CODE M Magazine Volume 1- Issue 2 - SPRING 2018

FOR THE GLOBALLY CONSCIOUS MAN

#MeNtoo??

I’m Not the Only One

by Jess Lader The Role of the Church in the New Social Justice Movements

by Rev. Dr. Derrick Harkins James Herman Banning: First Black Pilot to Fly Across America in 1932

by Dr. Philip Hart A Letter to My Son

by Rev. Dr. Otis Moss, III Men’s Health Tips from Cleveland Clinic Urologist Dr. Ryan Berglund Finding Your Fitness Niche is a Cinch!

by Kevin Schmalzried

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Greetings and Salutations, If you are reading CODE M for the first time, WELCOME. If you read our inaugural issue, WELCOME BACK! CODE M Magazine has been favorably received and enthusiastically embraced by those who read our first issue. CODE M’s mission is, “to create and nurture a trusting community among men that will inspire, educate and act as a resource throughout the journey of manhood.” I truly believe the timing is right for what we are doing.

I would like for our readers to know that the many hours of collective collaboration behind the scenes, in creating what you are now reading, is a group of incredibly talented, hardworking and dedicated individuals, I affectionately refer to as the “CODE M Family.” Make no mistake although I may be the publisher of CODE M, it is truly a team effort. We were blessed to add, as a Special Advisor, a multi-talented and strong advocate of CODE M to our “family,” Mr. David Christel. Upon meeting David, I knew after our first meeting, I wanted to extend the invitation for David to join our staff. You too, will understand why after you read his words.

In this issue, we support the #metoo movement, but add to it the #MeNtoo?? aspect. Who supports men (and boys) when they have been sexually assaulted or harassed, and why don’t men have the same understanding and support to speak up when it happens? We also feature articles on the church's role in social justice, home schooling your children abroad, investment advice and many other topics we believe will be of interest to our audience.

CODE M Magazine is proud to announce the addition of the CODE M Radio show

featured on 95.9 FM in Cleveland, Ohio but will be live streamed on www.wovu.org

CODE M Radio will feature a variety of topics and interesting guests to support and expand on what you read in CODE M Magazine. It will be a fun, thought-provoking

AN OMISSION:

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and informative show, in which no topics will be off limits. Understanding that we are all busy, we will add the shows in the form of a podcast to our newly designed website, in the near future. I know there are many things you could be doing, so sit back, relax and enjoy this issue of CODE M Magazine.

Remember, it’s about time and it’s about CODE M Magazine. #LIVEBYTHECODE

Bilal S. Akram CEO / Publisher, CODE M Magazine CEO / President, CODE Media Group, LLC

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself.

There is no commandment greater than these – Mark 12:30-31

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“Men don’t talk, men don’t share...”

Men do! That mindset is about to change, and CODE M is the vehicle to help men transition into becoming Publisher Bilal S. Akram Contributing Editor / Senior Advisor Alexandria Johnson Boone Special Advisor David Christel Chief Operating Officer Wayne L. Dancie, Sr. Media Coordinator Paula D. Morrison Asia Affiliate Cyril White Europe Affiliate Sharif Akram North America Affiliate David Williams Account Executives Bilal S. Akram David Williams Graphic Design & Creative Jennifer Coiley Dial Sway Effect / Howse Solutions Director of Photography Frederick Ross-Johnson Staff Photographer Franklin Solomon

the multifaceted human beings they innately are.

So much has been researched and written about men. The results are mindboggling, confusing and overwhelming, to say the least. No definitive how-to book exists that clearly defines what a man is, how to deal with men, and how men are supposed to act in our increasingly frenetic world.

Many men feel trapped in a Catch-22 scenario where they’re damned if they do and damned if they don’t.

The only way through this morass is dialogue. The old rubric has been that men are supposed to hide their feelings, be strong, tough it out, be the breadwinner and hero. How’s that working out? I think it’s pretty safe to say that hiding from ourselves and suppressing our wider range of emotions has created a world of defensiveness, separation, and fear.

Something tells me that that is not the world we aspire to deep within our hearts.

Being invited to join the CODE M team truly speaks to my heart. I’m excited about our supporting discussions about all that “stuff” men don’t want to address. I see so many men who are in pain, who feel cut off, who are living in confusion — who don’t know who they are and how to be. They’re not seeing their personal worth, they don’t feel they have a life purpose, they don’t feel supported by the world around them. It’s no wonder that men are not “seen” and understood for who they truly are.

Men often feel that they’ve been automatically labeled and categorized by virtue of their gender. They are now supposed to step onto the “be a man track” and fit themselves into our stratified and highly conditional society. Simple, but utterly demoralizing and dismissive of the true man within. The result is that men shut down, close off fundamental parts of themselves — and the rest of the world is left to figure out just who and what they’re dealing with.

The fact is that men are extraordinary, but we don’t really know the full extent of who we are. We are so much more than our skill-sets, talents, intellect, jobs, titles, careers, financial status, and property. We are born 360-degree human beings with the capacity to express far more than the narrow range of emotions to which we relegate ourselves.

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Passport to a Global Education: Family Enrolls in Travel Abroad for Schooling by Lorenzo Abram Optimal Health Requires Long Term Approach with Daily Attention by Omar Campbell

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Investment Advice

by James P. Rooney

It Takes a Village to Create a New Community

by Dr. Bob Haynie

Seven Strategies for Increased Employee Engagement 26

Finding Your Fitness Niche is a Cinch 28

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by Rev. Dr. Otis Moss, III

by Stacie Riffert

by Kevin Schmalzried

#MeNtoo?? I’m Not the Only One

by Jess Lader

#MeToo, Due Process, and the Dark Legacy of Lynching 36

Poems

by Girma Parris

by Philip W. Lindsey

Peer-to-peer Support is What Will Pull You Through the Pain by Dan Dean 40

James Herman Banning: First Black Pilot to Fly Across America in 1932 by Dr. Philip Hart 42

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Ten Questions Every Man is Afraid to Ask His Doctor

The Importance of Historically Black Colleges

by Eric Guthrie, Esq.

The Role of the Church in the New Social Justice Movements by Rev. Dr. Derrick Harkins 50

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Spiritual Health Checkup

by Rose Hosler

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James Rooney

Rev. Dr. Otis Moss, III

Kevin Schmalzried

Girma Parris

Jess Lader

Phil Lindsey

Stacie Riffert

Rev. Dr. Derrick Harkins

Robert Haynie, MD, PhD

Omar Campbell

Rose Hosler

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Philip S. Hart, PhD

Dan Dean

A Letter to My Son

by Rev. Dr. Otis Moss, III

Dear Elijah, What shall I tell you? Shall I tell you your body is of equal value to all citizens? Shall I tell you your rights are protected and racism is now a scourge banished from society? Shall I tell you that you are entitled to freely act and live as a teenaged boy in this country, dance playfully with minor mischief, and speak with a quick immature tongue? Shall I tell you that your body is safe and your mind is valued and your future is free?

If I tell you this, these words will be perjury before God and an assault upon the memory of our ancestors. I must share a hard truth with you today. The truth is you are not safe. You are not valued by certain others because of their persistent melanin phobia. There is nothing wrong with you, but there is something wrong with adults who hold on to myths created to maintain power and control over people kissed by Nature’s sun. You do not yet have the right to be a frolicking teenager like other children in our community, for your boisterous actions might be misconstrued by people who refuse to remove the racialized lens from their soul.

As your father, I am bound by duty and love to share this truth, but it is not the only truth you must know. What is often forgotten and deleted from your primary and secondary curriculum are these simple truths: You are a beautiful boy of color, a child of African descent, a magical creation of God, yet under threat by a mythological dragon birthed into existence by hate, theft, and Freudian fear of your great spiritual power.

These days of recorded “Black Death” will tempt your spirit to run to the room of despair and play the chords of cynicism. Do not shy away from the pain of this moment. Do not become a modern pessimist afraid to take action or one who believes hope is nothing but a fairy tale. Dare to lean into the storm, son, and draw strength from the history you hold and the faith you profess. Not the faith others claim you are to profess, but the faith where justice, protest, intellect, wonder, grace, and righteous fury meet with fists raised to do battle with dragons fashioned by old men.

Never let your anger become unchecked rage, scratching at the lining of your heart. I tell you often, you are loved and designed with purpose and immeasurable potential. You carry a lineage of women who refused to bow and men who dared to live. Never forget who you are and the legacy you hold. The world we live in will attempt to steal your essence and drain away every ounce of your beautiful life from your soul. Never allow the external noise to disrupt your inner life. The practice of silence, meditation, prayer, reflection, community gathering, and healthy grieving will serve to strengthen you on this journey.

I am sorry I must write this letter to you, but it is the duty of every Black father to share the stories of this battle with his son. You are the solution to this nation’s problems and the prey of dying wolves who want yesterday to always be tomorrow. You and your generation are the gifts God has sent to victims of an old story. You are our joy and you are “their” fear. It is unfair that I must share this with you, but your capacity to handle the weight of this truth is evident through your spiritual maturity. I shall always be with you, though it is my prayer my physical body shall precede you in death. This is the silent request of all parents especially those of us who still wait to fully sip from the cup of democracy. It is my prayer that I will leave you the best fuel for this struggle - my love. I love you and shall always fight for you and with you. Be well and be strong my son. Better days are ahead if you choose to fight with your head and heart.

Love, Dad Rev. Dr. Otis Moss, III is an activist, cultural critic, writer and Senior Pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, IL. His son, Elijah, is a high school honor student, writer/poet, athlete, and part-time family comedian. | SPRING 2018 | 9

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PASSPORT TO A GLOBAL EDUCATION:

Family Enrolls in Travel Abroad for Schooling

by Lorenzo Abram

Fifteen years, four different pri- dren under the legislative Common ama Canal can save a cargo ship’s vate schools, and many thousands of dollars into my three daughters’ education, my wife and I made a decision to homeschool our children.

Their educational performance while attending these schools was subpar at best, certainly beneath our standards, and we believed the efforts of the last school’s administrative staff were partly the blame.

Core State Standards curriculum.

Obviously, homeschooling was a viable substitute for that risk. The true work would be setting up a budget, putting together a curriculum, and gaining our children’s cooperation.

The latter was the hardest part.

My children hated the idea of being homeschooled. Each of them gave my wife and me lots of lip. But “Maybe you’re being too hard on through faith, their homeschooling your children,” the principal said to and travels, they were granted exme. This came in response to a ques- periences that many American chiltion I had asked regarding my kid’s dren could only dream of having. lack of homework assignments be- Today, my children are now young ing brought home. Well, that’s all I adults and doing quite well in colneeded to hear. My kids never again lege and working in jobs that they attended another private or public love. school. For what my wife and I were paying in tuition, we could equally FIRST STOP: PANAMA afford for one parent to remain at home to teach our kids, while lining In Panama, my children were exup a number of international trips posed to some of nature’s most pristhat would serve to reinforce and tine, untouched forestry. They visitsupport our family’s global educa- ed the Panama Canal and watched the large cargo ships slowly move tional perspective. through the locks. We all learned The Abram Global Academy was that one of the highest tolls ever paid by a shipping freighter was placed in full effect. $250,000. On average, a small yacht There was absolutely no hesitation. pays $35,000 to enter and exit the The only risk was keeping my chil- Panama Canal. The use of the Pan-

owner approximately 30 days of time and upwards of $1 million in savings, depending on its scheduled cargo and delivery date.

Our children also spent a semester enrolled at The Oxford Music Academy in Panama City. They were immersed in a Spanish-speaking environment, studying the language and learning how to build websites. For recreation, they were enrolled in a swim club located in Caledonia, one of Panama’s local neighborhoods.

This town could be described as one of the city’s poorest and least privileged communities. The Caledonia streets and its people carry a vibrant energy, and had really good food, especially the empanadas cooked by the local street vendors.

We spent some time visiting Panama’s beautiful interior as well. We visited the cities of David, Boquete, Volcan, and Chiriqui. Chiriqui has some of the most beautiful and picturesque landscapes on the planet.

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true work would be setting “The up a budget, putting together a curriculum, and gaining our children’s cooperation.”

African, and Portuguese, among others. The Panamanian people have many skin tones; however, the Panamanians we found most intriguing were the natives, known as the Guna. The Guna are very noticeable when you walk throughout the city. They have not fully assimilated into the modern day work activities, politics, or lifestyles as many of the other Panamanians have. They sit and walk the streets selling handmade trinkets and wear their clans’ garments, which partially represents their heritage and customs.

NEXT STOP: SHANGHAI, CHINA Our travel into Shanghai was very easy. Our landlord had prepared many things for us, which included prepaid phones, Internet service, and a few groceries. Each morning, my children would start their school day with a two-hour lesson in Mandarin, taught by a hired tutor who was recommended by our landlord.

The tutor, Ming Li, was very excited to teach and spend time with us.

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would complete their basic school assignments and eat their lunch.

After lunch, we would all rush out to walk the streets and ride the subway trains, making every effort to see as much of Shanghai as possible.

Unfortunately, we only got to see a small percentage Shanghai because it is a tremendously large city. What we did see, however, continues to bring back feelings of amazement!

Being among the Chinese people was probably the biggest highlight of our trip, especially when we visited the People’s Square, consisting of blocks upon blocks of eateries, shopping malls, and a variety of small stores selling knock-off brands of every consumer product known to the common man. In China, “Copy is right!” We saw knock-off brands of every electronic product, watch, or anything else one could conjure.

They are over 24 million Chinese living in Shanghai. Many of them have never seen brown-skinned people like us before. As my family and I walked the streets, we were

constantly stared at and approached by many friendly people with smiles.

Many of them – especially the older folks – wanted to touch our hands and hair. This type of behavior continued throughout our stay. We were never bothered by it; we actually enjoyed the attention.

One day, while walking “The Bund,” Shanghai’s most famous strip located within its financial district, my wife and children were greeted by a small group of women who requested a group photo. I stood by while they took photos with these friendly people. Later, we learned that the group were vacationers who had traveled from another province located far away to attend a retreat in Shanghai. Many of the onlookers decided to join in on the opportunity to have their picture taken with my family. Each photo op subsequently led to another, then another.

My girls felt like they had become the most famous folks in Shanghai. This is yet the most exciting meet-and-greet my children have

China ever experienced. I couldn’t believe my eyes! Finally, a gentleman who we thought to be a security agent stepped in to break up the theatrics!

He could tell that things were getting a bit out of hand.

communist society.

Additional highlights: We rode on China’s bullet train which took us to a Province called Su Zho, where we walked and hung out in one of the oldest parts of the city whose locaYou would assume that with so tion is classified as a historical place many people, Shanghai would be a and protected. We were able to ride loud and disorderly place – it was through Su Zho on rickshaws and just the opposite. I found it to be a boated on the Yangzi River, adjacent very orderly place – very spacious to the city. and clean with no cops carrying guns and no worries about crime. NEXT UP: TOKYO, JAPAN It was a place with purpose, where everyone seemed to go about their We rented an apartment while in business with intense focus, enthu- Tokyo, which was extremely small, siasm, and cooperation. From what but typical in this city. As parents, I understand, many of China’s po- this was the perfect environment to liceman wear street clothes, posing help educate children in basic Japundercover. Perhaps this is why anese living. Our mission for the there is very little crime in Shanghai, children was to have them live and though I’m certain this is not the eat like the locals, all while touring main reason, simply one of a num- colleges. “When in Rome...” In this ber of social customs on display in a case, “When in Japan...” Coming

from a 12-room home in America to a three-room apartment in Japan wasn’t an easy task, but we made it work very quickly. We ate a variety of flavored ramen noodles and enjoyed shopping at the local grocery stores where the choices were quite authentic. Thankfully, my wife is a creatively good cook. She demonstrated how rice, eggs, and small portions of seafood could be prepared 20 different ways.

In all, we visited five fashion colleges in Tokyo. To attend any of them, my daughter would have to pass a Japanese proficiency course. She/we understood this before traveling there.

While in Tokyo, my daughter took a few Japanese language lessons to see if she could adapt to the challenge of learning Japanese. She also enrolled in a Japanese speaking course back at home for one semester. Learning to write, read, and speak Japanese is continued on page 14 | SPRING 2018 | 13

Japan extremely tough. Though she’ll be returning to Tokyo someday soon, it won’t be to attend college. No speak Japanese!

THE COUNTRY OF SINGAPORE Singapore is predominantly an English-speaking country, though I discovered that many of its inhabitants speak multiple languages.

When arriving in Singapore, you immediately feel its energy and warmth! Singaporean residents are built up of a community who are proud of what they have established.

It is a very hot and humid place, and when it rains, it pours! For my family and I, riding through the streets atop the double-decker commuter buses was always fun.

On its surface, Singapore seems to have all that is needed for a family wanting to raise children in a safe and prosperous community. The country has a world-renowned educational system, and its workers demonstrate a very professional demeanor at all times. No matter what the craft, everyone takes pride in their work. Singapore has extremely clean streets; many of them look as if they were just recently paved and striped with a fresh coat of directional paint. There is very little crime in Singapore.

The weather is warm year-round, and the public transportation system is the most proficient we’ve ever experienced. Most of the residents speak multiple languages, but English is the most prevalent.

Singapore is a very expensive place

to live, most likely due to all of the things previously mentioned. At least you can see the country’s tax dollars being put to good use.

Here is something interesting to note: Our stay in Singapore was at a time when middle and high school students were preparing for their Regents Exams. During the lunch hour, there weren’t any seats available in any nearby McDonald’s, Starbucks, or other fast food chains or cafes; they were all filled with students studying for their exams.

Overall, this trip placed into clear perspective the importance of our travels abroad and why my wife and I decided to homeschool our children. Where else can you experience so many teachable moments?

Lorenzo Abram was born and raised in Newark, NJ. He is retired, after serving as an Operations Director of Isthmus Energy, based in Bangkok, Thailand. He and his wife Kim, an attorney from New Jersey, have been married for 26 years, and they have three daughters, ages 22, 20, and 15.

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Inspiration for our readers...

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. –Oscar Wilde You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

–Mae West My father used to say, “Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument. –Archbishop Desmond Tutu Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. –Winston Churchill The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.

–Maya Angelou Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them. –Steve Maraboli A man with outward courage dares to die; a man with inner courage dares to live. –Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching I’m the one that has to die when it’s time for me to die, so let me live my life, the way I want to. –Jimi Hendrix Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.

–Ralph Waldo Emerson It is better to remain silent at the risk of being thought a fool, than to talk and remove all doubt of it. –Maurice Switzer The first time I tried organic wheat bread, I thought I was chewing on roofing material. –Robin Williams Hold fast to dreams – For if dreams die – Life is a broken-winged bird – That cannot fly. –Langston Hughes

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Optimal Health Requires Long Term Approach with Daily Attention

by Omar Campbell

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The truth is, many of us are not only overweight,

but we are out of shape both physically and mentally.

In the past, I also have found myself living a sluggish lifestyle and in a depressed state of mind. Too often, we forget to take care of ourselves and our bodies because we are consumed with taking care of others and consistently putting “more important” things first. A mentor once said to me, “You cannot save the neighborhood until you save your own home.” Your body is your home.

To have a healthy body and life, you must take care of things internally. Rather than talking about the things that we do wrong, I am going to address what I believe are key factors associated with not just losing weight but with having a healthy lifestyle.

As a Certified Personal Trainer, I have the luxury of knowing how to strengthen and improve my body.

Many people do not know that weight loss is 80% nutrition and 20% exercise, and you cannot train away your diet.

must also be consistent with exercise. The biggest hurdle I’ve noticed over the past ten years I have been involved in the personal training and group fitness industry is that people being unable to stay consistently active. I believe this happens due to failing to mentally prepare for this lifestyle change. In my opinion, the most vital aspect to working out is mental.

The way we treat our bodies in terms of food, rest, stress, and what we put ourselves through mentally and externally, directly correlates to how we look and feel. What are some of the first things you think about when So why do you want to work out? Is it you want to get into better physical to look better or be stronger? Hopefulshape? It may be how much time you ly, and most importantly, you should have or how much will it cost you. want to prevent or reverse existing or Rather than questioning and doubtpreexisting ailments. Do not fail to ing if you can do it, just start to be understand that adapting healthy eatmore active. You can begin with just ing habits and incorporating accurate doing some basic exercises at home, and safe strength training techniques but the key is to not quit. You also are critical components that lead to need to prepare for the obstacles and successful results that will last. pitfalls you may face such as during holidays or birthdays with relatives More people today want a quick fix. and friends. How are you going to They want results and they want to maintain your regimen through see them now. They turn to fad dithose temptations? How are you goets, quick weight loss gimmicks and ing to combat friends asking you to gyms that hire personnel who are not come out for drinks on a night when equipped to teach clients correctly. Though I am not a you have an early workout the next morning? Preparing nutritionist, and I do stay within the scope of my prac- mentally for your journey is mandatory in order to stay tice, basic nutritional facts such as adhering to a diet on track. composed of lean proteins, complex carbs and healthy fats is something everyone needs to know. We have a You must be true to yourself and hold yourself accountvast amount of information at our fingertips, and I en- able to do the work necessary to achieve your goals, and courage you to use resources such as your smart phone be dedicated to reclaiming your body! And remember, or computer to educate yourself on proper nutrition. it is not important how many times you get derailed but how many times you reset your tracks and continue Just as you must be consistent with your nutrition, you forward.

Omar F. Campbell, owner of Limitless Chanxes based in Cleveland, Ohio, has been a certified personal fitness trainer and group fitness instructor for 10 years. He has a B.S. in Wellness from Ohio Valley University. Omar is an ACE Certified Personal Trainer and certified in Fitness and Nutrition. Omar specializes in muscle confusion and endurance techniques to promote optimal results. He is currently studying to become a Master Trainer so he can teach others to become trainers.

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Investment Advice

by James P. Rooney

I begin my inaugural contribution to Code I never did put money behind my conviction by M by putting forward this notion: Our poor decisions, mistakes and moments of regret can often carve pathways to future successes and triumphs. If, that is, we engage in clear and humble thinking to critically assess our errors, learn the lessons and make proper adjustments.

If this process becomes our habit, we will specialize in turning momentary failures into future opportunities and successes. My subject herein is investing.

In my 35 years in the business, I’ve experienced both exhilarating success and humbling failure, and along the way I’ve made every poor decision and mistake common to humankind. Here’s one that still resonates today: I began shopping at Amazon.com in the early 2000s. I bought a few books and music CDs (remember those?) and within the week, the soon-to-be ubiquitous box was on my doorstep. Their software worked perfectly and provided better complimentary product recommendations than any store clerk I’d ever met. Thus, I often bought more than I’d intended. It was easy, convenient and lifechanging. Since then, as Amazon has vastly expanded its offerings, I’ve remained both an advocate and active customer.

So, where’s the mistake I’m lamenting? It’s simple, really. While shopping in this brand new way, I did so in the singular role of consumer, rather than also thinking as an entrepreneur and producer. Amazon was transforming my life yet I never considered that if my life were being revolutionized by this online shopping experience, is the same also true for others?

Thousands of others? Tens of thousands?

Millions? Tens of millions? And if so, had I encountered an investment opportunity, maybe one of a lifetime?

buying and holding shares of this revolutionary company, and here’s what I’ve missed.

From May 1997, when Amazon was trading at $1.50 a share (accounting for stock splits) until today, the stock has risen to $1,500 a share.

You can do the math. Worse still, 2008’s brutal bear market took Amazon’s stock down 60% to below $40 a share. Can you imagine that?

Believe me; it wasn’t easy to buy any stock in late 2008 and early 2009, never mind an internet retailer losing money regularly. It was a courageous enough feat to simply hold onto what we owned, not sell everything and go into hiding. With the clarity only hindsight offers, however, that was the buying opportunity of my lifetime. Had I taken the risk to invest in my strong consumer conviction with $30,000, for instance, I would have a cool $1.1 million in Amazon shares today. Thus, my lament.

Amazon’s success is an extraordinary example, of course, but we can all think of dozens of other potential investment opportunities front and center every day. We shop with them, dine with them, and otherwise use their services and buy their products regularly. We use Google’s search engine, Netflix’s entertainment services and Apple’s iPhones. We share our lives on Facebook, our opinions on Twitter and our pictures on Snapchat. We buy sneakers and athletic gear from Nike and Under Armour, and our entertainment centers from Best Buy. We ship and receive our packages through Federal Express and UPS. We cruise with Carnival and Royal Caribbean, book hotels on Priceline and TripAdvisor, lodge at Marriott and Hiltonbranded hotels, drink coffee at Starbucks and Dunkin Donuts and grab lunch at McDonalds and Chipotle. The list goes on. continued on page 20

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As we do, are we also critically assessing these companies as potential investments; and are we attempting to spot smaller, under-the-radar companies and doing the same due diligence? Are we consistently looking for the outstanding growth companies of the future? Is this a habit, a mindset that we carry with us throughout each day?

long and hard about every investment beforehand.”

We’d study the company carefully, the market cycle and other relevant data, and we’d move judiciously.

We’d, “think a lot and act a little.”

If we are unwilling or unable to put the time and effort into the analysis, Buffett believes, we should be an optimist, nonetheless and use a low-cost S&P The wealthiest people I’ve met during my financial Index fund as our chosen investment vehicle. I’ve advisory career were generally from two classes: either always considered it smart to listen to and mirror successful business owners, or those who worked hard extraordinarily successful people in all walks of life. and excelled at their chosen careers. One commonality in both classes is they took educated risks and invested HERE ARE THE TAKEAWAYS: their savings into the greatest companies of the day, 1) As you navigate your way through the day, think those busy enhancing the lives of millions. Generally, and act not only as a consumer but as an entrepreneur they chose leading companies in industries they were and producer as well. Stay aware and awake to the most familiar with, providing them an advantage never-ending opportunities. over their peers. A generation ago, the growth names included Exxon Mobil, Proctor and Gamble, Johnson 2) What stores, restaurants, services, leisure and Johnson, Pfizer, Walmart, Target, Home Depot, experiences, technology breakthroughs, etc., have Costco, Disney, Coca Cola, Microsoft, Intel, Oracle, been superb in your experience? Which ones have Cisco, Adobe and others. Many are still alive and changed your life for the better, improved your health, thriving. In the present day, you well know some of helped your business efficiency, or provided you more the great growth companies from the products and time with your family? Are they public companies? services you use regularly, either at home or work.

Will they soon be?

They are changing your life for the better and in rare cases, revolutionizing it.

3) Carry a journal with you. Take notes – review It’s important to note that I’m not recommending the them – add to them – discard some. Save interesting purchase of any of the companies mentioned herein, articles and ideas in an investment file and review them especially at this later stage of the economic cycle. periodically. Make it an active, daily practice. Create a I’m instead advocating a new method of thinking and target list of investments and cull it often. Read target behaving: Consumer, entrepreneur and producer all company reports. If you need help understanding wrapped into one. their financials, seek help.

Also, I am most certainly warning you away from active trading. The most successful investor of our lifetime, Warren Buffett, at the dawn of 24-hour trading is known to have asked, “24-hour trading? When are people going to have time to think?” One of Buffett’s main investment tenets is to, “think a lot and act a little.” He believes every investor should have a card that gets punched each time an investment decision is made, a card with only twenty total punches over a lifetime. “If we only had twenty,” he says, “we’d think

4) Keep a store of cash available at all times, especially when the market has tripled in value in the past eight years (i.e. 2018). Remember the old Wall Street saw: “Pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered.” Be prepared, both financially and emotionally, to act when the market presents an irresistible opportunity, as it always will (i.e. 2009). In the meantime, think a lot, act a little, and methodically build your wealth.

Until next time, stay well and prosperous.

James P. Rooney, recently retired, was Senior Vice President, Stockbroker, Financial Advisor and Wealth Manager for Merrill Lynch from 1983 until 2017.

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John Hay High School

it takes a village

to create a new

community

by Dr. Bob Haynie

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Given that the number one employer in Northeast

Ohio is the health care industry, for the past 13 years, I have been working with the Cleveland Metropolitan School District to introduce Cleveland to careers in the health sciences. This involvement led to my joining the Board of Trustees at the Cleveland School of Science and Medicine (CSSM) at John Hay High School.

In 2009, I met a freshman at the school who was interested in becoming a doctor. To assist in fulfilling his dream, several of my medical students and I formed a partnership with CSSM high school students to develop educational programs based at both the medical school and the high school. As a result of this relationship, the Joan C. Edwards Foundation asked to partner with our university and CSSM to provide an annual scholarship for a graduating John Hay student to offset the cost of attending our undergraduate and medical school.

This scholarship allows a graduating CSSM student to graduate from nearby Case Western Reserve University undergraduate and medical school debt free.

As a result of our early success working with a specialty school, we decided to partner with Bolton Elementary school, a school not as fortunate as CSSM. A preschool through eighth grade school, Bolton has been designated an investment school because of its failing status. It is located in Fairfax, a poor community, which has one of the lowest life expectancies in Northeast Ohio. My interest in Bolton is two-fold. First, the university’s new Health Education Center will be located in the Fairfax area. Second, my two oldest children attended Bolton in the 1960s. Doing research on the current status of Bolton, I found separate quotes from two principals: 1. A former principal: “Just took ownership of the filthiest school full of some seriously decrepit looking teachers.”

2. Current principal: “It is with great pleasure and honor that I welcome you to a brand new 2016-2017 school year. I am excited to become a member of the Bolton School community.”

Because of this latter quote, three CWRU colleagues and I have decided to offer services to support Bolton. On our first visit, a situation immediately caught our attention: the presence of the Juvenile Justice Center right across the street from the school. The psychological impact on me was profound and I can’t imagine what impact it had on the children, teachers and the community having a juvenile detention center close by.

However, this has motivated me even more to assist the school by any means necessary. Our goal is to help transfer the school and surrounding areas into learning communities and, hopefully, encourage the migration from the institution across the street to institutions of higher learning. For the past two years, we have had monthly meetings with the principal and weekly meetings with the site coordinator for the Community Wraparound program. To date, we are working on a number of programs to assist in moving the school into a more positive direction.

our first visit, a situation “ On immediately caught our attention:

the presence of the Juvenile Justice Center right across the street from the school. The psychological impact on me was profound and I can’t imagine what impact it had on the children, teachers and the community having a juvenile detention center close-by.”

Robert Haynie, MD, PhD, is Dean of the Robbins Society and Associate Dean for Student Affairs at the School of Medicine.

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Seven Strategies for

Increased Employee Engagement

by Stacie Riffert

Employee engagement has been a hot topic amongst Leaders should view every interaction with an employee

corporations, large and small, for almost two decades now. Most organizations recognize the importance of an engaged team, which helps lower the risk of turnover, boosts customer satisfaction, realizes higher productivity, improves the bottom line, and increases the company’s overall chance of success. Yet, less than 33% of employees are engaged in their jobs in any given year.

as one with the potential to influence engagement and inspire effort. How leaders interact with and manage their employees can substantially affect engagement levels in the workplace, which in turn influences the company’s bottom line. Here are a few strategies that organizations can use to help build engagement with their employees:

Companies have been focused on this metric for years, but the engagement numbers haven’t changed much since the year 2000. In one of Gallop’s recent reports, The State of the American Manager, it was determined that managers account for as much as 70% of variance in employee engagement scores; thus, bringing truth to the phrase “people don’t leave jobs, they leave managers.”

Is there anything you can do to make your employees feel involved in and enthusiastic about their work and workplace? Happily, YES!

1. HAVE AND COMMUNICATE A CLEAR VISION

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Engagement starts with the leadership communicating a clear vision for the organization. People naturally want to belong to something greater than themselves. Your vision should inspire passion and commitment from your employees (and other stakeholders) and should serve as the rally cry for your organization. If you team knows, understands, and believes in the direction you are moving, they are much more likely to engage.

your team, you can create incentives that speak to those People need to understand why they are being asked motivators. Great organizations have at least six differto do things. The best managers and leaders are trans- ent incentives available for their teams. Examples of parent with their teams (to the extent they can be). Let motivators and incentives to support them: your team know why they are doing things (or not doing them) and how their work fits into the bigger pic- • Security – benefits, job stability ture. The more they understand, the more likely they • Financial – fair salary, bonus opportunities, one-time incentives will want to help.

• Learning – on-going training and development opportunities 3. SET PROCESSES, PROCEDURE, • Leadership – opportunity for advancement AND EXPECTATIONS From the first day of employment, make sure you have into management roles clearly laid out processes, procedures, and expectations • Expert Status/Recognition – new hire mentor, for each employee. People crave certainty and find it trainer stressful when they are unsure of what is expected of • Altruistic – community service projects them from day to day. If you are clear from the begin- • Relationships/Connections – committees (i.e. ning, neither you nor the employee should encounter safety, employee engagement), team building events surprises.

2. EXPLAIN THE WHY

4. GET TO KNOW EACH INDIVIDUAL EMPLOYEE

7. ENCOURAGE REGULAR FEEDBACK

People want to feel valued and know their input matters. Give your team a safe forum to let you know what is happening within your organization. Be open to ideas and suggestions from your team. Often the best ideas and solutions come from the people living through the pain points or those who are closest to the customer.

Remember, you don’t need to act on everything. However, you should address and acknowledge each suggestion and explain why you are tabling it for now.

The strongest leaders take the time to personally connect with their teams. They get to know them at a personal level outside of their work and remember that they are human with real thoughts, feelings, responsibilities, families, and challenges. They are interested in their hobbies and families and recognize that they need to allow employees to bring their “whole self ” to work.

Showing you care creates trust and loyalty. Knowing that they are respected as individuals at work can have a significant impact on how employees view not only The best leaders ensure that their employee engagement efforts are aligned. They find ways to communicate the their jobs, but their overall lives. impact of the engagement efforts throughout the organization, throughout the year, and they share best prac5. UNDERSTAND INDIVIDUAL MOTIVATORS We each have different motivators that drive our desires tices across the organization. Strong leaders use every and our decisions. As a leader, it is your duty to iden- opportunity, every touchpoint, and every communicatify the motivators for your team. Each person is likely tion vehicle to reinforce the organization’s commitment driven by a different factor; therefore, by understanding to employee satisfaction and engagement. Employee them, you will be better equipped to tap into the right engagement becomes a part of the organization’s strategy. Your team is your organization’s most important asways to engage your team. set; make caring for them a priority. If done right, these 6. CREATE AN INCENTIVE STRUCTURE seven strategies will help you inspire trust and motivaNow that you know what motivates the individuals on tion within your team.

Stacie Riffert is a certified FocalPoint business coach and is the owner of Empowered Leadership, LLC. Stacie’s 20 years of business experience as a General Manager and Sales Director with PepsiCo and the proven Focal Point tools combine to powerfully empower business owners to maximize their productivity and profitability. For more information visit https://stacieriffert.focalpointcoaching.com or contact her directly at sriffert@focalpoint coaching.com | SPRING 2018 | 25

e h c i N s s e n is a Cinch t i F

Finding Your

by Kevin Schmalzried

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As a strength and conditioning coach, one of the questions I often face from friends and

family is, “Will you write me a training program?” While it is my job to help people in that manner, the question embodies a sort of cart-before-the-horse mentality.

In certain settings, it’s entirely appropriate to put in the time to develop and follow a full training program with razor-sharp, exact numbers regarding volume, duration, intensity, etc.

However, unless you’re already training at a high frequency and your livelihood depends on your physical capacity to perform a given task better than someone else, it’s unlikely to be a good starting point. A program of that depth can be intimidating, confusing, and extinguish your well-intended fitness flame before it really even burns.

The simplest yet most crucial starting point is to establish a goal. What do you want from “working out” and why do you want it? The answers to those questions should be the backbone of your program. The “best” training programs from the “best” strength and conditioning coaches in the world won’t do much for you buried as a PDF in your computer or collecting dust on the shelf.

Let’s say you’ve established your goal. You’d like to be overall more physically fit because you want to live a longer life of a higher quality. That’s a perfectly reasonable goal that (depending on your current level of fitness) really isn’t all that complicated to achieve. Progressively increasing your overall level of literal “activity” is a great, realistic way to get the ball rolling.

Find ways to sprinkle in “exercise” where appropriate. Ride your bike to, from, or after work, take a walk on a lunch break, check out (and participate in) a sports league at the local YMCA, go for a swim or paddle a kayak when the weather is nice, give skiing or snowboarding a try, commit to a short daily routine at home of a few sets of 10 body weight squats and push-ups.

Is it realistic for you to commit to waking up at 4:30 a.m. on a daily basis and heading to a gym with an expensive monthly membership? Maybe, but that requires a lot more discipline than most people can commonly accept and exhibit. If that’s what works for you, great, but often setting such a high bar right out of the gate leads to failure in the long term.

Starting your fitness routine doesn’t have to look that archaic or be that mind-numbing. Not everyone can cope with the clanging-banging simplicity of picking things up and putting them down routinely. For some it’s therapeutic, for most it isn’t, and that’s okay.

The human body is capable of amazing things when progressively pushed to true physical capacity. However, that physical capacity can deteriorate rather quickly when we let it dwindle.

So what’s a good starting point? Thirty minutes of physical activity every day is generally a good recommendation of where to begin. But don’t feel like you have to limit yourself to that on a daily basis if you and a buddy are in the middle of a good pickle ball session. The point is you shouldn’t even necessarily feel like you’re “exercising.” Find an activity you enjoy and see where fitness fits into your life, and it’s much more likely that both it and you will be sustainable over a longer period of time.

Kevin Schmalzried, CSCS, USAW, is an assistant strength and conditioning coach for the Columbus Blue Jackets, and head strength and conditioning coach for their AHL affiliate, the Cleveland Monsters. | SPRING 2018 | 27

I’m Not the Only One

by Jess Lader illustration by Jessika Williams

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t is time to start a global movement for men and boys that empowers them to find a healthy identity. The #MeToo movement for women has opened the door for men to start talking about their own experiences with sexual abuse and harassment. There are many factors that contribute to how a man is now defined.

There is confusion around it. The dialogues that need to take place can be scary for some men. Men typically don’t want to discuss their feelings because they might be considered less than a man for it – in today’s society, sensitive can equal sissy. They can be categorized and labeled for their experiences in a disparaging way.

When it comes to the topic of sexual abuse and harassment, there is a considerable amount of fear that men face. The reality is that they are in fear of being rejected and not honored for their experience. How can men find a healthy identity with these challenges?

“I’ve always been a big proponent about education and starting young,” says David Christel, ghostwriter and Special Advisor to CODE M Magazine. He continues, “People have their ideas about what is and isn’t appropriate and how to deal with something. Like in my family, you did not talk about anything. Period. And now I think that for millennials there’s a great deal of confusion for them as to which way to go. How does one communicate anymore? Now technology has gotten to the point where we can divorce ourselves from face-toface interaction with people by just texting. People feel they can say and do anything via technology and there are no consequences. How does one get a dialogue going with boys and men of all ages to take a step back and look at the entire puzzle piece of society in which men are supposed to somehow navigate in a successful way?”

For men and boys, it can be difficult to be vulnerable and talk about their feelings. It’s a scary thing because of the unknown outcome. Toxic masculinity is defined by adherence to traditional male gender roles that restrict the kinds of emotions allowable for boys and men to express, including social expectations that men seek to be dominant (the “alpha male”) and limit their emotional range primarily to expressions of anger. Strong and silent is the example that has been set for them and to deviate from that expectation creates fear. Fear of being emasculated, rejected, or labeled. That label can sometimes be permanent, especially when combined with bullying. There are so many platforms now for someone to bully another person that it can become a global phenomenon. The embarrassment and humiliation that accompanies it is overpowering.

In young boys, if an adult bullies them, their self-esteem plummets. Not only is a lack of trust established with adults, but a child thinks that this behavior is acceptable. There is a way to break the cycle but they have to be exposed to a better example – one that is safe and free of fear. Boys and men are taught not to appear vulnerable so they hold in their truths out of self-protection. If they divulge what they think to be damaging information, they are facing unspeakable retaliation from their family and peers. David Christel describes when he was raped by two men and he couldn’t tell anyone. If he spoke about it, he would relive it constantly by the looks he was given by fellow students, teachers, neighbors, etc. “It was devastating to me in the 1960s.

Imagine what it’s like now. It’s why people consider suicide as the only option. We need to discuss the issues that men shy away from. In education, young people need to feel that it is safe to explore their feelings and to continued on page 30

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talk about their experiences. If they’re in pain, it’s okay more. Technology allows us to do whatever we want with to let that out.” impunity and without consequences. Internet trolling is an example of this type of behavior. Internet trolls latch In order to create a safe space for young boys and men, onto the most marginalized people in society – what education has to happen at all levels. Our educational they consider to be easy targets. They look for someone system is failing our boys. You have boys going through to blame and to attack that helps them feel better about puberty, trying to figure out some kind of archetype themselves. Rather, consider what would happen if you that they fit in to. Education is something that doesn’t just say something nice to someone – you both benefit. just happen at school and at home. It needs to happen But again, fear overrides everything. It’s such an innate everywhere in society. And it’s possible. Empowerment thing. It’s been deeply ingrained. So how can we crebegins with education. ate a safe world for boys and men? There needs to be a dialogue and it needs to start now. It has to start from There are men that become so shut down they are not the ground up, a grassroots movement. Christel says: willing to support others who are free to be themselves. “Words are powerful, but what’s even more powerful is “My particular perspective is that I don’t care what color when you’re with somebody face to face. They hear your you are, I don’t care what age you are – you are a human story and they hear that it’s safe to share that story. That being. Let’s start from that commonality and work from they are given permission to tell their story. Or to relax there,” says Christel. He feels that we need a different around those that have very intense stories. It just takes teaching impetus in our country. “There are going to that one-on-one thing.” be those who just aren’t going to let go, not going to change, stay right where they are, and they’re going to Many men that have been through trauma never talk push others to be like them.” about it in an open forum. A study conducted in the UK in 2016 found it takes a male abuse survivor twenty-six eople are afraid of losing their identity, possessions, years on average to come forward. Men need to be able and their way of life. There has to be a way to help men to have a release and an outlet – this is what happened realize we’re all in this together. Women and alpha males and this is how I feel. It should be easy, but it definitely are not the enemy. There is no one definition for what it isn’t. Hiding from it doesn’t heal it. Having a creative means to be human. Learning to be accepting of what outlet can be a healing component. So many people are we don’t necessarily understand is paramount so that not given that opportunity. But when a man can stand men feel free and safe. Christel offers a simple solution: up and speak honestly about his feelings, it can be pow“It starts person by person. It’s who you are on a daily erful for all parties involved. There is a power in story basis: your consistency, your congruency, your sense and it can transform lives. So how do we give men the of self-esteem, and what you put out there is going to confidence to safely speak up? radiate outwardly. And if you have that self-assurance, not ego, but that self-assurance to just be who you are, Christel created a one-night only production called The other people will pick up on that and they actually relax Testosterone Testimonials: The Measure of a Man. He around you.” had fourteen men write their own monologues about their experience growing up male in American sociRespect is a word that few people truly understand any- ety, which they then performed in front of an audience

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(which happened to be a packed house that night). The men ranged from a nineteen-year-old former gang member to a state senator, as well as a Rabbi and a transgender man. But there was a commonality among them because they were sharing honest accounts about their lives. The other similarity was many of the monologues started with how the man was hesitant to participate in this production. Yet, the men found the strength in the process to speak honestly about their feelings which was inspiring.

and not showing happiness, sadness, or pain is not what should be used to measure a man – but rather decide what is lifeless and uncaring. For no matter who or what you are, someone out there loves you and will miss you, but if you do not show kindness, understanding, acceptance and love to those around you, then you have missed out on a big part of the world and those who make it worth living,”

Once the production concluded, the men received a long, standing ovation and many in the audience was

ne man poignantly said: “So much of the aggres- in tears. Christel encourages communities to come sion in our culture, particularly sexual violence, is the together to create a similar production because the result of the need for one to express power through results were so positive and uplifting. violence. Instead we need to learn and teach ourselves and within the relationships and communities we live In conclusion, we need to be humble enough to admit that true power is based on loving, sharing, cooperat- when we don’t understand something and to truly listen ing with and serving one another as friends, as lovers. to another person when they are telling us about their Those are the lessons I have been taught that have given experience. Honor them for having their experience. me my self-definition as a man. It’s what Martin Luther Don’t dismiss it. The underlying fear is what makes King taught us when he said the day would come when someone dismiss it. We have to address it head on. Treat people were judged not by the color of their skin, but by each other like a human being. Recognize that we are all the content of their character.” the same. Let’s support ALL men and release the fear.

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Another man used humor to discuss the topic: “I have never lived my life intending it to be a model for anyone. I don’t know what a men’s movement is – if it exists, I don’t want to be part of it. Movements are something done in bathrooms or by symphonies. One result is a pile of crap, the other in what can sometimes be called beautiful music. I have a strong feeling that anytime you couple the word men and movement, the result will be the former.”

This man chose a creative metaphor to explain it: “Emotions are like air in a balloon: you have to let them out, otherwise, the balloon cannot hold it all in and must release the pressure, then men, like balloons, will simply burst and that is not a pretty picture. Being a man

For more information on The Testosterone Testimonials, please visit https://www.theessentialword.com/t3 If you or someone you know has experienced sexual harassment or abuse, there are resources available.

Please reach out to the following organizations if you need help: RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)

800.656.HOPE (4673) https://www.rainn.org/ Darkness to Light (End Child Sex Abuse) 866.FOR.LIGHT https://www.d2l.org Stop Rape Now (UN Action against Sexual Violence in Conflict) http://www.stoprapenow.org

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#MeToo, Due Process &

the Dark Legacy of Lynching

by Girma Parris

Looking at the #MeToo movement through the

historical relationship of black men, sexual assault and due process can provide a window into the movement’s potential benefits and problems if proceeding in its current form.

Historically, black men have been linked to the issue of sexual assault and due process. A core justification for southern segregation in the post-Civil War south was the protection of white women from newly free and supposedly predatory black males. Lynching, an extralegal form of capital punishment that doubled as public spectacle, was thought to be both an appropriate punishment and effective deterrent for black rapists — the coup de grace breach of racial customs upon which southern segregation lay. Lynching, as a tradition operating outside the legal system, swapped due process for visceral public retribution for alleged black crimes.

Knowledge of this enduring stereotype has served to silence black women in their plight to achieve justice for their own experiences of sexual assault involving black men. Black women experience sexual assault at rates higher than women overall (except for Native-American women) and report these crimes at comparably low rates. Internalizing the discrimination experienced by their brothers, fathers, mentors, and community leaders has often led to subordinating their own abuse in the name of racial unity – bringing their black assaulters to justice doubling as confirmation of this, the granddaddy of black stereotypes.

The connection between black men, sexual assault and #MeToo revolves around the role of due process in the prosecution of sexual assault. The US Constitution demands the provision of a fair process for any person denied life, liberty or property by the government.

Quoting Professor Zephyr Teachout from her op-ed in The New York Times, due process refers to “a fair and full investigation, with the chance for the accused to respond.” The right to due process is constitutionally guaranteed only in situations where the government

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is involved: criminal/civil prosecutions or litigation.

As rape is a crime in all 50 states, prosecutions of criminal rape cases require due process. For incidents involving private employment/school enrollment, its provision is not required. Nevertheless, to preclude litigation, private entities (private firms and universities not receiving government aid) often employ their own procedures to deal with issues as their occurrence can impact workplace/education environments. Federal Title IX protections that prohibit discrimination based on gender in universities receiving federal funds (as most institutions of higher education do) result in these institutions providing some form of procedures to handle situations of alleged sexual improprieties among faculty, staff, and students. In short, employers, schools, government institutions all have some procedures and processes to deal with incidents involving sexual misconduct. The question (controversy) often revolves around the efficacy of these procedures and whose interests seem to be favored by the procedures, the accused or the accuser. More on this below.

women, the gender dynamics described above have been exacerbated by issues pertaining to race: their accusations are even less credible than their white peers (especially when their assailants are white); and they have been reluctant to report the transgressions of their black peers out of racial loyalty, fear of community shame (the betrayal of “snitching,” for example) or general unease with reporting incidents. Concerning the latter, the rarity of black men in positions of leadership places an additional burden on black women to not bring down one of their “own” considering their scarcity (see accusations brought against Congressional Rep. John Conyers, recording artist R. Kelly, and music mogul Russell Simmons). Subsequently, the #MeToo forum has also given black women a forum and encouragement to transcend these hurdles for justice, to confront their abusers regardless of their race. This is a much needed and welcome development, one that should be encouraged and nurtured in some form.

The history of lynching however, also offers a cautionary tale to the seeming progress of #MeToo. In the zeal Two out of three sexual assault victims are never to protect white womanhood (and to justify white reported and over 90% of perpetrators never see any supremacy), white mobs exploited false accusations jail time. Nevertheless, it is private and public forums of rape to bypass due process procedures in favor of (private employers, university campuses, the halls the public retribution of lynchings, which became a of government) that have received the most recent primary tool in enforcing racial customs. Ida B. Wells’ media attention concerning sexual assault. It is these innovative, investigative work of the late 19th and early institutions upon which the #MeToo movement has 20th century revealed that accusations of black rape focused: institutions where procedures to handle were merely ruses for white supremacist violence, but sexual harassment/assault have often either failed or the rationale survived as lynchings propagated during been beyond the reach of sexual assault victims. For these decades. many women, living with harassment has been the default reality. Faced with the reality of unsympathetic/ During the first half of the 20th century, anti-lynching unresponsive management, school officials and HR advocates repeatedly proposed federal anti-lynching departments dismissing their complaints and tarnishing legislation. Southern senators, possessing veto power in their reputations as liars or humorless, women have congress through the mid 1960s, perennially thwarted often opted to simply endure unwanted solicitation, these efforts, employing the rationale of the perilous sexual innuendo and even assault from their male peers. black brute. Expressing his opposition to the Dyer AntiBlack women have a long history with sexual assault lynching Bill in 1921 during the House floor debate, and the silencing of their complaints. In slavery, their House Representative Assel of Louisiana inquired, “You white masters raped them with legal impunity. This calmly discuss it here impersonally, but should your continued during the years of Jim Crow. For black wife or daughter be criminally assaulted by an African continued on page 34 | SPRING 2018 | 33

brute would you be restrained?” Lynching was thus not merely an institution operating outside of the law. The law supported it in fact if not in official proclamation.

Since lynching’s heyday, the stereotype of the predatory black male has endured in popular and political circles, evident in America’s first movie blockbuster, D.W. Griffith’s Birth of a Nation in 1915, as well in contemporary times with the disproportionate rates of incarceration and capital punishment for black men.

Although the aims of advocates for victims of sexual assault are obviously more noble than those of southern white supremacists a century ago, those favoring disposing of due process to better protect accusers of sexual assault – as was the legal trend on college campuses during the Obama administration – can also result in potential miscarriages of justice. Although expulsion from college or loss of work hardly equate to lynching, with the permanency and ease of access to information on the Internet, ambivalently resolved allegations can profoundly circumscribe future prospects for the accused. Those defending #MeToo’s extra-due process approach accuse its critics as merely wanting to re-center the vulnerability of men in sexual assault allegations over the protection of victims.

They argue that it is women, not men, who have historically lacked access to due process. This certainly does pertain to much criticism of the movement and is accurate in describing how women have been unjustly treated. Nevertheless, provisions of due process – whether referenced literally as in criminal law or idiomatically as in processes and procedures in private institutions referred to as such to handle these issues – are designed to protect the accused. That is the philosophical foundation of the American judicial system. Blacks of yesteryear accused of rape could have used such processes and protections to win their innocence, but lynchings bypassed such.

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The problem for sexual assault victims is that this system designed to protect the accused is coupled with cultural biases (affecting judges and juries) that favor “boys being boys” and lays all responsibility for controlling men’s licentious behavior with women. Subsequently, victims of sexual assault are doubly disadvantaged in achieving justice – culturally and via judicial philosophy. Remedying this system requires understanding the need to retain our progressive judicial philosophy in all processes and procedures dealing with assault and harassment allegations while recognizing and addressing how cultural biases affect the efficacy of due process procedures in action. This begins early at the home and in primary and secondary schooling with an emphasis in teaching growing boys about sexual harassment and assault. The same energy spent drilling into young women the need to be sexually responsible and the perils of teenage pregnancy should also be drilled into men instead of wagging our fingers at young women and patting young boys on the back for engaging in similar youthful indiscretions. Protecting victims should not mean walking away from our judicial progressivism, nor should it equate with the use of such lofty philosophies to shield predatory men. We’ve already had lynching and black women have taken far too much for the team to salvage guilty black men. Due process, black women and women of all races deserve better. They all deserve true due process.

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Poems by Philip W. Lindsey

mother's day

The Gift of Grace How should we mourn our Mother?

Who gave us life and love and dreams.

How do we tell the world we love her?

Tears are not enough, it seems.

Should we sing a song of tribute?

Build a monument of stone?

Or find a quiet corner, and Meditate alone?

We still hear her words of comfort.

When we needed her the most.

We remember cheerful laughter, Should we then raise a toast?

To her life, her love, her memory!

For memories never die.

Remember, though, when we’re alone That it’s ok to cry.

Mom’s journey now has ended And we must stay and grieve.

Days and weeks pass slowly When our friends and family leave, The memories, often blurry, Run together like the weeks They cannot repel the sadness Or give us solace that we seek.

the gift of grace

But though we mourn her passing In unique and private ways We must remember what she taught us, And how she lived her days With humor, grace, and patience, With love for family, and friends.

We must pass it forward always Our gift to her, that never ends.

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Poems by Philip W. Lindsey

father's da

Grace from the Grave And what then for our Father?

For he suffers more than us.

He lost his lifelong partner, In whom he dared to trust That she would always be there Devoted by his side To share memories of their journey A long well traveled ride.

Now she is gone before him Not by her desire or choice.

In the jet trails and the flowers Listen closely, hear her voice, “Take care of your Father, It’s not easy. I should know.

But he loved me and he loves you too.

We were proud to watch you grow.”

“And now his family is all he has.

Along with memories fading fast.

He has but one more journey; Joining me will be his last.

Love him with patience … humor… grace Look through my eyes and try to see He always tried to do his best Love him as you love me.”

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Poems by Philip W. Lindsey

Reflection Dad looked up and stared at me; His blue eyes aging, but still clear.

“Reflection, Son. Reflection. It’s like I’m looking in a mirror.

When I look at you, I see myself, about twenty years ago.

I’m on the final laps of life, you have a few to go.

We don’t communicate so well; It’s hard to tell you how I feel, But now I’m feeling pretty scared, and I sure hope that Heaven’s real.

I made a list of things I learned; I hope you understand, Maybe you can learn from me; you’ll be a better man.”

“Go 60, don’t go 80. You’ll still get there way too soon.

Turn the TV off at night, watch the clouds drift past the moon.

Tell your wife and kids you love them; Use every chance to hug them tight.

And listen to the crickets and the tree frogs sing at night.

Life is like a movie; There’s a large supporting cast, Surround yourself with love and friendship, they’re the only things that last.

Don’t be too hard on others; And give yourself a break, Maybe, Son, it’s not too late to learn from my mistakes.”

“The doctor thinks the cancer’s back, and there’s nothing he can do.

I guess I understand it, after what I put my body through.

Your Mother and I discussed the end – one of us would be the first.

I can’t bear to talk about it, but watching her die was the worst.

She was a special woman; Now she’s waiting up above.

At least I hope that she is waiting, I was a little hard to love.

I’d much rather she was sitting here, my ashes blowing in the wind.

But if there’s a silver lining, it’s that I’ll be with her again.”

“You kids are what we’ve left this world. You are our legacy.

I hope you got the best of her, and not so much of me.

Look at me as if you see your own reflection in a mirror.

Heed the ever-present warning, ‘Things may be closer than they appear.’

I’m tired, and old. I’ve made mistakes, but I worked hard, and did my best.

When God gives me a final score, I hope the good outweighs the rest.

Reflection, Sons, and Daughter. Reflection is the key.

God give you strength and courage to change – based on what you see.”

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Peer-to-peer Support is What Will Pull You

Through Your Pain

by Dan Dean

My whole body had been tingling for about a month — recurrent symptoms from a bulged disc, I thought. Restless nights and uncomfortable sleep, along with turning into a chair contortionist, was becoming normal. Grudgingly, I met with my primary care doc who referred me to a neurologist.

The night before my neurology appointment, I met a friend for dinner. Unaware of my situation, he asked how I was doing. I told him about my looming appointment and concerns, preoccupied that something serious may be going on. “Ah, c’mon man, what are you kidding me? You’re fine.”

Moments later, he admitted to pulling a classic bro move — the suck it up and deal maneuver. Not wanting to dwell on the situation, I told him not to worry about it.

Inside, though, I felt foolish and ashamed for trusting him with personal information.

Chances are that this situation has probably happened to you, whether it was with a friend, your partner or someone at work. The topic could be health, a relationship or a job — it really doesn’t matter, the aftermath feels the same. If you’re anything like me in those situations, your upper lip gets stiffer and the walls around you get higher.

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It’s safer to keep up a strong defense because there’s no room for judgment from the outside —

no need to get burned in the way I did and no need for our insecurities to hang out like laundry flapping in the breeze. There’s some allure and practicality to that — to a point. Not everyone needs to know your business. Some folks simply don’t have the bandwidth to consume it anyway.

empathetic, supportive friends during my treatment and after, there were parts of the cancer experience to which they just couldn’t relate.

When I’m with my cancer tribe, there’s no need for the preamble of how I got cancer and what it was like.

Instead I can focus on its impact and importance to If you’re going through something or need to vent, me. When I meet another survivor for the first time, finding a confidante is essential. We’re not tight-lipped there is a built-in brother and sisterhood where you about everything, men, but we tend to get tripped up feel like you knew that person for much longer than on the emotional stuff or in situations that make us you actually do. The firemen, professional athletes and look weak. coaches, and military members I interviewed all have had similar experiences.

Over the last several months, I’ve connected with men of various walks of life, interviewing them about One huge challenge many of us face is if and how we the importance of peer-to-peer support for an online talk to our partner about what’s challenging for us. psychosocial educational curriculum for my non- In some cases, we don’t want to look weak in front of profit, M Powerment. It’s designed to help male cancer them or, even if we have the willingness to disclose, patients and survivors thrive after treatment. our partners are not prepared to see us off our white horse and out of our shining armor.

Whether it’s the toughest, bravest men in society — our military — or ones who achieve wealth or fame While it’s not meant to replace actual communication that most of us would dream about — athletes and with your partner, peer-to-peer support is a great coaches — their comments are all the same. Peer-to- resource to work through your challenge with someone peer support is essential for helping them cope with else who’s been in your shoes or can empathize with challenging circumstances and other day-to-day your situation. Share what’s on your mind with a stressors. As one of my friends in the Air Force told receptive audience to make sure you get it out, and me, “If we don’t get it out to someone, our problems then those potentially problematic communications at will consume us. After all, we’re human and have the home have a lot less teeth to them. same range of emotions as everyone else.”

In 2014, I was in a relationship with an unsupportive He suffered from severe depression after one par- girlfriend as my mom was passing away from cancer. ticularly grueling tour of duty in Baghdad. He confided I realized quickly I couldn’t turn to her for support to a couple of trusted friends in the service, along with through my mom’s decline and passing, and the stress his wife, about his challenges, and he successfully of that experience was overwhelming me. So I tapped worked his way out of that depression. Peer-to-peer into a couple of close friends who had lost parents at support isn’t a magic bullet, but the shared experience a similar age. Their experiences didn’t take away the removes isolation, normalizes challenges and provides pain of my mom’s death, but their words definitely possible pathways to making it through. helped to normalize what I was experiencing.

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My wife Tanya Hart and I attended the Black Panther

James Herman

Banning: First Black Pilot to Fly Across America in 1932

by Dr. Philip Hart

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world premiere at the Dolby Theatre in Hollywood the week the movie opened. Hollywood’s African-American A-list talent like Ava DuVernay, Reginald Hudlin, and Snoop Dogg, were there as well, cheering loudly throughout the movie along with 3,000 other Black Panther fans. The aviation scenes in the movie reminded Tanya and me about the movie we are developing that tells the story of my mother’s uncle James Herman Banning. Banning and his mechanic and co-pilot Thomas C. Allen were the first black pilots to fly across America in 1932. I first learned of Banning’s aviation exploits when I was growing up in Denver looking at photographs in family albums. I took this family story and helped create children’s books, a documentary film, museum exhibits, magazine articles, and now a motion picture based upon Banning and his aviation peers. My younger brother Chris was inspired to become a pilot and the first African American to be Chairman of the National Transportation Board (NTSB). My family has been involved with aviation for close to 100 years and our movie about Banning and Allen will place these reallife black hero’s compelling story firmly in the center of American popular culture a place Black Panther now occupies.

Marvel’s Black Panther has far exceeded box office expectations topping one billion dollars worldwide thus far and a sequel is already in the works. The motion picture paradigm in Hollywood has changed with Black Panther’s success as the movie clearly shows that Afrothemed films can sell tickets in foreign markets. The Hollywood gatekeepers have seen their assumptions challenged and it could make for a renaissance with movies featuring people of color both in front of the camera and behind the camera. Black Panther in its story-telling emphasizes Afro-futurism, technology, fierce women, and a Cain and Abel theme rooted in family conflict. The sovereign state of Wakanda presents an independent African nation that is technologically advanced.

A Black Panther movie franchise now seems likely within Disney’s Marvel Studios franchise system rooted in stories about super heroes. What about real-life heroes with Afro-centric themes and technological pursuits and movie making? One possibility in this regard is my mission of developing a movie franchise based upon the adventures of early African-American aviators. My 2013 Oxford University Press online photo essay “Early African American Aviators” features ten men and women pilots who are real-life heroes that led adventurous lives while pursuing the new technology of aviation soon after the Wright Brothers took the first manned flight in Kitty Hawk, North Carolina in December 1903.

These real-life heroes include Emory Malick who earned his pilot’s license in 1912; Eugene Bullard who flew for the French Air Force in World War I; Bessie Coleman who earned her pilot’s license in France in 1921; James Herman Banning who was the first black pilot to fly across America in 1932; William J. Powell who founded the Bessie Coleman Aero Club in Los Angeles in 1929; Hubert Fauntleroy Julian the Black Eagle of Harlem who

helped Emperor Haile Selassie establish the Ethiopian Air Force in the 1930s; and other adventurers.

The first movie in this franchise will be The Hallelujah Flight based upon Jack Lynn’s novel and my children’s book Flying Free: America’s First Black Aviators. This movie tells the story of the first black pilots to fly across America in 1932 – James Herman Banning and his mechanic Thomas C. Allen who called themselves “The Flying Hoboes.” This movie is based upon a screenplay developed with Walt Disney Pictures by Pulitzer Prize winning writer Charles Fuller (A Soldier’s Story).

The second movie in the franchise is Flying Free with Bessie Coleman based upon treatments my wife Tanya Hart and I developed when our production company was housed at Walt Disney Studios. One of our producing partners on these films is our daughter Ayanna Hart who is COO and Senior Producer at Fancy Film/Silver Lake in Los Angeles. Among her movie credits is finishing producer for Beatriz at Dinner, a 2017 film starring Salma Hayak and John Lithgow. continued on page 44

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If the first two films in this real-life heroes’ franchise achieve both critical and commercial success, then we will proceed with development of a third movie about the flamboyant aviator Hubert Fauntleroy Julian who later in his adventurous life was an international arms dealer. The stories of all these black pilots are well known in Europe thus ensuring that they will sell tickets in European movie theaters. This market reality was reinforced when we were doing archival research for our 1987 PBS documentary film Flyers in Search of a Dream about early black pilots. This film used clips from other period films I located like Unemployment, the Negro and Aviation (1935) and the melodrama The Flying Ace (1926). But the bulk of the film archival footage we located was is the Pathe film archives in Paris, France and in the film archives at Rank Film Studios outside London, England.

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My PBS film has been a top seller in the PBS Video catalogue (www. shopPBS.org) since 1988 giving me confidence that there is a solid market for movies about America’s early African-American aviators. These reallife heroes can be just as compelling as super heroes – from Black Panther to The Hallelujah Flight – Afro-centric themes, technology, brave black men and women can be compelling both in real life and on the big screen.

My children’s book Flying Free: America’s First Black Aviators was named A 1992 Notable Children’s Trade Book in Social Studies by The Bulletin of the Center for Children’s Books. In its award presentation, my book was described as having “Courage, glamour, danger, early death – this book has it all, with simplicity and dignity besides.” In a similar vein, Black Panther has courage, glamour, danger, and early death. Both Black Panther and The Hallelujah Flight can establish a new paradigm for Hollywood moviemaking – black characters as heroes. From The Flying Hoboes to Black Panther – from real-life black heroes to black superheroes. Our time is now!

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10 Questions Every Man is Afraid to Ask His Doctor Find out what you need to know from an expert As a urologist, Ryan Berglund, MD, regularly fields difficult — and often embarrassing — questions from his patients and from callers on a local radio show on Friday evenings.

Here are the 10 most common urology-related questions he gets and his answers to each.

Dr. Ryan Berglund Cleveland Clinic

1. Is it normal to feel something in my testicles or scrotum? There are a lot of normal structures outside the testicle in the scrotum.

Some abnormal things: • Something that feels like a bag of worms in your scrotum, particularly on the left side, is a collection of abnormally large blood vessels called varicocele. This can lead to infertility and decreased testicle size.

• Hydrocele is fluid collected around the testicle.

• Spermatocele is excess fluid or a cyst in the epididymis.

• The varicocele, spermatocele and hydrocele are abnormal, but most people don’t do

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anything about them. If you feel an actual lump inside the testicle, there is a concern of testicular cancer. A man should examine his testicles once a month in the shower, supporting the testicle with one hand and feeling with the other hand. If you feel a hardness or irregularity inside the testicle, it’s important to contact your doctor.

2. Can a man break his penis?

Yes. There is no bone in the penis, but it has a very strong layer around it called the tunica albuginea that allows for rigidity during an erection. A penile fracture occurs when that fibrous connective tissue “breaks” during intercourse. When the erectile bodies fill with blood at high pressure, this strong layer keeps the blood inside and allows for an erection.

When it breaks, that layer tears and you bleed through it. There’s usually a very loud, painful snap followed by detumescence (the erection subsides). The result is bruising and swelling, and it is a surgical emergency.

3. What does normal semen look like? When should I worry? Normal semen is thick and white, but it can have different consistencies.

• Blood in the semen, if it’s persistent, is a condition called hematospermia, and may relate to a prostate problem.

• If you have a foul-smelling ejaculate with pain, have your doctor check for infection.

4. I am a young man and cannot get an erection. Is that normal? The risk of having severe erectile dysfunction under the age of 50 is less than 5 percent, so it’s worthwhile to chat with your primary physician if you encounter that problem. Erectile dysfunction at a young age may relate to: • A past trauma • A vascular problem • A disease that affects the nerves or blood vessels, such as diabetes or hypertension. Some prescription drugs, illegal drugs, and smoking can also cause erectile dysfunction.

that can cause symptoms similar to a UTI. A standard e coli UTI — the most common type — is not sexually transmitted, as e coli is a ubiquitous bacteria in that area. Women who are prone to UTIs may get one after intercourse, but it doesn’t mean that her partner is carrying an STD. No, the woman cannot transmit a UTI to you. While it is feasible to contract an infection from an unclean toilet seat, this would be an unusual mode of transmission.

8. Should I or shouldn’t I be circumcised?

The use of circumcision for medical or health reasons continues to be debated. This is a very personal decision that no doctor can make on behalf of his patient.

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), the overall health benefits outweigh the risks. However, AAP does not recommend routine circumcision for newborn males. The procedure might be recommended in older boys and men to treat phimosis (the inability to retract the foreskin) or to treat an infection of the penis.

9. My penis curves. Should I or can I fix it?

That’s Peyronie’s disease, and curvatures up to about 30 degrees don’t cause any functional problems. Curvatures greater than 30 degrees may affect intercourse.

To fix this problem: • A doctor can inject a collagenase drug into the scar 6. My penis has acne. Is that a concern? What spots on tissue that causes the curvature.

• A doctor can do a surgical excision of the scar tissue my penis or scrotum are abnormal?

People can get infections or irritation of the hair follicles with a graft or a penile prosthesis. on the penis, and that is not unusual. But if you notice • A doctor can perform a plication, or surgical unbending of the penis. the following, see your doctor: • Something that looks like an ulcer or a breakdown of 10. It takes me a long time to pee and takes a while the skin with a weeping wound • Something that looks like a head of cauliflower — to start. Should I be worried? Most urinary problems from the prostate are benign prostatic hyperplasia probably a wart • Something that starts out as a red area but expands (BPH). Medications can help in some cases, but if problems are so severe that the patient is unable to empty his and drains pus — can signal a more serious infection bladder, there are surgical interventions. Some people 7. Can I give my wife a urinary tract infection or can worry that this symptom could signal prostate cancer, she transmit one to me? Can I get a sexually transmit- but most urinary problems are not related. Those probted disease from a toilet seat? In general, we don’t con- lems that are, show up at a very late phase of advanced sider urinary tract infections (UTIs) as sexually trans- disease. mitted diseases (STDs). There are some STDs, though, 5. What is the normal range of penis size? Can you make it larger? The normal range is about 3.5 to 7.5 inches, with the average about 5.5 inches. For a normal-sized penis, there’s no safe way to make it larger.

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The Importance of Historically Black Colleges (HBCUs)

by Eric Guthrie, Esq.

Recently, the Blacks in Government Carl T. Rowan Chapter, the Thursday

Luncheon Group (TLG), and the Office of Civil Rights hosted Congressman Sanford Bishop at the Department of State. Three of the five speakers on the program were Morehouse College Alumni: Gregory Smith, Esq., Eric Guthrie Esq., and Congressman Sanford Bishop. The other two speakers, Stacy D. Williams, TLG President, is a Southern University Alumni and Gregory Smith is a Southern University Law School Alumni.

Gregory Smith opened the program with very poignant words on black history, and how achievements of blacks in America, and in other countries, transcend in the fields of science, medicine, sports, arts, education and law. Next, Eric Guthrie commented on the importance of HBCUs in the mission of the Department of State, especially in leadership positions.

He called for all HBCU alumni to stand and be recognized. The presence of HBCU alumni in the auditorium truly reinforced his opening statement!

Mr. Guthrie then introduced Congressman Bishop and shared the story of their meeting through Morehouse Alumni business, and their dinner at the National Democratic Club. Eric’s comments centered around Congressman Bishop’s leadership and selfless service to the community that has enabled him to serve 12 terms in the U. S. House of Representatives.

The Shortest Poem: “I, why?”

From left: Gregory Smith, Esq., Congressman Sanford Bishop, and Eric Guthrie, Esq.

Congressman Bishop’s life is truly historical. Ranging from living through desegregation in southern Alabama, to meeting Dr. Benjamin Elijah Mays (then President of Morehouse College) as a young boy, to attending Morehouse College, to singing with the Morehouse Glee Club at the funeral of the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., to starting his legal career with the support of the NAACP Legal Defense Fund, Congressman Bishop has not only seen history, he has been part of history!

The constant theme of his words of wisdom were based on the shortest poem, “I, why?” What are we supposed to do? What is our purpose? What is our role in bringing about change? These two small words are a powerful question we can always ask ourselves. This question is never fully answered as there is always work to do. And, as the challenges of the world change, we should keep asking “I, why?” to make sure we are centered and focused on our role in change.

Indeed, Congressman Bishop is a living example of “I, why?” After winning a class action lawsuit, where he represented prison inmates that were constantly exposed to deplorable conditions, he had to confront the reality that the State Legislature did not want to spend the court ordered ten million dollars to address the conditions in prison. As a result, he successfully ran for the Georgia House of Representatives and later, the Georgia Senate.

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ing necessary for resolving the inmate issue. In Con- Closing Diplomatic Overtures gressman Bishop’s words, “win a case, help a client; pass a law, help the entire state.” Thus started his legendary Stacy D. Williams, President (TLG), presented path to 12 terms in the U.S. House of Representatives.

Congressman Bishop with the TLG medallion for his participation in the event. Finally, Steve Goldstein, In his final words, Congressman Bishop commented Undersecretary of State for Public Diplomacy and on how the “pendulum” is swinging the other way. As I Public Affairs, offered closing remarks highlighting the contemplated on that comment, two thoughts came to first African-American Diplomat, Ebenezer Don Carlos mind: 1. As there are forces that are constantly attempt- Basset who served in Haiti from 1869 to 1877, former ing to fight the progress that has been made in the last Secretaries of State Colin Powell and Condoleezza Rice, 50 years, I am glad Members of Congress like Sanford and the recent success of Derek Hogan, one of the Bishop are in positions to fight for the community. 2. Department’s Deputy Executive Secretaries.

Would the attendees use the words of the Congressman to ask “I, why?” and become agents of change? As the In closing, “thank you Representative Bishop.” We appendulum is swinging the other way, agents of change preciate your service and your historical, influential that take positive action can become the force that re- and important Black History Month message to the Deverses the movement of the pendulum in the right di- partment of State. You make all Morehouse and HBCU rection. The audience expressed their sincere apprecia- Alumni proud to be in the same struggle for excellence tion by giving Congressman Bishop a standing ovation. as we now ask ourselves, “I, why?”

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The Role of the Church in the New

by Rev. Dr. Derrick Harkins

Social Justice Movements

In the fifty years following the assassination of

NAACP and originator of the Moral Monday move-

ment. In 2014, he founded Repairers of the Breach, an organization formed to educate and train religious and other leaders of faith to pursue policies and organizational strategies for the good of the whole and to educate the public about connections between shared King’s words from his sermon collection Strength to religious faith. Recently he has been part of the revival Love, stand as a direct response to the current leaders of the Poor People’s Campaign, originally instituted by of the religious right (religious right are those individ- Martin Luther King, Jr., and based on religious and conuals that seek to speak for the majority voice) who have stitutional values that demand justice for all – coupled become comfortable as the apologists for an adminis- with the belief that moral revival is necessary to save the tration whose priorities and leadership don’t embody heart and soul of our democracy. the faith ideals they supposedly claim. He states: The movement is committed to lifting up and “The church must be reminded that it is not the master deepening the leadership of those most affected by or the servant of the state, but rather the conscience of systemic racism, poverty, the economic war, and the state. It must be the guide and the critic of the state, ecological devastation and to building unity across lines and never its tool. If the church does not recapture its of division. Perhaps most notably, Dr. Barber gave an prophetic zeal, it will become an irrelevant social club electrifying speech at the 2016 Democratic National without moral or spiritual authority.”

Convention in Philadelphia that vividly made the The prophetic zeal King speaks of has been the fabric connection of faith with social action: Martin Luther King, Jr., racial, social, and economic divisions continue to grip the nation in ways that would ring familiar to King and others of his day. Not surprisingly, post-racial America has yet to materialize.

of the church for generations. The church, and faith communities in general, have long been the seedbed for efforts and movements that have changed society for the better. The Abolition movement was grounded in churches throughout the North. Quakers and persons of other Christian denominations, both black and white, played a valuable role in leading slaves to freedom through the Underground Railroad.

The Black Social Gospel movement of the early 20th century shaped and led by figures including W.E.B. Du Bois, AME Zion bishop Alexander Walters, Howard University dean Kelly Miller, and Baptist minister Adam Clayton Powell Sr. was the point of origin for many efforts, including the Niagara Movement, which ultimately gave birth to the NAACP. Fortunately, the work continues in the efforts of many who are at the center of present social justice movements.

In sharp contrast to the messages coming from some on the religious right are leaders like the Rev. Dr. William Barber, formerly the president of the North Carolina

“I am worried by the way that faith is cynically used by some to serve hate, fear, racism and greed.

Listen to the ancient chorus in which deep calls unto deep.

Pay people what they deserve, share your food with the hungry. Do this and then your nation shall be called a repairer of the breach.

Jesus, a brown-skin Palestinian Jew, called us to preach good news to the poor, the broken and the bruised and all those who are made to feel unaccepted.

Some issues are not left or right or liberal versus conservative. They are right versus wrong.

We need to embrace our deepest moral values...for revival at the heart of our democracy...When we love the Jewish child and the Palestinian child, the Muslim and the Christian and the Hindu and the Buddhist and those who have no faith, but they love this nation, continued on page 52 | SPRING 2018 | 51

are reviving the heart of our democracy.”

Another voice of change is that of the Rev. Starsky Wilson, equally at home navigating the halls of power and standing arm-in-arm with protesters, making him an influential voice for justice in St. Louis. Wilson serves as head of the Deaconess Foundation, a Christian fund that focuses on aiding children and strengthening local nonprofits. His work for the group draws on years of experience at the United Way and the Urban League, as well as in his ministry at St. John’s United Church of Christ in St. Louis.

After the August 2014 killing of Michael Brown by a white police officer in Ferguson, Missouri, Reverend Wilson joined in protests and has served as co-chair of the Ferguson Commission, created by Missouri’s governor to assess racial inequity in the St. Louis area. The Deaconess Foundation gave $100,000 to support community organizing by local nonprofits responding to the crisis.

would be doing the church wrong if they remained silent. “It’s not the message that we’re used to hearing from our pulpits. But maybe now is the time to start having those messages,” Lee said in an NPR interview.

What is clear from these examples of leadership that are grounded in the church are the elements of making real change possible. The need to educate, organize, and ultimately mobilize have been, and remain at the center of any successful movement. In these days of unimaginable division and strife, remembering this longstanding strategy is an important tactic to prevent being consumed by the all too understandable frustration and anger that the current climate brings with it.

Educate: Institutions can make certain that people are armed with the critical information surrounding critical issues. From voter suppression, to criminal justice reform, to gun violence and beyond, being equipped with the facts as to how these issues affect our communities can motivate more individuals to be committed to making the necessary changes. Also educating commuReverend Wilson is encouraged by the trust building nities that are struggling for social change that they are that’s taken place since the unrest in Ferguson, but says not alone, and that others have gone before is a barrier there hasn’t been enough change: “Not enough deliver- to burnout. ables for people who are in distress. Not enough shift in legislation and regulation.”

Organize: Helping communities to realize their collective strength is paramount. We see that voices effecAnother voice, while somewhat surprising, has proven tively gathered around critical issues can make change just as compelling. The Rev. Rob Lee, a United Church take shape. Every movement has found success when Of Christ minister has recently become widely known the talents, skills, and passions of each member is put to because of his lineage along with his stand on racism. meaningful use.

Lee’s speech at the VMAs on Aug. 27 introduced Susan Bro, the mother of Heather Heyer who was killed 15 Mobilize: With each recent election, the Alabama Sendays before, after being mowed down by a car as she ate race, the Virginia Delegate races, or the Pennsylprotested white supremacy in Charlottesville. vania Congressional race, we see that every vote does indeed count. Every high school student, from Florida “My name is Robert Lee IV, I’m a descendant of Robert to Chicago helps to press the case for gun legislation.

E. Lee, the Civil War general whose statue was at the The emails, phone calls, and knocks on doors are the center of violence in Charlottesville,” he said. “We have life blood of making certain that people know that they made my ancestor an idol of white supremacy, racism, can make much needed change come about. Even in the and hate. As a pastor, it is my moral duty to speak out face of harsh opposition and negativity we must not foragainst racism, America’s original sin. get that for generations others have done the work to make the change. When faith becomes action, faith is From his pulpit, Lee implored his parishioners to conalive! demn the racism swirling around them, insisting they Rev. Dr. Derrick Harkins serves as Senior Vice President for Innovation in Public Programs at Union Theological Seminary, where he develops programming aimed primarily at those not enrolled in Union’s degree programs.

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Spiritual Health Check-Up

by Rose Hosler

When we think of health and wellbeing, the focus usually is on physical and emotional health. It isn’t until we

are in a difficult life situation or health crisis that our spirituality or lack of, comes into our awareness. We often speak of the mind/body/spirit connection but how many of us really take it in?? The mind, body, and spirit are interconnected and when these are in balance then we are healthy. Have you had a spiritual health checkup lately?

To check in with spirituality and spiritual health I asked questions to my friends and colleagues in this profession: Rabbi Alan Lettofsky; Rev. Brent Raitz, M.Div, BCC (Association of Professional Chaplains); and Rev. Ikwo Umosen, D.Min, BCC (Association of Professional Chaplains), hospital chaplain (endorsed hospital chaplaincy)

How do you define spirituality?

Rabbi Lettofsky: “All human beings experience the world in such a way of our five senses. Spirituality is going beyond those five senses, there is more going on than we can sense. This may be expressed in many ways, through religion, various practices, or meditation. When we look at science, especially medical science spirituality is not measured, not concrete. We have to go back to our own spirituality to make sense of our lives and the universe.”

Rev. Raitz: “For me it is my connection with God. Spirituality is a defining piece that orchestrates all the rest, the physical and emotional. Not only my connection with God, also how I love my wife, children, and the relationships I have with others.”

Rev. Umosen: “To me it is looking inward to use the resources we have from within that empower us to maximize our fullest potential. Many times we function in two realms; the mind and body, we forget the spiritual realm.

Religion is outward based in ritual, tradition, and rules. Spirituality is informal, flexible and internal. What one is comfortable in believing that supports you.”

We understand and see physical, mental/emotional health, what about our spiritual health?

Rabbi Lettofsky: “Sometimes we cannot cure disease, but we pray for healing. It involves connection with self, others, and community. One feels at peace, that things are ok. We tend to focus on our spirituality when faced with illness and death. Having spiritual health is knowing there more to life than just our body. Love, beauty, our relationships, that is what counts and lasts. Realizing there’s more, we do not live forever, and we are not perfect.

My spiritual health comes through my relationships especially with my grandchildren, they will remember me after I have died. My reward is in the next world.”

Rev. Raitz: “Spiritual health is about balance. What speaks to a person maybe through journaling, prayer, connecting with nature, the people around you. Spiritual health can guide how you take care of the physical and emotional body. Also, for me how I love people as God loves people.”

Rev. Umosen: “Creating an environment of spirituality, part of being. What activates the spirit, the goodness, kindness within us? Building relationships, talking about life, even nature, empathy, and compassion creates spiritual health.”

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For those who are struggling with spirituality or feel it is missing, where can they begin?

Rabbi Lettofsky: “Asking a person what is important in his life. What is of value to you? Not material. I would help them find meaning in his life. As we can take things for granted, especially in times of health. When illness fall upon us I feel it is my role to support a person when they need to focus on their spirituality.”

Rev. Raitz: “For me it would be talking with the person, checking to see if they are connected. Either through a church, group of friends, a spiritual advisor, or what speaks to them. Getting in touch with the spiritual side in day to day life. When people are ill or have lost a job, relationship, they may feel abandonment, anger, disappointment with God. People have different ways of connecting and it is helpful to explore that. Focusing on what their spirituality has looked like when they have felt good. Helping them to reignite that feeling of connectedness.”

Rev. Umosen: “I would ask what is your meaning or purpose in what you are doing right now. Asking a person what they feel is missing in their life. It can be easy to bridge the gap – we have to be conscious of the mind/body/ spirit. It is three dimensional, cannot function independently. Helping someone find what makes them whole, purposeful. As men age tend to be more retrospective as they think about their life and how spirituality comes in.

The mind/body/spirit are intricately connected. Take time to assess and check-in with your spiritual self. What speaks to you spiritually? How do you feel connected?

Thanks to Rev. Raitz, Rev. Umosen, and Rabbi Lettofsky for their wisdom and love. Peace and Blessings for your Spiritual Health!!

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