The respect of a muslim

The Respect of a

Muslim IhtirÄ m-e-Muslim

This

booklet was written by Shaykh-e-TarÄŤqat Amir-eAhl-e-Sunnat, the founder of Dawat-e-Islami Hazrat ‘Allamah Maulana Muhammad Ilyas ‘Attar Qadiri Razavi

 

 

in Urdu. The translation Majlis has translated this booklet into English. If you find any mistakes in the translation or composing, please inform the translation Majlis on the following address and gain Ĺ awÄ b.

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Contents The Respect of a Muslim Excellence of Durūd Sharīf .....................................................1 Fake Coin................................................................................1 What does Dawat-e-Islami want?..........................................2 Three types of People are deprived of Heaven .....................3 Definition of Dayyuth .............................................................3 Woman wearing Masculine Clothes is deprived of Heaven ..4 Respect of the elder brother .................................................5 Teach Manners to Your Children ...........................................5 One Reason for not having a Madanī Environment at Home6 How shall we save our family members from Hell? ..............7 Respect of Relatives ...............................................................7 Reconcile with Relatives ........................................................7 Excellence of Stroking the Head of an Orphan ......................8 Created from a Crooked Rib ..................................................9 The Excellence of Gentleness Towards Wife .........................9 Unmanliness ..........................................................................9 Rights of the Husband..........................................................10 Do not leave the home of even a Cruel Husband ................10 The Cause of most Women’s being in Hell? ........................11 The Rights of Neighbours.....................................................11 Highest Certificate ...............................................................12 Which Qualities should the Ameer-e-Qafila Possess? .........12 I

Contents

Anything Spare should be given to Someone Else...............13 You will be questioned about Your Subordinates ...............13 Distribution of Duties...........................................................14 Offer Your Seat to Somebody Else .......................................14 Travel with a Madanī Qafila .................................................15 Do not take up too Much Space ..........................................15 It is Sunnah to Make Space for the Newcomer ...................16 Whispering ...........................................................................17 Stepping Over People ..........................................................17 Sitting between two People.................................................17 Don’t hurt anyone’s feelings................................................19 Uswa-e-Hasana ....................................................................19 52 Beautiful Sunan ...............................................................19

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(Al-Mustaáš­raf, V1, P40, Dar-ul-Fikr, Beirut)

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THE RESPECT OF A MUSLIM* Although Satan will try his best to prevent you from reading this discourse making you feel lazy, read it from beginning to end,

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will feel a MadanÄŤ transformation in yourself.

Excellence of DurĹŤd SharÄŤf

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L he Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The closest to me on the Day of Judgement will be the one who recited the most DurĹŤd SharÄŤf upon me in the world.â&#x20AC;? (Jamiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Tirmidhi, Hadith

484, V2, P27, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

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Fake Coin A fire worshiper used to have his clothes sewn by SayyidunÄ Sheikh Abu Abdullah Khayyaat # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020; P / 0 and, each time, he * This speech was delivered by Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat in the 3 day international Ijtima of Dawat-e-Islami (11th, 12th, 13th Shaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;baan-ul-Muâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;azzam 1423h) in Madina-tul-Auliya Multan. It is being presented with necessary amendments.

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would give a fake coin which he # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020; P / 0 accepted knowingly.

Once, in his absence, his student did not accept the fake coin from the fire worshiper. When SayyidunÄ Sheikh Abu Abdullah Khayyaat # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020; P / 0 returned and got to know about the situation, he asked his student, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Why didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t you take the coin? For many years, he has been giving me a fake coin which I always accepted so that he would not give it to any other Muslim.â&#x20AC;? (Ihya-ul-Uloom, V3, P77, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

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What does Dawat-e-Islami want?

Dear Islamic Brothers! Did you see! Our pious saints J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;Q â&#x20AC;&#x2020; 0

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! / had the sincere feeling of respecting other Muslims. They used to bear even their personal loss just to save other strange Muslims from even accidental damage, whereas today, a brother is seen robbing his own brother. The worldwide nonpolitical movement, Dawat-e-Islami wants to bring back the

memories of our pious saints J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; Q â&#x20AC;&#x2020; 0 . Dawat-e-Islami

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! / removes hatred and spreads love. Every Islamic brother should make a habit of travelling with the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, fill in their MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card doing Fikr-eMadina and hand it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother every month. With the blessing of doing so, â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

you will develop the spirit of respecting Muslims. If all of us respect each other from the bottom of our heart, â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

# our society will once again become a beautiful garden of Madina.

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Three types of People are deprived of Heaven Parents and the ‫( ذ َِوا ْﻻ َرﺣﺎم‬blood relatives) deserve our polite behaviour more than every one else in society but unfortunately, a little attention is paid to this matter. Some people look very humble and well-mannered in general public but they mistreat their family-members. Drawing the attention of such people, I would mention the Hadith narrated by Sayyidunā Abdullah L ibn Umar - ! *

R S 0 . Therefore, the beloved of Allah # ' J = K

B #@ ٖ = said, “Three people will not enter the Heaven: the one who distresses his parents, the Dayyuth (TE 3 ) and the woman who adopts masculine style.” (Majma’uz Zawaaid, Hadith 13431, V8,

P270, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Definition of Dayyuth The foregoing Hadith clearly states that a dayyuth is one of such sinners who will not enter the Heaven; a dayyuth is the person who doesn’t care about his wife's meeting strange men.

Remember! Apart from other people, first cousins, uncle’s wife, aunt’s husband and sister’s husband are strangers. By Shariah, there is Purdah (veil) between sister-in-law and brother-in-law.

If the wife does not do Shari’ Purdah (veil) with them, she will be deserving of Hell, and if the husband can stop her but he does not do so, by Shariah, he is a dayyuth that is deserving of Hell, he will initially remain deprived of the Heaven. The dayyuth who commits this sin openly is a Fasiq-e-Mu’lin, unworthy of doing Imaamat and giving witness.

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Dear Islamic Brothers! Make a habit of travelling regularly with the MadanÄŤ Qafilas, filling in your MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card everyday and submitting it every month to the relevant responsible Islamic brother of your area. â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , the lethal diseases of sins including dayyuthi will be cured for the sake of L the Beloved Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

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Woman wearing Masculine Clothes is deprived of Heaven It is stated in a Hadith that the woman who adopts masculine styles will be deprived of Heaven. The woman who wears masculine clothes, shoes, or has a masculine hairstyle also deserves the same punishment. Often, this issue is not considered when dressing children. (Allah forbid) sometimes, the boys are made to wear the dress of girls making them look like girls and similarly, girls are made to wear shirts & trousers along with a hat making them look like boys. It is a sin to get your daughters wear boyish dress or masculine hairstyle. Henna can be applied on the palms and feet of the girls only, applying henna on the hands or feet of boys is a sin. (Raddul-muhtar v9, p522, Dar-ul-kutubul Ilmiyya Beirut)

Do not dress your children in clothes which have pictures of living things on them. Do not apply nail polish on children's nails and the childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s mother should never also do so because wudu & ghusl will not be complete.

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Respect of the elder brother Along with parents, other close relatives such as brothers and sisters should also be respected. After the father, the grandfather and elder brother are closer as the elder brother is like the L father. The Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The right of an elder brother upon his younger brother is like the right which a father has upon his children.â&#x20AC;? (Shuâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ubul-Imaan, Hadith 7929, V6, P210, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Teach Manners to Your Children Parents should also pay ample attention to the fulfilment of their children's rights. Instead of making them â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;modernâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;, they should try to make their children follow Sunnah, learn good manners and keep the company of Sunnah-inspiring MadanÄŤ environment; they should prevent them from indulging in bad habits such as watching films & dramas' participating in sinful customs and traditions in which music is played making people negligent from the remembrance of Allah .

These days, parents perhaps consider providing their children proper education along with any skill and expertise whereby they could earn money as the most important right of their children. Alas! the body and the clothes of the child are saved from dirt but no effort is made for the purification of his heart L and deeds. The beloved of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;It is better for a person to teach his children manners than to give one saa (approx. 2.75kg) in charity.â&#x20AC;? (Jamiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Tirmidhi, Hadith 195, V3, 5

The Respect of a Muslim L and He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B also said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;No father gave anything to his child better than good manners.â&#x20AC;? (Jamiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Tirmidhi, Hadith

P38)

1959, V3, P383)

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One Reason for not having a MadanÄŤ Environment at Home Regretfully, there is no MadanÄŤ environment in most of our homes these days and we are ourselves responsible for this situation to a great extent. Our joking & mocking, use of foul & impolite language, bad manners, fun and extreme carelessness are the causes of this situation. Our Islamic brothers behave others very politely & humbly but mistreat their own familymembers. Remember! Your misbehaviour is a very big hurdle in the rectification of your family. Beware! If you do not improve your character and donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t make efforts humbly and politely for the reformation of your family, you may end up in the damnation of the Hell as: Allah says in the Holy Qurâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;an, Part 28, Sura Tahreem, Verse 6,

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TRANSLATION KANZUL-IMAAN Oh People who believe! Save yourselves and your families from the fire, the fuel of which is men and stones.

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How shall we save our family members from Hell?

It is stated in Khazain-ul-Irfaan with regard to the forgoing verse, â&#x20AC;&#x153;(save yourselves and your families from the fire of Hell) L by obeying Allah and His beloved Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B , performing worship, refraining from sins, guiding your families towards goodness and forbidding them from evils and by teaching them knowledge & etiquettes.â&#x20AC;?

Respect of Relatives

S All relatives should be treated nicely. SayyidunÄ Aasim * â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

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L narrates that the Holy Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Whoever wants a long life, increase in his sustenance and protection from bad death, should fear Allah and treat his relatives politely.â&#x20AC;? (Mustadrak, Hadith 7280, V4, P97, Dar-ul-Kutubul

Ilmiyyah Beirut)

The beloved of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The one who breaks relations will not enter the Heaven.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5984, V7, P95, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Reconcile with Relatives Dear Islamic Brothers! The people who break relations with their relatives on trivial matters should learn a lesson from the foregoing narration. Such people should approach their relatives and offer reconciliation themselves with humility even if the relatives are at fault for the quarrel. However, if there is a Shariâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; reason preventing you from reconciliation with them, so you 7

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should refrain from doing so. With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , L for the sake of the Beloved #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B , you will get such spirit of respecting Muslims in your heart that all of your differences and quarrels with your family & relatives will be settled and â&#x20AC;&#x2020; they will also join the MadanÄŤ environment of Dawat-e-Islami.

Excellence of Stroking the Head of an Orphan A young boy or girl whose father has passed away is known as an orphan. As soon the boy or girl becomes adolescent (baaligh), they are no longer considered an orphan. There is great reward for treating the orphans kindly. The mercy to the universe, the L Beloved of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The one stroking an orphan's head for the pleasure of Allah , will get reward for every hair that his hand stroked, and the one treating any orphan boy or girl generously, I and he will be together in Heaven like these (two fingers are together)â&#x20AC;? (Musnad Imaam Ahmad, Hadith 22215, V8, P272, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Stroking the head of an orphan and providing food to the poor removes hardness of heart. The Sunnah method is to bring the hand from the back of the head to the front, and the father of a child should bring his hand from the front of the head to the back. (Muâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;jam al-awsat lil-Tabaraani, Hadith 1279, V1, P351, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

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Created from a Crooked Rib A husband should treat his wife nicely and deal with her wisely.

Our Holy Prophet #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B L said, “Woman has been created from a rib and you cannot straighten her. If you wish to get benefit from her, you can do so with her crookedness. If you try to straighten her, you will break her and breaking a woman means divorcing her.” (Sahih Muslim, V1, P475, Afghanistan)

The Excellence of Gentleness towards Wife We therefore realise that some of her habits will be displeasing, but the husband should always remain patient and tolerant.

The Holy Prophet #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B L said, “Amongst the true believers is he who possesses a nice character and is the most gentle with his wife.” (Jami’ Tirmizi, Hadith 2621, V4, P278, Dar-ulFikr Beirut)

Unmanliness Dear Islamic Brothers! Those rebuking and even beating their wives should ponder over this blessed Hadith. To demonstrate your power over the one who is naturally weaker than you is not manliness, it is in fact the worst unmanliness. If the woman forgetfully makes a mistake, her husband should be lenient, patient and tolerant. As he gets many benefits from her, he should also tolerate her foibles (mistakes).

The merciful Prophet, intercessor of Ummah, the Beloved of L Allah #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B said, “A Muslim male can never have 9

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enmity for a Muslim female. He may dislike one of her habits but may find any other habit pleasing.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih Muslim, V1, P475, Afghanistan)

Dear Islamic Brothers! With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , for the L sake of the Beloved #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B domestic problems and quarrels will be settled and mutual understanding and love will develop. There will be happiness and joy at our home and your family will be blessed with a sight of beautiful Madina

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; .

Rights of the Husband The wife should also treat her husband in a good manner. The L Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I swear by the One under Whose Omnipotence my life is, if there are wounds, in the husband's body from foot to head, from which pus and blood flow, and the woman licks them, still she has not fulfilled the husbandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rights.â&#x20AC;? (Musnad Imaam Ahmad, Hadith 12614, V4, P318, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Do not leave the home of even a Cruel Husband Those women who frequently fall out with their husbands over small matters and go to their parentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s home should listen attentively and try to act upon the following blessed Hadith L with heart and soul. The Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

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â&#x20AC;&#x153;And (the wife) must not leave the house of her (husband) without his permission. If she does so, until she does not repent, Allah and His (innocent) angels send curse upon her.â&#x20AC;? Someone asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Even if the husband is cruel?â&#x20AC;? The Holy L Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B replied, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Even if he is cruel.â&#x20AC;? (KanzulUmmal, Hadith 44801, V16, P114, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

The Cause of most Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s being in Hell?

Some women are extremely disobedient and ungrateful to their husbands. If they are offended even slightly, they forget all the previous kindnesses and favours and start cursing their husbands. Those women who often curse and annoy their husbands should repent immediately; once the Prophet of L Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B was going to the Eid-Gah on Eid day. He L #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B passed by some women and said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Oh women!

Give charity as I have seen most of you in the Hell.â&#x20AC;? The L women asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Ya Rasool-Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B ! What is the L reason for this?â&#x20AC;? The Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B replied, â&#x20AC;&#x153;You often curse and are ungrateful to your husbands.â&#x20AC;?

(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 304, V1, P123, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

The Rights of Neighbours Dear Islamic Brothers! Everyone should treat their neighbours nicely and respectfully unless there is a valid Shariâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; reason.

Once, a person came in the presence of the Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L ! and asked, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Ya Rasool-Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J How will I know if I have done something right or wrong?â&#x20AC;?

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The Respect of a Muslim L The Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B replied, â&#x20AC;&#x153;When you hear your neighbours saying that you have performed something right, indeed you have performed something right and when you hear them saying that you have committed something wrong, indeed you have committed something wrong.â&#x20AC;? (Sunan

Ibn-e-Maja, Hadith 4223, V4, P479, Dar-ul-Maâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;rifa Beirut)

Highest Certificate Allah-u-Akbar ! What great importance the neighbours hold that your â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;character certificateâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; is issued through them.

Unfortunately, today, the neighbourâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s immense importance is not considered. With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , for the sake of the L beloved Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B , the importance of the neighbours will develop in your hearts, you will have the mindset of respecting them and â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , your area will become a garden of Madina.

Which Qualities should the Ameer-e-Qafila Possess?

An Ameer in a journey should respect and serve his companions a lot. A blessed Hadith states, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The one serving his companions the most in a journey is the Ameer, and his companions can never surpass him in any deed or action unless they become martyr.â&#x20AC;? (Shuâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ubul-Imaan, Hadith 8407, V6, P334, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

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Anything Spare should be given to Someone Else L Once, during a journey, the Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Whoever has a spare transport, should give it to the one who is without it, whoever has spare food should give it to the one L without foodâ&#x20AC;? and like this, he #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B spoke of other

S things as well. SayyidunÄ Abu Saâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;eed Khudri * â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

R 0 says, â&#x20AC;&#x153;In B L the same way, He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020; mentioned different

materialistic items until we felt that nobody has the right of keeping anything which is spare.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih Muslim, V2, P81, Afghanistan)

9- Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; B= 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = K

â&#x20AC;&#x2020;B L â&#x20AC;&#x2020;â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

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You will be questioned about Your Subordinates Not only the Ameer-e-Qafila, but everyone should also treat their subordinates (those under you) nicely. The beloved of L Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The guardian will be questioned about his guardianship. The king is a guardian and he will be questioned about his people, the man is a guardian of his family and will be questioned about those in his guardianship, a woman is guardian of her husbandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s home and she will be questioned.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 2409, V2, P112, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah)

Dear Islamic Brothers! With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; you will 13

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develop the spirit of respecting and taking care of your subordinates and everyone will be happy with you and will bless you with Duâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Ä -e-Madina. â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

Distribution of Duties During the journey, the duties should be distributed amongst the travellers instead of placing the entire burden upon the shoulders of just one person. Once, the blessed companions

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; E S

! # ' were on a journey; they decided to slaughter a female sheep. Someone took it upon himself to slaughter it whilst another took the responsibility of skinning it. Someone else took the responsibility of cooking it. The Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I will collect wood for the fire.â&#x20AC;? The

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; blessed companions

E S

! # ' said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;We will do that.â&#x20AC;? The

L Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I know that you can do it for me but I do not like to be prominent amongst you. Allah also does not like it.â&#x20AC;? (Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;haaf-us-saadat-ul-mutaqeen, V8, P210, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Offer Your Seat to Somebody Else If there is shortage of seats during a bus or train journey, those people sitting should not remain sitting and those people standing should not remain standing for the whole journey.

Everyone should take turns to sit and thus earn reward of

S facing a difficulty. SayyidunÄ Abdullah bin Masâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ood * â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

R 0 says that there was only one camel for three persons in the battle of Badr, hence, SayyidunÄ Abu Lubaba and SayyidunÄ 14

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S ! *

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; R 0 were with the camel L #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B . Both say that when

Ali

of the Holy Prophet it was the turn of the L Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B to walk, both of us would request the Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L to remain seated and that we will L walk in lieu of him. The Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B replied, â&#x20AC;&#x153;You are not stronger than me and I am not indifferent to reward.â&#x20AC;? (i.e. I also need reward so why should I not walk!)

(Sharh-us-Sunnah, Hadith 2680, V5, P566, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Travel with a MadanÄŤ Qafila Dear Islamic Brothers! With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , for the L sake of the Beloved #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B you will develop the spirit of self-sacrifice and, with its blessing, you will Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;shaa-Allah gain the auspiciousness of performing Hajj and seeing beautiful Madina and during these blessed journeys you will gain the auspiciousness of happily offering seats & places to the travellers in Mina, Muzdalifa, Arafat and of course in Makkah & Madina.

Do not take up too Much Space One should not take up too much space for his personal comfort distressing others at such places where people gather in large numbers like Ijtimaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aat etc. It is stated by SayyidunÄ Sahl bin Muâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aadh - ! *

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; R S 0 , â&#x20AC;&#x153;My respected father says, â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Once 15

The Respect of a Muslim L we went to participate in Jihad with the Holy Prophet â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # '. People took up too much space (whilst travelling) L and blocked the path. The Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B sent someone to announce, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Indeed, whoever blocks paths, there is no Jihad for himâ&#x20AC;? (Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 2629, V2, P388, Dar-ul-

Fikr Beirut)

It is Sunnah to Make Space for the Newcomer It is a Sunnah for the people who are already sitting to make space for a newcomer. It is stated by SayyidunÄ Waasila bin

S Khattaab * â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

R 0 that a person came to the Holy Prophet

L L Ů&#x2013; #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020; = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B . He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J

B was sitting in the Masjid.

Ů&#x2013;

The Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L moved to one side and L made space. The person asked â&#x20AC;&#x153;Ya Rasool-Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B there was already enough space. Why did you go through the difficulty of making more space?â&#x20AC;? The Prophet of Allah L #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B replied, â&#x20AC;&#x153;It is the right of a Muslim that whenever he sees his Muslim brother, he should make space.â&#x20AC;?

(Shuâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ubul-Imaan, Hadith 8933, V6, P468, Dar-ul-Kutubul lmiyyah Beirut)

Dear Islamic Brothers! With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , for the L sake of the Beloved #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B there will be blessings for you in just a little space, you will develop a mindset of practicing the Sunnah of making space for others and providing them 16

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with comfort and you will â&#x20AC;&#x2020; gain a spacious place for burial in Jannat-ul-Baqi.

Whispering

S SayyidunÄ Abdullah bin Masâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ood * â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

R 0 narrates that the L Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;If there are three persons, two of them should not talk secretly until lots of people arrive as it will cause grief to the third person.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6290, V4, P185, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut) (He might think that they are talking about him or they did not consider him worthy of joining the discussion etc.)

Stepping over People If people are already sitting in the first row for Jumuâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ah, it is prohibited for the latecomer to step over the people in order to L get to the front. The Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Whoever steps over people on Friday, he will be made into the bridge for the dwellers of Hell on the Day of Judgement.â&#x20AC;?

(Jamiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Tirmidhi, Hadith 513, V2, P48, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Sitting between two People If two people are already sitting, it is extremely immoral and against the respect of a Muslim to sit between them without L their permission. The Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;It is not Halaal for a man to separate two people except with their permission.â&#x20AC;? (Meaning to sit between them) (Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4845, V4, P48, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

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S SayyidunÄ Huzaifah * â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

R 0 narrates that the Holy Prophet L #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J= Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said that such a person is cursed. (Jamiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Tirmidhi, Hadith 2762, V4, P346, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut) The beloved of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020;B L is reported to have said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Do not ask someone to leave his seat for you; instead, the sitting person should make space.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih Muslim, V2, P217, Afghanistan) L The beloved of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;If someone leaves his seat and then returns to it, he is entitled to it the most.â&#x20AC;? (ibid)

Dear Islamic Brothers! Whoever leaves his place to go the toilet or perform wudu and will return to his place, no-one else should sit there. However, some people place a shawl etc. in the first row of the Masjid to reserve a place or to prevent others from sitting there; this is not allowed. If necessary, there is no harm in reserving a place for the Mukabbir and the Samiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; in Taraweeh.

Dear Islamic Brothers! With the blessings of travelling in the MadanÄŤ Qafilas every month, filling in the MadanÄŤ Inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month, â&#x20AC;&#x2020; , for the L sake of the beloved Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B you will learn the norms of a gathering, refrain from violating peopleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rights, hurting their feelings and will develop a mindset of respecting Muslims. With the blessings of this, you will â&#x20AC;&#x2020; gain the auspiciousness of Hajj and visit to beautiful Madina.

9- Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; B= 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = K

â&#x20AC;&#x2020;B L â&#x20AC;&#x2020;â&#x20AC;&#x2020; 18

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Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t hurt anyoneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s feelings Dear Islamic Brothers! The Muslim's respect demands us to fulfil the rights of every Muslim at any cost. We must not hurt the feelings of any Muslim without a Shariâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; reason. Our blessed L Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B never hurt the feelings of any Muslim.

Ů&#x2013; L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B never teased anyone, never made a joke of anybody, never pushed anybody away and never insulted anyone.

L Instead, he #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B would treat everyone with affection.

Uswa-e-Hasana In order to learn how to respect Muslims properly, we must follow and focus on the â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Uswa-e-Hasanaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; (best character) of L

our beautiful Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B . Allah says in the Glorious Quran, Part 21, Sura Ahzaab, verse 21,

Pa *C ) â&#x20AC;&#x2020;Da E @

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;5 E @ 0 â&#x20AC;&#x2020; ` â&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;9 _ ( â&#x20AC;&#x2020; TRANSLATION KANZ-UL-IMAAN L Indeed following the Noble Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B is better for you.

52 Beautiful Sunan L The Beloved of Allah #b@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B is surely the greatest, the most respected and honoured of the entire creation of Allah L . To respect and honour the noble Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B in every condition is fard. I will now try to present to you 52

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The Respect of a Muslim L sunan of the Holy Prophet #b@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B which can guide us in respecting Muslims:-

1.

L The Prophet of Allah #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B always safeguarded his blessed tongue and talked only when necessary.

2.

L L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020; = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B treated the people lovingly. He â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J

B

Ů&#x2013;

#@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # ' never did anything that would cause hatred.

3.

L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B always honoured the â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;respected personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; of a nation and would appoint him as the nationâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s leader.

4.

He

bL Ů&#x2013; b = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; b # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J b #b @ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; b = b Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B

always advised people to fear Allah

.

5.

L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B would not hurt people, his friendliness, excellent morals & superb character always remained the same.

6.

L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B always enquired about the blessed

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; companions

E S

! # '.

7.

L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B always praised peopleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s positive talks & ideas and condemned anything that was evil and forbade people from acting upon it.

8.

L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B dealt with matters moderately.

9.

L He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B was not funny at all.

L 10. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B was never neglectful of rectifying people.

11. His #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B L talk and sitting would always begin and finish with the Zikr of Allah .

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The Respect of a Muslim L 12. When He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B went somewhere, he would sit wherever he found place and also advised others to do the same.

13. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B L would fulfil the rights of the people who sat by him.

14. Whoever that was blessed with sitting besides the Holy L Prophet #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B felt that the Prophet of Allah L #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B loved him the most.

L 15. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would not end the conversation with any one until that person left himself.

L 16. Whenever he #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B shook hands with someone, he did not withdraw his blessed hands first.

L 17. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would always help the needy.

L 18. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B treated every one generously and politely.

L 19. His #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B blessed gathering was the gathering of knowledge, modesty, patience & trust.

L 20. His #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B blessed gathering was very peaceful and nobody was disgraced.

21. If anyone made a mistake in the blessed gathering, he would not be ridiculed and his mistake would not be spread.

L 22. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would pay complete attention while talking to someone.

L 23. His #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B blessed eyes would remain lowered with modesty.

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The Respect of a Muslim L 24. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B was shyer than even an unmarried girl.

L 25. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B would always say Salaam first.

L 26. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B would say Salaam to children as well.

L 27. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B would not turn his blessed face away from his visitor until the visitor did not turn his face and leave.

L 28. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B never stretched his blessed legs towards people in the gathering.

L 29. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B often sat facing the Qibla.

L 30. If the Holy Prophet #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B resented someone's L comments, He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B would say â&#x20AC;&#x153;May Allah give him goodnessâ&#x20AC;?.

L 31. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B never took revenge of any one due to any personal reason.

L 32. Instead of taking revenge, he #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020;J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B always forgave those who distressed him.

L 33. Apart from Jihad, he #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B never hit anybody with his blessed hands. Not even his wives or servants.

L 34. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020; â&#x20AC;&#x2020;

B spoke gently; a blessed Hadith says, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The worst person amongst the people is he whom people left because of his indecent & offensive language.â&#x20AC;? (Sahih

Muslim, V2, P322, Afghanistan) L 35. He #@ â&#x20AC;&#x2020; Ů&#x2013; = â&#x20AC;&#x2020; # 'â&#x20AC;&#x2020; J = Kâ&#x20AC;&#x2020;

â&#x20AC;&#x2020; B was naturally very gentle and would remain delighted.

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The Respect of a Muslim L 36. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would never scream.

37. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B L would never speak harshly.

L 38. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would never blame people.

L 39. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B was not a miser at all.

L 40. He #b@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B saved himself from three things: quarrelling, arrogance and involving himself in unnecessary activities.

L 41. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would never find faults with people.

L 42. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would never tell a person off due to personal reasons.

L 43. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B not only advised people to perform good deeds but also did so himself.

L 44. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B patiently tolerated the harsh words and unnecessary questions of the traveller.

L 45. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B never interfere and interrupt someone's conversation.

L 46. If anybody spoke unnecessarily, he #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would forbid him or leave the place.

L #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B was so simple

ٖ L #@ = # ' J = K

B did not specify any

47. He

and humble that he prominent place for

himself to sit. (Ihya-ul-Uloom, V2, P396)

L 48. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would sometimes rest upon a blessed mat and sometimes upon the ground without spreading any thing.

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The Respect of a Muslim L 49. When sleeping, he #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would sometimes use his blessed hand as a pillow.

L 50. The blessed speech of the Holy Prophet #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B was so clear that if a person wanted, he could easily count the number of words.

L 51. He #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B never laughed aloud (means if there is someone else, he will hear the sound of laughing).

L 52. Whilst talking, he #@ ٖ = # ' J = K

B would never stare at the face of the person he was talking to.

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B L

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