CODE M Magazine 2023 September Issue

WHAT IF BLACKS NEVER INTEGRATED?

EVERYONE IS BROKE AND TIRED

FITNESS

THE PATH TO SELF DISCOVERY AND EMPOWERMENT

The journey of self-love isn’t about reaching a final destination; it’s more like a powerful adventure that helps build real love for others. This important journey starts with getting to know and accepting yourself. For Black men, this is especially meaningful, particularly if you didn’t have a dad or others showing you love and care while growing up.

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CHANGE STARTS HERE

Hyatt’s Global DEI Sr. Vice President, Tyronne Stoudemire, discusses how he and the global hospitality

organization intend to change the world by 2025.

12 MOVERS AND SHAKERS

Get to know people who are making a difference in their careers and changing the world!

14 MAN CODES Grief.

18 WHY DATING APPS DON’T

WORK

Men looking for a relationship have had to turn to dating apps during the pandemic. Today, those dating apps offer little hope in finding someone and are basically money grags.

25 EVERYONE IS BROKE AND TIRED

Americans are reaching a breaking point due to the struggles of working a full-time job but not being able to afford the necessities of life, leaving them to wonder how people are making it.

30 WHAT IF BLACKS NEVER INTEGRATED?

Life for Blacks in America has always been hard. Police brutality, unequal pay, red lining, and violence against Blacks. With racism still a major factor in Black life, some wonder if Black life would be better segregated.

50 MASTERING YOUR SEASONAL FITNESS TRAINING

Prepare to embark on this journey of turning over a new leaf- literally and figuratively. As the seasons change, so do our workout routines. Just like that trusty flannel shirt that's begging to come out of hibernation, your body is ready to shed its old layers and embrace new challenges. We're about to unveil the secrets to seamlessly transitioning your fitness game from

AN AMBASSADOR FOR LIFE AND MUSIC

For award-winning journalist Hamil Harris, journalism and faith have been the fulcrum of his life. They are also the building blocks of what he would call his life’s conviction.

the carefree days of summer to the cozy embrace of fall.

57 VISION PLANNING

Planning for success starts with the proper vision to embrace your goals.

58 THE NERVE OF THIS DJ

DJ John Horton has turned his passion for playing records into a global brand that helps local and up-and-coming artists all around the world with his website, Nerve DJ’s Mixtapes.

60 THE RIGHT BOW

Fashions for the discriminating man include taking itr to the next level. That includes accessories that complete the look, and bowties do just that.

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NANA KWAMENA TAKYI-MICAH

Nana Kwamena Takyi-Micah is the founder of Micah Specialty Foods, a food manufacturing company that offers authentic African food products to the American consumer in the shortest possible time.

He has created jobs for formerly incarcerated individuals in Cleveland Ohio and is on a mission to assist farmers in Ghana cut post-harvest losses.

Ghana Supreme Sauce Marinade, his maiden product, is available in several retailers such as Giant Eagle Market District, Heinen's, and on

Amazon. The company is expected to retail their products in over 300 grocery stores by the end of 2024. His business has won several awards including Buckeye's Best competition in 2021 and the Citizen's Bank Small Business Community Champion award in 2022. He received his bachelor degree in management from Hiram College and is currently completing an MBA in Case Western University's Weatherhead School of Management.

Get to know people who are making a difference in their careers and changing the world!

CARMEN M. SCOTT (VERHOSEK)

Attorney Carmen M. Scott (Verhosek) is a partner at the law firm of Dooley Gembala McLaughlin and Pecora, LPA (DGMP). Her concentration is Estate Planning with a passion for Elder Care.

She is passionate about missions that educate, empower, and build sustainable communities. She proudly serves as the President of the Northeast Ohio Hispanic Center for Economic Development (NEOHCED) Board of Trustees, and is a Board Member for the Pro Bono Committee of the Legal Aid Society of Cleveland and Kendal at Oberlin. Carmen remains active in the legal community through participation in multiple bar associations and through mentorship of law students.

DANTE WILLIAMS

Dante Williams is the President of W.G.I. Consulting, a leading firm specializing in consulting for self-employed individuals and small businesses. With a background in marketing and advertising, Dante has successfully helped businesses navigate through challenges, particularly in corporate taxes, marketing strategies, and accessing capital funding. In addition to his expertise in the business realm, Dante brings a wealth of knowledge from the healthcare industry, especially in skilled nursing facilities.

Furthermore, he has a depth of experience in radio advertising and has dabbled in various other fields such as insurance and real estate investing. Dante's multifaceted background and his dedication to helping businesses thrive make him a true asset for any organization seeking expert advice and support.

VANESSA MICHELLE

Vanessa Michelle's journey is a testament to the power of storytelling and resilience. From a young age, she discovered her passion for narrative and the impact it could have on people's lives. With an innate ability to captivate and inspire through her words, Vanessa knew she wanted to pursue a path that allowed her to share stories that mattered. This drove her to pursue a degree in journalism at the University of Akron, where she honed her storytelling skills and learned the power of journalism as a force for change.

After experiencing personal setbacks that took a toll on her mental wellbeing, she embarked on a transformative journey in 2017. Seeking solace and a fresh perspective, she embraced a nomadic lifestyle, immersing herself in new environments and cultures. During this self-discovery period, Vanessa discovered her true resilience and passion for entrepreneurship.

MAN CODES: GRIEF

"The best lessons, the best sermons are those that are lived."

- Yolanda King

"You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair." - Chinese Proverb

"The measure of a man is in the lives he’s touched." - Erin Banks

"What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us." - Helen Keller

"Sometimes the strong die, too." - Louis Gosset, Jr.

"Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and oftentimes we call a man cold, when he is only sad."

- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"Ain’t nothing wrong with talking about death. That’s part of life." - SEPTEMBER Wilson

Compiled by Bilal S. Akram

"Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom."

- Rumi

"He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much." - Bessie Anderson Stanley

"We are not friends because of the laughs we spend but the tears we save." – Nikki Giovanni, Jr.

"Death ends a life, not a relationship." - Mitch Albom

Psalm 37:23 "The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way." King James Version

Louis Gossett, Jr.

AN AMBASSADOR FOR LIFE

For award-winning journalist Hamil Harris, journalism and faith have been the fulcrum of his life. They are also the building blocks of what he would call his life’s conviction.

Rovanio “Nanny” Assis was born in the town of Salvador in the state of Bahia, Brazil. His family was very religious, his father, in fact, was a pastor. Music was a significant part of family life, specifically sacred music. Nanny sang in the church choir while also playing the drums.

But, growing up in the environs of Bahia, Nanny was surrounded by the beat of Afro-Brazilian music, and from an early age he was captivated. As he explains it, “I am a son of that environment.” Well, that didn’t work with his parents who preferred he stick with traditional religious music. So, at age thirteen, Nanny left home to pursue the music he’d fallen in love with.

“I was very fortunate to have friends and immediate family who helped me through this challenging period of my life. Through all the difficult times, music carried me and, eventually, life got better and better. I began to perform professionally with a group and was making a living. I realized I liked being onstage. That period of my

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David has been ghostwriting books for well-known people since 1995. He is also the author of Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.

life was tough but toughening at the same time. I knew this was what I really wanted to do the rest of my life.”

Many years later, and now living in New York City with his family since 1999, Nanny’s love of music is being shared around the world. His style incorporates several genres and, as he puts it, “I like to believe that when people listen to my music, they’re inspired, they feel good about themselves, it’s good news to them and that’s the whole purpose of my music. It’s a sharing situation, a symbiotic relationship where we get to be a part of somebody’s life.”

And this is where the “ambassador” comes into play. Nanny’s primary focus in life is his music. “Everything about me is an artist. I’m a musician on a mission.” His music has a point of view, to help listeners get out of themselves for a bit, to consider a different perspective, and to think a little differently about life’s challenges. “We have to try something else because what we’re doing isn’t working. I

Hamil Harris also performs when he is not writing.

LIFE AND MUSIC

emphasize kindness. Kindness is an action. It can be used for any situation to bring neutrality and understanding.”

Nanny has traveled the world sharing his music and message. He loves meeting people, making new friends, and learning about the cultures of the countries he performs in. “Music is just something we need to take care of because it’s taken care of us. It’s something to pass on to upcoming generations.”

Nanny’s roots in sacred music, Afro-Brazilian, and jazz have infused his work giving him a broad musical lineage to share with listeners of all ages and cultures. He found that growing up in Brazil offered such a rich diversity of languages and musical forms that it has given him the ability to reach into the hearts of so many worldwide. “Brazil was an unbelievable place to grow up in. I learned so much that has made me who I am today.”

In addition to his music, Nanny managed to earn degrees in linguistics and Portuguese literature at the Catholic University of Salvador, Brazil. Through all of this and getting married and having children he kept his sights on the US and in 1993, he joined the Austin, Texas group, Rolling Thunder as a percussionist. Six years later, he moved his family to NYC. Influenced by the diversity of the city, he began melding jazz and fusion into his work.

Today, Nanny is more than just a singer, guitarist, and drummer. With his latest album, Rovenio: The Music of Nanny Assis, he also composed some of the songs including writing lyrics for some of the pieces, and he produced the album. Working on the album during COVID, he collaborated with a number of artists including Ron Carter, Randy Brecker, Chico Pinheiro, Luizinho Do Jêje, and Janis Siegel. Also on the album are his daughter, Laura, and son, Dani. Nanny incorporates traditional Brazilian samba and bossa nova in his rhythms while slipping in distinctive West African overtones.

One of the songs on the album he finds very pertinent to his ongoing message of kindness is “Human Kind,” which speaks of letting go of the need to be right, celebrating our differences, and ending the conflict by letting go of the lust for power and control. Of the entire album, Nanny says, “It encompasses all of my life experiences rhythmically, harmonically, and melodically.” The result is a wonderful musical journey, an amalgamation of heart and soul in direct contrast to a world in

such disarray. As he says through his music, “Let’s free the world of all this.”

Nanny credits his life’s work to an array of amazing and influential Brazilian artists gracing his country’s music scene. Ironically, Nanny is the first musician in his family, but it’s a tradition now being passed on through his kids who are artists in their own right. In recognition of his talents and goodwill, Nanny was the recipient of the prestigious Brazilian International Press Award as “Best Singer of the Year” in both 2011 and 2017. Then, in 2017 in Tokyo, Japan, he received the Brazilian Ambassador in Music and Arts for his work in promoting Brazilian culture in Japan, New Zealand, Cuba, Italy, Russia, Israel, Turkey, England, and a host of other countries.

Looking toward the future, Nanny says he’s looking forward to sharing his music with everyone. “I want to inspire people with my life and my story through my music, for them to really see who I am. What I’ve learned along the way is that there’s always a reason for what you’re doing, and you don’t have to accept everything that comes to you you have to fight for what you like to do and to be who you want to be. If I can make it, so can you. Love what you’re doing and then there’s nothing that can hold you back!” ●

SJU STRONG

WHY DATING APPS DON’T WORK LIFE

Men looking for a relationship have had to turn to dating apps during the pandemic. Today, those dating apps offer little hope in finding someone and are basically money grags.

Life as a single has become harder in the last twelve months. Before the pandemic, meeting women was easy. Walking up and saying hello was a proven method of meeting someone. Today, people are more reserved in their attempts to assertively walk up and say anything to anyone. So, people turned to dating apps to find love. Today, dating apps offer close to nothing in terms of a response from women and often leave men alone and feeling hopeless.

These tools are great for finding short-term romances, but they’re not conducive to building sustainable relationships. Dating apps don’t work because they are designed to be fast, easy, and casual. They’re not good for getting to know someone well and building a strong foundation for a future relationship.

The common complaint about modern dating apps is that women don’t respond. It takes almost 100 swipes to get a one percent response. Often, that response, depending on your filters, is a woman who lives 200 miles away. For the sake of this article, an experiment was done to see if this was true. The results were surprising.

Three dating apps were picked. The filters used were based on a handsome, tall, well-groomed, and financially secure male seeking a woman from 40 to 50. Two dating apps would only allow a 100-mile radius while the third allowed the entire country. To ensure getting any response, over 1,000 women were swiped without regard for their profile. The goal was to see if anyone would respond.

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The response was quite surprising. Scores and scores of women responded quickly and often. The response rate was over 60 percent of the women picked. The response rate was better on some sites than others, but the rate was almost the same.

In this experiment, the women were ranked from one to five, with six not allowed to be a choice. Then seven to ten. The idea behind not allowing for a score of six was to force an average/above average ranking. Looks and weight were the only criteria used to determine a score. Because that is all people must go on when seeking a companion on a dating app. Reading the profile was not a factor in the decision to swipe, so it was not included when ranking who responded.

Anyone falling below a six was average and anyone above a six was considered above average. The results would create a better understanding of why dating apps no longer work when trying to find love.

Men often feel left out of the dating game due to getting low responses on dating sites.

THE RESULTS

Over 97 percent of the women who responded on the random swipe right fell either at a five or below in ranking. Only three percent of the 1,000 women who were swiped was a female above a seven. This meant that if our candidate was going to create any meaningful encounter, he was going to have to pick a person who fell below his level of dating.

The women who responded were verbal and left great first messages. They were engaging and attempted to initiate a meaningful conversation. They came from within the local radius, and they responded on a national level as well. This meant that they were willing to date long distance.

“The problem with dating apps for me is the women I want don’t want me, and the women that want me, I don’t find attractive,” Thomas said.

He isn’t alone. Men often complain that the females they choose on dating apps never respond. This isn’t an accident. Dating apps are businesses designed to make money. They encourage subscriptions to stay in business. Men feel duped when paying fees to see likes and conversations.

“I noticed that when I would get a lot of pretty women in my feed when I went to the app. Once I paid for the subscription, the quality of women dropped significantly and I ended up wasting money only to find that no one really was engaged in a real conversation with me,” Brian said.

Dating apps often use robots or fake accounts to attract men to the sites. Men will scroll and swipe on women who will never respond to them.

“I have been on all the dating apps,” John said. “I noticed the same face with different profiles on three different dating apps. I don’t know if it was a scammer or the site itself. But I know I’m done with dating apps.”

The men who helped with this experiment found that the women who scored at or above a seven really didn’t need to be on a dating app. They all agreed that those women are probably having no trouble finding men to date off the app. For those at or above a seven are inundated with likes from men to the point where they either delete their account, ghost themselves, or choose to not respond to the 1,000 likes they got.

NO EASY ANSWERS

Even though it’s naturally expected of men to deal with the hardest part of meeting someone when initiating contacts, we men are also saddled with even more difficult and anxiety inducing expectations when it comes to dating and relationships.

There are no easy answers when it comes to dating in 2023. Some women seem unapproachable when out and others seem uninterested in pursuing a real conversation when approached. So, men are left with very few options.

The reality is that men are going to have to get back to the tradition of walking up to a woman and risking failure and embarrassment to find love. Developing the skillset to becoming a desirable mate has always included the art of attracting a woman. Men will need to work on their craft by failing and failing often. Only then might they find the woman of their dreams. Hopefully, she will appreciate the effort.

Meeting in person is the best way to determine chemistry.

EVERYONE IS BROKE AND TIRED

Americans are reaching a breaking point due to the struggles of working a full-time job but not being able to afford the necessities of life, leaving them to wonder how people are making it.

Life has never been more stressful. Inflation is at an alltime high and Americans are feeling the pressure. Inflation, coupled with the uncertainty of climate change, the rise in crime, and poor political choices, are increasing everyone’s anxiety. Overall, the prices that Americans are paying for food, housing, and fuel are reaching a breaking point and there have been discussions about everyone’s options.

“I have never seen it this bad,” one mother said. “Both my husband and I work full-time jobs and we are barely making it. We don’t have a nice house, we drive old cars, and we don’t

“They just announced that aliens are real, and I could care less,” one young lady said, as she gave her feedback. “All I know is, I work almost seven days a week, I go home, sleep, and get up and do it all over again just to barely be able to pay my bills. Something must give.”

So, what happened to the American dream? How did it get so bad, so fast? The problem has been building for a long time. The American middle class was once the backbone of the country. In the 1970s, a middle-class family could afford their home on one income, pay all the bills, and could afford some extra things like a boat, RV, or vacation.

really go on vacation, but we are literally stretched to the end with our money.”

And its bad. The idea that it takes two incomes to still just barely pay for the bare necessities means that those with one income are drowning in the American economy. Inflation is outpacing our ability to survive.

People have taken to Tik-Tok to complain about their circumstances.

Today, over 67 percent of all households are two income families and are struggling to make ends meet. Salaries have not kept pace with inflation, and everything has gotten more expensive at double the rate of incomes.

This double whammy has a flip side as well. While the prices have increased, the services and products we purchase have decreased. People are noticing the smaller candy bar, fewer cookies in a pack and thinner bottles of everything. This creates

Food costs are reaching levels where full-time employees are seeking free food when offered. Food banks all over the country are reporting that donations are now going to those who have a home, a job, and still need help to maintain a decent lifestyle.

Many Americans feel like they are living paycheck to paycheck.

a scenario where what you used to buy goes far less than it used to. That, coupled with the increase in prices, and consumers are being taken advantage of.

“There is a sense that the only people who are doing well are the crack heads, thieves, and rich people,” one mother said. “Everyone else is scared about their future and struggling to understand how to maintain their lifestyles.”

For millennials, the struggle to become independent is incredible. Housing costs have risen to the point where the national average for rent is close to $2,000. This problem is across the board and getting worse.

“My son just graduated from college and moved back in,” a father said. “He can’t move out, even though he has a great job because a decent place to live costs so much.”

Luxury housing has become popular in all US cities. Downtown living seems fun, but the average rent is close to $3,000 a month for an 800 square foot apartment. So, you don’t get a lot of space for a lot of money. College graduates who make over $200K a year can afford that lifestyle, but

with the average US salary closer to $57,000 a year, most people can’t afford to live downtown.

Food costs are reaching levels where full-time employees are seeking free food when offered. Food banks all over the country are reporting that donations are now going to those who have a home, a job, and still need help to maintain a decent lifestyle.

So, what happened to the American dream? How did it get to the point where a two-household income is not enough to meet and maintain a quality life? More importantly, with incomes stretched to the end, where do people stand mentally?

The complaints about millennials used to be that they were lazy, didn’t have the work ethic of their parents. But the truth might be closer to what their parents could afford and what they can afford now are two different things.

In 1975, a family could afford a $35,000 home in the suburbs on one income. Today, that same home might be closer to $300K. Then, include cable, internet, home security, HOA (Homeowners Association) fees, plus the PMI (Private Mortgage Insurance), and most people can’t afford to buy a home.

There are grumblings that something needs to be done by the average person to effect change.

“I suggest that we all quit life. Force them to see that they need us,” one TikToker said.

“We all can’t maintain this level of greed forever.”

People are going to TikTok to complain about being tired and broke. These confessions describe the struggle of working day and night to barely be able to afford a minimal lifestyle. The videos combine the confessions of men, women, families, and college students who are overwhelmed with the thought of how they’re going to make it.

In large cities across the country, homelessness is at an all-time high with scores and scores of people not being able to afford a basic level of living. On the other side of independence is drugs, the street, and despair.

There are no good answers for combatting the problems of increased costs across the board. Financial experts predict that inflation will last long into the future. Only time will tell how this story ends. ●

$100 worth of groceries used to fill an entire cart. Today, it only buys four or five bags of food.

WHAT IF BLACKS NEVER INTEGRATED?

By Bolling Smith

The racism that Blacks suffer from in American society is literally sewn into the fabric of the country. For over 400 years, when Blacks were brought to this country as slaves, the violence perpetrated on them had been inhuman. The end of slavery was supposed to be a turning point in American culture where Blacks were supposed to begin being treated as equals. It never happened.

Then came the civil rights movement. Blacks, again, were promised things would be different. They did make considerable gains during this period despite efforts to hold them back. But not enough.

It’s now 2023. Black have been free for over 200 years. The civil rights movement is over 50 years old. Blacks have never been in a better position in society. They hold top political positions. They run some of the world’s largest companies. They are more educated than at any point in history. Yet, if you ask the average Black person how they feel, you’ll get the same answer as in 1960. How is that possible?

The answer to that question is all around, hiding in plain sight. But it’s not lurking beneath the surface, it smacks Black people in the face every chance it gets. Blacks understand that the election of President Donald Trump was a course correction based on the Election of President Barak Obama. But things have gotten to the point where Blacks are losing some of the freedoms they once enjoyed.

This is the course correction: Black history being pulled from schools, election laws reducing the Black vote, affirmative

action no longer protected, Roe vs. Wade overturned, and finally police brutality is socially accepted among society so much so that Blacks have to teach their children how to survive it.

These corrections could have been eliminated if Blacks had simply never integrated into the American culture.

Separate but equal was a way of life for the Negro during the early part of the late 1800s into the 1900s. Blacks had their own banks, their own doctors, and their own communities. If the two races interacted, Black people used their own water fountains and bathrooms. Blacks had their own restaurants and schools, and when traveling, they had their hotels.

Their communities were whole. The doctor lived next door to the plumber. The Black family was the backbone of the community, and the church was the backbone of the Black family. The Black community flourished due to neighbors being responsible for neighbors. Because the educated lived in the same community as the uneducated, everyone mattered.

There was no ghetto. Pride was taken for the entire community because everyone lived together. Respect was paramount because they only had each other to rely on. Everyone knew each other. You could not create problems in this community because they policed themselves.

Blacks even had their own sports leagues. Since they weren’t allowed to play sports with whites, they formed their own sports franchises. They traveled and played each other and stayed in Black homes and hotels when they played in different cities.

Blacks enjoyed a segregated theatre community that used the chitlin’ circuit to travel the country.

Life for Blacks in America has always been hard. Police brutality, unequal pay, red lining, and violence against Blacks. With racism still a major factor in Black life, some wonder if Black life would be better segregated.

The music market was Black, too. Blacks played music in Blackowned establishments. They traveled on what was called the chitlin’ circuit and they played to crowds in each city. The Green Book was used to help Blacks understand where to stay when they traveled. The Green Book was literally a book that highlighted different places that were Negro-friendly.

During World War II Japanese Americans were imprisoned in camps to due Japan attacking America. After the war ended, America gave each Japanese person who had been imprisoned

run by Blacks. To sum it up, the Black dollar would stay in the Black community, thus making the entire race stronger and more interdependent and self-reliant instead of letting billions of dollars slip out of the Black community annually.

The transfer of wealth would remain in the Black community because the children of older Blacks would understand and create wealth better than they do today. And finally, there would be less violence in the Black community because Blacks would do a better job of treating each other with respect.

$52,000 as reparations for what the country had done to them.

Blacks often wonder how life would be if Blacks got any reparations for being enslaved for over 400 years. There was once talk of Blacks getting 40 acres and a mule as reparation. But that never happened. Today, one can only wonder the value of what would be owed if Blacks did get any compensation to right the wrong of slavery. Black desegregated communities would have thrived with that kind of stimulus. Integrated communities of color would thrive from an economic boon, but one can only wonder how the money would be used. What if Blacks hadn’t integrated? What would life be like in 2023?

The Black community influences trends all over the world. Blacks are responsible for the latest fashions, music, movies, and culture. Those influences impact the global economy. The Black community would be directly impacted by the increase of revenue staying in the Black community.

Life today would include major sports teams owned, managed, and played for Blacks only. The music industry would have Black-owned labels, playing music on Black-owned stations. The music would reflect the community, instead of the music that is made in poor taste today.

The businesses of the Black community would be owned and

These examples of how the Black community would have benefited from never having integrated leaves one final question: How would Blacks be treated by white people when they left their Black communities?

Would they be able to go about life when they are in areas where the two races intersect. If Blacks shopped in white areas, would they be followed? Would they be allowed to walk around freely without intimidation and being profiled? Would they be stopped and harassed for doing everyday simple things like driving?

Which life would you choose? A life where you are harassed outside of your community, but once you get back you have wealth, respect and peace? Or a life where you still struggle for equality, you quite often are isolated and must deal with bias on a daily basis? One can only imagine how life would be in a segregated America. ●

Blacks had their own banks, their own doctors, and their own communities. If the two races interacted, Black people used their own water fountain and bathroom.

The Negro Baseball League allowed Blacks to play professional sports among themselves.

CHANGE STARTS HERE

Hyatt Corporations

Hyatt’s Global DEI Sr. Vice President, Tyronne Stoudemire, discusses how he and the global hospitality organization intend to change the world by 2025.

From the moment you meet him you wonder if something is different about him. After you get to speak to him, you know that he is different. In a world absent of true leadership when you get to know Tyronne Stoudemire you can feel the passion he has for the world. Stoudemire is Hyatt’s Global DEI Sr. Vice President, but when he speaks, he sounds more like Martin Luther King Jr., Barak Obama and Quincy Jones wrapped into one person.

Hyatt has always been a soft place to fall for the Black community. In 1965 when the civil rights leaders of that time needed a place to meet, they convened at a Hyatt owned hotel.

“Hyatt was the first high rise hotel in downtown Atlanta and during that time it was the host to invite Blacks into its hotel rooms,” Stoudemire said. Fast forward 60+ years later, and Hyatt remains committed to supporting and empowering underrepresented individuals and communities and driving change across the organization and its business practices.

This includes working with local Black vendors, hiring Blacks into positions of management and influence so the corporation reflects society. Hyatt had a choice, it could either be passive in its response to racism or it could be actionable.

In the world of DEI (diversity, equity, and inclusion) companies quite often check the box on diversity, but never create the

infrastructure to see Blacks benefit from it. Stoudemire knew things would be different at Hyatt.

“I have the most supportive board and executive leadership team in the country.” Stoudemire continued, “If we are going to impact change, you must have the support of your CEO, and my CEO supports and encourages me daily to effect change.”

Stoudemire learned early what change looked like growing up in the suburbs of Detroit, Michigan. He lived with a certain fear of white people because his family was one of the only Black families in his community.

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My father had a great job, and my mother was a nurse, so I grew up with a lot of love and nourishment. We lived in the inner city of Detroit and my dad wanted us to have a better life, so he moved us to a better community,” Stoudemire said.

For Blacks during the 60’s escaping from one lifestyle did necessarily guarantee a better life someplace else. Moving from one neighborhood to create a better future didn’t always go according to plan. For Blacks, if you moved to a better place, you sometimes had to deal with how Blacks were treated in the past. One must wonder which is worse.

“I grew up getting stones thrown through our windows. They used to put trash on our lawn. Some nights they drove their cars across our grass and yelled crazy things to us, all because we were one of the only Black families in that the community,” Stoudemire said. “That taught me very early about who I was,

and how I wanted to live my life.”

The impact of trauma in one’s life can either break them or create them. Stoudemire decided that his encounters with racism would be his foundation for who he would become as an adult. Having educated parents exposed Stoudemire to hard work and developing a passion for success.

Stoudemire was very successful early by securing a global position at Hewitt and Associates. Stoudemire traveled the globe working to set up call centers around the world. He was asked to lead the firm’s DEI department and thus, his passion was realized.

“It’s interesting, because based on my childhood and the racism I had to deal with, I feel like I was built destined to be part of DEI awareness and education to enact meaningful change,” Stoudemire said.

Stoudemire led a study on how long it would take for parity to be created in the modern workforce where Blacks, women and people of color would be equal to whites. The results were surprising.

“It will not happen in our lifetime,” Stoudemire said. “In order

for Blacks and people of color to have the same opportunities as whites will take maybe two or three life cycles.”

That’s why Hyatt’s Change Starts Here commitments are more than just words on a page. This set of actions and defined goals are a manifestation of Hyatt’s purpose – to care for people so they can be their best. For example, Hyatt offers grants to organizations that can assist in the mission of working to increase the minority presences in all the phases of the hotel business.

“We understand that money is the critical component of Black business.” Stoudemire continued, “We know that Black companies need capital to deliver. So, we sometimes will prepay for services. We will change from a net 30 to paying right away so these companies can compete and represent the best in themselves when it comes to collaborating with Hyatt.”

Stoudemire understands that is so much more that can be done when it comes to DEI. His counterparts also see his efforts. On September 20th, at The Kennedy Center in Washington, D.C., Stoudemire will be honored at the We See You Awards International ceremony hosted by the International

Black Woman’s Public Policy Institute.

At that event the entire room will not have to wonder how good of a man Tyronne Stoudemire is, they will get a chance to learn, firsthand, that the man is different, and he is a special person and a true leader for Black people everywhere. ●

Tyronne Stoudemire was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan.

THE PATH TO SELF DISCOVERY AND EMPOWERMENT

The journey of self-love isn’t about reaching a final destination; it’s more like a powerful adventure that helps build real-love for others. This important journey starts with getting to know and accepting yourself. For Black men, this is especially meaningful, particularly if you didn’t have a dad or others showing you love and care while growing up.

Written by CHRIS A. MATTHEWS

Figuring out who you truly are isn’t easy, especially when different things have influenced you. But the journey of self-discovery helps you sort through all those things and find your real identity. This journey has a few main parts, and each part helps you understand yourself better and see the amazing things you’re capable of.

Family Identity: Nurturing Roots and Influences

Think about your identity like a puzzle, and your family is a big piece of that puzzle. This is particularly important for Black men. Sometimes, things might be tricky in your family, but they still shape who you are.

Dr. James Garbarino, a revered child psychologist, emphasizes the significance of strong family bonds, which provide an enduring sense of belonging and stability that echoes throughout one’s self-esteem and self-concept. Remembering times when you felt proud with your family, like when you did something awesome, helps you feel really connected to your family’s history. These memories are like stars lighting up the way to figuring out who you are and where you come from. They guide us on this journey of discovering ourselves.

Cultural Influence: Threads of Identity

One essential part of understanding who we are is tied to our cultural heritage. Our culture shapes how we behave, think, and see ourselves in significant ways. Dr. Claude Steele, a well -regarded social psychologist, highlights how culture deeply impacts our perspectives and actions, affecting how we view ourselves and our surroundings.

Navigating our cultural identity, especially in a diverse society, can be like a complex dance. While challenges might arise, embracing our cultural roots can instill a strong sense of pride and belonging. Delving into the intricate details of how our cultural heritage has woven into our beliefs, viewpoints, and interactions with the world can provide valuable insights into our sense of self.

Discovering Your Talents: Finding Your Inner Strengths

As you explore the path of getting to know yourself better, an important step is uncovering your special talents and strengths. Dr. Martin Seligman, a leader in positive psychology, talks about how it’s important to find the things you’re really good at. These unique abilities are like the seeds that help you feel good about yourself and instill confidence.

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They’re like tools that you can use to overcome tough times and achieve your goals.

For Black men, recognizing and nurturing these natural abilities can be a way to feel strong and confident, and to show that they’re more than any negative ideas others might have about them. It’s like building a strong foundation of believing in themselves.

Learning from Tough Times: Growing Stronger Through Challenges

Life is like a big quilt made up of different experiences, some good and some bad. Dr. Ann Masten, who knows a lot about facing tough situations, says that even when things are really hard, they can help us become stronger. This is notably true for Black men who often have to deal with difficult obstacles.

These challenges can be like tests that make men tougher and more resilient. When they look back at the hard times they’ve been through and the tough things they’ve overcome, it shows how strong they are inside. It’s like finding treasures in the middle of tough moments that help them understand who they really are.

Past, Present, and Future: Crafting Your Narrative

The journey of self-discovery extends beyond individual fragments of time, encompassing the expansive journey of your past, present, and future. Dr. Dan McAdams, a distinguished personality psychologist, suggests that narratives play a pivotal role in shaping our identities.

Reflection upon past experiences, introspection into their impact on the present moment, and the envisioning of future aspirations contribute to a comprehensive understanding of one’s identity. This process aligns the fragments of one’s life into a cohesive narrative, fostering personal growth and setting the stage for a future filled with purpose and achievement.

Creating a Lasting Impression: Your Special Purpose

In a world full of so many different things, it’s important to think about what you want to leave behind. Dr. William Damon, an expert about finding your purpose, says that when you have a clear goal for your life, it gives you

a strong sense of meaning. This is especially important for Black men who face many ongoing challenges in the world. Figuring out what you want to be known for and the things you want to achieve is like planting a special seed. This seed grows into something great that not only helps you grow but also makes a positive impact on others and the world around you.

A Journey Worth Pursuing

Discovering who you truly are goes beyond just focusing on yourself; it’s a basic right everyone has and a way to take care of yourself. This journey is very meaningful for Black men, whose lives are shaped by many different stories and narratives from society, history, and personal experiences. By connecting with your family’s history, celebrating your cultural background, realizing your unique talents, thinking about your life’s moments, and making your past, present, and future fit together, you can find the power within yourself and be authentic.

Many studies show that this journey helps you grow as a person, build strong relationships, and leave a lasting impact on the world. So, take this journey of self-discovery and remember, you deserve to uncover the amazing you that’s within.

Self-Assessment: Unveiling Your True Self (Based on Dr. John Gottman’s Love Maps)

What are your Triumphs and Strivings?

Recall and describe moments when you’ve triumphed over challenges. These could be both small and significant

Developing self worth and self love are the goals and keys to life.

achievements. How have these experiences impacted your self -perception and goals?

Reflect on the role of pride in your life. Were you praised by your parents for your achievements? How do you respond to praise from others?

What are your Injuries and Healings?

Delve into difficult periods or traumas you’ve experienced. How did you survive and overcome these challenges? What lasting effects have they had on your emotional well-being?

Describe the strategies you used to heal and recover from your injuries. How have these experiences shaped your protective mechanisms?

What is your Life Mission and Legacy?

Imagine your own epitaph and obituary. What do you want people to remember about you? How do you want to be perceived and celebrated?

Craft a mission statement for your life. Define your purpose

Envision the legacy you want to leave behind. How will your actions and values resonate with future generations?

Identify significant goals you’re yet to achieve. What experiences or creations do you aspire to pursue?

Who do you want to Become?

Describe the ideal version of yourself that you’re striving to become. What characteristics and qualities define this person? Outline strategies that will help you transform into your ideal self. How can you actively work towards your desired state?

Acknowledge the struggles you’ve faced in your journey towards self-improvement. What internal battles have you confronted or are still battling?

Address the demons within yourself that you’ve had to confront. How have you overcome or are working to overcome these challenges?

Identify aspects of yourself that you wish to change. How do you envision this transformation occurring?

Revisit dormant dreams or aspirations that you’ve pushed aside. How can you reignite these passions and integrate them into your life?

Visualize your life five years from now. How does your ideal self-align with this vision?

Narrate the story of the person you aspire to become. How will your journey inspire others and contribute to your legacy?

The journey to self-discovery is both challenging and rewarding, requiring introspection, honesty, and courage. For Black men, this journey takes on a unique significance due to their experiences and cultural context. By engaging in a deliberate process of self-assessment and reflection, Black men can uncover their strengths, confront their demons, and align their aspirations with their authentic selves. Through this transformative process, they will not only learn to love themselves but also establish a strong foundation for fostering meaningful connections and contributing positively to their families, communities, and the world at large.

Remember, the journey to finding you is a journey worth embarking upon. ●

Happiness comes with an inner peace that cannot be shaken.

MASTERING YOUR SEASONAL FITNESS

Prepare to embark on this journey of turning over a new leaf- literally and figuratively. As the seasons change, so do our workout routines. Just like that trusty flannel shirt that's begging to come out of hibernation, your body is ready to shed its old layers and embrace new challenges. We're about to unveil the secrets to seamlessly transitioning your fitness game from the carefree days of summer to the cozy embrace of fall.

Written by GARRETT WALLER

Just as the leaves change, our bodies embark on their seasonal journey, both physiologically and psychologically Physiologically, our bodies respond to shifts in temperature and daylight. During summer, our heart rate might be slightly elevated due to the heat, while in fall, cooler temperatures can enhance endurance. Sunlight influences our mood and hormone production. The dwindling daylight hours of fall can lead to a drop in serotonin, affecting our overall sense of well-being.

Psychologically, the changing seasons can be a powerful motivator or a sneaky saboteur. The warm summer sun often invites us outdoors, encouraging physical activity. As autumn arrives, it's common to feel a shift in motivation. It's easier to give in to the desire for a cozy blanket on the couch. Understanding these physiological and psychological nuances equips us to adapt our fitness routine to the rhythm of the seasons. Embracing the following four seasonal adjustments has its perks both for your physique and your state of mind.

Efficiency Maximization: Adjusting workouts and nutrition according to the season can optimize results. Summer's longer days might inspire high-energy activities, while fall's cooler weather can provide an opportunity

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for more steady endurance training. September boasts the best of both the late summer and early fall, making it the prime time to take advantage of your last sweat sessions of the year. Try timing yourself to walk or jog a mile and see how

September's oscillating hot and cool weather demands layering finesse and stylish adaptability. By demanding looser clothing, it's as if the universe is conspiring to inspire complacency. Here's the twist – consider the hoodies and sweaters your se-

much you can improve from the first week of the month to the last.

Variety is the Spice: Switching up your routine prevents plateaus and keeps things exciting. Think of it as swapping out your summer shorts for a cozy fall sweater and sweatpants –the change is energizing! Try finding an equal alternative to every exercise in your fitness routine. If you are doing a flat bench press, go for an inclined press. Swap out pull-ups for pull-downs. Or try doing your entire routine backward. It not only keeps you on your toes, but it provides a nuanced challenge for your workout that revives your motivation!

Nature's Bounty: Seasonal foods offer an array of nutrients. In summer, hydrating fruits and salads keep you refreshed, while fall brings hearty veggies and warming dishes that support your body's changing needs and preferences.

Mood Magic: Aligning your fitness routine with the season can have a positive impact on your mental state. Basking in the sun's rays boosts mood during summer, while early fall's crisp air and vibrant natural colors can invigorate your senses. Just when you begin to think about when to pull out the long socks and sleeves, it's time to think ahead as to what your fitness routine looks like in the coming cooler months. As you adjust your wardrobe, consider autumn's outdoor opportunities like trail running, cycling, and football-inspired drills. Infuse a touch of long-term commitment and creativity into your journey toward a healthier you.

cret workout allies. Wear them as a cloak to conceal the body transformation you are forging underneath. It's a great way to prepare your mind to unveil your improvements shortly!

Fall fitness is where fashion meets function. Start with a moisture-wicking base, add a lightweight insulating layer, and top it

The right workout routine can add years to your life and overall happiness with yourself.

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off with a sleek windbreaker or light jacket. As temperatures fluctuate, you're ready to peel after your warmup and pile up when you finish.

As for colors, embrace fall's rich palette for your fitness gear. Earthy tones of burnt orange, deep red, and forest green mirror nature's transformation. A dash of vibrant yellow or cozy burgundy adds a personalized touch and mimics the changing leaves. Your outfit becomes a canvas for selfexpression as you sweat through your vibrant autumn routine. Get fit, fly, and fresh this fall!

As the seasons switch, so should the contents of your nutrition bag. The autumn palette craves sustenance. Celebrate fall's harvest by welcoming the richness of warm comfort onto your plate. Trade leafy greens for root veggies such as broccoli and asparagus, embracing nutrient-dense choices that align with nature's changing rhythm. Apples and earthy

legumes like beans and peas dance into your diet, delivering a powerhouse of nutrients. Make nature's seasonal spread your ally on the path to optimal fitness. Also, balance is your secret weapon in this delectable tango. Savor a slice of pie, but pair it with a side of mindful choices. Prioritize colorful autumn produce, lean proteins like meat and fish, and whole grains like brown rice and oats. Add crunchy food and crush your goals!

The seasonal transition to sweater weather can play tricks on your motivation. As summer's energy wanes and the allure of cozy blankets gets closer, staying on track becomes a challenge. It's in these transitions that your determination shines brightest. Acknowledge the struggle, but don't let it steer your course. Your fitness journey thrives on adaptability, and every seasonal shift is a chance to reaffirm your commitment.

Setting and achieving new fitness goals amid autumn's transformation requires strategic agility. Revisit the why behind your fitness journey and, realign your goals with fall's unique rhythm. Break down large goals into bite-sized milestones, providing steady progress. Each month in the fall season has a major holiday. Use them as goal deadlines, check-in days, and milestones. Incorporate fall's softer sun and cooling air into your routine as much as possible, making every workout an ode to nature's changing canvas. By weaving your aspirations into fall's transformative landscape, you lay the foundation for triumphant achievements. Infuse your fitness journey with the very essence of the season - change.

Gents, your fitness journey is a perpetual adventure, evolving with the changing seasons. Embrace each transition with open arms and enthusiasm. Let this fall be a testament to your adaptability and determination. Gear up, gents, for a season of exhilarating workouts, mindful moments, and indulgent chuckles. As you stride confidently into the fit and fly fall ahead, remember that your wellness journey is a masterpiece in progress. Embrace it all – the challenges, the victories, and the laughter – for a well-rounded well-being that celebrates the harmony of body, mind, and the changing world around you. ● Visit

Creating a daily workout routine is the key to maintaining a positive self image.

LIVING IN THE

In 1992, I attended my first meeting of the National Speakers Association. I was wowed.

I knew nothing about the speaking industry other than I wanted to inspire people with my words. I borrowed money to attend the convention taking my one mix-matched suit for business, because I had been a night club singer and only had entertainment clothing.

I was filled with excitement and amazed to see the famous speakers who were attending: Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, Harvey, Brian Tracy, and Anthony Robbins.

The night of the Gala, five people were inducted into the Speaker Hall of Fame and I noticed how everyone was sitting on the edge of their seats, waiting for the name to be announced of the person who would receive the night's biggest award. The award, which they called The Cavett, is the highest award in the speaking industry (named after the association founder, Cavett Robert). After the person was announced, the room erupted in applause. I didn't know much about that award, but I knew right then that I wanted to one day be worthy of receiving it!

When I returned to Washington, DC, I sat down with a pad and pen and began writing down my goals. I wrote that I wanted to be inducted into the Speaker Hall of Fame and

VISION PLANNING

Planning for success starts with the proper vison to embrace your goals.

Written by DR. WILLIE JOLLEY

one day, receive The Cavett Award. In 2005, I was inducted into the Speaker Hall of Fame, and on July 17, 2023, I received The Cavett Award!

Afterwards, I was reminded of this scripture, Habakkuk 2:2-3. It reads, "Then the LORD answered me and said: "Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come. It will not tarry."

So, the lessons are:

• Write your vision and make it plain.

• Run towards your vision and do the hard work.

• Since God is not a respecter of any one person, what He does for one, He will do for others!

Over the years I have shared with audiences the incredible power of setting goals and how goals have changed my life and my income!

I want to encourage you to set big, bold, audacious goals and if you need help...feel free to go to www.williejolley.com/goals for access to my goal setting / goal achieving program. I want you to know that goals...work! And done correctly, goals can help you to have great success in every part of your life!

Dr. Willie Jolley, Hall of Fame speaker, Sirius XM radio host, and global best-selling author of A Setback Is a Setup For a Comeback and An Attitude of Excellence.

THE NERVE OF THIS DJ

DJ John Horton has turned his passion for playing records into a global brand that helps local and up-and-coming artists all around the world with his website, Nerve DJ’s Mixtapes.

John “DJ Johnny O” Horton, Jr. is founder & CEO of The Nerve DJs a global D.J. coalition servicing promotional music to DJs. Under the umbrella of NerveDJs. It has several websites with nervedjsmixtapes.com as it’s main site, that gives DJs, independent and major artists a place to showcase their music and videos to build a fan base and get discovered by major record executives.

Horton also has NerveDjs radio which includes 7 online streaming radio stations. And his most passionate project under the NerveDjs umbrella is the NerveDJ Institute. It’s a D.J. school for any individual who wants to learn how to D.J.

“It’s not just playing music; it’s first deciding what kind of D.J. one would want to be. It all started with a passion I had for music. In 1977 my neighbor “D.J. Dougie” came home from a tour in Germany with a Kenwood turntable made of stone and huge speakers, Horton said.

He was outside playing music on the turntables and drawing attention from all of the neighbors.

“I asked him if he could teach me how to play music. That was the first time I put a vinyl record on a professional D.J. system. That’s when I fell in love with music. For 3 years I was working with Dougie and Terry Macklin carrying around crates of records and d.j.’ing to improve my D.J. skills. In 1980 I bought my first set of Techniques SL 100s (still carrying around records in crates),” Horton said.

In 1981 Horton bought the Techniques SL1200 which was made for djing and he was the first street D.J. in Cleveland, to own them.

In 1982 cutting and scratching became a big part of d.j.’ing. Horton practiced day and night to master that technique. From 1981 until 2001 he used the Techniques SL 1200 djiing with vinyl records. In 2001 he bought the Pioneer CDJ 1000s which changed the game. The Pioneer gave D.J.’s the opportunity to D.J. using CD’s (compact discs) instead of carrying around totes and crates of vinyl records. It made the art of d.j.’ing so much easier. It was still a technique to cutting and scratching. It took a lot of hard work and practice as well. In 2004 he purchased Serato Live.

Serato software used the laptops hard-drive that contained MP3 and wave files to play music. No more CD’s! Just a com-

puter, a mixer, Serato Live and 2 turntables that mimicked playing vinyl records. I made a successful and popular career being a professional D.J. playing music all over the country. It is my goal to pass the torch on to the next generation. NerveDJ Institute is designed to teach individuals the history of DJ’ing and learning to match the music to the audience. Learning to DJ is not easy and is not for everyone. It takes hard work, drive and practice, all I put in over 40 years ago! ●

DJ Johnie O is the owner of Nerve DJ’s Mixtapes.

THE RIGHT BOW

Fashions for the discriminating man include taking it to the next level. That includes accessories that complete the look, and bowties do just that.

Written by LARON HARLEM

A wardrobe shopper, stylist, and accessories designer who specializes in dapper looks that truly appeal to the most discerning eye. mailto: styledbydecar-lo@gmail.com, https://www.styledbydecarlo.com/

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