CHALLENGE YOURSELF

Loneliness and tiredness

Isolation and tiredness are very corroding to self-worth. Sometimes we forget who our friends are and think we can't call, but always reach out and remember that if the roles were reversed, you would take that call. Also consider saying no to those who drain you and consciously take time for yourself.

Self-belief

Quite a lot of self-belief is attached to other people’s belief in us. We can challenge ourselves by showing others we believe in ourselves, even through a ‘fake it to make it’ mentality. The more we believe, the more others will too. When Susannah and I had a column in the Telegraph we felt we deserved a pay rise, but it was difficult to ask for one. I read over letters from our readers telling us how much what we wrote meant to them. This reminded me that not only did I love the work but it was of value to other people too. I rode the resultant wave right into the editor’s office and we got what we asked for! Have confidence in your own experience and find a mentor who can help with any gaps.

Remember who you really are

Do this when you are feeling good so you have it in place for times when you are not. Think of the positive things that people would say about you and, unashamedly, write them down. You need to be reminded of how fabulous other people think you are when you do not feel it yourself.

A gratitude list

I have done this for years, and it can be very simple. Write down what you are grateful for – a roof over your head, a job you love ...