Spiritualism
anything else does. So anything that supports that logic for me I’m all about. It’s kind of funny, being on the other side of what people think Satanism and the left-hand path is, I can’t help but smile. When we were talking about multidimensional and it being more internal, one of the multidimensional practices I have for myself is knowing when it’s time to work on something. Like a challenge that comes up. So I am divorced and dating, and one of the challenges that came up with my dating life recently was learning to be comfortable with being alone. Building myself from there, because before I was building myself as I was. I was married when I began this practice and now that I’m not married and not in a relationship, it has been a challenge for me to further establish my identity as myself. I moved into my own apartment in July, and ever since then I have done everything I can to make it mine. And that included getting rid of every single thing my husband and I shared. So in doing that, I’m creating an atmosphere around myself that feels like a cocoon for me. It’s like my identity is everywhere. There is nothing left of me as a married woman, so that person is gone, but her experiences now come forward, and I am honoring that as the evolution I am experiencing right now.
Obviously the whole process of going through the divorce woke some of those feelings up. Was there something in the finality of it that that also woke
We are multidimensional as individuals, where each person is a separate entire universe and they create their own universe with their own thoughts, actions, beliefs, and rituals. 20
something up internally? T: You know, it’s funny you ask that because yes, it did awaken that. When I started my spiritual journey experience, I was staying at home. And while my husband and daughter were away at school and work, I was meditating pulling cards, taking a spiritual course to get in touch with my intuition, journaling, crying. It was everything. All of that went on for about three years, [and] all of that brought me to the point where I was able to see that my ex-husband and I weren’t in alignment, and it empowered me to acknowledge, “hey, maybe it’s time to let that go and become an independent person again.” Because there was a lot of friction between me and where I was as a powerful [and] independent woman -- even though I was married. And my ex-husband who is probably like, “who is this person? This is not who I married.” My ex-husband and I are really good friends, and the divorce was so easy and peaceful. We didn’t even have attorneys, we just did it online. The day we went to court to finalize [the divorce], we had lunch before we went and afterwards, we went and hung out on South Congress together. It was like no big deal, and he let me live with him for some time so I could save up money. So when I did move, I was able to spread my wings entirely. When I moved into my apartment, I was like, “this is all mine!” So I systematically begin to replace things one at a time with things that were authentic to me. It’s funny, my ex-husband will come over to drop off my daughter and will be like “wow this is really cool,” and I’ll look at how he redecorated the house and think “that’s pretty badass”, so we’ve both grown and it’s kind of fun for our friendship.
That’s really refreshing to hear. We hear so many stories about how ugly divorce can get. T: It can be a bear, but it doesn’t have to be. If the two individuals are not totally narcissistic and really try to make things peaceful, not only for themselves but realizing, “I am connected with this person until I die, because I have a child with this person,” and in some capacity or another you’re going to have this person in your life, so it’s worth it to try and make the relationship work. Just in a new direction. So we’ve become fantastic co-parents and even better friends than we were before. We text each other all the time sending pictures of cool furniture we found, and it’s like, “this is good, I like this better.”
Now you’re building on what I believe you said was loneliness but it’s independence from not being in a relationship or marital relationship? T: Yes. So now I feel I have released an archetype of being a wife and come into the archetype of independent single female. And with that comes a lot of realization. Like that you don’t have to compromise with someone or ask for permission to do something. The first time I felt that is when I bought the dishes, I was like, “oh! I can buy stuff that he never would have
