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Once you do your civic duty, all that’s left is the crying. And the drinking. Whether tears of joy or wailing misery, our drinking game and shot recipes are the perfect companions to Election Night results coverage.
MY TWO DADS
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They say gay parents are as good as the next guy, but there are some distinct differences. A real-life Mr. Mom takes us through the ins, outs and flirty straight guys of being a gay dad.
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BOY TROUBLE
On your road to finding Mr. Right, you’ve probably dated and dumped these 10 archetypes. Here’s who they are, how they treat you, and the warning signs to look for with each and every one.
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what to do this week CABARET Randy Harrison of Queer As Folk fame, who by the way is also a native Atlantan, stars as the iconic emcee in this iconic musical. Join Sally and her sexually fluid boys and girls on this emotional whirlwind in decadent Berlin right as the Nazis are beginning to get a foothold. Through Sunday, Nov. 6 Fox Theatre 660 Peachtree Road NE foxtheatre.org
ELECTION DAY Whether you’re voting against somebody that would make America hate again, or for someone you think is right for the job of ruling the free world, it’s time to make your voice heard at the ballot box. Down-ticket seats in Georgia are also up for grabs, so choose wisely. Tuesday Nov. 8 Your Georgia Polling Place georgia.gov
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The gay-run Atlanta Foundation for Public Spaces closes out its year of peppering our calendar with awesome arts, music and food. This fest is one of AFFPS’ best because the surroundings, the weather and the fall-festive people are so gorgeous this time of year.
Every week, Atlanta’s favorite queens are working the room for your pleasure and –you’re your dollars. For guests and surprises each week, hit our preferred spots for Friday drag with Jungle's Other Show (photo), Blake's Deadly Vixens, and Burkhart's Femme Fatale.
That magnetic pull you feel to the corner of 10th and Piedmont is not just your gay Atlanta heritage calling you home. It’s the critical mass of gay men getting their requisite after-park bar hours. Especially this time of year. Blake’s, Henry’s, Zocalo and 10th & Piedmont yes, and Ten Atlanta for sure.
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DRINKING game
ust as you were about to lose it, Election Day looms to put half the country out of its misery, and in the other half into a whole new nightmare. You look like you could use a drink. Your reward for enduring the whole mess is this drinking game to watch the results by on Nov.8. Gather friends and follow our guide to drunken victory bliss, or drown-your-sorrows misery.
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GENERAL DRINKING CUES THE SWINGER Plan ahead. Make two batches of Jell-O shots. One red and one blue (recipe below). If you are a gay Republican, slam one back each time Trump wins a battleground state, and sit silently in your shame when he doesn’t. No drinky for you! If you are a Democrat, do one each time Clinton wins a battleground state, and have a blast! MAINTAINING MOMENTUM EARLY Any time a newscaster says “too early to call,” “the economy,” or “exit polls” take a sip of your drink. You’ll be drunk by nightfall. THE THROWBACK Any time a politician or pundit says “take America back,” or “great again” take a drink and ask “from what?” and “when was that?” BLONDE AMBITION If a conservative female pundit is shown who is not blonde, take a sip of your drink. THIRD PARTY If a newscaster mentions a third party candidate, take a sip. If one of them wins a state, finish your drink. Hint: Evan McMullin has a shot in Utah. THE OBAMA FACTOR For each time somebody says “continuing Obama’s legacy,” or “extending Obama’s policies,” take a drink. MICHELLE SHOTS For each time you hear somebody say “Michelle Obama”, especially in reference to 2020, take a Jell-O shot and slap that person. It’s way too early to think about another election year! PUSSY SIPS Every time someone brings up “lewd conversations,” “sexual assault” or “grabbing without permission,” consent to a sip of your drink. ONE-WORD SIPS Sip every time you hear “Rigged,” “Disaster,” “Tremendous,” “Wall,” “Immigrants,” “Debate,” “Racism,” “E-mails,” “Benghazi,” “Nasty.” 16 | 11.2.16
Election Night Jell-O Shot Recipe DEM DOG BLUE
Sorry Democrats, Jell-O Berry Blue is the worst tasting flavor of Jello. Follow this recipe to get a fun Hawaiian Punch flavor that blends well with the berry and adds a tart bite. 6 oz. package Berry Blue Jell-O 16 oz. (2 cup) boiling water 8 oz. 6 oz. Island Blue Pucker 10 oz. vodka
THE BET
Find yourself a rival. Make a bet with your opponent – the losing party will have to fulfill their side of the bet. Whoever’s candidate wins (270 electoral votes to win). We look forward to seeing lots of drunk YouTube videos of people making a full of themselves because of this. Sexual bets are appropriate too.
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TIE GAME In the highly unlikely event there is a tie (269-269), both parties must fulfill the bets. Also, you should just call out of work the next day because the “around the water cooler” conversations might be enough to send you to the mental hospital.
NEWS NETWORK SPECIFIC CUES CNN: If Wolf Blitzer breaks monotone, take a sip of your drink. If Anderson Cooper giggles, finish your drink. MSNBC: If Chris Matthews has a hissy-fit and goes off on a tangent, take a sip. FOX NEWS: If they say Obamacare more than 5 times in 2 minutes, take a sip. C-SPAN: Why are you watching C-SPAN? Hand over your keys. You’re Drunk. Please drink responsibly. David Atlanta is not responsible for impending hangovers, calling in sick at work, embarrassing yourself in front of co-workers, or any other potential outcome from playing this drinking game. davidatlanta.com | 17
WHAT’S THE T?
On the forefront of the evolving transgender awareness, National Trans Conference in Atlanta aims to educate the South and keep the T in LGBTQ BY MATTHEW HOLLEY
Founded by Ronnie Bass, a doctoral candidate certified in HIV/ AIDS counseling, Atlanta's Someone Cares is a nonprofit HIV/AIDS Outreach Organization instilled with the principles of providing holistic support and interventions to LGBTQ members of underserved, sidelined and homeless populations, making it what Bass and other employees fondly refer to as a “One Stop Shop.”
Cecilia Chung, Senior Strategist of Transgender Law Center and a person living with HIV, kicks off the initial breakfast plenary on Friday, Nov. 18. Chung will discuss her work as a member of the Global Reference Group of Positive Women and her fight for transgender women and all people living with HIV.
Over the course of the next two days Jesse Milan Jr., JD, the Interim President & CEO of AIDS United, and Amy Lansky, the director of the Office of National AIDS Policy, will treat spectators with remarks, as well. Closing out the conference will be Ayana Elliot, a nurse practitioner who known for her research and interest focuses on health promotion, HIV prevention and treatment, and primary care for young MSM Executive Director Bass has spearheaded his vision to empower the and transgender persons of color. Transgender community for over 20 years. So, what exactly is the 4th Capping off the weekend is the Illusions Mini Ball. Look for competition annual National Trans Health Conference? categories including “Trans Man Realness,” Trans Woman “Femme “It is a platform for educating providers and creating an environment Queen Realness,” “Runway (OTA),” and “Butch Queen Sex Siren.” for dialogue between healthcare providers and the Transgender com- Each category offers the winners a four-figure cash prize. The lucky munity,” he says. “The conference inspires the staff and volunteers at winners in the Trans Man and Trans Woman categories will also beSomeone Cares to continue their work at decreasing health disparities come National Peer Educators for the Trans Community. among the transgender community.” The door is still open for all attendees and volunteers. This year’s conference features a non-stop rollout of events, speakers, conference workshops information for trans and allied folks Nov. 17-19 “I would like to thank everyone who will be attending the conference at the Sheraton Atlanta Hotel. The first of its kind in the Southeast, the to support the organization and Someone Care’s vision for a more conference aims to instruct providers in on “medical cultural compe- Trans* friendly community,” Bash says. tency” to interract with and treat trans patients with care and respect Atlanta’s Someone Cares hosts the 4th annual National Trans Health that every individual righty deserves. Conference Nov. 17 – Nov. 19 at the Sheraton Atlanta Hotel. Visit Workshops led by physicians, registered nurses and substance abuse someonecaresatl.org. counselors will educate, encourage, and strengthen relationships among those who directly affect the daily lives of the trans community. “Someone Cares provides HIV/AIDS/STI prevention education, interventions, advocacy, support services, counseling & testing, mental health, research, screening, treatment and primary care,” Bass explains as the group sets to host this week’s National Trans Conference.
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So you know gay dads are perfectly qualified and loving parents. Turns out there are some things that do make gay dads just different from their straight brethren. BY DAN BUCATINSKY
Forget what you thought you knew about being a gay parent. Modern Family is in no way reality. One gay dad tells it like it is with 10 things you didn’t know that make gay dads special. We don’t really like those children’s books about gay dads. Gay dads, like all dads, like to cuddle up at bedtime and read the kids a story. But almost every single example of a fairy tale or children’s book involves a traditional family with one mother and one father, or a princess and a prince. And the stories about gay dads? Well, the problem is, they’re about gay dads, not about the kids, and they always say something to the effect of, “Some people have two daddies, and some people have two mommies.” That’s about the extent of creativity in same-sex parent bedtime stories. Right now, my solution is to read regular books, but change the gender of the characters as I’m reading. But the older the kids get, the harder it is to sell that the bear in the dress who thinks the porridge is too cold… is actually another bear dude in a dress. Sometimes, we feel like a cliché. Traditional straight dad activities are not for me. Threading some slimy earthworm onto a hook at a bug-infested pond waiting for a fish will just make me lose my patience, and nobody will have any fun. If gay dads don’t feel like chasing the kids or pushing a swing, we may set out a blanket with a book or an iPad and call that home base. Or — better yet — turn our 20 | 11.2.16
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One of us is not “the mom.” Gay dads are often faced with the question from the uninformed, “Which one of you is ‘the mom?’” In traditional families with one mother and one father, each parent takes on certain roles dictated by instinct or evolution or just years of societal imprinting. In a home with two dads, we both take on both roles at different times. And while neither of us, as far as I know, had the ability to breastfeed, we developed our nurturing instincts during those crucial bottlefeeding years. And two dads will yin-yang the roles they play in their kids’ lives, seesawing the “mom” duties and the “dad” duties as necessary.
activities into fun for them: “Hey kids! Daddy needs to shop for shoes! Let’s bring your scooters and helmets and build an obstacle course in the alley behind the store!” OK, maybe not the best example. But you get the idea. We give a lot of thought to how (and when) to answer the question: “Daddy, where did I come from?” Both my kids were part of an “open adoption.” Open adoptions are a wonderful opportunity for a birth mom to decide where her baby will be placed. It’s good to work with a family services agency that will advocate for the birth mom as well as the couple. We found this made everyone feel a lot more comfortable during a process that can, at times, be tense and emotional. As a result, we learned that how we speak about adoption is so important. It’s good to use the phrase “making an adoption plan” rather than phrases like “giving up” or “giving away” a baby. So regardless of how you became a family — it’s important to talk about adopted kids with a same level of love and respect. And this includes adopted kids that aren’t your own. Straight moms and dads flirt with us. It’s amazing how much the moms in the schoolyard flirt with the gay dads. Hard to pinpoint the root of Will & Grace syndrome – except that we have so much in common with so many of the moms. We tend to be nurturers. We can talk endlessly about carpools and the best places for our kids to take gymnastics and Tae Kwon Do. We love to gossip. We’re great listeners. Oh. And we like to sleep with men. But will never sleep with their husbands. Let’s face it. We’re quite possibly the best friends these gals will ever have. Even more interesting, perhaps, is how much the straight dads like to flirt with us, too. Maybe it’s because they’re eager for reassurance of how “cool with it” they are, or competitive — they like the idea of this whole new demographic in the schoolyard who may think they’re hot. Whatever the reason, I often find the dads are just as solicitous of the gay dad attention as the moms. 22 | 11.2.16
We get creative with rough housing. In our house, swinging your kids around upside down takes on a certain, let’s call it panache. The kids clasp their hands around Daddy’s neck and I walk around, dragging them from side to side, pretending to wear the latest in super-chunky jewelry. “Like my new necklace everyone? It’s the biggest diamond in the world and it’s called... Eliza!” We take pride in the morning makeover. What is it about a “before-and-after” that we gays find so satisfying? Well. Put us in a parental role, and we go to town. Our kids wake up their sleepy-eyed, bed-headed selves, and it’s up to us to make their transformation! As long as the kids let us, we’re happy to pick out their clothes, making sure the leggings pick up a hint of some color in the top — and perhaps a sweatervest over the t-shirt and a pair of skinny jeans for our sons? Yes. Very cute. Put-together without looking like we tried too hard. Then there’s a bit of a daddy-brawl over who gets to brush their hair. Let’s face it: we were jealous of our sisters who spent hours brushing their Barbies’ hair. Now it’s our turn! We never enjoy in-flight movies anymore. Women on planes prefer giving advice to gay dads than watch an in-flight movie. Even if you offer to pay. And it stars Julia Roberts. Turbulence will not stop them. Nothing will stop them. Except maybe if one of the dads were to turn into a woman. Other than this stuff, we’re just like every other kind of dad. I mean, the diapers smell the same — we may just look a little better dressed while changing them. Via The Bump. Dan Bucatinsky is a father of two and author of Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Confessions of a Gay Dad.
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The more my brother amassed, the less he came into work, finally stopping altogether. His job is to price jobs via email, and we handle the rest. No one begrudges him, as that’s the goal as a business owner, right? To have a business that makes lots of money and people run it for you. But when the boss achieves wealth, longtime staff is usually rewarded for their devotion. Nothing unreasonable, but a raise here and there, additional vacation time accrued throughout the years, that sort of thing.
BLOOD LIKE WATER By Chris Vizzini
For us, the situation is more like the difficult times before a crash. Employees get ten days a year, sick and vacation combined, nearly non-existent raises and no benefits. The last raise was a quarter an hour in 2014. It’s a shit show. I deal with my brother's personal and business financials and know he could certainly afford to take better care of us but chooses not to. OUR MOTHER IS OFTEN REDUCED TO tears from his cruelty – the same woman who gave him the company. The hurt has been a slow burn for many of the employees, almost imperceptible as time has a tricky way of dispersing taps to the heart.
Health issues recently burned through my time off. It left me with a lot of medical bills and little pay. He denied additional time off and a check advance to pay the doctor. That was the final trumpet that blasted the wall between what’s true and what I didn’t want fathom watching a spouse decay for nearly to believe: He doesn’t care. fifteen years until she could no longer rage against the dying of the light. That was the final roundhouse kick that, this time, couldn't be explained away by his The pain must have had a profound psy- pain. Even his wife’s death is not a license to chological impact on him as her illness pro- steamroll a frightened human being, much gressed. He became more withdrawn, then less your brother. developed a mean streak. Understandable, given his experience. He’d never been an I STARTED REMEMBERING HIM BEFORE easy person to talk to, so texting became our his wife’s sickness. He’d always been cruel. mainstay of communication. I’ve offered my- Speaking of anything gay, he’d stick out his self to him as someone to lean on countless tongue as if to vomit. That’s a definitive times only to be met with an eerie silence. statement.
WHEN THE FAMILY BUSINESS TREATS YOU POORLY AND YOUR DAMAGED BROTHER IS YOUR BOSS, UNTANGLING THE MESS FOR ONE GAY ATLANTA MAN INCLUDES LETTING GO OF MORE THAN YOUR JOB. THE FAMILY YOU LAND IN IS LIKE gambling, only you have no choice in the game. It’s random from the moment sperm meets egg, one cell divides and life begins. Some people come into the world with a healthy, stable and supportive family. Some don’t. I ended up in the “don’t” category. Being gay can increase the chance that us “don’t” families have an even bumpier ride.
My brother and I have a complicated relationship. He is a few years older than I, which means we grew up in the same house with exposure to the same chaos. He’s al- I also work for him. ways been withdrawn and haphephobic – afraid of touching and being touched. My MOM BEGAN THE COMPANY IN THE brother has never been a warm person. ‘70s then gave it to my brother. We rehab foreclosed homes. When the market To complicate things, his wife was ill for crashed, he became wealthy. I was happy years with an autoimmune disease not because that would ensure the best care unlike AIDS. We lost her in March. I can’t for his wife. 26 | 11.2.16
It was there all along. I have no choice but to disengage emotionally. I won’t be hurt by him again. I’m saying goodbye to you, brother. I’m letting you go. Should you ever return to blood, I’m here with open arms.
What is TRUVADA for PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis)? TRUVADA is a prescription medicine that can be used for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection when used together with safer sex practices. This use is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This includes HIV-negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex, and male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV-1. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.
IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP?
Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: u You must be HIV-negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-negative. u Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: u You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. u You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. u To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. u If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time.
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Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP?
Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you also take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).
What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include:
u Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare
provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA for PrEP. u Bone problems, including bone pain or bones getting soft or thin, may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. u Changes in body fat, which can happen in people taking TRUVADA or medicines like TRUVADA. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.
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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.
MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-1 negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • Tell your healthcare provider if you have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information.
TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Buildup of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency that can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. • Severe liver problems, which in some cases can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain. • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months. You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems if you are female, very overweight, or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time.
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ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP (PRE-EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS) TRUVADA is a prescription medicine used with safer sex practices for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection in adults at high risk: • HIV-1 negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex. • Male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. To help determine your risk, talk openly with your doctor about your sexual health.
Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).
POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Bone problems. • Changes in body fat.
Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.
BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis infection. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed if you become HIV-1 positive because of the risk of passing HIV-1 to your baby.
Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.
HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection.
• You must practice safer sex by using condoms and you must stay HIV-1 negative.
HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you.
• Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.
GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV-1 infection.
• Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.
TRUVADA, the TRUVADA Logo, TRUVADA FOR PREP, GILEAD, the GILEAD Logo, and HEPSERA are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. All other marks referenced herein are the property of their respective owners. Version date: April 2016 © 2016 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. TVDC0072 10/16
10 You know you've encountered these gay guys in the hairy ( and shaven) world of gay dating in Atlanta. By Mike Fleming So many men, so many who aren’t The One. The guys you’ve dated are cute and sexy, of course, but even moreso in their deserved place – the rearview mirror of your life. Yes, we paint them here with a broad brush. And yes, in some cases it's base comedy. But mostly, it's funny because it's at least kind of true. See how many you recognize – maybe including yourself? A little?
GAY BOYFRIENDS You’ve Dated & Dumped
Activist Andy He envisions himself a revolutionary, but he’s just a suburban-raised white boy with one too many sociology credits. Signs: Liberal use of phrases like “internalize homophobia,” “mainstreaming of gay culture,” “heteronormative bullshit.”
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Married-Already Matty He’s a serial monogamist. Rather than enjoying the fun of dating, he wants your toothbrush in his bathroom. You’d tell him to relax, but he’s already at the grocery store planning dinner for another night in. Signs: Pushover to your whims, doing your errands without being asked, wistful sighing at anything.
Jealous Jonah This one loses his shit every time you cast an eye away from him in public. Extremely possessive and paranoid are not good looks. He may be looking to control you at best; he doesn’t trust you at worst. Signs: Constantly texting
Ian Insecurity Like Mr. Jealous, only more narcissistic. He thinks you’re too good for him, but is still self-obsessed with feeling sorry. Ultimately, he doubts your love because he doesn’t feel deserving of it. Signs: Tends to be indecisive. Worries about the time since your last call or text.
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Dick Head He’s obsessed with himself, and you’re worn like an accessory. He could be sociopathic, and he might be an emotional bully, but all you need to know is that he isn’t worth another moment of your energy. Signs: Keeps looking in the mirror and looking around to see who’s looking at him.
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Shane Scenester He wears his Pride on his sleeve – even though his shirts never have any. What he lacks in subtlety he makes up for by being in the life of the party. He’s exhausting, like a drunk stairmaster. Signs: Out every night.
Psuedo-Sophisticated Scotty If Gweneth Paltrow had a penis, this is who she’d be. He’s less interested in you and more interested in buying the hottest trend and judging others who don’t. Signs: Name-brands obsession and a sucker for celebrity endorsements.
Manny Manchild When gay nerds kind of grow up, you have this guy. To him, life is one big inside joke. He spends as much time curating his Instagram as he does paying attention to you. Signs: Adult sports leagues, video games and fluency in pop culture.
Competitive Carlos He’s the president of at least one thing, and he’s busier than everyone else. It’s hard dating a guy who has to prove he’s on top all the time. Signs: Aggressive cuddler, takes “important” calls during your date.
Artie Alternaqueer He’s into weird shit for its own sake, whether there’s artistic value in it or not. All his friends are cooler than you. Signs: His parties are all underground, and even after visiting his work, you have no idea what he does for a living.
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You’re the mature one, remember? Do it in person, and don’t write it in a text or chat message. This can be copy-pasted and used against you, or against himself long after you’re gone. Do be nice, and don’t be just as mean as you perceive him to be. Don’t stoop to his level. He is a fellow human being.
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Daddy! Hey, Daddy! So I have this friend. I used to call him “sister,” but now I just want rid of him. He has betrayed me by sharing my secrets more than once, and he’s just plain mean. The problem is that our lives are so enmeshe I feel stuck with this vitality-sucker in my life. I’d like to say he’s changed, but the fact is that he’s always been this way. I thought his bullshit was funny when I was 22, but seven years down the road, I see the world way differently. He builds himself up by putting people down, laughing at others’ expense, and being a gossipy bar cunt. I’ve matured, at least beyond those petty ways.
Still reticent? Here are some kick-start phrases: “We don’t have the same perspective anymore.” “I can’t be the friend to you that I used to be.” “I’m glad about the years we had.” “I no longer have the energy.” Hey, Daddy!
I’m dating the sweetest guy. I’ll always care, but I’m just not feeling How do you break up with a friend? it any more. I’m at my wits end about how to break up without hurting him. Only Vehement Evil Regret In Tact Deserves Only Nice Earnestness Dear OVER IT: Some friendships aren’t built to stand the Dear DONE: test of time. Depending on the closeness Stop thinking about it as a hard thing for of the relationship, you could let it go by you to do, and think about it as something slowly disengaging. But if seeing each that’s going to be better for him. Tell him other less often over time isn’t going to the nice things you told me, then tell him work, tap into your more-mature self: he deserves a guy who’s feeling it as Man up and put the genuine truth out much as he is. there. A few considerations: Consider your decision, because you probably won’t be able to take it back. Consider his feelings, because this makes you a good person. Consider your words, because he may remember them for the rest of his life.
Here’s some dos and don’ts: I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I am Do it yourself, and don’t involve thirdparty mutual friends to do your dirty work. saying I’d be better without him.
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The difference between being a courageous force who helps and a self-important shit-stirrer against the establishment boils down to a matter of ethics. Your feedback is either a vitally powerful activator or a threat your very ability to continue down a path. Before you open your mouth or roll your eyes, be sure of what you hope to get out of it.
Try to get on the same page as one of your central characters. You may not totally agree, but be candid and eke out a mutually beneficial solution. Mitigate your steadfast zeal for distinct rights-and-wrongs. Whether you resolve this together or end up still at odds, do your best to allow meaningful exchange to complement abstract concepts.
Embrace a better realization of how joy is possible with someone else, and allow that possibility to motivate your perseverance in dealing with shit that gets you down. It’s easier to cultivate strength-of-character with companionship. It’s also time to clear through you've been unenthused about addressing. It’s stealing vitality from you.
You may feel emboldened to say what's on your mind, but don’t voice sentiments that fight or correct others. If the 'certain someone' you need to confront is also a co-worker or client, don’t freak you out: You wanted something to change, right? It’s an opportunity to up your productivity that you’ll miss if too focused on holding your own against someone else.
Be careful with declarations of enthusiasm, even if you're feeling really good about a situation or enjoying yourself immensely. Internally process the emotional impact of this admission and don't rush to inform whoever would be impacted. Anything you utter aloud may prove to be too unformed, sentimental or subjective—and give someone the wrong idea.
Look for the peace and ease inside you and close the door on outside forces that rankle your emotions. You may notice a newly escalated level of incessant discussion. Earnestly attempt to lend your voice to the cacophony, but set your expectations for the outcome low. Don’t waste brainpower getting others to experience an 'a-ha!' moment.
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With a radical awareness of what you don't want to settle, you face the challenge of how to communicate it: not too meek or oblique, not too angry or judgy. Still, you owe it to affected parties to verbalize your truth. It’s a perpetual balancing act: How can you be more unabashedly self-expressive and stay considerate and courteous?
You’re better able to convey what you're thinking, though there’s potential for your conversational tone to still ring a bit sharply. You’re also expressing the idealistic and dreamy, rather than pragmatic, side of your personality. You may be asked to explain yourself. They’re reasonable questions, and you’re capable of addressing them.
Study the advances you've earned and the limitations becoming apparent. Pause to acknowledge and appreciate so you can fully embody that which you strove to manifest. Not if it feels like such an investment is beginning to yield diminishing returns. Wrap your mind around what you study, but don't talk about it yet.
Recognize when advantages come from holding back in some way. External rewards may temporarily be in short supply, so be cognizant of the temptation to forsake your usual self-control. Your indignation for others’ opinions may be justified, but a stormy outward response wouldn't be wise. Don’t lash out and squander your energy.
Don’t be shy with your message. Those who strongly resonate with your worldview will take great mobilizing inspiration from your solidarity. You risk alienating those who don't agree, but there's not nothing you can or should do to shield yourself from reactivity. It’s better to have the right comrades than hold your tongue.
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