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by Glyndora Condon
onflict is increasing for all mankind in this
expecting our gauge to be superior to others. Unless
world, as evidenced by newscasts and within
we comprehend that in many cases, each of us is
our homes, our schools, and most social
limited as to our knowledge and discernment and
forums. There are many factors that play into this
each of us is trying to be fair, we will find it difficult
issue: personality, culture, government, spirituality,
to find a solution in conflict.
personal experiences, and many others. One common thread is the distorted thought of
Instead of arguing, it is best to invite the other person to disclose their thought process, placing their
the Fallacy of Fairness. What lies within is one of the
opinions as to what may be a solution on the table,
problems. Out of billions of people across the globe,
as we calmly do the same. Realizing that God has all
each individual has their own gauge as to what they think is right and wrong, which often differs vastly from any other person’s gauge due to the factors that contributed to one’s beliefs, yet we expect others to comply with and to agree to “my” gauge, and we become resentful and angry if others do not. As we contrast the Eastern world and cultures from the Western world and cultures, we find huge discrepancies, and much bias and prejudice, with the inability to comprehend how others believe and act. Even within a nuclear home with the same parenting, government, spirituality, and similar
knowledge and is the judge, we consider all options
experiences, we find ourselves in disagreement
in the light of His Word and ask Him to guide us to a
regarding certain issues.
resolution that He wants for us. With better listening
Simply, good things happen to bad people and
and communication tools, we will be able to check
to good people, and bad things happen to good
what we thought the other said with them and then
people and to bad people, without respect for creed,
speak to our own thoughts more effectively. As we
color, race, nationality, government, socio-economic
seek a solution instead of acting out of the “Fallacy of
status, beliefs, education, and the like. In addition,
Being Right,” then we will find it possible to respect
we cannot even agree as to who are the good people
others as we work together.
minds and hearts yet still disagree on many issues,
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About The Author
and who are the bad people. We seek those of like Glyndora Condon, MS, MFT, NCC, LPC; Heal and Hope Counseling Services. Mother of 4, grandmother of 8; entrepreneur of a Christian based counseling service; healhopecounseling.com.
