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contents on the cover: Dr. Lisa Whitehead-Hampton Victims In The Sanctuary Baltimore, MD
Special Feature pgs 8-11 Q&A interview with Dr. Lisa Whitehead-Hampton pg 12 Dr. Lisa Whitehead-Hampton’s Bio pg 31 In memoriam (A loving tribute to Nonni Jenkins)
Feature Articles 14 EDUCATION DIGEST
Dr. Tim Tooten
Final Exam
20 WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE Tiffany Bethea Godly Women
Dr. Monique Flemings
Holiday Gifts . . . Just For You
24 TEEN CONNECT
www.kidshealth.org
Brandie Manigault
Good or God? (John Bevere)
34 MAN TALK
Dr. Charles Barrett
A Few Words About Wise Men
Self Esteem- How Can I Improve My Low Self-Esteem
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28 BOOK SHELF
22 SINGLE LIFE
26 NUTRITION & YOU
Herline A. Knights, RD, LD
Holiday Tips to Prevent Weight Gain
Entertainment
Healthy Mind 16 TO YOUR GOOD HEALTH
Carla J. Debnam, (Founder, Renaissance Christian Counseling Center)
The Prince of Peace
Healthy Soul
32 GOSPEL INDUSTRY NEWS
Andrea Williams
In Every Issue Contributors............................................ 6
30 WORD OF ENCOURAGEMENT
Donna Williams-Ross
In Trust Ministries dwilliamsross@aol.com nistries
The Prince of Peace
From the Editor....................................... 7 Scripture Page...................................... 13
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It’s Christmas. . . a time of good cheer and holiday festivities, a time for singing carols and celebrating with family and friends. Twinkling lights, gaily wrapped presents, laughing children, jingling bells, these are the sights and sounds of Christmas. As the world celebrates the holiday may the true meaning of Christmas never be lost. The birth of Jesus is our reason for the season. The Son of God came to give us hope and peace, to show us his Father’s love and compassion for everyone. “Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel; which being interpreted is, God with us.” Matthew 1:23 Christmas is all about seeing Jesus in every tradition, every celebration, and every moment of the holiday season. The Christmas season comes at a time when you may have mixed emotions about the year coming to a close. This has been a challenging year all around the world, to say the least. But I encourage you, “Don’t Stop Believing.” Don’t focus on the year gone by, purpose in your mind to celebrate the season with your whole heart. In spite of the economy, the recession, unemployment rates, and politics . . . believe. In spite of disappointments, heartbreaks, and the loss of loved ones, still believe. Believe what you may be asking? Well even one of the largest retail giants in the country “Macy’s” uses Believe as their holiday theme. I’m not sure what they are asking you to believe; but I’m admonishing you to believe in the all wise God. Believe that God is an in spite of God. In spite of wars and rumors of wars, the threat of terrorists and all of the unrest in the world today, in spite of what it may look like or how it may feel, believe God is still in control. Believe that He sits on the throne and He is King of all kings and Lord of all. Believe that God has this whole world in His Hands. Believe God loves you unconditionally and is on your side. Believe still that God is who He says He is and there is no other beside Him.
In Luke Chapter 1, Mary the mother of Jesus was told by Gabriel that she would conceive a son the Lord Jesus. “And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women. And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God. And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS.” Mary took Gabriel at his word and believed the word of the Lord. “And Mary said, Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word. And the angel departed from her.” In spite of the odds and what Mary knew in the natural, Mary believed. Because she believed we have a living Savior. A living Savior whose birth we celebrate every year at Christmas. Purpose in your mind to make this your best Christmas ever! This Christmas look up into the Father’s face and tell Him you have received His Christmas gift . . . our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. When it’s all said and done the best Christmas ever is knowing that you already have the perfect Christmas gift, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Eternal life and endless joy are parts of the gift. Christmas began in the heart of God. It is complete only when it reaches the heart of man. This Christmas remember and celebrate the coming of our savior Jesus. This holiday season honor our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, who was born to save all mankind and was sent to give us a hope and a future. Jesus Christ came that we might have everlasting life for all those who will believe. Don’t stop believing in him! “For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.” Luke 2:11 Joy to the world, the Lord is come!
Jackie Epps
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G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton welcome to Grace & Glory. I am very excited for this opportunity to talk with you about a subject that is not easily discussed . . . and that is domestic violence. Before we get started let’s talk a little about you. Would you give us a snapshot view of Dr. Lisa Whitehead-Hampton? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: I love my family and my friends. My parents, George and Dr. Ann Whitehead are my rocks. I’m very close with my brother and sister. I’ve been married to Pastor Rodney Hampton Sr. for 16 years. I am the blessed mother of 3 sons, Dustin, Roman and Rodney Jr. I’m a professor at Coppin State University in the Department of Applied Psychology and Rehabilitation Counseling. I have a Masters in Biblical Studies and a Doctorate in Theology. I am a member of the Female Clergy Support Group of MD with the dynamic leader Dr. Karen Bethea. I serve on the Governor’s Office of Community Initiative Interfaith Domestic Violence Coalition. I am a new author. I’ll be releasing three books December 2015. G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, I understand that you are also a preacher of the gospel along with your husband. Please tell us about this ministry. Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: I’ve been preaching and teaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ about 25 years. My preaching and teaching ministry “Woman with the
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Sword” has taken me around the country to minister healing and deliverance through God’s Word. I was Baptized and filled with the Holy Spirit in 1979. I was born and raised in First Apostolic Faith Church of Jesus Christ. When I met my husband we instantly knew we would be doing ministry together. We are the visionaries and founders of Greater Dominion Movement & Ministries. My husband has a unique anointing to empower men and the community. We are so blessed to work together in our gifts and calling that edify the Body of Christ. We love the Lord! G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, how did this journey begin for you? Most people share with me that it was not their intention to preach the gospel. Was it the same for you? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: I grew up experiencing the phenomenal ministries of Bishop Carolyn Showell, Bishop Jackie McCullough and Bishop Iona Locke, just to name a few. These women were spiritual icons during a time that was difficult and challenging for women in ministry. I was like a sponge absorbing, watching, learning and observing. I was hoping and praying that somehow someway I would be a pioneer in ministry and shape and change lives that inspire other women. I know I am called. It was
Q&A my intention to preach the Gospel. I did want more. I wanted to see people converted, healed and set free. G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, tell us about the vision and mission that led to the creation of Victims in the Sanctuary. Just what is Victims in the Sanctuary? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: The vision for Victims in the Sanctuary is to provide a faith-based Intimate Partner Violence curriculum for Faith Leaders. This clergy specific tool is designed to educate and train faith leaders and give them resources and supportive services to have “Safe Pulpits & Safe Congregations”. This material does make the difference for victims of Intimate Partner Violence. Our sanctuaries should be safe as well as sacred. We can learn to be proactive instead of reactive to domestic violence crisis in our churches. There doesn’t have to be a “too late.” We have the power to save lives! Vigilance is a necessary tool. There are many pastors and faith leaders who are concerned and troubled because “Faith Place violence is becoming far too common.” Victims in the Sanctuary provides tool for crisis management, protocols and procedures.
“How to Start a Domestic Violence Ministry”. The outcome was the need to continue these conversations toward empowering faith leaders. I am more determined and committed to education and training for our leaders in Baltimore and beyond.
G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, why do you think pastors struggle with confronting domestic violence within the church body? Would you say it is because most faith leaders are not trained to address this issue within the church body, or may not know how to assist a member who is being abused? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: One of the reasons why pastors and faith leaders struggle with confronting domestic violence/intimate partner violence is because they are either the perpetrator or the victim. We have so many pastors who are abusive to their spouse. Many of us know them but are helpless to do anything about it. One of the questions that we ask ourselves is, “Why doesn’t the victim leave?” Not many ask, “Why does a perpetrator abuse?” The church has had a long history of coverups, denials and excuses for this abusive behavior. We cast nets to cover and protect leaders and G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, leave victims vulnerable, abused Pastor Rodney E. Hampton, Sr. & earlier this year you conducted a faith and ashamed. Pastors have been Dr. Lisa Whitehead-Hampton forum to bring together faith leaders to known for sending victims back combat domestic violence starting with home to “submit” to their abuser. ‘victims in the sanctuary’. Please tell us about this forum The lack of education is a significant barrier. I used to and the outcome. think the doors of the churches would be open so I could Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: Our goal this year was to present my information. Sadly, they are not. Victims bring together faith leaders to talk about Intimate Partner often sit silently because their pastor has never preached Violence. The “Let’s Talk” forum was to discuss our a sermon on domestic violence. Many victims say they roles and responsibilities to victims in the sanctuary. We aren’t sure if they can trust their leaders with this issue. talked about “Pastors and Protective Orders.” There There are some pastors who have no training but continue are many pastors who have victims, perpetrators and to conduct inappropriate couple counseling. Lack of their children in their congregation. There are many knowledge and training can further victimize victims and challenges in dealing with Family Violence. The Female put them in greater danger. Clergy Support Group of Maryland hosted the event Continued on page 10
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G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, why are you so passionate about the issue of domestic violence, particularly in the sanctuary? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: I worked at the House of Ruth Maryland in the Emergency Shelter for a while. Several pastor’s wives needed shelter services. They were beat and bruised. They weren’t just hiding from their abuser but church members who took sides. Pastor’s girlfriends came who were pregnant and afraid for their life and the life of their unborn child. There was little support from the faith community. People made it seem like they just wanted victims to disappear. God gave me the vision for Victims in the Sanctuary to meet the needs of those victims who fell between the cracks. Our victims needed our help, they needed to be believed and not judged. I wanted to make sure that a victim didn’t have to choose between faith and safety. I’ve seen too much blood; I’ve heard too many screams and cries; and just as many broken bones as broken hearts and broken spirits. My arms alone have held countless women and children. We’ve buried daughters, sisters, mothers, aunts and girlfriends. Domestic Violence can be prevented. Too many senseless deaths.
G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, when someone hears the term domestic violence, one of the first things that come to mind is physical abuse. There are other forms of domestic violence correct? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: There are several forms of abuse besides physical abuse. There is verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, stalking and cyberstalking, economic and financial abuse and spiritual abuse. Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to physical violence. All of these types of abuse are done for the purpose of gaining power and control over the victim. For a while we focused on the physical abuse because we could see it. But one of the most challenging types of abuse is psychological. We should also consider the children who witness domestic violence. It is likely that they may develop serious emotional, behavioral, developmental, or academic problems. As children, they may become violent themselves, or withdraw. Some act out at home or school; others try to be the perfect child. Children from violent homes may become depressed and have low self-esteem. As they G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, develop, children and teens who is there a way to know if abuse grow up with domestic violence is happening in a person’s life? in the household are: more likely Should anyone who suspects abuse to use violence at school or in in a person’s life approach them the community in response to about it, or report it? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton with Dr. Ann perceived threats, more likely to Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: There Whitehead (mother) & Minister Miriam attempt suicide, more likely to use are many signs that abuse is Whitehead-Brice (sister) drugs, more likely to commit crimes, happening in an individual’s life. especially sexual assault, more Noticeable bruises, scars, multiple likely to use violence to enhance their reputation and ER visits, signs of depression, isolation, an abusive self-esteem and more likely to become abusers in their partner won’t leave the victims side, and the victim own relationships later in life. We have a responsibility is nervous around people. Often the abuse escalates to break the cycle of abuse. from threats and verbal abuse to violence. If you think
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someone may be a victim, you can ask if that individual is alright. If they say no you can tell them what you see. If a victim chooses not to get help at that time you can give them a 24 hour emergency hotline number to House of Ruth Maryland 410-889-7884 or National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). Friends and family members often get frustrated trying to help victims. Talking about a safety plan is responsible. People who see the violence can call 911 without getting involved. It is never safe to get in between the violence. Many people have gotten hurt or killed trying to help victims. Safety First! If someone suspects they are in an abusive relationship, they can take a brief relationship assessment that is available online. www.abuse-against-women.com/ abuse_checklist.html. Some of the sample questions are: Do you feel afraid of your partner? Do you avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? Does your partner humiliate you or yell at you? Does your partner force you to have sexual intercourse? Does your partner control where you go or what you do? There are many reasons why victims overlook it, excuse it or deny the abuse. It could be fear, finances, or threats. There are many reasons people choose not to get involved i.e. helplessness and frustration. We have to work better as a faith community to create safer and supportive churches in our community G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, domestic violence is a conversation the church needs to be having, what can the church do to start the conversation? Is there a biblical perspective on domestic violence? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: Well one of the greatest challenges I experience in the field is engaging Faith Leaders and moving them from bystanders to allies. True story, one Pastor said he knew one of his deacons was physically abusing his wife. His dilemma was that his deacon was a tither. He just didn’t know how to handle this matter. I spoke to him openly and asked the question, “What do you value the most.” Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence is a hard issues conversation. Many faith leaders feel helpless because they lack education, courage and boldness to make a stand. Many can’t talk about it because they themselves are batterers. “Breaking the silence
means breaking the cycle.” DV/IPV was never God’s intention for marriage. He never sanctioned abuse, manipulation, intimidation, power or fear. The Bible teaches love and submission. Submission is voluntary; if it’s forced then it’s no longer voluntary. The biblical principles of a healthy relationship is love. “Love is kind, love suffers long, love does not envy, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provokes, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth, bear all thing, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NKJ). We have become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Let’s be real leaders and do what real leaders do, “speak up and lead by example.” G&G: Dr. Whitehead-Hampton, we thank you for enlightening us on this topic, is there anything else you would like to add? Dr. Whitehead-Hampton: There has been a great awakening and stirring because of “Awareness Campaigns”. Not only has my organization VITS helped hundreds of victims, survivors and perpetrators in our faith community but we also went global. I have become a United Nations Woman (UN) in the US. I recently became Committee Chairwoman to “End Violence Against Women” in the National Capital Area. I am a member of the Commission on the Status of Women at the United Nation (UN) and a member of the Convention on the Elimination of ALL Forms of Discrimination (CEDAW). These critical organizations are committed to women’s rights, empowerment, equality and advancement. My work and my voice align with the same fundamental principles. I was so honored to be a speaker during the 2015 Session of UN in March. The “going forth decree” sent me out to continue my work as a “Torchbearer.” We can’t have a “lone ranger” mentality. I believe in creative partnership. I’m so thankful for the skilled and anointed partners that helped me have a successful 2015 campaign and carry out my vision. Thank you Min. Gregory D Johnson, Dominion Graphix, Ugene Cottman, Strongtower Marketing, the dynamic DQSoultions Team and the staff of Grace and Glory.
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is a native of Baltimore Maryland. She is the daughter of George and Ann Whitehead. She began playing violin at an early age and went on to play for a brief time for the Baltimore Symphony Orchestra. She was the first African American girl to play “First Chair” in Baltimore County, MD. She was recently named one of the 2015 Women of the Distinction by Larry Young, Talk Show Host. She has served as a teacher in Baltimore City/County Schools. Dr. Whitehead has worked several years in the mental health community as a Rehabilitation Specialist and Workforce Program Developer. She worked with Jewish Women International in DC on a project that provided domestic violence survivors with life-skills and workplace training. Dr. Whitehead worked extensively in several capacities at one of the country’s most comprehensive domestic violence programs, the House of 12 12 December December 2015 2015 || Grace&Glory Grace&Glory
Ruth Maryland. She now collaborates with them as a vital partner in the faith community on clergy focus education and training. Dr. Whitehead is now the Founder/CEO of the faith-based non-profit organization “Victims in the Sanctuary.” She is the Master Trainer for the Safe Pulpits Safe Congregations Institute. She provides domestic violence awareness, education and training for faith leaders around the country. Dr. Whitehead has served in ministry over 20 years preaching and teaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ. She is an Ordained Elder and works under her ministry “Woman with the Sword.” Dr. Whitehead is a Professor at Coppin State University in the College of Behavioral Social Science. She is a member of the Steering Committee for the Maryland Governor’s Office of Community Initiatives Interfaith Domestic Violence Coalition. Dr. Whitehead was a panelist at the United Nations 2015 parallel event “Sacred and Safe” program. She is now a member of the United Nations US Women and a member of the Commission on the Status of Women at the United Nations. Dr. Whitehead is the new Committee Chairwoman, “To End Violence Against Women” for the United Nations Women US, National Capital Area. She is a member of the Female Clergy Support Group of Maryland under the leadership of Apostle Karen Bethea. Dr. Whitehead is a graduate of the North Carolina College of Theology with a Masters in Biblical Studies and a Doctorate in Theology. She serves with her husband Pastor Rodney E. Hampton Sr., at Greater Dominion Movement & Ministry. She is the mother of three handsome and strong sons, Dustin, Roman and Rodney Jr.
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Isaiah 9:6 For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.
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And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.
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And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.
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And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.
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And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.
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For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.
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And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.
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And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,
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Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.
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education digest Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13-14
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It’s really hard to believe that we’ve already reached the month of December. It’s the very last month of the year and perhaps one of the most frantic in our modern society. Shopping malls have been preparing for some time now for the onslaught of consumers looking for gifts to put under their Christmas trees. Cities and towns expect an increase in traffic as people make their way to highways and byways to reach family and friends out of state and around the corner. In the midst of the final weeks of the year, we should take a closer look at our calendars. They should remind us that we have very little time left to make good on some of our 2015 resolutions. Educationally, students on all levels are now focused on final examinations. A final examination, annual exam, or final is a test given to students at the end of a course of study or training. The final is a measurement of what they’ve learned the entire semester. Experientially, there are life lessons each of us has learned over the past year. Many of those same lessons are now showing up on our end of year final exam. It should bring to mind the question, am I prepared? Academic experts have come up with a series of methods they believe are sure ways to help students become successful on final exams. They recommend students find a suitable learning environment to study. They say this learning environment should be comfortable, but not too relaxing. It should also be free of distractions, and well lit. They conclude by saying test takers should also have enough room to spread out their texts and notes. These are tips I believe are also critical for our individual nonacademic final examinations. The foundational scripture passages associated with this month’s education column, (Philippians 3:13-14), suggest that individuals “forget what is behind and strain toward what is ahead.” It’s not exactly what one would expect in preparing for a final exam. Typically, the goal is to retain as much information as possible. It’s evident that the biblical writer had another set of truths in mind at the time of his writing. In the end, he recommends an approach he has found successful in his own life and that is to “press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” I believe it is within the context of these particular passages that we can count on what we need in order to succeed on this year’s final exam. I challenge you to spend the next few weeks, leading up to the end of December, assessing what you will need to pass your final examination. For starters, make sure you’re very familiar with the test-giver in the person of Jesus Christ. Dr. Tim Tooten, Sr. is an Emmy-Award winning television journalist with WBAL-TV (NBC) in Baltimore, Maryland. He’s also the pastor and founder of Harvest Christian Ministries in Baltimore County, Maryland 14 14 December December 2015 2015 || Grace&Glory Grace&Glory
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to your good health
We are often overwhelmed with the issues that come with being in this world and let them rob us of our peace. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, health challenges, a troubled marriage, addictions, unemployment or money problems, it can become discouraging. Even in the advent season when we celebrate the entrance of the Prince of Peace persons find it difficult to have joy. Instead of focusing on what we have we often focus on who and what we have lost. The challenge before us is not to let these difficulties keep us from experiencing peace but this is an opportunity to move beyond our pain and push toward our destiny. Our destiny cannot be overcome with the troubles because we are more than conquerors. There are several scriptures that remind us that our peace does not come from outward occurrences but from our inner assurance of God’s presence no matter what we face. Psalm 29:11 confirms this, “The Lord gives his people strength. The Lord blesses them with peace.” Peace is a blessing we have as the children of God. We must not get caught up in what’s happening to us or around us but learn to concentrate on who’s in us. The God of all comfort wants us to be at peace in the storms of life. The Holy Spirit has been given as a comforter, teacher, and will lead us to all truth. We are to, “let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. 16 16 December December 2015 2015 || Grace&Glory Grace&Glory
Carla J. Debnam, MS, LCPC Founder, Renaissance Christian Counseling Center
For as members of one body you are called to live in peace.” (Colossians 3:15) Peace is our calling and it is obtainable when we let Christ rule. We oftentimes miss out on peace because we let fear, failure, negative voices, undesirable circumstances and health concerns rule in our hearts. We are not only called to peace but we have been promised the gift of peace. “I am leaving you with a gift – peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” (John 14:27) Other verses reiterate the assurance of peace and the presence of the Savior in the midst of the trials and tribulations of this world. Again he said, “Peace be with you.” We can no longer live afraid and filled with anxiety about life’s concerns. We have been given the ability to overcome with the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony. Take time to honor the One who has come to bring us peace. “For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” (Isaiah 9:6)
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woman’s perspective
If we turn on the television and watch just one hour of programming, by the end of it as women we will have been bombarded with tons of messages. Most of them will be subtle yet powerful. They will tell us how we need to dress and behave to be beautiful, accepted, appreciated and wanted at every age. Regardless of our age there will be some message that tells us we aren’t good enough and need to alter ourselves. If we are not careful as women of God we buy into those messages and conform to the secular standard of worth. However, we must recognize as Godly women our value and worth is innately connected to our Father and His likeness in us. No matter our age, we are beautiful, accepted, appreciated and wanted because of the grace of God. Though our focus, desires, skills, abilities and goals may change over the years, regardless of our age, we shine like the crowns we are because of the Spirit of God on the inside of us. There are three phases that we will pass through and at each phase we are to be a reflection of Him. 1. PREPARING - Ecclesiastes 2:1 tells us, “Remember now your Creator in the days of your youth, before the difficult days come.” There is an absolute beauty and grace to serving God while you are still young. Most of us if we are honest can look back at decisions made in our youth and see their major impact on our adulthood. What a
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blessing it is to discover a relationship with God while you are young and allowing God to shape your youth. This passage says to serve Him “before the difficult days come.” This is hard to comprehend as a youth but as an adult it is easy to grasp. There are many of us who would love to trade places even just for a day with our younger selves and return to days where bills, relationships, children, careers, etc., were not on our minds. For all of my little sisters out there I urge you to take heed to this passage. Remembering God in your youth will preserve you for the rest of your life. It will keep you! And you can have fun in God, it will not be boring. However it will be the kind of fun that you can have and still be able to look in the mirror without shame. It pays to serve God while you are young! 2. POSITIONING - As you come of age and continue to walk with God He brings you to a place of positioning. After you have been reared and been impacted by the legacies before you comes the time when you must begin to create your own. Proverbs 31:16-17 in The Living Bible says, “She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard. She is energetic, a hard worker.” It is God’s desire that we allow Him to lead every area of our lives and reflect Him and His glory. As godly women we don’t have to focus solely on our exterior. If we fully surrender and allow God to position us in the center of His purpose, the glory that will shine in us will attract all that we need in our lives and more. We must be diligent about seeking God’s purpose for us and allow Him to establish us spiritually, mentally, emotionally, financially, and socially. This will give us the greatest sense of worth, validation, and significance. 3. POURING - Proverbs 31 describes to us the ideal woman as God describes her. Verse 25 says something very powerful. The Living Bible tells us, “…she has no fear of old age.” One of the messages most targeted to women is that youth is beautiful and older age isn’t as beautiful. We go through great lengths to appear forever young instead of embracing the beauty and season of older age. Titus 2:3-4 gives us the perfect illustration of the grace that we need from older women. There is nothing more beautiful and graceful than experience. Younger women today are especially in need of valuable lessons from the seniors among us. As women we can’t be afraid of aging for fear that we aren’t as attractive and needed. The longer we live, in essence, perhaps the more we are truly stunning from the inside out. Ladies we must reflect God’s glory and virtue at every age. We have to redefine the secular standard of beauty, value and significance and let the glory of God inside of us to cause us to truly Tiffany Bethea stand out from youth to maturing. She-EO Life Mentor www.Tiffanybethea.com
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single life
Holiday Gifts…Just for YOU! The holiday season is filled with celebration, family gatherings, and decorative holiday symbols that cause us to sing or hum our favorite holiday song. Much attention is placed upon this being the season of giving that if we are not careful, we can get swept up in the hustle and bustle of the holiday preparation. Between church and ministry obligations, school plays and office gatherings, an unmarried person can get swallowed in the routine and find themselves going through the holiday motions without enjoying the season to the fullest. And then we have all the beautiful gifts, prepared in colorful boxes with ribbons and bows and other festive ornaments to announce the arrival of our special gift. Jesus, our King was born in obscurity and yet He was a special gift that the world overlooked and rejected. He was not what the government or the church recognized as royalty, yet He was the son of man. A very special, unmarked gift. An unassuming powerful gift that has transcended generations. Being unmarried sometimes is not seen as a special gift. In some cultures, you are actually cursed if you are not married by a certain time. An unmarried Christian is often judged by the world’s standards even from those within the church which sometimes adds more pressure on these individuals to seek out relationships. Allow me to remind you of a few special gifts that actually are at your disposal as a single Christian. Let’s unwrap a few of them together … 1. The gift of ME TIME - As an unmarried person, outside of your children, you have time to develop you. The cycle of life may have required some of you to take on the role of primary care-giver for your parents in addition to your children. There is time or you may need to make sure that you give yourself time to develop, grow and expand. Time for oneself, is likely the most underestimated commodity that an unmarried person possesses. Try not to fill it up with time killers and space fillers that rob your time. At the end of your single season, you want to be found productive. In the ME TIME…you learn how to enjoy life. This is the production gift! The thief’s purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness. (John 10:10) 2. The gift of COMMUNION WITH THE FATHER – The fellowship between the Father and His unmarried child is one that does not have the obligations of being responsible to a spouse. An unmarried person can have
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uninterrupted time in worship with Father God. Hours lost in His presence, seeking His face and enjoying the breathing of the Holy Spirit as He breaths a refreshing upon you. This is a sweet gift of the aroma of your worship back to the Father! But thanks be to God, Who in Christ always leads us in triumph and through us spreads and makes evident the fragrance of the knowledge of God everywhere, For we are the sweet fragrance of Christ unto God, among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing. (2 Corinthians 2:14-15) 3. The gift of PREPARATION TIME/ HEALING TIME - There are some unmarried believers that have chosen not to get married again and they are comfortable with that stance. This season is a time about healing and moving forward in their life “solo”. They are enjoying every day and are quite comfortable without having a spouse. Then there are others that are desiring a mate, then this season is a time of great preparation. In the natural, can you cook? This applies to male and female. Are you using your time well to prepare for marriage and heal from previous relationships? Often we want to give this gift back too soon or exchange it, but open it and take the time to enjoy this special gift. This gift is needed to move into your next new season. This is the gift of refreshing! And I will pour out my Spirit and my blessings on your children. They shall thrive like watered grass, like willows on a riverbank. “I am the Lord’s,” they’ll proudly say, or, “I am a Jew,” and tattoo upon their hands the name of God or the honored name of Israel. (Isaiah 44:3-4) My prayer is that you enjoy your holiday with your family, friends, co-workers and others. Enjoy the holiday festivities and open up one or more of the gifts that were shared with you today. You have more gifts than your realize and may you enjoy unwrapping these precious gifts! Happy Holiday to you! Love – Apostle Dr. Monique Flemings
Dr. Monique Flemings
Monique Flemings Ministries, Chicago, Illinois
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teen connect
How Can I Improve My Low Self-Esteem? www.kidshealth.org Self-esteem is made up of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions we have about ourselves. That means self-esteem isn't fixed. It can change, depending on the way we think. Over time, habits of negative thinking about ourselves can lower self-esteem. Sometimes, people don't even realize that they're thinking so negatively about themselves. But once you're aware of it, and know that the way you think is up to you, you can begin to change the way you think. And changing the way you think about yourself changes the way you feel about yourself. So if you want to feel better about yourself, try some of these things: MANAGE YOUR INNER CRITIC. Notice the critical things you say to yourself. Would you talk to a best friend like that? A harsh inner voice just tears us down. If you're in the habit of thinking self-critically, retrain yourself by rewording these negative unkind thoughts into more helpful feedback. FOCUS ON WHAT GOES WELL FOR YOU. Are you so used to focusing on your problems that they're all you see? Next time you catch yourself dwelling on problems or complaints about yourself or your day, find something positive to counter it. Each day, write down three good things about yourself, and/or three things that went well that day because of your action or effort. AIM FOR EFFORT RATHER THAN PERFECTION. Some people get held back by their own pressure to be perfect. They lose out because they don't try. If you think, "I won't audition for the play because I probably won't get the lead," it's guaranteed that role will go to someone else. VIEW MISTAKES AS LEARNING OPPORTUNITIES. Accept that you will make mistakes. Everyone does. They're part of learning. Instead of thinking, "I always mess up" remind yourself that it's not about always, just this specific situation. What can you do differently next time? EDIT THOUGHTS THAT GET YOU FEELING INFERIOR. Do you often compare yourself with others and come up feeling less accomplished or less talented? Notice what you're thinking. Something like: "She's so much better than I am. I'm no good at basketball. I should just stop playing", leads to feeling inferior, not to feeling good about yourself. REMIND YOURSELF THAT EVERYONE EXCELS AT DIFFERENT THINGS. Focus on what you do well, and cheer on others for their success. Thinking more like this: "She's a great basketball player — but the truth
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is, I'm a better musician than athlete. Still, I'll keep playing because I enjoy it", helps you accept yourself and make the best of the situation. TRY NEW THINGS, AND GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT. Experiment with different activities to help you get in touch with your talents. Then take pride in your new skills. Think about the good results. For example: I signed up for track and found out I'm pretty fast! These positive thoughts become good opinions of yourself, and add up to self-esteem. RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU CAN CHANGE AND WHAT YOU CAN'T. If you realize that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change (like getting to a healthy weight), start today. If it's something you can't change (like your height), work on accepting it. Obsessing about our "flaws" can really skew your opinion of yourself and bring down your self-esteem. Most of the time, other people don't even notice these things! SET GOALS. Think about what you'd like to accomplish. Then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan, and keep track of your progress. Train your inner voice to remind you of what you are accomplishing. For example: "I've been following my plan to exercise every day for 45 minutes. I feel good that I've kept my promise to myself. I know I can keep it up." TAKE PRIDE IN YOUR OPINIONS AND IDEAS. Don't be afraid to voice them. If someone disagrees, it's not a reflection on your worth or your intelligence. That person just sees things differently from you. ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS. When self-esteem is low, it's easy to overlook the good things people say about us. We don't believe it when someone says a nice thing. Instead, we think, "...yeah, but I'm not all that great..." and we brush off the compliment. Instead, let yourself absorb a compliment, appreciate it, and take it seriously. Give sincere compliments, too. MAKE A CONTRIBUTION. Tutor a classmate who's having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walkathon for a good cause, or volunteer your time in some other way. When you can see that what you do makes a difference, it builds your positive opinion of yourself, and makes you feel good. That's self-esteem. EXERCISE! Being active and fit helps you feel good about yourself. You'll relieve stress, and be healthier, too! RELAX AND HAVE FUN. Do you ever think stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were more attractive"? Thoughts like these can set you on a path to low self-esteem because they focus on what's not perfect instead of making the best of what is. Spend time with the people you care about, do the things you love, and focus on what's good. That helps you feel good about yourself, just as you are.
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nutrition & you
Holiday Tips to Prevent Weight Gain
Great ideas are not always easy to execute, but great ideas work, as long as you put in the effort to make them work. That is why it is so important to know the reason why you are putting in the effort. Here are some ideas to get you started and some holiday tips to help prevent weight gain. GET A BUDDY Studies have shown that people who partner up to lose (or maintain) weight tend to do better than those flying solo. Kind of makes sense, right? Imagine you have had a stressful morning and really want two slices of pepperoni pizza at lunch. Your coworker who you buddied up with is there to “talk you down from the ledge”, helping you go for soup and salad instead. Or what about when your alarm goes off at 6 AM for your morning run, but you cannot imagine anything better than staying under those warm covers. Your buddy starts knocking at your door and yelling at you to get up and get moving! Having someone in your corner can motivate you to make changes you never dreamed possible, and you can return the favor and do the same for your buddy. Still not convinced? Here are a few more reasons to have a buddy: • Helpful friend: A buddy is someone you always can call during a crisis, knowing you will get good advice/ feedback. • A helping hand: A buddy can help you plan and prepare healthy meals or snacks the night before • A workout buddy: A buddy can go to the gym with you or play sports with you (basketball, tennis, etc.).
• An open ear: A buddy is there to hear about your successes and struggles. • Accountability: A buddy is someone to talk to if you start to relapse or if you need a kick in the butt to get restarted. • Motivation: A buddy can keep you on target and help you make the small, steady steps that you need to take every day to achieve your goals. • A guiding hand: A buddy can teach you tips and tricks to mix it up and stay on track. Stay active A 30-minute jog can burn about 300 calories. Doing 30 minutes of interval training can burn a ton more. While many consider nutrition as about 60–70% of the equation when it comes to weight loss (or weight gain prevention), do not disregard the 30–40% contributed by physical activity! If you are currently active, stay that way! We often are knocked out of our routines during the holidays because of travel, additional evening commitments, and the shorter days of winter (at least for those of us in the northern hemisphere). Take a look at what your current physical activity level is (number of days per week, how long, and how intense), and make it a point to continue that level of activity through the rest of the year. Or kick it up a notch if you feel confident that you could do more. You do not need to do much more, maybe just an additional 10 minutes added to your usual workouts. Consider it a pre-New Year’s resolution. If you would like to become more active prior to the holidays, get started
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1 day at a time. Even though the are just like any other day during the American College of Sports Medicine year, and you can do the same things recommends 30 minutes of moderate that kept you successful during those physical activity 5 days/week for days of the year in November and health benefits, increase your activity December too! gradually. If you exercised once this KEEP A JOURNAL week, aim for twice next week, and Finally, if you really are worried about try to maintain twice/week for a few how you will react or feel when faced weeks. Once you are sticking to twice/ with the holidays and its associated week, try adding a little more time foods, keep track! Write in a daily to those 2 days. Then add a third day journal, and at the end of the day, a few weeks later. The key is to feel rate yourself on how you ate that day comfortable with your current routine from a score of 1 (poor) to a score of before making any additional changes. 5 (awesome). In addition, write down You can add to your current routine why you gave yourself that rating. in these ways: Also write down one improvement • Longer duration: Increasing you made that day in your eating workout time from 30 to 45 minutes habits, because there is always a • Increased intensity: Working harder silver lining. If you normally eat eight during the same amount of time (see cookies when you are stressed out but interval training) stopped yourself at four today, that is • Increased frequency: Increasing progress—positive progress. exercise sessions from two to three Note one eating choice that you times/week could have improved on. It is not just By New Year’s Day, you will have already a matter of good vs bad foods. Even accomplished the amount of exercise that some people who eat great 85% of the everyone else is resolving to do! time make non-ideal choices because STAY CONSISTENT of many circumstances (travel, lack of Rather than going out of your way to planning, socializing, etc). Reviewing make inconsistent changes, why not your day’s eating habits the day they focus on the consistent things you happen allows you to see where you were doing to maintain your weight can make improvements tomorrow. (or to lose weight) for the previous Record and celebrate your successes, 9–10 months of the year? Just like with because they are real and they are what any job or responsibility, it is much keep you going. When you are having easier to maintain our current habits a lousy day a month from now and you than to start a whole new set of them. feel that you have made no progress, Take a moment to think about you can look back at your journal all of the successful things you have and read about all of your successes. done in the past 3 months to keep You also need to record areas for your weight steady. Write them down improvement, because if you think on a piece of paper. This is now your everything is perfect, odds are things action plan to maintain your weight are actually not perfect. Having an area during the holiday season. Just keep of improvement gives you a specific doing these things—no restrictions or target and action for tomorrow. It is easy to say, “I am going to eat substitutions required! If you slip up better tomorrow” and then do nothing. one day, do not worry. All you need If you intend to eat better tomorrow, to do is to reread what you are doing you need to know how you ate today that is successful and get back to it at and what you are going to do tomorrow the next meal or the next day. One to improve from today. That is why unplanned dessert or meal does not writing in a journal is useful. Writing in result in weight gain. It is the activities a journal for 3 minutes a day can make we do and the foods that we eat every a world of difference. Is preventing day, day after day, that lead to weight weight gain gain or weight loss. this holiday Another thing to consider is the season worth many temptations that you will 3 minutes a face during the holiday season— Thanksgiving, Christmas/Hanukkah/ day? Kwanzaa, New Year’s, and By Herline A. maybe a work party or two. That is about 5 days out of Knights, RD, LD 60. The other 83% of the days
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bookshelf
Book Shelf
by Brandie Manigault
literally) of scripture By John Bevere references to Dear Reader, back up what the author “Enjoy this review of John Bevere's is saying. As book Good or God? written by my friend a follower of Siobhan Saulsbury. Let us know what Christ who you think of the book too.” believes that -Brandie the Bible is the ultimate It truly seems as though the authority and terms "good" and "God" are last word on any and everything, interchangeable these days. If this is amazing! I actually got to something is generally accepted as good, it must be in line with God's go hear John Bevere speak during the tour promoting this book and will, right? Actually, there's more my notes from his talk basically to it than that. In his book, Good or God? John Bevere reveals how look like a concordance. I found the enemy uses "good" to deceive it unbelievably reassuring to see us. The very first example he used a reference to the Word for every was from Genesis 3:6, "And when idea or concept discussed. For the woman saw that the tree was example: Proverbs 14:12 says that good..." Eve wasn't fooled by anything obviously bad or evillooking; it was the goodness of the tree that led her to sin.
Good or God?
Good or God? gives us an opportunity to look at the choices we make in our lives, the people or movements we endorse and, really, every area of our lives with a new level of discernment. Just because something is good according to the standard of the world or the current culture doesn't make it right with God. One thing that really stood out to me while reading this book is that there are thousands (probably 28 December 2015 | Grace&Glory
there's a way that seems right to a man, but its end is death. In 1 Kings 3:9, Solomon prayed that he might discern between good and bad. There is a "good" that will lead people away from God. I recommend reading this book to anyone who is serious about living a holy life in these days where it is becoming increasingly difficult to tell the difference between "good" and "God." We wouldn't need discernment if it were an easy task. We wouldn't need the Word of God to correct us and show us the right way if it were easy to stay on track. Good or God? reminds us that we are all human and sometimes we want to go after the shiny, pretty things; but we must remember: not everything that glitters is gold.
About the Author
John Bevere
John Bevere is an international best-selling author with books numbering in the millions and translated into more than 50 languages. He is also a popular conference speaker. He is passionate to see individuals deepen their intimacy with God and capture an eternal perspective. John reveals penetrating truths challenging you to encounter God on new levels. He and his wife, Lisa, also a best-selling author, founded John Bevere Ministries in 1990. The ministry has grown into a multi-faceted international outreach that includes their weekly television program, The Messenger, which broadcasts in 214 nations. John has authored numerous books including The Bait of Satan, The Fear of the Lord, and Under Cover. He and Lisa live in Colorado with their four sons. Visit John's website at www.JohnBevere.org
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For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. (Isaiah 9:6) In the Book of Isaiah, the proclamation is made about our Savior. His name is Wonderful, Counselor, The Mighty God, The Everlasting Father, and The Prince of Peace. Two of the meanings of Wonderful are (1) exciting and (2) unusually good. Our God is an exciting God. Exciting in such a way that we too can get excited about the things that are happening in our lives. "I am being challenged right now.” You may say, “There is nothing in my life to get excited about.” Oh yes there is. In James 1:2-4 it says, "Count it all joy when you fall into different temptations knowing that the trying of your faith produces patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." Our thoughts are not His thoughts and our ways not His ways, so it becomes exciting to see what He is going to do in various aspects of our lives. He is working all things together for our good regardless of how it looks and that is exciting to know -- Good News. Our God is unusually and exceptionally good. In fact our God, is awesome. How many people do you know in your life that is unusually good? Your God is a good God. Psalm 25:8 says, “Good and upright is the LORD: therefore will he teach sinners in the way.” He is so good that in spite of knowing all the presumptuous things that we do He loves us anyway. Now that is a good God. Two of the meanings of Counselor are (1) a person who gives advice (2) one that gives advice in law and manages cases for clients in court. No only does God through His Precious Holy Spirit give us advice that leads us in the right direction and to make godly choices, but like an attorney He manages our cases when satan attacks us. Isn't it wonderful to know that we serve a God who has never lost a case? He is our Advocate -- Satan is the accuser of the brethren. However, God is ever present to defend us when satan accuses us. Two meanings of Everlasting are (1) lasting or enduring through all time [eternal] and (2) continuing long or indefinitely. The Everlasting Father – The Eternal One. From everlasting to everlasting He changes not. To have a Father that will never die, 30 December 2015 | Grace&Glory
never forsake us or even condemn us. What a refreshing thought and reality. Before the foundation of the world God knew you and loved you. After this world has passed away God will not stop loving you. There are people in the world that says God loves them too much to let them go to hell. But it is because He loves us so much that He gives us the free will to choose or not choose Him. In Deuteronomy 30:19 – “I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life that both thou and thy seed may live.” He is our Everlasting Father and desires to spend eternity with you and me. We all have had earthly fathers who may have disappointed us, neglected us, abused us emotionally, verbally or mentally, but we have a Father that never disappointed, neglected or abused us. Now, that’s Good News. Do not just be excited at the fact that Jesus was given to be our Lord and Savior. He was given to us to build His Kingdom prepared for us before the foundation of the world. Let His Kingdom come in your life and then let others know that we are not in a religion, but we are Kingdom builders. If you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior know that truly Jesus was born to die for your sins. If you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior today know that He is waiting for you to make Him the Lord of your life. He loves you so very much. Know that He gave His life for yours. Today I encourage you to reflect upon the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Know that beyond the shadow of a doubt Jesus is the reason for this season. Prayer: Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank You for the birth of Your Son, Jesus. I thank You for sending Him to the cross for my sins. I am eternally grateful. I thank You also Father that I am a Kingdom builder and I purpose to work in Your Kingdom until You return in victory, amen. On behalf of In Trust Ministries, we wish each and every one of you a wonderful Christmas and remember that Jesus is the reason for this season. God’s blessings to all.
Donna Jennifer Ross.
a memoriam
One of the most amazing things on this journey called life is to be in the presence of women who are given the title as G.R.E.A.T. I read somewhere that there is a distinct difference between someone good and someone great. “A good person is someone who makes you feel good about them, when they leave your presence, but a GREAT person makes you feel good about yourself when they leave your presence.” I define Nonni Jenkins as a G.R.E.A.T. person. Nonni, epitomized not only the meaning of great, but also defined each letter of the acronym G.R.E.A.T. G - Nonni was a gifted giving person. Not only was she extremely gifted spiritually, naturally, and professionally, but she was a giver. She gave unselfishly and willingly regardless of her circumstances. She gave a listening ear, and wise counsel; she gave time, and talents and love unconditionally to all that she came in contact with. R - Nonni was real. She was one of the most authentically, organically raw individuals that graced this earth. She did not sugar-coat, but honestly laid out the truth at all times. She never struggled with authentically revealing her successes, challenges, and struggles in life. Nonni’s realness forced others to keep it real while in her presence. E - Nonni did everything in a spirit of excellence. Whether work or creating a song and dance for a United Way campaign, Nonni never fell short in giving the best. Nonni’s culinary contributions to pot-lucks were always stellar and nothing compared to how “she laid it out.” Often Nonni was the person to plan baby showers, and other team celebrations which left co-workers feeling overjoyed and grateful to be a part of her circle.
A - Nonni was Angelic. There were times when the spirit of heaviness had rested on the department, and out of nowhere Nonni knew the right time to pull a fellow co-worker up, and gently encourage, minister to, and often spend time consoling. God used her mightily even during lunch hours, whether on the way to the restaurant, at the table, or even after work hours in the parking lot, Nonni always was sensitive to the Spirit of God and knew exactly what was needed during those times. Even while navigating through her own challenges she never cut corners in the capacity in which she was being used; she always fulfilled her daily God-given assignments. T - Nonni was tenacious. No matter what the obstacles were, no matter what her struggles were, no matter what the devil tried to do, she always stood firmly on the Word of God, and her tenets of the faith. She was tough, resilient, and determined to fight the good fight and truly she has finished her course and is receiving her God given rewards. Nonni Jenkins was a GREAT, uncompromising, strong, and beautiful woman of the faith. Though we come in contact with many people in life, there will never be another Nonni Jenkins. Her smile will remain embedded in the minds of those who had the pleasure of sharing life with her, her infectious laugh made it to the sweet melodious playlist that will be replayed over and over, and her fulfilled purpose will forever leave an impressionable imprint in the lives of co-workers and friends. Rest in Peace our dear sister, friend, coworker, and angel. Thanks for the wonderful memories you left for us to share.
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Lovingly submitted, Donna Wilson
My Beloved, As I’ve told you so many times before, you are the greatest human being that I’ve ever known. From the very beginning, you brought a love and laughter into my life that I’d never known before. You became my best friend and confidant, wife and mother of my children, love of my life and soul mate. Because of you I became a better Christian, man, husband, father, and friend…quite simply, you made me a better person. I will miss your effervescent personality, infectious laughter, and just being able to kiss your neck. Your warm and loving spirit created an atmosphere in our home that made me look forward to returning whenever I was away. It was extremely difficult watching you endure sickness in your physical body. But the faith, determination, and strength that you displayed as you battled your illness, supplied an increased measure of encouragement and strength to so many. It was my duty and honor to care for you throughout your ordeal. Our love was forged from the depths of our souls and I cherish each and every moment that we spent together. I will never forget your words to me, “if this is the end, know that I would do it all again”. My heart is broken for our family, but knowing that you are no longer suffering brings me a tremendous amount of comfort. Know that I will continually take care of your mother and raise our children to love and serve our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Nonni, I miss you already…you are my heart and I will love you forever! Rest In Paradise My Queen, Bryan (Always Your “Bookie”)
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gospel industry news
Gospel Industry News
Deitrick Haddon D'Haddy will be releasing his latest work titled Masterpiece. Our lives are a work of art. "One thing about Deitrick is he's always delivering hits! "Every season we've lived through are small pieces of a carefully orchestrated puzzle designed by God Himself! I believe when it's all said and done we will understand the journey better, see the big picture and declare it is a beautiful masterpiece.” Travis Greene Everyone has been asking where this guy has been hiding! His hit single "Intentional" has everyone rocking and bobbin their heads, anticipating "the more" of Travis Greene. Well the wait is over! His full debut release is now available in stores and digital media outlets. JJ Hairston The dynamic duo from Connecticut has come together for another hit collaboration! The last song JJ Hairston & Deon Kipping teamed up for was "Incredible God", and as we all know churches are still singing that today. The new song "Great and Mighty" from JJ Hairston's latest project is now available at all digital media outlets!! Go get it!!! Chrystal Rucker Annually Chrystal has a "Sharing the Harvest" concert that takes place Thanksgiving weekend, however this year; the concert was the setting for her live recording, November 27th, at Canaan Worship Center in Kansas City Missouri. It featured artist Anthony Brown (Baltimore's Own), Tim Rogers, Darius Paulk, Durward Davis (Sundays Best), and Karlton Humes. 32 32 December December2015 2015||Grace&Glory Grace&Glory
Holiday Hope Of Remembrance Annually Roberta's House Grief Counseling Center and March Funeral Homes Corporation host a Holiday Hope of Remembrance Celebration, a free celebration that offers families an opportunity to celebrate their loved ones in an uplifting commemorative way, featuring great music, and inspirational messages. It will be held Friday December 11, in Baltimore featuring music by The Roberta's House Volunteer Choir, Special Musical Guest JJ Hairston & Youthful Praise and an inspirational message by world renowned author and speaker Wes Moore at the Harry & Jeanette Weinberg Auditorium at Mercy High School. Saturday December 12, at Reid Temple AME, there will be music by YYAC Youth Choir, Special Musical Guest Chelsey Green & The Green Project, along with Jonathan Nelson, and guest speaker Annette March-Grier, Roberta's House Founder and CNN Hero.
Timiney Figueroa One of my favs, Timiney Figueroa did her first live solo recording. She's absolute a POWERHOUSE of a preacher and psalmist. You may remember her from the classic timeless song "Calling My Name" and "Send Your Spirit Down", from Hezekiah Walker’s Love Fellowship Crusade Choir albums. More recently she's joined the ranks of the amazing Kurt Carr singers and leads the hit single "I've Seen Him Do It". She is also featured on Hezekiah Walker's latest album singing "Break Every Chain". The live recording was held at Christ Fellowship Baptist Church, Brooklyn, NY!! I’m so excited
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for her and all that's in store as she embarks on her new journey!!! Bri Tyscot recording artist Bri, her debut single is in the TOP 20 ranks on Billboard. Her full project will be out in the Spring 2016. She is definitely a voice and face to look out for in this new wave of female artists emerging. Jarmel Evans DMV's own Mr. Worship Forever is finally releasing his debut project with the awesome group of singers Worship Forever, who have been singing and blessing us with their music for about 10 years now. "I was extremely passionate about using the local talent surrounding me to push this music
Top 5 Gospel Songs
1. Wanna Be Happy? - Kirk Franklin 2. Worth - Anthony Brown & Group Therapy 3. Intentional - Travis Greene 4. Worth Fighting For - Brian Courtney Wilson 5. #WAR - Charles Jenkins & Fellowship Chicago
to the next level. I collaborated with my friends who had walked with me through this 10 year journey, Brittney Wright, Jarmone Davis, Jeremiah Hicks, and James Murphy.” The writers on the project are also among the leading up and coming writers of the new millennium also, Steve McCoy, Sam Roberts, and Marvin "Myer" McCoy, they released some heavy hitters for this project. From the very first time I experienced Jarmel Evans & Worship Forever which was probably 10 years ago, and I have personally enjoyed them each and every time, I've have seen firsthand the maturity in his witness, his message, and delivery. He's always had such a passion for worship and it's displayed each and every time I see him minister. I am excited about the release of Jarmel Evans & Worship Forever. The release concert was held in November. The cd is now able for purchase digitally worshipforever.info@ gmail.com. Tasha Cobbs "The One Place Live Tour" is coming to a city near you! The Grammy Award Winner Tasha Cobbs is on tour celebrating the release of her newest project "One Place Live"
the tour features Kierra Sheard and William Murphy. The tour kicked off last month and will run through January 2016. Professor James Hall I'm soooo excited for my friend & brother James Hall and the release of his newest project "WAP New Era". The leading single "King" is written by Listenbee, produced by James Hall and Troy Chambers. The single and album are different from what we're used to hearing from WAP but just as musical and refreshing as only The Professor & WAP can deliver!! Go Get It!!! The entire album is available NOW!!! Earnest Pugh Last month Earnest Pugh released a new project titled "Hidden Treasures" he's also planned an Earnest Pugh & Friends Christmas Tour with Amber Bullock, Keith Williams, John Paul McGhee, and Nikki Ross. The Walls Group Yahoo Music is premiering an exclusive Christmas Songs EP, featuring some Christmas Classics, "Christmas Time Is Here", "Jesus, Oh What A Wonderful Child" and "This Is My Wish". HAPPY Holidays!!! Remember it’s HARVEST SEASON, look for the manifestation of the seeds you have sown and planted, God is still performing!! Expecting Greater Things In 2016.... Ericka J. Follow me on twitter, www.twitter.com @MissEricka J, facebook www.facebook.com/ErickaJohnson, or via email missericka75@yahoo.com
Top 5 Gospel Albums
1. Masterpiece - Deitrick Haddon 2. The Hill - Travis Greene 3. One Place - Tasha Cobbs 4. The Great I Am - Joe Douglass & Spirit Of Praise 5. Everyday Jesus -Anthony Brown & Group Therapy
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In these closing days of 2015, I am confident that The Lord will continue to speak to us. This month, we will focus on verses 1, 2, and 11 of Matthew chapter 2: After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea, during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, “Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him. On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. While many of us are already familiar with this passage, perhaps there are some new truths contained in these verses that will strengthen us in our walk with Christ. As always, let’s look closer…
took several years. Therefore, Baby Jesus was no longer wrapped in swaddling clothes but was more appropriately Toddler Jesus crawling or walking around the house!
POINT NUMBER ONE: WISE MEN ARE GIVERS The commercialization of Christmas has, unfortunately, shifted its focus from a time that celebrates the birth of Christ to one of selfish gain. Rather than thinking about the hope, peace, joy, and love of the most wonderful time of the year, many have become blinded and distracted by spectacular displays of lights and shiny toys. Tragically, Jesus Christ, He who is the reason for the season and undeniably the most special gift to mankind, has been replaced with thoughts of what we want in attempts to make ourselves happier.
POINT NUMBER THREE: WISE MEN STILL ADORE HIM Without a doubt, the most significant element of the text is found in the sole purpose for which the wise men journeyed to see Jesus: to worship The King. Although they brought valuable gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh, these things were secondary to worshipping The King. In fact, God is more concerned about the person (worshipper) who is bringing the gift than the gift itself (John 4:23-24)! Contrary to what some might believe, worship is not a feminine or emotionally driven activity that makes men appear weak. Simply stated: wise men still adore Him.
Brothers, one of the revelatory truths contained in this passage is the central importance of being deliberate. As the wise men were focused on their goal of finding Jesus, which led them to travel for several years, be encouraged that anything worth achieving will inevitably require a significant investment of time, consistency, and persistent effort. And, regardless of whether or not you accomplished the goals that you set for yourself early in 2015, a new year awaits you and is the gift of another opportunity to remain faithful to all that God has destined for your life!
But because real men pattern their lives, first and foremost, after God, it is my prayer that we would not fall prey to this pagan practice. Said another way, because God gave us His best when He gave us Jesus, the wise men gave of their best when they brought their gifts to Him. Brothers, while there is nothing wrong with enjoying the festivities of the season, we should always remember the old adage, which says that it is better to give than to receive. As God-ordained providers, let us continue giving—to our wives, children, churches, and communities. Rather than focusing on what might await us under the tree, we should be thinking about what we can give to those around us, especially the least of these (Matthew 25:31-46). Perhaps we might consider adopting a young brother to impart wisdom learned through our lived experiences. Or, perhaps we would commit to spending quality time with our families. Whatever it might be, let this Christmas season represent a time of new beginnings in which we seek to give more than we receive. POINT NUMBER TWO: WISE MEN ARE DELIBERATE At times, it is difficult to reconcile the differences between our 21st century conveniences and the reality of the account recorded in Matthew chapter 2. In other words, the time between the wise men’s first noticing the star and their eventual arrival at the house in which they worshipped Christ was not a matter of hours, days, or even months. In fact, according to some Biblical scholars, the wise men’s journey 34 34 December 2015 | Grace&Glory
Regardless of their intelligence, astrological skill, and astronomical proficiency, all of these things were insignificant in the presence of The King. In fact, in my estimation, these men were not wise because of their ability to follow the star to Jesus. They were wise because of their focus on that which was most important. These men knew the real reason of Christmas—to give rather than to receive. These men knew that in order to achieve great things they had to remain committed, focused, and dedicated to their goal. And, most of all, these men were wise because their sole purpose for seeking The King was to worship The King. Brother, are you a wise man? Happy Christmas. Peace and Blessings.
Dr. Charles Barrett is a school psychologist with Loudoun County Public Schools. He also serves as Ministry Leader for Worship Ministries at Heritage Fellowship Church in Reston, VA.
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