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DENISE

Denise wrote our cover story, page 66

Denise loves words. She’s an award-winning writer who lives in Fargo with her handsome husband, Charles. She is an avid journaler, passionate speaker and competitive Taboo player.

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Livin’ the dream as mom of four and wife to a smarty pants teacher.   She can’t live without self-deprecating humor and coffee!  Fortunately, her day job is her dream job on the radio.  BOB 95 with Chris, John and Cori in the morning.

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LINDSAY TRUAX

Lindsay is the editor of the website Pink and Navy Stripes, a lifestyle and fashion blog. She loves to help others take the latest fashion trends and make them wearable. Lindsay and her husband have two little girls.

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SIRI FREEH

Siri is a former Miss Minnesota, media personality, and current RN health coach at Sanford Health. She focuses on helping people living their best life possible and enjoys gourmet cooking, hot yoga, and the occasional (vegan) burger.

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MEGAN DICKERSON

Megan is a NICU registered nurse with a passion for food, fitness & furry friends. She is a graduate of Concordia College and enjoys exploring the FM area with her fiancé and family.

Wasifa is a dentistry graduate, full time blogger and makeup artist. She blogs and makes videos about beauty, makeup, fashion and lifestyle on her blog sifascorner.com

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ASHLEY SORNSIN

Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. To work with Ashley for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her at ashleysornsin@gmail.com or eatlivebebuff.com.

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Alicia is the creator of prairiestylefile.com, a website that explores the arts, culture, shopping, events and fashion of Fargo-Moorhead and the upper Midwest. She frequently travels across the region in search of what's beautiful and what's next.

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meet your area home EXPERTS

Meet our area’s dedicated and talented professionals who can help you with your next home project, from building to remodeling.

We at Signature Landscapes separate ourselves from other companies with three main points: An innovative design team — designing your landscape to be unique to your home and lifestyle; Exceptional service with professional and clean crews trying to change the reputation of landscapers; Industry leading 10-year warranty on all your hardscapes.

Signature Landscapes

We embrace each client's individuality when designing and selecting products for their project. Our retail showroom offers a full line of floor and window covering products — hardwood, ceramic tile, luxury vinyl and carpeting, along with window blinds and custom draperies. At Design Direction, it's about your style, not ours.

Sylvia Lunski owner design direction

I’ve spent 27 years at Fargo Linoleum helping our clients choose products with the right texture, color and durability for their project, whatever their budget might be. I work hard to personalize your flooring experience so your project is everything you want it to be.

Jana Bye president / co-owner fargo linoleum

From the very beginning of a project to its completion, I help customers with the decision-making process and keep the project on track. I strive to stay up-to-date on the latest in cabinetry design. You can be assured that you are getting the best for your project.

Michaela Fischer design and sales showplace cabinetry design center

We specialize in making the homebuilding journey the most enjoyable and stress-free experience. We pride ourselves in building the most livable home for our clients while working with our passionate, genuine and energetic team to create a homebuilding experience like no other. Being the area’s only woman-centric homebuilder, we focus on grand entertaining, relaxation, flexible living and plenty of storage for your family’s lifestyle.

Tyrone Leslie owner | heritage homes

I seriously love my job. I’m here to realize my clients’ needs, while establishing a relationship that satisfies and enriches our lives on an ongoing basis. My passion and integrity carry through, as I expertly guide them through all facets of the transaction.

Susie Nickell realtor | town and country realty

I like to ask questions to see what the client’s vision is for their home project. I take time to listen to their wishes to make it a reality. It is very important to me that customers get the best value with the flooring they are selecting for their home.

Brenda Helland flooring consultant carpet world

I’m part cheerleader, part motivational coach. I encourage my clients to be brave and question conventional thinking. The goal is to achieve a truly personal space that's perfect for how they live. It isn't about recreating a space they saw in a magazine.

Linda Birmingham co-owner | designing women 2

From concept to completion, the Platinum Homes process is customer focused. We build homes with the finest quality materials and craftsmanship, with careful attention to every detail. We are here to answer design and planning questions. We will guide you through the process so you have the right fit and function for your new home.

Matt Orner owner platinum homes

My goal: assisting customers in finding light fixtures that will make their home uniquely theirs. I do everything from preconstruction lighting layouts, to selections for the whole house, or one or two fixtures for a small remodel or update project. I am here to make your dream projects “brighter.”

Kathy Klug assistant manager Valley lights

Do you have an annual home maintenance checklist? Are garage doors part of that list?

If not, consider this: The garage door is the largest moving object in your home. Annual maintenance not only extends the life of your door but gives you the peace of mind that it will run safely too.

Matt Warren manager twin city garage door

PRACTICAL AND pretty:

PLATINUM HOMES BLeNDS FOrM aND FUNCTION

words by ALICIA UNDERLEE NELSON photography by BRENT HAMMOND

he house in Moorhead’s Horizon Shores neighborhood somehow looks both striking and subdued when you approach it from the front. The beige and brown color scheme is soothing, but the tall front façade offers a classic look and a little drama. And when you view the home from its gracious backyard you see that the house is larger than it first appears. Clearly, there are surprises in store inside as well.

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the lower level. The interior continues the calming color palette of beige, taupe and a grounding, earthy brown. This neutral color scheme is set off by crisp white trim, which has become a bit of a Platinum Homes signature.

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“We’re big into the white trim package,” says Platinum Homes president and co-owner Matt Orner. “We tried it on one house about seven years ago and it just took off. Everybody likes the white. It’s a clean look.”

Starting with a neutral base ties the entire space together so homeowners can either enjoy the completed look as is, or add their own flare with accent colors, art and eye-catching décor. The homeowners in the Horizon Shores house elected to keep the interior of their home neutral, for a pretty and practical look. Many Platinum Homes share this aesthetic.

Although the company builds several styles of homes, they’re always customized to what the customer wants. The most popular are all two-story homes, including the Bloomington

The four-bedroom house, constructed in 2016 by Platinum Homes of West Fargo, draws you in with 2,500 square feet of living space on the main and upper levels and another

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(the same model as the Horizon Shores home in Moorhead), the Calloway (which offers similar square footage to the Bloomington floor plan) and the Madison, which combines elegance and practicality in a slightly more modest footprint.

From the moment that the future homebuilders sit down with Platinum Homes sales consultant Hollie Kietzer, the conversation centers on their lifestyle, their routines and what they want from a home and a neighborhood. Every decision — from where to build to which finishes to choose, is centered on customer preferences.

“We can move walls, we can move cosmetics counters to closets, replace a soaker tub and go with a tiled walk in shower,” explains Kietzer. “Usually people are just tweaking them slightly.” In fact, many of the most successful and popular architectural and design elements in Platinum Homes are drawn from real life and suggested by previous customers.

“I’ve never been one to categorize my houses,” explains Orner, who serves as Platinum Homes’ inhouse architectural drafter in addition to his leadership roles. “I guess I just build what people want. I pretty much design it as if I want to live in it.”

In fact, Orner does live in one of his homes. And many of the touches in the Horizon Shores house — including the square shape of the kitchen island and the built-in lockers and mail center in the mudroom — come directly from homeowners.

“A lot of my past customers come up with a lot of neat house ideas,” he says. And he adds that they get a kick out of seeing their ideas brought to life in a new home. “They come back to a parade home and see it in a model house.”

The Moorhead home features lots of practical built-in storage, including the aforementioned floor-to-ceiling lockers and bench element that are tucked into a mudroom off of the garage along with a

handy mail and message center. Both built-ins are custom made in maple, one of Orner’s go-to materials. If a customer doesn’t have a preference, Orner and his crew, led by Platinum Homes vice-president and co-owner Ben Orner, usually recommend maple or rustic alder to add a warm, natural texture to the neutral color scheme. The combination of these two built-in elements streamlines residents’ “coming home” routine and keeps clutter to a minimum.

“When you walk in from your garage, you get to throw everything down on the message center and put your coat in the locker which, in my opinion, is much better than a closet,” says Orner. In fact, he liked the concept so much he ripped the closet out of his own house and installed a locker set-up instead.

The generous built-in cabinets in the living room also aim to make storage stylish. “You always have things in your living room that you want to hide, and these make that possible,” Orner says.

Instead of minimizing the need for smart storage solutions, the designers and Platinum Homes capitalize on it, providing a much needed place to stash the books, games, toys, remote controls and dozens of other items that make a cozy room like this function, while keeping clutter tucked out of sight. And the tops of the built-ins’ shelving units are wide enough to double as tables and display spaces, offering the perfect place to highlight a carefully curated collection or a striking piece of art.

The built-ins in this comfortable living room hug the lower part of the walls, allowing the cultured stone fireplace and its elegant maple mantle to remain the centerpiece of the room. Since the other design elements are placed lower on the walls, there’s plenty of room for the generous windows that flood the room with light.

All that natural light in the living and adjacent dining room contribute to the open, welcoming feeling of the home and invite the sights of the residential neighborhood in, while still allowing privacy. The window placement in the dining room maximizes the benefits of lingering natural light in the evenings while still keeping the family’s dinner out of view of passersby. And the flexible layout allows the homeowners plenty of options for configuring furniture as their needs change.

dining room contribute to the open, welcoming the evenings while still keeping the family’s dinner

The kitchen offers similarly generous cabinet space and really gives the beauty of the wood a chance to take center stage. “They’re custom built cabinets so it also takes time for the construction people to build,” says Kietzer. She always sends customers to choose their cabinets first, both because they’re time consuming and because the wood customers choose sets the tone for the rest of the room.

Here the maple floor feels warm and inviting. Its color and texture are echoed in the cabinets and the back of the high top chairs along the snack bar. Unassuming pendant lights and recessed lighting illuminate the space without competing for focus. Smooth countertops gleam. A textured glass and maple door to the walk-in pantry and perfectly symmetrical gray subway tiles on the backsplash quietly add visual interest while contributing to the harmonious whole.

The architectural flourishes throughout the home are similarly subtle and well planned. They’re all designed to compliment the flow of the space while adding visual interest and a touch of luxury at an affordable price.

“The tray ceiling in the master gives a little more volume in your bedroom,” says Orner. “I’ve always liked the look. It’s a very cost effective way of making things look a little different.” It also makes the master bedroom feel spacious and adds a touch of luxury to the room without breaking the budget.

Design elements in the bathrooms look similarly luxe, but boast a surprisingly affordable price tag. Orner likes adding archways to a bathroom for architectural interest and to set off a great bathtub

I’ve never been one to categorize my houses. I guess I just build what people want. I pretty much

design it as if I want to live in it.

— MATT ORNER, Platinum Homes president and co-owner

or shower nook. (The Moorhead home boasts a soaker tub perfect for a relaxing evening in.) An archway also adds a touch of old world elegance into a newly constructed home and introduces a few much-needed curves as a counterpoint to a modern home’s plethora of crisp right angles. This is a simple add-on that really increases a home’s visual appeal for an affordable price.

The richly textured countertops in the bathroom and in the message center use a similar sleight of hand. What at first glance looks like a stunning coffee and cream granite countertop is revealed to be high-definition laminate, a material that Orner says is evolving into a versatile product. “They’re really durable and it doesn’t scratch the easiest,” he says. “And nowadays they’re making it to look just like granite.”

The Horizon Shores home in Moorhead is proof that a home doesn’t need to jump through design hoops to be architecturally interesting. And it doesn’t need to reinvent the wheel to create a soothing, welcoming space to change and grow with the homeowners who call it home. The staff at Platinum Homes takes the lessons learned from living in a space, and evolving with it over the years, and weaves them into their new creations, creating a newly constructed house that offers all the practical conveniences and comforts of home.

TAKE IT outside.

Longing for the warmth of relaxing in your outdoor gathering space? Just planning and anticipating the warm months can get us through the last few weeks of cold.

It’s a fact, despite our unpredictable weather, that most of us love to breathe the fresh air and relax on our deck or patio. We want to share some ideas for you to think about that will aid in creating an outdoor space that is just as comfortable as your living spaces indoors. Spring is technically here. You’ll want to start the process — now!

First, if you have a choice in where your deck or patio will be placed, consider two elements: the greatest protection from the wind and protection from direct sun. If you haven’t got a choice, consider a pergola. A pergola is an extension of a building, serving as protection for an open terrace or patio. Vertical posts or pillars that usually support crossbeams can shield you from that south and west sun exposure. Although a pergola adds to the cost, it will define the space and will serve as a striking visual addition to your outdoor space.

I love the idea of fabric awnings, as well. There’s a contempory feel to sail awnings and the fabric can be chosen to compliment the fabric on the cushions of your furniture.

You’ll want to choose furniture that will withstand our fervent winds and rain. Furniture can be one of the most expensive elements you’ll purchase and going cheap is not what you should be tempted to do. Make sure the frame is powder coated and not just spray-painted, unless you enjoy scrubbing rust off your patio. The cushions should be full of generous amounts of fill, covered in a high quality, weather resistant fabric such as Sunbrella brand. The cushions should have some weight to them as you won’t always be home to bring them inside when the wind comes up. You can have fun with color and fabrics outside. Blues, greens and oranges are popular in outdoor custom furniture and those colors are considered neutrals — green grass, blue sky and orange sun and sunset.

Determining what pieces to purchase depends on many things. First, how many people will you need seating for? Do you entertain? We typically find that people prefer their own seat, so chairs centered around an ottoman or fire pit can be a great option. The goal is to create a space that encourages conversation, so seating should be close together. When arranging your outdoor space, first determine your focal point. If you have a great view of a lake, for instance, your largest piece of furniture should face it. Other chairs should be placed next. The needs and wants are moving toward soft seating — a sectional, sofa or comfortable chairs. We love swivel rockers, both inside and outside. Consider breaking up your patio into zones. Include a dining set if your space allows. If there isn’t room for a large dining table, tuck a small round table in the corner for morning coffee or afternoon cocktails.

Everyone loves the ambiance of a fire in a gathering space. Consider a fire pit that hooks up to a propane tank just like your grill. It’s easy and clean. Of course, if you’re building, including a gas source on your patio is the way to go. There are also personal fire stands and table top fireplaces that will give you a little heat, but are more for aesthetics, creating a cozy area for two. Many fire pits will include a table top to insert when the fire pit isn’t in use.

Once you choose your furniture, ground and define the space with an outdoor rug and add some ambient lighting that will add sophistication to your oasis. The convenience and safety of today’s battery operated LED candles are the bomb. Pots full of flowers in differently sized containers are a must. Cluster them in odd numbers and give them lots of TLC. If you feel you don’t have time to care for live plants, leave them out of the plan. There’s nothing worse than dead flowers. Early spring is the time to start planning your outdoor space. Custom outdoor furniture can take up to five weeks to produce and ship and waiting until summer to shop for accessories could leave you with little to choose from, so start the process now. Planning and anticipating your outdoor living space is half the fun and will get you through the last few weeks of winter!

The team at designingwomen2 works with home and business owners to create spaces that are always more than they expected. To see more, go to designingwomen2.com

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Is it time for you to start getting ideas for a new piece of jewelry? Do you have an upcoming engagement or a mile marker anniversary? Or maybe it’s time for a beautiful jewelry item just to celebrate you and what’s happening in your life right now.

Riddle’s Jewelry can help you find your style in our store with a wide selection of jewelry in all price points. Riddle’s sells many name brands of jewelry from worldwide vendors like Pandora and Alex and Ani for the fun and trendy, affordable pieces, to the higher priced diamond designer lines like Gabriel, Verragio, and Forevermark. We also carry a beautiful variety of gemstone jewelry so you can go ahead and be impulsive to treat yourself and add some color into your jewelry wardrobe. Riddle’s sells both sterling silver and gold items which you can find in three colors: traditional yellow gold, popular white gold, and the up and coming rose gold — which is really becoming more popular in 2018.

We sell diamonds from the Canadian Rocks collection, which is the only diamond company that mines, cuts, and polishes their diamonds entirely in Canada. “Somehow it sparkles even brighter when you know it’s from a good place.” Or, maybe, you prefer a diamond which is grown in a lab, which is like a greenhouse. Riddle’s stocks Pure Grown Diamonds, which compares to only the top 2 percent of quality mined diamonds. Pure Grown Diamonds are identical in appearance to a natural diamond and are environmentally friendly and conflict free. And dollar for dollar you can get a 30 percent larger size for your investment.

Our customers are always asking us for something that represents their personality, so we can customize an item for anyone and make your jewelry uniquely you with our in-house goldsmiths.

Whichis your style:

TRADITIONAL; clean lines while still classy and beautiful

VINTAGE; highlighting the delicate details but reminiscences of simpler times

NON-TRADITIONAL; rule breakers, no boundaries apply, your style is a break from the norm

BOHEMIAN; eclectic and natural — a reflection of your nomadic free spirit

MODERN; stacks of varied styles with looks that change constantly, you keep people guessing

2018 bridal trends are showing more pink or rose gold, oval- and pear-shaped center stones, gemstone centers instead of diamonds, the mixing of metal colors, stackable wedding bands, twisted details on rings, and halo diamonds around the center stone.

RIDDLE’S JEWELRY is a family owned and operated company with 60 stores across nine Midwest states. Our first store opened in 1959 by a young man named Jesse Riddle in eastern South Dakota. The secret to Riddle’s Jewelry is that we are committed to providing the very best customer service in our store, where all of us have an old fashioned focus on the customer. We are in the “love” business!

Riddle’s Jewelry is a name you can trust for all of life’s special moments. Come visit us in our Fargo store located at 4055 13th Ave. S.

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DID YOU KNOW,

each and every year a specific global color trend is predicted and beauty, fashion, home décor and technology companies work with it for brand identity and product development? This color trend is forecasted by Pantone, “the world-renowned authority on color and provider of color systems and leading technology for the selection and accurate communication of color across a variety of industries.”

Like every year, Pantone has announced a color for 2018, Ultra Violet. Described as “dramatically provocative and thoughtful”, this color is symbolic of counterculture, unconventionality, and artistic brilliance.

Ultra Violet color is also linked with spirituality and intuition. It offers calmness and relaxation.

Whether you are a fan of purple/ violet or not, this rich beautiful color can be used boldly or subtly in your beauty routine. Today I am rounding up some of my favorite ways to add this color into your beauty routine.

ON YOUR EYES:

Depending on your makeup comfort level, you can go for a hint of purple to full blown smoky eyes. You don’t have to limit yourself to only the Ultra Violet color. Pick other shadows or liners from the purple color family and add those to your makeup collection.

If you are using this shade for the fi rst time, you can add it as a liner for a pop of color. Colors such as deep eggplant can be a great alternative to your usual black or brown liner.

Adding neutral colors along with purple can look incredibly stunning as smoky eye makeup. You can mix matte purple-based blue with metallic purple as I am wearing here.

ON YOUR LIPS:

I think lip color is a fun makeup choice and everyone should, at least once, try a color out of their comfort zone. As matte formulas can be unforgiving and exaggerate dry lips, you can go for comfort-matte or creamy formulas. For a quicker application, swipe lips with a colored lip gloss and you are good to go.

You can choose darker colors such as berry, plum and amethyst or go light with lilac, purple based pink, mauve, etc.

If you are going for a purple-based lip color, keep the rest of your makeup simple.

OTHER WAYS:

If you are a nail-color enthusiast, pick a purple/ violet color for your next manicure. Add it as an accent color, incorporate it into the nail art or go for an all-over color.

You can also adorn your tresses with an Ultra Violet shade. Try a semi-permanent color as a highlighter. If you are feeling a bit daring, try the hottest rainbow color trend. Either way, this color can add drama, boldness and major style to your hair.

So, what do you think of this year’s Pantone color? Is it something you will rock? Or you are going to skip the trend and go with your usual colors? Whatever you choose, I encourage you to experiment with your makeup, because it will wash off and you just might find your new favorite color.

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spring updates

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This was a long winter! I have been ready for spring since the first snowflakes hit the ground. I suppose that could be because we were expecting our third girl at the end of March. For me, I am ready to bring on all the floral and pink I can for the both of us. Here are some of my favorite updates for spring.

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floral prints

Can you really update to spring without adding some floral to your look? I’m not sure you can! Floral prints do not just have to be on a dress. There are so many great floral tops, pants, shoes and scarves that can add this amazing print to your look. You can buy these to wear now and also get a lot of use out of them in the summer.

dress. There are so many great flo-

is such a cheerful embellishment to add to a garment. It is a classic springtime favorite. I always seem to be looking for an eyelet top or dress this time of year. Commonly, eyelet is made and purchased in white, but look for other colors as well. A cute black eyelet top can be dressed up or down so easily. If you pair it with a great pair of olive pants, it would make the perfect spring work look. Look for a top or dress with some eyelet ruffles to add some extra interest to a basic look.

I love cheery bright blue and white stripes. The color combo just seems to pop. I always like to try and find a top or a dress that can take me from spring to summer. Stripes look cheerful now, and then make a switch to looking more nautical in the summer. It is always a good idea to get some casual things for spring that you can wear with a sweater or jacket, but can be worn in the summer too.

backpacks

Backpacks are not just for college students anymore. It may seem like a big leap to buy a backpack but I promise you’ll be on point with that purchase. For fabrics, I really like the leather or nylon. Make sure you look for one sized right for your phase of life. If you do not have young children, you should find a smaller one. Bigger is not always better when it comes to backpacks. You do not want it overpower the rest of your look.

dresses

Buying a dress now that you can wear in the spring and into the summer is something you’ll get a lot of use out of. If you get one that you can wear with a sweater, or a field or denim jacket, you’ll be able to start wearing it now. I like getting a jersey knit dress — easy to wear with sneakers or flats during the spring but that can totally be worn with wedges or sandals in the summer.

graphic tees

Graphic tees with fun sayings on them seem to have made a comeback and are staying. I really like this one I found that says “sitting, waiting, wishing.” It seems like the perfect top for a girl towards the end of her pregnancy. This is not a category I would spend a lot of money on. You will wear a shirt like this just for casual outings and working out, so it’s not worth a major investment.

jackets

My two favorite jackets for spring are a field or denim jacket. Both are such classic looks and you will get a lot of mileage out of them. The field jacket would be a great one if you want to wear it with jeans a lot or if you cannot wear denim to work. I typically think of these coats as being olive green but are really cute in navy and black as well. If you’re searching for them online you can always look for anorak or military jackets to get a very similar, if not the same, kind of coat. For denim jackets, look for something that fits really well. I think I have had the same one since college. Mine is very thick and I love how well it has held up. Do not hesitate to get white as well. Just because blue is more common does not mean it will fit best in your wardrobe.

where to SHOP

1. FUSION BOUTIQUE VIONIC, Taos, and Remante Sandals. Comfort footwear meets fashion footwear. Shop our unique collection of supportive and comfortable shoes and sandals for spring. Located inside SCHEELS Home & Hardware

3202 13th Ave S, Fargo 701-232-8903 scheelshomeandhardware.com

2. TWYLA'S COSMETIQUE

Indulgent, on-trend lipstick shades. Hundreds of colors to choose from. Custom-blend lipsticks and lipgloss available. 2420 University Dr S, Fargo 701-282-5303

3. CENTRE FOR HAIR AND WELLNESS in Downtown Moorhead, is happy to offer yet another great product line from Surface: CHAR Instantly cleanses 100 percent of unwanted elements from the surface of hair and skin, while simultaneously moisturizing, protecting color, and adding volume with texture. Simply amazing! Come see us for all your hair care needs. Downtown Moorhead 218-236-6000

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4. HERO Shop HERO for a local inventory of donated health care equipment and supplies at reduced cost. Items include walkers, wheelchairs, electric scooters, shower chairs, hospital beds, wound care supplies and more. No one is turned away due to an inability to pay. Inventory changes daily. Call or visit today to find your perfect fit.

5012 53rd St S, Suite C, Fargo 701-212-1921 herofargo.org

5. SHOWPLACE CABINETRY DESIGN CENTER

Create a home for everything by utilizing great organizational inserts for your cabinetry. This in-drawer power station clears the clutter of charging devices on your countertops. Find this and many more options at Showplace Cabinetry Design Center.

2553 Kirsten Ln S, Fargo 701-365-4455 showplacekitchens.com

6. MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE

Unique sleeve details are a must this spring! 2603 Kirsten Ln S, #103, Fargo 701-356-6684 mainstreamboutique.com

7. dw 2 HOME DECOR

Anacara luxury indoor/outdoor furniture is a collection of both traditional and contemporary styles. The cushions are ultra plush and made from Sunbrella quality outdoor fabric. Each cushion is made by-design for you. 3223 13th Ave S, Suite B, Fargo 701-476-0938 designingwomen2.com

8. EXPRESSIONS BY ASHTON PHOTOGRAPHY

Fine art paper mounted directly to 3/4 inch wood with hand sanded corners. No wood color or grain shows through these prints so you get the look of a wood print with true color and clarity in the printed image. Available in two finishes. The final product has a hand-made artisan effect.

TJ Maxx Shopping Center 4340 13th Ave S, Suite D, Fargo 701-893-9178 expressionsbyashton.com

9. DALBOL FLOWERS

Make her day with this sweet bouquet which includes green miniature hydrangeas and light pink spray roses arranged in our citrus green glass cube. A perfect way to show mom how much she means to you on Mother’s Day. 1450 25th St S, Fargo 701-235-5864 dalbolflowers.com

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Imagine a workout that you did not have to plan. One that you did not dread. One that left you with only one regret: “That I didn’t come here sooner!” laughs Christy Eickhoff. She is a busy wife, tax preparer and one of three women among many clients that share this reaction to the recently moved Maximum Performance & Fitness (MPF) — a gym founded and developed by North Dakota native, Brad Nordstrom.

The brand new facility matches the newness of its location in West Fargo. Yet the principles and experience that built it go back many years to a field in South Fargo. Kelly Kukowski remembers it well. “My neighbor invited me to come,” she says. “I thought it was totally different. It was unbelievable.” Kukowski is a data analyst and mom of two teenage boys, including a 16 year old who now also comes to MPF, “I can still lift more than him

physically fit,

meet the newly moved Maximum Performance & Fitness

so that’s kind of fun,” she laughs. It is a long way from where Kukowski has come. Having served in the military, she says she lost much of her fitness over the years, only casually running from time to time. The fear of a family history of chronic health issues motivated her to check out the program that her neighbor could not quit talking about. She started over six years ago — and now? She gets up at 4:15 nearly every morning to be at the 5 a.m. MELT class at MPF.

What is MELT? According to Nicole Kungel, "It’s like personal training but without the same cost. You get individual attention in the group setting.” It stands for “Motivate, Educate, Lose Fat, and Teamwork,” and it is the product of Nordstrom’s many years of experience in exercise physiology, collegiate strength and conditioning, and personal training. The sessions are delivered in a circuit style that combines traditional and non-traditional exercises. For Kungel, busy mom and implementation program manager, it is a necessity, "For me it’s a lifestyle. I come six days a week and it’s different every time. For those of us that work and have a full-time job and families, we have such busy lives. I can just come here and shut my brain off and just do it.”

The results speak for themselves. According to Eickhoff, “I am down 70% of my fat [weight].” And it all began at a concert merchandise table. "I asked for t-shirt that was a large and they asked me if that was going to be big enough,” explains

functionally strong

Eickhoff. “I said, well if it didn’t fit, then I’d have to start going to the gym! I have hit over 500 MELTs now.” When asked about her fitness experience prior to becoming a “melter,” she says, "My first day here was my first day I ever set foot in a gym. You get to work yourself into it and Brad doesn’t try to kill you.”

This stems from Nordstrom’s philosophy: “Fitness is like climbing a ladder. If we start at the bottom and jump to the top, it’s going to tip over.” Instead, at MPF, it’s about more than just what is on the outside. "We want our clients to be physically fit and functionally strong." As Kukowski puts it, “I don’t ever want to have [anything] slow me down.”

Three women, three different walks of life; yet, one place that keeps drawing them back. Eickhoff points to the atmosphere. “It’s fun and energetic,” she says. “I always leave laughing and in a good mood.” It’s a culture amplified by its new location; complete with brand new equipment, heart rate monitoring systems, and infrared saunas that allow for a better recovery after an intense workout. And there is so much more to come. Starting this spring, the facility's garage doors will open to turf for outdoor workout access. For Brad, all this is a no brainer, "I think the biggest thing I want to do is to create that positive, upbeat, energetic environment. If you’re going to work out, might as well have fun while you’re doing it!”

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A Q&

Q:

ON POWERS OF ATTORNEY, PERSONAL REPRESENTATIVES, HEALTH CARE DIRECTIVES, GUARDIANSHIPS and CONSERVATORSHIPS

Q:

What is the difference between a power of attorney and a personal representative?

A:

People often confuse the two roles as being the same, but they are different; just because you are one doesn’t necessarily mean you are the other. A power of attorney (POA) is a document wherein a person can grant another person (or entity) the ability to act on that person’s behalf as attorney-in-fact. This role entails responsibilities of trust to the person granting the authority. One key distinction is that a POA only applies while the person granting the authority is alive. A POA dies with the person. A personal representative (PR), also known as an executor, is someone charged with handling a person’s estate after that person has died. Sometimes the person granted POA is the same as the PR, but they don’t have to be. While family members are often utilized, it is not necessary that they be family. Both positions can involve more than one person acting in the role (co-POAs or co-PRs). While a POA does not require court approval, a person does not have authority to act as PR until appointed by the court. Just because someone is nominated as PR in a will does not automatically give them authority.

Why have a power of attorney?

A:

A POA enables you to choose who you want acting for you and avoid having the court appoint a guardian or conservator. Typically the idea is that if the person is unable to exercise certain abilities, such as managing finances, the person granted POA will exercise them for that person. An example is with a parent who has granted an adult child POA, and when the parent is unable to pay bills due to a physical or mental condition, the adult child with the POA will pay the bills for that parent under the authority of the POA document. Just because someone has granted another person POA doesn’t mean that the person cannot still act for him or herself. A POA can be general (granting broad powers) or limited.

Q:

Is the power of attorney typically for financial or medical purposes?

A:

A standard durable POA typically deals with financial powers. A medical POA, or health care directive, is something that covers a person’s wishes for medical treatment when that person cannot express those wishes to the health care provider. While typically a separate document, having a health care directive is highly advisable.

Q:

What is the difference between a guardian or conservator and a power of attorney?

A:

A guardian (or conservator) is someone (or an entity) appointed by the court to act on a person’s behalf while that person is still alive, when that person has been deemed incompetent or in need of protection. The guardian’s authority can include residential, medical, legal, educational and vocational powers, among others. A conservator’s authority is typically limited to financial powers. A guardianship or conservatorship is typically utilized when a POA is lacking or when there is a POA but more authority is needed.

BERLY D. NELSON

Berly D. Nelson is a shareholder attorney with the Serkland Law Firm in Fargo, North Dakota. He practices in the areas of commercial and general civil litigation, including a focus on trusts and estate litigation.

FOR MORE INFORMATION, call 701-232-8957, email at bnelson@serklandlaw.com or visit serklandlaw.com.

article should not be considered legal or tax advice and should not be relied upon by any person with respect to his/her specific situation.

stephanie Finds lastinG RELIEF from BACK PAIN

Last September, Stephanie Blatchford departed for an anniversary camping trip in high spirits. It wasn’t just the annual getaway with her husband, Brian Blatchford, that she was celebrating. She had finally found relief from crippling back pain.

“I was happier than I’d been in a long time because we were going camping and hiking, and I knew I was strong enough to do it,” the 55-yearold West Fargo woman recalls. “And I could do what I love to do when the kids and grandkids joined us — swimming, biking and hiking.”

Blatchford had just successfully completed Essentia Health’s eight-week spine rehabilitation program. In twice-a-week physical therapy classes, she’d learned stretching and strengthening exercises as well as the proper ways to move to avoid injuring her spine and back.

Blatchford suffers from early onset arthritis. To cope with severe pain in her lower back, she had turned to specialists and a variety of treatments, including injections, nerve burning, water therapy, chiropractic adjustments and massage. She didn’t want to rely on powerful pain medications for relief.

When a specialist at the Essentia Health Pain Clinic in Fargo recommended a new spine rehabilitation program last summer, Blatchford was skeptical. Yet she felt she had to give it a try because she didn’t like relying on a cane and sometimes a rolling walker.

“My husband and I love to hike and camp, and I have three grandchildren, so I don’t have time for pain,” Blatchford says. “I’m too young to just sit on the couch.”

Blatchford was evaluated by Shauna Garrahy, a physical therapist at the Essentia Health-South University Clinic in Fargo, and cleared for the

program. For eight weeks, she joined classes in the physical therapy gym. She also exercised for 30 minutes each day at home and stepped up her walking routine.

At her first class, Blatchford was scared. First, she feared she would hurt herself as she exercised and feel more pain. Second, she feared she would not be fit enough to do the exercises. “I’m 5-foot-2, chunky and I’ve had both knees replaced,” she says. But Jensen Praska, a physical therapy assistant, got her through the session. “Jensen’s not just sympathetic, she’s empathetic and that makes all the difference,” Blatchford says. “She didn’t discount my pain but validated what I’m dealing with.”

Blatchford says she felt safe doing the exercises because trained medical professionals were teaching her and supervising her workouts. “Jensen would tell me, ‘Do what you can today. Each day is different,’” she recalls. “She’d also say, ‘We’ll do this, I promise. I’ll be with you all the way.’”

Stephanie Blatchford (right) credits her success to the team at Essentia Health, including physical therapy aide Jensen Praska, holding her accountable.

fter three weeks, Blatchford felt stronger and could walk without her cane or walker. In four weeks, she felt less pain. “I was so motivated that I went out and bought exercise wear — the works,” she recalls. “When I showed up at the gym, I told Jensen, ‘I’m up for this,’ and she laughed and said, ‘I can see you’re excited.’”

Garrahy and Praska say Blatchford’s upbeat personality and her commitment to doing the exercises helped her be successful. A key to her success, Blatchford says, is that she felt she had to be accountable to Garrahy and Praska.

“We tell our patients that they’ll have some pain, but it will diminish as you get stronger,’’ Garrahy says. The physical therapist explains the rehabilitation program is backed by research that shows specific movements can isolate and strengthen muscles to reduce pain and improve mobility. The program also helps reset pain receptors in the body.

Blatchford says she has resumed many daily tasks because her back is stronger and she has learned how to safely move, lift and reach. “My husband had bought me some barbecue tongs so I could get the laundry at the bottom of my top-loading washing machine and I don’t need them anymore,” she says with a laugh.

Chronic pain and her ability to do less and less had taken a toll on Blatchford’s mental health. “There was a downward spiral of anxiety and depression,” she says. “I knew I had to find a better way.”

Blatchford praises the Essentia Health staff who guided her through the program. “I cried the last day and didn’t want to stop going,” she recalls.

Blatchford also credits her husband, Brian, with supporting her through all her treatments and encouraging her when she needed it. He even bought a massage table and learned how to give her trigger-point release massages to help her sleep. “When you exercise, you get tired and that helps with sleep,” she says. “I didn’t get a lot of sleep when I was in pain and being able to sleep makes a big difference.”

MYTH or FACT

TRUE or FALSE

The whole eye can be transplanted.

2

TRUE or FALSE

It is impossible to keep your eyes open when you sneeze.

TRUE or FALSE

Astigmatism can't be fixed with Lasik.

1 3 4 5

TRUE or FALSE

A contact lens can be lost behind the eye.

answers:

1. No, the eyeball cannot be transplanted. The nerves just won't reconnect — just like you can't transplant the brain.

2. Yup, it is impossible. Those muscles that squeeze the eyelids closed just can't be controlled during a sneeze.

3. Astigmatism can be fixed. In fact, Dr. Bagan and Dr. Strinden have done it thousands of times.

4. No, but if you see better with glasses, you might start to prefer them.

5. No, it can't. The tissue that lines the surface of the eyeball, and the inside of the eyelids, comes together and prevents anything from going too far back.

TRUE or FALSE

If you start wearing glasses your eyes will become weaker.

More eye facts and myths:

Your eyes grow rapidly after birth, then stay the same size throughout your life. It would be nice if our ears and noses would cooperate the same, but they keep getting bigger as we age!

An eyelash grows slowly and falls off after about five months, then is replaced by a new one.

Nearsighted means just that: you can see up close, but distant things appear blurry.

A common eye injury is an abrasion from a mascara wand – it hurts!

The eyebrow is not just there to make us look good. Its function is to channel sweat away to the side so it doesn't run into the eye.

Take this test to see how much you know about eye myths and facts.

Almost half our brain is taken up with processing vision.

Cataracts are not just a problem for old people. Dr. Strinden and Dr. Bagan have done tens of thousands of cataract surgeries on patients ranging in age from the very young to 102.

There is a syndrome called “computer vision syndrome.” Those of us who work staring at a screen for hours a day can experience discomfort in the form of a tired feeling, eyes burning, wishing we could just close our eyes for awhile. Vision can also seem blurry. This is due to some drying of the eyes from staring so much and not blinking enough, and also from the effort it takes to use the muscle that focuses the eye at that screen. The solution? Just quit! No, not your job — just look away from the screen at something in distance for a couple of minutes when the eyes feel fatigued.

Dr. Strinden, Dr. Swanholm and Dr. Bagan (pictured left to right above) love raising their families in the Fargo-Moorhead area. Their philosophy is to treat their patients like family — spending time to get to know them, ensuring all questions are answered and all options discussed. Together they have 50 plus years of experience and offer the latest in LASIK/refractive surgery, laser assisted cataract surgery with multifocal intraocular lens implants, and complex eye disease management.

Like us on Facebook and visit our website at baganstrindenvision.com to see all the benefits of becoming part of the Bagan Strinden Vision family!

Patients motivate Her rUNNING

Dr. Anu Gaba and her family moved to Fargo in June 2004, just after the inaugural Fargo Marathon in May. They heard so much about it, they started running as a family. Gaba first started running the 5K and has been running the full marathon since 2014. This year will be her fifth Fargo Marathon. Her husband has been running the marathon since 2005 and her daughters have been running various races, too.

Gaba says running has many advantages. “It's such a great way to be outside and to know a community outside of work. It is also a good way for us to have an event as a family. Whenever we go and visit other towns, whether it was looking for colleges for our older daughter, all of us run together there. It's a good way to see a town when you're running. If you walk, it'll take too long. If you go by car, you don't see much. By running, you can see the town much faster and you're on your feet.”

Gaba specializes in hematology and medical oncology, helping those with blood diseases and cancer at the Sanford Roger Maris Cancer Center.

“I'm grateful I'm able to run because there were times when I was injured and couldn’t run. I think of my patients, too. They put their all into their chemotherapy treatments, and they are strug-

gling. I think of their persistence and perseverance. I remember one patient telling me he had a tough time breathing, and he said, ‘I feel like I'm running a marathon, I'm breathing so hard.’ So, when I'm struggling with a run or wearing out, I tell myself this is nothing compared to what my patients go through. Whatever suffering I’m going through, it's nothing in comparison to them. I think that's such a big motivator for me.”

It helps her as a physician, being physically active and running. She is part of a running group called Faster Stronger Runner. “That definitely helps,” says Gaba. “It gives me more friends. I have another smaller group of friends where we do cross-training during the week at the Y, or we do our shorter runs together at the Fargo Running Company.

“I really think it's great that Sanford as a health institution is partnering with the Fargo Marathon. I think we're encouraging physical fitness. I feel that health care institutions and doctors and nurses — we're always looked at as the problem solvers, not the problem-preventers. It is so much better if we can prevent the problem from occurring. It does send an excellent message for Sanford to be a part of running.”

Gaba has tips for a good diet.

“I try to control my portions. When you take a big plate, you'll fill the big plate. If you take a small plate, you'll fill a small plate. So try to use a smaller plate, and then definitely always make sure you have some fresh vegetables as part of your meal. If you are going to have dessert, make sure it's half the

↖ ABOVE : One of Gaba’s training plans is to get up before the sun rises and run with her friends. LEFT: Dr. Gaba and Registered Nurse Kim Pitcher review the patients they will see today.

dessert, not the full amount. Whatever you eat, cut down on the sugar. That is so important. And, you know, it's not necessary to eat a lot of meat to be a runner. You can get an adequate amount of protein even by following a vegetarian diet.”

Gaba doesn’t listen to music when she runs, because she wants to be aware of her surroundings.

“Usually, I'm running with friends, and we're talking. It's a great way to develop camaraderie and friendship, and I think I know more about my friends than their spouses, because you're spending so many hours together! Also, Fargo is beautiful, whether it's winter or summer. And for safety reasons. I want to make sure that I'm listening to any honks or cars or anything that's close by. I know where I'm running. I'm concentrating on where I'm putting my foot. I don't want to hurt myself.

“When I first started running, I did the run/walk method. I would run for four minutes, walk for one minute, run for four minutes, walk for one minute. I did that for my first three marathons. I gradually grew confident enough that I can run the whole thing. That's what I do now. Marathons are much more difficult, too, as we end the race. It's the last five miles that can make or break you. Start off at a reasonable pace, don’t get too excited about the beginning of the marathon and wear yourself out. Keep a steady pace throughout.

“I've always told myself, the harder we work, the better the reward. I look forward to the end goal of finishing the run, and I know that the better I run, the more satisfied I will feel. Every time I run, I'm just so thankful that I'm able to do it.”

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... when I'm struggling with a run or wearing out, I tell myself this is nothing coMPared to what My Patients go through .”

RONALD H. MCLEAN BERLY D. NELSON

ROGER J. MINCH

PETER W. ZUGER

MAUREEN HOLMAN

KASEY D. MCNARY

JANE L. DYNES

JAMES R. MARING

area family

photo: lindsay-kaye.com

mamas treat yourself

this mother’s day season

Many of us feel it’s the greatest title you’ll ever have: Mom. You weren’t alone on this epic accomplishment, but it’s the Mother’s Day season, so let’s celebrate your special honor. And lady, you deserve a little “special” in your busy life.

If you are a mama who’s been fortunate to have celebrated this day in the past, it might’ve looked something like this: breakfast in bed; a bubble bath; someone else cleaning; a priceless handmade gift. Seriously, it’s a great day. And this year I hope that you have a day that is full of the memories of what your kids do to spoil you — whatever that looks like. I also hope you treat yourself.

Why would I toss it out there to gum up that magical day by nosing in a suggestion to go and treat yourself? Hear me out. I’m not suggesting you buy your own gift or order your own flowers all because you want control to make this holiday “mom perfect.”

My “treat yo’self” recommendation is more about self-love and forgiveness. This is my attempt to advise my peers without fear of mommy judgment. I’m gently reminding us mothers that you deserve the self-care time. You also deserve to forgive yourself for taking it. Most often when I treat myself it comes with a spoonful of mom guilt. “I didn’t really need that handbag;” “I should be ashamed for dropping cash on X, Y, Z;” “I could have saved money had I just done it myself.” Do you identify with this inner dialog?

This Mother’s Day I am forgiving myself of mom guilt. I am simply taking my own advice and doing something that will give my heart joy. And I wholeheartedly hope you do the same. Because, mamas, we deserve it.

A fabulous facial or microderm at Catalyst Spa is a personal go-to when I’m in the mood for selflove. Or grabbing a coffee and walking up and down each and every aisle at Target. I admit, I am so basic. For me, those are major “treat yo’self” things. However, this year I’m putting a spin on my self-love. I am treating myself to one of those “Mommy and Me” photo sessions. I’ve always wanted a special photo shoot of just me and my littles together. It’s no slight on my husband. He shares my appreciation for the legacy that family pictures can be. He also is, like a lot of guys, excited to sit this one out. Kidding aside, this self-given Mother’s Day gift is one that I’m not willing to feel guilty over.

Of all the ways I’ve indulged in my life, investing in having professional pictures has never been one I regret. Ever. Not once. Even when I wasn’t at goal weight. Even when I had a few gray hairs showing. Yes, even if it meant I needed to save the cash for a few months to afford it. I look through these pictures and treasure them. They are priceless to me.

Mom’s, we are usually the ones taking all the pictures, right? It’s rare I’m in any candid shots at home. And that’s okay with me because I love being behind the camera. However, I also see it as important to get in some of those shots to document life for my family. And this year I’m aching for some of those apple blossom orchard pictures.

I pray that whatever your Mother’s Day looks like that you find love and joy in it. And that, above all, you will give yourself a little love and forgiveness.

SPECIAL THANKS

to Lindsay Kaye Photography for these images over the years of me and my kiddos. Here are a handful of the shots I consider more precious than gold.

what you NEED TO Know aBout YOUr PareNTS’

estate

Planning

» First, it is important to understand that your parents may not want to share any of their estate planning information with you and, if that is the case, you should respect their wishes. However, if your parents are open to discussing the topic, here are some questions you might want to discuss:

Have your parents DONE ANY ESTATE PLANNING?

The three basic documents that every individual should have are a will, health care directive and a power of attorney.

Have they been UPDATED or REVIEWED RECENTLY?

It is a good idea to have your estate planning documents reviewed with an attorney every three to five years.

Where do your parents keep their ORIGINAL ESTATE PLANNING DOCUMENTS?

When your parents’ documents are needed, it is important to know where they are, or who to contact to get them.

With respect to wills, there is only one original. Things can be more difficult than necessary if an original will is lost or damaged, so it is important that the original is kept in a safe place. I often recommend that my clients send their original wills to the county recorder for safekeeping. The wills are kept safely and securely in the county’s vault.

Your parents’ health care directive should identify their wishes if they are in a terminal condition and cannot act on their own behalf. It should also state who they designate to act on their behalf with respect to medical decisions. It is important that whoever your parents have named in this document is aware of it and, even more so, is aware of your parents’ wishes.

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Think about it. Do you know if your parents want life support? Do you know if they want to be cremated or buried? If cremated, do they have any specific wishes as to the handling of the ashes? Do your parents want to be organ donors? Do your parents’ doctors have a copy of their health care directive? While these aren’t everyone’s favorite topics, having this information makes things easier when the times comes.

If your parents aren’t willing to share their documents with you, they may be willing to provide the contact information for the attorney who prepared the documents, so you know who to contact when your parents are in poor health or pass away. Attorneys are bound by confidentiality rules that will not allow them to share information with their client’s children without having a legal right to the documents or the required consent from your parents.

If you are to receive an inheritance, WILL THAT INHERITANCE BE OUTRIGHT or IN TRUST?

This is a topic your parents may be less willing to discuss, but it is still important. There are many reasons to leave assets in trust for children. Trusts may provide greater asset protection for a child who gets divorced or has creditor issues than if the child receives their inheritance outright. In addition, trusts can provide potential tax savings if the child has a taxable estate of their own.

However, trusts aren’t always necessary, and if the inheritance is to be distributed to a child in trust, it is important that the parties know both the advantages and disadvantages. Keep in mind, it’s important to recognize that this is your parents’ decision, not your decision.

Are your parents aware of the NEW TAX LAWS RELATED to GIFT and ESTATE PLANNING?

For 2018, the federal estate tax exemption doubled to $11.2 million for a single person or up to $22.4 million for a married couple with proper estate planning. Also, the annual gift tax exclusion increases from $14,000 to $15,000 per individual or $30,000 for a married couple.

Of course, estate planning can be a difficult topic to discuss with parents, and I can’t stress enough that whatever your parents decide, the decisions on what to share is completely their decision to make. But, at a minimum, I believe it is important to have the contact information for your parents’ estate planning attorney. Dealing with a parent’s health issues or losing a parent to death are some of the most difficult things a child will ever experience. Having these discussions while your parents are still healthy and have sharp minds can be extremely beneficial and eliminate much stress down the road.

JESSICA

FOSS is an estate planning attorney with Fredrikson & Byron and full-time mom of three. She’s a regular resource for Fargo media on estate planning topics. You can contact her at jfoss@fredlaw.com.

forward in faith

Park Christian School makes room for more students to experience a christ centered education

1. Committed to your FAMILY’S FUTURE

As parents we know that finding a safe and excellent place for our children to grow and learn is everything. Park Christian School (PCS) is excited to announce its new expansion project to make room for more students and families. The 11 million dollar project is moving forward with phase one, constructing ten new classrooms, a new commons area, new elementary school rooms, and innovative classroom spaces designed by teachers for academic excellence. They expect to be completed with this first phase by August 19 for the start of the 2019–2020 school year. The project will allow an increase of enrollment from 400 students to 675 students. With all this growth, PCS is committed to having even more opportunities for after-school activity. Currently 97 percent of all students enrolled are apart of one or more extra curricular actives from sports to math, music and performance.

2. New, innovative, and SAFE LEARNING SPACES

When schools expand, many times they ignore the needs of the students and teachers who will be utilizing those new rooms. From the beginning of this project, the PCS executive team has been working with 14 teachers to ensure that the classroom design is innovative, unique and useful. These new spaces will allow students to work in small groups and collaborate with more project-based activities. “The staff and the teachers are what make this school special,” says Jason Loney, Scheels. “They have been a major part of this expansion project. Their dedication and love for our students have shined in this process.”

3. A desire to partner with the CHRISTIAN HOME and the LOCAL CHURCH

As a parent it can be frustrating when there is a disconnect between your children’s teachers’ values and your own. PCS’ desire is to partner with you and the local church in helping your child grow and develop spiritually. “Safety is one of our highest priorities at Park Christian School,” says Chris Nellermoe, president of PCS. “Not just caring for their physical safety but their emotional and spiritual safety. We want to create an environment where they can have spiritual conversations. We are able to stop and pray when there is conflict. PCS is a safe place for students to develop emotionally, pray and grow deep in God’s word.”

4. There are openings RIGHT NOW to APPLY for PARK CHRISTIAN SCHOOL

Many local parents are wondering if there is room at PCS right now, and there is. The path to becoming a PCS parent is very simple. First you can experience their kindergarten roundup which will take place this spring on April 9 and May 7. This is a great time for you and your child to experience the PCS culture and excellence in person. Next submit an application and you will be interviewed as a family to better connect with the vision of the school. Finally, when accepted, there is a kindergarten assessment for your child and you are ready to go.

5. Opportunity to donate TO THE FUTURE of PARK CHRISTIAN SCHOOL

Are you looking to make a donation to help make the dream a reality? PCS is looking for more financial sponsors to donate toward new classroom spaces. The vision is to ultimately accomplish phase two of construction with a new gym, locker-room, more classrooms and a chapel space. Are you a local contractor or building supplier? You can also donate labor or materials as well to this exciting project. PCS is proud to be building step-by-step for each phase and maximizing every generous gift given to them.

TO GET STARTED

contact Teresa Nickel at 218-236-0500 or tnickel@parkchristianschool.org. To donate and make a difference, contact Chris Nellermoe at 218-236-0500.

MSUM offers SUMMER

CAMPS to EXPLORE

CAREER OPPORTUNITIES

BIGDream

Does your high schooler know what career they want to pursue after they graduate? They might have a vague idea, but it’s more likely they haven’t found that one thing that sparks their interest — yet.

Minnesota State University Moorhead provides high school students hands-on learning opportunities to explore their interests and careers in two summer camps offered specifically for them — Scrubs Camp and Coding Camp.

Career-focused camps are critical in today’s market. Both camps expose students to new ideas, skills and job opportunities to help them better understand career options and how their interests might fit in with specific jobs.

“Because of camps like these, students graduate with an idea of how they want to invest their time and resources before entering college,” says Teri Winkelman, Essentia Health, a Scrubs Camp community partner.

Scrubs Camp is a weeklong, residential camp for students entering grades 9-12 who want to explore careers in healthcare. Students live on campus, are supervised by an MSUM student counselor, eat at the campus dining center, and participate in group activities; giving them the ultimate college experience.

Students also explore many different areas of healthcare by visiting local hospitals, clinics and agencies where they learn from health professionals.

“During camp planning, we make sure to have a wide variety of healthcare careers featured so students can get an idea of where they would like to focus their career,” says Shireen Alemadi, assistant director for MSUM’s Community Engagement & Out-

reach. “New this year is a collaboration with the Red River Zoo to teach campers about veterinary medicine, and we are also excited to bring students to FM Acupuncture again so they can learn about Eastern medicine.”

Faculty members observe the personal growth of students every year, and many of the counselors and community partners are impressed by the professionalism these high school campers demonstrate.

“The campers I worked with showed up a little shy and nervous, but throughout the week they demonstrated time and time again how ready they were to be a contributing member of society,” says Isaac Skalsky, a Scrubs Camp counselor.

In addition to the world of healthcare, MSUM also introduces students to the ever-growing field of coding. Taught by MSUM graphic communications professor Alex Fogarty, Coding Camp teaches students front-end web design and web application development.

“Coding Camp is a great experience for our campers because it makes them creators of web content, not just consumers of it,” says Fogarty. “Just like learning a new spoken language, code can look very foreign and be intimidating. By the end of the week, they’re empowered and excited to make their ideas come alive on a web page.”

Students attending this camp not only get handson experience, but they also visit local companies and learn about job opportunities that a major in graphic design, graphic communication and computer science can open up to them.

“When they see professionals having a great time in their jobs at companies such as Myriad Mobile or BNG Design, they get excited about choosing majors in those fields,” says Fogarty.

These camps help many students solidify the field of study they want to go in, bringing in students from all over the state. By the end of camp, there is a definite increase in interest in MSUM and the Fargo-Moorhead area from campers. Some campers even plan to attend MSUM in the future.

In addition to these camps for high school students, MSUM’s College for Kids &Teens offers additional summer opportunities for all students in grades K-12 for one-week sessions in June and July.

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Pop to it!

indulge in popcorn made locally in nd

Whether it’s at a movie theater, baseball game or simply sitting around at home, I always have a big bag of popcorn in hand. Luckily for me, I was able to find a new source for my cravings in a delicious bag of Colorado Jack Popcorn. Sitting down with the owners Kim and Brian Engstrom and Cheryl and Kurt Bollingberg, I’m learning the true story of how the company came to be and what North Dakota residents can look forward to in the company’s bright future.

This company’s story strangely did not begin with popcorn, but with beans. Kurt Bollingberg and Brian Engstrom, who are both avid farmers, purchased Jack’s Bean processing plant in Holyoke, Colorado, where they had the dream to package dry beans to sell in stores. They also had raw popcorn kernels, the majority of which were sold to movie theaters in Mexico. They would bring these kernels home to make popcorn for friends and family. The couples noticed that the popcorn produced from these kernels was especially large and delicious. With a helping hand from Golden Plains Frozen Foods, the company took off and began to make prepackaged, flavored popcorn for everyone to enjoy.

Today it is clear to see where Colorado Jack Popcorn gets its name. The seed is supplied to farmers in Colorado who grow the kernels. The company keeps the “Jack” name to pay tribute to its beginning as part of Jack’s Bean Company which has been in operation since 1932. After the kernels are harvested, the popcorn is popped and packaged in Leeds, North Dakota, where it is made into a variety of flavors including caramel, white cheddar, white cheddar and jalapeño, sea salt and butter, and the Colorado mix. The company is involved in every aspect of creating this delectable snack from the field to the store shelf, which truly sets it apart from other snack food companies with their name in the popcorn game.

← FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: Colorado Jack Popcorn owners, Brian Engstrom, Kim Engstrom, Cheryl Bollingberg and Kurt Bollingberg

What’s next for this small popcorn company?

Within the next few months, Colorado Jack will open a new processing plant in Valley City, North Dakota. Looking to better their community, the owners have partnered with the Open Door Center which will give jobs to residents with disabilities or special needs right here in North Dakota. The company also continues to be active with the Make-A-Wish Foundation and takes part in Giving Hearts Day. The company, who has been named the Pride of Dakota’s “Rookie Go-Getter of the Year” for 2016 will continue to strive not only to make great products but also great communities around the state.

Looking to get your hands on a bag of Colorado Jack? The delectable snack food can be found in grocery and convenience stores as well as purchased online directly from the Colorado Jack website. Colorado Jack is also the official popcorn of the FM Redhawks and is sold every game night. Special event in your life on the horizon?

The Colorado Jack team specializes in bringing popcorn to your wedding reception, baby shower, graduation and other exciting events you may have. Looking to put on a fundraiser? Colorado Jack can help with that as well. Simply visit their website for more information and to take a peek at the delicious flavors offered. My favorite so far is the white cheddar and jalapeño but I look forward to trying them all.

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ndsu's Malini Srivastava

The FORCE behind FARGO’S $5 MILLION ENERGY PRIZE

and faculty members and city of Fargo interns, to carry out the work. Over a two-year period, the team gathered data, implemented programming and reduced energy consumption by 6.8 percent.

In December 2017, the Georgetown Energy Prize competition announced that Fargo won. The city was fourth in overall energy reduction. Innovative strategies that could be replicated in any city of any size pushed Fargo into first place, earning the seven-figure prize.

“Fargo built an extraordinary program that brought together the community through partnerships, leveraged local assets, and utilized a strong benchmarking system,” said Uwe Brandes, energy prize executive director, at a Dec. 18 news conference.

FARGO’S MAJOR PROJECTS INCLUDED: eFargo Game

Malini Srivastava’s career is on fire. She recently led Fargo to win the $5 million Georgetown Energy Prize, earned a teaching award from her academic unit at North Dakota State University and won a national award from the American Institute of Architects.

She hears congratulations a lot these days, but she doesn’t dwell on her personal achievements. “We have this massive problem on our back,” she says of the world’s environmental problems. “I feel this urgency to act.”

Srivastava has had a career-long interest in sustainability. She worked as an architect for 15 years before joining NDSU as an assistant professor of architecture. She designed energy efficient buildings and worked on the award-winning design team that made an inefficient building at Tulane

University in Louisiana into a sustainable university center. The question that was always on her mind was, “How do we improve existing buildings on a larger scale than client-by-client?”

The Georgetown Energy Competition was a way to address that question for Fargo, where 40 percent of the city’s energy consumption comes from existing buildings. She brought together the city of Fargo, NDSU and local utility companies. She built the eFargo team, which included NDSU students

Many energy-efficiency practices are relatively easy, such as running the dishwasher at non-peak times or switching from lightbulbs to LEDs. However, research shows that people are reluctant to adopt practices even though they will directly benefit through lower utility bills.

Srivastava wanted to test whether gaming would affect behavior. The team developed the eFargo Game that included educational content, energy-efficiency tasks, and prizes such as gift certificates to home improvement stores. More than 300 residents participated over eight weeks.

K-12 Challenge

EFargo challenged Fargo and West Fargo K-12 schools to reduce energy consumption over six weeks. EFargo provided materials to help teachers incorporate energy-use concepts into the curriculum and maintained a dashboard, so schools

could see whether their actions, such as turning off lights and unplugging vending machines, were having an effect.

Fargo’s Roosevelt Elementary won the challenge, reducing the school’s energy consumption by 29 percent. They achieved this by educating students about energy use and empowering them to make changes through their knowledge and creativity. The program is being replicated for other school districts across the state.

In addition to the students’ work, school administrators were committed and supported staff and student efforts to reduce energy consumption.

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EFargo partnered with the city of Fargo to design and build four affordable, high-efficiency houses to demonstrate these types of homes are attainable. NDSU architecture students have designed the houses and secured permits. Construction will be scheduled when a partnership with a builder has been finalized.

Moving forward

The prize money will allow Fargo to keep its momentum. The eFargo team is in the process of collecting ideas for projects and developing proposals for the city to consider.

“We have a responsibility, now as a national leader, to imagine an even better future with even more savings,” Srivastava says.

Last STEP

saving vision when no one else can

Blackness.

That’s all Alberta Nelson could see out of her right eye when she woke up one Tuesday morning last October. Three days later, her ophthalmologist referred her to Retina Consultants in Fargo, where Nelson was seen by Dr. Marina Gilca that same afternoon. Gilca assessed her condition and recommended retina repair surgery to save Nelson’s vision.

And she operated on Nelson the next business day.

Nelson describes Gilca as a breath of fresh air. “It was nice to have a doctor who told you what was going on, what she was going to do and what you needed to do,” Nelson says. “I understood it was going to be a process for the vision to come back.”

Several weeks later, Nelson, who lives in Fargo, experienced a strange sensation in her eye that she didn’t know how to describe. “Dr. Gilca no more had time to see me that day than the man in the moon, but she worked me in,” Nelson says. “She’s caring and compassionate, and she follows up immediately.”

Nelson is thankful for the vision she has regained and looks forward to complete restoration.

“The retina specialist fixes things no one else can fix,” Gilca says. “You save someone’s vision. Nothing beats being able to help them.”

Gilca is the only female fellowship-trained retina physician in North Dakota. She is grateful for the women before her who have pierced this traditionally male-dominated field. Retina specialists perform some of the most delicate surgeries in the world, handling tissue thinner than a butterfly wing, according to the American Society of Retina Specialists website.

Some might say Gilca could not escape her destiny of becoming a doctor, as several of her near relatives practice medicine. As a child growing up in Canada, she resisted such a career, watching her mother, an infectious disease specialist, and her father, a public health specialist, work long days and respond to calls after hours.

“Then I realized it is very rewarding to help others,” Gilca says.

She also discovered she was good with her hands. Ophthalmology provided Gilca with the perfect combination of medicine and surgery, with the retina subspecialty requiring very precise small maneuvers. In the clinic, Gilca administers intravitreal injections and laser therapy. In surgery, Gilca uses both hands while her feet operate pedals that control the surgical microscope and vitrectomy machine.

Such skills are honed through years of training. Gilca earned her medical degree from McGill University in Montreal, Quebec, and completed her ophthalmology internship and residency at the University of Montreal. She finished her twoyear vitreoretinal surgery and disease fellowship in Chicago with Rush University Medical Center and Illinois Retina Associates.

In October 2017, Gilca joined Dr. Craig Mason and Dr. Max Johnson with Retina Consultants, which was opened in 1988 by Johnson. Its cutting-edge technology and facility and highly trained team of more than 30 professionals made the decision a “no-brainer.” Gilca felt drawn to Fargo because of its Midwestern values, four seasons and lack of traffic. She endured long commutes in Montreal and Chicago.

“I wanted a community small enough where I could actually bring in my specialized skills and have a far-reaching impact,” Gilca says.

words by DENISE PINKNEY photography by JILL OCKHARDT BLAUFUSS surgery photography by DENNIS KRULL, 5 FOOT 20 DESIGN LOUNGE

Gilca’s childhood travels with her parents to medical conferences inspired a love for travel and language. She speaks English, French, Spanish, Portuguese, Russian and Romanian, her parents’ mother tongue. Gilca also enjoys rock climbing, Olympic weight lifting, spinning, cooking and baking. She and her husband are enjoying exploring Fargo and its surrounding areas. They have been charmed by downtown Fargo’s centralized historic core and look forward to the re-opening of the farmers markets this summer.

Her fast-paced, unpredictable and often emergency-filled workday is mentally and physically demanding, but Gilca is energized knowing that she is her patients’ last step to save their vision.

And if you ask Nelson, there is no better person to see.

FOR MORE INFORMATION about Retina Consultants, call 701-293-9829 or 877-503-0251.

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Laetitia Mizero Hellerud overcomingadversity

cross-cultural journey to CONTENTMENT

“I will fall down, but eventually, I rise up again. I am committed to facing what is yet to come.”

ive-year old Laetitia Mizero Hellerud watched in horror as her older brother was struck by a car crossing a street in a strange city. Her mother fainted at the sight of a bleeding Jean-Claude pinned beneath the vehicle. Life could not have been worse for Hellerud.

Not many days earlier, Hellerud, with her mother, brother and younger sister Nadine, crossed a river at night into Rwanda. They were fleeing genocide in Burundi, a landlocked country the size of Maryland, once ruled by French-speaking Belgians. It was 1973, and educated Hutus were being targeted by the Tutsi tribe in a political conflict far more complex than ethnic fighting.

Her father, Pierre-Claver, a Hutu, was in France studying on an art scholarship, and her mother Euphrasie, a Tutsi, desperately sought passports at the Burundian Embassy in Rwanda.

Years later, Hellerud sees how that accident proved to be the unlikely catalyst for their escape. The car driver happened to be a pregnant woman whose husband, a government official, helped resolve the passport issue. Miraculously, her brother suffered no broken bones and her family reunited in France.

Today, Hellerud possesses poise and an inner peace that belies the unpredictable, frightful world she endured as a four-time refugee. She exudes the nobility of a person who has suffered with infinite grace, emerging from the crucible stronger and better. Her life is a testament to her name, Laetitia, which means sublime joy.

She lived as a refugee in France nearly five years, and then in Rwanda, before her parents returned to Burundi. Her father, an artist-and-author-turned-politician and fervent education advocate, inspired her love for learning. She de-

lighted in his personal library of more than 500 books, ranging from the classics and religion to politics and philosophy, with a sprinkling of comic books. Hellerud earned a degree in English literature and linguistics from the University of Burundi, at a time when only 3 percent of all Burundians held college degrees.

By the early 1990s, her parents had rebuilt their lives, adding three more children to the family, Aline, Claudette and Olivier. And her mother had a business that was flourishing. In 1993, her father was one of three candidates to run for president in the country’s first democratic election. Hellerud’s family was initially hesitant at this potential disruption to the peaceful rhythm of their slightly-above-middle-class lives. They wholeheartedly supported his vision of a unified Burundi, though he faced certain defeat.

In fact, their family was proof that Tutsi and Hutu could live together and be supported by both families.

Once again trouble brewed in Burundi. Tensions flared after the newly elected Hutu president was later assassinated by Tutsi soldiers. With school closings, her father feared intellectual death for his children as much as physical death. Hellerud, now married, felt life is cyclical and did not want her 18-month-old son, Yann, to witness the next wave of impending violence. This time of her own volition, Hellerud fled to Burkina Faso, West Africa, taking her four younger siblings with her at her parents’ request. Because it was easier for women and children to leave Burundi, her husband planned to join them as soon as it was feasible.

responsible for six

As an urban refugee, Hellerud, now 27, had the privilege of living and working in an urban center and was spared life in a refugee camp. She rejoined Catholic Relief Services, the overseas relief agency, where in Burundi she had served refugees and other disadvantaged groups.

The sobering reality that she alone protected her son, three younger sisters and one younger brother in an environment where she says males lurked and preyed on the vulnerable forced her to look for a permanent home. After four failed attempts to secure visas to go to Europe, she applied for refugee status and refugee resettlement in the United States. The odds appeared stacked against her, with only 2 percent or less of all refugees approved for resettlement worldwide.

Her fortitude caught the attention of decision-makers, and all six members were selected to become the first Burundian family in Fargo, North Dakota. Hellerud loves to say, “Fargo chose us.” She had left blank the question on the application that asked where you would like to be if your application were to be approved. Hence, Fargo.

“Fargo did a beautiful job of restoring our dignity,” says Hellerud, who arrived in September 1998.

Finding work in Fargo

Warned it would take time to find a professional job, Hellerud determined to accept any job, as long as it was legal and ethical. Refugees who cannot find employment within the first eight months risk becoming homeless because of inability to pay rent. Hellerud applied for positions as a hotel housekeeping attendant and grocery store bagger. She was told she was unqualified, despite the fact she worked as an administrative manager in Africa and could speak four languages, in addition to English.

Then, she heard the meat processing plant turned no one down. Despite her strong dislike of blood, she applied. “I didn’t know if I should celebrate or cry when they turned me down,” Hellerud says. “Do I question if I left God in Africa or if She or He came with me here?”

Hellerud finally landed a job, working the graveyard shift at Cardinal IG, a glass manufacturer. That’s when her case manager at Lutheran Social Services (LSS) encouraged her to apply for a case manager position at LSS. Within three months of arriving in Fargo, she jump-started her career at LSS. Even so, she worked part-time at a gas station and at a Montessori school as a French teacher to make ends meet. She and her husband reunited in 1999, and were blessed with a daughter, Nicole, in 2001. As the marriage unraveled, she felt no choice but to file for divorce, despite the stigma it carried in her native culture.

Months later, she accepted a full-time position as the family involvement coordinator and cultural liaison of the SENDCAA Head Start program in Fargo. The job also provided an opportunity for her to strengthen her parenting skills.

Working three jobs, attending graduate school, parenting her two young children while supporting her four siblings, Hellerud felt overwhelmed by the struggle to survive, but never gave up.

Within one year, she had fulfilled all the goals she had set for herself. And she inspired others.

Mariam Bassoma, an asylum seeker from Djibouti, bonded with Hellerud at Head Start while Hellerud explained the registration form in French. Hellerud suggested Bassoma volunteer at HeadStart until she received her worker permit. “I felt she was like me. I was so desperate. I had no one, no family,” Bassoma says. Hellerud became her mentor. She encouraged Bassoma to go back to school. She also connected Bassoma to resources and helped her navigate raising children in another culture.

“What I learned is to never give up for anything. Even though you go through many, many things in your life, tomorrow will be better,” Bassoma says. She volunteered for one year at LSS and was hired as a French interpreter and later promoted to immigration assistant.

new direction

In 2012, Hellerud was named LSS’s director of the New American Program and state refugee coordinator. Each piece of paperwork she completed or extra hour she worked represented a face to Hellerud. The remembrance of how narrowly she had escaped living in a refugee camp herself spurred her on to work long, hard hours to help others. “The cause was so personal, it became almost like family, sometimes unhealthy, but you don’t walk away from family,” Hellerud says.

But in 2015, Hellerud left LSS on terms that were not her own. The organization eliminated her position during a perceived budget deficit. She experienced a rejection that struck her to the core of her being. In typical Hellerud fashion, she spent some time processing the situation and then she focused on the positive.

She compares dealing with adversity to lifting weights. Just as your physical muscles grow bigger and stronger, so do your coping muscles. Life has prepared her to be resilient. In the times of grief, hurt and disappointment Hellerud looks for lessons to learn and for moments to celebrate. She knows good can come from the most unlikely sources, such as her brother’s car accident.

“I will fall down, but eventually, I rise up again,” she says. “I am committed to facing what is yet to come.”

standing again

Losing her job blessed Hellerud with something desperately lacking in her life: time. She was able to spend more time with her children and husband, Fargo attorney Mark Hellerud, whom she had married in December 2014, and to explore her other talents. The English major decided to pen a book. The sound of her father’s favorite songs, from “Fais-Moi un Signe,” to the Archies’ rendition of “Sugar, Sugar” filled her home as she stood at her kitchen island to write. (Yes, she prefers to stand when she works.) She often felt her father’s presence during this time.

Kayla Kelly, a customer service representative supervisor at Western State Bank in Fargo, recently heard Hellerud speak at an author event at the Fargo Public Library. Awestruck by Hellerud’s positivity and strength, she purchased a copy of “Being at Home in the World,” which gives a glimpse into Hellerud’s refugee journey. Each chapter concludes with cross-cultural leadership lessons to guide the reader.

“She never gave up and she always just had a goal,” says Kelly. “And she was going to do anything to make sure her family was taken care of.” Kelly left the library feeling grateful for everything she had and inspired to be the best person she could be.

finding beauty in diversity

The social justice activist founded her own business in 2015, Ubuntu Consulting. Ubuntu is a complex word from her native language of Kirundi, often translated as “humanity.” It also addresses the philosophical concept of what it means to be human, and how humans should treat each other.

Hellerud is a tireless advocate for community involvement, service and inclusion. She embraces the lessons she’s learned both personally and professionally to help bridge the gap she sees between new Americans and the receiving communities. Hellerud strives to create trust and harmonious relationships necessary for successful integration. She speaks at conferences, universities, elementary and high schools, and she also equips organizations in working across a diverse workforce.

One such client is the Rural Minnesota Concentrated Employment Program (RMCEP), in partnership with three other Clay County organizations. Team leader Theresa Hazemann describes Hellerud as self-assured, energetic, enthusiastic, determined and instinctive.

Hellerud helped the RMCEP assess barriers to employment and self-sufficiency new Americans living in Clay County face, and recommended steps to address those concerns.

“Laetitia did an excellent job for us,” Hazemann says. “Her professional and friendly approach promoted involvement of community providers and refugee/new American populations. She checked frequently with our partnership to share information she was gathering as well as exploring areas that our group may have wanted more information on.”

“The face of our community is changing whether we like it or not,” Hellerud says. “The good news is that we are more similar than different. Diversity is such a beautiful thing. It is not new — just happening faster. People are coming to the United States for opportunity and safety. What’s new is how fast it is happening.”

Focusing on what unifies people, she adds, “Everyone wants a safe community, a place where our kids can thrive. It doesn’t matter if they wear a hijab or baseball cap. We want a great future for them.”

She encourages those who are uncomfortable with Fargo’s growing diversity to check their own biases and confront their fears, to educate themselves so they can be open-minded. These actions will help to move toward becoming an advocate.

She will work so that systems, policies and programs can be more inclusive to make everyone feel valued, so everyone can contribute socially, economically, culturally and politically.

proud Fargoan

This September, Hellerud will celebrate the 20th anniversary of her family’s arrival in North Dakota. She proudly displays her love for Fargo with her license plate, FARGOAN. “My love affair with Fargo is real,” Hellerud says.

Because Fargo has given her so much, Hellerud gives back by serving on local and state committees and boards, ranging from the FM Symphony Orchestra and West Fargo Public Schools to the Fargo Human Relations Commission and the New American Consortium for Wellness and Empowerment, to name a few.

It is the warmth of the people that has caused her to stay despite her dislike of the cold. “They smile, hug, look you in the eyes,” Hellerud says. “They don’t drive and leave you in the ditch. They stop and help. They make this place warm.”

As North Dakota’s first Burundian family, she felt a responsibility to succeed, not only to provide for her family but also to honor the trust placed in her by those who resettled her. Integration is a delicate process at times. First-generation settlers deal with the inner dilemma of missing their homeland and wishing things were better so they could return, yet feeling an overwhelming gratitude to the country that took them in when they most needed a place to call home.

Today, Hellerud is in a very good place compared with 1998. She has imparted her love for learning, language and culture to her children, who are bilingual. Her Burundian-Scandinavian family embraces their unique blend and celebrates their diversity in their beautiful spacious home. Yet, Hellerud announces she would have the same internal peace, if three years from now she would be living in a homeless shelter.

“My happiness is not based on people, things or circumstances,” she says.

And that is how Hellerud faces each obstacle in her life with fearlessness and trademark joy.

“Everyone wants a safe community, a place where our kids can thrive. It doesn’t matter if they wear a hijab or baseball cap. We want a great future for them.”

photo: abbyanderson.com

Ashley's FIT KITCHEN RECIPES

no bake CARROT CAKE BARS & BITES

Carrot cake is a spring menu standout, and the humble carrot is the star of the show. It’s a vegetable in a cake, so it’s healthy, right? Traditionally, no, but being carrot cake is such a popular spring dessert, I decided it was time to find a healthy alternative without sacrificing flavor. Not only is this recipe healthy, but it’s easy, no-bake and I’ve come up with four different ways to use it. I think you’ll love this for a healthy dessert, snack, post-workout snack or even for breakfast. Using only whole foods and natural sweeteners, these are all ingredients your body will use as energy. Oh, and for the frosted bar option, I wanted to give you a delicious healthy alternative to cream cheese frosting. But let’s be honest, there is no such thing. So, I gave you the real deal as I believe balance is important and you’re still eating vegetables in the cake. I have a feeling you’ll be making these not just all spring, but all year. Enjoy!

CARROT CAKE BARS

2 cups carrots (3 large carrots)

1 cup walnuts

1 cup almonds

1 cup pitted dates

1 cup old fashioned oats

⅛ cup + 1 tablespoon maple syrup

2 teaspoons cinnamon

Line an 8x8 pan with parchment paper. Combine all ingredients in food processor and process until a crumbly mixture forms. You may need to use a spatula to scrape down sides and process again. Pour mixture into pan, press down, and set in refrigerator. Cut after 15 minutes to eat plain or make frosting (right) and frost, then cut. Keep stored in refrigerator up to one week.

FROSTED carrot cake bars

8 ounces cream cheese (or vegan cream cheese)

2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract

½ cup Crisco (or butter/vegan butter)

5 cups powdered sugar

spring dates

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carrot cake PROTEIN BITES

Add 1 scoop (or 3 tablespoons) vanilla protein powder to Carrot Cake Bars recipe (I used a plant-based/vegan blend). Scoop or roll into balls/bites (should make about 20)

COCONUT carrot cake protein bites

Roll carrot cake protein bites in shredded coconut (or any other topping, like chopped pecans or walnuts)

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buttermilk ranch DreSSING aND DIP

Yield: 1¾ cups Serving Size: 2 tablespoons

ingredients:

1 cup plain soymilk

1 tablespoon white vinegar

½ cup soft silken tofu

½ cup plain Greek yogurt

1 packet Ranch dressing mix (3 tablespoons)

directions:

In a small mixing bowl, combine soymilk and vinegar. Allow to rest for 15 minutes. (This will make soy buttermilk.) In a food processor, add soymilk/vinegar mixture. Add remaining ingredients and purée until smooth.

Refrigerate for at least 30 minutes. Serve with vegetables or over salad. Store in air-tight container in refrigerator for up to 1 week.

recipes with

NORTH DAKOTA SOYBEAN

cream of asparagus soup WITH SOYMILK

Yield: 6 servings

2 pounds asparagus, tips reserved

4 tablespoons soybean oil

1 large diced onion

½ cup diced celery

5 tablespoons flour

4 cups vegetable or chicken stock

1 cup plain soymilk

Salt, pepper, nutmeg, cayenne pepper to taste

In a pot of boiling salted water, cook the asparagus tips until tender — no more than two minutes — drain, and immediately transfer tips to a bowl of ice water. Reserve tips to garnish the soup. In a large saucepot over medium heat, add oil. Add onion, cook and stir until translucent. Add flour, stirring constantly, to incorporate. Slowly whisk in the stock, whisking thoroughly until smooth. Once all of the vegetable stock is incorporated, add the asparagus stalks. Simmer for 30 – 40 minutes. In a blender, add soup in small batches, purée. Using a fine strainer, strain soup to remove any vegetable pulp. Return the soup to the saucepan, bring to boil, then simmer. Add soymilk, stir. Add salt, pepper, nutmeg and cayenne pepper to taste. Divide equally into soup bowls. Garnish with reserved asparagus tips. Serve immediately.

farmers market salad

WITH SMOKeD TOMaTO aND MOrI-NUTOFU VINaIGreTTe

Chef Scott Stroud, Jethro’s BBQ, Des Moines

Yield: 4 servings

Wood chips for smoking

3 heirloom tomatoes (cored and quartered)

smoKing directions

Start with 2 medium-sized disposable aluminum pans. Make small slashes in the bottom of one of the pans (about 10 – 15 slashes). In the pan with no slashes, add wood chips. Place pan with wood chips over burner on range or on barbeque grill. Turn up heat. Once smoking, place all tomatoes in the pan with slashes over smoking chips. Smoke tomatoes for 20 minutes. Remove and set aside to cool.

dressing ingredients

1 garlic clove, minced

¼ cup Mori-Nu Silken Tofu, soft

2 tablespoons red wine vinegar

¼ cup soybean oil

Salt and pepper to taste

In a blender, add the first four ingredients. Puree until smooth. Slowly drizzle in olive oil, salt and pepper to taste. Keep refrigerated until serving.

salad ingredients

1-2 tablespoons soybean oil

1 cup tofu (firm, water packed), drained, cut into bite-sized pieces

1 cup white cheddar cheese, shredded into long pieces

1 cup prosciutto, sliced paper thin

2 ears sweet corn, corn kernels removed from cob

1 cucumber, peeled, cut into bite-sized pieces

8 cups arugula, or favorite greens

In a small fry pan, over medium high heat, add soybean oil; heat. Add tofu cubes. Let them lightly brown on each side, until each cube is nicely browned. Set aside to top salad. In a large bowl, toss arugula in reserved tofu dressing. Divide between 4 salad plates. Top each plate with smoked tomatoes, cheese, prosciutto, corn and cucumber. Top with browned tofu cubes. Garnish plate with balsamic glaze and smoked paprika.

garnish

2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar

2 tablespoons white sugar

1 teaspoon smoked paprika

In a small sauce pan over low heat, add balsamic vinegar and sugar. Stir, reduce until thick to create homemade balsamic glaze.

MISO MARINADED CHICKEN THIGHS

ALMOND SESAME SALAD

FARMERS MARKET SALAD

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Note: All events are subject to change. Confi rm dates and times before attending.

all for a GOOD CAUSE

APRIL 6

WINE & WISHES GALA

Enjoy wine pairings with hearty hors d’oeuvres, silent auction with electronic bidding, and live auction at this signature Make-A-Wish North Dakota event. The evening will include an inspiration connection to our mission and highlight the lasting impact of wishes.

Tickets: $50 Individual, $500 Table of 8

6 – 9:30 PM

Hilton Garden Inn

4351 17th Ave S, Fargo 701-280-9474

northdakota.wish.org

APRIL 14

SHAKEN, NOT STIRRED Martini Party Fundraiser

Join FMCT for our first Shaken, Not Stirred – martini party fundraiser sponsored by Happy Harry’s Bottle Shop. Mixologists will serve six signature martinis in addition to a classic martini option. This event consists of great martinis, heavy hors d’oeuvres, and select silent auction items. Dress up, and have a fun night sampling various martinis on a “’tini tour” all while making a difference.

7 – 9 PM

Fargo Moorhead Community Theatre

333 4th St S, Fargo fmct.org | 701-235-6778

APRIL 7

SOROPTIMIST SPRINGTIME STYLES: Style Show and Silent Auction

Tired of winter? Soroptimist International of Moorhead presents Springtime Styles, a style show and silent auction. Fashions by Christopher & Banks, Onyx & Pearl, Others, and Sanford Gift Shop will be featured. Dessert and beverages will be served and the Clarion Quartet will provide music. All proceeds will benefit the lives of women and girls in the community.

1 PM, EVENT; 12:30 PM, DOORS OPEN Dilworth Lutheran Church

406 3rd St NE, Dilworth

Contact Carol Larson at 218-443-3677 or larsoncll8@aol.com

APRIL 20

14 th ANNUAL HEROBASH

HERO (Healthcare Equipment Recycling Organization) invites you to celebrate with us at our annual event. This evening features delicious appetizers and desserts, live and silent auctions, door prizes, entertainment and special guests.

Tickets: Advance $35, At Door $40

6 – 9 PM

Delta Hotels by Marriott — Crystal Ballroom 1635 42nd St SW, Fargo 701-212-1921 | herofargo.org

↗ APRIL 19

GROWING FOREVER FAMILIES: Adoption fundraiser with KRISTINA KUZMIC

A night out with desserts and refreshments, live music, adoption stories and encouragement from Kristina Kuzmic. Energetic, funny and obsessed with creativity, Kristina has an in-your-face perspective on issues of life and parenting. Event proceeds support the mission of Christian Adoption Services.

Tickets: VIP $50, Individual $20, Couple $35

6 – 7 PM, VIP MEET & GREET

7 – 9 PM, FUNDRAISER

Sanctuary Events Center

670 4th Ave N, Fargo 701-237-4473

christianadoptionservices.org

APRIL 28

MS WALK FARGO

Ending multiple sclerosis for good will take all of us. Walk MS helps us team up with friends, loved ones and co-workers to change the world for everyone affected by MS. And with every step we take, every mile we walk, every dollar we raise — we're that much closer.

REGISTRATION 8:30 AM

WALK BEGINS AT 10 AM

West Fargo Veterans Memorial Arena

1201 7th Ave E, West Fargo Register at walkms.org

APRIL 30 YWCA WOMEN OF THE YEAR

Since 1973, the YWCA has been shining a spotlight on the leadership of exceptional area women at this event. Proceeds from the evening support the mission and programs of the YWCA Cass Clay. Women of the Year recipients will be announced at the event. Nominations are sought for women in Fargo-Moorhead with significant achievements in 13 categories: advocating for equality, arts and culture, business, communications, community and volunteer service, education, faith community, health and wellness, lifetime achievement, science and technology, young woman of today and tomorrow (ages 15–22), and youth advocacy. There is also a category to nominate any business that empowers women to thrive professionally and economically, the leader in women’s empowerment award. The nomination form is available at ywcacassclay.org or at the YWCA Cass Clay administrative office at 3100 12th Ave. N. in Fargo. For group tickets and sponsorship information, please call Tami at 701-232-2547 or email trust@ywcacassclay.org.

5:30 PM, SOCIAL; 6:30 PM, EVENT Delta Hotel by Marriott 1635 42nd St S, Fargo ywcacassclay.org/events/1

MAY 4 – 14

THE SALVATION ARMY COATS FOR KIDS DRIVE

The Salvation Army is collecting coat donations for youth and adults in need of winter gear. Coats will provided to individuals next fall. Coats can be dropped off at your local Hornbachers or other participating businesses.

Kallie Frost, 701-356-2688

QUOTABLE:

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and find me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord."

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JEREMIAH 29: 11-14

personal DEVELOPMENT

APRIL 3 & MAY 1

“LIVING WITH GRIEF” DROP IN CLASS

Living with Grief is a monthly (first Tuesday) group that meets to discuss various things related to grief and loss, facilitated by Boulger Funeral Home grief support coordinators. Cookies and coffee served. FREE

6 – 7:15 PM

Boulger Funeral Home, 123 10th St S, Fargo 701-237-6441 or boulgerfuneralhome.com

APRIL 5 – MAY 10, Thursdays

HEART TO HEART CONSULTING

Personal Development Book Study

This session’s book study will be on Jen Sincero’s book “You are a Badass; How to Stop Doubting your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.”

11:30 AM – 12:30 PM IN PERSON OR 7:30 – 8:30 PM ONLINE

Heart to Heart Consulting Office 4225 38th St S, Suite 108, Fargo 701-361-9143 | hearttoheartconsulting.com

APRIL 21

FREE DOCUMENT SHREDDING

Take this simple step to help protect yourself from identity theft by having sensitive personal documents shredded for free. Sponsored by AARP North Dakota.

8 AM – 12 PM

West Acres Shopping Center, west parking lot 3902 13th Ave S, Fargo aarp.org/fargo

FARGO PARK DISTRICT events

More events and info at fargoparks.com

MAY 5 →

KITE DAY

Enjoy a favorite pastime for both kids and adults! Bring your kite and show off your flying skills. Free hotdogs and Pepsi products will be available while supplies last. Everyone welcome. FREE

12:30 – 2 PM

Lindenwood Park and Softball Fields

1905 Roger Maris Drive, Fargo

APRIL 19

Fredrikson & Byron presents WAGE AND HOUR HALF-DAY SEMINAR

Employment attorneys will discuss classifying independent contractors, distinguishing between exempt and non-exempt positions, compensating employees for training, rest breaks and meal periods, travel time, on-call pay, tracking hours worked, and internships. Presenters include Kristy Albrecht, a Fredrikson & Byron shareholder in Fargo, Elizabeth Alvine, an associate with Fredrikson & Byron in Fargo, and Mary Krakow, a shareholder in the Minneapolis office. See fredlaw.com/wageandhour for details.

7:30 – 11:15 AM

Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave S, Fargo events@fredlaw.com

MAY 5

TEEN TOOLBOX: A Teen Car Care Clinic

Join us for our first annual teen car care clinic. This free course will be full of great information for teen and young/new drivers to take with them on the road.

9 AM – NOON, REGISTRATION 8:30 AM

Matt’s Automotive Service Center, Fargo 1150 43 ½ St S, Fargo 701-478-3838

alejandra@mattsautoservicecenter.com

MAY 16

HEALTHY LIVING LUNCH AND LEARN

Gain access to information and resources on staying fit, wellness, and healthy eating to live your best life at any age. Learn the importance of social and emotional well-being. FREE, preregistration required. Sponsored by AARP North Dakota

11:30 AM – 1PM

Fargodome, 1800 N University Dr, Fargo aarp.cvent.com/healthylivingfargo

MAY 19

NATURE ADVENTURE

Join us on National Kids to Parks Day for some fun and celebrate nature. See the new World Commons Garden, by The Fargo Project. Visit with Don the Bug Guy from NDSU, Learn about trees, nature and birds from the City of Fargo Forestry and Audubon Society. Make nature arts and crafts. Enjoy your local park and a light snack while supplies last.

NOON – 2 PM

Rabanus Park

4315 18th Ave SW, Fargo

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APRIL 20, 21, 26-28

Theatre NDSU presents: JUNIE B. JONES

It’s holiday time and Junie B. Jones can’t wait for her class Secret Santa gift exchange. But wait! Junie B.’s arch nemesis, that tattletale May, keeps getting in the way of all her fun. Junie B. comes up with a way to teach May a lesson. Little does she know, Junie B. will also learn a very special holiday lesson along the way. Based on the popular book Junie B., First Grader: Jingle Bells, Batman Smells! (P.S. So Does May)

7:30 PM, 2:00 PM

NDSU Askanase Auditorium

↑APRIL 8

GOLD-N-MOTION

American Gold Gymnastics presents Gold N Motion “Tell me a Story” featuring athletes of all ages from American Gold Gymnastics’ Competitive Team as well as the FM Acro Team. Tickets at Ticketmaster or Scheels Arena Box Office

3 PM

Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave S, Fargo americangoldgymnastics.com

APRIL 20-22, 26-29

DIRTY ROTTEN SCOUNDRELS

Keep an eye open for those dirty rotten scoundrels! This 11-time Tony Award nominee song and dance musical caper is a hilarious battle of cons that will keep audiences laughing, humming and guessing all the way to the French Rivera. Based on the 1988 file starring Steve Martin and Michael Caine, this high-energy musical caper is a regional premiere.

Tickets: Adults $21, Students/Seniors $15

APRIL 20, 21, 26, 27, 28, 7:00 PM

APRIL 22, 29, 2:30 PM

Fargo Moorhead Community Theatre 333 4th St S, Fargo 701-235-6778 | fmct.org

APRIL 21-22

FMBALLET PRESENTS ALADDIN

We are flying into the Fargo Theatre on a magic carpet bringing Aladdin to the stage. This is a new ballet for the FMBallet, choreographed by artistic director Matt Gasper. Reserved Seating.

Tickets: Adults $15 – $30, Seniors (65+): $12 – $28, Child/Student (with ID): $8 – $15 ($3 processing fee added at check out.)

APRIL 21, 2 PM AND 7 PM

APRIL 22, 2 PM

The Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway N 701-234-9440

1497 12th Ave, Fargo 701-231-9564 | ndsu.showare.com/ eventperformances.asp?evt=88

MAY 2-3

MURDER MYSTERY DINNER THEATRE: MURDER AT THE BANQUET

FMCT and Santa Lucia Restaurant partner to present a murder mystery dinner theater. This interactive show holds a murder investigation while you dine. Like any engaging crime story, this fiendishly good mystery will have you asking who done it, as everyone aids in solving the murder. Join us for a night of intrigue, deception, and delicious food.

Santa Lucia Restaurant

1109 38th St S, Fargo fmct.org | 701-235-6778

MAY 11-12

RUSTY BARN JUNQUE Spring Show

Rusty Barn is an occasional vintage market. Join us for a great spring show with tons of vintage and repurposed treasures. 20 miles northeast of Moorhead.

MAY 11, 5 – 8 PM

MAY 12, 10 AM – 2 PM

Rusty Barn Junque

12753 110th St N, Felton, MN 612-360-5232

MAY 20

PJ MASKS LIVE! Time to Be a Hero

The live show is based on eOne’s top-rated animated TV series, which airs daily on Disney Junior. Catboy, Owlette, Gekko and the Baddies will delight fans of all ages with live performances featuring world-class production, familiar and original music, and immersive interactivity.

3 PM

Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave S, Fargo scheelsarena.com

photo: expressionsbyashton.com

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