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ON THE COVER R&B Singer CHRISETTE MICHELE Photographed by Norman Allen Location: British Virgin Islands Make-Up: Akeema Crabbe Swimwear: Trefle Designs
POSH Body Issue VOLUME 5 ISSUE 2
PAGE 34, BODY. Photographed by Kevon Richardson
NTENTS Editor’s Page 4. Stop it! And embrace life and your beautiful self
Editors #POSHGIRL Picks 6. Editors #POSHGIRL Picks Style 7. Make A Powerful Fashion Statement with What I Wear Boutique
10. Summer Chic by Tashida Cox 17. Be Beach Glam All Year! 20. PLY Looks We Love! Beauty 21. The Beauty Bar 22. Beauty Balms 25. No More Dewy Skin This Summer 26. Fall In Love with Bobbi On The Beach
28. Makeup …Set…Go 30. Favorite Bronzers & Bronzer Brushes
32. Body by photographer Kevon Richardson
Features 36. Markita Turnbull Smith – Designing Woman
40. Marlo Hampton 42. From Above Rocks: Nadine Sutherland
44. Chrisette Michele An R&B Diva 48. Caribbean Designer Ms. Stacia Davidson
51. Bloodsweat & Heels: Chantell Fraser
News and Culture 57. Reshma 58. Christopher Martin: Steppin Razor
59. Jah Cure: Breaks New Ground With His Eagerly-Awaited Studio Album
60. D -Major 61. Reggae Gold 2015 Love and Relationships 63. 7 Rules for Love Beyond Summer
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Janette N. Brin Publisher and Founding Editor Photographed by Kevon Richardson Location: Tortola, BVI
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Stop it! And embrace life and your beautiful self … Last issue we talked about the importance of loving self – a topic that’s fair to say we all think about consciously or unconsciously daily. Every woman goes through the growing pains of accepting herself -- so it’s only natural that we have to remind ourselves about not forgetting the greatness of ourselves. Often times we go through this thing of being fussy about our weight, our stretch marks, our facial features, body type, and the list goes on. Stop it! And embrace life and your beautiful self. This issue themed “The Body Issue” we are so excited to have R&B sensation Chrisette Michele grace our cover in celebration of natural curves. Chrisette who has never been one of those artist to flaut her body, selected local BVI swimwear brand Trefle to help her not just flaut it but celebrate who she is as a woman. On a new page in her career where she is in full control – Chrisette is simply beautiful! We do hope that regardless of your physical shape or size that you are inspired to love and celebrate you. On the same vain as Chrisette, we at Caribbean POSH would also like to salute entrepreneurs like Kristen Fraser of Trefle Designs who create with every woman at heart. caribbean posh The style issue 2015 5
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Designer: Zubaida Zang We absolutely love these hand-stitched garments by Nigerian designer Zubaida Zang. A lifestyle brand suited for todays #poshgirl www.zubaidazang.com
ETANA bikini (sea green) is on sale for $149.99 - ZAWDITU monokini (burnt orange) is on sale for $119.99 - ZAHRA bikini (floral print/lime) is on sale for $89.99
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Jewelry “Birthed out of a desire to create unique handmade jewelry incorporating elements from nature such as flower petals and raw gemstones along hits of shimmer of gold, copper and silver, Luxe Caribe Handmade Jewelry was born. Shout out to #poshgirl Davina Baptiste, creator of Luxe Caribe who was born and raised in St. Kitts. Pieces can take up to 3 weeks from imagination to completion. They are vivid in color, light weight, glossy, and finished with gold filled, stainless steel and copper earring posts, bails and ear wires. These handmade piece make a great addition to the accessory collection of any #poshgirl. Davina is currently working on her online storefront, however if you would like to make a purchase you can contact her at luxecaribe@yahoo.com. See pieces here https://www.facebook.com/luxecaribe”
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summer colors Colors: - Sheer Yellow Drama - Keep It Classy (light pink) - Supa Dupa Fly (neon peachy coral) - Bleu (Tiffany blue)
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What is Power? If you were to pose this question to three different people, you’re almost certain to receive three entirely different responses. The perception of power varies greatly among those in possession – or in search - of it. At What I Wear Boutique, we’re all about expressing power through affordable and contemporary fashion. What you wear - and how you feel in it - can embolden you in so many beautiful ways!
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Red is the ultimate power color. It exudes confidence and says that you’re not afraid to stand out in a crowd. This bold, super sexy romper features both an on-trend plunging neckline as well as a neatly cinched waistband. Top this romper off by pairing it with a dainty copper crystal lariat necklace and sleek leopard print pumps for an incredibly memorable look.
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There’s no greater fashion statement than the power of black leather. Whether faux or real, there’s something incredibly sexy about a woman that dares to wear leather. This look pairs a strikingly textured A-line skirt with the simplicity of a racer back tank top. Finish this look with black and white stand out sandals and you’re all set!
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Truly powerful women use fashion to their greatest advantage. They understand their bodies and how best to represent themselves. At What I Wear Boutique, we urge you to make your fashion choices count!
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Credits. Model: E. Tishell Callwood-Warren of What I Wear Boutique Jewelry: Kirsten Brunn of Infinitely Me‌ Makeup: Emeka Willis of E-Class Productions Photos: Cherise Richards of Cherise Richards Photography
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Words by Tashida @tashidagabrielle on Instagram/Twitter
When it comes to dressing for the “summer” season. Every girl’s goal is to be chic, while staying cute and stylish, whatever her body type. No need to throw out your entire closet this season, we’ve pulled together trendy looks for every event from chill lime to party.
Red Blossom Skater Skirt – Crop top & Skater Skirt
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Honey Rings Top – Asymmetrical Top & Relaxed Shorts
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Oxford Harem Jumpsuit – Loose, Harem Overall
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Israeli Nights Trousers – Tank & Wide Legged Trousers
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Aloha Playsuit – Easy & Chic
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Trinidad Entrepreneur, Ama Addae talks Beach Glam; a new hand-made luxury beachwear brand inspired by her Caribbean upbringing and global travels. Made from the finest fabrics the vibrant, rich color styles can be found exclusively at www.beachglam.com
1. We absolutely love our Crete Beachwear Outfit with its super sexy purple and green ombre design. It’s a 100% silk sarong that works perfect with a gold ribbon natural straw hat. The outfit was inspired by the richness of Greece-- it’s culture and history. Hence, there are elements of purple and gold, which embody true royalty. Available now via http:// beachglam.com/preselectedbeachwear-bundle in the silver tier
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2.  Ultimate in glam our St.Barths Beachwear Outfit is comprised of our electric blue hand-embroidered silk caftan, matching rhinestone headband, and gem earrings. The outfit was inspired by the bold and rich colors of the blue Caribbean Sea. Hence, there are shades of blue within this beach look. Available now via http://beachglam.com/ create-beachwear-bundle in the gold tier
3.  Perfect for your beach accessories and personals is our classic straw beach tote. Handcrafted by skilled artisans with a durable straw exterior and cotton-lined interior. The stylish rattan handles add a unique element to this beach basket, which is perfect to hold beach towels, bathing suits, and other beach essentials. Available now in 5 different colors via: https://www.etsy.com/ listing/184125414/new-large-tropicalcolor-winter-beach
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4.  A Beach Glam bestseller -- white straw beach hat with rope design. The rope design adds a nautical element to the hat and gives it a unique style not seen in other beach hats. This hat was inspired by my love for sailing and being at the sea. Available now via: https://www.etsy.com/ listing/184176587/womens-floppy-whitestraw-hat-with-rope
Instagram your next beach outing #poshgirlmovement #BEACHGLAM
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Husband and wife duo created PLY for the woman sized 14 - 24 that craves elegance and fashion and doesn’t want to compromise. Check them out at www.plyapparel.com
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IMAN Luxury Moisturizing Lipstick in Iman Red $10.00
KA’OIR Cosmetics in HOT GYAL $18.99 Black Opal Color Splurge Luxe Matte Lipstick in Atomic Flame $7.50
Black Radiance Dynamic Duo Lip Balm & Gloss in Plum $3.99
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Fashion Fair Lip Teasers in Tickled Pink $18.00
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Beauty Balms are still a major must have in the beauty industry. Not every woman wants to wear a full face of makeup everyday. Like foundations back in the days, makeup companies are still not making the correct shades of BB cremes for women of color. IMAN cosmetics heard our cry and created Skin Tone Evener BB Creme with an SPF 15. It’s skin care enriched with Vitamin A, E & C and a tint of color all in one.
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What will a BB creme do for you you ask... BB creme evens out discoloration, hydrates and protects the skin. IMAN BB cremes come in 6 semi-sheer colors that will give you an effortless glow to your complexion. It can be worn with or without foundation leaving your skin looking more radiant over time.
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Staying shine free is always a challenge when trying to stay fabulous all day especially during the summer. Looking matte for any woman who has oily skin understands that it’s never easy. First Aid Beauty Skin Rescue Oil-Free Mattifying Gel is here to rescue you. It’s been developed for oily, combination, and acne prone skin. The formula will help reduce the appearance of pores while providing hydration to the skin. The cooling gel instantly melts into the skin giving a velvety soft appearance that is perfectly prepped for makeup. So know more worrying about future blemishes forming, this mult-tasking moisturizer works it’s mattifying magic controlling shine leaving you ready for all day selfies.
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When I think of summer, the first thing that comes to mind is sand and the smell of the ocean. Laying out on the beach under my umbrella, sipping on a frozen margarita and enjoying a great romantic novel is my idea of heaven. Why not keep this fantasy going year round with Bobbi Brown beach Collection.Â
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Face beat...so now what...now you need something that will keep your makeup looking flawless and long lasting. Find a setting spray that can matte the skin, hydrates, delivers a radiant glow, and has an SPF. Here are my favorites makeup setting spray to help you get selfie ready this summer.
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2. Supergoop! Defense Refresh Setting Mist SPF 50
3. Kat Von D Lock ‘N Load Makeup Setting Mist
A 70 percent certified organic SPF 30 spray that provides a weightless matte-finish while keeping makeup looking fresh all day $30.00
An innovative three-in-one mist that sets makeup, helps control oil and shine, and refreshes your defense against photoaging UV rays with an uplifting scent of rosemary and mint. $28.00
A 16-hour mist that extends the wear of makeup. $24.00
4. Dr. Jart+ PORE MEDIC Pore Minish Mist
5. Smashbox Photo Finish Primer Water
6. Caudalie Beauty Elixir
7. First Aid Beauty Hydrating Mist
A mattifying and oil controlling two-inone skin mist with powder and toner. $30.00
A makeup primer spray that hydrates and revitalizes skin. $32.00
Part-toner, part-serum mist of essential oils and plant active ingredients. $49.00
A vitamin-enriched mist that hydrates, revives, and refreshes skin anytime or anyplace. $16.00
A Posh Girl secret to her exotic glow sometimes comes from a bronzer. Here are 5 of my favorite bronzers and brushes to help me to achieve my healthy tan.
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6. Sephora Pro Bronzer Brush #48 $36.00 7. Bobbi Brown Bronzer Brush $54.00 8. BECCA The One Perfecting Brush $49.00 9. Tom Ford Bronzing Brush $115.00 10. Real Techniques Powder Brush $10.00 11. Lilah B. Rectractable Bronzer Brush $42.00
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Kevon is a Virgin Island born photographer based in Atlanta, Georgia. kevonrichardsonphotography.com
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By E.J. Webber
One of the featured designers to debut on the international stage and showcasing her bespoke clothing collection at the renowned luxury fashion gala called Summer Sizzle 2014 was Markita Turnbull Smith. Markita has also shown in Virgin Island Fashion Week, Caribbean Hits in St. Lucia, Fashion Solstice in the Cayman Islands, Jamaica Fashion Week, Islands of the World Fashion Week of Nassau, and Guyana Fashion Week. A rather full plate for this little lady who heads up Menen I Designs, a local African oriented business that was established by Markita in 2009 with just a crochet needle and a huge desire to succeed in the fashion business.
Born on the island of Tortola, Smith is a designer who literally does everything in her company, from making the patterns, to cutting the fabric and creating the lovely clothing. “Fashion is an instant language.” So was said by the famed Italian designer Prada, and no truer statement can be attached to Menen I’s line of clothing. It is a universal language based on craftsmanship honed from years of doing and learning that has brought Markita to the pinnacle of success.
After abandoning a degree in accounting, the completely self-taught fashion designer watched YouTube, researched the Web, and read books constantly to increase her knowledge of materials, design, and technique. She strives to be professional at all times and is, as she told POSH, “Always in the learning mode.” The learning began when she taught herself to crochet, then knit. “My
knowledge base on all facets of fabric and design increased, and whether I would use what I learned or not, I still made sure that I had the information that I was so keen on.” Then came the fashion designing. Her skill and technique brought her to being able to put on her own fashion shows. And of course, being the consummate professional brought her acknowledgement and rewards.
“I like to be different and I like to wear the unusual things myself,” says Markita. In school she was always more in tune with the arts and crafts subjects and the passion she developed then, has only grown by leaps and bounds. Today, she creates the unusual and one-of-a-kind pieces that allow the individual who wears her creations to stand out in a crowd. Her company name - Menen I - is coined after Ethiopian Emperor Haile Sellassie’s wife, Menen (Empress) Asfaw, however Smith is striving to have her brand recognized for the artistic quality of her clothing, and the quality of workmanship that goes into each piece, and not for her Rastafarian connections.
Her advice to those out there wishing to achieve success at whatever vocation they have chosen, she says that, “Everything is possible. Don’t let people tell you that you can’t be something you want to be. Just do it wholeheartedly no matter what people may say or think.” If last year’s Summer Sizzle event is any indication, Markita seems to be on par with all the other designers we will see this year.
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One thing is certain, Ms. Marlo cannot be summed up in a word although stunning, dynamic, resilient, brave and determined are few descriptions that fit this super star in the making. We all know her as the sassy and self-assured fashion maverick on Bravo’s Real Housewives of Atlanta and the girl we loved or loved to hate on I Dream of NeNe. But her portrayal in these roles barely scratch the surface of who she is and the star power she exudes. Once you meet Ms. Marlo you know there is something special about this southern beauty from St. Petersburg, FL. She is very comfortable in her skin. Although one look in her eyes lets you know there’s more to this diva than a great wardrobe and a bright smile. She’s been through some things and life hasn’t always been kind. But she’s a fighter and more importantly, a shining example of what it means to be a true survivor. As a child Marlo Patrice Hampton was a ward of the state who grew up in the foster care system due to her mother’s drug addiction and abuse. However, even this did not dim her light. To cope with her situation she developed a love for fashion and a sense of style that has made her one of the most sought after stylist on the fashion scene today. Another little known fact is that Ms. Marlo is not just a pretty face, she’s also a scholar! Marlo received a Bachelor of Arts from the College of Arts and Science in 2003 from the University of Southern Florida where she studied Social Work and Interdisciplinary Science. She then decided to take her talents to the city of Hotlanta, an emerging mecca for talented and accomplished African-Americans.
Caribbean POSH had a chance to chat fashion with #poshgirl Ms. Marlo:
What is a wardrobe must have? A classic non-platform black or nude pump.
Are there any misconceptions in fashion? Yes there is one huge misconception and that is that you have to be wearing labels to be considered fashionable. It’s about our personal style and good selections within any price range.
Its Carnival/Festival time in most Caribbean islands starting in July --- from nights out in the Carnival Village, Queen Pageants, and Parades. What fashion looks would you recommend for the occasions? Prints, patterns, feathers and rhinestones and crystals. Anything to stand out, bright colors, crop tops, and gaudy jewels.
What is your view on color theory? When it comes to color theory I say have fun. There are no true rules in fashion, but you have to understand how to play with colors and patterns to find that right blend.
How would you recommend styling by body type? Styling by body type is extremely important. Curvy girls do not be afraid to show off your waist, now I am not saying do skin tight everything however accent your best areas classily. The “lady” is always in.
What are some tips you use to accentuate your curves without doing/showing too much? Well this continues off of what I mentioned earlier. Belt the waist and understand proportions. If you are doing skin tight up top lets go with a flowing pant or skirt. If you are focusing on cleavage be covered below. VISA Versa if you want to show leg keep the girls in.
A lot of people think wearing couture is stuffy or restrictive. You manage to always look so stylish and sexy. How do find that happy medium? Mix high with low! I love my labels however Zara, H&M, COST, Forever21 are all great substitutions for achieving your “label” look.
Who is your fashion icon? CoCo Chanel
What is your favorite fashion era? I can’t say which era is my absolute favorite because there are just too many great fashion era’s to choose from. I’d have to say the late 80’s early 90’s was an awesome time in fashion because of all the grand accessoires; women were rocking big earrings and bracelets, I just love that look. Anyone that knows me knows I love accessories!
Where does your love for fashion thrive? From my Mother.
If you could style any celebrity who would it be?
What made you develop the Art of Style? I developed the Art of Style because I was receiving an overwhelming amount of email. And social media comments from my fans to share fashion tips. Also, The Bailey Agency invited me to speak at one their seminars back in February and I found it so rewarding that I wanted to build upon that and keep it going.
What’s next for Marlo Hampton? What’s next fro Marlo? Well I have a few things in the works that I can’t share yet, you know I’m a perfectionist, but I’m definitely not going anywhere. For now stay tuned to my website www. marlohampton.com, I do a weekly blog that shares everything that I’m working on when its ready to be released to the world.
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I would love to go back in time and pick the brand of Coco Chanel. We are kindred spirits and I think we would have gotten along well. I think we could have shared and created a few great style moments.
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That envious list of mega talented Jamaican artistes that contributed to the hard-hitting deejay dancehall hits of the 1990’s, inspiring dance moves of the time such as the “butterfly” “tatie” and the “bogle”, must include the name Nadine Sutherland.
A child star christened in the late 1970’s into reggae royalty, she shares musical prodigy lineage to the late Dennis Brown, Beenie Man and Junior Tucker, she is still relevant after three decades in the business.
She stands tall with her signature sexy midriffs, dancer’s body and clear vocals, among other major stars during that golden musical age like Shabba Ranks, Lady Saw, Buju Banton, Admiral Bailey, Sanchez, Super Cat, Barrington Levy, Pinchers, Beenie Man, Wayne Wonder and Chaka Demus and Pliers.
Fans will remember her major international hits under the Electra label like “Action” (1993) with Terror Fabulous and later Buju Banton’s “Wickie Dickie” featuring Sutherland which enjoyed number one status in the United Kingdom, and her collaboration with Canadian reggae artiste Snow with “Anything for You” in 1995.
A string of international shows featuring the best from the amazing dancehall era is what Sutherland hopes will materialize soon.
Taking a breather from work on her master’s degree in Cultural Studies at the University of the West Indies Mona Campus she spoke openly about her musical beginnings.
Stepping back into that historic time she told Caribbean POSH: “Dancehall was the music at the time, and that was me at that time as a young woman learning the “butterfly” with my friends. Growing up on the cusp of dancehall, we could do all the dances, and plus I am a trained dancer” she said. Originally from Above Rocks, a hilly rural area in St. Catherine, Sutherland reminisced: “we used to have a lot of fun. When we used to go in the dance they (the dancehall girls) would think we were uptown girls. But I was a country girl. We would see the dancehall girls and they would come right in front of us and “bruk out”. Then we just sey let we do the ting” she said. To aspiring entertainers the St. Andrew’s Girl graduate’s message is simple…”never run down fame but let it find you.” Hand-picked as a young child at age eleven by the late great reggae king Bob Marley who was the first to sign to his Tuff Gong Label with the hit “Starvation on the Land”, she sat down with Caribbean POSH to dish on life on and off stage.
A supporter of young talent she advises that name dropping and love of materialism can destroy one’s quest to build and sustain a successful career in music. “It is the funniest thing. My family always says fame runs to you. I don’t believe in what people do to survive to succeed these days. I have never had to do those things and don’t believe that you have to” she explained. Sitting under a nice shady tree on campus drinking in a beautiful day amidst the bustle of student life, Nadine’s wise words about fame came alive. She paused during the interview to take photos, give hugs and sing samples from her beloved catalogue. Making reference to two popular songs from her latest repertoire: “Cougar” and “Babyface” Sutherland revealed that “when I first came here they (students) would stop in front of me, tease me and sing “I am not a cougar” or “this is for my babyface” she chuckled.
However, “there was a time I had major issues with fame. I am an artist in every capacity…I love to sing and dance and have the quirky artistic personality. But I am not a person that in every aspect of my life I have been comfortable with fame. I have learnt to live with fame because I realized that my life’s destiny was to be famous. I have had to breathe, and accept it and be graceful and grateful” she confessed. Everybody sees fame and think that it is wonderful. But you will have some crazy people who will see that same light you shine. I am thankful and have learnt to navigate my life with it. At one stage I regarded fame as a burden, but now I regard it as a blessing. I never understood being an eleven year-old child star who can dance and sing and the biggest reggae superstar discovers you, and a Cinderella story is created around you, and people can hate on you as a child” she noted. “I live with Nadine Sutherland every day. Sometimes even now I don’t think I have even embraced it fully. I live with it, but the magnitude of it, people seem to think of that magnitude more than I” she confided. Standing up for oneself especially in the business is also very important. “I am not naturally a confrontational person. I had to learn. My mother would tell you I was airy fairy as a child. I see it in my niece who loves the world and thinks everybody is good. But I have had a little talk with her” she said. The physical dancehall space imparted more than dance moves to her. “The dancehall girls, they taught me to cuss. I still go home and cry when I cuss off somebody. We have to learn how to fight because turn the other cheek does not exist in the real world” Sutherland warned. “I will fight. I have a little gangster side of me, and if you step over my boundaries I will let you know. There is no Jamaican woman who can’t put her hands pon her kimba and tell you something” she said. “You could be the most talented thing in reggae music but it does not facilitate a woman as a superstar. I realized I am much loved, but there was a time in my life at the height of my career they (the public) slandered me so badly, and I was totally devastated. It was the most slanderous thing when they (public) said she deh pon drugs because I have that energy. Anybody who knows me know that I go to my bed early and get up early to go and run. I am a church-like person. My friends tease me and say that all these years my life was too clean” she told Caribbean POSH.
A fitness trainer and follower of the African Orisha religion, she jogs daily and appreciates a good curried goat meal that only her mother gets top marks. “I am not the conventional person. I think I am a potpourri of all spirituality because I don’t see God as having any form of limitations in terms of Christianity or Islam. Orisha, she says “has grounded me a lot, as I see the world. I am not a person that says I don’t see God in that way because God is everywhere, in every culture, He is in every people.” “You know a lot of people see me and they see the surface, and I am aware of that but those who look deeper will see that I have
Calling herself very animated and quiet, one of her passions is to dance. “God has given me a gift to let me spark up when it comes to music. I am able to camouflage my shyness” she noted. Defending her decision to go to university at this time she told Caribbean POSH “when my song Action started to break and other songs in the 1990’s I decided not to go back to school. But I felt like I was not living up to my full potential.” For the person who beat King Yellowman and Paul Blake before their heydays at a Tastee Talent Show in Cross Roads in the 70’s with “Buckingham Palace” she knew that she was a princess from early. Her decision to major in Cultural Studies at the university was a natural and easy choice for her. Part of her studies was examining the contribution of Bob Marley and Sutherland found the course quite eye-opening, emotionally stirring and inspirational. “I recognize Bob Marley’s greatness in various aspects of my life. I had to do a course on him at UWI. I toured Tuff Gong with my fellow students, and I bruk out a bawl. The teacher understood. I could not continue with the tour because it contained everything that I had experienced in my childhood. I speak his (Bob Marley’s) name with so much reverence. I remember seeing this beautiful man smiling down at me with perfect skin, beautiful teeth. He did everything to give me the best start in the business. The man gave me a baton, and gave me this life” she reminisced. “When Bob died I remember the walls of Tuff Gong were actually in mourning. It was profound at 56 Hope Road. I went home with the sense of sadness. People were lost. I have to give credit to Mrs. Marley to re-group and come again. Bob used to feed a lot of people who would line up to see him. People just wanted to be in that light” she revealed. “People seem to forget, not just Bob Marley that died, but his children lost their father, and they were young.” She is very proud that Marley’s musical legacy continues through his children and other business endeavours. Still looking fresh and youthful, she said she is far from a cougar or an older woman who enjoys the company of younger men, even though her three-year old song “Cougar” is still popular. Laughing playfully, she said: “I prefer older men. I can’t lie about my age, while I have some friends who take off ten years of their age and tell young men lies and they believe them.” Women are taking better care of themselves these days she said, making them more attractive through the years. “My father was a Rastafar I. So Rastafar I holistically was part and parcel of my life. I am not a strict vegetarian, but I eat fish and vegetables, and grew up boiling, broiling and baking. In my thirties I was aging a lot, maybe because of all the stress and rumours. When I reached my forties, I started getting up at 4 in the morning to meditate, pray and centre myself. I believe those things have helped to maintain my youthfulness” she said. Right now, she is hoping that her fans have missed her because she is ready to go on stage again, and put out some new music reflective of a new and evolved Nadine Sutherland.
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“Some people will accept that (the rumours) were part of my journey, even though there is no truth in it. It can be disconcerting. Then I realize that my life will speak” Sutherland said.
always been a little bit different. But the difference is my spirituality because I am not the person who going to cut any body’s throat, chase anybody or compete with anybody or run down fame.
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By E.J. Webber
Chrisette Michele the new face of Trefle Designs. was photographed in the British Virgin Islands by local photographer Norman Allen.
Chrisette Michele - the name rolls off the tongue like honeyed sweetness. The Grammy awarded recording artist and songwriter who usually likes to call herself Chris or Chrissy, is dynamic, talented, supremely so in the R&B genre, doesn’t take no for an answer to life’s ponderous issues, and is always, always, a doer and seeker after the goodness that results from being a - what she calls a - “kind rebel.” Chris doesn’t mind telling you she is a bit of a hippy, and ever since her high school days in New York, she has been an “indie” to the core. She is Vegan most of the time, college educated, adores her mother who is her spiritual mentor, and grew up playing the piano and singing in the church choir. “Most people don’t know this secret about me, but humor is one of my favorite art forms. Lucille Ball was one of my favorite female comedians because she was able to create comedy without loosing her classic femininity. Her comedy came from within. It was natural. She wore it in her heart. Laugh a little today. Just make it fabulous and smile all the while - Confidence is key!” With all the activity of a new album coming out in September, a clothing line, and gigs all around the country, this Sagittarian has the ability, sense of humor and confidence to do it all.
The focus on being “rich in heart and art,” as she believes, is another key that unlocks the-oh-so beautiful psyche of Chrisette Michele. Yes, she can collaborate with Jay Z, Nas, The Roots, and Wale, but what she also does when she is not singing and collaborating in all kinds of endeavors, is that she supports various charities to feed the hungry, visits shelters, speaks at abuse clinics, and addresses school kids as a motivational speaker. Her next project, she states is: “Opening homes for wayward young boys.” She is definitely a candidate for not only a crown, but a halo as well. It is not easy to separate her love affair with music from her many new found interests such as fashion design and beauty, because once she begins an interest - it is non-stop, full throttle, and incorporated into everything else she does including making music. The excitement is palpable when she speaks to anyone about her upcoming soft launch of her clothing line in New Orleans at the Essence Festival. Inspired as well by Jason Skye, her fabulous L.A. stylist and fashionisto “heart friend,” they have developed shapes, details, and discovered fabric finds that will make their line, called Rich Hipster Belle ultra fabulous. The idea is to make clothing that is fit for the curvy and fabulous! The surprises will come one after the other with monumental fireworks on the 4th of July this year. If you are there, you’ll be able to see and touch the new pieces from the line and pre-order in person.
“Jason and I took a trip to downtown L.A. to find the coziest, comfiest fabrics. Fabric that makes you feel like you’re tucked in to a second skin,” explains Chris. But meanwhile, to get her fashion feet really wet, Chris is also going to be the featured model for local BVI designer, Kristin Fraser, whose swimwear label Tréfle, is introducing a new line. Chris did not hesitate to be part of the Tréfle line-up of models because of her always great desire and willingness to support her hard working sisters. Besides that, this will be the first time ever showing the world her tattoos – each one significant and deeply emotional – as well as the first time of being photographed in swimwear, not to mention strutting down a catwalk wearing swim suits. Many of us can relate to that fear - a fear that can also be very emotional and scary! But Chris is a real hipster and so very rich in so many ways that can’t just be bought with money. She will make a splash!
Fraser too, will jump into the limelight again. Her design work is being recognized more and more and with the prestigious award in 2014 by Caribbean Excellence in Fashion - from Karib Nation, Inc., her talents are assured; add to this the fact that international celebrity singer Beyoncé and daughter Blue Ivy are now wearing her designs, she is catapulting her new collection, Atacama, with a huge originality and style. That’s not bad from humble beginnings in 2008. Frazer, born on the island of Tortola, Virgin Islands, interned for greats such as Carolina Herrera, and BCBG Max Azria, and received her Bachelor’s of Arts degree in Fashion Design and Marketing from the International Academy of Design and Technology in Tampa, Florida. Trèfle focuses on luxury swimwear and resort-wear for women and children, and is steadily evolving as a brand of class today. “Have a taste of my country, my home, my fashion, my Caribbean”... is Fraser’s motto and she has a drive for success with a large dose of humble thrown in as she continues towards her goal of having an internationally acclaimed brand that is sold throughout the Caribbean, U.S. and Europe. Connecting to heritage, being proud of accomplishments, and coming together and sharing loving ways to build each other up to shape a positive community that is rich in “heart and art” is something that both Fraser and Michele want to impart. We at POSH, wish them both a “Big Up” in all they do and look forward to seeing them both rock the runway and listening to the sounds of their success.
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By: Sherina Russell-Garcia
Like a teapot Stacia Davidson steeps her pure passion for art daily from observation of people, and nature. “I think the freedom to create without restrictions is one of the biggest advantages of being a Caribbean designer. We basically have the same sunny weather all round, for the most part, so our fashion is not limited by seasonal trend imposition” according to the founder of Jamaica’s newest designer label Yaad Trendz. As a young Jamaican university student, she aced a special affinity for fashion, which gave her the green light to start a truly rewarding business. “Initially, it was definitely the encouraging but forceful, confident and persistent words of wisdom and support from friends and people who just loved the pieces that I created for myself and that I displayed on fashion shows while attending the University of the West Indies and who insisted that I do it for a living. They believed in me more than I believed in myself and I think it somehow rubbed off on me. I guess if you hear something often enough, you will start to believe it” she explained. Taking some time to talk about her six-year old fashion label and latest collection spawned from the projection of beauty in nature, Davidson said: “I would like to think that we set trends instead of following them. Our pieces are often times inspired by the materials that we use to create them. As such, they express a distinct uniqueness of personality. Our accessories are bold, creative, fun, funky, flirty, stylish innovative and fashion forward. They offer a unique take, mix, blend and use of fabrics, materials and combination of colours. All the pieces have personality and are versatile in terms of styling options. A definite must have for every stylista! “ she boasted. “I’m inspired by life, art, geometrics, artistic and creative people, nature, prints and even the materials that I use. Basically, I can draw inspiration from any and everything. I find that whenever I travel or change my geographical location, whether out of the country, outside of Kingston, or just by a friend’s place, I’m always inspired and my passion and creativity are refreshed. Change of scenery tends to ignite and inspire. I get inspired also by reading,
browsing the net, meditating, praying or just organizing a nice night out with my friends” she said. Nothing seems out-of-bounds or useless to the artist intent on creating memorable pieces of art to be enjoyed and treasured. “I’ve used mostly fabric scraps, T-shirt material, jersey knit, leatherette, wood, copper, trimmings, buttons and beads to create these fabulous pieces” Davidson a deeply spiritual person said. “We want to have that creative, innovative, stylish flair and I think that if we are reflecting the trends of the times in any way it is in the fact that we are being resourceful by recycling, up-cycling, reconstructing, reworking and repurposing materials such as wood, plastic, wicker, fabric scraps and copper”. Paying homage to our deeply marinated Caribbean cultural roots from Africa, Europe to Asia, she told Caribbean POSH that: “there is so much in the Caribbean to draw inspiration from as we are a melting pot of cultures.” “I love that I am able to create, innovate and empower. I love the creativity and the imaginative process involved in up-cycling, recycling, repurposing and reconstructing second hand clothing, fabric scraps, and other materials and making a beautiful new product…. I love the reception that we get from the pieces that we make. It’s the ultimate high to be able to use your creativity and resourcefulness in designing and coming up with quality pieces that are in demand” she revealed to Caribbean POSH.
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To those considering taking that big leap of faith to turning a passion into business she advises: “I would say do what you love and follow your dreams and passions but always be mindful of the business aspects of things. Research your options and when you have decided what you want to do then go for it. The trick to it is just to start. A man who waits for a roast duck to fly into his mouth will wait a very, very long time. Start with what you have and what is available to you and go from there. Just be resourceful. You’ll realize that once you commit, the universe will assist.” Borrowing one of the many sage quotes from the late great American poet Maya Angelou, Davidson put the icing on the cake by saying: “You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.”
Interviewed by R. Anthony Morrison
For those of you who may not know, Blood Sweat & Heels is a reality series that follows the business, social, and personal lives several women who live in New York City. The series premiered on Bravo January 5, 2014. The premier episode boasted 2.5 million viewers. It was an impressive showing for the network. Demetria Lucas D’Oyley, Melyssa Ford, Mica Hughes, Daisey Lewellyn, Brie Bythewood, and Geneva Thomas were all part of the season one cast. On March 29, 2015 the second season brought two newcomers to the fray -- Chantelle Fraser and Arzo Anwar. The show is a whirlwind of exclusive parties and trips, drama and intense conflicts. It’s all the exciting elements that reality TV fans expect. If you have seen the show they you have no doubt hear the posh British accent of Chantelle Fraser. We were fortunate to be able to catch up with one of the newest BSH cast members and talk about her journey. She describes herself as very outspoken, and assertive. Perfect qualities for a reality series and she is more than holding her own with the American girls. Armed with an education from the University of London and a strong entrepreneurial spirit Chantelle has made a swift climb up the ladder of success. She runs her own company Flawless when not in production with Blood Sweat & Heels. And if that’s not enough she’s considering venturing into acting. Even her dog Milkshake has gotten into the act. Milkshake is going to be featured in a Hamptons Pet Magazine next month. There is a lot more to reality shows than what you see on the screen. There is also a lot more to Chantell Fraser than what you’ve seen on Blood Sweat & Heels. We are pleased to present our interview with Chantelle Fraser.
P: Chantell, your parents are originally from Jamaica what was it like growing up in a Caribbean British household?
P: Have you bee able to visit Jamaica much? CF: I’ve been to Jamaica many times, we have family in Kingston, Negril we have family in the countryside as well.
P: You studied on more of a business track rather than anything related to entertainment at university right? CF: I went to the London School of Economics. My undergraduate degree is from Goldsmith University, which is one of the
Universities of London. I studied psychology in undergraduate as well. I had an interest in people, group dynamics and those kinds of things. I studied management for my master’s degree at the London School of Economics.
P: When did you become interested in the entertainment industry? CF:It was actually while I was at the London school of economics, that I developed an interest in the entertainment industry. Initially I wanted to go into corporate life. I always wanted to work for Goldman Sachs I remember getting the interview for Goldman Sachs. It was a coveted interview because it was very difficult to get that interview. So I got the interview for Goldman Sachs, and I got the feeling that I wasn’t really going to make an impact there. I felt that I would just be a cog in the wheel, and I knew that I was never going to own a bank. I always wanted to have my own business. I’ve always been independent, as a child I started washing cars when I was about eight or nine years old for money, and I had my first part time job at 16.
P: How that interest in having your own business lead to entertainment? CF: I thought about what my interests were, I love entertainment,
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CF: My parents are quite British, they moved to England when they were eight years old but the Jamaican culture was still very prevalent in our household. We listened to Jamaican music, and ate traditional Caribbean food. And every Sunday we had rice and peas, and chicken. We definitely had strong sense of culture, I was taught to be proud of my Jamaican upbringing. I was taught that I was a representative of Jamaica. I was always very conscious of that. My parents always wanted me to strive to succeed, and be the best. The always said we were visitors or guests in a foreign land. It was always important that we represented the Jamaican brand.
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I love managing people, and I’m a great talent spotter as well. I decided that, what I really want to do is to make an impact in entertainment industry, and have a business. So I thought, how am I going to meet people in the entertainment industry? With the entertainment industry it’s all Abbot relationships and contacts. I started working as a waitress in a very exclusive private members club run by Ronnie Woods of the Rolling Stones. I would meet all types of people there from the entertainment industry very highlevel people. I got myself an internship with a music management company. I got my foot in the door, and from there I knew that was my future.
P: Did your parents have any strong opinions about your choice? CF: They were fine with it actually because they knew that I always wanted to have my own business. When I was at university I started a recruitment company. I was making money while at University; some of the other kids were working at fast food places. I had my own business, so my family always knew I had that kind of entrepreneurial spirit. So whatever I did they were quite fine with.
P: From there you founded your current company Flawless, how did that start? CF: Flawless was a very eureka moment. I was working at a modeling agency, and my goal was to have a traditional modeling agency. I worked at a modeling agency for about four years. I noticed that we were getting calls from clients wanting to book our models for promotional events. They were very high paying promotional events but we weren’t allowed to book those models. As we were managing their careers their focus was to be on the pages of Vogue, and Victoria Secrets campaigns. So we turned down these very well paying jobs. Then I would go to restaurants, and I would see the same girls who had tuned down $2-3000 jobs working at restaurants to supplement their income.
P: Was this when you had your eureka moment? CF: I thought hold on why don’t I just provide models with the ability to moonlight and do extra jobs on the side. I would give clients access to high fashion models. There would be no expectation from the models that it will enhance their modeling careers. They will have a good high paying side job, and they are going to make more money than they would waitress It would still conducive to their modeling career. It was just that the expectations would be different so that’s pretty much how it started.
P: How difficult was it starting a company from a sudden moment of inspiration? CF: I started my company from my bedroom in 2006. I was 26, and really fearless. In hindsight I’m not sure if I would have started it if I were that age now. I definitely had a lot more courage back then I didn’t have any money at all. I had just moved into a rentcontrolled apartment, and I had a roommate. I didn’t know how I was going to pay my rent but I knew that it was my calling.
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P: How did you choose the name Flawless for your company? CF: When I came up with the name Flawless it just came to me. I thought what am I going to call this company, what do I want my brand to represent. How do I want people to see my company? Then I saw a magazine next to me and it said Flawless, and I thought that’s it. It just started from there. I was really motivated to start the business. I thought the worst that could happen is I’ll fail at the business, and then I’ll go back to work. With the contacts I had established in the industry I was able to pick up some high level accounts. I just started calling from the top. I was taught that
it’s just as easy to start from the top as the bottom. I would go to the highest blue chip corporations, and offer my services. Luckily for me it worked out. I got some great accounts and within a year I had moved offices, and we were in Soho.
P: What do you like about your company? CF: It’s very dynamic because we represent so many different talent types. We’ve progressed from models to entertainers, and djs as well. We also have lots of unique performers as well; contortionist fire performers, and snake charmers. It’s really interesting to see the level of unique talent that comes our way. What I always loved about flawless is I never put limits on anyone that is working with flawless. If anyone has an idea that’s outside the box I welcome it because I feel that one should always encourage change. I think if you don’t encourage change then you become static, and you become kind of redundant.
P: So how did you come to be doing reality TV? CF: It’s funny really because I feel that was always my destiny. People always told me that I had a very quirky personality. That was quite shocking to me because I always considered myself to be quite dry. People would always be in hysterics when I wasn’t even trying to be funny. My friends would say oh you should go on a reality TV show, and would be like - really? I remember interviewing with a few magazines about my business, and they would always ask me have you ever considered reality. They would say, “You have such an interesting business, and you have such a dynamic personality you would be great at it.”
P: Was this the first time you had the opportunity to do it? CF: I had actually been presented with a few opportunities before this. My friend Geneva Thomas is one of the current cast members from season one. She approached me and said that she thought my story would really fit in with the Ethos of Blood Sweat & Heels. I was introduced to the producers, and I met the girls. It just really came natural to me, and the rest is history. I also think it’s a great platform to promote my business. My central focus is Flawless so if I can have a national platform (It’s actually international because we’re airing in Australia as well) to promote my business I think that’s priceless. It’s a very unique opportunity so I didn’t see any reason not to do it
P:What is your day like when the show is in production? CF: It starts at about six in the morning. I have hair and makeup, and that takes a long time to kind of get camera ready for HD. This season I definitely wanted to be the best version of myself. Took extra care with hair, and make up. So we start out at six in the morning. After that you could be waiting around for a couple of hours to start the scene while they set up. It can literally take up your whole day. Then in the evening you hang out some more with the cast members, it’s pretty much all consuming
P: How difficult was it at first to fit in and become part of the group? CF: Well these were Geneva’s friends, and I was very new to the group. In my previous life I had a very small circle of friends, and I joined this group of women who were already friends. It was definitely difficult to maneuver myself into the group. We all have very strong personalities as well Sometimes I clash with some of the girls, and it’s definitively about lack of understanding. In an ideal world you just want to be happy and friendly with everybody. That was new to me having people that I didn’t get on with or that would challenge me. It was like being in a wolf pack almost, and you’re the newest one. I would say fighting for position almost of testing your limits to see if you can hang. Another thing that I really enjoyed about it was that I made some great friends on the show. I probably made a few enemies but I have made some great
friends. It was just a bonding experience because it’s so unique. Just having that bond with some of the women was just really wonderful for me.
P: Has being on a reality series brought more visibility to your business? CF: We have a lot of press coverage for the business world also from the Caribbean market. I’ve gotten a lot of exposure there, and I’ve gotten few magazine covers coming up which is great. I’m also going to be active in Caribbean Week, so it has given me more me visibility. This is a starting point and the response that I’ve gotten from the public, and the press has been encouraging
P: How have you managed to keep your business on track while doing the series? CF: It’s been difficult the past few months doing the show is so new to me. It’s overwhelming with the press, and the interests of friends and family everyone wants to talk about it. It’s been a process to manage my focus on things. I struggled with that in the beginning but I’ve kind of come through that. My commitment to the betterment of myself, and my brand has helped my focus. You never know how long you’re going to have a platform. You have maximized that opportunity. I never want to live in regret. People procrastinate on things then say “Oh I wish I had done that when I had the opportunity.
P: So as reality shows go, how real is the show? CF: We have to keep the show as authentic as possible. If the producers see you trying to do something that’s not authentic they they’re probably not going to approve the scene. If I say I want to show myself ballroom dancing but I’m not really a ballroom dancer. If I don’t do that in my natural life then they are probably not going to approve it. I don’t know how these producers are so savvy but they really take the time to get to know who you are. They’ve been doing it so long that they can see who is being authentic and who’s not.
P: So you would say then that the show really is about your life? CF: Some people want to put on a pretend lifestyle that’s just for the cameras. It’s definitely about being authentic with your life. It’s really a series of conversations and finding out what you have planned for the day or for the week. It evolves as well because we’re in a group. Initially it’s your day-to-day life prior to the show because that’s all you have to go on. As you get into it you start bonding with the girls. Then it’s like “Hey lets take a trip here, let’s do this. You want to hang out with certain people, and conflicts occur that need to be discussed. It’s a very evolutionary process. There are logistical issues too such as if you want to shoot inside a restaurant you obviously have to get permission, You have to get releases from whoever is around which can be difficult sometimes. Sometimes it can be difficult because you have a specific lifestyle but you can’t access that lifestyle because they don’t really want the cameras at your favorite restaurant but we were very lucky this season.
P:Do you spend time with your fellow cast members when you’re not on camera? CF: Yeah, I hang out with a few of the cast members who I’m really close with. The relationships are really authentic, I don’t know about other reality shows but ours were really authentic with the relationships that you see
P: We see plenty of drama and conflicts on the show, things don’t always get worked out in an hour. Come do the conflicts on the show get resolved?
"We have to keep the show as authentic as possible
CF: How does it get resolved? Sometimes it doesn’t. Last season some of the issues with some of the cast members that weren’t getting along didn’t get resolved. They had to resolve their issues this season. The producers can’t make you do anything so it has to be of your volition. If I’m sitting here, and I don’t want to talk to you the producer is not going to come over and say, “Now this is what I want you to do”. They’re really flies on the wall. When I first started I thought how are they going to make a show out of us having lunch, and us hanging out together having fun. It happens and it all just unfolds.
P: Did you watch the show before you joined the cast? CF:I didn’t get to see too much of the previous season. I did get to watch the big episode where there was the Hamptons blow up last season. That was an interesting episode it was very exciting. I felt sorry for Mica I like Mica a lot but I haven’t got to all of the episodes when I got cast everything went so quickly from the minute I was cast it as pretty much right into production
P: What did your friends and family think of the show, and was it different than your own perceptions? CF: I feel like I’m probably my worst t critic. A lot of my friends, and family when they saw it said, “Well that’s exactly how you are.” So to them I didn’t do anything unusual I was being completely myself. I’m definitely outspoken, and assertive, I’m not afraid to voice my opinion
P: What kind of responses are you getting from the Caribbean and the U.K. about the show? CF: I’ve had great response from the Caribbean and, especially Jamaica I think that’s just the way Jamaican people are we’re very embracing of our own so they have been very supportive to me. So that’s been great even though I wasn’t born there I feel like I have a home there. I feel very connected to Jamaica and the people there. The UK feedback has been very mixed because I’m not a very typical British Black girl. Some of them see me and they say “ wow she has a very posh accent no one speaks like that in England.” So its been mixed. I’ve had people say to me that “Your representing Britain very well.” but over all the public response has been very well. It could have been worst; some of the other cast members have taken some lashings almost episode to episode. For the most part I haven’t had anything too stressful no ones said anything too nasty about me.
P: What have you learned from watching yourself on the show? CF: I’ve really enjoyed watching myself; it sounds strange to say that. I mean you get the opportunity to see your self, and know your flaws. It’s a humbling experience actually but you also grow from that. I see aspects of myself where I think I can definitely learn and grow. I’m all about growth I strive to be the best version of myself at all times. So having an opportunity to see myself, and how I can improve and be better is great for me.
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P: Based on this experience, would you do a reality series again? CF: I absolutely would do it again I’ve had a blast. Because I am so opinionated, and I am so assertive my being challenged by someone doesn’t affect me at all. If that’s the worst thing that happens then I’m fine. You’re not necessarily in control of how things are portrayed or how things are represented. For the most part I would say I’ pretty pleased with how things went down. Yes there are a few things that could definitely be improved but I loved it. I think the girls were great and very interesting. We had a really good time filming. If we get the opportunity to have another
season I would definitely like to be part of it
P: Do you get to New York Fashion Week when you’re in here? CF:I went to Fashion week last year we don’t get to see as many shows as we would like to. I always get so busy because we do so many events during fashion week. I loved Fashion Week at the tents but I don’t have the energy now to run around to all the shows but I do enjoy it. I’m very much into the classics I like purses so I love Chanel purses; I love YSL, and Balmain. I love Rebecca Taylor, and my favorite is Victoria Beckham. Just simple classic, nothing too trendy for me, as long as the silhouette fits my body well that’s what I really concerned with.
P: What are some of your favorite beauty products? CF: I like natural products; I’m a vegan so a lot of the beauty products I wear are vegan and natural products. Right now I’m into these products from the pink lake in Senegal. It’s called Lake Rose it’s a lake that has 80% more minerals than the Black Sea. It’s really great for your skin; I import it over from Senegal. I found out about it through some Senegalese friends, and I was intrigued when I saw this pink lake. There is another pink product that I use called Acure. I’m definitely all about products from the sea.
P: I hear you are very health conscious when it comes to your diet about that? CF: I’m a vegan, and I juice a lot so I tend to have very good skin. Products help but I think beauty comes from what you’re ingesting. It’s not difficult in NY I have my routine I juice every morning there are a lot of establishments popping up because people are becoming more aware. So it’s not difficult in NY, Los Angeles, and San Francisco. It can be tough when you’re traveling. We went to Kentucky that was a little bit tough.
P: What’s your fitness routine like? CF:I spin every morning, I also jump rope. I love jump roping a lot because you can jump rope anywhere. It’s cheap; a jump rope costs $15-20. Sometimes I’ll jump rope here in the office or I’ll do it in my living room. I can jump rope when I’m watching my favorite shows. You can burn 400-800 calories in a single session. I started off just doing five minutes, and I progressed to where I can jump rope for 45 minutes now
P: Do you have any desire to explore other areas of entertainment? CF: Even tough reality TV is not really acting because you’re just playing yourself. Since doing the show I’ve enjoyed being in front of the camera. I’ve been presented with a short film I’m reading the script for that to see if I want to do it. I think I am going to do it. It’s about a woman who has a lesbian experience and I am the boss of one of the women who has the experience I would play a British advertising executive I’ll also be auditioning for a play
P: Do you have any plans for the growth of the Flawless brand, where would you like to take the company? CF: Flawless Living is my new endeavor it’s a self-development site. It’s about a journey of self-development through fitness, beauty diet, nutrition, and lifestyle. We have numerous experts that write articles on several issues relating to health, fitness, and general self-development. I’m constantly on this journey of selfdevelopment. I always want to live my best life; I’m totally into the concept of you only live once so you have to make this your best life. You can be whatever version of yourself you want to be. You can be your basic self, your medium self, or your highest form of self. My journey is to get to my highest self. It’s always a journey; I just want to share that journey with other people. I know other people are on that same journey.
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Jewellery rocked and attitude ruled when the well-awaited RGAT Collection by British music journalist Reshma B took the fashion spotlight in Jamaica at Caribbean Fashion Week 2015 (CFW) the Caribbean’s premier fashion event. The collection was named for her blog ReggaeGirlBoutTown in tribute to her favourite reggae and dancehall slang terms such as “Wah Gwaan”, and “Tun Up”. By: Sherina Russell-Garcia
Popular dancehall artiste Popcaan who coined the slang “TR8” actually had it incorporated into a special custom-made piece by ReshmaB. Dancehall royalty Lady Saw and Gyptian also are some of her biggest fans of the designer chains.
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She told Caribbean POSH: “it was great being a part of CFW and seeing the designs getting the reaction they did. For me it was my debut runway show so it was particularly exciting! Bringing back steady memories of the mighty Eighties of impressive larger-than-life chains that early rappers used to don, as well as Jamaican dancehall stars, ReshmaB can be credited with re-introducing the chains with a modern twist.
The result was the crowd could not get enough of the street culture vibe.
The “Wah Gwaan” chain has been very popular, especially since President Obama visited Jamaica and impressed everybody with his patois skills. “Tun Up” is also a big favourite, since that term has really caught on with the American rap culture-they just say it a little bit differently “Turnt Up.” ReshmaB noted.
“It was nerve-wracking in the beginning because it’s manic backstage and you have no idea what is happening in the front of the stage. As I was getting the models ready I kept hearing these loud cheers and when I came out everyone was really showing their love for the chains which of course was an amazing feeling” she said.
Reshma B was the first to advertise her now world-famous brand that has her biggest supporters Pop icon Madonna, Hip Hop legend Lauryn Hill, and Rhythm and Blues newbie Jhene Aiko.
Although the line is just over one year old, she explained: “the CFW experience has been very inspiring. It has also made me realize what it must feel like for a recording artist when they have worked hard on an album and the feelings they may get as they are about to share with the world.”
“Initially when I would wear the chains myself people would ask me what the words meant and if they were into it they would always want to know where they could buy them from. My friends would ask to borrow them and eventually ReshmaB Chains grew from there.”
“The line is inspired by street slang I pick up on my travels around the globe. There is slang in the collection from all different genres, from rap to grime to reggae and dancehall.
Asked about how she feels that the brand loyalty is growing she said: “I feel great. It’s amazing to see how people from different backgrounds are embracing other cultures.”
For example, when I interviewed Lady Chann, a UK Dancehall artist who was down in the Grime scene she introduced me to the word NANG – which means ‘cool’ in the streets of London.
“When Madonna’s team reached out to me they initially wanted to pull items for some of her upcoming press appearances. She really liked the pieces and bought some from the collection and ordered a couple of custom designs too. I thought it was cool that she was feeling the chains” she said.
The chains are made of stainless steel plated yellow gold, rose gold or silver depending on the design. The pieces themselves are made of acrylic in different colors” she said. Born and raised in London, ReshmaB revealed: “I have been fascinated by slang since I was a kid. Growing up in London there was always exposure to Cockney Rhyming Slang which I still haven’t got all clear in my mind. Musically I grew up in a home that played everything from Whitney Houston to UB40 and the city is a cultural melting pot with some of the best music genres in the world all mixed together. I really love my job and where it takes me” she said.
The pieces definitely reflect hip hop culture. For example TRILL was a word I picked up early in the scene when I was interviewing A$AP Ferg. Definitely on the cutting edge, she announced to Caribbean POSH that earrings are the next accessory and that rings are next for the upcoming yuletide season. The international line is available at www. reshmabchains.com.
Explaining the appeal of the chains she added: “I think fans love what I love about the chains…they let you express your personality through language and style.
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Jamaican reggae crooner Christopher Martin released his muchanticipated U.S. debut EP Steppin Razor on April 21, 2015 and was in New York City recently to support the release. The 5-song digital-only EP balances sweetness, swagger and sex appeal and showcases Chris›s versatility and vocal excellence. Martin fires with formidable skill on each of Steppin Razor’s songs. The title track, produced by Frankie Music, isn›t the 1977 Peter Tosh classic (written by the late Joe Higgs, a mentor to Tosh and the legendary reggae group The Wailers) although it champions a kindred spirit of invincibility, in this case Martin›s unrivaled appeal to the ladies. The track is accompanied with a video, which is directed by Kurt Wright. The upbeat “We Are The Vibes” (produced by TJ Records) and the braggadocios single “I’m A Big Deal” (produced by Troy “Troyton” Hinds) get the party started. The sultry “Secret Love (Creep)” (produced by ZJ Dymond), his passionate vocals bring a renewed urgency to this well worn and (he admits) somewhat self-centered plea. I believe you Chris dam! “nah tell you to creep but if you going creep come creep come touch me”. A vocal delivery that makes for a very temping plea. Hands down a #POSHGIRL favorite.
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“Hide Away,” written and produced by the legendary Clive Hunt (whose credits include Stevie Wonder, The Rolling Stones, Grace Jones, Peter Tosh, Jimmy Cliff and VP Records’ Etana), is the first song Chris has recorded that he didn’t write. However he makes it all his own, incomparably delivering a swell of tender emotions over an irresistible, shuffling reggae beat. “Hide Away” is also featured on the soundtrack to the romantic drama Destiny, starring Chris as an aspiring singer attempting to navigate the music industry. The Jamaican film recently debuted in the South Florida market on May 8th and is currently playing at Regal Sawgrass 23 & IMAX Theater in Sunrise
On July 10, 2015, Jah Cure will release his new studio album The Cure (VP Records). Recently hailed by NPR as “a voice that sounds as if he›s wringing out passion from every note” and once described by the Los Angeles Times as “a brilliant crooner of Bob Marley-esque love-and-peace reggae,” the Jamaican-born singer has long been recognized as one of the island’s greatest voices. With his beguiling vocals and soulful conviction, Cure effortlessly blends street poetry and sufferer’s tales with beautiful love ballads into one cohesive collection. The 13-track set is a return to roots reggae and lover’s rock with R&B and pop-fused elements.
Jah Cure co-produced the entire album with the help of reggae producers like Christopher “Sketch” Carey, Clive Hunt, Llmar “Riff Raff” Brown, Justin “Jus Bus” Nation and Trevor “Baby G” Washington James. The Cure features recent hits like his #1 reggae chart-topping John Legend cover «All of Me» (which received over 5 million YouTube views), «Rasta» (currently #1 on Clinton Lindsay›s NY reggae singles chart), «That Girl» and «Life We Live» as well as brand new singles including “No Friend of Mine” “Made In California,” “I Surrender” and many more. Jah Cure’s multi-faceted story of struggle and love is intertwined into The Cure. “My struggles made me who I am today. That’s why I sing with feelings, it comes from my heart cause I feel the pain. Who feels it knows it,” he states.
On his upcoming album The Cure, fans can also hear this multigenre influence while he stays true to his roots. His evolved sound creates a well-rounded album that will resonate with roots reggae listeners and R&B lovers alike.
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Cure did not have the typical road to stardom. The Montego Bay native just began his musical career, with reggae veterans like Capleton, Sizzla and Beres Hammond taking him under his wing, when it came to a screeching halt after a controversial case that led to incarceration. However, Cure’s popularity rose to new heights during this time, becoming one of the fastest rising reggae stars worldwide. He was able to secure professional recording equipment and released multiple albums (Free Jah Cure, Ghetto Life and Freedom Blues) for worldwide distribution before his release in 2007. Since then, Cure has continued to top the reggae charts with hits and has released several albums True Reflections, The Universal Cure and World Cry. His latter album featured collaborations with Rick Ross and Jazmine Sullivan, blending hiphop, pop and R&B into his sound.
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“As artistes in the music industry, we have an influence on the music, and for me it is deliberate. D-Major does not lead youths astray, because its’ all love and positivity. Music heals. How we create music is deliberate. I am doing what I love and want to make music that will last. I want to make songs that will make a solid contribution to the music” he said. A private and quiet person off-stage, he added: “I have never written a song out of my own personal experience. Most of the time I write for a melody, and when it starts and I can build on it. It is a mystery to me because I don’t know where the lyrics come from.” he explained. Nevertheless, he has been able to meaningfully touch hearts and lives through his lyrics as far as Africa and Europe. To make a positive and lasting impact on the global music industry, two necessary ingredients are an impressive versatile voice and the ability to write evergreen street-credibility lyrics. Of course, being attractive puts the icing on the cake. D-Major possesses all three attributes. The 30 year-old emerging Jamaican reggae star Damian Codlin told Caribbean POSH that his stage name came quite by accident. “I was rehearsing with a band before a show and they were discussing the key for the song and said it should be done in D-Major. I did not have a name yet and when I heard D-Major it clicked for me because D is for Damian and the name is related to music” he explained. The first signal that he was ready to step into the entertainment arena came in 2006, when he joined male trio group QT while at Calabar High School. “It is a feeling like no other, working together and harmonizing was amazing” he said of being in the group” he reminisced. As a child, he absorbed music being played by his parents at home-which unconsciously prepared him for a life of stardom. He was able to recognize and appreciate all the great musical styles of reggae icons like the late Dennis Brown, Freddie McGregor, Beres Hammond, and American Rhythm and Blues legends Stevie Wonder and undisputed King of Soul the late Sam Cooke. In 2008, bonds with the group were amicably broken, freeing him to fly solo and tour with Grammy-award winning reggae superstar Shaggy as one of his background vocalists. He also seized the opportunity to learn more about the industry hanging out at Big Yard Studio. “When I was with QT I used to sing mostly at school barbeques, but I had this desire to go solo. I wanted to record and create my own music. So I left the group without any animosity” D-Major said. Music for him is a natural magnet for him and no matter what other career he had ventured into he believes that: “something would have led me to music eventually.” Blessed with a special talent for infusing lyrics and melodies into any rhythm that he hears and bringing forth timeless music for his fans, he still remains true and humble.
His debut album aptly titled “Its Major” released by VP Records in May 2014 has 18 tracks including collaborations with new and emerging reggae and dancehall stars Busy Signal, and Christopher Martin. Queen of the Dancehall, the legendary Lady Saw has also contributed to the album with “She Like It”. Stressing that collaborations are not forced but happen easily, D-Major noted that he wanted to join forces with Lady Saw in the future, and one chance meeting helped transformed his dream into a reality. “Lady Saw always said that she wanted to do a song with me. I saw her at a gas station one day and we exchanged numbers. I went to the studio and was working on a song and the chorus. I called her and she said send the song to me, and she liked it, and sent it back to me” he remembered. Major producers Donovan Germain, Shane Brown and Riff Raff have stamped their golden seal of approval on the album. “Party Like Its Your Birthday” featuring Busy Signal and Richie Loops; and “Real Friends” with Chris Martin and Assassin are popular singles by D-Major. “Can’t Let Me Go” is a favourite off the album in Zimbabwe while “Girl of My Dreams” has enjoyed the number one position on the reggae charts in Kenya. Speaking to his popularity in Africa he said: “they tek on to our culture and love our shows. The response from Africa has been all love. I can’t do a two-hour session because it is not enough. The language barrier is not there, because they know all the songs, and if you as a performer make a mistake they know.” Another hit off the album is “Real Know Real” which speaks to the importance of sincerity in relationships and the need to foster caring and humaneness to make connections with each other more meaningful. Expressing a life-long wish to connect with one of America’s top producers Timberland, and Will I Am of the Black Eyed Peas, his advice for upcoming artistes is to: “make sure you love the music for real. Glamour is not the whole thing. You will have disappointment, have to put in the hard work, and prepare for the long nights.”
The Genre’s Top Selling Annual Compilation Features Today’s Hits in Pop, Reggae, Dancehall, Roots and Lover’s Rock For over 20 years, the world’s #1 Caribbean music compilation Reggae Gold brings the genre’s top hits into one must-have collection for the masses. 2015’s installment, out July 17, 2015 on VP Records, is filled with the season’s freshest sounds in roots, dancehall, lover’s rock and pop-fused reggae from a diverse group of talent. From the Canadian pop supergroup Magic’s #1 Billboard single “Rude” to comedian/actor/singer Eddie Murphy’s return to reggae on his latest single “Oh Jah Jah,” (following his 1993 Shabba Ranks collab “I Was A King”) - there is no shortage of crossover appeal on Reggae Gold 2015. This year’s installation features a multitude female artists reigning in reggae today - from emerging stars like the Rastafarian singer Jah9 (“Avocado”), reggae pop princesses’ Toian (“Love It”) and Ikaya (“My Man”) to Jamaica’s leading ladies, like dancehall diva
Spice (“Conjugal Visit” ft. Vybz Kartel), the soulful songstress Etana (“I Rise”) and roots reality lyricist Queen Ifrica (“I Can’t Breathe”). The latter song carries a strong message to stop police brutality and racial profiling worldwide. The set also delves into exclusive new music from Jamaica’s top male artists. Jah Cure reveals his latest single “Made In California” off his upcoming album The Cure and the legendary crooner Beres Hammond delivers his stellar new anthem “Jamaican International Dance.” Singer-songwriter Christopher Martin turns heads with the island’s chart climber “I’m A Big Deal,” while overnight sensation Gully Bop proves ground with his popular tracks “ My God Dem Nuh Bad Like We” and “Body Specialist.” Dancehall star Busy Signal drops lyrical fire on the flirtatious fun track “Text Message,” and Gyptian unveils his latest steamy single “All On Me.” Every song counts on this collection.
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Reggae Ambassadors Third World Give Their Rendition of The Abyssinians 1974 Original “YimMasGan”
Celebrating over 40 years in music, one of the most pivotal reggae bands of all time Third World will release their first major song of the year “YimMasGan” on June 16, 2015 on Ghetto Youths International. The Damian Marley produced song, which will also be accompanied with a new music video directed by Jamaica’s own Ras Kassa, is a fresh take on the 1974 original track by The Abyssinians. Yim mas gan means let him be praised in the ancient Ethiopian Amharic language. This is the second song written by The Abyssinians that Third World recorded. The first was “Satta Massagana,” released in 1975 on Chris Blackwell’s Island Records. LISTEN/POST song: https://soundcloud.com/ghettoyouthscrew/third-worldyimmasgan
Founding member of Third World Cat Coore states, “this song is almost as if we have come full circle. When we recorded ‘Satta Massagana,’ it was one of our very first recordings we did. In fact, it was the lead song on our first self-titled album. This song is giving praise and thanks to the most high Jah Rastafari for his presence, ever-guiding hand and inspirational vibration that we all feel within the Rasta community. Recording this song with Jr. Gong makes it even more special to us. With Damian’s production skills mixed with his musicians that helped create the song, we feel it is one of the best covers not just done by Third World, but ever done by anyone.” Richard Daley of Third World adds “the record has a lot of meaning to Third World because its giving praises to Ethiopia and the King. The writing of the Abyssinians music was so spiritually high, that is like a prayer. It is like a chant and we just connect with it. Also, Damian Marley adding his touch to the whole thing brings a new light to the music and its meaning.”
“I’m honored to be working with some of my musical heroes. Third World has played a great roll in my development as an artist and I’m proud to be a part of their latest project,” expresses Damian “Jr. Gong” Marley.
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With 10 Grammy nominations, sold-out tours worldwide, a loyal fan base and a catalogue of Top 40 Billboard charted smash hits (including “Now That We Found Love,” “96 Degrees in the Shade,” Third World has been one of (if not the) most consistently successful reggae bands. Third World’s reggae fusion style mixes R&B, funk, pop, rock, dancehall and hip-hop into the genre, making them one of Jamaica’s most popular crossover acts among international audiences. The band has toured and worked
with the late great Bob Marley (including opening for Marley’s first world tour in 1978), Stevie Wonder (who produced 2 of their albums in the 80’s released with CBS), Santana and Jackson 5 (opening for their first concert in Jamaica). They have also shared the stage with the likes of Bono of U2, Sting, The Police, Whitney Houston, Wyclef Jean, Lauryn Hill, Jimmy Buffet, Eric Clapton and Marc Anthony and landed national TV performances on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Late Night with David Letterman, Arsenio Hall Show and many more.
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Let’s get summer ready for love! Too many times we sell ourselves mistruths that we ought never to buy. The coursing of societal pressures and norms influence us to ignore our instincts and gamble on our most prized possession-our self-worth. The kaleidoscope of consciousness is tricky. But it’s time we start telling ourselves the truths we deserve. I just don’t think its right, that each time we get hit by a mack truck and our feelings are splattered over the highway of despair we blame the driver of the truck instead of acknowledging we played chicken with our most prized possession-the heart.
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1. “This is who I am, I am sexy,” says the women who wears her identity through her appearance. This is a common disclaimer when we want people to accept the self-sabotage we have convinced ourselves of. Our clothing and appearance play an illusionary role in perception. The male gaze undeniably has value. When you feel their eyes beam on you as you walk past, it’s like sun on a rainy day. Is it ok to accent cleavage, all of the leg you can, all of the derriere you’ve been squatting for months to get? Sure, if that is how you choose to dress, yes! After all, dressing is not to blame for how we perceive ourselves to be. What’s important is to understand you are NOT your body (in my best Maury Povich voice). Our bodies tell such beautiful stories and our clothes are the introduction, however, conservative or provocative, there is way more to the story. What we reflect on the outside [in our appearance] should be a reflection of the inside. If dressing provocative is the “only” way you feel sexy, it’s time to re-evaluate. This is not an antidote about how to dress and what to wear, but a message about self-love verses a comfortable “sexy” casing of insecurity. Remember when you say, “This is who I am,” just whom are you truly introducing? 2. “He really likes me.” Men will always give the impression they “really” like someone to get closer to their goal. But we must discern the difference between someone who really likes you and someone who values you. Sometimes when one believes they are truly liked they become gullible under the guise of feeling noticed and appreciated. When you begin to notice that the initial behaviors of courtship change quickly after intimacy has
been exchanged, you painfully learn that he was in like with what he could get and not whom he could be with. When he really likes you, you always feel respected, your feelings are a priority, he doesn’t use work as a scheduling excuse, and he doesn’t generate a back door to get out of obligations he’s made with you. Don’t be surprised when a man pays attention- you are wonderful, right? And since you are so wonderful- he’ll take his time and he’ll really stay around to learn what else he likes about you. Cornelius Lindsey said it best, “if you live off a man’s compliments you’ll die from his criticism.” 3. “Being in a relationship is better than being single.” …First things first! Stop comparing alternate universes. Both unique relationships are equally important. No doctor would ever suggest that you live without vitamins or proteins. Single and coupled relationships both have intrinsic value. Being single means you can enjoy the flirting, enjoy getting flowers from multiple suitors, enjoy having options, enjoy the different types of hugs and kisses you can explore, enjoy being your own priority (I’m sure you don’t ignore yourself!); enjoy knowing that your happiness is not reliant on what someone else does but is a special bonus. Take a moment to examine other relationships around you – everything is not greener on the other side. There are many people who are very lonely in their committed relationships. Relationships are not synonymous with happiness. While we all have a need for belonging – the strongest sense of belonging comes from within. I know we’ve been spoon-fed with media ploys and societal pressures that being coupled is the validation you need to
be happy –baloney! Happiness doesn’t come from just what’s around you it comes from what’s inside you. 4. “It’s complicated.” Actually, it’s not. This is the best excuse yet, to remain stagnant, and not provide yourself what you want and deserve. Love becomes complicated when we stay where we don’t fit or where we don’t find true compatibility. It’s complicated when we don’t believe we can have better. It’s complicated when we convince ourselves to not listen to our instincts. It’s complicated when we frown more than smile or cry more than laugh. It’s difficult when we are not willing to make changes without a guarantee. To choose happiness is an effort. Untangle your love web, loosen your bra strap, kick off your shoes and get real with yourself. Complications happen when we choose what we want to accept instead of what we deserve to have. 5. “There aren’t any good men left.” If you tell yourself there are no good men, you have committed to only being involved with men who are jerks. You have defeated all hope and faith. There aren’t good men where you replicate the same behavior that yields the same results. Opportunities, even in relationships, require work and effort. It requires stepping out of your comfort zone, the same bar and club, the same prototype and the same mentality. Desperation and bitterness are obvious scents that most people smell pretty quickly – so make sure you’re not wearing the same fragrance when you step out each day. Create new hobbies and passions. Travel, go some place in the world you have never been – learn that there are different types of men that you can get to know all over the globe. When you’ve done that…demand amazing! Not that a man be perfect, but just amazing. Demand that he calls and not text demand that he does exciting activities (go beyond dinner and a movie); demand that he holds your hand. Demand that he offers genuine conversation (none of that shallow stuff). Of all the men you meet, the good man will be the only one standing out.
6. “It will make me feel better.” There’s this infinite yearning in our bodies called “skin hunger.” Skin hunger is an innate desire for touch to fill the void of loneliness. We seldom think of skin as an organ. You might be surprised to know of all of its obligations, strengths and challenges. It certainly needs more than sunscreen and a good waxing. Skin needs to be caressed and touched adorned, nurtured and fed. But when we suffer from skin hunger it is easy to succumb to the pressures of being intimate with someone you know won’t really fulfill your emotional needs. In the act, everyone is smiling, making weird faces of arousal, and then the phone is silent, no one calls to ask how your day was, no one to grab a snack with, but they are always available for a nightly quickie. That’s when you realize it’s not only the sex that you wanted but also the connection. So just remember, whoever doesn’t actually care about you can never truly make you feel better. 7. “Everybody’s doing it.” Hooking up, enjoying the debauchery. Coming and going as you please with no rules, no boundaries, and no communication. There is a price to pay when we do what everyone does; it is selling ourselves out. With ratchet TV influencing so many viewers, it’s no surprise that some of our real life relationships turn into a daily soap opera. Conversations about sex either make us turn in or turn up! But whatever you do, don’t turn on yourself. Don’t follow the crowd – lead yourself. You have to know you are the writer; director and creator of the love you want for yourself, but if you want to take someone else’s script, just know you won’t have control of what they write.
Keep These 7 rules in your heart and your summer will be off to a strong start!
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