Self Love What Does it Mean to You?

By Delain Witzane, Photos by Delain Witzaney

The media and our world has dictated to us who we should be as women... how to dress, act, be and do! If we don't fit into either the good girl or bad girl archetypes we are doing something wrong and we need to fix it. Slowly this old way is crumbling away, no longer are we accepting and taking on the ideals of others.We know the authority on our life is within us, defined by each of us, and we are so much more than two linear archetypes that don't come close to the feminine experience.

The sacred feminine within all of us is passionate, compassionate, connected to her inner goddess and shakti energy.

She is mother/maiden/crone, she is cyclical and carries within her life force energy, creative and divine. We carry within us Mother Earth and connect to her and her cycles, we just have to go within and re-ignite it. Self Love is a part of that cyclical nature, we are never one expression all the time, we are forever changing and evolving. Self Love isn't a destination or simply a salt bath, it is an expression from knowing intuitively what you need. Listen to your soul, your inner goddess, what is she craving from you right now, tune in and listen. It may be that you need to be alone, or with your circle of women, or it could be calling for sex. These needs change during our moon cycle and with the changing of the seasons. It is time to reconnect with ourselves and our own needs.

Helping women to express sensual energy is what I do,...

and I see how hard it is for women to let go and express this freely. We have been so conditioned that it is something to be shamed or looked at as bad,

but to deny this side of us is to deny who we are at a cellular level.

It is part of who we are, how we create life in this world and I am here to help women take that part of them back. To reclaim it and own it! It is just one expression of the divine feminine, but it has been a source of shame for a lot of women. It was for me too. It took me a long time, with lots of research and asking questions, to get more comfortable with it. Through my own journey I started to reconnect with that energy building inside of me, I explored it. I let it bring forward fantasies and creative expression.

I would sit and let the thoughts and ideas flow through me, and I noticed how it started to change who I was. When I embraced that energy within me I became more confident in who I was.

I didn't need to connect with a man to feel it, or receive a compliment to feel it, it was within me and I could conjure up the energy on my own, with my own thoughts.

I started to fill up my own cup, and not rely on others to do it for me. You can do it too! It may be scary to think of your sensual energy, or the thought of exploring it but just know you are not weird, unworthy of pleasure, or that it just isn't for you.

It is an expression of the deepest levels of the divine feminine and it is so empowering.

When you free yourself to explore with an open mind, you free other women to do the same. Self Love is a deep knowing and you are an extraordinary woman, a work of art, and you deserve to define yourself and the path you choose for your highest good.

Delain Witzaney House of Courtesan 780-231-7266