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Exclusive INTERVIEW WITH A GEM
WINNER BEST FEMALE ARTIST IN DIASPORA PASTOR ISABELLA OGO UZODIKE P.6
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Peter, a “one-off” lie and they never lived longer to repent or be forgiven. Acts 5:3… “But Peter said, “Ananias, why has satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit and keep back part of the price of the land for yourself?”. If you read down that chapter 5 of Acts, in verse 11, the Bible says, “So great fear came upon all the church
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and upon all who heard these things”. In addition, patience is a virtue that is fast eroding the Christian lifestyle of many children of God. Isaiah 55:8-9… “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways”, says the Lord. “For as heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts”. One of the painful, but rewarding attitudes of God is that He does not
IS IT TIME?
show up according to our time, but He is never late to show up.
2nd Kings 5:26 … “Then he said to him, “Did not my heart go
BE PATIENT! Your time to be favoured and lifted is closer than you
with you when the man turned back from his chariot to meet you?
can imagine.
IS IT TIME to receive clothing, olive groves and vineyards, sheep and oxen, male and female servants?”
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here are many lessons we can learn from the above verse 26 of 2nd Kings Chapter 5. For instance, not all gifts are gifts. You need discernment to differentiate among a gift, bait or a death trap. Even if the gift is a gift indeed, not all
gifts are meant for your consumption. Some gifts are seeds passing through your hands to be sown into the lives of that brother or that sister who is in dire need of it. Hmmn! Talk about being a vessel, not a container. Another lesson from the above passage is that nothing is hidden from the eyes of the Lord. The Bible says in Psalm 135:6… “Whatever the Lord pleases, He does. In heaven and in earth, in the seas and in all deep places”. Since the earth is His footstool, it therefore means that whatever it is that you may be doing now that seems nobody sees you, either good or bad, it is a matter of time before it comes out and the whole world will know what stuff you are made of. Until the leprosy of Naaman came on Gehazi, it must have been a general consensus that the double portion of Elisha’s anointing will be transferred to Gehazi. Alas! Because Gehazi did not deal with greed, the devil used it against him. Also, we can learn that telling lies to a true man of God incurs the wrath of God. It is quite pathetic nowadays that many brothers and sisters tell their pastors lie and still got away with it. The pastor will not even know it was a blatant lie. Instead, he will believe the lies hook, sink and line. Meanwhile, in 2nd Kings 5:27, Gehazi received for himself and his generation, everlasting leprosy as white as snow. This damnation was for a “one-off” lie because there was never a time it was recorded in the Bible that Gehazi had lied to Prophet Elisha before… One too many! Similarly, Ananias and his wife Saphira, told a true man of God,
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I wrote a song in 2009 on Isaiah 40:31… “But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint”. To someone reading this column, Jesus is saying,
Finally, Ecclesiastes 3:1 says “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven”. If you fail to discern the right timing of God for your purpose in life, it can be catastrophic. In verse 6, it says, “A time to gain, and a time to lose”. Prophet Elisha discerned that even though it is not bad for a man of God to receive gifts after being a blessing, after all the bible says, “He that waters should be watered”, he knew that Naarman’s gifts are not to be taken, but Gehazi did not know or was too greedy to accept what he thought a loss. Brethren, the place of time in the lives of individuals are paramount. No wonder people say, “God’s time is the best.”
We thank God for the first edition of the magazine in this new year, a year that we will experience a leap of God’s glory. A big thank you to all our readers who are giving us feed-backs, thank you for your prayers, messages and other forms of encouragement. Special thanks to all columnists for great, inspiring messages written. Pastor Isabella Ogo Uzodike is a rare gem, the resident Pastor of Father’s House International Church, London. She was gracious to create time out of tight schedule to grant us interview. I have no doubt this edition will change your life tremendously. Every blessing.
Editor In Chief Oluwole David
Associate Editors Bayo Coker, Ibrahim Adebeshin
Contributing Writers Pastor Layo Afuwape (PLA) Adebayo Coker Olamide Ajayi
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YOU ARE AN ACCOUNTANT Pastor ‘Layo Afuape Parish Pastor The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Catford, London.
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Amon was twenty-two years old when he became king, and he reigned in
Jerusalem two years. He did evil in the eyes of the Lord, as his father Manasseh had done. Amon worshipped and offered sacrifices to all the idols Manasseh had made.
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arents are usually unaware of the effects their own bad habits, personal weaknesses and blind spots can have on their children. Most children usually end up doing what they have seen or heard their parents or guardian do or say as in the case of Amon quoted above. Whether you are a parent, a carer or guardian now or thinking of being one in future, whether you do not even want to have a child of your own or not, it is a blessing to be considerate of the younger ones around us. Amon turned out to do what were unacceptable in the eyes of God, just because he saw his father doing the same things as he was growing up. Despite the fact that his father later repented and turned back to God (vs 9-16), Amon has learnt the bad habits. As a role model (as I believe all adults are meant to be role models), - what do you say about others when younger ones are with you? - how do you express your disapproval of others whilst younger ones are watching? - what do you teach them to do that are against the will of God - to lie on the phone to a caller that you are not at home even though you are sitting next to them?
- 2 Chronicles 33:21-22
Samuel was a strong and anointed man of God, yet something went wrong that his children departed from the Lord. (1 Samuel 8:1-5). His sons did not follow his ways. They turned aside after dishonest gain and accepted bribes and perverted justice. - 1 Samuel 8:3 The Bible instructs us to teach our children in the way of the Lord that when they grow up they will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6). My prayer is that God will hear the cry of everyone crying for their children to be saved in Jesus’ name-Amen We need to examine ourselves daily within our role as mentors and leaders. We need to be filled daily with the Holy Spirit so that we will not fulfil the lust of the flesh. We must avoid what Catherine Marshall once called “the law of generations,” in which one generation repeats the behaviour of the previous generation. Examine yourself below with the following questions:Do you talk to your partner or others anyhow in the presence of your children? Do you get angry easily? Are you lazy, laid back or hardworking? Do you find it difficult to say ‘sorry’ Continued on page 8
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YOUTH & ENTREPRENEURSHIP BY OLAMIDE AJAYI A Certified leadership development and entrepreneurship Expert wealthy and stay that way for their life time. Sadly, our educational institutions only prepare our youths for what I called ‘executive slavery’. They teach them how to write killer CV’s, forgetting that those jobs don’t create themselves people create them. So, rather than begging for a
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‘mercy drops’ from someone else’s cre-
in business (which I believe you should do if you want to get out of the rat-race) learn the virtue of patience, do your research well and don’t always react or take action on your initial impulses. Believe Outside the Box I am sure you have heard this phrase but it’s the critical thinker’s motto. Ability to believe differently but healthily from everyone else shoots you far ahead your contemporary like an arrow in the hand of a skillful Archer. This skill looks and sounds quite simply but it’s not as simple as you imagine but if you constantly think and believe differently from the others, you
he misconception among a
ation, why can’t you learn the skills that
good number of young people
would enable you to be a creator too
about being wealthy is that; you
and get others submit their CV’s on your
Believe Like a Younger
have to flaunt your wealth to
table. Consequently, we need to teach
I know this appears silly, but it’s amazing
show individuals that you are wealthy.
and continue to teach our youngsters the
how young kids may solve riddles before
Believe it or not, there might be mil-
real rules of cash and value which are a
adults may. They believe on a completely
lionaire families on your street and you’d
bit more than just college education. I am
dissimilar level and rarely over-believe
never know it. That’s because most mil-
sure you know that I am not encouraging
things as most adults do. Your mind is
lionaires look like regular individuals who
you to drop out of college, because if you
fresh and spacious. You don’t have much
don’t flaunt their wealth. They own regular
do, it would hurt you badly. Some degree
issues and challenges of life like most
houses and automobiles. They might have
of formal education is required in order to
adults do, it’s then wise to squeez out
a few luxuries but most average million-
rightly position yourself in the economic
the juice whilst you are young. Youth and
aires can’t be spotted on a daily basis as
world. My point here is that young people
possibility are synonymous, so keeping
they prefer it to be that way and don’t
and young adults must have a rock solid
believing like a youngster.
show off their wealth.
financial education.
You have to memorize the difference
It will interest you to know that the
Believe It Become It
between an asset and a financial obliga-
wealthy are concerned with producing
tion. An asset is something that puts cash
as much passive revenue as they may and
in your pocket without you having to
working less and less for earned revenue.
execute much work for it. A financial obli-
This, they know will help them continue
gation is something that takes cash out
getting wealthier and richer. As a young
of your pockets and doesn’t put cash in
person or young adult, you should have a
your pocket. If you wish to be wealthy, you
goal of earning as much passive revenue
demand to acquire as many asset as pos-
as you potentially can and convert earned
sible and do away with as many financial
income from an occupation (which is what
obligations as possible. I am concerned
college prepared you for) into passive rev-
with educating both young people and
enue. Here are a few tips for you:
young adults on the importance of having a good financial education as opposed to a common, more traditional education. Hence my yearly ‘African Youth & Entrepreneurship Master Class Seminar in London’. Most young people and even young adults never learnt a tad about ‘financial skills’ in school on how to produce cash with their ideas and businesses or even learn the info they require to get
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submission here is, if you want to step out
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would achieve a better financial success.
Have you ever read the scripture that says ‘whatever you desire when you pray BELIEVE that you have it’? You can’t become differently from what you believe in. if you have read ‘The Secret’ then you’re likely convinced that the law of attraction is real and that it works. Let me show you another scripture ‘As a man thinks in his heart so is he or so he becomes’. As a young person, you must deliberately train yourself to a place where your thought impulses send positive and Godly energy
Believe In Open-mindedness
to the atmosphere around you. This is how
It is so simple to have pre-conceived
you can create an unimaginable ocean
notions on a matter, but fight the urge and
of wealth. Note that if your energy is
listen to the statement or issue presented
replete with fear and doubt, then becom-
to you. Don’t draw to speedy conclusions
ing successful is a joke. Believe in your
even if they look apparent. Think of it as
dream, believe in yourself, make God your
attempting to solve a mystery on TV. The
rock, surround yourself with mentors and
evident answer is rarely the correct one.
not just mere advisers and you will soon
Reaching the answer involves gathering
notice a massive difference in your life. See
facts and discarding biases. My simple
you at the top.
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ife is a synergy of circumstances, that is, it is a diary of events. Life is too fragile to handle. Whatever stage of life you are right now, please remember this, it is not yet over with you!!! I would like to discuss with you in this edition of “David’s Camp” magazine, seven principles to take you to your next level in life. I am trusting God that someone’s life will never remain the same again in Jesus name. Principle 1: Desire a Change – Alan Cohen said, “It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secured, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement, there is life, and in change, there is power”. The Bible is full of stories of men and women who relocated from one location to the other. For example: (i) Jabez in 1st Chronicles 4:9-10 woke up one day and desired a change; (ii) Hannah in 1st Samuel 1:11, 27 decided to weep no more, changed her countenance and prayed for a divine visitation and she got it. Change is not always for the worse, but it is necessary at times. Bishop David Oyedepo said, “Until something changes within you, nothing changes around you. Every change begins from within, without a change within, there can never be a change without.” Those who are in change always are those who believe in change. Jesus Christ is the ultimate changer of men’s destiny; He is the King of glory. He is the unchangeable who changes times and seasons. And yet remains constant… Malachi 3:6.
Principle 2: Have A Right AttitudeAbraham Lincoln said, “Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.” Attitude determines outcomes; your attitude in life will dictate your performance. There is just a little difference in people; that little difference makes a big difference and that little difference is attitude. The power of attitude is so great that it determines how high you fly in life. What is your attitude to life, marriage, work, money and your God? Confucius says, “To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life, that is, we must first set our hearts right.” Principle 3: Don’t Accept Defeat and Don’t Blame Anyone For your Circumstances- Don’t blame God for your lack of success. You can develop a burning desire to succeed by keeping your mind on the things you want and off the things you don’t want. Behind every adversity, there is a seed of greatness. To succeed in spite of your past negative experience: (i) Identify yourself with a successful image … Proverbs 23:7 (ii) Develop a picture of who you are in Christ… Romans 8:17 (iii) Always remember that you have the mind of Christ… 1st Corinthians 2:16 (iiii) Define your purpose in life. Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievements (v) Develop your talent. Every man was born with a special God-given abili-
ty. What special ability do you have? Develop it! No inadequacy of yours can prevent you from changing your world because whatever your mind can conceive and believe, your mind can achieve. Don’t blame anyone for your current situation, admit it and seek the way out. Principle 4: Turn To God For Help – God is the best connector, He knows how best to connect you with your miracle. You do not need any human dependence to receive heaven’s assistance. If you make man your utter dependence, you will definitely receive the mandate of suffer and plenty of frustrations will go with it. God wants you to solely depend on Him. He knows what is good for you as well as how you can get there without stress or struggle. Without Him, we can do nothing. But with Him, we can do all things… Philippians 4:13 Principle 5: You Need The Right Company – If you take a closer look at the life of Mephibosheth in 2nd Samuel 9:1-5, Mephibosheth was living in the house of Machir in Lodebar. Machir was the son of Manasseh. Manasseh did not live his life to the fullness because his blessing was given to his younger brother – Ephraim… Genesis 48:13-19 Mephibosheth’s life was affected by the environment he lived in. Even if he was ambitious and full of plans, the people he surrounded himself with were going to destroy it. Right association connotes right decisions. The man who walks with wise men will definitely be wise, while a companion of fools will without any doubt be destroyed… Proverbs 13:20. Continued on page 12
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honoring our Groom, Jesus Christ and so we have been so blessed that He honours our invitation every year and it’s always a very anointed time in His presence. 2016 is its fourth year and we will be having For The Groom IV later in the year.
AN EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW with WINNER BEST FEMALE ARTIST IN DIASPORA
Are you the founder of Women of African Origin in Music Ministry (WAOMM)? Can you please enlighten us on what it’s all about?
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Women of African Origin in Music Ministry (WAOMM) is a global non-profit making organisation, which has been established mainly to be of service to women of African origin in music ministry. WAOMM’s main objective is to act as a bridge; a springboard; a voice; and a support system in and through which women of African origin in music ministry can be supported, encouraged and empowered to discover, develop, demonstrate and deliver excellence in their ministries to the glory of God. WAOMM was founded in March 2014 and yes I am the founding president. The vision was inspired by the Holy Spirit and we are rapidly gaining ground across the nations of the world. We have great national coordinators and we are currently live in six countries. We have a website www.waomm.org and we are active on all social media sites as @WAOMMTV. We can be contacted via info@waomm.org.
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Lots of amazing stories have been heard about the wonderful woman of God, Isabella Ogo-Uzodike. Can we please know your background and who you really are?
I am a wife, been married for 21 years. I am also a mother to four children, Sharon, Stephanie, Shane and Shemaiah. I am a pastor, psalmist, songwriter and author. I am Nigerian and have lived in the UK for almost 18 years. I wear many hats and I am enjoying walking in purpose and also helping to push others to walk in their destiny.
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You have produced some albums. Can you please tell us about your albums, how many, and which is your favourite?
My music ministry started in the year 2000 when I became a worship leader. My first album was released in 2009. To date, there are six albums, each one has about ten to thirteen original songs. Every album is special to me. The best thing for me is that I can clearly see growth and improvement with each new project so I thank God for grace.
“For the Groom” is a musical concert that is your project. It is much talked-about in the U.K. What is the story behind this wonderful gathering of people coming together to worship God?
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What other projects are you involved in, that you would like those that follow you all over the world to know about?
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Apart from music, I am also a resident pastor of the Father’s House International Church, London. I am also an itinerary minister who travels around ministering in songs and Word. I do occasionally run worship workshops for growing churches (their worship team, choir or groups). These are just some of the things I do. Like I said before, I wear many hats and I love having variety in my life.
I am also an itinerary minister who travels around ministering in songs and Word. I do occasionally run worship workshops for growing churches ................”
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What inspires you to write songs and do what you do?
The Holy Spirit inspires the songs. I love spending time in the presence of the Lord and song writing is one of the most evident gifts He has blessed me with so its an effortless process for me because He gives me new songs all the time. Everything I do springs from my love for the Lord and His people. I love people, I love to bless and encourage people and I feel very privileged that the Lord would find me worthy to be used for His glory. I am surrounded by loving people so that makes it very easy for me to be in tune with the Holy Spirit.
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What gives you pleasure, and how do you relax away from all the pressures of life?
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How do you balance the challenges of the expectations in ministry and your family?
Thank you so much ma for granting us this interview. How can people find out more about you? I have a website www.isabellamelodies.com. I am also active on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. My social media handle is @ isabellamelodies. You can also email us info@isabellamelodies.com
I love reading. I read a lot and I write a lot too. I am currently writing my second book. My first book is titled The Worshipper After the Father’s Heart. I love to spend quality time soaking in God’s presence with background music from my favorite worship leader and mentor, Terry MacAlmon. I also love to go to the gym as often as possible. I love working out as much as my schedule permits me.
I am very blessed to have a very loving and supportive husband who selflessly supports and champions everything I do. He really does his best to make life as comfortable and stress-free as possible for us. I am also blessed with genuinely committed ministry helpers who go out of their way to help out. On my own part, I try to be disciplined with my time. I prioritise what I get involved in. To be honest, I have zero social life which was a sacrifice I had to make in order to prioritise family and ministry. My children are a bit older now, our girls will be 21 and 19 years this year and our boys will be 15 and 13. They are quite independent now, especially with the boys in boarding school, I have more time in my hands to focus on ministry. Every now and then, we do take time off to go on holidays to unwind and refresh. I have a coordinator that helps me out in ministry. Her name is Cherice Walford and she is absolutely heaven sent. She keeps me organized and helps me keep my diary manageable. Most importantly, it is absolutely the grace of God that has kept me going and so I give Him all the glory.
For as many who see you as a mentor out there, what pieces of advice have you got for them?
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My general principle in life is to be at peace with all men as much as possible. Focus on fulfilling your purpose and cut off distractions. Anything that does not add eternal value to your life does not deserve centre stage in your life. Don’t entangle yourself with people who don’t share your values and be a destiny helper to as many as possible.
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Continued from page 3 when you have done something wrong or you are quick to accept mistakes when wrong? Do you provide for your family? Do you help with home chores regardless of your sex? Do your children see you pray and read the Bible daily outside family prayer meeting? Are you kind and compassionate to your immediate family and others? Do your children see the sacrifice you make for others to smile? Are you selfless in your service to God and place of work? Are you punctual to meetings or a perpetual late comer? Do you acknowledge good behaviour and achievements of others or you are known to complain at all times? Are you an encourager and a peace maker or always known as a trouble maker? Do you backbite about others in their presence? Are you generous to people or greedy? Do your children see that you are willing to give or share your things with others? Are you respectful of others or unpleasant in the presence of your children? Our children are watching us and likely will repeat behaviour that gets the most attention, whether it is good or bad. When they grow into adulthood and become responsible for their own behaviour, they may be forced to correct bad habits and practices, but it is possible they may not. Imagine a man who saw his father battering his mother who later grows up to be a wife batter too. We have seen children who were abused and later grow up to abuse their own children. There is another son who was very upset when his father married another woman but he himself later betrayed his wife, had a mistress who had a son for him. Sad story but he paid the prices for his actions. Let us ask the Holy Spirit to help us
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identify the areas we are weak that is affecting our children. There is a family of three generations who all relied on the state benefits for their day to day living. This is an example of the law of generations. Don’t forget that these children are not yours (Psalm 127:3), and one day we will stand before God and give accounts. What lessons about parenting did we pick up from our parents that are not helping our own children? Do you think you can shout at your child when correcting him/her because that was how you were raised? This style can have negative impact on your own child in terms of confidence. It is likely your child will always raise his or her voice when talking to others because that is all he/she has learnt from their environment while growing up. Beloved, be determined to break the law of the generations. Accept that you need to improve in your relationship with others. In most cases, parent who do not wash plates after use will most likely raise up kids who will not bother to wash plates after eating. How fervent are you in the Lord? Proverbs 21:21 says that “whoever pursued righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honour.” This is good; why can’t we follow after God’s guidance for us and our children to have a better life? Do you greet your neighbours? Do you read the Bible to your children? What channel do you watch on the television? What music do you listen to and what type of social gathering do you take them? How do you dress - moderately or seductively? Apostle Paul affirmed that Timothy was a product of whom he was because of the legacy (or rather examples) set for him by his mother and grandmother. “I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am
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persuaded, now lives in you also. Let us ask God for great grace to be a living example to our children. They must be able to learn the following from us, how: - we deal with life challenges (Proverbs 24:10, Matthew 7:7, Job 14:14) - we manage difficult relationships (Hebrews 14:13, Matthew 10:16, Proverbs 19:11) - we acknowledge God in all we do (Proverbs 19:21, Proverbs 28:4-5, Proverbs 16:3-4, Proverbs 3:5-8) - we reach out to others (Proverbs 12:25, Proverbs 14:31, Proverbs 22:9, Proverbs 22:22-23) - we manage our emotions (Proverbs 14:16-17) - we select friends (Proverbs 13:26, 1 Cor 15:33, Proverbs 18:24, Proverbs 22:24-25) - we make a living and multiply (Proverbs 12:24, Proverbs 10:4, Proverbs 19:15, Proverbs 14:23, Proverbs 3:9-10, Luke6:38) Beloved, please let us break away from habits that can raise a generation of law breakers. Let us all rely on God to live by examples, let us be determined to die to every works of the flesh to enable our children learn the nature of Christ through us. I am aware that the ones that will still turn away will likely turn away but we must not allow that to happen because of our bad habits or weaknesses. We can do it by the help of the Holy Spirit, let us all be committed to living a God-fearing life that we might raise disciples for Jesus Christ. (Matthew 28:19-20) We can do it so let us do it. Pastor ‘Layo Afuape RCCG Great Tabernacle Catford London.
MARRIED & SINGLES CORNER TIPS FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED.
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FOR MEN: hese are few pieces of advice to all men who want their marriages to work-
Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2 year old girl at times, that’s why women behave childish or silly sometimes. You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her packing her bags outside the house. It doesn’t mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish. She simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say “I am sorry for the argument.” That’s women for you. Every brother needs to study in the University of Women before getting married. Read books about women, learn what the Bible says about women and you will hardly have a problem with them. Though there may still be some challenges because you’re both from different backgrounds and your imperfections are bound to stand. The more reasons you need to read books about marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the likes. Don’t just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems.
How many men can tolerate their wives’ nagging, nor to mention shouting? It’s been advised rightly to be quiet when your spouse is angry. When one person is fire, the other person should be water. Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don’t let your eyes turn red, just smile at her. If she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you; if she did it mistakenly, it’s not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake? As a man, learn to ignore some things, don’t be petty. Some men are feminist; Do “hide and seek” with your wife, sing poems for your wife at the garden or inside the house, even if she is teasing you. Assist her in the house chores, cook if you can, tidy up house, don’t make her look like your maid. Take a bath together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it’s available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn’t know how to cook. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It’s not only a feminine duty. Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school, text her, write “I love you” in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her cosmetics box or inside her jewellery box. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair. Always tell her, she’s beautiful and that you’re happy to have her as your partner.
All these are part of being romantic... When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is talking about. That’s why, all brothers have to study “women’s language”, may God help all brothers in Jesus name. Ephesians 5:25-28 (MSG)...”Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church— a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favour—since they’re already “one” in marriage.”
FOR LADIES: Ladies, it is part of your duty to be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn’t get to your marital life and that means you shouldn’t be shy to express your love to your husband. Send sweet text messages to your husband at work. Sometimes, if you are in the room discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, bbm etc) even though he is right in front of you, it’s fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is on your facebook timeline, Continued on page 10
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Continued from page 9 this will trip him a lot. You should be chatting with your husband, not other men on social media networks. Buy him flowers . When eating, give him the biggest meat or portion of food. At times, bake cake to surprise him. Ladies, use your soft voice to sing for him. Be creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart). Sing poems for him, no shyness is allowed. Don’t just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because there is no enough money to buy food or pay bills, God is our Provider- Jehovah Jireh! Don’t welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi or food seasoning. Welcome him home, smelling fresh with good perfume that will make him feel what he’s been missing. Don’t only play with your husband when he receives his salary. Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to keep him safe and for him to
be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him. It’s not easy to be a man, when you see his faith waxing cold, encourage him, don’t threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don’t compare him with other men, buy him gifts, wash his clothes or take them for laundry, sing for him, praise him in a way that he wouldn’t think of an alternative, be the best cook, cook him his favourite meal, dress him up, pamper him always. Wake him up with a peck and don’t complain about his snoring habit. Let kiss be the messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don’t learn it from what you see in movies. Most of what you see in movies are not real. Call your husband pet names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 30yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it. Ephesians 5:22-24 (MSG)...” Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church,
not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.” Remember that, God said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn’t a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice. It’s said that, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage. To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. True Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you still care for that person. Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: ONE FOR YOURSELF (SLEEPING), ONE FOR YOUR WIFE AND ONE FOR YOUR LORD. That’s the best night one can ever have. LOVE MAKING IS ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE. IF YOU CAN’T HOLD BACK, PLS GET MARRIED. I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST IN MARRIAGE
PSALM23 IN PIDGIN ENGLISH
1. The Lord Na my Shepherd, I dey kampe. 2. E make me sidon for where betta dey flow and come put me next to stream make mai bodi thermacool. 3. E panel beat mai soul, come spray am white, come dey lead me dey go through express road of righteousness sake of Hin name. 4. Walahi! I f I waka pass where arm robber, 419 and juju people boku, come even join okada reach valley of the shadow of death sef, mai bodi dey inside ckoth. Your rod and staff nko? Na so dem dey like back bone dey comfort me. 5. You don prepare Egusi, Efo and pounded yam make I chop. All mai enemies dey look Ayan—Ayan. You rub me for head with Vaseline intensive lotion, mai cup na River Niger wey overflow hin bank. 6. True, true, betta life and mercy go gum mai back till I delete. And man pikin go tanda for God house from lai lai to lai lai… Amen
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Quote of the Edition When you have access to divine INFORMATION, there will be divine INSPIRATION; Divine inspiration produces divine REVELATION which leads to divine TRANSFORMATION. The end product is divine ELEVATION.
FATHER! FORGIVE THEM…
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never frittered away any slightest opportunity to surprise my family but every third Saturday of the month I must do something new. That particular day, my wife leaves home very early to attend to her pet project -counseling and ministration session to single ladies at Delta Kitchen, Surulere, Lagos from 7am to 9am. Today as she left my mind rummaged through the house and I decided to rearrange the living room before she returns. Off she went. I went back in to start the chores but first of all let me help with the laundry. So I checked the basket and found few clothes in there, major of which are Desire’s. I decided to handwash them since they are very few to go into the machine. I started with his uniform, followed by others, and then the young man in bed woke up so I had to leave all that I was doing to tend to the man of the house. Got him his flavored water, if it is not black currant, this man will reject you and your water. He gladly took the bottle and gave me his pretty good morning smile. Who will not reciprocate those cutie dimples? I made him understand what I am about to and he continued his smile then I believed a pact has been reached, I got back to work while I let him enjoy himself with whatever he finds interesting within the bedroom.
Not long after I heard some rustling from the living room, I quickly ran out to see what was happening. Lo and behold, my guy was about bringing down my electronic collections. Spontaneously, I saved myself the hassle of having to start saving again for another gadgets through my voice as I shouted him to stand down on his next move; he had the DVD in hand. He did show some restrictions and I took it out of his grip before my voice could go down. I lessoned him how it took me to get those appliances long before his mother came into play; I am sure LG wouldn’t remember they ever made such rugged hoofers and adjoining speakers, those gizmos of mine are becoming vintage. I took turn to pick my CDs that he had taken time to scatter all over the sitting room area. For the umpteenth time, I warned him not to go near my gadgets again but this time he stood in askance and indexed his chest retorting: “Me, me!” My irascibleness almost made me to swoop over him, especially when I know if I had tried such with my dad, I won’t be here to tell the story and when I think this is someone whose tiny mouth is too small for my smallest finger to move freely while cleaning his teeth; someone who I regularly take out of his diapers, clean his tiny bum bum; someone whose cereal I make and feed first thing in the morning after his water treat; someone I bath and get dressed for school; someone I drive to school and even pick( if I am around) from school; someone whose tiny chest cannot stand the hit of my thumb; someone who cannot even pronounce Daddy correctly and chose Datti instead; someone who pees here and there in the house that I will have to jog to wherever the mob may be to clean up; someone who will not allow my wife to rest, always demanding her attention anytime he sees her around; someone
who will not even allow me enjoy my meal even though his system may not be able to accommodate what I might be eating at that point in time; someone whose pre-occupation is wake and play… but I remember my promise to him in A Man Like Me: Noteography Of A Father To His Son and I cooled my temper then I was reminded of the gratuitous love The Nazerene showed humankind on the Cross of Calvary: “Father forgive them….” I carried him up (featherweight), he laughed heartily as usual, to the bathroom and gave him a cool bath, he has eaten his cereal and he is back in bed already snoring and here I am sending this note to you. I will get back to my chores after now. After all, he is my 19month old son. That’s how God sees us. Despite our mess, He cares for us still.
Adebayo Coker holds a BA(English) and Masters in Public and International Affairs from Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife and University of Lagos, Akoka, Nigeria respectively. He is a Wordsmith. Societal Fragments, A Man Like Me: Noteography Of A Father To His Son and Wobbled Words are some of his published works. He blogs at www.pausibility.wordpress. com and tweets @adebay_c He lives in Lagos, Nigeria with his wife and a son.
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MOVING TO YOUR NEXT LEVEL: Continued from page 5 Every man has his own company; you need to seek your own company. By the way, do you belong to the right company? Are you surrounded by men and women who get you fulfilled or who diminish your vision? You need the right company to fulfil your purpose in life. No man is an island; you must choose the right company. “Your friends influence your character and your character is the vehicle that takes you to your destiny”. I decree in the name of Jesus that this season, God will join you to the right company for the fulfilment of His plans for your life.
Principle 6: It is Time To Break Camp and Advance – “Restlessness and discontent are first necessities of progress”Thomas Alva Edison. For Mephibosheth to advance, he needed to break camp. David sent and fetched him out of the house of Machir in Lodebar. This was the turning point in his life, when his sorrow changed to joy. It was a point where loneliness gave way to companionship and bitterness to sweetness.
Many of you have dwelt for too long on this mountain… Deuteronomy 1:6, but for Mephibosheth, this was the day he has long been waiting for. Every man has his own day, for instance, on Elisha’s own day, he got a double portion of Elijah’s spirit and his story changed… 2nd Kings 2:11-14 I believe this is your day of turning point; everything will begin to turn right for you in Jesus name. It is high time you begin to experience this change. However, for this change to come, you must desire it from within. What can God not do? 1st Samuel 2:6-8… He transformed Mephibosheth who was stagnated without hope, a refugee living in barren, unknown land to a celebrity.
Principle 7: In All Things, Give Thanks- In 2nd Samuel 9:6, Mephibosheth fell on his face and worshipped the king. A worshipper of God is a winner any day. No one worships God and remains on the same level. You must praise Him to qualify for His raise in life. He is worthy of your worship. When you worship, you provoke His rains (showers of blessing).
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When you lift your hands in holiness, the earth will yield its increase. Psalm 67:5 & Psalm 24:3-4. When you worship Him with your offering, you are provoking a divine attention. When you worship Him at the Holy Communion table, you bring to remembrance His death on the cross and reenact your deep fellowship and union with Him in His resurrection. All these are ways and forms of worship. Hebrews 13:15… Bring a sacrifice of praise to God continually. Praise is important for your lifting. It terminates dryness and lack…Psalm 67:3-5. You need grace to be grateful and gratefulness brings gracefulness. I leave you with God’s blessings, and I look forward to seeing you at the next level, the very top in Jesus name. God bless you!
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