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Grace House

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Potato Soup

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Yangtze cruise

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Cover: Left: Mac & cheese and a draft beer from Ballyhoo; Right top: A bowl of Eckl's lobster bisque; Right bottom: Black Sheep's sticky toffee pudding Photos by Syrie Roman

Home & Garden 6

Getaways

Houseplants in Winter......................................... Carol Ann Harlos

Life & Leisure 7

Regarding Resolutions................................................. Ted Rickard

Arts 8

Buffalo Songwriters...................................................Rick Falkowski

News 10 Grace House.............................................. Christine A. Smyczynski

20 Cruising the Yangtze River...................................Jennifer Merrick

Let's Talk About 23 Senior Opioid Abuse..............................................Judith A. Rucki

My WNY 24 Deborah Bergmann: Clear the Clutter.................Judith A. Rucki

Being Well 26 Rethinking Heartburn Meds............................... Catherine Stack

Cover: Comfort Foods 16 Favorite Comfort Foods ............................................Syrie Roman 18 Hearty Potato Soup ............................................ Rebecca Cuthbert

Ever y Issue: Calendars 3 | Crossword 5 | Bingo Buzz 12 | Classifieds 28 | Noteworthy 29 COME HOME TO

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From the Editor

As 2018 comes to a close, we are thinking about all we've experienced this year. Forever Young is proud to have provided readers thoughtful, accurate, and timely information that, hopefully, has had a benevolent impact on your life.

Our Forever Young Expo held at Grapevine Banquets in October was a great success; dozens of people got their flu vaccine and learned more about all that Western New York has to offer our senior community members, from health care, entertainment, and fitness information to financial, nutritional, and legal advice.

Along the way, we also learned about local farms, breweries, and distilleries; how to look and feel your best at any age; and tons of stuff about theater, film, music,

and gardening from our smart and savvy regular writers.

We look forward to continuing to learn and grow with you. Happy New Year! We hope 2019 will be your best yet.

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FOREVER YOUNG JANUARY CALENDAR

1+ Erie County STAY FIT DINING

PROGRAM offers a hot noon meal at 45 locations in Erie County. Menus and site list at erie.gov/stayfit or 858-7639.

1+ PEOPLE, INC. OMBUDSMAN

Phone screenings in progress to become ombudsman volunteer to advocate for seniors in long-term care facilities. To be screened and to learn more about becoming an ombudsman volunteer, call 817-9222.

1+ Gowanda HEALTH

COMMUNITY ALLIANCE Activities open to the public age 50+, (no residency requirements) , Concord Senior Center, 1 School Street, Gowanda; for schedule visit communityalliance.org; 532-1010, or beemana@hcanetwork.org

1+ Niagara Falls SENIOR

COMPANION/FOSTER GRANDPARENT PROGRAM Looking for seniors who enjoy working with their peers or children. Volunteers receive a tax-free stipend, transportation assistance, and supplemental insurance coverage while volunteering. If you are 55+, have a minimum of 15 hours per week to give and want to make a difference, contact Nora Aloian (SCP) at 285-8224 ext. 217or Jennifer Britton (FGP) at 285-8224 ext. 228

1+, 3+,

Tonawanda UKULELE SING ALONG Ukuleles provided during class. All levels welcome beginner–experienced Tuesdays 5:30 p.m. and Thursdays 1:30 p.m.

Brighton Place Library 999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda. Call to register 332-4375 $5 suggested donation

1+

Farnham T.O.P.S. CLUB weekly meetings held Tuesdays at Holy Cross Lutheran Church, 10633 Church St., starting at 9 a.m. Call 934-9619.

1+

Kenmore UKULELE SING

ALONG Ukuleles provided during

class. All levels welcome beginner experienced. Tuesdays 8 p.m. Church of the Advent, 54 Delaware Rd., Kenmore $5 suggested donation. 481-5735

1+

Tonawanda T.O.P.S. CLUB, weekly meetings on Tuesdays, 9:30 a.m. at Blessed Sacrament Parish, Claremont Avenue. For information, call 834-7992

1+

Buffalo TAI CHI: MOVING FOR BETTER BALANCE 10:30 a.m. every Tuesday, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. For more information, contact monicazucco@ gmail.com.

1, 8 Buffalo HEADWAY

SUPPORT GROUPS, 2635 Delaware Ave. For individuals who have sustained brain injuries as well as their families and caregivers; exchange information and resources, and find mutual support and encouragement.

Peer Support (Suite B), first and third Tuesday, 6:30–8 p.m.; Caregivers Support (Suite B), first Tuesday, 6:30–8 p.m. Info: 408-3100 or headwayofwny.org

3+

Cheektowaga T.O.P.S. MEETING, Thursdays at 9 a.m., St. Luke’s Lutheran Church, 900 Maryvale Dr. (corner of Union Road). Come for the love, support and friendship. For information, call Karen at 247-2334

3+

Buffalo GENTLE YOGA, 11 a.m. Thursdays, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. Bring a yoga mat. Info: 828-1093

3+

Akron T.O.P.S. CLUB Every Thursday, 5:30-6:45pm, at the Akron/Newstead Senior Center, 5691 Cummings Rd. We offer tools, programs, support, fellowship and recognition for healthy living and weight management. For information call Diane 542-4980

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Lockport T.O.P.S. 9259, Meets every Saturday morning @ 8:30 for weigh-in and 9am to 10am for weekly

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Jewish Federation Apartments

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Amherst FREE RESPITE CARE PROGRAM, 10:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m., Trinity Old Lutheran Church 3445 Sheridan Drive. First Wednesday of the month, for those caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s or any form of dementia. A morning snack and nutritious lunch are provided. For more information on registering for the program, call 836-4868

2 Williamsville WOMEN’S

LYMPHEDEMA SUPPORT GROUP 5:45 p.m. the first Wednesday of each month. Sheridan Surgical room, 4510 Bailey Ave., Williamsville. Call 908-4149

2+ Orchard Park

TAI CHI

Advanced Tai Chi in the Park at Brush Mountain, Wednesdays at 1pm. Build endurance, increase flexibility and balance. New students are welcome.

Contact the Orchard Park Senior Center at 662-6452 for information.

Cost $30 for a 8 week session.

2+

Boston HATHA YOGA Wednesdays at 7 pm. Gentle and meditative. Bring your own mat.

Faith United Church of Christ, 8651 Boston State Road, Boston, NY. For more info call church office 716-9413529

3+Tonawanda

LAUGHTER YOGA Come as you are, just bring your laughter! Thursdays 11 a.m.

Brighton Place Library, 999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda. FREE

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meetings, Christ Episcopal church 7145 Fieldcrest Dr., Lockport. Offers tools, programs, support and friendship for healthy living and weight management.

Contact: Wendy, 200-2618 or Mary, 433-1693

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Buffalo MEDITATION, 2:30 p.m., El Buen Amigo, 114 Elmwood Ave. Free every Sunday. Meditation unites with creative arts and pain management. Practitioner Sondra Holland welcomes people of all ages. Wear comfortable clothes. For information, Sondra: 947-5092; store: 885-6343

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Tonawanda TONAWANDA TOPS CLUB #50 Weekly meetings on Mondays, weigh-in 6pm/meeting starts at 6:25pm, Zion United Church Koenig & Parker Tonawanda; 912-6875

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Hamburg ALZHEIMER’S CARE-GIVER SUPPORT GROUP for males at Wesleyan Church, 4999 McKinley Pkwy. 2nd Tues. 626-0600, alz.org/wnyc

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Orchard Park ALIENATED GRANDPARENTS ANONYMOUS, INC., meetings 1 p.m. the second Tuesday of month, 4295 S. Buffalo St.

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Depew BREAST CANCER NETWORK OF WNY Monthly meeting second Tuesday, 6 p.m., Bella Moglie Bldg., 3297 Walden Ave. Call 7060060 or visit bcnwny.org. Professional support group will be held at 8 pm

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Williamsville MCGUIRE GROUP MEMORY CARE SUPPORT GROUPS: General Support Group is second Wednesday, 3 p.m. at Harris Hill Nursing Facility, 2699 Wehrle Dr., Williamsville; Daughters’ Support Group, 5 p.m.

Monthly support groups coordinated with the Alzheimer’s Association, with caregiving tips and coping mechanisms.

For more information, call 632-3700 or visit mcguiregroup.com ; kenancenter.org.

13 East Aurora WON'T YOU BE

MY NEIGHBOR This documentary about Fred Rogers takes an intimate look at America's favorite children's TV program host that takes you

beyond zip-up cardigans. 4 pm.

Roycroft Film Society, Parkdale Auditorium, 141 Girard Ave., East Aurora; roycroftcampuscorp.com. $6 members, $8 non-members

and other dementias. Third Tuesday each month at 5:30 p.m., Pride Center, 200 South Elmwood Ave., Buffalo, 852-7743 or pridecenterwny.org

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Niagara Falls NIAGARA FALLS SINGLES SOCIAL CLUB, An active 50+ crowd, dances third Friday each month at 7 p.m. at the Buff Social Club, 2565 Young St., NF. $6 ($4 members). Monthly activities include picnics, parties. Door prizes, 50/50 raffle. Info: 439-8387

Buffalo LGBTQ MEMORY LOSS CAREGIVERS PROGRAM: The Pride Center of Western New York offers the LGBTQ Memory Loss Caregivers Program providing support and education for people providing care for a person with Alzheimer’s Disease

DANCE CALENDAR MONDAYS

THURSDAYS

Sloan CLOGGING LESSONS

by Kickin’ Rhythm Cloggers, 6:30 p.m. @ St. Andrew’s Parish Hall, 111 Crocker St., Bldg. 1. (585) 457-4455.

Kenmore JACKIE’S THURSDAY NIGHT DANCES @ Brounshidle Post, 3354 Delaware Ave. Lessons: 7 p.m. Open dancing: 8 p.m. 691-8654.

Buffalo HUSTLE FOR HEALTH URBAN LINE DANCING with Phyllis Caver at Gloria Parks: 3242 Main St, Buffalo. 12pm - 1pm.

FREE for ages 55+ Call 832-1010 ext. 4

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Buffalo LINDY FIX 8–10 p.m. @ Polish Cadets Hall, 927 Grant St. lindyfix.com, swingbuffalo.com.

WEDNESDAYS

N. Ton. DANCING WITH DOTTIE AND FRIENDS country-style line lessons, 7:30 p.m. @ Pendleton Center Meth. Church, 6864 Campbell Blvd. 625-8306.

Buffalo HUSTLE FOR HEALTH URBAN LINE DANCING with Phyllis Caver at Gloria Parks: 3242 Main St, Buffalo. 11am- 12pm.

FREE for ages 55+ Call 716 832 1010 Amherst AMHERST VICTORIAN DANCE SOCIETY Authentic music, dress and dance of Queen Victoria's time. New members and guests welcomed! 1st Wednesdays @ Buffalo Niagara Heritage Village in Amherst & 4th Wednesdays @ VFW Post in Village of Williamsville.

7:00 p.m. Info: Geraldine, 8770222 or amherstvictoriandance.org

Buffalo HUSTLE FOR HEALTH URBAN LINE DANCING at East Community High School 820 Northampton St, Buffalo. 11:30am - 12:30pm. FREE for all ages. Free Lunch. Www.HustleforHealth.com

ONGOING WNY BELLYDANCE CLASSES 560-1891, nadiaibrahim.com.

Kenmore JACKIE’S DANCE Monthly dance. Call 691-8654 for details.

WNY BALLROOM SOCIAL DANCE, Argentine tango and belly dance instruction with Carol Allen; N. Collins and Amherst. 337-3092 or callen8801@aol.com.

West Seneca BALLROOM DANCE classes @ 1761 Orchard Park Rd., 771-3110, ballroomiliana.com.

WNY DANCE W/ ERIN BAHN 997-7190 ARGENTINE TANGO IN BUFFALO Dancing & Classes. traviswidricktango.com.

Contact Travis @ 517-7047

CROSSWORD 19. Japanese room divider

40. *____ Chi

22. Parker's angst

41. Make a connection

23. Little rascal

44. Opposite of tea bag

24. Locomotive hair

46. Black-tie

25. Like Bigfoot

48. *Watch a season in a week, e.g.

26. *You fly fish in it

49. Catlike

27. Core of personnel

50. Queen of Hearts' pastry

28. Independent African ruler

51. Aquatic plant

29. Gives a helping hand

52. Fairly cold

32. Messy substances

53. Blackfin or Yellowfin

33. Horror movie franchise

54. Barbershop request

36. *Bibliophiles' get-together

55. Newts in terrestrial stage

38. Willow twig

56. Art degrees

THEME: POPULAR PASTIMES ACROSS 1. Smoothing tool 5. Fireplace mess 8. *Make a scarf, then a sweater 12. Nasal input

48. Harvest helper 50. Chalupa alternative 52. Virginia Slim, e.g.

13. Crunched info

56. *What football and baseball have in common, pl.

14. Like a snicker

57. "Put a lid ____ ____!"

15. Cautionary offering

58. *Hang out on the ocean or online

16. *Caddie's offering

59. Lock horns

17. Ringworm

60. Eyeball

18. *Current game

61. Hissy fit

20. Bookkeeping entry

62. Michael Myers' move

21. Express November sentiments

63. "To Kill a Mockingbird" author

22. Big bang maker

64. Thanksgiving tubers

23. Beach Boys: "Be True to Your ____"

DOWN

26. Deducible

1. Campus drillers

30. COI, OSS, SSU, CIG, ____

2. Month before Nisan

31. *Interlocking challenge

3. Stag

34. ____ of the game

4. Faster than allegro

35. Legal excuse

5. Hammerin' Hank

37. Acorn maker

6. Delivery bird?

38. Poet Nash

7. 3rd H in 4-H, sing.

39. Spanish surrealist Joan

8. *Needlecraft

40. Tolkien's "The Two ____"

9. *Half a round

42. Denotes financial loss

10. Footnote word

43. Kickbacks

11. *Afternoon's high

45. Ducks with valued down

13. Hindu Festival of Lights

47. Ornamental carp

14. The Police lead singer

The solution for this month’s puzzle can be found on page 28.

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HOME & GARDEN

CAROL ANN HARLOS

Houseplants and Winter: an Opportunity L

ike you, I find more time to enjoy my houseplants in the “off season.”

The full spectrum of sunlight really made the outdoor visitors grow.

Before bringing these plants indoors, I washed, sometimes re-potted, divided, and gave these outdoor visitors special attention.

The shortening day length and cooler nights made plants such as Schlumbergia (Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Easter cactus), poinsettias, and kalanchoe, some of my orchids, rhizomatous begonias (the ones with a thick and fuzzy structure that grows on top of the soil) form flower buds. These are “short day” plants that originally came from areas north or south of the equator. Schlumbergia came from Brazil and kalanchoe came from Madagascar, both south of the equator. Poinsettias originated in Mexico, which, of course, is north of the equator. Most houseplants don’t really respond to day length as a trigger to forming flowers—a shame, because what an incredible autumn and winter would occur!

Winter is a good time to increase the kinds of houseplants you grow.

Houseplants don’t have to be exotic, so I am encouraging you to grow some of the easier ones. I never call plants “fool proof,” because some people seem to kill them no matter what! (I still remember Colston Burrell, the famous garden designer and garden writer saying, “I don’t feel I’ve really gotten to know a plant until I’ve killed it.” ) Now, dear readers, please don’t take this as a challenge. You plant killers know who you are.

I would suggest the peace lily (unless you have cats or young children who eat plants). They need constant moisture and dappled sunlight. You know your plant is happy when it grows the white spathes containing flowers and has leaves without brown edges.

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English ivy is grown for its leaves, can be trained into a topiary, grown with other plants, and tolerates light in almost any window except south.

Water when dry.

Spider plants will grow almost anywhere. Hanging baskets make a lovely addition to any room. Don’t over water over the winter. Pot up the babies (called plantlets) to give to your friends.

You can’t kill a snake plant! Plant them in a succulent potting mix and place in the brightest window you have. I love the different types: Mother-in-laws-tongue, twist, and robusta.

And then there is the cast iron plant, well named because it is one tough leathery plant with very dark green leaves. Its genus name Aspidistra comes from a Greek word meaning “shield.” A relative of lilies, cast iron plant leaves grow directly from the soil as do the flowers. If

you get the plant to produce flowers please let me know, as I have had no success getting mine to bloom.

Maybe that’s OK; in the wild, the flowers are pollinated by snails and slugs.

Of course, we can’t forget philodendrons. They quickly let us know if they are unhappy where we place them which is helpful. You can grow philodendrons in a container (I like glass) with only water if you prefer. If it is potted in soil, let the top inch of soil dry out before watering again. Droopy leaves? Too much or too little water. Stick your finger in the soil to find out. FY Enjoy your winter! I love hearing from you: herbgardener.net or caharlos@verizon.net

LIFE & LEISURE

Regarding Resolutions

BY TED RICKARD

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very New Year’s I have stiffened my spine with resolutions. One year, it was so many days to a more powerful vocabulary, but I forget now just how many days it was. Not that it matters. The resolution didn’t last more than a week. I got through “abash” and “abatement” but quit at “abdication.”

The flash cards went into the drawer in a living room table where they shared space with “Ten Days to Winning Bridge” from several years back.

Last year, I got The Great World Philosophies on CD’s that fit into the slot in the dashboard of the car.

One of the grandchildren explained how to push the button to work the disc. (Or is it “disk?” I wondered if the word might not be on one of the vocabulary cards if I had only persevered beyond the “A’s.”) The electronic world is full of initials.

Some are rendered as made-up words, but I don’t think any of them would be allowable in Scrabble. At least not in our family, which tends to play Scrabble with a lot of fullthroated argument.

The philosophers, talking to me from some hollow space beneath the windshield, provided a full half-hour lecture on the thinking of ancient Greeks. The lecturer began all over from the beginning when the car started, so I ended up hearing a lot about Plato, and exclusively so. I had heard of Plato before, years ago.

This was in the context of “platonic friendship” which was the way a sloe-eyed, pony-tailed first love in our high school accelerated program had ended our relationship. The next week, she was dating a varsity wrestler who was flunking shop but had full use of his father’s Buick convertible.

About all I learned from the philosophy recordings was that most of the errands I ran with the car took considerably less driving time

than thirty minutes. I heard about Plato over and over, rekindling old resentments every time, but we never got past Athens. I just don’t drive all that far.

Another year, I was told by a fellow on TV that keeping a journal would prove of inestimable value to both myself and future generations.

It would give our descendants “a sense of self-identity” was the way he phrased it just before the station broke to the commercial about “nature’s way to achieve regularity.”

I became determined not to be one who would leave his grandchildren confused about it all, so the next time we were grocery shopping, I bought a lined-paper notebook. When I got home, I found the ballpoint pen from our last stay at a Holiday Inn and settled to work. It took a few squiggles to get the ink flowing, but I got the first page started with the date under the heading “Journal.”

Then, while I was trying to think of what to say, I went over the letters in “Journal”–double-lining them and shading them into an interesting dimensional effect and then adding curlicues and other appropriate adornment. I even incorporated the original squiggles in the design. By then it was time for the late news, so I figured I’d start fresh the next day.

I still have the notebook from the Pick ‘N’ Save. Aside from the title page–rather artistic, if I do say

so myself–there’s only one other entry. There’s the date a couple weeks later, at the top of page two and under this the notation “Heavy rain today.” The rest of the pages are blank. It’s almost as though the rain had been Noah’s flood and the book were left behind.

I’ve kept the journal. I’ll pick up on it again someday for sure. We should all leave our children and our grandchildren a connection to their roots.

There was also a year of the highfiber diet which, after a week of it, left me inventing errands so I could really stop at the ice cream parlor until my wife pointed out that the car looked freshly washed to her and that the library was closed on Mondays.

The “Arc-Asizer” had a similar short lifespan. It cost only $39.95 plus “shipping and handling” which turned out to be an equal amount—and it promised “sixpack abs” and pretty generally a far

manlier physique—in “a matter of days.” This was, apparently, a lot more days than I was able to give it. I had no real regrets when one of the springs came unmoored and flew across the basement where I had been practicing. I tucked the Arc-Asizer behind the summer blankets in the top of the linen closet where I think it is to this day.

It was a lot simpler to just pull my belt in another notch–at least until after lunch.

This year, I am not doing anything to improve myself. I’ll settle for what I am. FY Ted Rickard’s book, Anything Worth Knowing I Learned from the Grandkids, is available from Amazon.com

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ARTS

Sheet music for Jack Yellen's "Ain't She Sweet" Photo optimization of sheet music covers courtesy Steve Loncto

Chauncy Olcott, composer of "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling"

Buffalo Songwriters

BY RICK FALKOWSKI

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any internationally renowned musicians are from the Buffalo area, but Western New York is also known for its songwriters, who have penned memorable songs of all musical styles.

The earliest songwriter from our area was Edwin Pearce (Ned) Christy, who is best remembered as the founder of the original Christy’s Minstrels. He wrote the classic “Buffalo Gals Won’t You Come Out Tonight” and was even credited with writing some of Steven Foster’s songs, because he paid Foster for the exclusive right to initially perform several of his compositions.

Chauncey Olcott got his start as a minstrel performer and became one of the best-known Irish tenors of the early twentieth century. He wrote “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling” and “My Wild Irish Rose.” The next time you celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day, keep in mind you are singing the words of a Buffalo native.

Ray Henderson began his career as an accompanist for vaudeville

acts, before moving to New York City where he became a popular composer during the Tin Pan Alley days. His songs were included in George White’s Scandals and Ziegfeld Follies, with two of his most popular hits being “Bye, Bye Blackbird” and “Five Foot Two, Eyes of Blue.” His career with songwriting partners Lew Brown and Buddy De Sylva was dramatized

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in the 1956 movie The Best Things in Life Are Free.

Composer Adolph Deutsch began his career in 1914 as a movie house musician, accompanying silent films at Buffalo theaters. He translated these musical interpretations into composing orchestrations for Broadway plays. He moved to Hollywood where, during the 1950s, he won three Oscars for Scoring of a Motion Picture for the movies Oklahoma, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers and Annie Get Your Gun. Deutsch was not the writer of the songs in the movie, he composed, conducted, and arranged the music for the soundtracks.

Before he became a successful lyricist, Jack Yellen worked as a reporter for the Buffalo Courier. His song “Happy Days Are Here Again” was the campaign theme song for Franklin D. Roosevelt in the election of 1932 and was associated with the Democratic Party throughout

ARTS performed on the Crystal Beach Boat, were the last band to perform at The Crystal Beach Dance Pavilion in 1924 and the first to perform at the Crystal Beach Ballroom in 1925.

After moving to New York City in 1926, he changed his name to Harold Arlen, and, by 1929, he composed his first hit song “Get Happy.” During his career he wrote over 500 songs, including the score for The Wizard of Oz, which produced the Academy Award winning classic “Over the Rainbow.”

Arlen is considered one of the main contributors to Great American Songbook, popular songs, and jazz standards from the early twentieth century.

In addition to these songwriters, who wrote songs for other artists, Buffalo based recording artists like The Goo Goo Dolls, 10,000 Maniacs, Rick James, Jackson C. Frank, Eric Andersen, Willie Nile, Peter Case, Ani DiFranco, and numerous self-released groups,

wrote the material for their albums.

Some of their songs were recorded by other artists, and more recent writers like Michael Spriggs, Phil Dillon, Gurf Morlix, Ed Bentley, Nick DiStefano, Steve Nathan, Debby Ash, Michael Campagna, Gary Mallaber, and others wrote songs that they and other artists recorded.

So, the next time you find yourself humming or singing a song, it just may have been written by someone from Buffalo. FY Rick Falkowski gives Buffalo Music History presentations, is the author of History of Buffalo Music & Entertainment, and is co-founder of the Buffalo Music Hall of Fame.

Send questions or comments to info@ buffalomusichistory.com.

Sheet music for Jack Yellen's "Happy Days Are Here Again"

the twentieth century. The Beatles recorded Yellen’s 1927 composition “Ain’t She Sweet” in Hamburg Germany on June 24, 1961, when they were hired to perform as the backing band for Tony Sheridan and Peter Best was still the drummer for the group. It was a European hit and The Beatles recorded it again in 1969, with Ringo on drums, including it on Anthology 3. Yellen also collaborated with vaudeville star Sophie Tucker, writing her signature song “My Yiddishe Momme” and for two decades was on the board of directors of ASCAP, working to protect songwriters’ royalty rights.

How many times have you heard the Christmas classic “Silver Bells?”

This song was one of numerous hits written by Salamanca’s Ray Evans. During his career, he won

three Academy Award Oscars for best song and also wrote the classic “Dear Heart.” He and his writing partner Jay Livingston wrote over 700 songs and composed for television, including the theme songs for Bonanza and Mister Ed. The city of Salamanca honored Evans by renaming its movie theater the Ray Evans Seneca Theater.

The most successful Buffalo songwriter was Hyman Arluck, the son of the cantor who directed the choir at the old Pine Street Synagogue. Samuel Arluck hoped his son would follow him as cantor, but while Hyman was still in his teens, he garnered a reputation for his jazz-inspired arrangements and bluesy rhythm numbers. His bands The Southbound Shufflers, Yankee Ten Orchestra, and Buffalodians January 2019 | www.foreveryoungwny.com 9

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his family stayed in while his son was in the hospital there. Battista immediately knew that operating a guest house like this could be her mission.

That evening, she did some research and discovered that there was nothing like a guest house in her South Buffalo neighborhood near Mercy Hospital.

She talked it over with her husband, Robert, who gave her idea the go ahead. She already had a name for it–Grace–because she knew that by the grace of God it would happen. By February 2014, Grace Guest House was incorporated, with Cindy, Robert, and Cindy’s co-worker, Catherine Martorana, serving as the first three directors.

They initially purchased a building on Abbott Road, close to Mercy Hospital, and gutted it. However, they soon realized that they would need a much bigger space. A few years earlier, Battista had looked at the former St. John the Evangelist Church and rectory on Seneca Street being sold by the Diocese of Buffalo. However, another party ended up buying the buildings.

Battista contacted the new owners and told them she would be interested in the rectory if they ever decided to sell.

Two years later, they contacted her to see if she was still interested. “I looked at it with my board of directors,” Battista says. “They all liked it, and we had a benefactor write us a check so that we could purchase it.” She adds, “Originally, Grace was going to provide a haven and respite to patients and their families when receiving care at Mercy Hospital. However, it turned out that Grace’s capacity actually exceeded Mercy’s needs, so now the guest house serves families from all other area hospitals, including ECMC, Roswell, Buffalo General, Sisters, and Millard Fillmore Suburban.”

The location of Grace Guest House is a godsend to people who live in the economically depressed Southern Tier of the state who don’t have a lot of money to spend on accommodations and food when they have a loved one in the hospital.

Grace Guest House is much more than a bed and a meal. “They are nourished in every way here,” says Battista. In addition to a place to stay,

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A common room (left) and one of the eight bedrooms of Grace Guest House

Grace offers emotional support from counselors. A local massage therapist donates her services, as does a local hairstylist. Often skilled tradesmen will donate their services to assist with home improvements. “This house has been lifted and supported entirely by the community; the community is what sustains us.”

People find out about the guest house in a variety of ways. There are posters at the hospitals, and social workers, patient advocates, and doctor’s offices have information and brochures. Since opening just over a year ago, close to 250 families have stayed at Grace Guest House, with an average stay of four nights.

The guest house has a total of eight bedrooms and six bathrooms; three of the bedrooms have private baths. Most rooms accommodate two to three people. Guests pay by donation if they are able; the suggested donation is $40/ night per room with a shared bath or $60/night with a private bath. About three-quarters of their guests are able to pay; but it serves all families regardless of their ability to donate.

While positive outcome with a loved one in the hospital is always hoped for, there is the possibility that he or she may pass away. In that event, families are able to gather at the guest home to plan the funeral, and the staff is there to offer support.

The guest house has nine paid employees: Battista, who serves as executive director and Kevin

McLaughlin, director of mission and philanthropy, are full time. Seven parttime employees take care of the dayto-day operations, as the guest house is staffed twenty-four hours a day, every day.

There are also many volunteers who help out, including Battista’s mother and others who help out with tasks like answering the phone, ironing pillowcases, doing landscaping, and even just talking with the guests in the evening.

As she was showing me around the guest house, Battista introduced me to Justin, a young man with developmental disabilities hired through a state program they became familiar with after attending a talk about hiring people with disabilities.

“Guests adore him,” says Battista.

He works three or four days a week cleaning rooms, cutting the lawn, raking leaves, and doing other tasks

around the house. Battista adds, “He’s such a blessing, and he takes pride in what he does.” She went on to say that they hope to hire another developmentally disabled person in the near future and provide Justin the opportunity to have a hand in training them.

How can you support Grace Guest House?

In addition to volunteering your time or services, you can participate in the two fundraisers held each year.

This past fall marked 4th annual Juice & Jazz at the Grapevine banquet facility. This fun, party-like event featured basket raffles, a silent auction, and a buffet dinner. In the spring Grace hosts Light of Grace breakfast, with a “State of Grace,” annual report.

This hour-long morning event features a continental breakfast, guests sharing their experience at the guest house, a

short video presentation, and Battista speaking about the vision of Grace Guest House. The next breakfast is scheduled for May 2, 2019. “It’s a morning that moves people,” says Battista.

Attendees can make a monetary donation; any gift is appreciated, from $5 up to $1,000 or more. Those who make larger donations become members of the Champion for Grace Giving Society.

For more information about the services they offer or to make a donation, call 829-7240 or visit graceguesthouse.org. Grace Guest House is located at 2315 Seneca Street, Buffalo. FY Christine A. Smyczynski is a freelance writer and blogger and author of Western New York Explorer's Guide.

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Eckl’s: Lobster Bisque There are no surprises at this well respected, classic Buffalo eatery. The menu has been greatly unchanged for the past few decades. It’s gained a cult following for its beef on ‘weck, German potato salad, and Lobster Bisque. Tradition is at the core of this restaurant, from its original location, then a move to Orchard Park, and now in Larkin, the recipes have stayed the same.

Which, in this case, is a good thing. The bisque comes to you hot and fragrant in a generously sized bowl. You have the option of adding sherry to make it even more traditional. This soup is creamy, richly pink hued, with a satisfying lobster flavor and plenty of lobster meat throughout.

Ballyhoo: Mac & Cheese The sign says, “Links & Drinks,” but the one item not to miss on this bar’s menu is the habitforming mac & cheese. Its made to order in the tiny kitchen that puts out big flavors; the noodles are cooked just right, and the cheese is creamy and well seasoned with a hint of spice. It’s definitely better eaten piping hot with a cold drink as it loses some of its creaminess once reheated. If you’re looking for the mac & cheese fix somewhere further downtown, Ballyhoo’s sister restaurant Lucky Day Whiskey Bar serves the same recipe.

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Lobster bisque is a staple at Eckl's.

Shango Bistro Meatloaf There is something so comforting about knowing what to expect when going to certain restaurants.

Shango Bistro is one of those places that we seek out. We know it will always deliver,; the menu has been perfectly the same for a while now and, if it ain’t broke, why fix it, right? With classics like shrimp and

grits, catfish po’ boy, jambalaya, and fried chicken it’s easy to understand why this Buffalo staple has stood the test of time. When it comes to comfort, Shango’s meatloaf is king. Made with local beef, pork, veal, and andouille sausage, this fan favorite delivers all the nostalgia of your mom’s meatloaf without having to do the dishes after.

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Oliver’s Cuisine: Spinach Loaf To say that Oliver’s Cuisine is an institution in this town is as big an understatement as it is to say it’s spinach loaf is “just bread.” The fresh baguette gets buttered up, and

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we mean buttered up inside and out, packed with cooked chopped spinach, garlic, cheese, and baked to golden crisp perfection. We guarantee you’ve never tasted such perfectly soft buttered bread filled

with so much flavor. It’s the perfect holiday appetizer or host gift, as the kind folks at Oliver’s allow you to order one to go and uncooked.

Stick it in the oven at 350 degrees for eight minutes and voilà. Your friends will be so impressed.

The Black Sheep: Sticky Toffee Pudding We believe that this dessert alone has the power to end arguments and win wars. Admittedly, dessert menus are often overlooked as the food coma has almost always set in by the end of the second course.

We strongly advise you to leave room for this one. The English style cake is made with toffee, topped with house whipped cream, sprinkled with toffee crumbles, and will change your life. Ellen Gedra has such a gift with sweet/savory combinations, her desserts are always impeccably balanced and beautifully presented. It's served warm in a footed bowl, with a sauce

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Hearty Potato Soup A cure for winter blues

STORY AND PHOTOS BY REBECCA CUTHBERT

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et’s face it. We all know salads and fresh fruit are good for us, but after a morning of shoveling the driveway or snowman-building with the grandkids, we want something a little more substantial in our stomachs—maybe something with bacon.

Well, this recipe for Hearty Potato Soup (pirated from my sister, Kristin Poland, and modified) has us covered. (If you’re counting calories, though, be ready to count to a very high number.) This soup makes the perfect winter meal, and leaves folks full and cheerful. To serve a large group or to ensure leftovers, double the batch.

Ingredients One 13-ounce box of instant mashed potato flakes Two 32-ounce cartons of chicken stock Water Butter (half a stick) Bacon (half a pound) Medium-sized yellow onion Whole milk Salt Black pepper Thyme Minced garlic Red pepper flakes (optional) Shredded cheddar cheese Green onions Tools Needed: Large soup pot Large skillet or frying pan

Whisk Dry measuring cup Liquid measuring cup Teaspoon Cutting board Chopping knife Directions: Start by frying up half a pound of bacon in a skillet, cooking it thoroughly. Crispy bacon works best, or else it will have a flabby texture once added to the soup. Set it aside to dry on a paper towel. Drain most of the bacon grease out of the skillet, but keep the skillet handy.

Measure out 2 ⅔ cups of water into the soup pot, add half a stick of butter, and a teaspoon of salt. Heat until it’s just boiling, stirring occasionally to mix the melting butter throughout.

Hearty Potato Soup goes well with fresh cornbread biscuits.

While that is heating up in the pot, chop the yellow onion into small pieces and brown them up in the skillet, using the bacon grease as a coating. Do not overcook.

Once the water, butter, and salt have boiled, turn the heat down to a simmer and stir in ⅔ cup of milk, plus two cups of potato flakes and one whole carton of chicken stock. Whisk it all together until you’ve got a silky texture, then crumble in the bacon and add the onions. Stir thoroughly.

To season, add a quarter teaspoon of black pepper, a quarter teaspoon of thyme, a teaspoon of minced garlic, and a pinch of red pepper flakes.

Stir well. (You can add more or less seasoning to suit your tastes.)

As the soup cooks, it will thicken.

Stir in extra splashes of chicken stock to thin it again. (You’ll especially need to do this if you heat up the soup as leftovers in a day or two.)

For garnish, add a sprinkle of cheddar cheese (or more!) and chopped green onions.

To score extra points with your family, serve with a batch of cornbread muffins or flaky biscuits.

After enjoying your soup, curl up in your favorite chair with a good book and an afghan, or better yet, take a nap! You just made—and maybe shared—delicious homemade soup, and you deserve a rest. FY Rebecca Cuthbert lives, writes, and cares for shelter dogs in Dunkirk. She is a frequent contributor to Forever Young.

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Glittering Skylines to Ancient Treasures Cruising the Yangtze from Chongqing to the Three Gorges STORY AND PHOTOS BY JENNIFER MERRICK

White Emperor City's Kui Gate

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hina has changed so much in the last twenty years,” I kept hearing before my trip. I was told of megacities, seas of skyscrapers, and high-speed trains in a country modernizing at breakneck pace.

And they were right. “How could I not have heard about this place before?” was my question when we first arrived in Chongqing. Located in the country’s southwest, this massive metropolis was where our four-day cruise along the Yangtze River would set sail.

The city’s night view mesmerized us. Its brightly lit bridges that crossed the Yangtze and Jialing Rivers, and the glittering skyscrapers and modern architecture gave any of the world’s more famous city skylines a run for their money. Known for mountains, spicy cuisine, and beautiful women, 20

Chongqing is one of the fastest growing cities in the world.

But further into the cruise, we discovered another side to China, too. At the Three Gorges (narrow valleys along the middle section of the Yangtze River), we found a land of mystic beauty with ancient sites that brought to mind dragons, emperors, and ink-brushed depictions of mountains and mystery.

Tasty tour of Chongqing Given my astonishment at the sheer scope of this metropolis, I was excited that our cruise included a day

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of sightseeing around Chongqing before boarding.

Our local guide, who called himself Ben, described a tourist attraction that was our first stop on the tour.

“A movie set of the Republic of China,” he started with and then changed his mind. “No, maybe National China. Yes, we’re going to National China Movie Town.”

I had no idea what to expect. What it turned out to be was an open-air living history site of revolutionary China, with a village of recreated buildings and costumed characters (including General Chiang Kai-shek

and Chairman Mao) from the 1930s and 40s. At that time, Chongqing was the provisional capital during the Second Sino-Japanese War. Think along the lines of Colonial Williamsburg in Virginia, and you’ll get the idea what the Chongqing Liangjiang International Movie City, as it’s officially known, was like.

There are over 220 historical buildings, along with photo studios, where you can have your picture taken in period garb (rifles and uniforms included); tourist shops and restaurants.

At one eatery, Yida Hot Pot, we tried the city’s most famous dish.

“Chongqing is hot pot’s hometown,” Ben explained, and told us that tourists from around China come to indulge.

The bubbling, fragrant pot of broth on the table was red and filled with spicy peppers and seasonings. Surrounding this center piece was an impressive spread of uncooked ingredients, some familiar (mushrooms, fish, shrimp balls, dumplings) and others more exotic (cow intestine, chicken feet).

“Half the flavour comes from the sauce, half from the pot,” said Ben. We mixed the sauce with garlic and onions into our bowls, placed the food in the hotpot and waited for it to cook. We then ladled it into our bowls for a sweat-inducing, flavorful bite (though I decided to pass on the chicken feet).

Fortified, we set out to explore more of Chongqing, including a stop at the Three Gorges Museum. Here, exhibitions gave us insight into the region with displays of artifacts from local excavations (with some pieces dated back to the Six Dynasties, 317581 AD), the Three Gorges Dam and the cultural and natural history of the area.

We had only scratched the surface of this intriguing city and though I was itching to see more, we had a cruise to board.

Sailing the Golden River Sometimes referred to as Mother River or the Cradle of Chinese Civilization, the Yangtze River’s landscape and history are synonymous with China itself and etched in the

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A traditional Chongqing hot pot

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country’s identity. From Chongqing, we sailed on a four-day cruise that took us to the Three Gorges, considered one of the most scenic segments of the river.

We left the bright lights of Chongqing behind and awoke the first morning in Fuling, a river town with thousands of years of history, which we learned more about on a

shore excursion to the Baiheliang Underwater Museum.

With the change in water level from the dam, some of the country’s most treasured artifacts had been at risk of being submerged permanently.

Fortunately, they were preserved at this innovative museum, which gave us the opportunity to view these ancient relics both above and below the water.

A stone fish carving, large enough to lie down on, greeted us as we entered the museum. “When the stonefish came out of the water, people believed

there would be a good harvest,” our guide informed us. It was just one of many artifacts, dating back over 1,200

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years, which were used to record the water levels of the river. After touring the above-ground portion of the museum, we descended a very steep escalator that led to a long tunnel.

We were now under the water.

Along the passageway were portholes, from which we could see the artifacts. What we were looking at was the White Crane Ridge (Baiheliang), so named because of the cranes that once gathered on the stone. Measuring over 5,200 feet long and forty-nine feet wide, it’s considered to be the first ancient hydrometric station in the world. The extensive inscriptions and carvings that date back to 763 BC were used to track the water levels, droughts, and floods. UNESCO has recognized this museum as the only underwater preservation site that is accessible for non-divers.

Life on board the Yangtze Gold 6 began to take on a certain rhythm of buffets (a combination of Western and 22

Chinese) and onboard entertainment.

Highlights included Mah-jong lessons, a Chinese gambling game, which turned out to be a little like rummy with tiles, and Asian craft demonstrations. But my favorite pastime was simply watching the scenery roll by from the balcony.

Forested hills changed into towns of white buildings and then back again; the river widened and narrowed; and boats large and small passed us.

Our next shore excursion was at the city of Wanzhou. Like Chongqing, it surprized me with its sheer size and stunning skyline. There we attend a concert that was a true spectacle with dancers and musicians from around the world, culminating in a Chinese performance that featured dozens of dancers accompanied by a full orchestra playing silhouetted against the lit-up skyline of Wanzhou.

Afterward, we strolled along the river, where a light installation dazzled

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A view from inside the Baiheliang Underwater Museum

us with psychedelic light tunnels and projected images. And this was only the prelude to the laser show that awaited us at the end, where we joined the crowds oohing and aahing as images appeared out of thin air.

After a night of the futuristic glitter and tech of a large metropolis, it was a little discombobulating to wake up in the morning to its complete opposite.

White Emperor City had a palpable sense of antiquity. Throughout the dynasties, leaders, artists, and poets have been attracted to this natural wonder, where the river narrows and the mountains rise steeply on its shores. Historically, it’s where East meets West, and was home to several important historical sites. We climbed the stone steps of Mingliang Palace, which housed a temple and shrines to ancient emperors along with intricate stone carvings.

As remarkable as the artistry was, it couldn’t compete with the view of Kui Gate. Here was the entrance of the first of the three gorges, a view so famous that it appears on the 10 Yuan bank note. With a mist coming off the mountains that rise high from the curving Yangtze River, it was so magical I half-expected to see dragons emerging from the clouds.

This was a China nobody had told me about. I couldn’t help but marvel at the contrast: modern cities and ancient lands, mystical mountains and glittering skylines, artifacts that date back two millennia and cities that have sprung up in the past two decades. And all of it experienced on a much too brief four-day cruise. FY Jennifer Merrick is a freelance writer, photographer, and avid traveler based in Toronto.

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Opioid Abuse and Seniors

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

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f you think the opioid epidemic is only affecting younger folks, think again. According to a report in Psychiatric Times, while opioid use disorders are more common in younger patients, “prevalence among the elderly is growing, and misuse poses unique risks in the geriatric population.”

The informational web guide Addiction Center concurs. “Drug and alcohol abuse among the elderly is a rapidly growing health problem in the United States.” Adding, “Seventeen percent of people in the United States over 65 years old have abused prescription medications, according to the Office of Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Services.”

The Center on Addiction states, “A growing number of older Americans are becoming addicted to prescription opioid drugs like OxyContin and Vicodin. While drug-related deaths have increased dramatically in all age groups, the greatest percentage increase has been among adults ages fifty-five to sixtyfour.”

So, what can we do to protect our loved ones and ourselves from falling victim to this epidemic? We can start by acquainting ourselves with potential triggers for addiction in our senior population. These include: • Retirement • Loss of income or financial difficulties • Death of a spouse, family member, close friend, or pet • Divorce • Empty nest • Family conflict • Relocation or placement in a nursing home • Anxiety • Trouble sleeping • Mental or physical health

decline, which can include depression, memory loss, and major surgeries • Chronic pain–eight in ten seniors struggle with heart disease, diabetes, and/or arthritis Many of the above-mentioned life changes can lead to an increase in prescription drug abuse. Loss of loved ones may cause some persons to feel socially isolated. This can make them turn to addictive substances as selfmedication becomes a way to deal with difficult feelings and emotions.

Foster awareness We need to both be self-aware and cognizant of changes in our loved ones’ behavior that could reflect opioid misuse.

This can include memory problems, changes in mood, variations in eating and sleeping habits, unexplained bruises and/or chronic pain, failure to bathe, and disinterest in family and usual activities.

The Center on Addiction points out, “It is common for health care professionals to overlook the potential for addiction in their older patients.”

Additionally, “Opioids still tend to be over-prescribed in this age group.”

Seniors need to understand that, as we age, we metabolize alcohol and drugs at a slower rate. Because older patients are likely to be prescribed multiple pain relievers, the severity of side effects caused by opioids is increased. Consequently, seniors are

at an increased risk of developing addiction after a shorter period of time than their younger counterparts.

US News quotes Dr. Stuart Gitlow, former president of the American Society of Addiction Medicine, who says the proportional risk of addiction is constant for adults. The difference lies in individual response. While most people will feel some nausea and physical discomfort after taking an opiate drug, “about 20 percent of the population will say, ‘Oh, that feels amazing.’”

He continues, “Those are the people we worry about. And you’re just as likely to run across those twenty percent in older age as you are in younger age.” That adds up to a significant risk, considering sixty-five million Americans are sixty or older.

New guidelines say, for most patients, that these drugs should be used for short periods, and only to ease acute pain. However, there are seniors who have been prescribed these drugs for decades, such as people working in jobs that can create chronic back pain.

Seniors with age-related conditions, like arthritis, can also fall victim to opioid overreliance.

Warning signs No one is immune; addiction can happen to the best of us. Here are a few things to consider: Symptoms of addiction can mimic signs of aging, and prescription opioids can cause dependence and addiction. Because signs of a substance use disorder are viewed similarly to

dementia or delirium, recognizing an addiction in senior citizens can be challenging.

Pay attention to what is being consumed. Seniors may be taking opioids along with sedatives and could stop breathing from the combination.

The chance of suffering falls, broken bones, and cognitive impairment increases with opioid use.

Mixing drugs with alcohol and pot (the number one illicit drug older adults are using) can be a deadly combination.

Well-intentioned friends may be sharing drugs when they have leftover pills. That’s never a good idea.

Take medicines only as prescribed.

If a senior is suffering from drug abuse, seek expert help.

Shame should never prevent anyone from seeking treatment.

Addiction is not a failure.

Medical professionals, caretakers, and family members should not ignore anyone who has developed an addiction to any substance. Sobriety may be difficult, but life with addiction is much harder. FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer. Readers may contact her via the editor at wswearingen@buffalospree.com with ideas for making the golden years sparkle, sizzle, and shine.

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MY WNY STORY

Deborah Bergmann

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

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y now we all know that most New Year’s resolutions involve getting rid of something. Bad habits, weight, and clutter seem to top most of our lists.

Deborah L. Bergmann, owner of Clear the Clutter Now, LLC, knows how to handle at least one of those resolutions.

Bergmann spent the first thirty years of her career as a dental hygienist and dental assistant.

Nearly five years ago, she decided to stop for a while and try something

new. The idea for Clear the Clutter Now came to Bergmann when she was faced with a personal challenge.

“My husband and I both lost parents; my dad was the only one left.” While clearing out the family homes, Bergmann thought, “It would be great if people could help do this.” Her business was born.

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“Piles can sit there,” Bergmann says, so she keeps things moving out the door. “We see results faster once items are removed. We see an end to the job.”

Bergmann says she gets most of her business from referrals. While some of her clients want help organizing their homes, she says, “People also ask for help selling things.”

Once a client’s possessions are sorted, Bergmann will help sell unwanted items. Her service includes taking pictures and measurements then posting the items online. “People don’t want to be bothered. People may be computer savvy, but they are afraid

to place ads.” She will advertise for her clients and screen callers.

Bergmann says she has learned how to tell who the scammers are and will check out people before they go to a client’s home. She also will be there when potential buyers arrive.

She adds, “I have built up a network of people who will let you know what they are looking for.

People will suggest other people.”

If clients aren’t interested in selling their unwanted items, Bergmann will take the items and find a place to donate them. She says she tries to keep things out of landfills, including electronics.

“Clothing or items that don’t sell will go to Goodwill or City Mission.”

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Bergmann offers free consultations and charges by the hour. She says she discusses a “fair

hourly rate” and adds, “With the sales of items I take a percentage. I have to pay sales tax.”

When asked if she agrees with the philosophy that we can lose weight when we begin to de-clutter, Bergmann says, “You do feel better when you go on a cleaning rampage.

It makes you feel so much better, you may lose ‘mental pounds!'”

Bergmann can be reached at cleartheclutternow@aol.com. FY

Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

Readers may contact her via the editor at wswearingen@buffalospree. com with ideas for making the golden years sparkle, sizzle, and shine.

Tips for keeping clutter at bay When you get together during the holidays, take some time and see if you have anything someone else might want. Let people have and enjoy things now. Don’t wait until you are gone.

• Start getting rid of things • Put things away right away. before it gets to the point Don’t leave items sitting where your relatives have to around. get rid of them.

• Decide what is important to • Prevent becoming overwhelmed you. Do you really need fifteen by working on things an hour coffee mugs? at a time. Start by cleaning out • A lot of people don’t realize just one drawer or one closet. how much money they waste if • Start a bin for donations.

When it is full, drop it off.

they keep accumulating things they don’t need. They may wind up buying duplicates because they can’t find things.

• Try keeping a donation bag in the laundry room. There are places that will recycle fabrics. • Borrow instead of buy. Share things with family and friends, • Donate books you will not like big punchbowls and other read again. Contact your local items that come out only library to see if it will take during large gatherings. them.

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BEING WELL

Heartburn

Why medication may not be the best treatment

BY CATHERINE STACK

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any of the common drugs that treat heartburn, acid reflux, or GERD are overprescribed, with potentially serious consequences. If you or a loved one are currently taking a proton pump inhibitor such as Nexium, Prilosec, omeprazole, or Prevacid—read on. infection from Helicobacter pylori One of the most commonly (controversial). prescribed medications today are Over seventy percent of people proton pump inhibitors. These taking these drugs probably drugs are readily prescribed for common digestive woes such shouldn’t be. Many patients do not as heartburn, acid reflux, or realize that these drugs have health indigestion. While those who risks that can actually outweigh the suffer from these ailments may benefits. Most do not know or read think this sounds like a good idea, the insert that states they should they may want to think again. Most not be on them long term.

By lowering the amount of people who suffer from heartburn actually produce too little stomach stomach acid in the gut, we are actually more likely to suffer from acid, which causes delayed gastric foodborne infections such as food emptying. Food that sits too long poisoning. Other side effects and is not digested properly causes include pneumonia, bone loss, hip reflux and general discomfort.

Although these medications fractures, and Clostridium difficile usually help with the pain, they (a harmful intestinal bacteria).

Even worse, severe rebound is do very little to support digestion and absorption of nutrients. In common when you stop taking other words, it is the slow road to the medication and often these symptoms are worse than the malnutrition and osteoporosis, not original complaint. Do not stop to mention severe B-12 deficiency.

The first mistake we make by cold turkey! These drugs may be taking these medications is treating weaned off very slowly with the help of your doctor. Once you get a symptom without addressing to the lowest possible dose, some the underlying cause. An analogy would be if your check engine find it beneficial to switch to the light came on and it was “fixed” less-offending over the counter H2 by removing the bulb. You would blockers such as Tagamet or Zantac frown upon the mechanic who did for the last few weeks. This is a very slow process but may be very this, wouldn’t you? worthwhile when it comes to your People who may benefit from long-term health. temporary use of these proton In order to address the underlying pump inhibitors are those suffering problem, you need to restore the from bleeding ulcers, Zollingergastric balance and function of the Ellison syndrome (rare condition gut. Here are other suggestions that that causes your stomach to produce excess acid), severe may help you if you suffer from mild to moderate heartburn: inflammation of the esophagus, or 26

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• High quality probiotics help balance intestinal flora while digestive enzymes help you digest foods properly. For those who have already lost their gallbladder, a digestive enzyme with Betaine HCL would be beneficial.

• Incorporating fermented foods such as, natto (fermented soybeans), fermented vegetables, kefir, raw milk, or a high quality yogurt helps to incorporate probiotics naturally within your food.

• Modify your diet by avoiding sugar and processed items and, for many, wheat.

• Incorporate high quality sea salt (unprocessed) into your diet.

Not only will it increase natural acid production, it provides the body with 80 trace minerals.

• Optimize your vitamin D3 levels.

• Treat the stress in your life.

• Supplements such as liquid aloe, DGL licorice, fresh lemon water (half water, half fresh lemon juice), Braggs Raw Organic Cider Vinegar, and herbal teas with licorice and peppermint often help to support a healthy or healing digestive system.

By taking a proactive approach to eliminating heartburn naturally, you are also taking a proactive approach to your overall wellbeing. FY Catherine Stack (RN, ND) is a practicing Doctor of Naturopathy, Certified Nurse Midwife, and the founder and CEO of Journey II Health Center for Rejuvenation.

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