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By Kathy Polich work in a school. I don’t work one-on-one with students much, and I only know a handful of kids by name in the whole building. My job as a parent educator takes me away from the daily happenings of the school. But when I am in school, I often observe the kids in the hall, especially when they congregate around the water fountain and entrance to the restroom across from my office. Today a couple of third-grade girls were getting a drink of water. In the year of COVID, no sipping straight from the fountain, so they were standing by it chatting over a coneshaped paper cup. I missed the first part of the conversation but heard the taller girl ask, “Is she your friend?” The other girl answered back in a bit of a snarky way. “Well, it’s obvious that I’m her best friend!” I got a bit sucked into the drama, but girl number one defused it simply by stating, “Hm!” Then she tossed her cone in the trash and returned to class with a giggle. The “Obvious Best Friend” scowled and followed. Now without any details or back story, I made some assumptions. Girl one didn’t seem to get drawn in or let it bother her that the other girl taunted her with not being good enough to be her best friend. I thought that was pretty mature for third grade. In full disclosure who knows if that is what was happening. If you read my article last month, I covered some of the Rules of the Mind I learned through my Rapid Transformational Therapy
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and Hypnosis studies. Here is a recap: 1. Your mind believes anything you tell it, good or bad, right or wrong, true or untrue. So you better be telling it good things. 2. Your mind loves what is familiar and rejects what is unfamiliar. Make sure and make the things you want familiar! Watching those girls made me think of one of the cornerstones in RTT. Pretty much any problem you are having comes down to one or all of three issues. The first thing is, IT’S NOT AVAILABLE TO ME. Is there something you want but believe you can’t have? These inner conflicts could be things like wanting to be thin but thinking everyone in your family is heavy; I can’t stop drinking because I’m Irish; I can’t have a successful relationship because everyone in my family gets divorced! Once you figure out the root of the issue, you can change your thoughts and behavior about it. Here are a few more rules of the mind that reinforce that. Your mind cannot hold conflicting beliefs, thoughts, or emotions. Once the subconscious has accepted an idea, it remains until replaced. The next major cause of problems is, I AM DIFFERENT! Our greatest fear is to be different, but guess what; that makes you like everyone else! So anytime those thoughts of I can’t because I’m the tallest, shortest, fattest, skinniest creep I know everyone has them about something. The bottom line
is that you are not different; you are unique. If you were different, you would be a horse, a tree, or something else nonhuman. The third and most common issue is, I AM NOT ENOUGH! I bet you have already thought of several examples. I am not pretty enough, smart enough, or brave enough, are just a few. Just turn on your television or scroll around on social media to see many celebrities spiraling out of control. No amount of money or fame can change what you feel inside. If you believe that you are not enough, it will override anything else you achieve. I applaud that girl at the fountain that didn’t seem to care if the other girl chose her
to be her best friend. I hope she doesn’t start to wonder if she’s good enough or what makes her different to keep that friendship unavailable. I hope that’s just a story I created about that scene I witnessed. Next time, I’ll share a few more rules of the mind. Until then, if you’re interest is sparked in using hypnosis to help you along on this journey, check out my website www. championride.org or send me an email at championride. kpolich@gmail.com
