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Introducing...

Features 14 Meet Kim Hurley

“The Cat Lady Of Myrtle Beach”

18 A Story of Hope and Love The story of “Paddy Cake”

23 Outer Banks Bluegrass Festival

35 Dr. Ruthless

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Fall Gardening

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Hello and welcome to the FALL 2014 issue of The Carolinas Today. As you can see, our format has changed. We are gearing towards much needed information. In conjunction with The Carolinas Today, we are now providing you, the reader, with articles that are timely and to the point. Every single person out there watches or hears about terrible things that happen to good, unsuspecting citizens. I want to use The Carolinas Today to help you, the reader, have a better chance to stand up to the vile things that are out there. I can’t be there to help every single person, and renting a security guard 24/7 is extremely expensive, but if you can pick up and use the information provided in the Self Defense articles, then you can feel confident and empowered. The Brunswick County Sheriff offers RAD Training, information is available on their web site: http://brunswicksheriff.com/rad You can also contact the Brunswick County Sheriff’s Office Crime Prevention Unit at 910-253-2708. For those unable to attend training, the article by Dr.Ruthless can be a starting point. Melissa Soalt AKA Dr. Ruthless is an award- winning women’s self defense expert, former private-practice psychotherapist and a Black Belt Hall of Fame recipient, and The Carolinas Today is pleased to have her on-board. On a lighter note...I want to introduce everyone to Kim Hurley, Owner of “The Cat’s Meow Veterinary of Myrtle Beach”. This is a truly unique place. “A place for cats only veterinary care”. You’ll find links to her Facebook Page in the article, so Like her page and stay tuned for updates and specials from her. Her web site will be up and running soon, as she is moving to a larger location. As you read through this and future issues, look for the video links. The videos will expand on the content in the article or offer a message from the advertiser. Be sure to share content from the magazine with your friends via the share button at the top of the reader. You can also visit our Facebook page or follow us on Twitter using the links below or on our web site, thecarolinastoday.com.

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No one knows and loves felines like Kim Hurley. Her life is dedicated to the beloved cat. Her Mother jokingly says “she must have been a cat in a former life. She’s always had a magic touch with cats. Her voice seems to calm them and draw them to her. Even when she was a little girl at Grandma’s house out in the country, she would catch wild kittens in an old burlap potato sack, taming them for pets.” Kim owns and operates The Cat’s Meow Veterinary of Myrtle Beach. She is now in the process of preparing for her biggest move yet, to a new location in Myrtle Beach which she plans to open by September/October. Her new location is a state-of-the-art 5,000 square foot facility. Boasting a Hospital, Boarding facilities and Grooming Spa for “Cats Only”.

August 17th was National Black Cat day. So in honor of the day, Cat’s Meow took in this little kitten that was hit by a car. He has a broken leg and a diaphragmatic hernia. He will need a home one day.

Nancy, a client who brought in her Kitty, must have said something hilarious or the Kitty told Kim a secret! Nancy says, ”My money is on the kitty, she talks with them all the time. You are awesome Kim!” Kim replied. “How cool is it to love your job?! Kitties rule!”

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Here are a few Reviews from clients that tell the story: The Cat’s Meow is the best! Kim and her staff give such time and caring to all their patients and owners. My Audrey was spoiled rotten on her stay. She loves all the people who work there. I would recommend the Cat’s Meow to everyone for all your cat needs. Besides, Audrey, I have a cat with severe allergies. The poor baby would scratch until she bled and was a miserable kitty. The vet I was using couldn’t get them under control and I was considering having her put down to relieve her suffering when someone said I should try Cat’s Meow. Well today thanks to Kim and Dr. Brandy she’s a whole new cat. She plays and purrs and is a very happy girl. Dr. Brandy and Kim kept trying until they had her allergies under control. Because they

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In late May, a small Siamese mix kitten was brought into Cat’s Meow Veterinary Hospital. A very kind-hearted couple had stopped traffic the night before when they thought they saw something dragging itself across the road. It wasn’t until their headlights shined in its eyes, that they realized it was a small kitten! The kitten couldn’t move its back legs, but had the determination of a champion to save itself. Realizing that the kitten had probably either been hit by or thrown out of a car, the couple made plans to nurse it through the late hours of the night and get it to the hospital first thing the next morning. Upon arrival at Cat’s Meow, we estimated it to be a female kitten around 6 weeks old, appearing disheveled, dehydrated and malnourished. Her injury was determined by X-rays showing a fractured pelvis on the left side. Her tail seemed to be injured as well, as it was just hanging down with little or no movement. This can be scary because there are a lot of nerves in the tail, some of which lead to the bladder and bowels. We were not sure if she could go potty on her own. (Obviously, I am putting the medical information in terms everyone can understand) She cried this pitiful meow every time she tried to move. The way she looked right into my eyes as if she were speaking to me touched my heart. I knew this was no ordinary kitten, at least not to me, and I immediately

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began to bond with her. I named her “Paddy Cake” because of the way she used her 2 front paws like they were clapping together to grab things as she tried to move. Now that I was in love with this kitten, I needed to find out what plans the people that found her had. We had a couple of options as far as healing her injuries. She would need to stay in the hospital for a while. We were crossing our fingers that she would be able to potty on her own, which she finally did after we got some nutrition and fluids in her. Yippee! One hurdle crossed. The couple had a choice as far as the broken pelvis. Since she was a very young kitten, strict rest in small cage preventing too much movement, would allow a growing kitten to heal the pelvis fracture. It may not be perfect, but the alternative would be expensive surgery requiring pins. You can’t put a cast on a pelvis. (hahaha) The couple opted for cage rest leaving her at Cats Meow. Many conversations later, it was decided that I would adopt “Paddy Cake”. She was now a “special needs kitten”. The couple already had several cats and dogs, and both had busy work schedules. I would be able to give her more of the type of care she needed at this time. I eventually took her home, unable to leave her alone at night. She spent most of her time in my lap and in bed with me. Then we would go back to work in the morning, where she would spend her day resting in her cage. My in-laws came for a visit during this time. To show you how special this little angel is, my 80 year old father-in-law that has never held a cat in his life, was touched by “Paddy Cake”. I’m talking a hard core Italian man that never had pets was loving on her! Not to mention, my very Italian husband was against adding another cat to our family. But even he was easily won over by “Paddy Cake’s” unique personality. He rationalized it by saying now we had an even number of boys verses girls. (hahaha) By mid-June, her tail had to be amputated. It was dead all the way up to a small, but very important part, close to the base of the tail. The nerves had not been damaged that allow her to go potty. So “Paddy Cake” became a cute little kitten with what I call a “nubbin” for a tail. Months later, she now rules my house of cats. Not only did she bring joy into my life, she has resurrected some of my older lazy cats. It’s play time all the time! We have a pet door leading to a huge screened in porch. “Paddy Cake” learned to go in and out very quickly. She is so smart! She knows her name and comes when I call her. “Paddy Cake’s” expressive eyes talk to me. I know people jokingly call me the Cat Lady, but I swear it’s like I understand what she says just by the gaze of her blue expressive eyes. “Paddy Cake” has so many of the same personality traits that my dearly loved “Foxy” (a Somali) had. I lost her at the age of 13, years ago and miss her so much. “Paddy Cake” drags one of “Foxy’s” favorite toys around the house and up on the bed to wherever I am, wanting me to play with her... just like “Foxy” used to do! I can’t believe I even still www.thecarolinastoday.com

have the toy after all these years. Like “Foxy”, I have to make sure I play with “Paddy Cake” in the evenings until she is tired before bed. Otherwise, she will wake me up too early in the morning as she sleeps right under my arm.

I guess the reason for this story is to show Hope. Hope that there will always be kind-hearted animal lovers like the couple that rescued “Paddy Cake”. Hope that every person can one day look into a cat’s eyes and feel that warm glow in your heart that is love. All of God’s creatures, including us humans, were put here on earth to experience love. Hope that one day, all of you can be touched to your soul by one of God’s most fascinating, loving creatures... the cat.

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for the 3rd Annual Outer Banks Bluegrass Festival, sponsored by PNC Bank and Bollie Lee Jarratt Jr. CPA. The song, written especially for the event, is a tribute to the distinct entities that have garnered the OBX Bluegrass Festival national recognition, including the Island venue and BoomGrass fireworks show.

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“I was honored to be asked to write a song about one of my favorite festivals. I envisioned the sights, sounds and feelings this unique setting brings to bluegrass music,” said Rhonda Vincent. “The song takes the listener on a musical journey through the festival. I hope it makes everyone want to attend to experience the song first hand and I look forward to performing it live at the event in September,” Vincent continued. Bluegrass Island can be heard by visiting, https://soundcloud.com/bluegrassisland/bluegrass-island-by-rhondavincent. In addition to a live show by Rhonda Vincent and the Rage, the four-day event will also feature performances by bluegrass standouts, Ricky Skaggs and Kentucky Thunder, The Lonesome River Band, The Steep Canyon Rangers, Balsam Range, Russell Moore & IIIrd Tyme Out, Blue Highway, Doyle Lawson & Quicksilver and Dailey & Vincent and more! Jam sessions will be held in the parking lot and host hotel, The Elizabethan Inn, throughout the weekend. A complete schedule is available at www.bluegrassisland.com. Another stand out activity at the event is BoomGrass! The fireworks show held during the festival from barges anchored behind the stage, over the water and choreographed to bluegrass music is the largest in the state of North Carolina. Our goal is to provide something for everyone at the OBX Bluegrass Festival. We have an outstanding lineup of bands and the finest fireworks show in North Carolina,” said festival director Cory T. Hemilright. “This year is particularly exciting because Rhonda Vincent has honored us with a theme song. I can’t with for people to hear, Bluegrass Island and I hope it makes them want to listen to some great music when they visit the beach in September! A four day pass is $110 and a daily pass is $40. VIP and Weekend Backstage Passes are also available on www.bluegrassisland.com. 24

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After years of hard work, siblings Lee and Elaine Roy have firmly established themselves as one of

the pre-eminent acts in Bluegrass today. As THE ROYS they bring immaculate harmonies, impeccable musicianship and strong songwriting to their music, combining a traditional vocal styling with a progressive instrumental attitude to enchant fans around the world. Proud to continue the “family harmony” sound started by such groups as Hall of Fame inductees The Carter Family, The Louvin Brothers and The Osborne Brothers, THE ROYS revel in exploring new facets of the genre while remaining true to their roots. Born in Fitchburg, Massachusetts and raised across the border in Coal Branch, New Brunswick, Canada, THE ROYS’ early childhood days were filled with music. “Our Grandma LeBlanc played Acadian tunes on her fiddle while my aunts and uncles joined in,” Elaine recalls. “It was truly ‘Roots’ music. We fell in love with that ‘honest’ sound, and our harmonies seemed to fit that style of music,” adds Lee. Growing up in a family where guitar pulls were a normal occurrence, Lee became adept on drums, bass and mandolin and joined his first Bluegrass band at the age of nine. Elaine learned guitar and began singing at age five, making her first on-stage appearance at the tender age of 10. Though the siblings were keenly aware of each other’s talent, they had no idea that they shared a common hope for the future. “I had always dreamed about going to Nashville,” states Elaine. “I was amazed when I learned my brother shared that vision as well.” For Lee, “It was something that we both wanted – and it just seemed natural to pursue it.”

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Since making the decision to move to Nashville seven years ago, it’s been one success story after another for the duo. Growing up on traditional Country and Bluegrass music had given them a strong stylistic base, and their sound developed into a blend of Bluegrass, Country, Folk, Roots and Gospel music that resonates with the listener. Songs like the rollicking “Workin’ Girl Blues” and the timeless “Beautiful” earned them a strong following among fans while helping them forge strong bonds with programmers, talent buyers and critics across the country. Phone lines began to light up with requests for their music, and the crowds at their live appearances began to grow. The accolades started rolling in with their wins for Inspirational Country Music (ICM) Duo of the Year in 2009 and 2010. The release of their first Rural Rhythm Records’ (RRR) album, LONESOME WHISTLE, kicked their career into high gear. The disc debuted at No. 7 on BILLBOARD's Bluegrass Albums Chart and earned them a spot on BILLBOARD'S Top 50 Bluegrass Albums of 2011 chart. The CD’s success helped land them the award for the ICM Bluegrass Artist of the Year in 2011, as well as a No. 1 single, “Coal Minin’ Man.” THE ROYS’ sophomore project for the label, NEW DAY DAWNING, followed in 2012. The landmark EP debuted at #2 on the BILLBOARD Bluegrass Albums Chart, reached #1 on Amazon's Bluegrass Best-Sellers list, and landed on BLUEGRASS UNLIMITED MAGAZINE's Top 15 Albums chart. Additionally, the disc’s first single, “Still Standing,” and other tracks from the EP continually dominated the weekly and monthly Top 20 BLUEGRASS TODAY charts. Additionally, in 2012, Lee and Elaine were named ICM Bluegrass Artist of the Year and their song, “I Wonder What God’s Thinking,” was named the ICM Inspirational Country Single of the Year. Keeping the award-winning sibling duo on the fast track, THE ROYS released GYPSY RUNAWAY TRAIN in 2013, their third CD for RRR containing six ROYS’ originals and some of their all-time favorite Bluegrass and Country classics. The album earned a Top 5 on Billboard’s Bluegrass Album Chart and hit #1 on Sirius XM Bluegrass Junction’s Most-Played Albums chart (Oct. 2013), with the “hot and active” track: “Those Memories Of You” landing at #5 on Sirius XM Radio Bluegrass Junction’s Most-Played Tracks. 2013 also found THE ROYS performing at the official unveiling of the Johnny Cash US Postage Stamp, the well-regarded Country Thunder Wisconsin festival and at the historic and highly-publicized “Playin’ Possum: George Jones’ Final No Show” Tribute Concert. They were also invited to make their debut appearance on the Grand Ole’ Opry, realizing one of the duo’s major “life/career goals” and achieving what only a handful of Bluegrass acts have accomplished. 2014 found THE ROYS aboard the Inaugural Country Music Cruise, winning the hearts of traditional Country Music fans and earning a coveted performance spot aboard the 2015 cruise. They were also named the #1 Bluegrass Artist of the 2014 International Acoustic Music Awards (IAMA) and were a featured act at the Folk Alliance International. “No More Lonely” serves as the first single from the duo’s highly anticipated fourth album, THE VIEW, which will be released in September. The 11-song collection takes THE ROYS’ creativity to a whole new level. It features collaborations with some of the top songwriters in the business, including Steve Dean, Larry Alderman, Jenee Fleenor, Keesy Timmer, “Whisperin’ Bill“ Anderson and more. Throughout the years, THE ROYS have played some of the top stages in America and beyond, bringing their unique sound to Dollywood, Country Thunder, Tamworth (Australia), Folk Alliance, CMA Music Festival and countless Bluegrass festivals. Last year, the siblings made their European debut with shows in Germany, the U.K. and Denmark. The sought-after duo has performed the National Anthem for fans of NASCAR, NFL and Major League Baseball. They have hosted radio shows as well, including the legendary Ernest Tubb Midnite Jamboree and 650 AM WSM’s popular Guest Artist Series. THE ROYS’ debut appearance at The Ryman Auditorium’s SPRINGER MOUNTAIN FARMS www.thecarolinastoday.com

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Other Forms Avoidance Being aware of and avoiding potentially dangerous situations is one useful technique of self-defense. Attackers are typically larger, stronger, and are often armed or have an accomplice. These factors make fighting to defeat the attacker unlikely to succeed. When avoidance is impossible, one often has a better chance at fighting to escape, such methods have been referred to as 'break away' techniques. Understanding the 'mindset' of a potential attacker is essential if we are to avoid or escape a potentially life-threatening situation. De-escalation Verbal Self Defense, also known as Verbal Judo or Verbal Aikido, is defined as using one’s words to prevent, de-escalate, or end an attempted assault. It is a way of using words as weapons or as a shield. This kind of ‘conflict management’ is the use of voice, tone, and body language to calm a potentially violent situation before violence actually ensues. This often involves techniques such as taking a time-out, and deflecting the conversation to individuals in the group who are less passionately involved, or simply entering into protected empathic position to understand the attacker better. More to come in future issues of “The Carolinas Today”. Author Katy Mattingly defines verbal self-defense as simply saying no to someone or repeatedly refusing a request or telling someone who has violated a boundary what you want, or it could entail a more complicated scenario in which you are called on to refuse to engage verbally with someone manipulative, to set limits, and end the conversation. Suzette Haden Elgin the author of The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense states that verbal self-defense defends against the eight most common types of verbal violence, and redirects and defuses potential verbal confrontations. Luke A. Archer, author and trainer of Verbal Aikido: the art of directing verbal attacks to a balanced outcome, proposes that most verbal attacks can be reoriented towards a balanced or positive direction, by using three steps based on the Aikido philosophy. Personal alarms Personal alarms are a way to practice passive self-defense. A personal alarm is a small, hand-held device that emits strong, loud, high-pitched sounds to deter attackers because the noise will sometimes draw the attention of passersby. Child alarms can function as locators or device alarms such as for triggering an alert when a swimming pool is in use to help prevent dangerous situations in addition to being a deterrent against would-be aggressors. www.thecarolinastoday.com

Self-defense education Self-defense techniques and recommended behavior under the threat of violence is systematically taught in self-defense classes. Commercial self-defense education is part of the martial arts industry in the wider sense, and many martial arts instructors also give self-defense classes. While all martial arts training can be argued to have some self-defense applications, self-defense courses are marketed explicitly as being oriented towards effectiveness and optimized towards situations as they occur in the real world. It should not be presumed however that sport based systems are inadequate, as the training methods employed regularly produce well conditioned fighters experienced in full contact fighting. There are a large number of systems taught commercially, many tailored to the needs of specific target audiences (e.g. defense against attempted rape for women, self-defense for children and teens). Notable systems taught commercially include: • civilian versions of modern military combatives, such as Krav-Maga, Defendo, Kajukenbo and Systema. • self-defense oriented forms of jujitsu, such as Aikijujutsu, Aikido, Bartitsu, German ju-jutsu, Allkampf-jitsu and Judo. • rape prevention, including Rape Aggression Defense System (RAD), AWARE, IMPACT/Model Mugging, etc. • Reality-Based Self-Defense (RBSD), Defensive Tactics. See reality based applications by organizations that are World Combat Association approved such as MDTA http://mdta.com.au • Sport based systems, such as kickboxing, Muay Thai, Boxing, Savate, Shoot Boxing, Sanshou, Judo, BJJ, Sambo, MMA and Wrestling can be adapted as self-defense. • Traditional unarmed fighting styles like Karate, Taekwondo, Hapkido, Pencak Silat . These styles can also include competing.

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Dr.Ruthless: About Dr. Ruthless速

Melissa Soalt AKA Dr. Ruthless

Melissa Soalt AKA Dr. Ruthless is an award- winning women's self defense expert, former private-practice psychotherapist and a Black Belt Hall of Fame recipient.

Named one of TOP FIVE "Tough Girls" by Black Belt in 2012.

A Black Belt Hall of Fame Recipient and Woman of the Year - awarded for her significant contributions to women's self defense -- in 2008 Melissa also received the Industry Award for Best Women's Self Defense. A frontrunner in full-force (padded-attacker) scenario-based methods, since 1986 Melissa has shown thousands of women how to protect themselves from danger and summon their primal powers to fight back and survive. She is widely respected for her no-nonsense methods, emotional depth, and unabashed call for all women to become physically literate in self-protection. Her Fierce and Female DVD has been hailed by law enforcement, street fighters and women's groups alike. Melissa also has first-hand experience with attack. While living in Israel, then traveling across Asia on her maiden voyage into the world (mid-1970's), Melissa successfully fought off physical and sexual / rape attacks. She also endured violent groping and indignities-- and was rudely awakened to the mistreatment of women worldwide. Amidst Asia's towering and humbling antiquities, she learned she was a fighter--and birthed her reverence and respect for female disobedience. A decade later in Boulder, Colorado, after years of martial arts training, a terrifying home-alone encounter with a knife-wielding rapist led her to more down-and-dirty methods that "would become me." (She foiled that attempt.) The founder and former owner of Model Mugging of Boston, in 1986, Melissa brought Model Mugging's scenario-based, training method to the East Coast. Under her dynamic leadership, aided by her background in psychotherapy and trauma recovery, it quickly emerged as one of the most successful full-force self defense schools nationwide-with specialized training for women, teens and men. Melissa's on-site seminars have been conducted at such notable institutions as Harvard, Polaroid, Hewlett Packard, Reebok, UPS, Procter and Gamble and the Miami Herald. Based in the US, she has also taught in Germany, Switzerland, India and Nepal where she has also worked with at-risk women and girls. She is honored to have provided dedicated training and support to India's renowned group, Red Brigade Lucknow. Melissa also serves on their advisory board. MELISSA'S MEDIA CREDITS HAVE INCLUDED: THE VIEW, NBC Nightly News, INVESTIGATION DISCOVERY, NPR, Asia News International, Bangalore Headline News, Seattle's Northwest Afternoon, Deb Colitti's Life On Purpose, FM RADIO KANTIPUR out of Kathmandu Nepal, where was interviewed in-depth. and numerous other shows and newcasts. Melissa was also the self defense expert for Investigation Discovery's premier episode on "DATES FROM HELL." TO VIEW A RECENT PRESS RELEASE WITH SAMPLE TALKING POINTS CLICK HERE! Melissa has been cited or featured in national and international publications, including SELF, MARIE CLAIRE (South Africa) Woman's Day, The Wall Street Journal, HOLLYWOOD.COM, CosmoGirl, BLACK BELT, BUST, Germany's Stern Magazine, The HINDU, Newsweek Japan and The Prague Post. Her "DHARMA of DEFENSE" was featured on Feminist Pionner GLORIA FELDT'S site with rave reviews. www.thecarolinastoday.com

On a topic dear to her heart-- female journalists and the need for sexual assault preparedness training-- Melissa has shared her expertise with The Committee to Protect Journalists, has been cited in The American Journalism Review and The Ryerson Review of Journalism and was interviewed for a Q & A on POLITICS DAILY. Melissa has also published feature articles, and penned a personal safety newspaper column; she blogged for The Huffington Post and guest blogged for FORBES (Being Nice Can Kill You) and was a columnist for Self Defense For Women Magazine. Her essay, Fierce Love: The Heart of a Female Warrior, was featured in a Warrior's anthology. Melissa is back at work on her first book—a paradigm-shifting work infused with artful narrative, PRACTICAL takeaway skills, and calling for women to embrace this deepseated potential. You can find the good Doc posting like mad on her Face Book Page, where she freely dispenses lifesaving wisdom, and on her down and dirty BLOG "Find Your Fierce."

Gather The Women: A Personal & Urgent Note These are perilous times for women and girls all over the world. Violence and sexual attack against women is pandemic. That this rages unchecked in the 21st century is an outrage and tragedy-- so I'm bringing my Fierce Female messages and methods to regions of the world where the skills and spirit of self defense, along with all efforts to stem this violence, are urgently needed. To effect lasting changes in safety and status, women and girls MUST enable this power, re-seed this consciousness and harvest its competencies.

Women must no longer outsource their protection to men. Half the world's population should not live in fear of the other half. Not only is the learning of self defense vital to increasing women’s safety and to reducing the ills and indignities imposed by FEAR, but embodying the female warrior spirit is vital to restoring balance to the world--and ultimately to creating far more equitable societies.

Michael Haynack is Dr. Ruthless' fabulous co-trainer for hands-on and full-force seminars. A lifelong student of martial and combative arts, he holds black belts in Aikido and Karate and is an avid practitioner of Philippine blade, stick and empty-hand systems. He is also a certified Police Combat Shooting instructor and a certified instructor in Paul Vunak's "Progressive Fighting Systems." A personal protection specialist (e.g., bodyguard), former bouncer and police trainer, Michael has intervened in innumerable "battles," and has defended himself and others against single, multiple and armed attackers—individuals much larger than himself. At a whopping five feet, five inches tall, Michael brings a wealth of real world experience to his teaching. Michael has been donning the 'Bulletman" armor since 1991 and is co-founder and former chief instructor of the Rocky Mountain Combat Applications Training. He has trained Special Forces in the applications of adrenaline-state training methods and has appeared in sundry self defense and knife fighting videos. An accomplished scout, tracker and aficionado of wilderness survival, he is wellversed in the scholarly study and practice of warrior arts, and is a passionate champion of women's self defense.

What Other are saying about Dr. Ruthless “Every once in a while, someone comes along and not only leaves an indelible impression on you, but changes the way you perceive yourself and your place in the world. Melissa Soalt is one such person... Dr. Ruthless has a lot to offer the world." -- Black Belt Magazine's Woman of the Year "Dr. Ruthless KICKS ASS!" -- BUST Magazine “Melissa Soalt is probably the most powerful female self defence instructor in the world today.” -- Geoff Thompson, legendary UK Self Defense Pioneer, Screenwriter & Author “We just love this woman to death! ...” -- Crook & Chase TV hosts “Melissa, you are woman of power! It was just 3 hours of self defence training you gave to us, but the impact is for a lifetime.... the best self defence trainer anyone could ask for. I walked out the door a different person and stronger woman than I came in. You will see the difference!” -- Seema Ks, Head Coordinator, TSLD, New Delhi, India

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Dr.Ruthless: Prevention Focus! Act Fast! Let me state the obvious: You're the only one who is with you all the time so you're in the best position to safeguard yourself. To reduce your risks, become a tough target, and escape violence keep your senses sharp and your responses quick. Trust your GUT and pay close attention to personal relationships and signs of controlling or aggressive behavior. To SELF defend... validate yourself.

Prevention: First Lines of Defense Be like a creature of the forest. Keenly observant. Senses amplified. Attuned to your environs. Here's why: two seconds of early detection could be enough time to avoid a "hit" and live to tell the story. Not bad! To reduce the element of surprise, ditch tunnel vision and develop peripheral vision. Soften your gaze and use your eyes like a wide angle lens. This can help eliminate blind spots--common angles of attack--and allows you to become an early motion detector. Walk like you own the turf. Put your weight down. Let your upper body and torso ride naturally atop the powerful carriage of your hips and legs. (No tipping forward or schlepping!) Stay aligned, on balance. Give peace a chance! If faced with a fuming, but not yet violent individual, use verbal skills to de-escalate, defuse, lower his aggressive arousal. (Use non-inflammatory, empathy-based language." I can see how upset you are.... I hear you.") Give an "honorable exit" but don't get soft. Talk and empathy are NOT always saving graces. Maintain distance while calmly moving yourself off his line of attack. Act fast! The first few seconds of an assault or first sign of imminent danger is your best time to break away. The longer a person has control over you, the more difficult it becomes to facilitate escape. Do not allow a criminal to move you to a second location (not even from the street to the backside of a building). Second locations are always more dangerous. At a second more isolated location, criminals will have more control over you. Go ballistic but do not "go with!" RULE! Don't allow yourself to be tied up. If you see rope, duct tape or cordage coming at you, it's time to "go off!" Fight like a bitch! Attack the face, eyes. Morph your legs into battering rams. Go primal to escape! Set boundaries (using verbal, spatial, distance controlling skills) to ward off space invaders, intrusion and would-be predators. If a person encroaches or makes you uncomfortable promptly establish borders to create space and OWN your space. Use strong (but not hostile) body postureâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;take a sturdy stance with hands up and palms out as if to say "Stop." Use firm unambiguous (not nebbishy) language: "Leave me alone. No thanks, I'm not interested. Back off." This isn't one-size-fits-all, so adjust volume/ intensity / attitude as needed. This could be a "test" (Is she an easy or hard target? Can I get THIS close, touch or speak to her like this...? ) so be sure your words and body-language are congruent. Add gravity: shift your center down into the basement of your being. Master this! www.thecarolinastoday.com

Don't fight over money, jewelry, your Gucci bag. This is self defense not "stuff defense." In a simple street robbery, throw the dog a bone—then blast. Reserve your savagery for when your life is at stake. Use your voice as a weapon to repel, dissuade and to attract attention. Many women have successfully foiled attacks by using their voice. (Me too. What... you didn't hear me?) Yell, like you're waking the dead! Be willing to make a commotion. Throw rocks though a window. Pull a fire alarm. (While you're there, grab the fire extinguisher. They make fabulous weapons.) If suspiciously approached, watch the hands—not the eyes. Eyeballs are never going to physically attack you. Hands and whatever they contain might. When driving, remain alert. If suspicious persons approach your vehicle and you cannot see their hands, hit the gas! As a general rule, don't stick your face where it doesn't belong. Disengage! Never feel forced into conversations not of your choosing—whether on the street or in a social setting. It's fine to nod, acknowledge people, and mozy on. Walk Away. If you see trouble coming - be it familial or from a stranger- and you can remove yourself, do it. There's no shame in that. Don't merely hope or wait for a person to change their behavior. Self defense means taking control and acting on your own behalf sooner than later. A moving target is harder to hit! If approached by a gunman and you can easily escape, RUN! Distance is your best defense! When driving, try to maintain enough room between your vehicle and the one in front to make a quick getaway. In just three seconds at 20 mph a car travels 90 feet—effectively out of range of most shooters. Trapped with an aggressive date or client with no easy way out? Take control. Lie. Manipulate. Redirect the mind of the man. Hey, Tiger, let's go out back. Have a smooch on the porch. But be prepared to go animal and deliver a good blow! In confrontations, mind your words. Don't resort to dissing. Here's the deal: If you humiliate or back a dude into a corner, he's more likely to go on the attack. Swallow some pride—even if he's a jerk. This is about saving your butt, not your face. Got it? Stun-n-run: If grabbed but not immobilized, get cracking and bust free. For example: crack the side of his head or ear with your thwacking hand or loaded purse; bust your wrist or arm free with a whipping circular 'round the world' move. Holler! Kick the nearest knee or lower leg. Caution: stun-and-runs are best used when help is nearby. Not if you're isolated or fighting off a determined attacker. NEVER RELY ON JUST ONE MOVE! Use barrier methods to create distance from troublemakers. Get your tush onto the other side of big items: cars, buildings, desks, walls. Raise hell and draw attention. Point and shout: You....call the cops! Honor gut feelings; stay in touch with your fear! Whether you hear fear's signal as a quiet voice in your head or as alarming sensations... obey! Real fear is an agent of survival. Its prime directive is to keep you alive. Honoring fear and intuitive hunches— whether with strangers or intimates—could save your life.

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