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Chain Reactions And What Our Moods Have To Do With Them
By Trelawnie Gartner Image by Elias Sch. from Pixabay
When you are dissatisfied with your life, everything starts to take on a bitter taste. This is one of the biggest clues that you've slipped off the high vibrational trail, into low vibrations.
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Like attracts like. When we exist in a low vibrational state, we attract more low vibrational people, places, things and events. With low vibrations now surrounding us, our moods are affected. With our moods affected, the way we view, handle, feel and experience things begin to be affected. It causes a chain reaction.
Our outward speech is now filled with more grumbling and complaining. And our self talk turns negative and blaming. Often without us noticing. It starts small and slowly grows momentum. Before long, people start noticing the not so flattering things about you. They start giving their opinion. Criticizing the things you do. And, maybe, they start gossiping about you. Now because you are dwelling in low vibrations, you could start engaging in gossip too. Before you know what's happening, your shitty morning has turned into a shitty day. Which turned into a shitty week. Which turned into a shitty month...and so on. Fights and misunderstandings with your friends and family are on the rise and maybe you start getting in trouble at work. The neighbor you've been friendly with since you've moved in next door, all of a sudden has a problem with the shared fence you two built together! Even the friendliest cashier seems short with you.
You get so wrapped up in feeling crappy, that you forget what makes you happy!
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The good news is, this is absolutely changeable! It just takes a bit of work, retraining your mind and making sure your actions match your desires. And don't downplay the fact that asking for help could be a huge assistance here.
It all starts with a simple decision. “I deserve to be happy”.
We've all heard the saying, “make the best out of a bad situation”? Well that's solid gold advice! There's no denying that a bad situation is a bad situation, however, even in a shitty moment, the silver lining is that it could be worse. Retraining your brain starts with one thought, “Even though this is a bad situation, I'm more than capable of handling it”, and then put that thought into action. What's the first step to handling the situation?
See how in control that sounds? That one little sentence has the ability to empower you to flip the script on the low vibrations you've been stepping in. You can also try out...
“I am confident I'll find the right solution to this issue”. Or “I'm grateful for so many things in my life, I won't let this one bad thing interrupt that.
All this doesn't mean that you can't feel the frustration. You absolutely can. In fact, it's important to acknowledge how we feel. The magic lies in the fact that we don't stay there. Feel the feels, then find the solutions. Reach out for help, advice, tips and tricks or counseling if needed. People love feeling needed.
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I'd also like to dismantle the stereotype between women and men. A woman should be gentle and loving while a man should be strong and impenetrable. This is bullshit! Feminine and masculine energy exist in both. The key is balance. And don't allow the outside world to tell you how to live inside yourself. By far, the best tool we have is reaching out to others. You don't ever have to fight or face things alone. Every person has a specialty. Calling on the correct person for help with an issue can shorten the time it takes to lift your spirit and vibrations. Being seen for who you truly are and what you're capable of is something we all should be striving for. Being seen leads to feeling understood, which leads to hope, which leads to a higher vibration. My challenge to you, is really take a good look around yourself. Practice being observant. See how many people you can spot that may be struggling. And how many you can safely reach out to. (Your safety is first and foremost.) We mirror the things we want to see in this world.
Kindness, strength, compassion, empathy and helpfulness are all high vibes!
In honor of men's mental health month, I encourage the men in our lives to squash the taboo! Reach out to other men you know and check in. Let them know it's safe to express their feelings and thoughts with you, and you do the same with them. Only by changing our actions, will the cycles and stereotypes change as well. And ladies, create a safe space and allowance for the men in your life to express and share what's going on with them, no matter what it is.
You don't have to be what society has tried to tell you to be. It's your life. You get to mold it anyway you'd like. Create your kingdom your way.
I See You
Trelawnie Gartner
Trelawnie Gartner is from Alberta, Canada. She is a Reiki Master and Empowerment Coach, healer of moments, a catalyst, energy shifter and truth teller. As a fixer of other women’s crowns she encourages all souls and offers advice and guidance with knowledge gained through courses, books and life experiences.
