GET YOUR RYTHM BACK

sex is such a crucial part of life and nobody should have to miss out on it. When you are feeling anxious, it can really take you out of the mindset of having sex. If your head is elsewhere, worrying about how you are performing, you can’t concentrate on the actual sex you are having. You could become so anxious that you can’t perform, or you can get aroused but are feeling to distracted to have an orgasm.

Incase you boys want to know the science behind not getting what you call a ‘rock on’, it’s because when you are stressed it narrows your blood vessels, so less blood can flow to the penis, leading to no erection. However, performance anxiety isn’t as common in women, it can still definitely affect women from time to time though. Anxiety can stop women from getting wet enough to be able to have sex, which takes away wanting to have it.

If you think that sex will result in humiliation or rejection from your partner, the easiest and healthiest way to go around this is to communicate with them. If you’re making yourself more anxious by trying to impress them this is most likely going to have the opposite affect. Communication is key, just like everything in life, right? Taking the time to discuss all of your nerves and the things that make you anxious, helps gives your partner an understanding of the do’s and don’ts with the intimate times you share together. Equally, from this conversation you can learn what they like, what turns them on and what feels good for them. If you practice this in the bedroom it can guide you to better and more comfortable sex, eliminating the feeling of rejection or humiliation.

Surprisingly, your diet can have a big role to play that affects your sex life. Unhealthy diets can definitely be a mood-killer. It affects your energy levels, blood flow and hormones, which all have a part to play during sex. Sex needs stamina and energy, and if you’re eating lots and lots of sugars and carbs this could mean poor performance in bed. Eating fresh, whole foods, protein and complex carbs will improve not only your lifestyle but your sex life too, it’s an all round win.

If these tips don’t do you any good, it is worth seeking medical help, either with a therapist or a doctor to help understand your needs.