Close Up October 2023

Granny buying you a fish finger sandwich whilst she shopped womenswear we hope that you can join us on Friday 27th October 2023 to share those stories and celebrate not just the past 120 years of Pearsons, but also toast to the next 120 years as we announce our commitment to renovate and refurbish the store and rejuvenate Enfield’s iconic department store.

As autumn leaves paint the town in shades of red and gold, we welcome you to the October edition. This month, our cover is graced by none other than the iconic Naomi Campbell, a true legend in the world of fashion and a timeless symbol of elegance and strength.

Naomi's illustrious supermodel career has spanned decades, inspiring generations and breaking barriers. Her latest collaboration with Pretty Little Thing is a testament to her enduring influence, merging haute couture with high street fashion.

Inside these pages, you'll find a thrilling Halloween theme weaving its way through our content. In the spirit of the season, we've curated a spine-tingling book edit featuring the most chilling horror stories to keep you entertained on those dark October nights. We've also transformed interiors into eerie yet inviting spaces, providing inspiration for those who want to infuse their homes with the spirit of Halloween, complete with autumnal home accessories to set the mood. For families planning the October half term, we have an extensive guide of things to do in London. From spooky events to familyfriendly attractions, there's something for everyone to enjoy during this autumn break.

And finally, our special Wedding Supplement is here to guide those who have recently embarked on the journey of planning their wedding. Inside, you'll discover a treasure trove of ideas and tips to help you create the perfect day. Whether you're envisioning an intimate gathering or a grand celebration, our supplement is your go-to resource as you step into the enchanting world of wedding planning.

As the days grow shorter and the air crisper, we hope our October edition adds a touch of magic to your fall season. Enjoy the captivating stories, the bewitching visuals, and the inspiration that flows through these pages. May this month be filled with warmth, creativity, and a touch of the supernatural.

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WARM AND FUZZY

Step into cosy comfort this autumn with these soft wool blend socks. Keep your feet warm and stylish all season long!

2 Pack Wool Blend Socks, £11.99 www2.hm.com

PEACHY KEEN

A buildable liquid blusher with light reflecting golden pigments that melts onto the skin for a sun-kissed flush of colour resembling the perfect Turkish delight.

Perfect x Ekin-Su – Radiant Blush, £16.95 www.bperfectcosmetics.com

CUTE AND CLASSY

Elegant and functional, this adorable customised leather phone case is perfect for the ultimate protection whilst looking super cute!

Embossed Pocket Phone Case in Vanilla, £38 www.kokoblossom.co.uk

STYLE SEEKER

Elevate your autumn style with this classic handbag in a rich copper hue, adding a touch of warmth and sophistication to any outfit.

Bedford Row Small Open Top Copper Pink Grab Bag, £259 www.radley.co.uk

HAIR HERO

Your errands just became a whole lot easier with this this large claw hair clip. Secure your stylish updos with ease, designed to hold your hair in place all day long.

Clara Claw Clip, £15 www.oliverbonas.com

PUMPKIN PARTY

This super sweet knitted pumpkin will be sure to add a cosy seasonal touch to your home this Halloween.

Neutral Knitted Pumpkin, £12.50 www.sophieallport.com

FEEL THE BEAT

Elevate your music experience with these wireless headphones. No more tangled wires, just pure, uninterrupted music wherever you go.

Sony WH-CH520 Bluetooth Wireless On-Ear Headphones with Mic/Remote, Beige, £45 www.johnlewis.com

GLOW LIKE A PRO

Level up your skincare by combining ease and simplicity in one effective routine, this set includes a multi-use oil, cleansing gel, radiance serum and a hydrating moisturiser – catering to a myriad of skin concerns in one go!

The Simple Skin Set: The Minis, £39 www.aime.co

SNUGGLE STYLE

Snuggle up in style with this patterned wool-blend blanket. Adding a touch of vibrancy to your living space, it is the ideal addition of warmth and comfort this autumn.

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NAOMI CAMPBELL

The iconic supermodel, the queen of runway and the ultimate force of fashion.

One of the five original supermodels, Naomi Campbell, superwoman, mentor, businesswomen and mother. The UK’s greatest supermodel has been a fearless champion of diversity in fashion for decades. Now she’s relishing a moment of change.

“BUT WE worked hard. AND NO MATTER HOW MANY OUTFIT CHANGES, HOW MANY SHOWS, we never said we were tired.”

One of the world’s most renowned supermodels after beginning her modelling career at age 15, Naomi Campbell was the first black woman to appear on the covers of French and British Vogue and the first black model to appear on the cover of Time. While the exquisitely exotic leggy supermodel began her career on the catwalk, by the end of the 1980s, Campbell quickly segued to high-profile advertising and had become well known as one of a select group of models, called supermodels, who earned multimilliondollar incomes and were famous beyond the fashion world. She has appeared on the cover of more than 500 magazines and modelled on the runway and in advertising campaigns for many of the world’s top fashion designers and brands, including Versace, Ralph Lauren, Vivienne Westwood, Chanel, and Yves Saint Laurent. Despite her success, she was often the only black model featured alongside other models. You probably already know it by now, but Campbell, 15, a schoolgirl hailing from the fairly unremarkable streets of London’s Streatham neighbourhood, was spotted by a model scout while out windowshopping in London’s West End. It’s a story a world away from how most successful models these days seem to be discovered, either scouted via Instagram or ushered to the front of the queue by virtue of their famous parents. Campbell’s backstory makes it seem like a chance encounter was responsible for changing the trajectory of her life, as though hers is some sort of “right place, right time” Cinderella story. However, with a face like hers—those formidable cheekbones sweeping upward as though in tribute to the celestial beings that must have played a role in their creation and those plump, perfectly proportioned lips—Naomi Campbell was always going to be famous.

THEIR dream is to show, THEN LET THEM SHOW.”

Between Paris, Milan and London in the last 2 seasons, Naomi walked in shows for Versace, Alexander McQueen, Balmain and Lanvin. “I still enjoy it but it’s nerve-racking! Because I’m in my fifties walking with girls who are 18!” She’s being generous. No one – but no one – commands a runway like Naomi, then or now. “It was more fun back then because you’re with your girls,” she explains, referring to Linda Evangelista, Cindy Crawford and Christy Turlington. “It’s great to be with these young’uns at my age, but I have to say, at one of the shows I was like, ‘Come on, girls! Pick up your feet! Why are you walking so slow?’ I definitely feel like my time was more joyful. We smiled. We got to show off our personalities.”

Naomi, Linda, Cindy, Christy... the power of those four glamorous, go-getting, genetically gifted women transcended fashion. Their status – their celebrity – was so spectacular that their names became as big as, if not bigger than, the blockbuster brands they were booked for. “It was an incredible time,” she remembers, fondly, “but we worked hard. And no matter how many outfit changes, how many shows, we never said we were tired. We all loved it and we kept each other’s energy up. We did eight shows a day and then we would go and celebrate with the designers in the evening. I wonder sometimes if models now could have kept up with us.”

Following her rise to fame as a model, Campbell pursued acting and music careers, enjoying her greatest success with the latter in Japan. Her singing career peaked with the 1994 hit “Love and Tears.” Additionally, Campbell has appeared in countless TV shows, music videos and films, including ‘The Cosby Show,’ ‘The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air,’ Madonna’s ‘Erotica,’ Bob Marley’s ‘Is This Love’ and Michael Jackson’s ‘In The Closet’.

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Earlier this summer Naomi Campbell launched her first collaboration with online fashion brand PrettyLittleThing. Campbell met with [PLT CEO] Umar Kamani and said “I’m interested, but this is what I’m doing, and I would like this to be incorporated. Everyone’s seen that there are no borders—and especially in fashion, there shouldn’t be. We need to embrace all creatives. There has been a block of sorts in the past, and that block needs to be banished.” Inclined to enact change versus pontificate about it, Campbell explained, “I’m looking at myself as a changemaker. As a changemaker, I thought this was something that was a good thing to do. I know that it’s fast fashion, and that people have their criticism. I’m not denying them. But as a changemaker, I felt this was a great way to effect change in the industry in getting my emerging designers recognised and seeing them on a global platform.”

Above all, Campbell would like to see the fashion industry change “by opening up all borders — fashion is not supposed to discriminate — and allowing anyone and everyone who wants to come and show in whatever country. If their dream is to show, then let them show,” she said. “Giving them the support that they need is the most important thing” Recalling how “so many” helped her, including “so many who are no longer here, in naming some of them — Azzedine Alaïa, Gianni Versace, Mr. Saint Laurent, there are too many, oh my goodness. There was Karl Lagerfeld. I was in such a blessed place and time.” With that in mind, she said, “I’ve always believed that you have to share and pass it on. That’s who I am as a person. But I don’t like my kindness to be mistaken for weakness. I do it as initiatives and I do it around the world… I love working with new, young photographers, young designers and a new generation of models.” “I have nothing to prove,” she continues. “It’s what I like doing. My work is hard, but it’s joyful at the same time. I’m still enjoying what I do, and that’s also important—to enjoy what you do.”

Campbell is also responsible for wide-ranging fundraising and charity work in South Africa and across the globe. She began charity work with Nelson Mandela in 1993, and in 1997 he named her ‘Honorary Granddaughter’ for her endless activism. A significant part of Campbell’s time is now spent engaging in a mixture of activism, philanthropy, and cultural ambassadorship, often via Fashion for Relief, the non-profit she founded in 2005 to raise funds for victims of Hurricane Katrina, which has since gone on to raise more than $15 million for charitable causes worldwide. In October, she launched Emerge, an initiative focused on discovering and promoting the next generation of creative talent from emerging communities around the world, with a star-studded gala and fashion show in Qatar. In layman’s terms, that means apprenticeships, mentoring, and skill development within the creative industries— fashion, yes, but also art, entertainment, and tech.

Campbell’s desire to uplift the next generation of fashion creatives is also evident in the number of younger models she’s taken under her wing. Among that cohort is Adut Akech, the doll-faced 23-yearold South Sudan–born model who is currently one of the most sought-after faces in the industry, thanks in no small part to Campbell’s support.

Naomi Campbell continues to be a formidable force in the world of fashion and has used her success to establish herself as an entrepreneur whilst always helping others in need through her charity work.

SHOULDER Show

It wasn’t until fashion icon Brigitte Bardot revived the fashion trend, and put her own twist on the style in the 1960s, that off-the-shoulder style was coined as the “Bardot”. Today, the look has made a huge comeback and has become one of this season’s most unexpected flattering styles.

Twist Top River Island £10

Cardigan Bershka £22.99

Bardot Dress H&M £24.99

Off The Shoulder Top ZARA £15.99

Chaya off-theShoulder Woven Mini Dress House of CB £159

Acetate Bardot Top PLT £14

Sleeveless offthe-shoulder top H&M £12

Changing the concept of Luxury: The woman (and the vision) behind Lachesis London

Meet Cássila Dolman, the founder of Lachesis London, a concept online store of luxury products curated from around the world.

Her journey reads like a novel—a successful career as a Commercial lawyer, an upbringing in vibrant Brazil, and a family home in the United Kingdom. Yet, beneath this facade of conventionality, an entrepreneurial fire was awaiting to show. As she navigated her thriving legal career, Cássila's longing for a time balanced family life urged her towards a new path—one where she could set her own rules. This path led her to Lachesis London, a platform built to challenge the very essence of luxury. For Cássila, luxury isn't static; it's dynamic, evolving to encompass values that transcend mainstream brands and price tags. It's about cherishing the timeless artistry of craftsmanship, superior quality materials and the commitment to social and environmental responsibility.

In the modern world, where time is our most precious commodity, Cássila recognises that true luxury lies in the narratives woven into each product, in the eco-conscious choices that shape our planet's future. Lachesis London is a testament to her unwavering belief that fashion should be a force for good in the world.

Lachesis London invites us to embark on a journey that goes beyond style and aesthetics—it's a journey towards a more conscious and compassionate world, where luxury can be a symbol of innovation and integrity. As we navigate its journey, we can't help but be enchanted by Cássila Dolman, a visionary leader, who is ushering in a new era of luxury—one that is as inclusive as it is inspiring.

Cássila Dolman, Founder

NOIR Nouveau

Fall 2023’s number one fashion trend, let’s be honest, is black and white ever out of fashion? The monochrome palette is a constant in the seasonal fashion cycle and should be a staple of every woman’s wardrobe. Black and white is seasonless, timeless and ageless.

Raglan Sweatshirt Bershka £15.99

Crochet Knit Vest PLT £16

Colour Block Cardigan PLT £15

Gypsy Water Eau De Parfum BYREDO £140

Medium Book Tote Dior £2500

Earrings H&M £6.99

Asymmetric Shirt ZARA £22.99

Owners Club Hoodie REPRESENT £160

Abbott Lyon £89

Acetate Square Sunglasses CELINE £300

Crystal Bangle

Striped Palazzo Trousers ZARA £22.99

Gazelle Adidas £85

Wellness Wonders

Embrace the season with tips, tricks, and products for a healthy fall

Immunity Boosting FOR THE COOLER MONTHS

With colder weather comes an increased risk of illness. Strengthen your immune system and keep healthy throughout the fall and winter.

Vitamins and Supplements

Learn about the key vitamins and supplements that can bolster your immune system. Research the importance of maintaining a balanced diet.

Flu Season Prep

Get a head start on flu season with advice on flu shots, hand hygiene, and preventative measures to keep you and your family protected.

SPOOKTACULAR Healthy Treats

October wouldn't be complete without a nod to Halloween. However, you can enjoy festive treats without compromising your health goals. Explore creative recipes for spooky and nutritious snacks, including jack-o'-lantern fruit cups, mummy apple slices, and "witch's brew" smoothies.

FALL FITNESS Essentials

As the leaves change and the air turns crisp, it's the perfect time to embrace an active and healthy lifestyle. We’ve explored essential products and tips to help you stay fit and energised during the autumn season.

Outdoor Workout Gear

Discover the must-have fitness gear for outdoor workouts that will keep you comfortable in changing temperatures.

Seasonal Superfoods

Dive into the world of fall superfoods, such as pumpkin, apples, and sweet potatoes. Learn how to incorporate these nutrient-rich ingredients into your diet for a seasonal health boost.

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AN INTERVIEW WITH: BARTH ROUGIER

Meet Barth Rougier, a 26-year-old trailblazer who is reshaping success across multiple industries. He is the creative mind behind DNA, a cutting-edge 360 Marketing & Talent Management agency, where he represents over 75 influential talents worldwide. Collaborating closely with luxury brands, Barth orchestrates captivating campaigns that propel their reach to new heights. Today, he is the proud owner and operator of B London, one of Chelsea’s trendiest nightclubs, and is on the brink of unveiling lxchel, a highly anticipated luxury Mexican restaurant in West London.

What inspired you to start your journey in talent management and create DNA?

I have a genuine passion for working across various industries simultaneously, including but not limited to music, fashion, hospitality, and marketing, all of which are interconnected within the creative sphere. This led me to embark on a journey to establish my own venture, DNA.

What initially ignited my enthusiasm for talent management was the desire to assist young creatives, whether in music or the digital realm, in realising their aspirations and bringing their visions to fruition. DNA’s mission is to bridge the gap between various creative domains, fostering innovation and growth while enabling both emerging and established talents to thrive in an ever-evolving landscape.

Can you tell us about some of the notable campaigns you’ve worked on with global brands?

Recently, we had the privilege of undertaking an exhilarating project on behalf of our esteemed client, Bang & Olufsen, in June. With just a few weeks’ notice, we were entrusted with the task of orchestrating a global digital campaign launch in London from A-Z. The compressed timeline presented a big risk, one that involved placing DNA’s reputation on the line.

Nevertheless, we approached the challenge with confidence in our abilities to deliver exceptional results within the constraints of this tight schedule. This was a big and proud moment for the entire DNA team.

What challenges did you face when transitioning from hosting parties at the beginning of your journey, to owning a nightclub?

Around 6 to 7 years ago, I was working alongside a group of nightclub owners, assisting them in managing their own nightclubs at the time. Fast forward five years:

those club owners transitioned from being my employers to becoming my business partners. My ascent within this partnership was a testament to both my dedication and the trust I diligently cultivated over the years.

What motivated you to expand your business and venture into the restaurant industry?

My passion lies in both witnessing and curating moments of happiness for people. Over the past eight years, my professional journey has been predominantly rooted in the nightclub industry, but my affection for cuisine and entertainment has fuelled my desire to venture into the restaurant industry. All of my hospitality endeavours have been strategically centred in West London, where I grew up. My vision for the future is to continue nurturing and expanding the spectrum of experiences available in this vibrant corner of London. Whether that be establishing a hotel, additional clubs or restaurants.

How do you balance your responsibilities as a CEO while staying connected to the creative side of your work?

The more I am indulged in this CEO position, the less creative time I have ahead of me and I am dedicated to structuring my daily routine in a way that allows me to carve out precious moments for unfettered creativity. At my very core, I identify as a creative individual, and it’s imperative for me to remain deeply connected to this aspect of my personality. I wholeheartedly encourage and foster a culture of boundless creativity within my team, given the nature of my businesses.

What’s your go-to inspiring quote for aspiring entrepreneurs or talents?

Don’t ever feel discouraged if one door doesn’t open, the next one might be the right one.

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31 Le Rouge

THE SPIRIT OF CHANEL CREATION

31 LE ROUGE is a work of art, infused with CHANEL heritage and colour expertise. Pigment by pigment, the House Makeup Creation Studio has crafted twelve shades with an intensely luminous satin finish.

The first CHANEL lipstick to feature glass packaging, 31 LE ROUGE is a prism of light. Its case has been faceted to resemble the mirrors that line the famous rue Cambon staircase in Paris: a tribute to the ultimate birthplace of CHANEL creation, but also a reflection of the House’s avant-garde spirit. Unique in every aspect, this recyclable material features an interchangeable mechanism and comes with a protective cap, meaning they can be switched out and resealed without having to finish the entire bullet. With 31 LE ROUGE, CHANEL transforms lipstick into a work of craftsmanship, a fusion of technology and glassmaking expertise traditionally used in high perfumery.

These 12 shades are drawn from the House’s unique heritage, with the meticulous accuracy of a haute couture garment. Some offer a glimpse into a specific moment in Gabrielle Chanel’s life or one of her passions. Others act as a code, unlocking insight into one of her creations or conjuring one of her most prized possessions. Among them is Rouge 2.55, a deep and sophisticated garnet inspired by the lining of an iconic handbag. Rouge Fetiche, a crisp crimson, is the colour of the flannel ribbons that Mademoiselle wore around her ankles like amulets leading up to the release of a new collection. Rouge Beige is a natural beige, a nod to a visionary idea; at a time when women were expected to dress only in dark colours at night, she elevated the allure of the evening gown by creating it out of beige satin. There is Rouge Roman, an elegant rosewood that calls to mind the binding of her treasured tomes, which she kept on display in her apartment, near to her at all times. Rouge Croisière, a dusty orange, is a tribute to the Cruise collection wardrobes that usher in a new season before it has truly arrived. There is also Rouge Privé, a shade infused with the same mystery that surrounds the door at the top of the mirror-lined staircase at 31 rue Cambon and the famous words that appear upon it: “Mademoiselle Privé”. It is a wardrobe with haute couture-level elegance, from which to pick and choose as you

please, selecting shades to match your mood, your look du jour, and of course, all the various facets of your personality.

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Because too much is never enough, 31 LE ROUGE also redefines the lips. Maracuja oil, an active ingredient known to stimulate the synthesis of three major components of the skin’s structure hyaluronic acid, collagen, and elastin helps give lips a more defined appearance. Immediately upon application, lips look defined for up to 8 hours*. After four weeks, they have a more sculpted shape (+14%**). Lips are also left firmer, smoother, plumper, and more beautiful (+29%**). Your smile is enhanced with each passing day.

Ultra-sensuous and incredibly soft, 31 LE ROUGE has yet another secret to reveal: its gardenia-inspired scent. Specially developed by CHANEL In-House Perfumer-Creator Olivier Polge, alongside the CHANEL Fragrance Laboratory, the delicate aroma is a private pleasure for the wearer to enjoy. For the first time, the name of CHANEL is embossed around the lipstick bullet. These two key details make application a true tête-à-tête with your lips-the essence of a CHANEL kiss.

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The seasons are changing and so are fall beauty trends. While there are many lipstick shades out there, we have narrowed it down to the hottest hues right now. From trendy mauve shades to earthy brown nudes, these lip colours will turn up the drama thanks to richer, deeper shades – perfect for the cooler weather.

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BOUNDARIES, BOOBIES AND FRIENDS

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Last week this column started off as a modern-day Romeo and Juliet story. Two star crossed lovers who caught eyes at a Chris Brown concert on Valentines Day who were ripped apart by religion, consequence and two very different life journeys. It sounds so captivating right? Well, that Romeo and Juliet story has now turned into a self-help piece on the violation of boundaries!

We’ve gone from Shakespeare to therapy in the space of 48 hrs. Let’s dig into it. I am not able to have a Just for Fun relationship, it’s never worked for me. I get too involved, I fall in love, I cry, the end. In this instance, I did very much feel a connection to this particular man. We spoke so freely, we enjoyed each other’s company, we had the same values and morals and, by other men’s standards, he was a genuinely nice man… not to mention devilishly handsome.

After our second date, I decided to dance with devil, excuse the pun, and we did indeed, bump uglies. It was a great experience and I don’t regret it at all, but it was the realisation after that gave me the post sex horrors, because for many reasons, this relationship could not continue.

As much as I knew I did not want to pursue a romance, I often cut my nose to spite my face. I did enjoy the intimacy, I wouldn’t mind doing it again and surely by now after the last eighteen months of being in the dating sess pit, I have developed a thicker skin. Maybe I can set boundaries that will help to positively pursue a friends with benefits type situation without throwing myself into the streets screaming from torment because I’ve accidently fallen in love. Well let’s put this to the test, shall we? I rationalised my feelings first. There was no deep-rooted connection with this man, he was good company, it was good sex. We are in two completely different places in our lives, it wont work. Rationalisation complete. If I set clear boundaries, this could work. We both agreed the boundaries of this arrangement. At this point, I felt quite proud. Here I am, once a woman who begged a man to love her to a woman setting boundaries and excited to have non emotionally attached sex to fulfil my basic human needs. Bellissima.

Everyday, the rules would in some way, be broken. Each time me having to remind him that we’ve set boundaries and he’s not sticking to them. His response “I do what I want.” Now usually, I do enjoy a rogue man but this time, it irked me. A lot. I’ve put these boundaries in place to protect myself, as well as him, and him acknowledging them, agreeing to them and then ignoring them triggered the ick in me. It shows a lack of respect and also a lack of self-awareness, two things I have a low tolerance for thanks to my previous experiences.

I decided to put an end to it all because it was the right thing to do. Looking back now on my previous relationship, I did not respect his boundaries, I clearly violated them and now I can see how frustrating that would have been for him. However; the difference between me and him was I did the right thing, I decided to not continue because it would only get worse and inevitably, people’s feelings would get hurt and I didn’t want to be responsible for anyone’s hurt feelings.

Now that I have experienced, first hand, boundary violation, I thought I’d put together a short list so you can spot boundary abuse quicker than the average Joe.

1. You’ve set your boundaries and you’ve had to reiterate them over and over again.

This is the most clear-cut example of boundary violation. You’ve told them your boundary and they persistently do the things you’ve asked them not to do. You constantly remind them of those boundaries and defend the reasons why they have been put in place and they still continue on.

2. You have told them you’re uncomfortable with the boundary violation and they carry on.

Not only do they not respect your boundaries, they also do not respect you. If you’re constantly being coerced into changing your boundaries or to do things you’re not comfortable with, those are key signs of a lack of respect.

3. Your gut tells you something’s not right.

The more the boundaries were pushed, the more uncomfortable I felt. At first, I would be really excited to hear from him but it got to the point where if I gave an inch, he’d take a mile. It just became a very awkward back and forth towards the end because I didn’t want to be rude, but I equally didn’t want to speak to him as much as he wanted to speak to me. I felt genuine frustration that he was not listening to me and I just wanted to avoid the situation entirely. Also, I wasn’t sure if he’d just turn up at my door one day. He knew where I lived and I’d have paranoid thoughts that if I just didn’t respond, he may just turn up at my door. Your gut is your future self, warning you of what’s to come.

4. They mock you.

After saying on numerous occasions that he is not sticking to the rules, the final nail in the coffin was when he asked me to FaceTime him whilst I was away with work. That privilege is for a select few and if I had a boyfriend, him too. I’d been working all day. I was tired and wanted alone time. My intention was not for him to be the first person I thought of in the morning or the last person at night but I felt as though he wanted to be. When I reminded him for the last time about the rules, he mocked me and minimised the point I was trying to make. Whilst I don’t think he was being manipulative, using humour or reducing their comments down to a joke can be an indication of manipulation so beware.

5. Gaslighting.

This one rears its ugly head all too often. When I finally sent the message to lay the situation to rest, I could’ve bet money that I would’ve heard a rebuttal to my reasoning, and I was right. He wanted to justify his actions and minimise the situation. I can see the signs of someone overstepping boundaries, I’ve done it myself. When I said I was concerned that he may get more attached if we continued, he non directly accused me of blowing it out of proportion. If he could’ve gotten away with messaging or calling every day, he would have. His actions were incredibly contradictory to his final statement yet I ‘overreacted’. Gaslighting will always be used as a get out of jail free card.

6. Emotional manipulation.

There was an evening when he called and asked me to meet him. Baring in mind he did not drive and lived on the other side of London and the expectation that I would go to him was a huge turn off firstly. Secondly, I told him numerous times that I was busy. He then joked about throwing himself off a building if I didn’t go. I laughed it off to begin with but as the rest of the red flags started piling up, I realised that this comment in itself was a direct indicator of things to come. That when he didn’t get his way, he would throw a manipulative curveball into the mix to garner a reaction from me. Unfortunately for him, I’ve heard it all before, so the answer from me was one that I’m sure, he did not expect to hear. “Try not to hurt yourself too much on your way down.” I should’ve left then as this is one of the worst red flags I’ve experienced.

Boundaries are tools to protect yourself from unnecessary harm. They are important in building healthy relationships and to teach others how to treat you in a capacity for you both to be happy and mutually respectful of one another’s needs. Let’s try to set more and respect all.

Until next time,

Big Mouth xx

“I WOULD BE REALLY EXCITED TO HEAR FROM HIM BUT IT GOT TO THE POINT WHERE if I gave an inch, he’d take a mile.”

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The 10 Best Wedding Shoes of 2023 for All-Day Comfort

Decisions, decisions! Planning a wedding is all about them, and if you’ve already secured your dream wedding dress, the time has come to make a decision about your wedding shoes. So narrow down your options and look to your wedding dress and venue for inspiration. Whether you’re hosting an intimate backyard wedding, chic courthouse ceremony, or a destination wedding, we’ve researched and rounded up the perfect pair of wedding shoes for every bridal style, venue, and budget.

BEST Slingback Heel

Aquazzura Love Link 105 CrystalEmbellished Grosgrain Slingback Pumps

If you’re stuck on what shoes to wear for your wedding day, white slingbacks are always a smart pick. This Aquazzura pair features crystal-embellished straps for a special touch of glamour.

BEST For Something Blue

Malone Souliers

Agnes Blue Satin

Heeled Slingback

Are you still in need of “something blue” for the big day? These soft blue slingbacks are both timeless and comfortable and can easily be worn long after your wedding weekend has come and gone. Not to mention, this feather-embellished style is equally as comfy as it is cute!

BEST Classic Flat

Margaux The Pointe Shoe

For brides with traditional tastes, these classic flats are a dream come true. Opt to personalise the sole of the shoe with your new monogram to create a keepsake that you’ll cherish for years to come.

BEST With Bow

Loeffler Randall

Camellia Pearl Pleated Bow Heel

Stylish and comfortable wedding shoes can be hard to come by but luckily this knotted mule falls into both categories. Beyond its ivory pearl fabric and chic bridal bow, this block heel sandal will support and hug your feet all the way from the aisle to the afterparty.

BEST Details

Jimmy Choo Averly 100 Latte Pumps

With Asymmetric Grosgrain Mesh Fascinator Bows

Is there anything more bridal than oversized bows? These Jimmy Choo sandals have wedding written all over them and are the perfect complement to any style of wedding dress. If you’re changing into a short dress for your afterparty, these beauties will undoubtedly steal the show out on the dance floor.

BEST Stiletto

Steve Madden Viable Off-White Heel

The slender heel on this stiletto is surely showstopping, and will forever be a pair you’ll always

BEST Strappy Heel

Bella Belle Anita Illusion

Lace Cross Strap Pump

Dainty lace details and elegant straps make this pair of pumps a nobrainer for your wedding day. Subtle yet sophisticated, these shoes will complement any style of wedding dress.

BEST Pump

Sam Edelman

Hazel Pumps

BEST Sandals

Kate Spade Bridal

Bow Sandals

Beyond romantic, these sandals feature eyecatching satin bow. This style would pair beautifully with any wedding dress, from a simple slip to an elaborate ballgown.

A classic white wedding pump remains a classic for a reason: It will always be timeless. This versatile pump from Sam Edelman can be worn with any style of dress from a clean and modern ball gown to a sheath dress with allover beading.

BEST Mule

Manolo Blahnik Lurum 90 Mule

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Tom Ford Tubereuse

Nue Eau de Parfum 50ml Fenwick

£290

Laura Mercier Almond Coconut Milk Honey Bath Fenwick

£45

Dreamy I DO’S

Don’t forget to say I do without us! Discover the perfect wedding essentials

Satin Nightslip H&M

£17.99

Pearl Tea Cup & Saucer The Hambledon £8.95

Personalised Bridal Luxury Satin Eye Mask HA Designs £25

Backstage Glow Face Palette DIOR

£40

34 Boulevard Saint Germain Candle Diptyque

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Fenty Beauty Gloss Bomb

‘Glass Slipper’ Harvey Nichols £18

Fluffy Cross Band Slippers Amazon £13.49

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Prep, set and go with these trusty products that will give your skin the hydration fix and preparation it needs before your big day.

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Purifying Mask Typology £24

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Les Beiges Oversized Sunkissed Powder CHANEL £66

Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Setting Spray Selfridges £26

Vitamin Enriched Face Base Bobbi Brown £38.80

Blusher in Diffused Heat Hourglass Cosmetics £39

EYE Do Romantic PINK

Less is more when it comes to eye-makeup on your big day. The No-Lash-Lash addition encourages a subtle eyelash lift, yet still appearing glamourous and flirty.

Perfect your pout with a satin finish lipstick. A mixture between lipgloss and lipstick is the best way to ensure longevity and high pigment.

Longwear Pigment Eyeliner NARS £21

Glam Palette Natasha Denona £64

Nikki No Lash-Lash Sweed Beauty £22

Rouge Volupté Shine YSL Beauty £56

Lip Sculpt REFY £18

Berry Lip Mask LANEIGE £19

CREEPY Cauldron

Spooky season is fast approaching, and we’ve pulled together a collection that’s sure to make your guests scream – with delight of course! Whether you’re going low-key for Halloween this year or giving the Addams family a run for their money, we’re sure there’s a little something for everyone.

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Hey Boo Ghost Candle The Wisteria Tree £9.99

Cone Wreath Gisela Graham London £49.99

Halloween Candle Homesense £6.99 Plaster Pumpkin Homesense £3.99

Orange Pumpkin Mug Dunelm £3.50

Pumpkin Teapot

£22

Cushion The Range £9.99

Skull-Shaped Dispenser George Home £5

Harvest Candle B&M £4

Halloween Ghost Bowl Primark £3.50 Candle Holder B&M £8 Pumpkin Ovenglove

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Paradise

Step into the cosy embrace of autumn in warm, inviting tones of neutrals and oranges. As the season changes and the air turns crisper, these cushions provide not just comfort but a stylish touch. Whether you’re snuggling up with a good book or hosting a gathering of friends and family, cushions will add the perfect blend of warmth to your space.

Artisan Elephant Dunelm £8

Beige Woolen Cushion With Pom Poms Homesense £19.99 Bobble Cushion NEXT £22

Brighten your home with a Thinker Lamp

Introducing the Thinker Lamp, a masterpiece that combines art and illumination. Crafted with precision and bathed in a luxurious finish, this lamp exudes sophistication and style. Inspired by "The Thinker" sculpture, it not only lights up your space but also sparks creativity and contemplation.

The Art of ORGANISING

Clever storage solutions will never lose favour in a kitchen, but the millions of people watching the uber satisfying #kitchenorganisation videos on TikTok have turned kitchen storage into an art. Pantries and larders have made a comeback, fuelled by the obsession for perfectly organised, pristinely kept and meticulously labelled food and utensils.

These days, larders and pantries can come in all shapes and sizes, from discreet freestanding units, to whole walkin rooms with floor-to-ceiling shelves. Depending on the space available to you, larders can be an incredibly practical solution to store dry food, vegetables, and small appliances like coffee machines, microwaves, and toasters.

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GOOSEBUMPS

Whether you’re looking for a story that will chill your blood, darken your soul, or turn your stomach, this year’s macabre offerings will provide. It’s scary out there alone though, so let us be your guide.

How to Sell a Haunted House

By Grady Hendrix

Inside the pages:

When Louise finds out her parents have died, she dreads going home. She doesn’t want to deal with her family home, stuffed to the rafters with the remnants of her father’s academic career and her mother’s lifelong obsession with puppets and dolls. She doesn’t want to learn how to live without the two people who knew and loved her best in the world. Mostly, she doesn’t want to deal with her brother, Mark, who never left their hometown, gets fired from one job after another, and resents her success. But she’ll need his help to get the house ready for sale because it’ll take more than some new paint on the walls and clearing out a lifetime of memories to get this place on the market.

Tell Me I’m Worthless

By Alison Rumfitt

Inside the pages:

Three years ago, Alice spent one night in an abandoned house with her friends Ila and Hannah. Since then, Alice is living a haunted existence. She hasn’t spoken to Ila since they went into the house. She hasn’t seen Hannah either. Memories of that night torment her mind and her flesh, but when Ila asks her to return to the house, past the KEEP OUT sign, over the sick earth where teenagers dare each other to venture, she knows she must go. Together Alice and Ila must face the horrifying occurrences that happened there, put their differences aside, and try to rescue Hannah.

Don’t Fear the Reaper

By Stephen Graham Jones

Inside the pages:

Jade Daniels faces down a brutal serial killer in his pulsepounding tribute to the golden era of horror cinema and Friday the 13th from the New York Timesbestselling, multipleaward winning Jones. Four years after her tumultuous senior year, Jade Daniels is released from prison right before Christmas when her conviction is overturned. But life beyond bars takes a dangerous turn as soon as she returns to Proofrock.

Convicted Serial Killer, Dark Mill South, seeking revenge for thirty-eight Dakota men hanged in 1862, escapes from his prison transfer due to a blizzard, just outside of Proofrock, Idaho. Thirty-six hours and twenty bodies later, on Friday the 13th, it would be over.

The Spite House

By Johnny Compton

Inside the pages:

Eric Ross is on the run from a mysterious past with his two daughters in tow. Having left his wife and whole life behind in Maryland, he’s desperate for money. When he comes across the strange ad for the Masson House in Degener, Texas, Eric thinks they may have finally caught a lucky break. The Masson property, notorious for being one of the most haunted places in Texas, needs a caretaker of sorts. The owner is looking for proof of paranormal activity. All they need to do is stay in the house and keep a detailed record of everything that happens there…

The Drift

By C.J Tudor

Inside the pages:

The Drift takes place in the aftermath of a global pandemic, focusing on three sets of characters in different apocalyptic varieties of the locked-room mystery. During a deadly snowstorm, Hannah awakens to carnage, all mangled metal and shattered glass. Evacuated from a secluded boarding school, her coach careered off the road, trapping her with a handful of survivors. Meg awakens to a gentle rocking. She’s in a cable car stranded high above snowy mountains, with five strangers and no memory of how they got on board…

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WIZARD

Step into the iconic sets from the Harry Potter film series in a spookier setting this October for Halloween. Back by popular demand experience Halloween as if you were a Hogwarts student, by stepping into the Great Hall with over 100 pumpkins floating above a spooky feast, as seen in Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone. Purchase tickets at www.wbstudiotour.co.uk

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The UK’s fastest growing paint brand Frenchic Paint is delighted to announce an annual partnership with mental health and suicide prevention charity, Samaritans. Frenchic are an award-winning, chalk paint brand with passion and people at their core. From August 2023, Frenchic will donate 10% of sales from five wall and trim paint shades to support the crucial work of Samaritans. This will include all online and store sales, with the hundreds of Frenchic stockists and boutique highstreet retailers getting behind this great initiative.

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ON TRIAL THE DEVIL

‘The Devil on Trial’ – Netflix Documentary Explores True Case That Inspired ‘The Conjuring 3’

The third franchise instalment The Conjuring: The Devil Made Me Do It came along in 2021, and like the other films in the franchise it was inspired by a true story of true evil. The film was based on the first person in the US to use “the devil made me do it” in a murder defence, and an upcoming Netflix documentary explores that true story this year.

It was one of the most sensational murder trials of the 1980s. When Arne Cheyenne Johnson stabbed an acquaintance to death with a five-inch folding knife, Johnson presented one of the most shocking legal defences in history: not guilty by virtue of demonic possession. As the press put it, “the Devil made me do it.” Johnson’s shocking story began months earlier, when his girlfriend’s eleven-year-old brother, David, encountered a spectral figure looming at the foot of the bed and then started showing telltale signs of demonic possession. David suddenly spoke in Latin, levitated, and suffered beatings at the hands of an invisible demon. After a team of Catholic priests failed to drive the demon out, the case was taken up by Ed and Lorraine Warren. The Warrens had fought demons across the globe, but the Connecticut Devil would be one of their greatest challenges, and perhaps their most deadly.

Film releasing on Netflix 17th October

MAGIC

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Autumn Adventures

Whether it’s with teenagers or toddlers, pack your London October half-term holiday with fun activities, Halloween events and unique experiences. There are so many things to do over half-term in London, that you can easily fill the whole break.

WE’RE GOING ON A BEAR HUNT

AT KEW GARDENS

21 – 29 October

Explore Kew Gardens this autumn with a sensory adventure based on the bestselling picture book, We’re Going on a Bear Hunt. The journey will take you across the Lake and into the Arboretum. Combine with the Kew Gardens Children’s Garden playground, which no longer requires pre-booking, for a fun family day out.

www.kew.org

HALLOWEEN TRAIL

AT HAMPTON COURT PALACE

21 – 29 October 2023

Explore Henry VIII’s notoriously haunted palace along a spooky, family-friendly Halloween trail with atmospheric projections and creepy sound effects. Head to the Gallery of the Damned and see eerie portraits come to life, or stop by the Council Chamber to take part in a spine-tingling séance.

www.hrp.org.uk

HALLOWEEN PUMPKIN CARVING

AT CHELSEA PHYSIC GARDEN

24 and 26 October

Prepare for the Halloween season with a visit to Chelsea Physic Garden for a pumpkin carving session. Participants will learn about pumpkin plants and explore the Garden through autumn. All materials and tools will be provided (note that pumpkin carving involves using sharp tools), and each participant will get one pumpkin to take home. Each child must be accompanied by an adult who will work together with the child to create their jack-o-lantern masterpiece.

Tickets are £20 Adult and £15 Child and includes your entry to the Garden that day. Every person attending the workshop must have a ticket and children must be accompanied by an event ticket-holding adult. Sessions are from 1pm to 3pm.

Recommended for ages 6+

www.chelseaphysicgarden.co.uk

AT COVENT GARDEN HALLOWEEN PUMPKIN MARKET

29 – 31 October

The Halloween Pumpkin Market will return to the iconic Covent Garden Market Building throughout October. The display will feature over two hundred pumpkins, squashes and gourds available to purchase in various shapes and sizes.

www.coventgarden.london

BRICK DINOS FAMILY FUN

10 February – 29 October

Step back in time with Brick Dinos and see dinosaurs and other prehistoric giants – including the raptor-like Masiakasaurus and a life-sized flying pterosaur – recreated in miniature form by artist Warren Elsmore and his team. The Brick Dinos exhibition will also feature rarely seen specimens from the Horniman’s stores, and a range of hands-on activities for children to enjoy including build your own dinosaur and digging for fossils. Tickets cost £9 for adults, £4.50 for children. Free for under 3s.

www.horniman.ac.uk

AT THE HORNIMAN MUSEUM AT CUTTY SARK

This historic Victorian tea clipper is brought to life by a cast of colourful characters, including the fearless Captain Woodget and the ship’s cook, who share stories of life on board the fastest ship of its time. A free family trail and interactive games explore these themes in a child-friendly way. More adventurous visitors with a head for heights can even book onto the Cutty Sark Rig Climb experience. See London from high on the masts, and then zip back down to the deck!

All visitors get to see the ship from the opposite angle, down beneath the hull. This unique space is home to an unforgettable collection of ships’ figureheads — one of the most instagrammable spots in London.

www.rmg.co.uk

21 – 31 October

Things get extra-spooky at London Zoo this October half term, as Boo at the Zoo returns. The Halloween events include a trip to the extinct species graveyard, pumpkin decorating, dancing at the bubble boogie, plus crafts and animals talks.

www.londonzoo.org

Halloween CAKE

Inspired by spooky spiderwebs, this chocolatey red velvet cake is a real showstopper for Halloween parties.

Serves 12

Prep 40 mins

Cook 1 hr 10 mins

Ingredients

200g salted butter at room temperature, plus extra for greasing • 350g plain flour

• 1 tsp baking powder • 1 tsp bicarbonate of soda • 2½ tbsp cocoa powder • ¼ tsp fine sea salt • 375g caster sugar • 3 eggs

• 1½ tsp vanilla extract • 284ml carton buttermilk • 1 tbsp white wine vinegar • ½ x 15g pack Dr Oetker red gel food colour

For the cream cheese filling

Method

Preheat the oven to 170oC, gas mark 3. Grease the base and sides of a 23cm springform cake tin and line with baking parchment. Sift together all the dry ingredients except the sugar; set aside. Using electric beaters, cream the butter and sugar for 1 minute. Add the eggs, 1 at a time, beating after each addition, then beat in the vanilla. Beat in ¼ the dry ingredients, then 1/3 the buttermilk and repeat, until fully combined. Mix the vinegar and food colouring together; beat into the mixture. Scrape into the tin and spread until level; tap the tin on the work surface to knock out any air bubbles. Bake for 1 hour or until a skewer inserted into the centre comes out clean. Set on a wire rack and leave to cool completely in the tin.

For the filling, use electric beaters to beat together the butter, soft cheese and icing sugar. Remove the cake from the tin and cut horizontally into 3 even layers (use a serrated knife). Take the bottom layer and place on a baking sheet, spread with ½ the filling, then repeat with the middle layer of cake and remainder of the filling; top with the final layer of cake. Leave to set in the fridge for 20-30 minutes. For the icing, melt the cream, chocolate and glucose together in a heatproof bowl set over a pan of barely simmering water (making sure the base of the bowl doesn’t touch the water). Melt the white chocolate in another bowl using the same method and pour into a small piping bag.

• 120g Philadelphia soft cheese • 120g icing sugar

120g salted butter at room temperature

For the chocolate icing

Invert the cake onto a wire rack so there is a flat surface for the icing; set over a tray to catch the drips. Working quickly, pour the dark chocolate icing over the middle of the cake. With a palette knife, use long strokes to push the icing over the sides to create an even coating over the whole cake.

300ml double cream

• 250g dark chocolate (70% cocoa), roughly chopped

• 1½ tbsp liquid glucose

• 50g white chocolate, roughly chopped

Starting slightly off centre, pipe a white chocolate spiral from the centre of the cake out to the edges (the tighter the lines, the more dramatic the effect). Take a cocktail stick and, starting from the centre, pull it through the white chocolate to the outside. Repeat, working around the cake, to create a spider’s web effect (see our Food Editor’s Top 5 page for more tips). Let the icing set for about 20-30 minutes. To store, keep refrigerated, and bring to room temperature before eating.

Cook’s tip

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Halloween

ROCKY ROAD

This fun and delicious Halloween recipe is great for making and enjoying together as a family. Plus, it’s perfect for parties and delighting trick-or-treaters.

Serves 16

Prep 20 mins

Cook 5 mins

Ingredients

½ tbsp sunflower oil, plus extra for greasing • 100g unsalted butter, cubed • 1 tbsp golden syrup • 300g milk chocolate, broken into pieces • 150g dark chocolate, broken into pieces • 30g popcorn maize • 80g jelly sweets, such as Teeth & Lips and Fizzy Watermelon Slices, plus extra, if giving as gifts • 50g Essential Mini Pink & White Marshmallows • 16 large chocolate buttons • 1 tbsp milk chocolate chips • Edible eyes, to decorate • White writing icing, to decorate • Strawberry laces, to decorate

Method

Lightly oil a 23cm square, loosebottomed, non-stick cake tin and line with a strip of baking parchment. In a large saucepan and over a low heat, gently melt the butter, syrup and chocolate, stirring until well combined. Meanwhile, heat ½ tbsp oil in a separate, lidded saucepan and add the popcorn kernels. Put the lid on and cook according to packet instructions until all the corn has popped.

Take the chocolate pan off the heat and leave to cool for 10 minutes. Stir in the popcorn, sweets and marshmallows. Spoon the mix into the tin, and arrange the chocolate buttons on top adding two small chocolate chips to each button, to make ears. Cool, then cover and chill in the fridge for 3 hours until set (longer is fine).

Take the rocky road out of the fridge, remove from the tin and place on a board. Using the writing icing, pipe two dots to secure the eyes and two small fangs. Position the edible eyes and press 1cm lengths of strawberry lace over the fangs for a mouth. Using a large knife, cut into squares.

Recipes and images courtesy of Waitrose. Thousands of recipes can be found at www.waitrose.com

Pumpkin spice

HOT CHOCOLATE

The secret of this autumnal classic is in the spicing. The pumpkin purée makes the hot chocolate luxuriously silky, but omit it if you wish.

Serves 2

Ingredients

500ml whole milk • 50g dark chocolate (70% cocoa), finely chopped, plus extra to serve

• 2 tbsp America’s Finest Solid Pack Pumpkin • ¼ tsp ground cinnamon • ¼ tsp ground ginger • ¼ tsp ground nutmeg • 2 tsp light muscovado sugar • Whipped or squirty cream, to serve (optional)

Method

Cook’s tip

For a dairy-free version, this works brilliantly with barista-style oat drink (and a plant-based alternative to the whipped cream). You could turn the hot chocolate into a mocha by adding a shot of espresso.

Place all the ingredients in a medium saucepan, add a pinch of salt and heat gently, stirring until steaming and evenly combined. Whisk with a balloon whisk until smooth and frothy. Pour into 2 mugs and top with the cream, if using, and an extra sprinkling of chopped chocolate.

Halloween ghost CUPCAKES

Use a muffin mix pack to make these quick and easy cupcakes, then pipe and decorate with chocolate chips.

Serves 9

Prep 15 mins

Cook 15 mins

Ingredients

335g pack Betty Crocker Chocolate Chunk

Muffin Mix • 1 tbsp oil • 1 medium British Blacktail Free Range Egg • semi skimmed milk

For the topping

200ml double cream • Dr Oetker Dark Chocolate Chips (selected stores)

Method

Preheat the oven to 200°C, gas mark 6, and place 9 muffin cases in a muffin tin.

Prepare the muffin mix, oil, egg and milk according to the pack instructions, and divide between the 9 cases. Bake for 15 minutes until a skewer, when inserted in a muffin, comes out clean. Allow to cool. Whisk the cream until it holds its shape and place in a piping bag with a 1cm nozzle. Pipe the cream onto the cakes to create ghost shapes. Use the chocolate chips for the eyes.

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ANANTARA THE PALM DUBAI RESORT

Dubai is an experience like no other, a journey to a city that seamlessly marries tradition and innovation. From the moment you arrive, you're greeted by a skyline punctuated by iconic skyscrapers, including the Burj Khalifa, the world's tallest building. Dubai is a destination that indulges all your senses, from its sunsoaked beaches to the bustling souks where you can haggle for treasures. The city is a shopper's paradise, with luxury malls offering everything from haute couture to traditional handicrafts. Dubai's culinary scene is a fusion of global flavours, with Michelin-starred restaurants and vibrant street food stalls sharing the spotlight. Whether you're seeking adventure in the dunes of the desert, exploring the rich culture and history of the region, or simply relaxing in the lap of luxury at world-class resorts, Dubai has something to offer every traveller. It's a place where modernity meets tradition, creating an unforgettable vacation experience.

Dubai, the city of opulence and architectural marvels, is a destination that promises the grandeur of the Middle East. Amidst the towering skyscrapers and the golden deserts, there's a gem that offers a taste of Thai luxury right on the shores of the Arabian Gulf. Anantara The Palm Dubai Resort, a tranquil haven inspired by Thai aesthetics, is a testament to lavishness and relaxation. During a week-long stay, I had the privilege of experiencing the resort's enchanting Lagoon Access

room, indulging in its sumptuous breakfast buffet, exploring its myriad dining options, and, in particular, savouring the delights of the acclaimed Mekong restaurant.

Upon arriving at Anantara the Palm Dubai Resort, the first thing that struck me was its elegant, Thai-inspired architecture. The blend of traditional Thai design with modern luxury seamlessly immerses guests in a world of serenity and comfort. I was especially eager to experience the Lagoon Access room, a unique offering where you can swim straight from your private balcony into the resort's beautiful lagoon.

Entering the room, I was greeted with a spacious and tastefully decorated interior that exuded tranquillity. The room was adorned with intricate details, creating a sense of cultural immersion. The highlight, of course, was the balcony. Stepping onto it, I was met with a breathtaking view of the resort's lush gardens and the waters of the lagoon. The balcony was furnished with comfortable seating, perfect for sipping on a morning coffee while dipping my toes into the lagoon waters. One of the standout features of the lagoon room was the direct access to the lagoon. It's hard to describe the joy of being able to step right from your room into the warm embrace of the lagoon. Whether you want to take a leisurely swim, sunbathe on the deck, or simply relax in the privacy of your own slice of paradise, the lagoon room provides the perfect setting.

Mornings at the Anantara are an absolute delight, thanks to the lavish breakfast buffet served at Crescendo, the resort's all-day dining restaurant. The buffet spread was nothing short of extraordinary, offering a wide array of international and local dishes to satisfy every palate.

The breakfast buffet featured an impressive selection of freshly baked pastries, tropical fruits, cold cuts, cheeses, and a variety of bread and spreads. For those who prefer a heartier breakfast, there was a live egg station where you could have your eggs cooked to perfection. But what truly stood out was the extensive selection of traditional Middle Eastern dishes, such as freshly made falafel, hummus, and local bread.

The attention to detail and quality of ingredients at most of the Anantara restaurants were evident, making it a memorable culinary experience.

Anantara The Palm prides itself on delivering exceptional service, and throughout my stay, I found this claim to be absolutely true. The staff members were not only professional but also incredibly warm and attentive. They went out of their way to ensure that every guest felt like a VIP.

One aspect of the resort that deserves special mention is its beautifully landscaped grounds. The lush gardens, meandering pathways, and swaying palm trees create a serene atmosphere that feels like a world away from the bustling city of Dubai. Whether you're strolling through the gardens, lounging by the pool, or enjoying a private moment on the beach, the resort's ambiance is one of tranquillity and relaxation.

One of the culinary highlights of my stay at the Anantara was dining at Mekong, the resort’s signature Pan-Asian restaurant. Its cuisine follows the Mekong through China, Vietnam and Thailand.

The restaurant's ambiance was a perfect blend of sophistication and traditional Thai charm. The dimly lit interior, adorned with Thai artwork and sculptures, transported me to the streets of Bangkok. But it was the menu that truly stole the show.

We began our culinary journey with a selection of appetizers, including chicken satay and prawn toast. The chicken satay was tender and succulent, served with a rich peanut sauce that had just the right amount of sweetness and heat.

“THE LUSH GARDENS, MEANDERING PATHWAYS, AND SWAYING PALM TREES CREATE a serene atmosphere THAT FEELS LIKE A world away from thecitybustling of Dubai.”

For the main course, we couldn't resist ordering some classic Thai dishes like sweet and sour chicken, aromatic duck pancakes, noodles and rice. The sweet and sour chicken was a revelation, with perfectly crispy chicken pieces bathed in a luscious sweet and tangy sauce served in a huge pineapple, the attention to presentation at Mekong was incredible. The noodles were expertly prepared and bursting with authentic Thai flavours. The aromatic duck pancakes were a true masterpiece, with tender duck slices, crisp vegetables, and two choice of sauce that danced with flavours.

What sets Mekong apart is its commitment to authenticity. The chefs use traditional Thai cooking techniques and source the finest ingredients to create dishes that are as close to Thailand as you can get in Dubai. It was a culinary journey that left our taste buds tingling with delight.

A week at Anantara the Palm Resort felt like a dream come true. From the luxurious Lagoon Access room to the exquisite breakfast buffet, impeccable service, and the unforgettable dining experience at Mekong, every moment was a celebration of luxury and relaxation. The resort offers a perfect blend of Thai elegance and Middle Eastern charm, making it a destination in itself.

If you're looking for a retreat that combines opulence, serenity, and a taste of Thailand in the heart of Dubai, Anantara the Palm Resort is the place to be. It's a haven where you can swim into the lagoon from your balcony, savour world-class cuisine, and bask in the warmth of impeccable service. My week in paradise was nothing short of extraordinary, leaving me with cherished memories and a longing to return to this luxurious oasis by the Arabian Gulf.

Anantara The Palm Dubai Resort offers nightly rates from 1625 AED (approx. £363). To book visit www.anantara.com/palm-dubai

The seemingly endless scroll of Netflix’s treasure trove of terrific shows and movies can be more than a little paralyzing when trying to choose something to watch. If you’ve just finished a good series and need a new one to fill the void, Close Up is assembling a monthly list of the best TV shows currently available on the streaming service, from classics of yesteryear to the hottest new titles. Below, we’ve rounded up the best shows on Netflix right now, so you can binge-watch without having to hunt for the right title.

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LUPIN

Now in hiding, Assane must learn to live far from his wife and son. With the suffering they endure because of him, Assane can’t stand it any longer and decides to return to Paris to make them a crazy proposal: leave France and start a new life elsewhere. But the ghosts of the past are never far away, and an unexpected return will turn his plans upside down.

THE FALL OF THE HOUSE OF USHER

From Mike Flanagan, the creator of The Haunting of Hill House and Midnight Mass, a wicked horror series based on the works of Edgar Allan Poe. Ruthless siblings Roderick and Madeline Usher have built Fortunato Pharmaceuticals into an empire of wealth, privilege and power. But past secrets come to light when the heirs to the Usher dynasty start dying at the hands of a mysterious woman from their youth.

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PAIN HUSTLERS

Liza Drake is a blue-collar single mom who has just lost her job and is at the end of her rope. A chance meeting with pharmaceutical sales rep Pete Brenner puts her on an upwards trajectory economically but dubious path ethically as she becomes entangled in a dangerous racketeering scheme. Dealing with her increasingly unhinged boss, the worsening medical condition of her daughter, and a growing awareness of the devastation the company is causing forces Liza to examine her choices.

Pain Hustlers is a sharp and revealing look at what some people do out of desperation and others do out of greed.

REPTILE

Reptile follows a hardened small-town detective named Tom Nichols who becomes tangled in a complex web of deception as he investigates the brutal murder of a young estate agent. Del Toro describes Nichols as a man of destiny who comes face-toface with a reckoning that will, of course, change everything – including his relationship with his wife. Is the eponymous reptile the estate agent? The murderer-at-large? Our thorny detective? We’ll have to tune in to find out who’s really coldblooded in this small town.

OLD DADS

Bill Burr, the award-winning comedian, will be making his grand directorial debut in this new comedy in which he also stars and writes alongside Ben Tishler. When a middle-aged father and his two best friends sell their company to a millennial, they soon find themselves out of step and behind the times as they struggle to navigate a changing world of culture, career and fatherhood.

CHERRY Bomb

Chic, sultry and effortlessly stylish – cherry red is undeniably the ‘it’ shade of the AW23 season and we are obsessed! Having dominated the fashion scene and taken TikTok by storm, it’s clear that this moody hue is a firm favourite as the colder months approach, offering the perfect way to spice up your wardrobe or interior style. Whether you’re just looking for a few statement accessories or want to go all out with this trend, our curated edit will have a little something for everyone.

Sage and Clare Nudie Rudie Bathmat Antipodream £59

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Bubbled Glass Tealight Holder H&M £3.99

Cinnamon Delight Yankee Candle £14

Jellycat Fabulous Fruit Cherry Jeremy’s Home Store £11.50

Amuse La Bouche Cherry Candy Stripe Ruffle Cushion Cover Rose & Grey £85

Bias Editions Red Wiggle Steel Lamp Selfridges £165

Cherry Rug Primark Home £9

Mon Cheri Poster Desenio £9.95

Thatcham Gents Chair in Plush Velvet Cherry Red Darlings of Chelsea £2346