From the Nest - Spring 2014 by From Our Nest

CONNECTING PARENTS ACROSS THE OZARKS SPRING 2014

Vol.2 / Issue 1

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The hatching Project PREPARING FOR PARENTHOOD

Thrifty Tips

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Contents

From A D V E RT I S I N G

Advertising Director Trysta Herzog trysta@fromthenestmag.com EDITORIAL

Editorial Director Kandice McKee kandice@fromthenestmag.com C R E AT I V E

Art Director Stephanie Lindberg stephanie@fromthenestmag.com From The Nest Publications P.O. Box 9641 Springﬁeld, Missouri 65801 www.FromTheNestMag.com

OUR MISSION: As journalists and designers juggling motherhood, we hope to be an invaluable resource for fellow parents in Southwest Missouri through offering tips and information on child rearing, finance management, health and fitness, and socializing opportunities available in our area. We aspire to bring a unique perspective to parents from Springfield to Branson by publishing inspiring columns by local parents, promoting community family events, and a host of other educational and entertaining articles in our quarterly, FREE magazine. SUBMISSIONS: All unsolicited manuscripts must be accompanied by a self-addressed, stamped envelope. Written changes may be sent to the advertising, editorial and creative oﬃce at P.O. Box 9641, Springfield, Missouri 65801. From the Nest is an independently published quarterly by From the Nest Publications, LLC, and is distributed free of charge. It is no way aﬃliated with The Nest website produced by The Knot. To receive complimentary copies of From The Nest to redistribute at your place of business, please contact us at (417) 771-9859. No part of this work may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without the express written consent of From The Nest Publications.

Glowing & Growing 18 The Dish on Cravings Satisfying snacks

19 Pinspiration New spin on diaper cake ideas

20 Flying the Nest Bakeries, baby shower venues

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Momtrepreneur

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Columns

Sweep Repeats in Nixa, Amy Miller

05 Breastfeeding support

Thrifty Tips

14 Forever Family

Avoiding Predators

Grow your groceries

Knowledge is key to prevention

The Hatching Project

Sweepstakes

Preparing to breastfeed

Respecting a past, building a future

23 Fitness Fix Tips to a healthy pregnancy workout

26 ms. mahan’s Art Time Van Gogh-inspired sunflowers

Preparing for parenthood

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In Every Issue 04 Featured Photographer

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04 From Us Must-have baby registry item

24 Non-profit The Doula Foundation

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feat u r e D Photog r aP he r

f rom u s As first time parents, we had virtually no idea what we were doing the first time around when making our own baby registries. Here are a few items we needed on that list:

TRYSTA HERZOG ADVerTISING DIreCTor

A Video Monitor After using a simple baby monitor this last year, I now wish we had put a video monitor on our registry instead.

KANDICE MCKEE eDITorIAL DIreCTor

Photo Credit: Jenny Minard

A Baby Carrier

See how Jenny Minard captured Amy Miller in action with her children and business, Sweet Repeats.

Photographer Jenny minard www.JennyMinard.com Contact@JennyMinard.com www.Facebook.com/JennyMinardPhotography Jenny is a 2008 graduate of the Hallmark Institute of Photography in Turners Falls, Massachusetts and also holds a bachelors degree in K–12 music education. She specializes in newborn and children’s portraiture but loves all types of photography. Not only does Jenny love to capture memories, but she also loves to preserve them in her scrapbooks. In her free time, she loves to knit, sew, play cards, and make yummy snacks for her husband and two little boys to enjoy. Jenny says, “If photos could only speak one word, I hope mine say ‘joy’!”

After being coerced by my high-needs firstborn into doing everything with one hand, I knew I couldn’t live without a good carrier with my second. We really enjoyed our Moby as a newborn and a ring sling as she got bigger and preferred to be on my hip.

STEPHANIE LINDBERG ArT DIreCTor

A Baby Swing I don’t know if I could have survived with out the baby swing I received at my shower. When I couldn’t get my son to go to sleep I knew I could count on it. Although I had to be very careful to not abuse the item and have it become a full-time babysitter.

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By Patty Fielding, RN, BSN. IBCLC Cheryl Blevins, RN, BS, IBCLC

C O L U M N | BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT

Preparing to

BreaSTfeed Ever feel like pregnancy is one long, never-ending “to-do” list? Maybe you’re working down the list and feeling pretty good until you come to breastfeeding. What do you need? What do you do to prepare? What should you buy? Where can you find help?

irst, remember that all you really need for successful breastfeeding are your breasts and your baby—really! Everything else on the market is nice, and maybe helpful, but definitely not required! Feel better? Now, let’s talk about preparation. The best preparation for breastfeeding is to become knowledgeable about the process. Just as it helps to understand what’s happening to your body in labor so you can work with rather than against your body, it also helps to know how breastfeeding works. Our community offers many resources for breastfeeding information and support. Formal classes provide information on the basics of milk production, how to latch baby, what to expect in the first few days, how to manage engorgement and how to prevent complications like plugged ducts or mastitis. Many excellent books and websites cover these same topics. Breastfeeding groups offer interaction with other breastfeeding mothers; you can see many different breastfeeding styles and get multiple perspectives to answer your questions. Find a list of meetings on From The Nest’s website. So, now you’re feeling more confident about breastfeeding, but is there anything you need to do in advance to prepare your breasts? Your body really has that under control. Your breasts have increased in size and weight since the early weeks of pregnancy and by the time you reach the week 16 of pregnancy, your breasts are already making milk. www.fromthenestmag.com

Your nipples are growing in size and are probably more erect; this helps the nipple stretch easily to the back of baby’s mouth during feeding. Your mother or grandmother may tell you to “toughen up” you nipples by rubbing them with a dry washcloth or a small toothbrush. Ouch! We now know this is unnecessary — what a relief! The best strategy to prevent sore nipples is to latch your baby correctly. Latch is the ideal placement of mother’s nipple in baby’s mouth. The number one cause for sore nipples in the first few weeks is poor latch, not lack of nipple toughening! The other big question about nipples is: “Are mine ok for breastfeeding?” Despite the wide variation in nipple appearance, only about one-third of first time mothers experience difficulty with nipple protractility. The best strategy is to contact a lactation professional (IBCLC) if you’re concerned about your nipples. She can help you with latching-on techniques to minimize any challenges. So, now we’re down to “what to buy?” Most mothers find bras designed for breastfeeding make the process a bit easier, especially when feeding baby outside the

home. It’s best to wait to buy your nursing bra until at least week 36 of pregnancy, and plan to try on different styles and sizes to find the one that fits best. Some mothers experience leaking of milk even during pregnancy and prefer to wear breast pads, whether disposable or washable, inside their bras. Mothers planning to return to work or school may want a breastpump for milk expression. Several styles are available in a wide price range; consultation with a lactation professional can help you choose wisely. Mothers working or attending school full-time may benefit from a double-electric pump. For the mother who needs to express milk only infrequently, manual expression (hands-only) or a simple hand-pump may be adequate. One last suggestion: Go to the hospital knowing what you can do to make breastfeeding easy for you and your baby. Talk to your nurse about skin-to-skin time with your baby (you’ll need lots of it!) and keep your baby with you all the time. Nurse often, ask for help, and know where to get help after you leave. Breastfeeding can be easy when you prepare and have plenty of support!

greater oZarks regional breastfeeDing Coalition Founded in January 2013, the Greater Ozarks Regional Breastfeeding Coalition is a collaborative group of lactation professionals, health workers, and interested community members dedicated to promoting, supporting, and protecting breastfeeding in our community. Representatives from Cox Health, Mercy- Springfield, Jordan Valley Community Health Center and the Springfield-Greene County Health Department work together to improve the health of our community by protecting, promoting and supporting breastfeeding as the normal method of infant nutrition. This is undertaken solely as a public health initiative to achieve optimal health, enhance child development and foster effective parenting. The Coalition plans to accomplish this purpose through education, outreach and advocacy. From The NesT | Spring 2014 | 5

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momtrePreneur

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By Trysta Herzog

Nixa

Sweet Repeats mom makes family priority MOMTREPRENEUR: Amy Miller BUSINESS NAME: Sweet Repeats B U S I N E S S E S TA B L I S H E D : I n 2 0 1 2 C H I L D R E N : J a d e n , 1 1 , A l l y, 1 0 , a n d G o o s e , 2

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Life with ﬁve kids may seem chaotic to some, but for this issue’s Momtrepreneur, Amy Miller, it is all about priorities—family being in her top spot. But life as a business owner means offering quality items at affordable prices. And who better to inform you than a mom of children with such a varied age range!

What are your kids’ names and ages?

Goose, 2 Ally, 10 Jaden, 11 I currently have two foster placements that are 1 and 2 years old.

Goose,

2 YeArs oLD

How long have you been in business? We have been in business just over a year. What can customers look forward to when coming to the store?

Great prices and clean stuff! I am very picky when I buy or at least try. What inspired you to begin Sweet Repeats?

I wanted something that would work around my kids’ schedules. What did you do before starting the business?

Before Sweet Repeats, I managed Stride Rite at the Battlefield Mall for more than five years. How do you balance responsibilities to the store with your home life?

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oLD

The big thing that I am finding out is that you just have to remember what is important. My priorities will usually keep me in check! What advice do you have for other moms starting a business?

My advice would be to make sure you love it and always put your kids first!

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COLUMN

By Cris Swaters

| THRIFTY TIPS

ARE YOU READY TO DIG IN WITH GARDENING THIS SPRING? Here are five tips to help get you started.

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Think about how much space you’ll have. This will help you decide what kind of fruits and vegetables you’ll be able to grow. Things like zucchini or squash won’t do as well if you are limited to gardening in containers.

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Think about what fruits and veggies your family eats a lot of, and then think about how much it costs to purchase them at the store. If you’re limited on how much space you have, you will want to grow the produce that is the most expensive to purchase at the store. This will save you the most money. For example, I love pesto, but basil is always a budget breaker. Last summer, I dedicated an entire pot of my very limited space to growing my own basil to enjoy one of my favorite meals very cheaply. (I was even able to grow enough that I made batches of pesto and froze them so I could enjoy the spoils of summer over the winter months.)

GROW YOUR GROCERIES As the weather starts to warm up, saving money with the family can be as close as spending one day digging in the dirt. Growing your favorite foods in your backyard, on your porch, or even on a balcony can be a family-friendly and rewarding way to save big. So gather up the kids and some trowels and start a garden together. Getting a garden started can be as easy as buying your favorite plants from the store that have already started growing to buying seeds and starting from scratch. If you have a backyard, pick a sunny spot with well-drained soil, remove the grass and start planting; you can get your soil tested locally or do it yourself to be sure you have healthy soil (not too acidic, not too alkaline, and not depleted of nutrients) before planting. If you want to give “urban gardening” a chance, plant your veggies in some pots and place them in a sunny spot on your balcony or patio. Not only can gardening save you money at the grocery store, it can provide a way to teach children about where their food comes from and get them interested in a new activity. Do you have a picky eater? Let them help you plant some of the veggies that they aren’t too sure about. Be sure to give them a job — because kids love having a stake in the success of a project— like watering, or you could even give them a separate space for their own little garden that they can be responsible for. A picky eater might be more interested in eating different foods if they are helping grow them.

CRIS SWATERS is the communications coordinator at White River Valley Electric Co-op and a lover of extreme couponing, frugal living, social media and healthy home cooking. Get more tips and healthy eating recipes from Cris at www.purrfectportions.wordpress.com.

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Particularly when gardening in containers, be sure to use plant food every so often. As there isn’t much soil in the pot, every time you water it, the soil loses nutrients. Adding plant food to the water will help your plants produce the best fruits and veggies that they can. Be sure to double-check how much food is recommended and how often it’s recommended so you don’t over-feed your plant, which could be devastating.

Be sure when you plant in the spring that you don’t plant too early (and don’t plant too late, either). If you’re starting from seeds, you’ll want to get those early- to mid-summer fruits and veggies in March so they’re ready when it’s warm enough to put them outside. If you’re going to be planting in containers, you need to wait to plant outside until there is no chance of a frost. Plants in containers will get colder faster because they don’t have the insulation of the surrounding ground to protect their roots.

It’s all about experimentation. To figure out exactly what plants work best for you and the season, you have to jump in and get started. Then change your plan the following year if one variety of plant doesn’t work out.

Gardening is a great way to entertain the family all while saving money on groceries. Once you get your garden started this spring, you’ll want to be sure to pick up the summer edition of From The Nest and look for the next thrifty tips column where you will learn how to preserve the harvests from your garden so you can enjoy them year-round! From The NesT | Spring 2014 | 9

f e at u r e

By Trysta Herzog We ’ ve all seen the made-for-TV movies and read horrific accounts in our local paper. We know that children are abused across the world daily, and we pray that our families will never have to feel the devastating effects of this malignance. However, all too often we adopt the idea that “ it can ’ t happen to me, ” assuming that because we are of a certain social status or we couldn ’ t possibly know someone so heinous, that we are safe; our children are safe. While that is true for some people, thousands of families across Missouri likely wish they had a different mentality before their worlds

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were turned upside down.

CHild SeXuAl

ABUSE Gain knowledge and dispel myths to protect your kids 10 | Spring 2014 | From The NesT

As parents, we want to protect our kids from the world’s dangers, many of which we can see and warn against. If only it were as simple as showing a picture of a villain and saying, “Stay away from this person!” Many predators, however, move easily among us, preying on anyone they deem vulnerable with silence being their greatest weapon. It is in the dark that these deeds flourish, and hopefully with a little light, we can illuminate some ways to help minimize the risks to our children. The American Psychology Association has a broad cache of tips and information for parents and caregivers that should be given great consideration by all those who have or plan to have children. Knowledge and acknowledgement is the ﬁrst step to ﬁghting this scourge. In honor of National Child Abuse Prevention Month in April, we’ve included a few topics from the APA site below that we felt were particularly pertinent for our readers from the section “Child sexual abuse: What parents should know.” We encourage you to view it in its entirety at www.apa.org/ pi/families/resources/child-sexual-abuse. aspx. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services also provides an amazing resource at www.childwelfare.gov/prevent ing/preventionmonth/index.cfm. www.fromthenestmag.com

APA Guide for Parents What steps can parents/caregivers take to prevent and minimize risk for sexual abuse?

Who becomes a

CASA volunteer?

Teach your children: Basic sexual education—a health professional can provide basic sexual education to your children if you feel uncomfortable doing so; That sexual advances from adults are wrong; To communicate openly—children should feel free to ask questions and talk about their experiences. Make it clear that they should feel free to report abuse to you or any other trusted adult. If you’re concerned about possible sexual abuse, ask questions; The difference between good secrets (those that are not kept secret for long) and bad secrets (those that must stay secret forever); The difference between “okay” and “not okay” touches; Accurate names for their private parts and how to take care of them (i.e., bathing, wiping after bathroom use) so they don’t have to rely on adults or older children for help; That adults and older children never need help with their own private parts; and That they can make decisions about their own bodies and say “no” when they do not want to be touched or do not want to touch others (even refusing to give hugs). Make sure that you know your child ’ s friends and their families. If you feel uneasy about leaving your child with someone, don ’ t do it.

What should parents/caregivers do if they suspect abuse? Give the child a safe environment in which to talk to you or another trusted adult. Encourage the child to talk about the abuse, but be careful to not suggest events that may not have occurred. Guard against displaying emotions that would influence the child’s telling of the information. Listen, stay calm, and remain supportive of the child with words and gestures. Reassure the child that he or she did nothing wrong. Seek assistance for the child from a psychologist or other licensed mental health provider. Arrange for a medical examination for the child. Select a medical provider who has experience in examining children and identifying sexual and physical trauma. It may be necessary to explain to the child the difference between a medical examination and the abuse incident. Many states require that individuals who know or suspect that a child has been sexually abused must report the abuse to local law enforcement or child protection officials. In all 50 states, medical personnel, mental health professionals, teachers and law enforcement personnel are required by law to report suspected abuse. Ask for help! There are a number of organizations focused on providing assistance to families dealing with child abuse. Source: www.apa.org/pi/families/resources/child-sexual-abuse.aspx

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Source: www.casaswmo.org A Court Appointed Special Advocate is a specially trained citizen appointed by the Juvenile Court judge to represent a child victim in cases of abuse and neglect. If you have 10 – 12 hours per month to devote to changing the lives of others and are willing to undergo the necessary training, you are needed. In Greene County alone, there are approximately 900 children active in the Juvenile Court because of abuse and/or neglect. Here are a few other qualifications of a CASA volunteer: No special skills are required —only the desire and commitment to make a difference. Advocates must be at least 21 years old and are asked for a minimum commitment of two years to ensure stability and consistency for the children CASA serves. Volunteers range in age from 23 to 80 years old. More than 60 percent of our Advocates are working professionals. The primary requirements for being a CASA volunteer are that you have a genuine interest in the well being of children, are a proactive communicator and successfully complete our thorough screening and training course. CASA volunteers are objective, responsible, committed and persistent, and understand the important role they have in a child’s life. Both men and women are needed as volunteers and volunteers with culturally-diverse backgrounds are welcome.

For more information on becoming a volunteer or making a donation, go to the CASA of Southwest Missouri site at www.casaswmo.org.

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MYTHS ABouT Child Sexual Abuse Source: www.childadvocacycenter.org

Child sexual abuse occurs only among strangers. if children stay away from strangers, they will not be sexually abused. Fact: National statistics indicate that in approximately 88 percent of the cases, the offender is known to the victim. He/ she is usually a relative, family member, family friend, baby-sitter or older friend of the child.

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Myth #1

Myth #2

Myth #5

Myth #9

Children provoke sexual abuse by their seductive behavior.

if the children did not want it, they could say, “Stop!”

family sexual abuse only happens in low-income families.

Fact: Seductive behavior is not the cause. Responsibility for the act lies with the offender. Sexual abuse sexually exploits a child not developmentally capable of understanding or resisting and/or who may be psychologically or socially dependent on the offender.

Fact: Children generally do not question the behavior of adults, having been taught to obey them. They are coerced by bribes, threats and use of a position of authority.

Fact: Family sexual abuse crosses all classes of society. There is no race, social or economic class that is immune to family sexual abuse. Incest is estimated to occur in 14 percent of all families. Up to 25 percent of American children are incest victims.

Myth #3

Fact: Studies on child sexual abuse indicate one in three females under the age of 18 and one in four males under the age of 18 are child sexual abuse victims.

The majority of child sexual abuse victims tell someone about the abuse. Fact: According to a study by Dr. David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center and well-known researcher of abuses against children, close to 66 percent of all child victims may not tell their parents or anyone else because they fear being blamed, punished or not believed.

Myth#4 Men and women sexually abuse children equally. Fact: Men are offenders 94 percent of the time in cases of child sexual abuse. Men sexually abuse both male and female children. Seventy-ﬁve percent of male offenders are married or have consenting sexual relationships. Only about 4 percent of same-sex abuse involves homosexual perpetrators; 96 percent of the perpetrators are heterosexual. 12 | Spring 2014 | From The NesT

Myth #6 All sexual abuse victims are girls.

Myth #7 family sexual abuse is an isolated, one-time incident. Fact: Studies indicate that most child sexual abuse continues for at least two years before it is reported. And in most cases, it doesn’t stop until it’s reported.

Myth #8 in family sexual abuse, the “non-offending” parent always knows. Fact: While some “non-offending” parents know and even support the offender’s actions, many, because of their lack of awareness, may suspect something is wrong, but are unclear as to what it is or what to do.

Myth #10 non-violent sexual behavior between a child and adult is not damaging to the child. Fact: Nearly all victims will experience confusion, shame, guilt, anger and a poor self-image. Child sexual abuse can result in long-term relationship problems and be perpetuated from generation to generation. Dr. Nicholas Groth, who has worked extensively with sexual offenders, reports that 60 percent of convicted sexual offenders have reported histories of child sexual abuse victimization.

For more inFormation on topicS involving child abuSe, viSit SpringField’S child advocac Y center’S Site at www.childadvocac Ycenter.org.

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C O L U M N | F O R E V E R F A M I LY

By Bobi Spilker

“A child born to another woman calls me mommy, the magnitude of that tragedy and the depth of that privilege are not lost on me.”

photo provided by: bobi Spilker

~ Jody Landers I undertook a daunting and humbling selfexploration as I peeled back and delved into my very heart and soul. Then I waited to see who my child was. The importance of one’s name has more meaning for me now; it shifted in my mind once I saw each of their faces, learned their given names, and read their histories. I no longer thought of it as I once did as a little girl dreaming of my kids’ names. For me, it was paramount that my children not lose more than they already had. Respecting a past, building a future anyI added to their names: a respect for their pasts and as their first gift from me. My intention was a blending together the love from their first beginnings and love from the beginning of our life as a forever family. I wonder how my daughters will feel about I am ever respectful that my joy of being my kid’s mommy is from it once they are grown. Each family has to the tragic loss of their first mother. The complexity and depth of decide how to handle this personal, and this has shaped the person I am becoming, as it will for my chil- for many, quite private family matter. I love how my family was formed— I dren throughout their lives. It pains me that I can’t heal this loss wouldn’t change one thing, not even the missing parts. There are aspects of how for the ones I love the most. my family came to be that are both similar to and not at all like biological families. I Th is brings a surge of emotions: longing, There are aspects of adoption that pull believe becoming a parent and a family is missing, and basic primal instinct of deat the cords of my heart and give flight to profound and joyous, both if one experian aching from within. I love my children sire, up from the core of my being. I wish I ences a physical or a paper pregnancy. so much that it actually hurts to have could have shared everything with my premissed any part of their existence and cious babes. Not to just have experienced Always with hope, Bobi to not have been able to share with them it, but to have experienced it with them. those missing parts. With adoption there are decisions to I didn’t conceive my girlies, nor did I be made that are not usually within ones BOBI is blessed with three precious experience the physical feelings and bond- realm. Part of each of my children’s adopdaughters, ages 3 years to 6 years old, ing with them in my womb. I was unable tions entailed an in-depth examination of and is currently a stay-at-home mom. to put my energies and desires into eat- if I was going to have a daughter, a son, or Among other things, she is a malaria ing healthy and tending to prenatal care let someone else decide that; what race prevention, social justice and antiracism activist who is on the Board of for their benefit. I never felt them move and ethnicity my kids would be; about Directors of Adoptive Families of SW special needs or not, and if so, to what exor kick within me. I can’t share with them Missouri. Enjoyments include blogging, how their delivery into this world felt or tent. These were profound decisions that I creating community service educational how I birthed them myself. felt the full weight of on a conscious level.

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programs, and fundraising to purchase, ship and distribute mosquito bed nets to fight malaria and save lives in Ethiopia, where two of her daughters were born. Her favorite things to do are to travel, learn and grow as a person.

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The Hatching Project Preparing for parenthood

The Dish on Cravings Satisfying snacks

Pinspiration New spin on diaper cake ideas

Flying the Nest Planning for your baby cakes

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Glowing & Growing

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Just like April showers bring May flowers, cold winter hours often bring spring baby showers! whether you’re expecting your first or introducing new siblings to the mix, find helpful tips and resources in our spring pregnancy section.

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Pare n th o o D 411

Love and

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By Kandice McKee

STRESS P RE PARING F O R PARE NTH O O D

BABIES COME PREPACKAGED WITH LOVE AND JOY — AND FEAR AND STRESS.

From the first time your baby looks in your eyes to his/her first giggles and beyond, the love for your baby is life changing. And so is the stress of little sleep, less money for yourself, less time for yourself, less spontaneity and more responsibility. All coupled with the fear of doing something wrong for your precious, alldependent and all-trusting baby. Whether it’s your ﬁrst, second or sixth, each pregnancy and baby is different. As such, the way you develop as a parent changes with each child. While babies don’t come with manuals (though wouldn’t it be great if they did!), The Hatching Project, hosted by The Forest Institute’s Robert J. Murney Clinic, offers new or experienced parents tools and skills to manage the stresses of parenthood and how it changes you and your relationship. “Pregnancy is a time of preparation for some big changes in a couple’s life — and even more so for an individual,” says Vice President of Innovation and Community Health at The Forest Institute’s Robert J. Murney Clinic Dr. Jennifer Baker, a psychologist and a licensed family and marriage therapist. “Planning ahead, learning skills and accessing meaningful support can make a tremendous difference in the transition to parenthood.” The workshops, currently held at the Springﬁeld-Greene County WIC office located at 440 E. Tampa St., are open to couples as well as single parents 18 years or older that are currently pregnant and those with a baby six months or younger. 16 | Spring 2014 | From The NesT

“Couples who participate in programs such as The Hatching Project report much higher relationship satisfaction (which is very good for children) up to three years after the workshop is completed,” Dr. Baker says. For single parents who may be skeptical or nervous to attend the workshop alone, Dr. Baker offers this advice: “Having a baby alone is a big adjustment, but it may be in the best interest of your child if the father is unsafe or unwilling to commit. In this workshop you’ll meet others like yourself, learn skills to make your life and your child’s life better, and form relationships with others that can help support you through the important days ahead.” Currently, The Hatching Project is an eight-week series of two-hour classes (two-and-a-half hours if you come for dinner beforehand), though new options may be available soon, Dr. Baker says. If you have to miss a class one week, she says there is no penalty and you can even make that class up in the next session. “When we’re feeling happier, more connected and supported by others, we tend to be better parents,” Dr. Baker says. The cost of the workshops, $25 for a couple and $15 for an individual (unless the referral comes through WIC, which then lowers the cost to $15 and $10 respectively), help cover the costs of the dinners that will be provided at the beginning of each session. In addition, items like diapers, clothes, feeding accessories and more can be “bought” with Baby Bucks that are earned for attending each session. Attendees can earn more than $100 worth of baby items (if each session is attended) to “buy” such items. If you’re interested in developing a stronger relationship or parenting skills but don’t meet the criteria for The Hatching Project, visit the Murney Clinic’s Operation Us website for other workshop and classes available. www.fromthenestmag.com

PARENTS SHOULD EXPECT TO REAP THE FOLLOWING BENEFITS FROM ATTENDING THE WORKSHOP SESSIONS: Identify the characteristics of physical, emotional, commitment safety in intimate and family relationships. Understand the effects of adult relationship dynamics on the health, growth and development of children. Recognize the four patterns of negative communication contributing to family violence and methods of avoiding them in couple relationships during the transition to parenthood. Learn and practice increased communication and problem solving skills that help individuals and couples safely and constructively handle conflicts common to new parents. Distinguish between criticism and sharing concerns in a constructive manner. Understand the complexities of stepfamilies, children from prior partners, and co-parenting situations. Explain the significance of filters and expectations in relationships as they relate to becoming parents.

MARK YOUR CALENDAR The next workshop starts March 20 at 5:30 p.m. For more information or to register for the class, visit http://murneyclinic.org/operationus.html Phone: 417.823.3469 Email: info@operationus.org

Explain the significance of â&#x20AC;&#x153;Sliding versus Decidingâ&#x20AC;? in intimate relationships. Describe the importance of keeping fun, friendship, and intimacy alive in the couple relationship after the baby arrives. Explain the significance of father involvement to child well-being.

Couples (married or unmarried) in a stressed relationship will be equipped with foundational skills for building a good relationship, as well as information about resources for additional help.

Individuals concerned about potentially dangerous or harmful relationships will be equipped with the information required to access the resources they need to provide a safe and stable home for themselves and their child, and to make safe relationship choices.

All participants will have exposure, opportunity and encouragement to additional resources to help them provide the safest, most stable, environment possible for their child.

Source: Dr. Jennifer Baker, PsyD, LMFT, The Forest Institute, Robert J. Murney Clinic www.fromthenestmag.com

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Couples (married or unmarried) will learn the skills necessary to make a successful transition to parenthood and avoid patterns of interactions that will likely result in harm to them or their child. Unmarried couples will have knowledge and skills necessary for them to form and maintain a stable marriage, if that is their choice.

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THE DISH ON CRAVINGS

By Kandice McKee

Satisfying Snacks Food cravings and extreme emotions are unpredictable beasts that accompany pregnancy. We don’t have the recipe to curb those hormones, but we’ve got some ideas to get satisfy your sweet/sour/ savory tooth while keeping that pregnancy weight gain manageable and you and your belly tenant happy and healthy.

ACV Tonic INGREDIENTS: 2 tbsp apple cider vinegar – unfiltered 1 tbsp local honey 12 oz water (warm or cold) Juice from ½ an orange (optional)

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Cheesecake filled strawberries INGREDIENTS: 1 qt Fresh strawberries 8 oz cream cheese ½ cup powdered sugar 1 tsp vanilla chocolate chips, graham crackers (optional)

DIRECTIONS: • Wash off strawberries. • Cut the tops of the strawberries off , and hollow the strawberry out. • Cut tips of strawberries off so they can stand up on their own. • Beat cream cheese, powdered sugar and vanilla together until creamy. • Put cheesecake mixture into a pipette bag (or a plastic sandwich bag turned into a pipette bag); ﬁ ll strawberries with the mix. • (optional) Melt chocolate chips to drizzle over the top of the ﬁ lling, or crush graham crackers to decorate the top.

SavorY Sweet potato hummus INGREDIENTS:

DIRECTIONS:

1 lb sweet potatoes, peeled and cut into 1-inch pieces

• Boil sweet potatoes until tender, about 12 minutes. Transfer to a food processor, though a blender will work. • Puree chickpeas, lemon juice, tahini, oil, cumin, and garlic in the food processor. (If too thick, thin out with water.) • Add a pinch of salt and a pinch of pepper. Let cool. • Eat with pita and crudités, or whatever other food item your pregnant body might crave.

1 can (19.5 ounces) chickpeas, drained and rinsed ¼ cup fresh lemon juice (from 1 lemon) ¼ cup tahini 2 tbsp olive oil 2 tsp ground cumin 1 garlic clove, chopped Coarse salt and ground pepper

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Onesie Cupcakes

By Trysta Herzog

New Spin on Baby Shower Favorite

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Diaper cakes are becoming more popular and more creative each baby shower season. The gift is a favorite among moms because it offers several must-have items—from diapers, bottles, receiving blankets and more — all nicely packaged. But not all have the time or craftiness to devote to such a gift. This craft is an easyto-do alternative to the time-strapped party-goer or thrower, based off the blog Club Chica Circle at http://club.chicacircle.com/cup cake-onesies-gift-idea/.

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Directions 1. Clasp snaps together and fold arms and sides of onesie in to make a long rectangle. 2. Fold the garment in half again long ways, making a long tube. 3. Lay sock out at one end of the onesie, perpendicular to its length, with the opening of the sock at the bottom. 4. Roll the onesie up over the middle of the sock and continue to roll until there is no more slack. 5. Bring the opening of the sock up under the rolled onesie to make a cupcake sleeve, thus holding the “cupcake” together with a toe of the sock serving as the “icing.” 6. Either leave unembellished or use a decorative cupcake sleeve for added effect. 7. Place in the cupcake gift box. (Note: Because my box was plain white, I used a ribbon to complete the craft)

Total time: 15 minutes

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Fly i n g th e n e s t

By Kandice McKee

Planning for your

Being pregnant is worth celebrating in itself, but sharing your joy with friends and family with baby showers and gender reveal parties makes the experience that much more memorable — plus, there’s no better time to innocently devour half a cake! If you’re unsure where to host such a party or get a special cake for the celebration, consider these options.

Baby Cakes Springfield

Amycakes With more than 25 flavors between its traditional, specialty and gourmet tiers of cakes and cupcakes, Amycakes’ beautifully delicious creations start at $2.08 per cupcake and $20 for a cake. Prices increase depending on size and customization. Place your order two weeks in advance for a weekend event, though less time is needed for a weekday event.

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More Information Cost: Cupcakes start at $2.08; cakes start at $20 Website: www.sweetsbyamycakes.com Address: 308 W. McDaniel St. Phone: (417) 831-6095

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Star Cakes Enjoy a variety of cake and icing flavors with as little at $7 for a cake that serves 2 to 4 people. A husband-and-wife team owns this shop that also offers “sprinkle parties” where at least five guests are shown how to fill, frost and decorate their very own cupcake. More Information Cost: Cupcakes start at $2.60; cakes start at $7 Website: www.starcakescoc.com Address: 1364 E. Republic Road Phone: (417) 576-3757

Houlihan’s If you’re planning an intimate party, both Houlihan’s locations offer a private dining room for parties up to 14 people. Custom cakes can be brought in, and a TV is available if you want to play a video or photo slideshow from your laptop during the party. Reservations at least a couple of weeks in advance are recommended. More Information Cost: Room is free of charge if party lasts less than two hours; appetizers cost $4 to $10 and entrees start at $9 Website: www.houlihans.com Address: Southside: 2110 E. Republic Road; Northside: 2431 N. Glenstone Ave. Phone: (417) 883-3434; (417) 862-7777

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Aviary Cafe Aviary Cafe and Creperie While the downtown location can accommodate for a group of up to 30 people, Aviary’s new location at the Farmers Park has a private room that can be reserved as well as outdoor patio space that can seat up to 50. Special menus can be planned for even the most frugal budget. A $25 cake fee is charged for outside cakes that are brought in, though the Southside location will have a French pastry chef on staff and may be able to create a dessert for showers and parties. More Information Cost: $25 cake fee for bringing in outside cake orders; catered menus vary Website: www.aviarycafe.com Address: Downtown location: 400 E. Walnut St., Ste. 100; Southside location: Farmers Park, 4139 S. Nature Center Way Phone: (405) 651-5909; Event coordinator Jennifer Parr

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Black Oak Grill Black Oak Grill has a private dining area that seats up to 54 people. Reservations are requested a few weeks in advance, though there is no charge to reserve the room. Outside cakes can be brought in free of charge with the restaurant offering a special table decorated to your tastes just for the cake.

Family-owned and operated, Sugar Leaf Treats offers more than 16 flavors of cake and five icing flavors. Place your order two to three weeks in advance. Cupcakes, starting at $1.50, come in three sizes: small, medium and large. A 6-inch cake, which serves up to 12 people, starts at $20.

Photo credits: Amycakes, Aviary Cafe and Creperie, Sugar Leaf, TwentyOne Cakes

More Information Cost: Small cupcakes start at $1.50; medium at $2.50; large at $3.50; cakes start at $20. Website: www.sugarleaftreats.com Address: 2800 W. 76 Country Blvd., Ste. 211 Phone: (417) 336-6618

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With a name inspired by the owner’s son whom has Down Syndrome–a genetic mutation of the 21st chromosome–a portion of all sales is donated to the Down Syndrome Group of the Ozarks. Real, fresh ingredients are valued in making the variety of cupcakes and cakes, which can be made to accommodate vegan, gluten-free, sugar-free, dye-free and other specialty diets.

Website: www.panerabread.com Locations: Springfield, Branson

More Information Cost: Cupcakes start at $2.00; cakes start at $22 Website: www.twentyonecakes.com Address: 210 E. Mt. Vernon St. Phone: (417) 300-2314

Maru Sushi & Grill Though sushi may not be on the guest-ofhonor’s personal meal plan, there are plenty of other options available at Maru Sushi & Grill. Open for lunch and dinner seven days a week, Maru Sushi & Grill near the U.S. 65 and CC exit offers a private party room.

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The following are restaurants and venues with multiple locations throughout the Ozarks. Call the location nearest to you to determine availability and requirements to host your event there.

TwentyOne Cakes

Ozark

Sugar Leaf

Stacey’s Sweets offers custom cakes, cupcakes, cookies, cake pops and more in a variety of sizes and flavors. Custom orders should be placed at least two weeks in advance. More Information Cost: Cakes start at $25; cupcakes start at $18 (custom orders cost extra) Website: http://staceys-sweets.yolasite.com Address: 101 N. Second St. Phone: (417) 581-0525

More Information Cost: Room is offered free of charge; appetizers start at $7, entrees start at $10. Website: www.blackoakgrill.com Address: 601 Branson Landing Blvd. Phone: (417) 239-0063

Sugar Leaf Treats

Stacey’s Sweets

More Information Cost: Party room base time is $100 for 2 hours Website: http://marusushiandgrill.com Address: 1745 James River Road Phone: (417) 485-6278

Bair’s All-American Sports Grill Website: www.bairsburgers.com Locations: Springfield, Republic, Nixa

Golden Corral Website: www.goldencorral.com Locations: Springfield, Branson

Parks (with pavilions and playsets) Website: www.parkboard.org; nixa.com; ozarkmissouri.com; branson.com; Locations: Springfield; Nixa; Ozark; Branson

Community Rooms Locations: Springfield: Fire Department, Library Center; Nixa: Community Center; Ozark: Fire Department, The OC

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While preparing for parenthood, we fully expect the little munchkin to be stubborn and challenging. Little do we know that they sometimes start well before the delivery date. Sometimes those little angels are being less than cooperative during your ultrasound visit — one that you have been anxiously awaiting for weeks and during which you had high hopes of getting just one picture of the sweet face you’re longing to meet! When scheduling your 3D/4D ultrasound, it’s a good idea to start planning well in advance to get the best results you can. Here are a few things Ultrasona of the Ozarks recommends you do to improve your chances and help your session be the experience you will treasure forever.

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Gender determinations start at 15 weeks, but the best time for a 3D/4D ultrasound is between 28 and 32 weeks. After 19 weeks, the baby has developed her own sleeping pattern, which you can use to your advantage. Try to schedule your appointment during the time the baby will most likely be awake so he/she won’t be snoozing, face tucked away from the light. MAKE MOMMY AS COMFORTABLE AS POSSIBLE Unlike the medical ultrasound, your bladder will not need to be full for this peek at your baby. Also wear comfortable clothing and try to be as relaxed as you can, putting you and your baby in a good mood for the session. DRINK PLENTY OF WATER IN THE WEEKS LEADING UP TO THE APPOINTMENT If you’re pregnant, you should be on a hefty regimen of water. Here is just another reason to be chugging it daily. Drinking at least eight glasses per day for one to two weeks leading up to the appointment will help clear up the amniotic fluid surrounding the baby—not to mention the tremendous health beneﬁts to you and the baby.

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GET THE BABY MOVING If you’re worried your little dear won’t cooperate, bring along a fruit naturally high in sugar—like bananas, grapes, pomegranate or ﬁgs—that might just do the trick to get him or her doing somersaults in there. You can try walking around, as well, while you’re waiting for the session to begin or while taking a break. IF ALL ELSE FAILS … If the long-awaited appointment just didn’t produce the results expected, Ultrasona will bring you back, free of charge, to try again!

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By Glynis Nelson

A DV E R TO R I A L | FITNESS FIX

Keep that Baby Bump Moving TIPS TO A HEALTHY PREGNANCY WORKOUT Exercise during pregnancy is a topic that can be confusing. It doesn’t have to be. Here are some tips to keep you and your baby safe. Get your doctor’s permission before starting an exercise program. This is always a good thing to do, but is especially important during your pregnancy.

Even if you did not exercise before you were pregnant, it is not too late. As long as you have completed the ﬁ rst step of getting your doctor’s permission, you can begin an exercise program during pregnancy. Begin by walking or doing simple exercises. Finding a class that specializes in pre-natal ﬁ tness is also a great idea. Not only will you get a workout, but you will be surrounded by other moms-to-be.

During pregnancy, your goal is to maintain, not train. Your pregnancy is not a time to reach for higher goals — save the marathon training until after the baby.

Listen to your body. In the past, the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (ACOG) recommended women not allow their heart rate to increase over 140 bpm. The guidelines have changed. The new recommendations reinforce women listening to their bodies. The guidelines state that on a scale of 1 to 10, you

should be working at a maximum of 5 to 7. This is called the Rate of Perceived Exhaustion, and at 5 to 7 you should be able to still speak in sentences even though you are getting breathless. If you get to the point where you can only respond with one word, you are working too hard.

Remember, some days are better than others. Sometimes a workout may seem eff ortless, but other days the same workout will feel tough. Listen to your body and do what feels right. It is very important that you don’t stop. Research shows that women who exercise throughout the ﬁ rst part of their pregnancy but stop at 36 weeks, end up gaining more weight than those who did not exercise at all during pregnancy. Even though that last month can be very uncomfortable, keep moving. Walking, swimming, elliptical are all great choices.

Did you know that some of the beneﬁ ts of exercising during pregnancy include lower chance of gestational diabetes, less discomfort, easier labor, faster post-natal weight loss, and less chance of depression?

WARNING SIGNS Make sure you are aware of the warning signs that you should stop exercising (according to ACOG). Stop exercising and call your doctor if you experience:  Vaginal bleeding

 Muscle weakness

 Dizziness or feeling faint

 Calf pain or swelling

 Increased shortness of breath

 Uterine contractions

 Chest pain

 Decreased fetal movement

 Headache

 Fluid leaking from vagina

The bottom line is, if you are pregnant, keep exercising. Make sure you check with your doctor first, listen to your body, and your baby will thank you for it! GLYNIS NELSON is the owner of Go Momma Fitness Springfield, which provides fitness

classes for moms, such as Momilates, Stroller Moves, and HIIT It. She holds prenatal and postnatal exercise certifications and is certified in group fitness by American Council on Exercise. Glynis resides in Springfield with her husband and four children. www.fromthenestmag.com

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By Kandice McKee

the emotional support of a doula during pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum can be invaluable. the Doula Foundation began in 2001 as a resource for pregnant women of all ages and their families. As a result, the Foundation oﬀers a variety of classes for expecting and new parents while also partnering with other community organizations. what services do you provide?

Mi ssi On stAteMent To be a source of emotional care, advocacy and comfort for all mothers and their families during pregnancy, childbirth and early parenthood by providing services that ease the physical and emotional challenges of childbirth, encouraging the bond between parent and child, and providing a sense of empowerment to new and soon-to-be parents.

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JUlie anderSOn: The Doula Foundation provides doula services. A doula provides emotional support and advocacy before, during and after childbirth. Our certiﬁed doulas are on call 24-hours for four weeks surrounding the birth. They offer suggestions or coaching on comfort measures, provide emotional support, advocate for the mother’s wishes, help the mother obtain adequate prenatal care, promote bonding and provide postpartum support. The doula doesn’t provide any clinical or medical services. The doula meets with the client a minimum of two face-to-face visits during pregnancy, as well as makes herself available for additional questions or concerns the client has. She is present at the birth and provides postpartum follow-up visits and support, as well. We can also provide extended postpartum doula services, to those clients who are in need. A doula will work with the family for up to 12 weeks after the baby is born, providing 10 hours of extended services. The Doula will help with breastfeeding, bonding, postpartum depression, education and any other resources/ supports that the family needs. The Doula Foundation has a full-time, community-based doula who works with pregnant youth up to the age of 21. The doula makes contact with the client weekly or bi-weekly and assists with resources. She works with the client up to 12 weeks after the baby is born. She also leads a group that is held monthly with the clients. Childbirth Education Classes are available monthly with the exception of holidays and provides a total of 12-hours of education over the course of a four-week series. Classes are designed to help parents and their parenting partners prepare for the arrival of their baby. Class topics and beneﬁts include: Physical and emotional care through the birth process, comfort measures, medical interventions, postpartum care, breastfeeding education, and newborn care. Classes are held Mondays, 5:30 to 8:30 p.m. Prenatal Yoga and Health Education is provided for pregnant women as early as 12 weeks and through the duration of their pregnancy. Classes are offered Wednesdays, 11:30 a.m. to 12:45 p.m. and Thursdays 5:30 to 6:45 p.m. The Doula Foundation has partnered with Parents as Teachers and other community partners to provide a weekly parent/child group, to help promote bonding between parent and child, and prepare for school readiness. This group is attended by parents and their children ages 0 to 23 months. The group meets every Tuesday from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m.

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tHe DOulA FOunDAtiOn How does someone obtain services? Ja: Clients can be referred by community agencies, medical providers or can contact The Doula Foundation directly by calling the main number or via the website at www.doulafoundation.org. An intake appointment is scheduled with the Family Care Specialist. The intake process takes approximately 45 minutes to an hour to complete. All the services are discussed in detail during the intake. The client’s needs are also assessed. The client is provided with community resources/referrals they may need. All programs are available to any member of the community. Fees are on a sliding scale based on ability to pay.

Do you accept volunteers?

Ja: We love our volunteers and have multiple areas of opportunity to serve. If interested, please contact us to inquire as to how you might be able to use your gifts and talents to help.

what kind of donations do you need/accept?

Ja: Private donations are critical to support our mission. Individuals can attend or sponsor upcoming events. Invite The Doula Foundation to come and speak to your employees, school and churches, or become an ambassador to speak to people about our mission, raise dollars, heighten awareness and help implement critical programs.

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www.DoulaFoundation.org 330 N. Jeﬀerson, Suite C, Springﬁeld, MO 65806 www.Facebook.com/Pages/The-Doula-Foundation/177921309470

leADersHiP FAITH GIEDD – Chief Executive Oﬃcer JULIE ANDERSON – Family Care Specialist SARAH BARCUS – Director of Programs JOE KISSEE – Director of Communications & Special Events BREEZY ROGERS – Community Based Doula

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C O L U M N | MS. MAHAN’S ART TIME

By Jessica Mahan

Teaching to CRITIQUE ART Critiquing art

ARTIST: Kloey Monthei AGE: 8 years old GRADE: Third PARENTS: Aaron and Kaci Moore

Responding to art and asking questions helps children develop their creative and critical thinking skills. Learning how to ask and answer questions, use descriptive words, expand on an idea and apply what they see to their own lives are important to development. Children will often start critiques of art work by saying, “I like…” or, “I don’t like…” These comments are fine, but it is also important to discuss what they see, what it could mean or how it makes them feel. For young children who have a hard time developing questions or statements, simply ask them to fill in the blanks, “The first thing I see is…,” “This…stands out to me because of the… (size, color, brightness, placement, subject, etc.).” To start an art discussion, ask questions like:

* How does this painting make you feel? Why? * Why did van Gogh decide to paint the dead flowers, too? van Gogh first painted this, people did not like it. * When Why do you think that is? who is Vincent van Gogh? Vincent van Gogh started painting when he was 27 years old. His first paintings seemed sad and were painted with dark colors. No one was interested in buying his paintings. Later, he began using brighter colors and painted in thick layers of oil paint, but people still didn’t like his odd style. His paintings were different from other paintings during that time period. When people thought of a vase of flowers, they imagined beautiful, soft and perfect flowers. Van Gogh’s sunflowers were painted in thick globs of paint; some appear dead or dying, and they looked stuffed into a vase rather than neatly arranged. Van Gogh’s sunflower painting depicts all the stages of a flower’s life. The flowers twist and curl and look almost as if they are on fire. Later, van Gogh’s art was appreciated for its naturalness. ARTIST: Timothy Morris AGE: 8 years old GRADE: Third MOM: Meredith Morris

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

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ART PROJECT

Van Gogh-inspired sunﬂowers

INSPIRED BY: Vincent van Gogh OBJECTIVE: Art Appreciation, Symmetry ADAPTED FOR: Ages 4 – 12, with extra assistance for younger children

Directions: 1. Using the yellow and orange paint, paint the INSIDE of the toilet paper rolls. While the rolls are drying, begin drawing the flower vase onto the construction paper. 2. Using a pencil, draw a vase at the bottom of your paper. Remember, vases are symmetrical, so repeat the same line on both sides of the vase. Add a handle or two if you would like. 3. Half way up on the vase, draw a line behind the vase for the table.

Photo credit: Vincent van Gogh

4. Using your medium of choice, add patterns and decorate the vase and table cloth. Your vase can be glass and see through or opaque with designs. 5. Color the background any way you choose. You may want to add a chandelier, window or wall painting to the background. 6. After the toilet paper rolls have dried, cut them in half and add slits of the same width and length. Bend the slits back to create a sunflower. Add glue to the bottom edge of each flower and glue to the top of the vase. Add stems, leaves and draw more flowers if desired.

What you need:

R o b i n’s M u r a l s a n d A r t acrylic  oil  pen & ink  charcoal  watercolor

Self taught artist who enjoys painting all types of animals and landscapes. Wall murals at clients’ homes or on unframed, large canvas, as well as traditional sizes.

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(417) 733-5025

Jessica Mahan, an art teacher for the Republic School District, is also an area artist. Her artwork can be viewed at www.jessicamahanart.com. www.fromthenestmag.com

robinsmuralsandart@yahoo.com A member of the Visual Artist Alliance of Springfield  Springfield Regional Arts Council

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