Just for Guys
I DON’T UNDERSTAND
GIRLS! I met the girl I would marry when I was 17 years old. Up to that point, I put off being in relationship as I didn’t really see the point. I reasoned to myself that if I wasn’t going to spend the rest of my life with a person, then what was the point in casually dating them? Was it for my own superficial insecurities? Probably...and that hardly seemed like a reason to be with someone. Plus, leaving a string of women behind me would also leave behind a string of memories that a future bride would have to unknowingly live up to, or help me forget. That’s not a fair and amicable way to start a lifelong relationship. So I waited. Then I met Gretchen. The prettiest girl I had ever personally known. I watched her life. I watched her deal with injustices and difficulties with grace, stamina and love. I knew this was the kind of girl I could trust to put up with me for a lifetime, assuming she had feelings for me. First we were friends, then we were best friends (a new experience for me as I’d never had one). Then one day my father asked me the question that would change my life forever, “Son, can you live without her? Because if you can, you should.” I knew right away that if Gretchen moved away, or fell in love with someone else, I’d never recover. I’d be chasing her or someone like her for the rest of my life. So I took her for a walk and told her, “I don’t want to do this with anyone else. I’d like to marry you someday and I need you to know that.” To my great pleasure, she felt the same. We were married three years later and our first sexual experience on our wedding night defied all the lies that Hollywood and porn had tried so hard to shove down my throat. In an age of total sexual anarchy, nearly every day I reflect on the profound impact that waiting until marriage has had on my life, on the three sons we’re raising together, and the deep, abiding, lifetime of love that awaits us.
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By Jeromy Darling
SOCIAL MEDIA and SEXTING
