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Managing financial differences

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Share the wealth

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Discover a new way to work out

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On the cover, bottom right: Foster grandparent Lynette Barney Photo by Elliott Cramer

Home & Garden 4

So much gardening, so little time........... Carol Ann Harlos

Let's Talk About 6

Managing our differences............................Judith A. Rucki

Features: Ways to Save 10 12 13 14

Sharing the wealth........................................Judith A. Rucki Saving money — there are apps for that...Matthew Biddle Home is where the savings are.........................Tara Erwin Five great ways to save.............................. Sabrina Kahwaty

Buffalo 60 Strong 15 Lynette Barney................................................Ashley Ziomek

Genealogy 16 Military records............................... Carol DiPirro-Stipkovits

Being Well 18 Weight loss in virtual reality...for real?....... Catherine Stack

Help your garden reach its fullest potential

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Even as we enjoy May, we anticipate a summer of not only enjoying warmer weather but also reuniting with vaccinated loved ones and returning to favorite restaurants and activities.

Most of us are ready to get out of the house but have you considered the financial impact of returning to life as we knew it? For the past year, we’ve likely been spending less on gas, dining out, entertainment, vacations, and other expenses that creep up on us when we’re living our usual lives.

How can we enjoy the things we’ve missed (and support local businesses) without breaking the bank?

Forever Young is here for you! In this month’s issue, we explore ways to save that can leave you with that extra buck to spend or save.

Navigating finances in your relationships can be tricky; Judith Rucki explores ways to manage our differences and shares tips on how to save by sharing the wealth. Check out Tara Erwin’s ideas for saving at home and Matt Biddle’s guide to saving with your smartphone.

(Don’t be intimidated; every app he highlights is user-friendly.) In this month’s Being Well, Catherine Stack explores the new fitness trend of virtual reality, a great way to save on a gym membership.

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FOREVER YOUNG *MAY RESOURCES *PLEASE CONTACT EVENT/PROGRAM ORGANIZERS TO CONFIRM INFORMATION PROVIDED Do you have an event or resource to list? Email it to skahwaty@buffalospree.com Buffalo MEDITATION El Buen Amigo, 114 Elmwood Ave. Free every Sunday at 2:30 p.m.

Meditation unites with creative arts and pain management. Practitioner Sondra Holland welcomes people of all ages. Wear comfortable clothes. For information, Sondra: 947-5092; store: 885-6343 Online LAUGHTER WELLNESS Come as you are, just bring your laughter! Tuesdays at 2 p.m. Brighton FREE. Visit www.facebook.com/ Buffalo-Laughers for information.

Online ELDER LAW SESSIONS Erie County Department of Senior Services presents free online Webex seminars about legal issue affecting seniors Wednesdays at 10 a.m. www2.erie. gov/seniorservices/index.php?q=elderlaw-sessions Gowanda HEALTHY COMMUNITY ALLIANCE Activities open to the public age 50+, (no residency requirements), Concord Senior Center, 1 School Street, Gowanda; for schedule, visit communityalliance.org; 532-1010 Niagara Falls SENIOR C O M PA N I O N / F O S T E R GRANDPARENT PROGRAM Looking for seniors who enjoy working with their peers or children.

Volunteers receive a tax-free stipend, transportation assistance, and supplemental insurance coverage while volunteering. If you are 55+ and want

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HOME & GARDEN

So much gardening, so little time

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f you’re like me, you’ve lamented the fact that there aren’t enough hours in a day to spend in the garden. Gardening offers so many joys: watching plants grow and seasons change, harvesting herbs and vegetables, tending flowers, getting exercise, enjoying the fresh air… I never run out of things to do!

I dream of the “perfect” garden yet am quick to point out to others that many of gardening’s greatest pleasures are its surprises: glory-of-the-snow and crocuses appearing in new places, a big leaf hydrangea’s first flowering, volunteer verbena bonariensis, monarch butterflies on milkweed and swallow tail larvae on fennel, mason bees emerging from dried hollow stems near the front door. After all, if my garden were perfect, it would be predictable, Do you have glare from headlights? Difficulty and what fun would that be? seeing while driving in the dark or rain?

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on the type), they’ve finished blooming and may be looking ratty. Cut off the tulips’ stalks so energy is put into next year’s bulbs rather than into seed-making. I usually follow suit for daffodils, but recently read in a gardening magazine that these flowers seldom form seeds and don’t encourage insect-aided pollination. (I’m not entirely convinced; I’ve seen native bees inside of the flowers.) Whatever you decide, be sure to allow leaves to continue growing so you can enjoy your spring bulbs again next year.

If you have hardy mums or chrysanthemums, good for you! Pinch out the growing tips when the side branches are about six inches long.

Pinching back mums makes the plants compact, or less likely to “open up,” and look unkempt. (But stop pinching in mid-July, or you’ll get no flowers this year.)

If you’re setting up hanging baskets, pots, or flower boxes, keep them wellwatered; baskets of wilted, perishing plants make me so sad. Plants with dead roots can’t take up water, and while you can purchase water absorbent varieties, I prefer watering and occasional fertilization.

May is also the time for rhubarb pie and jam. (Yum!) A reader asked why we twist off the rhubarb stalks rather than cut the stems. Watch what happens when you twist: the stalk separates from the parent plant near the roots, causing a hormonal response that instructs the plant to grow a new stalk. This makes for a stronger plant and more rhubarb for us.

The month of May is full of unexpected gardening delights. Upon

returning home the other day, I spotted a creature in the front garden. I took a picture to share with you. Can you find it?

I love hearing from you: caharlos@ verizon.net FY Carol Ann Harlos is an awardwinning retired math and science teacher, Master Gardener, beekeeper, writer, and speaker. She tends extensive gardens, including herbs, and loves learning from others and sharing her knowledge.

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LET’S TALK ABOUT...

Managing our differences

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

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his past year has been exceedingly difficult, fraught with issues unlike any with which we've ever dealt. Being cooped up with loved ones day in and day out can try the best of relationships. (Cue the old saying, “I have one nerve left, and you’re on it.”) It doesn’t get easier if we hold wildly different opinions on the rapidly changing world around us.

Amidst the ongoing vaccination effort, we may find that friends and family aren’t taking COVID-19 seriously anymore. (Some never did.) When talking to loved ones, try to reserve judgment. Tactfully voice your concern and desire for everyone to know the facts. We are each responsible for own actions and should understand the consequences.

Social distancing is hard.

Acknowledge this while being realistic about what can and can’t be done safely. Sometimes boundaries are necessary, even when they

mean keeping children away from grandparents. In the end, you choose the level of interaction with which you’re most comfortable, and you’ll probably be glad that you maintained the relationship in spite of these tough conversations.

Perhaps some of the biggest challenges facing couples and families in the past year have been financial. Stimulus checks, while undoubtedly helpful, can be a source of contention. While some families are desperate for the extra cash, others see the money as a windfall.

If one partner is a tightwad, and the other a spendthrift, there’s bound to be disagreement over best use of additional funds.

Now may be the time to discuss a spending and saving strategy, not only for unexpected income like stimulus checks, but for cooperatively managing future spending. Consider these ideas for navigating financial differences.

Hear each other out. Money is a sensitive subject. It can be hard to slow down and listen, but it’s worth attempting. Both parties have reasons for their desired spending and being informed can lead to greater understanding.

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LET’S TALK ABOUT... card minimum payment, agree to put the money toward these costs. You’ll feel better knowing they’re taken care of, and likely able to relax a little about where the remaining or future funds are going.

Consider an emergency fund.

Experts say to set aside three to six months’ worth of living expenses.

See if you and your partner can agree to put a portion of income toward reaching an emergency fund’s target amount.

Split the difference. Depending on your circumstances, saving half the money and using the other half toward a purchase to improve quality of life may be a workable strategy. (A home gym might be a better choice than a bigger TV.) Plan and prioritize. You might want to make a home improvement or spruce up your garden but check to see if money is needed elsewhere first. Keep a list of financial priorities and desires

for later consultation. Know where the money is going before it simply disappears.

Pay it forward. For those lucky enough to not need the extra cash, paying it forward is a great option.

Is there is a relative or friend who could use a boost? Do you have a favorite charity that would benefit from a donation? Consider where extra dollars will make the most impact.

Things have a way of working themselves out. With time and effort, you and your loved ones can survive and come out with a stronger understanding of how to manage your differences, whatever they are. FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

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Bingo Calendar

Bingo Calendar All Bingo is likely canceled due to the COVID-19 pandemic. This calendar serves as a placeholder.

MONDAY AMERICAN LEGION #1322 STEPHEN SIKORA POST 950 Payne Ave., Nort Tonawanda 7:25 p.m..................................... 693-1740 CONGREGATION SHIR SHALOM 4660 Sheridan Dr., Williamsville 7:30 p.m..................................... 633-8877 AMERICAN LEGION MCKEEVER POST 1770 South Park Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 822-6400

HOLY MOTHER OF THE ROSARY CATHEDRAL Fellowship Hall, 6298 Broadway, Lancaster 11:30 am..................................... 683-7527 FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 681-7251 AMERICAN LEGION POST 1041 533 Amherst St., Buffalo 7 p.m.......................................... 875-9276 AM. LEG. POST NO. 567 3740 N. Buffalo Rd., O. Park 7:30 p.m..................................... 662-9780 ST. AMELIA 2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda 7:15 p.m..................................... 836-0011

SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 7 p.m.......................................... 549-4389 DOWNTOWN POST NO. 64 A.L. INC. 1770 South Park Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m.

VALLEY COMMUNITY ASSOCIATION 93 Leddy, Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 823-4707 MATTHEW GLAB POST 1965 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna 7:30 p.m.................................... 825-3733 HAMBURG–KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS 36 Pierce Ave., Hamburg 7:30 p.m.................649-9830/649-4340

TUESDAY AMVETS MEDALLION POST NO. 13 25 Review Pl., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 874-0559 ASSUMPTION PARISH 435 Amherst St., Buffalo 1 p.m.......................................... 876-1038

FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 1 p.m.......................................... 681-7251 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7:30 p.m..................................... 873-6716 OUR LADY OF POMPEII 129 Laverack, Lancaster 7 p.m.......................................... 683-6522 WHEATFIELD NO. 1451 6525 Ward Rd., Sanborn 7:25 p.m..................................... 731-4712 GEORGE F. LAMM POST 962 Wehrle Dr., Williamsville 7:30 p.m..................................... 204-2405 RESURRECTION BINGO 130 Como Park Blvd.

7 p.m.......................................... 683-3712 HARTLAND VFC 8945 Ridge Rd., Hartland 7:30 p.m.

ARMOR VOL. FIRE CO. 4932 Clark St., Hamburg 7:30 p.m..................................... 649-9821 ST. ANDREW CHURCH 111 Crocker St., Sloan 7:30 p.m..................................... 892-0425

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Bingo Calendar SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 7 p.m.......................................... 549-4389 B.O.Y.S. ASSOCIATION OF LACKAWANNA VFW, 2909 South Park St., Lackawanna 7:20 p.m..................................... 948-0316

WEDNESDAY ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI 4263 St. Francis Dr., Athol Springs 7:30 p.m..................................... 627-2710 SHAWNEE VOL. FIRE COMPANY 3747 Lockport Rd., Sanborn 7:30 p.m. ................................... 731-3666 AM. LEG. MCKEEVER POST 1770 S. Park Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 822-6400 KENMORE K OF C 1530 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo 1 p.m.......................................... 875-5780 FATHER JUSTIN K OF C — SPONSORED BY THE JUSTINETTES 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 681-7251 FATHER BAKER K OF C at the Matthew Glab Post 1965 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna (on hiatus until 4/22) 825-3733 LANCASTER K OF C 6114 Broadway, Lancaster 11:45 a.m.................................... 684-2901 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 1 & 7 p.m................................... 549-4389 ST. ALOYSIUS RCC 156 Franklin, Springville 7:30 p.m..................................... 592-2701 ST. AMELIA 2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda 7:15 p.m..................................... 836-0011 ST. MICHAEL’S BINGO 140 Warsaw, Lackawanna 7:15 p.m..................................... 825-9415

THURSDAY FATHER JUSTIN K OF C 2735 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 1 p.m...........................................681-7251 BLESSED TRINITY 317 Leroy Ave., Buffalo 8 p.m.......................................... 833-0301 ST. BERNARD’S CHURCH Clinton @ S. Ogden, Buffalo 7:30 p.m.....................................822-8856

PVT. LEONARD POST 2450 Walden Ave., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m.....................................684-4371 ST. JAMES DEPEW 500 Terrace Blvd., Depew 7:30 p.m..................................... 683-2746 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7:30 p.m..................................... 873-6716 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 7 p.m..........................................549-4389 FOURTEEN HOLY HELPERS 1345 Indian Church Rd., West Seneca 7:00 p.m......................................674-2374 K OF C MADONNA COUNCIL NO. 2535 755 Erie Ave., North Tonawanda 7:20 p.m..................................... 693-5470 VFW COL. WEBER POST 989 2909 South Park Ave., Lackawana 7:30 p.m..................................... 823-9605

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SUNDAY

OUR LADY OF PERP. HELP 115 O’Connell St., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 852-2671 ST. PHILIP THE APOSTLE 950 Lossen Rd., Cheektowaga 7:00 p.m..................................... 668-8370

SATURDAY ST. AMELIA’S RCC 2999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda 1 p.m.......................................... 836-0011 ASSUMPTION PARISH 435 Amherst St., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 876-1038 BLESSED TRINITY 317 Leroy Ave., Buffalo 8 p.m.......................................... 833-0301 CARINAL O'HARA HIGH SCHOOL 39 O'Hara Rd., Tonawanda 7:30 p.m..........................695-2600 x326 ST. JOHN XXIII 1 Arcade St., W. Seneca

FRIDAY

7 p.m.......................................... 823-1090

AM. LEG. MCKEEVER POST 1770 South Park Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m.................................... 822-6400 ASSUMPTION PARISH 435 Amherst St., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 876-1038 KENMORE K OF C 1530 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 875-5780 OUR LADY HELP OF CHRISTIANS 4125 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 634-3420 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 7 p.m......................................... 549-4389 ST. ALOYSIUS GONZAGA 157 Cleveland Dr., Cheektowaga 7:30 p.m..................................... 833-1715 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7:30 p.m..................................... 873-6716 DALE ASSOCIATION CENT. 33 Ontario St., Lockport 7 p.m.......................................... 433-1886 SANBORN VFC 5811 Buffalo St., Sanborn 7:45 p.m..................................... 731-4616 MILLGROVE VFC 11621 Genesee St., Alden 7:45 p.m..................................... 937-7612 GASPORT CHEMICAL HOSE 8412 State St., Gasport 7:30 p.m..................................... 772-7751

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INFANT OF PRAGUE 7:15 p.m..................................... 634-3660 ST. ALOYSIUS GONZAGA 157 Cleveland Dr., Cheektowaga 1 p.m.......................................... 833-1715 OUR LADY OF POMPEII 129 Laverack, Lancaster 7 p.m. (1st Sat.)......................... 683-6522 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 1 & 7 p.m................................... 549-4389 ST. ANDREW CHURCH 111 Crocker St., Sloan 7:30 p.m..................................... 892-0425 PALLOTTINE FATHERS 3452 N. Falls Blvd., Wheatfield 7 p.m.......................................... 694-4313 SOUTH WILSON VFC 4193 Chestnut Rd., Wilson 7:30 p.m..................................... 751-6079 CORPUS CHRISTI CHURCH 199 Clark St., Buffalo 2 p.m.......................................... 896-1050 OUR LADY OF BISTRICA 1619 Abbott Rd., Lackawanna 7:15 p.m..................................... 822-0818 BUFFALO GAY BINGO/ AIDS PLUS FUND OF WNY Westminster Church, 724 Delaware Ave., Buffalo

CARDINAL O'HARA HIGH SCHOOL 39 O'Hara Rd., Tonawanda 1 p.m..695-2600 x326 OUR LADY OF THE SACRED HEART 3148 Abbott Rd., O. Park 2 p.m.......................................... 824-2935 KENMORE K OF C 1530 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo 7 p.m.......................................... 875-5780 ST. BERNARD’S CHURCH Clinton @ S. Ogden, Buffalo 7:30 p.m..................................... 822-8856 OUR LADY HELP OF CHRISTIANS 4125 Union Rd., Cheektowaga 7 p.m.......................................... 634-3420 SENECA GAMING AND ENTERTAINMENT 11099 Route 5, Irving 1 & 7 p.m................................... 549-4389 DELEVAN VFC N. Main St., Delevan 7 p.m.......................................... 492-1910 ST. ANDREW’S CHURCH 1525 Sheridan Dr., Kenmore 7 p.m.......................................... 873-6716 OUR LADY OF POMPEII 129 Laverack, Lancaster 7 p.m.......................................... 683-6522 LOCKPORT ELKS LODGE 41 6791 N. Canal Rd., Lockport 7 p.m.......................................... 434-2798 PVT. LEONARD POST 2450 Walden, Cheektowaga 7 p.m....................................... 684-43710

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FEATURE

Potluck celebrations are a frugal alternative to costly catering.

Sharing the wealth

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

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t’s not news that times have been tough. Anyone who had their hours cut, was laid off, or forced to close a business likely found that some belt tightening was—and may still be—in order. Pandemic aside, we can all benefit from periodic re-evaluation of our spending habits. While skipping elaborate coffee drinks and finding a new outfit in your closet instead of a store can help, there are ways to fulfill our wants and needs through the art of sharing. and paint. Consider who in your showed up empty-handed. There’s For some, frugality comes circle might be willing or able no reason to spring for catering if naturally. It’s second nature to to help with tasks for which you pitch in to help family and friends, everyone is willing to contribute. would otherwise hire help. Offer exchange labor and talent, or look When it’s safe to gather, apply this non-monetary compensation like for a deal while pinching a few attitude to your next get-together. a home-cooked meal to enjoy Whenever one of my relatives pennies. I can hardly recall a party together when the work is done. from childhood that didn’t turn into purchased a home, family members Family members and friends are descended upon it to clean, paper, some form of a potluck—no one

often blessed with different talents; someone with strong sewing skills might be willing to make alterations in exchange for a few piano lessons.

Use your imagination.

If you have friends with similar wants and tastes, look for stores and websites running buy-one, get-one offers. BOGO with a buddy; you each pay for one item and both go home with something new.

And thanks to websites and apps like PayPal and its newer addition Venmo, paying each other back has never been easier.

This same idea works for magazine subscriptions—each friend or family member purchases one subscription, then everyone exchanges. When the group is done, plan on sharing the wealth with a local nursing home or other organization that would welcome reading material. While temptation may run high, it’s not a great idea to borrow a neighbor’s newspaper, read it, then sneak it back on their porch. (That’s pilfering, not sharing.)

Or how about choosing to buy nothing? That might sound extreme, but hear me out. “Buy nothing” has two meanings here. If you’re thinking about a purchase, take both physical and emotional inventory: is it really a necessity or can you choose to buy nothing? If the former, ask for it in your local Buy Nothing group.

Operated through Facebook, Buy Nothing can come up with almost anything you’re looking to get your hands on. According to their

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FEATURE website, “THE BUY NOTHING PROJECT is an international network of local gift economy Buy Nothing groups. This movement is supported by freely-offered training, volunteer mentors, and a library of public copyright resources available to everyone around the world.” Members can give any legal gift, item or service. Gifts are given freely; bartering and trading are prohibited. Everyone participates at their own risk and makes their own choices on how, what, and to whom to give. Lending is also allowed. Learn more at https:// www.buynothinggroup.org and check the sidebar for a listing of groups near you.

Of course, some experiences are worth the expense, and after a year at home, many are itching to get away. The next time you’re vacation planning, consider hotel alternatives that will save you money. AirBnB offers a variety of stays from private rooms to entire houses. Their app

and website (www.airbnb.com) allow you to filter your search, including setting a maximum price. Take it a step further—try exchanging houses with someone from your desired destination. Sites like www.homeexchange.com or the www.vacationexchange.com allow you to stay in someone else’s home while they stay in yours (or take advantage of the points and other comparable options if either party isn’t interested in a direct exchange). If it’s true that the best way to experience a place is to live in it, you’ll be getting a bang for your buck in more ways than one.

Any combination of these tips can add up and make a big difference. You never know—you may save enough to afford a splurge on a two-for-one dinner special! FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

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BY MATTHEW BIDDLE You’ll find Buy Nothing groups in nearly every Western New York community as well as others around the country and across the globe. To find one, visit buynothingproject.org/find-a-group or simply search “Buy Nothing” along with your neighborhood or town on Facebook.

For frequent travelers, the Buy Nothing Travelers’ Network, also on Facebook, is a worldwide gift economy where members can connect with others in cities they’re visiting to borrow items while in town or gift things they can’t take home.

At press time, the following Buy Nothing groups were active in our region: Alden Amherst: four groups based on neighborhood—Campbell/ Crosspoint, Eggertsville/Snyder, and two in Williamsville Batavia: two groups—East and West Buffalo: five groups—Black Rock, Elmwood Village, North Buffalo/North Park, South Buffalo, and West Side/ Allentown Cheektowaga, Depew, and West Seneca Clarence East Aurora, Elma, Marilla, Wales, and Holland Grand Island Hamburg

Lancaster Lewiston Lockport, Pendleton, Sanborn, and Wheatfield Niagara Falls/LaSalle Orchard Park Springville, Arcade, and Gowanda Tonawanda: three groups— Kenmore/Tonawanda (south), Amherst (West)/ Tonawanda (Central), and City of Tonawanda/North Tonawanda Matthew Biddle is a Tonawanda-based writer and frequent contributor to Buffalo Spree and Forever Young.

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Saving money— there are apps for that

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hether I’m shopping for groceries or gifts—or just filling up my gas tank—my smartphone is never far. It’s how I check prices and availability and find deals and rebates. Here are a few apps for iPhones or Android devices that can help you, too.

Find sales. A key part of many shopping routines is browsing ads in the Sunday paper—but now, thanks to Flipp, you can do that anytime, for almost any major store.

As you scroll through the circulars, tap to add items to your shopping list and compare promotions across stores. Within the app, you can link your loyalty cards to stores like CVS and Rite Aid and add digital coupons for items on your list to those accounts.

Plan ahead, or order curbside.

These days, most chains have their own apps, and using them can make your trip more efficient. On the Wegmans app, for example, you can create shopping lists that are automatically categorized by aisle.

Looking for your favorite brands?

The app stores items you buy often for easy list-building, and you can view past receipts to find products you loved.

Target’s app links to your

“wallet,” allowing you to store gift cards digitally rather than fumble through your actual wallet, as well as to Target Circle (formerly Cartwheel), which includes dozens of money-saving offers and gives rewards for every dollar you spend.

Thanks to the pandemic, most major retailers, including Target, make ordering for in-store or curbside pickup simple on their apps.

Stop clipping and start scanning. While I still carry paper coupons occasionally, you’re more likely to find me scanning receipts to get money back through rebate apps. With Ibotta, you can claim offers on brand-name and generic products, and then redeem them by snapping a photo of your receipt or linking your loyalty cards. In some cases, you can even combine print coupons or store deals with app savings for a bigger bonus.

Pay less at the pump. One of

the first gas apps continues to be among the best: Gas Buddy, which will show you the lowest price for gas near you or along your route, making it especially useful on road trips.

AAA members can check gas prices on the recently updated AAA Mobile app, as well as book travel, access member deals on attractions, and request roadside assistance.

Over on Checkout 51 (in addition to grocery rebates), you can save on gasoline. Use the GPSbased map to find a participating station nearby, and you’ll get back anywhere from five to fifteen cents a gallon by saving the offer and sharing your receipt.

Do a final check. Before cashing out at clothing, electronic, and other non-grocery stores, be sure you’re getting the best price. First, scan products using a barcode reader app or your phone’s camera to search for lower prices

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online. Many retailers—including Best Buy, Target, Home Depot, Lowe’s, and OfficeMax—will match a competitor’s lower price; occasionally, an item may even be cheaper on the store’s own website, but they should match it if you ask.

And, of course, look for coupons!

RetailMeNot is my go-to, as the app has an impressive database of codes and coupons categorized by online or in-store deals.

Cash in your receipt. Whether you bought a single item or have an armful of bags, your receipts can earn you a few cents back. Simply snap a photo of each one on the app Receipt Hog, and it will reward you in coins that can be redeemed for cash or an Amazon gift card.

(The receipts, in turn, are used for market research.) FY Matthew Biddle is a Tonawandabased writer and frequent contributor to Buffalo Spree and Forever Young.

FEATURE Savings in your closet Chances are good that your work wardrobe has been collecting dust for the past year. Go through your closet and weed out clothes you can’t see yourself wearing again. Turn your unwanted items into cash by listing them for sale online, taking them to a consignment shop, or holding a yard sale. Need new items to supplement your work-at-home status? The same suggestions apply.

Home is where the savings are

BY TARA ERWIN

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hen it comes to saving big bucks, it’s all about the little things. Where better to start than at home, where we’ve spent so much time the past year? Here’s a room by room breakdown of how to do more with less.

Savings in the kitchen Dishwasher. You can actually save on energy and water costs by using your dishwasher instead of handwashing dishes—just make sure you run a full load. Keep in mind you don’t have to pre-rinse the dishes clean before loading (sorry, Mom); modern detergents are designed to cling to food particles in order to clean effectively.

Coffee maker. Indulging a weekly Starbucks habit at a modest $4 per visit adds up to $200 a year. Save major moolah by brewing your cup of joe at home and pouring it into a reusable thermal container for sipping on the go. Your java will stay hotter longer, and you needn’t worry about having your name misspelled on the label.

Under the sink. Imagine if you could replace all of your store-bought cleaners with a single product that is both cheaper and kinder to the environment. That’s the power of white vinegar. Fill a spray bottle with two parts vinegar to one part water and voila! You have an all-purpose cleaner perfect for floors, windows, countertops, faucets, and even tubs, showers, and toilets thanks to its sanitizing qualities.

Savings in the basement Washing Machine. According to General Electric, most clothes can be safely washed in cold water, which can

save on energy costs. What’s more, cold water washes may stop certain stains like blood and sweat from setting and make clothes less apt to shrink and fade. Thanks to science once again, most detergents today are designed to work in water as cold as sixty degrees (and if you’re in doubt, there are some brands with formulas specifically for cold water washing).

And that fancy fabric softener you’re using? White vinegar to the rescue again. Put half a cup in the fabric softener compartment for soft, freshsmelling laundry (don’t worry; the vinegar odor doesn’t stick).

Dryer. Is your dryer taking f-o-re-v-e-r to complete a cycle? Clean the lint trap after every use, and the dryer vent pipe twice a year. Not only is built up lint a serious fire hazard, but it can

cause your machine to run sluggishly, resulting in higher energy costs. And to really go green (and save lots of green), forgo the dryer altogether and install a clothesline both indoors and out.

Hot water tank. Both the Department of Energy and the Consumer Product Safety Commission recommend setting residential hot water tanks to 120 degrees. If you’re unsure of how to check or set the temperature, consult the owner’s manual or call the manufacturer’s customer service line for help. When it’s time to replace the hot water tank (every ten to fifteen years), consider going tankless. It’s a higher cost up front, but you’ll save energy (and money) in the long run since you won’t be paying to heat water you’re not using.

Savings in the home office Shave down on miscellaneous homekeeping costs. Enroll in automatic payments with your utility, insurance, and credit card bills to save on buying new checks and stamps. Call your cable/ internet provider, insurance, and credit card companies and try to negotiate better terms. Maybe you’ve passed a milestone birthday, gone a certain number of years without an accident, there’s a special promotion running, or bundling discounts are available. You won’t know until you ask.

Savings all over Are you using energy efficient light bulbs? Do you have a programmable thermostat? Are you unplugging items when not in use? Are your doors drafty?

Money may literally be going out the window if you’re paying to heat and cool a house that’s not energy efficient.

Visit the New York State Energy Research and Development Authority at https://www.nyserda.ny.gov for a list of programs designed to help homeowners at all income levels. FY Tara Erwin lives and writes in Western New York.

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here are no hard and fast rules for senior discounts; eligibility can vary by age, AARP status, and location (even for national chains). It’s best practice to ask if a discount exists, ask if it can be combined with other offers—coupons, sales, etc.—and compare to ensure you’re getting the best deal. Here are five places to start.

Travel. As we look ahead to Mayor Byron Brown’s Senior Markets in WNY hosts Young at much-anticipated getaways, it’s worth Discount Card. Saving while Heart day the first Tuesday of each supporting local businesses—what month, offering a six percent discount noting that American, Continental, could be better? Buffalo seniors aged to ages sixty-plus. Enroll at the service Southwest, and United Airlines sometimes offer discounted rates to fifty and up are eligible for a discount desk. card good at hundreds of participating Restaurants. Restaurants are one of travelers ages sixty-five and up. Ask by Discounts don’t apply to every package businesses. To receive yours, download the most popular places to find senior phone when booking. Additionally, or cabin, so ask questions to ensure the and fill out the application at http:// discounts. Chains like Applebee’s, Amtrak and Greyhound both offer best rate. www.buffalony.gov/399/SeniorArby’s, Bonefish Grill, Burger King, discounts to travelers over age sixty-two National parks. Park-goers ages (ten and five percent off respectively).

Discount-Card-Program and return it Carabba’s, Chili’s, Dairy Queen, sixty-two and older can buy a lifetime to the mayor’s office by mail or fax in Denny’s, Friendly’s, IHOP, KFC, Royal Caribbean and Carnival cruise America the Beautiful pass for $80, about a week. For more information, McDonald’s, Outback Steakhouse, lines offer discounts to passengers good for free visitation of any national ages fifty-five and up. (In fact, Royal park. FY contact Division for Senior Services at Ponderosa Steakhouse, and Wendy’s Caribbean just expanded its discounts 716-851-4141or visit www.buffalony. offer senior discounts, but they can gov. vary by location so if it’s a dealbreaker, for fall 2021.) Often, additional guests Sabrina Kahwaty is editor of Forever in the same cabin can share the rate. Young. check before you go.

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Barney has now been volunteering as a foster grandparent six years, working with children ages ten to twelve. “I like a challenge, and as long as I’m having that challenge, I’m doing pretty good,” says Barney.

This role certainly provides one; her primary duty is helping break down communication barriers between teachers and students. One of her favorite strategies is taking children for walks to allow them to express and better understand their emotions. This simple act of making the children feel heard decreases instances of acting out.

Barney believes her volunteer experience has helped give her

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ilitary service can be an important part of family history. My father and six uncles volunteered to serve in World War II (all returned safely), and I now recognize a missed opportunity to obtain firsthand accounts from this era. My dad was of the generation that didn’t say much, even when prodded, but I wish I’d tried.

Instead, it’s research that’s gifted me a glimpse into my dad’s life at seventeen. Among other things, I learned he was a Gunner’s Mate on Ship LST-265 assigned to the European Theater and involved in the invasion of Southern France in 1944.

(And yes, I even found a photo!)

Many have ancestors who served in or were dramatically impacted by wars, such as WWII Japanese internment victims or post-Civil

War freedmen. Whatever your family history, there are many free online resources available for your research.

National Archives and Records Administration (NARA) aad.archives.gov/aad/index.jsp NARA is a great place to start your search for military records. Databases such as the WWII Japanese American Internment and Relocation Records are also available.

Family Search familysearch.org/wiki/en/United_ States_Military_Online_Genealogy_ Records Family Search has a collection of U.S. military databases including pensions, draft registrations, and roster lists. Check out their Wiki page for an index of links to available record collections.

The National Park Service https://www.nps.gov/civilwar/soldiersand-sailors-database.htm This site provides an index of more than six million records (including name, rank, and unit) of those who fought during the Civil War. It also contains regiment histories and selected prisoner-of-war records.

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GENEALOGY The International Committee of the Red Cross (ICRC) grandguerre.icrc.org ICRC maintains a database of more than ten million records of servicemen and civilians captured and sent to detention camps during World War I.

Pete, Dominic, and Nick Rosso all served in WWII. Photo courtesy of Carol DiPirro-Stipkovits

Freedmen’s Bureau Records http://www.discoverfreedmen.org The Freedmen’s Bureau was organized near the end of the Civil War to aid those recently freed from slavery.

Many details were collected, resulting in millions of available records.

National Gravesite Locator gravelocator.cem.va.gov The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs hosts a massive collection of burial information for veterans and their families. Records also provide rank and dates of birth and death.

Daughters of the American Revolution and Sons of the American Revolution services.dar.org and sarpatriots.sar.org Both sites enable the search for Revolutionary War ancestors.

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Your ancestors’ U.S. military files aren’t available online but can be requested from the National Archives and Records Administration. These files contain not only the soldier’s service history, but personal details such as height, weight, next of kin, visible birthmarks and/or scars, history of dental work, and surgeries. Each bit of information humanizes our ancestors.

(I do a happy dance whenever I’m lucky enough to find one!)

I ordered my dad’s file, which included his military and medical records, free of charge from archives. gov/research/military/genealogy.

(Charges may apply for records prior to WWII.) Pension claim files for military service from the American Revolution to pre-WWI and Bountyland warrant applications for military service prior to 1856 are also available.

Accurate military records can add essential information to your family tree. If you’re running up against a brick wall in your family history research, they may be able to guide

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Happy hunting! FY Carol DiPirro-Stipkovits is a National Genealogical Society member, Association of Professional Genealogists member as well as a guest lecturer and freelance writer. Send questions or comments to her at noellasdaughter@gmail.com.

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Weight loss in virtual reality…for real?

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f you think virtual reality is only for young and hip “gamers,” think again. It’s no longer just a shoot ’em dead, drive ’em fast, PAC-MAN world. I’ve never been a fan of video games, and before last Christmas, a virtual reality (VR) system didn’t interest me in the least. But when my husband, the toughest person on my holiday shopping list, saw a commercial for the Oculus Quest and casually said, “That looks cool,” I decided to give it a chance. Less than a year later, I’m not sure whose gift it was. He loves it, but so do I!

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weather. Until now. After six weeks of virtual exercise (in the dead of winter) I was down ten pounds. The best part?

I loved it and was actually looking forward to my morning workouts.

I used to hate sweating, but not anymore. This fun activity gets my heart rate up faster than any other thing I’ve ever tried—without the pain. Completely engaged in my virtual world, I lose track of time and find an endurance I never knew I had. Twenty-one minutes of vigorous exercise a day is nothing; I easily (and happily) sweat through forty minutes in what feels like ten.

The benefits don’t stop there. I have become a better water drinker. I don’t have to get up at an obscene hour to squeeze in a workout. I don’t have to get into a cold car, wear sneakers, dress in a matchy workout outfit or apply makeup (these are my most common excuses for avoiding the gym).

VR not only allows you to burn calories, but to adventure and explore.

My personal app of choice on Oculus is Beat Saber, but there’s also boxing (Creed), FitXR, Dance Central, SuperNatural, and more. These apps are typically one-time purchases (similar to buying games for PlayStation); a few require subscriptions.

When I put the headset on, I’m transported to faraway lands, able to meditate, fish, or swim in the ocean’s depths. Thrill-seekers not prone to motion sickness should try the rollercoasters. Social butterflies can utilize Facebook and other online groups to dance in bars or make friends. Especially in a time of social isolation, perhaps VR can bring people together and ease pangs of loneliness.

Of course, there is the concern of cost—I paid $299.00 for the system.

That seems like a bit of an investment (because it is), but calculate the cost of a gym membership, gas, exercise clothes, and most importantly, your priceless time, and it’s worth it.

Exercising with technology may not immediately appeal to some but give it a chance. It can make your life more efficient and free up time for the important off-screen things like family, friends, and beautiful sunsets.

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SENIORS MATTER ON WECK At WECK Radio, we celebrate baby boomers and seniors with everything we do: from the great 50’s, 60’s and 70’s music we play daily, to the relevant local information (without the opinions) we provide, to the trusted, beloved air personalities you grew up with— Tom Donahue, Roger Christian, Ronnie D, Dick Bartley, Bobby O, Buddy Shula, and more.

WECK Radio also provides shows like Senior Matters (Saturdays from 10 a.m.-11 a.m.), the ever-popular Elvis Experience (Saturdays from 7 p.m.-9 p.m. and Sundays from 11 a.m.-1 p.m.), and Rock and Roll’s Greatest Hits: The 60’s with the legendary Dick Bartley (Sundays beginning at 6 p.m.). WECK is Buffalo’s happy place on your radio dial.

Listen on 1230AM, 102.9FM, 100.1FM, and 100.5FM, at weckbuffalo.com, on all voiceactivated devices, or with our free app. With WECK Radio, radio is special again.

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Cash For Your Old Toys: Trains And Railroad Items, 1 Piece Or Entire Estate, Collections Wanted!!

Working Or Broken, Check Your Attic Or Basement. Call 684-7786 Or 877-4799.

Short walk to MidCity Plaza.

• FREE laundry • FREE Direct T.V. • FREE heat • Lots of Amenities • Well Maintained • Park at your door

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Email resumes in confidence to Publisher, Barbara Macks at bmacks@buffalospree.com

NOTEWORTHY May 11 Dvorák’s Serenade

Through May 22 Karl Heerdt This artist, sculptor and teacher is known for his tonalist and illuminist landscapes in oil. His depictions of the Western New York region, Niagara Falls, western US subjects featuring Yellowstone National Park, and southwest images are collected nationally. The gallery is open by appointment.

JoAnn Falletta conducts Still, Haydn, and Dvorák, with BPO musicians Nikki Chooi, Roman Mekinulov, Henry Ward, and Glenn Einschlag performing solo as well as in duos and quartets on the Haydn.

7 p.m., livestream (through June 10) bpo.org, 885-5000

Meibohm Fine Arts (478 Main Street, East Aurora; 652-0940, meibohmfinearts.com)

May 29 Kickoff Summer Walk

Through May Medieval to Metal

Enjoy a guided walk in the woods to celebrate Memorial Day weekend, the unofficial “kick off” of the summer season. Pre-registration required.

Medieval to Metal: The Art & Evolution of the Guitar is now open, along with ongoing permanent exhibits.

Please note that pre-purchased tickets are required.

10 a.m. at Reinstein Woods (93 Honorine Drive, Cheektowaga; reinsteinwoods.org, 683-5959)

Friday through Sunday 10 a.m. until 4 p.m. at the Buffalo Science Museum (1020 Humboldt Pkwy.; sciencebuff.org, 896-5200 ext. 345)

Beginning May 6 (through August) Arthritis Foundation Outdoor Exercise Classes Enjoy this outdoor class every Thursday (weather permitting) in the beautiful Heacock Park. Bring your own chair and water bottle. Masks required until seated; temperatures taken.

6 p.m. in Heacock Park (877-891 McKinley Pkwy.; 697-1657)

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