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Contents: November 2015 Articles

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Your Family vs. Climate Change..................................................................... 8 Love, Life & the Laundry Line...................................................................... 10 Holiday Gift & Book Recommendations....................................................... 12 Piggyback Songs............................................................................................ 14 Taming the TV.............................................................................................. 16

Columns Editor’s Note................................................................................................... 3 Is There an App for This?.............................................................................. 22 Dadspeak...................................................................................................... 30 Healthy Families; Happy Families................................................................. 32 Just Eat It!..................................................................................................... 34 Book Nook................................................................................................... 36 Maternity & Beyond..................................................................................... 44 Nature Notes................................................................................................ 46 Cut It Out..................................................................................................... 48

Departments IPM Notes....................................................................................................... 4 Party Directory........................................................................................ 20, 21 Family Calendar............................................................................................ 24 Around the Island................................................................................... 28, 29 Family Services Directory........................................................................ 40, 41 Preschool & Child Care Directory........................................................... 42, 43 Business & Professional Directory................................................................. 45 Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be emailed to the Editor at editor@islandparent.ca. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be emailed to editor@islandparent.ca. Island Parent Magazine is distributed free in selected areas. Subscriptions can be obtained by sending $35.00 (includes GST) with your name and address to the address below. Canada Post: Canadian Publications Mail Sales Product Agreement 40051398.

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Put Your Phone (Far) Away

an you look someone in the eye and type on your phone at the same time—without your split attention being detected? If you’re like most of the college students interviewed for writer Sherry Turkle’s New York Times article “Stop Googling, Let’s Talk,” you can. The skill—one the students say they mastered in middle school when they wanted to text in class without getting caught—has evolved, writes Turkle. “Now they use it when they want to be both with their friends and, as some put it, ‘elsewhere.’” Turkle has studied “the psychology of online connectivity” for more than 30 years. Her focus: face-to-face conversation. Or, perhaps more accurately, its demise. “We’ve gotten used to being connected all the time, but we have found ways around conversation—at least from conversation that is open-ended and spontaneous, in which we play with ideas and allow ourselves to be fully present and vulnerable,” she writes. But it is in this type of

conversation—through eye contact, being aware of another person’s posture and tone, comforting and respectfully challenging one another—that empathy and intimacy flourish. Without those meaningful, face-to-face conversations, she says, empathy suffers. “In conversation, things go best if you pay close attention and learn how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes,” writes Turkle. This is easier to do without your phone in hand, she says. Or even in view. Studies of conversation show that when two people are talking, the mere presence of a phone on a table between them or in the periphery of their vision changes both what they talk about and the degree of connection they feel, she writes. “People keep the conversation on topics where they won’t mind being interrupted. They don’t feel as invested in each other. Even a silent phone disconnects us.” To reclaim conversation, we need to first reclaim solitude. “Some of the most crucial conversations

you will ever have will be with yourself,” she says. “Slow down sufficiently to make this possible. And make a practice of doing one thing at a time. Think of uni-tasking as the next big thing.” And think of conversation as one way to practice uni-tasking.

Editor’s Note Sue Fast Carve out spaces at home that are devicefree, she says, sacred spaces for the paired virtues of conversation and solitude. “Families can find these spaces in the day to day—no devices at dinner, in the kitchen and in the car. Introduce this idea to children when they are young so it doesn’t spring up as punitive but as a baseline of family culture.” We face a significant choice, she says. It is not about giving up our phones and the other various devices; it’s about using them with greater intention. “Conversation is there for us to reclaim,” says Turkle. “For the failing connections of our digital world, it is the talking cure.”

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IPM Notes Soccer Meets Golf at Cedar Hill Golf Course FootGolf has been played in North America since 2011 and in Europe since 2008. It’s a sport that’s quickly growing in popularity and Saanich’s Cedar Hill Golf Course (1400 Derby Road, just off Shelbourne) has just launched the first FootGolf locally. FootGolf locally. FootGolf is just like it sounds. It is a combination of soccer and golf. Using a standard soccer ball, players “kick” their way through a golf course’s nine holes. The goal is to use the least number of kicks to put the ball into a 54-centimetre (21-inch) cup. FootGolf is incorporated into the golf course in a way that allows it to be played cooperatively with regular golf. The rules are closer to golf than to soccer. FootGolf will be available throughout the year on Sundays, Mondays and Tuesdays after noon. No soccer cleats allowed—wear indoor turf or running shoes. Bring your own soccer balls or rent one from the club. You can book FootGolf tee-times by phoning the club at 250-475-7151. For more information, visit saanich.ca/parkrec/golf. For more information about FootGolf, visit the Canadian FootGolf Association website at footgolf.ca.

The African Children’s Choir The African Children’s Choir will perform on October 30 at Emmanuel Baptist Church, 2121 Cedar Hill Cross Road, at 7pm and on November 1 at North Douglas Pentacostal Church, 675 Jolly Place, at 7pm. The program features well-loved children’s songs, traditional spiritual and gospel favorites. Concerts are by donation and open to all. Donations support African Children’s Choir programs, such as education, care and relief and development programs. Music for Life (MFL), the parent organization for The African Children’s Choir, works in Uganda, Kenya, Rwanda, Sudan, Nigeria, Ghana and South Africa. MFL has educated over 52,000 children and impacted the lives of over 100,000 people through its relief and development programs. MFL’s purpose is to help create new leadership for tomorrow’s Africa, by focusing on education. The African Children’s Choir has had the privilege to perform before presidents, heads of state and Queen Elizabeth II for her diamond jubilee. The Choir has also

had the honour of singing alongside artists such as Paul McCartney, Annie Lennox, Keith Urban, Mariah Carey, Michael W. Smith, and other inspirational performers. Most recently, the African Children’s Choir recorded some tracks with Sarah Hickman for a CD, “Love Is a Journey.” They also have a small role in the movie, Pan, starring Hugh Jackman. The African Children’s Choir is a nonprofit humanitarian and relief organization dedicated to helping Africa’s most vulnerable children today so they can help Africa tomorrow. For more information, visit africanchildrenschoir.com.

Personal Power at 1UP Single Parent Resource Centre The workshop, Managing the Difficult Conversation, focuses on the emotional regulation and steps for non-violent conflict mediation and resolution.This six-week course, on Friday mornings from 9:3011:30am, runs from November 6-December 18 and is meant to be a follow-up to Anatomy of Anger. 1UP Single Parent Resource Centre is also offering Taming the Tiger: Mindfulness for Everyday. This six-week program, on Wednesday evenings from 6:30-8:30pm, runs from November 6-December 18. It is designed to provide an overview of the basic definitions, concepts and practice of mindfulness. The course will focus on the science, research, and techniques behind mindfulness. You will learn how the practice of cultivating awareness helps us gain control of our reactions to situations and can help to improve our understanding of, and relationship with, ourselves and others. All classes are at 602 Gorge Rd East. Fees are on a sliding scale. For more information, please visit singleparentvictoria.ca.

Student Art Video & Writing Contest Attention kids and youth in B.C. and Yukon. Are you an artist, wordsmith, or a filmmaker? If so, take those words and pictures in your head and show them to the world. Create a work of art or literature about remembrance and what it means to you and your country and you could win local and national prizes. You can create something that is broadly about remembrance or you can focus on something more specific such as a family member who fought in the war, the poppy, a war memorial in your community, or the sacrifice of veterans. Categories include: poster (Grades 1-12);

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essay (Grades 4-12); poetry (Grades 4-12); and video (Grades 7-12). Prizes include an iPad and a trip to Ottawa. Deadline: November 15. For more information, visit legionbcyukon.ca/content/youth-contests.

Victoria Teen Fest

West 49’s Coats for Kids campaign, fueled by community support, is once again collecting coats for kids who don’t have adequate winter clothing. Since 2002 more than 85,000 kids have received winter coats as a result of this program. West 49 Coats for Kids campaign runs through to November 20. Coat collection barrels are located in every store. Anyone who brings in a clean, insulated gently used winter coat to any West 49 store will receive $25 off any winter jacket. Donated jackets will then be given to various youth shelters and charities across the country. Each store partners with a local charity in their area—so people in the community benefit. In past campaigns, coats have been provided to organizations such as Big Brothers and Big Sisters, Canadian Diabetes Association, Salvation Army, The United Way and local youth shelters and missions across the country. For more information, visit coatsforkids.west49.com.

The Coast Capital Savings Victoria TeenFest will be on Saturday, November 28 at Pearkes Recreation Centre, 3100 Tillicum Road, from 11am-5pm. This one-day free exhibition, for youth ages 12-18 years, and their families, will give teens and ’tweens in the Victoria area the opportunity to connect with each other, their peers, their communities and community leaders. By creating opportunities for interaction, activities, workshops and performances for this age group, TeenFest will engage and connect our youth, their families and the businesses and organizations that support them. Event highlights include: a teen talent contest; an indoor skateboard park; a teen model search; a performance by teen musicians, singers and bands; interactive sports and gaming activities; 100+ booths to see, learn, shop and sample; five different areas to explore (life and education, cool stuff, fashion and beauty, health and wellness and technology and gaming), dance performers on the main stage; special guests; prizes including a $500 shopping spree at the Bay Centre, and more. For information, visit teenfest.ca/victoria.

Fun & Laughter at Royal BC Museum

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Museums may seem like serious business, but two upcoming events at the Royal BC Museum will provide fun and laughter aplenty for kids of all ages. A Kids’ Club comedy night in November will show just how much merriment can be found in the museum and archives. Kids’ Club is a free members-only program that introduces children to the museum and archival collections and exhibitions. Masterpieces created by Kids’ Club members will be displayed at the Royal BC Museum’s comedy night, Early Shift: That’s Funny!, on Saturday, November 27. Early Shift will be a night of fun for all ages, with Royal BC Museum galleries filled with comedians and magicians. UVic School of Anthropology sound students will also be flexing their funny muscles and coming up with some new and interesting sounds for the event. Early Shift: That’s Funny! runs from 6:3010pm and tickets are $10 per person, or $30 per family (up to 2 adults and 3 youth). For more information and tickets for these and other events, visit royalbc museum.bc.ca.

Bear Wear—“the cuddliest event in town”—is a beloved holiday tradition, a festive display of cuddly teddy bears dressed up in fabulous costumes by local sponsors, businesses, organizations, and individuals. Since its inception in 2001, Bear Wear has raised over $500,000 for kids with disabilities and health challenges on Vancouver Island and the Gulf Islands. This year is Bear Wear’s 15th anniversary so there will be some exciting additions to the festivities including stories with Santa, carols, cocoa and more. Bear Wear is open to the public seven days a week from November 24-January 3, 2016. Pick up a hot chocolate and walk through the lobby of the Hotel Grand Pacific, elegantly decorated for the holiday season, and behold the adorable bears in masquerade. Past favourites include Dr. Seuss Bear, Frankenstein Bear, Barbie Bear, and Katy Perry Bear. With a suggested minimum $2 donation in support of Children’s Health Foundation, you can vote for your favourite bear and enter to win it at the end of the event. Funds raised through public voting and

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Feel like getting into the Christmas spirit a little early? If so, there’s no shortage of events this month: Christmas Tree Light Up & Santa Parade. Kick-off the holiday season in Centennial Square with the 8th annual downtown Christmas Tree Light-Up on November 28 from 4-5:30pm. Enjoy musical performances, roving entertainment, ice sculptures, and free treats before the Island Farms Santa Light Parade at 5:45pm. Rain or shine. Free. 14th Annual Festival of Trees at the Bay Centre from November 18-January 5, 2016. All proceeds support BC Children’s Hospital Foundation. Donate to vote for your favourite Christmas tree. (suggested $2 minimum). Sidney Sparkles Parade & Sailpast on December 6 at 5pm. Watch the parade along Beacon Avenue and Second Street, then wander down to the waterfront to see the sailpast. The Ladysmith Festival of Lights on November 26, starting at 3pm, features entertainment, a parade at 6:40pm, fireworks, and a visit from Santa.

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The Gift delivers everything you expect from a Ballet Victoria performance: beautifully executed dance, brilliant costumes, complex choreography and, as always, a bit of humour. For the annual holiday show, Artistic Director Paul Destrooper goes even further and brings in the Victoria Symphony to perform the beloved score of the Nutcracker. As anyone who has attended The Gift in the past can tell you, this is a stirring event. The music soars throughout the theatre as the dancers soar through the air. This story ballet is loosely based on the ancient tale of Pandora’s Box and it unfolds on stage with many surprising characters from children’s favourite stories. It begins with Pandora’s family hosting their traditional Christmas Eve party. It is a unique event where family and friends join the festivities to decorate a Christmas tree with ornaments from around the world, brought to the party by a beloved Uncle. This year Uncle has brought a box from his exotic

travels, a box that is not to be opened. As the evening draws to an end and everyone has retired for the night, little Pandora sneaks back into the living room to take a closer look at the mysterious red box. Ignoring her Uncle’s warning, she opens the box and releases a myriad of fantastic characters who create chaos throughout the house. The Gift is on stage at the Royal Theatre on Saturday, December 27, Sunday, December 28 and Monday, December 29. Tickets are available at the Royal Theatre Box Office, by phone at 250-386-6121 or online at balletvictoria.ca. Children’s tickets begin at $25, senior/students at $23.20 and adult tickets begin at $30 for all three 2pm matinees.

GVPL’s Cultural & Recreational Passes The library works with several local partners to offer library cardholders the opportunity to explore local cultural institutions and recreation centres. If you have a valid adult library card, you can borrow a free art gallery or museum pass from your local library. Place a hold on a pass with your library card at gvpl.ca and pick it up at your local library branch. Art Gallery of Greater Victoria Household Access Pass provides free general admission to the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria for two adults and up to four children. The loan period is seven days, with no renewals, and does not include special events or gift shop discounts. The Royal BC Museum Family Pass provides free general admission to the Royal BC Museum for 2 adults and up to 3 children (youth under 5 are free). The loan period is 7 days, with no renewals, and does not include special events or gift shop discounts. The Saanich Recreation Pass provides free general admission to any Saanich Recreation Centre for two adults and up to four children (5-18 years; children 4 and under are free). The loan period is 7 days, with no renewals permitted, and does not include child minding or registered classes. For more information, please visit gvpl.ca.

Climate Action Kits The Capital Regional District (CRD) has partnered with BC Hydro and the Greater Victoria Public Library on a new program that takes climate action to-go. The Climate Action To-Go Kit program is an interactive way to educate people on climate change and community sustainabil-

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ity issues. Each kit provides practical tools to measure household energy use and offers a selection of diverse resources for residents across the region. Each Climate Action To-Go Kit allows users to: • Measure household appliance electricity use with the Kill-A-Watt Meter • Discover air leaks in walls and around windows using the Thermal Leak Detector • Test out an ultra-efficient LED light bulb • Learn about local solutions to climate change through films and books for adults and families. Kits are available in all 10 branches of the Greater Victoria Public Library. The Sooke, Sidney/North Saanich branches of the Vancouver Island Regional Library as well as the Salt Spring Island Public Library. To find out more about this program, visit gvpl.ca.

Youth Environmental Leadership Program Youth Environmental Leadership Program (YELP) is a unique, award-winning program for youth aged 13-18 living in the Capital Regional District passionate about social and environmental change. YELP runs from September through June with weekly meetings, monthly hikes, and bi-annual camping trips. The program offers youth a sense of belonging, leadership and possibility. Participation is free and everyone is welcome. Through YELP youth will: • get outside • meet other awesome like-minded youth • go hiking and camping • build your confidence and leadership skills • get your hands dirty supporting important restoration work • learn about sustainable land use, food systems and community-building • learn about environmental and social justice • take action on an environmental issue in your community • build your network through connections with local organizations • learn about native and invasive species, edible plants, camp and survival skills • get support for scholarship and job applications • receive official recognition upon program completion and volunteer hours • eat free pizza

YELP is made possible through the support of Victoria Foundation, Mountain Equipment Co-op, Real Estate Foundation of British Columbia, Health Science Association of BC, Brickyard Pizza and Thrifty Foods. Visit sierraclub.bc.ca/education/youthprogram or email the Youth Engagement Coordinator, Elodie Button, at elodie@ sierraclub.bc.ca to find out more about YELP or to arrange a classroom presentation at your school.

Learning Portal at Royal BC Museum For a generation that’s growing up swiping screens, texting and puzzling over parental commands to “dial” phone numbers, the Royal BC Museum’s Learning Portal (learning.royalbcmuseum.bc.ca) is a custom-made digital tool, designed for techsavvy learners who like choice, connecting online and assembling info as they see fit. The Learning Portal now offers new tools for teachers and students, including “playlists”—a feature similar to a mixtape (which parents can surely relate to). Anyone can create a playlist by choosing materials offered on the Learning Portal, mixing and organizing to fit whatever theme or topic they’re most interested in—and then sharing. Some of the most interesting and useful playlists have been created by teachers and education students; these are all public and ready to share as resources. Check out the playlists at learning.royalbcmuseum.bc.ca/ our-playlists/. Since launching in February 2015, the Learning Portal has also added lots of new material, including episodes from the televised series “This Week in History,” featuring the Royal BC Museum’s collections, and “pathways,” which are entry points into Learning Portal subjects as varied as Emily Carr, BC’s species at risk and BC’s gold rush. Soon to come are pathways about spiders, mammoths and mastodons, the Royal BC Museum’s insect and fish collections, and much more. The Learning Portal is a window into the Royal BC Museum’s collections and BC’s history that kids and adult learners can crack open no matter where they live in the province. The Royal BC Museum will tweet the launch of new playlists, pathways or other new features on Twitter, using the hashtag #RBCMlearningportal.•

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Your Family vs. Climate Change T

his is not a drill: climate change is happening, and we need to act. To quote Laurent Fabius, Chair of the upcoming Paris Climate Conference, “Our generation is the first to truly be aware of the problem, and yet the last generation that can deal with it.” Are human activities really affecting the earth’s climate? NASA says they are. And so do almost 200 other worldwide scientific organizations, including our own Canadian Foundation for Climate and Atmospheric Sciences, and the Canadian Meteorological and Oceanographic Society. Those same scientists warn us that the consequences of a warming planet are serious. Rising sea levels, more frequent and more intense droughts, floods, heatwaves and other extreme weather events are already occurring around the globe. A recent scientific paper links Syria’s current crisis to a severe four-year drought made worse by climate change. The resulting crop failures led to a mass migration of people from rural areas to urban ones, which played a role in the uprising that began in 2011. Experts say we can anticipate more climate-related refugee crises and mass migrations in the decades to come. Closer to home, climate scientists are warning us to expect more extreme fire seasons like the one we experienced in B.C. this summer. According to newnormalcowichan.ca, a website recently launched by the Cowichan Valley Regional District, we can also expect more summer droughts and winter flooding. It’s easy to feel helpless in the face of such distressing headlines and predictions, but there are many concrete things we can do at the individual and family level to combat climate change. 1. Encourage your municipal, provincial and federal representatives to make climate change a priority. In particular, we need to let the Prime Minister know that we expect Canada to take a proactive role at the Paris Climate Conference (November 30 to December 11). No postage is required to

send a letter to the Prime Minister’s Office at 80 Wellington Street, Ottawa, Ontario, K1A 0A2. You can also send email to pm@ pm.gc.ca. 2. Shrink your transportation footprint. Transportation accounts for 23 per cent of our greenhouse gas (GHG) emissions in Canada. We can shrink our personal GHG number dramatically by rethinking how we get from point A to point B. We can vacation closer to home, and choose to live closer to where we work and/or go to school. We can take public transportation, carpool, cycle or walk more frequently. We can shop locally, and choose extracurricular activities in our own neighbourhoods. We can combine errands and appointments, and drive more fuel-efficient vehicles. Some of us may be able to work or study at home. 3. Eat lower on the food chain. Reducing the amount of meat and other animal products we consume is one of the most significant things we can do to combat climate change. For every kilogram of beef you serve your family, 25kg of GHGs were released into the atmosphere. Chicken is a more climate-friendly meat, with 7kg of GHGs per kilogram. But serve them a tasty vegetarian curry instead, and your GHG emissions drop to less than 1kg. The Environmental Working Group puts it another way: eating four ounces of cooked lentils is the equivalent of driving less than 1/4 mile. Eating the same amount of beef, for example a quarter-pound hamburger, is equivalent to driving a car 6 1/2 miles. Consequently, if your four-person family abstains from meat and cheese one day a week over the course of a year, it’s like taking your car off the road for five weeks. 4. Eat local. Consuming seasonal, locally produced food supports regional food security, and maximizes the potential of our agricultural land. Additionally, smallscale agricultural producers are often able to make more environmentally-friendly choices about how their crops are grown and livestock raised. IslandParent.ca

5. Conserve energy. Electricity and buildings combined account for 24 per cent of Canada’s GHGs. We can make a difference by ensuring our homes are adequately insulated and draft-proofed, by turning down thermostats at night and when no one’s home, by switching to the most energy-efficient lighting and appliances, and by turning off power bars or unplugging electronics when not in use. 6. Conserve water. As seasonal droughts become an issue on the Island, we need to ensure that we have enough water both for our own needs, and for the needs of other species in our ecosystems. We can surround our homes with drought-resistant landscaping, use rain barrels, and install low flow shower heads and low flush toilets. We can encourage our teens to take shorter showers, and give our younger children shallower baths. 7. Embrace zero waste. Canada’s landfills are responsible for 25 per cent of the methane we release into the atmosphere. (Methane is an extremely potent GHG. Kilogram for kilogram, methane’s impact on the climate is 25 times greater than carbon dioxide over a 100-year period.) We can make a difference by practising the four R’s: dramatically reducing the amount of packaging and unnecessary ‘stuff’ we bring home, reusing and repairing, recycling, and ‘rotting’ or composting. With effort, it is possible to achieve near-zero waste, as eco-pioneers like Bea Johnson of Zero Waste Home are demonstrating. 8. Support a greener economy. Too often a healthy environment and a healthy economy are seen as being at odds. But this doesn’t have to be the case. By seeking out green businesses in your community and further afield, your family can support both. Look for companies that embrace a cradle-tocradle model for clothing and other manufactured goods. You can also feel good about supporting second hand and consignment stores, alternative energy providers, local food producers, eco-tourism businesses, and any company or service that includes the health of the planet in their bottom line. You and I aren’t going to solve the challenges of climate change on our own, but we can align ourselves with a global movement that does have the power to make a difference. Decades from now, let’s tell our grandchildren that we did what we could. Rachel Dunstan Muller is the mother of five, and a children’s author. Her previous articles can be found at islandparent.ca. IslandParent.ca

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y divorce had given me a dose of reality on how much money our family wasted every month and that’s something I will always be grateful for. It was a hard lesson, but one worth learning and passing on to my children at an early age. The adjustment was difficult at first as we were all accustomed to eating out, buying whatever clothes and groceries we needed and

This required that I became more vigilant in grocery shopping and more structured with time to put together a cooler of food for busy days. The next change came with cutting cable TV. This was difficult at first as it was followed by a lot of little voices saying “I’m bored.” The residual side effects were swift and amazing: more time spent talking,

adequate forms of entertainment from toys to movies and everything in between. Each month my bank account got smaller with no signs of improvement since. The realization came after about a year that I could no longer sustain the lifestyle that we had been accustomed to when I was married to their dad. There simply wasn’t the income to support it. Something had to change. For the next few months, I had to take a hard look at what our needs were. Since I had children there was little flexibility in housing. The fact was I needed to have at least a three-bedroom home and rent in Victoria was expensive. I began to look at the expenses that I could control and was surprised at how many of them there actually were. The first thing to go was eating out at restaurants, which was about three times a month for us. With kids in sports and on the go all weekend, often with no time to go home and eat, dining out was normal.

playing games and going for walks. I also dissected what we did for entertainment. We went to a lot of movies at the theatre and at twelve dollars a show, not including popcorn, it could get costly. I looked up the free events that the city had to offer and other forms of fun that were low cost such as movies at IMAX. For the price of a yearly pass we could see a movie once a week for the equivalent of four movies at the theatre. We decreased our wardrobes and avoided the urge to over-shop for food which resulted in less spoilage. We walked more and drove less, which cut the gas bill from five tanks a month down to two. After a year I managed to slice our household costs in half. The final step was to examine the hydro bill for my 1,500-square-foot townhouse. Up until this point, I had viewed this bill the same as housing: necessary and unavoidable. We became vigilant about having lights

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off and only used heat from November to March with little fluctuation in price. I finally decided to get a laundry line for drying our clothes. This meant no more dryer. I told my family and friends about my idea and the general consensus was that I was creating more work for myself. The payoff would be small in comparison. The reality was that it turned out to be the most relaxing household chore I did. While I hung clothes I was enveloped in the freshness of the outdoors. My mind relaxed and I was able to have a few minutes to think about nothing. After a few days my children became curious. They pulled up chairs to stand on and helped me hang the clothes. We talked about school, their friends and anything else they had on their minds. We would tell jokes and laugh and when the clothes were dry they would bury their

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We talked about school, their friends and anything else they had on their minds. We would tell jokes and laugh and when the clothes were dry they would bury their faces in the freshness. faces in the freshness. The laundry line had become a social gathering for my family where we helped each other and connected at the same time. After a couple of months, I received my next hydro bill and was validated with it being two-thirds smaller than the bill of the previous year. The laundry line was here to stay. Cutting costs went from being strictly about finances to something much bigger within two years. It became a journey of self-realization for both myself and my children. We discovered that we didn’t need as much stuff as we had been programmed to believe. We began collecting time together, moments and experiences over things. I became a more patient mother who was in the moment more often than not. I began to really know my children for the first time, and that was priceless. Shannon K. Auringer is a freelance writer who resides in Victoria with her three amazing children and boxer dog. More of her work can be found at skauringer.com or follow her on twitter @skauringer

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High contrast images are great to explore with little ones. $8.99. Children: King Zoom and the Great Seal Pup Rescue. A richly illustrated children’s book that takes you on a journey through the rescue, rehabilitation, and release of a harbour seal pup. By local author Gillian Meghan Walters. $19.99. Juvenile/Teen: Fire Bubbles and Exploding Toothpaste by Steve Spangler. More outrageously thrilling science experiments from the guy who taught you how to turn a bottle of soda into an exploding geyser. $29.99. PC. 154 pgs. Adult: Dover Colouring Books. From paisleys to art masterpieces, wildlife to stained glass—there’s a colouring book for everyone in your family. $5.99 and up. PB.

From Momease Baby Boutique Baby: Minimoc Baby Moccasins. Each pair of Minimoc Moccasins is handmade with love in BC from durable, quality leather. Designed with an elastic at the opening that allows for an easy slip-on fit, yet keeps the shoes on tiny feet. The soft-soled suede bottoms also make for a great non-slip surface to help baby undertake those first few steps safely and comfortably. $47.99. Toddler: Spherovelo Pre-Balance Bike. Award-winning ride-on toy and pre-balance bike that allows young children to develop their sensory and motor systems in a fun and safe way. Removable castors for older, more experienced riders. Ideal for indoor or outdoor use. $129.99. IslandParent.ca

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Baby/Preschool: Colour a Cape. Capes provide hours of fun to keep little ones busy. Use eight water-based markers to colour in the exciting designs. Styles include princess, pirate, fairy, and rocket man. $24.99. Children: Smart Lab Squishy Human Body. This set includes transpare n t anatomically correct models of the human body. Kids dissect squishy organs and glow in the dark bones, nerves and eyeballs. $39.99. Juvenile/Teen: Metal Earth: Star Wars Collection. Laser-cut steel models from the legendary film series. Styles include R2-D2, Darth Vader’s Tie Fighter, and Han Solo’s Millenium Falcon. No glue or solder required. $22.99. Adult: Adult Colouring Books. Filled with intricate designs and inspiring patterns, adult colouring books provide hours of stress relief and mental relaxation. Our selection includes mandalas, flowers, paisleys and anatomy. $9.99-$24.99.

From Red Balloon Toy Shop (Duncan) Baby/Preschool: Scoot and Ride. This is a 2-in-1 scooter and push bike combination for kids 3-5 years old. This “transformer bike adopts to the growth of your child. scootandride.com. $159.99. Children: Playmobil Advent Calendars. This perennial favourite is available in several themes and is pre-loaded with Playmobil goodies. $29.99. Juvenile/Teen: Board games. We have tons of board games for all ages, including a new favourite called “Kittens in the Blender”. Adult: Puzzles, Puzzles, Puzzles. We have the largest selection of Cobble Hill and Ravensburger puzzles in the Cowichan Valley. $19.99.

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perfect for those cold winter nights. So soft and cozy. We have heard rumours Santa sleeps on flannel. $149. Adult: Customizable Organic Body Pillow. Generously filled with organic wool kapoc, wool/latex, and shredded latex. Organic body pillows are perfect for side sleepers who can’t find the “just right” spot. $168-$328.

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Piggyback Songs “Dull November brings the blast, Then the leaves are whirling fast.” – Sara Coleridge

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ovember is such a wonderful time of year. Trees are ablaze with colourful leaves, the weather is crisp and cool, and it’s still fun to play outside. November also symbolizes the eventual beginning of winter, which to many means cold weather, snow and ice. It’s time to create some songs to get your little ones into the wintry spirit. Piggyback songs are perfect for November because they are fun and creative, especially for preschoolers. What is a piggyback song? A piggyback song involves taking a traditional song everyone knows, such as Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, and composing new verses. Young children enjoy singing piggyback songs because the tunes are familiar and yet they can use their imagination and creative thinking skills to make up their own lyrics. Piggyback songs do not require you or your child to read notes, learn harmony or worry about key signatures. Because piggyback songs are already familiar tunes, it is easy for young children to learn the new words and sing along. As well, kids can give a new title to their new song creations. Encourage your child to compose their own words and express their ideas and feelings about November. For example, new words about leaves can be sung to the tune of Row, Row, Row Your Boat: Leaves, leaves, falling down, Falling on the ground. Red, yellow, orange and brown, Swirling round and round. Another piggyback song with words about raking leaves is sung to the tune of Mary Had a Little Lamb: We are raking autumn leaves, Autumn leaves, Autumn leaves, We are raking autumn leaves, All day long. IslandParent.ca

With the cooler weather in November, warmer clothes, mittens and boots become a necessity. Remind your child to dress warmly by singing this fun melody to the tune of The Mulberry Bush: This is the way we put on our mittens, Put on our mittens, Put on our mittens, This is the way we put on our mittens, To keep our fingers warm.

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A piggyback song involves taking a traditional song everyone knows, such as Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, and composing new verses. Compose extra verses such as “This is the way we put on our boots to keep our feet warm” or “This is the way we put on our hats to keep our heads warm.” The possibilities are endless. There are several excellent picture books that are piggyback songs inspired from well-known children’s songs that are fun to read with your child. If You’re a Monster and You Know It, by Rebecca Emberley, is a colourful picture book based on the song If You’re Happy and You Know It. It’s an action-packed book with lots of movements such as “stomp your paws,” “twitch your tails” and “snort and growl.” Another fun book is The Wheels on the Race Car, by Alex Zane. It’s a read-aloud picture book with rhyming text and bright, enjoyable illustrations and the melody is from the wellknown song The Wheels on the Bus. The animals are at the racetrack “zipping and zooming” and phrases include “the drivers in the race car yell, go, go go!” Make piggyback songs a daily music experience for your child. They can be sung at any time of the year. Compose songs for celebrations in December or activities in the spring. The simplicity and repetition of the melodies will give your child confidence to sing many other songs for years to come. Jerri Carson is a primary music teacher for SD #61. She is a member of the CRD Arts Advisory Council. Jerri plays the cello in the Victoria Conservatory Cello Orchestra.

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Taming The other day my son was having one of those days.

I’m sure you know the kind, where despite almost constant crying he still thought that a five-minute nap was good enough to get him through the day. Practically in tears myself, I did something I rarely do. I plunked him down in front of the television and turned on Pooh’s Grand Adventure: The Search for Christopher Robin. The silence was instantaneous. So was my guilt. Ever since I became pregnant, I’ve been told of the dangers of letting your children watch television shows and movies. So if I ever did, I felt like a bad parent for succumbing to my desire for quiet. But that day, when I looked at my son smiling and dancing along to the music, I thought surely this can’t be all bad.

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Like so many other things, moderation is key when watching shows or movies. Dr. Yalda Uhls, the senior researcher at the Children’s Digital Media Center at UCLA and author of Media Moms and Digital Dads, said in an email that “kids are looking at mobile devices at a younger and younger age—this is fine if it is minimal, but if it takes away from the child’s natural learning environment (for example, time spent with people and in nature), it should be discouraged.”

Practically in tears myself, I did something I rarely do. I plunked him down in front of the television and turned on Pooh’s Grand Adventure: The Search for Christopher Robin. The silence was instantaneous. So was my guilt.

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it and set parameters around the types of shows they are allowed to watch. Content, says Uhls, can matter even more than the amount of time spent watching. Victoria mom Stephaine Bossler, whose children are two and a half years old and three months old opted to get rid of cable and watch Netflix and DVDs from the library instead so she could have more control over what her children were watching. Not only does she monitor what they watch, but usually, she will watch with them. What constitutes good content is largely a personal choice and will likely change as your children get older. When I was growing up my parents avoided any shows that they thought were too violent. My two-year-old nephew only watches nature documentaries. A few of my friends who are teachers only have The Magic School Bus on DVD. Others, like Bossler, might focus on interactive shows. Gordon suggests that even the news can be a good show for you to watch with your children. For Victoria mom Angelique Troyer, whose boys are six and 11, the criteria involves how women are portrayed. “My boys are not allowed to watch any shows that have central female characters that are dumb or hypersexualized,” she says. “They know why and it is an often-discussed topic because there are so many kids’ shows that don’t make the cut.” To decide whether a show or movie is acceptable, she applies the Bechdel Test. The Bechdel Test, created in 1985 by cartoonist Alison Bechdel as a tool to measure gender bias in movies, requires that a show must have at least two women, preferably named, who talk to each other about something other than a man. There is some flexibility in her rules because, as she says, “it is unreasonable to expect them to be the only little boys that have never seen Star Wars.” They have discussed the fact there appears to be only one woman in the universe, she adds. That Troyer discusses the content of various shows with her sons is important, many experts would agree, because to make TV time educational, we need to talk to our children about what they are watching. “It’s not really about parental controls,” says Gordon. “It’s really just about engaging your children in conversation.” When I was growing up my parents used to talk to me all of the time about what I was watching. They’d ask me questions like “What are you watching? Is it good? What happens? What did you think of what so-and-so did?”

Some of the questions Gordon recommends asking are, “Why do we care? What are the options? Why do so many others care? How does this make me a better person?” Other questions that parents might consider asking could be: How is the show different from reality? Could a female character have done what the male character did? Was there a better way that the character could have handled a situation? Sometimes the shows themselves will help you come up with things to talk about. Be-

“...one way you can turn a TV time into a learning experience is by knowing what your children are watching. Talk to them about it and set parameters around the types of shows they are allowed to watch.” cause Bossler’s oldest child is only two and a half, she generally watches television or movies with him. “We talk throughout the shows about what is going on and most shows we watch are interactive,” she says, referring to the shows that ask the audience questions. Bossler will put shows on pause to give her son time to try and figure answers to the questions. She has also found that her son is at an age where if she relates an issue or lesson back to a show he has watched, he often seems to understand it better. Both Bossler and Troyer say they have seen a positive impact from letting their children watch television and movies. “My boys are…immensely understanding of diversity and respectful of females,” says Troyer. For Bossler’s son, watching television has helped him learn his numbers, recognize different shapes and colours, and overcome his fear of going to the dentist. “[He] was scared so we watched the Paw Patrol [episode] about the dentist and he relaxed a bunch about going. Once we were there, it became a big thing that he got to go to the dentist just like Chase (the character) did, and then it seemed to become a big accomplishment as opposed to something to be scared of.” Christina Van Starkenburg is a freelance writer and mother of one.

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parents of kids with special needs avoid unloading on their friends who parent typical children. When we trust someone enough to share the struggles we’re going through, we need someone to take the time to listen and understand, not disregard a unique experience by laying claim to something they can’t possible comprehend. Hearing “all kids do that!” not only undermines our experience, but serves as a reminder that our kids are in fact not like all kids. It’s a matter of degree. For sure all kids do some of the things our kids do, to some extent. All kids have tantrums, but they don’t all have meltdowns that have a dramatic

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Family Calendar For calendar updates throughout the month visit IslandParent.ca SUN 1 Wild Mushroom Show at Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary. Interested in finding out more about our local fungus? This event is presented by the Southern Vancouver Island Mycological Society and Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary. Bring in your own mushrooms for identification and view the vast array of fungi on display. 10am-4pm drop-in. Admission by donation. For more information call 250-479-0211 or visit swanlake.bc.ca.

THURS 5 From the Heart of Zionism: A Story of Hope at University of Victoria, David Strong Bldg, Room C118. Yonatan Shapira, a cofounder of Combatants for Peace, and an Israeli Refusenik, will be speaking. Sponsored by Independent Jewish Voices, KAIROS Victoria, Social Justice Studies UVic. Admission by donation. For further information, call Linda Taffs at 250-532-0093. ljtaffs@gmail.com.

FRI 6 Little Lego at the Library at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Listen to stories and have fun with the library’s Lego. Bring your own Lego for a take-home project. Parents are encouraged to attend. For ages 4-6. 3:30-4:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. Let the Fur Fly: Stories of Animals and Their Teachings at Quaker’s Meeting Hall. Hear funny, thrilling and poignant stories on the

theme set for storytellers across Canada. Tea and treats included. 7:30pm. 1831 Fern St. Admission by donation; all proceeds to Wild Arc. For more information, email or call Lee Porteous leeporteous@shaw.ca, 250370-2964.

SAT 7 Annual Market Bazaar at St. Aidan’s United Church. 15 stalls, garage sale, and thrift shop. Lunch available. Free admission. 10am-3pm. Richmond at Cedar Hill X-Rd. Salmon Sensation at Francis/King Regional Park. The salmon have returned to the rivers. Drop in any time between 11am-2pm for fishy-fun activities, a craft, and guided walks with CRD Regional Parks naturalists along the Charters River. A close-up look at these magnificent fish as they return to spawn and complete their life cycle awaits. Meet at the Charters Interpretive Centre off Sooke River Road. All ages. 250-478-3344. crd. bc.ca/parks.

SUN 8 Going Squirrelly at Francis/King Regional Park. What does it take to survive as a squirrel? With a CRD Regional Parks naturalist discover what keeps these furry creatures busy at this time of year. Meet at the Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd at 1pm. All ages. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

MON 9 Ready, Set, Learn Bedtime Shenanigans at Sangster Elementary. Play games, enjoy snacks, and listen to a few delightful stories and songs. Activities take place in the school gym. Running shoes suggested, wear pajamas if you like. This free evening is for children ages 0-5 years and their parents/caregivers. 6-7pm. For more information, contact sjolivet@sd62.bc.ca.

THURS 12 Trickster Tales Puppet Show at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Meet Raven, Anansi and other tricksters at this special puppet show. Suitable for all ages. 10:30-11:15am. Please register by email at sidney@virl.bc.ca or phone 250-656-0944.

FRI 13 Story Buddies: Tween Volunteers at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. If you like working with children, enjoy stories, are a fluent English speaker, and want to help young children with early literacy skills, the library needs you. Story Buddies tween volunteers pair with young children aged 4-6 to make an original story book. The library provides the training and, upon completion, a letter outlining your volunteer hours. First-time volunteers, please complete the Tween Volunteer Referral Form and register for a Story Buddies Training Session. 2:15-3:30pm. For ages 10-12. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

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LEGO Stories at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Use the library’s Lego to build your own creation while you listen to stories. Ages 5+ years. Please register by email at sidney@virl.bc.ca or phone 250-656-0944. 3:30-4:30pm.

SAT 14 Wonderful Woodpeckers at Francis/King Regional Park. Discover all of the tricks of the woodpecker trade. What makes them so good at what they do? Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist and learn how to identify different woodpeckers by sight, sound and habits on this fun guided walk for families. Meet at the Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd at 1:30pm. All ages. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

SUN 15 Marvelous Mushrooms at Francis/King Regional Park. For the novice mushroom explorer, join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to discover more about fungi in the forest. There is no fee for this program, but you must pre-register as space is limited. Call 250-4783344 by November 13 for registration and meeting location details. 10:30am-noon. 5+ years. crd.bc.ca/parks. Family Sunday at Art Gallery of Greater Victoria. Enjoy an afternoon of exploring hands-on art making for the whole family. 2-4pm. 1040 Moss St. 250-384-4171.

MON 16 Victoria Children’s Literature Roundtable “The Monster Sisters” at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Join Gareth Gaudin, the award-winning cartoonist for a look at his new original comic book series, The Monster Sisters. Loaded with Victoria landmarks and historical details, The Monster Sisters thrills readers young and old with plenty of action, puns, and local history. In addition to his many notable creative accomplishments, Gareth is one of the foremost dealers of vintage comics on the continent and is the co-owner of Legends Comics and Books. His other works include Magic Teeth Dailies, the adventures

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WED 18 Ready, Set, Learn Bedtime Shenanigans at Happy Valley Elementary. See MON 9 for details. This free evening is for children ages 0-5 years and their parents/caregivers. 6-7pm. For more information, contact sjolivet@sd62. bc.ca.

FRI 20 French Storytime for Kids at Oak Bay Branch Library. Enjoy a French language storytime with the Victoria Chapter of Canadian Parents for French (CPF) and learn about French resources GVPL has to support emergent readers. Perfect for French Immersion families. Coffee and cookies will be served. For ages 5-8 and parents or caregivers. 11:30am-12:15pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. Story Buddies: Tween Volunteers at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. See FRI 13 for details. 2:15-3:30pm. For ages 10-12. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940- GVPL (4875). Lego at the Library at Esquimalt, Juan de Fuca and Bruce Hutchison Branch Libraries. Listen to stories and have fun with the library’s Lego. Bring your own Lego for a take-home project. Esquimalt & Juan de Fuca Branch: 2:30-3:30pm; Bruce Hutchison Branch: 3:30-4:30pm. For ages 7-10. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. Story Club: It’s a Book at Oak Bay Branch Library. Listen to stories, talk about your fa-

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vourite books, and enjoy fun activities. Snacks included. For ages 5-8. 2:30-3:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. Story Club: Tales from Around the World at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Listen to stories, talk about your favourite books, and enjoy fun activities. Snacks included. For ages 5-8. 2:30-3:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. Job Club Workshop at Victoria Disability Resource Centre. Emphasis on peer support consisting of a group of like-minded people looking for work. Learn how to write an appropriate resume and cover letter, nail an interview, how and when to discuss your disability with an employer, and what to expect on your first day on the job. 1-3pm. 817A Fort St. Call 250-595-0044 or email jessica@ drcvictoria.com to register. More information can be found at drcvictoria.com.

SUN 22 Seasonal Safari at Mill Hill Regional Park. The leaves are turning yellow, and the air feels crisp. Animals know it is time to prepare for winter. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to play games, look at leaves, and explore how raccoons, squirrels, bears and more are collecting food in the fall preparing a warm spot to rest. Meet at the information kiosk in the parking lot off Atkins Ave at 1pm. 10 years and under. BC Transit #53. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

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MON 23 How to Use the Computer at Victoria Disability Resource Centre. Covers a number of topics related to the computer including basic computer skills, using social media, online skills, and computer safety. 817 Fort St. Contact 250-595-0044 or email jessica@ drcvictoria.com to register.

TUES 24 Down on the Farm at Emily Carr Branch Library. Put on your overalls and your straw hat while we read stories and sing songs about farms and barn animals. For young children and their families. This program will occur before regular opening hours and all children must be accompanied by an adult. 9:30-10am. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

WED 25 Teen Pizza Party at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. The library is looking for teens to enjoy pizza (yes, this is a bribe!) and to talk about the library. For ages 13-18 years. 4-5:30pm. Register by email at sidney@virl. bc.ca or phone 250-656-0944. Ready, Set, Learn Bedtime Shenanigans at Sooke Elementary. See MON 9 for details. This free evening is for children ages 0-5 years

and their parents/caregivers. 6-7pm. For more information, contact sjolivet@sd62.bc.ca.

THURS 26 Baby Chat at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Stay after Drop-in Baby Time to learn about baby care and other child development topics from Island Health practitioners. For babies 0-15 months and parent or caregiver. No registration required. Noon-12:30pm.

FRI 27 Sensory Storytime: Mouse Shapes at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Discover sensoryrich stories, movement and songs. This fun program is appropriate for preschoolers with autism or sensory processing issues, or preschoolers who thrive on routine. For ages 3-5. Parents and caregivers are required to participate with a maximum of two children per accompanying adult. 10:30-11:15am. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. LEGO Stories at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. See FRI 13 for details. Ages 5+ years. Please register by email at sidney@virl.bc.ca or phone 250-656-0944. 3:30-4:30pm.

SAT 28 Christmas Craft Sale & Silent Auction at Cook Street Village Activity Centre. 30 vendor tables,

featuring the Busy Hands Group. Bid on items, delight in a visit with Santa, and enjoy lunch for only $5. 9:30am-2:30pm. 380 Cook St. Free admission. 250-384-6542. Holiday Craft Fair at Royal Oak School. Concession available. Admission by donation. 9:30am-3pm.

SUN 29 Winter Birds of Witty’s at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park. While some birds fly south, many spend their winters enjoying southern Vancouver Island’s moderate climate. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to find out who’s who at the lagoon, a favourite bird hangout. Bring binoculars if you have a pair. A spotting scope will be available. Meet at the Witty’s Lagoon Nature Centre off Metchosin Rd at 10am. 9+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

MON 30 Baby Chat at Central Branch Library. See THURS 26 for details. No registration required. 11-11:30am. For babies 0-15 months and parent or caregiver. Open House Evening at St. Margaret’s School. Interested families are invited to our Saanicharea campus, hear from a special guest speaker, meet faculty and staff, and find out why girls thrive here. Event times TBA, check the

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website for details: stmarg.ca. 250-479-7171. admissions@stmarg.ca. Located at 1080 Lucas Ave. How to Use the Computer at Victoria Disability Resource Centre. See MON 23 for details. 817 Fort St. Contact 250-595-0044 or email jessica@drcvictoria.com to register.

ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Drop-in Storytimes for Babies, Toddlers, Preschoolers & Families at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate. Storytimes are free and drop-in. Please come early to find a space. For a complete schedule of drop-in programs, visit gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information. Good Morning Storytime at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Bring your littlest ones to the library for stories, songs, rhymes and lots of movement. For 0-5. Thursdays November 19-December 17, 10:15-11am drop-in.

CHILDREN Toddler Art Drop-in at Burnside Gorge Community Centre. Explore your creative side. Each week features a different craft designed with the preschooler in mind. Smocks and soap provided. Creative activities can be messy, so please dress children appropriately. Parent participation required. 9:30-10:30am. $1/child.

FAMILIES Food, From the Grocery Store to Your Table at Victoria Disability Resource Centre. Learn how to make healthy food choices, where to get healthier and cheaper food, how to plan your meals and shop in the grocery store, and finally learn recipes and cooking tips. Mondays November 3, 10, 17 and 24, 1-3pm. Contact 250-595-0044 or email jessica@drcvictoria. com to register.

Christmas Goody Contest Send us the recipe for your family’s favourite CHRISTMAS GOODY and we’ll enter your name into the draw for a $50 gift certificate to your favourite bakery. A selection of recipes will be printed in the December issue of Island Parent. Please e-mail recipes (with Christmas Recipe in the subject) to editor@islandparent.ca. Contest deadline: Monday, November 16, 2015.

Young Parent Drop-in at the YM/YWCA. The Y Young Moms Program hosts a free breakfast and drop-in for young parents in the community. Come enjoy a hot meal, socialize with other young parents, enjoy a kids’ craft, let your little one explore the fully equipped playroom, or have a look in the ‘free store’ for gently used children’s items and household supplies. 10am-noon. Call 250-382-1004 for more information. Recyclistas Bicycle Repair Classes at Recyclistas Bike Shop. Affordable classes twice weekly. Learn how to safely and effectively fix, maintain and rebuild bicycles. Thursdays 4-7pm, and Saturdays 1-4pm. $25/adults; $13/ youth 10-18. Pre-register by calling 250-4188867. recyclistas.ca.•

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Visit IslandParent.ca for these and other events and resources for families from Cowichan Valley north to Campbell River and west to Tofino SUN 1

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Prepare for Winter at Bowen Park Upper Picnic Shelter. The bears are preparing for hibernation. Learn what they eat, where they live, and how to make sure that they do not come to visit us and what to do if you see one. Parent participation required. For 3-6 year olds. $8/ person. 10-11am. 250-756-5200.

Youth Career Night at Parksville Career Centre. Find out what local employers are looking for and what you need to include in your resume. Pizza will also be served. For youth 15-18. Free, but you must pre-register. 3:30-5:30pm. 250-248-3252 to pre-register. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Dad’s Night Out: Free Skate Night at Oceanside Place Arena. Dads, bring the kids and enjoy a free skate together on the pond. Sponsored by Building Learning Together. 6:30-7:30pm. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

Nanaimo Community Home Learners (NCHL) Monthly Meet-up at Oliver Woods Community Centre. Resource library, gym time, and parent support. $5 drop-in fee/family or $20 year-long membership. nanaimocommunityhomelearners.org.

Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena. Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission. Glow necklaces available for $2. 250-756-5200.

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TUES 17 Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena. Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission. Glow necklaces available for $2. 250-756-5200.

THURS 19 – SUN 22 Sointula Winterfestival in Sointula. Kids and youth hula workshops, arts, crafts and food fair, Winterfest Kids day on Sunday featuring the Kerplunks and Clever Trever the Clown. For full weekend details visit sointulawinterfestival.com.

FRI 20 Jersey Day at Oceanside Place Arena. Wear your jersey to any skating session and receive reduced admission rate. Check the schedule for skate sessions and times. 250-248-3252 or rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

SAT 21 Park Naturalist Tour at Englishman River Regional Park. If the river could speak, what do you think it would say? What secrets does it hold? Come for a stroll along the Englishman River and learn the secrets of the area’s human and natural history. 10am-noon. $15.50/ person. 250-248-3252 to pre-register. rdn. bc.ca/recreation. Sports Day in Canada Skate at Oceanside Place Arena. Celebrate the power of sport and show your national spirit. Try your hand at some of Canada’s favourite ice sports and enter your name in the draw to win great prizes. 2-3:30pm. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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My 1st Museum Visit at the Nanaimo Museum. Geared towards children under the age of 5 years, the program incorporates hands-on activities into a visit to the museum. Enjoy the specially designed self-guided touch tour. Activities include an I-Spy game designed for smaller children, petroglyph rubbings, and a chance to sit at desks in the school exhibit. Write on chalk boards or colour. A childfriendly program for families. Caregivers must be with their children at all times during the program. 10am-noon. No pre-registration required. Admission included with regular admission rates. 100 Museum Way. 250-731821.

Star Wars at Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. Blast into a galaxy far, far away and discover the power of the “force.” 3-5:30pm. 250-7565200.

Drop-in Science Studio at Departure Bay Eco School. At Nanaimo Science and Sustainability Society’s Science studio, kids are encouraged to explore the many interactive displays and activities. Activities include: eight-foot marble wall, 2,000 KEVA blocks, kid-friendly microscopes, wind tunnels, a high-powered air field, math puzzels, sign-out activities, and more. For safety purposes, children under 16 must be accompanied by an adult. $4/child; adults free. Tuesday-Thursday 10am-noon; Thursdays 3-5pm; Saturdays 9am-noon. Schedule subject to change, so please check nanaimoscience.org for most current schedule.

THURS 26 Festival of Lights in Ladysmith. Entertainment, parade, fireworks, and a visit from Santa. Starts at 3pm; parade at 6:40pm.

SAT 28 Coastal Community Credit Union Skate at Oceanside Place Arena. Join your friends and skate at Oceanside Place arena, courtesy of the Parksville Branch Credit Union. 2-3:30pm. Free admission and skate rentals. Phone 250248-3252 or visit rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

ONGOING PRESCHOOL Mornings with LaFF at the Aggie. Staff and participants create play-based learning stations to explore and enjoy. Bring food to share and make a healthy snack together while making new friends. Monday to Friday, 9:30am-noon. $2 suggested donation per family. familyandfriends.ca. Family Storytime at Cowichan Library, Duncan. Bring the whole family for stories, songs, rhymes and fun. For ages 0-5. Tuesdays 10:3011:30am. 2687 James St. krumohr@virl.bc.ca.

YOUTH Youth Drop-in in Nanaimo. The ultimate place to be. This is a supervised space for youth 12-17 to hang out and chill. Regular gymnasium activities and more. Program is free, but please register using barcode 134870. 7-9pm until May 27. Monday: Nanaimo District Secondary School; Wednesday: John Barsby Community School.

Parksville Lion’s and Save-On-Foods Free Family Skate at Oceanside Arena, Parksville. Free family skating Sundays. Free admission and skate rentals. Children must be accompanied by an adult 19 years or older. Sundays 12:15-1:45pm, November 1, 8, 15, 22 and 29. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation. Lions Free Skate at Frank Crane Arena. Every Sunday noon-1:30pm. 250-756-5200. Salmon in the City at Bowen Park. Walk along the salmon channel for a fantastic show where migrating coho slamon are taking their long, arduous journey upriver to Brannen Lake to reach their spawning grounds.•

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Confessions of a Reluctant Sports Dad

hen I was five or six, my parents took me to our local rink to see if they should get me hockey gear. From behind the Plexiglas, I marveled at the speed and grace of the skaters, the slap of the puck against the boards and bodies. Then I turned to my parents and declared: “A kid could get hurt playing this.” And that was it for me and organized sports. Which isn’t to say I didn’t play sports. In Ottawa, there was shinny in the winter and pick-up street hockey, basketball, touch football and softball when the city thawed. But my folks never forced their timid and bespectacled son to join a team. I think I turned out okay. Thirty years later, in Victoria, I faced the same dilemma with my own two kids. I knew the mantras of motivation: There is no “I” in “team.” Always give 110 per cent. Sports build character. Yadda yadda yadda. But I’d spent my nerdy high-school years terrorized by the jocks, so I didn’t buy the easy promise of better child-rearing through Darwinian competition. Sports might reveal character—like when the rugby team tried to give me a wedgie—but so do ballet recitals and videogame tournaments. Still, even before he grew hair, my son loved to throw and kick and catch every type of ball. His younger sister graduated straight from crawling to running like the wind. Whatever my personal biases, sports would likely one day find my kids.

And so I repeated my parents’ pilgrimage to the local rink. We watched a young player crash into the opposing goalie, then a defenceman spear the fallen forward in the spleen, and finally a wall of parents hammer on the glass and howl at the teenage referee. My kids looked shocked, and we left quietly before they released the lions. Mission accomplished: I evaded years of pre-dawn hockey practices and expensive equipment fees. Instead, my wife and I put our kids in soccer—a sport that, for youngsters, barely deserves the adjective “organized.” There’s a ball, a scrum of high-kicking little people, and a huddle of parents stroking their iPhones in the rain. An hour or two of running our kids ragged for the price of shinpads and second-hand cleats. Even here, though, I once saw two fathers nearly come to blows when one five-year-old daughter accused the other of cheating. Soccer is the gateway drug to becoming a Sports Dad. The next spring, we added baseball to our roster. Our son seemed okay with the idea because most of his friends played, until I told him to grab his gear for the first practice. “Why did you sign me up?” he howled, clutching a book on the sofa and breaking into tears. “I want to stay home and read!” “Put down that book!” I shouted. “You’re going to baseball!” I shuddered. What kind of monster had I become? Worse, I’d signed a “Contract of

Parental Behaviour” with the clause: “I will not force my child to play.” Oops. Despite my son’s misgivings, he ended up loving baseball. His coaches taught him the rules and brought out the best in new and experienced players. And the boys and girls looked so darn cute in their uniforms! I volunteered to work the microphone at games as the announcer—because why

Dadspeak DAVID LEACH should a father wait until his kid’s wedding to embarrass him? And he got good, too. As a teacher, I could see the feedback loop of learning: practice, failure, more practice, success, lose some, win some. He developed dexterity and agility and self-confidence alien to me at his age. The small skills of throwing and catching and swinging and running and not pulling dandelions in the outfield evolved, by the end of the season, into a cooperative effort that looked something like baseball. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi has studied how “optimal experiences”— often physical activities—can induce in us a state of “flow” in which we surf a harmonious wave that oscillates between challenge and competence, anxiety and boredom. Baseball—a sport with much boredom and anxiety for fans and skeptics alike—was pure flow for my son. The obsessiveness of his nine-year-old imagination also set aside Star Wars and Minecraft and found new purchase on the lore and science of the game: statistics for favourite players, You-

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Tube tutorials on how to throw a curveball. Which isn’t to say his experience has been all sunshine and smiles. There might not be an “I” in “team,” but there is often a “cry,” usually after a hard slide or a misplayed ball or a tough loss. That’s difficult to watch as a parent. And yet my son always bounces back and never wants to miss a game or practice. By the next summer, the whole clan was hooked. Our son did spring training and regular season, played on a summer select team and a fun fall squad, too. We cheered the HarbourCats and the Blue Jays. I got drafted to coach softball so my seven-yearold daughter could play, too. My homework included how to grip a ball on its seams and the rules of “What Time is it Mr. Wolf?” I wore a ballcap and a team T-shirt most weekends. One day, I looked in the mirror and realized I’d become an accidental Sports Dad. Sure, we tried not to care about the outcome of our kids’ games—without much success. Soon our social life began to revolve around local ball diamonds. At home, we watched Ken Burns’ documentary history of the sport, which offered the context and the chance to talk as a family about big issues: sexism, racism, economic inequality, and why they no longer serve you a beer when you reach third base. I already look back on the past summer with the nostalgia so common to sports fans. My son will move up to a new league next spring, where the game is faster and more competitive. A kid could get hurt playing it perhaps. I worry about the stats on how participation in organized team sports drops dramatically as young players enter their teens. I worry, too, about the countless terabytes of cognitive energy we devote as a culture to tracking the Sports Industrial Complex of millionaire ballplayers and puck-chasers. But then there are nights when I come home frazzled from work, and my son and daughter grab their gloves and a ball and wait out on the street for me to send one more text or check one last email. “Put down your iPhone!” they shout. “You’re going to play baseball!” And I do. David Leach is the former City Life Editor of Monday Magazine, the Chair of the Writing Department at UVic, and the assistant coach of the Carnarvon Orange Crush.

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Immunization & Your Family

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hinking about starting a family? You might be asking, “When should I start thinking about immunizations for my baby?” Really the answer is before you even get pregnant. It’s a good idea to check your immunization status with your doctor or midwife before getting pregnant because your immunity helps to protect you and your unborn baby during pregnancy. Timing of immunizations prior to pregnancy can be important so it’s best to review the information ahead of time. If you’re already pregnant and require some immunizations, check with your health professional as some types will have to wait until after your baby is born. One of the few exceptions is the influenza (flu) vaccine. “Your Child’s Best Shot,” a guide by the Canadian Pediatric Society says the influenza vaccine is safe for pregnant women at any stage of pregnancy and for breastfeeding mothers. Being pregnant puts you at higher risk for flu-related illness and problems. Research shows that infants born during the flu season to women who have had the flu vaccine are less likely to be born early (prematurely) or have a low birth weight. So by getting immunized, you are not only helping to protect yourself, you are also protecting your unborn baby. Again, it’s best to check with your health care professional to make sure this immunization is right for you. They may advise against it if you have experienced a previous reaction or severe allergy to something in the vaccine. Your Child’s First Immunizations. Infants and toddlers are at much higher risk for serious health issues related to vaccinepreventable diseases. This is why it is important to immunize your child on time. To provide children with the best possible protection, immunizations are offered at 2, 4, 6, 12 and 18 months of age. These shots provide protection against diphtheria, whooping cough (pertussis), tetanus, polio, rotavirus, measles, mumps, hepatitis B, German measles (rubella), Haemophilus influenza b (Hib), meningitis (meningococcal C), pneumococcal disease, flu and chickenpox (varicella). Recent outbreaks of whooping cough, mumps and measles in B.C. have highlighted the importance of keeping your family’s immunizations up to date. When immunization rates fall in the community, diseases can make a comeback.

Apart from smallpox,which has been wiped out, all other vaccine-preventable diseases continue to appear in many areas. Preparing for Immunization. Some parents may be nervous about their child’s first immunization appointment. HealthLink BC File 50e “A Better Immunization Experience

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for Your Child” provides some helpful tips on preparing for your child’s immunizations. Here are other suggestions to prepare a child at any age. Infants & Toddlers: Research shows that breastfeeding during immunization may reduce pain and distress through the combined effect of: • The presence of a comforting person • Diverting attention (sucking and distraction) • Physical sensation of skin-to-skin contact with mother • Sweet taste of breast milk and other substances in the milk produce relaxation and calming effect With infants you can also try using toys, singing, or distraction. Children Over Three: A child over the age of 3 may find it helpful to do some deep breathing/blowing. Simple breathing exercises can help reduce immunization pain and discomfort. Examples include: • telling children to take a deep breath at the time of injection • Asking child to “show me how you blow out candles on a birthday cake” School–age: • Toys, stories, videos, books, joking, music, counting, or distraction Teens: • Games, videos, joking, or music (personal headphones) As a parent it’s important to remember that children can be aware of your emotions. Staying calm and supportive will help your child through these visits. Where to Get Information. As a new parent you may have questions about immunizIslandParent.ca

ing your baby. You can connect with your local public health office or family doctor to review your questions prior to your immunization visit. Another great place for information is HealthLink BC’s Child Immunization Series. This information can be found at HealthLinkBC.ca/healthfiles/ and includes the following topics related to immunization: • #50a Your Baby’s Immune System and Vaccines • #50b The Benefits of Vaccinating Your Child • #50c Childhood Vaccines are Safe • #50d Childhood Vaccines: What is in the Vaccines and Why Still have questions? Sometimes as a parent it is difficult to wade through all of the information that is available in print and online. Here are some reliable resources with information on immunization and vaccines. You can also contact your local public health unit, family doctor or pharmacist for more information or to make an appointment. In Print: Your Child’s Best Shot: A Parent’s Guide to Vaccinations, Third Edition, Produced by the Canadian Pediatric Society, Ottawa, Ontario, 2006 and available at your local health unit and several public libraries. A Parent’s Guide to Immunization by the Public Health Agency of Canada, Her Majesty the Queen in Right of Canada, as represented by the Minister of Health, 2014. To download a free copy, visit healthycanadians.gc.ca/publications/healthy-living-viesaine/parent-guide-vaccination/index-eng. php Online: •ImmunizeBC, immunizebc.ca •BC Centre for Disease Control, bccdc.ca •Public Health Agency of Canada, Immunization and Vaccines, phac-aspc.gc.ca/ im/index-eng.php •Immunize Canada, immunize.cpha.ca/ en/default.aspx And remember, 100 years ago, infectious diseases were the leading cause of death worldwide—many children never lived to see their fifth birthday. Today, almost all the same diseases still exist, but we are protected by immunization. And, immunizations are not just for kids; they provide effective protection against disease at every age. Carly Westwood is a Public Health Nurse Clinician for the Peninsula and Salt Spring Island Health Units, Island Health.

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Er, Just Stuff It

any countries’ cuisines have a version of the humble dumpling. History suggests that dumplings were developed in colder, northern countries, generally among the peasant classes. A quick dough would be stirred together, featuring whichever grain was a staple in the country. In northern England, the dough was made from wheat and plopped into the handy stockpot of simmering broth to stretch the meal. Sophistication developed when stuffings were incorporated into the dumplings: plums in Germany or Austria, apples in parts of the U.S., minced meat in China and Japan, potatoes and cheese in Poland and the Ukraine. This upgraded version was still easy on the pocket book to produce, as it’s more about a mouthful than a whole meal of the filling ingredient. In this way, a whole family could be nourished and satisfied with a couple of handfuls of flour, some salt, a bit of meat, and a saucepan of hot broth.

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Time is usually the rare commodity in our kitchens now. We have oodles of meat (too much, apparently, according to all of the guides), and grains ranging from homely to exotic (rice and flour to eikhorn, spelt, or farro). But try to find a few hours to make a big batch of perogies? You might as well look for time to organize your closets. Every now and then it behooves us to take our schedules firmly by the scruff of the neck and give them a gentle shake to remind them that we call the shots in our own lives, actually, and if we want to get a bit crazy and spend a whole rainy Saturday in the kitchen with our kids instead of tidying the third downstairs closet, then we will do just that. Invite people over. Set up mashing, mixing, rolling, filling and pinching stations— or just wing it. Play loud music (klezmer, ukelele, Amy Winehouse), make enough for everyone to take some home, and remember that this is your now!

Homemade Perogies Dough: 2 cups flour 1⁄2 cup milk, warmed 1⁄2 cup potato, well mashed or put through a ricer 1 tsp salt 1 Tbsp vegetable oil Combine all ingredients. Mix very well, until slightly sticky dough results, adding more liquid or flour as necessary to make dough easy to handle. Turn dough out onto floured surface and knead for several minutes, or until you have an elastic and supple dough. Try not to over-knead, as this will result in toughness. Place dough in greased bowl, turning to grease on all sides, cover with a tea towel, and rest for 30 minutes. Filling: 1⁄2 cup onion, chopped 1⁄4 cup butter 2 – 3 cooked potatoes, very well mashed 1 cup grated Cheddar cheese (note: can substitute Velveeta, or similar processed cheese. I know, I know. It tastes good, though). Melt butter in medium saucepan. Fry

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onions, cooking until tender and almost translucent. Place potatoes in large bowl. Add onions, and cheese. Mix well, using hands if you like, until all ingredients are combined and smooth. Allow to cool (can keep in fridge for this).

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kaTHy HUMPHrey Alternative filling: 2 – 3 cups cottage cheese, either dry curd variety, or well drained 1 egg 1⁄3 cup fresh dill, well chopped salt and pepper, to taste Combine all ingredients, mixing well. To assemble perogies: Fill a large pot with water and set to boil. Scoop walnut-sized portions of filling onto platter or baking sheet; set aside. Roll dough out on lightly-floured surface. Cut circles approximately 3" in diameter, using a large-mouthed drinking glass. Roll leftover dough into a ball to roll out next go-round. Place a ball of filling in the centre of each circle. Fold the dough over, and pinch the edges together to seal, forming a half-circle. Place finished perogies on flour-dusted baking sheet and cover with a tea towel so that they don’t dry out. When water has come to a rolling boil, add about a teaspoon of salt. Place several perogies in the water, avoiding the temptation to crowd the pot, and cook for a few minutes, until perogies begin to float. Remove from the water with a slotted spoon and place in a serving bowl to keep warm. Repeat with remaining perogies. If the perogies seem to stick to the bottom or sides of the saucepan, gently stir with a wooden spoon to set them free. Melt some butter to drizzle over the cooked perogies. If desired, serve with fried bacon and onions, or sauerkraut, or all of the above. Freeze perogies, if desired, on baking sheets, removing them to bags when frozen to cook and enjoy on a less-leisurely day. Kathy Humphrey lives in Victoria with her husband and two children. She tries to see cooking for a family not as a chore but as a creative outlet.

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Cookbooks for Kids

ou may think cookbooks are an odd choice to write about in a kids book review column, but I have noticed that kids who love books in general seem to love most books, cookbooks included. They love flipping through non-fiction, comics, picture books and yes, even cookbooks. Which may mean that you’ll have luck hooking your child on books through any genre. In fact, I found that one of the best aides in helping my kids learn to read was to have them choose a recipe cookbook and then read the instructions out loud while we cooked together. Not only do cookbooks help kids become book lovers and readers, but they also help them become, well, cooks. Teaching kids about simple whole foods is an important life skill that they can develop as they grow. Cookbooks for kids seem to be popular, at least as a gift item, because there are hundreds of them lining bookstore shelves. That said, I was surprised, when researching this column, how many of these books seem ill-suited for kids learning to read or cook. By far the market leader is publisher DK, which has a whole library of kids cookbooks to choose from, all of which follow the same simple, successful model. First, the books include sections such as Main Meals, Breakfast, Light Meals, Baking. Second, there are vibrant, stunning photographs of the food. And there are clear instruction boxes, with pictures of each step. The recipes are crystal clear and easy to follow. The DK Children’s Cookbook (2004) classifies the recipes as easy, medium and hard, and they have pictures of the each food item in the ingredients list to help beginning readers. The result is a non-intimidating, inspiring guide. When kids are a little older, they may advance to the Complete Children’s Cookbook (2015), also by DK, which has the same simple steps, but some more interesting recipes such as rainbow beef, jambalaya, simple steps to soup and sauces (they can make their first white sauce) and of, course, tons of muffins, cookies and cakes. This cookbook would make a great Christmas gift. Another well-organized, simple to follow book is called Twist It Up, by Jack Witherspoon (Chronicle Books, 2011). This cookbook includes great recipes and simple, clear steps for kids. Not only that, but the author, Jack Witherspoon, is an

eleven-year-old boy who has had leukemia three times. He started cooking when he was six years old after his first relapse to try and raise money for cancer research. He is an amazing, resilient and upbeat kid who has now been on many talk shows and cooking shows across America. Check out chefjackwitherspoon.com.

Book Nook Paisley aiken As kids grow they may be less likely to want a cookbook specifically geared towards children. However, there are many teenagers out there that could benefit from a “kids” cookbook. For these folks I would recommend Jamie’s Food Revolution, by Jamie Oliver (Penguin Books, 2008). Despite being a dad himself, Jamie comes across as a youthful, down-to-earth guy who just likes good food. He started cooking at the age of eight. This book was the result of a special project, or “movement”, called Pass It On. Jamie believes that if we all learned how to cook simple, nutritious, economical and tasty food, even if that meant only four recipes, we could pass the knowledge on and build a community of better eating. Therefore, this book was designed to be a simple introduction to great food. In it he showcases people who had never previously cooked, and the meals they learned how to make. The result is a perfect first cookbook for any teen, young adult moving out on their own, or parent scrambling to make weeknight meals. It has the simplest of the simple recipes, from boiling an egg to easy curries and roasts. Though it is too wordy for younger readers, it is a great introduction for the older kids in your house. When it comes to cookbooks, there are many options. Just remember the recipe for a great cookbook for kids—good pictures, simple steps, clear instructions and yummy food. Happy eating. Paisley Aiken reads extensively to her three energetic young boys. She is founder of The Story Studio Writing Society, a charity that grows kids’ relationship with literacy.

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If you own, lease or otherwise occupy private property containing a glass-fronted gas burning fireplace, fireplace insert or heating stove, you should read this notice. Under a court-approved class action settlement certain manufacturers are offering, free of charge, barriers intended to prevent burns from the hot glass fronts. Further information is below. NOTICE* OF SETTLEMENT APPROVAL AND CLAIMS PROCEDURE OF A CLASS ACTION INVOLVING CERTAIN GAS BURNING FIREPLACES, FIREPLACE INSERTS AND STOVES TO: ALL PERSONS IN CANADA WHO OWN, LEASE OR OTHERWISE OCCUPY PRIVATE PROPERTY CONTAINING A FIREPLACE FROM ONE OF THE SETTLING DEFENDANTS DESCRIBED BELOW CERTIFICATION A lawsuit commenced in British Columbia has been certified as a class action against CANADIAN HEATING PRODUCTS INC., MILES INDUSTRIES LTD., MONESSEN HEARTH CANADA, INC., and MONESSEN HEARTH SYSTEMS COMPANY (doing business as VERMONT CASTINGS GROUP) (the “Settling Defendants”), by the Supreme Court of British Columbia (the “Court”). WHAT IS THE LAWSUIT? It is an action concerning the risk of burns from contacting the hot glass fronts of some gas burning fireplaces. WHAT IS THE SETTLEMENT? The British Columbia Supreme Court has approved a settlement under which the Settling Defendants have agreed to provide, free of charge, barrier screens or screen kits for certain of their Fireplaces to reduce the burn risk. WHO IS INCLUDED IN THE SETTLEMENT? Class Members are all persons in British Columbia, plus all persons elsewhere in Canada who choose to “opt in”, who have one of the Settling Defendants’ gas fireplaces, inserts or stoves (“Fireplaces”) in their home that was installed between January 1, 2001 and December 31, 2014. If you live in British Columbia and have such a Fireplace you are automatically included in the class action settlement. If you live elsewhere in Canada you may choose to opt into the settlement. You should immediately review the full legal notice in this matter to ensure that you understand your legal rights. Further details on the proposed settlement and on opting in are available via the telephone numbers and email and website addresses set out in this notice. Claim Forms and Opt in requests MUST BE SUBMITTED by June 6, 2016. If your communication is not received in time it may not be considered valid.

WHAT DOES COURT APPROVAL MEAN? Class Members are bound by the settlement. Notice of the proposed settlement was published in April and May, 2015. The settlement was approved by the Court on May 26, 2015. WHERE CAN I OBTAIN MORE INFORMATION, OR OBTAIN A FIREPLACE BARRIER OR SCREEN? Class Members should contact: Crawford Class Action Services (the “Administrator”) Suite 3–505, 133 Weber Street North Waterloo, ON N2J 3G9 Toll Free: 1-877-739-8933 Fax: 1-888-842-1332 Email: fireplaceclassaction@crawco.ca DO I NEED TO PAY ANYTHING TO PARTICIPATE? No. You do not need to pay any money to participate in the settlement. Class members pay nothing. The lawyers appointed by the Court to represent the Class will be paid by the defendants under the settlement. WHO ARE THE LAWYERS FOR THE CLASS? The following law firm represents the plaintiffs and the class, and will answer questions about the class action: Farris, Vaughan, Wills & Murphy LLP, 25th Floor, 700 West Georgia Street, Vancouver B.C. V7Y1B3 Contact fireplaceclassaction@farris.com Or Mike Wagner @ 604-661-9388 or Robert Anderson, QC @ 604-661-9372 (*) This Notice is just a summary. For more detailed information, including a list of all defendants and the definitions used in this Notice, please go to www.fireplaceclassaction.com or contact the Administrator listed above, or contact the lawyers above.

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Family Services Directory our Parents Together program and parent workshops. For more information on all programs and services visit bgcvic.org or call 250-384-9133.

HappyBaby Sleep Solutions helps families create healthy sleep habits in babies and children so everyone is well rested and happy. Sukkie Sandhu, M.Ed., has worked with hundreds of families locally in Victoria and worldwide. Sukkie is a Registered Clinical Counsellor so the cost of a sleep consultation may be covered under your extended medical plan. For more information visit www. happybabysleepsolutions.com or call 250-857-1408 for a FREE evaluation. Let’s get started!

The Canucks Autism Network (CAN) provides yearround, high quality sports, recreational, social and arts programs for children, teens and young adults living with autism, while building awareness and providing training through community networks across British Columbia. CAN currently offers Soccer (ages 5-15), Swim (ages 4-15), Physical Literacy (ages 4-11), Family Events and Camps on Vancouver Island. To learn how you can join, please visit canucksautism.ca/join or email info@ canucksautism.ca.

HeadWay Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre supports families living with seizures by offering parent workshops three times a year, educational presentations in schools and community groups as well as providing tutoring sessions and one-to-one professional consultations to help your child live up to their highest potential. Keep up to date with the latest research about treatments, lifestyle, and safety issues for your child. We can be reached at headwayvictoria.com, or you can reach the Epilepsy Program Coordinator directly at 250-475-6677.

CHOICES Adoption & Counselling is a licensed, professional, non-profit agency that provides services to adoptive parents, birth-parents, and adoptees. CHOICES arranges adoptions domestically and internationally. We are committed to providing a comprehensive, clientcentered adoption service which best meets the needs of everyone in the adoption constellation. Please contact us at choices@choicesadoption.ca, or call 250-479-9811 for further information.

Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a service agency for immigrants and refugees. Programs offered include cross-cultural counseling, parenting programs (child care available), family violence programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, ESL instruction, volunteering, youth programs and tutoring, as well as intercultural arts programming. 930 Balmoral Rd, 250-388-4728, info@ icavictoria.org, icavictoria.org.

Countryside Preschool is a cooperative preschool where our qualified ECE provides stimulating instruction to develop your child’s social and cognitive skills. Families build a network of support through our parent-participation days. Classes are in session Sept–June; Tues–Thurs; 9am–1pm. Flexible registration options available. Visit our FREE Stay ’N Play sessions for caregivers and tots, Mondays, 10am–noon. Visit countrysidepreschool.org or call 250-652-3424.

Learning Disabilities Association of BC, SVI Chapter, educates, supports and advocates for children and youth with learning disabilities and related conditions. Services include a public lending library, individual/ group support for parents and children, professional/ educational workshops for parents and professionals. Child and youth programs include: reading/ writing, academic skills, social/emotional skill development and Fast ForWord. 1562 Fort St, Victoria, BC V8S 5J2. Ph 250-370-9513. Fax. 250-370-9421. ldasvi.bc.ca. knowyourrights.ca.

This directory, sponsored by Thrifty Foods, features not for profit agencies and organizations serving children, youth and families.

1Up, Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (www.1up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms and a support group for dads. The Centre also offers a variety of integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community (fees are on a sliding scale). The Centre provides free toys and books, a clothing room and bread pantry for single parents. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, books and toys are welcome. Hours are Mon, Tue, Thu, Fri: 9-4, Wed: 12-7. 602 Gorge Rd. East; call 250-385-1114 or info@1-up.ca Beacon Community Services is a community-based non-profit agency providing social, employment, and health services to Saanich Peninsula, Greater Victoria, and Southern Gulf Islands residents. Beacon offers: child, youth, and family services; a drop-in family resource centre; counselling; employment services for adults, youth, and people with disabilities; home support; volunteer services and opportunities; community events; affordable assisted living for seniors; referrals, information, and resources; thrift shops. For Home Support information call 250658-6407; for all other inquiries call 250-656-0134, or visit beaconcs.ca. Beacon Community’s Employment Services. Beacon Community Services provides a full menu of employment services to the Saanich Peninsula, Southern Gulf Islands. We have been helping people find work since 1982! Our programs build on a client’s strengths and resolve barriers to securing and maintaining employment. Furthermore, we work in tandem with our employer network to support those residents looking for work. If you need help finding a job or need employees please pay us a visit! It’s FREE. 9860 Third St, Sidney, 250-656-0134, beaconcs.ca. Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for children and youth at 5 locations (Colwood, Langford, VicWest, Central Saanich and Esquimalt) and summer camps both in Esquimalt and at our Outdoor Centre in Metchosin. We also offer support to parents through

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Family Services of Greater Victoria (formerly BC Families in Transition) is a non profit agency that has been serving families since 1978. We provide a full range of services to the whole family in supporting their relationship and through separation and divorce. Counseling, mediation, legal information and a range of group programs are available for children, youth and adults on a sliding fee scale. Call us at 250-386-4331 or visit fsgv.org. We can help.

Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC) provides programs and services to the military family community including: 24-Hour Information Line; Deployment Information and Workshops; Short Term Counselling, Crisis Support or Intervention; Welcome/Relocation Services; Childcare and Family Support Services; Assistance for Families with Special Needs and Responsibilities. Excit-

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ing Volunteer opportunities available! Call the MFRC: 250-363-2640 (1-800-353-3329) for information or visit esquimaltmfrc.com. Power To Be provides inclusive nature-based activity programs for youth and families living with a barrier or disability who need support to access recreation and their community. We create year-round programs to fit participant needs through activities such as kayaking, rock climbing, hiking, canoeing and more. Visit powertobe.ca or call 250-385-2363 to get involved. Rested Development Sleep Consulting. I am educated in ALL sleep-training methods and together we use a method that best suits YOUR family and values. My services are unique in that I use an integrative approach to sleep using healthy sleep foundations including: emotional well-being, nutrition, breastfeeding, family dynamics, child temperaments, sleep environments, sleep/wake windows, sleep associations, and developmental milestones, in conjunction with sleep training. For more information please visit resteddevelopment.com or call 250-937-0996 for a free 15 minute consultation. Sooke Family Resource Society (SFRS) provides Family Resource Programs including: Prenatal Education and Outreach, Parent-Tot Drop-In Groups, Parent Discussion Groups, Family Support Groups and Outreach, a Toy and Book Lending Library, and Kingfisher Preschool. SookeWestshore Child Care Resource and Referral services, as well as all-ages counselling services are also provided by SFRS. Services are provided from the Child, Youth and Family Centres in both Sooke and the Westshore. Call 250-642-5152 for more information or visit our website at sfrs.ca. SFRS’s Welcome Home Program is looking for homes that can support adults diagnosed with a disability looking to gain further independence. The livingsituations are varied and unique and can include living within a family home or a suite in the family home. The needs of the individuals are varied, dependent on the disability, but can include relationship building, life skills, meal prep, etc. For more information, please call 778-433-2023 or go tosfrs.ca. Sooke-Westshore Early Years Centres provide information to families about children and family services, supports, child development and parenting. The Early Years Navigator will assist families with referral information for local early years programming, child care, public health, special needs intervention services, and social supports. The Sooke-Westshore Early Years Centres are hosted by Sooke Family Resource Society and located at the Child, Youth, and Family Centres in both Sooke and the Westshore and can be reached at 250-217-9243. Additional information can be accessed at sfrs.ca/earlyyears-centre. Victoria Immigrant and Refugee Centre Society (VIRCS) supports immigrants and refugees living in Greater Victoria. Services are free and include one-onone counselling, parent education workshops, youth life skills classes, a preschool program, art therapy, language classes and academic support, employment help, computer classes and fun community events like free yoga, tai chi, dance and cooking classes. Visit us online at vircs. bc.ca or phone 250-361-9433.

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Preschool & Child Care Directory CENTRAL SAANICH Chrysalis Child Care................................ 250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 21⁄2–5 year old children. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play. chrysalischildcare.ca. Countryside Preschool........................... 250-652-3424 Learn through play at our co-op preschool for 2.5–5 yr olds! Big classroom, beautiful playground, nurturing ECE:countrysidepreschool.org.

Colwood/LANGFORD Goldstream Co-op Preschool................. 250-474-3011 Learning Through Play for 3 and 4yr olds! For registration information go to our website: goldstreampreschool.com. Jenn’s Little Bears................................... 250-478-8999 A safe nurturing environment for children from infancy to kindergarten. Our Infant and Toddler Program enriches each child’s development while our 3-5 Program prepares children for kindergarten. Two separate buildings allow each age group space to grow! Leap Forward Childcare......................... 250-818-9225 2758 Peatt RD. Licenced group childcare for children ages 6 months to 5 years old. Offering fulltime and part-time care. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. For more information please contact Amber: info@leap forwardlangford.com, leapforwardlangford.com. Miles of Smiles Nature Junior Kindergarten.................... 778-265-4374 Come See Why Learning In Nature Rocks! Reggio Influenced Philosophy ages 3-5. Have Your Child Become a Nature Detective Today! Email mosnjk@hotmail.com. RIA Early Learning Centre...................... 250-590-0781 3307 Wishart Rd. The REGGIO WAY – A New Approach to Children’s Learning – Designed for Ages 3 to 5.

CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool............................ 250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. carrotseedpreschool.com.

ESQUIMALT Ciara Early Childhood Centre................. 250-386-7369 Education and Fun Hand in Hand! Exceptional care for ages 1-5yrs. Inclusive nature inspired kindergarten readiness program with Christian values. Facebook.com/ CiaraEarlyChildhoodCentre. Island Kids Academy Esquimalt............. 250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. islandkids.ca. La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool.. 250-479-0292 A French Immersion Program. 30 months to school age. Licensed Christian centre. prematernelleappletree.com.

Highlands Lexie’s Little Bears.................................. 778-432-3600 Only seconds past Luxurious Bear Mountain our HIGHLY reputable Nature Program will not disappoint! Our NATURAL outdoor environment provides an experience like no

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other…in our own rainforest. Located on 2 acres of treed forest land, your child will learn and grow in NATURE! Our Brand NEW Infant/Toddler centre is tranquil and serene. All the furniture, shelving and some toys have been hand crafted using the trees on our own property! Programs for 3 to 5’s and for Infant/Toddlers. Spaces avail. NOW! Visit our Facebook blog, and website at lexieslittlebears.com. Call for more info.

Bee Happy Montessori House................ 250-516-6191 Childcare and pre-school based on Montessori approach which meets each child’s need, according to individual development and learning styles.

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Camosun College Child Care Services......250-370-4880 Quality licensed facilities on both campuses providing children, newborn to 5 years, with rich early learning experiences in a learn through play environment. camosun. ca/childcare.

A Growing Place...................................... 250-391-1133 Half day program (AM or PM) for 2.5-5 yrs. ECE educator, small class size. Our own petting farm. Summer program for July.

Carrot Seed Preschool............................ 250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. carrotseedpreschool.com.

Metchosin Co-op Preschool................... 250-478-9241 Come visit our stunning natural outdoor playspace, and see how our inclusive, play-based program allows parents to grow and learn alongside their children. Exceptional ECE staff provide a warm and enriching experience for 2.5–5 yr. olds. Come Grow With Us! EST. 1960. Reg. begins March 1 @ 9am. metchosinpreschool@gmail.com.

Cloverdale Child Care.................................250-995-1766 Full time daycare 3-5 year olds. Preschool–register now for September 2015. 3 year olds Tue/Thur 9:00-1:00. 4 year olds Mon/Wed/Fri 9:00-1:00. cloverdalechildcare@ shawbiz.ca. cloverdalechildcare.com.

West-Mont Montessori School............... 250-474-2626 Preschool Montessori instruction in a beautiful natural environment in Metchosin. Ages 30 months and up. Providing a balanced approach to incorporating Nature, French, Music and Art into a complete educational program. Be a part of a community devoted to the development of the whole child. Open House: Thursdays 9-11 am. west-mont.ca.

North SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre............. 250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.

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Forest House Childcare Academy............. 250-881-1975 ECE Licensed, Full Day in home Childcare Program for children 30 months – 5 years. An enriched, unique environment to inspire and nurture child directed learning and critical thinking skills, through in-depth and on-going study of nature and the power of play. foresthouseca.com. Full o’ Beans Preschool.............................. 250-360-1148 We offer ‘learn through play’ programming designed to foster your child’s natural curiosity and imagination. Flexible scheduling, 2.5 and 4 hour programs, qualified staff. Registration is ongoing! saanichneighbourhoodplace.com. Hoof Beats Preschool & Childcare............ 250-588-2583 Licensed HighScope program fostering learning through nature, farm life, and horses! 3-6 yrs. Year round. hoof-beats.ca.

Emmanuel Preschool.............................. 250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Island Montessori House........................ 250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing Preschool and Kindergarten programs. Located in a lovely rural setting with a focus on nature and outdoor environmental activities such as gardening and composting. islandmontessori.com.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool..................... 250-727-1003 Children use imaginations in a Learning through Play classroom and natural playground. Reggio-Emilia inspired, focus is on art, nature and music. Nurturing, highly qualified ECE and ECE assistant. Parent participation options. Allergy aware. gonzalescooppreschool.com.

Lakehill Co-op Preschool....................... 250-477-4141 Where children’s development is nurtured through a child centered inclusive, play based program. Come visit our natural outdoor playground and meet our loving qualified ECE team. Multiple Levels of participation available, please enquire. lakehillpreschool.org.

Recreation Oak Bay................................ 250-370-7200 Fully licensed, ECE Daycare, Preschool and Nature Preschool. Play based, child led learning. Afterschool care available.

Lakeview Christian Preschool/Daycare.. 250-658-5082 30 mths to Kindergarten entry. Small group. Experienced teacher. Full time and part time spaces. Mornings only or full day. Monthly DROP IN STORY HOUR. For information please e-mail lakeviewschol@shaw.ca.

Sundance Playschool.............................. 250-590-9955 Group daycare for ages 3–5, centrally located off Fort. Offering an exciting ECE program in a lovely character house with a maximum of 16 children for a focus on individual attention. Great yard and gardens with lots of outdoor activities. Spaces coming available July 1st.

SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre........... 250-477-3731 Formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten. Half Day and Full Day Preschool Programs. Children’s learning is supported and nurtured through inquiry, exploration, play and creative expression. arbutusgrove.ca.

Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare.. 250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre. Flexible options, play-based learning and outdoor play. Allergy friendly. Celebrating 40+ years. lambrickparkpreschool.ca. Little Readers Academy.......................... 250-477-5550 An enriched learn-to-read program for your 3-6 year-old! Reading, Writing and Math. Half-day, weekend and evening sessions available. oxfordlearning.com. Montessori Educare................................ 250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environment in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months to 5 years. Open all year around. Summer program available. montessorieducare.com.

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Oakcrest Preschool................................. 250-472-0668 A welcoming, nurturing environment with a large, bright facility. Learn through play with 2 caring ECEs. oakcrestpreschool.org.

ArtsCalibre Academy.............................. 250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 5, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. ArtsCalibre.ca

Pacific Christian School – Pre-School... 250-479-4532 Your child will love the playful, safe environment and caring staff at PCS Pre-School. Come and explore Educational Excellence to the Glory of God. PacificChristian.ca Puddles & Paints (Nature Daycare)........ 250-658-6573 Introduce your children to the natural world around them! Surrounding them with nature and animals, we build on their curiosity while exploring the outdoors! On 10 acres of parkland the children lead the way towards environmental awareness! With a new ART STUDIO, and weekly lessons from the Vic. Academy of Music... your child’s day will be FULL of wonder and NATURE. Strongly influenced by Reggio. Visit our facebook page for pics of our studio, and handmade toys! Rainbows & Dreams Preschool.............. 250-479-1966 Small classes for 3-5 yr olds in a safe nurturing environment. Children learn through play and fun–developing a sense of confidence, independence and creativity. Highly qualified ECE teacher. Ready Set Grow Preschool..................... 250-472-1530 Inside Hillcrest Elm. in Gordon Head, we help children transition to Kindergarten. Licensed Preschool with highly qualified, warm ECE. heoscmanager@gmail.com. Rogers Child Care Centre....................... 250-744-2343 Trusted High Quality Non Profit Care since 1991. Year Round Early Learning and Out of School Care. For more info go to rogerschildcare.com. St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool.. 250-479-1232 ext 120 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds. • A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.

Babies to Big Kids Childcare......................250-590-2722 949 Fullerton Ave. Licenced group childcare for children ages 6 months to 11 years old. Offering full-time and part-time care. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. info@babies tobigkids.com, babiestobigkids.com. Castleview Child Care............................. 250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Discovery. Licensed non-profit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. castleviewchildcarecentre.com. Centennial Day Care............................... 250-386-6832 Providing quality childcare for 35+ years. Nature inspired, play based program. Brand new “green” building, central location. centennialdaycare.ca. Christ Church Cathedral Childcare and Junior Kindergarten......................... 250-383-5132 ECE and specialist teachers provide an outstanding all day licensed program for 3-5 year olds. NEW location: 1670 Richardson opens March 2015. cathedralschool.ca. Downtown Y Child Care Centre............. 250-413-8869 Enriched program, for children ages 3-5 years, supporting healthy child development and future school success. victoriay.com. Lansdowne Co-op Preschool................. 250-370-5392 An extraordinary learning environment for families with young children. Parent participation. lansdownepreschool.com.

St. Margaret’s School.............................. 250-479-7171 For girls from Junior Kindergarten (ages 3-4) to Grade 12. Unique STEM-focused curriculum with outdoor exploration, art and music. stmarg.ca.

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten Ltd.................. 250-595-7544 We offer education through creativity and play, providing rich learning experiences through a well sourced and stimulating indoor and outdoor environment. Early years reading programme. nightingalepreschool.com. New Arts/ Drama programme – September 2015 – Kidsworks.ca.

Strawberry Vale Preschool..................... 250-479-4213 Programs for kids 3-4 at “The Little Red Schoolhouse.” An opportunity to be actively involved with your preschooler’s education. strawberryvalepreschool.org.

Parkdale Early Childhood Centre........... 250-382-0512 ECEs offer the highest quality care and positive learning experiences in our daycare and preschool. Full time or part time. Call for a tour or visit us at parkdalechildcare.ca.

Wiseways Preschool & Daycare............. 250-477-1312 Quality, fully licensed, Christian preschool/daycare for 3–4 year olds. Experienced team of ECEs. Spacious facilities include large playground and indoor gym. Subsidized fees welcome. Call for a tour. wisewaysvictoria.com.

Rainbow Express Daycare...................... 250-382-2314 Enriched preschool style program in a daycare setting. Visit our website at rainbowexpressdaycare.com.

SIDNEY Acorntree Preschool............................... 250-686-1408 Balanced indoor/outdoor program, designed to stimulate natural curiosity and foster empathy and compassion towards others. We believe in the importance of both child and teacher directed activities. acorntreepreschool.ca. Adel’s Play N Discovery House.............. 250-655-4888 Licensed childcare, 3-5 years, Reggio Emilia inspired. Mon–Fri, 7:30am–5:30pm. 2146 Beacon Avenue W. adelplayndiscovery.ca, adelina.gotera@gmail.com. Positive Path Early Learning.................. 250-655-7244 Located near the library and Sidney School, our program has earned a stellar reputation for quality child care and is growing as fast as the children we care for. Space is available for your child to embark on a journey of active exploration and discovery, enjoying a natural outdoor playground and an expansive indoor learning space. Experienced educators foster a lifelong quest for knowledge and guide children with Christian values and virtues. positivepath@shaw.ca. Storyoga Preschool................................. 778-679-4004 Embracing and empowering children exactly as they are. Storyoga Preschool is a nature and yoga based program located in Sidney, BC. storyoga.com.

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Ross Bay Preschool................................ 250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn, discover and grow through play. Daily outdoor time, special guests and community events! rossbaypreschool @shaw.ca. The Sir James Douglas Playschool....... 250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield. Victoria Montessori................................. 250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round. 30mths–K. victoriamontessori.com.

VIEW ROYAL Island Kids Academy View Royal........... 250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. islandkids.ca. Little Friends Childcare Center.............. 250-479-8423 Infant/Toddler........................................... 250-479-9796 For a creative learning environment. Licensed group facility. Infants/Toddlers/Preschool. littlefriendschildcare.ca.

Little Wonders Preschool (View Royal OSC)..................................... 250-744-2718 A creative and supportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! Out of School Care is also available for school aged children. viewroyalosc.com. A Secret Garden Preschool.................... 250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@ shaw.ca. View Royal Childcare.............................. 250-479-8067 Preschool structured, high quality childcare. Victoria Conservatory of Music classes. Part time spaces available. 2.5-5year olds. viewroyalpreschool@live.com. View Royal Preschool.............................. 250-479-8067 Exciting inclusive program in a safe and exceptional care environment. 3-5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. viewroyalpreschool.com.

Mill Bay / Cobble Hill Cedar Montessori..................................... 250-710-9007 A beautiful rural setting where children are lovingly supported to learn at their own pace within a stimulating Montessori environment. Starchild Centre........................................ 250-929-3240 Infant/toddler 3 to 5 daycare combines the best of Montessori and Waldorf. Our 9 acre hobby farm enables each child to have a garden plot, participate in planting tree, feeding animals, and other outside adventures. starchildcentre.ca.

DUNCAN Parkside Academy.................................... 250-746-1711 Providing high quality early learning and care from infancy to 12 years of age, in a stimulating, respectful, nurturing, nature based environment with fully educated and passionate early childhood educators. Visit parksideacademy. ca or find us on Facebook. Queen Margaret’s School......................... 250-746-4185 Early Childhood Education Program. Co-ed nurturing curriculum to develop the whole child. Healthy snacks and lunch provided. qms.bc.ca. Queen of Angels Early Learning Centre... 250-701-0433 We believe that the development of the whole child (physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, and spiritually) encourages each individual to develop to their full potential. We offer an enriched full day program for 3–5 year olds based on Kindergarten readiness. Sunrise Waldorf School Preschool........... 250-743-7253 A warm, nature-based Waldorf rhythm where wonder is nurtured. Led by Waldorf trained ECE teachers. sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Chemainus St. Joseph’s Preschool........................... 250-246-3191 An enriching preschool program allowing children to grow as individuals in a safe and nurturing Christian environment.

Qualicum Beach Children’s Discovery Centre................... 250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Licensed preschool, group care and out of school care. Early Childhood Educators. childrensdiscovery centre.ca. childrensdiscoverycentre@hotmail.com. Little Star Children’s Centre................... 250-752-4554 Mother, Daughter owned and operated. Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature. Infused with fun and creative daily yoga practices! Licensed group care. Enthusiastic ECE instructors. littlestardaycare.ca

Port Alberni John Paul II Catholic School.................. 250-723-0637 “Where children grow and learn through play.” We provide a program that will inspire development physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, creatively and spiritually.

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e bought Angus’s crib in part because it was convertible. When he was ready, we could take a side off. Then later, we could buy a conversion kit and turn the crib into a twin bed, which seemed practical before we realized Angus was part beaver, and every inch of the wood would be chewed. I didn’t have any idea when we’d take the side off. We knew some kids who were sleeping in three-sided cribs before they could walk, which to me seemed crazy. I intended to keep Angus contained for years. All through his toddlerhood if I was lucky. And we were lucky. Angus climbed all our furniture, and has three sets of stitches on his head to show for it, but he never tried to escape his crib. Still, just after his second birthday we bought a side rail in preparation. A couple months later, we suggested that first step towards a big-boy bed but Angus would have none of it. He wanted his crib. Not only that, but he refused to sleep unless he was in a crib, so that for camping trips and grandparent visits we had to borrow a Pack ’n Play that Angus’s friend—his own age—had long since outgrown. Angus told us he’d sleep in a bed when he was in kindergarten. Keeping Angus in a crib was fine with Mike and I. At two and a half, Angus switched from a child who was up every hour to one who slept for 12 hours straight each night. We didn’t want to mess with that. Friends complained about their children wandering the house in the middle of the night, and I counted my blessings. There are upsides to having a child who is slow to hit his developmental milestones. By his fourth birthday, Angus still couldn’t dress himself, which meant there were never struggles over what to wear. Naptime isn’t playtime when a kid is contained in his crib. Sure, it’s not fun to change a four-year-old’s diaper, nor is it a blast to wash the walls every time your preschooler uses a spoon, but at four Angus was still napping for over an hour and in bed before 8 p.m. I had time to clean up the carnage. I worried that Angus would be embarrassed about being different from his friends, but he couldn’t care less. Not when I had to cart a travel highchair and a bib to dinners out. Not even when his friend announced

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Maternity & Beyond laUra TrUnkey This summer, things started to change. In the last few months, Angus’s final vestiges of babyhood have been disappearing. He ditched the Pullups for underwear. He learned to put on his clothes with minimal assistance. The naps ended. He finally agreed to take the tray off his highchair and join us at the table for meals. Then, last week, at almost four years, four months, he said: I wish I had a big kid bed. Two days later we took a side off Angus’s crib and fixed the side rail in its place. We gave him a nap for the first time in weeks, because I wanted him to experience the bed when it was light out. Though the door was closed, the noise from behind it made it clear he spent an hour skittering around his room. I dreaded bedtime. In fact, I was so anxious that I lay awake for half the night waiting for Angus to appear in our doorway. He never did. Angus slept right through, and then in the morning rather than getting out of bed, he waited until I came into his room to lift him out. When will Angus transition to a twin? I guess we’ll leave it up to him. He’s short, and likes to sleep curled up anyways. His bedroom is small. Maybe he’ll be the first 15-year-old to rock a toddler bed. So long as he gets out by himself in the mornings, I’m fine with that. Laura Trunkey is mother to the amazing Angus and the author of a forthcoming short fiction collection from House of Anansi. Email laurajtrunkey@gmail.com.

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Breakfast with Orcas Adventures on North Vancouver Island

f the history of civilizations has any wisdom to teach, it is that geographical cures don’t work. Human beings moving away to escape injustice tend to replicate the same conditions in their new home. From this perspective the decision to get behind the wheel to escape the drought in one’s back yard—likely brought on by burning fossil fuels in the first place—seems an act of tragic folly, not to mention hypocrisy. And yet, and yet…

Each of us has special places where we feel utterly alive, part of something greater than ourselves. For many people this special place is by a lake, river or the ocean. For me it is the dry, spare places—the desert landscapes of the South Okanagan, the sagebrush benchlands along the Similkameen, bluebunch wheatgrass standing taller than a man in the rolling hills of Churn Creek on its way to the Fraser. This summer, instead of me visiting the dry places, the drought moved in with us, settling on southern Vancouver Island like an occupying force. Hardly any rain fell from April through July, barely a couple of days in August and September. The Garry Oak meadows were carpeted with prema-

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turely dropped leaves, a stress response even from this drought-hardy species. Smaller lakes—hidden gems like Killarney, Pease, Eagles—became warm, shallow puddles. For days, the sun setting into the Salish Sea was a blood-red ball with a reddish halo from the mainland fires. Mid-Island residents battled their own forest fires. And so my husband and I packed up tent and hiking boots and headed for Malcolm Island. Past the sprawling new construction along Hwy 1, past the clear-cuts, out of the shimmering heat and droopy foliage, the 20-minutes ferry ride from Port McNeill delivered us to a cool and verdant oasis. The Bere Point (pronounced “bear”) campground offered expansive views of the Queen Charlotte Strait and Coast Mountains and miles of beach to explore. Eagles and

ravens vied for possession of a particular treetop near our camp. Every night, the swish of surf soothed us to sleep. Malcolm Island was settled at the turn of the 19th century by a Finnish intentional community seeking to build lives of sharing with each other and harmony with the land.

They built a village and named it Sointula (Finnish for “harmony”). Although the intentional community folded during the Great Depression, the story of Sointula is a remarkable exception to the above stricture regarding geographical cures. The co-op founded by the Finns in 1909 is still a thriving concern, selling local produce, island-fished wild salmon and a range of

Nature Notes ana siMeon necessities, mostly locally made or fairly traded. The village is home to a conservation group, Living Oceans, and residents are vocal about the impact of salmon farms and the importance of protecting wild salmon. This is also the only place in B.C. that I know of that offers free bikes! On our first morning at Bere Point we woke up to sunlight diffused through soft mists, punctuated by gentle showers. As we sat down to a breakfast of freshly-picked salal berries and buckwheat pancakes, we sighted a family of three orca whales, one clearly a young calf. Breakfast was forgotten—though not for long—as they breached and dived and breached again. Cool misty mornings gave way to warm sunny afternoons perfect for long walks and lake swimming. We returned to Victoria infused with love for our Vancouver Island and renewed energy to continue working for a world where humans honour our interdependence with nature. We know that we gained this joy and energy at the cost of more greenhouse gases. It’s a continuous balancing act, assessing what we truly need. It’s intimately personal to our own lives (“yes” to driving to camp within B.C., “no” to flying vacations, small allowance of “love miles” for visiting immediate family). We wish our federal and provincial governments would commit to real action on climate change, which would help anchor our own decisions within a larger communal endeavour. Ana Simeon is a writer and activist in Victoria. She works for Sierra Club BC, the province’s oldest environmental group.

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Cut It Out!

Tips from Parent Educator Allison Rees of LIFE Seminars

Limits, Not Anger

f you parent with a purpose, you give the important issues attention so that you can pre-think what is fair and reasonable. Limits are essentially boundaries. Parents need to set limits on a child’s behavior with regard to family issues, issues to do with health and safety, along with regard for our things and how we treat one another. Often, enforcing a boundary is as simple as having a conversation. External rules need to be taught to a child so those rules can become internal. Sometimes, we need to emphasize the importance of the external rule by taking some kind of action beyond words. Once we set limits, we can impose consequences to show a child the limit’s importance. Consequences are often necessary to enforce limits. This is called “following through.” Limit setting without the ability to follow through is useless; it just teaches the child that you don’t mean what you say, and he learns to push and test the limits

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constantly, and to attune himself more to your moods than to the rules. The child loses respect for both the parent and for the rules. At the same time, the use of consequences can backfire and make matters worse. Too often consequences come out as angry punishments with the adults unleashing their own negative emotions onto the child. This doesn’t teach, it doesn’t protect and is not part of our vision of loving, supportive, parenting. This leaves the child feeling hurt, resentful and angry but powerless to change the parent’s behavior. So, he struggles for power where he can and the negative patterns get locked in. If we use punishment like this, it actually counters the genuine remorse a child might feel. A spanking clears the ledger book of wrong doing. The child may think, “Now we are even and I have nothing to ponder.” Emotional responses like this to our children’s behavior is not discipline, it is lustful behavior from the parent. Following through with corrective conse-

quences is different. They are decided upon when you are calm, they are reasonable and are in the spirit of teaching a boundary that must be in place. Not only can you negotiate consequences, you can discuss how you will behave as well. If you can be consistent and predictable, your kids won’t fear you. In other words, you get out of the way and the follow through can teach. LIFE Seminars has two books available, Sidestepping the Power Struggle and The Parent Child Connection. See www.lifeseminars.com.

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St. Joseph’s Elementary School

St. Joseph’s Elementary School has limited space in all grades (K–7), as well as space in our licensed Group Day Care and Preschool Program. Applications are available on-line or from the school office. St. Joseph’s offers a rigorous academic program in a Catholic Christian atmosphere.

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