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Every birthday is special but heading out of the teen years is cause for celebration. I’m so excited to present this month’s issue of Forever Young—a toast to twenty years.

Forever Young was born in 2001, renamed from the former Beacon. To quote editor Carrie Fascia’s Letter from the Editor in our debut issue, “We need to change with our readers who, quite frankly, aren’t your same seniors anymore. We’re changing because you are changing.” In the past twenty years, we have maintained our steadfast efforts to change with you, keep you informed and entertained, and provide stories that speak to your needs and interests.

In our 2001 issue, we covered Garden Walk Buffalo, at the time in its seventh year; this month, Ashley Ziomek explores the event’s growth. Prominent WNY seniors George Caldwell and Rhonda Frederick impart learned wisdom to their younger selves, and Judith Rucki looks at a significant event from twenty years ago. These features are nestled among Forever Young’s favorite departments featuring garden delights, genealogy podcasts, and a powerful vegetable. And try your hand at our 20 For 20 trivia contest for a chance to win some exciting prizes!

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Meditation unites with creative arts and pain management. Practitioner Sondra Holland welcomes people of all ages. Wear comfortable clothes. For information, Sondra: 947-5092; store: 885-6343 Online LAUGHTER WELLNESS Come as you are, just bring your laughter! Tuesdays at 2 p.m. Brighton FREE. Visit www.facebook.com/ Buffalo-Laughers for information.

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Twenty winners will be awarded prizes including Walking Tour passes from Explore Buffalo, a year’s FREE home delivery of Forever Young, a subscription to Buffalo Spree magazine, and more.

Answers will be published in our September issue. Good luck!

Q: This 124-year-old still operational Buffalo fire station was added to the National Register for Historic Places.

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Q: Fans of Yogi Bear, George Jetson, Fred Flintstone, and Papa Smurf mourned the death of this iconic half of the classic animation/production duo.

Q: In August, this Buffalo indoor soccer team announced its disbandment.

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Q: Buffalo celebrated the 100th anniversary of this famous (or infamous) event, where the president of the United States was assassinated in the Temple of Music.

Q: A blizzard beginning on Christmas Eve Day ended with a total accumulation of this many inches in the Buffalo/Niagara region.

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Q: An anthrax-laced letter was addressed to this news anchor.

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A: __________________________________ Q: This artificial organ was the first self-contained version to be successfully transplanted into a human body.

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Q: Despite his much-lauded hiring after the firing of predecessor Wade Phillips, this former Tennessee Titans defensive coordinator couldn’t make headway with the Bills and they finished the season at 3-13.

A: __________________________________ Q: This legendary blues guitarist played at Shea’s Performing Arts Center in January as part of the theatre’s seventy-fifth anniversary season.

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Moments in the garden

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ardeners should be among the happiest people in the world. But I worry that gardeners who regard one leaf as something to be raked out of the garden, who obsess about every weed, who don’t enjoy wildlife and fear bees, aren’t finding as much joy as they could be. I believe there’s pleasure to be found in even the most mundane and minute moments.

When I return to the house, dirty and sweaty, my husband greets me with, “How is it going?” He loves to hear what lit my fire that day. I’m excited to share with him—and now you—the things that have excited me in the garden this year, and inspire you to not only think about your own, but also about how you can maximize that which delights you about gardening.

I saw flowers of “the umbrella plant” Darmera (also known as Indian rhubarb) emerge ahead of its rounded leaves. The pink—in the fall, they’ll turn a beautiful red—five petaled flowers in the form of a cyme were glorious. There was the rhododendron in full glory, the only one in the front garden since I must acidify the soil to keep it healthy. There were perennial

geraniums finishing their first bloom.

I cut them back; they’ll oblige with a second bloom later in the season.

The balls of purple, maroon, or white allium flowers are finished, and I await their stems’ disconnection from the bulbs. I play a guessing game as to which ones are truly finished; the answer is revealed when I tug. Alliums are rather prolific in my gardens, producing many bulbs, which I dig up and share with others. They have a habit of showing up in strange places.

As they are frequently covered with insects and produce seeds of their own, I assume this is how they spread, though I haven’t taken the time to collect the seeds (perhaps a later project).

I have been digging up some of the pink and white lamium covering

garden beds and putting them in the border with newly planted shrubs. Not only is this visually pleasing, but it cuts down on weeding. Lamium grows in the rose garden and there are seldom weeds (hurrah!).

The viburnums have finished blooming and are producing fruit. They are an incredible shrub, providing three seasons of interest as well as nectar for insects, roosting places and food for birds, and beautiful red leaves in autumn. This year, a Japanese maple (a free plant) is finally experiencing a burst of growth. (It’s sat tucked among some perennials; I thought of moving it because not much happened until this year.)

Of course, there are weeds and aggressive plants; I need to keep up on mulching and weeding. It would be remiss of me not to share a wonderful trick I learned from Sally Cunningham, my Master Gardener teacher and gardening guru: keep the front of the border as perfect as possible when you don’t have the time to clean up the whole garden bed. People will automatically think the entire bed is perfect. It works.

I look forward to sharing with you next month, and to hearing about your moments in the garden. FY Carol Ann Harlos is an awardwinning retired math and science teacher, Master Gardener, beekeeper, writer, and speaker. She tends extensive gardens, including herbs, and loves learning from others and sharing her knowledge. Send gardening questions and comments to caharlos@verizon.net.

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haila Kokil infuses everything she does with enthusiasm and heart. As a teacher and volunteer, she is constantly seeking ways to bridge cultural, generational, and linguistic gaps, and give back to her community. preschoolers with disabilities and experiences. Her passion for helping Kokil is a special education teacher helps prepare them for subsequent children is clear. “I work for the kids,” with Empower Children’s Academy, she says. “When I see a family or child a program that offers classes for schooling through integrated learning achieving their goals, I really like that part of my job.”

When not working with Empower, North Tonawanda resident Kokil volunteers her time to the Hindu Cultural Society (HCS) of Western New York, an organization that provides cultural, social, and educational activities and opportunities consistent with Hindu practice. With the help of HCS, Kokil created a youth summer camp designed to cultivate friendships, foster community teamwork, and allow teenagers to step into leadership roles as counselors.

Backed by HCS, Kokil has also organized and implemented art, sports, language, and educational programs and hosted events such as sports tournaments, magic shows, intergenerational art classes, and aquarium visits. With the help of the American Red Cross, she offered a community-wide CPR/First Aid class.

Kokil’s work is proof that people can achieve amazing things with an optimistic outlook and the right team behind them. For Kokil, that’s not only Empower and HCS, but her supportive family, including her daughter, son-in-law, two granddaughters, and husband, Pandurang. Kokil emphasizes the importance of letting one’s team know they’re appreciated; she points out, “Gratitude is the best attitude.”

Investment in youth engagement and commitment to community diversity are pillars of Kokil’s work. “When you give back to the community, and you have other people willing to help you—that’s what inspires me,” she says. Many are likely inspired by Kokil herself, and her belief that age shouldn’t hold anyone back.

“It’s really amazing that people can do special things in their sixties and beyond,” Kokil says. “Stay strong, be positive.” FY Buffalo 60 Strong is sponsored by Buffalo Medical Group, in conjunction with the launch of Senior Care Advantage ONE. Ashley Ziomek is a freelance writer living in Western New York.

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GENEALOGY Extreme Genes Scott Fisher’s extensive radio background is evident to listeners of his weekly podcast. A long-time morning show host, Fisher packs his shows with interviews and current genealogy news. Segments with “preservation authority” Tom Perry have taught me how to preserve my own family treasures. Find show transcripts and more at extremegenes.com.

Family Tree Podcast Lisa Louise Cooke also hosts Family Tree Magazine’s monthly podcast and interviews the magazine’s editors and experts about the best tips, tricks, and tools in genealogy today. Each episode has a theme, such as Irish ancestry, researching indentured servants, or how to handle difficult facts uncovered by DNA. Learn more at familytreemagazine.com.

These are a sampling of the many available offerings, not to mention several discontinued podcasts with information still relevant to today’s researchers. (A recent Google search for “genealogy podcasts” yielded more than forty results.) Plus, new podcasts are introduced all the time so you’re sure to find something of interest. Happy listening! FY

’ve always had a passion for learning. When I was a child, the library was a safe place to travel the world and learn more about any subject I chose. When I discovered audio books on cassette as a teen, I was able to read a hardcover in bed at night while listening to another title in the car during the day. While cassettes are bulky by today’s standards, I felt ahead of my time as I raced to change cassettes and continue my story before the light changed.

Detailed episode notes are available at The Genealogy Guys George G. Morgan and Drew lisalouisecooke.com.

Smith have been sharing genealogy Generations Café news, listener mail, book reviews, Amy Johnson Crow’s podcast covers and other related topics since 2005. I a wide variety of topics such as DNA, particularly enjoy their light-hearted military records, search strategies for interviews with genealogy’s biggest female ancestors, and preservation players. Each weekly episode is about twenty-five minutes and will interest techniques for photos and documents.

Each episode is ten to thirty minutes beginners as well as experts. Learn and full transcripts are available at more at genealogyguys.com.

CAROL DIPIRRO-STIPKOVITS amyjohnsoncrow.com.

Research Like a Pro Diane Elder and Nicole Dyer, a Audio books are still a favorite, but Maple Stars and Stripes Given my proximity to the border, I mother-daughter team of professional when podcasts launched in the early genealogists, share professional grade meet many people researching French2000s, I was an early subscriber. If Carol DiPirro-Stipkovits is a knowledge, advice, and best practices National Genealogical Society member, you’re unfamiliar with the concept, a Canadian ancestors, like me. On her show, Sandra Goodwin shares different to benefit any researcher. Each weekly Association of Professional Genealogists podcast is like an online radio show, episode is about thirty-five minutes. member as well as a guest lecturer record groups and repositories as well downloaded from a computer or as ways to navigate French records for Recent topics include case studies, and freelance writer. Carol is also a smartphone. When the genealogy bug those who don’t speak the language. DNA, and German research. For board member and President of the bit, podcasts were a convenient way to sharpen my skills during my morning Monthly episode notes are available at more information, visit familylocket. Niagara County Genealogical Society. com. maplestarsandstripes.com. commute. Now, working from home, Send questions or comments to her at I listen while pulling weeds or enjoying noellasdaughter@gmail.com a glass of wine on the porch.

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HOLY MOTHER OF THE ROSARY CATHEDRAL Fellowship Hall, 6298 Broadway, Lancaster 11:30 am..................................... 683-7527 FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 681-7251 AMERICAN LEGION POST 1041 533 Amherst St., Buffalo 7 p.m.......................................... 875-9276 AM. LEG. POST NO. 567 3740 N. Buffalo Rd., O. Park 7:30 p.m..................................... 662-9780 ST. AMELIA 2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda 7:15 p.m..................................... 836-0011

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VALLEY COMMUNITY ASSOCIATION 93 Leddy, Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 823-4707 MATTHEW GLAB POST 1965 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna 7:30 p.m.................................... 825-3733 HAMBURG–KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS 36 Pierce Ave., Hamburg 7:30 p.m.................649-9830/649-4340

TUESDAY AMVETS MEDALLION POST NO. 13 25 Review Pl., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 874-0559 ASSUMPTION PARISH 435 Amherst St., Buffalo 1 p.m.......................................... 876-1038

FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 1 p.m.......................................... 681-7251 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7:30 p.m..................................... 873-6716 OUR LADY OF POMPEII 129 Laverack, Lancaster 7 p.m.......................................... 683-6522 WHEATFIELD NO. 1451 6525 Ward Rd., Sanborn 7:25 p.m..................................... 731-4712 GEORGE F. LAMM POST 962 Wehrle Dr., Williamsville 7:30 p.m..................................... 204-2405 RESURRECTION BINGO 130 Como Park Blvd.

7 p.m.......................................... 683-3712 HARTLAND VFC 8945 Ridge Rd., Hartland 7:30 p.m.

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WEDNESDAY ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI 4263 St. Francis Dr., Athol Springs 7:30 p.m..................................... 627-2710 SHAWNEE VOL. FIRE COMPANY 3747 Lockport Rd., Sanborn 7:30 p.m. ................................... 731-3666 AM. LEG. MCKEEVER POST 1770 S. Park Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 822-6400 KENMORE K OF C 1530 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo 1 p.m.......................................... 875-5780 FATHER JUSTIN K OF C — SPONSORED BY THE JUSTINETTES 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 681-7251 FATHER BAKER K OF C at the Matthew Glab Post 1965 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna (on hiatus until 4/22) 825-3733 LANCASTER K OF C 6114 Broadway, Lancaster 11:45 a.m.................................... 684-2901 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 1 & 7 p.m................................... 549-4389 ST. ALOYSIUS RCC 156 Franklin, Springville 7:30 p.m..................................... 592-2701 ST. AMELIA 2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda 7:15 p.m..................................... 836-0011 ST. MICHAEL’S BINGO 140 Warsaw, Lackawanna 7:15 p.m..................................... 825-9415

THURSDAY FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 1 p.m...........................................681-7251 BLESSED TRINITY 317 Leroy Ave., Buffalo 8 p.m.......................................... 833-0301 ST. BERNARD’S CHURCH Clinton @ S. Ogden, Buffalo 7:30 p.m.....................................822-8856

PVT. LEONARD POST 2450 Walden Ave., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m.....................................684-4371 ST. JAMES DEPEW 500 Terrace Blvd., Depew 7:30 p.m..................................... 683-2746 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7:30 p.m..................................... 873-6716 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 7 p.m..........................................549-4389 FOURTEEN HOLY HELPERS 1345 Indian Church Rd., West Seneca 7:00 p.m......................................674-2374 K OF C MADONNA COUNCIL NO. 2535 755 Erie Ave., North Tonawanda 7:20 p.m..................................... 693-5470 VFW COL. WEBER POST 989 2909 South Park Ave., Lackawana 7:30 p.m..................................... 823-9605

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OUR LADY OF PERP. HELP 115 O’Connell St., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 852-2671 ST. PHILIP THE APOSTLE 950 Lossen Rd., Cheektowaga 7:00 p.m..................................... 668-8370

SATURDAY ST. AMELIA’S RCC 2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda 1 p.m.......................................... 836-0011 ASSUMPTION PARISH 435 Amherst St., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 876-1038 BLESSED TRINITY 317 Leroy Ave., Buffalo 8 p.m.......................................... 833-0301 CARINAL O'HARA HIGH SCHOOL 39 O'Hara Rd., Tonawanda 7:30 p.m..........................695-2600 x326 ST. JOHN XXIII 1 Arcade St., W. Seneca

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AM. LEG. MCKEEVER POST 1770 South Park Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m.................................... 822-6400 ASSUMPTION PARISH 435 Amherst St., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 876-1038 KENMORE K OF C 1530 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 875-5780 OUR LADY HELP OF CHRISTIANS 4125 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 634-3420 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 7 p.m......................................... 549-4389 ST. ALOYSIUS GONZAGA 157 Cleveland Dr., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 833-1715 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7:30 p.m..................................... 873-6716 DALE ASSOCIATION CENT. 33 Ontario St., Lockport 7 p.m.......................................... 433-1886 SANBORN VFC 5811 Buffalo St., Sanborn 7:45 p.m..................................... 731-4616 MILLGROVE VFC 11621 Genesee St., Alden 7:45 p.m..................................... 937-7612 GASPORT CHEMICAL HOSE 8412 State St., Gasport 7:30 p.m..................................... 772-7751

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CARDINAL O'HARA HIGH SCHOOL 39 O'Hara Rd., Tonawanda 1 p.m..695-2600 x326 OUR LADY OF THE SACRED HEART 3148 Abbott Rd., O. Park 2 p.m.......................................... 824-2935 KENMORE K OF C 1530 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo 7 p.m.......................................... 875-5780 ST. BERNARD’S CHURCH Clinton @ S. Ogden, Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 822-8856 OUR LADY HELP OF CHRISTIANS 4125 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7 p.m.......................................... 634-3420 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 1 & 7 p.m................................... 549-4389 DELEVAN VFC N. Main St., Delevan 7 p.m.......................................... 492-1910 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7 p.m.......................................... 873-6716 OUR LADY OF POMPEII 129 Laverack, Lancaster 7 p.m.......................................... 683-6522 LOCKPORT ELKS LODGE 41 6791 N. Canal Rd., Lockport 7 p.m.......................................... 434-2798 PVT. LEONARD POST 2450 Walden, Cheektowaga 7 p.m....................................... 684-43710

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Garden Walk Buffalo: then and now The growth of a city staple

BY ASHLEY ZIOMEK

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ll dressed up and no place to grow? Take that enthusiasm to America’s largest garden tour. For over twenty-five years, Garden Walk Buffalo, hosted by Gardens Buffalo Niagara, has been a popular attraction for tourists and locals. It makes a welcome return this month after a COVID year off.

Participants enjoying the Garden Walk in its earlier days

In the debut issue of Forever Young (July 2001), former editor Carrie Fascia covered the event, at the time in its seventh year. The tour had a special “Pan-Am flavor” that year, in honor of the centennial of the Pan-

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American Exposition (see Judith Rucki’s “Twenty years ago this month” on page 14); gardeners researched and planted flowers that would have been seen in 1901.

The 2001 article featured an

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interview with acting co-chair of Garden Walk Buffalo Arlan Peters, who remains active in the organization. He consented to another interview to reflect on Garden Walk Buffalo’s growth. “Our main goal is to encourage beautification of the area,” Peters shares. Funnily enough, Peters said this verbatim in 2001, which speaks to the consistency and priority of this ambition.

It started in 1995, when Peters’ neighbors Marvin Lunenfeld and Gail McCarthy attended an urban garden tour in Chicago and were inspired to test the concept in Buffalo. Upon their return, they hosted the first Garden Walk Buffalo meeting at their home on Norwood Avenue, which served as headquarters for the next five years.

Now, three headquarters stations are determined prior to each year’s event.

(In accordance with suggested safety guidelines, there will only be one headquarters this year).

“It started as a block club event with twenty-nine gardens and about one hundred visitors,” says Jim Charlier, former Garden Walk Buffalo president. Today, this largest event of its kind attracts an estimated 65,000 people from Rochester, Philadelphia, Toronto, and more. This free, selfguided tour has over 400 gardens to view in the city and more than 1,000 in the Buffalo-Niagara region. Although many gardens are on display yearround, the main event is held the last weekend in July.

In 2011, Garden Walk Buffalo legally became a corporation, allowing them to seek grants and sponsorships.

After Lunenfeld’s passing in 2012, Garden Walk Buffalo established the Marvin Lunenfeld Beautification Grant. Since 2005, over $100,000 has been given to help with garden restorations and structure addition, such as light fixtures and sculptures.

Eligibility requirements include a location within the tour’s footprint, visibility from the street, and participation in the tour. Garden Walk Buffalo also created Vibrant Beautification Grants, open to those outside the footprint; so far, $14,000 has been awarded.

Allentown joined the event in 2001, and soon after there was a brief halt on expansion to keep the tour manageable. The footprint for Garden Walk Buffalo now extends from the Peace Bridge to Main Street, and Canalside to Amherst Street. A free shuttle bus was added in 2008 to help spectators navigate the six square miles of gardens. “It’s gotten to be such a large event,” Charlier reflects. “There will be hold-ups at the border.”

The two-day event has had an estimated economic impact of over $4.5 million for Buffalo, stemming from meals, hotel stays, and associated cash flow.

Art, music, and food entities have shown interest in collaborating with Garden Walk Buffalo by adding music, art, or food, but the committee has chosen to maintain its founders’ vision of sole focus on gardens. The event itself relies heavily on dozens of volunteers and a year-round planning committee to organize the maps,

FEATURE garden entries, and beyond. According to Peters, the committee established early on they wanted to be a free, non-competitive event—no rankings, winners, or judges. Part of this mission stipulates gardeners are not permitted to sell during the event. Instead, they are encouraged to hydrate, lather the sunscreen, and engage with guests.

“All you have to do is be proud of your little spot of Earth,” says the committee’s letter to participating gardeners.

Charlier describes the Garden Walk impact as “Urban Greenewal,” explaining that home values have increased as participants and their neighbors, who want spectators to see Buffalo at its best, rush to clean streets, sidewalks, and yards. He shares, “Some realtors actually list houses as ‘Garden Walk houses.’

“It’s unique because there is no set location; it’s all open,” continues Charlier. Gardeners may enter their front, back, side, or porch gardens, and are told in their welcome letters,

“It’s the diversity that makes the event a success.”

“Together,” Peters sums up, “the gardeners, their gardens, and those who work to bring crowds of visitors to the gardens every year are the story of Garden Walk.” FY Garden Walk Buffalo 2021 will be held July 24 and 25 from 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Face coverings, physical distancing, and adherence to all Department of Health guidelines are required. Maps will be available online in PDF form or can be picked up at marked locations or Garden Walk headquarters during the days and hours of the event. (A new cell phone app is in the works for easier access and organization.)

Merchandise is also available to purchase online or at headquarters. Visit gardensbuffaloniagara.com/gardenwalk-buffalo for more information.

Ashley Ziomek is a freelance writer living in Western New York.

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Letters to my twenty-year-old self:

George Caldwell

Dear twenty-year-old George, Your life right now is the musical Hair in action—you’re marching in demonstrations with a big ’fro, beard, and mustache (untrimmed), totally committed to fighting for equality, civil rights, and against the war in Vietnam. In that way (save the hairstyle), we’re the same; I still believe people can unite against injustice and change things for the better.

You have deep-seated fears about people, yourself, and trying to live a just and righteous life here in America. I wish I could tell you that I’m no longer afraid, but while the fear won’t go away, its power over you will. Don’t let it stop you from doing what is right. Have patience in your efforts to bring about change; try to be an asset to your fellow folk.

One of the ways in which you’re an asset is your ability to create jazz music—it’s a gift and a responsibility. Being able to communicate on this level with other human spirits, regardless of language or culture, can give understanding, a strong sense of shared experience, beauty, and energy. It’s your responsibility as a musician to be honest, to leave no stone unturned in your search for expression, and to tirelessly sharpen your abilities so that you can bring this art form to life for the good of humanity. Music is the highest and most pure of the arts; it only exists for the time it’s being played, then it’s gone like a beautiful wind. Recordings are merely “snapshots” of the moment music is created, a ghost of the real event. Enjoy the moments while you’re in them. They only come once.

The music world will change tremendously in your lifetime; radio stations have become categorized to an extreme extent, according to the genre of music they play.

Not to mention the proliferation of “genres” of music—hard rock, soft rock, jazz rock, fusion, grunge, new wave, bar band, funk, heavy metal, house, punk, hiphop, reggae, disco, alternative, indie, world music techno, ska, progressive rock, K-pop, as well as combinations of these. Hard to keep them all straight, right?

Don’t worry; you’ve got time to figure it out.

And you will. You won’t believe some of the great artists you’ll be fortunate enough to work with, artists you right now are paying to hear and buying their latest recordings to go over with a fine-toothed comb. It will take time and you’ll worry you’re not good

enough but listen to your heart and inner spirit; they will guide you. Take every opportunity offered to you and don’t sabotage your success. (You’ll have to go through some painful experiences to really learn this one, but I promise you’ll be better for it.)

You’ll be surprised to hear that I’m writing this from Buffalo, New York (a long way from what you call home).

Maybe you won’t be surprised to learn that it’s because of a beautiful woman you’ll one day be lucky enough to call your wife. You’re playing games now, Grammy-winning jazz pianist sashaying around being committed, George Caldwell and dodging the issues, but when you Photo by Nancy J. Parisi meet this woman—not a girl, a grown woman! —be worthy of her love. This is a smart, soulful woman you will admire and respect, who knows her power and beauty, who has decided to take you into her heart and give you a home there. Do everything you can to deserve this gift and hold onto it. It’s scary, it will take work, and it won’t always be easy, but like all good things in life (making music included), the rewards exponentially outstrip the hardship.

And to reap those rewards, George, remember: Focus on doing the right thing and not making shortcuts or excuses. If you give your full attention and focus to an endeavor, you’ve worked for and gained something worth having. If it still crashes and burns, at least you did everything you could.

Be honest with yourself and others. (As our mentor used to say, “Follow your gut.”)

Keep your mind open to inspiration; you never know what might occur.

Don’t make assumptions and don’t take anything personally.

A mistake is a learning opportunity. If you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

Practice random acts of kindness. Help others—it’ll help you as much as them.

And of course, never stop making music.

Fondly,

George

P.S. I know it’s fun but cool it with the skinny dipping.

FY

George Caldwell is a Grammy award-winning jazz pianist, member of the George Caldwell Quintet and Star People (a Miles Davis repertory band), and a sub for the Count Basie Orchestra and Duke Ellington Orchestra. He resides in Buffalo with his wife.

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Letters to my twenty-year-old self:

Rhonda Frederick

Dear twenty-year-old Rhonda, I wonder what you’re wearing. If it’s anything with shoulder pads, it’s time to let it go. I know Mom has already sewn them into almost everything you own, but let’s be honest—like Dad says, you look like a linebacker. And I know I’d laugh at your hair if I could see it now.

Perhaps you’ve just finished working on a social work paper on a mainframe computer, making a weekly phone call home, or your internship shift at the Rochester Police Department’s Victim Assistance Program. Whatever you’re doing, I know you’re content in your organization and planning; you know what’s next. At least, you think you do.

In two years, when you graduate, you will begin working as a Direct Support Professional (DSP) in a group home for individuals with intellectual/ developmental disabilities (I/DD) with an agency called People Inc. You don’t know it yet, but this job will change your life.

You don’t have any experience in the field, but you’ll learn quickly. What you’ll learn fastest is how much you love working with people, making connections, and helping create an accepting society in which everyone can grow and thrive. You’ll also learn that you don’t have to be able to understand what someone is going through in order to help them, and in fact, sometimes you can’t. It’s okay to accept your limitations of understanding based on your experiences; it doesn’t mean you can’t make a world of difference.

It sounds cliché, but don’t sweat the small stuff. So much will happen in your life, and honestly, most of it is small. Don’t lose sleep over a grade, job, or boyfriend. Look to the future and know you’re ready to take on anything. The things that really matter—friends, family, making a difference—invest your energy there.

Don’t be afraid of your ideas; speak up. You will be surprised how others react. Don’t be afraid of your mistakes; they are your best lessons. Someday, you will be the one people look to for advice. Lead with kindness and confidence; people will listen.

I don’t want to spoil the surprise, but People Inc. isn’t a bad place to be. Stick around…you’ll never imagine what’s coming.

Remember, Rhonda: nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen. (I can’t take credit for that; it’s Conan O’Brien. But it’s true.)

And who knows? That amazing thing might just be your dream come true. FY

People Inc. president and CEO Rhonda Frederick Photo courtesy of People Inc.

Love,

Rhonda

Rhonda Frederick, a proud Buffalonian, is president and CEO of People Inc., a health and human services agency.

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Twenty years ago this month:

Centennial of the Pan-American Exposition

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

Bird's-eye view of the Pan-American exposition in Buffalo, May 1 to November 1, 1901; color lithograph, 1900

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n 1901, Buffalo was the place to be. As the eighth-largest city in the US at the time and well-connected to the railroad network, it earned its place as site of the first Pan-American Exposition, a World’s Fair that highlighted cultures and achievements of Western Hemisphere Nations.

The original Exposition included a Midway, educational exhibits, and demonstrations of technological advancements, including electricity,

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generated by the hydroelectric power of Niagara Falls. Unfortunately, the Exposition is often immediately associated with the assassination of

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President William McKinley, who was shot at the Temple of Music. Even so, the Exposition benefited Buffalo; it drew more than eight million visitors, many of whom decided to make roots here, and opened entrepreneurs’ eyes to the city’s potential.

Fast forward to 2001, centennial of the Pan-American Exposition.

Buffalo was much changed and, as a result of building demolition that began in 1902, the Buffalo and Erie County Historical Society, originally the New York State Pavilion, was the only remaining building from the first Exposition.

To celebrate the Pan-Am centennial, The Albright-Knox Art Gallery and the Buffalo and Erie County

Historical Society organized opening festivities. The Burchfield Penney Art Center hosted an exhibit called The Pan-American Exposition Centennial: Historic Collections/Hand in Hand: Aesthetics and Commerce at the 1901 Pan-American Exposition. Visit at burchfieldpenney.org to learn more.

The State University of New York at Buffalo offered a series of lectures, plus a two-day slate of activities from the original Exhibition midway. The UB Gallery at the Center for the Arts mounted the largest public exhibit of Pan-American memorabilia, titled, Tangible Memories: Souvenirs of Buffalo’s Pan-American Exposition. Read more at buffalo.edu/ubreporter/archive2011.

Former UB Dean of Arts and

FEATURE The Pan-American Exposition lives on through its collectors,” written by Darwin McPherson and published in the 2001 May/June issue of Buffalo Spree.

In the article, McPherson also wrote about Pan-Am collectors Charles Rand Penney and Fred Lavin. Penney is known for having one of the most extensive collections of Pan-Am memorabilia (including Evelyn Rumsey Cary’s “Spirit of Niagara” poster).

Lavin is acknowledged as a foremost expert on Pan-Am material, and possessor of an exceptional collection, encompassing items from “official” souvenirs to personal scrapbooks from the era. To read the Spree article in its entirety, go to buffalospree.com and search the archives for the 2001 May/ June issue. FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

A parade of African participants, some carrying boats, at the Pan-American midway parade in Buffalo; Frances Benjamin Johnston cyanotype ca. 1901

Sciences Kerry Grant developed an interest in the Pan-Am because of UB’s intent to participate in the centennial celebration. Grant developed one of

the leading collections of paper-based products related to the Pan-Am, which earned him a feature in an article entitled “To preserve and extend –

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The Holland Land Company acquired all of Western New York, including what is now Orchard Park, in 1797. By 1814, there were about twenty-five Quaker families in the area (among them, the surname Potter), who built a log meeting house that still stands today at 6924 E Quaker Street, making it the oldest house of worship in Western New York. The area was known as "Potters Corners" until the late 1800s, when it was replaced with "Orchard Park." FY

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Asparagus contains twentytwo vitamins and minerals such as Vitamins A, C, B-Complex, iodine, iron, calcium, sulfur, and potassium. It’s also high in folate, which helps control homocysteine levels and decrease risk of inflammation in atherosclerosis and heart disease. Folate is essential during pregnancy for prevention of SUBSIDIZED SENIOR APARTMENTS conditions such as Spina Bifida.

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from toxic compounds, immune support, and recycling vitamins C and E, which are important for eye health. (Lightly steaming asparagus before eating preserves most of the glutathione; the tips have the highest concentration.)

Asparagus puts the body in an alkalizing state, which reduces risk of chronic disease, and can also benefit those with existing health issues. The compound asparagusic acid makes the vegetable a natural diuretic and helpful for water retention and related conditions such as arthritis, PMS, and some cardiovascular diseases. The same compound causes a distinct odor in the urine of some consumers. (Yes, it’s a documented phenomenon, and no, it isn’t cause for concern.)

Asparagus further maintains proper digestive health by supplying the body with fiber and a special carbohydrate called inulin. This carb is indigestible, but readily consumed by friendly bacteria in the gut, who in turn keep harmful bacteria away.

Asparagus is often first to disappear off my vegetable platters.

My favorite method of preparation is to steam it for five minutes or less, drizzle with olive oil and fresh squeezed lemon, and top it off with a pinch of Celtic Sea salt.

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