Area Woman Magazine Dec'22/Jan'23

24 Meet the Maker: Megan Lewis of Milk Made Catering by Alicia Underlee Nelson

54 Living Out Loud Amanda Lea by Alicia Underlee Nelson

80 On the Rise: Silesia Cabak and Colleen Tuhy by Sam Archer

18 Hot Hair & Fashion for the Holidays and 2023 by Jill Krahn & Olivia Burke 50 Area Style - Holiday Gift Guide

28 Holiday Date Night by Alicia Underlee Nelson 62 Legal Advice About Money by Ana A. Neir, Serkland Law Firm 72 Calendar of Events

74 Three Women Team Up to Transform MSUM's Athletic Training Program by Kelsey Roseth, MSUM

76 Books She Loves by Megan Elgin

OUR WRITERS

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com.

JESSICA hoeper

Jessica is a mother of five kids and resides with her family on her husband's family farm in central Minnesota. Jessica grew up in the Fargo area before relocating to Minnesota. She is a licensed independent social worker with 15 years of human service experience, specializing in child welfare. Jessica runs her own human service consulting and training company. Most recently Jessica added author to her tagline. She co-authored a book that became an international best seller on release date, " Success Codes: Secrets to Success You Weren't Taught in School."

ALICIAunderlee nelson

ASHLEY sornsin

Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook and Instagram. To work with Ashley for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her online at eatlivebebuff.com.

JANELL meier

Janell Meier is a determined wife, mother, corporate employee and Certified Oola Life Coach. Diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 27, Janell learned quickly that life doesn’t always happen how we want. Years later she made her dreams come true by earning the title of mommy through the help of an amazing gestational carrier. Her passion and purpose in life is to help others to find the balance and love for life that she always thought was unattainable. You can learn more about Janell at: janellmeier.com

Alicia Underlee Nelson's stories and photos have been featured in numerous publications, including Thomson Reuters, USA Today, Food Network, Delta Sky Magazine, AAA Living, Midwest Living, Rent.com, Apartment Guide, trivago Magazine, Matador Network, North Dakota Outdoors and craftbeer.com. She is the author of North Dakota Beer: A Heady History and a co-author of Midwest Road Trip Adventures.

MEGAN elgin

Megan grew up on the family farm in small town North Dakota and graduated from MSUM. She is an artist and graphic designer who loves all things creative. She is passionate about reading as many books as possible and loves discussing them with others. Megan lives in Horace with her husband and teenage son.

SAM archer

Samantha is the co-owner and lead photographer at Images by Archer. Working alongside her videographer husband Ryan, they specialize in documenting couples, engagements, and weddings. Along with this, Samantha is currently a Ph.D. Candidate in Communication at North Dakota State University and an adjunct lecturer at Concordia College. Her doctoral work looks at the intersection of mass and interpersonal communication with specific focus on how relationships are built and maintained over technology. Find more of her work at @thearchers.studio or imagesbyarcher.com.

DAWN duncan

Dawn is driven by creativity and sharing her passion for writing, art, and healthy living with the masses. She is from Fertile, MN and now calls Detroit Lakes her home, after living in Colorado several years. She's a UND graduate and lifelong entrepreneur who is also a published children's book author. You'll usually find her hiking in the woods, kayaking, sweating in the yoga studio, or spending time with her husband, Michael, and their German Shepherd, Reva. Dawn is the founder of Yellowbright, a writing and editing agency, an avid community volunteer, and modern day Renaissance woman. Follow her @yellowbrightinc.com

BETH pridday

Beth Pridday has been an entrepreneur and educator her whole life. Her teaching career has included stints at University of South Dakota, Minot State University, and MState. She lives with her husband and two dogs in Detroit Lakes, where she is a full-time volunteer, sometimes retired, a parttime consultant, and business owner. She is passionate about giving-back, animal rescue, cooking, and travel.

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SAVE THE DATE

2023

is the 16th year of Giving Hearts Day, one of the nation’s longest-running 24-hour giving events. Dakota Medical Foundation, along with Impact Foundation and the Alex Stern Family Foundation, are honored to host this joyful celebration of the community’s Giving Hearts.

On February 9, 2023, businesses, schools, and churches across the state will take part in this event, with the goal being to inspire at least 75,000 people in the region to support 590 non-profits.

With more than 1,000 different volunteer opportunities posted on GivingHeartsDay.org, there are many ways an individual can dedicate time, talent, and/or treasure to supporting the

organizations around them that make a difference. Through giving, volunteering, and donating goods, $26.6M was raised on GHD in 2022 through 41,117 donors. The largest amount, $1.3M, was raised by the Fargo Park District Foundation. 630 businesses participated and last year’s event brought the total raised in 15 years to $138M.

Since its inception in 2008, Giving Hearts Day has successfully engaged people throughout North Dakota and northwest Minnesota by encouraging giving and

FEB. 9 is Giving Hearts Day. We are thrilled to have you and your loved ones join us in the region’s largest day of giving. We hope it is a fulfilling, joyful tradition you can share for generations to come.

GIVING ACTIVITY IDEAS!

WEEK OF GRATITUDE

In the days leading up to Giving Hearts Day, have each member of your family write something they’re grateful for. Then, on the day itself (Feb 9), give to charities that are working to provide those same things for others.

SPEND, SAVE, GIVE JARS

This one is for the kids. Have your little ones set aside some money each day/week/month in their piggy bank — some to spend, some to save, and some to give. Then, have them use the “give” funds to donate to their favorite charity on Giving Hearts Day.

SNOWBANK SIGNS

Pick up some Giving Hearts Day snowbank signs at Dakota Medical Foundation (or any Gate City Bank location) and “turn up the red” for Giving Hearts Day.

BINGO

Download our free Giving Hearts Day bingo card at givingheartsday.org, and host a fun family game night.

GIVING GATHERING

Host a “giving gathering” and have friends and family share about their favorite charities or causes that are important to them.

Head to GivingHeartsDay.org/Family to download these fun family resources!

GRATITUDE & GIVING WORKSHEET

Kids can write or draw their answers to the following prompts to help decide what type of charity to help.

• Something I love

• Something I’m thankful for

• A place I like to go

• A time when someone helped me

GIVING HEARTS DAY KIDS QUIZ!

Take a fun quiz to help you find out what charities might speak to your heart.

WHAT IS GIVING HEARTS DAY?

Giving Hearts Day is a 24-hour giving event for nearly 550 charities across North Dakota and northwest Minnesota.

showcasing that communities are strengthened through the support of agencies dedicated to the greater good. Beyond just a one-day event, however, the Dakota Medical Foundation and Fargo-based Impact Learning Co., fuel a year-round effort by teaching charities to thrive. Charities build a fundraising system using skills learned through Impact Learning Co. and they put these to use on Giving Hearts Day, the “Super Bowl” of giving in the Upper Midwest. It is now the region’s day to feed the hungry, nurture the elderly, and educate tomorrow’s leaders.

Any non-profit in North Dakota and northwest Minnesota that is a registered 501(c)(3) organization is eligible to apply for Giving Hearts Day participation. All applications are reviewed to ensure each organization is a valid nonprofit and is adequately prepared to run a successful GHD campaign. Applications are no longer open for 2023. However, for future consideration, organizations are encouraged to read the 2023 Criteria and GHD Policies at GivingHeartsDay.org to gain better understanding of the process and event as preparation for future participation.

To fairly represent all sizes of charities participating in Giving Hearts Day, awards are presented to the top five fundraisers in three annual operating budget categories: $250,000 and below, $250,001$999,999, and $1M and above.

The magic of Giving Hearts Day is that $10 donations can become $10,000! Each gift of $10 or more on Giving Hearts Day makes the charity eligible to win between $1,000 and $10,000 from Dakota Medical Foundation and other generous community partners.

Giving Hearts Day makes it fun and easy for donors to give. It serves as a gateway for donors to connect to charities doing important work improving health and quality of life in our region.

Knowing our region’s tremendous capacity to demonstrate kindness and generosity, we are confident that everyone can find a cause they are passionate about. With this gateway to connect with charities through time, talent, and treasure,

there is no better time than Giving Hearts Day to start the cycle of giving. We are boldly charging into new charitable frontiers with the simple, yet powerful mission to help someone. We are grateful for every Giving Heart that brings us closer to being the most generous region on the planet. [ aw ]

"GIVING HEARTS DAY MAKES IT FUN AND EASY FOR DONORS TO GIVE AND IS A GATEWAY FOR DONORS TO CONNECT TO CHARITIES DOING IMPORTANT WORK IMPROVING HEALTH AND QUALITY OF LIFE IN OUR REGION."

QUICK FACTS! ABOUT THE IMPACT OF GIVING

• Purpose-driven workplaces are 30% more productive, have 30% less turnover, have 62% fewer safety issues, and have 37% less absenteeism.

• Purpose-driven employees are 6X • more satisfied with their job and 4X more likely to be engaged.

• Individuals living without purpose are 2.4 times more likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease.

• Donors give to an average of 2.2 charities on Giving Hearts Day.

• People involved in the community generally experience much greater meaning and purpose in their lives.

• Purpose-driven companies grew their businesses 1,685% between 1998 and 2013 as compared with the S&P 500, which averaged 118% growth during that same period.

INDIVIDUALS WITH PURPOSE ENJOY THESE HEALTH BENEFITS:

• Heart attack risk reduced by 27%

• Stroke risk reduced by 22%

• Much greater success with drug/alcohol rehabilitation, 50% less likely to relapse

• Living longer

• Better sleep

• Less likely to experience depression

• Controlled diabetes

Partner with us as we reach out to women and girls in our area who are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and offer them hope. Your support allows us to provide non-judgmental, decision-making mentoring, that includes adoption education, and other life-affirming supports.

CHARITY SPOTLIGHT

LEND A HAND UP

Lend A Hand Up is a charity affiliated with Dakota Medical Foundation (DMF) that raises help and hope for families in crisis. Operational expenses are covered by DMF so 100% of gifts help families. Lend A Hand Up provides a free crowdfunding and online auction platform, gift cards and boost grants of up to $5,000 per family fundraiser to increase the impact of people's generosity. Since 2008, Lend A Hand Up has partnered with volunteers to raise $20M for more than 600 families! Gifts made to the program on Giving Hearts Day may not be directed to benefit a specific individual/family fund. To learn more and/or direct your gift to an individual/family fundraiser, please visit Give.LendAHandUp.org to review and select the fundraiser you wish to support.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/170

CHRISTIAN ADOPTION SERVICES

Founded in 1985, Christian Adoption Services (CAS) is a non-profit child-placing agency licensed in the states of North Dakota and Minnesota. Formerly known as Christian Family Life Services, we have a strong history of serving clients across the two-state region. Their mission is to display God's love to children, birth parents and families by providing Christ-centered adoption services that have an eternal impact by growing forever families.

CAS believes that every life is precious and unrepeatable. When birth parents choose to place their child for adoption, their loving sacrifice can be an answer to prayer for a couple wanting to build their family through adoption. CAS is committed to providing quality services both for families considering adopting and expectant parents exploring their options, seeking non-judgmental education and support.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/7

HERO:HEALTHCARE EQUIPMENT RECYCLING ORGANIZATION

HERO collects and distributes donated healthcare supplies to those in need locally and globally at low or no cost. Our approach to making resources available through recycling is changing lives by helping customers remain safe and independent in their homes during medical recovery and natural aging periods. HERO provides access to affordable medical equipment and supplies for all.

Since 1996, HERO has saved 2 million pounds of waste from local landfills, served over 50,000 individuals, waived $850,885 in fees and served 755 global missions.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/29

OAK GROVE LUTHERAN SCHOOL

Oak Grove is a mission-focused, values-driven school inspiring students to impact God's world through Academics, Faith and Service. Our deep sense of community and broad range of opportunities sets us apart. The Oak Grove vision guides a powerful and unique experience that instills in each of our students the belief that they can be a force of positive change. This experience brings students together to learn, solve problems and share ideas and new adventures, all the while respecting each other's God-given gifts and abilities. Their formula is this - a strong academic foundation + a journey of faith + a spirit of service - this is Oak Grove nurturing students to impact God's World.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/64

CCRI

CCRI has been enhancing and enriching the lives of people with disabilities, ensuring our community’s most vulnerable have the support they need, since 1977. Across their six programs, our 550 team members support more than 450 people of all ages and their families in Clay and Wilkin Counties. Their focus on being person-centered truly differentiates them. They are not simply a service provider- every support plan is crafted with care and is as unique as each person they serve.

Your support on Giving Hearts Day allows CCRI to ensure the people they support are able to live their lives as safely and independently as possible.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/195

THEATRE B

“It’s magical!” said Nora, about playing Alice. Her mother agreed, amazed, “Nora overcame her anxiety. She wants to do more.” (Alice in Wonderland, in partnership with HOPE, Inc.)

You can help someone who may not have a chance to play with a gift to Theatre B.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/291

HOMEWARD ANIMAL SHELTER

Homeward Animal Shelter is a local and community-funded, non-profit animal shelter. Their mission is: “Rescue. Shelter. Protect. Rehome.” They provide a second chance at happiness to lost, abandoned and owner-surrendered cats and dogs. They will bring you and your new best friend together.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/277

YWCA

Change lives with your gift to YWCA this Giving Hearts Day. Afraid and alone, women and children arrive every night at YWCA Emergency Shelter. With your help, they provide safety and services to recover physically, emotionally and financially. Your gift of $66 provides the first night of safety and hope.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/85

These are just a few of the local charities you can help on Giving Hearts Day, and all year long!

ST. JOHN PAUL II CATHOLIC SCHOOLS

Their schools combine academic excellence with faith and enrichment to shape the lives of its students. The faculty continually seeks innovative, proven techniques and tools to improve student learning. Students engage in learning challenges that incorporate real life applications. They don't turn families who seek a Catholic education away because of inability to pay, so it's more important than ever to be able to do what they can to make that education possible. They inspire exceptional student achievement by developing students who:

• Demonstrate academic excellence

• Participate in co-curricular activities

• Integrate knowledge of the Catholic Faith

• Engage in service-learning

• Identify and develop their gifts, talents and abilities

• Are life-long learners who seek truth, wisdom, and knowledge

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/278

RAPE & ABUSE CRISIS CENTER

Rape and Abuse Crisis Center of Fargo-Moorhead (RACC) is committed to providing comprehensive services to victims of domestic/dating violence, sexual assault, elder abuse, trafficking/sexual exploitation and child sexual abuse and to transforming our community's response violence and abuse to ensure healing for those who have been victimized and personal safety for all. All services are free, confidential and available to all child, adolescent, adult and elder victims and their families. On average, RACC serves 2,500 individuals, including 500 children, and give over 1,000 prevention and education presentations in the community reaching over 15,000 people.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/298

VALLEY CHRISTIAN COUNSELING

We help people navigate the journey to healing and wholeness through professional, Christ-centered services, helping them become more fully alive. app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/203

photography by Justin Eiler

words by Olivia Burke & Jill Krahn, Hair Success

Food by Martini Blu at the Grotto

In the past few years, we have been focused on embracing natural texture and no-fuss hairstyles, but 2023 is gearing up to be all that and a little something extra. Ringing in the New Year calls for fresh starts of all kinds, making it the perfect time for new trends.

Stylist Mia Nickles

Makeup Jenae Swenson

Fashion Leela & Lavender

Stylist Jacob Pruneda

Fashion Halberstadt's on Broadway

We're taking low-maintenance styling up a notch with statement-making cuts that do all the work and harken to decades past. If you've been wanting to make a chop, there are shags with blunt fringe, and retro styles just waiting to be worn; we're talking modern updates on vintage bobs, bangs, and long cuts, too. Here are some trendy looks you'll be seeing everywhere this year:

• Headbands are so easy, but they make a stylish impact!

• Wavy statement waves for the holidays and the New Year are a must.

• Icy blondes with some undertones are a hit for the winter months.

Stylist Laura Bright

Makeup Jenae Swenson

Fashion Leela & Lavender

Stylist Aurora Chappell

Fashion Halberstadt's on Broadway

Hair & Makeup Provided by Hair Success Salon and Spa

Stylist Laura Bright

Makeup Jenae Swenson

Fashion Leela & Lavender

Stylist Karsyn Skager

Fashion Halberstadt's on Broadway

Hair & Makeup Provided by Hair Success Salon and Spa

Fashion Trends for 2023

Baggy clothes and bright colors are strong for the season. Bucket hats will stay strong along with platform shoes staying trendy, including tennis shoes. Power suits will take center stage for the season. Losing popularity are camo clothing and high waisted pants. For the holidays, bold chains and cocktail rings are vibrant for the season! [ aw ]

Arranging food is an ancient art. When Megan Lewis of Milk Made Catering in Fargo works her magic, the results are almost too pretty to eat. (Almost.)

A SPLENDID TABLE

Lewis’ tempting cheese, charcuterie and antipasti boards, and gorgeous grazing tables are heaped with artisanal offerings carefully selected from small producers across the Midwest and beyond.

Tangy mustard, tart pickles, flavor-packed jam, and colorful accents like fresh and dried fruits, nuts, and chocolate perfectly complement an array of dry-cured meats and an eye-popping range of cheeses, from mild young cheddar to rich and earthy Brie.

They’re a showstopper at parties and gatherings, a display of bounty and beauty that even the most jaded feel compelled to admire. You can even order cheese wheel cakes! They’re as sleek as a wedding cake and 100% customizable.

Lewis has long loved cheese, but it didn’t become a career until recently.

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TWO PASSIONS COMBINE

“When I graduated from culinary school, I wanted to be a food stylist, working for a TV show or magazine,” Lewis explains. “When I had the opportunity to work behind a cheese counter and start making cheese platters, it was like my love of cheese and love of food styling came together.”

She started Milk Made Catering five years ago and never looked back. Lewis prefers to introduce her customers to regional cheeses whenever possible.

“We get the majority of our products from local creameries and makers,” she says. “We do work with distributors to bring in imports when needed, but we love to showcase local and American-made products, including items from North Dakota, Minnesota, Wisconsin, Iowa, Colorado, California, Vermont, New York, and more. My team and I love that we get to be the ones to share their stories of their farms, animals, and what makes their products exceptional.”

CREATING THE PERFECT CHEESE BOARD

Lewis’ platters are so pretty that they can seem almost impossible to replicate at home. However, she insists that following the basic rules of artistic composition, choosing complementary cheeses, and selecting seasonal produce can help anyone assemble an attractive cheese board.

“We create platters the same way each time at Milk Made,” Lewis explains. “Always jam or mustard first, then cheeses, meats, fruits, dried fruits. I start with the cheeses that pair well and what fruits and vegetables are in season, and then build a color wave from there. I love when orange (dried apricots) or green (grapes or pears) really makes the whole thing pop.”

The types of cheeses you choose are key and Lewis recommends getting out of your comfort zone.

“Always choose a variety of cheeses and milk types,” Lewis advises. “Cheese has eight main and three major milk types, so broaden your horizons! I love the following mixture: a sharp cheddar, nutty Gouda, lemony goat chevre, and a salty blue. My favorite sides are

fresh fruits, dried fruits (they add amazing sugar-packed sweetness), salami, and stone ground mustard.”

It's okay to look to Instagram, TikTok, or Pinterest for ideas. Lewis herself followed platter creator Lilith Spencer (on Instagram @cheesemongrrl) early in her career and still draws inspiration from her work. Following other creators can help you understand what makes a visual impact.

“What sets a board apart is color and texture,” Lewis says. “This time of the year is always exciting because stone fruits, pomegranates, and persimmons are in season, which are delicious with cheese and visually stunning. Don't shy away from bold food and stay in season with your fruits; your platter will sure to be a hit. Also, remember the rule of odds; odd numbers are always more appealing.”

THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX

When cheese fans line up outside Bessie, the little blue cheese shop on wheels Lewis takes to farmer’s markets, weddings, and corporate events, many of them leave with a Cute-erie Cone in hand. Each unexpectedly adorable cone includes an individual portion of meats, cheeses, crackers and pickles. Like many creative solutions, this one was born of necessity.

“The cones were actually invented by my longtime employee, Glory, during the pandemic,” Lewis explains. “We needed something that was hand-held and could be enjoyed individually. They have been one of our best-selling products since.”

ON STAYING CREATIVE AND PREVENTING BURNOUT

As a business owner, wife, and working mother of two girls, Lewis works hard to find a balance. She has learned that rest is an essential part of the creative process and a healthy life.

“I think most business owners can admit that burnout is a real thing,” she says.

“Sometimes I have to take a day to eat chips, watch Netflix, and take a nap. I have

to tell myself that in order to be the best business owner, wife, and mom I can be, sometimes I have to shut it down for a minute. Balance is always harder than it seems, but I am always trying!”

Running a catering business requires everyday creativity and constant troubleshooting. Lewis says that returning to her ingredients can help spark new ideas.

“When I feel stuck in the kitchen, typically going to the store and grabbing a new product

(such as a blood orange versus a regular one) can really switch things up and make things exciting. New products and cheeses always help, too. Just like an artist, we have to find new mediums from time to time,” she says.

Lewis says that a simple trip to the market can spark creativity for anyone. Just use your senses. “Go to the grocery store and just look at produce – really look,” she recommends. “It is surprising what details, colors, and tastes you can find when you take a few minutes to be present.”

And, Lewis stresses that being present is what gathering around the table is all about. She hopes that these little moments of stillness, contentment, and connection are sparked by every bite.

“Food is so amazing because it comforts us, triggers beautiful memories, and it nourishes us. Food can be beautiful, and I am so lucky that cheese and things that go with it are naturally stunning,” she says. “I love how cheese makes people smile and how it brings people sincere joy.” [ aw ]

December 1-15 : Help Many Neighbors Through One Charitable Gift

If you, your family, or business is looking for an impactful way to help your neighbors this holiday season, make a gift to support the “Holiday Hand Up” giving event hosted by Lend A Hand Up the first two weeks of December.

Many local families— our neighbors – face tough decisions due to health issues and other trauma. They wonder if they should stock the fridge or fill the prescription, pay the doctor or pay the rent. When a family member is faced with a significant health issue, whether child or adult, it affects the entire family emotionally and financially. Taking on the role as a caregiver often leads to lost wages and, if unable to maintain sufficient hours to maintain employer-sponsored benefits, it can also result in the loss of coverage for the entire family.

Medical expenses continue to be the leading cause of bankruptcy, affecting more than 530,000 families in our country each year. Among those facing hardship are neighbors we live and work alongside. The holiday season intensifies their hardship.

Lend A Hand Up director Jeana Peinovich shares, “We are passionate about raising financial help and hope for all the families we serve who are burdened by health issues and other traumatic events. For families without an intact network of friends and family nearby, rallying support can be more challenging. The Holiday Hand Up campaign provides an opportunity for us to share our generosity as good neighbors to all.”

When you make an online donation or check payable to LAHU-Holiday Hand Up now through December 15th, your charitable gift to the Lend A Hand Up program will boost help for all families participating in this year’s holiday giving campaign.

Among the families who will benefit from your generosity are Ashley Hoppe of Mapleton who is a wife (John), and mom to McKenna (11), Madelyn (6), and Charleigh (3). At the age of 28, Ashley underwent two surgeries to remove five brain tumors. In 2020, she was diagnosed with another setback when diagnosed with breast cancer. She underwent a mastectomy followed by chemotherapy and radiation until she had to

stop because of excruciating headaches and vision problems. This led to the discovery of four more brain tumors which complicated Ashley’s course of treatment. In May, Ashley will travel to the Mayo Clinic to have a craniotomy to remove the tumors. She will be away from home and her loved ones for 6-12 weeks. The resulting lost wages and benefits will be devastating for the family.

Susan Selnes, Fargo, developed sepsis and acute respiratory syndrome following a routine surgery in 2017 to treat a kidney stone. While in the ICU for 18 days fighting to survive, she subsequently developed a traumatic brain injury and major dental issues. Her challenges intensified and her recovery was stalled due to a dangerous individual

who made it difficult for her to access medical care. Now safe, with the help of the community, she hopes to restore her health, life, and smile.

Lydia Erickson, West Fargo, is the 5-year-old daughter of Lindsay and Neil. On July 4, she was diagnosed with Wilms Tumor, which required the removal of her tumor and right kidney. Unfortunately, the cancer was also

In addition to the heart-wrenching stories of these families, there are many more neighbors who will benefit from your generosity this holiday season. [ aw ]

Help many families with one charitable gift this holiday season!

Give online: LendAHandUp.org, Holiday Hand Up

Give by check payable to:

LAHU-Holiday Hand Up

Dakota Medical Foundation

4141 28 Ave S, Fargo, ND 58104

Gifts by check to Holiday Hand Up cannot be directed to a specific family fundraiser.

Here are some of the families that will be helped this holiday season

→ Chris Gourde, Harwood, is a husband (Amy) and the father of four children (Joseph, Nick, Marie, Rachael) who enjoys serving others as a skydiving instructor, civil air patrol pilot, Cubmaster, and volunteer at the St. Paul Newman Center. Recently, his rare intestinal cancer worsened, resulting in a transfer of his care to Mayo Clinic.

found to have spread to her lungs. Treatment has been tough on Lydia, and she has had to miss many days of kindergarten with her friends. The resulting medical expenses have made it difficult for the family as well.

Carson Fuglie, Ulen, is the 14-year-old son of Brady and Kayla who sustained a serious injury in an ATV accident in September. Carson’s road to recovery has required multiple surgeries and care at Fairview Children’s Hospital and the University of Minnesota. Out of pocket medical costs, mobility devices, and travel expenses have created substantial additional expenses for the family.

FOR MORE INFORMATION about giving options and families helped through the “Holiday Hand Up” campaign, go to LendAHandUup.org or call 701-356-2661.

Lend A Hand Up is a 501c3 subsidiary nonprofit of Dakota Medical Foundation. The program’s mission is to raise financial help and hope for local families experiencing hardship due to serious health issues or other traumatic events.

← Dr. Casey Bartz, Fargo, is a local optometrist diagnosed in March with a rare cancer to his chest called germ cell tumor (teratoma). He underwent surgery to remove the tumor and lymph nodes, resulting in complications, three additional surgeries, and chemotherapy. His time away from his practice has created financial hardship.

→ Angie Meuller, Fargo, suffered for many years with multiple conditions including Sjogren’s Syndrome, Degenerative Disc Disease, Fibromyalgia, and Neuropathy, which lessened her mobility. Since experiencing a lengthy battle with COVID-19, her conditions have worsened, leaving her with unmanageable, chronic pain.

↑ Angela Tate, Frazee, is a wife (Dustin), and mom to Dax (4) and Della (8 months). She is the director/owner of the Family Resource Center in Detroit Lakes. Since her diagnosis of stage IV colorectal cancer, she is no longer able to nurse, work full time, or enjoy her active life with her husband and young children.

↑ Becky Atkins, Fargo, wife of (“Chet”) and mom to two sons (Blake and Bryce), has been a special education paraeducator at Fargo North High School for 25 years. Since her diagnosis of breast cancer in April, she has not been able to work due to surgery, hospitalization, antibiotic infusions, and chemotherapy.

↑ Gary Kurtz, Perham, husband to Michelle, was diagnosed with prostate and bladder cancer in May. This is his second battle with cancer, after fighting testicular cancer several years ago. He has had to endure weeks of radiation, driving three hours round-trip, five days a week. He does not have health insurance.

← David Hendrickson, Fargo, loving husband to Jani, former US Marine, and leader in the recovery community, was diagnosed with squamous cell cancer of the throat, neck, and lymph nodes. Since he began treatment in August, he has experienced challenging and painful side effects.

← Lana Koski, Fargo, wife (Jon), and mom to Logan (17) and Charlie (15), is a home daycare provider and XaBeat dance instructor. In early 2022, a lump was found during a routine mammography that resulted in a diagnosis of invasive ductal carcinoma (breast cancer). Aggressive treatment has created financial hardship for the family.

→ Les Brandt, West Fargo, has been married to Judy for 54 years. They have two daughters and six grandkids. In 2021, he was diagnosed with stage IV Liver Cirrhosis, compounded by Type II Diabetes. His liver functions continue to decline, while his medical expenses increase.

↑ Dallas Donahue, West Fargo, 25, sustained serious physical injuries when his motorcycle collided with a truck on October 5. He was put into a medically-induced coma in the ICU until stable. His recovery will require multiple surgeries and extensive therapy.

↑ Jim Iverson, Moorhead, has two sons (Mark and Paul) and has been married to his best friend (Kathy) for 43 years. What started by going into the hospital for some numbness/tingling in his left leg and a tremor in his hand, ended with a diagnosis of a grade 4 glioblastoma (malignant brain tumor).

↑ Michelle Vesey, Detroit Lakes, is married to husband Joe, and mom of Lauren. She is a registered nurse who cared for others until 2016 when her symptoms led to a diagnosis of Huntington’s Disease which adversely impacts all physical and mental abilities. Recently, at the early age of 44, she was admitted to an assisted living facility for constant care.

↑ Melissa Young, Moorhead, wife (Ryan), and mom to three sons (Carter, Jackson, and Keaton), battles a rare nervous system condition known as Meige Syndrome. She suffers uncontrollable muscle movements, clenching, facial pain, trouble swallowing, and a feeling of hopelessness as she seeks treatment for a disease without a cure.

↑ Tricia Eback, Fargo, raised five children with husband (Daniel) before a routine hysterectomy in February revealed that she had uterine leiomyosarcoma, a rare tumor that had spread to other tissues. In August, she was unable to recover from a blood clot that ruptured, and on September 10, Tricia passed.

→ Adam Kolling, Fargo, is a husband (Lindsay) and a father (Waylon) who suffered severe pneumonia which put him on a ventilator and required extensive care at Abbott Northwestern in Minneapolis. He requires several months of appointments and therapies for his lungs to recover which leaves him unable to work.

← Candy Kempel, Casselton, a proud mom of two teenagers (Jocelyn and Isaac) is struggling due to multiple surgeries on her colon, inpatient care, and lost wages. She is a single mom who just lost her own mom.

↑ Shelly Joyce, Fargo, is a wife (Duane) and community member who was diagnosed in May with esophageal and kidney cancer. She has been in and out of the hospital most of the year because of aggressive treatment, which has created increasing financial hardship for her and family members who help care for her.

← Karen Schmitz, Kindred. is the wife of Paul and mom to Abigail (20) and McKenzie (17). She persevered at home and work while undergoing 13 rounds of chemotherapy for breast cancer before a reaction compromised her lungs, requiring weeks of hospitalization.

Resulting lost wages and insurance coverage are devastating to this family.

Sanford patient Cyle Cavett is a highly active 41-yearold man who had slowed to a shuffle because of hip discomfort and pain.

In his search for assistance, he ultimately decided on cell therapy at Sanford Orthopedics & Sports Medicine in Fargo, North Dakota. Since then, he has returned to living a life he feared he had left behind for good.

That life, among other things, includes racquetball, soccer, running, skating and keeping up with a pair of young children; many of these were no longer possible and now, Cavett has resumed all of his previous activities.

Couldn’t ignore hip pain

Meanwhile, Cavett was sure he didn’t want to permanently curtail his activities, nor did he didn’t want to be the guy in his 40s who was walking around with a new hip. Yet at the same time, he knew he needed to do something. The pain he was experiencing wasn’t going to give him the option to ignore it.

“Little things like that were consuming my mind all the time,” Cavett said. “Now I don’t have that issue anymore. The issue I have now is that I notice if it hurts during the day. Before, I would notice those moments when it wasn’t hurting.”

“Before the therapy, I didn’t know if I would ever get to the point where I wouldn’t be in pain all the time,” Cavett said. “It’s amazing that since I had the injection, I don’t have that pain.”

In the beginning stages of his discomfort, he had conversations with several providers about his hip, but they had not agreed on a treatment plan.

In Cavett’s world, buying groceries without a having a strategic plan didn’t seem like a big deal until he couldn’t do it. “I would have to strategically map out how I would go into a grocery store,” Cavett said. “I would think, ‘Okay, I can only go down so many aisles before the pain is going to get so bad I can’t walk anymore and I’ll have to sit down’.”

Cavett’s circumstances are worth a look within the framework of regenerative medicine and cell therapy. It’s an area of medical care that uses regenerative cells to treat diseased and damaged tissues. Most commonly this type of treatment is used to treat Osteoarthritis, but it can also help with acute and chronic tendon injuries and ligament injuries.

The procedure involves extracting regenerative cells then isolating them and injecting the cells into the same patient to repair tissue and speed up healing.

← Shara Diers , a Sanford Health physician assistant who works in orthopedics and sports medicine, talks to patients about what to expect during the procedure.

↑ Cyle Cavett thought to himself, “I’m in my early 40s; am I going to be able to go hiking with my little kids?”

“Before the therapy, I didn’t know if I would ever get to the point where I wouldn’t be in pain all the time.”

- Cyle Cavett

Cell therapy from bone marrow

While it’s not well understood what these cells are doing, it may help with the pain and the symptoms of arthritis or tendon injuries.

Cavett’s problem is with Osteoarthritis, a condition where the cartilage in the joints declines over time. When the cushioning cartilage wears away, it creates a bone-on-bone condition that can lead to the kind of discomfort that Cavett was suffering from.

His treatment involved bone marrow aspirate concentrate (BMAC), a component in a process that takes bone marrow from the back of the pelvis. It was then separated in a centrifuge to produce a concentration of regenerative cells. With help from an ultrasound to locate the exact affected area, the cells were then injected into Cavett’s hip.

“The hope was to have the injection either slow the progression for Cyle or help with the healing,” said Shara Diers, a Sanford Health physician assistant who works in orthopedics and sports medicine. “We wanted to give him some fluidity back in his joint, improve function and decrease pain.”

Cavett’s decision to try cell therapy began with a conversation with Diers, who explained the process and how it could possibly give him an opportunity to postpone a hip replacement.

“Cyle looked at it as a last resort,” Diers said. “At his age, he was not ready to go down that path. He really wanted to try something — anything — that would give him some relief or some longevity of that joint so he could put off total hip replacement.”

Ensuring cell therapy is safe

Those contemplating cell therapy at Sanford Health hear about the science of the procedure, learning what regenerative medicine is and what it is not. Cavett listened to Diers, considered all of his options, and decided he owed it to himself to try it.

“I was advised that if I had a hip replacement now I would probably be looking at two or three more in my lifetime,” Cavett said. “That didn’t excite me at all. A lot of it was just intuition; I just didn’t feel right with the idea of getting a hip replacement.”

Sanford’s regenerative efforts are safe, FDA-compliant, and utilize the latest research techniques. Caregivers do not guarantee patients that cell therapy will provide complete relief. Instead, they present it as an alternative that has helped many patients.

Typically, treatments like Cavett received are not suggested until other nonsurgical options have failed to help. That includes physical therapy and anti-inflammatory medications.

Cavett’s procedure began in the morning. The orthobiologics medical team took cells from Cavett’s bone and those cells were then processed and injected back into Cavett later in the day.

The typical wait is three or four hours from taking the cells out to putting them back in; there is no hospitalization.

What to expect after cell therapy

Recovery time varies. Many people report pain relief within a few weeks, and that relief could last a few years to a lifetime, according to the Sanford orthopedics team.

Count Cavett among those who are definitely in a better spot. Because of his therapy, next summer is now looking more exciting than it once did for his family.

“When I was young, my parents would take us to Colorado and we’d go hiking,” Cavett said. "I’m in my early 40s; am I going to be able to go hiking with my little kids? That was one of my fears about my hip. I didn’t think that was going to be a possibility, but now I’m not worried about that at all. I know it’s going to happen.” [ aw ]

↑ Sanford Health in Fargo offers regenerative medicine orthobiologic treatments.

Most commonly this type of treatment is used to treat Osteoarthritis, but it can also help with acute and chronic tendon injuries and ligament injuries.

Osteoarthritis is a condition where the cartilage in the joints declines over time.

“At his age, he was not ready to go down that path. He really wanted to try something — anything — that would give him some relief or some longevity of that joint so he could put off total hip replacement.”

- Shara Diers, Sanford Health Physician Assistant

Patients interested in cell therapy procedures can schedule an appointment with Shara Diers at  Sanford Orthopedics & Sports Medicine.

make it tonight

cranberry salsa

INGREDIENTS

3 cups cranberries

1 apple, chopped

½ red pepper, chopped

¼ red onion, chopped

1 jalapeno, chopped

½ cup unsweetened applesauce

cup maple syrup

¼ cup fresh cilantro

1 tablespoon lemon juice

½ teaspoon sea salt + ½ teaspoon black pepper

THE HOW TO

1. Combine all ingredients in a blender and pulse until combined.

2. Refrigerate for at least two hours to allow flavors to combine. [ aw ]

TECHNIQUE

"PULSE" a setting on your blender to control consistencies for chopping or blending

DIFFICULTY BEGINNER

Cranberries get a fresh makeover in this holiday salsa you’ll be making all season!  It’s perfectly tart, spicy, and sweet.  It’s easy to make and is ideal as a bright and festive side dish.  Whenever cranberries are in season, this will be your new favorite go-to recipe!  Tip:  Make extra; it gets eaten quickly!  Great with chips or veggies, or anything where cranberries or salsa are preferred.

RECIPE AND PHOTOGRAPHY ASHLEY SORNSIN

DID YOU KNOW?

Cranberries are one of the few fruits native to North America. The five states known for growing cranberries are: Massachusetts, Wisconsin, New Jersey, Oregon, and Washington. Cranberries have small pockets where air seeps into that allows them to float.

Cranberries do not grow in water.

That’s it. Nutrition / November 2022

The holidays are truly the most wonderful time of the year. The smell of fresh-cut Christmas trees, the nostalgic tastes of seasonal baking, and the beautiful holiday décor around town make it difficult to not eagerly anticipate the closing of another year, the launching of a new one.

However, if you have certain health or wellness goals whether you’re trying to lose weight, heal some lingering food sensitivities, or are simply focusing on eating a nutritious diet, the holidays can feel like a minefield of stressful decisions. With the options of eating, drinking, and indulging in sweets more prevalent, it can feel like more than we can want to handle. This may cause us to throw in the towel all together and make a new promise to ourselves that after the holidays, that diet will begin, or we will join that gym in January. This mentality will only leave us upset with ourselves, focusing on the negative, and ultimately result in a less than joyful holiday.

I am here to tell you it does not have to be stressful and is does not have to be difficult to keep working on your wellness throughout the holidays, without sacrificing the joy of the season with those you love. By staying mindful of a few priorities as you enter this wonderful season, you can look and feel your best and stay on track to achieve your goals.

PRIORITIZE VEGETABLES

We all know that vegetables are an important piece of a healthy lifestyle. They contain an abundance of micronutrients we need for optimum health. In addition to eating 1-2 servings with every meal, try eating the vegetable dish as your first course. Recent studies show us that eating fiber-filled vegetables first primes our blood sugar for the rest of the meal which can prevent any major spikes. This can result in more feelings of satiety and less chance of overindulging later.

For an appetizer, raw vegetables and a yogurt-based dip or hummus are a great

option. For a side dish, my go-to is roasted vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower, or Brussels sprouts tossed with a healthy fat like avocado oil or grass-fed butter, then sprinkled salt and pepper. Both of these are deliciously simple and satisfying.

If you are heading out to a potluck where you know vegetables likely will not be on the menu, bring a salad or vegetable side dish to share. If it’s not a potluck party, get your veggies in before you leave the house. This way, you’re set and ready to enjoy the rest of the meal.

GET ENOUGH PROTEIN AND HEALTHY FATS:

Many of us don’t consume enough protein in a day, which causes excess snacking as we grasp for a feeling of satiety. Aim for a minimum of 30 grams of protein per meal to help you feel full longer. If you feel hungry between lunch and dinner, make sure your snacks contain protein and a serving of healthy fat to tide you over until dinner. Some great holiday protein choices are lean turkey, chicken, salmon, or a quality cut of beef. Fats like grass-fed butter or extra virgin olive oil help our bodies absorb the nutrients in animal proteins, so be sure to dress your salads and drizzle your steaks with a some good fats.

"In addition to eating 1-2 servings with every meal, try eating the vegetable dish as your first course."

LIMIT SUGAR

The holiday season is loaded with tasty candies, cookies, and treats. I am not going to tell you to skip the cookie trays because that is like telling a child to skip opening his or her presents Christmas morning. Instead, I am going to tell you to wait; wait until after you have finished your meal to enjoy a sweet treat. Having sweets after a full meal is another blood sugar balancing technique.

If you want to take it a step further, try swapping some or all of the sugar in your recipes for natural sweeteners like maple syrup, honey, or monk fruit sweetener. Processed white sugar wreaks havoc on our health, so it is important to avoid it as much as possible. Critics will say, “Sugar is sugar. It does not matter if it is white sugar or maple syrup. Our body reacts the same.” I agree that, in general, we need to be mindful of our consumption of sweets. However, I also disagree because I strongly believe that how things are processed influences their nutritional value and how the body reacts. I recommend choosing a natural sweetener, monk fruit, stevia, or organic cane sugar when possible. We do not need to demonize desserts. We just need to be mindful of what we consume and limit added sugar in our diet wherever possible.

This goes for alcohol as well. Have a cocktail or glass of wine with your meals if you want one, but try to avoid it on an empty stomach to stay off the blood sugar rollercoaster. Even better, stick with beverages that are not loaded with extra sugar; opt for low sugar wine or a mocktail made of sparkling water, lemon juice, with cranberries and a rosemary sprig for garnish. Your body will thank you (especially the next morning)!

FOCUS ON WHOLE FOODS

Carbohydrates are a hot topic in the wellness world. If you are not on a low-carb diet, the best option is to focus on whole-food, complex carbohydrates like sweet potatoes, potatoes, squash, and whole-grains like quinoa and rice. These carbs are by far the most nutritious. Skip the added the sugar often added to sweet potato and squash dishes or swap with a monk fruit-based sweetener. Even more, make your potato dishes ahead of time, store in the fridge, and reheat slowly. Chilling cooked potatoes before enjoying transforms the starches into resistant starch, which feed our good gut bacteria and lower blood sugar spikes.

HYDRATE

Holiday feasts are delicious and should be thoroughly enjoyed, however this can sometimes do a number on our digestive system. Drink plenty of water throughout the day as well as with your meals to aid in digestion and feeling energized. Bringing a reusable water bottle wherever you go makes its much easier to drink enough water throughout the day and keeps hydration top of mind.

"I recommend choosing a natural sweetener, monk fruit, stevia, or organic cane sugar when possible."

"Drink plenty of water throughout the day as well as with your meals to aid in digestion and feeling energized."

MOVEMENT MATTERS

Find times during the holidays to exercise in whatever way you love. Whether it is walking, yoga, skiing, or hitting the gym, carve out times dedicated to getting your body moving. Do a family 5k, take a cycling class, or go to the gym together. If nothing else, invite family members to go on a walk with you after dinner. Walking after a meal does wonders for digestion and blood sugar balance. It also doubles as great quality time and opportunity for delightful conversation.

after a meal does wonders for digestion and blood sugar balance."

MOST IMPORTANTLY

After you’ve prepared all the food, finished all the shopping, and made all the plans, take a deep breath. Remember the true meaning of the season and the importance of being present for your loved ones. I encourage you to fully embrace the holidays and enjoy those precious memories that only come once a year. It is so much more important than counting the grams of sugar in that cookie, making sure your plate is not too full, or stressing about how many carbs you ate. We have a body that needs nutrition and exercise, but we also have a soul and spirit that need our attention, too. Sometimes having that cookie or glass of wine with our family by the fireplace while singing Christmas carols fills our soul to the brim.

Trust yourself to enjoy where you can and hold fast to what makes you feel your best when needed. Be mindful, fully present, trust yourself, and enjoy your traditions. It’s the most magical time of the year! [ aw ]

For more healthy eating tips, follow Morgan Aubol on Instagram @joyfully_fed

"Walking

The holidays can get hectic, so set aside time to soak in the sights, sounds, and scents of the season with your special someone! There are so many sensory pleasures to choose from; the twinkling lights, the crisp slice of skate blades gliding across the ice, the spicy sweet aroma of hot cocoa and gingerbread drifting through a cozy coffee shop as you sit back and watch the world go by on the sidewalk outside.

Try everything on this list for one epic holiday date night or two shorter seasonal escapes. Or, select the activities that speak to you for a more laid-back experience. Whatever you choose, don’t forget to relax and enjoy each other’s company. Connection with the people you love is what this season is all about.

Go ice skating

Maximize these short winter days with a dose of wintery fun that’ll bring you right back to your childhood. Lace up your skates at the Scheels Skating Rink, right in the heart of downtown Fargo at Broadway Square

The atmosphere is festive. Snap a photo by the beautifully illuminated Christmas tree and listen to music as you whirl around the rink in the crisp winter air. Rental skates are available for just $5, starting November 22 (weather permitting).

The rink is open MONDAY-FRIDAY FROM 4:00 P.M. UNTIL 9:00 P.M. AND ON WEEKENDS FROM NOON TO 9:00 P.M. It’s closed when temperatures drop to -10 degrees or colder or when the wind chill hits -30.

Warm up with cocoa or coffee

Pop into Atomic Coffee for rich and flavorful hot cocoa made with dark chocolate syrup and frothed milk. Request a dollop of house-made whipped cream on top to take the indulgence to the next level.

Another idea is to stay caffeinated with special holiday drinks like a peppermint mocha or a gingerbread or eggnog latte. Seasonal treats like peppermint mocha cookies and gingerbread scones will tide you over until dinner.

Indulge in Christmas cookies

No holiday dinner would be complete without a tray of Christmas cookies. Plan ahead and visit Jen’s Bakery early to pick up all your favorite treats to snack on before, after, or during your date.

“We do quite a variety of cookies,” explains co-owner and baker Jen Nelson. “We do decorated cutouts, peanut butter blossoms, chocolate-dipped shortbread, gingerbread men, molasses, chocolate crinkles, thumbprint cookies, snickerdoodle, peppermint brownie cookies, and some fun melted snowman cookies.”

They also offer sugar cookie decorating kits, so you can have the fun of decorating cutout sugar cookies without all the fuss. They’re available in six and 12-count boxes.

Dine on comfort food classics

Winter dining at Prairie Kitchen is heavy on the hygge – a Danish word that conveys coziness, warmth and comfort. Even when the wind is whipping outside, this historical building (which started its life as a creamery) feels snug and convivial.

This is the place to try an elevated version of Scandinavian and Midwestern classics you might ordinarily eat at home or during a holiday dinner. Start by sharing a Freddy’s Lefse sampler. Top your lefse with whipped butter, cinnamon sugar, and strawberry rhubarb jam made in-house.

For your main course, indulge in Swedish meatballs with mashed potatoes and lingonberry jam or try the hotdish of the moment. The delicious fare here is an ode to what’s fresh and seasonal and it transforms a workhorse dish into something special.

See the holiday lights

Stash a few of those cookies away as a snack, then set out to see the holiday lights! Cruise your own neighborhood or visit this year’s newest attraction, Holiday Lights at the Fairgrounds.

OPEN AS A DRIVE-THROUGH EVENT, 5:00 P.M. THROUGH 10:00 P.M. DAILY FROM NOVEMBER 25TH THROUGH NEW YEAR’S EVE.

The event grew out of the beloved FM Sertoma Club display in Lindenwood Park. (A portion of the proceeds still benefit the club’s service project and other non-profits.) And, this year’s decorations are bigger and better.

“We have doubled both the length and number of displays,” explains Elizabeth Birkemeyer, director of marketing and events at the Red River Valley Fair. “There will be hundreds of light displays that will feature RGB effect lighting, animated displays, multiple drive-through tunnels, and more.”

ADMISSION IS $25 PER CAR AND $55 PER LIMO AT THE GATE and includes free candy canes. Save $5 by booking ahead online.

So which festive activity will you try first? This is one holiday to-do list that’s a joy to complete and sure to bring connection and lasting memories. [ aw ]

written by Tanya Ferber MBA, BSN, RN Senior Helpers

As we age, it is important to keep our minds and bodies active and healthy. This can help prevent becoming increasingly frail. Staying active doesn’t only mean walking or working out. For overall well-being, seniors need to participate in a variety of purposeful activities that benefit the mind, body, and soul. Family, friends, and professionals can assist with finding activities to enrich all aspects of an aging loved one’s life.

Stimulating the Mind

The brain is like a muscle, in that the more you use it, the stronger it becomes. Unlike muscles, the brain can’t get stronger by lifting weights. It needs a consistent regimen of meaningful activities that stimulate the mind.

According to the National Institute of Aging, “Activities such as music, theater, dance, and creative writing have shown promise for improving quality of life and well-being in older adults, from better memory and self-esteem to reduced stress and increased social interaction.” Mind-stimulating activities have also been shown to reduce loneliness and depression and increase dexterity.

Mind-stimulating activities include:

• Reading or listening to an audio book

• Watching a favorite movie, play or musical concert

• Cheering on a favorite sports team

• Arts and crafts

• Writing

• Playing card and board games along with brain games available on apps

• Jigsaw and word puzzles like crosswords and Sudoku

• Listening to music, especially songs from years gone by

• Fidget boards and blankets are wonderful for those with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia

Strengthening the Body

Physical activity is a protective factor for diseases such as cardiovascular disease, stroke, diabetes, and some types of cancer. It can also help maintain motor skills, build self-confidence, and delay the onset of dementia.

Body strengthening activities include:

• Walking

• Taking fitness and wellness classes – Some great options include Silver Sneakers (available at no cost for adults 65+ through select Medicare plans) that offers virtual and on-site classes designed with Seniors in mind. In addition, the West Fargo Park District offers Stay Active and Independent for Life (SAIL). This strength, balance and fitness program is for adults 55+ and is available at the Rustad Arena. Bone Builders is a strength, balance, and fitness program for adults 55+ available at Veteran’s Arena. Check online for available days/times.

• Dancing

• Gardening

• Visiting local shops

• Playing games like pool, bag toss, horseshoes, or Pickleball, which is a popular activity among older adults

Activities for the Soul

We often feel contentment from our interaction with others, whether sharing stories or a good laugh. Socializing and developing close relationships give us a sense of belonging and purpose, love, and companionship that’s good for the soul.

Science Daily adds, “Studies have shown that close social ties, like family and close friends, can be beneficial to older adults by providing a buffer against stress and improving emotional well-being.”

Other activities, such as spiritual and meditative ones, help bring peace and calmness to the soul. That’s why being able to practice one’s faith alone or with others in a safe and comfortable environment is essential.

One research-backed article states, “Spirituality can be of considerable importance for the older person’s physical wellness. At the same time, it can impact significantly on their quality of life.”

Soul-nourishing activities include:

• Attending religious services

• Conversing with friends or family

• Playing games with friends

• Sharing a family recipe with neighbors in the kitchen

• Gardening - It doesn't have to be summer, and you don't need a big plot of land to get the feel for gardening. Container pots are easy and fun any time of year.

• Take a trip down memory lane - Check out old photo albums. Going through the pictures will undoubtedly jog everyone’s memory and prompt a few stories. Spend time writing down all the stories next to the photos. Aging adults and family member will treasure them in years to come. For someone living with dementia, capturing these memories is even more meaningful.

• Start a Collection - Think about items of interest that have been collected through the years. Many seniors have stashed away old coins or stamps or baseball cards. Or, you could begin a collection that could be passed down through the family. [ aw ]

You have decked the halls and trimmed the tree and now you are tackling a designer-inspired tablescape. Then it happens; you get stuck. You know what you want, you can envision the mood and your table set with tasty food, good friends, and family, and now you want that experience to be elevated by tablescaping and an impeccably set table for dinner.

The goal of decking out your table with gorgeous floral arrangements, shiny candle sticks, beautiful holiday inspired dishes, or elaborate glitzy décor is to enhance your dining guests’ experience and create a conversation around the table. It sets the mood and conveys the theme of the event through various pieces of décor and arrangement.

Consider the size and shape of the table, the types of dishes you will be using, and the type of dinner you are serving: elegant, casual, potluck, or family style.

Choosing the right background to compliment the adornments on the table is also critical, including the tablecloth, napkins, plate chargers, and glassware. Creating layers of color, depth, and interest can be done by adding multiple cloths, placemats, dinnerware in various patterns, printed menus, place cards, and even a small gift on each plate for your guests. And finally, knowing how to add elegance by doing a fancy fold on your napkins makes a difference. Keep the guest list intimate and friendly to the space you have and serve the first and second course of the meal away from the table to preserve your ‘look’ for the main course and dessert; this will also help manage the dirty dishes and pace of the meal.

Additional key decisions you should consider when choosing the right table setting and scape for the middle of the dining table are the formality of the event, how many courses will be served and how they will be served, who your guests are, and the ease of serving and clearing dishes between courses. Then, be sure to provide the appropriate drinkware and utensils needed for each person to partake in the meal.

Setting the perfect table can include many pieces or just your plain, everyday dinnerware mixed with sentimental dishes you have collected over the years from your grandmother, your wedding,

or as gifts. It is also perfectly acceptable to go for an eclectic look by mixing and matching types of dishes. This is a wonderful way to stretch the sets of dishes you have to make them work for a large gathering and letting those that are dining with you know they are important enough to have you put a little extra effort forward. Creative glassware is also integral and not only can add height and color to the table arrangement, but you can also use wood, metal, and plastic glassware to provide texture, visual interest, and beauty to finish the finished look of the table.

Today’s society also allows us to be a little less glitz and glamour when it comes to decorating and it is possible to add some down-home, whimsical, local vibes, too. Using outdoor embellishments such as dried flowers, leaves, sticks, pinecones, and large bark-edged wood slices bring nature into play and create an earthy look reflective of the woods. Another option is to use fresh fruit, berries, and nuts to make an edible design. Consider using dried pasta, beans, rice, or popcorn in glass containers for visual interest or to develop a theme, depending on your menu.

According to the design experts, there are three main types of table settings: The basic setting includes a plate, silverware placed in the order it will be used, and a water glass. Next, there is an informal setting, which starts with the basic

setting and has items added to it, including a soup bowl or salad plate, bread plate, cup and saucer, and a wine glass, plus the additional silverware required such as a soup spoon, salad/dessert fork, and a butter knife. Finally, the formal setting is that which will begin with the informal set up and often can include an additional wine glass (for red and white wine), .a charger under the plate, and a small appetizer plate.

Some critical do’s and dont's when executing your perfect dining experience include creating a tablescape that allows enough room to actually eat dinner, have conversation, and that is safe. Do not use tippy candlesticks, vases with water that may spill, or too much height so the guests cannot see each other. However, by creating some special memories with a tablescape such as name cards, a menu featuring the food and wine that is being served, an edible treat, or a small, framed photo or remembrance piece for the guests to take home are absolutely recommended!

A tablescape and setting a table for a dining experience does not need to be intimidating, it is simply by definition ‘an artistic arrangement of articles on a table’. And it is, at the root, an expression of love, gratitude, and appreciation for those that are sitting around your table this holiday season and beyond. [ aw ]

Plan a tablescape in the same way you would plan a meal.

The goal of decking out your table with gorgeous floral arrangements, shiny candle sticks, beautiful holiday inspired dishes, or elaborate glitzy décor is to enhance your dining guests experience and create a conversation around the table.

Essentia Health is continually looking for ways to deliver care closer to home. That’s why Essentia is set to open a new clinic in the City of West Fargo’s The Lights, a bustling development featuring residential, commercial, and active-life spaces.

Scheduled to open on December 19, 2022, the Essentia Health-West Fargo The Lights Clinic will have something to offer everyone in the community. The 14,500-squarefoot space located on the corner of Sheyenne Street and 32nd Avenue West will offer the following services:

will offer the following services:

• Family Medicine: comprehensive health care for people of all ages

• Pediatrics: specialized care for children from birth to age 18

• Fertility: expert care for fertility diagnosis, options and treatments

• Gynecology: care for women of all ages

• Obstetrics: personalized care for women during pregnancy, labor, delivery, and postpartum

• Midwifery: holistic care for women throughout their lives, including primary care, pregnancy, labor, delivery, and postpartum care

• Imaging and Radiology: safe and accurate ultrasound and x-ray imaging

• Lab Services: a variety of testing options to provide better insight into one’s health

THE 14,500-SQUARE-FOOT SPACE LOCATED ON THE CORNER OF SHEYENNE STREET AND 3 2ND AVENUE WEST

“Delivering this full-service clinic to West Fargo is part of Essentia’s mission to make a healthy difference in the communities we have the privilege to serve.”

Al Hurley, Essentia West Market Chief Operating Officer

The City of West Fargo is rapidly growing, and Essentia Health wants to grow with and meet the needs of this community. Conveniently located next to several schools and neighborhoods, the Essentia Health-West Fargo The Lights Clinic will offer families a new location where they can seek high-quality, compassionate care for every age and stage of life.

“Delivering this full-service clinic to West Fargo is part of Essentia’s mission to make a healthy difference in the communities we have the privilege to serve,” said Essentia West Market Chief Operating Officer Al Hurley. “We are excited to make healthcare more accessible by meeting our patients in a location where they are already living, working, and playing.”

ESSENTIA HEALTH-WEST FARGO THE LIGHTS CLINIC

meet the care team:

This clinic will have 12 providers, along with friendly and welcoming support staff. While it is a full-service clinic, it dramatically expands on Essentia’s pediatric and obstetrics/gynecology services locally

"As West Fargo is growing, so are its families," says Hurley. “We are proud that this clinic will be a place where women, children, and families are surrounded by the experts and technology necessary for the highest level of care. Whether you’re an expectant mom, are hoping to become a mom, or you’re a mom looking to find the right provider for yourself or your child, the experts at the Essentia Health-West Fargo The Lights Clinic are here for you.”

Essentia’s mission to make a healthy difference extends beyond the walls of its facilities. Already serving as the sponsor of The Lights Plaza, which hosts concerts and recreational opportunities, Essentia is also committed to coordinating other health-related events at this location.

The Essentia Health-West Fargo The Lights Clinic will be open for appointments beginning on December 19th. To schedule an appointment, please call (701) 364-8900. The clinic hours will be 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. Monday through Friday.

Parking will be available to patients on the east or south sides of The Lights complex, or in the parking garage on the north side. [ aw ]

“As West Fargo is growing, so are its families.”

Al Hurley, Essentia West Market Chief Operating Officer

“We are proud that this clinic will be a place where women, children and families are surrounded by the experts and technology necessary for the highest level of care.”

Al Hurley, Essentia West Market Chief Operating Officer

The Feathered Dress by Ellison is a sleek, elegant cocktail number that will be a holiday standout. Made of 100% polyester and with a slim body style that is kneelength and with adjustable spaghetti straps, it’s the LBD that also packs a stylish punch with its hem of (faux) feathers. Available in sizes S-L

$69.99 at BOOTS & HEELS, 410 Broadway, Fargo, ND

The Lela backpack by Coco + Carmen is a busy woman’s must-have for going from work to shopping to out on the town. Also ideal for travel, this multi-pocket, topzip and structured closure bag features comfortable, adjustable straps, and plenty of room for essentials and a few extras.

$64.50 at ZANDBROZ VARIETY, 420 Broadway, Fargo, ND

Packed Party is known for its adorable line of plastic goods, from clutches to jewelry bags to cosmetic pouches like this roomy one in navy with movable confetti. This piece exudes holiday fun and festivity while being just the right size for makeup and skincare essentials. Waterproof, sturdy zipper, fun! It’s a great gift for that glamloving person in your life…or yourself! Check it out, along with others from this beloved line.

$33.95 at ZANDBROZ VARIETY, 420 Broadway, Fargo, ND

For the minimalist who also likes a bit of glitz and glamour, Shiraleah has the perfect mini-bag made for parties and nights on the dance floor. The ultra-slim, low profile envelope clutch can also be a crossbody purse with its optional long strap. It's perfect for a few cards, money, a key, and that must-have lip gloss.

$41.50 at ZANDBROZ VARIETY, 420 Broadway, Fargo, ND

For the woman who loves a good heel, The London Rag’s beautiful stiletto, pointed pumps are a classic staple. Constructed from man-made materials and featuring rubber outer soles, they are an ideal pick to pair with jeans, dress pants, skirts, and dresses, especially a New Year’s outfit with a touch of pizazz.

$79.00 at BOOTS & HEELS, 410 Broadway, Fargo, ND

If you love a good board game, be sure to include the classics! These stunning 2-in-1 game sets by Liberty are not only good looking, they are practical and built to last. Their boxes add beauty to a shelf or table, while offering a new twist on the look and feel of classic games. Ludo/Backgammon, Backgammon/Checkers, and also a standard Chess set are a few of the options offered by this artsy publisher.

Starting at $24.99 at ZANDBROZ VARIETY, 420 Broadway, Fargo, ND

Artist Ashley Rieck has designed these fun, boho-chic macrame earrings for her line, Tinker,  that are a great accent to a winter wardrobe. Wear them with everything from a tank to a fun dress and get ready for compliments galore; these earrings are on-trend and a hip way to add fun to any outfit while supporting a local artisan! $25.00 at UNGLUED, 408 Broadway, Fargo, ND

The Jack Series No. 8 simple syrups, made in Fargo, are not only delicious, they are different from the norm. The Toasted Marshmallow is a favorite among the shoppers at Unglued and the syrup, along with others in the line, can be used in cocktails and mocktails for a sweet, comforting touch that is reminiscent of campfire nights and the coziness of winter. Other excellent choices include Demerara and Lavender, among others. Each syrup includes a recipe tag for an artisan cocktail.

$19.99 at UNGLUED, 408 Broadway, Fargo, ND

Warm up in true Scandinavian style with these ultra-plush mittens by Steller.  Their Nordic flair is evident on a rich, navy blue background, and the aqua suede palm is a great match to add more color and style. Featured in a Norwegian print and sporting a single embossed silver button on each, the mittens are one example of this company’s commitment to quality and there are multiple colors and patterns available in mittens as well as other accessories.

$79.95 at STABO SCANDINAVIAN IMPORTS, 406 Broadway, Fargo, ND

There’s fashion jewelry and then there is the Solje Ring by Sylvsmidja of Norway, known for its quality in craftsmanship and modern take on traditional Scandinavian pieces. The ring, in gorgeous silver and with a solid band, intricate styling, and true Norwegian beauty,

$72.00 at STABO SCANDINAVIAN IMPORTS, 406 Broadway, Fargo, ND

Give the gift of positive affirmations this holiday season with the Powerful Women affirmation deck by BIS Publishers and Studio Lisa. The deck has four sections: soul, mind, ambition and body. The collection of 60 cards include affirmations through words and illustrations made by women for women, and designed to empower, uplift, and inspire. Also includes a wooded holder to display a card and a booklet that showcases the contributing artists and inspiration behind their work. This is a thoughtful gift for the women in your life!

$26.50 at ZANDBROZ VARIETY, 420 Broadway, Fargo, ND

If you love all things Scandinavian, you probably know Dale of Norway, the staple of traditional Norwegian sweaters and accessories. Made from high-quality fabrics and textiles with expert detailing and artisanship, Dale produces legacy styles as well as contemporary takes such as the Christiania Jacket/Sweater. With a signature look to the black and white patterned motif, the sweater also features a unique neck scarf, a hidden zipper, and a round, silver pull. The look is what  Dale is known for; a bit of Norway in America, perfect for the woman who loves her Scandinavian heritage or one who just appreciates the aesthetic of Nordic culture.

$395.00 at STABO SCANDINAVIAN

$1,290.00 at GUNDERSON'S,

Fermie Studios Design + Ceramics has a stunning line of one-of-a-kind pieces by artist Tara Fermoyle, including this quirky zipper mug and matching plate in a sweet shade of lavender. The mug ($50) and plate ($28) are sure to spark conversation while also being the ideal size for hot drinks and perhaps a few treats on the side. at UNGLUED, 408 Broadway, Fargo, ND

IMPORTS, 406 Broadway, Fargo, ND

18k Gold Celestia Diamond Medallion with White Mother of Pearl, 0.04CTW Diamond, 3.90ct White Mother of Pearl *Chain sold separately

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any of us make it a priority to show up and give 100% for our careers. We make time for lunch dates or happy hours with our friends, but are we as intentional with our family time?

As Christmas approached last year, I noticed that my then six-yearold daughter Brielle devoured the toy ads that were sent in the mail. On every page, she found new toys that she just had to have. I asked her many time what something was or how it worked. “Umm, I don’t know. It just looks fun,” she replied. We are blessed to have many people that love her, so she always has many gifts to open. It would stress me out to think of finding space for all these new toys and gifts that would be forgotten about in a few weeks.

"We are blessed to have many people who love her"

-Janell Meier

I wanted to think of a meaningful gift, one that would last throughout the year and provide an opportunity for quality time together. My idea was something I named “A Bucket of Fun”. I came up with three different color-coded categories: At Home Fun, Fun Outings, and New Fun. I gathered bright neon notecards and wrote out seven ideas for each category, then the cards went into a small bucket.

We all know that winters in the Midwest can be challenging. Brielle would come home from school and ask, “Mommy, are we going somewhere tonight?” As an only child, it gets lonely without siblings and it’s not as easy in the winter to play with friends and neighbors. You can’t take a walk to the park after supper without fear of frostbite, but that doesn’t mean we can’t make the most out of these frigid months.

January 6, 2022 was our first Bucket of Fun drawing. The temperature with wind chill was 33 degrees below zero, so we wouldn’t be venturing out. I told Brielle to pick a card that was neon orange, representing At Home Fun. Jumping with excitement, she took the time to pick just the right card. She pulled it out of the bucket, looked at me with the biggest smile, and read with joy, “bake treats”; what a perfect activity to warm our home and hearts on that chilling January evening. It was a big decision for her whether to make cookies or brownies.

At the end of February, we had a stint of warmer weather, so I suggested we take the opportunity to go ice skating and sledding outside. After sledding for a while, we decided to go into the warming house and eat the lunches we had packed. I’ll never forget exactly where I was when Brielle said, “This is the best day of my life”.

Wow! Considering we had just returned from a 10-day vacation in Florida, it hit me hard. What our kids want most are simple, joyous times together! And, that could be just a mile from home. What a gift it is to make the time, space, and opportunity to do that.

Some months we found activities that weren’t on our list, but still brought us opportunities for making memories and bonding. Taking Brielle to her first concert, Mini Pop Kids Live, at the Fargo Theatre was a recent favorite. There are also some activities that have become annual traditions for our family, like taking road trips to visit extended family and going to the zoo.

"Mommy, are we going somewhere tonight?"

-Brielle Meier

I’ll be repeating this Bucket of Fun for 2023. We’ll add some new adventures and we’ll certainly be keeping some of our family favorites. In the New Year, I’m going to challenge myself to be more intentional about scheduling monthly mother/ daughter dates. It happened naturally this year, but I know as Brielle gets older, I will no longer be her go-to play date. I saw that evolve already as this year went on and that’s okay. It gave both of us room to grow more into who we are meant to be. But, with that said, I also want to continue to keep open communication with her. I want her to know she can trust me and talk to me about anything. Having these dates on the calendar creates memories and they’re building a foundation of bonding for years to come.

I also made a similar Bucket O’ Dates for my husband Brian and I to enjoy. In 2023, we will do better at knocking some of those off our list instead of the standard going out for supper dates.

What can you add to your family’s list of activities for the upcoming year? Can you take your 2023 calendar out now and schedule monthly family dates or perhaps dates for the first quarter? Maybe it’s creating a monthly task reminder to look at your list and schedule something for that month.

Below was our list for 2022. Some of the items were very simple, but just the idea of getting to pull one out of the bucket to be surprised at what we’ll do that day brought a fresh layer of fun to what we might have done anyway.

Visit my website at janellmeier.com for a free printable card template of Bucket of Fun ideas!

At Home Fun

( Neon Orange Notecards )

•Bake treats

• Rollerblade or bike

• Play cards or board games

• Nintendo Wii Fun

• Paint nails, do hair and makeup

• Picnic in the living room

• Play babies or school

Fun Outings

( Neon Yellow Notecards )

• Ice Skating

• Zoo day

• Sandy’s Donuts

• Ride the ferris wheel at Scheels

• Go swimming at a pool

• Shop at the mall ($10.00 to spend)

• Go out for ice cream or frozen yogurt

New Fun

( Neon Green Notecards )

• Let’s go bowling!

• Rock wall climbing

• Roller skating rink

• Sky Zone

• Cross country ski or snow shoe at Edgewood Park

• Take a cooking class

• Attend a Fargo Force game

"What our kids want most are simple, joyous times together!"

-Janell Meier

About Janell:

Janell Meier is a determined wife, mother, corporate employee and Certified Oola Life Coach. Janell’s way of finding joy and hope in each day inspires others to be grateful while designing the life they want.

Diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 27, Janell learned quickly that life doesn’t always happen how we want. Years later she made her dreams come true by earning the title of mommy through the help of an amazing gestational carrier. Just when her little family of three was starting to live their “happily ever after”, Janell’s cancer metastasized. She juggled a full-time career, caring for a newborn, and receiving chemotherapy along with all of life’s other responsibilities. Eventually, she realized she could take much needed time for what she wanted in life. And by doing so, she was able to show up for others in a more impactful way. She now provides support to other women that are feeling overwhelmed with both the chaos and repetitiveness of life using a proven system that has helped millions of people around the world.

Janell lives in Fargo, North Dakota with her husband Brian and her 7-year-old daughter Brielle. She has a love for writing, rollerblading, family vacations, excel spreadsheets, and Kenny Chesney concerts. She is thriving with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer while gratefully watching her baby grow up. Her passion and purpose in life is to help others to find the balance and love for life that she always thought was unattainable. [ aw ]

You can learn more about Janell at: janellmeier.com

response by :: jessica hoeper

Dear Mary,

This is a powerful wondering! In my initial wondering/reflecting on this, I first put on my professional hat of human service consultant. I thought about what I would say to human service professionals during my trainings on “the art of having difficult conversations.” In these trainings, I talk about how the difficult conversations are the work; there is no option to having them or not. This is especially true in the field of child welfare, which is where I spend most of my consultation time. The difficult conversations about health and safety are the work, meaning absolutely necessary to engage. Then, we go on to talk about how to get comfortable with the difficult conversations.

But then I thought, I wonder if I would give the same advice if the reader were talking about personal life and not professional life. And here is where I realized that I do not have a manual or training built for this! Our personal lives look a bit different than our professional obligations. Generally, in the professional settings, we are aware of the conversations and we get to facilitate and guide them. In personal life, difficult conversations arise from something difficult! Even thinking about this evokes a new feeling. The vision of those personal and overwhelmingly emotional conversations makes me realize that these often start with “we have to have a talk”.

So, I am sitting with you in the wondering of “how do you know when it is better to have them or to just leave them alone?” I will share my thought process regarding when I feel faced with a choice to have a difficult conversation or not. Generally, I reflect on the purpose I hope to accomplish through the conversation. My gauge is if I decide that I need to have my feelings noticed and heard, but don’t expect to change the other person’s mind, I usually go forth. If I’m hoping to accomplish changing their mind and it is not about honoring my feelings but changing theirs, I usually let it sit a bit.

I consider if I am in a space to respect the others response or lack of response. Is my wellbeing tied up in how they will respond? Or, said another way, can I be okay if they need space and reply, “I can’t talk about this right now”? There are times I feel strong in voice AND solid in honoring their response; these are the times I tend to move into the difficult conversation. Yet, there are other times I do not feel strong in voice and feel an overwhelming need to be right. I try to avoid having difficult conversations in this space, but I truly do not have this perfected. I still can get caught in the emotionality of moving into the difficult conversation, even when I have a sense it may not be productive. These are the times I often find I do not have a high level of willingness to look at my own contribution to what was actually causing things to be “difficult” to begin

I really enjoy your column!

My wondering question is: I wonder when it comes to having difficult conversations, how do you know when it is better to have them OR to just leave them alone?

Thanks, Jess!

Sincerely, Mary B.

with! This is a messy space! I do not have a solid guide for when we should and when we shouldn’t have difficult conversations, but I can say there are some things we can consider, i.e., intention, expectation, contribution, etc. This feels like a wondering worth continuing. Let’s do this with those around us; we can learn together and from each other!

Mary, I sincerely thank you for this deep wondering!

Your friend,Jess

P.S.

You can participate in “Dear Wondering Woman” by emailing in your questions. We can join in honest, real and love-filled conversation around our shared wonderings. Write to me with your “wondering whys.” Let’s collectively as women share this wonder-filled journey of life together!

You can email questions to me at wonderingwhywithjess@outlook.com. I can’t wait to connect! Your “wondering” may be featured in an upcoming issue! [ aw ]

CRUST

INGREDIENTS

1 ¼ cup raw almonds

1 cup dates, pitted 1/8 teaspoon sea salt

FILLING

1 ½ cups raw cashews, soaked and drained

1 cup cranberries

½ cup refined coconut oil, melted

¼ cup lemon juice

¼ cup water

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

¼ teaspoon sea salt

make it

frozen cranberry cream bars (dairy & gluten free)

DID YOU KNOW?

Cranberries are approximately 90% water and one cup to cranberries is about 50 calories.

That’s it. Nutrition / November 2022

These frozen cranberry cream bars will give your holiday pies a slice of competition. Cranberries sometimes get a bad rap, but these bars will forever change that perception. They’re the perfect combination: a creamy filling with a crunchy crust.  These bars are festive, easy to make, and so delicious it’s hard to believe they’re dairy and gluten-free.  They are a healthy dessert upgrade and are sure to be one that your guests will love!

Difficulty: Beginner | Serves: 16

THE HOW TO

Combine crust ingredients in a food processor.  Press crust into a parchment paperlined 8”x 8” baking pan.  Freeze the crust while making the filling.  Combine filling ingredients into a blender and blend until smooth.  Pour on top of crust and allow to harden for two hours.  Cut into 16 bars. [ aw ]

Ana A. Neir

This article was prepared by Ana A. Neir, an associate attorney with the Serkland Law Firm in Fargo.  For more information, call 701-232-8957.

This article should not be considered legal advice and should not be relied upon by any person with respect to his/her specific situation.

CONSIDERATIONS IN LOANING FAMILY MEMBERS MONEY

If you are considering loaning a family member money, you may want to reach out to an attorney to draft a contract or promissory note. The best evidence of a contract is a written contract. Certain types of contracts are required to be in writing (e.g., promises made in connection with marriage, contracts that cannot be completed in one year, contracts for the sale of land, and goods above a certain dollar amount). Both parties need to make promises or give some sort of consideration for a contract to be valid. If you do not have a contract, the loan may be characterized as a gift. Furthermore, there are other practical reasons why you should memorialize the loan in writing, including if the family member receiving the loan gets divorced, dies, or files for bankruptcy.

SECURED OR UNSECURED LOAN?

You may want to include secured collateral in the contract. A loan may be secured (with collateral) or unsecured (no collateral). A common example of this is with providing a mortgage on real property to secure a loan. There are good reasons to secure a loan with a mortgage, especially when the loan is substantial, as that can protect the lending party if the family member gets divorced, dies, or files for bankruptcy. Another common example of securing a loan with collateral is found with vehicles. Each state typically has its

own law on how a secured creditor (i.e.,the party giving the loan) can properly secure its status as a lien holder, but typically the lending party will want to be listed on the title of the vehicle or have possession of the title. You should talk to an attorney to be sure what your state requires. Certain items of collateral (i.e., goods) may need specific filings with the state to properly secure the item as collateral. You may also want to review the secretary of state’s filings before using a good as collateral as there may be other secured parties ahead of you in priority. If the family member does not pay and you have followed the appropriate procedure, you may have certain rights to the collateral.

ADVANCEMENTS ON INHERITANCE OR OUTRIGHT GIFT?

If you are a parent loaning money to a child and the money is not repaid, you may want to consider whether the loan is an advancement on their inheritance or an outright gift. Some jurisdictions treat gifts as an advancement, while other jurisdictions do not presume it is an advancement. You may need to follow specific contemporaneous requirements to have the loan counted as an advancement on the child’s inheritance. Similar principles may apply under a will. The impact of this gift under a will may depend on whether the will lists a gift of money or other property. You should speak with an attorney to address your estate plans and intentions. [ aw ]

Sometimes in this life, things go wrong before they turn out right.

Radio personality Amanda Lea Linder (better known as Amanda Lea) has learned this lesson more than once. She’s such a favorite with Fargo-Moorhead radio listeners that it seems like she was born for this medium. Yet, for most of her life, radio wasn’t even on her radar.

“That’s a really funny story,” says Lea, leading with the self-deprecating laugh that her listeners know so well. “ I actually went to school for dance and theater and I was going to be…I don’t know, some kind of actress-y dance queen.”

She dreamed of going to New York and doing something creative. She thought about fashion design and strategized about how to make a dance career a reality. The details might have been a little hazy, but show business is packed with tales of plucky ingenues who figure it out as they go, so Lea wasn’t worried. She leapt into action as soon as she got her high school diploma from Wadena Deer Creek High School.

“I was born in Denver and my parents divorced when I was three,” she explains. “My mom was originally from Deer Creek, Minnesota, so we moved back here when I was seven. And then the day I graduated, I moved to Denver.”

Lea enrolled at Metropolitan State University of Denver and pursued a degree in communications, thinking she’d go into television. (Her dad, Manuel Serrano, had convinced her that television offered more career longevity than dance.) There was just one little problem.

“I ended up doing all the classes for it,” Lea says, “but I got super stressed out because I couldn’t read a teleprompter. It made me so anxious. I started dry heaving.”

“When you’re trying to get into a business, it’s important to understand all aspects of it. You become a better employee when you understand what everyone else is doing, especially in radio. Absorb everything you can. Be a hard worker and go above and beyond.”

Amanda Lea -

She was so close to graduation and scrambling to find a back-up to her back-up plan. Her advisor asked if she had thought of radio. Demonstrating her signature blend of pluck and charm, Lea emailed her favorite Denver country station and asked if they were hiring.

“About two days later I was an intern,” she says. “And, a couple of weeks into it, the girl who was the morning show producer took a vacation and I got thrown right into the ring of fire.”

Within six months, Lea learned how to produce a radio show and how to schedule commercials and promos in the traffic department. She handled marketing and worked with clients as the national sales coordinator. She hit the streets with the promo team during the day and realized she had great onair chemistry with Jesse, one of the morning show hosts, when she helped out on-air. In just a few months, Lea had learned the ropes in almost every facet of an industry that was brand new to her. Diving in isn’t for the faint of heart, but it worked.

“When you’re trying to get into a business, it’s important to understand all aspects of it,” Lea advises. “You become a better employee when you understand what everyone else is doing, especially in radio. Absorb everything you can. Be a hard worker and go above and beyond.”

It was trial by fire and Lea was learning as she went. She says she wouldn’t have done it any other way.

“I worked a lot of hours,” she admits. “I remember waking up in college at 3:30 in the morning to go to work. You have to have passion. You have to pay your dues. You have to take it and make it your own and show your personality and who you are.”

Lea’s relentless work ethic and approachable personality guided her next steps. When she saw that a country station in Fargo was hiring, she fired off another email and scored an interview. When she got the job at Froggy 99.9, she was the only DJ on the station without a frog-themed name.

“I was kind of the first generation of radio to not come up with a fake name,” she says. “I am who I am.”

She has been living out loud, fully herself, live on the air, ever since. She’s now the co-program director at Big 98.7, as well as the co-host of Jesse and Amanda with Gordo in the Morning every weekday, starting at 5:30 a.m.

Her career came full circle when Jesse joined her in Fargo; she was his intern back in Denver.

“I loved working with Jesse and it’s just been a real evolution of how well we work together,” she says. “He drives me crazy every day. He’s the brother I never wanted, but we have a great working relationship and on a personal level he’s always been there for me.”

When the on-air light turns on, Amanda lights up, too. Her authenticity resonates with her audience. She bounces from news and pop culture analysis to listener call-ins and bantering with her co-hosts with a sense of playfulness that keeps things fresh.

“We genuinely have so much fun every morning. You get there and you just turn on,” she says. “Some days I don’t want to be on. Maybe I had too much wine the night before or maybe I’m up with my kids or I’ve been at the hospital—that was when my mom was sick. But, I still love it and it was very therapeutic for me going through hard times in life on air.”

Lea has faced plenty of hard times. As long-time listeners know, Amanda’s beloved mother, Barb “Big Mama” Wohlwend, battled ovarian cancer. It was a brutal journey, one that her daughter walked with her and processed in real time. The connections Lea forged with her listeners and her social media followers helped her through this and so many other challenging moments.

“Social media has become such a joy for me,” she says. “Some of those people are closer to me and know more about my life than my own family. You know how you impact them and they impact you. That can make your day and turn it around. It’s not always sunsets and butterflies. We all have problems and life is hard. But, people who have followed my journey in Fargo have seen it all— the tears, the nightmares, the divorce.”

One marriage ended and an engagement did, too. Lea stayed by Barb’s side as her illness progressed. They drew strength from each other, savoring as many lakefront sunsets as they could, while they still had time. As Barb’s cancer fight drew to an end, she told her girl to stay strong—the right partner was out there.

“Her final words to me were, ‘I’m going to bring you not only a really cute guy, but a nice guy,” says Lea with tears in her voice. “And you’re never going to have to worry about that ever again.”

Big Mama had a little help from a woman named Angie Welle, who approached Lea at a fashion show when Lea was reeling from the one-two punch of her mother’s death and a particularly bad break-up. A somewhat sheepish Welle told Lea that her best friend from Iowa State, a kind,

lake-loving insurance guy named Nick Linder, would be perfect for her.

But, (plot twist!) Lea had just started dating someone that very day. She put it out of her mind until Welle messaged her again a few months later because she just couldn’t shake the feeling that these two needed to meet. This time, a newly single Lea agreed. In true Amanda Lea style, the first spark was virtual. Her connection with Nick lit up like a bonfire.

“He messaged me and the rest is history,” she says. “He and I went on our first date August 18, 2017 and we got married August 18, 2018. I found out I was pregnant two weeks before our wedding. Here we are four years later. We have two kids and a dog and we’re done. It’s the American dream. It’s amazingly chaotic every day, but it’s everything we both wanted.”

"We have two kids and a dog and we’re done. It’s the American dream. It’s amazingly chaotic every day. But it’s everything we both wanted.”

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Their daughter, Sidney, arrived in early 2019. Little brother Briggs joined her September 2020, born into the crucible of the pandemic. The couple built a house in West Fargo that overlooks a pond so Lea can watch the sunset over the water even when there’s no time to get to the lake.

That’s a smart move, because Lea is awfully busy. Her day starts well before most of the city is awake.

“My alarm clock goes off at 3:30 and I hit snooze until at least 4.15,” she laughs. “My husband hates it! I get to the station at about 4:45 and we do our morning show until 10 a.m.”

After that, she’s either recording commercials, planning for future shows, broadcasting on location, or sitting in meetings with customers

and nonprofit organizations. Lea also heads up Christmas Wish, which helps bring a little joy to people experiencing job loss, illness, or other financial difficulties during the holiday season. She’s a radio DJ, but she’s also a voiceover artist, a marketing guru, a spokesperson, a social media influencer, and an advisor.

“Then it’s a workout and hopefully a little bit of a nap before I grab the kids from daycare and then we do our routine as a family,” she says, rattling off a schedule many of her listeners will find familiar. “Dinner, park, and hopefully in bed by 7 or 8 o’clock.”

It’s a lot to juggle. But Lea is used to it.

“I don’t get a lot of sleep, but in radio I never really did,” she says. “My career has kind of evolved with my lifestyle. Before, we’d party until midnight and wake up, go to work. Now I need to do Happy Hour at three because I need to be home at five. I’m my station’s demographic. People are on the exact same page as I am.”

That recognition is part of the reason Lea’s listeners and followers love her, but it goes deeper than that.

“I think you have to be genuine and you have to be real,” she says. “Everybody’s talking about politics and I’m talking about my kid pooping in the bathtub! “I try to bring people into a little bit of my reality and remind people that kids are joy. Family and these 'down home things' are where our attention should be focused.”

Listeners and followers have shared every big moment in Amanda Lea Linder’s life over the last 13 years, both good and bad. She has absolutely zero regrets about being raw and authentic, even when it hurts. When new listeners discover her on-air or stumble upon her social media feeds, they sometimes think her life looks effortless: the sweet husband, the new house, the cute kids, and the dog. But, she reminds them that pictures only tell part of the story. Being genuine fills in the gaps.

“I wish you knew that it took a lot to get here,” she says. “I try my best to be as friendly and real as possible on-air, in public and on social media, but nobody’s life is perfect. We all have our stuff. I went through one marriage, I went through a divorce, I went through the death of my mom, and a very awful breakup. I met the man of my dreams, I did my gender reveal, my kids started their lives on the morning show because I was able to bring them into work. I had no choice but to be real.”

Life doesn’t always go exactly as planned. Balancing a family, a career and true love is beautiful, challenging and often exhausting. Amanda Lea Linder chooses to find the beauty in the most ordinary scenes – a glass of wine, time with friends, splashing in the lake with her husband and kids. She’s learned never to take any of it for granted.

“I’m the queen of trying to capture moments,” she says. “People give me a hard time, saying ‘You’re going to post another picture?’! But there’s a reason. Having lost my mom, all I have left are the videos and the pictures. I promised her I would always live her legacy. And, if something were to happen to me tomorrow, my kids would be able to look back on our lives. I just want them to laugh, have fun, and live their best life. I learned that from my mom.” [ aw ]

"I try to bring people into a little bit of my reality and remind people that kids are joy. Family and these 'down home things' are where our attention should be focused."

Amanda Lea -

NOV 25 / DEC 17

AN ACT OF GOD, THEATRE B

Fargo-Moorhead Symphony Orchestra

Playing Favorites: Brahms & Beethoven featuring Pianist Alon Goldstein

Brahms Piano Concerto #2

Beethoven Symphonic Mashup

Saturday November 5 – Sunday November

6 NDSU Festival Concert Hall

Don't miss world renowned pianist Alon Goldstein's performance of one of the most monumental piano concertos ever imagined: Brahm's Piano Concerto No. 2!

The orchestra will then perform a symphonic mashup of movements from Beethoven's audience-favorites: Symphony No. 1,3,5,6, & 7.

Arranged by our very own Music Director & Conductor Christopher Zimmerman, you will not to miss this performance of favorites strung together into one piece—unique to the FMSO!

TIME: 7:00 - 11:00 AM

LOCATION: Moorhead Masonic Center, 1815 11th St N Moorhead

CONTACT: www.fmsymphony.org

DEC 1

BUSINESS AFTER HOURS

TIME: 4:00 - 6:30 PM

LOCATION: Delta by Marriott, 1635 42nd Street SW, Fargo, ND 58103

DEC 3,10,17

PANCAKE BREAKFAST

The Masonic Building is having their pancake breakfast from 7-11 am. Cost is $10 for all you can eat buttermilk and Swedish pancakes, sausage, and eggs. Moorhead Masonic Family Center, 1815 11th St N Moorhead.

TIME: 7:00 - 11:00 AM

LOCATION: Moorhead Masonic Center, 1815 11th St N Moorhead

CONTACT: 701-238-3173

DEC 6 / JAN 10

EGGS AND ISSUES

December 6: Innovation in Education: Building Tomorrow’s Workforce

January 10: Fighting Stigma: Mental and Behavioral Heath Crisis

TIME: 8:00 – 9:30 AM

LOCATION: Courtyard by Marriott, 1080 28th Avenue South, Moorhead, MN

DEC 9

XENA'S MUSIC VIDEO RELEASE PARTY

The music video premier of local artist XENA will consist of live performances, a talk back with the producers, and the showing of her music video "Voodoo." The video was filmed at Bonanzaville in West Fargo and features local performers with a special feature of Zero Gravity Fargo. This event is by invitation only, however, news and media may inquire about event passes. TIME: 7:00 PM

LOCATION: Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave N, Fargo, ND 58102

CONTACT: Zeapoe Matalda at zeapoe.matalda@arts. cornish.edu28th Avenue South, Moorhead, MN

DEC 13

WOMEN CONNECT JINGLE MINGLE

TIME: 3:30 - 5:00 PM

LOCATION: 2525 9th Ave S, Fargo, ND 58103

JAN 19

STATE OF THE CITIES 2023

TIME: 8:00 AM – 9:30 AM

LOCATION: Delta by Marriott, 1635 42nd Street SW, Fargo, ND 58103

DEC 10,11

HOPE IN EVERY HEART

First Lutheran Church presents "Hope in Every Heart" Holiday Pops Concert featuring the Fargo-Moorhead Symphony Orchestra.

Tickets are sold through First Lutheran Church only – tickets cannot be purchased through the Fargo-Moorhead Symphony.

Join us this holiday season to hear the Fargo-Moorhead Symphony Orchestra, under the baton of Jane Linde Capistran, in the 600-seat Worship and Performing Arts Center at First Lutheran Church on Broadway in downtown Fargo. This all-ages concert features holiday pops favorites and featured soloist including Ronnie Allen. All seating is General Admission. Doors open 30 minutes before the concert.

Come early to grab a hot cider, espresso beverage, and treats, then settle in to enjoy holiday classics!

TIME: December 10, 7:00 - 8:30 PM

December 11, 3:00 - 4:30 PM

LOCATION: First Lutheran Church

619 Broadway North Fargo, ND 58102

CONTACT: fmsymphony.org

DEC 17 / JAN

FARGO MASONIC VENDOR & CRAFT SHOW

TIME: 11:00 AM – 3:00 PM

LOCATION: Fargo Masonic Center

1405 3rd St N, Fargo

CONTACT: 701-235-7875, www.fargomasoniccenter.org

DEC 17

FARGO AIR MUSEUM SANTA FLY-IN

No pre-registration required. Normal admission applies. FREE for Museum Members. watch Santa fly into Fargo in a helicopter! Get your photo with him to remember the occasion

TIME: Doors open at 9:30am. We anticipate Santa will fly in around 10am, however, we cannot account for flight delays.

LOCATION: Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave N

Fargo Public Library events are free and open to the public. A complete schedule of upcoming events is available at all Fargo Public Library locations and on our website at www.fargolibrary.org

DEC. 1, 8, 15, 22, & 29

Beginner Yoga for Adults - A class for those who have never tried yoga before or for those who want a refresher course in the basics. Gentle stretching and breathing exercises are taught. Wear clothes to move in. No registration is required.

3-6 PM - Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S. Phone: 701.476.5980

DEC. 1 & JAN. 1

Sense of Place Book Club - Sense of Place Book Club is open to all interested readers. It focuses on novels and memoirs that provide a strong sense of place or community. It meets on the 1st Thursday of each month at the downtown Main Library at 11 a.m.

3-11 AM - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701.241.1492

• DEC. 5 & DEC. 12

Crafternoons for Kids - Kids can drop in to make a craft at the Dr. James Carlson Library.

3 - 4:30 PM - Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S. Phone: 701.476.5980

• DEC. 6 & DEC. 13

Crafternoons for Kids - Kids and families can drop in to make a craft at the Northport Library

3 - 4:30 PM - Northport Library

2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, ND 58102 Phone: 701.241.1495

• DEC. 6, 13, 20, & 27

Chess Club - All ages are welcome to play chess or learn to play chess at this weekly event. No registration is required.

5:30-8 PM - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701.241.1492

• DEC. 6, DEC. 20, JAN. 3 & JAN. 17

Baby Rhyme Time at Main - Babies (ages birth to 18 months) and their caregivers are invited to join us each month for lapsit storytimes featuring stories, fingerplays, songs, rhythms, and rhymes.

6:30 PM - - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701.241.1495

• DEC. 7, 14, 21, & 28

Tech Help - Get help with using your technology (phones, laptops, tablets, eReaders, etc.) and help to access eAudiobooks, and eBooks at the library's weekly Tech Help sessions. Drop-ins welcome.

3-5 PM - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701.241.1492

• DEC. 8 & JAN. 12

Diverse Perspectives Book Club - This book club meets on the 2nd Thursday of the month at the downtown Main Library. All interested readers welcome.

7 PM - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701.241.1492

CONTACT: fargoairmuseum.org/calendar/santa-fly-in/12-1

• DEC. 9

Free Friday Movie - Free Friday Movies are the 2nd Friday of each month at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Free popcorn is served. 1 p.m.

1 PM - Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S. Phone: 701.476.5980

• DEC. 19

Casual Crafters - Drop in crafting session held on the 3rd Monday of the month at the Northport Library. All interested crafters welcome. No registration is required. Bring a craft to work on, or we will have some basic crafts to work on as well.

5 PM - Northport Library, 2714 N. Broadway Phone: 701-476-4026

• DEC. 29 & JAN. 31

History Book Club - Centers on recent historical events and the people, places, and actions that caused the. All interested readers welcome.

7 PM - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701.241.1492

• DEC. 30

LEGO Design Contest for Kids - Kids 12 and younger are invited to design and build a LEGO masterpiece for our LEGO Design Contest. Pre-registration is required. Call to Registor

2 PM - Main Library, 101 4th St. N. Phone: 701-241-1495

WRITTEN BY: KELSEY ROSETH PHOTOGRAPHY BY: DAVE ARNTSON

Minnesota State University Moorhead launches a new master’s degree in athletic training, developed by three distinguished women with decades of experience.

Women Ignite Powerful Change.

That’s why, when three women at Minnesota State University Moorhead (MSUM) joined forces to overhaul the university’s athletic training program, it evolved into an exciting new opportunity for students.

Licensed Athletic Trainers (LAT) Andrea Scott, M.S. and Ronda Peterson, M.S. are Certified Athletic Trainers (ATC) providing medical care, including evaluation, treatment, and rehabilitation, to student-athletes participating in Dragon Athletics. Dawn Hammerschmidt, Ph.D., LAT, ATC is a professor in the Health and Human Performance Department at MSUM.

These three women have a close-knit, collaborative approach to athletic training, both from an academic and athletic front. They’re proud to sport more than 100 years of athletic training experience combined – with nearly all of it taking place together, at MSUM. This impressive depth of expertise in their field, combined with their access to Dragon Athletics, is unique to a Northern Sun Intercollegiate Conference (NSIC) Division II level organization – and this brings substantial benefits to students.

MSUM is proud of its robust history, educating exceptionally prepared alumni to serve as athletic trainers across the country. Over the course of Scott, Peterson, and Hammerschmidt’s tenures, thousands of students have received their instruction, training, and support from them as well as other distinguished professionals such as Athletic Director Chad Markuson and Assistant Athletic Trainer Keith Wiedrich.

MSUM Launches New Master of Science in Athletic Training

Starting next summer, students can embark on a new Master of Science in Athletic Training degree at the university. The degree is part of a five-year program in which participants earn both an undergraduate degree in exercise science and a graduate degree in athletic training.

This program was designed to ensure students accomplish the preferred entry-level requirement of the National Athletic Trainers’ Association.

“The M.S. in athletic training program has a collaborative, interdisciplinary curriculum with courses in athletic training, healthcare administration and nursing. Students will tailor their clinical experiences to align with their career goals,” says Hammerschmidt.

The professionals believe that one of the greatest strengths of this new program is the rare collaboration between academics and athletics. “We can rely on MSUM Athletics as being a phenomenal clinical site for our students to get that experiential learning,” Hammerschmidt says.

MSUM has established partnerships with local high schools and clubs, healthcare systems, and other community partners to ensure students have access to a diverse range of clinical opportunities. “MSUM athletic training has always prided ourselves on giving students hands-on experience right away, as soon as they are able to do it,” says Scott.

to Transform MSUM's Athletic Training Program

With this, the university has a distinctive faculty-to-staff-to-student relationship. With close to 5,000 students, MSUM is large enough to provide varied experiences but small enough for students to stand out and ensure they receive exactly what they need from their education to prepare them for the workforce.

Establishing the Foundation for a Rewarding Career

Peterson appreciates how her work allows her to participate in competition and focus on healthy living. “There is nothing like the energy you receive on game day,” she says. “That’s when the students’ hard work is recognized, especially as they support athletes in overcoming injuries.”

According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, the employment of athletic trainers is projected to grow 17 percent from 2021 to 2031, faster than the average for all occupations. This means graduates enter a robust job market which boasts a median annual salary of $48,420. With a nearly 50-50 ratio of men to women in the field, the women are proud to confirm that it’s a welcoming space for female professionals.

The desire to explore solutions to challenging situations is critical to the success of athletic trainers. “A key trait of athletic trainers is, when there is a problem, we figure it out,” says Scott.

From there, the opportunities are abundant. “Athletic trainers work in many areas in addition to the traditional collegiate, professional and high school settings, such as military, industrial, clinical, and performing arts settings,” Peterson says.

Athletic training is a dynamic, demanding career that leads many professionals to become invigorated, inspired, and enthusiastic about their work. [ aw ]

To learn more about the M.S. in Athletic Training program, visit www.mnstate.edu/graduate/athletic-training.

These professionals are proud to say they are living the dream!

words from :: megan elgin

It’s the most wonderful … and sometimes chaotic … time of the year! Finding a few moments to escape into a book might be just what you need to get back into the holiday spirit. Below are some of my favorite holiday reads to do just that, and bonus: they make great gifts too!

Duke, Actually Jenny Holiday

For those who love watching Hallmark’s holiday movies and “Love, Actually”, this fun, contemporary novel adds some depth to the usual holiday romance genre. Dani has sworn off all men with her list of “Things I Will Never Again Do for a Man.” Maximilian von Hansburg, the future Duke of Aquilla, must marry a suitable bride before inheriting a title that feels like a prison sentence. All Dani and Max want is friendship and a distraction from their messy lives. Of course, as they become closer, friendship deepens to attraction and they must find the courage to live life as they desire, even if it means risking everything.

Area Woman’s resident Bookista, Megan Elgin, serves up books worthy of spending your entire afternoon with. Search for Megan by name on Goodreads or @meganann on Litsy and find out what she’s reading now.

Read one of these books? Searching for something new to read? Tell us what you thought by using #areawomanbooks in your online review or send me an email with requests and questions at bookishmeganann@gmail.com.

I especially loved how Dani and Max challenge and support one another. They champion each other’s dreams, help find ways to make those dreams reality, and Dani is quick to defend Max from his completely awful father. Peppered with some fun pop culture references — including a “Dirty Dancing” lift scene — and a few quietly sweet holiday moments, along with fully fleshed out characters, this novel had me captivated.

Gift this to anyone who loves a good rom-com.

This is technically the second novel in a series, however, it works quite well as a standalone. If you want to start from the beginning, book one is “A Princess for Christmas” and book three, released this year, is “So This is Christmas.”

The Snow

Child

Eowen Ivey

If you’re looking for a winter story with a touch of magic, this is one of my favorites. Set on an Alaskan homestead in the 1920s, Jack and Mabel are trying to forge a new life out of the wilderness. As the couple struggles to cope, they grow further apart under the back-breaking, lonely, and brutal life they’ve chosen. One night during the first snowfall of the season, Mabel suggests they build a child out of the snow. The next morning, the snow child is gone and a young girl is spotted running through the trees with a red fox by her side. The little girl, called Faina, seems to survive on her own in the harsh Alaskan wilderness. As they work to understand her, Jack and Mabel begin to love Faina as their own daughter.

One thing I loved about this novel was the way Jack and Mabel begin to cherish themselves and each other again through the novel as they also grow more fond of Faina. The story is about their path to healing from past trauma as much as it is about the mysterious Faina. The descriptions of the harsh but beautiful Alaskan wilderness they navigate puts you in a wintery frame of mind. Be sure to have a warm drink and plenty of cozy blankets nearby as you read.

This would make a great gift for adults who enjoy magical realism or the winter season and love to read literary fiction.

LOVED THIS?

I recommend Ivey’s later novel “To the Bright Edge of the World,” also set in the Alaskan wilderness following a group of explorers on their quest to be the first to navigate the Wolverine River. This book is perfect for readers looking for a winter adventure.

10 Blind Dates

Ashley Elston

Fans of “Dash and Lily’s Book of Dares” will love this young adult novel. When her parents decide to spend Christmas away with her very pregnant older sister, Sophie finally gets the freedom she’s been wanting. But her plan to surprise her boyfriend with some alone time goes awry, leaving Sophie devastated. She flees to her grandparents’ house where the rest of her extended family is gathered for the season. In an effort to help the heartbroken Sophie, her grandmother comes up with a brilliant plan: set her up on 10 different blind dates chosen by different family members over the next 10 days. What could go wrong? As Sophie goes on each blind date, she realizes she might actually have feelings for someone else.

Can you imagine your extended family members — aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents — setting you up on blind dates? Some of them are hilariously horrible while some of them are sweet. And the relationship between Sophie and her family is a whole lot of fun. In the end, I really enjoyed the way Sophie realized who she was, what she really wanted, and how her family stood by her through it all.

A perfect gift for the teen reader on your list who loves a sweet story with a happy ending. Many adults will enjoy this for the same reasons.

A Boy Called Christmas Matt Haig

If the kids on your list love the movie “Elf”, this is a fun Christmas themed book to delight their sense of humor with a new version of how Father Christmas came to be. It follows the adventure of an 11-year-old boy called Nikolas as he searches for his father on a quest to the far northern land of the elves along with the help of his pet mouse, Miika. Written for middle grade age children (ages 8-12), this book teaches you about love, friendship, good and bad, all while keeping the tone light and sincere. It’s about the power of believing in yourself and believing in magic — as many great Christmas stories are. The best part is that you will have just as much fun reading this with your kids and laughing over the antics and illustrations.

The first in a series, pick this up for your elementary school age children to read in the weeks leading up to Christmas. Netflix also released a movie adaptation of the same title last year, perfect to watch after finishing the book.

LOVED THIS?

Continue reading the rest of the series with book two “The Girl Who Saved Christmas,” book three “Father Christmas and Me,” and extras “A Mouse Called Miika” and “The Truth Pixie.” [ aw ]

Do you realize that God is literally present with you? Think about where you are right now. Maybe it’s just you in the room, or maybe your son is playing with trucks on the floor, or your spouse is making dinner.

But God is there with you. And He isn’t just present, He is also actively orchestrating your movements and your daily activities, whether that’s going to the grocery store, taking care of your kids, or driving to work. Isn’t that sobering?

He continues to form your identity as He did at the beginning of time (Psalm 139:13–16). Every

day is a step toward fulfilling God’s plan for you (Jeremiah 29:11).

God is actively moving in your life, and the classic worship song “Waymaker” reveals that in a beautiful way. According to Fresh Sheet Music, this song was originally recorded by Nigerian artist Sinach and covered by artists like Michael W. Smith.

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Every day is a step toward fulfilling God’s plan for you

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(Jeremiah 29:11)

Article by Maggie Noble

You are here

Moving in our midst

I worship You

I worship You

You are here Working in this place I worship You I worship You

So, look around. Think about what’s on your mind, what might be causing you anxiety. God is “moving in [your] midst” right now.

He’s “working in this place,” in the situation you’re struggling with—fatigue, depression, relationship tension, financial troubles, or something else. He inhabits every area of your heart … and each room in your home.

His presence is beside you even as you read this. God loves you, and He always wants to spend time with you. Take this time to acknowledge His presence. [ aw ]

Want to learn more about this song?

You can discover more and stream uplifting music live on Life 97.9’s website.

The lyrics provide a powerful image of God’s presence:

“Waymaker”

Michael W. Smith

CREATING A CALM AND PURPOSEFUL ENVIRONMENT

for dogs to thrive.

Camp K9’s Silesia Cabak, along with her mother and co-owner Colleen Tuhy, have certainly been on the rise since opening their grooming, boarding, and training facility in Fargo in 2019. Recently nominated as one of the best groomers in the Red River Valley, this mother-and-daughter duo is here to set the tone for the future of grooming in the Fargo-Moorhead area.

Colleen served as a groomer for many years for the Casselton Vet Clinic and owned Scales & Tails in Casselton before relocating to Fargo under the name Tails. She was soon operating out of her home. With some 140 clients in tow, Colleen found a space suitable for their needs and quickly began setting up shop as Camp K9 in 2019. Soon after, Silesia left her full-time job to join her mother, quickly becoming the face of Camp K9: “Before I left my full-time job, I would come by before and after work to help out at the front desk. Colleen commented, “Finally, it got to the point where I realized that I can’t run the front desk and do grooming.”

dogs and grooming, Colleen said, and was wholly prepared to assume her role as not only the public representation of Camp K9, but as their primary dog trainer. Silesia became certified as a dog trainer in 2020 and

This was a critical turning point in the business and in their growth as a mother-daughter team, according to Silesia. Many small business owners related to the challenges associated with business growth and change and for Selesia, the transition from full-time organizational work to self-employment was not easy. As she stated, “I quit my job and that was terrifying. I hated going from a for-sure paycheck to thinking “will I get paid?” Nonetheless, Silesia was practically raised around

has brought these skills to their Fargo-Moorhead shop as they offer safe and monitored environments for dogs (under 35 lbs.) to be purposefully socialized and trained. She continues to be excited about training dogs, but also teaching people dog behavior and psychology; understanding why dogs are the way they are is a key component.

But, there's more to owning a grooming and boarding business than just loving dogs, both Colleen and Silesia lamented. “When in business, you are constantly learning,” Silesia states, and in grooming, you not only have to have a strong sense of connection with animals, but skills to build relationships with customers, logistically run your business, and communicate the needs of animals to their owners: “You have to not only love animals, but you have to understand animal behavior, human behavior,” Colleen states. Silesia adds, grooming is “90% caring for dogs’ needs, 10% patting their heads.” Looking towards the future of grooming and boarding in Fargo-Moorhead, Silesia hopes for community, not just competition. Silesia recommends young women interested in the business to attend seminars, observe other groomers, and to be motivated by other thriving female professionals in the industry.

“It is exciting to be a woman and a business owner, and Silesia was raised to be an independent leader,” Colleen stated. Likewise, Silesia attributes Colleen as being her role model in this process: “If it were not for her, I would not be where I am today.” Together, this powerful team run a successful and thriving business. [ aw ]

For information about boarding, training, or grooming, contact Silesia or Colleen at Camp K9 Campk-9.net or 701.478.2267

1617 32nd Ave. S. Unit D, Fargo, ND

“You have to not only love animals, but you have to understand animal behavior, human behavior.”

Colleen Tuhy

“I am always excited to help people learn and to train them about why dogs are the way they are.”

Silesia Cabak