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Douglas Ruffin

Eva Doyle

On the cover, clockwise from top left: Paul Gevirtzman, Brian Parker with daughters Gigi and Patty, photo by kc kratt; Pride Parade photo by NancyParisi; Govinda Subedi and his son, photo by kc kratt; Nadeen Yousef of Macrame by Nadeen, photo by kc kratt; MarCe Zerrate performs with Amor and Heritage, photo by kc kratt; Louise Sano, Global Villages, photo by kc kratt; Eva M. Doyle, photo courtesy of Xavier’s Photography and Design

Life & Leisure 7

Cover: Celebrating Diversity

Crossword: Daytime TV ......................................StatePoint Media

My WNY Story 8

22 LGBT Senior Resources........................................... Judith A. Rucki

Mason Winfield ........................................................Christine Smyczynski

Food

24 Eva Doyle......................................................................Sandy White 25 Senior Immigrant Experience............................................ Sara Ali

10 Apple Harvest................................................................. Jodee Riordan

Home & Garden 11

21 Douglas Ruffin...........................................................Jana Eisenberg

Garden Surprises............................................................Carol Ann Harlos

FY Expo 26 Join us at the Expo!...................................................Forever Young

News: Dining out for Life

Arts 12 October Theater Review............................................Donna Hoke

29 Good Food for a Good Cause....................................Nancy Cardillo

Being Well

Lady Luck 14 DJ Wild................................................................... Dennis Occhino

30 Excess Baggage.........................................Samuel Shatkin Jr., MD

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From the Editor

This issue is dedicated to the diversity that makes Buffalo and the surrounding area such a great place to live and work. Take some time and get to know the inspiring people featured in these pages. Autumn is upon us and with it come fall favorites like spooky stories and delicious apple treats. Local author and Haunted History Ghost Walks cofounder Mason Winfield chats with us about his writing on supernatural and paranormal, local history and folklore, and his hauntingly fun pub crawls and guided tours. If you’re after something a little sweeter, Jodee Riordan offers delicious recipes that use the abundant and flavorful apples grown throughout Western New York. Time is running out to submit your choices in the Forever Young Faves ballot. Enter by November 1 for a chance to win

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FOREVER YOUNG OCTOBER CALENDAR

1+ Erie County STAY FIT DINING PROGRAM offers a hot noon meal at 45 locations in Erie County. Menus and site list at erie.gov/stayfit or 8587639. 1+ Lancacster CELEBRATE POLISH WOMEN Recultured Designs US, a Polish folk inspired apparel, accessories, and home goods line from Poland will be staging a fashion show on October, 1, 2016 from 11 AM – 3 PM at the Holy Mother of the Rosary Cathedral, 6298 Broadway in Lancaster; 983-5084. 1+ Niagara Falls SENIOR C O M PA N I O N / F O S T E R GRANDPARENT PROGRAM Looking for seniors who enjoy working with their peers or children. Volunteers receive a tax-free stipend, transportation assistance and supplemental insurance coverage while volunteering. If you are 55+, have a minimum of 15 hours per week to give and want to make a difference, contact Nora Aloian (SCP) at 285-8224 ext. 217or Jennifer Britton (FGP) at 285-8224 ext. 228 1+ West Seneca UNITED CHURCH MANOR’S LUNCH PROGRAM is looking for volunteers in the West Seneca/Cheektowaga area. Information: 668-5804. 1+Springville SPRINGVILLE CONCORD ELDER NETWORK (SCENE) invites the public ages 50+ to any of their scheduled activities. Visit communityalliance.org for an updated schedule or more details. Concord Senior Center, 40 Commerce Dr., Springville

4+ Farnham T.O.P.S. CLUB (TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY) weekly meetings held Tuesdays at Holy Cross Lutheran Church, 10633 Church St., starting at 9 a.m. Call 9349619. 4+ Tonawanda T.O.P.S. CLUB, weekly meetings on Tuesdays, 9:30 a.m. at Blessed Sacrament Parish, Claremont Avenue. For information, call 836-7255. 4+ Amherst AMHERST SENIOR CENTER CONCERTS Oct. 4 12:30 p.m., Linda Mabry Trio; Oct. 13 12:30 p.m., Nelson Starr; Oct. 19 at 6 p.m., Mark Mazur. All concerts are free, open to the public at Amherst Senior Center, 370 John James Audubon Pkwy., Amherst, 636-3055 ext. 3122

4, 15 WNY RESPITE SERVICES for those with Alzheimer’s and related dementia on first Tuesday, 5:30 p.m. in Williamsville, and third Saturday, 11 a.m. in Amherst. Location info: (800) 272-3900. 4+ Springiville SCENE Springville Concord Eldernetwork events (open to the public age 50+, no residency requirements) are held at the Concord Senior Center, 40 Commerce Drive (off Waverly) in Springville; 5922768or sceldernetwork@gmail.com 4+, 6+ WNY IDEAL WEIGHT CLASSES taught by Ida Shapiro are offered every Tues. at 6:15 p.m. at Zion United Church of Christ (Koening and Parker, Tonawanda) and every Thurs. at 6:15 p.m. at St. Gregory the Great (Maple Rd., Williamsville). Over 40 years experience. 636-3698.

4+ Buffalo TAI CHI: MOVING FOR BETTER BALANCE 10:30 a.m. every Tuesday, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. For more information, contact monicazucco@gmail.com.

5 Williamsville WOMEN’S LYMPHEDEMA SUPPORT GROUP, 5:45 p.m. the first Wednesday of each month. Sheridan Surgical room, 4510 Bailey Ave., Williamsville. Call 908-4149

4, 18 Buffalo HEADWAY SUPPORT GROUPS, 2635 Delaware Ave. For individuals who have sustained brain injuries as well as their families and caregivers; exchange information and resources, and find mutual support and encouragement. Peer Support (enter at Suite B), first and third Tuesday, 6:30 to 8 p.m.; Caregivers Support (enter at Suite B), first Tuesday, 6:30 to 8 p.m.; Women’s Survivors Support (enter at Suite E), first Tuesday, 1 to 2:30 p.m. Info: 4083100 or headwayofwny.org

5 Amherst FREE RESPITE CARE PROGRAM, 10:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m., Trinity Old Lutheran Church 3445 Sheridan Drive. Held first Wednesday of the month, for those caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s or any form of dementia. Guests are partnered with a volunteer (trained by the Alzheimer’s Association) and they participate in various activities in a secure environment. A morning snack and nutritious lunch are provided. For more information on registering for the program, call 836-4868. Audubon Pkwy., behind the Audubon Library.

6+ Cheektowaga T.O.P.S. (TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY) MEETING, Thursdays at 9 a.m., St. Luke’s Lutheran Church, 900 Maryvale Drive (corner of Union Road). Come for the love, support and friendship. For information, call Karen at 247-2334 6+ Buffalo GENTLE YOGA, 11 a.m. Thursdays, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. Bring a yoga mat. Info: 828-1093 9 Getzville ASBURY POINTE OPEN HOUSE Located at 50 Stahl Road in Getzville, adjacent to Beechwood Homes, October 8 from 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. and on Thursday, October 13 from 4 p.m. to 7 p.m. 6 Amherst WILLIAMSVILLE ART SOCIETY Holiday Show opening reception 2-4 p.m. Original art works, basket auction, refreshments. Open to the public through Dec. 27. Amherst Center for Senior Services 370 John James Audubon Pkwy. Show continues through Dec. 27. 9 East Aurora ABOUT ELLY Former college pals reunite for a weekend outing by the Caspian Sea. All is well until one of them mysteriously disappears, setting in motion a series of deceptions and revelations that threaten to shatter everything they hold dear. 4 p.m., Roycroft Film Society Parkdale School Auditorium, 141 Girard Ave., East Aurora, 14052. Please stay for the post-film discussion $6 members, $8 non-members roycroftcampuscorporation.com

1+ Lockport T.O.P.S. CLUB, weekly meetings 9 a.m. Saturdays at Odd Fellows and Rebekah Nursing Home, 104 Old Niagara Road. Call 433-1693 2+ Buffalo MEDITATION, 2:30 p.m., El Buen Amigo, 114 Elmwood Ave. Free every Sunday. Meditation unites with creative arts and pain management. Practitioner Sondra Holland welcomes people of all ages. Wear comfortable clothes. For information, Sondra: 947-5092; store: 885-6343. October 2016 | www.foreveryoungwny.com 5

FOREVER YOUNG OCTOBER CALENDAR 11 Hamburg ALZHEIMER’S CARE-GIVER SUPPORT GROUP for males at Wesleyan Church, 4999 McKinley Pkwy. 2nd Tues. 626-0600, alz.org/wnyc 11 Depew BREAST CANCER NETWORK OF WNY Monthly meeting second Tuesday, 6 p.m., Bella Moglie Bldg., 3297 Walden Ave. Call 706-0060 or visit bcnwny.org. Professional support group will be held at 8 p.m. 11 Orchard Park ALIENATED GRANDPARENTS ANONYMOUS, INC., meetings 1 p.m. the second Tuesday of month, 4295 S. Buffalo St. 12 Williamsville MCGUIRE GROUP MEMORY CARE SUPPORT GROUPS: General Support Group is second Wednesday, 3 p.m. at Harris Hill Nursing Facility, 2699 Wehrle Dr., Williamsville; Daughters’ Support Group is also second Weds., 5 p.m. at Harris Hill

Monthly support groups coordinated in conjunction with the Alzheimer’s Association, with caregiving tips and coping mechanisms. For more information, call 6323700 or visit mcguiregroup.com 19 West Seneca FREE BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT SESSION, hosted by The McGuire Group for anyone coping with grief, sadness or loss at 5 pm at Seneca Health Care Center, 2987 Seneca St. Held third Wednesday of the month. Those interested in attending can call 828-0500. 19 WNY NATIONAL ALLIANCE ON MENTAL ILLNESS (NAMI) held third Wednesday of the month at 7 p.m. in two locations for families of people living with mental illness: St. Paul’s Evangelical Lutheran Church, 4007 Main St., Amherst. Southtowns: Lake Shore Behavioral Health, 3176 Abbott Rd., Orchard Park.

22 West Falls STEPHEN MINISTRY INTRODUCTORY WORKSHOP 9 a.m. This half-day, 3 session workshop is designed to help congregations catch a vision for strengthening their caring ministry through equipping laypeople as caregivers. St. Paul’s Lutheran Church 53 West Falls Road West Falls; 314428-2600 or stephenminiostry.org 22 Buffalo HEADWAY OF WNY WALK/5K 8 a.m. at Lasalle Park Participants have the opportunity

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25 Getzville CAREGIVING 101 Tuesdays at Town Square. Meet many providers of services and information, especially designed for seniors, families, and caregivers. Free & open to the public! 10 a.m. at Town Square for Aging, 2710 North Forest Rd.

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9:30 p.m. Info: 824-0504.

to walk, run or wheel in the event. Following there will be awards, live music, food, prizes and a basket raffle.

THURSDAYS Kenmore JACKIE’S THURSDAY NIGHT DANCES @ Brounshidle Post, 3354 Delaware Ave. Lessons: 7 p.m. Open dancing: 8 p.m. 691-8654. Ongoing WNY BELLYDANCE CLASSES 560-1891, nadiaibrahim.com. Kenmore JACKIE’S DANCE Monthly dance. Call 691-8654 for details. WNY BALLROOM SOCIAL DANCE, Argentine tango and belly dance instruction with Carol Allen; N. Collins and Amherst. 337-3092 or callen8801@aol.com. West Seneca BALLROOM DANCE classes @ 1761 Orchard Park Rd., 771-3110, ballroomiliana.com. WNY DANCE W/ ERIN BAHN 997-7190 or erinbahn.com. ARGENTINE TANGO IN BUFFALO Dancing & Classes www.traviswidricktango.com Contact Travis @ 716.517.7047

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THEME: DAYTIME TV ACROSS 1. a.k.a. Myanmar 6. *”____ Rescue” airing on Saturday Mornings 9. Eye affliction 13. Brown, Dartmouth and Yale, e.g. 14. Down Under bird 15. *”Rangers” who first appeared on daytime TV 16. Lays in peace 17. 1960s altered state inducer 18. Spy name? 19. *Cooking TV personality 21. *”The Price ____ ____” 23. Elton John’s title 24. Leave in a bucket 25. Mason glass 28. Prospectors search for the mother one 30. Exotic furniture wood 35. Europe/Asia mountain divide 37. Not bright 39. Smooth 40. Lover of Aeneas 41. Fluorescent red dye 43. Beth Israel synagogue, e.g. 44. Capital increases 46. French novelist …mile, 1840-1902 47. Be a snitch

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MY WNY STORY

Mason Winfield WNY’s Paranormal Expert BY CHRISTINE A. SMYCZYNSKI

hen October rolls around, lots of people start thinking about ghosts, haunted places, the supernatural, and the paranormal. When discussing the paranormal in our region, the hands-down expert is East Aurora author, Mason Winfield, who has published eleven books on the subject. Winfield is the founder of Haunted History Ghost Walks, Inc., a tour company that conducts events throughout Western New York.

Mason Winfield, founder of Haunted History Ghost Walks Photo courtesy of Mason Winfield

When he decided to leave the teaching profession, he wanted to do something that would allow him to follow his interests, yet give him the opportunity to reach more people than he could in the classroom. “Like a lot of us, I was interested in a lot of things,” says Winfield. “I love literature and could easily have gone into Shakespeare, Joyce, or Yeats studies. I love the age of Romanticism. Mythology and folklore are major interests. I could have been happy being a Celtic specialist. However, I was also interested in the supernaturalparanormal.” He adds, “The question for me was, what do I choose to specialize in? What do I keep as a treasured hobby? All the other topics above provide very few freelance careers, and almost none for non-PhDs. The paranormal has no such standards. There are not a lot of literature scholars that go into the field, either, so I figured I could rise quickly by applying a bit of that kind of professionalism. “Very few authors live well on book royalties. I also wanted to write books that would have a spin potential into other forms of work. My subject had to be one that could reach the general public and that would launch into talks and tours, which this one has.” His first book, Shadows of the Western Door is one of his favorites. In its tenth printing, it was the first book of its type done for Western New York, sort of a regional paranormal

survey. According to Winfield, it had two models: Louis C. Jones’ memorable and well-written treasury of ghostly New York folklore Things That Go Bump in the Night (1959); and Jim Brandon’s odd national survey Weird America (1978). Another one of his favorites is Iroquois Supernatural (2011), which he believes to be an important book in its category. “As the only focused profile of the supernaturalism and spirituality of a very important group of people—the Haudenosaunee/ Iroquois Nations—it surely has to be valued for something,” says Winfield. “I think it will be a resource for a long time, and that fifty or a hundred years from now, someone may have to do an update—if the Longhouse people keep their traditions through this period of shifting cultural landscapes.” When asked how long it takes him to write a book, Winfield has two answers: “Since I was born— life-experience and research-insight goes into everything” or, “from the moment I start a book until it’s published. I am notorious for trying to improve a book right up to the night before publication.” On a more serious note, he says a typical book takes about seven to nine months to write, although a couple of his books took about two years. In addition to being an author, Winfield also conducts ghost walks and haunted pub crawls. “Haunted History Ghost Walks, Inc. started out

Winfield grew up in East Aurora and Orchard Park and studied literature and classics at Denison University in Ohio. “I am one of the few living people who took four years of Latin in high school,” says Winfield. “I spent my sophomore year at Orchard Park translating Vergil’s Aeneid.” He earned his

master’s degree at Boston College focusing on British Romanticism. He taught for thirteen years at the Gow School, a school for students with dyslexia and other languagebased learning disabilities, located in South Wales, New York. For eight of those years, he was chairman of the English Department.

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MY WNY STORY as a lark in 1997 with my first ghost walk of East Aurora. We currently have scripts for fifteen communities.” He doesn’t do it alone however, he has a dozen tour guides and support people to help him; many of the guides are authors. He added that they also do a lot of private events during the year and that the Haunted Pub Crawl has been a big hit. “I should clarify that we are storytellers, folklorists, and historians,” says Winfield. “We are not psychics who talk to the dead or ghost hunters who take their pictures. If you are looking for that, we are not the ones to turn to. We will give you the back story of legend and experience about sites and villages in upstate New York. We are not suggesting you will see a ghost for the price of a tour ticket.” While ghost walks are offered yearround, summers are medium-paced and Octobers tend to be frenetic. He notes, “If a ghost walk business was a gift shop, October would be our Christmas.” He added that the business is part-time, as any walking tour business would be in our region; however, he likes it that way. “The off-season is when I devote myself to writing and growing as a person and a scholar.” Another project that Winfield is involved with is the Spirit Way

Project, which he co-founded with his Algonquin friend, Michael Bastine. “SWP, as we nickname it, is a research/teaching organization dedicated to the understanding and preservation of supernatural/ paranormal/spiritual tradition in upstate New York and in general,” says Winfield. He adds, “Our activities are generally lectures and workshops offered at modest cost to the general public. This season we have monthly presentations on Celtic, AfricanAmerican, Native North American, and Peruvian supernaturalism/ spirituality. SWP is not in any sense a commercial organization and may spin into a non-profit organization someday. Its purpose is not money; it’s education and preservation.” Winfield is currently working on his twelfth book, The Whistlers, which is his first novel and the first book that he will self-publish. “It’s kind of a conspiracy-adventure-horrorromance,” says Winfield. “It’s a bit of X-Files, a bit of Strike Back and 24, a bit of Indiana Jones, and a bit of Da Vinci Code. Honestly, though, that’s just the shorthand description, and none of those sources were really inspirations,” says Winfield. “The paranormal field as a whole that I have studied professionally for thirty years was the inspiration. The Whistlers is a book that draws many themes of the contemporary paranormal into a single adventurous, hopefully gripping plot. I describe it as a paranormal thriller—if I have written it right. If I haven’t, it’s just paranormal.” For information about Mason Winfield, his books, and haunted history tours, visit masonwinfield. com or hauntedhistoryghostwalks. com or call 655-6663. FY

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FOOD

The Apple of My Eye Autumn’s Ideal Treat BY JODEE RIORDAN

orget “pumpkin spice everything”–you need apples! Apples are the quintessential autumn flavor: crisp, tart, and sweet. Their colors–red, gold, yellow–mimic the falling leaves. While available all year, apples are in season and abundant now. Versatile, portable, and packed with vitamin C and fiber, apples are the ideal treat. An apple a day Americans eat more apples per capita than any other fruit (fresh and processed combined). According to the USDA Economic Research Service, in 2012–13, Americans ate an average of 15.9 pounds of fresh apples, and 28.4 pounds of processed apples (juice, cider, sauce, etc.), for a combined total of 44.3 pounds. A bushel of apples weighs forty-two pounds, so that is more than a bushel per person (in case you were wondering, a peck of apples weighs 10.5 pounds). A perfect fall day can be conjured up around apples: Pick-your-own apple orchards are located throughout Western New York just a short drive or a day trip away. Erie County favorites include Stonehill Orchards (North Collins) and Paul’s Organic Farm (Holland). Niagara County offers Becker Farms (Gasport); Murphy Orchards (Burt); Smith’s Orchard Cider Mill (Pendleton); Sanger Farms (Youngstown); and Blackman Homestead Farm (Lockport). Pick all the apples you can, then take home some samples of homemade treats (like baked goods, jams, jellies, and fruit butters) that each orchard stand offers. Blackman Farms’ Cherry Almond Butter could be one of my favorite things in the world. Our family has long made an autumn pilgrimage to Cherry Bank Farm Cider Mill on Townline Road in Sanborn. Their cider, made on site since 1944, is arguably the best around. In addition to the cider

mill, Cherry Bank Farm also offers fresh baked goods, homemade apple butter, delicious honey and maple products, and artisan crafts. Cider is the perfect autumn beverage. Cold and refreshing, it’s a delicious treat; but warm is a wonderful way to enjoy it. Old Fort Niagara is known to serve up a hotbuttered rum version that will chase away any autumn chills: Buttered Rum Cider Ingredients 1/2 gallon apple cider 3-4 cinnamon sticks 1 teaspoon allspice 1 teaspoon star anise (4-5 whole) 2 teaspoons whole cloves 1-2 tablespoons real maple syrup 1 tablespoon unsalted butter 1 cup dark rum (or add to individual mugs) In a saucepan, gently heat cider with a spice bag containing cinnamon stick, allspice, star anise, and cloves on medium heat. (I often use a tea ball diffuser in place of a traditional spice bag.) Once hot, add a tablespoon or two of maple syrup. Turn down the heat and add the rum. Stir in the butter, gently incorporating as it melts. The butter will float along the top, adding a delicious depth of flavor and mouthfeel. I have also served this up in a crockpot for larger gatherings: keep the setting low and have cinnamon sticks on the side for guests to add to their mugs. With your bushels and pecks now

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at home, let the baking begin! Apple pies, apple crisps, apple turnovers, applesauce, and apple chutney, the list goes on. Autumn dinners of roasted pork or chicken are elevated by apple chutney (caramelized shallots and apples, with rosemary and thyme and a splash of Port). Baked apples and delicious filled with raisins, brown sugar, and spices. Making applesauce can while away an afternoon, or take as little as ten minutes. Quick Applesauce Ingredients 6 medium apples, peeled, cored, and quartered 1 cup unfiltered apple juice 3 tablespoons honey 2 tablespoons cognac 2 tablespoons butter ½ teaspoon cinnamon Combine all the ingredients in a microwave-safe container. Microwave on high, with a corner of the lid open to vent steam, until soft. Blend to desired consistency—as chunky or smooth as you like—with a potato masher or hand blender. Enjoy immediately warm, or chill for later use. Apple pies and crisp are classic autumn dessert. My grandmother swore by Cortland apples for pies, but everyone has their favorite. Toss apples in orange or lemon juice, then a wee bit of flour, a generous amount of brown sugar, and a few dashes of cinnamon and nutmeg. I like an apple crisp topped with a buttery blend of

oats and brown sugar, cinnamon, and freshly ground nutmeg. (If you do not own a microplane zester, go get one right now and start grating whole nutmeg; it will change your life). A scoop of ice cream is, of course, delightful with apple pies and crisps, and Lake Effect Ice Cream’s Whiskey & Brown Sugar is amazing. Add a drizzle of caramel sauce, and you are in autumn heaven. What to pair with your autumn desserts? Ice cider! Ice cider is the perfect, elegant accompaniment to your seasonal meal. A recent trip to Vermont introduced us to this delicious autumn libation, which offsets the sweetness and intensity of ice wine with the crispness of cider. Like ice wine, ice cider uses the natural cold weather to concentrate the fruit’s flavors and sugars prior to fermentation. The result is a sweet, complex sip with a delicious zing (alcohol content ranges between 7% and 13% by volume). Enjoy apples in all their glorious forms throughout the autumn season. Send an apple to the teacher. Bob for apples on Halloween. Curl up by a roaring fire with a mug of hot cider. Pumpkin spice is so over. FY

Jodee Riordan contributes recipes and kitchen notes to Forever Young and is a home chef and avid apple picker.

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want to share with you some interesting treasures from my autumn garden. Two years ago, I bought an unidentified tuber for a quarter at a small garden auction. I planted it in the shade garden behind the house and hoped for the best. The first year it produced arrow-shaped leaves with greenish and white veins. The leaves disappeared that summer. I forgot about the tuber, which I had assumed should be dug up in the autumn as one would alocasia, for example. To my delight, the following spring, there were the beautiful leaves again. They looked wonderful near my Japanese wood fern and Brunnera (false or perennial forget-me-not). That summer the plant sent up a spadix covered in a white sheath. A spadix is a spike where small flowers are on a fleshy stem. An example you’ve probably seen is the tropical houseplant commonly called “peace lily”. This papery sheath (called a spathe) fell off to reveal green berries. By the autumn the green berries had turned bright red. So I decided not to dig up the tuber last autumn but to see if the plant would return again! It did! This year the plant has formed a small colony (see the photo), absolutely beautiful in the autumn. This is Arum italicum, a plant native to southern Europe and Africa. It does not seem to attract any pollinators (which is a disadvantage because I do try to have a “pollinator garden”) so I can only guess it is self-pollinating. Research says that the plant is poisonous, but it is not with the herbs or veggies, and I have Verbena bonariensis All photos by Carol Ann Harlos

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more. Eileen is a fan of musicals and approached composer/lyricist Joan Cushing about writing a few songs for the show. Kate Bryer, who had directed musicals Joan had written, joined the project as dramaturg and director. Not long after we started working together, Joan’s husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, so the project was delayed but ultimately richer because of Joan’s personal experience.” This isn’t Hayes’ first foray into musical theater—she and O’Connell and Company artistic director Mary Kate O’Connell wrote The Sad Sacks Are Back using songs from the 1940s—but it is her first with original music. “It’s a fascinating and mysterious process, collaborating on a musical,” the playwright says. “Driving to work one day, the phrase ‘the chemo café and comedy club’ came into my head, which

ARTS Joan turned into a song. We were brainstorming one day, trying to get started on the show, and I said, ‘What if cancer was a character, a beautiful woman in a red feather boa?’ That became a stunning torch song in a dream sequence featuring Cell-ina, the deadliest cell in town.” If these songs sound somewhat irreverent, it’s intentional in trying to keep a show about breast cancer from being depressing. “You [have

to] make people laugh,” says Hayes. “You focus on people’s resilience, compassion, and creativity.” O’Connell & Company’s Breast In Show runs October 1–30 (oconnellandcompany.com, 8480800). FY

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(in order of closing) • American Repertory Theater closes American Idiot October 1 (artofwny.org, 697-0837). • Buffalo United Artists and Ujima continue The Submission through October 2 (buffalobua.org, 886-9239). • Wonder of the World finishes up its run at Shea’s 710 October 2 (sheas.org, 855-797-3952). • Dinner With Friends continues through October 2 at Road Less Traveled Productions (roadlesstraveledproductions.com; 629-3069). • The world premiere of Dear Lydia continues at Alleyway Theater through October 8 (alleyway.com, 852-2600). • Red Thread closes Louisiana Bacchae October 8 (redthreadtheatre@yahoo.com, 331-2469). • Gypsy closes October 9 at MusicalFare (musicalfare.com, 839-8540). • Sweet Bird of Youth runs through October 9 at Irish Classical Theatre (irishclassicaltheatre.com, 853-4282). • Jitney continues at Paul Robeson through October 11 (africancultural.org, 884-2013). • The Real Thing runs through October 10 at New Phoenix (newphoenixtheatre.org, 853-1334). • Subversive Theatre wraps Urinetown on October 15 (subversivetheatre.org, 408-0499). • Finding Neverland continues at Shea’s through October 16 (sheas.org, 855-797-3952).

OPENING THIS MONTH • See Fancy Nancy, the Musical at Theatre of Youth October 1–23 (theatreofyouth.org, 884-4400). • Jewish Repertory Theatre opens 4,000 Miles on October 27 (jewishrepertorytheatre.com, 888-718-4253). • How to Make Friends and Then Kill Them begins at American Repertory Theater October 27 (artofwny.org, 697-0837). • Equus opens October 28 at Irish Classical Theatre (irishclassicaltheatre.com, 853-4282). • A special engagement of Stomp runs three performances October 28–29 at Shea’s (sheas.org, 855-797-3952).

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Douglas Ruffin Life with a Purpose BY JANA EISENBERG

ouglas Ruffin has been the director of the City of Buffalo’s Division of Senior Services since Mayor Brown appointed him in 2007. A native of North Carolina, Ruffin, seventy-four, has lived in Buffalo since he came here for graduate school. His decades of experience working at the Erie Regional Housing Corporation and Jewish Family Services has prepared him well for his current position where, among many other responsibilities, he helps facilitate and plan all kinds of activities and services for Buffalo’s growing and diverse senior population. Forever Young: Why does Buffalo needs a division of senior services? Douglas Ruffin: Part of the mayor’s vision is to make Buffalo one of the better cities for aging. So, we have to have initiatives to do that. Our guiding principal is to talk to seniors—bring them together with our staff and with

other businesses. We find out what their needs are, what they would like to do and participate in. Erie County is the lead agency for aging; they take care of the case management-related kinds of things. Our division is basically recreational.

FY: You have a list of clubs, groups, and activities on the website that do seem to fit a wide range of interests. How do those work? DR: We are the conveners, the evocateurs—we help people get their group or club started, and then step back; maybe turn it over to a community-based organization or

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Douglas Ruffin, director of Senior Services for the City of Buffalo Photo courtesy of the City of Buffalo

other group of seniors, and they can do it for themselves. At this point in their lives, choice matters to seniors; they don’t like to be told what to do. When they need you, they will let you know. One of the most popular is the travel club. When we first started,

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COVER we just wanted to get people out of their apartments. Now they have trips planned to Montreal, Corning, even Cuba! Whether they are going to the theater or some other day trip, we’ll have a staff member present, in case there is someone who needs assistance. We have things for people to do all year round. FY: Who participates? DR: Everyone! Buffalo’s population is about fifty percent Caucasian, thirty percent African-American, and seventeen to eighteen percent others. They are diverse groups in every way, including their health and ability to move around. We always have very mixed groups and make sure that we are trying to offer something for everyone. All the activities are open to the public—as long as you’re over fifty-five. I would like to see more of the 22,000 senior “new Americans” in Buffalo become more active in our programs.

FY: What else does your division do? DR: We offer quality of life activities and services. We started warming and cooling centers, so that when it’s either too hot or too cold, people can go into any participating building (usually community-based or owned by the city) and rest and cool off or warm up. They can also get a meal, if they like. We also run the Mayor’s Senior Citizens Discount Card Program. Over 20,000 people have the card, and over 300 Buffalo businesses offer discounts, with more joining every year. We operate the Mayor’s Van, which can take seniors to and from the doctor. We have a farmer’s market project, whereby, through deliveries, shut-in seniors can have access to fresh food. We had a request for a computer and smartphone literacy class; people wanted to learn how to email and text, so they can communicate with their grandchildren. The class was full, and everyone was seventy or older, “the golden agers” I call them, and

every color. It was in partnership with the Buffalo Employment & Training Center.

Some activities, clubs, and services offered by the Division of Senior Services:

FY: What makes you happy and/or hopeful? DR: The development that’s happening in Buffalo, which we didn’t think we’d see in our lifetime, is taking seniors into consideration. Like at the waterfront and other public places, there are benches, so older people can enjoy them. Buffalo is rich with certain things for different populations. How do you put the right info in the right hands—when is it equal? We all need different things. How can I make your life better? That’s our driving force. That’s the mayor’s goal. I came out of retirement to work—I enjoy having a purpose.

• Bowlathon • Buffalo’s Living History Project • City Travel Club • Crafting Club & Fair • Health and Wellness Fair • Mayor’s Barbecue • The Meeting Place • The Quilting Project • Senior City Life Newsletter • Seniors of Faith • Senior Connect: The Warm House Project • Winetasting and Vineyard Tour Group Jana Eisenberg is a frequent contributor to Forever Young and Buffalo Spree.

New members, volunteers, participants, caregivers, and family members, may contact the Division of Senior Services at 851-4141 for more information. FY

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LGBT Seniors in WNY BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

he term LGBT, which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender, has been around since the 1990s and is intended to emphasize a diversity of sexuality and gender identity-based cultures.

SAGE advice According to the Services and Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Elders (SAGE) website, recent estimates suggest that there are at least 1.5 million lesbian, gay, and bisexual people sixty-five and over in the United States, and this population will double by the year 2030. These figures are based on an estimate from UCLA’s Williams Institute on Sexual Orientation and the Law that 3.8 percent of Americans identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual. SAGE bills itself as “the country’s largest and oldest organization dedicated to improving the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender older adults.” Located in New York City, SAGE was founded to create a network of support for older LGBT community members who were overlooked by the larger LGBT community as its civil rights

movement gained momentum across the country. Today SAGE leads the conversation on LGBT aging. The SAGE website notes, “Social isolation affects many LGBT older people around the country as they deal with stigma and discrimination in their daily lives and in our country’s aging system.” SAGE points out that LGBT elders are more likely to live alone and have thinner support networks. They also “face higher disability rates, struggle with economic insecurity and higher poverty rates, and many deal with mental health concerns that come from having survived a lifetime of discrimination.” Silver Pride Rodney C. Hensel is the community coordinator for the local Silver Pride Project, a project led by the Pride Center of Western

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Members of the Silver Pride Project meet on the second Tuesday of each month Photo courtesy of Loop Magazine

New York (PCWNY) that provides a range of services and activities for LGBT people over age fifty. The mission of PCWNY is “to work with the community to make Western New York a safe, healthy, and satisfying place for lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender, and queer people to live, work, and establish their families.” Hensel says there is no reason to think the percentages in Western New York would be different from the national population. He adds, “A national Gallup Poll survey released in early 2015 showed that in the Buffalo-CheektowagaNiagara Falls metropolitan area, 3.9 percent of the total population identified as LGBT. “That would indicate an LGBT population of 3,113 for Buffalo, although it has been shown that the number of LGBT willing to self-

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identify in surveys declines rapidly past the age of fifty, so the number could be significantly higher. While there are a variety of issues facing all members of the LGBQT community, senior members often find themselves confronting unique challenges. Hensel says, “Silver Pride started just over two years ago with a focus group on aging issues put together by the Pride Center of WNY to determine community needs. Our first meeting consisted of four people. Today we have an e-mail roster of more than seventy-five people.” Monthly coffee hours, held on the second Tuesday of each month, regularly draw about two-dozen people. And that many and more take advantage of the monthly Healthy Lunch Program, put on in cooperation with Erie County Senior Services. Silver Pride offers LGBT seniors social opportunities to meet and be with other seniors in a friendly and safe environment. Hensel explains, “We are also an access point of assistance for seniors through existing federal, state, and county programs.” Additionally, Silver Pride serves an advocacy role, reaching out to local service providers on the needs of LGBT seniors. A high priority is to establish sensitivity training to care providers on

COVER LGBT harassment and abuse in institutional settings, which can come from untrained staff and from other patients. “Our Silver Pride group helps identify isolated LGBT seniors and provides social opportunities. We received national attention when the county senior services placed one of their senior assistance case workers at the Pride Center, holding regular hours twice a week,” says Hensel. My Buffalo Pride My Buffalo Pride is home to Loop Magazine and Prism Gallery. It is also Buffalo’s only pride merchandise retailer.

Loop Magazine is a monthly periodical dedicated to hyperlocal LGBT news, culture, issues, and events in Buffalo. It is the only local independent, in print, and online LGBT news source. Every month, 3,000 copies are circulated throughout the city and its suburbs. Prism Gallery’s mission is to exhibit and promote local LGBT art. The gallery exhibits the work of local professional and aspiring LGBT artists in any twodimensional medium. LGBQT seniors don’t have to feel isolated or invisible. Anyone looking for assistance with a pressing issue or just some pleasant

conversation can find a safe and welcoming environment, especially in Western New York! FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer. Readers may contact her via the editor at wswearingen@buffalospree.com with ideas for making the golden years sparkle, sizzle, and shine.

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A Lesson for Life BY SANDY WHITE

va M. Doyle, teacher, historian, radio talk show host, columnist, wife, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother is the epitome of grace and possesses the utmost qualities of a person who is distinctly “Forever Young.” If you have ever been in her presence you would not forget it; she is a quiet nurturing force in motion She is “woke” as the young people say. she quietly brings peace and order with Doyle is acutely aware of the world around her and the shifting winds her. The world is her classroom and whether you are the future president that affect her community, says retired Buffalo School teacher, activist, and of the United States, a senior, or a fiveinternationally recognized storyteller year old, Mrs. Doyle’s class is always in session. She is teaching, nurturing, Karima Amin. “She’s a fighter and she doesn’t stop. and pushing each and everyone she meets toward something new. She doesn’t take no for an answer,” Former student Brandye Amin says. As a young teacher, it was Doyle who pushed for the BPS Merriweather, vice president of to adopt the idea of infusing African downtown development for the Urban Development American and African history and Buffalo Corporation, is now a key force and content–in all public schools. It’s been says that a teacher who loves being in leader in the shaping of Buffalo’s downtown area. the classroom and the children she “Mrs. Doyle set the stage for us teaches is a gift to her community. Over the course of her thirty-year teaching to showcase our gifts and talents career, Doyle sought to fill a gap in through public speaking engagements, spelling bees, and and class plays while the teaching curriculum by creating a comprehensive Black History exhibit developing our skills and building our character. I carry so many of her spanning two rooms for students and lessons and teachings with me as I teachers at Campus West. Chief diversity officer for the City of move through my life and my career. Buffalo, attorney Crystal Rodriguez, The pearls that Mrs. Doyle gave me as a child have truly helped me to shine!” is a former student. She says, “Mrs. says Merriweather. Doyle was my second grade teacher. You may have read her column I love to research, read, and write. I “Eye on History” in the Buffalo News credit Mrs. Doyle for instilling that in me and I believe, without that love, or followed her regular column now law school would have been much celebrating thirty-seven years in print named in the oldest African American more difficult. I also love Kwanzaa newspaper, the Buffalo Criterion, or celebrations because she made it so very interesting for everyone in class,” kept up with her on social media with her regular Facebook posts. “Mother Rodriguez says. Doyle,” as she is affectionately called, Eva Doyle is viewed as a respected has taught hundreds of students in community mother, friend, and the Buffalo Public School District colleague. When she enters a room, 24

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Eva Doyle (center) with former students Brandye Merriweather (left) and Crystal Rodriguez Photo courtesy of Xavier’s Photography and Design

and encouraged each one to reach for the stars. In 2010, she stepped in the spotlight to make major changes when she ran in New York State’s lieutenant governor, only later to return to what she loves–teaching. She is the force behind the establishment of numerous local writing competitions for young and old and is known to provide the scholarship money herself. Just like in her classroom, she sits quietly and reads the essays with volunteer community members, honoring the effort of the young person or the adult participant. The Romeo Doyle Muhammad Scholarship, named in honor of her late husband who was a Korean War Veteran and a strong advocate for education, is one competition that’s very special to her. “Each year, scholarships are given to students of color who have completed high school and will attend a two- or four-year college or university,” says Doyle. At WUFO 1080 am radio, she’s live behind the mic for her own radio show. And if you look up, you’ll see billboards purchased with her own money showcasing black history achievement to educate and inform us. But sometimes even she has to sit down for at least a moment. “Stop. Rest. Think. Regroup and recharge. I have to remind myself of that,” she says. The beautiful waterfront, a lawn chair, and a good book is how Mrs. Doyle recharges, but not for long. I

have spotted her leaving one strategic community meeting with young leaders and moving to the next with gathered elders all in one day. From schools and libraries to the suburbs and local senior citizens centers to her own film festival showcasing movies from the Doyle library, she lectures extensively on topics in African and African American history. Her specialty is countless little known facts of black history. For example, insight into the black families that were on the Titanic and a little-known history nugget on the origins of the tasty Buffalo chicken wing. “It was John Young, the Chicken Wing King from our community, who created the ‘Wings and Things’ with the famous Mambo Sauce,” says Doyle. Her conversations are always threaded with information on new projects she is working on or the annual Rose Awards ceremony she created to honor women. “Each year, I give a rose and recognition to a select group of women who have quietly achieved and sacrificed. I believe this family history is important for children and grandchildren to hear. We need to give flowers to those we love while they’re here,” says Doyle. FY Sandy White is a journalist, communications specialist, and owner of the Mustard Seed World Consulting Group located in WNY.

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The Life of an Elderly Refugee in America BY SARA ALI

magine having no choice but to start a new life in a new country, jumping into a world of the unknown. This is the reality for hundreds of thousands of refugees resettling in the United States. While this is a difficult journey for all, it can be especially complicated for the elderly. It didn’t occur to me just how complicated the lives of elderly refugees can be until I began to immerse myself in the community. A few weeks ago, I sat with Burmese refugee and former political prisoner, Chit Tin. As he walked into Tim Hortons, I watched him approach the counter to order coffee. I noticed the workers talking to him, trying to engage in a conversation. I’ve seen situations like this happen–a refugee who speaks little English trying to mingle and converse with an English speaker, both folks trying their best to make the conversation happen, but sometimes it is impossible. Tin walks over after buying his coffee and sits with me at a table. He tells me he comes to this Tim Hortons every morning. I asked Tin about some of the challenges he faces in America, but he was unable to answer my question. I reworded my question in several different ways, but to no avail; I could not make him understand what I was asking. He did, however, share his story. Tin is seventy years old. He came to Buffalo on February 27, 2013. He was tortured as a political prisoner in Burma. He didn’t go into graphic detail, but he told me they damaged his right ear. On top of the language barrier, he could barely hear what I was saying. Tin said it is difficult for him to communicate with Americans. Because of this, he only communicates with Burmese political prisoners in his community. He seeks help from his

family members to take him to the hospital to stay up-to-date with a heart condition. Without help from his son, he would not understand what the doctor is saying. The language barrier between refugees and Westerners is nothing new. Govinda Subedi, a Nepalese refugee and caseworker at the Hope Refugee Drop-In Center (HRDIC) identified language as the number one challenge these New Americans face. A majority of the time, not only do elderly refugees come to Buffalo unable to speak English, but they are also unable to read or write in their native language, making the learning process even more difficult. “The language barrier leaves them unable to express themselves or to communicate,” Subedi said. The language barrier spawns a plethora of problems: Seeking medical treatment, grocery shopping, applying for Medicaid, looking for a home, asking for directions, and other basic daily activities Americans partake in are daunting tasks for newcomers. But there is another part to the language barrier that has yet to be addressed. “I don’t think we even realize how much of our culture is in English and online,” said Rick Ireland, the program manager at the HRDIC. “It’s not just language. If you want apply for unemployment, you have to go online and if you don’t speak English or have computer skills it is difficult.

we are so online, and they come from cultures where they don’t grow up with technology. This is a double barrier.” However, this does vary for each ethnic group, as some may have grown up in a country that is as technologically savvy as the United States. The language barrier also leads to disconcerting income challenges. Refugees obviously have no work experience in America, which makes it impossible to build up a financial base of social security. They have the option to apply for Supplemental Security Income (SSI), but will get cut off after seven years if they do not become a citizen. Being illiterate in English, taking the citizenship test is nearly impossible. According to Subedi, in order to

access an interpreter for assistance during the test, you have to be 1) 55+ and have lived in the U.S. for 20 years, or 2) 65+ and have lived in the U.S. for 15 years. It is no secret that we live in a country where two incomes are necessary to survive. If a relative is in a one-income household and has to take care of a family member, there is an extreme economic impact from that. The elderly want to support themselves and learn the language, but it can be incredibly difficult. Subedi and Ireland agreed that it is difficult for them to get work. “People don’t like hiring elderly in our culture. Then, you add in the language barrier and skill training [making it less likely for folks to find work],” Ireland said. Plus, differences in culture and lifestyle make adusting to life here difficult. In order to address these challenges, the elderly usually seek help not just from family members but others in the community. Luckily, Buffalo has several community centers and groups that meet frequently to ensure that these folks are well taken care of and informed on the services available to them. FY Sara Ali writes frequently on the refugee experience in Western New York.

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Dine Out and Fight AIDS

SPINAL STENOSIS - NEW TREATMENTS RELIEF WITHOUT DRUGS OR SURGERY

WHAT IS SPINAL STENOSIS?

Spinal stenosis is often the result of the aging process, which causes the soft tissue and bones in the spine to harden or grow excessively. These changes may narrow the spinal canal and put pressure on the spinal nerve roots causing symptoms such as pain, tingling, weakness or numbness. Spinal stenosis is seen most often in adults older than age 50. The most common cause of spinal stenosis is osteoarthritis. Other causes include bulging or herniated discs, degenerative disc disease or injury to the spine.

BY NANCY CARDILLO

o you want an easy–and delicious–way to help the more than 3,000 Western New Yorkers who are living with HIV or AIDS and their families? Just go out to eat Tuesday, October 11 at one of the many restaurants participating in the 14th annual Dining Out For Life, presented by Key Bank and Evergreen Health.

NEW TREATMENTS FOR SPINAL STENOSIS:

Steve & Ellen Gedra, honorary co-chairs of Dining Out For Life 2016 Photo courtesy John Carocci, Evergreen Health

Here’s how it works: you choose one of the more than ninety participating restaurants (visit diningoutforlife. com/wny for a complete list) in Erie, Niagara, or Chautauqua counties, and get together with loved ones for breakfast, lunch, or dinner at your chosen restaurant. You and your friends enjoy a delicious meal, and the restaurant donates a minimum of twenty-five percent of your check to Dining Out For Life. All money raised through the Western New York Dining Out For Life event stays local, supporting the efforts of Evergreen Health (evergreenhs.org), a not-for-profit organization providing HIV/AIDS services since 1983. Honorary co-chairs for this year’s event are award-winning chefs Steve and Ellen Gedra of The Black Sheep Restaurant & Bar. “Evergreen Health provides

vital services such as primary care, pharmacy services, emergency housing, transportation, and food assistance and counseling for anyone in need,” says Christopher Reybrouck, director of development at Evergreen Health. “Dining Out For Life is our largest annual fundraiser, so we’re hoping everyone will participate, and support not only Evergreen Health, but all the restaurants that are so generously helping us out.” FY Nancy Cardillo is the owner of More Than Words.

Three new non-surgical FDA cleared technologies are now being used at the Pain Relief Institute to relieve the symptoms of lumbar and cervical spinal stenosis without drugs or surgery. Disc Rehydration Therapy unloads pressure on neurological, vascular and osseous components and is now the primary nonsurgical safe and effective treatment for patients with spinal stenosis, herniated disc, degenerative joint disease, facet arthritis, disc bulge and more. Unlike drugs and injections, this new therapy is natural and its effects are lasting and often permanent. Another new technology called Deep Tissue Laser Therapy is used to reduce pain, relieve inflammation and restore mobility. It uses specific wavelengths of light that have a strong anti-inflammatory effect. Photons of laser energy penetrate deeply into tissue and accelerate cellular reproduction and growth. As a result of exposure to the laser the cells of tendons, ligaments and muscles repair themselves faster. As inflammation is reduced, pain subsides very quickly. Additionally, Electroanalgesia is now being used to reduce the ability of the afferent nerves to transmit pain signals. This treatment also promotes healing by means of the depolarization effects on the nerve cells. This computerassisted treatment offers exemplary patient success in the treatment of pain, without piercing the skin. The best news is that these new therapies are suited for almost everyone and unlike some pharmacological solutions, there are no known negative side effects. Regardless of the therapies you’ve tried in the past you still have a chance to relieve your chronic pain or other debilitating condition and regain a normal healthy lifestyle.

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BEING WELL

Excess Baggage Not Just Around the Waist

hen one thinks of plastic surgery, it usually conjures up thoughts of body shaping and contouring, perhaps the “mommy makeovers.” Procedures to reduce the excess fat around the waist include liposuction and tummy tucks. When it comes to “excess baggage,” I am also seeing many patients who complain about the extra puffiness around the eyes. Many of them come in telling me, “I am tired of looking tired.” This eyelid puffiness or “excess baggage” can be managed with a procedure called blepharoplasty, or eyelift surgery.

SAMUEL SHATKIN JR., MD Nowhere on the body can removing so little create such a dramatic effect on one’s appearance. Removing very small pockets of fat and tightening some loose skin can achieve a refreshed look. This onehour operation, which is typically done under local anesthesia with mild sedation, can take years off the appearance and help to build confidence. Recently, a patient commented that she didn’t want to

look in the mirror because of the way her eyes made her feel old and tired. Once she was healed from the eyelift, she had a completely rejuvenated sense of wellbeing and confidence. Another patient who had blepharoplasty told me that her friends commented on how well she looked but they couldn’t put their finger on exactly what she had done until she told them. A healthier, natural, and more youthful look equates with a better self-image aside from the way others perceive one’s appearance. Men, who may be competing with more youthful counterparts in the workplace or boardroom, often undergo an eyelift to make them look more refreshed and youthful. If there is excess skin and fat is in the upper eyelids restricting the vision, health insurance may cover the procedure. One of the biggest advantages of eyelid surgery is that, because it is very localized to a limited area of the body, the recovery can be quick with

little downtime. After the one-hour surgery, the patient will go home and apply cool compresses to their eyes to help limit the bruising and swelling. I use a unique technique that places

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the stitches below the surface of the skin, thus minimizing the scars and allowing removal of the sutures in as soon as three days, resulting in a quick recovery. Individuals can return to work and light activity soon after stitches are removed with a refreshed, youthful, and less tired look. So, if excess baggage is getting you down, an eyelift may be all you need to brighten your look and outlook! Consider a consultation with a board certified plastic surgeon to help you look and feel your best. Until next time, be well Buffalo! FY Dr. Shatkin is a board certified plastic surgeon at Aesthetic Associates Centre and columnist for Forever Young.

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OCTOBER SOLUTION

NOTEWORTHY October 1 Youngstown Arts & Music Festival Featuring local artists and the Celtic Circle Ceilidh Band, No Illusions, Farther Along the Rust Belt, Irish Volunteers, Tonemah, and Step In Time.

October 6 Frank Lloyd Wright’s Fontana Boathouse Explore the only rowing boathouse designed by Frank Lloyd Wright and view the exquisite interior and exteriors.

11 a.m. at Faulkner Park (Main St., Youngstown; niagarariverregion.com or 754-9500) October 12 Diva by Diva: A Celebration of Women

1 p.m. at Fontana Boathouse (1 Rotary Row; explorebuffalo.org or 245-3032) October 22 Nature Myths

This signature show returns to the stage to celebrate feminist culture and honor women around the world.

Through June 14 at O’Connell & Company (The Park School, 4625 Harlem Rd., Snyder; oconnellandcompany.com or 848-0800)

Bats are blind, cottonwood makes you sneeze…how many nature myths do you believe? Separate fact from fiction on this guided walk. Registration required.

10 a.m. at Reinstein Woods Nature Preserve (93 Honorine Dr., Cheektowaga; reinsteinwoods.org or 683-5959)

October 29 Steve Vai: Passion & Warfare 25th Anniversary Tour For the first time, Steve Vai plays his album from start to finish, with some surprises in between.

8 p.m. at Riviera Theatre (67 Webster St., North Tonawanda; rivieratheatre.org or 692-2413)

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