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Every gay bar in town does what they do on steroids this weekend, and we have your quick-reference gay guide to all of it. Here are your best bets for costume contests, plus a drag tutorial for amateur first-timers.

‘MOONLIGHT’ING

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One of the best films of the year is a gay-themed tearjerker, and Atlanta gets it in limited engagement this week. Meet the cast of Moonlight and find out what all the buzz at Telluride was about.

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Triads and throuples may not be your first thought at a gay relationship, but here’s how one gay Atlanta man found love in the arms of two men instead of one, and what he learned in the process.

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Being a good ‘Daddy’ is not about age, money, or even domination. It’s about mentorship and a sense of self.

Check this week’s D(avid) List of 10 things it takes to be a good one for your boy.

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Thursday, Oct. 27 Beautiful Briny Sea 408 Woodward Ave. SE filmlove.org

FOURTH FRIDAY Get with the professional gays of Atlanta Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce for this monthly networking happy hour. Meet and greet other LGBT business owners with the delicious noshes and refreshing cocktails of a gay Atlanta favorite restaurant. This month’s gathering is hosted by AGLCC member First Data.

Friday, Oct. 28, 5:30 p.m.

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RUCK-A-BUCK WEEKEND

HALLOWEEN SQUARE DANCE

BIG GAY HALLOWEEN

Atlanta’s gay rugby squad the Atlanta Bucks hosts its annual roster of games and fun. Start with the registration party on Friday, and wind up at the Ruck-A-Buck Sunday Brunch. Those parties bookend the main attraction games, and the Third Half Social on Saturday.

You haven’t square danced until you’ve gay square danced, and you haven’t gay square danced until you’ve done it dress up for Halloween. Hotlanta Squares hosts this celebration of group costumes as it calls the do-si-dos in its new homebase hall.

This is one holigay too big for Datebook.

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With up to four Supreme Court seats up for grabs in the next presidential term, there’s only one thing standing in the way of potential decades of gay backslide.

By Marc Paige

WHEN HILLARY CLINTON OR DONALD TRUMP IS

sworn as president, Supreme Court Justices Stephen Breyer will be 78, Anthony Kennedy will be 80, and Ruth Bader Ginsburg will be 83. They are three of the five justices who in 2013 granted all federal rights to married gay couples, and then ruled for nationwide marriage equality two years later.

The two other justices who joined them in these rulings were both appointed to the Supreme Court by President Obama. Obama’s two terms propelled LGBT rights dramatically forward. This election will determine whether we continue this progress, or reverse it.

Supreme Court decisions, whether good or bad, can be reversed.

The Bowers v. Hardwick ruling of 1986, a ruling that affirmed the right of Georgia to arrest gay people for having consensual sex, was overturned in 2003 when the court deemed anti-sodomy laws unconstitutional. Could marriage equality be reversed with new Supreme Court appointments from Trump? As Sarah Palin would say, you betcha!

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in the mold of Antonin Scalia, who never missed an opportunity to deny LGBT civil rights or denigrate our humanity.

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anti-discrimination protections for gays, he compared gay people to murderers, polygamists, and animal abusers. At an appearance at Princeton University in 2012, Scalia rhetorically asked, “If we cannot have moral feelings against homosexuality, can we have it against murder?”

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f you’re gay in Atlanta, and hello honey, you are if you’re reading this, Halloween is already on your radar as the second gayest holiday after Pride. You’re so into it, you may even have two costumes at the ready by now.

HOUSE OF HORRORS

As always, Atlanta is ready for you. All your favorite watering holes are open and pouring and welcoming your costumes. The following pages hold some of our favorites to create a Homo Halloween for the record books.

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HAUNTED HOEDOWN

If you’re looking to scoot your costume boots early this year with country music, this party is for you. Get to Heretic on Senita Quit hosts, and plan for big costume contest prizes on Thursday, Oct. 27. hereticatlanta.com

SISTERS NIGHTMARE

BJ Roosters always has dancing boys. On the Friday and Saturday of Halloween, they get extra motivated on those bar tops. Join the terrified nuns theme and all manner of other costumes on Oct. 28, then get your costume go-go on Saturday, Oct. 29 as well. 2043 Cheshire Bridge Road NE

Killer cash and prizes await at Ten Atlanta with beats by Rob Reum and Daryl Cox on Saturday, Oct. 29. Come back on Halloween Proper, Monday Oct. 31, for the secondchance costume contest. Visit tenatlanta.com One of the most popular Halloween costume contests of them all, do it up at Blake’s on Saturday, Oct. 29 with thousands in cash and prizes up for grabs to the best of the best.

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All weekend long, Friday Oct. 28 through Monday, Oct. 31, party with Bulldogs and their men-of-color clientele.

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BEAR WITCH PROJECT

Heretic kicks off their Halloween weekend with this costumed version of their weekly Friday dance party. DJ Mike Pope spins, plus a costume contest for cash and prizes is in store. hereticatlanta.com

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SHALLOWEEN with CHRISTEENE

House of Gunt, Wussy, and Legendary Children offer the most left-of-center costume party of them all at Heretic on Saturday, Oct. 29. The titular queen brings the crazy, and there are surprise performances in store. DJs Atlas and FatherFannie spin. Fat cash prize in the costume contest, too. hereticatlanta.com

MONSTER BASH

A Halloween bar hop is never complete until you stop at Burkhart’s. Every weekly party you love gets dressed up in costumes for prizes at one of the friendliest bars in town.

Friday, Saturday and Sunday all get supersized for the occasion, each with a chance to win at midnight. burkharts.com

HAUNTED HIDEAWAY HORROR

A whole weekend of Halloween horros is planned at Hideaway as well. Start on Friday with your costume, continue your dress-up on Saturday with special guests, and keep the fun going on Sunday. Saturday’s costume contest is hosted by Ruby Redd. atlantahideaway.com

KINKED

You know where to go to get Kinked for Halloween, right?

Right. AtlantaEagle does itup with a late-night costume contest with prizes for 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place winners, plus all the dance tunes you can handle by DJ Pat Scott. atlantaeagle.com

DEADLY DIVAS

The queens are hungry for blood at Atlanta’s dinnerand-a-show drag club. Theultimate in drag dining puts a Halloween spin on its Friday, Saturday and Sunday shows with you and yours costuming with some of the city’s premiere queens. lipsatl.com

JOCK COSTUME CONTEST

Atlanta’s only gay sport bar puts on a spread every game day (and night), but for Halloween, they really kick it up a notch on Saturday Oct. 29. Your favorite games are on the TV screens, and the costume contest is off the chain. woofsatlanta.com

CREEPY THRILLS & CHILLS

Friends on Ponce wants you to come trick or treat with them. Their pitch? “Somewhere in the big city is a creepy little house with lots of thrills and chills. You know just the place. Midnight costume contest on Saturday, Oct. 29. friendsonponce-atl.com

HAPPY HALLOWEEN

With new tripled parking, come to Piedmont Circle on Oct. 29 for a $500 costume contest at Tripps. Contestants must sign up in advance of the 11 p.m. witching hour.

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5. Find a Balance

Drag Tips

FOR HALLOWEEN

Not only should your eyebrows and lips match on both sides – unless, you know, you’re going for something avant-garde.

That’s on you – but you can balance your pocketbook too. Save money on certain items like low-rent lashes and lipsticks.

4. Air Kisses Only

A real kiss from an excite friend, especially one with facial hair, can ruin your night. Unsightly smudges or scrapes are not a good look, so keep the adoring masses at bay to save face.

3. Experiment in Advance

Don’t wait until the big night to find your look. Bold brows and hard-edge shadows up the “drag factor,” while smoky eyes give a more “realistic” look. Once you’re there, practice at least a few times so you can make the magic happen when the time comes.

Halloween is the perfect 9. Carry a Compact opportunity to take a walk Girl! A compressed translucent powder 2. ‘Bake’ Your Highlights is your best friend on the big night. Put a heavy amount of your concealer and on the drag side. Here are compact Lady-bois-on-the-go need touch-ups, and foundation over your nose and cheekbones, as some top tips and tricks. with this you can cut down on shine and well as under your eyebrows, and walk away.

By Mike Fleming So you want to know what it feels like for a girl at least once, but you know from Drag Race that it’s not as easy as throwing on a wig and dress.

No, honey. You gotta be better than that, and your female gal pal doesn’t know how to do the overhaul you’re going to need to get that face beat into the shape it needs.

And love them as you do, Atlanta's drag queens can't be making up every last fan who wants to do drag this weekend. Bitches be busy, OK?

keep on dancing.

For like, a good while, 10 minutes minimum.

Letting it “bake” not only pronounces the high8. Eyes Have It lighted areas as everything else goes on top, it Trixie Mattel notwithstanding, almost every actually helps smooth the foundation to other drag queen makes the eyes the focal point areas of the skin. of their drag. A little light-colored powder beneath the eyes – blended properly, of 1. Always Lashes course – really brings emphasis to your gor- & Lip Liner geous peepers.

Nothing makes you look better in drag than fake eyelashes. Bigger is always better, as 7. Don’t Skimp on Powder long as you don’t go so heavy they weigh down If you don’t want to look like a french fry your eyelids, impair your vision – you’ll look like straight out of the deep fryer, powder heavy, you have a lazy eye or are drunk before you liberally, and often. The inexpensive stuff leave the house. And same goes for lip liner. is fine, and full coverage is your friend. It No matter those pillowy cocksuckers you start smooths your face in photos and keeps you with, pronounce them with liner before lipstick from looking greasy. Ew. for that pouty female look.

To the rescue, we scoured the internet to find real tips from real drag queens and compiled them here for your best chance to 6. More is More Sources: popsugar, queerty, rebelcircus, pinterest put your best face forward.

So many queens want that “real girl” look.

But since you are not one, you’re going to 10. Blend! need more than lip gloss, mascara and eye Don’t let your cheek contouring look like shadow. It takes a lot of mak-up to make Neopolitan ice cream. Three distinct colors a man look like a girl who is wearing no is not your look. Or anyone’s. Use a stip- makeup. pling brush and a little translucent powder to blend.

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‘MOONLIGHT’ New film as first gay male serious Oscar contender in years explores discovering identity against the odds in limited Atlanta run.

By Elijah Sarkesian Few films released this year feel quite as essential to this particular moment in history as Moonlight. It’s a gorgeously shot, emotionally wrought exploration of its central character, Chiron, as he grows up in Miami as a black man who doesn’t fit in with those around him, both because of his general demeanor and his specific romantic and sexual interest in men.

Since its premiere at Telluride earlier this year, Moonlight has received a tremendous from critics and general audiences alike.

The story follows Chiron across three periods of his life: the latter days of his childhood, where he’s looked after by a drug dealer who becomes a father figure; years later in high school, where his introverted nature and damaging home life make him more of a target from bullies; and in his mid-20s, where life has pushed him into a lonely existence until he receives an unexpected phone call. The film looks at the ways different forms of identity clash and merge, and how societal pressures can impact a person.

For actor Trevante Rhodes, who plays Chiron as an adult, taking on the role meant connecting to the root of who the character became by the time he’s in his 20s – someone who’s built a tough exterior to try and protect a fragile soul.

“It was really understanding that this person was someone who’s incredibly tormented, someone who had a lot of self-hate because he didn’t understand who he was,” Rhodes says. “So it was about inhabiting this skin and walking around L.A. feeling like I had this disdain for myself, or this disdain for everyone else, having this secret that I had to hide from everyone. I felt like if I were to connect with someone, they would see the secret, they would see the insecurities, they would see the little boy who just wants to dance around and they would judge me for it.”

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of the film. For Naomie Harris, who plays Paula, taking on the character was a challenge – in part because it went against the type of roles she wanted for herself.

“I desperately wanted to do [the film], but … I had a dilemma because here was this amazing script and amazing filmmaker, but I’ve always said that I would draw the line at playing a crack addict,” Harris says.

“I really wanted to make my choices as an actor based on portraying positive images of women in general, and black women in particular, and I didn’t think a crack addict was one of them,” she continues. “So it took a conversation with Barry basically convincing me, asking me to play his mom, before I said yes.”

With audiences now seeing the final product, though, both Rhodes and Harris are quick to note just how strongly audiences are responding to Moonlight. During the film’s premiere at Telluride, there was a standing ovation – plus a second standing ovation outside of the theater as the film’s talent walked out. Then came the one-on-one interactions.

“People started coming up to us and sharing their experiences with the movie,” Harris says. “A 70-year-old white guy ended up crying in the arms of Barry, a black girl came up to me and was telling me about her experience. She ended up bursting into tears, and was sobbing in my arms.

I’ve never been a part of a movie that moves people in this way, and I’ve been working since I was nine years old, which is 31 years doing this.”

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Rhodes’ first experience with someone impacted by the film didn’t even involve the full film itself – just the release of Moonlight’s first trailer.

“A two-minute trailer. I’ll never forget, it was literally an hour later, and I was at the gym,” he remembers. “This guy comes up to me. He’s shaking, his eyes are red, and he’s tearing up, and he tells me that this is his story, and he appreciates us for telling this story so much. And that just hit my heart, because from a two-minute trailer, an hour ago, you were affected.”

For anybody debating watching the film, Rhodes has a few words of advice.

“If you have any hesitance towards going to see this, then you really need to see it more than anybody,” he suggests.

“If you have a friend that’s hesitant, grab them, put them in a headlock, pay for their ticket if you need to, but get them to see this movie, because this is something that literally everyone needs to see, everyone needs to understand.”

Moonlight opens Friday, Oct. 28, at AMC Phipps Plaza and Landmark Midtown Art Cinema.

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They wanted to keep me in their circle of friends and became mentors. They helped me mature in the gay culture and even these apps expose the dark and shallow un- taught me what to look for, and in turn look out for. They showed me the best that derbelly of some people.

Atlanta can offer a blossoming gay man.

The apps give a lot of leeway for the shadier crowd that uses the application to troll or Experience comes from an open mind and cause actual harm. Just a warning gentle- a willingness to try something new. So in a men: A picture is an easy thing to fabricate. way, my inexperience inspired me to embark Meet them in person before going home on the journey with the couple. Patience and with them! awareness was the key in making the ‘triad’ or ‘throuple’ work for as long as it did.

SCRUFF IS ACTUALLY WHERE I MET my couple. While I was lumbering out of a Their encouragement pushed me to a more hangover, they contacted me and struck up a mature mindset and set a new standard of a conversation at first about nonsense, as what to look for or expect in a partner. My I thought nothing would come of it. They time with the couple proved to be a rewardwere upfront and bold expressing as to what ing and enriching experience that I would they were looking, which was a third. never take back.

I simply brushed it off.

Are you aware of Scruff? No not on your face. The dating/hookup app. I know it well and used it vehemently in my journey over the rainbow. Apps like Scruff, Grindr, Hornet Then they extended an invite to dinner with Michael Chrisholm is a freelance and Growler are useful in connecting entire them at their house. Against my own advice, writer living in Atlanta. communities of gay men. At the same time, I agreed to go.

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David Atlanta’s weekly list of truths all gay men have come to know

10 Things That Make You Daddy Material

Guiding Instincts

Person of Interest

Trustworthy

Accept Differences

Get It Together

Not Yours

Been There

Life Experience

Confidence

Open Trick,Minded 1999

Knowing when to nurture, when to let Whether it’s crossfit or crochet, climbgo and let him fail on his own, and ing or cooking, Daddies are well when to offer tough love is key. rounded and share their interests.

What’s true of Boy Scouts is true of The best way to be a good Daddy is Daddies. Build through actions a to accept laugh at and work around reputation of trust and respect. common challenges like bedtimes and musical tastes.

It’s the life and attitude, not money, There’s a difference between a that offers security. Daddies have Daddy and a Dom. Daddies don’t their shit together enough to share. own their mates. Advice yes, calling his shots no.

He doesn’t have to be a certain age He’s going to make you feel old to have been around the block, sometimes. A good Daddy knows learned some lessons, and come the score and takes it in stride. out wiser.

From mental exes to mean bosses, the gay scene and beyond, Daddies have seen their way through it and make great mentors.

The Youvery never best got Daddies to see the still“beer have room can”tosized learnmember a thing of or the twostar, from their butyounger when Coco guy and Perulet said himitbe was the teacher beautiful, sometimes. you believed her.

Got an idea for an upcoming D List? Want to share your truths with the rest of the Gay-TL? Write mike@davidatlanta.com so we can include it.

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BLAKE’S TGIF with Doug & Brent 3-9pm • “Deadly Vixens” Drag Show 11pm • Bill Berdeaux Spins Street Level BURKHART’S FEMME FATALE with Destiny Brooks and Justice Taylor at 11PM CLUB RUSH “Got Leche” Free entry until 11pm 18 & up - Open until 4am COCKPIT $6.00 SkyFall Wine EAGLE DJ Dance Party HERETIC PUMP featuring Atlanta’s hottest deejays - Occasional special events. No cover b4 11 HIDEAWAY $5 Smirnoff drinks & Martinis DJ Marc J. Cubs @10pm in back room JUNGLE The Other Show with Edie Cheezburger 9:30pm LIPS ATLANTA Glitz & Glamour Las Vegas Style MODEL T Texas Hold’em Poker 9pm OSCAR’S Music Video Night SWINGING RICHARDS Sexy dancers pack the strage early! Drink Specials all night. Free before 8PM. $10 Cover before 12 TEN ATLANTA Music & Videos by DJ Daryl Cox 10pm TRIPPS Jeremy Presents “Skin” 4pm - 2am WOOFS Fur Fridays

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up. It may take some self-coaching, but suck up your fears and ask, “Can I get your help with that bag?” These strangers don’t care about your issues, and they will happily assist in order to get off the plane faster.

Everyone has challenges, and as long as no one is directly giving you shit about yours, forget it. If they are, be less defensive at least at the beginning. I once heard a 6’10” gay guy respond to “How’s the weather up there?” with “Put your mouth on my thermometer to find out.”

HEY,

Hey, Daddy!

Daddy!

I’m a pocket gay, but I have a giant personality. Most things I can do for myself, of course, and I get insulted when others assume I’m helpless just because I’m short.

Please, guys. I can order my own drink, step out at a “Walk” light by myself, and no I’m not dying to suck you off because your crotch is at eye level.

Hey, Daddy!

I make a good enough living that my husband was able to quit his job, but he slowly stopped handling day-today stuff and now sleeps until noon.

He over-reacted when I told him to find a hobby or volunteer, so how I hate to ask for help, and I hate can I facilitate change? to check everything because they He Even Leaves Piles of charge for that these days. Help!

Folded Up Laundry Sucks at Every Level Fo’real Dear HELPFUL: He probably feels useless. Maybe he Dear SELF: It’s tough to be below average in height stagnated into a such a funk that even keep. The top grocery shelf and roller reasonable ideas seem overwhelming. coasters are just the beginning of how Professional advice might help him put the reality of life discriminates against the one foot in front of the other until your suggestions seem doable, but until then, vertically challenged. be more nurturing than bossy.

You are right that no one should look down on you just because they look down to see you. For the most part, you’ve made your height more of a signature to your big Daddy Daddy loves his boys. He knows the answers personality than a hindrance, but you also you need, and you’re going to get them. show a residual case of what I call “worrying Reach out to him with your burning questions too much what others think.” via our editor, mike@davidatlanta.com.

That said, sometimes I can use help but feel self conscious due to my height. The most glaring examples are overhead bins on airplanes. The time it takes to get my luggage into the compartment is bad enough with everyone watching, but getting it down has me waiting until everyone Maybe people buying you drinks are flirting. else has deplaned to even attempt it. Hello? Don’t turn that down. And don’t wait to deplane. Disembark as your row comes

Warning: Advice given in this column is intended for entertainment and novelty purposes. Please proceed at your own risk.

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More details on your gay horoscope at

Astrobarry.com by Barry Perlman.

ARIES (Mar. 21 – Apr. 19):

LIBRA (Sep. 23 – Oct. 22):

TAURUS (Apr. 20 – May 20):

SCORPIO (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21):

GEMINI (May 21- Jun. 20):

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21):

CANCER (Jun. 21- Jul. 22):

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19):

LEO (Jul. 23 – Aug. 22):

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18):

VIRGO (Aug. 23 – Sep. 22):

PISCES (Feb. 19 – Mar. 20):

This would be a lovely time to tell a partner, best pal, key player, or close collaborator how much they mean to you.

Explicitly articulate your appreciation. Pursue your singleminded aims passionately, but don’t forget about the side effects on them. Address it head-on with humility and gratitude to turn resentment into support.

Choose your battles wisely. You’re swamped, and you can’t take on all at the same time, and still expect to perform at your highest competency. Follow your conscience, but recognize any righteous mission is taking priority over accomplishing those jobs-and-chores in a timely and capable manner.

Which is more important to you?

Don't be afraid to speak your mind, even if it’s not likely to fix anything. You can’t deny the magnitude of the latest developments, no matter how smooth a conversational courseplotter you may be. Everything is already headed a certain direction, so why try to forestall the inevitable?

Your thoughts are heavily colored by your own subjective emotional outlook than may immediately be apparent. Don’t take the bait in a battle of wills. Should you find yourself confronted by another person's threatening insistence – even if there's really no getting around it, you can conscientiously control the quality of your own responses.

Stick to the rallying-cry of 'work hard, play hard.' You may feel pulled from one end to the other, but you won’t be satisfied if you try to solve this tension by totally championing either consideration over the other. Both work and play come to a head in the coming weeks. Use this week to further work knowing that more more social temptation is coming.

Study the details related to small adjustments or minor concessions you make to establish a position as a right-hand cohort worthy of trust. There is a danger in too heedlessly uttering such sentiments, even though they may be your ticket to a rise in income or esteem. Don’t make a concession just to nab a quick buck or a fawning endorsement.

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The exuberance with which you express yourself is a lot for others to handle. Do it anyway. The heightened force of your self-regard could awaken resistance, but you need that level of intensity. If your inner diplomat balks, remind yourself you're fighting a big battle and now you've got the edge.

Don’t settle for less than triumph.

Revel in the power of your latest creative breakthrough, but take time before trying to sell its merit to others. Let everyone else work out the kinks in their own perspectives and methods. Take this instrumental hands-off step and allow the playing field to clear itself. After that, your fresh outlook will receive a warmer welcome.

Refrain from actively publicizing or pressing your personal agenda. Instead lend your voice to a larger chorus. Adopting this group-minded flavor is essentially the flipside to recent advice, but alliances are cemented now by affirmatively articulating them. Your personal agenda can come back when everything’s in place.

Be as diplomatic in your phrasing as you can, but stop short of anything so insincere or inaccurate that it'll set off your own inner bullshit-detector. Respectfully participate in whatever protocol-dance is required. You must blend your feisty self-determination with a healthy amount of gracious courtesy to those who came before.

You're catching a more integrative, future-facing, wider-angle view of current conditions than others, but don’t get too self-satisfied about it. While you can see the components, you can't inspect the on-the-ground details. No amount of insisting, nor racking your brain for ideal solutions, can substitute for simply letting time tell.

Don't let anyone’s oversimplified thinking, bandwagon rhetoric, or bullyish pressure cause you to make ill-advised compromises. Don’t choose sides. Try to keep complicated conversations continuous and open-ended, but some people may be unable to do so. In those cases, negotiating can be a losing proposition—and a waste of breath.

BITCH Bitch SESSION

S E S S I O N Yes, I kept your things.

The ashes are still in the fireplace if you want a dustpan.

Pride Float Ginger: You don’t have the body for the shade you’re throwing.

You betta tuck and roll, gym queen, because that fall off your high horse is about to be epic.

I keep thinking you’re out of my life, but you BAR BITCHES keep pulling me back in!

Princess: My post wasn’t about you, but if the shoe fits, lace that bitch up.

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Skinny bitches who call themselves fat. No!

Hey hair queen, If only your dick was as big as your ego.

Don’t whine about not having a partner when the only guys you’ll look at twice are 21, and you are 44.

You’re those people Oscar Wilde warned about: No enemies, but you’re intensely disliked by your own friends.

Don’t let anyone with Ladybrows tell you shit about life.