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32 Real Life: She never knew that leaving her husband would mean losing her children too.

68 my JOURNEY: Vuyi Mpofu shares how her childhood passion has her motoring through a man’s world.

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34 The people’s professor, Dr Sheila Tlou of Botswana, on serving humanity.

16 guest blog: Shanêy Vijendranath celebrates modern dads.

44 EOA tea break with the Queen of African Luxury, Côte d'Ivoire’s Swaady Martin.

40 Uncovered: The spirit of 1976 is alive in Africa today.

66 Living single by choice!

78 VOICES OF THE CONTINENT: The youth are speaking out!

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128 The Final Word: Tumi Morake on being ‘Daddy’s Girl!’

52 SELF-EMPOWERMENT: The child and victim archetypes in depth psychology.

54 money: We talk to three successful women who have made it to the top of their careers!

60 WOMEN’S NETWORK: Meet Nthabe Zondo’s EXCO, a network of women who inspire and support each other.

84 MAN FEATURE: Is women empowerment causing the decline of the alpha male?

70 PARENTING: Seven ways to boost fertility.

74 YOUTH SPECIAL: South Africans who embody the essence of youth, regardless of age!

82 Health: Heart disease in women.

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FASHION INTERVIEW: Thabo Makhetha’s ‘Kobo Ea Bohali’ signature range celebrates Sotho royalty.

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REAL WOMAN: Penelope Galane says you only live once!

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114 ENTERTAINMENT Q&A: Singer Wanda Baloyi shares what drives her.

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ED’S LETTER EOA

80/20 RULE Thought to self: I can’t have it all. I repeat this to myself in the midnight hours as I formulate this letter: I CANNOT HAVE IT ALL!

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ow many women out there have chosen to end their lives and destroyed that which they had over the little of which they were dispossessed? How many of us cry over the small bit where we feel we fall short without truly recognising that what we do have is a surplus and not a deficit?

I salute women who embrace the journey of the 80/20 rule. I don’t have to be a statistician or economist to be a believer. Some women are gifted in academics or have a powerful career; others are blessed with families and children, and even a husband or two (some are married to more than one husband). This said, you can’t have it all.

At one point I thought I had it all; I was convinced that I had arrived. But I now know that I was wrong. I wish I had looked around me long enough to realise that no one has it all. You might think this is a pessimistic view, but I am utterly convinced that we were not meant to have 100 percent of everything, otherwise why would we need others to survive?

Our cover star this month, Swaady Martin, shares her personal ambitions with us, and tells us about her journey to success. But hers is a cautionary tale as she emphatically warns our readers that nothing comes easily and of the importance of not falling into the trap of thinking that you can have everything.

This has made me think again about my situation. I know that I have 80 percent and perhaps it will take me another decade to reach a new state of fulfillment, and when I do, I might lose something else. The thorn in my flesh is there to keep me grounded. It brings real pain that awakens my consciousness to the fact that I am a woman. I am a mother.

I am a daughter. I am a businesswoman. I am a friend. I am a soul, a spirit, a being, created and sustained by the very breath of God. I am…

It’s important to not buy into the picture of perfection that keeps you feeling like you are not enough. Even that woman who seems to have it all – plenty of money, the perfect skin, beautiful hair, a great husband and well-behaved, talented children – has cracks if you look closely enough. There is pain in perfection and no masterpiece is created without the smallest of hidden faults.

This month, I urge you to ask yourself, where does your 80 percent lie? Then focus on that and not minor 20 percent that is missing.

Woman, know yourself; all of you can never ever be a deficit! You are a surplus, even without having it all. Remember, you (yes, you!) and me are all that!

It’s a going to be a long journey... let’s make it an enriching one!

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ADVICE TO MY YOUNGER SELF In celebration of Youth Month, we asked EOA contributors what they would say to their younger selves if they could turn back time.

“I have a lot that I would tell my younger self. I would say: ‘Stay humble, fight hard for love and for your dreams, establish good habits, save, stay active, play and allow yourself to eat a cheat meal once a week. Listen to your parents and elders; even if you don’t take their advice; it’s how true wisdom is shared. Love your family. Watch your elder siblings and don’t let their mistakes be yours. Real friends are rare and more important than many friends. Being able to compromise is not a sign of weakness. Get to know a version of you that you like and love and stay true to that person… it will get you through all that life has set up. Most importantly, every day, in every way, you will get better.”

Zelia Michaels Shangase, Features Writer

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My younger self paved the way for the woman I am today and am yet to become. I am an African Babushka doll… I say this because with each generation of Tracy that I meet, I find a new African doll moulded inside.

Young Tracy was unbearably timid, uncertain of her value and place in the world. Today I would tell that precious baby doll that she should be proud of how truly beautiful her colours were and that they would one day leave lasting impressions on many young children just like her.

Teen Tracy was restless, her spirit troubled by emotion and outrage.

I would tell that Babushka with the sadness in her eyes how pain, abuse and injustice could be used as tools to craft a new reality. Twenties’ Tracy’s unquenchable thirst for knowledge fuelled her hunger for a deeper connection to humanity and spirituality. But this Babushka’s exterior chipped easily when met with resistance, her self-confidence resting solely in the brutal opinions of others. I would remind her of her purposefilled life, one that was ordained not by man, but by the most High.

Thirties’ Tracy got swept up in the turmoil of loves and losses, and went wild with experimentation in every sphere of life. A totally new Babushka emerged, her voice impassioned by experience. If I met her again, I would smile with pride and give her an encouraging wink, but warn her that not every risk has a reward. Proceed with caution, my Babushka!

And now, Forties’ Tracy, we meet… still young, you’ve been reborn with the spirit of an activist and the heart of a lion. Looking back, you are a struggle hero! Imbued with the lessons learned by her Babushka sisters, this Tracy is forging ahead on her journey of self-discovery as a confident and proud South African. E Tracy Maher, Deputy Managing Editor

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Your letters My new favourite I stumbled upon EOA two issues back and fell instantly in love! The magazine filled a void that I knew was there, but that had never been satiated by anything that was on the shelves. Since then, I have been recommending it to family and friends; I decided to ‘Like’ and ‘Follow’ you on Facebook so that I could easily share with my contacts the gem I had discovered in your baby. I applaud you for a fantastic mag and hope and pray you’ll continue being this refreshing and wholesome. I was, however, a little bit concerned when I read some of the articles on Facebook that had typos and hope you’ll tweak them so that you continue to grow into the giant that you’re destined to be.

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DAD, VIJE, AND DAUGHTER, KITANA, VIJENDRANATH

What does your husband/partner do that makes motherhood easier for you and makes them the best dad ever? Share your stories with us using the hashtag #bestdadever. @EssaysOfAfrica or letters@essaysofafrica.com.

CELEBRATING MODERN DADS

On her journey through motherhood, Shanêy Vijendranath has found that it’s the seemingly little things that modern dads do that make them so fantastic.

10 Things Modern Dads Do That Make A Difference: 1. Change Diapers Although many still find this difficult to do, 80 percent of dads are now changing diapers on a daily basis, even in public.

This has become comedy hour between a father and child, which can end up in messy clothes and even a shower for Daddy.

2. Cook I wish my husband could cook for me! I’ve seen many dads who share the cooking

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with their wives. Once in a while it’s nice to get spoilt with someone else’s cooking.

There are many ‘Master Chefs’ in our own kitchens just waiting to get discovered.

3. Gives Mommy Some ‘Me Time’ I love the idea of babysitting and giving mom some free time to do her nails or catch up with friends. For my husband, babysitting is teaching our daughter Kitana photography.

4. Shop Alone I’ve seen many dads shop alone with their kids at the mall and I wonder how they do it? It often ends up with the children leading the dads rather than the dads being in control... not to mention what gets put in the shopping trolley.

5. Play Dress-Up/Tea Parties My husband and daughter, Kitana, play dress-up all the time. My daughter loves it when her daddy paints her nails and wears her crown. It is more about creating memories with your child in their comfort zone than about the actual game, and there’s nothing wrong with this. After all, moms become superheroes/villains with guns and swords all the time.

6. Put Baby To Sleep Whether it’s to feed baby, change a dirty

diaper or soothe them back to sleep, dad is there, humming his favourite tune from The Transformers.

7. Attempt To Clean Dads are now sharing the chores at home, even though he may forget to sweep under the couch.

8. Selfies What’s a day without weird photos with your kid?

9. Quality Time Many dads will forgo a guy’s night out for a family night in with a Disney movie that they have watched many times over.

10. Daddy Chauffeur Whether it’s to drive around the block to lull the baby back to sleep or making the school run, dads have become more involved in the family taxi business. E

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hen we speak about children, we often forget to appreciate the dads of today.

I think that they deserve more credit than we give them.

Things have changed! Modern society now gives dads more freedom to do what they want without judgement or criticism.

After meeting many incredible dads this past year, I’ve noticed how the roles have swapped. Many are work-from-home dads and a few are even stay-at-home dads by choice – they stay at home, watch the kids and help with the housework. Let’s not forget the single dads who play the roles of both mom and dad.

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The 4me range has made its way into the hearts and closets of many South African females! Now Rage has taken this more affordable range, previously limited to shoes only, and expanded it to include clothing. Rage invited fashion darlings of the South African blogosphere, Palesa Mahlaba (@simplypalesa) and Crystal Kasper (@newhipsterstyle), to kick off the campaign and launch of the 4me Clothing Range. They reminded all fashionistas that fashion can be aspirational, but at the same time attainable, and allowed them to delve into the world of fashion without feeling guilty! The 4Me Clothing Range is currently available in Rage Clothing store nationwide.

HAVE MORE FUN WITH YOUR CLOTHES!

Custom-made clothing sounds like a luxury few can afford, but that is changing. Enter Tash & Lo (founded in 2014), a company that encourages women to have more fun with their clothes by choosing the fabric and design. Tash & Lo will customise an outfit that is perfect for you for any occasion. Visit Tashandlo.weebly.com for fashion style advice and tips.

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Created in partnership with G-Star, Bionic Yarn, Parley for the Oceans and co-designed by Pharrell Williams, RAW for the Oceans is the answer to ‘wearing the responsibility for big blue’. Every piece is constructed from innovative bionic yarns, a strong, high performance fibre made from recycled ocean plastic to combat the global issue of plastic pollution. In the Autumn/Winter ‘15 collection, washeddown denim and distressed jeans take centre stage for both men and women. Finished to replicate years of wear, they are a new and lighter take on the pioneering denim from recycled ocean plastic. Alongside its denim core, the collection also offers a range of ultra-soft tees and sweats, as well as caps, shorts, plus a playsuit for ladies. Spearheaded

by Parley for the Oceans, RAW for the Oceans is part of the Vortex Project, an initiative to rid ocean of plastic debris and raise awareness of its harm to the environment and create alternatives to plastic. The RAW for the Oceans collection for Autumn/Winter ‘15 is available at www.gstar.com and in stores. E

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the Roses Zinhle Mthembu challenges men to up their game and not be afraid of successful women. have three children.”

I say it and carefully watch the black brother turn navy blue. This is a perfect way to eliminate less than favourable prospects. In some way, the concept of ‘divorced but not deterred’ tends to scare most brothers; throw three children into the mix and most of them are out of the door before you can utter the word ‘dinner?’

A seed was planted in me years ago whilst I was sitting on my couch consuming different media messages on a regular basis.

I was raised in a family with limited television channels, and the 8pm Generations soapie was the highlight of our evening.

That, I recall, was my first encounter with advertising. All the youngsters I grew up with viewed the life of an advertising executive as glamorous and engaging and I slowly and inaudibly aspired to be a ‘Karabo’ or even a ‘Jason’. I would have never verbalised my dreams because at that time it seemed a dream that was too big to achieve. I wouldn’t dare tell any of my friends either, lest I became the object of their mockery.

Fast forward to 2015 and I am working with a team of creatives and designers who regularly conceptualise brilliant, jaw-dropping campaigns. Perhaps not as glamorous as I had anticipated 15 years ago, but an amazing career to embark on nonetheless. The finished product on the billboard, television, radio, print ad or TV screen may not credit us, but the barely legible miniature keyline in advertising jargon explains a lot to the relevant people.

What drives us are the high-fives every time we successfully execute a campaign, the client’s positive returns on investments and the

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awards – that is what we strive for. This is similar to the dynamics defiant women are constantly trying to change in society. They are not always recognised, but they continue to make difference behind the curtains and the relevant people do notice.

The advertising world is a fantastic place for women to leverage their creative talents in a variety of ways that can help clients achieve their marketing goals. Women are currently outnumbered in the creative departments of ad agencies, with the silent whispers claiming that perhaps women aren’t as creative as men. Are we oblivious to the fact that women control 80 percent of consumer spending, while only 3 percent of creative directors are female? That means that 97 percent of males in advertising are making the decisions about how to best sell products to us women!

Advertising requires one to be determined, decisive, creative, meticulous and market savvy, amongst other things. I am yet to meet a woman who does not carry one or more of these qualities, which are important if we want to change the current dynamics.

Instead of being afraid of pursuing a successful woman, men should embrace her success as part of what makes her so attractive.

Whether they meet a woman on the ladder to success or one who has already achieved a measure of success, they need not be threatened; rather, they should consider it as a positive trait and perhaps even a challenge to up their game! E

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The reality is that there are many divorced career-focused women out there who are not damsels in distress looking for a stepfather for their children, but rather a companion with the right qualities.

I call these women all-rounders and Essays of Africa magazine represents these women well. EOA is breaking new ground, with its refreshing and different content. Perhaps that is why I love this magazine, because it epitomises the lives of the ordinary women with struggles, ranging from relationships, children and friendships to health and career. The constant challenge for women is attempting to manage all these aspects of our lives with or without a life partner.

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CULTURALLY in style

habo Makhetha (above) is an affable young woman with a knack for thinking way beyond the scope of any fashion box.

These characteristics have been key in the establishment of her fashion label, aptly of her namesake, as her work is beautifully reflective of her personality. A Lesotho native who refers to herself as a ‘South African proper’, Makhetha has been vastly influenced by her various environments and cultures, including that of her Xhosa husband.

But no matter how far or for how long she travels, Makhetha’s identity always steers her back to her birthplace, hence the designs for which she has become known are reflective of an unmistakable Mosotho heritage. Our interview with Makhetha divulges a snippet of a complex personality and the large influence it has on her emerging brand.

to Cape Town and then Port Elizabeth, where I am currently settled, I have had quite a diverse cultural upbringing.

Regardless of where I live, I am Mosotho.

Although I am influenced by high fashion trends, I wanted my brand to be undeniably Sotho. So Thabo Makhetha is a combination of Western trends, with a strong cultural influence.

Q: Who is Thabo Makhetha and how large is the influence she has on Thabo Makhetha, the brand?

I have loved fashion from a very young age, so by the time I reached matric it became obvious that I would study fashion design and that my career path would lead in that direction. Having been born in Lesotho, which I left when I was three for Mafikeng where I grew up, then on

Q: Do you have any other influences that inspire your work?

Every other day I am a different character; there are days when I wake up feeling quite sporty or glamorous and so my designs are as varied my personality. I do a lot of cocktail and wedding pieces that are influenced by different cultures, including Xhosa and Ndebele. Most of my designs are made to order and my clients come to

Q: Why did you choose to the ‘Kobo Ea Bohali’ as your signature collection?

At the time I was designing an outfit for one of the Durban July events with the theme, ‘Royalty’. I then decided that I wanted to use African royalty as my inspiration and chose to base it on my Sotho heritage. I felt like the sishweshwe design and print had been too commonly used and as it also associated with the Tswana culture, I opted to use dikobo material, which is uniquely Sotho and culturally symbolises the Basotho people. That’s how the ‘Kobo Ea Bohali’ Collection emerged.

WORDS: ZELIA MICHAELS SHANGASE. IMAGES: SUPPLIED BY STYLING CONCEPTS PR.

Her ‘Kobo Ea Bohali’ signature range celebrates Sotho royalty and her name is quickly becoming luminary in fashion.

Thabo Makhetha spoke to EOA about her place in the world of fashion.

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international that it is of good quality and this is not always true. here are many local brands and designs that are of a very high standard of quality and workmanship.

Q: If you could dress anyone, who would it be?

I have always wanted to dress Basetsana Khumalo. She is exactly the type of woman I make clothes for, a businesswoman who is stylish, elegant and well respected. me because they know that I can combine culture with Western designs.

Q: What kind of women do you design clothes for?

My clothes are designed for stylish women, such as businesswomen who are not afraid to wear proudly African designs in the workplace and who want to make a statement that says: ‘I am from Africa and I like it here.’

Q: Do you create designs for men?

Yes, I do tailored shirts for men as well as some traditional items. I am currently working on men’s jackets and I definitely have more men’s designs in the pipeline.

Q: Who is your ultimate design icon ?

I have two design icons that I completely love – Alexander McQueen, a British fashion designer, and Basil Soda, a designer from Lebanon. I was shocked to hear that Basil actually passed away recently and yet very little said about it in the industry.

Both men incorporate historical and cultural references in their designs, which is something obviously very close to my heart. But what really inspires me about them is the flawless quality of their work.

They obviously put a lot of time and effort into ensuring that their designs are of an impeccable quality. This is a great ideal for me because it is the kind of care that I take with my own designs. People often think that just because a brand is

Q: What fashion tips do you have for those who want to dress better?

Don’t be in denial about your body shape; embrace it. Too many women come to me with a picture of a celebrity wearing a fashionable design and want me to make it for them, and I often have to tell them that it won’t look the same on their body because their body shape is completely different. It is better to wear clothes that suit your body than trying to keep up with the trends. You don’t have to follow a trend to be stylish – go with what works for you.

Q: What is the future of the Thabo Makhetha brand?

We are currently focusing on the online store. We would obviously like to grow internationally, but we are establishing and building the brand a lot more locally. I don’t want the brand to become ‘something that was’. People should not think that we are just another brand that is relevant now and will disappear in time to come.

Q: How can people find your designs?

There is the Thabo Makhetha website, where people can keep up with the all the work that I am doing. We are also quite visible on Instagram, which is a great tool because people can see our designs and often select items that they want from there. I can also be reached on e-mail. E

FIND THABO MAKHETHA DESIGNS ON: Website: www.thabomakhethadesigns.co.za Email: design@makhetha.co.za Instagram: @tmakcc Blog: thabomakhetha.tumblr.com

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LIVING IN A NIGHTMARE Refilwe* knew that separating from her husband would be difficult, but she wasn’t prepared for her children being taken from her in the process.

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n 2008, when Refilwe’s daughter from a previous relationship was just nine months old, she met Mandla*.

The then-34-year-old was a ‘charming’ and ‘inspiring’ businessman who, according to Refilwe, made her feel like the most important person in the world. “His care for my daughter also made me think I had a good thing going with him,” she admits.

Two years later, Mandla and Refilwe were married in a traditional Xhosa ceremony, but they never signed any legal documents. “I was accepted by his family and he was accepted into mine,” Refilwe recalls. “We came from different cultural backgrounds, so we always knew a fair amount of compromise and negotiation would be required. But we were on the same page that time.” She adds, “Love can make you overlook the obvious and ignore the little, and sometimes not so little, signs of trouble.”

WORDS: HELEN HERIMBI. IMAGE: ©ISTOCK.COM.

REJECTING THE RED FLAGS One of the signs came in the form of a curiously inside-out shirt that Mandla was wearing when he came home at six o’clock one August morning in 2012. Refilwe suspected that he may be cheating on her. Being heavily pregnant with their first child together and unable to believe his explanations of his whereabouts and the shirt, the couple agreed to go to therapy. “We tried to work through the issue, which the therapist identified as a betrayal of trust,” she shares, “but he refused to continue with the therapy because he said that the therapist was on my side.”

From that time, Refilwe admits that she could not share her husband’s bed, so she slept in another room. In 2013, their daughter was born and this was about the same time that Mandla’s business began to struggle. To help with the household income, Refilwe took up a job in the communications field but she was only able to work for 10 months before Mandla stormed into her workplace in April 2014.

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“He was convinced that I would meet someone else and leave him,” she remembers, explaining how Mandla came to her office one day and harassed her in full view of all her colleagues. “He grabbed me by my bra strap and yanked me around when he thought no one was looking.

He took the glasses from my face, saying that he had bought them for me, took the car that he had ‘bought’ for me, and demanded his house keys and just about everything that he believed was his,” she says with sadness. Fearing for her and her daughters’ safety, Refilwe didn’t return home that night. That, coupled with the fact that she could not trust him anymore, Refilwe made the decision to leave Mandla for good.

She asked her parents to come up from Cape Town to stay with her daughters while she looked for a place for her and the girls to stay. A month later, she was ready to move the girls in with her and requested to meet Mandla at a restaurant to talk. “The minute I mentioned that I was ready to take the girls, he grabbed the glasses off my face and took those car keys from me as well,” Refilwe says of the encounter. She continues, “I got up to leave, fearing that he was about to attack me, when he jumped up and violently grabbed me by the arm. He told me that I was nothing and that I would never get the children. He twisted and bruised my arm, and the security guards, restaurant staff and patrons came rushing out to get him to release me. He finally did and I ran and hid in the toilet.”

Traumatised, Refilwe called the police and opened a case of assault against Mandla. She was granted a protection order, which she still has. The morning after the restaurant incident, Mandla sent Refilwe a text message saying that he ‘hadn’t been in his right frame of mind and I could come and collect the girls’.

THE ULTIMATE BETRAYAL The children stayed with Refilwe for six months while the assault case dragged on. Several people thought it wise to just

drop the charge, which Refilwe admits regretfully to doing. Two weeks later, Mandla filed a charge of child neglect against her and the children were taken to live with Mandla.

“When they arrested me, he was standing in the field next to my complex with all his friends watching as the police drove off with me,” she remembers. “I spent three days in a holding cell in Randburg with 16 other inmates. It was frightening!” Refilwe says. A week later this criminal charge was dismissed, but Mandla did not stop there.

“He took a picture of a nappy rash that had long healed, an affidavit from a helper that I had fired after working for me for four weeks and an affidavit (now discovered to be false) to the Children’s Court,” Refilwe explains. Pending the outcome of the investigation, which took longer than seven months, the children stayed with Mandla, and Refilwe was not allowed to contact her daughters for two of those months.

“Now I get to see the girls twice weekly, supervised by a social worker,” she says. “It breaks my heart not knowing what they are doing, eating, feeling and thinking every day.” Once the social worker’s report has been finalised and presented to the magistrate, closing arguments will be made and the magistrate will rule.

Refilwe says, “I pray sanity prevails and the magistrate sends the girls back to me, where they belong.”

Throughout this ordeal, Refilwe has taken steps to ensure that she is financially and emotionally stable for her children’s return. She was asked to speak at a conference in Europe earlier this year, offered a brilliant new job and has been house hunting. It’s important to Refilwe that other women learn from her journey. She advises, “Past behaviour is a good predictor of future behaviour.

Get yourself a good lawyer. I’ve learned there is nothing I cannot face, that I am more resilient and stronger than I ever allowed myself to believe.” E *

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Professor Sheila Tlou has always excelled in her various roles. These days she is making her mark on society through her work with UNAIDS. ndoubtedly, she is an admirable woman of excellence. Professor Sheila Tlou is truly a gift to Botswana, to Africa and to the world, and the current Director of the UNAIDS Regional Support Team for Eastern and Southern Africa, presiding over 22 countries from Eritrea to South Africa. Professor Tlou is not only an unstoppable woman on a mission; she is also a warm, generous and vibrant spirit. One look at the life she is living, her innumerable achievements over the decades and her amazing plans for

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the future, and it is evident that her life’s journey has been marked by dedication to a higher purpose.

OVERCOMING STRUGGLES It is common knowledge that girls and women, especially those from economically disadvantaged backgrounds, are extremely vulnerable when it comes to accessing lifeimproving opportunities. And as the gap between rich and poor continues to grow larger, it is these girls and women who often slip through the cracks. It was in her childhood that Prof. Tlou realised

that being African and female in a patriarchal world meant that she would have to work twice as hard to surmount the structural challenges that come with occupying this identity.

Her first experience of misogyny occurred in Grade 9 when she had scored the top academic marks in the country.

Diamonds had just been discovered in Botswana and De Beers was offering Mining Engineering scholarships to the top three students. “They said, ‘It’s a pity that you’re a girl because we’ve already given scholarships to the two boys. You won’t get one because, being a girl,

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WORDS: LEBOHANG MASANGO. IMAGES: SUPPLIED BY PROFESSOR SHEILA TLOU.

you’re going to go to London and get married to a Caribbean and you won’t be of any benefit to your country.’”

Although she admits that she had no interest in Mining Engineering, it rightly stung that she was denied simply because of her gender, despite her grades being higher than the boys who were awarded. She refused to be discouraged by such experiences, even with the regular teasing she endured from male schoolmates who taunted ‘Who will want to marry you?’ because of how intimidated they were by her.

She laughs, recalling that she’d always retaliate by saying, “I’m going to marry a professor, none of you nincompoops!” And she did; she married Professor Thomas Tlou whom she lovingly remembers as “just one of those perfect human beings.”

EXCELLENCE AS A WAY OF LIFE A PhD in Nursing Sciences from the University of Illinois, the Botswana Presidential Order of Honour (PH) and the Florence Nightingale Award from the International Red Cross Society are just some of the astounding accomplishments of this former Minister of Health to Botswana, a country with easily one of the most exemplary healthcare systems on the continent. Asked how it feels to know that she personally contributed to the establishment of such noteworthy infrastructure, she says, “Now that I’m the director, I’m able to compare the systems in Botswana with other countries and I go to bed thanking God for all that wisdom.”

Remarkably, Prof. Tlou’s commitment to the health sciences has an unlikely beginning. “I had no intention of being in the health sciences, originally. After Form 5, I was eligible for a scholarship and I selected speech, drama and languages.

They said, ‘No, we don’t eat languages in Botswana, choose health sciences.’ I was not interested. They said, ‘Your grades say that you’re interested. We need doctors and nurses,’ she recalls.

This opportunity led to her being sent to the United States, which enhanced her understanding that public health is essential to the core welfare of communities. Her compassion for the wellbeing of others resulted in her working tirelessly to reach professional levels where her care could be transformed into policies that improve the lives of those who need it most.

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From left to right: nane maria annan (wife of kofi annan), Kofi Annan (Secretary-General of the UN from 1997-2006) and Professor Sheila Tlou.

FOR THE LOVE OF TUTELAGE With her own life as a testament to the greatness of education, Prof. Tlou names it as her one wish for the girls of Africa. Her contribution to the creation of equality between the sexes has been a great priority and has earned her roles as the United Nations Eminent Person for Women, Girls, and HIV/Aids in Southern Africa and the International Council of Nurses Goodwill Ambassador for Girl Child Education.

When HIV and Aids began receiving global attention in 1985, mainly centred around gay men in the West, Sheila knew this sexually transmitted disease would have a more disastrous effect on women and children because they often are not empowered enough to negotiate safe sex. In response, she founded the Botswana chapter of the Society of Women and Aids in Africa in 1988, which trained volunteers in home-based care.

The goal of UNAIDS is to increasingly reduce and bring an end to HIV and Aids. Prof. Tlou’s role includes political advocacy and using a holistic understanding of all the intricate factors

involved in this epidemic in order to lead a sustainable response in over 21 African countries, including Mauritius, Madagascar, Seychelles and Comoros.

She has been essential to the formation of advocacy organisations like The PanAfrican Positive Women’s Coalition (PAPWC) and the High Level Task Force on Women, Girls, Gender Equality and HIV in Africa; She is also the chairperson of a High Level Task Force on Comprehensive Sexuality Education and Services for Young People in Eastern and Southern Africa. In her work, Prof. Tlou strives to use her position to really make a change in the lives of women and girls in her region.

“For now, the only vaccine we have against Aids is to keep the girl child in school, to end child marriages and to empower women. That’s my only wish.”

Professor Tlou has touched the lives of many and she shows no signs of slowing down. She says that after some time, she will retire on her farm, where she will rear her 400 cattle and publish her memoirs. For now, she continues to honour her call to serve humanity with passion and excellence. E

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THE SPIRIT OF 1976 ALIVE IN AFRICA TODAY n the morning of 16 June 1976, student leaders from around Soweto, south of Johannesburg, led their fellow learners in peaceful demonstrations to protest against the apartheid government’s decision to enforce Afrikaans as the medium of instruction for all students. They knew that this latest move from the oppressive regime was designed to deliver to them a second-rate education that would lock them into perpetual servitude. It was their education and their futures on the line, and they acted.

Little did they know that this act would send a call to young people across the length and breadth of our country to take to the streets in defence of their right to learn and their collective futures. Children – some as young as 11 and 12 – risked life and limb to make their voices heard. The brutality that met them stunned the world and in turn re-energised South African liberation movements across the globe. The youth of our country had forever imprinted their significance on our political landscape.

Almost four decades on and Africa is the youngest continent in the world, overflowing with human potential. I was fortunate enough to meet some of the most brilliant young minds Africa has to offer while filming a documentary series on innovation.

Their stories are compelling and illustrate the power of thinking globally while acting locally.

Kenyan Martha Chumo (21) was a gifted student and born ‘techie’, who decided against an expected

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career in medicine or law to pursue her love of coding. After winning a place at a prestigious hacker school in the U.S, she was repeatedly refused a visa. Instead of accepting this roadblock as the end of her tech career, she mobilised her online community around the world and raised enough funds to start her own coding and development school in Nairobi. This young adult’s vision and perseverance ensures that many more Kenyan youth will have the opportunity to learn to code without having to leave the country.

Sam Kodo (22) has a curious mind that found a natural home in the world of technology. His family in Togo had limited resources, which meant little or no access to the computers and gadgets he needed to learn. His solution? He would build himself a computer. Sam turned a challenge into an opportunity for extreme inventiveness and his ideas have found a home in Infinite Loop, the company he has established to develop, build and sell his low-cost computers.

Many analysts have described Africa’s youth as a ticking time bomb, especially if elected leaders fail to offer them opportunities for education and employment, and we have seen instances where this is all too true. But Africa’s development challenges, struggling economies and regional instabilities also offer our young people enormous opportunities for game-changing innovation.

Chumo and Kodo are but two of the millions of young Africans who are committed to their country’s futures and eager to contribute to a new narrative that has the continent’s well-being at its core. This is the true spirit of the uprisings of 1976. Do we see the talented young people around us who are burning to learn, create and build? Do we perpetuate the notion of a ‘lost generation’ or do we join them in their efforts even though the foundations we lay will support a future that we, most likely, will never see?

Do you see a way forward, a way to connect and build a future?

Write to us at letters@essaysofafrica.com, post on Facebook EssayOfAfrica or Tweet us #letsconnect @EssaysOfAfrica.

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NDONI KHANYILE AND MARTHA CHUMO

As South Africa celebrates Youth Day on 16 June, Ndoni Khanyile looks at how Africa’s youth is contributing to a new narrative that has the continent’s well-being at its core.

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Meet Penelope Galane, a friendly face who loves embracing the unique colours and cultures of Africa! Born in Kabokweni township in Mpumalanga, Penelope Galane (30) was raised in the small village of Elukwatini. She is a daughter, sister and wife, and the mother of two beautiful children. Her passion for different cultures, people, travel and tourism led her to study Heritage and Cultural Tourism at the University of Pretoria, and she now works as a senior information officer for the National Department of Tourism, based at OR Tambo International Airport.

Galane loves what she does, which involves enhancing the visitor experience for tourists who enter into the country and offering tourismrelated information, from accommodation to activities for the duration of their stay in South Africa. Galane says her work affords her the opportunity to meet people from all over the world and to promote SA as a remarkable and unique destination.

When she is not at work, Galane spends time at home with her family or with her friends, whom she describes as hilarious! She attributes her success today to her parents: “They dedicated their lives to my siblings’ and my upbringing.

They are just amazing!”

As for her inspiration in life, this dynamic young woman has just one word: life! “I lost my brother in 2006 when he was only 29 and since then I promised myself to live every day as if it were my last. Each day I try to laugh more, love more and appreciate everyone around me. After all, you only live once.” E

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AFRICAN LUXURY

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She’s expertly building her brand to epitomise African luxury, while constantly striving for a contented spirit; Swaady Martin lets us into her life of ‘luxe ubuntu’.

W e meet our June cover star, Swaady Martin, at Luminance at Hyde Park Corner, known as the store that celebrates opulence and all things high-end. This seems fitting since Forbes has hailed Swaady ‘The Queen of African Luxury’, and because her brand, Yswara, is stocked in the store.

Particularly petite and strikingly beautiful, Swaady has an authoritative demeanour that lets you know from the onset that she is a woman who is used to being in charge. At Luminance, she is speaking to the staff about her display and the changes she wants made to it. And she’s not just delegating, she’s involved; going to the storeroom to check merchandise and making sure that things are exactly how she wants them.

Born in Côte d'Ivoire, Swaady is a world traveller and “fundamentally a nomad,” she says. From an early age, she started moving around with her

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family. “It defines a lot of who I am.

In childhood, we moved around a lot because of circumstances, like when we moved from Liberia to Senegal. I enjoy the richness of new places and have constantly wanted to discover new things. I was born to an American dad and French/Ivorian/Guinean mom and my people are all around the world, so my world has always kind of been a melting pot of cultures.”

EYE ON THE PRIZE

Before permanently moving to South Africa in 2009, Swaady had carved out a successful career for herself in the multinational corporation, General Electric. In a space of 12 years, she had risen up the ranks at an incredible speed, leaving her mark. “I loved my time in corporate; it was my training ground. I always saw my career in two phases and working for a multinational was the first step that would allow me

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to learn so that I could go on to phase two – starting my own business.”

Swaady continues, “When I started my career, I was always the one putting my hand up to do the work nobody else wanted to do. I worked like a maniac and climbed the ladder quickly because I knew my time in corporate was limited. I saw the challenges as experience because I knew I was learning.” When she felt she’d accumulated enough experience and skills, the ambitious young woman decided to have an interim period before jumping head first into entrepreneurship.

“I worked with friends who were setting up a mobile banking company in Nigeria. During that period I also did my MBA and worked on my business plan for Yswara. It was a liberating time because I needed a bit of space to transition,” she admits.

In December 2012, Yswara was officially in business. “We are into the gourmet food industry,” Swaady explains. “We make local products of high value. I wanted to contribute to that space and when thinking of what commodity to start with, tea made sense. I love tea and am knowledgeable about it.” The Yswara brand also carries aromatic candles, which are very much a part of the elegant teatime experience.

Over the years, the brand has explored different things, like adding a capsule jewellery range. “Like any brand, we have been trying to find out what works for us. Some things have fallen away because they didn’t work for us.

And some things, like the current packaging, were always part of the plan. It’s just taken a while for them to get to where we want them to,” Swaady discloses.

During this time of launching her entrepreneurial career, Swaady says she had to learn to redefine herself in some ways. “I find that a lot of my identity was defined by what I did, so when I was no longer the person working for a big multinational, I had to learn to redefine myself,” she explains.

Swaady says her shift in career not only meant change for herself, but also in others’ perceptions of her. “Some people viewed me as someone who was lacking in ambition when in fact it was the opposite. I don’t know what it is about a woman wanting to start her own business that makes people think it must be some small operation,” she states forthrightly. “I have found the opposite to be true; there are so many women doing incredible things out there. That is what inspires me.”

“Because there are so few truly African luxury brands, we get to define what African luxury is. I think African luxury is embracing; fundamentally, our cultures emphasise that ‘I am because we are’ spirit.”

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“Yswara is warm, welcoming and soulful. Even our store is like that – anyone can come in. Our brand is never going to be so ostentatious that it makes somebody feel like they don’t belong. Tea is warm and welcoming, even when it is a luxury.”

LUXE UBUNTU

African luxury brands are very much in the infancy stage, something that makes Swaady’s path both daunting and exciting.

“Because there are so few truly African luxury brands, we get to define what African luxury is. I think African luxury is embracing; fundamentally, our cultures emphasise that ‘I am because we are’ spirit. At Yswara, we work with the farmers and we make sure that communities are taken care of. This is not CSI, it’s how we live.”

There is a piece of Swaady in every aspect of the Yswara brand and she says it makes her think of what one of her professors once said.

“He said that a luxury brand is the expression of its creator and I am finding that to be true in my brand. I love the brand and everything it represents,” she says smiling.

I ask Swaady for whom she makes these products and her answer is very telling and epitomises luxe Ubuntu. “It’s for anyone who wants to enjoy our product. It can be a student looking to buy her mom a lovely gift or a wealthy tycoon who can afford to buy everything on the shelf. I love people and believe in the opposite of exclusion, so my brand couldn’t be polarising. Yswara is warm, welcoming and soulful. Even our store

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is like that – anyone can come in. Our brand is never going to be so ostentatious that it makes somebody feel like they don’t belong.

Tea is warm and welcoming, even when it is a luxury,” she asserts.

THE SEARCH FOR BALANCE

Swaady is very frank when I ask her how she finds balance. “When I was in corporate, I didn’t have much balance, but I chose that.

I don’t think you can have it all so you have to be very honest with yourself about what it is you want and what you will have to do to get it. I feel that, as women, we aren’t always very honest about this, but I think it’s important for us to know it,” she shrugs.

In her current life, Swaady’s schedule is still full but there are some things she won’t do without, despite what the schedule says.

“I make sure I exercise and meditate and have fun; I like to party and have holidays.

Although I work hard, I’m not that person who won’t take time out.” Swaady dances, does yoga and is into extreme activities, such as Sweat 1000 classes and, most recently, she’s taken up cycling.

“Spirituality is something I don’t compromise on because it gives me balance.

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vegetarian and I don’t eat sugar or oil. I’m not dogmatic about things, though, so if there is an African meat stew that I want, I will allow myself to have some,” she admits.

“As women, we tend to forget ourselves constantly because we are taking care of everyone else. ‘Me’ is important. If I don’t take care of me then I have no beauty to give and no happiness to give.”

Swaady credits her lack of attachment to material things and her ability to live in the present for her contentedness. “I’m not really attached to anything material,” she says. “I think our moving around a lot has something to do with it. I’m not at a phase where I don’t buy things, but I am very happy to give them away too.”

She adds, “I also live in the present; I’m content in the present. You don’t catch me thinking about a year from now. I am where I want to be. Faith is a gift and it’s one I’m grateful for. It allows you to be detached and it allows you to live in the present. It allows you to stand up for yourself and live your life according to your true self. The only person

I have to answer to is up there and that gives me freedom.”

PASSING ON A LESSON

I ask Swaady what she would like people interested in following her steps to success to know. Her answer is both simple and to the point. “Hard work is not negotiable; people underestimate the amount of work and sacrifice that goes into success. Kim Kardashian must work like a maniac and sleep very little to have the kind of empire that she has,” Swaady says emphatically. “Nothing comes easy; to get to where I got, I worked like a maniac, took on more work than anyone else and did it to the best of my ability.”

Her parting words: “Again, I have to emphasise how you can’t have it all. Know what will make you happy and have realistic expectations and be very honest about it.

Don’t measure yourself by others. Know the game you’re playing and its rules so that you can play it well and remember that it’s not all fabulous.” E

“Hard work is not negotiable; people underestimate the amount of work and sacrifice that goes into success.”

For more information on Yswara, visit www.yswara. com. Follow the brand on Instagram @yswara or Twitter @YSWARA_luxe.

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THE CHILD AND VICTIM ARCHETYPES IN SELF-EMPOWERMENT In this month’s instalment on the different archetypes, KHOSI JIYANE looks at two of the ‘big four’ survival archetypes – the child and the victim.

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hank you for journeying with us as we explore self-empowerment through the lens of archetypes. We begin by reaffirming the foundational anchor of this perspective in depth psychology’s assertion that above all, we are spiritual beings. We enter the world in human form with a contract to navigate agreed

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experiences, which are the means through which we learn lessons that are necessary for us to awaken and evolve in consciousness, for the ultimate purpose of fulfilling our highest spiritual potential.

Our lives consist of both universal and unique experiences, which reflect universal archetypes as well as those that are common to those people who share a particular one. The teacher, artist, engineer, healer, advocate, clown, warrior,

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entrepreneur, etc. are all examples of archetypes, which are common to many people. However, they all unfold through each person’s life circumstances and experiences in ways that are singularly unique to their life contract.

Some, for example, are schoolteachers as a calling, not just a job, and though both may work in the same place, the difference with which they teach is unmistakable. Others are born with what we refer to as a disability as their unique calling to teach specific life lessons, such as hope and possibility beyond bodily limitations.

As human beings, the will to survive is our most primary power, life force or instinct that propels us as we navigate the material world. Our family of origin are the people through whom we have agreed to be born and who serve as our life’s ‘base camp’ and springboard for our exposure to an ever-increasing web of socially-referent others.

Our life journey is the arena for the many experiences that either enhance or chip away at our budding self and through which we develop both our overall sense of the world and carve out a particular sense of who we are, where and how we fit into it; our self-regard. It is also in and through these experiences that embryonic seeds of our spiritual power are activated and begin to sprout.

The four primary archetypes, i.e. the child, victim, saboteur and prostitute are the perceptual blueprint for universal human experiences which we assess for their potential to threaten our physical, psychological and emotional survival.

This is because they provide us with situations, challenges and dilemmas through which we develop our most fundamental power – self-esteem.

THE CHILD As the starting block of everyone’s life journey, the child is the universal symbol of innocence and untapped potential – the harbinger of untold possibility. It speaks to the fact that our life always starts out in a cradle of belonging and dependence on others. Through these connections, we come across various experiences that are symbolic of the many aspects of the child archetype. In keeping with the paradoxical nature of archetypes, it is within this vulnerability to the external world that we must fulfil our developmental task of birthing

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a separate and independent self and assume personal responsibility.

However, when we are unconscious of these aspects as our intuitive companions, they may erode our quality of life and interfere with our ability to attach and to form healthy relationships with others in later years.  The orphan child represents experiences of neglect or alienation, leading to a sense of not belonging, being abandoned or rejected by others with whom we desire significant relationships and connection. Some experience this archetype literally through the death of parents or absence of primary caregivers, some being dumped or given up for adoption. Others may be there physically, but be emotionally absent.  The wounded child represents a sense of self that is scarred by experiences of betrayal and abuse. For some, neglect may come from experiences of being the black sheep or family outcast, whereas another sibling may be the favoured child. For some, the scars of abuse are physical and become a visible reminder of their experiences.

For others, although the scars may be emotional or psychological, their effects may be equally deep and enduring.

“The four primary archetypes, i.e. the child, victim, saboteur and prostitute, are the perceptual blueprint for universal human experiences which… provide us with situations, challenges and dilemmas through which we develop our most fundamental power – self-esteem.”  The injured magical child symbolises self-attitudes that are formed through painful thwarting of our innocent enchantment with life, our sense of wonder and belief in our own creative potential. This may come through being put down and told you are stupid and incapable, leading to resigned

loss of hope and imaginative striving for the possibility of overcoming adversity in life.

THE VICTIM The victim archetype shares a developmental history with the child archetype, as both relate to our starting off in life being vulnerable to others who are able to dispense, withhold or exert their power over us and thereby to determine our fate. It therefore represents experiences of being belittled or invalidated, when our wants or needs are not met, or being taken advantage of and feeling helpless to do anything to assert and protect self or change the situation.

Because having limitations is an inherent part of our human reality, there is often a lot of understanding, sympathy and even social support for our fears of taking responsibility for taking action to change our situations, which can reinforce an internal sense of being incapable.

Yet, in a similarly paradoxical way, this archetype is our developmental companion through which we discover our capacity for agency by learning to assert firm yet healthy boundaries between the external world and ourselves. Looked at from this perspective, self-empowerment speaks of the degree through which we become conscious of the symbolic meaning behind our life experiences.

As our life companions, the child and victim archetypes call out and inspire us to take our power back from the external world, to draw healthy boundaries between ourselves and others, and to cultivate internal locus of control.

They alert us to the fact that regardless of the circumstances we come from and even more importantly, because of those circumstances, we cannot afford to allow ourselves to remain helpless victims. Rather, to see the pains of our past vulnerabilities as catalysts to fi nding the power within to release ourselves from being held captive by our past and to take personal responsibility for turning those scars into stars.

In our third and fi nal instalment next month, we will unpack the saboteur and prostitute as the last two of ‘the big four’ survival archetypes. E

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A VIEW FROM THE TOP Making it to the top is an aspiration for many women in Africa, but what does it really entail? EOA spoke to three women who have achieved career success to find out what the view from above looks like to them.

“Don’t be afraid to push boundaries”

YOLISA PHAHLE M-NET CEO: SOUTH AFRICA Born in exile in the United Kingdom, Yolisa Phahle is still in awe of how far we’ve come in South Africa and further afield in just a few decades. “When my parents were exiled from South Africa in 1965, they dreamt of democracy; today it is a reality,” she says.

A musician and performer at heart, Phahle cut her teeth in the entertainment industry after attending the prestigious Guildhall School of Music and Drama in London, where she majored in classical piano and violin. From classical to pop, she ended up sharing a stage with the likes of Duran Duran and Jamiroquai.

Phahle joined the BBC World Services in 1998, training as studio manager and later as a music producer. As she moved up the ranks of the BBC, her roots in South Africa and love of African music eventually called her home. She joined Channel O as General Manager and then Director of Special Interest Channels, where she helped turn Channel O into the number one music channel on the African continent.

“All of the talent in the world, and all of the opportunities in the world, will not produce long-term success,” Phahle says. “Hard work, the famous 10 000 hours that Malcolm Gladwell spoke about, is an absolute necessity.” She also emphasises that mistakes have to be made, as only then do we learn and grow. The trick, she advises, is to get more things right than we get wrong.

As a mom of two sons, Yolisa admits the mythical work/life balance can be tough. “In the early days of my career, I worked shifts, so between nights and weekends there was not much family time and it was physically exhausting,” she recalls. Yet, today, her two sons are proud of their high-achieving mom and have even inherited her talent as a performer and love of music. “As a mother and career woman, my advice to others like me is not to be too hard on yourself,” advises Phahle.

Of success, Phahle says that she enjoys being in a position where she can make decisions that shape society for the better.

She points to shows like Isibaya and how it has redefined primetime TV. She is particularly proud of M-Net’s rebranded corporate social investment initiative, Magic in Motion, for developing local talent in the film and television industry. Yet being at the top comes with certain sacrifices. “It can be very stressful and at times lonely,” she admits. “This job requires making decisions that aren’t always popular; I am ultimately responsible for many things that in reality I have no control over.” She credits the quality and accountability of employees, as well as their shared vision for her success.

Phahle advises other women wanting to rise to the same heights to fight for an education, above all else. She also stresses the importance of believing in oneself. “Don’t be afraid to push boundaries,” she says. “Dare to dream; we live in amazing times!”

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DEBORA PATTA FOREIGN CORRESPONDENT FOR CBS NEWS Known for her hard-hitting style of investigative reporting, Debora Patta became a household name across South Africa with her award-winning current affairs television programme, 3rd Degree.

Being in the public spotlight for many years, the country has witnessed her rise to the top, from a reporter at Radio 702 to news editor and, later on, special assignments editor. She recalls her first news story that was aired on 702, about the return of ANC leader Oliver Tambo from exile in 1990.

From radio to television, Patta joined e.tv during its inception in 1998, first as a senior correspondent and then as chief anchor of e.tv news. She played a key role in the launch of South Africa’s first 24-hour news channel, eNews Channel Africa, along with continuing as the executive producer and anchor of 3rd Degree.

Eventually deciding to go it alone, Debora became a freelance investigative journalist and is now a senior correspondent for CBS News in the US, covering the continent’s biggest stories – from the Oscar Pistorius trial to Boko Haram.

About her career path, Patta insists there are no short cuts. “Young people coming into this industry and wanting immediate success need to realise it doesn’t work that way,” says Patta. “Put in the hours, work really hard and hone your skills,” she advises. “I don’t buy into the five-year game plan – you need to follow your gut and know when to move on, as well as how long to stay; comfort breeds mediocrity.”

Leading such a high profile and often demanding career can be tough, particularly balancing this with two daughters. But Patta eschews the notion of work/life balance. “Being a mom and a journalist are both all-consuming, so at times I have to sacrifice time with my kids and put my career first, or vice versa,” she admits. “But this is not unique to my profession – it’s what women across all industries face.”

She says that the only way to manage it has been to go with the ebb and flow of life, to grab opportunities with her family whenever work is quieter. However, it can be tricky to not feel guilty about searching

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“Don’t knock on doors, bash them down!” for new stories during these times, or when she can’t spend time with her kids whilst on assignment. “I’ve tried to involve my daughters in my work, which definitely helps as they’re more conscientised and aware of the value of what I’m doing,” she advises. Being at the top in her career can be lonely at times, she admits, especially in the field of journalism where normal office hours don’t exist. “Journalism is an anti-social career, so relationships do suffer,” she reflects. Particularly with her friendships, Patta has had to keep a tight circle of friends who understand the sacrifices involved.

Within her industry, Patta found that people were very supportive on her way up, but not so much once she’d reached the height of success.

“When you’re at the top, people seem to hate you for no reason; they have preconceived notions of who you are,” she says. This is particularly true for women, she believes, as we don’t celebrate each other’s success as

much as we should. “A woman is still described as ruthless and aggressive if she’s at the top, whereas society celebrates successful, ambitious men.”

Her advice to other women wanting to climb that ladder: “Don’t knock on doors, bash them down!” Patta believes women are their own worst enemies, often too afraid to ask for what they want or assert their worth. “Particularly when it comes to issues around money, women are often too scared to negotiate that raise,” she says. She points to how confidently and smoothly men handle this, to the desired effect.

Besides hard work, she also advises women to get a mentor and learn from them, even if it means studying them from afar. “Find someone you emulate and watch their style,” she advises, “and never stop learning!” Patta is currently learning French as she’s found it a necessity in her career when covering stories throughout Africa. “To remain humble and keep curious, no matter how high up the ranks you are, is a true mark of success.”

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NONNIE KUBEKA HEAD OF GAUTENG CONVENTION AND EVENTS BUREAU Whilst completing her BComm degree, Nonnie Kubeka’s plan was to become a chartered accountant. Yet life took an unexpected turn when she realised it was not a career suited to her outgoing personality, so she made the leap into the world of marketing. Working her way up to senior positions at Standard Bank, Transnet and the Cape Town International Convention Centre (CTICC) after completing her MBA in Strategic Marketing, Kubeka knew she had made the right move.

“Marketing isn’t tangible, so it brings different opportunities and challenges each day,” says Kubeka. It is a field that excites and thrills her, particularly in her current position at Gauteng Tourism Authority, where she can contribute towards international recognition and economic development for the country. “With each new project, we’re aiming to place Gauteng and South Africa on the map; going after the same level of social cohesion and exposure that came with the 2010 World Cup™,” she explains. “It is a most rewarding and fulfilling job.”

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According to Kubeka, confidence is the most powerful tool a woman can have, and the key to achieving success.

“Having a deep belief in yourself and confidence in your abilities is the most important thing,” she says. She sees this as particularly crucial in the male-dominated world we live in, where men still occupy the majority of leadership positions. “Although we have a phenomenal constitution that empowers women, this is not necessarily reflected in the real world,” says Kubeka.

She believes it is thus critical to empower and support other women in their journeys up the corporate ladder.

Kubeka credits her resilience and courage for enabling her to rise to the top in her career. It has also enabled her to take risks and achieve the seemingly impossible. “Success has enhanced my inner strength,” she says. “As I gain recognition, it allows me to become more creative and innovative in everything I do.”

As with all working mothers, the biggest sacrifice for Kubeka has been with her family. “I’m a dedicated mother and wife but I do miss out on the small things, like making school lunches or preparing dinner, due to the demands of my job,” she reflects. “Being in a position of power means you have little ‘me time’ as you’re on duty 24/7.”

This comes with working weekends and late nights if a particular project demands it.

But being a role model to her children trumps any misgivings she may have, as the importance of her work keeps her motivated. “I’m grateful to be assisting our growth as a province and nation, working towards a better future for us all,” says Kubeka. “It is an exciting time indeed.” E

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When Nthabe Zondo started having friends come over to hang out, she didn’t know that she and her girlfriends would create a powerful group that would positively impact all their lives.

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Nthabi Zondo Executive Business Manager ity life, with its non-stop chaos including traffic, heavy workloads, errands, chores and life’s everyday dramas, often means people don’t spend as much time as they would like with loved ones. This was the case for Nthabe Zondo.

When she relocated to Johannesburg from studying her Masters in International Marketing Management at Leeds University Business School, she found that there was little time to spend with her sisters and friends – all of whom had thriving careers and busy lives.

“I realised that with my new life – marriage, work, increased travel time to and from work – it was tiring seeing friends separately. I started hosting at my home every couple of months to remain in touch with family and friends, and although I literally combined a mix of personalities and family that were not necessarily friends, we had so much fun together and the conversations were rich and uplifting,” Zondo explains. “I started planning ahead, researched and prepared various life topics, so it was like having a fun focus group. We engaged on topics such as business, marriage, relationships, infidelity, children, fertility, careers, managing finances, health, holidays and how to manage them,” says Zondo.

The group doesn’t have an official name but EXCO is the nickname that has stuck. “We don’t have a name but I refer to the ladies as my EXCO. It started as a joke as each time I phoned one of the ladies, I’d be told that they were at an EXCO meeting. In many respects, that is a very accurate description of what we are to each other. We are an executive committee that supports and advises on various aspects of life,” she confesses.

The group meets quarterly as a rule but in between those sessions, they meet for birthdays, kids’ birthdays and other special occasions. “We have dinners, champagne breakfasts, brunches and breakfasts, etc. We only meet at beautiful venues or boutique hotels that have private dining areas for us to use due to the nature of some of the information that we share. We also really enjoy being in a beautiful environment as we can get extremely busy and we use this platform to relax and enjoy each other’s company.”

Zondo says that the EXCO consists of some of the smartest, strongest and most humble women she knows. “We have marketing directors and general managers for listed global companies, head of legal for a global company, strategy and research executive for a listed company, human resource directors, CEOs of self-owned companies, accountants, quantity surveyors, etc.,” she says, adding, “We are different women; different ages, personalities, marital status, religions, academic backgrounds and careers, and I think what we have in common are our values.”

EOA asked the other members of the EXCO to share some thoughts on the network and what makes it so important to them.

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Busi Kubheka Executive Business Manager “What attracted me to become part of this network is that new associations have been made through the network and new business opportunities have emerged. Reinforced relationships with existing contacts have occurred, but also connected me for the first time with women industries that are similar to mine as well as different ones,” Busi Kubheka says. “Strong networks are built and nurtured one connection at a time and serve as a strong foundation from which to stretch higher, expand your reach, and attain your highest professional goals. Strong networks ensure that other women are right there alongside you as you ascend to leadership.”

She continues, “Women have exceptional power, especially when they band together. I see this group of ladies as a sisterhood, where individuals who have the clout and influence support your advancement and create new opportunities for you. Every member of this network has a staunch commitment take action to build her own support community, and to proactively help other women do the same. I believe these are our common views which bring us together.”

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Loueen Jones-Paulsen HR Director “I was introduced to the ladies in the Network

by Nthabe Zondo, whom I had the privilege of meeting on an International Leadership Development Programme,” Loueen Jones-Paulsen explains. “I accepted the invitation because I enjoy networking and I saw it as an opportunity to extend my network. However, I remained in the group because I found support, encouragement and friendship.”

She explains that she has made some real connections and considers some of the women in the network her friends. “I use the word ‘some’ because the network is continually growing. I get to meet new ladies every time we meet. The women that I know for a while have become great friends,” Jones-Paulsen says. “One of the profound things I have learnt from this group is that each of the women is prepared to give more than what they receive, and most importantly, they are not in competition with or threatened by each other.”

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Puseletso Makhubo Executive Manager: Organisational Performance “I met the ladies at different stages of my life. Nthabe, Roxy and Nthatisi are my cousins. Angie is my varsity BFF; we met on the first day at varsity on a Sunday trying to establish or understand our new environment, and it was an instant friendship.

Hanging out with Angie and Nthabe exposed me to the network, their friends turned to be my friends and that's how we rolled,” Puseletso M a k h u b o explains.

Her attraction to this group of ladies was the demeanour they upheld. “I saw beautiful ladies with great minds and I knew that their friendship would be of value to me from a growth and support point of view,” Makhubo says.

“This is a place where we engage on different topics, such as investment and educational opportunities, social and political views, child rearing and how to manage personal relationships. We basically talk about anything and as a result, we continually learn from each other's experiences.

Through her association with this group, Makhubo has learnt that anything is possible with perseverance, hard work and confidence. Her advice: “Live life, have dreams and pursue them and then, not even the sky is the limit. Dreams are achievable if supported by the right actions.”

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Nwabisa Mphakalasi Project Director Marketing “This network is made up of phenomenal women with whom I share a lot of interests and passions, such as family and personal growth,” Nwabisa Mphakalasi explains. One of the things that she has learnt from the group is that as women, they share the same aspirations and challenges. She adds, “All we can do is to be there for one another, to grow each other spiritually, and in our careers. Even though there is a perception that women don’t support each other, I think our shared love for God doesn’t allow us to entertain anything that is not of Him. Not supporting each other is therefore not an option in our network and friendship.”

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WOMEN’S NETWORK EOA Carol Roskruge Cele Managing Director

Lebogang Shole Real Estate Asset Management “We all met at different stages and times of our lives,” Lebogang Shole admits.

“All these ladies have added value to and shaped the woman I am today. I learn so much from them every day and I thank God for bringing them into my life.” Shole continues to explain that their similar way of thinking despite their individualism brings out the best in each of them.

“We are supportive and care for each other. There is a positive attitude among all of us. Plus,” she adds, “we are all very connected. If you need anything, this is one powerful women’s group you need to be a part of. Some of the things I have learnt from this group are: be yourself, be honest, be loyal, learn to forgive yourself every day and remember that no one is perfect.“

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“My relationship with this amazing group of women dates back to my meeting the Maqache sisters (Nthabeleng Zondo and Roxy Maqache) in Durban in 2002, when we worked at Unilever South Africa,” Carol Cele reveals. Her solid friendship with Nthabe Zondo meant that she has a person in whom she can trust w h o l e h e a r t e d l y.

“When it comes to our social lives, Nthabe never gets it wrong,” Cele says.

“She always wants the best for her friends and when she systematically introduced me to the ladies in the network, I knew there was a reason.

“Over time, I became acquainted with the ladies and realised that it’s the transformational power of the friendships that keep me in the group. We don’t meet too often, but when we do, the discussions are relevant and I always feel like I have had some form of therapy after our meetings,” she explains.

Cele admits to expecting little from others and more from herself, while preferring to lean on her male support group rather than female associations. “Having said that,” Cele says, “I think that this network is small and you get individual focus so support comes easily and naturally.

We don't have the same social circles so the temptation to compete is low, hence the ease of support. I have learnt a lot in this group, including everything from family bonds to career and financial planning.”

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Roxy Maqache Group Business Insights Executive “What attracted me to this group is that it’s a network of individual but like-minded women who have demonstrated strength and resilience in their lives, from career challenges to personal ambitions,” Roxy Maqache explains. She adds that when you meet a circle of women who mirror your own values and principles, the connection happens naturally. Through this group, Maqache has learnt that women can genuinely be supportive of each other.

“We have things in common in the group.

A solid upbringing that has enabled solid values and principles, which in my view, have helped to keep us all mentally and spiritually grounded – and that is why we connect,” she says, adding, “As much as we all come from different backgrounds, we are actually more alike than different, which is quite amazing for such a large group of women.

I believe that support is always required, no matter how high you climb. And the support of women is even more important, as it provides the benefit of shared experiences and challenges.

It also offers a platform for advice from a pool of intuitive minds. The trick is to recognise it and use it well.”

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Matumane Tshabalala Managing Executive: Application Services I was attracted to this network of friendship by the desire to share with like-minded women, with similar ambitions of reaching the highest levels in their individual chosen endeavours.

Since, they are also walking the same path of corporate South Africa, they understand the trial and tribulations involved negotiating her career despite the negative stereotypical commentary that sometimes follows a woman who is achieving success in her chosen career.

Our shared experiences and varied ages empower particularly the younger of us not to make the same mistakes. Some of the things we have in common include the love of South Africa, Africa and this planet.

Also, we have the same desire to see black women (especially) in executive positions in government and corporate South Africa succeed to the best of their abilities.

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WOMEN’S NETWORK EOA Augustine Chuene Managing Director

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Augustine Chuene met Nthabe 10 years ago through business, she says. “She introduced me to the rest of the ladies and in the same way that I think the ladies learn from me, I have learnt a lot from them.” Chuene emphasise the importance of surrounding yourself with people that will help you progress. She continues, “It’s impossible to stagnate because we push each other. We engage on every relevant topic, from boardroom to bedroom.”

Chuene says that although the women in the network have different backgrounds, what stands out for her is their humbleness.

“Each woman is as comfortable with luxury as they are in a simple environment,” she says. “I think it is important for women to support each other in all spheres of life, from business to family. Unfortunately this doesn’t always happen, as women are so competitive.

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LIVING SINGLE…

BY CHOICE

They’ve been called spinsters and unlucky in love, but the truth is that some women of a certain age are actually happily single! lthough a large part of mainstream society frowns upon women over the age of 30 for choosing to remain single, there has been a significant move for these women to proudly declare they aren’t waiting on Prince Charming or ‘The One’. Clinical psychologist, Hleziphi Sibisi, says, “The idea of finding that one partner or Prince Charming is being

challenged, since this idea is largely rooted in the notion of men fully rescuing or providing for women’s needs, rather than women actively participating in the wellbeing of their relationships. “However,” Sibisi continues, “with more young women becoming empowered and independent, today’s women seem to be searching for a partnership in their relationships, a collaborative unit where there is room to grow and contribute both psychosocially and economically if need be.”

Masturdate: According to the online Urban Dictionary, this term is ‘an intentional pun of masturbate, where one will engage on an ordinary date with his/herself and with the objective to impress and please only themselves.’

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aving your wits about you and having a great sense of humour are two qualities you need to survive a maledominated industry. This is according to Vuyi Mpofu (42), a businesswoman whose journey, despite its trials and tribulations, has brought her much joy and contentment. Mpofu’s story is tied together by a singular important objective; the crux of her businesses is to share valuable lessons she learnt about how to be an independent woman. “My Sundays were spent under the hood of a car, with my dad teaching me everything there is to know about what’s in there.”

It’s this objective, coupled with the need to have a job which makes her happy, that keeps Vuyi going.

THE STARTING LINE

With a background in marketing and advertising, Vuyi’s career began at the well-known agency Saatchi & Saatchi, where she worked on various FMCG accounts. Her career carried her through the corporate world as she moved on to Cell C and then the SABC. “The SABC

MOTORING TROUGH

A Man’s World

When Vuyi Mpofu decided to heed the call of her childhood passion, life opened her up to business that exceeded her own expectations of success.

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has a different way of working, so my stint there was quite short-lived,” Mpofu says.

“I then decided that I was unemployable and went on to start a partnered business, Kaos Communications, which focused on shopping centre marketing.

Soon after this, during what was meant to be my sabbatical from work and life in general, I started my own property marketing company, Eveolution, with Maponya Mall as one of my clients.”

While Mpofu was following her new career path, the universe was giving her clues that she should be doing something

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MY JOURNEY EOA else. But determined to go in her chosen direction, she pushed back but after some time found that she was bored and unhappy in her chosen endeavour. “I am of the attitude that 90 percent of your life should be spent doing the things you enjoy, but who was going to pay me to do these things?” she asked frankly. The answer to that question came in the resurgence of a childhood hobby – cars.

DRIVING IN HEELS

In 2009, Mpofu went into business for herself with Driving In Heels when she unequivocally realised that cars and the motoring industry in general were her ultimate passion. “Driving in Heels is my legacy. I have taken something I love and been able to share this with the world, empowering other women.

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“I see the simplest act of being able to move from point A to B in a car as a symbolic action of moving ahead in your personal space and life; being able to navigate through various elements of a car empowers you and can align you with your spiritual navigation through life.”

Being a born-again Christian, I apply many teachings to the way I live and this business certainly brings balance to my life,” she explains.

Mpofu continues, “Being able to teach one woman and empower her to take control of a small fragment of her life has a domino effect on many people and things around her. I see the simplest act of being able to move from point A to B in a car as a symbolic action of moving ahead in your personal space and life; being able to navigate through various elements of a car empowers you and can align you with your spiritual navigation through life.”

Driving in Heels is designed to help women, navigate through everything essential to motoring, from the maintenance of a car and other important

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things that enhance your overall driving experience. “I started to buy and sell cars, all by myself. At the time I was driving an Audi A4 cabriolet, yet I kept being treated like a little schoolgirl, one who had no sense when it came to cars,” Mpofu admits. “It was as if I didn’t even own the car I was driving, let alone have the expertise to buy and sell cars.”

Mpofu explains that Driving in Heels came about as a response to the condescending way in which women are treated in this industry. She decided to target female car owners and drivers and speak to them in a way they understand and in a manner that does not make them feel spoken down to.

Driving in Heels and the associated Driving Divas workshops educate, inform and empower female motorists and road users on various aspects of a car; they also tackle issues that most people don’t even consider. “Things such as pregnancy safety are something no one seems to care about, but we do,” Mpofu says. “So we teach women how to sit in a car and what to look for as a parent when buying a car. There are elements that should affect your decisions beyond just the model and price of a car.”

FEMALE INFLUENCE

Largely unperturbed by how maledominated her industry is, Vuyi acknowledges that her attitude is only possible because the way was paved for her by other women in the industry.

“Many have come before me and truly made it better, but it’s still an industry that requires a woman to prove herself every day,” she argues. “My advice to any woman starting her own business in this patriarchal society is to never go into anything you haven’t done – get the experience. If you are starting a property marketing company, sit in a mall and watch everything. If you are starting a motoring company of any sort, get your hands dirty.

Assimilate yourself into whatever it is want to do – there must be an emotional connection to what you plan on spending every day doing,” she advises.

Mpofu’s company kicked off a new series

on workshops in May 2015 called Gals Garage. These workshops take place in an actual service garage, where women are taught how to identify what that ‘strange sound’ is and where it is coming from. She explains, “This is a chance for women to understand what really happens in an engine and stop allowing men to make money off our ignorance.”

And this is not all Mpofu has up her sleeve… She plans on opening an accredited driving school as part of her motoring empire.

AN ENLIGHTENED FUTURE

Mpofu’s high-speed work life is juxtaposed with another life where evenings are spent on the stoep of her house located out on a farm. Her choice to work for herself allows her to spend most evenings watching the sunset, while the rest of us spend our time trapped in our cars during rush hour traffic. “Earlier this year I decided that I could no longer live an endless fast-paced life, where I am constantly firing on all cylinders,” she says of her decision to create some definition move out of the city.

“I would one day like to share this time and space with a significant other and hopefully a few children, but that just hasn’t happened in my life yet merely because the opportunity hasn’t presented itself,” she admits.

Although family is important to Mpofu, being single is a choice. Drawing on biblical principles, she has faith in the institute of marriage, even if a previous attempt has proved to be a trial. “I want to have the shelter of a man who is complementary to my life and encouraging of my goals and desires as I would be of his. I definitely want a family of my own, but I don’t think it’s necessary to compromise myself to get that,” she says.

And when she’s not sitting on her stoep planning her future, her love for speed is still on her mind. “I love anything that has speed and blows my weave back; two of these things are bikes and horses. I spend a lot of time working with my two beautiful horses. This is my very literal take on horse power.” E

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7 Ways

TO BOOST YOUR FERTILITY

aking the decision to have a baby is often followed by a deluge of emotions.

Excitement, trepidation, fear and self-doubt are some of the most common. Most couples are under the impression that having a baby is as easy as having sex without protection – probably because they’ve spent the whole of their relationship prior to that trying not to get pregnant. However, most medical experts suggest trying for a whole year before getting anxious if there are no indications otherwise.

Unfortunately, that is easier said than done.

Stress caused by high expectations of a quick conception, the fear of never conceiving at all and the desire to not let your partner down, or even everyday stresses to do with work, money or your weight can all factor against your chances of getting

Have sex, get pregnant. Right? Minor stressors can throw your body out of ‘whack’. If you’re suffering from baby-fever, it’s time to be proactive! Peta Daniel says anything from acupuncture and exercise to just plain resting can be some of the best things one can do when trying to conceive. june 2 0 1 5

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pregnant. All our experts are in agreement that remaining as relaxed as possible is your best bet. Dr Sumayya Ebrahim, an academic and psychologist agrees. “The body and mind are not separate entities, they are inextricably linked and therefore bound to impact each other,” she says.

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING PREGNANT 1. Have Sex This might seem like a simple suggestion; however, when you’re stressed and under pressure, it may affect your ability to perform or even to enjoy the act. Taking the time to encourage intimacy stretches beyond the bedroom. Spend time with your partner and have fun together. Whether this means board games, dinner at the table instead of in front of the TV, or long baths together is up to you.

2. Track Your Ovulation And Have Sex At The Right Time According to OB/Gyn Dr Sascha Edelstein of the Hart Fertility Clinic, having sex when you’re ovulating is the only way to conceive.

Invest in a home ovulation kit – there are many affordable, easy to use devices on the market – and use a chart or calendar to track your ovulation. This will also make you aware of any problems in your cycle.

3. Use Positions That Keep The Sperm Moving In The Right Direction Having sex in positions that help direct the sperm towards the egg is also helpful. Jacky van der Merwe, a 27-year-old mother of two from Pretoria, was told that you should lie on your back with your legs upright against the wall after sex. “The idea is that the sperm will race quicker to your eggs,” she says. “Another one is the old pillow under the bum. Place pillows under your bottom during the missionary position.”

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4. Be Healthier Your health will directly affect your ability to conceive. Together with your partner, make an effort to eat better and do some regular exercise. Also ensure that you’re getting enough folic acid and other vitamins and minerals, either through eating the right foods or a supplement, says Kusha Kalideen, an applications specialist trained as a human geneticist (MSc Med) from Gauteng. Your body and future baby will thank you for it!

5. Acupuncture Shaul Freedman is a registered acupuncturist with the Allied Health Professionals Council of South Africa, with a particular interest in women’s health and fertility. He treats a variety of conditions including increasing chances of conception, premenstrual syndrome or menstrual imbalances. He offers support for IVF treatments and treatments that keep the body healthy during pregnancy.

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“In Chinese medicine, women’s physiology and disharmonies are viewed as unique and treated as such,” says Shaul. “Some of the main problems for women can be caused by simple things like tiredness, incorrect diet, over-exertion, excessive sex, injuries, infections, much to do.” During acupuncture, fine sterile disposable needles are inserted into specific acupuncture points around the body. This activates the body’s natural healing processes.

Acupuncture can be helpful in both simple and complicated conceptions, pregnancies, pre-birth and births. In less complicated cases, acupuncture is very effective in helping a woman’s body come to optimal health and balance, which makes it much easier to conceive and to maintain a healthy pregnancy.

6. Hypnosis Eilat Aviram is a clinical psychologist, hypnotherapist, reiki teacher and mom of two. She is the author of a weekly blog about using the experiences of parenting for your own personal development, growth and healing. She has also written a book on the topic. Hypnosis is a state of focused concentration. Through deep relaxation and direction, the brain shifts into theta waves, which is the brain state of REM sleep (dreams), hypnosis, lucid dreaming, and the barely conscious state just before sleeping and just after waking. While in the theta state, the mind is capable of deep and profound learning, healing, and growth. In this state, hypnotherapists believe that they can access normally inaccessible subconscious parts of self.

“Many people only know about hypnosis from the stage hypnotists, so they are scared of losing control or letting someone else have that kind of control over them,” says Eilat. “It’s not like that.” In hypnotherapy, individuals retain full control and are aware of everything around them. The client can stop any time. “The therapist facilitates the process but your subconscious is always the guide so you decide ‘yes’ or ‘no’ at every stage.”

She continues to explain that on the most basic level, hypnosis can help a woman to learn to relax, which is an important part of successful conception, while at deeper levels, if there is a specific psychological ‘block’ to falling pregnant, hypnosis can help uncover what the block is, help the woman make peace with it and move past it. “Things that may hamper a woman’s openness to conception,” Eilat explains, “include fears about what kind of mother she will be, unresolved guilt from her past and anxiety about her body and birth.”

7. Set A Time Limit Give yourself a year to conceive before allowing yourself to even think that there may be a problem. Whenever worries start to enter your mind, remember that you have a whole year before you’re allowed to worry. “Women 36 and older should be evaluated after six months of trying to conceive rather than a year,” says Dr Edelstein. “We don’t want women to be stressing unnecessarily, but at the same time we want to advise older women that delaying work-up by six months could reduce their chances of conceiving.” E

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As a Youth Day Special, EOA celebrates the gift of getting older by honouring those who choose to live their lives with sparkle and zest. We spoke to five South Africans who embody the essence of youthfulness, no matter their age.

MARKS MAPONYANE

As the all-time top goal-scorer for Kaizer Chiefs, Marks Maponyane has graced our soccer pitches with his remarkable talent for 17 years. The multi-talented ‘Go-Man-Go’, as his fans called him, has been a sales executive for two top sports brands, as well as an entrepreneur with his own business. Never one to rest on his laurels, Maponyane is also a motivational speaker, as well as an analyst and commentator for SABC. An avid sportsman and athlete, Marks has never let his age get in the way of going for gold. He spends much of his time at the gym and on the golf course, not to mention having recently competed in the Two Oceans Marathon, finishing with aplomb. “I am always challenging myself to achieve things I never thought I would,” says Maponyane.

“I believe in pushing myself to the max – this certainly keeps me young!”

He likewise challenges his children to achieve the seemingly impossible in all that they do, pushing them to go for it.

What inspires him beyond anything else is seeing those older than him living their best lives. “When I ran the Two Oceans, there were people much older than me who were just as competitive and able,” he says. “I thought ‘Wow! If

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they can do it, there’s no reason I can’t.’”

Maponyane believes that age creeps in the moment one starts to relax and think that they’re too old to achieve something. Whilst he can’t be the athlete he was 20 years ago, this hasn’t stopped him from extending himself physically and mentally.

As a true family man, Maponyane credits his kids with also keeping him on his toes. He believes in the importance of staying connected to their generation, mainly so that he can follow them on social media. “I follow both my kids on Facebook and Twitter, even if it’s not always welcome!” he confides. “I like to know all the latest terminology and abbreviations out there; it keeps me clued in, especially if they’re up to no good,” he jokes.

If there were one thing he could do over from his youth, it would be to have better managed his finances. “I wish I’d known to save more when I was young,” Maponyane admits. This is a lesson he has passed on to his children and hopes that more young people can learn from it. His greatest hope, however, is for the youth of South Africa to realise their potential.

“Be it in sport or business, always always give your best!” – a message we can all learn from him this Youth Day.

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YOUTH SPECIAL EOA MARIA MCCLOY

SOMIZI MHLONGO

Idols TV show got a serious injection of razzmatazz this year, with the everextravagant Somizi Mhlongo joining the judging panel. Actor, dancer, TV presenter and choreographer, Mhlongo will be the fourth judge on the 11th season of South Africa’s biggest television talent competition.

The self-proclaimed ‘King of Bling’, Somizi is a veteran performer, having starred in the stage production of Sarafina at the tender age of 13.

His career thrived from there, with a role in the film version with Whoopi Goldberg, as well as other major productions such as Cry, the Beloved Country. Being at the helm of musical theatre for many years, as well as the choreographer of choice for SA’s biggest music videos and live productions, Mhlongo shows no signs of slowing down.

Indeed, unlike many celebrities who came to fame at a young age, he seems to be more on fire than ever. “I always try to be positive in everything I do,” says Mhlongo.

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Maria McCloy’s passion is infectious.

Indeed, it has shaped her work, her friendships and all that she does. For her, age is definitely just a number. “I never think about my age,” Maria states. “I don’t see myself as young or old. It’s all relative – to an 80-year-old I’m still a youth.”

Having made a name for herself with Black Rage Productions, which she started with two of her best friends, McCloy realised many of her dreams in the media world. It was a thrilling time for her, to be at the cutting-edge of urban culture in post-apartheid South Africa, with Black Rage both reflecting and creating it. Producing iconic TV shows Bassiq and Street Journal, the web magazine www.rage.co.za, as well as a music label that was home to some of SA’s top artists, including Proverb, H20, Zubz and Pebbles, Black Rage Productions was the first media company of its kind in South Africa.

McCloy is proud of the fact that she’s been able to evolve into new things in her late thirties, including her fastbooming fashion brand, producing exquisite African print shoes, clutches

and accessories. “There is so much design, music, art, business, tech and entrepreneurial talent in Africa,” says McCloy. “I hope youth get the platforms, encouragement and financial support to make all of their dreams come true too.”

Living her best life in every way is key to McCloy’s energy, keeping an adventurous spirit and staying attuned to the creativity that surrounds her. “I have friends aged between 20 and 60, and they are all wonderful and enlightening,” Maria says. “I wear what I want, go where I want and am not limited by age; it’s irrelevant.”

She also doesn’t buy into the propaganda of women getting less attractive as they age: “I’ve loved all stages of my life, but I’d never want to turn back time.”

She appreciates ‘the wisdom that comes with getting older’, as well as the fact that ‘the older you get, the less f***s you have to give!’ It’s a liberating process for her, as what may have traumatised or tormented her in youth can mean absolutely nothing later in life. “Whatever your age,” says McCloy, “it’s important to eat right, drink water, love life, exercise, innovate, have fun and be in touch and curious – don’t sit still and stagnate in mind, body or spirit.”

always optimistic and this definitely keeps me youthful.”

He believes it’s most important to never stop investing in oneself, ‘physically, emotionally and financially’.

A fitness fanatic, he keeps his body in top form at the gym and playing squash and tennis, and has healthy eating habits. He also believes in the importance of staying spiritually connected. “I connect with my ancestors on a weekly basis to give thanks, and pray to God every morning,” Mhlongo admits. He credits his lifestyle with keeping him young, stating that he feels 25. “My energy and sex drive are incredible; my ambition to live and travel is still powerful,” he says. Of course, credit must also go to his daughter for keeping him on his toes, as well as his partner, who is 12 years younger than Mhlongo.

Getting older is not a daunting prospect for Mhlongo, as he feels he is living his truth now more than ever. “I’m not as concerned about offending someone or trying to please people as I was when I was younger,” he confesses. “I’m also more content with

being alone now – before I needed to constantly fill my time with activities, but I’m starting to enjoy my own company.”

It’s a thrilling journey for him, and imbues him with hope for today’s youth. “I hope we never let the legacy of previous generations go to waste,” he says.

If there were one thing he wishes he’d known in his twenties, it would be the importance of financial investment, claiming that he’d be a multi-millionaire by now if he’d learned to save and invest.

He only hopes others can learn from his mistakes, stating, “The youth of South Africa need to invest in themselves and their country, never taking for granted the sacrifices made to get us here.”

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His energy and sense of humour are legendary, as is his impressive list of achievements in the business world.

The Chairman of the Board of Directors for Telkom, Jabulane Mabuza is widely recognised as one of our most successful entrepreneurs. Serving as the Deputy Chairman of Tsogo Sun Holdings, Mabuza has held a number of directorships on various boards, including the Southern Sun and Tsogo Sun Groups, South African Tourism, the Casino Association of South Africa and Business Unity South Africa. He also serves on the Corporate Council on Africa in Washington, DC and on the World Travel and Tourism Council in England.

Despite his many achievements, Mabuza remains focused on the pleasure of serving his country with his work. “I am very connected to my dad and learnt a lot from his wisdom,” says Mabuza. He believes this has kept him youthful in spirit, as his energy for new discoveries and ambitions never ceases. “I appreciate the gift of getting older and do not regret

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“Youthfulness is not necessarily about age but about how we embrace life and its challenges and how we deal with changes in our life, which then translates into how we present ourselves to the world.” Wise words indeed, from one of South Africa’s most beloved actresses, Lillian Dube.

Dealing with change has been a common thread of Lillian’s life. Best known for her role as Sister Bettina in the SABC1 drama series, Soul City, Lillian has led a highly successful career in film, television and theatre. With over 22 credits to her name, Lillian was honoured with a Golden Horn Lifetime Achievement Award at the South African Film and Television Awards in 2011.

Yet the journey has not always been one of fame and glory. Ma Dube has faced the pain of depression and breast cancer, both of which she has overcome. “My passion for life has changed little since my earlier days,” says Ma Dube. “I continue to find things that make life worth living, each day making new discoveries.” Ma Dube’s ability to appreciate life without restraint

or fear, no matter what is thrown at her, enables her to stay youthful and positive.

She only wishes she’d known earlier that happiness is a choice, an inner-directed process that can exist no matter one’s circumstances.

Ma Dube appreciates the gift of getting older as it comes with respect, as well as a greater sense of contentment with self and the world. Her naughty sense of humour has certainly not abated, stating that older people get to fart anywhere. Stressing the importance of staying connected to younger generations, Ma Dube appreciates how much she learns from those younger than her.

Likewise, she enjoys being able to impart some of her own experiences to them, giving guidance and advice – whether it’s solicited or not! “Our youth must embrace opportunities to not only learn from their own mistakes, but the mistakes of their elders,” says Ma Dube. “This would have a cumulative effect and accelerate our development, delivering future generations of learning communities.”

anything in my life – there is nothing I would change, as every experience has contributed to who I am today,” he says.

Mainly he credits his family and friends with keeping him youthful, particularly his three children. Indeed, Mabuza believes in the importance of surrounding oneself with younger people, especially in business.

“Youth are adventurous and fearless,” says Mabuza, “and it’s important to learn from their innovations.” His passion for golf leads to an analogy of a young man on a golf course as compared to an older one; the younger man will not be afraid about the consequences of not hitting the ball, will go after it without hesitation. Yet Mabuza does not wish things were any different, and is most content to look back on a colourful, rich life without regret.

“My hope for the youth of South Africa is that they realise the world is truly their oyster,” Mabuza reflects. “There are so many opportunities out there, and I always say to my kids that if they can find something they like and are good at it, then find someone to pay them for doing it.” It’s clear that this has shaped his own

journey, with Mabuza’s business decisions being fuelled by passion for his work.

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It started early in March this year, when hundreds of students at one of Africa’s most prestigious institutions, the University of Cape Town (UCT), marched under the slogan of ‘Rhodes Must Fall’.

This quickly became a battle cry echoed throughout South Africa and abroad, where thousands of youth stood up in solidarity with the movement. Led by young black men and women on campus, including feminists and LGBTQIA activists, this movement stands out as one of the most progressive and inclusive non-violent campaigns around the world.

As noted on their Facebook page, Rhodes Must Fall is a ‘collective movement of students and staff members mobilising for direct action against the reality of institutional racism at the University of Cape Town’. The Rhodes statue was targeted as an embodiment of this systemic racism, where students called for an end to the oppressive legacy of Cecil John Rhodes.

Occupying the main administration building at UCT for weeks, renaming it ‘Azania House’, students leading the movement achieved a swift victory with the falling of the statue a month later. Yet in their own words, the battle is far from over.

Students continue to campaign for the hiring of more black academics and a more Afrocentric curriculum that challenges patriarchy and white supremacy. “This is not about a statue,” said one student involved in the movement. “It’s us finding a voice and a community within UCT that represents us in the manner that we want.”

many international conventions that respect the role of the youth in economic and political issues, Zimbabwean youth remain on the sidelines in as far as issues of governance and their welfare are concerned.’

Yet many youth organisations continue to mobilise support for their cause. GALZ (Gays and Lesbians Zimbabwe) has been particularly vocal, despite constant police harassment and death threats, with homosexuality still illegal under Mugabe’s rule.

LAGOS, NIGERIA

Nigeria’s rapidly growing population of more than 160 million people is an astoundingly young one. Indeed, it is estimated that the youth constitute about 70 percent of the population. A daunting, yet exciting fact, as young Nigerians truly do hold the future in their hands. Innovation, entrepreneurship and ambition are thriving amongst the youth across all sectors. Yet there is also much pessimism and desperation, as more than half are unemployed, living in a country with a national poverty rate of 70 percent.

Nigeria’s youth are facing a declining healthcare and education system, compounded by the fact that only a small number of those seeking admission into tertiary institutions get admitted.

Many have pinned their hopes on newly elected President Muhammadu Buhari, who secured victory against incumbent Goodluck Jonathan.

Buhari’s party engaged the youth from early on in his campaign through social media, giving a voice to their issues and getting young Nigerians involved in civic participation for the first time.

Only time will tell whether Buhari can turn the situation around for Nigeria’s young population, particularly as Boko Haram continue their campaign of terror, where hundreds of schoolgirls have been abducted and thousands of others brutally killed.

“This is not about a statue,” said one student involved in the movement.

“It’s us finding a voice and a community within UCT that represents us in the manner that we want.”

HARARE, ZIMBABWE

April marked Zimbabwe’s 35th year of independence from British colonial rule. It should have been a unifying event for the nation, celebrating their hard-won freedom with President Robert Mugabe at the helm. And in many ways, there is much to celebrate for Zimbabwe’s youth. Soon after independence, the leading Zanu-PF introduced an ‘education for all’ policy, resulting in Zimbabwe being only second to Tunisia with a literacy rate of more than 90 percent of the population. Add to this the schools, tertiary colleges and universities that were built, with an impressive 11 universities in total, and it’s clear that education has been a priority for the government.

So too with healthcare, with each district of the country having a major hospital. But that’s about where it ends for many of Zimbabwe’s youth, who have voiced their dissent amidst an atmosphere of oppression and fear. Weeks before the country’s Independence Day celebrations, vocal youth activist and chairman of the National Youth Alliance, Itai Dzamara, was abducted by suspected state security agents.

This is the reality for many of Zimbabwe’s youth who speak out against their 91-year-old president. As Rawlings Magede wrote in an opinion piece on the disillusionment of youth in the country: ‘Despite Zimbabwe being a signatory of

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GARISSA, KENYA

One date will be etched into the minds of Kenya’s youth for decades to come: 2 April 2015. This was the day that alShabaab gunmen stormed the Garissa University College, killing 147 people, mostly students, and injuring dozens more. As students who survived this day of terror have recounted, the attackers moved methodically through each structure, separating Christian from Muslim and killing all Christians in their wake. The sheer brutality and horror of the attack left the nation, and the world, reeling.

Nineteen-year-old student Cynthia Cheroitich was found alive hidden in a wardrobe two days after the attack, too terrified to come out. She shares in the emotional scars and collective trauma the university is now facing.

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Most alarming is al-Shabaab’s growing numbers, as they continue to recruit impoverished and unemployed young Kenyans living in the slums of Mombasa and Nairobi. As long as economic opportunities are scarce – at least 59 percent of the young working class is unemployed – Kenya’s marginalised youth are at risk of turning to al-Shabaab for the promise of a steady income.

Amidst this dismal reality lies much hope for the future, with organisations such as the Youth Agenda calling for more inclusion and participation of the youth in all spheres of this middle-income country. Thankfully, the government seems to be listening, with the Ministry of Youth Affairs promising to implement more programmes that foster access to economic opportunities for the youth.

TUNIS, TUNISIA

When a young Tunisian street vendor set himself on fire in a desperate protest against his treatment by the despotic regime in December 2010, no one could have predicted the galvanising spark this action would have. In what has become

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known as the Arab Spring, where demonstrations broke out around the country in the face of a brutal security crackdown, a peaceful uprising managed to topple one of the Arab world’s most oppressive regimes.

The revolution was propelled by young voices utilising social media channels to get their message out. As the protests spread, brave 27-year-old blogger Lina Ben Mhenni reported from the frontlines, posting photos and videos of the violent crackdown by police. The uprising quickly spread to other nations, including Egypt and Libya. Young activists had a voice for the first time, refusing to back down during the 29 days of mass protests.

With more than four years having passed since this admirable display of youth in action, Tunisia’s uprising has proved far more successful, with many of the leading young activists being integrated into the new regime. They have played a role in the transitional electoral system, and although there are still many challenges to be faced, their inclusion in this process has shaped a monumental moment in history. Not so for their comrades in Egypt, where it appears the military have won for now. E

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HEART DISEASE IN WOMEN Women young and old often believe that heart attacks are the disease of men and older people. However, this is far from true. We tell you why you should be taking better care of your heart.

lthough popular belief used to be that cardiovascular diseases (CVD) were a man’s ailment, there’s an increasing amount of medical information to dispute this. CVD is actually a serious condition that affects an extensive number of women globally. Research shows that CVD and strokes are the biggest killer of women around the world – more so than cancer, tuberculosis, HIV/AIDS and malaria combined – meaning it’s time that women sit up and pay attention when it comes to matters of the heart.

A LIFESTYLE DISEASE

There are a number of myths regarding the occurrence and treatment of heart disease among people of different identities: men as compared to women, black or white, young or old, rich or poor. However, the

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fact of the matter is that CVD is a low-andmiddle-income disease that is extremely dependent on lifestyle choices.

“Women in low- and middleincome countries fare worse than men, experiencing a higher proportion of CVD deaths than men,” says the World Heart Federation. For instance, while it used to be true that women in developed countries were more susceptible to heart disease than women in developing countries such as in Africa, we are not far behind.

As African women scramble for job titles previously held by men, while also maintaining the home front, they are unwittingly increasing their risk of heart disease as a result of these new stressful lifestyles that encourage bad habits such as smoking, poor diet and a lack of exercise.

In South Africa, which is now referred to as the financial hub of the continent, the figures are especially worrisome.

“Here, the proportion of CVD deaths in women aged between 35 to 59 years is 150 percent higher than that of women in the United States,” the World Heart Federation warns. Backing up these figures, top risk product provider, Altrisk, in their analysis of insurance claims between May 2011 and May 2012, revealed some sobering statistics. They found that CVD is the leading cause of insurance claims by women across critical illness and life cover, and is occurring at younger ages than ever before.

“Current insurance claim trends indicate that serious illnesses, such as heart disease, are no longer the preserve of men and the elderly. While men remain a higher risk group for now, in terms of heart disease, women are catching up fast and can no longer afford to ignore their risks for heart disease,” says Michael Blain, managing director of Altrisk.

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Altrisk revealed some sobering statistics derived from its own claims analysis about the heart health of South African women:  34 percent of all life claims by women are due to heart disease.  A large portion of these claims are from women younger than 60.  Indications are that heart disease is becoming the number one cause of death among women.  Cancer is still the number one cause of all critical illness claims by women, but strokes and heart attacks follow closely in second place, with that gap fast closing.  In South Africa, CVD remains one of the major killers, with one in four women experiencing some form of heart condition before the age of 60.

CVD is probably as complex as a woman’s heart, with stroke, hypertensive heart disease and congenital heart disease being some of the concerns now emerging among women. Yet, as alarming as the statistics may be, there is much that you can do to prevent and manage this disease.

PREVENTION IS BEST

Urbanisation is unavoidable as more people gravitate towards cities for jobs and

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by 2050, it is estimated that seven out of 10 people will live in cities. However, the allure of the big cities and jobs often come at a price. “While some characteristics of urban settings may lead to a better quality of life, rapid growth and unplanned urbanisation have created cities that in many ways hinder an individual’s ability to live healthily. Where an individual lives, works, and plays, or what they eat, affects their cardiovascular health,” the World Heart Federation stresses.

So, what should we be doing to avoid becoming just another heart disease statistic? According to South Africa’s Heart and Stroke Foundation, there’s a great deal you can do to keep your heart healthy, whatever your sex, race or age.

They recommend that we all: 1. Know our numbers To prevent your risk of a heart attack or stroke, it’s essential you know your blood pressure numbers. Your doctor or a nurse at a clinic or pharmacy can measure your blood pressure and help you to take action to get your numbers under control.  Less than 120/80 to 129/84 is normal.  130/85 to 139/89 is slightly elevated.  140/90 to 159/99 is mild hypertension.  160/100 to 179/109 is moderate hypertension.  More than 180/110 is severe

A balanced, nutritious diet is vital to keeping your blood pressure levels under control.  Avoid salty foods such as bread, sausages, pies, margarine, and soup powders, gravies, Aromat, atchaar, crisps and breakfast cereals.  Add less salt during the cooking process and at the table. Rather use lemon juice, herbs and spices to add flavour to food.  Eat a variety of foods every day.  Go for high-fibre starchy foods, such as seed bread instead of white bread.  Eat healthy proteins such as chicken, fish, lean meat and eggs.  Eat low-fat dairy foods.  Eat lots of dried beans, split peas, lentils and soya.  Aim for five portions of fresh fruits and vegetables every day (three veg and two fruit).  Use vegetable oils, such as olive and canola oil, and fewer hard fats, such as butter and margarine.  Avoid or limit your intake of sugary foods and drinks.  Drink alcohol in moderation (a maximum of one drink daily for women and two daily for men).

3. The following recommendations are just as important:  Get your blood pressure checked regularly.  If you smoke, STOP! Your blood pressure will improve almost instantly.  Aim to lose 1 to 1.5kg per week if you’re overweight. A dietician can help you with this.  Get some moderate exercise every day.  Try to keep your stress levels in check. Pilates, yoga and meditation are all good relaxation techniques.  If you do have high blood pressure, it’s important to take your medication as prescribed.

REMEMBER: If you experience an irregular heartbeat, severe headache, pounding in your ears, chest or neck pain, difficulty breathing, fatigue or confusion or vision problems – you could be heading for a stroke or heart attack. Make a point of getting your heart checked regularly. Your health starts with you. E

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As women increasingly take up roles once considered the exclusive domain of men, there is a growing uneasiness among their male counterparts, who feel they are being forgotten. EOA questions if women empowerment is causing the decline of the alpha male.

hings are different for men, nowadays,” Chester*, 29, says as he tends to his fruit stall in Cape Town’s bustling Adderley Street. “Lekka, lekka ready-to-eat avocados and seedless grapes, or how about some delicious plums for the bums, nice and sweet just for you my sweetheart,” he jeers at a woman passerby.

Kitted out in a tweed two-piece suit and pulling a laptop trolley case, she bears all the markings of a businesswoman or a legal expert, especially given how close to the Department of Justice and Constitutional Development Offices we are.

“See that attitude of hers right there? Miss Bossy Boots knows she can get me into a lot of trouble just for saying that. Women know so much about everything these days and they even have better jobs than us [men].”

He has a sad look on his sun-beaten face, a look that quickly vanishes as he shouts out at the top of his lungs, “Aweh oulike meisie [hey there, pretty lady ]. How about some tasty druiwe [grapes]? All my produce is fresh, just like me. Looking is free for you, but I’ll have to charge if you want to sample my banana, I mean bananas.”

WORDS: HAYDEN HORNER. IMAGE: ©ISTOCK.COM.

REVERSAL OF FORTUNE

Chester wasn’t always a street vendor. As recently as 2005 he owned a small fruit farm in Ceres, about 90 minutes drive from Cape Town. From here he supplied ‘good quality fruit for cheap’ to street vendors in the city and to guest houses and restaurants in the Ceres Valley. However, he filed for bankruptcy when a neighbouring farm became his biggest competitor.

“Don’t you know it, the farm was owned by a woman. It’s all about women these days. If it has a woman at the wheel it rides like a money-making machine. And us men are getting mowed down in the process,” says Chester, who believes that as women make steady advancements in

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education, work and social circles, men are being cast by the wayside.

Young women are making rapid gains at work and in the classroom. According to a recent report by the Pew Research Center, an American think tank that provides information on social issues, public opinion and demographic trends: “It’s not just that young women are graduating college in higher numbers than men; their educational gains have also come at a much faster rate. The educational trajectory of young women across the generations has been especially steep,” notes Pew’s Eileen Patten and Richard Fry.

BATTLE OF THE SEXES

Zanele*, a 32-year-old Johannesburg-based actuary, knows only too well about this educational trajectory. “Since biblical times, marginalised groups have worked hard to lift themselves out of lives of servitude and oppression. Women have always been part of this struggle. It is only recently that our hard work is beginning to show any real reward. Do our [women’s] achievements have a negative effect on men and the power they once held, and should we feel guilty about it? The answer is yes and no,” she says.

As a young professional, Zanele says her gender and sexuality has often served as the strong gust of wind that shuts doors on her career. “If it’s not one thing, it’s another for women trying to get a step up in life.

Very often it is rules and decisions made by men that hold women back. The battle is an ongoing one and it can be cut-throat.

Call me an angry lesbian, but I really don’t mind getting some blood on my hands if it helps me climb the corporate ladder,” she says without a hint of empathy in her voice.

While the rate of young working women is still five percent lower than men, the share of women in the workforce has now jumped 28 percent since the silent generation of women from the 1960s.

Meanwhile, for men, the workplace poll

has fallen by 10 percent – another reason for men to worry. “There is a word for that worry that men are now experiencing. It’s called ‘athazagoraphobia’ and it is the fear of being forgotten, ignored or replaced,” says Zanele, adding how different it is when the shoe is on the other foot. But isn’t this a classic case of the abused becoming the abuser, and what does it say about feminism and the inclusion of all genders in the struggles?

IT’S NOTHING PERSONAL

The basic line of reasoning is that women are better suited to post-industrial society than their male counterparts. Hanna Rosin, who wrote the article and subsequent book The End of Men: And The Rise Of Women (Riverhead Books, 2012), posits: ‘Women are better suited to our current economy, since they excel at social intelligence, open communication and the ability to sit still and focus. Men, on the other hand, are only better at being big and strong. Women have the traits needed today; men have the traits needed yesterday.’

Sharing Rosin’s sentiments, South African social commentator and gender activist, Selogadi Mampane, says that people do not like to share power, privileges and access. It’s when this power and control is at risk of being lost for good that fear sets in. Mampane says the idea that women are coming in the dead of night to hurt you is simply there to help sustain the status quo and stunt the much-needed change that we are tired of waiting for. She says, “It’s impossible to exclude men in a patriarchal society; they are always already included.

People have even managed to turn the word feminism into a slur and something that should be feared.”

Chester takes little comfort in these sentiments. “They [women] are slowly getting rid of us. One day we’ll disappear for good, just like the rhinos will, too.” E

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IT ADS UP PERFECTLY

Ever wanted to know what goes into making a great advertisement, or how to get into the industry? Xolisa Dyeshana, executive creative director of Joe Public, shares some industry secrets and tells us why advertising is his passion.

Q: How did you get into advertising and was it your first career choice?

Art has always been one of my great loves, from drawing with my brothers on a rainy day when we were trapped indoors to selecting it as one of my school subjects.

So, naturally, it formed part of my tertiary studies. But while I loved art, I needed to find a way to make money out OF the thing I love so much. So I set my sights on the advertising industry. Now I get paid to do what I love.

Q: Your name is seldom mentioned without hearing Pepe Marais. Who is he?

Pepe Marais is one of the founders of Joe Public. He is also the person that recruited me to join the agency. He’s a mentor, friend and just an all-round amazing guy who I’ve worked together with to help boost our creative position as Joe Public. I’ve been working with Pepe since 2006, when he asked me to leave my beloved Cape Town and join him in Johannesburg, where we’ve done incredible things together. I’ve never looked back.

Q: Can you name some of the most memorable projects have you worked on?

We’ve had immense fun growing as individuals and also as a business. However, one of our proudest achievements is the behavioural change campaign called ‘Brothers for Life’ [encourages men as role models] which we did for John’s Hopkins Health and Safety South Africa. Being involved in something that improves people’s lives is hugely rewarding. We also established our own NGO, called ‘One School at a Time’, where we work with different schools from disadvantaged

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communities. Our existing clients have been generous in donating towards our NGO, but fresh donor interest is always welcome to help us reach more schools.

Q: Name a couple of your favourite advertisements?

It would probably have to be Telkom’s ‘molo mhlobo wam’ campaign, from almost 10 years ago, because it really resonated with viewers. I was also fortunate to have recently worked with the director of that same ad on a Nedbank campaign. Another favourite advert of mine is Apple’s 1984 ‘Super Bowl’ commercial to launch the Apple Macintosh computer.

Q: What goes into the process and planning of each piece of creative work?

Every creative ad starts with a brief from the client. This is the birth of an idea.

The client tells us what they want to do and what they are selling, as well as to whom they are trying to sell it. It then goes through accounts management, who are the gatekeepers of the agency and our client contact. From there it goes to strategy; another important step to help simplify the client request before it ends up with the creative team, of which I am a part. We then develop the big idea that makes consumers sit up and pay attention.

All the people I’ve mentioned have to then present the final idea to the client.

Q: Has much changed in the ad industry since you started, and what do you wish could be different?

What has changed since I started is the wide access to technology. While it’s presented a lot of opportunity, it has

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“But while I loved art, I needed to find a way to make money out OF the thing I love so much. So I set my sights on the advertising industry. Now I get paid to do what I love.” created some challenges, such as the fact that people now have more choices in their viewing options.

As a result, we now have to be even more creative in our thinking and with what we put out there. It’s very competitive right now, which is also great because competition fuels our creativity. Something that hasn’t changed enough is transformation and that the industry is still not racially representative enough. This is something I’ve tried to change during my tenure as chair of the Loeries (brand communication awards in SA), and is something I continue to do when meeting with various industry leaders. Although some progress has been made, there is still a lot more that has to change.

Q: What’s your favourite app or digital tool, and what’s your view

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of social media as an advertising platform?

My favourite app is Instagram. I find it very engaging because it’s visual and is less intense than others, like Twitter, where everything you say is under a microscope. Social media is great for advertising because, unlike in the past, it creates a two-way conversation between brands and consumers as viewers can immediately give feedback.

Q: So, a lot of us watch Ayeye. Is this an accurate portrayal of the ad industry?

I wish we had as much sex as the guys in Ayeye. While I think it’s a fair representation of the industry when it comes to the creative side of it, we need to remember that it’s a fictitious drama and a lot of it is exaggerated.

So, I think it’s very entertaining but

there is a lot more to the industry than just sex, drugs and parties … unfortunately [laughs] Q: What keeps you sane and on top of your creative game?

As a curious student of the world, I am always trying to learn new things and take notice of what’s happening around me. I keep busy trying to expand my knowledge and feed that back into the world. A few tequilas in between doesn’t hurt either – as long as it’s gold tequila. [laughs] Q: What advice do you have for aspiring creative minds?

Find out about the industry. Identify where you’d like to fit in. Research as many agencies as possible and just go for it. It’s an amazing career and, as we like to say in the business: ‘It’s the most fun you’ll have with your clothes on.’ E

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Affection hat is your earliest childhood memory? Do you remember it?

And how far back can you remember?”

Ruth asked me during a gin-induced night at home. I looked at her, thinking to myself how this remains a subject of debate among scholars and researchers both, with some believing our earliest memories are of sounds while we’re still in the womb. But there’s a fine line

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between science and science fiction.

Ruth was gob-smacked when I told her my earliest memory was at age four.

“Four?” she checked again, in disbelief. “Yes, four,” I’d told her, without blinking. “It must have been quite traumatic, then, for you to recall it all these years later?” she inquired, hoping for a tragedy.

“Actually, it was quite the opposite. It was a feeling I never experienced before and it was so powerful that it started

in my chest, shot to my head, tried to sneak down to my groin, but was quickly redirected back to my chest, where it still remains till this day,” I explained.

Her eyes were wide with anticipation.

“Wow! What could do that to a four-year-old boy?” she insisted with urgency now.

“It was my first sight of dawn,” I continued. Ruth looked disappointed but pushed me for more.

“Dawn! Did you experience it from a space shuttle or what?” she snickered in a bitchier than usual way.

Perhaps she was feeling particularly amBITCHious today and aimed to beat her earlier record.

“No. But my first experience of dawn was so explosive, I may as well have experienced it from the space shuttle Columbia,” I said, waiting for a reaction.

Nothing. Oh well, I suppose she was just too young to remember that Columbia exploded not long after take-off “So, go on?” she encouraged.

“My mother and I were returning from Johannesburg, where she’d found me three years after my dad kidnapped me. It was 1979. I only know that from the maths, but I don’t remember what day it was. As the train pulled into the old Durban station, which is now The Workshop mall, I saw Dawn over the platform. She was wearing a canary yellow maxi dress and espadrilles – very hippie chic – her hair in an Afro and she carried a small potted plant, which I later discovered was an African violet.”

“I had no idea she was the middle of three of my sisters but the connection was instant. I fell in love with my sister.

Not in an incestuous way, but wholeheartedly and completely and to the point where I died when she died of cervical cancer 24 years later. But I am slowly being resuscitated by her memory and the help of my therapist. And I now understand what EE Cummings meant when he wrote: I carry your heart with me; I carry it in my heart; I am never without it...”

Ruth had a tear in her eye. But I soon realised it was the result of a poorly applied false eyelash.

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EOA BEAUTY

STRAIGHT AND SLEEK HAIR CONDITIONER, R42.99, DIS-CHEM, CLICKS & SELECTED RETAIL STORES. Enriched with kiwi extract and milk essence for extra nutrition to ensure softer, smoother, more manageable hair.

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CORPUS PARADOX ANTI AGE BODY OIL, FROM R600, SELECTED WELLNESS SPAS. Corpus Paradox Body Oil penetrates quickly to provide significant anti-ageing treatment, combined with a pamper sensation.

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LEAVE-IN HAIR CONDITIONING MOISTURE, R150, RUUTOS. Rich in aloe vera, olive and camellia oleifera extracts and infused with repairing vitamin A, B and E to keep hair looking healthy.

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Lelethu Tobi is wearing a straight lace front wig to suit her long and slim face. This wig can be styled straight for a sleek, elegant finish.

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main BEAUTY EOA Hlulani Masingi is wearing a curly ‘freestyle’ lace wig, which is perfect for her narrow face. With this type of wig, she can make a path and pin the hair down to give it more volume on the sides and at the back.

LACE WIGS

For your everyday look!

Wigs are a woman’s must-have hair accessory. No matter what hairstyle you have, they’re the perfect way to switch up your style. Lace fronts are flattering, easy-to-style and also protect your natural hair. Ruutos Hair Salon showed EOA the different types of lace wigs and how they can be styled.

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main BEAUTY EOA For that special occasion, use a hair iron to add elegant curls.

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Topknots and ballerina buns are popular worldwide.

Secure the hair in a bun for a no-fuss option.

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WORDS: TUMI MDLULI. MODELS: HLULANI MASINGI, LELETHU TOBI. PHOTOGRAPHER: GARETH JACOBS. LOCATION: RUUTOS HAIR. MAKE-UP: ELLANOR NDLOVU.

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Wet curls and apply a leave-in conditioner for a healthy, vibrant look.

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EOA BEAUTY & HEALTH NEWS

Keep your tresses in shape this winter

WASH YOUR HANDS CLEOPATRA STYLE! The secret to Cleopatra’s beauty was bathing in milk, so take a cue from this ancient beauty queen and treat your hands to NIVEA’s new Honey & Milk Cream Liquid Handwash. These two ingredients have long been known for their skin-nourishing and exfoliating properties respectively. The rich and nourishing formula from NIVEA is infused with milk proteins containing lactic acid that gently exfoliate, and honey to protect and deeply nourish your skin as you wash. The gentle scent of honey heightened by soft floral notes leaves your hands feeling pampered and fresh. NIVEA Honey & Milk Cream Liquid Handwash (250ml) is available from leading retail outlets and pharmacies nationwide for only R27.99. For more info, visit NIVEA.co.za.

TIGHTEN YOUR SKIN WITHOUT SURGERY

Do you want toned, firm and wrinkle-free skin without having to inject your skin with Botox and Fillers? Try Radio Frequency (RF) Skin Tightening treatment, an advanced technology that safely heats and regenerates the collagen in your skin. Casa De Classe, a beauty and slimming clinic in Pretoria (Gauteng) explains that during this treatment, sufficient energy is delivered to the layers of the skin causing collagen to regenerate. As a result of collagen remodelling, skin is firmer and younger-looking. For more info, contact Lebogang Lesu on +27 (0)83 479 4556.

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Summer and autumn allow you to experiment with your funky styles, but with the arrival of winter, your haircare techniques must change. Del Sandeen, black haircare expert from About.com, shares four ways to keep your black hair healthy this winter.

1. Deep Condition: In winter, the dry heat of indoor heating appliances also dries out your hair. Fight dry hair with an extra deep conditioning once a week.

2. Wash Less: Leaving the house with wet hair is never a good idea, especially not in winter, when your hair might break. Don’t wash your hair every day during this season. Rather shampoo and condition about once a week.

3. Wear A Protective Style: Hairstyles such as braids, twists and buns are best for protecting your hair from harsh weather. This will soften the transition from outdoor cold to indoor heat and reduce damage to your hair.

4. Avoid Breakage: Not all breakage is caused by the products you use. Some is caused by what you wear on your head, such as hats and scarves, which might be made from wool. Wool rubs against and pulls on delicate black hair. Try to wear them correctly to avoid damage.

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The AMC Cook’s Book is available through an AMC Consultant, at an AMC Sales Centre or online at www.amcsa.co.za for R150.

MC cookware is a respected brand.

Because pots are their specialty, they decided to create a recipe book. Compiled by the AMC in-house team, the recipe book covers basics from cooking rice right up to making decadent desserts and everything in between, such as breakfasts and everyday meals that don’t require much of a fuss.

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The AMC Cook’s Book contains just over 70 fully tested, delicious recipes that all focus on using everyday ingredients to create something special. Whether combining chicken, butternut and spices to make a comforting winter meal or adding creativity to your salad repertoire with a coronation cauliflower salad, the cooking remains quick and easy. The vision at AMC is to have everyone cooking a healthy meal in every home, every day, and they hope that this little book helps to get you there!

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STICKY LEMON & THYME CHICKEN Serves 4 to 6 Ingredients 8 to 10 chicken thighs or drumsticks Salt and freshly ground black pepper 1 head of garlic, broken into cloves 30ml balsamic vinegar 30ml soy sauce 45ml honey A big handful of fresh thyme 1 lemon, sliced

Method

Heat an AMC 28cm Chef’s Pan over a medium temperature until the Visiotherm® reaches the first red area. Brown the chicken pieces on both sides and season with salt and pepper. Scatter the garlic cloves over and around the chicken and drizzle the vinegar, soy sauce and honey over the chicken. Place a layer of fresh thyme over the chicken pieces and cover this with a layer of lemon slices. Cover with lid, reduce the heat and cook for 40 to 60 minutes or until the chicken is cooked through and done to your liking. In the last 10 minutes of the cooking time, remove the lid and increase the heat slightly, allowing any sauce to reduce and become slightly sticky. Serve warm with mashed potatoes or cooked quinoa and a green salad.

Tips And Variations  If cooking more than 8 to 10 pieces of chicken, rather prepare this meal in an AMC 30cm Gourmet Grill or Electric Frying Pan.  For a different flavour, add freshly grated ginger to this meal in step 2 and replace the vinegar and half the soy sauce with brandy.

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MEXICAN CORN CASSEROLE Serves 4 to 6

Ingredients

250g lean beef or lamb mince 1 onion, chopped 2 cloves of garlic, crushed ½ each red and green pepper, seeded and chopped 5ml curry powder 10ml ground coriander 2½ to 5ml cayenne pepper or 1 small red chilli, seeded and chopped 1 tin (410g) tomato and onion mix 5ml sugar 1 tin (340g) sweetcorn, drained or frozen corn Salt and freshly ground black pepper 100g plain or spicy corn chips (e.g. nachos) 1 cup (250ml) sour cream or Bulgarian yoghurt 1 cup (100g) Cheddar cheese, coarsely grated 75ml fresh, chopped chives or parsley

Method

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until the Visiotherm® reaches the first red area. Brown the mince then spoon out and set aside. Add onion, garlic and peppers to the pan and sauté until soft. Add spices and sauté for 2 to 3 minutes. Add tomato mix and sugar and mix through.

Add the mince to the mixture, reduce the heat and simmer without the lid for 10 minutes or until mince is cooked and all the liquid has evaporated. Add corn, season to taste with salt and pepper and mix through. Cover pan with lid and heat through until Visiotherm® reaches first red area again.

Layer the chips on top of the mixture and pour sour cream or yoghurt over. Sprinkle with cheese and cover with lid. Remove cookware from heat and allow cheese to melt. It will take about 5 minutes. If using AMC Gourmet cookware, you could place under the grill for a few minutes. Sprinkle with chives or parsley and serve immediately. Serve with slices of avocado when in season or with a green salad.

Tips And Variation

 To serve as a vegetarian dish omit the mince, curry powder and coriander and prepare as above.  Alternatively substitute the mince with small cubes of aubergines and cook in step 3 until cooked through.

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SPICY BEEF STEW WITH CREAMY POLENTA Serves 4 to 6 Ingredients 1 to 1.2 kg beef stewing meat (lamb or pork can also be used) 2 onions, chopped 2 green peppers, seeded and diced 2 cloves of garlic, crushed 1 chilli seeded and chopped (optional) 1 tin (410 g) chopped tomatoes 5ml sugar ½ cup (125ml) chicken, vegetable or beef stock 15ml ground cumin 10ml ground coriander 5ml cayenne pepper 30ml flour Salt & freshly ground black pepper

Polenta:

1 onion, finely chopped 1 red pepper, finely chopped 1 chilli, seeded and finely chopped 1 litre chicken or vegetable stock 250g polenta (quick cooking polenta) ½ cup (125ml) cream 1 to 1½ cups (100 to 150 g) Cheddar cheese, grated Salt & freshly ground black pepper

Method

Heat an AMC 8 Litre Speedcooker® with a normal AMC 24cm lid on, over a medium temperature until the Visiotherm® reaches the first red area. Brown a third of the meat and remove with a slotted spoon, set aside and repeat with rest in batches. Sauté onions, pepper, garlic and chilli for a few minutes. Add tomatoes, sugar, stock and spices. Return meat to cookware, stir well and seal with the Speedcooker® lid. Allow indicator to reach the red level. Reduce heat to a slightly lower setting to maintain indicator at this level and cook for 20 to 30 minutes. Remove Speedcooker® from heat and allow the cooking indicator to drop completely. Release excess steam by pressing down red safety valve and open unit.

Mix some of the hot stew gravy with the flour to form a paste and add back to Speedcooker®.

Stir and allow to cook for a few minutes over a medium heat until stew has thickened. Season to taste. Meanwhile heat an AMC 20cm High over a medium temperature until the Visiotherm® reaches the first red area. Add onions, pepper and chilli for polenta and sauté until soft. Add stock and bring to a boil. Once boiling, pour polenta into the unit while stirring continuously until polenta is cooked.

Remove from heat. Stir in cream and grated cheese.

Season to taste and serve immediately with stew.

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BARLEY SOUP WITH SAUSAGES & SOUR CREAM Serves 8

WORDS: NAWAAL NOLWAZI MDLULI AND THINA MTHEMBU. SOURCE: AMC COOK BOOK. PHOTOGRAPHY BY AMC.

Ingredients

5 pork sausages or sausage of your choice 2 onions, chopped 2 cloves of garlic, crushed 2 to 3 celery stalks, sliced 4 carrots, coarsely grated 4 baby marrows, coarsely grated 1 large potato, peeled and coarsely grated 2 litres chicken or vegetable stock 2 bay leaves 30 to 40ml dried mixed herbs or origanum 150 to 200ml pearl barley 1 tin (410 g) chopped tomatoes 10ml sugar ½ cup (125 ml) sour cream Salt and freshly ground black pepper Fresh origanum leaves for garnish

Method

Place sausages in an AMC 8 Litre Speedcooker®, cover with a normal 24cm lid and heat over a medium temperature until the Visiotherm® reaches the first red area. Remove the lid, turn sausages over and cook until golden brown and almost cooked through. Spoon out and set aside. Sauté onion, garlic and celery in the same unit until transparent. Add carrots, baby marrows and potato and sauté further. Add stock, bay leaves, dried herbs, barley, tomatoes and sugar, mix well and bring to a simmer. Seal the unit with the Speedcooker® lid and heat until the red ring on the indicator shows. Reduce temperature slightly to maintain the indicator at this level and cook for 15 minutes. Remove from heat and allow indicator to drop completely before opening the Speedcooker®. Thinly slice the sausages and add with the sour cream to the soup. Simmer for 5 minutes season to taste and garnish with fresh origanum before serving.

Tips & Variations

 Alternatively prepare soup in an AMC 24cm High.

Follow step 1 and 2, cover with lid and reduce heat.

Cook for 1 hour or until barley is cooked.  For a vegetarian version, omit the sausages and instead sprinkle finely grated pecorino or cheddar cheese over the warm soup.  The more barley you use, the thicker the soup becomes. So add barley to taste if you prefer a thicker or thinner soup.

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LIGHT IT UP

The right lighting in your home can make or break a space, but with these four major trends you won’t go wrong: Light automation: Gone are the days that you have to search for a light switch in the dark. The Philips lighting control system illuminates a space as you walk, thus saving energy.

Mood lighting: Play with coloured light to create the perfect atmosphere and bring dark corners to life. Philips LivingColors Micro LivingColor Lamps from about R249 can give any space a facelift.

Strip lighting: Great for indoor and outdoor use, LED strip lights are perfect for night-scaping features in your garden, lighting up bathroom mirrors or framing kitchen cabinets.

Solar lighting: No need to worry about load shedding when you have solar-powered LED lighting solutions that maximise the sun’s energy to provide high-quality illumination – it’s convenient, sustainable and minimal maintenance.

HOME ADDITIONS All the latest news, updates and products you need to know about.

Bring the big screen home Winter is the perfect time of year to ‘play’ at home. This means more entertaining – hosting dinners and of course movie nights.

With BNC Technology you can have a state-of-the-art home cinema installed with the help of a meticulous process that incorporates a holistic balance of the aesthetic and technical aspects. For more information, visit bnctechnology.co.za.

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DÉCOR news EOA

Elegant touch Biggie Best has a reputation for bringing quality fabric in classic prints and motifs to the décor world and their new additions are no different. The Shades of Grey collection is ideal for sofas as its heavily textured in three different complementary shades. The Embroidery collection has glamorous touches of embroidery to make curtains look more luxurious. For more information, go to biggiebestwebshop.co.za.

A breath of fresh air Cleverly concealed within the cistern behind the wall, Geberit’s DuoFresh unit extracts odour straight from the toilet bowl with its exceptional functionality. Even the most poorly ventilated space will be left smelling fresh as active carbon filters clean the air and resupply it to the room. The energy-saving odour extraction unit is activated by a touch of the button and switches off automatically.

It is easy to install and is compatible with a wide range of Geberit cisterns and wall hung ceramic toilet bowls. Go to geberit.co.za for more information.

Go Green

WORDS: RHODA DAVIDS. IMAGES: SUPPLIED BY STOCKISTS.

Going green is no longer a trend but the norm, as more and more household and home décor products are produced with an emphasis on reducing the impact on the environment. The Green Home Fair, taking place at Brooklyn Mall in Pretoria from 27 to 28 June 2015, forms part of this year’s Sustainability Week and will showcase ecodecorating and finishes, motoring, travelling, veggie gardens, ecosport and recycling ideas. By living a greener lifestyle, you’ll have fewer chemicals, more nutritious food and a reduction in waste – all contributing to a better home and community. For more information, go to sustainabilityweek.co.za.

Get comfy Volpes recently introduced it winter collection – it’s on trend and focuses on layering. Start with fluffy winter sheets of brushed cotton and flannel, then choose from basic colours such as eggshell and grey or go for luxurious burgundy and team, and add some interesting touches and texture. You can now also shop online at volpes.co.za, so there’s no need to step out into the cold. E

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n 20 April 2015 MRP launched its official AW15 denim campaign.

Friends of the brand were all invited to share their artistic take on denim by way of film or photography. Upon arrival, each guest was given an orange brooch with the name of another guest on it. Part of the fun was to find their ‘partner’ at the event in order to win a special gift.

Entertainment for the evening included a live performance by Beatenberg. As part of the AW15 denim campaign, MRP invited the public to submit their denim-inspired billboard designs. The winning design was placed on a billboard in Braamfontein in Johannesburg for the public to cast their votes. E

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SAMSUNG AND FERRARI TURN HEADS n 22 April 2015, EOA attended the launch of the lineup of Samsung Electronics Co. Ltd’s SUHD TVs to the South African market at Scuderia South Africa, Ferrari Building in Bryanston (Johannesburg). The champagne flowed as guests eyed the gorgeous Ferrari sports cars on site. MC, Miss Pabi Moloi made her grand entry in a redhot Ferrari California and continued to sizzle throughout the evening.

Speakers included Mathew Thackrah, Deputy Managing Director and Head of Consumer Electronics at Samsung Electronics SA, and springbok rugby player, Victor Matfield. The highlight of the evening was a raffle to win a Ferrari experience! E

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Living it up There’s nothing better than cosy nights entertaining indoors. Here’s how to create an inviting, warm living space for your winter soirées.

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DÉCOR feature EOA With double-volume ceilings and loads of natural light, open plan spaces take on a whole new dimension. Throw in a large fireplace and you have the ultimate living space, especially when there’s a chill in the air. When a fireplace is the focal highlight of the space you don’t want the furniture placed around it so visitors look like an audience staring into the ambers – seating must always be placed in a way to encourage conversation.

Key pieces of furniture include a sofa (in this case an L-shaped sofa) and a daybed for lounging. The item that is used most frequently is usually the biggest piece of furniture and should be placed directly opposite the fireplace. The best way to determine the distance between the fireplace and the sofa is to test the reach of the heat – you should be able to feel the heat of the fire when lounging about.

This also means that furniture pieces should be moved closer together and away from the walls.

Additional occasional or comfortable armchairs can be added and should face inward to face each other and the fireplace.

Keep tables low so you can see over them and so they do not block the heat.

The ambient lighting in the form of pendant lights hanging from the high ceiling, lamps on the mezzanine level and the spotlights in the kitchen all add to the warm glow of the entire space, but are installed in such a way that they do not detract from the light of the fireplace.

Wood flooring left in its natural matte state gives the space a warm foundation in contrast to the cool white walls and ceiling. Other touches of wood such as the piano, distressed wood coffee table, trays and storage boxes, make the space cosier and inviting, while décor accessories, vases and fresh flowers add splashes of colour.

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The final touches for your winter living room is an abundance of scatter cushions in various textures – try velvet, wool and even knit options, as well as throws placed at the foot of your daybed, on the arm of your sofa or neatly rolled up and placed in basket near the fireplace. Lastly, shaggy, plush rugs on the wood floors are a must, especially when you haul out the board games and gather on the floor around the coffee table. E

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The central theme in Wanda Baloyi’s life – in and out of the recording booth – is love. The singer spoke to EOA about what drives her.

t the end of February 2015, Wanda Baloyi’s fourth solo album, Love & Life (2014), scooped the Best Urban Jazz statue at the 14th Metro FM Music Awards. The award felt like affirmation for the singer’s work on an album released after a lengthy break since her third album, Colours (2009).

“Getting that award felt like my ‘Waiting To Exhale’ moment because I’d been holding my breath, working hard and waiting to be recognised for so long,” she recalls. While she may not have felt recognised in the 18 years that she has been in the South African music industry, Baloyi was always seen. She stood out as the vocalist of kwaito group, Ghetto Luv in 1997. Down the line, she made a name for herself as African jazz newbie in her first solo outing, Voices (2003) which was not only produced by jazz guitarist and family friend, Jimmy Dludlu, but also went on to win a KORA Award in 2004.

Baloyi then further pursued the world of sound with the critically acclaimed So Amazing in 2005 before trying her hand at fusion on Colours. In her latest offering, she marries R&B, soul and hip hop with lyrics written by South African Awardwinning singer, Kabomo. “I really wanted to move away from the previous sounds,” she explains, “and we don’t embrace songwriters in South Africa. Even though I’m a songwriter, I wanted someone else to tell my story the best way they could.

Kabomo wrote the lyrics but they are still my stories.”

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Ten of 14 of these stories were written in 10 days. Less than a year later, they became Metro FM Award-worthy.

A MELODIC JOURNEY Thirty-four-year-old Baloyi was born in the Betrams, Johannesburg, to Mozambican parents, Joyce Baloyi and Jaco Maria. She says her childhood included the ‘privilege to experience a home where we ate Mozambican food, spoke the language and had the culture, while at school I was embedded in South African culture.’

Baloyi’s father was the guitarist and frontman of popular 1980s band, Ozila. “My dad definitely influenced me,” she says proudly. “I grew up going to his rehearsals. I didn’t know then that the seed of loving music was being planted in me, but those experiences moulded me to be what I am today.”

It was only in high school that the seed bore fruit. At 16 and together with three friends, Baloyi founded all-girl kwaito crew, Ghetto Luv, which signed to iconic record label, Ghetto Ruff in 1997. The group went on to win a SAMA for their sexually liberated subject matter in their single, Foreplay.

“I loved singing and I would take any opportunity to sing.

So being in a group in high school was just fun. The bonus was getting paid for it,” she laughs. “Back in the Ghetto Luv days, we were in a male-dominated industry and it was hard getting people to take you seriously. Ghetto Luv was a very bold, vocal group of young girls at the time.”

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WORDS: HELEN HERIMBI. IMAGES: SUPPLIED BY WANDA BALOYI.

Her fearlessness saw her accept the help of family friend, Jimmy Dludlu, to produce Voices. “I loved and still love Jimmy’s music and he represented the kind of music I wanted to make,” Baloyi shares.

“Going solo was scary because I had to meet learned, professional musicians in studio and here I was doing a genre I’d never done before. But I trusted my gut and the people on the Voices project.”

She remembers that she ‘wasn’t expecting to win’ the Best Female award at the 2004 KORA Awards. Thandiswa Mazwai won. “I was depressed; I thought my life was over and then while sitting there, this guy got on stage and he was speaking French, but he kept saying my name. I was like ‘why is he making me a joke?’” It turned out that the Frenchman was calling her up to receive the Best African Arrangement award – for which she didn’t know she had been nominated – for Voices.

THE WOMAN BEHIND THE VOICE Her love for music grew larger after that.

But before she could work on Love & Life, Baloyi explains how she got to a point where she felt an emptiness. “I started music in high school and it swallowed me so much that after matric, music is all I did. The emptiness sought education and to grow myself even more.” So she studied entrepreneurship at the University of South Africa (UNISA).

“I love challenging myself and I love business,” she says. “A lot of people don’t take music seriously as a business, but it is my business. My mom is an entrepreneur and I grew up around risk-takers, so I studied to better myself.” Over the years, Baloyi has carved out a thriving career, studied and won awards but she would still like to pour some of her energy into empowering young women. One of the ways that she expresses love is by giving encouraging talks to young women on various platforms.

Even though it seems far removed from music, it actually ties in with what Baloyi is inspired by the most – love.

“Music is the foundation laid for me and it can open doors outside of music, but whatever you believe in, that’s what you should be doing.” E

Wanda Baloyi’s Love & Life album is available in stores and on iTunes.

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REV THOSE ENGINES! In honour of Father’s Day, we’ve rounded up some of the hottest rides for a switched-on dad.

JAGUAR XF

Jaguar’s mainstream model is a dream dad machine. This sports sedan is replete with all the luxuries you’d expect from Jaguar, packaged into a seriously stylish design. The super comfy interior is ideal for family trips, with more space than you’d expect from a mid-sized car. The XF wraps you in its soft leather seats with electric adjustment and heating for driver and passenger, just in time for winter. It comes standard with a touch-screen front and rear parking aid, allowing you to slip into tight spaces quite easily – even wedged between two oversize SUVs in the school parking lot.

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But it’s not all about the frills. Have no doubt; the XF packs a serious punch. Boasting a 2.0 litre turbocharged engine, the turbo-boosting system offers an immediate response, even at low speeds. With 177 kW of power and 500 Nm torque, the Jag reaches 0-100 km/h in just 7.9 seconds. Its highpressure, direct injection diesel technology makes for low fuel consumption and minimal emissions. You’ll be in for a breezy ride with the Jag’s smooth-shifting eight-speed automatic transmission. All this while listening to your favourite music on a superlative 11-speaker sound system; it doesn’t get much better than that!

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WORDS: CARYN THANDI PETERSEN. IMAGES: JAGUAR LAND ROVER SOUTH AFRICA, MERCEDES-BENZ, JAGUAR.

DISCOVERY SPORT

The newest, most affordable member of the Land Rover family has arrived on our shores.

An incredibly versatile and compact SUV, the Discovery Sport features a premium interior with great seating flexibility. In a first for the brand, it offers a sliding second row of seats, allowing you to tailor the luggage and passenger space according to your needs (meaning you’ll never have to leave the golf clubs behind again). It’s also available with a 5+2-seating configuration. On- and off-road, its advanced drivetrain provides an exceptional breadth of capability, thanks to Terrain Response. This impressive system allows you to customise the SUV’s engine and gearbox to suit driving conditions.

Combined with a new rear suspension and other technologies, you’ll have complete confidence behind the wheel, no matter the conditions.

MERCEDES-BENZ C-CLASS

Recently winning World Car of the Year 2015 status, the new C-Class impressed both drivers and journos alike. Winning favour with its modern design, high-class interior and cutting-edge technology, it has set new standards in the premium mid-luxury segment. Mercedes-Benz developed a lightweight-design concept for the car, making it up to 100 kilograms lighter. With some exemplary safety and efficiency features, the C-Class is unbeatable when it comes to driving comfort; you’ll feel its agile handling the second you take it for a ride. When it comes to looks, the fresh C-Class is quite a stunner, from its refined, sporty exterior to its elegant interior. But there’s no need to keep this fine-looking sedan away from grubby little fingers and mud-stained feet. Just like a beautiful, lived-in couch, it’s made for comfy weekend drives as much as Monday morning meetings. E

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Magnificent

MADIKWE

Mateya Lodge will feel like home for those

with a refined eye who appreciate local art and prize Wi-Fi connectivity will feel at home. The lodge is beautifully designed with décor that showcases fine examples of African art and offers the comfort of private plunge pools matched to suites that combine visual appeal and comfort. That Out of Africa draped mosquito net luxury safari feel pervades….

Oenophiles are particularly welcome as Mateya boasts a serious wine cellar that aims to please.

atching a pack of wild dogs moving along a dusty sand track like a giant mottled shark as they seek out ‘dinner’ against a bold orange sky is one of the pleasures of visiting Madikwe Game Reserve, something that wouldn’t have been possible 30 years ago, when the area was all farmland.

The malaria-free Madikwe Game Reserve covers an area of 75 000 hectares and lies just this side of the Botswana Border.

It is something of a ‘miracle reserve’, as the people who live and work there will tell you.

The reserve made history with Operation Phoenix – one of the largest wildlife translocation programmes in the world (1991 to 1997) that transformed hectares of farmland into a veritable wildlife paradise, with over 8 000 animals (of 28 species) released, including elephant, buffalo, lion, cheetah, rhino, spotted hyaena,

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A vast choice of accommodation options, a wild and diverse landscape, the Big Five and incredible biodiversity...

Madikwe Game Reserve is blessed with natural riches and a good dose of community spirit. antelope, giraffe and many others, including the three hunting packs of African wild dog that roam the reserve at will.

The reserve’s accommodation options range from ultraluxurious to rustic and eco-friendly and it offers a unique experience thanks to a variety of landscapes and habitats that support diverse wildlife, including the best of the African bush ‘lookers’, such as cheetah, eland, kudu and giraffe, plus 300 species of birds and the enigmatic brown hyaena (more beast than beauty but captivating, particularly at night).

The Big Five are definitely a drawcard, but the rich habitat of the area allows for game drives that result in deeper experiences and unparalleled activities courtesy of the nature and wildlife in the area. With over 20 lodges spread across the reserve, travellers have a wide choice of accommodation to suit every pocket and preference. No day visitors are allowed, so choosing the perfect place to stay is both mandatory and recommended.

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Madikwe Hills Private Game Lodge

is built atop a naturally occurring boulder outcrop among local Tamboti trees, which are prized for their wood. The lodge receives only 24 guests at any one time and offers private suites with view-friendly glass walls and thatched roofs that blend into the surrounds. Well-lit wooden walkways connect the suites with the magnificent main gathering area, where guests meet for cocktails, meals and teas. The library stocks all manner of information on local wildlife and history, plus popular fiction choices.

You have to breathe for yourself, but Madikwe Hills will pretty much take care of anything else. It’s indulgent and delicious and is located slap-bang in the middle of the reserve, meaning game drives have boundless choices – you can set off in any direction and travel at will without bumping up against borders or boundaries. At dusk, as you sit on your private deck and look out over a vast expanse of African bush; it’s not unusual for giraffe or elephant to step into view before a flaming sun drops below the horizon. Honeymoon couples may want to consider the lodge’s Little Madikwe Private Village, which comes with its own vehicle and game ranger, plus the services of a trained personal butler.

Jaci’s Tree Lodge is a bush fantasy world adjacent to Jaci’s Safari Lodge, where you live and walk at the level of trees off the ground. The décor embraces African textures and incorporates invigorating views into your living space. You’re not just staying here – you’re part of the bush.

Jaci’s Safari Lodge will

suit those with children. Although the African bush isn’t always perceived as child friendly, Madikwe caters particularly well for families. It is recommended if you’re travelling en famille, local nannies (who are excellent childminders) can look after even the youngest of the young.

With the threat of malaria out of the way, Madikwe is the ideal location to introduce youngsters to the riches of the African wilderness via ‘Jungle Drives’ (for children up to five years), during which things of interest to children are highlighted and their questions are answered.

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Impodimo is another beautiful lodge that welcomes

youngsters and offers Kiddies Bumble Safari outings, which are not as long as the regular bush drives. Known also for its spa treatments, it is ideal for stressed parents who could do with a bit of pampering while their offspring are introduced to the inhabitants of the African bush.

Madikwe Safari Lodge, MADIKWE HILLS, Tau and Etali all offer spa facilities and

treatments in addition to beautiful thatch and wood-rich accommodation and enviable settings, overlooking rivers, water and the bushveld savannah. Etali is a classical lodge that is a favourite among many travellers who have been visiting Madikwe for years. Flowing spaces embracing beautiful views of the bush and contemporary Afro-chic dĂŠcor with a definite Zen slant create a unique language at this stylish lodge. Owners, staff and everyone you meet are friendly and welcoming.

The lodge is upmarket and sophisticated, yet laid back at the same time.

Madikwe Safari Lodge is renowned for its service and offers three accommodation options – Lelapa, which caters for families, and Dithaba and Kopano for couples and groups. When it comes to dining, visitors can look forward to a quality experience, with items such as grilled venison (very much organic and no air miles involved) and local specialities taking centre stage. Bread, cakes and muffins are baked fresh on the spot, fruit is prepared daily and the sit-down dinners are a feast of salads, swank main courses and indulgent desserts. Eating around the fire, though, is the preferred way to go as the smell of the wood enhances your dining experience immeasurably. june 2 0 1 5

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Royal Madikwe Luxury Safari Lodge is the perfect romantic retreat for honeymoon

couples. The breathtaking Royal Villa is literally a home away from home it is so spacious and lovingly decorated. This lodge also boasts a honeymoon suite with all the trimmings, which creates a mood of reclusiveness and luxury. There are more than a dozen others to choose from, each special in its own way – lodges such as Madikwe River Lodge, Makanyane, Motswiri, Rhulani, The Bush House, Tuningi , Jamala Madikwe, Molori and Morukuru.

WORDS: DENISE SLABBERT. IMAGES: MATEYA SAFARI LODGE, SEASONS IN AFRICA, AFRICAN SECRETS MANAGEMENT, IMPODIMO, ETALI safari, madikwe safari lodge, Royal madikwe, MOSETLHA BUSH CAMP, BUFFALO RIDGE SAFARI.

Mosetlha Bush Camp and Eco-Lodge are in keeping with

the times and strive to have as low an impact on the environment as possible, without sacrificing on the comfort scale. Meals are prepared al fresco over open fires, open-topped walls encourage a breeze to cool you down in lieu of air conditioning and bucket showers filled with hot water keep you clean and refreshed. The smart thing to do is to visit during South Africa’s dry winter months (from June to early September), when game viewing is at its best (shorter grass, and animals congregate at water holes). The days are warm but not blasting and the evenings are refreshing – ideal to cosy up to the fire.

Buffalo Ridge and Thakadu River Camp are examples of Madikwe’s ethic of social upliftment. The luxury lodges are fully owned by the local communities living in the immediate vicinity of the reserve. This ownership has an effect on employees – they’re empowered and realise that through their service they contribute to the greater good of all.

There are a few bush treats at Madikwe that shouldn’t be missed – having an outdoor shower or bath with a view always produces a frisson of daring; coffee and baked treats at sunrise with the sounds of the wilderness around you ensure a perfect start to the day; al fresco dining around a gorgeous fire or on a deck where the scenery plunges away from you is as dramatic as you could wish it to be. Your only responsibility here is enjoying yourself. E

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Find out more about Madikwe Game Reserve and its accommodation offerings at madikwe-lodges. co.za, www.madikwegamereserve.co.za or visit the North West Parks & Tourism Board website at www. parksnorthwest.co.za.

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EOA BOOKS THE FOREVER GIRL

ROAR OF THE AFRICAN LION

Alexander McCall-Smith R180, Little Brown Some easy reading that will leave you warm and fuzzy in front of the heater this winter, The Forever Girl is the story of Clover, a girl who lives under the cloudless skies of the Caribbean and who has fallen deeply in love. But, as is usually the case, there is trouble in paradise.

Dr Chika Onyeani R175, Jonathan Ball Publishers The author of the very successful and controversial Capitalist Nigger – a book that Onyeani claimed to once use to open a debate about the African race and spell out a wealth-creation doctrine – has come out with a new collection of scathing essays, articles and speeches made over the past 15 years.

Mike Nicol R210, Umuzi Krista Bishop is a one-woman powerhouse; she is smart and she is deadly. She runs a security agency that protects women – no matter what danger they’re in. Until now.

Offered a job she can’t refuse, Krista breaks her own rules and opts to protect two Chinese businessmen. What she doesn’t know is that these men have swept into the Cape to take over the very lucrative abalone business. The current owners? Three Cape Town ganglords known as the ‘Untouchables’. Krista is suddenly caught up in a web of violence as the ganglords ruthlessly cling to their empire, while the Chinese attempt their takeover. In the midst of this, one of the ganglords fears for his daughter and hires the best in the business to protect her – Krista. But now the war is everywhere and she must face another agent lurking in the shadows. The king of the South African hard-boiled crime thriller, Mike Nicol, once again gives readers a glimpse into a dark underworld set in the familiar surroundings of the mountain and two oceans meeting.

THE FIRST PHONE CALL FROM HEAVEN Mitch Albom R180, Jonathan Ball Publishers Part self-help, part tear-jerker, the latest offering from the author who brought you the incredible Tuesdays with Morrie – a book Oprah liked so much, she made it into a made-forTV film – is about the power of belief. The people of a small American town begin receiving phone calls from, you guessed it, Heaven.

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JIMFISH Christopher Hope R275, Penguin Jimfish is a man of water, in every sense. Pulled from the sea in the 1980s, he defies classification and moves through South Africa and beyond as someone neither black nor white. He witnesses the dying days of apartheid and the defining moments of the 20 th century. A thought-provoking novel from a powerful author. E

WORDS: ROBYN BLOCH. IMAGES: UMUZI, JONATHAN BALL PUBLISHERS, LITTLE BROWN, PENGUIN.

POWER PLAY

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TECH EOA

TOYS FOR BOYS Special treats for Father’s Day…

SPORTY APPS FOR AVID FANS WORDS: CARYN THANDI PETERSEN. IMAGES: GOOGLE PLAY STORE, SONY MOBILE, PHONEARENA.COM AND TOMTOM.

FOTMOB

The beautiful game undoubtedly deserves a beautiful app – and this is one of the best.

With over five million downloads, FotMob is one of the world’s top football apps, with the best score tracking we’ve come across. You can follow any football club in the world – just select your teams and leagues, and you’ll get all the info you need. FotMob provides you with fixtures, live scores, game stats, team lineups

ATP / WTP LIVE

Wimbledon season is upon us – so get the strawberries and cream ready, and brush up on all the latest tennis news with this handy app. It allows you to follow your favourite professional players and tournaments in real time, throughout the season.

It’ll keep you updated with live scores and match statistics no matter where you are. You can even read up on players with the app’s full bio and info section.

and much more.

CRICINFO

Okay, so maybe we’re all still a bit sore after SA’s close call to victory at the World Cup. Soothe your broken heart by keeping up to date on all the latest from the world of cricket. Having undergone a few redevelopments over the years, this app is probably the best one for cricket out there, providing the latest scores with live ball-by-ball commentary, breaking stories, player statistics, records, rankings and exclusive content from the best writers.

ULTIMATE RUGBY

With the Rugby World Cup just around the corner, it’s time you get ahead of the game. Don’t settle for anything less than the world’s number one rugby app, providing full match coverage, live scores, in-game match chat, squad announcement notifications, team schedules, video highlights, player interaction, tickets and news. Get your full rugby fix in one place, with a personalised stream from your favourite leagues, teams and players.

GADGETS & NEWS FROM THE TECH FRONT XPERIA Z4 TABLET

Sony has brought the world’s lightest and slimmest 10-inch tablet to our shores – and boy is she a thing of beauty. The stunningly crafted Xperia Z4 Tablet is impressively powerful and perfect for all your entertainment whims, boasting the brightest display and up to 17 hours of video playback.

GPS SPORT WATCHES LIQUID LEAP

Activewear products are fast becoming the hottest thing when it comes to smart technology, and Acer recently upped the ante with the launch of their Liquid Leap+ Smart Activeband.

The new wearable syncs and connects with all main supported operating systems (Windows, Android, iOS) and the elegant touchscreen can be strapped to any wristband colour you prefer. The Liquid Leap+ talks to your smartphone via Bluetooth whilst acting as the ultimate fitness companion, tracking your steps, running distance and calories burned.

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A must-have for anyone addicted to running on the open road, TomTom GPS Sport Watches will change your fitness regime for the better. These sporty watches track real-time information including time, distance, pace, speed, heart rate and calories burned. What’s more, they’re now automatically synced to Nike+, thanks to TomTom’s partnership with Nike. E

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EOA MOVIES & THEATRE Missing This is Tony-award-winning John Kani’s first play since Nothing But the Truth in 2002, which received numerous accolades both here and abroad. Once again he has teamed up with Janice Honeyman and Mannie Manim to bring to life this new South African love story and political thriller.

The cast features Kani as Robert Khalipa, Susan Danford as his Swedish wife and newcomer, Buhle Ngaba, as their daughter. Robert has been living peacefully in exile with his family in Stockholm for over 30 years, but all that is about to change.

On at the State Theatre in Pretoria until 28 June.

FEED YOUR SOUL

The Spartacus of Africa Ballet and dance enthusiasts will be delighted with this dazzling production, featuring a cast of 100 dancers accompanied by a full orchestra. This exciting new version of Spartacus – the tale of a gladiator who led a major slave uprising against the Roman Empire – mirrors the oppression that many African countries have fought to overcome. The cast of 35 professional dancers and 60 senior student dancers was selected after nationwide auditions, accompanied by international guest artists. Don’t miss this riveting dance extravaganza.

Running at the Joburg Theatre from 4 to 14 June.

Everly The sultry Salma Hayek stars as Everly in this fastpaced action thriller. After she betrays a powerful mob boss, Everly matches wits and weaponry with a legion of killers who are out to collect the bounty on the heads of her and her family.

Opens at Ster-Kinekor theatres on 12 June.

Loyiso Gola Live Host of Emmy-nominated Late Night News (LNN) on eNCA, Loyiso Gola returns to his first love: standup comedy.

Delivered in the format of a state-of-the-nation address, Loyiso covers current affairs for the past six months in his true-to-form outspoken and bitingly funny style. Never one to pull his punches, Loyiso continues to go where most comedians don’t dare.

At Joburg Theatre on 24 June and the Atterbury Theatre in Pretoria on 26 and 27 June.

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Song One This heartfelt drama premiered at the Sundance Film Festival earlier in the year. It follows the story of Franny Ellis, an anthropology student played by Anne Hathaway, who returns to New York when her estranged musician brother suffers a terrible accident and falls into a coma.

To revive her brother and repair their relationship, Franny embarks on a mission to convince her brother’s favorite musician to play at his bedside.

Opens at Ster-Kinekor theatres on 5 June.

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HOROSCOPES EOA

ARIES 21 March – 20 April Where you live, whom you live with, and who you love or would like to love are the key issues this month.

Keeping things close to home beats travel or adventure hands down now, and romantic beats raunchy as life gets more settled and cosy.

ASTROLOGER: STELLA NOVA. IMAGE: CARTIER.COM

PISCES 20 February – 20 March A career challenge reaches its natural conclusion this month, giving you more scope to get things just the way you want them at home. While you’re feeling more relaxed, focus on health and reconnect with your deepest, most personal ambitions.

AQUARIUS 21 January – 19 February The romantic muddles and creative chaos of recent weeks get put right this month so relationships are back on course. Although work may bring a sense of déjà vu, a dream can be fulfilled now and you also get to know who your true friends are.

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TAURUS 21 April – 21 May It’s a great month to makeover your abode so that it’s more hot than humble. Don’t bust the budget though, as cheap and chic is in – for you too. Relaunch yourself with a look that gets you noticed even if a love interest seems distracted.

GEMINI 22 May – 21 June After some confusion as the month begins, mid-June sees you thinking straight about yourself, your relationships, life, the universe and everything. It’s an especially good time to recalibrate your workouts and your work situation too.

CANCER 22 June – 23 July A financial windfall could come your way now. Avoid the temptation to spend it all and put some towards a purchase that gives a good return on investment. An old love could resurface, as could a bad habit. Deal with him, her or it and move on.

YOUR MONTH IN THE STARS

VIRGO 24 August – 23 September Career confusions clear up at last and new insights could put you on a new path now. The way forward involves either rejigging your usual way of doing things, going back to basics or relearning something you thought you knew inside out.

Your birthstone is a pearl!

CAPRICORN 23 December – 20 January It’s an ideal month for a fitness revival and a reorganisation of your daily routines. Friends and ambitions may have to be put on hold, while passion takes centre stage as sensuality rules your love life, and money’s looking good now too.

LEO 24 July – 23 August You’re in major networking mode this month, so use it to your advantage.

Call in all favours and connect with contacts and friends, old and new. Just beware of social burnout, and establish a clear line between business and pleasure.

SAGITTARIUS 23 November – 22 December As serious Saturn temporarily leaves your sign you’ll see how a sunnier approach helps you to win friends and influence people again. Cast aside restrictions this month and start thinking big. You’ll find love in all things exotic or unknown now.

SCORPIO 24 October – 22 November Your financial situation is starting to look like a replay of last year, but this time you know how to handle it. New resources emerge as your career starts to take off. Broadcast your skills so the right people know what you can do.

LIBRA 24 September – 23 October If you feel like you’ve lost your way with life’s bigger picture, this month provides a chance to re-establish things. You get a chance to discover – or rediscover – the thing you want to do most, and you also have the drive to make it happen.

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Jamie xx Young Turks Jamie Smith, the quiet London boy responsible for the murmuring sounds of Mercury Prize-winning outfit The xx, is finally set to bust out loud and triumphantly, and stake his claim as one of the generation’s finest electronic music practitioners with the release of this month’s In Colour. The album is phenomenal throughout, but nowhere is the transcendent power of Smith’s music more obvious than with album opener and single, Gosh. The song builds, using the sparsest of ingredients, to a euphoric climax.

Y.R.N.: Tha Album

Chaos and the Calm

Migos Atlantic Records The young group out of Atlanta, featuring Quavo, Offset and Takeoff, have made their name on the back of a large number of tracks by artists like Future, Drake and even Justin Bieber, as well as a string of mixtapes stretching back to 2011. Their influence was even palpable on two of South Africa’s biggest hip-hop releases last year, from Cassper Nyovest and AKA. Y.R.N. cements Migos’ status as a bona fide voice in modern Hip Hop.

James Bay Universal Music James Bay’s critically acclaimed album debuted at #1 on official charts around the world, with this breakout singer-songwriter being hailed as a rising star. His soulful single, “Hold Back the River”, has won the hearts of new fans and critics alike. This folk-pop artist is clearly taking the globe by storm with his powerful lyrics and mesmerising talent.

Family Values

Riky Rick Makhado Makhado Agency One of the most anticipated hip-hop albums exploded throughout the country upon its release. Family Values has kept up the hype, and with good reason. The album includes some of his greatest singles of late, such as Boss Zonke, Nafukwa and Amantombazane featuring Okmalumkoolkat. Bound to get everyone jumping to the beat, from your 10-year-old nephew to your 60-year-old uncle, Riky Rick has hit on the perfect formula.uncle, Riky Rick has hit on a perfect formula.

IT’S RAINING MUSICAL MEN mi Mandela

Idris Elba Warner Music Inspired by his role as Nelson Mandela in Long Walk to Freedom, Emmy-nominated, Golden Globe-winning actor and DJ, Idris Elba, has curated, written and produced mi Mandela, an album of songs which uncovers some of SA’s most gifted, yet largely undiscovered world music talents. The album’s first single, You Give Me Love, is a hauntingly beautiful track, featuring vocals from Maverick Sabre. The 11-track album seamlessly blends exuberant local talent, including the Mahotella Queens, Nothembi Mkhwebane and Phuzekhemisi, alongside established British artists such as Mumford & Sons, James Blake and London-based spoken-word artist, George The Poet.

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DADDY’S GIRL Tumi Morake says it is Father’s Month because advertising is suddenly very butch and offering you stuff your dad would never use. She hopes this Father’s Day will be less about spending and more embracing and praising.

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– and they may have good reason – but who wants to be wailing louder than everyone else because they didn’t make things right with their dad? Embrace Daddy for the daddy he is, not the daddy you want him to be. See how big a load will be off your shoulders. Your heart will thank you.

I would like to take my hat off to the fathers who have embraced the privilege.

To those dads who are quick to hug their kids and those who laugh out loud when their kids do something goofy; those daddies who will take their kids to the doctor and hold them down for that horrible injection, because mom is just a ball of tears; to those dads who pride themselves on the ability to burp the alphabet and retell that story about how, as a kid, they fell head first into a pile of manure. I say, “Give that man a Bells!”

– and I say it figuratively, unless of course, Daddy can hold his liquor!

Hug your dad, love your dad – heck, even make that awkward phone call to your dad.

He loves you more than you could ever know – even if it is in his own complicated way. E

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was recently at a wedding where the father was a true pain in the rear end. He was opposed to the wedding, from the moment he heard of the proposal to the day a date was set. Each day of the twopart wedding, he came up with objections on cultural grounds, until the family started sneaking decisions past him. On the day of the wedding he neither walked the bride down the aisle, nor had he bathed to honour the occasion.

On the last day, the day she was to be welcomed into her in-laws’ home, he interrupted proceedings, arriving with a delegation of his loudest friends, chanting in traditional song. He was, of course, lekker gesuip (very drunk). He took to the stage, and gave one of the most beautiful speeches from a father to a daughter who is about to start her own family. He broke down and barely made it to the end of his speech.

Instantly, I understood that he wasn’t just an irritating old man. He is that father who loves you the way he knows how and hides his pain and love for you under the shade of abrasive behaviour.

As a result, for the first time in my life, I am actually considering purchasing my father a Father’s Day gift. You should too.

Not because he might leave everything to your siblings and keep you out of his will or because your mother is nagging you to, but simply because you love the man.

There are many people who harbour a lot of anger and bitterness towards their fathers

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