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RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR NEWLY ENGAGED COUPLES Becoming engaged is a time you and your partner will remember forever; it can be overwhelming while marvellous and exciting. Below you will find some tips and suggestions for you during the hectic months to come: • It can be difficult to compromise with one another. Each of you may have different ideas; but the important thing to remember is meeting each other halfway. • Communicating with your partner is the key to any relationship; make sure to listen to each other. That way you both know that your opinion does matter. • While planning your wedding you should try to set a date for every second week that has nothing to do with planning your big day. That way you two can just focus on each other without all the excitement of your wedding.
• Get to know your partners family, after all they are going to be your future in-laws. Learning about your fiancés relatives is a great way to grow as a couple. • Have priorities when it comes to planning your wedding; make sure that when you both are setting out your schedule that you are taking into account the more critical things verse the easier tasks. Setting a timeline can be very beneficial. • Keep in mind that it is up to only you two to plan your wedding day - what the cake will be like, who your band will be, what your China looks like, these are things that are all up to you two and no one else. • It is important for you and your fiancé to seek premarriage advice. You need to make sure that you both understand each other’s view on your future.
• Remember what is most important. Weddings are never just about the two of you (the honeymoon is)! That being said, take into consideration that you will need to learn how to work and cooperate with family members, the annoying cousins, or his/her ignorant best friend. For what it’s worth, at least you can look back and say that you had made the best of “those” moments of your life. Lastly, remember that you are no longer going to be a me, but a we. Some topics that will need to be discussed before marriage are personality differences, sexual expectations, and most of all money. Finances have made and broken families and lifetime partners, all because there was no established mutual agreement to begin with or unrealistic standards for each other were set.
