Forever Young April 2023

OUR 35TH YEAR 1412 Sweet Home Road, Suite 12 Amherst, NY 14228

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Vice President Administrative & Finance

Michele Ferguson

Publisher Barbara E. Macks

EDITORIAL

Make technology work for you

“Spring is the time of plants and projects.” -Leo Tolstoy

Executive Editor

Managing Editor

Sabrina Kahwaty

Donna Hoke

Assistant Editor Daniel Curry

Contributing Writers Tara Erwin, Rick Falkowski, Carol Ann Harlos, Jonnemarie Kahwaty, Jaclyn Kasprzak, Judith A. Rucki, Carol DiPirro-Stipkovits, Ashley Ziomek

Proofreader Sharon C. Levite

ART & PRODUCTION

I’m always reminded of this quote as spring approaches, and it suits this issue well. Carol Ann Harlos is, of course, delivering useful plant tips, but we’ve also got lots of inspiring reads—the basis of every good project.

Creative Director

Jean-Pierre Thimot

Lead Designer Nicholas Vitello

Senior Graphic Designers / Illustrators

Joshua Flanigan, Kim Miers

Graphic Designers Taramarie Mitravich, Rachel Kaznica

Photographers

kc kratt, Luke Copping, Stephen Gabris, Eric Frick, Nancy J. Parisi, Dan Cappellazzo

ADVERTISING & SALES

As the world becomes more and more advanced, the sheer volume of technological ways to assist life can be overwhelming. That’s why, in this issue, we’re zeroing in on technology that makes life less stressful. As we age, technology can help us to do so more independently with simple home modifications. Read how, along with how technology can make you feel more secure about your health and home.

Director of Sales & Advertising

National Ad Director

Senior Account Executives

Barbara E. Macks

Terri Downey

Mary Beth Holly, Caroline Kunze, Robin Lenhard

Account Executives Keren Green, Rachel Wasserman

Sales Coordinator

MARKETING & CIRCULATION

Director of Audience Development

DIGITAL

If tech’s not your thing, don’t despair. The rest of the issue is

packed with valuable information including genealogy research, using nutritional bone broth in your cooking, how to cope after loss, and a profile on local octogenarian Hugh Neeson, author of 2022 release Larry Bell’s Legacy: Aerospace Pioneering.

Here’s to sunny days ahead!

Robin Lenhard

Robin Lenhard

Social Media Director Robin Lenhard

Web Master Kim Miers

ADMINISTRATIVE & FINANCE

Administrative & Finance Director

Michele Ferguson

Forever Young is published monthly, with an annual Senior Directory. Copyright ©2023 by Buffalo Spree Publishing, Inc. 1412 Sweet Home Road, Suite 12, Amherst, NY 14228 and is open Mon.–Fri. 8:30 a.m.–5 p.m. The entire contents of Forever Young are copyrighted 2023 by Buffalo Spree Publishing, Inc. and may not be reproduced in any manner, either whole or in part without written permission from the publishers. All rights reserved. Display advertising information and rates may be obtained by calling (716) 783-9119 ext 2250. For home delivery by mail, send check or money order for $12.00 payable to Forever Young. Standard mail postage paid at Amherst, NY 14228. POSTMASTER send change of address to Forever Young, 1412 Sweet Home Road, Suite 12, Amherst, NY 14228. Manuscripts and free calendar listings should be sent to the editor (skahwaty@foreveryoungwny.com) at 1412 Sweet Home Road, Suite 12, Amherst, NY 14228. Material cannot be returned unless accompanied by a self addressed, stamped envelope of adequate size and strength. The publisher does not take responsibility for the accuracy or legitimacy of the advertising message or any aspect of the business operation or conduct of the advertisers in the paper.

Sabrina Kahwaty Executive Editor

*PLEASE CONTACT EVENT/PROGRAM ORGANIZERS TO CONFIRM INFORMATION PROVIDED Do you have an event or resource to list? Email it to skahwaty@foreveryoungwny.com.

Buffalo WEEKLY ARGENTINE TANGO LESSONS and practice on Sunday afternoons: buffalotango.com

Buffalo HEADWAY SUPPORT

GROUPS For individuals who have sustained brain injuries, their families, and caregivers; exchange information and resources, and find mutual support and encouragement. Info: 408-3100 or headwayofwny.org

Buffalo PARKINSON’S SUPPORT GROUP United Way – Room 219, 742 Delaware Avenue, Buffalo. Contact: Stephanie Mruzek. Email: eastamherstDSM@ solsticeseniorliving.com. Visit parkinson.org for a full listing of Parkinson’s support groups in WNY.

Buffalo ZERO/US TOO! PROSTATE CANCER SUPPORT

GROUP meets on the first Tuesday of each month at the Buffalo VA Hospital (3495 Bailey Avenue, Room 301) 7-9 p.m. and at Sisters Hospital, St. Joe’s Campus (2605 Harlem Road in the First Floor Community Room) 7-9 p.m., on the third Tuesday of each month. Free and open to all.

Buffalo LGBTQ MEMORY LOSS CAREGIVERS PROGRAM: The Pride Center of WNY offers support and education for people providing care for a person with Alzheimer’s Disease and other dementias. For information: 8527743 or pridecenterwny.org

Clarence WNY MEDICARE SMART START PROGRAM offers free help applying for Medicare. WNY MEDICARE SMARTSAVER PROGRAM offers free help to review, research, maximize coverage, and minimize out-of-pocket expenses. Services offered through

WNY Medicare Resource Center. Info: 833-0252 or wnymedicare.org

Depew NIAGARA FRONTIER OSTOMY ASSOCIATION

Meetings provide information and support to new and future ostomates as well as post-operative members and families. Meets at 7 p.m. third Wednesday of each month at the Prince of Peace Lutheran Church, 2311 George Urban Boulevard. 7:00 pm. For information, contact Joy Jurek, 716-741-3853

Depew BREAST CANCER

NETWORK OF WNY Call 7060060 or visit bcnwny.org for more information.

Gowanda HEALTHY COMMUNITY ALLIANCE

Activities open to the public age 50+, (no residency requirements), Concord Senior Center, 1 School Street, Gowanda; for schedule, visit communityalliance.org; 532-1010

Hamburg ALZHEIMER’S CAREGIVER SUPPORT

GROUP for males; call 626-0600 or visit alz.org/wnyc for info.

Niagara Falls SENIOR COMPANION/FOSTER GRANDPARENT PROGRAM

Looking for seniors who enjoy

working with their peers or children. Volunteers receive a tax-free stipend, transportation assistance, and supplemental insurance coverage while volunteering. If you are 55+ and want to make a difference, call 2858224 Jennifer Britton (ext. 217) for Senior Companions and Kelly Carr (ext. 228) for Foster Grandparents

Niagara falls SINGLES SOCIAL CLUB: This active 50+ crowd holds Meet & Greets second Fridays at Tim Hortons (8500 Niagara Falls Boulevard) and dances third Friday at Buff Social Club (2565 Young St.). For more info, see Facebook: SINGLES SOCIAL CLUB or call 550-1232

West Seneca AMANA GARDEN CLUB OF WEST SENECA, is welcoming new members interested in gardening, floral arrangement, and more. For more information, contact Marie: 884-8543

Williamsville MCGUIRE GROUP MEMORY CARE SUPPORT: Coordinated with the Alzheimer’s Association, with caregiving tips and coping mechanisms. Info: 6323700 or mcguiregroup.com

Southtowns NEW HORIZONS MUSIC Calling all musicians 50+. For info, email Janet Stout

at 354janet@gmail.com and visit newhorizonsmusic.org.

Multiple Locations TOPS CLUBS

Take Off Pounds Sensibly Clubs offer tools, programs, support, and fellowship for healthy living and weight management.

Akron For info, call Diane 542-4980

Cheektowaga For info, call Karen 247-2334

Cheektowaga For info, call MaryAnn 895-4414

Niagara Falls For info, call Beth 385-7558

Farnham For info, call 934-9619

Lancaster For info, call Eva 407-0539 Silver Creek For info, call 680-0313

Tonawanda For info, call 693-5161

Online IMAGINE BUFFALO SPEAKER SERIES

Presented by the Buffalo & Erie County Public Library in conjunction with C-SAAHN and ImagineLifelongLearning.com via Zoom every Tuesday at 12:30 p.m. Each week features a local speaker and Q&A. FREE. Visit website for Zoom link: buffalolib.libcal.org

Online LAUGHTER WELLNESS

Come as you are, just bring your laughter! Tuesdays at 11 a.m. FREE. Visit facebook.com/BuffaloLaughers for information.

ACROSS

1. G in mg

5. Medicinal amt.

8. Say no

11. Popular Scotch mixer

12. Country dance formation

13. List of candidates

15. Certain battery component

16. Exclamation of sorrow

17. *”The Game of Unspeakable Fun”

18. *”Fascinating two-handed strategy game”

20. Dutch cheese

21. Not quite right

22. *”I thee ____”

23. CrËme de ____

26. Where Japan is

30. Part of circumference

31. Threatened Asian or African odd-toed ungulate

34. Ready for picking

35. Reasons to sue

37. Romanian money

38. English county

39. Popular Arabic name

40. Lemon, in Paris

42. Latissimus dorsi, for short

43. Angola’s southern neighbor

45. Dairy farm glands

47. Relax, or ____ out

48. Brooke or John Jacob, of New York

50. USPS delivery

52. *Cards against what?

55. Medicinal plant with purple berries

56. Bug-eyed

57. Tiny bottle

59. a.k.a. jumping bone

60. Plucked string instrument

61. Makes a mistake

62. *”____ Day,” desirable square in The Game of Life

63. Bard’s before

64. Rip apart

DOWN

1. Govt. property org.

2. Fabled fliers

3. Mine passage

4. India’s Chennai, pre-1996

5. Flooring choice, pl.

6. Hose woes

7. 100 centavos in Mexico

8. Rum cake

9. Particle in A-bomb

10. What’s-old-is-new-again prefix

12. Somewhat late

13. Be at the helm

14. *Not chutes

19. #39 Across, pl.

22. Is no longer

23. *Trade, build, settle this island

24. Oenophile’s concern

25. Curtain fabric

26. *Connect how many?

27. Theater passage

28. Asparagus unit

29. Written works

32. Hipbones

33. Butterfly catcher

36. *Like pursuit of no vital importance

38. “____ ____ a high note”

40. A Camel, for short

41. Result of equipment failure

44. The beauty of the ball?

46. Morgan Freeman in “Driving Miss Daisy,” e.g.

48. Sign of bad news

49. Inflict a blow

50. Supernatural life force

51. Drunkard, slangily

52. Exhibiting good health

53. Swing seat, sometimes

54. Knitter’s supply

55. Tree fluid

58. Dropped drug, acr.

The solution for this month’s puzzle can be found on page 20.

THEME: BOARD GAMES

Divide and conquer Making new plants

Ah spring! Time for division in your garden. What does this mean? Separating a plant into two or more pieces. This is a form of vegetative propagation in which all the divisions made from the same plant will be identical genetically. This is done for several reasons:

• a plant is gradually producing fewer or no flowers

• the plant seems to be pushing itself out of the soil

• the center of the plant is unattractively dying away while the other area still produces flowers

• the plant has gotten too large and is crowding its neighbors

• you want more plants without the expense

Please note it is not legal to propagate new cultivars of some plants. How would you feel if you developed a new cultivar and people simply propagated without your permission? Whenever possible, check before dividing and, for heaven’s sake, never include patented plants in a plant sale!

Many gardeners have told me their attempts at divisions have been less than successful. This could be from not dividing according to the

type of roots and crowns the plants had. Clumpers such as daylilies and lamb’s ears have fibrous root systems; they’re easy to divide using only your hands. Each clump will have its own root system. Runners root along nodes (growing spots) and send up new growth from these spots. Examples include bee balm (Monarda), goldenrod, and aromatic asters. Usually, you need a spade.

Plants with tight woody roots are more challenging. Buds are tightly packed on the roots of these usually older plants. One must exercise care not to ruin the crown when dividing. Blue stem and peonies are examples.

The time of the year for dividing varies from species to species. You may have heard the rule about dividing summer blooming plants in spring; this is to prevent one from losing a season of bloom. However, we all know that sometimes we have

so much to do in the garden that we’re forced divide at other times. The lack of flowers one year will be offset by more robust plants later.

Please keep in mind that not all perennials can be divided. For example, lavender is woody at the base, so make cuttings instead. Another example, lupines have a taproot; how can you divide that?

So how do you divide? The soil around the chosen plant should be moist but not sopping wet. This allows some soil to stick to the roots. Use a spade to dig around the perimeter of the plant. (I am rather hands on with this process; whenever possible, I sit on the ground and dig in one area with a hand tool to get a feel for the depth of the roots before using a spade for actual digging.) Do not pick the plant up by the crown! This is so destructive of the crown and the roots. Carefully support the plant underneath and move it either

in a wheelbarrow or by sliding it on a tarp. Then, like a surgeon, divide it using a sharp saw or other appropriate tool.

The new plants should be place in new holes dug to the same depth as the original plant (unless it already heaved out of the soil!).

I like to make a soil mountain in the new hole, set the division on it, then carefully spread out the roots. I add garden soil and a bit of compost, but no fertilizer (it will burn the roots)! Water slowly with enough water to moisten the soil but not drown the roots. Tap down the soil. If it’s hot outside, consider using an umbrella or other shading method to protect the new plants from scorching.

Now, don’t ignore the new plants! In the division process, most of the microscopic root hairs broke off. Division success depends on the new plant replacing them; hormones released by the division indicate damage so the plant will work to recover. In time, you will notice the plants are recovering and growing.

For more information on individual species for plant divisions, check them out online or send me an email at caharlos@ verizon.net. FY

Carol Ann Harlos is an awardwinning retired math and science teacher, Master Gardener, beekeeper, writer, and speaker. She tends extensive gardens, including herbs, and loves learning from others and sharing her knowledge.

CAROL ANN HARLOS

Organize your research Creating

good habits saves time

If you were to walk into my home office, you’ll see bookshelves filled with beautiful boxes and neat rows of binders, each labeled with a family surname. And you’d probably be thinking, “She’s got it all together.”

Things aren’t always as they appear. The pink floral boxes are items that need to be filed, the red boxes hold a project I’m working on for a friend, and yes, the binders are full of my ancestors’ research but aren’t in any way organized. Just last week, I opened a research folder on my computer and found more than 5,000 unnamed files, and I am by no means on top of my game with research lately. Imagine if they were in physical form! You get the idea. Well friends, it’s time for spring cleaning.

Here are some tools to help: Take charge of that paper. Whether you use binders, folders,

or decorative boxes, my first suggestion is tame that pile of paper by organizing it in a way that works for you. I first separate by surname, then within that I have newspaper, military, birth records, death and cemetery records, and marriage. I put them in binders and when I have an hour, I choose a section to scan, organize, and put in sheet protectors. It’s less overwhelming this way. Go digital. Another way to reduce paper is to scan documents and photos. Scanned items get put in virtual binders/folders. About five years ago, I experienced major water damage in my office, so I now scan everything. I don’t

have the heart to toss the original documents, so I keep both paper and digital copies of my research. When naming scanned items, be consistent and precise with file naming so a picture of Aunt Barbara picking apples named “Smith Family” doesn’t lead to an afternoon of frustration opening myriad files looking for the photo. Instead, “Smith Barbara Apples” will make future finding simpler. Begin each file name with a surname, then add a notation about content or location, e.g. “Smith Barbara Ireland,” and even a city or year if appropriate. Designate a workspace. Before

setting up my home office, my dining room table doubled as Genealogy Central. I packed and unpacked my family research so often that something enjoyable became a chore. My solution was to store my research in a filing cabinet and tuck it in a closet. I then put my most used supplies and current research log in a large decorative tin in the dining room. Instead of having to pack and unpack, everything I needed was hidden in plain sight.

Keep your desktops clean. It’s so easy to dump your research and walk away but this creates more work later. Take time each week to name and file new discoveries. Good habits are formed by repetition, and you’ll be surprised how time efficient you’ll be come with practice.

Over time, every genealogist must face the intimidating task of organization. Not all methods work for everyone because we all have different habits, process, and workflow. Consider yours and find a method that works for you. If you’re not comfortable with a system, you won’t use it consistently. FY

If you have a story, question, or idea for a future column, reach out to Carol at noellasdaughter@gmail. com. Carol DiPirro-Stipkovits is a National Genealogical Society member and Association of Professional Genealogists member. Carol is also Vice-President and Board Chairman of the Niagara County Genealogical Society.

CAROL DIPIRRO-STIPKOVITS

Losing a loved one

He’s Not Here… Or is He?

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

ThereseKetterer was met with various reactions when she declared her intent to write a book for widows. She didn’t have enough experience. Abundant literature on the subject already exists. It’s morbid. Nobody wants to talk about death. Undeterred, the seventy-five-year-old Williamsville resident went ahead with He’s Not Here … Or is He? What had started as Ketterer’s journal following the death of husband Paul became a tome of practical advice to anyone experiencing loss.

Ketterer wants her book to offer hope and consolation to anyone who has lost not only a significant other, but also any loved one. When she was widowed, Ketterer received “so much love and support from everyone.” She wants others to benefit from her experience while offering suggestions to the grieving—and those who want to help the grieving.

In particular, Ketterer wants to educate well-meaning people about what to say—and not say—to the bereaved. She especially disliked being told to “get over it.” Any comments that started with “at least” made the “do not say” list, including “At least you had him for forty-four years.”

She reminds us that it is more than acceptable to mention a loved one’s name. “I can’t believe Paul died” would have been more appreciated than “I can’t believe he’s gone.”

But Ketterer is careful to advise accepting sympathy when it’s offered. “People are well meaning,” she says. “They wouldn’t say anything if they didn’t care.”

Ultimately, grieving is personal and there is no right or wrong way to do it. Ketterer advises following your own timeline and not making hasty decisions, like selling your house, disposing of a loved one’s possessions, or taking up residence with a new person.

“One will almost naturally find the best way to accommodate one’s own circumstances. I have discovered I have to be positive in order to cope,”

Ketterer says. “Simply try to think and act like there is a tomorrow. [Even while grieving], there are days when you can really have a good day!”

She reminds us that loved ones would not want us to stop being happy because they died.

While all the chapters contain valuable information, “The Difference Between Alone and Lonely” is particularly relevant. “There is a big difference,” the author notes. “Some people don’t like being alone and need many people in their lives. Some need only one, and that might be yourself. Yet things often change. We change. Many times.”

If the problem is loneliness, joining a club, getting involved in church activities or ministries, going back to work, renewing old acquaintances, beginning new friendships, taking advantage of adult education, accepting social invitations, inviting people for coffee, and following up with people who said “call if you need anything” are all potential solutions. And catch up on doctor’s appointments, especially if you have neglected yourself.

Coach, author, and speaker John Polo wrote the foreword to He’s Not Here … Or is He? Polo lost wife Michelle to cancer and found the book’s title powerful because it captured his “personal belief that, while Michelle is not here with me physically anymore, she is with me in spirit. Michelle’s love and memory walk with me every day.”

Ketterer’s preface would seem to agree: “He’s gone. Yet he is never really gone if he is still in your memory, your heart, your mind, your soul, and your spirit.”

For more information, go to butlerbooks.com/hes-not-here.html. FY

Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

Bingo is back!

Please call event organizers to confirm information provided. Listings are alphabetical by day.

MONDAY

AMERICAN LEGION MCKEEVER POST

1770 South Park Ave., Buffalo

7:30 p.m. 822-6400

HAMBURG–KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS

36 Pierce Ave., Hamburg

7:30 p.m. 649-9830/649-4340

MATTHEW GLAB POST

1965 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna

7 p.m. 825-3733

ST. AMELIA

2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda

7:15 p.m. 836-0011

TUESDAY

AMVETS MEDALLION POST NO. 13

25 Review Pl., Buffalo

7:30 p.m. ........................................ 874-0559

ASSUMPTION PARISH

435 Amherst St., Buffalo

7:30 p.m. 876-1038

Bingo Calendar

ARMOR VOL. FIRE CO.

4932 Clark St., Hamburg

7:30 p.m. 649-9821

FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga

1 p.m. ............................................. 681-7251

HARTLAND VFC 8945 Ridge Rd., Hartland

7:30 p.m.

2 p.m. (second Tuesday)

OUR LADY OF POMPEII

129 Laverack Ave., Lancaster

7 p.m. 683-6522

ST. ANDREW’S

FRIDAY

CENT.

33 Ontario St., Lockport

7 p.m (first and third Fridays).. 433-1886

SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT

11099 Route 5, Irving

7 p.m. 1-800-421-2464

ST. ALOYSIUS GONZAGA

157 Cleveland Dr., Cheektowaga

7:30 p.m. 833-1715

ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH

1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore

7:30 p.m. 873-6716

ST. PHILIP THE APOSTLE

950 Lossen Rd., Cheektowaga

7:00 p.m. 668-8370

SATURDAY

BUFFALO GAY BINGO/ AIDS PLUS FUND OF WNY

Amvets Medallion Post 13, 13 Review Pl., Buffalo

7 p.m (2nd Sat.) 822-0818

CARDINAL O'HARA HIGH SCHOOL

39 O'Hara Rd., Tonawanda

7:30 p.m. 695-2600 x326

OUR LADY OF BISTRICA

1619 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna

7:15 p.m. 822-0818

SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT

11099 Route 5, Irving

1 & 7 p.m. ........................ 1-800-421-2464

ST. AMELIA’S RCC

2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda

1 p.m. ............................................. 836-0011

ST. ANDREW CHURCH

111 Crocker St., Sloan

7:30 p.m. 892-0425

ST. JOHN XXIII

1 Arcade St., W. Seneca

7 p.m. 239-2787

SUNDAY

CARDINAL O'HARA HIGH SCHOOL

39 O'Hara Rd., Tonawanda

1 p.m. 695-2600 x326

DELEVAN VFC

N. Main St., Delevan

7 p.m. ............................................. 492-1910

LOCKPORT ELKS LODGE 41

6791 N. Canal Rd., Lockport

7 p.m (first and third Sundays). ..... 434-2798

OUR LADY OF POMPEII

129 Laverack Ave., Lancaster

2 p.m. 683-6522

SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT

11099 Route 5, Irving

1 & 7 p.m. ..................................... 549-4389

ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH

1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore

7 p.m. ............................................. 873-6716

BINGO IN CANADA

GOLDEN NUGGET

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Aging in place

Proactivity is key to maintaining independence

Home modifications are a huge challenge and must adhere to regimented American with Disabilities Act (ADA) guidelines. “ADA is a civil rights law,” says Horton. “It was designed to make sure that people with disabilities have equal access to work, education, and their community.”

Guidelines center around home modifications such as countertop and vanity heights, door widths that accommodate mobility devices, and motion sensor or voice-activated lights throughout a home. Horton is working to develop an adaptive closet, which does not currently have ADA guidelines.

These would include height of clothing bars, mechanisms to help lower bars for easier access (such as a pole to help pull down a rack), the ability to enter and turn around within the space, and accessible hooks to retrieve dropped items.

Popular home modifications for aging in place

BY ASHLEY ZIOMEK

Studies show that seventy-five percent of Americans prefer to age in place, which means enjoying the comforts of their own homes for as long as possible. Often, that means making modifications that allow them to maintain the routines essential to daily living—dressing, showering, cooking—even as mobility, balance, and dexterity become challenged. Increasingly, technology is providing solutions.

When Maura Horton’s husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson’s in 2012, she was initiated into the world of adaptive lifestyles. “He was a career college football coach and noticing some side effects, such as limited mobility and dexterity,” says Horton, who explained this made simple things like buttoning a shirt difficult. With her husband due to travel—meaning she would not be able to assist him with dressing—she searched for adaptive clothing and came up empty. That prompted her to create MagnaReady, a clothing brand featuring magnets instead of buttons

and designed, she says, “to help people preserve their independence and dignity.”

MagnaReady products are available at Tommy Hilfiger and JC Penney, as well as online. The brand’s success led Horton to explore other lifestyle modifications that could help individuals maintain their independence. “The sooner we can integrate [technology] in their life the better,” says Horton, who prefers tech adjustments not be relegated to solution-based responses. “We’re all aging, so starting routines is something that we try to do.”

Other resources within a home include voice-operated devices that can be programmed to control lights, provide medication reminders, or just provide answers to questions. “We have learned that many people with dementia enjoy being able to speak to a device,” says Horton. “They keep [the voice] gender specific to that person, and can combat loneliness, and encourage engagement.” Additional apps can be used for individuals to instantly communicate with their care team, family, and emergency personnel. “Most [technology] is updated automatically and goes on behind the scenes. The one drive is the internet, so having game plans for loss of internet is huge,” Horton says. “Emergency plans are critical regardless of where you live; we’re all a weather issue away from confusion.”

Horton and her husband never pictured this being their life, but she takes pride in her brand. “It’s hard and emotional sometimes,” she says. “[It’s] okay to feel those emotions. We will all be on this arc at some point of our life. We try to represent it in a dignified manner, and not just through a medical lens.” FY

Ashley Ziomek is a freelance writer living in Western New York.

Accommodate equipment. Widening doorways makes your home accessible for wheelchairs and walkers. Costs vary based on insulation and placement of electrical outlets. For wheelchair users, move kitchen appliances to lower cabinets and shelves. Professionals can also adjust the heights of counters or sinks to allow access from seated positions. Make stair adjustments. If exterior stairs have become challenging, contract someone to install a ramp. Inside, a nonpermanent, mobile ramp can be installed easily, or—if the stairs aren’t altogether out of the question—use traction tape. Increase shower safety. Slippery surfaces are always high risk for falling, but particularly as we age. Consider replacing a bathtub with a walk-in, no-lip shower that provides safer entry and exit. Less expensive alternatives include safety bars, safety strips, or a bathtub transfer bench, which straddles the side of the bathtub and allows users to get out one leg at a time without having to balance.

For more solutions on aging in place, see Jacyln Kasprzak’s article on page 12.

Tech savvy Connecting to better health

BY JACLYN KASPRZAK

Technology has changed the way we live our lives. And for aging adults, it offers ways to remain healthy, independent, socially connected, and self-sufficient. With seven in ten American adults over seventy using smartphones, seniors are more digitally connected than ever.

“Technology has provided seniors with an opportunity to take charge of their health but also retain a continual interest in preserving their quality of life through prevention,” says Shahla Ahmad M.D., lead physician of the Age Friendly Geriatric Prevention Program at the Community Health Center of Buffalo. “This level of engagement is beneficial to both physical and mental wellbeing.”

Several physical, social, and mental health related issues arise with age. Seniors who embrace technology often find themselves with autonomy that allows them to better manage these. “Seniors have been able to retain several aspects of their independence and stay at home longer,” says Ahmad. “This has helped to take a huge burden off the health care systems, nursing homes, assisted care facilities, including caregiver burnout.”

Reduced isolation

According to Ahmad, one of the biggest pandemic issues was social isolation leading to mental health problems. Tools like FaceTime and Zoom help people stay connected regardless of distance or health restrictions.

Timely health care

“The pandemic created an opportunity to accelerate technological evolution, especially in the field of health care,” says Ahmad. “Telemedicine allows seniors to comfortably reside in their homes and connect with all types of providers who have access to objective data using technology.”

Monitoring and tracking

Self-tracking apps monitor lifestyle behaviors such as proper nutrition and adequate sleep. SleepScore is an app that analyzes breathing rate and body movement during sleep, then uses the data to provide personalized advice and recommendations.

Nutrition-based apps like MyFitness Pal help adults maintain a healthy diet and nutrition.

Perhaps more importantly, “Smartphones and watches allow physicians to remotely monitor vitals, including heart rate and rhythm, physical activity status, blood pressure and blood glucose levels using Bluetooth continuous glucose monitoring (CGM),” says Ahmad.

Increased physical activity

Seniors with active lifestyles have decreased health issues and increased confidence and emotional well-being. “Studies have demonstrated that any form of aerobic and resistance exercise helps prevent progression of chronic disease and maintain muscle strength and integrity,” says Ahmad. “Inactivity is one of the major predictors for health complications including geriatric syndromes like frailty, muscular deconditioning, sarcopenia, osteoporosis, and falls.” Smartphones, tablets, and other devices have all sorts of tools to engage you physically and mentally.

“With the use of smartphones, smart watches, and eHealth applications, geriatric patients can self-monitor their progress in real time,” Ahmad says. “This includes the number of steps taken, impact of their physical activity on their weight, blood glucose levels, heart rate and several other parameters.” This information is logged to help aging adults make independent changes or informed decisions with their provider. Senior Fitness is a free, easy-tonavigate mobile app with simple and low-impact exercises like head tilts, shoulder stretches, and heel raises. The majority of exercises can be done while seated.

Fall detection

Falling can be a serious health risk for seniors, particularly if they live alone. Smart devices can detect falls and notify designated contacts or call emergency responders. To help prevent falls, Ahmad recommends motion-activated lights near staircases and bathrooms, but “if someone is comfortable wearing a device, there are pendants that have SOS and life alert features that offer fall risk detection and monitor for abnormal vitals.” These systems allow caregivers remote access to daily patterns without invading privacy. These systems include Medical Guardian, Bay Alarm Medical, LifeFone, ADT Health, and Lifeline.

Medication management

Systems like the Hero Automatic Medication Dispenser can issue reminders, dispense meds, monitor medication usage, and notify caregivers when doses are missed. Smart speakers like Amazon’s Alexa can be programmed to remind you to take your medication at certain times each day.

“Medications and supplies can be recommended and prescribed electronically via EMR systems to pharmacies within minutes,” says Dr. Ahmad. “Medication adherence and overdose prevention has significantly improved with the use of blister packs in addition to pillboxes with reminder alarms.”

Emergency assistance

Personal Emergency Response Systems (PERS) are included in wearable devices like the Apple Watch. PERS connect to in-home sensors that monitor movement, activity, and other vital signs. The data is reported in real time to caregivers, family members, and emergency responders.

“Many people assume that seniors may not be interested in

new forms of technology,” says Ahmad. However, most have shown they can adjust to an everevolving technological landscape. The key is to start with easier and low-tech options first.” FY

Jaclyn Kasprzak is a teacher and a freelance writer from Western New York.

Internet-based home security?

Now that’s “smart”

BY TARA ERWIN

According to Pew Research, twenty-seven percent of Americans aged sixty and older live alone and forty-six percent live with a spouse or partner. Smart home security systems can provide valuable peace of mind for them, their families, and their caregivers. These systems not only ease safety concerns surrounding crime, but also monitor well-being.

While devices and services run the gamut from basic to Jetsons-like space age technology, we’ve narrowed the search to focus on foundational products and services geared toward a do-it-yourselfer with a bit of tech knowledge. Choosing the right provider and equipment can be daunting, so below is a breakdown of needed accessories, types of services, and things to consider when outfitting a home:

The basics. To equip your home with any smart technology, you’ll need internet access and Wi-Fi. Any baseline service from an Internet Service Provider (ISP) like Verizon or Spectrum will provide the bandwidth needed to power these devices; a hard-

wired router can provide an additional layer of protection. Your ISP may offer a combination modem/router with its internet package, or you can purchase one separately; they retail for $50 and up. And of course, you’ll also need a device—computer, laptop, tablet, or smart phone—to monitor your data. The latter two offer the convenience of watching your home and controlling your security remotely.

Getting started. The most important factor in choosing a system is compatibility. Do a little research to determine your preferences, then save money and prevent potential headaches by sticking with one carrier, like Amazon Ring or Google Nest; this will ensure maximum coverage

and ease of use. Choosing is based on circumstances and needs, but here are two points to keep in mind: Nest is the best value for monthly monitoring while Ring has the widest range of add-ons for whole house automation.

Circle of trust. The beauty of cloud-based security devices is that you can give anyone in the world access to your information. While that may sound intrusive, it offers extra security to know, for example, that your son in Arizona can monitor real-time footage of your front door or your home health aide will receive an alert if your carbon monoxide detector goes off. Homeowners can enable and disable who can gain entry to the data at any point, for any amount of time, and even assign parameters around what types of information others can see (only certain cameras, sound only, etc.). Some services even offer subscriptions that will alert local authorities when alarms or triggers go off.

Let there be light. As a first step, outfitting your home with smart light bulbs is well…smart. Control when and where your lights are turned on from a smart phone or app? Check. Set timers and/or create schedules for lights to go on and off at different times and in different rooms? Check.

Synchronize lights to sensors so they turn on and off automatically when you enter or leave a room? Check. Activate voice commands or use wireless remotes for lighting (especially useful for those with limited mobility)? Check. Philips Hue is the most popular brand, but there are others out there as well. Not just for shopping. In addition to playing music and letting you know when packages are arriving, Alexa Echo has a Guard setting, a free feature that when enabled, uses its built-in microphone to detect the sounds of smoke or carbon monoxide alarms and breaking glass, then send a notification to a mobile phone. Ring’s monitoring service includes an option to request help from first responders or emergency contacts; even if you don’t have the service, you can still sound a siren to alert others in the house.

Smile for the camera. Security cameras are easy to install and only need a nearby outlet to power them. An electric doorbell system can be installed with some rudimentary wiring skills, or around $100 to pay a professional; battery versions are also an option. Cameras are sound/ motion activated and allow you to view who’s at your door and answer through an intercom, even if you’re not home. You can also receive alerts and video to your devices, as well as save footage for a finite time or indefinitely, depending on storage space or service options.

Of course, if you’d rather leave home security to the pros, many companies will install and monitor for you, like ADT, Omni, or Shield. Take time to research each option carefully, assess contract obligations, options for purchasing/leasing equipment, and what kind of packages and customizations are available. There are no right or wrong answers, so ask questions and choose a plan that works for you. And if you find any that offer robot housekeeping/maid capabilities like Rosie Jetson, let us know. FY

Tara Erwin lives and writes in Western New York.

Hugh Neeson Octogenarian recalls

Bell Aircraft/Aerospace

STORY AND PHOTO BY RICK FALKOWSKI

In 1955, after growing up in West Seneca, attending Winchester #8 Grammer School, BishopTimon High School, and Canisuis College, Hugh Neeson took a job at Bell Aircraft. Founder Larry Bell was still actively leading the firm and Neeson was assigned to collect requirements from the the Engineering Department for an environmental test program on the RASCAL missile.

A year later, Neeson enlisted in the U.S. Army Critical Specialist Program and served six months of active duty at the Aberdeen Proving Ground, working on atomic bomb test equipment.

One of Neeson’s early major assignments at Bell had him developing

an operational test program for the Bell SKMR-1 on Lake Erie. The program included a mock invasion of Woodlawn Beach, demonstrating its over water and amphibious capabilities. Hugh secured a meeting with the Chief of Marine Corps Research & Development, who requested a sea

test of the SKMR-1, with a Landing Platform Dock (LPD). The trial’s success led to issuance of an Operational Requirement (OR) being issued and a multimillion dollar contact so large that Bell had to purchase a new plant in New Orleans with access to the Gulf of Mexico. There, the Landing Craft Air Cushion (LCAC) was constructed to replace the traditional Landing Craft Tank (LCT) and Landing Vehicle Tracked (LVT). The new model saved lives in subsequent amphibious assults, including Desert Storm.

During his Bell career, Neeson also managed the company’s participation with the U.S. Navy Fleet Ballistic Trident Missle Program. This included development of the Gravity Gradiometry for GSS submarine navagation correction, a major technological advancement for these applications. As Bell VP for program management, he supervised various other Bell developments.

After forty-four years, Neeson retired as Vice President of Bell-Textron. He was the last general manager of the Bell Niagara Falls Wheatfield operations and was instrumental in convincing Textron to sell the remaining portion of the Bell Inertial Technology Department to Lockheed Martin, an entity still in operation at the complex.

After his retirement, Neeson became interested in preserving Western New York aviation history, volunteering at Amherst Museum and helping to create the Niagara Aerospace Museum, where he still serves as trustee, board member, and historian. Neeson was also president of the Aero Club of Buffalo (the second oldest areo club in the world), the Lawrence D. Bell Air Force Association, and the Canisius College Alumni Association. He was also inducted into the Niagara Frontier Aviation & Space Hall of Fame.

At age eighty-eight, Neeson published Larry Bell’s Legacy: Aerosapce Pioneering. It was released on October 14, 2022, the seventy-fifth anniversary of the Bell X-1 being the first manned rocket airplane to break the sound barrier. The book chronicles the accomplishments of Bell Aircraft/ Aerospace and includes articles by former Bell engineers, participants in

the Niagara Aerosapce Museum, and other associates. Among other Bell milestone, it also includes details on the land lease of 4,924 Bell P-39 Aircabras and 2,421 P-63 King Cobras to Russia during WWII, including information about these planes being flown by the U.S. Women’s Air Service Pilots (WASPS) to Great Falls, Montana, where they were transferred to bush pilots for delivery to the Russians in Fairbanks, Alaska.

Larry Bell’s Legacy: Aerospace Pioneering is available online at amazon.com and locally at all BFLO Store locations, Thin Ice, Talking Leaves, Buffalo History Museum, Ed Young’s Hardware Store Gift Shop, and the Niagara Aerospace Museum, with additional outlets being added. Neeson will speak and sign books at 7:00 pm April 20 for the Das Haus German Heritage Museum at the Town of Wheatfield Community Center, 2790 Church Street, North Tonawanda and on Friday, April 21 at 6:00 pm for M&T Third Friday at the Buffalo History Museum, One Museum Court, Buffalo. Proceeds from Larry Bell’s Legacy: Aerospace Pioneering benefit the Niagara Aerospace Museum. FY

Rick Falkowski gives presentations on Buffalo music and history. He is the author of History of Buffalo Music & Entertainment, Profiles Volume 1: Historic & Influential People from Buffalo & WNY – the 1800s, and Profiles Volume 2: Historic & Influential People from Buffalo & WNY-the 1900s

Find your senior living plan with Oasis Senior Advisors

BY OASIS SENIOR ADVISORS

Whileassisting a loved one with a senior living search, current Oasis Senior Advisors president Matthew Gardiner experienced the complications and stress often associated with such a task. Overwhelmed by seemingly endless information and conflicting advice about the many available options, Gardiner was left more confused than when he started. This experience prompted him to found Oasis Senior Advisors Buffalo in 2018, with the goal of providing Buffalo with a free a service that offers education and guidance for families navigating the next steps of senior living.

Now in its fifth year, Oasis Senior Advisors has assisted thousands of clients in finding their best path in this important next chapter. Senior Living Advisors include Tracy Reese, a Certified Dementia

Practitioner, and Shannon Bold. Both have professional experience in the senior living industry.

Gardiner is also a Certified Senior Advisor, as well as an active Senior Living Advisor with Oasis.

Photo courtesy of Oasis Senior Advisors

How does Oasis Senior Advisors help?

As people age, various challenges arise including finding suitable living arrangements. Many seniors struggle to navigate the complex world of senior living options. That’s where Oasis Senior Advisors come in. The team is intimately dialed into the local options and can provide information on availability, pricing, touring, and more. These advisors pride themselves on providing education and options that fit budget, care needs, and location preferences. Oasis is always free—clients and families will never see a charge.

Who does Oasis Support?

Oasis Senior Advisors is proud to support professionals like social workers, discharge planners, physician groups, hospitals, and attorneys, to name a few. The Oasis staff enjoys working as a team and referring clients to professionals within its trusted network. Oasis utilizes its partnerships to help clients find solutions to their needs, whether that’s moving services, a power of attorney, or something else.

What are clients saying?

“All our family knew is that we needed help dealing with living situations and health concerns that can accompany aging. We didn’t know what to do or where to turn. Oasis Senior Advisors came out and met our family. They took the time to learn of our situation, needs, and personalities. Oasis made recommendations and went step by step with our family throughout the upcoming weeks. Matt and Tracy toured with us, answered our numerous questions promptly, and assisted us until we made sound and healthy decisions. Oasis still stays by our side and looks out for Mom, Dad, and each of the caregivers. We are thankful to have Oasis as our guides, and new friends.” –Bill (Buffalo, NY)

When is it time to connect with Oasis?

If you have a loved one in immediate need or planning for senior living, it’s time to connect with a Senior Living Advisor. Getting the right information up front reduces stress and allows you to focus on your loved one, not the daunting information that arises during planning. These advisors specialize in helping families and seniors navigate the complex world of senior living options and offer expert guidance and support.

One of the most significant benefits of working with a Senior Living Advisor is their in-depth knowledge of the senior living industry. They are familiar with the different types of senior living communities—independent living, assisted living, memory care, and skilled nursing facilities—and can help families find the right fit for loved ones. Moreover, Senior Living Advisors have an extensive network of contacts within the industry, including senior living communities, home care providers, and other senior-related services. They leverage these connections to help families in ways other than just placement services.

Senior Living Advisors provide a comprehensive assessment of a senior’s unique needs and preferences based on medical history, mobility, and personal interests, to identify which senior living communities will be the best fit. In addition, they provide families with valuable guidance on financial planning for senior care by helping families understand associated costs and offering payment advice and options such as long-term care insurance, Medicaid, and other funding sources.

Perhaps most importantly, Senior Living Advisors provide emotional support to families as they navigate this difficult transition. They understand the challenges families face when choosing a senior living community for loved ones, and

offer empathy, guidance, and reassurance throughout the entire process.

The value of Oasis Senior Advisors cannot be overstated. These professionals provide families with the expertise, resources, and

emotional support necessary to make informed decisions about loved ones’ care. By working with a Senior Living Advisor, families find peace of mind knowing that they are making the best possible choices for their loved ones. FY

Savoring the benefits

Maximize nutrient intake with bone broth

BY JONNEMARIE KAHWATY

Historically, humans consumed animals from nose to tail, which provided nutrients necessary for optimal health. With the shift toward consumption of primarily muscle meats, many of those nutrients have been stripped from modern diets. Bone broth is a great way to extract those missing nutrients from animal bones and connective tissues.

You might remember your parents or grandparents saving bones to make soup stock by simmering meat bones—typically from chicken or beef—vegetables, and herbs in water for a few hours. This resulting broth is flavorful and nutritious but doesn’t provide maximum nutritional benefit. By contrast, bone broth simmers for a much longer period—twenty-four to forty-eight hours. That extra time allows maximum release of nutrients like collagen, gelatin, and a variety of minerals into the broth.

As we age, our bodies require more nutrients to maintain optimal health.

Bone broth provides easily digestible forms of essential minerals like calcium, magnesium, phosphorous, and potassium, which support bone health and proper muscle and nerve function. It’s also a source of antiinflammatory and stress-protective amino acids such as glycine and proline, which have been shown to support a healthy immune system and promote better sleep. Additionally, broth is rich in collagen and gelatin, and contains other beneficial compounds that act as antioxidants, support healthy aging, and promote cell rejuvenation. Collagen and gelatin

are especially valuable for their ability to support joint health, aid digestion, and promote healthy skin, hair, and nails.

When choosing a bone broth, opt for high-quality bones that come from grass-fed or pasture-raised, organic animals that have not been treated with antibiotics or hormones. Check the ingredients list and avoid bone broths with added sugars, preservatives, or additives. Look for a mixture of bones, such as knuckles or feet, as well as marrow, as well, as this can result in more nutrient-dense broth.

Ready to incorporate bone broth into your diet? Here are five easy ways to get started!

Use it as a soup starter. Bone broth provides a tasty base for all kinds of soups, from chicken noodle to vegetable. Just add your favorite ingredients and let it simmer.

Drink it straight. This is one of the easiest and most traditional ways to enjoy bone broth. Simply heat it up and sip like tea. The flavor of the broth varies depending on bones and ingredients used, but it is generally described as rich, savory, and comforting with a slightly sweet or salty taste. Some brands advertise bone broth specifically for sipping, and flavors include beef, chicken, and chicken mushroom.

Cook grains in it. Simply substitute bone broth for the water typically used to cook rice or other grains. This not only enhances the nutritional value of the dish but also adds flavor and richness. The resulting taste of the grain will depend on the type of bone broth you use, as well as any additional seasoning or ingredients you add.

Add it to smoothies. This one might sound, but it’s a great way to boost your smoothie’s protein and nutrients! Use complementary flavors, such as vegetables like spinach, kale, and cucumber, or fruits like avocado, berries, or citrus fruits. If the flavor is too savory, you can try adding natural sweetener such as honey or pure maple syrup. Start with a small amount to avoid overwhelming the flavor of your smoothie.

Use it as a sauce base. Use bone broth as a base for flavorful sauces and gravies. For a thicker consistency, add cornstarch or arrowroot powder to the broth or combine it with cream, butter, or cheese. To make a delicious pasta sauce, add canned tomatoes, garlic, onion, and herbs to the bone broth and simmer until it thickens. Another great option is mixing bone broth into a stir fry sauce of soy sauce or coconut aminos, honey, garlic, and ginger; it’ll give it a delicious savory flavor! FY

Jonnemarie Kahwaty is a dance instructor, musician, and herbalist with a passion for holistic health and wellness.

Freshly made soups, chopped romaine salad mix and fresh fruit salad. Huge selection of ingredients, toppings & dressings, complemented with garlic bread sticks and fresh rolls.

The word “cool” means lots of different things to lots of different people. Some folks may refer to the weather as “cool.”Others may think, “That's a really cool car.”

At the BIG 1230 WECK, we think the coolest stuff in the world is the oldies we play...it’s the best music ever made!

When will the world ever again hear songs that are this good? The Beatles, Dave Clark 5, Elvis, Neil Diamond...you get my drift.

You can celebrate this incredibly cool music with the BIG 1230 WECK every day on the radio, on voice-activated device like Alexa, by downloading our free app, or by streaming at bigweck.com.

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6, 13, 20, 27

April 6, 13, 20, 27

Free Computer Classes for Senior Citizens

The South Buffalo Community Association, in collaboration with the Buffalo & Erie County Public Library, offers free, beginner-level computer classes for seniors. April topics: Basic Computer Maintenance (4/6), Android Basics (4/13), iPads & iPhones (4/20), iPads & iPhone Settings (4/27). All courses are free but advance in-person registration is required. Call or email kim@southbuffalo.org for more information.

1-3 p.m. and 3-5 p.m., Tosh Collins Senior Community Center (35 Cazenovia Street; 822-4532, southbuffalo.org)

April 14

Bachata Lesson and Open Dancing

WNY USADANCE hosts a lesson with Salsa Sarah with live music by Sol Y Sombre, followed by social dancing. Members: $10, guests: $15, students: $5. Email wnyusadance@gmail.com for more information.

7-10 p.m., Brounshidle VFW (3354 Delaware Avenue, Kenmore)

Opens April 12

Disaster!

Set in the wildest decade ever, Disaster! delivers earthquakes, tidal waves, infernos, and unforgettable seventies hits in this hilarious homage to the era of bell-bottoms, platform shoes and the hustle.

MusicalFare Theatre

(4380 Main Street, Suite 123, Amherst; musicalfare.com, 839-8540)

April 20

Sips, Suds & Sweets

Senior Wishes’ annual fundraiser features wine and beer sampling, sweet treats, and light bites from local vendors. Enjoy music by the Scott Celani Band, a silent auction, basket, gift card and Yeti Cooler raffles, free valet parking, and an opportunity to meet with previous wish recipients.

6-9 p.m., Fox Run at Orchard Park

(One Fox Run Lane, Orchard Park; seniorwishes.org/events, 508-2121)

April 22

Buffalo Blues and Roots Festival

This all-day music event features Colin James Selwyn Birchwood, Miller & The Other Sinners, Tonemah, and more. Also shop more than twenty local vendors and artisans.

1 p.m., Buffalo RiverWorks

(359 Ganson Street; buffaloriverworks.com, 342-2292)