touches is key to the unusual detailing

Dress: #DB108TS Available: Sposabella Jewelry: Stylists’ own Hair & Makeup: Avanti Salon Spa

Smaller bust use a gown with decadent detailing of the bodice

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Dress: Jai #8552 Available: ABC Bridal Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Flowers: la piazza dasee Hair & Makeup: Mousy Brown’s Salon & Spa

Dress: Sottero & Midgley #A3057 Available: Bridal Debut Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Chocolate Mousse Salon & Spa

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Photography Hourglass figure… then try a sexy mermaid gown

Dress: Rina de Montella #RB1870 Available: Bells & Bows Bridal Centre Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Flowers: Kuhlmann’s Floral Boutique Hair & Makeup: Mango Salon & Spa

Don’t settle for a gown either, there are many different options with various budgets available. It may take a little longer to find.

Get an estimate on the costs of alterations and get a breakdown of what exactly those alterations will include. You will need to make an appointment for your alterations; however, this usually means multiple appointments to make sure your dress has the perfect fit.

Before you pay your deposit, make sure you are 100% clear on the store’s policies regarding payment options, refunds, cancellations alterations and pressing. Get everything in writing and have it signed by your bridal consultant and you. The contract

should have all of the details of the dress, payment, shipping, any special requirements, delivery date and any other extras you have agreed upon. If you can, pay with your credit card. If any issues do arise, you then have the credit card company to back you by withholding payment and doing their own research into the matter.

When you do find the perfect wedding gown, you want to make sure everything else in the process goes smoothly. Follow our simple tricks and your gown purchase will be a breeze. The following pages have beautiful bridal gowns for you to check out, enjoy! ■ 2009 Bridal Fantasy 19

Show you’re a true romantic with this luxurious satin set with crystal and bead detailing

A sophisticated halter neck is amazing for your cleavage, especially with gorgeous accents

Dress: Madison #3526 Available: Wedding World Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Nikolas Syhateb

A crystal, sparkling bodice on full glossy satin skirt

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Dress: Dere King #1616 Available: Denilore Bridal Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Flowers: Kuhlmann’s Floral Boutique Hair & Makeup: Mango Salon & Spa

Dress: Private Addition #751 Available: ABC Bridal Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Mousy Brown’s Salon & Spa

A mermaid skirt topped at the end of figure hugging gown

Dress: Rina de Montella Available: Bells and Bows Bridal Centre Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Flowers: Heather’s Grower Direct Hair & Makeup: Mango Salon & Spa

A traditional silhouette with appliqued flowers and delicate beadwork draw your eyes to details

Dress: Rina de Montella #RB2814 Available: Tifany’s Bridal Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Mousy Brown’s Salon & Spa

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Show off your curves to the max with exquisite gathered and draped fabric in a perfect A-line

Dress: Golden Brides #4494 Available: Bride International Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Flowers: Heather’s Grower Direct Hair & Makeup: Avanti Salon Spa

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Combine a full skirt with ruching on the middle to draw attention to a small waist

A frosted crystal bodice tops the look

Dress: Allure #WE8562 Available: Bridal Debut Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Chocolate Mousse Salon & Spa

Dress: La Sposa Available: Pure Bridal Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Mango Salon & Spa

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Frothy and white, this gown is straight out of a winter fairy tale

Dress: Enzoani #Chelsea Available: Tifany’s Bridal Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Mousy Brown’s Salon & Spa

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Dress to impress on your day… in white tulle and lace overlay

Dress: Alfred Angelo #1608J Available: Wedding World Flowers: la piazza dasee Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Hair & Makeup: Nikolas Syhateb

Jewelry: Diamori Veil: Bridal Debut

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hat’s right! Veils are back in style and are in full force. This history of the bridal veil dates back to ancient Rome, where it was believed the bride should wear a veil to hide her from evil spirits during the ‘transitional’ period of daughter to wife. Now, it’s all about the fashion statement. And brides have more options than ever. Textured with dots, embellished with crystal – endless ideas!

Brides-to-be who are wearing short dresses can still wear a veil; just be sure it doesn’t overwhelm the dress. Two ideas: a chin-length veil in netting or tulle is a classic look or you can go for a shorter, chic

face veil, which usually hits around the cheekbones. These two options help retain some tradition and let you show off your fabulous dress. ■

A face veil is a short, single layer, usually of netting. An elbow-length veil is about 2 feet long. One of the most popular veils is the fingertip length, particularly with ball gowns. If you’re looking for a more formal option, a chapel veil is approximately 7 1/2 feet, while the cathedral veil is about 10 1/2 feet.

For something cute and modern, try a bubble (or pouf ) veil, which is usually made of tulle, gathered at the crown and affixed to a comb. Or you can try the longer and more dramatic bustle veil which is gathered at the arch of your back.

A Mantilla veil is worn high around the head and over the shoulders, and then set in place by a hidden comb. This veil is a traditional Spanish style, and is typically sheer with a lace border, giving you a demure look.

Key note for your veil: they come in a large range of hues but the veil you choose should be a shade equal to or lighter than your dress.

Never go darker. An easy way to make sure your look is great? Choose a veil and dress by the same designer.

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ow this is a super idea for every bride...the Bridal Mini! Use them when you

do hair trials and make up trials. This prevents any accidents from happening to your dream gown and gives you a better idea of how you will look on the big day. An elegant mix of fun and function.

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hink of a Mantilla veil as It’s also a lot of fun to wear at your bachelorette party or your bridal shower. Your friends can sign it and you have a wonderful keepsake from that night!

Spanish bridal couture. Mantilla veils originated in Spain and were

made popular by Queen Isabel II in the mid1800s. Be Veiled Custom Bridal Veils offers a

Because the Bridal Mini is designed with a corset back, it allows for weight gain or loss, and you don’t have to worry about messing up your hair when you take it off.

large variety of this type of veil along with many other styles. Check out their lovely jewelry sets and fabulous pearl and/or Swarovski

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Dress: Pronovias Available: Pure Bridal Veil: Bells & Bows Bridal Centre Hair & Makeup: Avanti Salon Spa

Check out www.bridalmini.com and order yours today!

Under

It All

ou’ve found the perfect dress and it fits you like a dream. Now you have to pick out exactly what you are going to wear underneath. With so many options for your wedding undergarments it’s hard to figure out exactly what you need.

The slinky, open back – many shops now carry self-stick backless bras for this type of dress. The material this bra is made from sticks directly to your skin, without the use of any tape or other adhesives.

The deep ‘V’ halter – a deeply cut bodysuit with halter straps gives you the support you need while being sneaky about it. Another bonus – these bodysuits can also give you waist and tummy control, perfecting the hourglass look you want.

Sweetheart and strapless – a seamless, deepcut strapless bra is made to follow the cut of the bodice of your dress and ensures no ‘spilling’ out.

Plunging neckline – this is the best place for stick-on bra cups, they work wonders.

The strapless A-line – a contoured and lightly padded (if you need it) bra will enhance your bustline and keep your waist looking fabulous.

Wide-set straps – use a strapless push-up bra with this neckline.

The low-back, fitted dress – get invisible support from a strapless bra with re-usable adhesive cups.

Criss-cross and cut-out – find yourself a threein-one convertible bra for a smooth finish Fitted and strapless – a strapless slip with a built-in bra slims out the body while giving you the perfect amount of lift.

There are some key points to remember about your bridal lingerie. White undergarments will look a lot darker under a white gown. Your best bet is to go with nude tones, as close to your skin tone as possible. A lot of hosiery has shapewear like tummy panels or thigh smoothers. If you want a more custom fit, get some thigh-high stockings with shaping panties. Finally, you want to make sure to test your undergarments before your wedding. They shouldn’t dig in and you shouldn’t have to tug at them to make them comfortable. Get professionally sized to ensure the best fit. ■

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or many brides selecting their wedding dress is the most exciting and also the most stressful part of the planning process. You may think finding eco-friendly wedding attire will be that much more stressful but it isn’t! The trend toward stylish eco fashion is rapidly gaining in popularity and the number of designers specializing in eco wedding fashion is growing. Look for designers who use natural silks, hemp and organic cottons in their designs.

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Another great alternative is wearing a vintage dress. Why buy new when you can reuse? There are so many elegant, unique and well preserved vintage dresses on the market today. Remember you can always have the dress altered to suit your style. If you like the overall look of the dress but hate the puffy sleeves, talk to a seamstress to see if the sleeves can be removed. Maybe add a hit of color with a vibrant corset, beautiful sash, flower or vintage brooch. There are a ton of great vintage and consignment stores out there, and not only are you keeping it green, you’re saving money too! â–

Dream Day

Décor

hen it comes to colour and fabrication, event planners often take their cues from latest fashion trends and translate them to the world of décor. Bridal trends every year show the hottest colours, style and textures.

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For 2009 we will see a return for lushness that includes rich fabrics and trims, mixed fruit and floral arrangements, and laying on tables with linens, damasks and organzas. Your centre-pieces should be about the creative use of containers, flowers and other contents. They can run lengthwise down a table, taking on amazing shapes, or soar elegantly above the table.

The best designers will take your standard wedding reception to the magical level of high end opera or dramatic theatre production. The right designer will transform your space so you feel as if you have entered your own magical kingdom, on your special day. ■ All Photos by Infused Studios

Jen Tavaroli from Atmosphere Wedding Planning and Design calls this table “Traditionally Modern”.

Black Summerset linens set an amazing tone for the décor of this table. The idea for this table is taking something not conventionally used as a centerpiece and turning it into a modern piece with a traditional feel. Large red roses, small red branches and white pillar candles set into the black metal tree-like holder create a beautiful ambience. The tiny red jewels strewn on the table match perfectly with the red square charger plates and small red votive holders. The black napkins with the gold branch-like napkin rings add a touch of something different to the table. This look is dark, romantic and inviting to the eye.

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Glamour is the look for this table, done by Tammy Ouellet at Divine Weddings. A gold satin tablecloth, covered with a white whisker overlay and gold chair covers start the palette off with glitz. Keeping the place setting simple with white napkins and gold napkin rings sitting on top of the menu cards lets the guests focus on the fabulous centerpiece. A large cylindrical vase with gold glass rocks, white orchids and a white floating candle sit atop a large square mirror. Surrounding the vase are eight square votive holders, also with white candles. The mirror reflects all the fabulous light and the centerpiece, making the table stand out without a lot of fuss.

Full Wedding Coordination Day-Of Wedding Coordination Decor Services Custom Invitations and Stationary Final Touch Rentals wanted to try something a little different.

Here they did a simple black tablecloth with a gold satin runner. The round gold plate chargers are a great frame for the black and white dinnerware, adding an extra hint of something special. Black napkins are folded into a fun shape and set atop the plates. Small decorated votive holders set off the charming centerpiece – a simple vase holding a gold, black and white floral arrangement with some extra black branches for added texture. The black chair covers with the gold satin chair ties complete this appealing look.

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Elegant Events is the mastermind behind this deceptively simple, yet extremely classy table dĂŠcor. A white tablecloth with a square gold overlay sets the tone for the understated elegance of this table. The centerpiece for this table is a large vase a with gold and red silk floral arrangement and large black river rocks filling up the empty space. Red rose petals are added underneath the vase to finish off the look. The white napkins are folded so the menu cards can be tucked inside and the black satin chair covers with gold satin ties tie the look together. The finishing touch? The black favour boxes with the clear-heart shape and a gold treat inside.

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Karen Leitch from Fresh Look Event Management calls this table “Impossible Dream”. The approach for this table is modern and geometric. Black satin for the tablecloth and black napkins are the perfect starting point. Square gold square chargers with exquisite detailing contribute to the modern look and geometric theme.

The quote cards (in place of menu cards) are printed on a gold metallic paper and the pattern used is reflected in the centerpiece. Square and rectangular shapes are layered with gold and black patterned paper to create the interesting arrangement.

Each shape holds its own white floral arrangement and glass votive holders are placed strategically around the centerpiece.

Black satin chair covers frame the table perfectly.

This fabulous table done by Special Event Rentals offers a great alternative on a solid tablecloth. The base is a black satin full length tablecloth, and then the overlay is a beautiful black and white baroque pattern. The napkins – premier red – add a wonderful splash of colour to the table wrapped around the square black lacquer charger plates. The centerpiece for this table is a black pedestal vase with white branches and decorative crystal attached. Rose petals and candles in simple holders let the focus stay on the centerpiece. Red satin chair wraps tie the whole look together.

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Talk about bold statements. Wanda Rose from Special Occasions wanted the centerpiece to be THE focal point of the table. With a white fulllength tablecloth and white-tucked organza overlay (with beaded crystals) the palette for the table is set – simple, stylish and understated.

Adding a touch of whimsy to the table are the multiple textures. White orchids, crystals, and white metal – this is a great example of a monochromatic colour scheme. The 5 foot tall white metal crystal tree is covered with crystal strings, hanging votive holders and orchids, which embodies the dramatic effect this table was going for. Orchids are strewn around the roots of the ‘tree’, large pillar candles and gold votive candle holders illuminate the crystals hanging from above.

Kerry Parsons from Bride-On-A-Budget wanted to do something different for this table. With simple yet elegant table linens in white satin and black organza, the backdrop is set for a creative and stunning centerpiece with the focus on cranberries! Low glass blocks create a staggered effect and champagne saucers filled with cranberries add a very creative touch of red to the table. White florals and candles surround the centerpiece making the red of the cranberries really pop. White napkins are simply laid at the place settings, with the menu cards placed on top.

Classic white chair covers with gold organza chair ties finish off the look of this table.

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This head table was done by Barbara Day and her fabulous staff at imaginations and concepts. A black tablecloth and a white table runner set the perfect scene for the table of honour. Gold square charger plates with black napkins and gold square napkin rings are laid at each place setting. Rose petals, crystals of a variety of sizes and crystal votive holders decorate the table, along with square black vases for the ladies of the wedding party to place their bouquets in. Menus are rolled and sit at the top of each place setting, along with a sweet note card (in lieu of a name card) with creative word for love and marriage on them. The look is finished off with black satin chair covers and a white sash draping down the back of them, instead of tied around.

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Flowers: Kuhlmann’s Floral Boutique Head Table Design: imagination and concepts

hen you’re planning your wedding, one of the hardest decisions can be what colour or colours are playing the major roles in your wedding. Check out our tips on how colours work well together so you can get the exact look you want.

Monochromatic: This scheme is based on only one colour tint and uses variations made by changing saturation and brightness. The result is usually pleasing to the eye.

Contrast: The base colour is supplemented with a colour on the opposite side of the wheel. Although vibrant and cheerful, care should be taken when using contrasting colours to avoid a jarring look.

Triad: Base colour is supplemented with two complementary colours. This colour scheme is often more comfortable on the eyes than

the"Contrast" scheme. Triad schemes are vibrant and full of energy.

Tetrad: This scheme is made by a pair of colour and their complements. The tetrad scheme is a very aggressive colour scheme therefore it is very important to pay close attention to how the colours relate to each other.

Analogic: This scheme is made up of the base colour and its two adjacent colours. It usually produces an elegant, uniform look. ■

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Your Unique Wedding Each bride has special touches they want to add to their wedding but every bride wants their wedding day to be unforgettable – for you and your guests.

Sometimes it’s hard to find something truly unique in the midst of all the wedding ideas out there. At BF, we put together some great tips to help you make the most of your special day.

Destination weddings are fast becoming a favourite of today’s bride. If you’re saying your I dos’ on the sand, provide a place for guests to leave their shoes.

Depending on your budget, this area can be a stand-alone or have an attendant. Put a simple draped table (in your wedding colours of course) with a floral arrangement near the entrance with

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a sign:“Shoe Valet – join us on the sand”. Keep some towels nearby for guests to wipe their feet when they want to put their shoes back on! You can also webcast your ceremony to allow the friends and family who couldn’t make it in person to watch the ceremony in real time.

Ah, your first dance. A great time for a surprise like no other! Ditch the traditional slow dance and have a choreographed routine. You can do just the two of or involve your bridal party. Or you can bring in a professional dance instructor to your reception to teach your guests a new dance.

Flowers are such an integral part of your wedding, but who says you have to be conventional? If you want to make your floral

Photo by Infused Studios

arrangements really stand out, consider using more unusual blooms. Big, luscious flowers like cottage roses add a pretty softness without looking like your typical roses and flowers with unusually shaped petals or colours can create different textures to your décor.

To break away from a ‘traditional’ceremony, have your family and friends seated in a circular pattern to surround you and your fiancé as you say your vows. Don’t forget to leave room for the aisle.

Happy planning! ■

Party Places Your reception site – this is where most couples spend the largest part of their budget. There are many details to explore but whatever you decide, make sure to book your site as soon as possible.

A lot of the other plans for your wedding day cannot be booked until you have your site picked. Your reception location depends on many things from the style of your wedding to the number of guests. Don’t book a site that holds 250 people if you are planning a wedding of 50.

Make sure you are aware of what is and is not included in your reception site package. If your location offers food and/or beverage service ask about the price per person. Are you able to bring in your own catering service or bartenders? What is the rental fee for the room and is it based on occupancy or just the space?

Does your space allow for handicap access?

If you are going with your reception site’s menu find out if it is a set thing or if you can make modifications. Get a written cost breakdown and what is included, the type of service and the formality of your wedding i.e.: plated dinner, buffet, carving station, courses and open bar, to name a few. Set up a taste test with the catering department. Will the pricing be guaranteed?

Don’t forget to find out about any additional taxes or gratuities that could be added onto the bill. Ask about your options for kids meals, vegetarian meals, kosher and the costs on those. A lot of venues offer a discount on kids meals, so this can be really important. Can you take any of the leftover food to your gift opening the next day? Is your wedding cake included in the cost?

A cost-saving option here is to close the bar during dinner and offer wine. Re-open the bar after the meal. Another cost saving idea is to not leave wine bottles on the table.

Find out how many hours you have the room booked for. You will also need to check what any overage fees may be. Get the cancellation, refund and change of date policies, along with the deposit amounts all in writing. Get all the arrangements, any special pricing and any other items in writing as soon as possible. If your site contact changes, you want to make sure the contract you signed is the one you are getting. ■ 2009 Bridal Fantasy 47

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Petal Pushers This floral arrangement is great for a fall colour palette. Large orange sunflowers are surrounded by small yellow button flowers and long multicoloured leafy branches. The bouquet is tied together with greenery and yellow wire. la piazza dasse

stems of your favourite flowers evokes a certain magic.

As you walk down the aisle, your bouquet takes on its own qualities of symbolic love, life, and beauty.

Think of your bouquet as the perfect accessory.

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Pink and white roses make up this bouquet. Small purple and green accents make the flowers pop and tiny crystals inserted into the roses add a touch of sparkle.

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These gorgeous fushia flowers are gladiolas – a beidermeier bouquet (hand wired florets). The large leaves are wrapped around the stems and pinned in place with beautiful pink pins to accent the colour. la piazza dasse

The fantastic colours of this hand-tied bouquet work for almost any season. White and orange carnations, orange roses and green Kermit button mums are tied together with a sheer green and an orange accent ribbon.

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Natural Flowers

You can go green with your entire wedding plan, or just select sections of it.

The flowers you choose for your wedding day is a great place to start going green.

When selecting your flowers choose a florist who specializes in organically grown flowers or wild flowers. Try to select locally grown flowers to reduce the emissions produced while transporting flowers from far away locales.

Get creative with what's around you. Look at the local flora in your area. Wild flowers, berries, wild ferns, grasses and evergreen branches can make spectacular bouquets and centerpieces. Daisies which can be found growing wild make stunningly simply yet beautiful arrangements, however, we wouldn’t recommend these for centerpieces. Daisies have a very strong scent.

If your wedding falls around Halloween why not have your bridal party carry a beautiful, whimsical jack-o-lantern? Around Christmas, a basket of colour coordinated glass Christmas decoration balls or pine cones. If fun and light-hearted is the goal, try a bouquet of colourful lollipops, pinwheels or long burning sparklers.

Consider incorporating organic fruits, vegetables and berries into your centerpieces. Not only are they beautiful to look at, they also make a tasty treat for your guests to pick at.

It is not uncommon to see weddings without flowers. With the increasing number of individuals with allergies, many brides are opting for other creative solutions. Instead of flower bouquets, have the bridal party carry beautiful purses or candles. If you’re having a winter wedding, beautiful faux fur hand muffs are a great touch. With a little creativity, you could have a bridal procession your guests will never forget. ■ 54 Bridal Fantasy 2009

Memorable creations for memorable occasions Choose Western Canada’s top floral designer, Heather Kerr, to make your special occasion truly memorable with custom-designed floral creations.

Heather is a member of the American Institute of Floral Designers (AFID), and has her Accreditation in Floral Design, the highest achievement in the floral industry.

She also received the coveted American Academy of Floriculture (AAF) award in 2007 for her outstanding contribution to the floral industry and local community.

Heather helped design two floats for the 2008 Tournament of Roses Parade in Pasadena, California. Both floats received awards. She has also been invited as one of the official designers for the Annual White House Easter Egg Roll in 2009.

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Empowered This spring you will be inspired by fresh yellow, green and white tones which you can co-ordinate your table centerpieces with as well.

Use foliage with a bit of movement to add a fresh, natural feel – such as delicate ferns, wispy ivy or waving catkins.

For summer big, traditions flowers in gorgeous purples, pinks, and some fresh golden yellow accents For a bouquet with a wonderful, wafting smell, try some fresh cut herbs such as rosemary or mint.

Spicy colours look the best in fall…try adding some spicy peppers to your table display.

Don’t be afraid to use berries, full leaves, or fruits and vegetables (small peppers) to add visual interest to your display.

Winter often finds deep red, rich roses to add warmth to your colour spectrum and a little Christmas feel.

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To feel like the princess bride add some glitter and sparkle to the flowers or greenery.

Flower Tips Arm – a slightly curved bouquet of long-stemmed flowers, like roses or calla lilies, held in the crook of the arm. A loosely tied ribbon or bow usually holds this bouquet together.

Biedermeier (also know as Victorian) – tight, concentric circles of a variety of different types of flowers.

Cascading (also know as Waterfall) – the bouquet makes the shape of a loose triangle that is rounded at the top and falls to a point. The flowers spill downwards over the bride’s hands.

Free-form – a loose bouquet of garden flowers with a country feel. This type often features blooms or greenery peeking out. Spray bouquets are great example.

Hand-tied – similar to the arm bouquet, this is tied with ribbon or lace and has a little more flair. It can also be tied loosely or tightly, whichever you prefer.

Nosegay – usually small, this arrangement sometimes includes additional ribbon streamers and/or greenery. A very popular choice for bridesmaids and flower girls.

Pomander – a ball of flowers suspended from the wrist by decorative ribbons or strings of beads.

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s florists continue to come up with more and more exotic ideas for incorporating flowers into weddings, floral prices increase. From bouquets that look like flower sculptures to flowers offering the ultimate addition to décor, the average amount of money that couples spend on flowers is increasing.

Inspired Market Gardens offers an alternative to flower debt - fields of u-can-pick flowers.

Brides can mix and match flowers for a whimsical bouquet, or can choose a particular colour or flower. If you’re looking for a large quantity of a certain flower and color, make sure to order this in May before planting occurs. If time is of the essence, brides can also pre-select flowers and have the bouquets made for them. Visit www.inspiredgardens.ca for more information. ■

Round – this condensed bouquet holds a large number of flowers compactly and can also include greenery.

Single-stem – while this isn’t technically a bouquet, the arrangement of one flower (again, usually a calla lily or rose) is done in the same manner as an arm bouquet. More than one flower – tied loosely with no greenery – is considered another version.

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An Alberta Gem: Where Floral Fantasies Come True diamond in the rough? Maybe.

This Alberta gem is definitely a rose in the wheat fields. Victoria’s Flowers, on Twentieth street, Didsbury, better known to locals as Main Street, would fit in better amongst the boutiques in New York’s West Village.

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Gordon Fulton, owner of Victoria’s Flowers, thrives on creating atmosphere, which is obvious when you see how he makes use of his store space. “We don’t just sell flowers here, we sell emotion” says Fulton, and if space can influence emotion, you’ll feel inspired the instant you step foot into this long, narrow area. Towering embossed white tin ceilings accented with a waterdamaged effect, soften the historic 1925 exposed brick walls, which offer a contrasting backdrop for his flower creations and other unique gift items.

“Our store at Christmas is a great representation of how far we’ll go for brides… we shut down our store for a day

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just to decorate. Customers wonder with anticipation about what we’ll do each year.

My goal is to have customers running home to set up their tree after they’ve

visited us.” Fulton wants to offer something that will appeal to everyone; it’s not uncommon, come the holiday season, to see an awe-inspired child outside of his store staring up at old Père Noël.

When it comes to weddings, Fulton’s ability to turn dreams into reality is most

apparent. “My services include so much more than wedding flowers. I look at the whole package, the atmosphere and mood I can create, and I incorporate my flowers along with other décor to make it happen.”

He stops at nothing less than ensuring the reception venue’s bathrooms have fresh flower arrangements and the right lighting.

At a recent wedding reception, Fulton showcased a number of Harley Davidson motorbikes in the hall under spotlights, and to ensure the wedding scored high on the entertainment meter, he had the bridal party make their entrance on the Harleys through a cloud of smoke.

An aspiring Preston Bailey, Fulton invites couples with big wedding dreams to take a short drive and visit his store. Get cozy in an oversized leather chair next to the antique fireplace and share your wedding dreams with someone who will stop at nothing to make sure they come true. ■

Body - Treat your stressed body to a sugar scrub treatment, which exfoliates and hydrates with a relaxing massage. This is a must for the skin on your shoulders and arms Hair - You have been pouring over bridal mags and cutting out your favorite celebrity red carpet looks, now it’s time to find a stylist who will make your vision a reality.

Invest in a trial for your hair, which will let you feel confident about your hair and avoid any hair disasters on your big day. You may need more than one trial to find that perfect look. Bring pictures and your headpiece with you. If you color your hair, have your color performed at least one week before the wedding. Should you wash your hair before having an updo? No. Hair that is too clean won’t hold the pins, it may look great when you leave but won’t have the staying power you need for a long day.

Wear a button up shirt so your hair won’t be compromised when you change into your gown.

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Beauty & the Bride A Guide to Looking Your Best on the Big Day very bride wants to look her absolute best on her wedding day.

Don’t underestimate the effect that wedding induced stress can have on your skin and body. Your preparation should begin 6 months before by starting a skin care regime and working towards your desired hair color. Plan ahead by booking all of your appointments well in advance to avoid any complications. Focus on the following key areas when beautifying for your big day.

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Face - You’re spending a lot on your photographs so invest in a high quality facial to brighten and clarify your skin leaving you with a radiant glow. Begin a Facial regimen six months before the wedding, working with a knowledgeable Esthetician to develop a skin care plan. Schedule a facial (without extractions) seven days before the wedding day. Finally, wearing a broad spectrum sunscreen every day under your cosmetics is your best defense against premature aging and sun damage.

Makeup - Your look should appear timeless and your makeup should be flawless. Don’t forget about your smile, whitening your teeth will give you confidence on your big day.

Nails - Even if you are wearing closed toe shoes for the ceremony, you will be barefoot for your wedding night, so treat yourself to a pedicure a few days before your wedding day. There will be many pictures of your hands displaying your new wedding band so have a manicure either the day before or the morning of your wedding. Pick out your polish color in advance so you are not worried about little details.

Don’t forget to relax and to enjoy every moment; the day flies by quickly. The love you feel on this day will make you the most Beautiful Bride in the world.

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Facts our wedding day is the one day you want your hair to be the crowning glory. So, you have to choose a hairstyle that will make the most of your features. Based on your face shape, we’ve put together some tips and tricks to help you make the most of your look.

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f you are one of those girls with an oval face (think Kate Hudson) lucky you! This is the perfect combination of long and round. A narrow forehead and wide cheekbones taper down into a narrow chin. You can go for any style you like!

Because you have a wellproportioned face, you can pretty much have anything you want. Don’t be afraid to experiment. Consider adding a few layers to frame your face but you do want to avoid a heavy fringe. This will add weight to your face.

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If you have a square face (something like Minnie Driver) your jaw is as wide as your forehead, which is broad, and you have an angular jaw line. Choose a hairstyle with long wispy layers, soft curls or waves because this will detract from the angular lines of your face.

Try parting your hair on the side and comb the fringe away from your face. You should wear your hair below your chin, in a

rounded style, as this will draw the eye away from your jaw. Avoid going short or wearing your hair up. This will emphasize your angles. Severe cuts like bobs will also do this.

Have you always thought you had a face like Sarah Jessica Parker? Then your face shape is long. Your face is longer than it is wide, with a high forehead and a long chin.

Go for a fringe as this can help shorten your face and add volume to give the illusion of width. Soften your look with short layers or go for a bob with a fringe to create more horizontal lines. Curly styles will also balance out a long face. Don’t go for a style with height at the crown or too short because this makes your face look even longer. Stay away from long, straight, one-length cuts as the will only make your face look thinner and longer.

For the round faced girls, like Drew Barrymore, your face is as wide as it is long, with a soft outline. The distance from your

forehead to chin is about the same as cheek to cheek. Go for something with height – especially from the tops of your ears. This will lengthen your face. Sculpted styles and layers work well. A short cut with some short fringe will lengthen your face and make it look thinner. Avoid a blunt cut because it will add width to your face and a centre part will make it look heavier. Full, long hair or curly styles will bring emphasis to the roundness of your face.

Think you have a face like Reese Witherspoon? That would mean you are a heart-shaped girl.

Your chin tends to be the focal point of your face. Use side-swept bangs to draw attention to your eyes and cheekbones. Try a browgrazing fringe with a strong part and hair that falls at or below your jaw line. Try to go for long layers that graze your cheekbones. If you do have short hair, keep the top layers soft and long.

Avoid short, blunt cut bangs and harsh, choppy layers because they will put more emphasis on your chin. ■

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hanksgiving, Christmas… you’re the newlyweds and newly elected by your new family to do the next holiday dinner. You can still sail into preparing a family feast with ease if you organize your menu and ingredients beforehand.

With both members of your family working, you need to keep this meal as effortless as possible but still come up with a traditional family fare in a polished and simple manner. Not as hard as it looks! With a little effort and organization, you’ll pull this off and impress both your new and your existing family.

Dressing Fast fixing tip: For convenience, cook the bacon, onion and celery mixture for the stuffing, perogies and brussel sprouts in one frying pan to save on time and clean-up.

• 4 slices diced bacon • 2 cups diced onion • 1 cup diced celery • 10-12 slices bread (cubed) • 3 eggs

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• 1/2 cup melted butter

• Make sure your turkey is fresh, or if it is frozen, completely defrosted

• 1 tbsp. poultry seasoning

• Remove neck and organs from inside the turkey • Wash the turkey in cold water

• 2 tbsp. olive oil

• 1 1/2 tsp. salt • 1 1/2 tsp. Pepper

• Put olive oil in bottom of turkey pan

- Fry bacon, onions, and celery until golden in olive oil

• Put turkey in pan (check before to make sure your turkey fits in your pan)

- Add bread, eggs, butter, and poultry seasoning

• Stuff the turkey

- Mix well - Add salt and pepper to taste

• Baste the turkey with melted butter. (Baste hourly) • Put salt, pepper, and a small amount of granulated garlic on the turkey

Brussels Sprouts

• Cook your turkey 15 minutes per pound at 350 F

• For convenience, use frozen brussel sprouts as they are cut

• A roaster with a lid is your best bet to cook turkey in

• Boil the brussel sprouts • Add 1 cup (bacon, celery, and onion mixture)

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Perogies in Golden Cheddar Mushroom Sauce • 2 cans cheddar cheese soup • 2 cans golden mushroom soup • 2 cans chicken broth • 1 cup grated cheddar cheese • 1 cup (bacon, celery, onion mixture) • 2 pkg. Perogies • salt, pepper to taste - Put into a Dutch Oven or large covered casserole dish, add all ingredients but perogies and mix well - Make sure perogies are covered by liquid - Bake at 325 F for 3 hours

Mushroom Gravy • Use the drippings left in the roasting pan after removing the turkey • Add 2 cups sliced button mushrooms (fresh or frozen) • Cook until mushrooms are cooked • In a bowl, mix 1 cup cold water and 2 tbsp flour. Make sure there are no lumps • Add to mixture, cook 5 minutes on medium heat • Add salt and pepper to taste

T I M E TA B L E 2 weeks before: • Order a fresh turkey • Make a shopping list • Order flowers 1 week before: • Make and freeze your dessert (or ask one of your relatives to bring dessert) 1 day before: • Shop for your groceries • Set the table and decide what serving platters you will use • Dice the onions and celery and put into Ziplock bags 5 hours before: • Fry onions, celery and bacon • Preheat the oven • Make the dressing for turkey • Stuff the turkey 4 hours before: • Put the turkey in the oven • Put together appetizers

3 hours before: • Peel the potatoes, put into a pot with cold water and some salt • Baste the turkey • Put the perogies on to cook 2 hours before: • Make the salad and dressing • Turn on the potatoes • Baste the turkey 1 hour before: • Put out the appetizer tray • Baste the turkey – if it is not brown enough, take the lid off and if it too brown, cover it with foil 45 minutes before: • Cook the brussel sprouts • Cook the corn 30 minutes before: • Take the turkey out and put it on a platter • Make the gravy …continued on page 64

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Pumpkin Banana Cake • 1 yellow cake mix • 1 cup canned pumpkin • 2 bananas • 1/2 cup sour cream • 1 tsp. nutmeg • 1/2 tsp. Cinnamon - Place cake mix in bowl or mix master - Add oil and eggs as per instructions. *Do not add water or milk - Add pumpkin, bananas, and sour cream - Mix until smooth - Add nutmeg and cinnamon - Cook as per instructions - Remove from pan when cool - Place plastic wrap over cake and freeze

Whipped Cream • Whip a small container of whipping cream • Add 2 tbsp. brown sugar • 1 tsp. Vanilla

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Hair Hype Curly Hair: It's best not to fight what nature gave you. If you have super-curly hair and it's August, you can flat-iron it straight, but within an hour those curls will come back. Play them up and look for styling products with humidity-fighting ingredients to help keep frizz at bay.

Befriend the bobby pin. Since you want to maintain a touchable curl, well-placed pins mean less product.

Straight Hair: You can't fight your natural texture -- tight curls may fall by the end of the ceremony. Either keep curls big and loose, or go for an updated sleek style like a low bun to one side to show off your hair's fabulously smooth texture. If you want to keep your hair down (without weighing it down) on your wedding day, amp up your natural shine.

Fine Hair: If your hair is very fine or thin, keep the look simple. Wearing it up means

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less worry about it going limp. Go for an updo that's anything but everyday: Think about adding in twists, loops, baby braids, and hair accessories. Fine hair should be slightly dirty for updos -- just-washed hair is too soft to hold pins.

Thick Hair: Show off lush locks with a twisted half-updo -- braided and twisted styles are more formal than simply wearing your hair down. If you do want to wear it down, plan for extra time at the salon to first straighten your thick hair and then curl for extra control. A dime-size drop of pomade raked through with your fingertips gives hair height and texture while preventing flyaways.

Oily Hair: If your hair is grease-prone, you might want to think twice about wearing your hair down. A low-maintenance updo will keep you from touching your hair. Keep your roots looking clean and dry all night

with a hair refresher (which gives your hair a subtle scent, while absorbing oil) or even a pinch of baby powder -- be sure to pat it in until you can't see any white.

Long Hair: Whether leaving it down or pulling it up, you'll have plenty of good material to work with. A look we love: an edgy ponytail. It works best with hair that's shoulder-length or longer and has plenty of layers cut into it. Comfort is key. If you're wearing a backless dress and want to wear your hair down, your hair could stick to your back. Prevent this with a nongreasy styling gel.

Short Hair: Many brides want long hair for the soft, romantic look, but hair that's chinlength can be more effective for some styles. Short hair can handle precise pin curls really well (think old-Hollywood style), but you'll need firm-hold hair spray on hand.

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Colored or Chemically Treated Hair: If you chemically straighten or relax your strands, your hair is likely fairly fragile and breakage-prone (same goes for any type of regular treatment; including coloring).

Choose a style that conceals damage to increase shine and smooth down your strands.

Jewelry-friendly Hair: Alright – we know it's not a hair type, but if you do have a specific accessory that is an absolute mustwear for you, it should influence your final hairstyle. Think about how you can best show off your accessories -- if you have a great necklace, pull your hair up and keep your decolletage bare. Luxe earrings call for a sweeping updo.

Veil Hair: If you want to wear a veil, choose a hairstyle that works with it. For example, you can wear it below a chignon or just

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above a half-updo. You might even consider keeping a fabulous style under wraps for your ceremony, so it's even more dazzling at your reception. Just be sure your stylist shows your maid of honor how to remove your veil without mussing your style.

Fashion Forward Hair: Consider your gown. Keep in mind that an ultra-modern faux-hawk would be a bit jarring with a ball gown. A romantic chiffon sheath calls for a loose style, up or down; a sleek knotted updo works with a sexy trumpet silhouette.

Natural Hair: Chances are you typically wear your hair in a way that's both comfortable and flattering. Even if it's a basic ponytail, your hairstylist can help you create a wedding-worthy version. Be sure to keep the look fitting to your wedding style: If you're getting married in a ballroom, look for pics of twists, buns, and other formal updos. If you're marrying in a casual, backyard celebration, look for slightly less "done" styles like loose half-updos. ■

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Finishing Touches othing, nothing sets your gorgeous gown off like the perfect accessories. You are a princess for a day so look the part.

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The Right Colour: Knowing what type of metal will work with your gown's shade of white is a good way to begin choosing your jewelry. A white gown works best with pearls and platinums as gold can clash. A diamond-white gown works with gold and silver (and rose gold, and pearl -- you get the idea). An ivory gown is a candlelight shade, a soft, light white, and some versions even have yellow undertones.

Gold is the best way to highlight the creamy tint.

All About the Décolletage: Pairing your neckline style with the proper adornment can add character to a gown, or even highlight a unique feature. For sweetheart or strapless necklines skip the necklace, and focus on some great chandelier earrings instead. Wear clear crystal for a sleek look, or punch it up with a hint of color. Try using a meaningful gem like your birthstone, or pick a color from the flowers in your bouquet. If you're going for a flirty, fresh look, include two or three small fresh or silk

flowers in your hair to add a soft, organic feel. If your dress already has vintage flair, you could create an interesting contrast by taking a more modern approach with your jewels. A v-neck is a style that begs for décolletage décor. You can opt for a pendant or choker. A thin chain with a simple pendant is an elegant way to accessorize, while pearls exude classic charm. If you're going for the dare-to-bedecadent look, a crystal choker with matching earrings could be the perfect combo. With a halter (or reverse halter) dressing up your tresses is a great way to accessorize a halter gown. Headbands are a great way to add a little something extra to your updo. But if headbands aren't quite your style, try adding some sparkle to your hair with intricate crystal hairpins. If you've got a curly mane, five to seven hairpins is just right, while brides with thinner locks (or short hair) will get the same shine with two or three pins.

Personalize It: The most important thing about picking the perfect trinkets for your wedding day is that they are a reflection of you. If you're not comfy wearing big chandelier earrings, stick to studs. Love the way you look in a lariat necklace? Go for it! If you're comfortable in all your accessories, your wedding day ensemble is guaranteed to dazzle. ■ 2009 Bridal Fantasy 67

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ou have the ring and you've told your family. The next step many brides take is to select their attendants. These women (and sometimes men) will be an integral part of the wedding planning process, and it is important to choose wisely.

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Brides who choose their maids without forethought often end up with attendants who are not up to the task, or who are initially excited, but lose interest in participating as the big day approaches.

Even worse, brides can lose friends in the stressful situations that can arise as the wedding is planned. All the drama is easily avoided if you select your wedding party carefully. Here are five tips to help you avoid inviting conflict down the aisle: 1. Take your time. Immediately after he proposes may seem like the perfect moment to ask your friends to stand up for you, but it’s better to share the news of the engagement without raising the subject of

the wedding party. Your emotions will be running high, so you may wish to wait for things to settle down before making any decisions. If someone brings up the topic of your attendants, let them know you haven’t made any final decisions yet. While you can always ask someone to be in your wedding, it is not an invitation you can take back.

2. Think about your friends' life situations. Is one of your candidates already committed to two other weddings this year? She may be relieved just being one of your guests. Is another friend working three jobs to pay off her credit cards? Maybe now isn't the time to ask her to buy a pricey dress and a plane ticket. The …continued on page 71

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same consideration should apply to friends, siblings, or family members with demanding schedules, and/or small children. These friends can still be included in the planning, and can be lifesavers with tasks like monitoring the guest book, or handing out programs.

3. Contemplate your maids as a group.

Will everyone get along? It's wise to think about how they will work together. If two of your close friends aren't speaking to each other, don't make yourself crazy by allowing your wedding to be their opportunity to confront each other. Instead, ask one to be

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a bridesmaid, and invite the other to do a reading, or participate in another way. The same goes for feuding relatives, or for ex co-workers who parted under bad circumstances.

4. Remember, although being a bridesmaid is an honour, it is also a job with responsibilities. If you will need a lot of help, make sure to select one or two bridesmaids you can really count on to hold everything together. Although you love her, the friend who bailed on her final exams for college might not be the wisest choice.

5. Lastly, don't let anyone pressure you to include someone you wouldn't have

picked on your own. Attendant spots are not guaranteed to women whose weddings you were in or to someone your mother or future mother-in-law would like included.

Your bridesmaids are your pillars of strength during the wedding planning process, and you want to be enthusiastic about each of the wonderful friends who accompany you down the aisle. Resentment and guilt have no place at the altar on your wedding day.

As you pick your attendants, follow your heart, but don't lose your head. Keeping these points in mind, you will be on your way to creating an enthusiastic, supportive, and helpful bridal party. â– 2009 Bridal Fantasy 71

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Wedding Watch

LANDON & MICHELLE DERK ~ NOVEMBER 8, 2008

Once Upon a Time… evoting just under a year to planning a wedding, Landon & Michelle enlisted the help of Bridal Fantasy, a family business, to bring their fairy tale wedding dreams to fruition.

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With a colour scheme of red, white, black and gold several design teams (see sidebar) set a fairy tale tone for the celebration that began with a traditional ceremony at St. Joseph’s Basilica.

Before entering the ballroom at Crown Plaza Chateau Lacombe for dinner and dancing, the guests found their seats by viewing a large folding picture frame, with guest’s names and their table numbers listed, and pictures of the bride & groom.

Guest book by McMaster Photography

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Beauty Bride: Lines & Legends Brides Jewelry: Bridal Fantasy Wedding Party: Elysium Bridal Party Denilore Bridal Cake Cakes by Trina Caterers/Venue Crowne Plaza Chateau Lacombe Church St. Joseph’s Basilica Décor Head Table & Front Table Décor Imaginations & Concepts Table Décor Contributors Atmosphere Weddings Bride-on-a-Budget Divine Weddings Elegant Events Final Touch Rentals Fresh Look Event Management Special Event Rentals Special Occasions Event Rentals Ice Sculpture Arctic Ice Engagement Portrait & Sign in Book Paul Walker, McMaster Photography Entertainment Twilight Music Flower Girl Denilore Bridal Flowers Kuhlmann’s Market Gardens & Greenhouses Formalwear Derks Formals & Menswear Invitations/Programs Michaels Stampin’ Up Lingerie Princess Lingerie Location Shots Fort Edmonton Park Mother’s Gowns Lilliana’s Boutique Denilore Bridal Officiant Father Victor Botari, St. Joseph Basilica Photographers Klyment Tan Dong Kim Spirits Sobey’s Western Cellars Table Photo Credit Rina & Anthony Chan, Infused Studios Videography Raj Patel, A Love Story Video Production Navin Patel, A Love Story Video Production Brian Allen, A Love Story Video Production Wedding Gowns Ceremony: Sposabella Dance: Denilore Bridal Bridal Party: Denilore Bridal Wine Charton Hobbs

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R A J & E I L E E N PAT E L ~ J U LY 2 6 , 2 0 0 8

A Love Story aj and Eileen had less than 8 months to put together their dream day. With the help of Monica Dhramrait at Suhaag Weddings they were able to have the Awards Themed wedding they wanted.

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Think red and black for the colour scheme. Red carpet and nominations for the speeches kept the awards theme going. The celebration of their love began at the Bhartiya Cultural Centre of Edmonton – Hindu Temple, and the reception was held at Delta Edmonton South Hotel, who also catered the affair.

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Hair & Make-up Bride: Sonia Sajnani (Freelance makeup Artist), Hair – Avanti (Carrie-Lynn) Brides Jewelry: - Frontier Jewelry in Vancouver (Indian Bridal Jewelry) Wedding Party: In Balance Makeup and Hennessey Salon for hair Bridal Party Dresses Saree World for the Ceremony and perfectbridal.com for dresses.

Cake Rachel Kaleta Caterer Delta Edmonton South Church/Ceremony Bhartiya Cultural Centre of Edmonton – Hindu Temple Décor Infinity Event Planning Wedding Planner Suhaag Weddings (Monica Dhramrait) Entertainment (music) Vijay Masih Flowers La Piazza Dasee Formalwear Derks Formals & Menswear Groom - Custom Vest Dion (available at Derks) Location Shots Arts Building (University) Whyte Avenue Photographers Whitley Goodman Photography Venue Delta Edmonton South Hotel Videography Vigor Media Wedding Gown Tres Chic (West Edmonton Mall)

“To watch us dance is to hear our hearts speak” -Hopi Indian Sayng

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RELATIONSHIP RE VOLUTION

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happiness

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When it comes to marriage the only thing that matters is that you choose someone you can relate to and love out of authenticity not out of expectation.

With roughly half of all marriages ending in divorce - often bitter - and with both emotional and financial consequences for both parties and any children, we though it was time we gave you some info and techniques that will help you and your relationships.

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You need to communicate. You need to plan. You need to be you. Don’t expect your partner to rescue you or make your life better. Marriage is a commitment by both partners to work towards a common goal. Our Team hopes you put some of our experts’ tips to good use.

A RELATIONSHIP RE VOLUTION

Sparked by Love DO focus on what you want in your life, not what you don’t want – remember the law of attraction. You have the power to create the relationship, the life, and the love of your dreams – even if the world around you seems messed up, don’t lose your focus.

DO imagine that what you dream of is in your life now, and feel grateful for it now…and after that think of 10 more things to be grateful for and then ten more, always be grateful for your partner or some aspect of your relationship.

DO have fun. Life is about being happy.

Don’t wait until you have this, or that…Don’t put off happiness. Live in the Now. Enjoy Life Now. Those little happy moments add up big in the happiness quote.

DO seek to discover the truth about the meaning of your life. The answers are there if you look for them. Awareness and peace of mind and soul are high on the vibration’s list.

DON’T give away your power to people.

Take responsibility for your life. If things aren’t going as hoped in your life, re examine your deepest beliefs. Swap limiting beliefs for empowering ones.

DO watch movies that will make you feel good and energize you. Listen to music that fills you with positive emotions. Read books that empower you. (Control the input to your brain, and you’ll control your output).

DON’T watch the news on television. It is filled with negativity which lowers your vibrations. (Why is 95% of all news focused on bad news?) If you want to keep abreast of current affairs search the internet for independent, unbiased news. Seek the truth. Trust your intuition. This will also help you give you a much more balanced view

of reality. There’s lots of good news out there if you’re willing to look for it.

DO help other people. Join a group that helps humanity. Forgiveness, compassion and understanding are good vibrations. So share that spirit and spark of energy that comes from within.

achieve higher levels of consciousness, such as meditation, yoga, exercise or simply a few deep breaths.

DO get a pet! According to Power vs. Force, a purring cat vibrates at 500 (anything over 200 is Good)…my pet dogs Angus & Perkio must vibrate at least 800 with their loving licks and devotion!

DO use tools and strategies to help you

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C R E AT I N G

Happily Ever After Advice and tips on making your marriage a life-long affair n the day of the dream wedding, the beautiful bride and handsome groom share vows to love, honor and cherish. After celebrating in the company of friends and family and the honeymoon, we ask the question, how do you get to happily ever after? If your big day is approaching, you’re probably filled with joy, anticipation, and so much love you can’t stand it. So why is it that happy marriages seem to elude many couples? Even though statistics say around fifty percent of marriages won’t make it, it’s not that hard to create a marriage that will stand the test of time. We’re here to show you how an investment of a little time everyday will pay off and create your happily ever after.

like obtaining a driver’s license requires that you have the basic skills to drive a car, a marriage requires equally vital skills and insight in order to flourish. Following is a brief quiz that will give you an idea of what it takes to get a license to love.

Do you qualify for a “Love License?” For a quick glimpse into your marriage and relationship skills, answer these questions.

The skills for creating a happy marriage Hi, my name is Dr. Brenda Wade. I’m a psychologist, television host, author and speaker, and I want you to know I’m also a happily married wife and mother. A fairytale wedding won’t lead to a fairytale marriage, because real life isn’t make-believe. Along with my friend Darren Jacklin, mega manifestor, author and transformation teacher, we will show you how a good, satisfying marriage is about day to day growing your insight, skill and love. And I promise you, that is easily within your reach.

Marriage is just like any job. There is a purpose and a skill set that is required along with steps to practicing the skills.

First, the real purpose of marriage is to assist one another in growing to your full potential.

You need a high “GQ,” or growth quotient score. In other words, you just keep growing so that the score gets higher and higher.

Second, you need insight and skill to successfully navigate your relationship. Just

1. What were your parents’ patterns (or blueprint) for love? In other words, what did you see them do in their relationship?

Was there abandonment, betrayal, superficial connection, or maybe one or both of your parents tended toward controlling or domineering behavior?

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If you can’t answer this question in one or two concise sentences, you have work to do. Because, guess what my friend, you will repeat what you learned in childhood. Or maybe, like so many of us, you’ll go 180 degrees in the other direction as you attempt to not be your mother or your father. Mind you, this is not blaming or putting anybody’s parents down. Don’t forget, our parents could only emulate what they learned from their parents.

2. What is the most effective way to communicate in a love relationship? For example, do you point out whatever my

partner is doing wrong, by saying: a) “You never come home on time.” b) “You never listen to me.” c) “You aren’t meeting my needs.”

Any of the above are wrong, wrong, wrong. These constitute blaming, making wrong, and putting down types of statements. What we want are “I statements followed by a request.” Here you would identify your feeling and without blaming your partner, state what the issue is. Then you would make a request. For example, “I feel hurt when it seems as though you’ve broken an agreement we have made without checking with me first. Would you mind checking with me before you change agreements we’ve made?”

3. While your partner is speaking, you should be:

If you pick anything other than “c”, not that “a” and ‘b” aren’t great and fun, but I think it is obvious you missed the boat on this one since “c” is the deeper purpose. Even your driver’s license won’t help you if you only focus on sex and companionship.

5. If you and your mate, find yourself in heavy water you should: a) abandon ship b) start bailing for all you are worth even if the ship is going down c) get help So, how did you do? Is there room to grow? If you are like most of us, there’s always room to expand our skills and awareness. That leads us to a final step.

Third, consciously work to keep growing and stay on top of your game. Research shows that those who continually work at

improving their marriage show two-thirds fewer divorces than those who take a handsoff approach.

Investing time and effort into developing your marriage does not have to be an elaborate, expensive or challenging undertaking. In fact, it should be fun. For instance, my husband and I make it a point to read personal growth or relationship books and share what we’ve learned with each other every night.

Another great resource are the many classes, retreats and coaching sessions offered nation-wide specifically designed to help couples grow their relationship. It takes a lot less effort, time and energy to keep your relationship in good shape than to fix it when things go wrong. Think of it like a garden—the most beautiful are those carefully tended to with weeding, pruning, watering, and sometimes, extra fertilizer for fruitful results. ■

a) Listening for what’s wrong with what they are saying b) Preparing a rebuttal in your head c) Deciding if you agree with what they are saying or not so you can let them know.

Again, wrong, wrong, wrong. What we want is deep listening -- not analysis or critique. Your goal here is to understand your partner’s feelings.

4. The purpose of a relationship is: a) To have someone to have sex with? b) To have someone to be a companion? c) To grow in your capacity to receive and give love?

Dr. Brenda Wade Dr. Brenda currently appears as an expert on NBC’s Today Show and the Morning Show with Mike and Juliet on Fox. She has appeared on shows such as Oprah and Good Morning America, and hosted the nationally syndicated Can This Marriage Be Saved. Dr. Brenda produced and is the host of the national PBS Pledge Special Power Choices. Dr. Brenda is a regular contributor to Essence magazine and other major publications. She currently hosts Black Renaissance on CW Network, Bay Area. Dr. Brenda hosts exciting live Power Choices Breakthrough Retreats both nationally and internationally and founded the Power Coaches Program which provides breakthrough coaching services internationally. Dr. Brenda has also authored 3 books: Power Choices: 7 Signposts on Your Journey to Wholeness, Joy, Love and Peace, Love Lessons and What Mama Couldn’t Tell Us About Love. For more information on Dr. Brenda and her work, visit www.docwade.com or www.powerchoicestv.com 2009 Bridal Fantasy 83

Tips for Maintenance Darren Jacklin offers 25 date night ideas to keep your relationships invigorating.

From the most simple evenings at home to an elaborate surprise getaway, there is no limit on the ways to express your love. rom my experience, women want to feel radiance, light and energy in their lives. So after you are married, it's critical to keep the romance and yumminess alive. A simple way to do this is to schedule date nights and surprises into your calendars, especially if there are children involved.

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Guys, try saying this sometime: “You've got one hour to pack your bags. Don't ask me where we are going, but we'll be gone for the weekend. Everything is taken care of. Just pack your bags, and leave the rest to me. I'm going to give you the best weekend you have ever had in your life so far. “ Volunteer for a worthy cause together.

Hand out food at a homeless shelter, go and visit a senior citizens centre or children's hospital, organize a fundraiser for a non-profit, or work at an animal shelter. You'll spend time with each other, but you'll also make a difference and help others.

Go to a club and dance all night like you did when you were single – but this time dance with each other.

4 Go for a walk at a nearby park together.

Throw some coins in a fountain and make a wish.

5 Make passionate and playful love and go all out. Wear sexy lingerie, send each other naughty text messages beforehand, light candles, throw rose petals on and around the bed, use edible body paints – whatever you must do to take the romance up a notch. It will be a night to remember.

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Get a couple's massage at a spa. Relax and enjoy each other as you both get nurtured and taken care of for a few hours. This is a great way to bond with your spouse.

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Be a tourist in your own city, town or neighborhood. Go to one of the major sites like the museum, art gallery, park, or heritage site and take photos. Pretend you're seeing this place again for the first time.

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Go pick a neighborhood and walk down streets that you have never been down before until you find a new restaurant or cafe.

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Plan a romantic vacation a year from now and then drop hints to your spouse about what you are going to do to them when you get there.

10 Dress up and go out to a dinner theatre or comedy club. Afterward, check into a hotel and let your imagination run wild.

11 Go on a wine tasting.

12 Make out like teenagers on the couch.

13 At your favorite local pub or bar, order a bottle of wine or champagne and flirt with each other all night long. If you're into role playing, you could even take on different personas for the evening and act like you've just met. Stay in character until you get home and then delight in the benefits of marriage.

14 Go for a day-long hike.

15 Take a dance lesson together.

16 Go on a dinner sunset cruise.

17 Look at an open house, ask the realtor to give you a bit of time, and then dance together in the room where your bed would be.

18 Get decked out and go out for dinner.

19 Have a picnic together in your own living room or backyard.

20 Turn off the television, radio, computer, cell phones, take off your wrist watches and all other distractions, and tell each other what you appreciate about one another for at least one hour.

21 Go watch a sunset together.

22 Go to a drive in movie theatre.

23 Bubble bath for two with candles, champagne and chocolate-dipped strawberries.

24 Make a finger-foods-only dinner and feed each other.

25 Create a scavenger hunt around the house with little dollar store prizes or messages of love.

Darren Jacklin Darren Jacklin is called a Mega Manifestor. Tell Darren what you really, really, REALLY want in your personal or professional life and he can show you how to get it! For more than a decade, Darren Jacklin has dedicated his life to discovering the most advanced principles for producing accelerated change. A world-class professional speaker, corporate trainer, and author, he has motivated and inspired personnel from more than 130 Fortune 500 companies, as well as high school and professional athletes from more than 36 countries. His goal is to increase performance and production and to achieve more rounded, successful lives through a cooperative environment. Darren is in high demand internationally and also appears regularly on television and radio talk shows. For more information on Darren Jacklin, visit www.IdeaPartyEvents.com

Relationship Revelations

ha…new love. There is nothing more intoxicating than the blissful feeling of new love. The future looks bright and hopeful with this new love in your life. Life has prepared you for this moment of commitment – right? No! Maybe! If you are unsure about being ready for this life changing event then read on and make sure you are prepared for the happily ever-after life.

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The happily ever after dream…but, what is really in store for this newly formed couple? Why is there so much doom and gloom? Well the stats say that almost half of marriages today will end in divorce.

But does this need to happen to YOU? We say NO! The top three rules to making a “happily ever after” life.

Rule #1. Have fun! You’re getting married and you are probably having fun in the relationship. Great, remember this time in your life together and most importantly keep the fun in the relationship. The ‘fun’ might change as the years go by, but ‘fun’ is a key building block to a long healthy relationship.

Rule #2. Listen !! We mean really listen. When you are listening find a way to hold your partner important. Not more important than you, and not less either. When you hold each other important in any discussion you are really listening for your partner’s different view point. It’s really quite amazing what you might hear… even when you think you’ve heard it all before or you are so sure what they are going to say or do.

Rule #3. Don’t judge…Evaluate your relationship before marriage and in your marriage. Evaluating improves your chances for long-term success. There are three key criteria in particular to assess yourself, your general preparedness for a long loving and enduring marriage.

These three key evaluation criteria are; 1. you, as an individual – your traits and skills to handle conflict, related stresses and communication, 2. you and your partner’s abilities to communicate with each other and 3. the situation in which you and your partner are currently influenced by, such as family history and significant role-models in your life. These three factors can predict marital dissatisfaction, satisfaction or long-term success of your relationship.

So, to help you and your partner, here is an exercise to assess your compatibility and competency to endure the relationship hurdles: 1. List yours and your partner's five most fun activities – any similarities?

2. Discuss how well you know your partner as well as your own likes and dislikes.

3. Look at how familiar you are with your partner's current lifestressors, such as finances, job or career, weight and fitness, passions or interests, relatives and family commitments etc. Shock or surprise by any of the answers?

4. Understanding the expectations of each other. How accepting of the situation are you? Are you flexible, willing to adjust and adapt?

If your partner didn’t change, could you live with that?

You can Beat the odds! Blair and I consistently heard from family and friends “don’t work together if you are married – that will only spell failure”. Absolutely no one around us had anything good to say about a husband and wife successfully working together, but here we are twenty-two years later in marriage and twenty years as business partners, we are still alive and well and in love!

There is lots of hope for any of you who believe - in yourselves and each other!

Blair and Melissa have been happily married for 22 years. Aside from being husband and wife they also run a business together, Results Now Inc. a coaching and training company and have done so for twenty years. Blair and Melissa live in Edmonton, Alberta with their two beautiful daughters. If you wish to learn more about Blair and Melissa’s training, you are welcome to contact them at 1-888-663-2047 or visit their business website at www.resultsnowinc.com.

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How to stay

Calm, Cool and Collected while raising a newborn

By Wayne Lee www.waynelee.com Bringing a baby into the world can bring so much joy, love, connection, wonderment and can be very rewarding. But along with the upside it can be very time consuming, challenging and frustrating. I now know this because my wife and I just had our first baby on October 21, 2008. Ivee is the joy of our life… but she does have her “moments”. These moments include nonstop crying and continual fussing without knowing how to please her. Don’t get me wrong I love my little girl but it takes a lot of hard work, support and the right mindset to raise a newborn. I am offering a few tools that I found work for my wife and me in helping deal with the challenges. When it comes to all of the information and so called “expert advice” that is out there so many parents become frustrated and fearful because they get themselves worked up by thinking they have to keep up with the latest trends and advice. I don’t subscribe to this philosophy. Take what works and use it. The same is true with my advice. Test it out and keep what works.

The first step is to create the “adventurous” mind set. This means to look at the first year (as well as every year) as an adventure with ups and downs, surprises including the structure of daily routines. Declare that you are excited to be on your journey and that you can handle anything. Next visualize how you want to interact with your baby and how your ideal day looks. I am not proposing that you will always get a perfect day by thinking it but you will start to attract more of what 86 Bridal Fantasy 2009

you want. Be grateful for all the smiles, cuddles and moments you have with your baby. Being grateful helps you focus on what is great instead of what is not. When things do get bad take a deep breath and say “this too shall pass”. My wife and I are always excited to see what the next day brings.

Creating a support network is crucial. For example my wife’s mom has helped out a tremendous amount and this has allowed us to get some sleep to recharge as well as get some work done. Identify people who can help you out like parents, relatives and close friends. Don’t be afraid to ask for help because you will need it. Having support also frees up some time so your spouse and you can spend some quality time together. It is easy to lose the connection if you allow it to happen. Go out for a romantic dinner. (That reminds me I better make a reservation).

In order for you and your spouse to get

Ivee through the night and I will take the morning shift. Because of this we are in a routine that works as well as supporting each other.

Lastly I think once you have the right mindset, you have support behind you and have agreements it is super important to be flexible. It is great to be prepared, however you never know exactly how things will turn out. I mean things will happen that you don’t expect and being flexible sets you up to handle anything. For example I was all excited and looking forward to go to the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers national convention in Toronto for 3 days. Everything was set. My wife’s mom Rita was going to stay and help with Ivee. Two days before I leave Rita pulls out her back and to top it off Ivee had the worst night of her life with continual blood curtiling screams and cries. The next day we were not sure if Rita’s back would get better as well as how Ivee was going to be for the rest of the week so I cancelled my trip and stayed home to help. I was disappointed but I also knew that I was needed and that was first priority. I now know that there may be other situations like this in the future so I am prepared. Expect the unexpected.

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience” Eleanor Roosevelt along and complete the daily routines it is important to make agreements. These agreements can include who will clean the house to who will feed the baby and when you will take naps. If you don’t make agreements you are setting yourself up for disagreements and you are more likely to get frustrated and argue. Once you set your agreements you create clearer expectations and become more accountable. My wife and I have made an agreement that she will feed

Many people will tell you how to raise a baby and what the experience feels like but the only way to really know is to experience it yourself. Enjoy the journey because having a baby is the divine expression of creation.

You will experience ups and downs, highs and lows and along the way you will learn what works for you and what doesn’t. Enjoy every moment.

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here was a moment, standing amid mountains of boxes and crumpled up newspapers that both Dave and Kate realized the honeymoon was definitely over.

he newlyweds who had just returned from a week of unadulterated bliss beneath a tropical sun, were still unpacking in their new apartment. Kate was deciding the layout of the kitchen, when Dave announced it was time to go to bed. “What?” exclaimed Kate, with a heavy box in her hands, “now?!”

It suddenly occurred to them that they’d never discussed bed times, or how Dave was a morning person. Kate by contrast, was a night owl who loved being up until the wee hours, reading or working on various projects. She wanted to finish the kitchen; they were on a roll.

A discussion ensued, which would have put Spencer and Heidi (The Hills) to shame, all about schedules, priorities and, well, sleep habits.

Most couples discover soon after the wedding flowers have dried and the tuxedos have been returned that reality inevitably sets in. Turning the bliss of planning the biggest event in your life into a long-term, statistic-defying relationship takes a lot of work. Any couple will tell you, some days seem longer than others.

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Before tying the knot, consider addressing the following points, which will help you stay happily married.

• Be honest with yourself. Are you clear about why you’re getting married? Are you using marriage to escape from something in your life? If you are getting married to leave home or avoid an unhappy family situation, you might want to re-examine why you’re really making such a big commitment and if it’s for the right reasons.

• Sure you think you know your partner, but how well do you really know the person you’re committing your life to? Past behavior is a great predictor of future behavior. Knowing your partner well enough to have confidence how they’ll act in the future will certainly give you peace of mind before you say “I do”. You don’t have to hire a private investigator to get the low down, just ask. Make some time in all of the busyness from the wedding for just the two of you.

• Make an effort to get to know your spouse’s family and friends. Your future together will include a number of new people. Have you met the important people in your future spouses’ life? Have you introduced the people who are most important to you?

Calgary Counselling Centre offers a Marriage Preparation Course that asks the right questions, helping you and your spouse start off on the right foot. Marriage doesn’t necessarily bring you closer together; our Marriage Preparation Program does.

Visit www.calgarycounselling.com/programs/marriage_prep.htm to register.

• Learn to fight smart. If you aspire to be one of those imaginary couples who say they don’t fight, try a little reality check and actually learn how to fight properly.

Understanding your partners’ conflict style and how to deal with conflict when it occurs will make a huge difference, when you have differing opinions.

• Are you fitting time in to plan your marriage amongst all of the wedding plans? Taking a marriage preparation course will help you make the transition from happy couple to happily married friends and lifelong partners. A good marriage preparation course will help you discuss your values and beliefs, so you understand each other well and have a solid foundation for the future.

• Have you left time to play? When couples get stressed, they forget some of the finer points about what brought them together. Schedule some play time scheduled before and after your nuptials.

Weddings are exciting, but marriage should be when the real excitement kicks in.

For Kate and Dave, learning how to respect each others’ styles was key to avoiding silly conflict. They’ve now been happily married – and sleep compatible – for eighteen years.

Marriage is one of the biggest personal investments you’ll ever make in your life.

Make sure you’ve researched properly, asked the right questions and evaluated, and you will have a happy return on the deal.

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We Talk About

Everything… …Except Finances

ne of the most important conversations and joint plans between any couple – whether newlywed or 30 years married – is the conversation of finances. When my wife, Darcia, and I were married a few years ago, we planned out everything, including our first dance. We picked our song, what style of dance, and who would instruct and prepare us for it. We knew exactly how it was going to work out right to the very last note. We wanted it to be perfect. I would venture to think that we would also like to have our lives flow just as smoothly as our first dance did. Funny thing is we never really discussed finances as where we were heading until two years after we were married. Needless to say, there was plenty to talk about.

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t is not that money rules the household, but it definitely acts as the proverbial oil for the family mechanism. To have a clear understanding where one’s partner stands on the opinion of money is very important.

To have a unified game plan on how to reach a family’s financial goals and dreams is tantamount. This article will offer three simple, yet important, question exercises for you and your spouse to work on together.

To begin, take two sheets of paper (one for each spouse) and answer these four questions:

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1. What was it like growing up in my household money-wise?

2. Were my parents spenders/savers?

3. Did they give to charities or support local groups?

4. What did they teach me about money?

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This by no means is an exhaustive list, but it gives a good starting point for talking about money. Take turns reading each other’s answers and have an open discussion about them. You may find that you will learn something about your soonto-be spouse that will explain why he/she handles their financial situation the way they do.

Another area of discussion is income making. We live in a society where having a two-income earning household is commonplace. This situation obviously becomes a bit of a challenge when children enter the picture. Although there are daycare centers and nanny services readily available to assist in child rearing, do not assume that your partner thinks the same way you do. Once again, take your sheets of paper that you used from your last exercises

and these answer these next four questions.

After seriously considering your answers, take turns reading each other’s answers and discuss them openly.

1. What is my opinion of money? How much is enough?

2. Does it matter to me who is the “bread winner” of the family?

3. What if my spouse has the opportunity for advancement in his/her career but it means having to relocate to another city?

4. What type of sacrifice do I expect my spouse to make should children come into the picture?

Once again, this is not an exhaustive list of questions that could be discussed on this topic. There are books readily available at any major book store that will offer a more in-depth look into these areas, and these are not the only areas that need discussion.

Also, you do not need to be planning a wedding to do these exercises. It is helpful for any couple who find themselves having financial troubles.

One area that is an absolute necessity for discussion is that of debt, both current and future. We all have at least one credit card (Stats Canada lists at least three credit card debts per person over eighteen). It is never easy to live with debt looming over your head and it is certainly not easy admitting to your spouse that you have debt coming into the marriage. Credit cards are some of the worst debts around today because of their high interest rates and the common misconception that credit cards give you “free money”. Rest assured, every penny borrowed on credit must be paid, plus interest. Now, I am not saying that credit cards have no value. They are very helpful, especially in how our society today operates. But, you must develop a discipline in using the card ONLY when you must, and then paying down the balance every month if possible. Here are the next questions fro discussion: 1. How many credit cards do I have?

2. What do I use my credit cards for? Do I pay them off every month or do I spend past my capacity and only make the minimum payments?

3. Does my spouse know how I use credit and what my spending habits are, or have I only let him/her know just enough so he/she won’t ask questions?

4. What if I or my spouse are bringing debt into the relationship? Do I expect him/her to take it on as well or will I be expected to take care of it on my own?

I don’t think I can stress enough how important it is to really have a good chinwag with your future life partner about money. For most of you reading this magazine, you grandparents were truly the last generation of savers. Since the inception of credit cards, North Americans have steadily declined in their ability to save. Instant gratification has overtaken the age old philosophy of “If you can’t afford it, don’t buy it”. We don’t want the hand-medown furniture; we want new. We cannot settle for the old box television; we need the latest plasma screen on the market. We may have the nicest car among our friends, but we’re still living at home on the basement. We don’t care how much the shoes cost, just that we have them before everyone else starts wearing them. And so on, and so on. Before you make that marital step, be sure to vocalize your financial concerns to your future life partner and find out where the both of you stand.

While it is not necessary, it would be in your best interest for you and your fiancé to

sit down with a professional financial advisor/planner/educator to help you with this whole process. The more you can plan for your future now, the less headaches you will have later and you will truly be able to enjoy a much happier family life.

Remember, open communication is key to any successful marriage, and open discussion about finances will give you a much better foothold on planning your future.

Enjoy the dance.

Boris Derow Boris Derow is a professional financial educator who has been helping families regain control of their lives through proper investment concepts and strategies that the majority of the public didn’t even know existed. For more information, call 780-242-5879 or email at bderow15ocpc@wfgmail.ca. www.worldfinancialgroup.com

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Until Debt Do Us Part Crash Cash Course he financial discussions that you have before the wedding could be even more important than the wedding itself! Most couples fight and split due to that little thing called MONEY. If you have not taken the time to fully figure out how you’re going to manage your cash after the big day, then you’re in for some rough times.

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re romantic fairy tales dancing through your head, wedding bells ringing in your ears? While many couples get caught up in the excitement of planning their wedding, some forget to discuss the fundamentals of everyday life. Household chores, child rearing, even who picks up after the dog seems to take a front seat to financial planning. Often arguments over money lead to separation and even divorce. So if you haven’t taken the time to open up the lines of financial communication, make sure to do it soon.

Discussing money is the big scary conversation that most couples avoid and even dread to have with each other. By now you know your fiancé emotionally, even spiritually, but what about financially? Are you fully aware of each other’s spending habits, or debt situation?

We are all expected to be great at managing our money by the time we are adults, although very few of us are taught the proper and most effective ways. A limited understanding of money management often results in feelings of guilt, shame, frustration, and even anger. Some deal with this by leaving it for their partner to take care of, others just go shopping and say they will deal with it later. Avoiding the problem won’t make it go away; it will only get worse. This will eventually snowball out of control and suck you and your partner in.

Here are some quick questions that will get you started on your journey to financial freedom as a couple. Write down your answers separately and discuss them with your partner once you’re both finished.

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Now that you’ve gotten a few things out in the open, it’s time to look deeper into both of your financial histories and explore your financial situation. Discuss things such as debt load, net worth, and monthly expenses; after that it’s budget time. A well thought out budget can not only cut down on squabbles but if planned correctly allow for extra indulgences that both of you are okay with. Once you have everything in order and are on the same page, contact a financial advisor. Advisors have access to great savings tips and can help get you started in the right direction.

Make a point to write down and review your spending on a regular basis as a couple. This will help pin point any areas of weakness or improvement for the two of you. Mostly importantly it will keep you on track and aid in avoiding overspending.

By keeping your finances in order you can focus on each other and your new marriage. If you are not comfortable with money management it’s ok to ask for help. Tell your partner how you feel and perhaps seek out a simple cash management course to beef up your knowledge setting you toward marriage bliss.

Jason M. Currey, Senior Financial Consultant The Healthy Retirement Group Inc. www.healthyretirement.ca

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Jamaica – Hotel: Jakes This hotel is mellow, unassuming and exactly what you think a boutique hotel should be.

Unwind at the beach or by the pool. Experience life without structure. The cottages are private and secluded with outdoor tubs that sit on sea-view decks. Guests and locals mix for famous Jamaican cuisine like jerk chicken or some great local beer.

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Getaway Playa Del Carmen, Yucatan, Mexico – Hotel: Deseo Charming but resolutely modern, Deseo attempts to keep the charm of the old fishing villages along the Caribbean coast.

Cocktails, delicious cuisine and the sea breeze in open air lounges will completely relax you. Once the sun goes down, the music picks up, and the Deseo Lounge Bar becomes the place to chill in Playa Del Carmen.

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Montreal, Quebec – Hotel: Le Germain With fashion-forward, minimalistic interiors, this hotel still has a loft feel to it. The hotel is located in the cobblestone streets of Vieux Montreal, which is heavy with chic boutiques. With amazing historical sites, the hotel is perfectly situated for you to explore some of the most beautiful areas of Montreal on foot.

Puerto Rico, USA – Hotel: El Convento (in Old San Juan) San Juan is a dashing destination in the Caribbean. El Convento is charmingly Spanish Colonial in architecture and design. The interiors are Spanish style with mahogany beams, handmade furniture and Andalusian floor tiles. The atmosphere is old fashioned but the comforts are modern. It boasts an upscale night life, Café Bohemio and tapas bar El Picateo. This is truly the Puerto Rican experience.

London, England – Hotel: Covent Garden Hotel This hotel can be found down a narrow side street in the busy and chic Covent Garden district in London’s elite west end. It is also close to the opera house and the theatre district. Rooms here are decorated in a classic, antique style with luxurious, expansive beda and marble and mahogany bathrooms.

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he peaceful Tuscan landscape is primarily rolling hills, with vineyards, olive groves, cypress trees and hilltop villages all bathed in a soft, amber light. To many it seems familiar, and rightly so: during the Renaissance it was often used as the backdrop for the paintings of the masters.

The rustic Tuscan farmhouse, made of local stone and set atop a hill flanked by lines of cypress trees, is a sight unique to Tuscany.

Silent medieval hill towns, with their fortified castle walls and church steeples visible in the distance, are a part of the landscape: Tuscany’s olive groves yield some of Italy’s finest extra virgin olive oil, but the heart of the region is in its vineyards, particularly the Chianti Classico, where you can visit fattorie (wine estates), to sample and purchase their wines.

It was here Paige and David decided to crown their love and to say “I do” in March of 2008. A whole year of intense emailing went by before we first met, which may sound like a lot, but is actually the average. Through email, we create relationships with our couples, one that is more than purely business.

Paige and David are from Kansas City.

Missouri where they met, became engaged, and currently live. Upon their arrival in Italy, we first met them at the charming Castle, where their wedding was held and where their 40 guests, from the US and UK stayed for a week. Paige and David could not believe their eyes. The Tuscan landscape, with the narrow country roads leading through lush vineyards and olive groves was simply enchanting. During their nuptial week, we organized interesting tours around Tuscany, and wine tasting in traditional regional vineyards. Paige and David were excited, and their guests were even more so.

The couple decided to have their civil wedding in the US, but the main celebration, the religious ceremony, was held in the Castle’s beautiful little ancient chapel.

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along the aisle created a romantic setting.

Paige was beautiful in her dress. She was wearing a long romantic dress, with a beautiful embroidering of little pearls. Her hair was

down, with ringlets, which framed her radiant face perfectly. The make up was delicate and highlighted her wonderful green eyes.

At 4 pm all the guests were inside the church waiting for the bride’s entrance. David was at the altar awaiting her arrival. Paige arrived treading lightly on a carpet of rose petals thrown by the little page boy and flower girl, while a violinist and trumpet player marked her pace to the altar with the notes of Purcell.

The ceremony was simple and sweet.

Some guests shed a tear or two, many were moved, but everyone commented on its beauty. Aperitifs were served at the bar of the Castle as the couple took a few more pictures in the stunning garden of the Castle.

Dinner was served in the restaurant of the castle. The notes of the guitar and the violin accompanied a joyful but relaxed atmosphere. Excellent dishes were served, accompanied by the best Chianti wines. The flowers and the candles on the tables fit perfectly with the medieval atmosphere.

Comfortable beds and spacious rooms welcomed the tired merry-makers and, after the fact, Weddings in Tuscany knew they had made another couple very happy. ■

Effortless Escape: First Class hese days travel and weddings go hand in hand. Whether your guests are traveling from afar to be at your wedding, you’re joining the growing percentage of couples that now opt for a destination wedding, or you’re honeymooning to an exotic escape, travel is somehow involved. To ensure you and your loved ones travel plans pan out, Bridal Fantasy sought the advice from knowledgeable travel professionals and destination wedding specialists.

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General Travel Tips Use your maiden name. Unless you are taking a delayed honeymoon, there will not be enough time to change the name on your passport. To avoid confusion, extra hassle and potential delay, purchase your airline tickets and visas in your maiden name so they match your driver’s licence and official documents. – Marlin Travel Photocopy all identification documents such as your passport, credit cards, birth certificate and drivers’license. Pack these in your luggage, just in case your carry-on bag gets stolen. – Uniglobe Geo Travel In case of temporary lost luggage, pack a few essentials in your carry-on so that you can be poolside enjoying a tropical drink in your bathing suit while you’re waiting for the airline to bring your bags. A toothbrush and toothpaste are also recommended so that you can freshen up upon arrival. – Marlin Travel Honeymoon Travel Tips Include a honeymoon gift registry card in your wedding invitations. This will allow you to off-set

the costs of your honeymoon; receive tours, excursions, fancy dinners, spending money and airline/hotel upgrades. You’ll never forget the torch lit candle light dinner on the beach that you shared with your new husband all thanks to your favourite Aunt. – Uniglobe Geo Travel If possible, try to avoid leaving for your honeymoon the same day as or morning after your wedding. Taking a day or two after the festivities to pack and tie up loose ends will allow you to embark on your honeymoon feeling relaxed. – Marlin Travel Tell the world that you are honeymooners! Tell everyone – airlines, hotels, cruise lines and restaurants. Enjoy special treatment and complimentary gifts. – Marlin Travel Destination Weddings Sunset weddings are beautiful; however, in many tropical destinations the mosquitoes are heaviest at this time. Mosquito repellent is recommended for the bridal party and the guests. – Marlin Travel

Pack your wedding dress and important accessories in a carry-on luggage item that will keep your dress wrinkle free and safe; this also ensures it arrives with you; on time and ready to wear. – Uniglobe Geo Travel Plan your destination wedding with a local destination wedding specialist. They can ensure that enough space at the resort is pre-booked to accommodate your guest list, coordinate travel for all of your guests (this can be challenging), and be your advocate with the resorts ensuring promises made are kept. If an emergency should arise, your destination wedding specialist will be available to help resolve the issues. In the event that your wedding needs to be rescheduled due to flight cancellations or delays, they will be responsible for contacting guests and your resort. – Uniglobe Geo Travel Fans are a great way to keep your guests cooler during the ceremony. – Marlin Travel ■

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hese days it seems like everyone is heading off to somewhere tropical for their special day and it’s easy to see why. Destination weddings generally cost less than a traditional wedding and most are all inclusive, providing unlimited food and beverages for your guests (excluding alcohol of course!). Specialized personnel help reduce the stress in planning your wedding day and they help to coordinate the guest list. Last, but certainly not least, a destination wedding provides an amazing memory for you and all of your guests, who get a vacation along with a wonderful celebration.

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One of the greatest things about destination weddings is that you can combine it with your honeymoon! You can tie the knot in Mexico and enjoy the sun and surf for the week following your wedding or you can get on board a cruise ship, say your nuptials at the beginning of your cruise, and enjoy the rest of your trip as a newly married couple.

Map out your budget—then stick to it.

Destination weddings can be deceptively more expensive than booking an at-home location if you aren’t careful and watch any additional charges that can arise. Are there

elderly grandparents who would have a difficult time with long-distance travel?

Friends who might not be able to swing a four-star hotel in Maui? Rather than inadvertently excluding loved ones from sharing your big day, explore the various ways that you can accommodate disparate needs i.e.: Montreal versus Paris.

Be sure to send a save the date card well in advance—at least one year, if possible—so your guests can plan ahead and get the best deals on airfare and hotel reservations. Scout out locales and venues. Get brochures, and also seek recommendations from couples who have married at a resort or other venue before you. If possible, visit a resort or other venue at least once before you book it for your wedding day.

Hire a wedding coordinator in the destination where you plan to marry. Give your coordinator images of bouquets, cakes and more so they can help you find vendors that will suit your desired style. If you invite more than ten guests, negotiate group air

and hotel rates. Look into immunizations if you're traveling to an exotic location like Africa or Nicaragua. Talk to your doctor and your travel agent for a complete list.

Learn the local language if you're going overseas. Buy or borrow a great digital camera—you won't have to worry about damaging film in airport security. If you're traveling to a fabulous shopping destination, include a lightweight duffle bag to haul back all of your new purchases. Pack it inside your larger suitcase but make sure to check with your airline about extra baggage charges.

Confirm your passport and/or visa haven't expired. The last thing you want is to pull out your passport a week before your trip and find out it has expired!

If you’re traveling overseas, purchase foreign currency – most tourist destinations prefer US dollars. Find out if you can use your credit cards there as well, and what the exchange rate will be.

Here are some questions you need to ask when planning your destination wedding.

Your wedding planner or travel agent should be able to help with these as well.

• What will we do if it rains (if you're having an outdoor ceremony)?

• What is the deposit fee? Many resorts and hotels will require at least 50 percent of the total cost as a deposit, with the remaining balance due right before the wedding. Try to negotiate the lowest possible down payment when dealing with any vendor.

This minimizes your financial risk in the case of a cancellation or dispute.

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under which you are eligible to receive a full or partial repayment.

Are there day fees? These are charges that some resorts tack on for guests staying at a different hotel or resort than the one where your wedding is taking place.

What's included in the wedding package rate?

Is there a price-escalation clause? Vendors will insert this into their contracts to cover unforeseen expenses. If possible, set a cap on the expenditures that can fall under this umbrella.

Can we arrange a special room rate for our guests?

Does the venue offer wedding insurance?

This will protect you if the venue goes out of business.

What are the due dates for every payment?

You'll need to account for the time it takes to mail these checks to your wedding destination.

Destination weddings are often more intimate - involving the couple and a select handful of friends and family; or the couple plus enough guests to constitute a bona fide weeklong family -- or college -- reunion.

Then, the just-marrieds can take a second week to disappear on their own. The "reception," if any, is more like a big party and held when the couple returns home. Is it any wonder why destination weddings are a growing trend? ■ 2009 Bridal Fantasy 99

Rocky Mountain

Hidden Gems You’ve found the perfect guy – you know that. Now the challenge is finding the perfect place to say “I do.”

Photo by: Kim-Maru Striebel, Maru Photography Location: Fairmont Jasper Park Lodge

Welcome to the Canadian Rockies.

The Rockies have it all when it comes to romance. If you’re considering a mountain backdrop for your big day, perhaps one of the following Rocky Mountain hidden gems will be just what you’re dreaming of.

Helicopter Wedding If you’re looking for adventure and intimacy, a heli wedding is a great option. From its base at the Saskatchewan River Crossing, Icefield Heli Tours can whisk you and your loved ones away to spectacular settings like the Lake of the Falls, the continued on page 104

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ontana is "The last best place" for many reasons. The heritage and traditions of the old west live on throughout the state. Many claim that the natural beauty of Montana is unsurpassed in the Rocky Mountains. Consider tying the knot at these Montana wedding wonders.

Glacier National Park, the Crown Jewel of the Continent, has long been a favorite for those desiring a wedding filled with spectacular scenery and mountain peaks that reach to the sun. There are a host of ideal outdoor locations, such as the popular Apgar and Fish Creek Amphitheaters, as well as historic lodges that combine the majesty of Glacier National Park with a connection to a bygone era.

Flathead Lake, the largest natural lake in the western United States, spans almost thirty miles in length and fifteen miles in width. Miles of unspoiled lakefront, intimate lakeside lodges and an immense concentration of cherry orchards offer both unique and tranquil settings for a wedding.

For those who wish to combine their wedding celebration with recreational activities, the charming and historic town of

Big Sky M Country What better place to take your wedding vows than Montana?

Whitefish is the place to be. Known as Montana’s vacation and recreation capital, Whitefish has a plethora of year round activities for your wedding party, including skiing, snowmobiling, biking, hiking, rafting, and golfing. Your family and guests will have no shortage of exciting adventures at their fingertips.

Spectacular Swan Valley is just minutes south of the beautiful lakeside village of Bigfork and tucked in between the Swan Range, a hikers haven, and the Bob Marshall Wilderness, over one and a half million acres of road-less wilderness. It is the ideal spot for those couples wanting a classic old west Montana experience.

Yellowstone National Park was America’s first national park and remains the flagship of the National Park Service. Rustic wonders are in no shortage here; the park boasts over ten thousand thermal features, including geysers and hot springs. Yellowstone is a wedding location favorite for those who enjoy the outdoors.

Putting On The Ritz www.ritzmontana.com

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