Iceni Magazine Norfolk Issue 117

Focus On: Changes

'The measure of intelligence is the ability to change' - Albert Einstein

Welcome to Issue 117 of Iceni Magazine and to 2023!

The focus of this month’s magazine is Changes. For the Iceni household, 2022 brought many - check out our year in review on Pages 44 and 45.

Lifestyle therapist, Susan Leigh, believes a change that many of us would benefit from making is learning to say ‘no’ on a regular basis. Find out why on Pages 34 and 35.

If a loved one is autistic, you will likely have discovered that change can have a major impact. Victoria from Blossom Education offers some tips on how to successfully approach these changes (Pages 36 & 37).

Elsewhere in the magazine, we bid a sad farewell to our regular Yellow Mysteries Entertainment feature (Page 47) and wish to say a huge thank you to Adrian for his contributions over the past couple of years. Iceni Asks has also come to the end of its life and has been replaced by Iceni Anagrams, with this month’s focus being on Great Yarmouth. Solve all anagrams for the chance to win a sought-after Iceni Magazine pen (we can hear the whoops and cheers from here!). Finally, if you’re looking for something to do outdoors during these winter months, the National Garden Scheme’s Snowdrop Festival might be the perfect thing (Pages 8 & 9).

We’d like to take this time to wish all our amazing readers and fantastic contributors all the very best for a successful 2023. We hope that it brings you health and happiness. See you in February!

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The Benjamin Foundation

For over 25 years, children, young people and families across Norfolk and Suffolk have been supported by The Benjamin Foundation to overcome big challenges in their lives.

Each night, we accommodate up to 200 vulnerable young people, equating to over 50,000 safe nights’ sleep a year. They can finally feel safe from youth homelessness.

Each week, 230 young people access our emotional wellbeing support improving their mental health, increasing their self-esteem to finally feel understood. Each year, over 400 young people attend our youth work in the community to gain new life skills, expand their horizons and finally feel confident. We are proud to have supported over 3,100 children, young people and families in 2021-22.

For more information visit: https://benjaminfoundation.co.uk/

FREE Youth Groups In King’s Lynn And Hunstanton

We deliver positive activities for young people in North West Norfolk in a safe, supportive environment where our staff will offer support and opportunities to learn, socialise and be a positive part of the local community. Why not join us at one of the FREE Youth Groups in 2023 and enjoy fun activities and new experiences.

Hunstanton (The Basement, Hunstanton Town Hall, PE36 6BQ)

• Mondays (term time) 4.15pm - 5.45pm - Youth Group: This group session is open to anyone in Years 3-7 (Aged 8-12), with activities / games to get involved in.

• Mondays (term time) 6pm - 7.30pm – Hang Out: This session offers a safe place to meet up with friends and chat. Open to Years 8 and over (Ages 13-17)

King’s Lynn (Discovery Centre, Columbia Way, King’s Lynn, PE30 2LA)

• Tuesdays (term time) 4pm - 5.45pm - Junior Youth Group Years 3-7 (8-12 years)

• Tuesdays (term time) 6pm-7.45pm - Senior Youth Group Years 8 and over (13-17 years)

These sessions will have many activities offering a time to be creative (arts, crafts, dance), play games, play sports (football, dodgeball, rounders) but most of all to have fun! Staff will be available to listen and support young people to enjoy this group and hear ideas for future sessions.

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BENJAMIN

Issue 117 2023

The Winter Wellbeing Walk

Boost your fitness, walk away the Winter blues and raise money for young people this January and February with our Winter Wellbeing Walk.

It’s as easy as 1,2,3 to take part!

1) Register your free place by setting up a fundraising page on JustGiving.

2) Decide your mileage target (for example you may want to walk 50 miles in January).

3) Invite your friends and family to sponsor you as you get walking for young people this winter.

Walk in your own time, at your own pace and raise money to help young people in Norfolk and Suffolk who haven’t had the best start in life.

*Raise a minimum of £100 and receive a Benjamin Foundation beanie hat and pin badge!*

£100 could provide welcome packs of essentials for young people when they arrive at our accommodation services having been homeless or at risk of homelessness.

Get started here: https://www.justgiving.com/campaign/BigWinterWellbeingWalk

Support Us In 2023

We supported over 3,100 children, young people and families in Norfolk and Suffolk in 2021-22. You can read more in our new Impact Report on our website.

Gardens In Norfolk

Celebrating The National Garden Scheme Snowdrop Festival In 2023

Fresh air and the faithful first signs of spring epitomised by drifts of glorious snowdrops are a reminder of the changing seasons and the promise of what’s to come.

What better way to shake off the winter and to celebrate the gardening visiting year ahead than with the National Garden Scheme’s 2023 Snowdrop Festival. These glorious harbingers of Spring can be viewed at 6 National Garden Scheme gardens throughout Norfolk during January, February, and March.

On a wintry day, there is nothing better than visiting a garden gleaming with one of the earliest flowering plants of the year. Whether you enjoy carpets of naturalised white in woodlands meticulously grown rare varieties of snowdrops or gardens boasting a colourful mix of early spring flowers - there is something for galanthophiles and garden enthusiasts alike.

Julia Stafford Allen, County organiser for Norfolk, says: Even if you are not a gardener, our snowdrop gardens in Norfolk are a joy to visit and a real antidote to the winter blues. Most of our gardens provide delicious refreshments

Horstead House

and it is an inexpensive family day out with admission for children free.

Snowdrop Festival Facts

· 6 gardens across the county are opening for the National Garden Scheme Snowdrop Festival in 2023.

· Many of the gardens feature snowdrops and other early spring flowers.

· The festival runs between 1st-28th February.

· Originally launched in 2016 to mark the Year of the English Garden, the National Garden Scheme has been championing the Snowdrop Festival ever since, creating a wonderful taster for the garden visiting year to come .

· The snowdrop gardens attract high visitor numbers. The uncomplicated visitor experience - often accompanied by a warming bowl of soup or hot drinks - fresh air and the beautiful, faithful first signs of spring are a reminder of the changing seasons and the promise of what’s to come .

Sunday 5th February Lexham Hall, PE32 2QJ (11am - 4pm) Admission £6.00 An interesting walk-through naturalised snowdrops and returning through walled garden. Dogs on leads. Refreshments available.

Sunday 12th February Lexham Hall, PE32 2QJ (11am - 4pm) Admission £6.00 Children Free Lexham Hall. Stunning snowdrop walk surrounded by parkland and returning through walled garden. Dogs on leads. Refreshments available.

Saturday 18th February Horstead House, NR12 7AU (11am - 4pm) Admission £5.00. Situated by the river Bure, with colourful dogwoods, stunning display of snowdrops carpet the woodland setting. Dogs on leads. Refreshments available.

Sunday 19th February Bagthorpe, PE31 6QY (11am - 4pm) Admission £5.00 Delightful circular walk which meanders through a carpet of naturalised snowdrops. Dogs on leads. Refreshments available.

Saturday 25th February Hindringham Hall, NR21 0QA (10am - 4pm) Admission £9.00 children £2.50. A behind the scenes wintry look to this beautiful garden described by the Guardian as ‘Amongst 12 of Best Secret Gardens in UK’. Light Refreshments.

Saturday 25th February Raveningham Hall, NR14 6NS. £22 Pre-booked tickets essential obtained at: www.ngs.org.uk Set in glorious parkland setting this guided walk by Sir Nicholas Bacon will take you around this traditional country house garden, with stumpery and arboretum. Admission includes Tea & cake. Dogs on leads.

Sunday 26th February Chestnut Farm, NR25 6NX. Admisssion £5.00. Mature 3 acres of garden developed over 60 years. Collections of many rare and unusual plants and trees. 100+ varieties of snowdrops, drifts of crocus with seasonal flowering shrubs. Light Refreshments.

Raveningham Hall

Happy New Year!

By the time you read this, we will be into 2023 and, I don’t know about you lot, but as soon as the new year starts, I like to remove all signs of Christmas and start afresh.

I bin the leftover snacks and spring clean the house. New Year, New Beev and all that, though my good intentions usually fall by the wayside by mid-January.

I keep the Christmas tree up on New Year’s Eve, but one of my first jobs (and I say first, but it typically won’t start until around lunch time because I am not the earliest of risers) on the 1st of January, is to take down all the decorations.

I bought a new tree at the start of 2022, picking up a gorgeous snow covered one in the sale and I have been gleeful all year about my bargain. When December came around, I couldn’t wait to put it up.

Now, the thing nobody warned me about snow covered trees is that they shed worse than the cats. I expected the odd smattering, but honest to God, every time I open the door or pass near the thing, flakes start to fall. I made the mistake of wearing a red jumper when I was erecting it and I looked like I had been caught in a blizzard by the time I had finished, and my beige carpet was barely visible. I am dreading taking it down as I know I am in for a repeat performance. I think I really need a Christmas tree room, where I can just wheel it in and leave it, with baubles and lights intact.

And after fourteen years of ignoring the tree, this Christmas would have to be the year Ellie and Lola start to take an interest. Bauble football has been the new feline hobby in my house this winter and no doubt I will still be finding the blasted things under sofas and behind plant pots into February.

I do love Christmas. In the darkest of months, it is nice to see a bit of sparkle about, and I won’t lie. January is my most hated month as it is usually cold and miserable. But I do take comfort in knowing we are past the shortest day and that the days are gradually becoming longer. Only about ten weeks to go and spring will be with us. I can’t wait to see my garden come to life and hear the birds tweeting again. A promise that warmer days are on the way.

Wishing all of the Iceni Magazine readers a very happy new year.

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Above: Keri Beevis

Have You Experienced Junk Sleep?

Have you ever considered the amount of junk with which we regularly fill our lives?

The fast food and ready meals we grab when we’re tired or on the road, the unhealthy, sugarfilled drinks we take to give us a lift, the ‘musthave’, ‘such a bargain’ purchases that we didn’t really want or need and which take up so much space in our homes, the rubbish thoughts that deter us from feeling inclined to have a go.

We rarely feel satisfied or refreshed after going with these choices, so it’s no wonder that our sleep is affected too, as we wake up feeling that we’ve not slept long or well enough to be ready for the day ahead. Junk sleep is an understandable by-product of living in the modern world, especially when you reflect on how long we spend on our devices, even when we think of it as relaxing ‘me time’.

The term ‘junk sleep’ has had over 36 million views on Tik Tok and shows how concerned many of us are about the poor quality of our sleep, as we learn how important sleep is in processing what happens in our lives each day. The quality of our sleep helps us restore our brain and its ability to function properly the following day.

Let’s look at some ways to improve our quality of sleep and reduce the amount of restless, junk sleep we experience.

Establish a regular sleep routine, where you treat sleep as an important part of your commitment to yourself and your wellbeing. Your body gets used to doing certain things at certain times, so establishing a good sleep habit helps inform your body clock. Turn off your technology 30-60 minutes before bed and instead enjoy something relaxing like a bath or shower to wash away the day’s stresses.

Turn off your technology an hour before bed. According to the National Sleep Council, 95% of people use their devices within an hour of bedtime. But doing so disrupts the body’s circadian rhythms, which in turn can lead to restless junk sleep. The blue light from your phone inhibits the brain from producing melatonin, the sleep hormone, leaving you feeling tired, irritable and unrefreshed.

Manage stress so that you minimise any issues occupying your mind. Keep a journal, to help process what’s happened in your day. Or write a list of all that needs to be done, so reassuring yourself that you don’t need to mentally hold onto those things; they’re readily accessible, on your ‘to do’ list.

Ensure you have sufficient mental and physical exercise. If you’ve a tiring physical job or one that’s mentally demanding, determine to exert yourself in ways to complement the missing physical or mental side of your life. Quizzes, crosswords, stimulating conversation can help exercise you mentally, whilst maybe an indoor treadmill, yoga or gym practice can exert you physically.

Get outdoors. A 2022 survey by Noom found that 20% of us let exercise levels fall by 37% in the winter months, blaming the cold weather and shorter days as we go into ‘hibernation mode’. Find positive ways to spend some time outdoors. Weekends, especially, can be used for a brisk country walk, followed by a sociable visit to a local hostelry or by having a delicious meal slowly cooking to enjoy on your return home.

Eat healthily. Find time to batch prepare soups, stews and casseroles and enjoy them on the days when you’re busy or have to eat late. Use each season’s offerings for your fruit and vegetables and enjoy the many colours and flavours that nature has to offer. Clean home cooking is a positive way to top up on vitamins, have good nutrition and stay healthy.

Declutter your bedroom. We all sleep better in a room that’s clear of mess, that’s free from technology and is the right temperature, not too warm. Screen off any work area and keep your bedroom as a place of calm, your haven free from mobile phones and those intermittent nudges to check in just one more time.

Learn to relax and take regular breaks. Read a book, listen to music, enjoy a creative hobby, a little yoga, spend time in the garden. And have some fun booked into your diary. Time with family and friends is an investment in those relationships and enhances your support network too.

Modern life can mean that we do sometimes need to quickly grab junk food, overindulge, or sleep fewer hours than we really ought, but this lifestyle can’t be sustained for too long if we want to maintain long term health and wellbeing. Sleep is an important way to support our ability to cope with stress and the demands of everyday life. By investing in good quality sleep, you’re treating yourself with respect and protecting your best asset, yourself and your mind and body.

Article By Susan Leigh

Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support. For more articles, information or to make contact please visit: http://www.lifestyletherapy.net

The South (Featuring Members Of The Beautiful South)

Play Bury St Edmunds - Apex On Sunday 19th February 2023!

The South are back on the road and do what they do best - perform the songs of that great British pop institution, The Beautiful South, to the thousands of fans of these timeless classics.

The South are an impressive 9 piece band who feature former members of The Beautiful South including singer Alison Wheeler and lifelong sax player Gaz Birtles. Since Dave Hemingway, the original singer, left the group at the end of 2016, Gaz has moved across to front the band with Alison and taken on vocal duties.

Since the demise of The Beautiful South in 2007, this exciting live band have spent 11 years touring the theatres and festivals of the UK up and down the country, bringing back the full sound and arrangements of these treasured songs - A Little Time (the number one single), Perfect 10, Rotterdam, Song For Whoever, Old Red Eyes Is Back, Good as Gold, Don't Marry Her plus many more singles and album tracks as well as a few choice South originals. These songs span an impressive 18 year career starting way back in 1989!

The South are: Alison Wheeler (Vocals), Gaz Birtles (Vocals), Phil Barton (Guitars), Steve Nutter (Bass), Dave Anderson (Drums), Karl Brown (Percussion), Gareth John (Trumpet), Su Robinson (Sax) and Andy Price (Keyboards).

Let’s Carry On… Regardless!

Tickets are available fromhttp://thesouth.co.uk/tour-dates/

For more information on THE SOUTH, please visit the following website / social media links below:

Website: http://thesouth.co.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheSouthBand

Twitter: https://twitter.com/thesouthuk

You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/wat ch?v=DJAjjjfCC8k&feature=youtu.be and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sbWXya

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Mazda CX-5 Review

By Tim Barnes-Clay. Follow on Instagram: @tbarnesclay

Mazda is often a brand regarded as being in the same bracket as the also-rans.

But, in many cases, that’s often a harsh assessment.

Some of its cars are top-notch, like the MX-5 two-seater, one of the most dependable and best-handling sports cars for years.

The CX-5 SUV is a different kettle of fish but equally adept at ticking the right boxes.

I tested the top-of-the-range GT Sport trim. It comes with 19-inch alloys, a 10.25-inch infotainment touchscreen, Apple CarPlay, Android Auto, DAB radio, SatNav and a 10-speaker Bose sound system. It also features a seven-inch digital instrument display, a headup display, sunroof and a 360-degree camera.

You get brown Nappa leather with heated and ventilated front seats, too.

The two petrol engines are a 2.0-litre producing 165PS and a 2.5-litre supplying 194PS. But it’s the diesel that was driven for this article: a 2.2-litre with 184PS and all-wheel drive, available with a six-speed manual or automatic. It isn’t massively powerful - 0-62mph takes just under ten seconds, but there’s a fitting amount of low-end grunt.

The Mazda is quiet and reasonably refined - you only notice the traditional diesel ‘rattle’ when you floor it.

My car had a six-speed automatic, which is reasonably smooth but doesn’t help it to really make progress.

Fuel consumption averages 42.2mpg, releasing 173g/km of CO2 in the process.

The suspension is quite firm, so although it’s not uncomfortable, some rivals offer a more absorbing ride, especially given the 19-inch wheels. The stiffness aids the handling, though, meaning it’s nimble for a vehicle of its size.

The body roll in the bends is well controlled, and the steering is nicely weighted, giving you confidence-inspiring feedback.

The driving position is high up, and the seats are comfortable, helped by adjustable lumbar support. Meanwhile, the interior is pleasant and feels robust.

The infotainment system is clear and quick to respond, controlled via a rotary dial on the centre console, which is convenient.

There is a load of space in the front and rear, while the CX-5 offers lots of storage in the cabin.

The model has a 522-litre boot, smaller than most of its adversaries, expanding to 1,638 litres with the rear seats down, which fold in a versatile 40:20:40 split.

While it doesn’t offer quite as much practicality as its challengers, the diesel gives it decent performance, added to good handling and a generous level of standard equipment.

The CX-5 is very worthy of a place on your shortlist.

Fast Facts - Mazda CX-5 (2.2 Diesel 184PS GT Sport AWD Auto) as tested:

• Max speed: 129mph

• 0-62 mph: 9.6secs

• Fuel economy: 42.2mpg (WLTP)

• Engine layout: 2.2-litre four-cylinder turbodiesel with all-wheel drive

• Max. power (PS): 184PS

• CO2: 173g/km

• Price: £40,505

Dine Out:

Paste Thai Restaurant

Many cities in the UK offer authentic cuisines and beverages from numerous countries and, certainly, Nottingham is no exception.

Famous for its castle, lace productions, Robin Hood, plus tobacco and bicycle manufacturing, Nottingham has visitors from worldwide origins, constantly.

The entertainment scene in Nottingham draws world-class artistes and performers throughout each year. Sporting facilities attract

devotees of many sports. Businesses, plus retail outlets, provide much-needed goods, household items and services. Bars, hotels and restaurants offer foods and beverages of all types.

Paste Thai restaurant offers contemporary Thai cuisine, to an exceptional standard.

From opening (2006) this venue gained much interest from the outset. Following the genuine and warm welcome, for my appetiser I selected GOONG TORD (Tempura-style prawns served with sweet chilli dip).

This commencement to the dining occasion had me looking forward to the following courses with great enthusiasm.

For main I opted for SUEA RONG HAI - famous weeping tiger dish. This is a very popular dish (Marinated grilled sirloin steak - cooked to your preference - steamed vegetables and a dipping sauce, plus Thai gravy). Flavours are very much in abundance for this and the complete dish is a real pleasure, being tender and succulent throughout. Compliments to Chef are duly awarded.

Other main courses have something for all tastes and include Miang Moo Kum Wan (Marinated slices of pork collar), See Krong Moo Khai Foo (Tender spare ribs) and Gang Kiew Wan (Traditional Thai green curry - choice of chicken, beef, pork) amongst a very good selection, that also offers Fish, Noodles and Pasta dishes, too.

Desserts are most tempting and I chose MANGO & STICKY RICE. This delectation made the perfect ending to a splendid dining experience, with excellent service throughout. Ice Cream Ka Ti Ruam Mit (Coconut ice cream served with mixed condiments - Thai-style), is amongst other very popular choices. Drinks, including quality wines from Thailand, bubble tea, plus gift vouchers, collections and deliveries, are also available. Parties and occasions are easily accommodated. Highly recommended. Other restaurants, under the same leadership, include Thailand No.1 restaurant, Lincoln and Thailand No.1 restaurant, Matlock.

Paste Thai Restaurant, 16 - 20a Carlton Street, Nottingham NG1 1NN. Tel: 0115 958 2222 E-mail: enquiries@pastethai.co.uk www.pastethai.co.uk

As always, Enjoy!

Review By Trevor Langley

Old Buckenham Players’ 2023 Pantomime

Robin Hood & The Babes In The Wood

Following the success of their East Anglian debut of Give Us A Sign in September, Old Buckenham Players are proud to present their 2023 panto offering: Robin Hood & the Babes in the Wood, by Ben Crocker.

Having produced sell-out shows of Camelot the Panto and Dick Whittington in the last two years, both of which were also written by Ben Crocker, our audiences are in for another riproaringly funny and high-quality show. Now fully immersed in the magical and wonderful world of pantomime rehearsals, we can’t wait to show you the results of our hard work and dedication.

This show really is a laugh-a-minute, 100mph treat for the senses thanks to the superb script, experienced cast, technical wizardry, wellknown songs and of course, the much-loved characters. Join Robin Hood and his band of Merry Men as they carry out their famous redistribution of wealth plan. But standing in their way is the wicked Sheriff of Nottingham and his hapless sidekick, Dennis. The Babes, recently orphaned Tilly & Tommy, are the Sheriff’s niece & nephew, and when he learns that their family’s fortune would go to him upon the Babes untimely demise, a dastardly plan is set in action. So now, not only does Robin have to save the lovely Maid Marion from the Sheriff’s marriage demands, but he also has to work with Marion’s Nanny, Winnie Widebottom to rescue the Babes from certain doom! As well as the well-known locations of Sherwood Forest and Nottingham, you’ll visit such places as the village school, the dungeons and the One Doored Tower of Doom [insert dramatic chord here!] as you find out if our heroes really can save the day.

Pantomime is as much about the audience as it is the actors on stage. And so, we challenge you to come along to Boo, Hiss, Clap and Cheer louder than you ever have done before! Through hard work, dedication and years of experience, we’re confident you won’t find a better night out for a tenner anywhere. You never know, you might just enjoy yourself so much that you’ll fancy giving it a go yourself!

Performances are held at Buckenham Village Hall and start at 7.30pm on Thursday 19th , Friday 20th & Saturday 21st of January 2023, with the ever-popular Matinee performance on the Saturday starting at 2.30pm. There’ll be a raffle, choc ices and a very reasonably priced bar serving a range of soft and alcoholic drinks. Tickets are on sale now and cost just £10 for Adults or £5 for under 14’s and can be purchased online via the link or by scanning the QR code below;

Old Buckenham Players event tickets from TicketSource.

Want to find out more about Old Buckenham Players? Why not ‘Like’, ‘Follow’ or ‘Browse’ us today! See below for ways to get in touch, find out what we do & how we do it and of course, to make sure you don’t miss a thing & keep up to date on our forthcoming shows.

Website: http://www.oldbuckenhamplayers.co.uk Twitter: https://twitter.com/OldBuckPlayers Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ OldBuckenhamPlayers

Nova Silver

A Fresh Start For A New Year

As we welcome in 2023, many of us are ready for new beginnings and fresh starts.

Why not start by replenishing your jewellery with stones that have meaning and healing properties to bring in the positivity at the start of the year?

Not only is Tiger’s eye a gorgeous stone, it also has many meanings and properties. This stone is said to remove negative energies and protects from the evil eye. Tiger’s eye is the stone of courage, protection and power. The stones name comes from its colour, resembling a tiger with the yellowbrown to golden brown. This crystal is helpful when manifesting goals and positive energy, helping make good choices in your life. Tiger’s eye is also used as a stone of luck and said to help increase success, protection, negativity and fear.

Moonstone is another great crystal for manifesting positive energies into your life. This stone channels the illumination of moonbeams shining light on your pathway to balance and harmony. Moonstone cultivates compassions and empathy towards yourself and others as well as helps you tap into your intuition to help you see situations clearer. It can help balance and cool down your emotions and tension. Moonstone became known as the ‘Traveller’s Stone’ due to their belief that the crystal would protect them and help lighten their path. However, Moonstone is believed to be a good luck stone for everyone. Whether you are changing career paths or discovering new passions and hobbies, connecting with moonstone will guide you on your journey.

If you will be celebrating a January Birthday, why not treat yourself or some loved ones with Garnet, January’s birthstone? This bright red crystal is considered one of the oldest to be used for spiritual protection throughout history. This stone is said to transform you into the strong, passionate and creative person you aspire to be.

Best Of Norfolk - Through The Lens Of Our Readers

Charlotte Watlow - Lady Pink Nose

Dawn Mountain - Boxing Day Dip, Mundesley

Dawn Mountain - Holkham Hall At Christmas

Charlotte Watlow

Sheila Anne - Cromer Pier

Nadine Gray - A Frosty Mundesley Beach

Helen Chapman - Hardley Staithe Near Loddon

Tamar Irvine - Holt

Dawn Mountain - Jarrold All Lit Up For Christmas

Laura Baxter - A Crisp And Frosty Morning In Poringland

Nadine Gray - Mundesley At Sunrise

Charlotte Watlow - Dancing On Ice

Fiona Ellis - Old Water Mill, Thetford

Dawn Mountain - Paddle Board Fun In Norwich

Matt Coomber Such - Sheringham

Leigh Caudwell - Northrepps Church On A Cold But Sunny Day

Charlotte Watlow - Smallburgh

Sheila Anne - Black Prince At Sheringham Station

Rsf Lens Photos - Dunston Hall

Jill Watkinson - Norwich

Helen Chapman - Saxlingham, Nethergate

Dawn Mountain - Waxwing, Sheringham

Focus On: Changes

Be Positive And Learn To Sometimes Say ‘No’

Many people find that it’s their automatic default to say ‘yes’ whenever something is asked of them.

They may have learned to respond without even thinking about it, maybe regard others’ needs as more important than their own or don’t want to cause disappointment, offence or appear ‘difficult’ by declining.

Saying ‘yes’ can be a positive trait that opens new doors and experiences. It can be a significant investment in our relationships, but used too often or without due consideration can also lead to overwhelm, frustration and resentment.

Let’s look at why sometimes you’ve just got to change that default reaction and start to say ’no’;

● At times it can become apparent that we need to re-define the boundaries of our relationships and remind/reinstate the parameters of what’s appropriate and acceptable. Over time we may have ended up doing things out of habit or by default. That’s not always the best or most respectful way to live. From now on, let’s decide to revise those parameters, be clearer about our roles and check whether the things we accept or agree to are still okay for us. Saying ‘no’ can be an important part of reclaiming our self-respect.

● Personal time and space is integral to good self-care. Don’t underestimate the role of some me time. Just because you’re free and don’t have an important task or commitment at the moment doesn’t mean you should feel guilty or allow others to encroach on that time.

If you had an appointment with an important client, it’s hard to imagine that you’d let something distract you from honouring it. So, put yourself in your diary and say ‘no’ to cancelling, unless a real emergency crops up. Commit to regular time for yourself.

● Sometimes saying ‘no’ can be a way of letting others know how much you do, what else you’ve got on, that you’re too busy to take on anymore. They perhaps don’t appreciate the extent of your responsibilities and commitments, how time-consuming they are and may well back off once you’ve explained firmly and politely. If you always say ‘yes’, they may think you don’t mind, are happy to be the ‘go to guy’. And it may be that it’s only upon reflection, that you start to appreciate how much you actually do when you automatically say ‘yes’, without a second thought.

● Don’t forget too that boredom is often underrated. We may feel obligated to fill every moment with meaningful activity, with chores, catching up with people, selfimprovement. There’s often a list of things we could/should/ought to be doing, but doing nothing is fine occasionally. It lets our minds and bodies calm down and be still. It teaches us about the importance of silence and inactivity, about switching off our ‘I’m ready, bring it on’ adrenalin. Children often learn a lot when they’re bored. All too often they have technology, films and adults desperately trying to provide constant stimulus and amusement, but children, when left to their own devices, are often ingenious at using their imaginations

and amusing themselves. That skill needs to be encouraged.

● Find acceptable ways of saying ‘no’, that you’re comfortable with. Anger and outrage can flare if we feel we’re under pressure to do more, always say ‘yes’, but that extreme reaction is often unnecessary. Saying, ‘now’s not a good time for me’, or ‘I’m busy, already doing x and y’ may be enough to placate the situation, inform others of things you’re already doing and encourage them to respect you and your time more.

● Then there are those of us who say ‘yes’ so frequently to invitations that we forget which concerts, events, parties we’ve actually been to! Saying ‘yes’ too often can turn special moments into a half-remembered blur. A bit like testing too many perfumes, we become numb and unable to fully appreciate each experience.

Saying ‘yes’ is important. It gets us out of our comfort zone, keeps us alert and receptive to new experiences and opportunities.

So often, when we say ‘yes’ and commit to seemingly impossible opportunities or agree to things we don’t want to do, we can be pleasantly surprised at how well they turn out.

But equally, we need to be ready to say ‘no’ if we feel overloaded, trapped, taken for granted or not properly equipped to do a good job. Used well, both yes and no can serve positive roles in our lives.

Article By Susan Leigh

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Coping With Change: Autism

For many autistic children and adults, change can be a challenging thing with which to cope.

It can be difficult to know how to approach change, both with advance warning and immediate ones, so here we offer some advice.

Please note that we do not claim to be experts, and there is no one way that will work for everyone.

As with neurotypical people, autistics differ from one another, and as parents, friends, family members and carers, we will get it wrong.

Research the Change

If you know in advance that something is going to change, for example a teacher may be leaving your child’s school or the usual car park that

you would park in for a hospital appointment is being resurfaced, try to find out as much as possible about what exactly will be happening. Talk to the school and find out who will be replacing the teacher, when and see if your child can meet him/her sooner rather than later. A photograph with a name and the room in which they teach, if relevant, can help with transitions that occur over school holidays, in particular. For the car park scenario, you may wish to drive there in advance with your loved one, showing them where you hope to park instead. Being as knowledgeable about the change as possible can help.

Use Visuals

As mentioned above, photographs can be helpful to introduce change. Symbols can also be handy. So, if your loved one needs to learn a new routine, for example, getting a different bus to work while there is roadworks, creating

a simple symbolic list of the things they should do may help. If the autistic person in question needs a lot of support with a change, you may wish to detail a bit more rather than just Bus 27, explaining exactly what will be different, such as colour, size and location.

Meltdowns

Meltdowns often occur when an autistic person is unable to cope with overwhelm, regularly caused by a sudden or unexpected change. Prior to getting to this stage, you may notice subtle changes in behaviour or signs of distress, such as an increase in stimming (self-stimulatory behaviour like flapping hands, rocking back and forth). At this stage, you may wish to intervene, if you feel it appropriate. Of course, it depends on the individual as to how they react to somebody coming into their space to offer support. Reducing stimulation can help, such as dimming lights or turning the volume down on the radio or TV. Ear defenders, a weighted blanket, dark glasses and fidget toys can also be useful to have to hand, if possible.

Social Stories

With advance notice of a change, a social story might be helpful in preparing an autistic person to cope with something new. They explain in simple terms, but with enough information, what is going to (or could) happen in a certain situation and the ways in which it would be appropriate to respond socially. These stories can be about a character of your choosing, or you can personalise them to the needs of your loved one.

Be Prepared

Our final tip is to be prepared. This might sound strange as change is difficult to predict at times but being prepared and having things to hand that could help your loved one can be life changing. And we are not exaggerating. When routine is such an intrinsic part of your life and you have tickets to see a concert that starts at 9pm but the headline act is late coming on (Never go to see Guns ‘n’ Roses as they are always late!), it can be challenging to comprehend why. Having a few simple distractions, such as a fidget toy or a notebook and pen could be enough to help the change to become manageable.

Article By Victoria, Blossom Education

Changing Myself: For Whom?

Of course, change things about your life, but changes linked to the way you dress for the school run or the conversations you have with other parents are not healthy ones.

My Partner

Your partner is someone supposed to love you and care for you, despite knowing your flaws. And actually, perfect is not achievable, so if your partner is seeking that, they will be sadly disappointed. And to be honest, they could just look elsewhere instead if you are not good enough and they are expecting you to make changes.

My Employer

Many of us desire to make everlasting changes to ourselves, whether it be the way in which we deal with difficult customers at work or the way in which we dress.

However, before anyone even starts to pursue such a change, it is essential to ask yourself for whom are you intending to change yourself?

My Children

Your children are undoubtedly a significant part of your life. Rightly so. But if you are having to change yourself for them, this cannot be right.

This is a tricky one as employment is a necessity to most people in life. However, if you are following company guidelines then changing yourself for the sake of your employer is not a good option. Some people have been told to tone down their accents or not smile as much on a morning - these things are unhealthy expectations. Of course, wishing to better yourself and enhance your career fall under changing for yourself not your employer, though they may have suggested aspects.

Myself

And finally, if you are hoping to change yourself for your own sake, then this is the ultimate answer. No one else should ever dictate the way you think, behave (within reason, of course), look etc, so as long as you are making changes for yourself, this can be successful.

If you are hoping to make changes to yourself in 2023 for yourself, good luck and we hope you are successful!

Wow... Another Year Gone!

And as with Christmas spirit of 2022, I find myself struggling to feel upbeat and positive about the New Year, but why??

I’m excited for certain aspects, some of which are so top secret most of my own family don’t know yet, work is busy and going well, I have a lovely wife and three, for the most part wonderful children!

So from the outside all seems well and compared to many, it is.

Underlying all of the good stuff is some kind of resistance, something pulling me back reminding me that bad things happen to good people and often the dishonest and cruel are those rewarded the most.

I’m usually the one telling Becca “Karma will sort it out” and “It will all come good in the end” with some kind of inspirational line in her Christmas card about it being “Our year” but I haven’t this year, because I’m just not feeling it.

I’m confident about the success of work and very excited about upcoming changes so again I find myself questioning why am I not more excited for 2023?!

Is it the cost of living crisis? Is it the recent reminder that life can be cut very short, very quickly? Knowing that with each milestone like Christmas, the children are step further away from being young? I don’t know. Perhaps a combination of all of the above?

I apologise for the downbeat ramblings of a thirty six year old, but I’m sure for some these feelings are very familiar. Christmas and New Year’s can be some of the loneliest times people face throughout the year.

“Karma will sort it out”

The absence of family or finances to celebrate as you’d like are challenging.

The new year is often a time where people are determined to make that fresh start, take up a new hobby or be more healthy.

Strangely, I actually feel a little brighter having just written this down?!

I hope that you have all had a very Happy Christmas and positive New Years celebrations and that you are looking forward, as much as you can to 2023.

Article By Tom & Becca

New Year 2023! Tips To Revitalise Your Body

With the festive season over and the New Year in full swing, the battle to get through the January blues can be challenging.

What with New Year’s resolutions and the pressure of daily life returning, this January it’s important to take some time out for yourself. Self-care is extremely important during the winter months. It helps to promote a healthy mind, body and soul.

Make it your New Year’s resolution to establish some self-care wellbeing and wellness rituals, that will not only help you to beat the January blues but also remain with you throughout the year.

BOOST YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM

During the winter months, the amount of Vitamin D in the body decreases due to a lack of sunlight.

For many, the winter months consist of travelling to and from work in the dark.

Vitamin D is a winter essential that helps to maintain normal bones and teeth as well as contributing towards the normal function of the immune system.

MOBU’s Vitamin D3 1000IU lemon flavoured sugar-free gummies are a convenient way to incorporate Vitamin D3 into your daily routine. If you find taking tablets a chore then you’ll love this gummie alternative. Gummies are chewable, easy to swallow, better absorption into the body, kinder to the stomach and can be taken on the go.

COLLAGEN FOR WINTER SKIN

The lack of humidity during the cooler months can leave your skin feeling under-nourished and as a result can lead to dry, chapped and cracked skin.

Moisture locking creams will alleviate some of the damage, but collagen supplements help to tackle the problem from the inside out.

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Making Resolutions That Stick

A 2016 study in the USA found that of those people who declared having made a New Years resolution, 75% of them were keeping it after only a week!

The rate of decline continued, 71% after two weeks, 64% after a month and after six months only 46% of them were still going.

I’m not a great one for declaring my goals or resolutions, but I do find of the people I know who do, many of them manage to achieve their aims, so maybe I need to take heed. But why do we sometimes find it so hard to make a change?

Habit - its definition according to the Oxford English Dictionary is “a thing that you do often and almost without thinking, especially something that is hard to stop doing”

Time A great swallower of our best intentions. We’re busy, either physically, mentally, or

both and just don’t allow ourselves the time to do things consciously, with structured intent. It may only be later that we remember that we were meant to be acting or behaving in a different way. It may also be that the new way of doing something will initially take us more time to do.

Affordability it may be that in the short term the change we want to make is going to be more expensive (or we think it is).

So how will we manage to achieve our resolution? I’m planning to apply the principles of setting a SMART goal -

Specific - It needs to be specific so that you know what you’re trying to achieve and ultimately when you have achieved it. If I were to say I want to live a healthier life, this will be too vague. But I know I need to improve my fitness and mobility.

Measurable - I currently do no regular exercise, so anything is going to be an improvement!

Achievable - At least 1 regular weekly exercise class and aim to lose a stone in weight - believe me that’s more than achievable, there’s plenty of the latter going spare.

Relevant - it needs to be accessible to you to make it easier for you to achieve. In our area deciding to take up ice skating would be completely pointless as we don’t have an ice rink available. On the other hand, yoga and pilates classes are widely available. Equally also I find that as I get older (now upper end of the 50s), I am losing flexibility, my joints click and if I don’t work on strengthening them now, this is only going to get worse.

Time - set timescales for you to reach your goal/resolution. Open ended promises to yourself rarely happen, as we tell ourselves

there’s still plenty of time to go. So, I need to get myself signed up to a yoga or pilates type class within the first month of the year (sooner I start establishing the habit the better), stop buying chocolate bars from the vending machine at work, and eat at least 1 item of fruit and 3 of veg every day. I’m relying on these actions to result in the weight loss.

So now that I have declared this to you all how am I going to keep to this? I know I’m weak (particularly where chocolate bars are concerned) but I need to concentrate on.

Mindset Several years ago, I virtually gave up chocolate bars by thinking about the plastic wrapper still hanging around in 60 years’ time (at least)! I must keep reminding myself why I want to be doing this - improved health and mobility which will lead to less aches and pains, so when I want to cop out I need to be able to bring these to mind in a positive way, rather than it feeling like a nag.

Planning I need to make sure I have the fruit available to eat and no money or my card with me for the vending machine! Snacking at my desk can be sorted out by taking carrot sticks or similar, to eat or just reaching for my water bottle instead. I’ll need to find an exercise class that is convenient from a time and location point of view and keep that time free.

Ultimately, I want to do these things not because I’m dissatisfied with who I am now but because I’m looking at the type of life I want to lead in the future (with as few health issues as is possible).

These improvements are an investment in me, and I believe I’m worth it.

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Changes In The Iceni Household

2022 brought lots of changes within the Iceni Household.

And while it started out with all seven of us contracting Covid in January, it has ended on a much more positive (not the bad kind of illness positive) note.

Here is our 2022 year in review...

Having stayed Covid-free for two years for fear of spreading to vulnerable people we know and love, including one of our children who has a compromised immune system and another with asthma, we finally succumbed to this rotten virus.

Luckily, none of us suffered too badly, but that was almost worse in a way as for the

children, the boredom and not being able to attend school were two terrible things! Colin has unfortunately had Covid a further twice this year.

March saw me turn 40! Not wanting a fuss as, unlike a lot of other people, I see every birthday as a reminder that I am still alive, Colin still treated me like a Queen. He organised a surprise weekend away to a shepherd’s hut in the grounds of the Pheasant Hotel. I adore being close to the coast and we had a fantastic weekend, just the two of us.

The whirlwind that is our life together came with a real dramatic change when Colin proposed to be in June. He got down on one knee on Cromer Pier and pulled out the most gorgeous ring. Of course, I said ‘yes’.

On the last day of term in July, we discovered that I might be pregnant (upon sending a photo of the test to Colin, he wrongly assumed I had tested positive for Covid).

I say might as for me, a positive pregnancy test could signal the return of previous molar tissue for which I had chemo treatment.

After consulting with the amazing team at Charing Cross and my GP, I had an early scan around three weeks later.

We were over the moon to see a flashing heartbeat and a tadpole-like baby on the screen. A few weeks later, we had a private scan as pregnancy anxiety is overwhelming.

It is amazing how much changes in such a short period of time.

And so, December saw us marry. A beautiful intimate ceremony at Norwich Castle with our nearest and dearest.

As you can see, 2022 brought about lots of changes for us all - but 2023 is bound to offer even more with baby due in March and Colin due a long-awaited operation in January.

Wish us luck!

Horoscopes For January

Aries 21 March - 20 April

As 2023 gets underway you’ll be at your most ambitious, Aries. A focus on a high-flying zone encourages you onwards and upwards. Take it easy around the Full Moon on the 6th, as you could feel vulnerable and be less likely to make good decisions. Mars turns direct on the 12th followed by Mercury on the 18th, enhancing progress. It’s all systems go. And as the emphasis shifts to Aquarius, you’ll enter a peak social time. The New Moon on the 21st, is perfect for moving in new circles. Keen to get involved in a community project? You’ll really enjoy it.

Taurus 21 April - 21 May

You’ll be spurred on by thoughts of adventure and bold opportunities. The coming weeks could find you travelling for work or pleasure, learning a language or studying for a qualification. You may have mixed feelings about a plan or goal, so get clear on what you want first. Finances improve too, as fiery Mars turns direct from the 12th. If there have been delays, you’ll soon see a turnaround. Ready for your time in the spotlight? The Sun in Aquarius from week three, is the best time to promote your skills. It’s a time of positive change! Use it to your advantage.

Gemini 22 May - 21 June

You’ll be ready to resolve issues that have been draining energy and resources, Gemini. The coming weeks are excellent for letting go of anything that’s holding you back, so you have space to welcome in new opportunities. The Full Moon on the 6th is helpful in this regard, and will bring relief. Plus, as dynamic Mars turns direct on the 12th, you’ll start to flourish. Delays and low energy will be a thing of the past. As the focus swings to Aquarius, you’ll be eager to move out of your comfort zone. New opportunities await, and could take your life to a new level.

Cancer 22 June - 23 July

You’ll enjoy being around friends and family, and working together to get things done. This isn’t the month to go solo, as you’ll accomplish more if you team up. Regarding a personal issue, feelings could mislead you around the 6th, as the Full Moon in your sign can cause you to overreact. Avoid making decisions until you are calm and know what you want. Finances and business are also a hot topic, with the New Moon in Aquarius on the 21st encouraging you to invest time and resources wisely. Hoping for a holiday romance? Look out from the 26th!

Leo 24 July - 23 August

The emphasis on your work and wellness zone coincides with a desire to be efficient and productive. Keen to get moving? Exercise and healthy routines will be a high priority. Creating good habits will be the foundation to your success. With Mercury forging ahead on the 18th and Uranus on the 22nd in your sector of ambition, you’ll soon be on track to bigger opportunities. You’ll also gain the support of others, and get more satisfaction from your love life, Leo. As Venus enters Pisces from the 26th, a romance could become passionate and committed.

Virgo 24 August - 23 September

2023 gets off to a buoyant start, with leisure, creativity and romance high on your list of priorities. You’ll have ambitions to be the best at anything you aspire to. Don’t make impulsive decisions on the 6th though, as the Full Moon means feelings could fluctuate. Wait a few days until you have more clarity. Once Mars and Mercury forge ahead on the 12th and 18th, delays with career, goals and other key plans, will ease. You’ll soon be back on form. From the 20th , it’s time to streamline your routines. Plus, Venus in Pisces could bring a romantic bond to fruition, Virgo.

Libra 24 September - 23 October

As 2023 gets underway, you’ll be involved with your family and their goals. You may have big ideas about a move, a major makeover or any other plans that enhance life at home. January 6th could be emotional, as the Full Moon might leave you overwhelmed. Perhaps it’s time to look at your work/life balance. Have plans been delayed? As dynamic Mars pushes forward from January 12th, you’ll soon see progress. Creative projects and hobbies work well from week three, Libra, while the New Moon on the 21st, is a chance to take a budding romance further.

Scorpio 24 October - 22 November

It’s time to become more organized, so that 2023 gets off to the best possible start. Sort out admin, book appointments and get all those minor but important tasks out of the way. Then you’ll be ready for the months ahead, and can set goals and devise strategies to accomplish them. Ready to welcome positive change? It can happen from the 12th as Mars turns direct, giving you the confidence to go ahead. The focus also shifts to your habits and routines. This is a great opportunity to rearrange them, so you can be healthier, happier and more productive, Scorpio.

Sagittarius 23 November - 21 December

You’ll be ready to get finances in order and to increase your cash flow, something you seem quite serious about, Archer. Still, the Full Moon on the 6th could cause you to splurge to feel better. Why not opt for a massage or spa treatment, as it would do you so much good? Had issues with a key relationship? These might improve from the 12th, as there could be a change of heart. You’ll also have better luck with discussions and negotiations, and it’s likely you’ll get what you want. Keen to launch an online business? The New Moon on the 21st is a great time to start.

Capricorn 22 December - 20 January

You’re on top form, with the Sun in your sign for the next three weeks. This is your chance to project your best qualities out into the world. The Full Moon on the 6th can highlight the feelings you have for another. And you’ll be keen to share them. Mercury pushes ahead in your sign on the 18th, encouraging progress after a time of delays. Finances may be uppermost in your mind from January 20th, and you’ll be dreaming up clever ways to get your money working harder for you. From the 26th, Venus brings you charm and grace when dealing with others, Capricorn.

Aquarius 21 January - 19 February

As 2023 dawns, the emphasis is on finding closure on issues that take up valuable resources or cause anxiety. It's a good time to connect with a life coach, therapist or mentor, who can help you resolve matters and move on. Has a romance stalled? As Mars turns direct from the 12th, it could soon pick up. Get ready, as the New Moon in your sign on the 21st is great for new beginnings, whatever plans you have in mind. And electric Uranus also forges ahead from the 22nd , which brings positive developments on the home front. You're in your element and loving it, Aquarius.

Pisces 20 February - 20 March

Even though the festive season has come to a close, the focus on your social zone hints you still have plenty of reasons to get out and connect with new friends and old. The weeks until the 20th are great for gettogethers and big celebrations. Have you experienced delays with home or property matters? As Mars pushes ahead from the 12th, you’ll soon see signs of movement. Your spiritual zone is also highlighted, so you may want to learn to meditate or take up yoga. Plus, Venus in your sign from the 26th gives you the attractor factor. You’ll be in demand, Pisces!

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