Haven catalogue 2015

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the haven The Haven is a centre for transformative learning on beautiful Gabriola Island in British Columbia, Canada.

For more than 30 years, we have developed innovative approaches to teaching and learning, challenging thousands to define and shape their lives.

www.haven.ca

the haven 240 Davis Road Gabriola Island, BC Canada V0R 1X1

Tel. 250 247 9211 Fax 250 247 8454 Toll Free 1 800 222 9211 info@haven.ca

haven foundation board of directors Thomas Beshr Andrew Bing Alphonso Franco Mary Holdgrafer Dale Kelly Jane Kilthei (director candidate) Dea Lloyd Cathy McNally (Chair)

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haven programs in 2015

executive director Rachel Davey rachel@haven.ca • Ext. 235 assistant executive director Dennis Marriot dennis@haven.ca • Ext. 215 contacts Registrars Morag Ruckman, Tina Boehm, Cindy O’Dell, Naomi Melnyk register@haven.ca • Ext. 1 Reception info@haven.ca • Ext. 0 Group Bookings, Fundraising & Financial Aid Louise Amuir Group Bookings Planning Olivia Leigh louise@haven.ca • Ext. 222 Catalogue designed by Toby Macklin in November 2014.

Main front and back cover photos by Sam Mak (sammak@ telus.net). The front cover uses a detail of the glasswork dragon and phoenix by Christopher Smith in the Bing Room at The Haven. Inside front cover photo by Wen-Shwu Lee. Other photos by Chris Finlayson, Sam Mak, Nicholas Halpin, and Jackson Buchanan.

The inside pages of this catalogue are printed on FSC®certified 100% post-consumer recycled paper; the cover on FSC®-certified 60% post-consumer, 100% recycled paper.

Printed by Hemlock, named the Most Environmentally Progressive Printer in Canada for six consecutive years.

www.haven.ca

a centre for transformative learning

The Haven Facilities Masterplan The Haven Facilities Masterplan is the most comprehensive planning project ever undertaken in our 30-year history. The intention of the Masterplan is simple: to have the facilities at The Haven match the high quality of the programs and faculty who lead them. The Masterplan represents the best collective wisdom and vision for the institution and will serve as a road map for site development, infrastructure, landscape, building renovation and new construction.

The Facilities Masterplan report can be downloaded from haven.ca in summary and in full. The next 5–10 years promise to be an exciting time, as we plan for and execute two new lodge buildings. In 2015 and 2016 we will be undertaking a number of projects that constitute Phase 1 of the Masterplan, the ‘Front Door’. These projects include investing to improve the Heron, Phoenix and Thunderbird buildings; moving the parking lot and improving the entrance to the property; building a new underground 100,000-gallon water cistern and hydro and septic infrastructure projects.

the haven vision

our organizational values

our teaching principles

The Haven is an exceptional institution creating a relational world where every person is whole and responsible for themselves and their environment, and where all life is met with dignity and respect, open curiosity, and loving compassion.

• Loving • Freedom • Integrity • Respect • Joy • Self-responsibility

• Curiosity • Self-responsibility • Communication • Relationship • Embodiment • Experiential Learning • Personal Fulfillment • Inclusion

Thank you to generous donors who have combined their vision for the future of The Haven with ours and, through their financial support, enabled us to move ahead on the Masterplan and Phase 1 projects: David Beckwermert; Mark and Sandy Gunderson; Laurie Kelley and Scott Poole; Shana Johnston and Dave Goossen; Al Schultz and Leona Kolla; Anna Weiers.

Here’s to the future of The Haven!

Welcome to The Haven The Haven is dedicated to helping you build richer relationships with others and yourself.

With a centre on Gabriola Island, BC, Canada our not-for-profit educational organization offers transformational learning experiences in group settings.

We believe in creating a relational world where each of us is whole and responsible for ourselves and our environment.

Programs in the art and science of living well, together

For over 30 years, we have developed innovative approaches to teaching and learning, challenging thousands to define and shape their lives.

Register Today!

You can register for our programs online, by email, or by phone.

A range of payment options is available, including payment in installments if you register more than three months in advance and a special Earlybird rate for payments made at least two weeks before a program begins.

Our registrars will provide program information and take care of your registration and accommodation. They are available seven days a week from 9 am to 6 pm Pacific Time.

Morag Ruckman

Tina Boehm

Cindy O’Dell

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www.haven.ca register@haven.ca (Toll free) 1 800 222 9211 ext. 1

The Haven is a federally registered educational charity in Canada and the US, #892806407 RR0001 (Canada).

Your tuition may be tax deductible. The Haven is a certified educational institute and is registered with the BC Private Career Training Institutions Agency. All eligible participants will receive a T2202A in January.

Q & A: Find Out More … Every Month!

Join us for The Haven Q & A on the first of every month (starting February 1, 2015) at 6 pm Pacific Time to find out more about Haven programs. Talk with a Haven leader or assistant to learn something new and get your questions answered.

Call toll free on the first of the month and join the conversation.

Dial 1 866 951 1151 and enter Conference Room number 2260848#

www.haven.ca

Programs at The Haven Self-Responsible Relational Living The Haven was founded in 1983 by Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen. It is unique among centres of its kind in having at its heart a core curriculum, based in the work of its founders and taught in a set of innovative and time-tested programs:

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Come Alive (p. 9): a 5-day program that for thousands of people has opened a doorway into a new appreciation of life’s possibilities.

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Living Alive Phases I and II (pp. 16–17): longer programs that offer an in-depth exploration of central Haven themes, the Living Alive Phases are invaluable in integrating new learning and making lasting changes in your day-to-day life.

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The Couples Alive Series (p. 11). Many couples have had their first Haven experience in these programs, and have transformed their relationships.

The Haven also offers a wide range of other programs on creativity, sexuality, communication, depression, grief, anger, empathy, boundaries and more.

The Haven offers transformational group experiences that invite curiosity about each other and ourselves

New in 2015 Living Alive Phase I INTEGRATIVE. To make this life-changing

program accessible to as many people as possible, we are offering Living Alive Phase I in a new, flexible format – at The Haven and at home, onsite and online, over 8 months. See page 16 for details!

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$800 time-limited discount on Living Alive Phase I if you take Come Alive in 2015. $800 discount if you take Living Alive Phase I or II a second time.

Free teleconferences with leaders before Living Alive Phase programs (pp. 16 & 17).

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Exciting new programs including A Process Work Approach to Transformation, Soul Voice, and two programs in Nonviolent Communication.

A new core curriculum program on Sexuality, with Elfi Dillon-Shaw. Details soon!

a typical program day at the haven 8–9

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Breakfast

9.15 – 12

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Morning session

12 – 1

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Lunch

1-3

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Free time

3 – 6

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Afternoon session

6 – 7

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Dinner

7.30 – 9.30

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Small groups

NB: Most programs begin at 7.30 on the first evening. Exceptions will be noted when you register.

Haven Toolkits in Victoria (March 14-15) and Vancouver (April 18-19), with more dates and venues being planned (p. 23).

www.haven.ca

Love Sense

Professional Training

EFT Couples Therapy’s Dr. Sue Johnson Presentation and Workshop at The Haven, September 2015

Professional training has been an integral part of The Haven for many years, attracting adults and youth from different walks of life and from all over the world. We offer certificates and diplomas in group facilitation, counseling and leadership. The skills development we offer is hard to find anywhere else.

Dr. Sue Johnson will give an evening presentation for the general public and a one-day workshop for counselling professionals. Provisional dates are September 29 and 30, to be confirmed.

Dr. Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, popular presenter and speaker and a leading innovator in the field of couples therapy. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 25 years of peer-reviewed clinical research.

Her most recent book, Love Sense, The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships, outlines a new logical understanding of why and how we love – based on the latest scientific evidence and cutting-edge research.

Explaining that romantic love is based on an attachment bond, Dr. Johnson shows how to develop our “love sense” – our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.

Haven Training Programs Our training programs are designed to suit a broad range of life circumstances, interests, and learning styles. Individuals can experience the pleasure of personal discovery and professional development in an atmosphere respectful of their particular strengths and challenges. Our training focuses on learning how to:

• Support others while being fully present with ourselves • Work in an interdependent team, being personal and supportive • Develop skills in interpersonal communication, energetic experiential forms and group facilitation

The Haven offers an alternative to the serious impact of social isolation, blame and polarization in our world by providing programs in self-responsible relational living Youth Leadership Training The Youth Leadership Diploma (YLD) program provides an exceptional experience for youth of a range of ages, backgrounds and talents. The YLD program offers youth the possibility of meaningful volunteer hours to satisfy high school graduation requirements; opportunities for a positive working experience; support for moving into paid employment (including references); and a way to demonstrate extracurricular or volunteer experience that is valuable in applying for university or other post-secondary education. Teens with YLD program experience may take their skills onwards into adult leadership.

Youth Leadership Training at The Haven, 2014

For more information on training at The Haven, visit haven.ca

At The Haven you’ll engage with people who see things differently, and learn about yourself

Accommodation and Dining The Haven offers a range of comfortable rooms and suites for program participants and group guests. All accommodation is designed to be shared by two or more people, though private rates are available.

We offer three room types: Basic, Forest View, and Ocean View.

The 2015 Calendar january 1–6 8–13 25–30

• Basic rooms are simply furnished, comfortable and econom2-6

• Forest View rooms are located in attractive forested areas of

6–9

• Ocean View rooms and suites offer spacious, well-equipped

and comfortable accommodation looking out over the beach and waters of Taylor Bay. There is a TV in each room, a full kitchen or kitchenette, and private bathroom. Most Ocean view rooms have a deck.

Body, Breath & Energy Training Raithby & Nicholls $1025 ($1125) Come Alive LaCroix & Enright $985 ($1085)

february

ical. They have two singles or one double bed, and a private bathroom. They do not have a TV. the Haven property. Larger than our basic rooms, they have two or more beds, a TV and private bathroom.

Come Alive Raithby & Nicholls $985 ($1085)

Couples Alive I Raithby & McCartney $1700 ($1860) per couple Introduction to Nonviolent Communication Miyagawa $515 ($575)

12–15

Deep Listening: Core Skills for Coaching Wilder & Hilton $595 ($655)

13–18

Intuitive Healing 5 day Winkelmans $865 ($965)

15–20

Come Alive Ames & Macklin $985 ($1085)

20–23

The Quantum Laugh Ames $585 ($645)

20–23

Skills 4: Projection & Transference Dodge $585 ($645)

26–Mar 1 27–Mar 7

For Play Dillon-Shaw & Dillon $525 ($585) Living Alive Phase I Integrative: Onsite Module 1 Clarke & Macklin $3400 ($3900) See also May & September

march 5–8

Five Element Practicum Olynyk $495 ($555)

5–8

Communication Fundamentals McNally & Hilton $585 ($645)

8–13

Come Alive Clarke & Campbell $985 ($1085)

14 & 15

The Haven Toolkits in Victoria TBA ($30–50)

14–Apr 8

An Ocean View Room

Off Peak Season

Peak Season

Jan 8–May 31 Sep 15–Dec 23

Jun 1–Sep 14 Dec 27–Jan 7

Basic Private $135 Shared $90

Private $155 Shared $100

Forest view Private $165 Shared $105

Private $195 Shared $120

Ocean view Private $210 Shared $127

Private $240 Shared $143

– prices include breakfast, lunch and dinner –

19–22

Anger Boundaries & Safety Gurel $595 ($655)

19–22

Inner Wisdom for Women Farrell $545 ($605)

22–27

Come Alive Curtin & Huntington $985 ($1085)

27–29

Couples in Conflict McNally & Curtin $490 ($530)

27–30

Grieving: Change & Growth Nicholls $625 ($685)

april 2–5

Career Revisioning Farrell $545 ($605)

3–6

Our Body’s Tell Dahler $515 ($575)

9–12

Intuitive Healing Weekend Winkelmans $395 ($435)

12–17

Come Alive Raithby & Sartori (LIT) $985 ($1085)

18 & 19

Sensational Contact Olynyk & Enright $570 ($630)

23–26

Power of Direct Mirroring McNally & Huntington $585 ($645)

• Reductions are available for participants in the 26-day Phase

28–May 23

Immersion in Nonviolent Communication Miyagawa $1120 ($1260)

programs.

surcharge payable.

• Smoking is not allowed in any room or on shared decks.

• There is a $10 per day non-resident fee for guests staying outside The Haven.

The Haven Toolkits in Vancouver Hilton & Macklin ($30–50)

23–26 26–May 3

• Pets are allowed in a small number of rooms, with a

Dynamic Empathy Macklin & Olynyk $540 ($600)

10–12

• Prices are in Canadian dollars.

• Prices are per person per night and include three buffet-style meals a day.

Living Alive Phase I Intensive Dodge & Ames $3400 ($3900)

Living Alive Phase II Enright & Sartori (LIT) $3400 ($3900)

may 3–8

Come Alive Olynyk & Macklin $985 ($1085)

14–18

The Spirit Journal Intensive Littleton $820 ($900)

15–17

Body, Self & Soul: An Introduction to IBP J. Fewster & Gayle $400 ($440)

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For the first price below (the earlybird price) register and pay your tuition fees at least two weeks in advance.

You can pay in installments if you register three months in advance.

Tuition fees do not include meals or accommodation.

See facing page for accommodation and dining rates.

18–22 22–27

september

Living Alive Phase I Integrative: Onsite Module 2 Clarke & Macklin $3400 ($3900) See also February & September

7–11

Intuition Mastery Winkelmans $865 ($965)

Living Alive Phase I Integrative: Onsite Module 3 Clarke & Macklin $3400 ($3900) See also February & May

23–24

Breathe! Nicholls $315 ($335)

13–17

The Haven Unplugged $160

24–29

Anxiety Stress & Passion Raithby & McCartney $970 ($1070)

17–20

Drum Talk Povah $565 ($625)

24–29

Come Alive Wilder & Whyte $985 ($1085)

17–20

Dynamic Empathy Macklin & Olynyk $540 ($600)

Healing Stitches Huntington & Holdgrafer $840 ($940)

20–25

Come Alive Dodge & Huntington $985 ($1085)

20–25

Spirit in the Song Bibb $825 ($925)

25–27

ChiRunning Melville $410 ($450)

25–28

The Singing Soul Hatfield $535 ($595)

31–Jun 5

june 5–7 12–14

The Power of Balance Anderson & Hudson $410 ($450) Body, Self & Soul: An Introduction to IBP

october

J. Fewster & Gayle $400 ($440) 19–23

Process Work Approach to Transformation Reiss $795 ($875)

21–26

Come Alive Nicholls & Lee (LIT) $985 ($1085)

26–28

Soul Voice Schelde $585 ($625)

11–16

Come Alive Wilder & Whyte $985 ($1085)

26–29

Addictions Lee & Wilmer $605 ($665)

16–18

From Memory to Memoir Littleton $410 ($450)

2–4

Intuitive Healing Weekend Winkelmans $395 ($435)

4–9

Anxiety, Stress & Passion Raithby & McCartney $970 ($1070)

29–Jul 3

Couples Alive I Raithby & McCartney $1700 ($1860) per couple

16–18

Personal Parenting Goldbeck $410 ($450)

29–Jul 4

Youth Intern Training Goldbeck

16–19

Communication Fundamentals Wilder & Macklin $585 ($645)

july 2–5

Anger Boundaries & Safety Gurel $595 ($655)

5–10

Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $750 ($850)

6–11

Come Alive Chambers & Holt $985 ($1085)

18–22

Couples Alive I Clarke & Campbell $1700 ($1860) per couple

22–25

Career Revisioning Farrell $545 ($605)

23–25

Uncommon Sense Fleury & Fraser $410 ($450)

23–27

Couples Alive II Clarke & Campbell

10–15

Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $750 ($850)

16–19

Befriending your Inner Critic Farrell $545 ($605)

29–Nov 1

Connective Touch Olynyk & Enright $570 ($630)

17–19

Act Natural Geesman & Lucht $385 ($425)

29–Nov 1

The Power of Direct Mirroring

17–22

Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $750 ($850)

19–24

Come Alive Dodge & Ames $985 ($1085)

23–28

Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $750 ($850)

24–27

$1700 ($1860) per couple

McNally & Huntington $585 ($645)

november

The Quantum Laugh Ames $585 ($645)

1–6

Come Alive Raithby & Nicholls $985 ($1085)

30–Aug 4

Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $750 ($850)

6–8

Spirit Body Soul Dance Fallis $415 ($455)

31–Aug 3

Stirring the Cauldron Dillon-Shaw $510 ($570)

8–13

Depression: Conscious Alternatives Nicholls $935 ($1035)

12–15

Anger, Boundaries & Safety Gurel $595 ($655) Understanding People Carr $605 ($665)

august

12–15

Youth Leadership Training: Group Facilitation

19–22

Boundaries: The Vital Edge Nicholls $585 ($645)

Nicholls & Raithby

20–23

Self Compassion Dodge & Kevala $585 ($645)

7–10

Teens Alive I Raithby & Nicholls $615 ($675)

20–25

Intuitive Healing 5 day Winkelmans $865 ($965)

8–13

Come Alive Enright & Olynyk $985 ($1085)

22–27

Come Alive Curtin & Holt $985 ($1085)

10–13

Teens Alive II Raithby & Nicholls $615 ($675)

27–29

Couples in Conflict McNally & Curtin $490 ($530)

13–16

Teens Alive III Raithby & Nicholls $615 ($675)

28–29

Breathe! Nicholls $315 ($335)

16–22

Journey to Self Gomori $1205 ($1325)

23–29

Family Reconstruction Gomori $1205 ($1325)

5–6

30–Sep 4

Come Alive Clarke & Campbell $985 ($1085)

december 3–6 28–Jan 1

Skills 2: Group Leadership Dodge $585 ($645) First Night in The Spotlight Goldbeck $610 ($690)

the haven toolkits: One-day ‘on-the-road’ workshops on Communication and Relationships Coming to Vancouver and Victoria, with new venues to be announced. See page 23 for details.

Check haven.ca for updates!

Programs in 2015

• Have a hard time letting go, of either past memories or future

Act Natural

Note: This program is not designed as clinical treatment, and is not for people who are still actively using drugs or alcohol.

Find yourself in theatre!

tuition: $605 ($665) + accommodation & meals.

ideals, and are interested in learning more about living in the present

JUL 17–19 Jane Geesman & Sarah Lucht As an actor, you don’t make up or pretend anything. You commit your full, authentic self to portray the human experience. As a result, this program will benefit anyone interested in furthering their journey of self-discovery, as well as those who are curious about acting and performance.

It is a popular belief that actors ‘lose’ themselves in their roles.

In fact, it is the responsibility of actors to find themselves in their characters through a process of:

• Self-discovery • Self-revelation • Relationship with fellow actors • Engagement with the world of the play format: Through exercises designed for acting students, including improvisation, movement, scene study, and breath work, participants will experience the intimacy and aliveness of the acting process. The focus of this program is not on final performance, but on the process of bringing yourself forward, connecting with, and trusting, your own natural instincts. No prior acting experience is needed. Just bring yourself and a willingness to play, and be prepared to discover the natural actor in you! tuition: $385 ($425) + accommodation & meals.

Addictions: A Wider Path in Recovery JUN 26–29 Wen-Shwu Lee & Rich Wilmer “What is addiction, really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be understood.”

We like this quote from Alice Miller, and we believe addiction is far more complicated than this. In this program we will integrate several elements, including AA 12 steps and Haven models, to provide an expanded perspective and different choices in recovery from various types of addictive behaviors.

In an integrated body-mind-spirit approach, we will offer …

• Practical tools to deepen your existing growth steps • Choices to live fully from a place of acceptance and selfmastery

• Paths to reach individual defined spiritual values and inner strength

• Concepts and tools of grounding and self-definition This program is for people who

• Have been engaged in some approach to recovery and are looking to widen and deepen their search and practice

• Are attached to non-substance objects or activities such as

food, work, appearance, sex, or relationships, and interested in exploring different possibilities

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Anger, Boundaries and Safety Standing forward to create the life you want MAR 19–22, JUL 2–5, NOV 12–15 Greg Gurel Few emotions are more feared than anger. While some use the fear associated with unsafe, unboundaried anger expression to control, others limit their lives by continually trying to avoid any hint of anger. With either approach, the emotional constriction, physical difficulties, and relationship dysfunction that result are life diminishing. Anger is a natural feeling that exists in all of us and when expressed in a safe, boundaried manner is passionate, life enhancing, and beneficial to relationships.

This program is highly useful for people who:

• Try to avoid confrontations and/or disagreements • Have been told they are ‘an angry person’ • Are holding anger and resentment for past events • Feel repressed, depressed, or emotionally numb • Want to get angry but are scared of what might happen format: The program offers participants opportunities to both express and witness the expression of safe and boundaried anger. Created by the late Joann Peterson, the program follows a progression: uncovering participants’ beliefs about anger, a discussion about the origins of anger and its varied spectrum of expression, and finally a gradual exploration of participants’ own energetic patterns and opportunities to experience various tools for anger expression. tuition: $595 ($655) + accommodation & meals.

Anxiety, Stress and Passion Potential to advance your life MAY 24–29, OCT 4–9 David Raithby & Sandey McCartney Stress, anxiety and passion are life issues close to our hearts, and we bring a wealth of personal and professional experience to support others in working in this area. This program focuses on understanding and harnessing these difficult life energies so as to foster more passionate and productive living.

Many people find stress and anxiety troubling and use a variety of self-defeating behaviors, such as becoming numb, overly busy, or isolated, in an attempt to manage their lives. Unfortunately, this often results in greater ill-health and unhappiness, and denies the richness and growth that can be found in all life experience.

Passionate living requires that we make choices, moment to moment, to embrace the full depth and range of our feeling and experience; that we risk opening ourselves more fully to all that life has to offer – from pain to pleasure.

• Discover what stress, anxiety and passion are, and how they

manifest in your daily life • Become aware and learn to recognize these energies at a body level • Gain valuable insight into your coping patterns and expand beyond these limitations • Learn guidelines for moving from anxiety and stress to self acceptance & passion • Experience your own strength for transforming these challenges • Bring renewed energy to your personal life, work and relationships format: This highly effective program offers practical skills and concepts, usable ‘take-home’ tools, dialogue and feedback, body, breath and energy work, visualization, individual focus, and experiential exercises. tuition: $970 ($1070) + accommodation & meals.

Befriending Your Inner Critic How to get out of your own way JUL 16–19 Marlyn Farrell Have you ever stopped yourself from doing or having what you truly want by telling yourself you aren’t good enough, smart enough, young enough, thin enough, talented enough, beautiful or handsome enough? In this program you will:

• Call out your hidden critic • Establish a healthy distance between yourself and your critic • Tell your critic what you need and want • Transform your inner critic into an ally format: Befriending Your Inner Critic uses music, visual arts, movement, guided meditation, laughter and story to help you build (and rebuild) relationship with your inner critic. Think of it like mediation, for you and your critic, or facilitating a creative meeting of the minds. For two weeks leading up to the program, carry a small notebook and pen with you. Capture the ‘stops’ in your day. Write down each time you hear negative self-talk and notice if you stop yourself from doing something. This is an exercise in building awareness, not judgment, so just notice. tuition: $545 ($605) + accommodation & meals.

Body, Breath and Energy Training An experiential program in bodywork and energy release JAN 8–13 Linda Nicholls & David Raithby This vibrant program embodies the exceptional combination of knowledge and experiential learning that is unique to The Haven.

You will gain a solid foundation in the concepts and techniques of Haven-style body and energy work, and reap its benefits in your own life. This program is for people who want to:

• Encounter core feelings, beliefs, memories and behaviour

patterns as they are held in the body • Increase the depth and range of their work with people • Facilitate a shift from being ‘stuck’ to engaging life more fully • Become more aware of and utilize ‘transformative moments’ • Develop and use their own intuition, creativity and presence

format: Haven core faculty members Linda Nicholls and David Raithby demonstrate and encourage creative exploration of personal issues through a variety of energetic and expressive approaches. Supervised practice, group discussion, and personal work deepen the experience while feedback both as the ‘subject’ and as the ‘practitioner’ provides a rare opportunity for learning. tuition: $1025 ($1125) + accommodation & meals.

Body, Self and Soul An Introduction to Integrative Body Psychotherapy (IBP) MAY 15–17, JUN 12–14 Judith Fewster and Margaret Gayle IBP is a complete system of psychotherapy that combines verbal work with breath and body wisdom for the systematic integration of body, mind, emotions and spirit. IBP is a gentle and powerful way of confronting ones deepest patterns that are located in the body and unconsciously control our lives. Real change comes with insight, but only when awareness permeates the entire being – body as well as mind. IBP emphasizes the importance of relationships and focuses upon awareness at all levels, resulting in profound life-enhancing transformation. This program is for:

• Anyone seeking more awareness and aliveness in their personal lives and relationships

• Professionals wishing to incorporate the most advanced somatic approaches into their practices

format: The introductory program includes presentations, demonstrations, experiential opportunities, group discussions, individual sessions, and breath and movement work for sustaining integration and well-being. Take home resources are included. tuition: $400 ($440) + accommodation & meals.

Boundaries: The Vital Edge NOV 19–22 Linda Nicholls The active process of living and expressing boundaries effectively is what we call ‘boundarying’. It can be a hard word to say … and even harder to do! And the rewards are well worth it. Discerning, expressing and dialoguing about personal boundaries strengthens our ability to access creativity, energy and aliveness and enjoy greater intimacy and clarity in our personal and work relationships. This program is for you if you want to:

• Know and express who you really are • Experience greater intimacy in relationship • Discover, speak, and stand behind your own thoughts, feelings and choices

• Be proactive and clear when creating new, healthy

relationships, following past experiences of abuse or violence

• Free yourself from the experience of being trapped by roles, rules and obligations

• Gain a new perspective on allergies, chronic fatigue, depression and other symptoms

format: This program combines presentation and experiential learning about the discovery and effective implementation of the boundarying process. tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

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Breathe!

ChiRunning

MAY 23–24, NOV 28–29 Linda Nicholls

Creating the conditions for energy to flow

Breathe! is a two-day workshop that challenges you to become more alive through the practice of conscious and progressive deep breathing. People who have tried such a practice report exceptional results:

SEP 25–27 Donna Melville

• Increased relaxation; reduced tension, pain • Improved sleep • More energy and enhanced presence • Sensory enlivenment • Spontaneous creativity • Activation of intention and purpose • Deepened relatedness format: The workshop offers physiological information, guidelines and coaching for developing your own breathing practice, and provides opportunities for practice and discussion. Come to Breathe! and rediscover your amazing, embodied being. tuition: $315 ($335) + accommodation & meals

Career Revisioning Discover your unique career path!

APR 2–5, OCT 22–25 Marlyn Farrell Love and work, according to Freud, are the cornerstones of our humanness. In this creative and relational program, Marlyn Farrell invites you to experience the personal satisfaction of discovering your unique career path and beginning to live your dream.

• Take stock of your life accomplishments, personal qualities,

and transferable skills • Identify your values and passions • Determine whether your present career offers unexplored potential to express these values • Explore new or enhanced career directions • Investigate the steps required to bring your dreams to fruition format: The program includes creative exploration, group discussion and personal reflection. Note: Please bring with you nine objects that will represent your hobbies, interests and passions, and a piece of material on which to display them. tuition: $545 ($605) + accommodation & meals.

ChiRunning® practice helps you focus your mind, lift your spirit and open up your flow of Chi. It combines the inner focus and flow of T’ai Chi with the power and energy of running, creating a revolutionary running form and philosophy that takes the pounding, pain, and potential damage out of this sport. It increases mental clarity and focus, enhances the joy of running, and turns it into a safe and effective lifelong program for health, fitness, and well being. The program includes:

• The keys to effortless injury-free running • ChiRunning versus power running • Introduction to the ChiRunning form • Injury prevention techniques • Personal check-in tricks and tools • Learning to use your gears • Core muscle drills and exercises • Innovative technique drills • Learn to run with ease up and down hills • How to conserve energy at any speed format: ChiRunning can help you recapture the effortless nature of running. Developed by ultramarathoner Danny Dreyer, it is focused on how you run rather than simply the results of your running: it is more process-oriented than goal-oriented. Bring running gear and layered clothing (expect to be outside). tuition: $410 ($450) + accommodation & meals.

Communication Fundamentals Self-awareness in action MAR 5–8 Cathy McNally & Jennifer Hilton OCT 16–19 Cathy Wilder & Toby Macklin The Haven Communication model was a life-changing influence for the creators of this program, Cathy and Ernie McNally, and for the other faculty members who lead it. In this program, they explore ways to use the model effectively and to develop selfawareness and enhance your personal and work relationships.

Also included are a wide range of other ideas and activities that complement and enrich the model.

The program is for anyone who:

• Wants to deepen intimacy • Struggles in discussing difficult issues • Wants to improve their work environment and productivity • Is training at The Haven and wants to strengthen their

“I am grateful to the depths of my being for the instructors, the staff, the space and surroundings, the programs and the bodyworkers at The Haven. My life is forever changed.”

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facilitation skills

• Wants greater understanding and clarity in both casual and focused conversations

• Wants greater self-awareness, particularly of habits/triggers and their sources

format: The program takes an exciting look at new and familiar ideas, and provides opportunities to engage, practice and learn in a supportive group setting. tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

Come Alive

Do you want more? Are you looking for something different?

Come Alive is an invitation to live your life to the full.

Created more than 30 years ago by The Haven’s founders Ben Wong and Jock McKeen, Come Alive remains as impactful as ever, providing understanding and experience that will allow you to transform your life.

JAN 1–6

Linda Nicholls & David Raithby

JAN 25–30

Gillian Enright & Derek LaCroix

FEB 15–20

Carole Ames & Toby Macklin

MAR 8–13

Susan Clarke & CrisMarie Campbell

MAR 22–27

Wendy Huntington & Ian Curtin

APR 12–17

David Raithby & Gisela Sartori (LIT) *

MAY 3–8

Toby Macklin & Jane Olynyk

MAY 24–29

Leslie Whyte & Cathy Wilder

JUN 21–26

Linda Nicholls & Wen-Shwu Lee (LIT)*

JUL 6–11

Al Chambers & Susa Holt

JUL 19–24

Carole Ames & Wayne Dodge

AUG 8–13

Gillian Enright & Jane Olynyk

AUG 30–SEP 4

Susan Clarke & CrisMarie Campbell

SEP 20–25

Wayne Dodge & Wendy Huntington

OCT 11–16

Leslie Whyte & Cathy Wilder

NOV 1–6

Linda Nicholls & David Raithby

NOV 22–27

Ian Curtin & Susa Holt * LIT = Leader in Training

Come Alive is for you if you want to:

• Know yourself better and experience life more fully • Feel more deeply, and respond to your feelings in a productive way

• Develop health in body, mind, and spirit • Learn to communicate effectively • Enhance your sense of meaning in life • Have healthy, loving and fulfilling relationships format: Participants learn and practice the Haven models of communication, relationship and self-responsibility and are offered a range of opportunities for personal learning. Work is done in the group as a whole and in smaller groups in the evenings. In addition to group activities and discussions, each participant is offered a time for individual experience in large or small group sessions, including breath and body work, gestalt, psychodrama and other forms. Come Alive is led by gifted facilitators who have trained at The Haven and have many years’ experience in Come Alive and other programs.

Honestly, I liked everything … The program itself was life changing, the facilitators and assistants were warm and supportive. The food and accommodations supplied were good, and it was an all over great experience. k.mcg.

Where do I start? The grounds, the air, the people, the FEELING I had when I arrived … it was like coming home. The leaders and interns were fantastic, the connections I made with others and most importantly with myself ... life changing.

Beauty everywhere. a.b.

I learned to embrace, accept, let go of grief I’ve held for 30 years. a.w.

When I returned home after the program I was approached by many people asking, “What was it like?” … My answer was, “You just have to do it to find out!” I have felt things I have not felt in my lifetime. I feel alive! l.j.

tuition: $985 ($1085) + accommodation & meals.

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” howard thurman

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Connective Touch

Deep Listening: Core Skills for Coaching

OCT 29–NOV 1 Gillian Enright & Jane Olynyk

Making space for people to learn

Physical touch is one of the most intimate ways we have of making connection with another person. From infancy, touch is an essential part of our being alive and thriving. Giving or receiving touch offers us a chance to see into ourselves and make contact with another in a vulnerable and caring way.

FEB 12–15 Cathy Wilder & Jennifer Hilton

Each of us has a unique experience of touch. We respond to it in many different ways. We may open or defend, relax or tighten; we can be in our bodies or be completely removed from the experience. This program is an opportunity to explore how we are in touching, in a safe and non-sexual arena. You will learn:

• Breathing exercises to come in contact with your body • Touch as a form of communication • To honour and express boundaries, both your defenses and

your opening • To recognize your physiological and psychological responses to various kinds of touch • If you are a bodywork practitioner or Haven intern or facilitator, how to use your own body knowledge to make contact with someone and contribute to a healing process format: The learning will be offered in an atmosphere of safety, in which you notice and define your own boundaries. This program is not an exploration of sexual touching. tuition: $570 ($630) + accommodation & meals.

As an emerging conversational style in our lives and workplaces, the ‘new’ coaching is very different from the coaching most of us have experienced on the sports field. Cathy Wilder and Jennifer Hilton teach a form of coaching that creates space for others in which they do their work and learning. This requires being with the other person from a place of curiosity and heart. It involves being present and embodied – mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally.

Coaching conversations can deepen contact and learning in teaching, leading, managing, helping, parenting, enrolling, or being in primary relationship. This program is for you if you wish to:

• ‘Help’ others without doing their work • Create relationships that support another’s learning • Deepen your capacity to be present with others • Learn more about who you are and how you are with others • Learn how to make the most of yourself in your interactions format: In an experiential group setting, we explore through exercises, activities and discussion how we can bring body, mind, spirit and emotion into focused conversations with others. Supervised practice coaching facilitates the learning of energy/body/ mind-based techniques. Immediate feedback, group dialogue and personal work all support participants to integrate their learning. tuition: $595 ($655) + accommodation & meals.

Couples in Conflict MAR 27–29, NOV 27–29 Cathy McNally & Ian Curtin

Depression: Conscious Alternatives

This program is for you if you want to

Interrupt depression and access a more joyful life

• Learn skills for dealing with anger and conflict • Learn how to rebuild goodwill with each other • Learn how to regard each other with dignity and respect • Separate with your self-esteem intact

NOV 8–13 Linda Nicholls

This weekend program is for couples who are having difficulty resolving conflicts. It may be the result of a lack of communication, an affair, extreme frustration, years of ‘all work and no play’, or the strain of blending two new families. Whatever the reason, you may be considering whether you want to be together, and how you can resolve differences and have the kind of relationship you want. In this program, you will not be told whether you ‘should’ stay together or not. Only you can make that decision. You will learn some valuable tools and develop greater insight and clarity about your relationship. format: Couples will work together as a pair in a small group setting with individualized attention. Also, each couple will receive a private counselling session to deal with their own particular issues. Various exercises will be presented to help bring clarity to your relationship, including ‘homework’ to be done outside of session hours. tuition: $490 ($530) + accommodation & meals.

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Although medication is often useful in the treatment of depression, you may want to consider additional or alternative interventions. With conscious commitment, it is possible to interrupt depression. In this program you will examine the personal belief systems that support depression and access your capacity to live a fuller, more joyful life.

This program is for you if:

• You are experiencing depression • You have worked your way out of depression and want to focus on prevention

• You are concerned for someone you know who is depressed • You work with people who experience depression format: In these five days of education and experiential learning, you will gain a wide variety of take-home skills to facilitate either your personal or professional life. You will mobilize your breath and energy, access your feelings and creativity, and enjoy the pleasure of body movement. tuition: $935 ($1035) + accommodation & meals.

Couples Alive couples alive i: foundation

Communication and Boundaries

FEB 2–6 Sandey McCartney & David Raithby JUN 29–JUL 3 Sandey McCartney & David Raithby OCT 18–22 CrisMarie Campbell & Susan Clarke The more we have at stake in a relationship, the more challenging communication becomes. Unaddressed misunderstandings, unspoken wishes, and recurring struggles can become the breeding ground for ‘score-keeping’, distancing, and resentments.

The Couples Alive programs are for people in primary relationship who want more, and are prepared to go beyond the familiar to find it, in the safe and respectful company of other couples.

A mutual pathway to connection is fundamental for a dynamic, enduring primary relationship. This program begins with an in-depth exploration of communication from a distinctly couples perspective. A variety of breathing and body-awareness experiences help build a foundation for connection and growth and couples then explores the ‘boundary-ing’ process — identifying and expressing wishes, wants and preferences — and examine the impact and possibilities of this self-definition for their relationship.

What can you expect from Couples Alive?

• Deepen intimacy • Practice essential communication skills • Bring greater understanding and clarity to daily conversations • Distinguish between boundaries and walls, and value both • Learn to identify and express preferences • Find connection in the tension of disagreement • Recognize and transform entrenched family rules and patterns

• A rich resource for continued learning • Sustainable, accessible skills you can put into action right away • Deepening personal awareness and wholeness through connection and enlivenment • A noticeable shift for the better in your relationship • To leave surprised, encouraged and motivated

couples alive ii: edge

All programs are led by Haven faculty who are couples themselves.

Igniting Passion and Aliveness OCT 23–27 CrisMarie Campbell & Susan Clarke When we first meet someone, and increasingly as the stakes go up, we do our best to be seen in a positive light. In these exciting, and often uneasy times we begin to establish the range of who and how we are in our relationship.

If we suppress ourselves to make our relationship work, we are likely to experience resentment, distance, distrust and anxiety.

Alternatively, each person’s fully acknowledged and expressed presence can become the foundation of a solid, loving relationship.

Through this process we begin to build the faith in ourselves and each other to relate at an edge of aliveness and discovery.

Passionate expression and healthy power struggle can help establish growth and acceptance – as individuals and as a couple. In this program couples work to identify and share personal characteristics, beliefs and behaviours, go beyond ‘good-bad’ judgments, and explore how these traits can be embraced to enhance relationship:

• Experience more energy, pleasure and edge • Develop a healthy approach to power struggles • Learn ways to create personal safety and location • Learn to relate through risk, compassion and curiosity • Broaden and deepen your range of intimacy • Create an open and accepting environment for each person

Couples Alive I is a prerequisite for the remaining programs.

Check haven.ca or call our registrars for the next Couples Alive III: Day to Day tuition: $1700 ($1860) per couple per program. Discounts of $500 per program are available if you take more than one program in the same year. Bring another couple with you and receive $250 off for each couple.

My partner and I just completed your Couples Alive I program. By day 2 we both understood without a doubt that we had been living in a vicious circle of power struggle and retreat, only to return for another struggle. By the end of that day we recognized with relief that there was a way out.

By day 3 we were able to commit to working in that direction and in fact were actively practicing the tools we were being taught to achieve this. By day 4 we realized that we had laughed more in the last day than probably the whole last year. d.b & b.j.

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Drum Talk African drumming for creativity, passion and healing SEP 17–20 Lyle Povah

an opportunity to update the past and reduce the negative impact of early experiences and learnings. Letting go of what is no longer useful provides the freedom to make new choices and access deeper recognition and acceptance of your self and others.

Since the beginning of time, drums have been utilized to celebrate, communicate, and express all that it means to be human.

This program is for anyone who wants to bring more creativity and passion into their personal lives, work or relationships, including:

• Discover your parents as real people • Appreciate and connect with your family roots • Update the past and reduce the negative impact of earlier

• Health care workers and practitioners • Seekers on a spiritual path • Music therapists and music lovers • People living with chronic illness • Teachers and coaches • Performing artists • Community organizers

• Let go or transform learnings that are no longer useful for you • Clarify distorted or limited perceptions and deal with unmet

format: This group drumming program is suited to first-timers or more experienced players, and will involve sound healing techniques, drum circle work, guided imagery with drumming, and playful rhythm games. tuition: $565 ($625) + accommodation & meals.

Dynamic Empathy

experiences

expectations

• Move beyond survival pain towards active growth • Access inner resources and become your own choice-maker format: Satir processes incorporate psychodrama, gestalt, guided imagery, sculpting communication stances, and methods of accessing the unconscious. Work is done in group and in triads. tuition: $1205 ($1325) + accommodation & meals. Family Reconstruction and The Journey to Self are running back to back in 2015.

Register for both and receive a $300 discount.

First Night in the Spotlight

APR 9–12, SEP 17–20 Toby Macklin & Jane Olynyk

DEC 28–JAN 1 2016 Denise Goldbeck

This program offers practical and challenging methods to become more empathic, curious and loving, at the same time as strengthening your own sense of self. Building on Ben Wong and Jock McKeen’s recently published Dynamic Empathy Model, Toby Macklin and Jane Olynyk guide you in a profound exploration of five aspects of human experience: Fusion, Objectification, Contact, Resonance, and Inclusion. You will have opportunities to:

First Night celebrations are a grass-roots cultural phenomenon across North America. It is a way for the whole community to come together to celebrate both the old year and the new. Now First Night comes to The Haven.

• Explore the uses and abuses of objectification • Learn to make close and personal contact with others • Compassionately challenge your own blocks to empathy • Recognize and develop your own empathic style and strengths • Maintain your boundaries while actively including in your

First Night in the Spotlight is an inclusive, celebratory program that is open to anyone aged 12 and above. No singing, dancing or acting experience required – just an open heart and a willingness to pull together.

world the experience of others

Join us for First Night in the Spotlight and:

very different to yourself

• Embrace your shadows, light, past, future • Integrate the past year so you can step with faith and

• Challenge yourself to ‘walk in the shoes’ of people apparently format: Within the framework of the Dynamic Empathy Model, the program utilizes a number of different approaches and includes video, music, meditation, movement and individual, partnered and group exercises. tuition: $540 ($600) + accommodation & meals.

Family Reconstruction

A process of transformation developed by Virginia Satir AUG 23–29 Maria Gomori The objective of the three-generational Family Reconstruction process developed by Virginia Satir is to revisit one’s family roots and to meet with and understand our parents (or major childhood caregivers) as people, instead of seeing them only in their stereotyped roles. It is a powerful psychodynamic process that provides

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We put on a show. And while we’re showbuilding we discover more about ourselves and build relationships with others. Showbuilding is a reflective as well as a creative process.

certainty into the new one • Be present in the face of awkwardness • Connect with yourself and others • Experience more energy and aliveness • Enjoy the camaraderie that only theatre offers

First Night in The Spotlight is designed to provide you with the deepening, insight, and reserves of joy and courage you need to integrate and flourish in the New Year. format: There will be organized activities for children under 12 during First Night in the Spotlight. Please let the registrar know if you would like to bring a child with you to the program when you register. tuition: $610 ($690) + accommodation & meals

Five Elements Practicum

Grieving: Change and Growth

MAR 5–8 Jane Olynyk

Growing through loss and separation

This program focuses on the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of Chinese Medicine. Haven core faculty member and licenced acupuncturist Jane Olynyk offers a theoretical and practical grounding in its use as an alternative or complement to other psychological systems. With an emphasis on the crucial role of contact, the program will be useful to those who work with people in a wide variety of settings, including interns or group leaders in Haven programs.

MAR 27–30 Linda Nicholls

The program includes:

• An introduction to Five Elements Theory, Qi (Chi), Yin/Yang

theory, and concepts of Micro/Macrocosm, Harmony vs. balance, and Dualism • A review of each of the Elements, including their spiritual aspects and key personality characteristics • Identifying imbalance in the Elements, using pulses, colour, smell, voice tone, and language • How to move Qi, including the use of source points and other therapeutic techniques • The Cycle of Change - a process that can be used to identify blockages at the microcosmic level to the macrocosmic level format: Participants will utilize their rich personal imagery and body experience to connect with the Elements and each other.

The learning process is relational, creative, and practical. Participants should have taken New Horizons Phase III or have some basic knowledge of Chinese Medicine. tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals.

In this program, participants will learn to grieve fully and responsively. Life involves ongoing experiences of attachment and separation, situations of helplessness and disappointment. We face separations and losses through relationships ending, deaths, aging, career changes and geographical moves, children growing up and leaving home, fading dreams or the interruption of life by illness, injury or trauma. Issues broader than our personal lives, such as our environment and the state of our world may be fueling our grief. In facing planned or unpredicted transitions, or issues seemingly beyond our control we must leave something behind. Rather than destructive and inhibiting, grieving can be growth-enhancing.

This program is for people who are experiencing loss related to:

• Relationships – separation, divorce, death • Body and Life transitions – illness, surgery, abortion, aging • Change – career change, relocation, financial status • Global concern – environment, poverty, war format: Using a range of experiential forms, including the creative use of ceremony, participants will have opportunities to learn about the grieving process, express their feelings, grieve fully, and develop a map toward deepening inner strength and wholeness. tuition: $625 ($685) + accommodation & meals.

Healing Stitches Release your creative energy!

For Play: Sex, Eros, Spirit and Intimacy

MAY 31–JUN 5 Mary Holdgrafer & Wendy Huntington

This program offers couples new ways of igniting their erotic flame and supports them to remember each other in their physical wants and gifts.

WE ARE ALL CREATIVE! Our creativity is life enhancing and provides pleasure, joy and relaxation in our daily lives. In this program you will use personal awareness as a means of discovering and advancing your creativity. You will explore the full range of your creative process, examine fears about skills and abilities, and develop an appreciation for your innate creativity. You will gain a new awareness of your creative self!

The program will benefit couples who:

This program is for you if you would like to:

• Grieve the loss of erotic play or sex in their relationship • Want to sustain and expand their connection • Want to update their understanding of sexuality • Want to open to the flow of life-giving energy • Want to experience the benefits of erotic energy in their

• Challenge beliefs about personal creativity • Discover your untapped creativity and passion • Deepen your satisfaction with creative activities • Deal with anxieties about trying new things • Experience joy and playfulness • Find a spiritual connection

format: Elfi Dillon-Shaw and her husband Gary Dillon present experiential exercises using breath, voice, movement, sensuous touch and loving-presence meditations from the wisdom teachings of Tantra and Taoism, along with ideas rooted in the revolutionary edges of modern biological and physical science.

format: Through experiential learning and presentations Healing Stitches provides rich opportunities for personal growth and exploration. In an atmosphere of safety we use design, collage, journaling, movement and guided imagery to release blocked creative energy. This popular program has been running at The Haven for over a decade.

A workshop for couples FEB 26–MAR 1 Elfi Dillon-Shaw & Gary Dillon

physical, mental and spiritual health

tuition: $525 ($585) per person + accommodation & meals.

tuition: $840 ($940) + accommodation & meals.

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Inner Wisdom for Women

Immersion in Nonviolent Communication

Arouse your feminine creativity!

A deep immersion into compassionate and powerful principles and practice

MAR 19–22 Marlyn Farrell Build a relationship with your best life guide — your self! This program is an opportunity to explore your own intuition and experience the wise and gentle nudging of your inner being. The program uses music, visual arts, movement, guided meditation, laughter and story to help women build (and rebuild) relationship with their inner nudge or intuition.

This program is for women who want to:

• Move through a transition • Trust themselves to create new possibilities • Reconnect with a lost part of themselves • Build confidence in their ability to care for themselves and be with others • Practice present moment awareness • Cultivate intuition, wisdom and faith • Deeply enjoy themselves and the women around them

format: Arrive the first evening with nine objects that have emotional value for you and represent the female / feminine — things that remind you of the woman you are, the woman you want to be, or women in your life that you respect. This is a beautiful way of getting to know each other and facilitates a gentle process of self-discovery. The next two days are filled with mask-making, dance, writing and more. The activities shine a light on the inner you, allowing you time to see, admire, ask questions and process the answers with creative and cognitive awareness. tuition: $545 ($605) + accommodation & meals.

Introduction to Nonviolent Communication Transforming relationships through our awareness of needs FEB 6–9 Mitch Miyigawa Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a world-renowned approach to relationships and conflict that has been helping people make peace in their families and their communities for 30 years. It’s been used by couples, parents, schools, and organizations, around the world, including conflict zones in the Middle East and Asia.

NVC principles combine spiritual practice with social vision, modern psychology with Gandhi, emotional awareness with focused thought.

This 3-day workshop introduces you to the core of NVC: a set of simple but profound ways to notice our inner life and the inner lives of others, and to compassionately connect to the common motivations and desires we all share.

Make peace and powerful change, inside and out. Escape the cycle of blame and judgment. Befriend yourself first, then your world. tuition: $515 ($575) + accommodation & meals

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APR 26–MAY 3 Mitch Miyigawa This week-long program is designed to support the ongoing development and integration of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) into every aspect of life, whether participants are relatively new to NVC or experienced practitioners.

You’ll have an opportunity to practice NVC with guidance, compassion, and support, whether your aim is to broaden awareness in your personal life, teach the process to others, impact positive social change in the world … or all three.

During this intensive week, you will:

• Find greater inner freedom as you become the bridge between the outer dimension – the pain and chaos of our human conditioning – and the inner dimension – the true authentic self.

• Grow “power-with” vs. “power-over”, by looking deeply into personal and social sources for choice and courage in your life • Increase your awareness of your own inner chatter – projections, moralistic judgments, right/wrong thinking, blame, criticism – and learn to embrace it honestly and with compassion • Discover core beliefs that restrict your day-to-day life, and use this awareness to understand your deepest yearnings • Work through apparently “conflicting” needs to align your choices with authenticity and with full commitment to life.

• Enhance your own “empathy power” as you learn to really listen to others, whether or not you agree with their choices in life • Express yourself freely, authentically, compassionately and naturally.

course prerequisite: We ask that you read Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s book, Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life and that you have introductory level training in Nonviolent Communication. If you are unsure whether you have enough NVC experience to enjoy this immersion retreat, please email Mitch Miyagawa at mitch.miyagawa@gmail.com. format: In group circles, pairs, and solo work, we’ll bring NVC principles and practices to different aspects of your life. We’ll strive to find a balance between practical application (such as authentic expression, transformation of pain, and empathy skills), and digging deeper into principles and theories. This week includes lots of time for integration of the work, and will include written work, storytelling, movement, rehearsal and “posthearsal”. tuition: $1120 ($1260) + accommodation and meals.

Intuitive Healing Five-Day

The Journey to Self

Maximize the resources of your soul!

An exploration of self and family using the Satir Method

FEB 13–18, NOV 20–25 Phil Winkelmans

AUG 16–22 Maria Gomori

This program provides leading-edge intuitive self-solution tools, allowing you to break through your ego’s limitations and maximize the greater wisdom, intuitive resources and passions of your soul. This program is for those who want to:

Virginia Satir created a number of healing and integrating processes to help make sense of ourselves and each other. Her objectives were growth and congruent communication, helping individuals to become ‘more fully human’. This involves appreciating our past and the resources we developed as we grew up in our family of origin. Satir processes allow us to give full expression to the resources we wish to utilize, and to let go of or transform learnings that are no longer useful to us.

• Have free access to their intuitive wisdom and abilities • Access intuitive insights and knowledge for self and others • Know their true identity, passion and purpose • Unleash intuitive healing powers and increase intimacy • Improve mental awareness, clarity, and creativity format: This program includes Phil Winkelmans’s exclusive Tools for the Soul Kit. Activities include mind/body/spirit intuitive exercises; journaling, art and stories; individual and group opportunities for sharing and self-reflection; breath, visualizations and image-streaming processes. tuition: $865 ($965) + accommodation & meals.

Intuitive Healing Weekend Transform your life from the inside out!

APR 10–12, OCT 2–4 Phil Winkelmans In this weekend program you will access powerful, intuitive information centres for greater insight and wisdom. This powerful introductory program gives you theory, tools and skills that can change your life forever. You will leave this program with:

• A profound sense of a greater, more intuitive and creative you.

• Clarity about finding your ‘life purpose’ • Greater strength in all your relationships and activities format: This program includes both written and experiential training, providing theory and skills you can access during and after the program. We will work in groups and one-on-one as we explore various intuitive exercises and forms of self-expression. tuition: $395 ($435) + accommodation & meals.

Intuition Mastery The key to your creative powers MAY 22–27 Phil Winkelmans In this program you will learn to accept and understand the awesome intuitive power of your soul, the source of all knowledge, wisdom and creativity. The program offers:

• Five powerful tools, using your senses to tell you things about

yourself you do not know • Word Image Streaming, intuition, creativity, physical healing • The opportunity to dismantle the barriers created by lower levels of consciousness • A chance to program your intuition for accessing future events • Access to your true purpose and direction • An opportunity to learn The Art of Intuitive Communication

• Gain clarity about your identity, autonomy and boundaries • Gain deeper recognition and acceptance of yourself and others • Let go of learnings that no longer fit • Take risks in exploring new ways of living • Experience the freer flow of your life energies • Learn self-responsibility and achieve your highest potential format: Satir processes incorporate psychodrama, gestalt, guided imagery, sculpting communication stances, and methods of accessing the unconscious. Work is done in group and in triads. tuition: $1205 ($1325) + accommodation & meals. The Journey to Self and Family Reconstruction are running back to back in 2015.

Register for both and receive a $300 discount.

Kids in the Spotlight (KITS) Children learn about themselves and each other JUL 5–10, 10–15, 17–22, 23–28, 30–AUG 4 Denise Goldbeck This unique 5-day family program is in its 26th year. Sessions fill up months in advance – so register now! KITS is for children, youth and parents. Children learn social development and selfdiscovery; youth experience leadership training; and parents attend informational sessions. Boundaries, communication, sibling and parent-child relationships, and self-responsibility, are some of the lessons taught as a group of multi-age children cooperate to produce and perform a musical. Children and youth learn:

• Self-understanding and self-awareness • Social understanding, mutual cooperation and respect • Leadership skills, poise, and confidence • How to support and connect with others • How to contribute to the success of the group • How to effectively express oneself and interact In complementary sessions, caregivers learn about:

• Child development (in their own lives and their children’s) • The developmental aspects of the program

format: This program is a response to requests for an additional Intuition program to complement the first two. However, the only requirement is some previous experience in personal development.

format: The program combines a variety of group activities and discussions where children explore moral lessons, their own behaviours, and others’ behaviours in a non-judgmental setting.

Use is made of theatre, music, dance, drama, and stage creation to facilitate group cooperation and learning. Older children support younger children in dances, songs, and dramatic scenes. Youth Interns assist with the program and act as role models for younger participants. Children stay at The Haven with a parent or guardian.

tuition: $865 ($965) + accommodation & meals.

tuition: $750 ($850) + accommodation & meals.

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Living Alive Phase I live

while

you’re

alive

In Living Alive Phase I you will have rich opportunities to become aware of your patterns of behaviour and energy. You will develop insights and skills to help you transform the patterns you wish to, and release blockages in your energy.

• Know yourself and your patterns of behaviour more fully • Discover your own personal resources • Improve your communication skills • Make your fantasies and imagination work for you • Embrace the hidden aspects of who you are • Work in relationship with others to learn new information about yourself • Incorporate increased self-awareness, interpersonal skills and insights into your daily life

Now in two formats for maximum accessibility!

Living Alive Phase I has been a life-changing program for people over many years. However, for some it is not easy to take 26 days away from home and work in order to have this opportunity. So, for the first time, in 2015, we are offering the program in two formats:

• Living Alive Phase I Intensive 26 consecutive days, at The Haven MAR 14–APR 8

Wayne Dodge & Carole Ames Part A MAR 14–26, Part B MAR 27–APR 8

• Living Alive Phase I Integrative NEW! At The Haven, at home, and online, over 8 months FEB TO SEPTEMBER

Susan Clarke & Toby Macklin

1ST ONLINE SESSION

FEB 22

ONSITE MODULES

FEB 27–MAR 7, MAY 18–22, SEP 7–11

The new Integrative format is designed to maintain a high level of integrity with the core components of the Living Alive Phase I program while bringing in new ways of delivering the experience through virtual learning and community.

Living Alive Phase I Integrative provides and supports unique opportunities to apply, challenge and integrate the program content. It allows for a sustained learning period while minimizing the time away from home.

Living Alive Phase I intensive is the format that has been offered at The Haven for more than 30 years. This Intensive format provides a unique opportunity for those who choose to devote 26 consecutive days to the experience of self-discovery with a faceto-face group that remains together for the whole time.

The eight-month Integrative format combines three on-site modules, 4 to 8 days in length, with directed, intentional at-home work both individually and in virtual groups, supported by regular teaching and processing via video conference.

Throughout the program, participants work individually and in both large and small groups. A range of experiences is offered, all of which are intended to maximize your potential for self-awareness, self-responsibility and healthy relating with others.

The format will include an online community; this web-based location includes all program materials, schedule, and online materials, as well as a private discussion forum where you can interact with one another and with your instructors.

The Intensive program may also be taken in two parts, A and B.

In order to help you, and us, determine if you are a good fit for this format, there is a short screening form which we ask you to submit before you register.

tuition: $3400 ($3900) Part A or B $2300 ($2540) + accommodation & meals.

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tuition: $3400 ($3900) + accommodation & meals.

Living Alive Phase II

Our participation in relationships is to be curious, take responsibility for ourselves, and believe that others can do the same.

An exploration of self and other APR 28–MAY 23 Gillian Enright & Gisela Sartori (LIT) Part A APR 28–MAY 10, Part B MAY 11–23 Sexuality & Identity (participants may invite a guest) MAY 3–9 Relationships (participants may invite a guest) MAY 11–14 Living Alive Phase II focuses on how we see ourselves, how other people see us, and the ways we establish and maintain our relationships. The program is designed to give you a deep experience of yourself as you interact with others, whether in close and intimate encounters or more casual ones.

During this program, you will have opportunities to:

• Discuss relationship issues such as commitment, dependence

and independence, jealousy, vulnerability and defensiveness, security and self-discovery.

• Invite a partner to enroll in the three-day Relationships section of the program (see haven.ca for description), or work with a partner from the Phase group.

• Examine your relationship to gender, sexuality, sensuality, intimacy, spirituality, and personal strength in the Sexuality and Identity section (also open to partners).

• See yourself as others see you and try out new ways of presenting yourself, with extensive use of video and group feedback format: This program involves extensive work in the large group, including time for self reflection, and work with partners, plus regular evening small-group sessions. A wide range of activities is offered in a safe and respectful environment where personal choice is always respected. Participants also have the opportunity for individual appointments with the program leaders. The program may be taken in two parts, A and B. tuition: $3400 ($3900) Part A or B $2300 ($2540) + accommodation & meals.

Living Alive Phase Intro Teleconferences Speak with the program leaders to find out more!

Living Alive Phase I Integrative

Tuesday Dec 9, 2014 at 6 pm Sunday Jan 11, 2015 at noon

Living Alive Phase I Intensive

Tuesday Jan 13, 2015 at 6 pm

Living Alive Phase II

Sunday Feb 15 2015 at 6 pm

Call toll free on 1 866 951 1151 and enter Conference Room number 2260848#

My life has been completely changed by this program, for I have learned to live with presence and joy as I truly am. r.c., living alive phase i

From Memory to Memoir OCT 16–18 Ellery Littleton This program provides a creative approach to the writing of memoirs. It offers opportunities to reclaim the most important moments of your life and transform them into intimate narratives. The intensive journal-writing process employed during this meditative, inwardly-focused program stimulates both memory and creativity. The memoirs participants write in this program represent the heart of their life stories. There are many good reasons to learn to write them:

• Writing for posterity – remembering so we don’t forget • Broadening self-awareness and exploring personal identity • Finding your own voice and writing style • Clarifying the purpose and meaning of your life • Discovering what is sacred in your life tuition: $410 ($450) + accommodation & meals.

Our Body’s Tell A body reading program APR 3–6 Marlies Dahler Successful poker players know if the other players have a good or bad hand by reading certain physical signs - the ‘Tell’. At The Haven, a person’s ‘Tell’ would be the expression of their defences or their character armour, created from long-held tension and/or trauma. This armour gives us our character flavour; our unique way of being in the world. However, when these defences become chronic we are unlikely to fully engage in life.

In this program, you will become more effective at interpreting defences by:

• Identifying and interpreting body stances • Listening for voice tone, location of the voice and vocal patterns

• Looking for incongruency • Noticing subtle communication clues • Becoming more discerning with body messages • Learning ages and stages of child development • Being able to read the stories our bodies tell tuition: $515 ($575) + accommodation & meals.

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Personal Parenting

The Power of Direct Mirroring

OCT 16–18 Denise Goldbeck

APR 23–26, OCT 29–NOV 1 Cathy McNally & Wendy Huntington

This program is for parents, grandparents and caregivers who want to explore and improve their relationships with their children. This process will have a positive impact on their children’s growth, their own sense of self, and their connections with partners and other significant adults. The emphasis is on developing personal, empathetic relationships amongst adults and children.

In this program, participants learn about and practice direct mirroring, a style of feedback that nurtures honest, intimate relationships. Early in life, we adopt messages from others as the ‘truth’ about ourselves. If these remain unexamined, they can shape our lives in unhealthy ways. A deeper understanding of this process is beneficial in relating, parenting, health, making congruent decisions, managing employees, and working with colleagues and team members.

• Learn to adapt the Haven Communication Model for children at different stages of development

• Express deep feelings around parenting and learn to

incorporate responsible expression into your daily life • Develop compassion for yourself as a parent • Explore how your own childhood impacts your parenting • Create in your adult relationships a healthy environment for your own growth and that of your children format: The program will include ideas drawn from developmental psychology and time for group processing and questions. There will be opportunities to practice communication and to explore and express feelings through breath, movement and other experiential forms. Come with your parenting partners if you can. tuition: $410 ($450) + accommodation & meals.

The Power of Balance Embrace love and conquer fear to live fully JUN 5–7 Laurie Anderson & Kim Hudson There are two fundamental drives in the human condition, love and fear. Every day we take in huge amounts of information.

Subconsciously we attach a fear or love emotion to the useful information when choices are necessary. We choose to pull in what we love and push back against what we fear. The key is to consciously recognize the fear and love based worlds, and how to move optimally from one to the other.

Understanding these two central forces, and how and when to draw upon them, opens our lives to bring balance between deeper meaning and clearer direction; between joy and safety; between enhanced relationships and goal achievement.

The program’s main themes are

• Undertanding the light and shadow sides of fear and love • The operating systems of both worlds • Identifying and working with archetypal energies in each world • Combining this knowledge into an individualized pathway towards personal transformation

tuition: $410 ($450) + accommodation & meals.

This program is for you if you want to:

• Unhook from depending on others for self-definition • Be less defensive and reactive in significant relationships • Explore and reduce habitual self-hatred and self-doubt • Form your own opinions rather than abandon yourself to those of others

• Increase your flexibility and creativity • Improve health and wellbeing for yourself and others by

ending patterns of giving, receiving, and believing distorted feedback • Express your inner experiences more clearly in relationships format: This program is an opportunity to reflect on the ways we limit our full expression and creativity and assess the ‘fit’ of our preconceived beliefs about self-esteem, body and self-image.

Through a range of experiences, participants will exercise their capacity to update messages that no longer fit, and practice direct mirroring. tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

Process Work Approach to Transformation JUN 19–23 Gary Reiss Many of our biggest struggles are in the area of body symptoms and relationships. We often experience ourselves as victims of these difficulties. Process Oriented Psychology has developed powerful methods for helping us unfold the meaning and deepest energies present in our body and relationship issues. Our tools for this journey include movement, meditation, dreamwork, bodywork, and creative expression, and various forms of relationship processing. As we connect to our deepest selves, our stuck places become fluid again and transformations can occur.

• Discover the meaning and energy behind your body symptoms • Learn how to facilitate your own and other’s process behind their body symptoms

• Find out about your relationship myth • Make conflict more fluid and easy • Learn exciting new methods for creating more love, sex, and intimacy

format: This program will consist of theory, working with individuals and couples in the middle, dyads, triads, and a large group process. Process Work needs to be experienced and thought about. tuition: $795 ($875) + accommodation & meals.

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The Quantum Laugh FEB 20–23, JUL 24–27 Carole Ames It may sound corny however laughter really is one of the best medicines. The Quantum Laugh fully employs Haven models and concepts (and some new ones) to help you feel better and to be more effective with whatever is on your plate in life. The Quantum Laugh will energize you, ignite your creativity and refresh your ability to see life’s challenges differently. You’ll laugh yourself into a whole new appreciation of life and your ability to get more of what you want in your life. And it is enormous fun too!

This program is for you if you are:

• Interested in shifting your energy, mood and perspective • Willing to laugh at yourself and your world through a re-framing of your experiences

• Looking for new ways to express passion and access creativity • Seeking ways to enliven your relationships and expand your ways of connecting

• Curious about exploring more of your emotional landscape, including what your humour masks, and reveals

format: This is a full-on experiential program which is both fun and challenging. There are creative opportunities to investigate, explore and instigate humour, and to use these as a launch pad to shift your experience in the world. You will explore, create, play and puzzle with what’s funny and what isn’t, and why humour is such an underrated form of therapy. Be prepared to let go, and leave room to be surprised.

Self-Compassion: Making Friends with Your Self NOV 20–23 Wayne Dodge & Jo-Ann Kevala The joy and good humour of self-compassion stand in contrast with the harshness of self-hate. This program explores both ends of this polarity. It will benefit anyone who has tried to be the person they ‘should’ be and, in the process, lost touch with the person within. The program offers an expansion and exploration of the Haven Selves Model that is presented in Come Alive. However, you do not have to have done Come Alive to learn from this program.

This program is for you if you:

• Recognize self-harming patterns in your health or relationships • Have found outward success but inner emptiness • Experience destructive addictive tendencies • Experience self-hate • Care for others, but not yourself • Want to become your own best friend format: Using music, guided imagery, gestalt, art, stories and other experiential forms, you will have an opportunity to learn about the paths that lead you away from yourself, and explore paths that can direct you towards self-acceptance. We will explore blame and victimhood, patterns of striving that lead to self-hate, and a variety of ways we can move toward self-compassion. tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

In order to be fully alive, we must recognize that we are each responsible for creating our relationship with our selves and with the world around us

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Sensational Contact

Skills 2: Group Leadership

The body in communication

DEC 3–6 Wayne Dodge

APR 23–26 Jane Olynyk & Gillian Enright

This program explores aspects of leading various types of groups, including group formation, designing group experiences and interventions for common problems and issues. It is intended for clinicians and those who supervise staff or lead groups in settings such as volunteer agencies, as well as students in The Haven’s training programs, and Haven assistants and group leaders.

This program focuses on the role of the body in how we communicate. Communication is often assumed to be primarily a mental activity, an exchange of ideas, thoughts, and only occasionally, feelings. Yet it is our bodies that attend to collecting information and sensing our internal and external world. Our bodies respond to all our interactions.

• Open and deepen your communication • Focus on your body process while in communication • Experience static and non-static energy, grounding, and

energetic boundaries • Explore your beliefs about the body • Use body experiences to free up habitual patterns • Distinguish sensations from feelings, to open and create a greater range of sensational responses, and awaken to contact format: Sensational Contact includes activities such as drawing, self-regulatory energy exercises, dramatic forms, movement, visualizations, group sharing, and presentations. Energy models presented include: the chakra system; the medical model of neurological systems; Traditional Chinese Medicine; extra-sensory perception; the Haven models; and body tracking techniques.

Participants in the program will:

• Increase their discernment in group situations • Recognize when to use various methods of work in the group • Learn how to use counter-transference clues to understand events in group

• Learn at least one intervention that is helpful for each group situation examined

• Increase their leadership competence format: This program includes presentations and discussion, as well as demonstration and practice. Participants are encouraged to look at their own experience to develop understanding of working successfully with others in group settings. The group formed by participants in the program itself provides a valuable learning ground of group process. tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

tuition: $570 ($630) + accommodation & meals.

The Singing Soul: Improvisational A Cappella SEP 25–28 David Hatfield The Singing Soul is for people who are ready to let go of ‘getting it right’ and embrace letting it just happen. Participants will hone the arts of the improviser: deep listening, spontaneous expression, fluid awareness of self and others, working with change, and trusting intuition. In a circle of support, they’ll also strengthen their abilities in creating melodies, harmony, vocal percussion and bass lines. It’s a swingin’ swayin’ funk bump afro gospel sacred soulful blues chant jam feelin’ mash-up!

Strengthen your abilities to:

• Sing spontaneously, freely, skillfully, and with self-trust • Accurately hear pitch, rhythm and musical form • Fly with others in soulful, freewheeling counterpoint • Create lyrics and tell stories in your singing • Experience new roles and genres in your music-making • Access fresh possibilities through improvised movement and

free-form writing • Improvisational abilities also add significant value to creative problem solving, community building, and addressing conflict. format: Sessions begin with physical and vocal warming, improv style! A wide variety of clearly outlined structures are offered, for the full group, small groups, duets and opportunities for soloing; each of which generates different experiences and outcomes. tuition: $535 ($595) + accommodation & meals.

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Skills 4: Projection & Transference FEB 20–23 Wayne Dodge This program is an opportunity to directly explore the processes of projection and transference. The extent to which we see our preconceptions in another person, is the extent to which we fail to make direct contact with that person. As we project our own needs, desires, assumptions and processes onto others around us, we miss the person themselves. This projection underlies transference, counter transference, prejudice and contempt.

By exploring these processes we can find ways to understand and work with them in the service of respectful, equal, contactful relationship. These are issues of great value for anyone intending to lead groups, supervise staff, or work in the helping professions.

Participants in the program will:

• Increase their awareness of their own process • Learn to use counter transference clues to understand interactions

• Consider how and why transference can be helpful and learn methods to increase or decrease it

• Learn appropriate and ethical approaches to transference • Be able to recognize different types of transference • Increase their leadership competence format: This program includes lectures, discussions and experiential exercises. Participants are encouraged to look at their own experience to develop their ability to make contact with others in both their personal and work relationships. tuition: $585 ($645) + accommodation & meals.

Soul Voice JUN 26–28 Karina Schelde You are invited to dive deeper into the voice you may have forgotten but your soul remembers. As you let yourself go into the feeling of your sounds and allow them to guide you, you will start to unravel the layers of your own subconscious where genuine healing can really take place.

format: Experiences will include individual movement meditation and prayer, small group work using movement with words, and whole group circle dances. Processes will be drawn from mindfulness practices, sensory awareness, and Authentic Movement. No previous movement experience is necessary. Please bring a short piece of writing that has personal and spiritual meaning for you. tuition: $415 ($455) + accommodation & meals.

In this program, you will:

The Spirit Journal Intensive

• Discover your voice’s healing abilities • Come to know your own voice’s unique resonance • Tap into suppressed issues and through that free your creative

MAY 14–18 Ellery Littleton

expression

FORMAT: Working individually, in pairs, and with the group, you are guided through powerful exercises in this predominantly experiential journey. A safe and sacred space is created for a predominantly experiential journey. Open to everyone, no experience necessary. tuition: $585 ($625) + accommodation & meals.

Spirit in the Song SEP 20–25 Eric Bibb Writing songs is an exciting way to update our connection to ourselves and the people around us. Spirit in the Song is a creative workshop designed to explore the liberating process of following an inspired idea on an inner journey to the birth of a new song.

Led by well-known singer/songwriter/guitarist Eric Bibb, a long time friend of The Haven, this workshop offers an opportunity to meet new friends and share the joy of finding ‘the spirit in the song’ together. The program includes an opportunity to perform on stage with Eric Bibb and others. format: A piano or keyboard will be available. Please also bring your portable instruments. Experienced songwriters and newcomers welcome! tuition: $825 ($925) + accommodation & meals.

Spirit Body Soul Dance Spirituality through movement NOV 6–8 Catherine Fallis In most ancient and indigenous cultures, movement is an integral part of worship and the ritual celebrations of community life.

Many of us have lost touch with the power of our moving bodies to enhance our connection to deeper sources of both individual and collective wisdom. In this program, creative movement, gesture, and sign, are seen as expressions of the wholeness of life, and the sharing of personal and community awareness.

• Have a more embodied experience of your spirituality • Bring movement into your worship and religious life • Experience prayer and meditation through the body and movement

• Explore illness or injury as a spiritual journey • Celebrate life in community with others

This expanded four-day program takes place in a meditative, non-judgmental atmosphere. It provides even more time and space for you to experience a variety of wide-ranging personal writing explorations and the profound insights they generate.

This unique program is:

• part journaling workshop • part story circle • part creative-writing seminar • designed with you in mind – if you long to write deeply about your life …

• and in the process, liberate and revitalize your personal writing.

Through the intensive journal-writing process, you are able to see your life issues and patterns more clearly than ever. And in the seeing comes the moving - toward understanding, growth, change and healing.

Here is an evaluation from a 2014 participant: “I thought the program might be useful in my quest to return ‘home’ to myself. And it was. What did I like best about it? The instructor’s wisdom. The ease, safety and relaxed atmosphere.

The gentle support and acceptance of each of us.” tuition: $820 ($900) + accommodation & meals.

Stirring the Cauldron An erotic workshop for women JUL 31–AUG 3 Elfi Dillon-Shaw This weekend retreat is for women of every age and lifestyle who want to taste the full energetic potential of their erotic body.

Sexual energy flowing through the body allows for a more fulfilling erotic life, whether we are in relationship or not. The purpose of arousing this energy is to strengthen our Chi — life energy — for healing purposes, erotic autonomy, and just plain fun!

• In celebration together we will support each other to let go of old ways of living in our body

• Through exercises from the tantric and taoist traditions, we will experience the flow of sexual energy

format: In an atmosphere of consensuality and confidentiality, women will have the opportunity to experience themselves as sacred sexual beings. Knowing that erotic exploration can be fraught with barriers of shame, tension and anxiety, we respect these as each woman’s individual space is honoured. tuition: $510 ($570) + accommodation & meals.

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Teens Alive I, II & III

Understanding People

Identity, relationship and independence for teens

From DSM-5, to the big 5, and 5 elements

Teens Alive I AUG 7–10; Teens Alive II AUG 10–13 Teens Alive III AUG 13–16 Linda Nicholls & David Raithby

NOV 12–15 Geoffrey Carr

Teens have an important opportunity in these programs to develop a stronger sense of ‘self’. If you can learn to communicate clearly from strength, you can improve and deepen friendships and relationships and learn to be emotionally selfsupporting rather than dependent on family and others. Teens Alive is designed to encourage you in this process.

Why do people say and do the things they do? In this program we will explore diverse approaches used to understand differences between people. Participants will gain perspective on the overarching issues and pitfalls of trying to categorize people into types or diagnoses, as categories or dimensions. We will examine the methods that we rely on for categorization and diagnosis, from diagnostic interviews and psychological testing to taking the meridian pulses, with consideration of their validity and reliability. We will explore a few approaches in more depth, in particular the DSM-5, the new diagnostic system of the American Psychiatric Association. We will contrast how widely differing approaches might classify the same people, comparing the DSM-5 with the research-based Big 5 personality dimensions, and the 5 Elements of Classical Chinese Medicine.

Teens Alive is for people from 14 to 19 who want to:

• Be comfortable speaking their truth in a responsible way • Develop stronger self-esteem and self-acceptance • Be less defensive and more outgoing • Make relationships work • Deal with conflict • Discuss topics such as vocation, school, sex, music, violence, drugs, parents, family, authorities

• Have fun and get to know other teens • Enjoy The Haven’s beautiful surroundings and facilities format: Teens Alive is divided into three parts, which run back to back and build one on another. Participants can attend one, two, or all three parts; they can be done all in one year, or over two or more years. The only requirement is that they be done in order. Teens will stay at The Haven with a parent or guardian.

Participants under the age of 16 require the leaders’ agreement to take Teens Alive III. tuition: $615 ($675) per program + accommodation & meals.

Uncommon Sense OCT 23–25 Sarah Fleury & Ashanti Fraser Uncommon Sense is an “open concept” group which uses a variety of methods including radical energy release work, meditation, movement, feedback, personal encounter, attunement and numerous other liberating techniques to deepen self awareness and access the state of freedom and truth you can be living every moment.

Generalized areas of focus for the weekend include support to connect with a deeper, more meaningful sense of self; exploring creative lifestyle changes; strengthening your connection to the physical, emotional and sexual aspects of your being; challenging limiting beliefs; the welcoming of change and transformation; and the expansion of consciousness in everyday life.

So, come and free up life energy that may be blocked or inaccessible; let go of fixed ideas about yourself and the universe; allow for a greater degree of openness and transparency of being; benefit from the company of other people; exchange notions of security with the realization of love; and feel the limitless life and spirit in your being. tuition: $410 ($450) + accommodation & meals.

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The program emphasizes the importance of trying to understand people from an empathic, compassionate stance based on each person’s history and experience.

This program’s main themes are

• Introduction to psychiatric diagnosis (DSM-5 & ICD-10-CM) • Deeper exploration of specific diagnoses of interest to participants

• Reflection on underlying reasons and meaning for “symptoms”

This program is suited to helping professionals, including students and Haven interns (others considered upon request). Participants will learn what different diagnostic labels mean, but will not become qualified to diagnose. The program will include a combination of instruction, interaction, and experiential work to improve understanding of oneself and others. tuition: $605 ($665) + accommodation & meals.

Visit haven.ca regularly for added programs and updates … and sign up for our monthly email newsletter.

Contact our registrars for program information: register@haven.ca 1 800 222 9211 Ext. 1

Two Haven Specials: Unplugged & The Toolkits The Haven Unplugged

The Haven Toolkits

SEP 13–17

IN VICTORIA MAR 14 & 15 Facilitators TBA IN VANCOUVER APR 18 & 19 Jennifer Hilton & Toby Macklin

Haven Unplugged is an opportunity to give back to The Haven by volunteering your time and skills for special projects around the property. We can offer all kinds of work according to skills, interest and ability. Please let us know when you register if there is any kind of work you are not able to do and what skills and interests you have.

There will be evening group sessions facilitated by Haven faculty members or assistants. cost: We offer shared accommodation, meals and facilitated evening sessions at a special rate of $40 per night, a total of $160 for the whole Unplugged. If you do not need accommodation, the cost is reduced to $100.

See haven.ca for details of times and venues.

More Toolkit weekends are being planned for later in the year.

These very affordable, one-day workshops will give you, your friends and your families effective tools to communicate better and strengthen your relationships. They are also a great introduction to The Haven, offering a very substantial taste of what to expect in core Haven programs.

Each weekend comprises two one-day workshops:

• The Haven Communication Toolkit Building Clarity and Connection

• The Haven Relationship Toolkit Deepening Connection

The Heron building in the Haven garden

cost: $30 per person per day If you are new to The Haven or bringing someone new. Otherwise $50 per day.

Group Bookings The Haven is the perfect, natural setting for conferences, meetings, planning sessions or retreats. Our stunning oceanfront property accommodates up to 100 people.

We are just 20 minutes by ferry from Nanaimo and within easy traveling distance from Victoria and Vancouver.

Facilities we offer include:

• A range of meeting rooms set up to suit your needs.

Our auditorium can seat 180.

• Comfortable accommodation, private and shared, for up to 100 guests.

• Buffet-style meals in our waterfront dining room.

• Wireless internet access on most of the property.

• Internet access and word processing facilities.

• Hot tub, gym and seasonal outdoor swimming pool.

• The Haven’s bodyworkers, offering a variety of ways to de-stress, relax and revitalize.

A number of Haven faculty members are available to facilitate meetings and workshops.

“Thank you for all your care and attention while at The Haven on this beautiful island … We all felt nourished by your delicious food and held by the warmth of your hospitality.” a conference group

For prices and more information contact Louise Amuir or Olivia Leigh: louise@haven.ca or Ext. 222.

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The Haven Faculty Haven faculty members are gifted leaders, educators and group facilitators. They are highly qualified and widely experienced, and are committed to living the principles they teach.

The leaders of The Haven’s core programs – Come Alive, the Living Alive Phases I and II, and Couples Alive – have all trained rigorously at The Haven. As part of our commitment to maintaining the highest of standards and ensuring that The Haven continues in perpetuity, we are actively training new leaders for these key programs. We are excited at the vitality and range of experience these leaders-in-training are already bringing to our programs.

Carole Ames BES, DipC, MTC is the founder of Creative Pursuits, through which she provides facilitation, counselling and consulting. Her excellent communication skills, creativity and insight have been key in her 30-year career working with people. Associated with The Haven for over 20 years, she has assisted and led Come Alive and Living Alive Phase I since 2000, as well as her own programs, including The Quantum Laugh Laurie Anderson PhD, is the Executive Director of SFU Vancouver, and a consultant for personal and professional growth. Laurie has taught for 30 years, across North America and in Asia. His recent work helps people enhance their lives through understanding the light and shadow sides of both the love-based and fear-based worlds. Laurie co-facilitates workshops in this area with Kim Hudson.

Eric Bibb was born into a musical family and has been singing, songwriting, and performing since a young age. Surrounded by greats like Pete Seeger, Odetta, Paul Robeson, and his father Leon Bibb, he learned music and life at the feet of people who were masters of both. He performs regularly at The Haven, and leads Spirit in the Song.

CrisMarie Campbell BS, MBA, DipC, Martha Beck Certified Coach is co-founder of Thrive! Inc. with Susan Clarke. Together they work with organizations and teams to create trust, effective communication and strategic alignment. An Olympic rower who knows what it takes to create a championship team, she also knows the joy of tapping into her own intuition and creativity as an artist and actor. She leads Come Alive and Couples Alive.

Geoffrey Carr PhD, R.Psych, CPT-S completed his training in clinical psychology and neuroscience at McGill University in 1985. He has been a professor of psychology both at UBC and SFU. A Registered Psychologist in BC for 25 years, he is an expert in the assessment and treatment of children and adults at all levels of court in British Columbia, and has both published and taught on psychological assessment. (www.geoffreycarr.net)

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Al Chambers has a PhD in Therapeutic Counselling, a Masters in Counselling Psychology, a Diploma in Counselling and a degree in Business. He has worked for over 25 years in therapy and psychology, has taught at universities and colleges and leads programs throughout Asia and Canada. He is also a trained Trauma Counsellor. He has led Come Alive for 15 years.

Susan Clarke MA-ABS, DipC has worked for more than 20 years leading and facilitating groups, conducting conflict resolution, and teaching communication effectiveness. Her journey through a life-threatening illness has given her a depth of experience and a commitment to living life to the full. She leads Come Alive, Living Alive Phase I and, with CrisMarie Campbell, Couples Alive.

Ian Curtin BComm, DipC, MTC is President of IC Possibilities Consulting Inc., a company specializing in facilitating dialogues within and between organizations, relational leadership and teamwork, and the art of living change. Associated with The Haven for 18 years, he has assisted and led Come Alive since 1999.

Marlies Dahler DipC has been intrigued with the concept and practise of ‘embodiment’ since first coming to The Haven in 1995. Learning how to be ‘in her body’ has been crucial for her personal growth. For many years, she has been passionate about working with marginalized people, many of whom communicate by non-verbal means.

Elfi Dillon-Shaw RMT, DipC is a registered massage practitioner, bodyworker and educator with more than 20 years’ experience fostering pleasure and well-being. In addition to offering bodywork at The Haven she teaches programs on sexuality, body practices and stress management, frequently with her husband Gary Dillon. She has worked at The Haven since 1983.

Gary Dillon MA has studied psychology, theology, and movement therapy, especially Esalen massage and Hawaiian shamanic bodywork. He has wide experience in Taoist and Western esoteric transformations of Eros and offers a vision of sexuality and spirituality moving together. He teaches with his wife Elfi Dillon-Shaw.

Wayne Dodge MD, MPH, DipC is a family physician in Seattle, Washington. He has been the Clinical Director of an 18-practitioner Medical Clinic and currently administers the AIDS program for a large medical organization. Associated with The Haven since 1981, he leads Come Alive, Living Alive Phase I, New Horizons Phase III, Self-Compassion and the Skills programs.

Gillian Enright RMT, MTC, BA, DipC, Cert Gerentology is an accomplished teacher in health body dynamics. She is a Somatic body worker and counsellor as well as a registered massage therapist.

She has 23 years of post-traumatic counseling experience with youth, families and communities.

Associated with The Haven for 20 years and leads Come Alive, Living Alive Phase II, Sensational Contact, and Connective Touch.

Catherine Fallis PhD, RCC, DipC has used movement and the expressive arts in her work for more than 25 years in private practice and in the public school system in the Vancouver area. She studied Dance/Movement Therapy at the Naropa Institute in Boulder, Colorado, and has a PhD in movement therapy and spirituality from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco.

Marlyn Farrell CLSC, CJEA, DipC has worked as a trainer of lay counselors and employment facilitators, and has nearly 20 years’ experience leading creativity-based healing workshops. Associated with The Haven since 1984, she has worked with such diverse groups as professionals, at-risk youth, and people with mental illness.

Gerry and Judith Fewster Ph.D. are senior psychotherapists and educators who direct one of eleven international IBP institutes dedicated to the advancement of human potential through relationships (see www.ibponline.org). In addition to 200hour IBP foundational trainings, in 2015 Judith is presenting the IBP introductory program Body, Self and Soul, with Margaret Gayle.

Ashanti Fraser MEd, DipC, CCC and Sarah Fleury BComm, DipC have been working with groups of people throughout North America for a combined total of over 55 years. They draw on a wide variety of healing and spiritual traditions including Western psychology, Eastern traditions, bodywork, hypnosis, meditation and attunement as well as experiences in business, education and public service. Their website is www.sammasati.com Margaret Gayle PhD is a master therapist, author and educator on faculty at Antioch University. She is a gifted facilitator and co-leads Body, Self & Soul Introductory Programs as well as 200-hour IBP foundational trainings at The Haven. Eleven post secondary IBP International Institutes are devoted to the enhancement of human potential through relationships (see www.ibponline.org). The British Columbia IBP Institute offers psychotherapy and allied health professional certification programs as well as 200-hour basic training.

Maria Gomori MSW, DipC, PhD is the world’s foremost practitioner and teacher of Satir processes.

She is an Approved Supervisor with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and a retired Associate Professor of the University of Manitoba. She studied and worked with Virginia Satir for over 20 years and is a member of The Haven’s Emeritus Faculty. To mark her 94th birthday in 2014, The Haven published an updated edition of her autobiography, Passion for Freedom.

Greg Gurel RPC became involved with Anger, Boundaries and Safety in 1994, led then by the program’s creator and Haven Director of Education, the late Joann Peterson. With his passionate enthusiasm for anger exploration and his fun nature, Greg now leads Anger, Boundaries and Safety and runs a private counselling practice in Vancouver.

David Hatfield has led improvisational a cappella workshops nationally and internationally since 1997. He was the conductor of the improv choir House of Song. His experience ranges from street performing to off-Broadway, from fully choreographed to fully improvised. He holds a diploma in Jazz Studies and is completing an M.Ed. in Social Ecology.

Jennifer Hilton CEC, DipC, Nia® Green Belt, is an empathetic coaching practitioner, facilitator and a student and teacher of the Nia Technique®. Jennifer has a Graduate Certificate in Executive Coaching from Royal Roads University. She teaches Deep Listening: Core Skills for Coaching with Cathy Wilder and Communication Fundamentals with other Haven leaders. Learn more about Jennifer at www. takethenextstep.ca Mary Sullivan Holdgrafer MEd, DipC, is a skilled creativity and meaning coach and group facilitator, and an accomplished contemporary quilt artist. Working especially with women in mid-life and beyond, she uses creativity as a means of personal growth and healing. With kindness, warmth and gentle humour, she has taught at The Haven for more than 10 years.

Jane Geesman MFA has over 30 years’ experience as an actor, director and teacher and has trained and led programs at The Haven since 1993. A former member of the Portland Actors Conservatory faculty, she and Sarah Lucht lead workshops for actors, attorneys, and other business professionals who want to build confidence and ignite creative energy while improving performance skills.

Susa Holt ND, PA-C, DipC is a naturopathic physician with over 20 years’ experience blending western allopathic and alternative medicine and body/ mind awareness. Associated with The Haven for more than 20 years, she recently received a Master’s degree in Organizational Design and Renewal, and has a special interest in designing and supporting systemic change in organizations, groups and individuals.

Denise Goldbeck MA, PhD cand., DipC, RCC is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a BA and Masters from Simon Fraser University in Experimental Psychology. She is a candidate for a Doctorate in Education. She is the creator of the Kids in the Spotlight (KITS) program, in its 28th year at The Haven, and leads the Youth Leadership Training program under KITS. She also leads Personal Parenting and First Night in the Spotlight.

Kim Hudson is a leadership consultant, author and geologist specializing in First Nation engagement.

Kim’s diverse experiences include being a federal Land Claims land negotiator in the Yukon, a story structure consultant, an advisor to First Nation governments on mineral management, and a facilitator of personal and professional growth courses.

Kim is the author of The Virgin’s Promise: Writing Stories of Feminine Creativity, Spirituality and Sensuality and cofounder of Balanced Leadership.

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Wendy Huntington PhD, MA, LMFT, DipC is a family therapist, group facilitator, and teacher. She specializes in addiction issues and works clinically with people in groups and in private practice.

Associated with The Haven since the early 1990s, she leads Come Alive, Healing Stitches, and The Power of Direct Mirroring.

Cathy McNally BSc, DipC is an accomplished communication specialist with over 30 years’ experience in management, training, consulting, and counselling. For many years she led and created a number of programs with her husband Ernie McNally, who died in 2014. This year she is leading Communication Fundamentals, Couples in Conflict, and The Power of Direct Mirroring.

Derek LaCroix QC, PhD, DipC practiced law for many years and has been an entrepreneur and a corporate executive. He is the Executive Director of the Lawyers Assistance Program of BC. Since 1987, Derek has made personal development, spiritual growth, and working with others his life focus. He has led and assisted Come Alive since 1994.

Donna Melville is a Certified ChiRunning instructor who has been running for 28 years and coaching for 12. She completed her instructor training four years ago with Danny Dreyer, the founder of ChiRunning, and has taught under the supervision of a master Instructor. Several Haven programs have furthered her understanding of body sensing and balance.

Wen-Shwu Lee DipC and Rich Wilmer DipC have had years of personal experience related to addiction and recovery. Having experienced an eating disorder and workaholism, Wen-Shwu began training at The Haven in 1997, receiving her DipC and Graduate Certificate in Executive Coaching in 2008.

She is now an executive coach, program leader in Canada and China, and a Haven core program leader-in-training. Rich struggled with alcoholism before joining AA in 1999, and started his Haven training around the same time. He achieved his DipC in 2013 and has been supporting junior AA members on their paths to recovery for eight years.

Ellery Littleton has offered writing programs at The Haven for over 20 years, and is a true Haven “elder.” The supportive, non-judgmental atmosphere of his programs encourages people to take creative risks with their writing and in their pursuit of self-awareness. He leads The Spirit Journal Intensive and From Memory to Memoir. His most recent book – Hummingbird Tattoo – was nominated by the American Haiku Foundation “Touchstone Distinguished Book Award” for 2011.

Linda Nicholls DipC, MTC, PhD is an adventuresome and masterful group facilitator who integrates her diverse background experiences (business, counseling, coaching, working with shamans, to name a few!) as she focuses with participants interested in personal transformation and strengthening relational skills. She has developed and taught energetically engaging seminars on five continents.

Linda worked extensively with The Haven’s founders Ben Wong and Jock McKeen and with Maria Gomori in Canada and in Asia.

Sarah Lucht BA, AEA, SAG combines 25 years as a professional actress and acting teacher with 13 years of training and leading programs at The Haven. She studied theatre at the University of Oregon, with further studies in Los Angeles and London. She is on the faculty of the Portland Actors Conservatory.

Jane Olynyk DTCM, BA, DipC is a seasoned counsellor, licensed acupuncturist, and group facilitator and is The Haven’s Director of Intern Training. She leads Sensational Contact and Connective Touch (with Gillian Enright), and Dynamic Empathy (with Toby Macklin) as well as Come Alive and New Horizons Phase III.

Toby Macklin MA, DipHCS leads Come Alive and Living Alive Phase I, as well as Dynamic Empathy and Communication Fundamentals. He has worked on a wide range of programs in Canada and China.

As a writer, editor and graphic designer he has collaborated closely with Haven founders Ben Wong and Jock McKeen, most recently in The Illuminated Heart, Being: A Manual for LIfe and Joining: The Relationship Garden. He lives on Gabriola Island with Rachel Davey and their two children.

Bob Owen DipC, LMP, CMHC is a massage practitioner and certified mental health counsellor. His marriage to Ruth Emerson is the inspiration for his work with couples. Associated with The Haven for 25 years, Bob and Ruth were instrumental in the development of Relationships and the Sexuality and Identity section of Living Alive Phase II.

Sandey McCartney MA, DipC is a compassionate and skilled facilitator, educator and therapeutic counselor with over 35 years’ experience. Associated with The Haven since its foundation, she coleads several programs with her life-partner David Raithby. Together they have designed and led numerous programs in Canada and Asia, including Anxiety, Stress and Passion, and the Couples Alive series.

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Mitch Miyagawa is passionate about communication that connects, and reconciliation in our personal lives and around issues of national importance. Having taught Nonviolent Communication with his mentor Penny Wassman since 2013 he strives to continue with her work in the years to come. For a decade Mitch was immersed in researching, writing and coordinating projects related to cultural diversity. He received the 2013 Writer’s Guild of Canada’s Screenwriting Award.

Lyle Povah leads African drumming and music events worldwide, offering programs in hospital, conference, child and adult mental health, corporate, corrections and community settings. He is a musician/educator, drum circle facilitator, writer, researcher, and children’s entertainer, with particular interest in health and wellness, intergenerational learning, spirituality, psychiatric and eating disorders, youth-at-risk, and autism.

David Raithby DipC, MEd, RSW has an intuitive and heartfelt style, and values honest and caring relating. He brings a wealth of skill and experience into creating and leading his many personal and professional development programs at The Haven and internationally. Associated with The Haven since 1979, David leads and co-leads a diverse range of programs with his life partner of 30 years, Sandey McCartney, as well as with Linda Nicholls.

Gary Reiss LCSW, PhD is a certified trainer in Process Oriented Psychology. With a private practice in Eugene and Portland, Oregon, he teaches Process Work worldwide. His specialties include family therapy, sex therapy, working with coma patients, world work in hot spots including Israel and Palestine, organizational development, and integrating process work with different spiritual traditions. His nine books include Dance of Sex, Dreaming Money, and Vital Loving.

Gisela Sartori MA, DipC, RCC is a passionate group facilitator and counsellor, known for her engaging, direct, and inspirational leadership as well as for her warmth, sensitivity, and loving. A Registered Clinical Counsellor, she also has training in IBP, Hakomi, and Mindfulness. Guiding and accompanying people on their journey back to themselves, and encouraging them to access deep inner knowledge and bring it forward into caring relationships, she is a Haven core program leader-in-training.

Massage Therapy, Craniosacral, Reiki, Chi Nei Tsang Elfi Dillon-Shaw 1 877 247 9504 elfi@heartcoretouch.com Lomilomi & Transformational Movement Therapy Gary Kekoa Dillon 1 877 247 9504 jacobdill@shaw.ca Reflexology Suzanne Partridge 250 668 9937 SCPartridge@shaw.ca Jin Shin Do Acupressure Martie Robinson martie.gabriola@gmail.com Structural Integration Duncan Fraser 250 247 0015 duncan@bodyspiritcentre.com Yoga/Yoga Therapy Kelly Price 250 713 6082 kellypriceyoga@gmail.com www.kellypriceyoga.com

Karina Schelde, founder of Soul VoiceTM International, has touched thousands worldwide by the compelling and leading-edge method of Soul Voice. She is an internationally recognized pioneer in her field with 30 years of professional experience in alternative healing. Her books include Soul Voice and Expression into Freedom; her CDs include Chakra Sound Healing and Heart Songs and Song of the Soul.

Leslie Whyte MTC, DipC, Certified Calling in “The One” & Feminine Power Coach. Leslie brings curiosity and caring to her work as a group facilitator, counselor and transformative coach. Her capacity to integrate and embody a wide range of lived experiences and feelings allows her to engage caringly with others and inspire them to transform.

Associated with The Haven since 1989, she leads Come Alive and Body Stories. www.lesliewhyte.ca Cathy Wilder PhD, MEd, RCC, DipC is a creative and compassionate group leader, counsellor and coach.

Her capacity for embodying a deep range of human experiences and feelings has opened pathways for others in personal transformation and professional development, resulting in greater health and more satisfying relationships. She leads Come Alive and Deep Listening: Core Skills in Coaching.

Philip Winkelmans MA, PhD has facilitated his Intuitive Healing programs at The Haven for ten years. For over 30 years he has studied and taught systems for enhancing intuition, inspiration, and creativity through psychospiritual technologies. He is author of The Art of Purposeful Being: Your Destiny Project.

Massage and Other Bodywork Various forms of massage and other bodywork are available at The Haven. Our bodyworkers are exceptionally gifted and have extensive personal experience of Haven programs, both as participants and facilitators. They will work with you respectfully, relationally, and in support of your learning at The Haven. For many people bodywork sessions are an integral part of their Haven experience.

Contact the bodyworkers in advance to check availability and to book a session.

Massage • Reflexology • Reiki • Chi Nei Tsang • Lomilomi Hawaiian Bodywork • Structural Integration • Cranio-Sacral Therapy • Jin Shin Do Acupressure • Four-handed Lomilomi • Transformational Movement Therapy • Yoga /Yoga Therapy

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The Haven Resonance Model This model is taught in Come Alive, the Living Alive Phases, and other programs at The Haven. Our Ideas in Action booklet contains this and several other Haven models. Printed copies are available from The Haven and it can be downloaded from our website: www.haven.ca/resources The Haven Resonance Model describes how people commonly relate to one another in families and society, and with friends and partners, through a basic dynamic of caretaking, pleasing, and conforming. It also describes the possibility of relating on a deeper, more satisfying level, through the revealing to one another of our inner selves. The model is an invitation into self-responsible relational living.

The model begins with the idea that each one of us is a unique expression of a sea of ‘universal energy’, which might also be called God, or Ch’i. We are born into this world, individuated but still connected to this sea, as unique, pulsating patterns of free-flowing energy. Two such individuals are represented in the diagram, as a circle and a triangle.

As we enter this world, however, we are dependent on others for our survival. Our parents are the first people we encounter in this caretaking role, and we soon learn how best to win their attention, by pleasing them and conforming to their expectations.

This first experience is replicated in many different arenas as we grow up and move through life. The square in the diagram therefore represents our parents, and also, more generally, the norms and demands of the society we grow up in, expressed through the authority of family, community, education, religion, and so on.

Our response to the demands of this caretaking square is to surrender much of our individual difference, in order to please, to conform, to fit in – ultimately, to become ‘square’ ourselves. Even if we ‘rebel’ against the demands of society, we still tie ourselves to it by living in reaction against it. As we continue along this path the free flow of our energy begins to contract and freeze. This is represented in the diagram by the boxes around the circle and the triangle. As these boxes rigidify, we begin to lose our connection with universal energy (shown in the diagram with three small lines below the boxes).

Often, we set out to recover a sense of connection through seeking love and relationships. In place of our original connection to one another through universal energy, we learn to ‘take care of’ and ‘look after’ one another (as represented in the diagram by the arrows between the circle and the triangle). This is society’s dominant paradigm of what ‘love’ is, and it is what we have most experienced in our upbringing. In developing our primary and other relationships, we look for people we can look after and who will take care of us. Again we surrender our individuality and strive to please. The cost of this is that we further abandon our

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Another way to connect is through a process of self-revelation and sharing. We think this is the process that so often begins in Come Alive and other programs at The Haven. As people begin to breathe and experience their feelings and share these with one another, other members of the group experience their own feelings in resonance. A kind of ‘thawing’ takes place and the rigidified boxes around each of us begin to melt and soften. We can then reconnect with the universal energy of which we all are a part and begin to relate to one another through that energy as well as through the various roles of our lives. In so doing we can add greatly to the quality of our lives and relationships.

The two other models described in The Haven’s Ideas in Action booklet, as well as the concepts of power and strength and the suggestions for breathing, can help us introduce into our relationships this kind of connection through self-revelation, sharing and resonance. Breathing, the Communication Model, and the self-compassion cycle are tools we can use to gradually soften the boxes we have constructed around ourselves and learn to relate to one another in deeper and more satisfying ways. In relationships of this sort we can know ourselves better and experience clarity, loving and connection.

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Facilitated by graduates of our Diploma program, these groups meet in cities around Canada and the United States. Staying Alive is for you if you want to further explore the ideas presented at The Haven. The groups offer opportunities to deepen your awareness of yourself, practice personal and interpersonal skills, and explore a range of issues. For details, visit haven.ca/resources and contact one of the leaders.

Haven Coaching Haven Coaching is intended to assist and support you as you integrate your Haven experience into your life at home.

This form of coaching is designed to foster a collaborative relationship between the coach and client. The focus is on growth and transition, with the intention of formulating action plans to attain a client’s desired outcome and create fulfillment.

Being and Joining (2013) are revised editions of Ben Wong and Jock McKeen’s most-loved books, with in-depth discussions of the central themes of Haven core programs including Come Alive and the Living Alive Phases.

To learn more about the Haven Coaching program and to read about the individual coaches, visit the Haven Coaching page under haven.ca/ resources.

To book your coaching session, contact the Haven coach of your choice directly by email or phone. You can also experience one FREE 20 min starter session to discover how Haven Coaching works.

The Haven App Now available for the iPhone, iPad, iPod touch and Android devices!

Check out these learning resources only available on the App.

• The 5-5-5 communication exercise, complete with instructions, timer and random topic generator.

• Timed and guided Haven-style breathing coaching.

The Haven App also includes links to upcoming programs.

The Illuminated Heart (2012) offers a panoramic and detailed view of the theoretical roots of Haven teaching.

Passion for Freedom (2014) is the inspiring autobiography of Maria Gomori, from her escape from a Nazi death march to a long association with Virginia Satir and The Haven.

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- Revised and Expanded By emphasizing the distinction between anger and violence, Joann Peterson shows that anger is a feeling to be valued and explores ways in which we can express it in safe, responsible, non-violent ways. By doing so we can greatly enhance our health and our relationships.

Based on a five-day course Dr Peterson has developed and led over some 15 years in North America and Southeast Asia, and drawing on more than 40 years of personal and professional experience in the field, this book contains theoretical models and practical ideas that will challenge you to transform your view of anger and the role it plays in your life.

Joann Peterson MSW, ACSW., Dip. C., Ph.D is Director of Education at The Haven Institute for Professional Training on Gabriola Island, British Columbia, Canada. This is a revised and expanded version of her acclaimed Anger, Boundaries and Safety, first published in 2001.

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Travel Information: Getting Here Is Easy!

The Haven is on beautiful Gabriola Island, one of British Columbia’s Gulf Islands, between the mainland and Vancouver island.

People come to The Haven from all over North America, as well as from Europe and Asia.

Gabriola Island is • 20 minutes ferry ride from Nanaimo • 15 minutes by float plane from Vancouver Airport, south terminal

Nanaimo is

• 20 minutes by float plane from downtown Vancouver or YVR • 2 hours from Vancouver by ferry • 1½ hours from Victoria by car

Contact details the haven

1 800 222 9211 www.haven.ca

bc ferries

1 888 223 3779 www.bcferries.com

gulf island seaplanes

1 800 665 2359 www.gulfislandseaplanes.com

harbour air

1 800 665 0212 www.harbour-air.com

greyhound bus

1 800 661 8747 www.greyhound.ca

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1 888 247 2262 www.aircanada.com

nanaimo airporter 1 888 758 2133 www.nanaimoairporter.com gabriola taxi

250 247 0049

gabriola bus (gertie)

250 668 6809 www.gabriolacommunitybus.com

Gabriola Island is a 20-minute ferry ride from Nanaimo.

Inspiring the Spirit of Adventure

In the Community The Haven is an integral part of the Gabriola Island community.

The Wong and McKeen Phoenix Auditorium is probably the finest venue on the island for music, theatre, and dance. Further enhancing Gabriola’s reputation as The Isle of The Arts, in 2014 we once again partnered with the Gabriola Arts Council for our Artist-in-Residence program. We also host community meetings and workshops organized by local groups. Our programs attract people from around the world, who contribute to the local culture and economy in many ways.

The Haven is a long-standing member of the Gabriola Island Chamber of Commerce and we are one of the largest employers on the island, offering year-round opportunities. Wherever possible we rely on local businessess to meet our needs. We are donors to the Gabriola Medical Clinic and support a number of local charities.

We are proud to be part of this vibrant community and are grateful to all our friends on the island for your many contributions to our work and to the lives of the people who come to The Haven.

www.haven.ca 1 800 222 9211 250 247 9211 info@haven.ca

Join our Circle of Giving Become a Friend or Partner with monthly or annual donations The Haven is a not-for-profit charitable organization in Canada and the US. To finance specific parts of our work – Financial Aid, Youth Leadership, and our new Capital Campaign – we rely on generous people like you.

• Become a Haven Friend for as little as $5 per month or $100 annually.

• Become a Haven Partner for $50 per month or $1000 annually.

Thank you to our Haven Partners (listed below) and Haven Friends (too many to fit in here!), who help bring curiosity, compassion and self-responsibility to a world sorely in need of what The Haven has to offer!

David Beckwermert Andrew Bing Corey Blades Joann & Eric Byres CrisMarie Campbell & Susan Clarke Kristina Campbell Sue Clarkson Chriss Corbett Dai Jie Rachel Davey & Toby Macklin Wayne Dodge Ken Faris Gao Wei & Wang Fang John & Carolyn Gill

Golden Thread Foundation Simon He Wei Qiang & Annie Huang Yee Susa Holt & Bryan Croeni David Hu Daping Roland Jarrett Norm Johnson Shana Johnston & Dave Goossen Laurie Kelley & Scott Poole through Hummingbird Foundation Dale Kelly Gadi Kenny Jo-Ann & Rob Kevala Catherine Lord

Tia McDiarmid Maggie Lei Li Li Min Jock McKeen Joan McNeely in memory of Michael McNeely Mark Norman Al Schultz & Leona Kolla David Skinner Julie K Steward Sun Yafang Dave Unsworth Anna Weiers Cathy Wilder Two anonymous donors

Financial Aid Celebrates 10th Anniversary!

2014 was the 10th anniversary of Haven Foundation and the Financial Aid program. In that time more than 700 adults and children have received interest free loans and bursaries totalling more than $750,000.

Haven Foundation’s Financial Aid program assists those with limited incomes or financial difficulties to attend programs at The Haven.

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To apply for Financial Aid, download the information pack and application form from haven.ca/participants-info or contact louise@haven.ca

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To donate to Financial Aid, visit haven.ca/giving or contact louise@haven.ca.

As a registered charity in Canada and the US, we give tax receipts.

the capital campaign Invest in The Haven’s future! financial aid Join 78 monthly donors and 125 annual donors. youth leadership Join 8 monthly donors and 20 annual donors.

88 adults and children received Financial Aid in 2014, with a budget of $84,000.

louise amuir manages The Haven’s Fundraising & Financial Aid programs

For more information visit haven.ca /giving or contact Louise Amuir

✆ 1 800 222 9211 Ext. 222 ✉ louise@haven.ca

“Thank you for helping me learn to practice courage. I see a future for myself that I never thought I would.”

S, a financial aid recipient

“In my 20-some years of attending Haven programs I have come to trust the integrity of this foundation.

Thus I believe my money is well spent for the betterment of society and the world. I am grateful!” AW, a donor

The Haven Facilities Masterplan The Haven Facilities Masterplan is the most comprehensive planning project ever undertaken in our 30-year history. The intention of the Masterplan is simple: to have the facilities at The Haven match the high quality of the programs and faculty who lead them. The Masterplan represents the best collective wisdom and vision for the institution and will serve as a road map for site development, infrastructure, landscape, building renovation and new construction.

The Facilities Masterplan report can be downloaded from haven.ca in summary and in full. The next 5–10 years promise to be an exciting time, as we plan for and execute two new lodge buildings. In 2015 and 2016 we will be undertaking a number of projects that constitute Phase 1 of the Masterplan, the ‘Front Door’. These projects include investing to improve the Heron, Phoenix and Thunderbird buildings; moving the parking lot and improving the entrance to the property; building a new underground 100,000-gallon water cistern and hydro and septic infrastructure projects.

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The Haven is an exceptional institution creating a relational world where every person is whole and responsible for themselves and their environment, and where all life is met with dignity and respect, open curiosity, and loving compassion.

• Loving • Freedom • Integrity • Respect • Joy • Self-responsibility

• Curiosity • Self-responsibility • Communication • Relationship • Embodiment • Experiential Learning • Personal Fulfillment • Inclusion

Thank you to generous donors who have combined their vision for the future of The Haven with ours and, through their financial support, enabled us to move ahead on the Masterplan and Phase 1 projects: David Beckwermert; Mark and Sandy Gunderson; Laurie Kelley and Scott Poole; Shana Johnston and Dave Goossen; Al Schultz and Leona Kolla; Anna Weiers.

Here’s to the future of The Haven!

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For more than 30 years, we have developed innovative approaches to teaching and learning, challenging thousands to define and shape their lives.

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the haven 240 Davis Road Gabriola Island, BC Canada V0R 1X1

Tel. 250 247 9211 Fax 250 247 8454 Toll Free 1 800 222 9211 info@haven.ca

haven foundation board of directors Thomas Beshr Andrew Bing Alphonso Franco Mary Holdgrafer Dale Kelly Jane Kilthei (director candidate) Dea Lloyd Cathy McNally (Chair)

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executive director Rachel Davey rachel@haven.ca • Ext. 235 assistant executive director Dennis Marriot dennis@haven.ca • Ext. 215 contacts Registrars Morag Ruckman, Tina Boehm, Cindy O’Dell, Naomi Melnyk register@haven.ca • Ext. 1 Reception info@haven.ca • Ext. 0 Group Bookings, Fundraising & Financial Aid Louise Amuir Group Bookings Planning Olivia Leigh louise@haven.ca • Ext. 222 Catalogue designed by Toby Macklin in November 2014.

Main front and back cover photos by Sam Mak (sammak@ telus.net). The front cover uses a detail of the glasswork dragon and phoenix by Christopher Smith in the Bing Room at The Haven. Inside front cover photo by Wen-Shwu Lee. Other photos by Chris Finlayson, Sam Mak, Nicholas Halpin, and Jackson Buchanan.

The inside pages of this catalogue are printed on FSC®certified 100% post-consumer recycled paper; the cover on FSC®-certified 60% post-consumer, 100% recycled paper.

Printed by Hemlock, named the Most Environmentally Progressive Printer in Canada for six consecutive years.

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