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DEPARTMENTS NOTED 11 Gut Response

Expert suggestions to make little tummies feel better—hopefully for good

REAL MOMS 15 Mom Next Door / Dr. Tiffany Moon

This Dallas mom talks about the front lines of COVID-19 and being there for her twins (two sets!) 18 Briefs / Good Medicine Our Mom Next Door’s prescriptions for self-care, books and beauty 20 Routines / Lauren Stockard How this Fort Worth mom keeps her kiddos entertained during the pandemic

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ABOVE // Tiffany Moon—an anesthesiologist and the wife of a Sam Moon executive—gets candid about COVID anxiety and trying to be present for her kids.

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KID CULTURE 41 Life Lessons

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OVEMBER MARKS DFWCHILD’S ANNUAL HEALTH ISSUE. To be honest, having a dedicated

Health Issue almost seems a bit redundant this year. In 2020, is there anything we’ve focused on more than health? And not just our own health, but the health of our kids, the health of grandparents (who are particularly vulnerable) and the health of teachers and front-line workers. With COVID, the need to keep ourselves healthy became top of mind like virtually never before. I think that’s one of the pandemic’s unintentional blessings. In years past, I would ignore signs something was wrong until I felt so bad I couldn’t get out of bed. It was that go-go-go nature of society. Now, people are being much more mindful of their health and the effect it may have on others. It’s not just about how we are feeling or how sick the virus might make us—we are also considering that what might be a relatively minor annoyance for us could make an elderly relative or a niece with asthma end up in the hospital, or worse. As 2020 comes to a close, I wish all the negative things this pandemic has brought would go away too. Going into flu season, and with a spike in COVID cases, it feels like we should brace ourselves for the worst. Still, we have no idea what this winter is going to look like. We don’t know if the flu will be mild because everyone is being hyper-vigilant about hand washing and mask wearing. We don’t know if there will be a COVID-19 vaccine in the near future. And, of course, we don’t know what we don’t know. For many of us, that is frightening. I believe the most important thing we can do this winter is take care of ourselves as best we can. Shoot for that eight hours of sleep, try to add as many fruits and veggies to your diet as possible, and practice self-care (like a long bubble bath or a virtual yoga class). Take this time to take care of yourself—because life may be back to “normal” at some point relatively soon. We may even find ourselves feeling a bit wistful for quarantine, or at least for its slower pace. Be well,

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HORTLY AFTER HER OLDEST DAUGHTER’S BIRTH, an Argyle mom we’ll call Leah got her first taste of the chronic digestive troubles to come. “My daughter had terrible acid reflux,” recalls Leah (who asked to remain anonymous for her daughter’s privacy). “I tried different formulas in an effort to ease her discomfort. She was put on Zantac as early as she could be, around 5 or 6 months, so she could hold formula down. Once she reached the ‘food eating’ stage and transitioned off formula, it improved, but she had severe food aversions.” Leah’s little girl would eat only bland foods (crackers, mild cheese, noodles)—“nothing with seasoning and no veggies. Very few fruits,” her mom says. Then, at age 4, Leah’s daughter developed a serious body odor problem. “That really threw me for a loop,” Leah says. “No way a child that young should smell that bad. I didn’t realize at the time that both of those things were signs of gut dfwchild.com / november 2020

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issues.” Gut issues can have a variety of causes and manifestations in children. If your child is suffering, your family isn’t alone. A PEDIATRIC EPIDEMIC “I often joke in my clinic that everyone is constipated until proven otherwise,” says Dr. Alina Olteanu, who practices pediatric integrative medicine at Whole Child Texas in Frisco. “No day goes by when I don’t treat a child or a baby with tummy issues, ranging from infantile colic and feeding difficulties to chronic constipation and chronic abdominal pain.” Other conditions associated with poor gut health may surprise you: Olteanu ticks off allergies, asthma, eczema and other skin issues, anxiety, attention difficulties and sleep problems as potential indicators. According to Dr. Constantine Kotsanis, an otolaryngologist who is the medical director for the Kotsanis Institute for Functional Medicine in Grapevine, even autism can be traced back to digestive issues. “Autism spectrum disorders are primarily gut disorders that affect thinking and emotions,” he suggests, adding that “in our clinic, almost every child we see has moderate to severe gut issues.” So even if your child isn’t showing traditional digestive symptoms, you may benefit from a conversation with a professional about gut issues. “The health of the child starts with healthy nutrition and a healthy gut,” explains Olteanu, who uses both traditional and alternative treatments with the children who come through her office. Some parents whose children have gut problems say they’ve had trouble getting more mainstream pediatric practices to take their concerns seriously. “Our pediatrician did not believe any issues were serious enough to look into further,” says Leah. “I knew in my heart something was going on and had to go mostly on my own to figure things out. I searched a very long time to find a doctor who would do more than just look my daughter over and say nothing was wrong.” Olteanu has a more optimistic view of the mainstream medical community but notes the full implications of gut health aren’t always understood. “Lots of pediatricians use probiotic

supplements for a variety of common childhood conditions, like constipation or to prevent antibiotics-induced diarrhea,” she points out. “However, more work needs to be done to increase awareness of the gut-brain connection, especially how stress can affect gut health and how improving nutrition and gut health can have a positive impact on a child’s mood and development.” Kotsanis advises that gut health be addressed “very aggressively” during a child’s first eight years. “The reason is the fact that 70% of the immune system lives in the gut,” he says. “A healthy gut is reflected in a healthy immunity. Also, 80% of brain hormones are made in the gut. A healthy gut influences the brain very positively; an unhealthy gut is reflected in an unhealthy brain.” GET GUT-HEALTHY In Leah’s case, it unfortunately seems like her daughter’s initial treatment led to even more trouble. “The doctors I found who actually believed something was going on have agreed this was caused by the use of Zantac at such an early age and for such a long time during the development of her digestive processes.” Even now, at age 13, Leah’s daughter has lingering gut problems. The teenager has a stalled metabolism; she also has a very limited palate and remains unwilling to try new foods that aren’t bland. But there have been improvements. “We discovered a few years ago that the extreme body odor was caused by milk. At the recommendation of one great doctor”— that was Olteanu, coincidentally—“we removed milk from her diet. Within a week we noticed a significant decrease in the odor. It was amazing, and I felt terrible that I hadn’t thought of that earlier,” shares Leah, who adds that her daughter has fewer bathroom emergencies, too. She has also developed a better understanding of what foods support good digestion. However your child’s gut issue presents, here are some recommendations: • Maintain a healthy lifestyle. Olteanu says don’t underestimate the value of enough sleep, physical activity, fresh air, happy relationships and stress management. • Be thoughtful about what your child eats. Kotsanis says “toxic fast foods, sugar, wheat, corn, soy and milk products” are all causal

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factors of gut problems. You can also improve gut health through diet; Olteanu shares that an antiinflammatory diet can be extremely helpful. “Many chronic conditions have underlying inflammation in the body,” she states. “Your child’s body tries its best to heal itself after an injury or feeling unwell. Still, when the inflammation process goes off the rails, it begins a cycle of chronic illness.” The focal points of an anti-inflammatory diet include fruits, veggies, whole grains, plant-based proteins (beans and nuts) and healthy fats. Stay away from, or keep to a minimum, foods that are highly processed, greasy, very sweet or have artificial dyes. “Some additives can act like or become neurotoxins,” warns Olteanu. “Sugar and artificial sweeteners are inflammatory foods, as they feed the wrong bacteria in your child’s gut microbiome.” Dessert isn’t a complete no-go; it should just be a treat rather than a daily expectation. “Help your child develop a palate for dark chocolate and fruit-based desserts,” Olteanu suggests. When it comes to fruits and veggies, encourage your child to eat a “rainbow” every day—a variety of colors. For children who have trouble with cow milk (“Casein, a milk protein, may be hard to digest for some children, and many become sensitive,” explains Olteanu), there are dairy-free alternatives for calcium intake and vitamin D. Talk to your doctor before eliminating any food groups, though. You can serve fermented foods with natural probiotics, such as pickled veggies and sauerkraut, and prebiotic-rich foods (apples and bananas, to name a couple). And have your children drink water. “Insufficient water intake can slow down everything from cellular function to your metabolism and your ability to fight off infections,” Olteanu notes. • Stick with it. Olteanu knows what you’re thinking. Changing an eating regimen is really hard, especially for kids. Still, “the anti-inflammatory diet can be satisfying,” she says. “But it’s the health benefits and visual improvement of your child that’s the most rewarding.” Of course, your child doesn’t need to be currently experiencing gut-related conditions for your family to take up these recommendations. “It’s always easier to prevent illness than to treat it,” Olteanu says. That’s Leah’s philosophy with her second daughter, who is 3. “Knowing what my older daughter went through, and still goes through, I wanted to make sure we set my younger child up for the best possible outcome with her gut health,” she says. “I did so much research on the things you can do early on. It’s amazing to me what a difference this little bit of knowledge early on can do for kids long term.”

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HEN YOU’RE A MOM OF TWINS, life is busy. When you’re a mom of two sets of twins (one set by marriage) and a trauma anesthesiologist during a pandemic, life goes nonstop. But Dr. Tiffany Moon is still trying to use this time to slow down. “It was a little bit of a forced pause, which I think a lot of people experienced—but especially for me because I was going at break-neck speed,” she says. “I basically went from like 80 miles per hour to 20.” And for Moon, that’s a silver lining in a dark cloud: “I think if it didn’t happen, I probably would’ve just kept going 80.” Moon has spent her whole life racing toward the next big thing, but it seems she’s finally hitting her stride. “When I stop and think about it,” she muses, “I have everything that as a little girl or as a teenager I could’ve ever dreamed of having.” dfwchild.com / november 2020

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Your time must be a hot commodity. How do ful. I would literally sit on the couch and worry, you balance it all? I think this work-life balance is and my husband would walk in. He would tell probably a myth. At any given time, the seesaw me that I needed to get it together and be part of of work and life is tilted one way or the other. the family. And I’m like, “OK. OK. I’m getting it There’s no perfect balance. There are some days together.” where I’m more doctor, and then there are some Did you always know you’d be a working days where I’m more mom. mom? I’ve always planned to work. When I got Do you ever find it hard to “turn off” the docmarried, and then got pregnant and found out tor side, especially during COVID-19? I would it was twins, it was a big surprise. There were say it was hard even pre-pandemic, because it’s circumstances where my friends and some family not something I can just turn off. I’m always members said, “Well, you’re not going to go back seeing everything through the lens of being a to work after your twins are born, are you?” I’m doctor. Everything looks like a deathtrap or an like, What kind of question is that? injury waiting to happen. My older kids wanted You’ve worked so hard to become a doctor. Why to get a trampoline and I was like, “Absolutely would having twins change that? I got some comnot. Do you know how many spinal cord injuries ments like, “Well, how do you expect to continue I’ve seen on the trampoline?” And they’re like, being a good doctor and care for your new“You’re no fun.” I’ve seen too much. borns?”—these sort of loaded questions coming Bedside manner is so important for doctors. from mostly well-meaning people. There’s this How do you help reassure the patients you’re conflict that you have to choose one: your career putting under anesthesia? So many times, we or your family. assume things and do things. But did you ask If you choose your career, then Oh, God. If the patient? And we talk you choose your family, about patients in their it’s—“She must be a terroom as if they weren’t rible doctor.” I have friends there. There are medical that went to Yale’s business students who say, “Well, school and they stay home today, Mrs. Smith presents with their children. They with abdominal pain. She’s feel so judged. People are AGE 36 LIVES IN Dallas a 46-year-old blah, blah, like, “Well, what about that EDUCATION Cornell University, blah.” And I’m like, “She’s Yale business degree? How UT Southwestern Medical School right there; she can hear helpful is that for carpool you. Don’t talk about her and sandwich making?” It’s OCCUPATION Anesthesiologist, like she’s an object.” I’m tryeducator and clinician SIGNIFICANT like there’s this dichotomy, ing to inject a little bit more this sort of working mom OTHER Daniel Moon, vice president of that humanistic side into versus stay-at-home mom. and general counsel for Sam Moon a profession that is science, It’s exhausting. There are CHILDREN Chloe and Madison, 6, medicine. I’m a doctor, not choices, and I just hate that a robot. we get pitted against each and stepchildren Nathan and Nicole, What is it like to be 16 DREAM JOB AS A CHILD Doctor other. on the front lines of the What was the biggest pandemic? When the panchallenge to becoming a demic first started, it was doctor? I would say it’s that very, very scary because we when you choose to go into didn’t know anything. It was just like: There is medicine, that decision excludes other things. this virus; it came from China, went to Europe, You have to study a lot. You have to take all these and now it’s here. I was scared. There were times biology prerequisites, and by having to do those when I thought maybe I shouldn’t go home, so things, you sometimes miss out on other things. that I don’t get my husband or my nanny or my I was so focused on doing my pre-reqs and kids sick. graduating from Cornell in two years that I I am an anxious person by nature; it generally never took any art history classes. A bunch of serves me well because I’m able to sort of keep my friends did a semester abroad. I never did it at a level where I’m on alert, and then it helps any of that stuff. I missed a lot of my friends’ life me. But sometimes you get this level of anxiety events, birthday parties, graduations because I that’s no longer helpful. Then you’re just a crazy was like, “Oh, I can’t go. I have finals this week.” person. Some days [during the beginning of the Everything was always about reaching that finish pandemic], that’s the level of anxiety that I had, line of graduating in the top 10% of my medical and I just had to stop, take a moment to breathe, school class. turn off the television. I just had to get on the I feel like I had blinders on during that time. phone with a friend and say, “Let’s talk about So I missed things I can’t go back and attend. I something that’s not coronavirus. Tell me who missed my best friend’s graduation from business Becky’s sleeping with. Tell me about your drunk school because I was studying for finals. Back uncle. Tell me anything.” then, studying for finals was so important and I Several months in, is it still as bad? I’ve at least was like, “Girl, I’m going to make it up to you.” I learned how to deal with it and not get to those sent flowers, and all that kind of stuff, but now I high levels of anxiety where I’m no longer useknow I should’ve gone to her graduation.

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ABOVE // Tiffany Moon says husband Daniel helps keeps her grounded. “He’s definitely the more normal, sane one. I’m the crazier one,” she jokes.

Does that experience help you have a better “big picture” vision as a parent? Yes, for sure. Now that I’m a mom, I’m trying to sort of relive my childhood through their lens. I didn’t necessarily have a great childhood myself. Where were you born? I was born in China, in a small town outside Beijing. My parents immigrated to the United States when I was 3 years old, but I didn’t come until I was 6. I came to America in 1990. You must have been overwhelmed. Yeah. I was reuniting with my mom and dad who were basically strangers to me. I had not seen or really spoken to them in three years. Being in a completely new culture, new school, speaking no English, going to ESL … “overwhelmed” would be an understatement. How does the way you were raised affect the way you parent? I think the good things that I picked up from my parents are that they always prioritized my education. When I got home from school, it was, “Have a snack, do your homework and then you can play.” I do that with my kids. My parents instilled in me a very good work ethic. I always saw them working hard, struggling and persevering. Some of the things that they maybe didn’t do so well is that they kind of also had blinders on. They were so singularly focused on a goal that they sort of didn’t teach me to enjoy the path toward the goal. I know I have been [that way] in the past, but now, I’m like, “Let’s enjoy the road, the journey—not just be focused on crossing the finish line.” Did your childhood impact your desire to be present for your own children? That is a very good question, because my parents were never at any of my things. I felt a sort of emptiness, wishing that they were there, but I also felt guilty for that. I knew that my dad wasn’t watching a baseball game and having a beer. He wasn’t at my skating event because he was at work, and it wasn’t flexible for him to ask for that off. The corollary of that is that I try to go to all my kids’ things. I can either work the night before or work that night, so that I can go to the thing. Or I’ll take a vacation day. It sounds like you’re trying to make sure your kids don’t feel the way that you did. I try to make it to all of their things, but still, I miss some. Before the pandemic, we were going to gymnastics. Some of the moms drop off and leave. I sit there, open my laptop and answer emails and phone calls and schedule things. They come out of class, and Maddy says, “Mommy, I did my first cartwheel today, but you didn’t see because you were working on your computer.” And what she said is true. I’m just like, “But I was here.” And then, I’m like, Oh, was I here? What has been your best learning experience as a mom? I would say it’s probably patience, because I’m not a very patient person. When I want things done, I want it now and done correctly, and if it’s not, you’re going to hear about it. When you have children, that’s not how it works. I have learned that perfection is not the goal with children. dfwchild.com / november 2020

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LAUREN STOCKARD Lauren Stockard and her husband Sam make their home in Fort Worth with their sons, who are 1 and 4. Stockard—who coordinates sponsorships (among other duties) for a local blog—enjoys trying new restaurants and visiting breweries with Sam, a human resources professional. But when it comes to mom time, Stockard doesn’t have to go far from home to keep her boys happy.

:21AM After pressing the snooze button every eight minutes, I remind myself that my day always starts better if I get up before the kids and drag myself out of bed. I head straight for the coffee maker. 6:27AM Coffee is brewing. I stretch—and by stretch, I mean yawn. 6:32AM I pour myself some coffee and start writing my top to-do’s for the day on the closest sheet of scrap paper I can find. 6:47AM I sit on the couch with coffee in hand, say a prayer and crack open a daily devotional to get my heart right for the day. 7:24AM I hear the pitter-patter of little feet walking down the hall and see my 4-year-old’s head peek out. I say good morning, and he asks if he can watch TV. He’s living his best life this morning because I turn on Blippi. Then I start breakfast and get my 1-year-old’s morning cup of milk ready. 7:29AM Toast is made and served with a hardboiled egg for my oldest. I take the cup of milk

to my 1-year-old, who greets me with the biggest smile! It melts my heart, and I just hold him for a bit while he drinks his bottle. 7:54AM My oldest comes in and asks if it’s snack time yet. The sweet moment of motherhood bliss ends with a quick, “No! You just ate breakfast! Snack’s at 10.” 8AM We start circle time, sing some songs (ABCs; “Twinkle, Twinkle” and a “Baby Shark” request), read the Llama Llama Mess, Mess, Mess book and talk about the importance of tidying up. (Hopefully, one day this will stick.) 8:30AM We make our beds, brush our teeth, get dressed and hop in the van to grab some Summer Moon Coffee. 8:49AM We’re parked near a construction site down the road from our house. The trunk of the van is popped open, and we’re hanging out in the back watching the construction trucks do their thing. This is easy and free entertainment for both my boys. I sit, answer questions about construction trucks (thanks, Google) and sip my coffee. 9:22AM The 4-year-old declares he’s done and is ready to go home. The baby starts to get fussy. We pack up, buckle up and head home. 9:31AM We pull into the driveway. I’m asked if it’s snack time again. I say not right now (same song and dance), and we get distracted by roly-polies wandering around the driveway. 9:37AM I look at the clock and want to cry because it’s only 9:37am. I thought for sure it was noon. These at-home-all-day-every-day pandemic days are long. I miss our pre-COVID routine for a moment, but I’m thankful for the extra time we get together too. 9:38AM We make it inside and I start to get my toddler ready for his morning nap. My oldest plays with his Legos but not before asking if it’s snack and TV time. 9:45AM The toddler lays down for a nap. I stand outside the door and listen for any opposition, but mostly because I enjoy hearing his babbles. 9:52AM I declare that it’s snack time, and the 4-year-old rejoices in songs of “Yay!” 10AM Pretzels and a mix of yogurt plus peanut butter to dip them in is served. I put ABCmouse on the desktop computer, and my oldest is perfectly content. I sneak to my desk, open my laptop and hunker down on some work. 11:53AM Toddler’s awake! 12:11PM Diaper is changed, and I realize I never had breakfast. I serve both baby and myself some hard-boiled eggs and banana while microwaving some macaroni and cheese for my oldest. Lunch is served! 12:37PM The weather is beautiful, so we head outside to work on our veggie garden. We pull some weeds in the flower beds and have some good ol’ fashioned outside playtime. 1:42PM We head in to get ready for both the kids’ naptime. Hallelujah! 2PM After a major struggle with the oldest kiddo, both kids are down for nap. Back to work.

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4:07PM A couple meetings, quite a few emails and some social posts later … work is done for the day. I get exactly three minutes to myself before my oldest comes in asking for snack and TV time. (Insert eyeroll.) 4:13PM Toddler’s awake! We’re all back outside enjoying the sunshine, playing with chalk and eating some fruit. 5:32PM My husband’s home. We all rejoice! 6:02PM Dinner time! On the menu this evening: cheese pizza (freezer-to-oven style) and a smorgasbord of mixed veggies that I’m calling a salad. 6:45PM Bedtime routines begin. Baths, jammies and stories. 7:15PM Both boys are down for bed! My husband and I catch each other up on our days, then we lounge on the couch and watch an episode of Superstore. 8:07PM We contemplate whether we should watch one more episode but reluctantly opt for bed. 8:33PM I start my own bedtime routine. I wash my face, brush my teeth and put on my PJs. 8:47PM I lay down in bed, and I’m out! dfwchild.com / november 2020

Fighting for the

Boys Parents of medically fragile children are 24/7 caregivers and advocates, waging everyday battles to give their kids the best life possible.

ick Schilling is medical mystery wrapped in a perpetual roguish grin. The 25-year-old’s diagnoses include autism, epilepsy and intellectual disability, but his body has also been gradually deteriorating for the past eight years, and genetic testing has yet to reveal why. He has feeding and digestive problems, muscle weakness and arthritis in both hips. When he walks, it’s only around the house, RIGHT // Ethan Schilling aided by orthotics and toting an IV pole. Nick doesn’t need words to talks with the help of an iPad. He loves storms, share his affection for his Christmas and Taylor Swift. older brother, Nick. He is not a morning person. He is a flirt. “You’re a hot mess—thank God you’re happy about everything,” Josh Schilling, Nick’s dad, says to him at a doctor’s appointment. Later, Josh tells the doctor, “We didn’t expect him to live this long.”

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ome families repeatedly wheel their medically fragile children to the steps of the state capitol, trying to persuade lawmakers to fix Texas’ dysfunctional Medicaid programs. Their work is noble, taxing, headline-making. On the home front, meanwhile, these parents are feeding their kids through gastronomy tubes. Changing diapers. Cleaning IV ports. Scheduling appointments. Spending days on the phone with insurance companies battling for medications, supplies, therapies and nursing care. These acts of love are their daily advocacy. There is no time to take a breather, no putting it off till tomorrow. “They’re pretty much advocating at all times,” says Ashlyn Estes, vice president of home health operations for Angels of Care—the company 24

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that provides nursing and attendant services for Ethan and Nick. “I feel like everything that they do for their children is a piece of advocacy because [the kids] don’t always have a voice to be heard, and so the parents are also their voice 24/7.” When I first speak to Josh, he’s in the middle of a messy insurance situation. “I had seven phone calls today just for both boys’ enteral supplies,” Josh laughs. “It’s exhausting.” For many moms and dads, exhaustion is one of the accepted costs of loving their children, and parents of medically fragile kids would tell you they’re doing no more than any parent would—it’s just that what is required of these families is extraordinary. “They always have a long list of things that they have to do,” Estes says. “Their job is never done—not that any parent’s is, but theirs is definitely on a different level.”

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akey, wakey, artichokey!” Jackie Schilling chants as she rousts Ethan from under the covers one Friday morning. “Hey, you stayed all night in your bed!” Ethan’s neuropathies disrupt his sleep, so he sometimes wanders restlessly to his parents’ bedroom. Last year, he went six months sleeping only an hour a night. “So none of us got sleep last year,” Josh jokes. Josh leaves for work early in the mornings— he has two full-time jobs—so his wife Jackie is in charge of getting Ethan and their 13-year-old daughter, Kiersten, off to school. Four days a week, Jackie also shuttles Kiersten to dance classes, a crucial outlet for the eighth grader, who understandably deals with a lot of anxiety. Jackie used to work as a special education teacher, but she left her career to stay home with Ethan. “When Ethan had his brain surgery, no day care would touch him, and by the time Ethan was old enough for a full-day school, that’s when Nick’s health went downhill,” Josh explains. On school days, limping out the door with one shoe on, Pop-Tarts in hand, is not an option. Jackie has to ensure that Ethan goes to the bathroom, receives his medications at the right time and eats breakfast without choking or aspirating. Even at age 11, he can’t put on his clothes by himself—he leans against Jackie, hands on her shoulders, while she pulls up his jeans. Perhaps because he has a guest during this morning’s routine, Ethan is on his best behavior, all smiles and twinkly eyes. He’s a total ham. “We don’t usually have this easy of a time, do we, E?” Jackie says. “You don’t like to get out of bed, you don’t like to get on the potty, you don’t like to eat your breakfast…”

Eventually his nurse arrives, and she and Ethan head for the crosswalk, pulling a massive blue duffle that Jackie has packed with her son’s most important school supplies: nebulizer, oxygen, backup G-button, vital signs monitors, medications and a suction machine in case he gets sick during the day. “He’ll just be happy, then all of a sudden—symptoms,” Jackie explains.

he duffle represents a sampling of what’s in the Schillings’ at-home medical supply closet. It’s the size of a small bedroom, lined with industrial shelving and piled floor-to-ceiling with alcohol pads, wipes, gloves, suction filters, saline tubing. . . Ten to 15 boxes arrive weekly. (During the pandemic, as suppliers have rationed personal protective equipment, the Schillings have paid a lot out of pocket to obtain what they need. With Nick’s delicate central line, they can’t afford not to.) The storage space is one of several features the family loves about their new house in Far North Dallas; No. 1 is the lack of stairs. “For two years, myself and the nurses were carrying Nick up and down the stairs, and it was killing my back. And Ethan’s fallen down the stairs before,” Josh says. “So now we’re in a onestory. Nick loves it—he just keeps saying, ‘New house. No stairs!’” Single-story living also gives Nick more freedom to roam. “He was just sitting on the couch all day, and we needed him to be able to have

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ick’s timeline has stretched beyond his doctors’ prognoses, despite dozens of trips to the ER; in the past few years, Nick has been hospitalized with sepsis nine times. “This boy bounces back,” Josh says. “Twelve hours after being septic and having a 15-inch scar on his stomach and 12 inches of colon taken out, he was sitting up and playing on his iPad and laughing.” Josh laughs a lot too. He’s got a ruddy, boyish face and what can seem like an irreverent way of talking about his two sons’ acute disabilities. Perhaps the laughter is an unconscious coping mechanism, sharpened by years of trying to stay positive even though his oldest is on a timeline and his youngest will never be able to live independently. Nick’s 11-year-old brother, Ethan, had brain surgery as a toddler; now he has a mesh patch on the back of his head, so falls (or headbanging, a past habit of his) can be dangerous. Unfortunately, he also has poor motor skills and a genetic neuropathy in his legs that makes him prone to falling. “He can be walking and then go numb at any second and trip and fall,” Josh explains. Because of Ethan’s brain condition, called Chiari malformation, he is at risk of respiratory failure and aspiration. His food has to be cut into small pieces, and he can’t take liquids by mouth. Like his older brother, Ethan has intellectual disability and is nonverbal. Between them, the boys have 18 doctors, nearly 50 prescriptions, and 230 hours of weekly nursing care. “This is the life we were blessed with, and we’re going to make the best of it,” Josh says. “[But] every once in a while, it sneaks up on you and hits you. There was a bunch of boys Ethan’s age playing soccer, and I was like, Wow—that’s something my son’s never going to do. We don’t have a friend knocking on the door, and he’s never going to verbalize and say, ‘Hey, I’ll be back later!’ I did tear up for a minute, but then I got over it. He’s happy, he’s content. It’s not about me; it’s about him.”

choices and move around,” Jackie says. “He just has so many more options. He’s been so much happier.” Modifying a home—or finding a new one, like the Schillings did—is not uncommon for families with medically fragile children. In order to accommodate a child’s equipment, parents may install ramps and widen hallways. They may buy an extra refrigerator to store medications. The modification process is continual, both as the child’s needs change and as the parents age and become less able to lift their child into the bathtub or carry them upstairs. The Schillings haven’t been in their house long, but they’ve already made one significant (and unexpected) installation. When that violent microburst last June knocked out the power for four days, the family lost thousands of dollars of refrigerated medications, and the boys couldn’t access some of their critical, electricity-based treatments. “It was a nightmare,” says Josh. The state doesn’t cover the cost of a generator, so he went to work writing grant requests—a familiar process, since he’d done the same thing in order to buy their accessible van. He also told the story to their long-time electrician. As it turns out, the company decided to donate a generator to power the whole house. “That’s my goal and my wife’s goal, is to tell parents, ‘I know it’s exhausting, but don’t give up,’” Josh says. “‘Don’t give up, because that’s what people want you to do, because it’s hard.’”

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s an advocate, Josh is bold, getting things done with smiles and persistence. “If the boys are healthy, in a good week, I probably spend four to five hours on the phone or emails just fighting for the boys, and making sure their supplies are in,” he says. When one of the boys is sick, that time triples. Several of Nick and Ethan’s doctors and home-health nurses have become indispensable advocates themselves. Nick’s intensivist (the ICU doctor who directs his care) “has kept Nick alive because of what he does,” Josh says. “He can move mountains”—for example, arranging for Nick to bypass the ER since he’s so susceptible to infection. The intensivist even gave Josh his cell number. “I’ve got four of the doctors’ cellphone numbers,” laughs Josh. “We just text.” He really leans on those relationships when insurance or Medicaid is involved. Fortunately for the Schillings, Nick and Ethan are on Josh’s insurance through work, with Medicaid as their secondary coverage. “That’s the only reason why every doctor and home health agreed to take us,” Josh says. But when Nick turned 21, his state-funded care options became limited; one was placing him in a skilled nursing facility instead of keeping him

at home. “We had to write letters, the doctor had to write letters, the doctor from the Health and Human Services Commission had to come out to our house, and we had to prove to him why putting him in a nursing home would kill our son,” Josh explains. We could devote a whole magazine to parents’ daily toils in the trenches of insurance and Medicaid managed care. This year, the boys’ primary insurance changed, and Ethan had to switch to a new Medicaid managed care organization as well, meaning there was a chance that their doctors, nurses and medical suppliers would no longer be in network. Before the Sept. 1 deadline, Josh begged all their providers to either continue accepting their insurance or take the boys on a special basis. He worked for months to get all the sign-offs. Still, the changeover was chaotic. “It was phone calls, complaints, all of a sudden they aren’t covering that…” says Josh. “I think we’re in a good place now.”

n a Friday in February, Josh takes off work to chaperone the boys to a doctor’s appointment (where he reminds the doctor of the insurance signoffs he needs by Sept. 1). Afterward, the family has a brief interlude before Josh heads off to work. It’s time for Mario Kart. Josh, Jackie, Ethan and his nurse each grab a game controller, and Nick watches, smiling broadly and predicting who’ll be victorious. During each race, Josh keeps an eye on Ethan’s somewhat erratic progress. “Watch the road!” he suggests. “Use your mushroom!” Ethan has improved at video games since the family got a Nintendo Switch, because his hands can better manipulate the controls. In the final race, he finishes ABOVE // Nick was fourth, besting the confined to the house until majority of the field. Josh applied for grants It’s a little thing, but as to buy an accessible van. the whole family celRIGHT // The family keeps ebrates and Josh gets two shelves’ worth of ready to leave, it feels diapers and bed pads. like a validation of the Schillings’ small, everyday efforts to make their boys happy.

what hopes they harbor for the future, they speak for their kids—and sometimes that means saying no to a treatment option, quitting a therapy, giving up distant possibilities in order to make life better for their children now. As much as they can, the Schillings consult Nick and Ethan in these decisions. The boys may be nonverbal, but they do have voices. Last year doctors gave Nick the option of another surgery to shore up his deteriorating back muscles—he’d already had a rod put in his upper back. This second surgery, however, could permanently take away his ability to walk, or worse. Josh and Jackie simplified the situation for Nick, and through his iPad, he said no to the surgery. “Our only option was to manage pain,” Josh says. “And that’s what we’re going to do.” Because Nick is on a timeline, Josh and Jackie fight primarily for their oldest son’s happiness and comfort. They don’t advocate to prolong a life that Nick doesn’t want. Right now, he’s content, his pain is managed, and he has a purpose, Josh says. But someday, when those things are no longer true for Nick, his parents will advocate for him by giving him permission to let go. About three years ago, Nick’s colon ruptured, and he needed emergency surgery. Before the operation, Josh had a moment with his son in the ICU. This had become a familiar scene: his son in a hospital bed, enduring the erosion of his physical body with an unquenchable happiness. But this time Nick was obviously in great pain. “I told him, ‘Nicholas, if you’re tired, it’s OK to let go,’” Josh shares. “That was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever said.” Then he laughs, and his voice is steady again. “But it’s not about Jackie or I. It’s about him.”

ccasionally, Josh and Jackie allow themselves to feel the crush of exhaustion. “I don’t want to call and fight,” Josh admits. “You’re not supposed to have to shower your 25-year-old and even bathe your 11-year-old. “But we have to remember, it’s not happening to us; it’s happening to our boys,” he continues. “We’re just along for the ride. Life could be worse. Our motto is ‘Everyone runs their own race.’” This is how parents find the strength to make one more phone call. This is their north star when navigating thorny decisions. No matter dfwchild.com / november 2020

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FEELING

Regulating Your Childs’ Emotions It is not uncommon for parents to quickly attend to childrens’ reactions when they scream, cry, and have a tantrum, only to discover that the response is exaggerated. For example, your child drops ice cream on the floor and they choose to scream, which would be an unmatched response. Your solution: emotional regulation, and this often has to be taught. So instead of saying “stop screaming” or giving a consequence, try these steps:

► Talk about emotions as a lesson

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HEN JOE THOMAS SUFFERED A HEART ATTACK and lost consciousness at his Frisco home, his daughter Aerin, then 12 years old, didn’t hesitate to perform CPR. “I was trying to do compressions and breathe into his mouth. He was turning blue,” recalls Aerin’s mom, Angela Thomas. “At some point, I remember Aerin making the comment, ‘You’re doing it wrong.’ She gave me the phone to talk to the 911 operator and she started doing the compressions. She continued until the paramedics arrived.” Aerin’s actions helped save her father’s life that day in 2016—and it’s all thanks to some important lessons she learned as a Frisco ISD sixth grader. The district teaches fundamental first aid to all its students in the first year of middle school. “I just saw that Mom wasn’t doing what I learned in class, and I told her,” says Aerin, who is dfwchild.com / november 2020

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now 16. “She wasn’t doing just chest compressions, the hands-only method that the American Heart Association teaches now.” Clearly, first aid is not just for grownups. With basic training, kids can be a real asset in emergency situations. GET SCHOOLED IN FIRST AID The state of Texas requires school districts to provide CPR training to students before high school graduation. Frisco ISD offers an expanded curriculum that, in addition to compression-only CPR, includes automated external defibrillators (AEDs), wound bandaging, epinephrine auto-injectors (EpiPens), and other emergency tools and procedures. Through district purchases and grant funding, Frisco ISD has acquired experiential learning materials, such as CPR manikins that help students understand how much pressure is really necessary to keep blood flow going, and AED training devices, which talk the kids through how to use the machine. The skills taught in sixth grade PE are reinforced through optional PE in seventh and eighth grades and again as part of a mandatory high

school health class. (The district is working through how to provide first-aid training while maintaining COVID safety protocols.) Frisco ISD launched its comprehensive first-aid curriculum after an emergency back in 2011. Kylee Shea, a seventh grader at the time, experienced a sudden cardiac arrest and dropped to the floor in her school hallway. “Two of my friends were with me, and they saw me fall over and pass out,” shares Shea. “They ran to get our two coaches, Kristen Goodgion and Brent Reese. They ended up preforming CPR and using an AED on me. The school called 911, and after I was awake I was flown to Children’s Medical Center in Dallas. If Brent and Kristen weren’t there or properly trained to perform first aid, I would have died.” But why not just increase training for teachers and other adults on campus? Bottom line—Aerin’s case in point—even young people can find themselves in circumstances where they can play a role in providing first aid. In fact, they may be the only one there to help. “CPR is one of the best skills to know,”

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says Kendric Smith, the lead physical education and health teacher at the middle school and high school levels for Frisco ISD. “No one ever thinks they’ll need it or use it, but kids end up doing CPR more often than you might think. These are skills they need now and when they get older.” For young people whose worlds may revolve around TikTok or video games, a dose of reality is key. “The kids don’t understand the importance of the training until you jump into the cases and situations that have happened on campus and in our district,” notes Smith. “We share Kylee and Aerin’s stories and try to give them that real-life perspective: These things do happen. Look what people have done with this kind of training.”

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people + places / C A M P I N G located in DFW. With 221 campsites, running water, concrete pads, picnic pavilions, charcoal grills and fire rings, your family will have the space and amenities for a great visit. If tents and RVs don’t light your (camp)fire, cabins are available for rental. Cost Vehicles on-site cost $15 a day (up to six people; additional people $2 each). Kids 5 and under are free. Cabin prices vary. Willow Grove Park // Lake Dallas Where Lake Lewisville, 212 Main St. What to know Make a quick and cozy getaway to the shores of Lake Lewisville at Willow Grove Park. During your stay, your family can enjoy fishing (although the fishing pier is currently closed), the multi-use trail, playground, volleyball court and fire rings. The 15 RV sites have hookups for water and electricity; primitive sites are first come, first served. Restrooms are on-site. Cost Daily parking passes are free for Lake Dallas residents; $5 for others. Murrell Park // Flower Mound Where Lake Grapevine, 880 Simmons Road What to know Camp out on the bluffs of Lake Grapevine’s north shore at Murrell Park. The picnic areas, boat ramp, hike-bike trails and fishing areas make this a great place for family time. There are plenty of campsites with covered picnic areas and fire pits; most sites are heavily shaded. All sites are non-electric. If campfire cooking isn’t your thing, head to Twin Coves Marina and Little Pete’s Restaurant. Cost $10 a night per campsite.

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Cedar Hill State Park // Cedar Hill Where Joe Pool Lake, 1570 W. FM 1382 What to know Bring your family to not just camp but also hike, bike, picnic, geocache and nature-watch on the shores of Joe Pool Lake. The DORBA (Dallas Off-Road Bicycle Association) Trail crosses 1,200 acres and is open to cyclists and hikers alike. If your family is hooked on fishing, the 7,500-acre lake is perfect for reeling in largemouth black bass, crappie and catfish. The park’s 350 developed campsites have water and electricity access, while 150 have sewer hookups too. Several sites are ADA-accessible. You can also pitch a tent at a primitive campsite if trails are open. Cost $5 daily for age 13 and older for overnight usage; children age 12 and younger are free. Reserve passes online or by phone before you visit. Campsite prices vary. Ray Roberts Lake State Park // Pilot Point Where 100 PW 4137 (enter from FM 455) What to know Looking to get out of the house and escape the bustle of the Metroplex? Your family will enjoy all Ray Roberts Lake State Park has to offer—from

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geocaching, backpacking and hiking to fishing in the lake or the kids fishing pond. If relaxation is on your want-to-do list, Ray Roberts Lake State Park offers great spots to nature-watch and decompress. Set up at one of the area campsites or book a stay at the Lone Star Lodge. Cost $7 daily for age 13 and older; children 12 and younger are free. Reserve passes online or by phone prior to visiting. Campsite prices vary. Dinosaur Valley State Park // Glen Rose Where 1629 Park Road 59 What to know Take a trip about an hour southwest and 113 million years back in time at Dinosaur Valley State Park. The real dinosaur tracks are a huge draw, and the hilly, hardscrabble limestone terrain makes for an interesting mix of plant life and wildlife. With group camps, primitive campsites (walk-in and hike-in) and campsites with electricity, you have options for your Glen Rose adventure. There are also equestrian offerings, including assisted trail rides. Cost $7 daily for age 13 and older; children 12 and younger are free. Reserve your passes online or by phone ahead of time. Campsite prices vary. Cleburne State Park // Cleburne Where Cedar Lake, 5800 Park Road 21 What to know Enjoy a peaceful getaway just 30 minutes southwest of Fort Worth at Cleburne State Park, where your family can explore nearly 13 miles of trails on foot, set up camp, look for geocaches and relax in nature. Cast a line at the (ADA-accessible) covered fishing pier—fishing gear is available for loan, and a license isn’t necessary there—or, when the weather is warmer, take a dip in the 116-acre clear blue lake. All campsites have water and electricity, while some also have sewer hookups. You can also reserve a screened shelter or cabin for the family. Something to remember next spring: This is a great spot for bluebonnets. Cost $5 daily for age 13 and older; children under 12 are free. To guarantee entrance, reserve passes online or call ahead. Campsite prices vary. Hickory Creek Campground // Hickory Creek Where Lake Lewisville, 1801 N. Mill St. What to know Interested in camping but can’t give up your hot shower? Hickory Creek could be the place for you. The showers are among the amenities at this large campground; you can also enjoy fishing, boating and other watercraft activities, golfing and horseback riding, There are 121 campsites with electric hookups. Primitive, walk-in sites aren’t available right now. Cost $28–$30 a night for campsites with water and electrical hookups.

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confessions

MOM TRUTHS ILLUSTRATION MARY DUNN

MY SON NOTICED I ALWAYS RESPOND WITH A LOUD ‘WHAT?’ EVERY TIME HE YELLS FOR ME. SO HE STARTED COMING UP TO ME AND SAYING, ‘HELLO, MY LOVELY HEART…’ AND ASKING FOR WHATEVER HE WANTED. WORKED EVERY TIME UNTIL I REALIZED WHAT HE WAS UP TO.” —ANGELA, LAS COLINAS

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“My first grader had a simple explanation for why he prefers in-person school (with a teacher) to virtual school (with Mom overseeing his learning). ‘School from home is harder because you’re so much meaner,’ he said matter-of-factly. Thanks for the clarification, kiddo.” —ALEXIS, BEDFORD

“I’ve always taught my daughter, who’s now 8, that we can’t be lazy when it comes to standing up for issues we feel strongly about. She saw protests on TV and stood on the sofa shouting at the people that she stands with them. I told her, ‘We’re in a pandemic; you can protest from our sofa!’” —JENNIFER, PROSPER

“Early in quarantine, my husband and I got crafty and set up the living room as a movie theater for family movie night. We even sent the boys upstairs while we prepared our ‘big surprise.’ We played movie soundtracks and made themed snacks and tickets. Our boys still talk about that night and how much fun it was!” —LAUREN, DALLAS

“I finally experienced the dreaded diaper blowout a few days ago. I was prepared with diapers, wipes and an old onesie—only to realize the onesie was far too small for my growing boy. So my son ended up wearing my workout tank with no pants into Target that day. Talk about embarrassing!” —ALERA, ARLINGTON

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I CAME OUT OF MY OFFICE FROM HELPING MY SON WITH VIRTUAL SCHOOLING TO FIND MY 4-YEAR-OLD MAKING A BIRTHDAY CAKE FOR HER YET-TO-BEBORN BABY COUSIN, DUE IN DECEMBER. I TOLD HER IT’S NOT HIS BIRTHDAY, AND SHE SAID, ‘WELL THEN, TOMORROW.’” —TONI, ARLINGTON

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