Intro to Trauma Competent Care
The Healing Power of Connection Lesson 6 GOAL: To discuss Jesus’s model of grace before truth and the healing power of simple connection/relationships. In children from a healthy and safe environment, when a need is expressed (baby cries) the caregiver responds to the need and satisfies the need (mom comes running and changes a diaper).
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The more we are connected emotionally to a child, the more tolerance and even some level of compassion we have for him and how he expresses his needs.
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However, the expression of need in children from a CUTS environment may look like “BAD Behavior.” Instead of responding to the need, we react to the behavior. And then we get caught in a cycle of only responding to behavior.
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The less we are connected, the less tolerant we become, and even small things frustrate us more.
WE MUST CONNECT BEFORE WE CORRECT When a child expresses their needs through bad behavior, we must bridge over the behavior and connect with the child in relationship before any conversation about behavior takes place.
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