Urban issue 40 CBT in the City

Autumn Issue 39!

Urban

September - December 2014

Gay parenting the new frontier into mainstream For some gay men have experienced the joy of parenting through the use of lesbian friends who want to create a family also. Now with adoption being broadened to include, lone parents, people on benefits and gay people this has made the new possibilities amazing and exciting as the acceptance of other family forms other than nuclear are now coming into mainstream thinking.

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Moving away from the nuclear family has been necessary for a long time why?

Because it was never the norm is the first instance. The norm is a collection of types of family that exist to survive. This is our heritage as a race of people that we know how to survive and moving with the tide is essential to survive. Many famous people have not had the nuclear family experience but still it has been peddled as the family

on a mass scale before. The possibilities of discovering new ways of approaching parenting dilemmas are here as with gay parenting comes a fresh approach that does not keep up with the Jones's. After all coming under scrutiny is not new and the journey involves children who may also be targeted by prejudice.

In Holland research about gay parenting is extensive showing that children of gay parents

margin. There are many pros and cons to this group but it's the same with straight parenting give or take the prejudice. What is important is that children know that they are loved and know that life is to be lived in full viewing life as half full rather half empty. if you are a gay parent struggling with prejudice and parenting then please be in touch with the clinic . For more information on the clinics and how to book an

type of virtue and aspiration. Gay parenting is one that has been trodden before but not

exceed in education compared to the straight counterparts with a significant

appointment please call 02074671508

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Olfactory Reference Syndrome reference syndrome comes from: Olfactory, pertaining to the sense of smell. Reference, because of the belief that the behaviour of others is referential to a supposed odour.

Syndrome, because it is a recognisable set of features that occur together The diagnosis is ORS is persistent for 6 months, false belief that one emits an offensive odour, which is not perceived by others. There may be degrees of insight (i.e. the belief may or may not be of delusional intensity).

Olfactory reference syndrome (ORS) is a mental disorder in which there is a persistent, false belief about and preoccupation with emitting abnormal body odour which are foul and offensive to other individuals.

Persons with ORS often misinterpret others behaviours, e.g. sniffing, touching nose or opening a window, as being referential to a body odour which in reality is non-existent and cannot be detected by other people.

This disorder is often accompanied by shame, embarrassment, significant distress, avoidance behaviour, social phobia and social isolation.

The term olfactory

Home Treatment This is an essential service for those who find it difficult to leave the house due to problems with anxiety, depression and trauma. No matter what the background help is at hand for you and a specialist can be with you ASAP. Home treatment starts with an assessment of need where a treatment plan is offered to help you in tackling your problems. Treatment involves using many approaches with the field of CBT. Our experts are trained specialists who have experience and expertise in the ares of anxiety, depression and trauma.

Many before you have used home treatment

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and have had the best experience because they have now overcome their difficulties and love living the life they were born to lead. Don't suffer in silence get help today!

This pre-occupation causes clinically significant distress (depression, anxiety, shame), social and occupational disability, or may be time-consuming (i.e. preoccupies the individual at least 1 hour per day).

The belief is not a symptom of schizophrenia or other psychotic disorder, and not due to the effects of medication or recreational drug abuse, or any other general medical condition.

The causes of ORS are unknown. It is thought that significant negative experiences may trigger the development of ORS. These have been considered as two types: key traumatic experiences related to smell, and life stressors present when the condition developed but which were unrelated to stress. In one review, 85% of reported cases had traumatic, smellrelated experiences, and 17% of cases had stress factors unrelated to smell. Reported

smell-related experiences usually revolve around family members, friends, co-workers, peers or other people making comments about an odour from the person, which causes embarrassment and shame.

Examples include accusation of flatulence during a religious ceremony, or being bullied for flatulence such at school, accidental urination in class, announcements about a passenger needing to use deodorant over speaker by a driver on public transport, sinusitis which caused a bad taste in the mouth, mockery about a fish odour from a finger which had been inserted into the person's vagina in the context of a sexual assault, and revulsion about menarche and brother's sexual intimacy.

It has been suggested that a proportion of such reported experiences may not have been real, but rather early symptom of ORS (i.e. referential thoughts). Examples of non smellrelated stressful periods include guilt due to a romantic affair, being left by a partner, violence in school, family illness when growing up (e.g. cancer), and bullying.

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Group therapy Have you considered group therapy?

There two main forms of group. One is therapy group like a core issues group looking at core beliefs like " I am worthless" using techniques to help with this to overcome the difficulties faced. And the other type are educational groups like CBT skills, problem solving, stress management.

Both are useful in aiding your recovery and if you want to know more then ask your consultant when you see them next.

A CBT. Therapist here at the clinic can help you achieve many things like: • Understand the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviours • To become self aware • To use friends and family as part of the relapse plan • Understand back up and why it is important for living a long contented life.

• For more info on receiving therapy, coaching, group program's or intensive support then contact the office 02074671508 and ask for the clinical lead Matt. Www.cbtinthecity.com/ shop/

Mindfulness groups online for you, families and work The CBT group work is a huge advantage in learning from many different angles. Learning in the here and now is valuable, one that can be easily facilitated in group.

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It takes a group with different opinions to help challenge thinking patterns that have been held for a life time. Experiments can be devised and songs used to help dislodge strongly held attitudes in a friendly environment with the guidance of a group leader. There are many types of groups, core belief groups, relationship groups, men's group, women's group, educational groups and many more. The approaches used can be from a REBT, FAP, mindfulness, imaginal, beckian and behavioural perspective all with the aim of helping you get to your goal. To join a group it is very simple all you need to do is pay a membership fee and you can attend as many as you want for the year contact@cbtinthecity.com or tel 02074671508 or go to the shop on www.cbtinthecity.com and choose the product called initial consultation and then an email will be sent to you containing your appointment date and time.

The service is exclusive for you and there is no other name to use but CBT in the City. Remember we are Visibly caring Truly authentic Madly passionate. Deeply reassuring

What can I expect from your services at CBT in the City?

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We can help with all sorts of problems, like obsessions, worries and dark moods. We can feel down about a lot of things like work, sex, babies, being a mother, getting married or receiving a promotion.

All theses would appear to be happy moments in life but sometimes things and life gets in the way. We are here to help and our director Matt Broadway-Horner extends a warm welcome to you

Our priority is to work with you to find an appointment with the right Consultant for you, at a time and day that is convenient to you for face to face, telephone or video online therapy with an expert straight into your room. There are 3 ways to book an appointment or find out more about our services: •Call us at CBT in the City on 0207 4671508 and have a chat today •Drop us an contact@cbtinthecity.com

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personally but if we can not answer your call as the Consultants may be in a workshop or back in the clinic then you can leave a message and a therapist will call you back personally. Remember we are here to help and there are a variety of packages to suit your needs.

Believe me we have thought of every need and have a package for you! Call us on 02074671508.

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Our office manager is on hand to help with any queries you may have from finding out more, referral information, fees, workshop details etc, please call today and we will be happy to help. We attempt to answer all calls

Open now is the adoption group

New book out in December 2014

Couple therapy

This is for those who are going through the adoption process as a parent or parents wishing to embark on this momentous rite of passage. Working with the social workers, family and friends can be stressful and upsetting. The group is designed to help support you in the process. The other function of the group is for those who have been adopted and struggle with many issues about the processes they have been through. The group with the two functions offer a dynamic approach to the adoption process, one that is

The second book from our own Matt.

Broadway-Horner looking at the centuries old Buddhist tradition of mindfulness. Scientists have taken the practice apart to study the meditation practice away from the religion and the research has proven significant to show that people with anxiety and depression can and do vastly improve after using mindfulness based cognitive therapy. Matt writes in a structured form to help anyone with depression to take some help. It's written to help those with lowest levels of concentration to take a

Many couples have experienced the help and support of our therapist Matt Broadway-Horner.

Many come at the end of a tired and worn out road believing it to be the end but both wanting to stay together. Matt using practical and tested techniques helps you both to negotiate the difficult steps forward to bring you out of the woods into the clearing to see each other again. Many describe Matt as 'inspirational', 'warm', 'a god send' these from couples who are still together and believed that therapy was well worth every penny. The therapy used is

enriching, powerful, and rewarding. The group takes time to learn about each other, offer wisdom, support and challenge each other to move forward. The group is open ended for the year.

sample and use it to help. It is our hope that this will help you too. The book will be out for purchase in December 2014 and if you want to pre order then please do send a email to contact@cbtinthecity.com and Susie will reserve a copy for you.

from cognitive behaviour therapy tradition and with Matt's experience and expertise this is a good mix of ingredients to bring about a rewarding experience. Matt sees people from all ages, back grounds and sexuality.