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FROM OUR AUG/SEPT 2021 Jim Schneider Publisher publisher@westcoastfamilies.com Bianca Bujan Editor editor@westcoastfamilies.com

fter a 6-month break from WestCoast Families magazine, I’m excited to be back as Editor!

The timing seems perfect as we prepare for the new beginnings that this season has in store for us. September brings a return to school, and for some, a return to work. Eased restrictions mean a return to travel after over a year-and-a-half spent at home. And with new beginnings, comes new opportunities–there’s no better time than now to strive for a healthier lifestyle, and perhaps a new career path, too. We talk about all this—and more—in our Aug/Sept 2021 issue.

Before I get into the highlights of this issue, I’d like to share that after over 20 years as our Owner, Publisher and Managing Editor, Andrea Vance has moved on. We wish her all the best as she embarks on a new adventure, and we are so thankful for all the hard work she has put into making this magazine what it is today. With that being said, we are pleased to welcome the Schneider family—Owners and Publishers of Island Parent—who have taken over ownership of WestCoast Families magazine. The Schneiders are committed to continuing the legacy of building trusted relationships with our loyal readers, business partners and community stakeholders, and we have exciting changes coming your way.

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As we transition into the back-to-school season, this issue is all about learning—both at school, and beyond. I can still remember my first day of school. I wore puffy pigtails with ribbons, a big-collared plaid dress and shiny new shoes. I remember feeling nervous as I stepped into the classroom for the first time, wondering if my teacher would like me, and if I would make new friends.

The first day of school resonates differently with everyone, but for Phyllis Webstad, the trauma of her first day of school still lives with her today. In a story titled, “Why Orange Shirts?”, contributor Joan Sorley of the Orange Shirt Day Society shares the origins of Orange Shirt Day, including Phyllis’s chilling past as a child, who at age 6, attended a residential school, and whose family members did the same for multiple generations. Learn the story behind why we wear orange on Orange Shirt Day, and the importance of the “Every Child Matters” message as we head into a new school year.

As we return to school and work, contributor Nic Enright-Morin shares how to avoid Fall family burnout–a must-read before we adjust to returning to our regular routines post-pandemic. We also talk about wine education on the West Coast, and contributor Nicole MacKay bridges the gap between enthusiast consumer and aficionado through the continued online opportunities that are available to us. Who knows, maybe you’ll discover a new career path as you learn about your favourite wine?

For parents who need a little push when it comes to getting kids to eat healthier meals, contributor Andrea Saliba shares some tips on how to encourage healthy eating at home, plus, an easy-to-make recipe that you’ll want to include in your kids’ lunches.

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With restrictions opening up, we know many families are hoping to return to travel. With this in mind, contributor Claire Newell is sharing all you need to know about keeping unvaccinated kids safe during your travels. We have all this—and more—in our latest issue. We’re excited to be back, and wish you a smooth transition as you approach some new beginnings this season as well.

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WHAT’S NEW? MALAHAT SKYWALK OFFERS A NEW OUTDOOR EXPERIENCE FOR FAMILIES Located on the traditional territory of the Malahat Nation, the new Malahat Skywalk on Vancouver Island (just 35 minutes by car from Victoria) offers sweeping views of the West Coast wilderness, from a perspective never before offered in BC. Standing 250m above sea level, the views from the lookout are reason enough to visit the new attraction, but the views at the top are only just the beginning. The TreeWalk and Spiral Tower make the views easily accessible, and the journey to the top is attainable by kids of all ages.

A stroll across the Adventure Net will give you a bird’s eye view of the tower from above and the Arbutus and Douglas Fir trees that stand on the ground below. Don’t feel like walking back down? The 20m-long Spiral Slide is sure to give you a rush as you whoosh back down to the base of the platform. Complete your visit with a snack at the on-site cafe, and pick up a keepsake from the gift shop before heading home.

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LEGO® REVEALS NEW ECO-FRIENDLY BRICKS MADE OF RECYCLED PLASTIC BOTTLES With an ongoing focus on finding more sustainable ways to produce their popular plastic bricks, LEGO has recently released a new prototype of their classic playthings, created from the PET plastics found in discarded bottles. Since 2015, they have been ramping up their efforts to be a more sustainable toy company, starting with the production of new packaging, moving away from the single-use wraps that were used before.

Then in 2018, they produced toy plants and bushes made of plant-based plastics.

Through the new process of creating more sustainable bricks, the company has discovered that they can produce 10 2X4 Lego bricks using one, single-use, one-litre plastic bottle. The new products will still have to undergo more testing and experimentation before we will see them on stands, but LEGO is confident that environmentally-conscious families will be happy with the results.

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SEPTEMBER IS CHILDHOOD CANCER AWARENESS MONTH AND ISLAND KIDS CANCER ASSOCIATION (IKCA) NEEDS OUR SUPPORT The Island Kids Cancer Association (IKSA) was formed to support kids and families who face the unimaginable. Led by a Board of Directors who are, for the most part, parents who have been there with their kids, the charity knows firsthand what families need with experience navigating systems and the importance of community care and connections.

A grassroots, local charity based in Victoria, IKCA supports kids and youth diagnosed with cancer, including their families across Vancouver Island and the Gulf Islands. They work closely with the frontline staff at Victoria General, Nanaimo Regional, BCCH, BC Cancer Agency in Vancouver (LEAF Clinic) and Canuck Place Children’s Hospice. Their support and outreach includes mental health and wellness through their Touchstones initiative, financial assistance, fuel and grocery vouchers and financial support and community connections.

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THE VANCOUVER AQUARIUM IS NOW OPEN! After holding our breath for over a year, it has now been confirmed that the long-term sustainability of the Vancouver Aquarium, and the affiliated Marine Mammal Rescue program, has been assured thanks to an agreement to transfer ownership to Herschend Enterprises. The new relationship ensures the continuation of the Vancouver Aquarium’s 64 years of success as an animal care and animal rescue facility, a cherished educational venue and one of BC’s top tourist and event destinations.

The Ocean Wise Conservation Association will also continue as an independent, charitable non-profit organization with existing programs such as the Great Canadian Shoreline Cleanup, Ocean Wise Seafood, Ocean Bridge and many others—it will also scale and replicate its successful initiatives across Canada and globally. The Vancouver Aquarium was officially reopened to the public on August 16th, and it’s safe to say that they’ll be around for seasons to come. Be sure to check their website regularly for updates and new exhibits.

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“Our lives may seem different, which is what makes us all so unique. But there’s so much we have in common, too!”

Emmanuel is a fun-loving, eight-year-old boy who shares his first-person stories and experiences of life in the Dominican Republic through posing questions and providing real-life comparisons, connecting with young readers from all backgrounds. Through his journey, children learn about differences and diversity in a way that is easy for them to understand. This newly-released book was written by local author Kelly Strongitharm, Founder and CEO of Canadian charity Ruben’s Shoes Society, an organization that delivers access to education for children in the Dominican Republic. rubensshoes.com | $14.99

Hatley Lightning Clouds Sherpa Lined Colour Changing Splash Jacket Is there anything more fun than running outside and jumping in puddles on a rainy day? Hatley’s latest Fall 2021 line of raincoats are not only super stylish, but they are fully lined, PVC-free and feature exciting colour-changing prints, so kids will want to get wet!

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Gray Monk Odyssey Cabernet Franc Ring in the autumn season with a local glass of red! Harvested in the Osoyoos and Oliver regions of the Okanagan Valley in October 2017, this dry Cabernet Franc combines flavours of smoky oak, spiced blackberry, tobacco, vanilla extract and earthy forest floor with notes of ripe dark fruits, black tea and spice.

This vintage pairs perfectly with red meats, dark chocolate and two-year-old cheddar and asiago cheese. Share a bottle with a friend over a charcuterie spread— or keep it all to yourself if you prefer. graymonk.com | $35.00

LUS Complete Curl Care 3-Step System This one’s for the girls with curls! Canadian brand LUS (Love Ur Self) offers a 3-step hair care system that caters specifically to you and your unique curls. Start by taking the curl-type quiz on their site (are you wavy, curly or kinky-coily?) and then pick your potion. Each product in the “L’ove Ur Curls” line is hypoallergenic, non-irritant and safe for sensitive skin. The Complete Curl Care system comes with a Gentle & Moisturizing Shampoo, Ultra Hydrating & Detangling Conditioner and an All-in-One styler customized specifically for you. lusbrands.com | $64.00

Herschel Heritage Backpacks The Canadian-made backpacks are a backto-school must for active kids! Mesh water bottle pockets make it easy for kids to sip and go, and the woven interior name label means that their pack is less likely to sit in the lost-and-found at school.

Get home safe on the darker days of Fall with the Day/Night Herschel Heritage™ Youth backpack, made for kids ages 5 and up. Featuring a reflective, colour-blocked fabric, the backpack includes a rubber diamond that doubles as a light. Press the diamond once to turn on a steady red light and twice to flash. herschel.ca | $79.99 August/September 2021

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How to Avoid Fall Family Burnout

by Nic Enright-Morin

Preparing for back-to-school post pandemic

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fter the lazy-hazy days of summer, by the time September rolls around, most parents wave their kids off to school, happy to know they are off to nourish their minds. While this is still true, no one can escape the reality that this September, after just having lived through the weirdest school year on record, and with the pandemic still unfolding like a breaking news story, many people are wondering what this school year will bring.

We spoke to some local families to get their tips and advice on how to navigate this school year so that everyone can adjust well to the return to old routines, and sleep well at night, too. Here are five ways that families can avoid family burnout as they return to school this fall.

key to their success last year was having good support from her kids’ remote learning school, her flexible work schedule and planning the week ahead each Sunday night so they were organized and on top of stress before it arose. Jo shared, “Take time to talk to your kids. Reflect on what works and what doesn’t. The biggest thing to avoid burnout is to build a relationship with your child’s teacher, and have clear communication on expectations. You also need to set boundaries for your kids, especially around school work. Things like asking your kids to complete school assignments before having screen time helps them stay on task and manage their time.

Clear rules agreed upon beforehand makes it easier, even if kids don’t always want to follow them.”

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Homeschooling three boys due to the pandemic worked so well for Jo MacDonald, that her family has decided to give it another go this September. A decision she is happy about, as two of her sons are too young to be vaccinated. She said the

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Last September, Emily Kirkham chose distance learning for her daughter CeCe as she was worried that there were not enough pandemic safety plans in place for middle schoolers.

Emily is also immunocompromised, so it was imperative that she minimized her chances of catching COVID-19.

Emily said it was a challenge in the beginning, but ultimately, they both got a lot from the year. ”It was definitely a learning experience for both of us, and initially it was quite overwhelming. But once we got into things, it went well. It really taught CeCe how to schedule her day and plan. She had to figure out how to pace her learning, structure her day, how long each project would take, timelines and deadlines.

That is a skill that some adults don’t even have! I learned a lot

too. We will definitely use those skills this year to reduce our stress levels as CeCe transitions to high school.”

GET ORGANIZED

Last year, Erin Heinrichs had four kids at four different schools, plus she and her husband are both teachers, so they had their schools too! This coming school year they have the same busy schedules. Erin said organization is key. “One of the most important things is to take note of the school calendars. I screenshot them on my phone and keep them in a photo album. Then I add all the dates into our shared family calendar. Early dismissal days and Pro-D days are super important to note. The second main thing is meal planning.

Each weekend, we plan our meals and grocery shop. Then everything is on hand, and whoever can get started on the meal first, knows what’s for dinner. We keep our meal plan and grocery list in “notes’’ which are shared on our phones.”

TAKE THINGS ONE STEP AT A TIME

Madeline Russo homeschooled her child Riley due to COVID-19 concerns. Even though Riley is going back to school this year, it will be a gradual re-entry. That’s so Riley can get used to regular school again, and help their mental health.

Madeline says this year she realized that doing what is right for your family and taking things one step at a time so that you and your child don’t get overwhelmed is critical.

“I have learned so much this year. Letting go of expectations is one big takeaway. It’s important to not put too

much pressure on yourself or your child, because if you feel stressed, they are going to feel stressed. I also think it’s important to safe-guard your own mental health, as you care for your kids and help them on their education journey. Make time for yourself so that you can be there for them without feeling worn out.”

GET YOUR KIDS INVOLVED

Single mom Nancy McGee says last year was a whirlwind with three kids who all needed a ride to a different school.

Factor in that last September she got called to her office (a 45-minute commute), which meant she drove for two hours before she even got to work. She shared, “Last September, I found the pandemic burnout I felt during the early days of COVID-19 returning. I was cranky with my family and nothing felt like fun. So I set up a simple schedule where each kid got a night to make dinner, and had a few chores to complete.” Nancy said involving her family was a game changer.

“I explained to them why we were doing this and they got onboard. It made our school year way easier. Don’t get me wrong, we were not eating gourmet meals and the chores weren’t always done perfectly, but that wasn’t the point.

Everyone tried. It made me feel like I wasn’t on my own, we were working as a unit. I felt less resentment and it taught my kids some great life skills. We will definitely be continuing this plan in the upcoming year—but hopefully with less frozen pizzas!”

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Shifting a Passion for Wine into a Career

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here’s little doubt that most people’s relationship with alcohol went through a journey these past 18 months. Some went dry, perhaps for a week or for a month—or maybe even permanently.

In contrast, others became amateur mixologists or wannabe sommeliers. From an industry standpoint, however, education became more accessible. Whether it was a wine tasting with a favourite BC winery via Zoom or an online course in viticulture, it suddenly became possible to walk among the vines—from the comfort of our couches.

Now that life is slowly adjusting back to normal, people are reprioritizing. Whether it’s a new hobby or a pivot in career, the liquor industry provides many options for people of all knowledge levels. And while it’s possible to do without, official wine certifications can help bridge the gap and lead enthusiasts towards a new career path.

TYPES OF JOBS IN THE WINE INDUSTRY

The number of career options available in the wine industry are infinite. Generally speaking, they can break into two categories. Some paths lead to the creation of wine, such as growing grapes and tending vines (viticulture) or winemaking (viniculture). Other roles support the end product (aka wine in a bottle) through marketing, sales, promotions or service.

For those who enjoy the outdoors and yearn to get their hands dirty, viticulture is an excellent place to start, as many positions are seasonal, especially at wineries that are looking for extra hands during harvest. People who have a knack for science, particularly chemistry, may enjoy winemaking, which is the actual process of turning grape juice into wine through fermentation.

Tourism and hospitality are other components of winery work that connect people who enjoy working with customers. Whether it’s pouring wine for guests from behind a tasting bar, leading a group through a vineyard and cellar tour or welcoming visitors to enjoy an experience at a winery restaurant—there are a slew of immersive wine jobs that invite slightly different skill sets from aspiring workers.

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Even more industry opportunities present themselves once the wine gets packed into cases, then placed onto trucks to become available across the country—or sometimes internationally. People from all specialities, such as accounting, human resources, marketing or sales, can find roles with wine brokers, retailers, distributors or agents. For many positions, a passion for wine is the priority prerequisite. But for others, formal wine certifications will undoubtedly open a door or give a leg up along a new career journey.

WHERE TO GET EDUCATED

Much like any career path, different institutes offer various specialities to study. To pick the right one, it’s essential to know what you want to accomplish in the industry.

For aspirations in wine service or hospitality, focus on education that specializes in training sommeliers. The International Sommelier Guild and the Court of Master Sommeliers are standard routes for all staff working in a restaurant, bar or even at special events.

The Wine and Spirit Education Trust is considered the most standardized wine education program across the globe. The London-based institute has an introductory-level focus on wine service, and a wide range of curriculum that covers pretty much every other aspect of the industry. The format offers four levels–from entry-level to expert–and suits those working in a winery tasting room, in sales and marketing positions with a distributor, or pretty much any role involving selling or the business of wine. Depending on the level, online courses are available. However, for in-person learning, look for WSET programs offered by local educators such as Fine Vintage, Statera or Everything Wine.

With a deeper focus on specific wine regions, the Wine Scholar Guild offers speciality courses. In addition to France, Italy and Spain, master-level certifications are also available for French regions such as Bordeaux, Burgundy and Champagne. All courses are available online.

But some in-person courses are provided locally in Vancouver and Victoria by Cru Consultancy.

For courses in wine science, whether it’s viticulture or viniculture, look into local post-secondary institutes that offer evening or weekend classes. The University of British Columbia offers a course on the Introduction to Wine Science. The Okanagan College also has several certificate options that are wonderful for those seeking entrylevel positions. If being a winemaker is an aspiration, Canada’s only university-level program is offered in Ontario at Brock University.

Of course, there’s always the low-commitment option of increasing wine knowledge one tasting at a time. Available online, seek out the a-la-carte region and tasting sessions on GoodWineGal.ca. Alternatively, to get to know the local wine community, visit Aperomode.ca for casual, in-person tastings happening across Vancouver.

If classes or courses aren’t an option right now, there’s a plethora of information available wherever you look—you just have to ask. Buying a bottle in your favourite wine shop? Ask the clerk or consultant about a particular bottle or their experience with wine education. Visiting a local winery? Inquire about where the grapes grow and where the wine is bottled, or simply look online! WineFolly.com offers the most in-depth, free content for wine lovers looking to connect the dots and understand what exactly goes into a bottle of wine.

Born and raised on the West Coast, Nicole is a mom of twins, a Spanish Wine Scholar through the Wine Scholar Guild, holds her WSET 3 and has written for publications such as SOMM TV, VinePair and Wine Enthusiast.

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Why Orange Shirts?

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remember being 6 years old on my first day of school in 1957, dressed in a new red dress, saddle shoes and white ankle socks and pretty ribbons in my hair. The photo my mom took that day shows a little girl with a big gap-toothed grin. I loved school, I loved to learn and my teacher was kind.

That experience set me up for a lifelong love of learning.

Phyllis Webstad also remembers being 6 years old in 1973, and her first day of school. She was wearing a shiny new orange shirt bought by her grandmother, but the similarities end there. Her beautiful shirt, along with her self-esteem, was torn away on arrival at the residential school and the nuns were anything but kind. She didn’t understand why they took away her shirt, but she learned very quickly that she didn’t matter. The trauma of that experience is still with her today.

As parents, our emotions are mixed as we send our babies off to school; We wonder at how fast they are growing up, and their pride in their readiness for new adventures and we feel a little anxiety as we turn them over to strangers. We take pictures of them dressed up for their first day, and we expect the new adults in their lives will guide and nurture them on their learning journey.

Imagine sending your children off to school, understanding they will be taught they are inferior and their parents are wicked heathens. They will lose their clothing, their hair, their ability to speak their language and even their names. Punishments will be harsh and they will be hungry most of the time. Imagine knowing refusal or resistance could result in jail or worse, all just because you were born Indigenous. Then picture your community with no children.

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by Joan Sorly, Orange Shirt Day Society

Phyllis is Northern Secwepmc from Stswecem’c Xgat’tem (Canoe Creek/Dog Creek) First Nation. She and her cousins were the third generation to attend St. Joseph’s Mission Indian Residential School in Williams Lake, BC. Her grandmother attended the same school for 10 years, as did each of her 10 children. Phyllis says that her experience was “a walk in the park” compared to theirs, as she only attended for 1 year, and she doesn’t remember receiving harsh punishment.

She didn’t go to school at the institution as the children were bussed into public school by the time she attended, and she remembers a kind teacher.

In 2013, Phyllis was asked to speak on behalf of the former students of the Mission, at a press conference in Williams Lake. She found the courage to share her traumatic first day, and the seed for Orange Shirt Day was planted. The first Orange Shirt Day was held on September 30th that year, and it has since grown into an international movement. September 30, 2021 will be the first National Day for Truth and Reconciliation, a federal statutory holiday. Orange has now become the colour which expresses our support for residential school survivors and grief for those who did not survive.

Phyllis and her cousins are both intergenerational survivors, and direct survivors. Two generations ahead of them deprived of family, community and culture meant that they never learned parenting skills, or to express love for their children.

Phyllis’s son, Jeremy, was born when she was just 13 years old, and she credits her aunt with giving her the strength and support that enabled her to raise him while still a child herself.

Phyllis and her family are among the estimated 150,000

Indigenous children in Canada who were separated from their parents, and taken to residential schools funded by the federal government and operated by the churches. Many suffered emotional, physical and sexual abuse, and it is estimated that at least 6,000 died. There were 139 such schools across Canada, and the last one did not close until 1997.

Today, Phyllis is married and a grandmother of five. She is the Ambassador/Founder of the Orange Shirt Society, and dedicates her life to raising awareness of the impacts of the residential school system. She has written three books, and co-authored a fourth. She is a powerful speaker, presenting to students of all ages and to corporate and government staff. She says she is honoured and humbled, knowing her story has become the catalyst for reconciliation and learning about the residential schools.

Wearing an orange shirt shows you acknowledge the ongoing harms of the residential schools, it expresses your solidarity with Indigenous people as they continue to heal and it sends the message that “Every Child Matters.” Phyllis and the Orange Shirt Society have turned the trauma of her first day of school into a defiant symbol of taking back her power along with her shirt.

The government that did this to us will never go to jail for what they did.

Whenever I see someone wearing an orange shirt and witness children in schools learning about what happened to us, it feels like a little bit of justice in our lifetime.

– Phyllis Webstad

Orange Shirt Society is a non-profit organization registered in BC, dedicated to supporting reconciliation, raising awareness of the continuing impacts of the residential school system and to promoting the concept of “Every Child Matters.” Its staff and volunteer Board members are both indigenous and non-indigenous. Joan Sorley is a nonindigenous founding member of the Board and currently serves as Treasurer. To learn more about Phyllis’s story, her books, Orange Shirt Day and Orange Shirt Society, please visit orangeshirtday.org.

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5 Quick Tips to Encourage Healthy Eating at Home

by Andrea Saliba, Certified Holistic Nutritionist

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e want our children to eat a variety of healthy fruits, vegetables, whole grains and proteins so that they can grow healthy and strong. Unfortunately, getting kids to eat foods that are good for them can be very challenging. As a mother of four, I can say that I understand this struggle all too well. One day my kids love a certain food, and the next, they are turning their noses up at that very same dish. So what is a parent to do?

helps to build strong muscles and immunity, carbohydrates consist of healthy whole grains, fruits and vegetables and healthy fats help with healthy brain development. Show them examples of each nutrient, and have fun packing their lunch box together incorporating items that contain these three important nutrients. Treat it like a scavenger hunt in the fridge.

To help make mealtime a little less stressful, I would like to offer you five tips on what you can start doing now to get your children to eat healthier and enjoy trying new things:

Monkey see, monkey do! If you want your child to eat right, lead by example. Children are always watching your every move. Model healthy examples in the home and set a foundation for them to follow.

1) GET THEM INVOLVED.

Have your child help you prepare family meals or have a family menu board where they can help pick what the family will be having for breakfast, lunch and dinner each day. Set some rules like each meal must have a vegetable, a whole grain and a protein. When they are involved in the planning and preparation, they are more likely to eat the food.

2) EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN ON WHY IT’S GOOD TO EAT HEALTHY.

Teach your child that our bodies need three very important nutrients: protein, carbohydrates and healthy fats. Explain to them that protein

3) BE AN EXAMPLE.

4) BUY FUN LUNCH BOXES.

There are so many fun and unique lunch boxes available. I’ve found that by purchasing a style or colour they enjoy, it creates more excitement for them when it’s time to eat what’s inside.

5) GROCERY SHOP TOGETHER.

Bring your child to the grocery store and ask them to fill your cart with vegetables from each colour of the rainbow. Teach them to look for snacks that have 8 grams of sugar or less. I’ve played this activity with my kids and they really have fun with it! Plus, it is a great way to educate them to become mindful of the food choices they make in a way that is easy for them to understand.

To help you get started with healthier lunch choices for kids, try this easy, healthy recipe idea that incorporates vegetables, fruits, whole grains and protein.

KIDS PASTA SALAD Serves 6–8 Ingredients 300 grams of quinoa, brown rice, or macaroni 1 red bell pepper, chopped 1 cup carrots, cooked and cooled 1 cup peas, cooked and cooled 1⁄2 red onion, chopped (optional) Photo: @saydann (Sayra DD)

Dressing 2 limes, juiced 1⁄2 teaspoon honey 1 teaspoon grainy Dijon mustard 1⁄4 cup extra virgin olive oil Directions Prepare the quinoa/rice/pasta as directed on the box.

Have all of the veggies ready to go and set aside.

Once the pasta is cooled, place it into a large mixing bowl.

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Top with all of the veggies and the chopped onion.

Pour the dressing over top and mix well.

Andrea Saliba is a Certified Holistic Nutritionist, Health Coach and mother of four.

She is the creator of an online holistic wellness coaching program, The 30 Day Wellness Journey, where she coaches women on how to ditch dieting and implement a healthy, well-balanced way of eating and living that will last a lifetime. She has been nominated as one of Canada’s Top Health Leaders four years in a row by Optimyz Magazine, spoken publicly many times for various community events and has been a guest on Global TV Vancouver. Andrea is currently writing a cookbook which will be released in Winter 2021.

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PLAY After a busy week of work and school, it’s time to wind down and enjoy some family time, but what can you do that everyone will enjoy?

When weekends roll around, parents are often met with “We’re bored, what can we do?” from adventureseeking kids. Here’s a list of local activities to consider– whether you’re looking to connect with nature, or while away a rainy day indoors.

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You’ll be transported to the islands as soon as you enter the Hawaiithemed space, and you’ll learn all about the traditions of Hawaii during the fascinating pre-show. Then, it’s time to prepare yourself for a spectacular flying ride where you’ll glide over cliffs, tropical forest and active volcanoes while feeling the wind and mist on your face.

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Whistler Weekend Four Alpine Adventures to Try This Fall

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by Bianca Bujan

n Whistler, the winter months are all abuzz—the snowy slopes packed with swarms of skiers and boarders. The summer months sizzle too, bringing backcountry hikers and downhill bikers to the scene for a taste of adventure on the outdoor playground. Both seasons are high-traffic and high-energy in the slope-side village where the Winter Olympics once called home. But for those who are looking for a quieter escape, with fewer faces and wide open spaces, Whistler makes for a perfect autumn escape. Here are just some of the ways that families can pass the time with an adventurous weekend in Whistler this Fall.

ZIPLINE OVER THE VALLEY

TAKE A HIKE TO THE TRAIN WRECK Whistler’s iconic Train Wreck Hike is the most unique hiking spot in the area, featuring a swinging suspension bridge that hangs over rushing rapids, which leads to a series of rainbow-coloured train boxcars that can be found scattered throughout an opening in the middle of the forest. The result of a train derailment that happened in 1956, the boxcars have become an ever-changing display of public graffiti art, a climbing playground for adventurous travellers and a track for risk-taking mountain bikers. The trek to the train wreck takes less than half an hour (one way), and the sights to be seen are more than worth the walk to the wreckage.

Home to the longest zipline in Canada and the US, Whistler wows with treetop adventures fit for all ages. Through Ziptrek Ecotours, families can choose from a range of sky-high activities. The Bear Tour (suitable for families with kids 6+) is the perfect starting point for first-time zipliners—a 2.5 hour tour that takes you whizzing across 4 ziplines, and teetering along 4 treetop bridges and viewing platforms. True thrillseekers will want to take a try at The Sasquatch (suitable for families with kids 10+, participants must weigh 75+ pounds).

Spanning a distance of over 2kms, and stretching from peak to peak, this zipline offers the rush of a lifetime.

GO FOR AN ADVENTUROUS NIGHT WALK AT VALLEA LUMINA As the sun goes down, and the trees become shadowy silhouettes against the bright night sky, guests step into the darkness of dimly-lit trails and enter a wilderness wonderland, filled with songs, stories and incredible sights. The Vallea Lumina multimedia night walk, which can be found on Cougar Mountain (just outside of Whistler), is part of a multi-city series created by Montreal-based The Moment Factory.

This enchanting experience combines the sounds of a Cirque du Soleil soundtrack, with high-tech light and video technology and the magic and wonder of the woods that surround Whistler. As you stroll along the trails, you follow the journey of a father-daughter duo - the legend of two long-ago hikers - and see what they discover in the depths of the forest.

Through stunning visuals, soothing songs and curious clues, you’ll uncover the mysteries that surround you.

SPOT WILDLIFE & WILDERNESS VIEWS ON THE PEAK 2 PEAK GONDOLA Journey to the highest peak of the mountain on the Guinness World Record breaking PEAK 2 PEAK Gondola, recognized as the longest and highest lift, which takes you from the tip of Whistler Mountain to the top of Blackcomb. Enjoy views of snow-capped mountains, turquoise lakes and sky-high trees, and look for black bears below as you soar through the sky. For an added rush, opt for the glass-bottom gondola and enjoy 360-degree views as you sail across the summits. Once at the top, there are 50 kilometres of hiking trails to explore.

WHERE TO STAY After a day filled with alpine adventures, relax and reset at Delta Whistler Village Suites.

Located in the heart of Whistler Village, this all-suites, pet-friendly hotel provides the perfect home base for families. With a quiet indoor/outdoor heated swimming pool, kids can cool off and splash around with ease, and the three hot tubs provide ample space for soaking sore muscles at the end of the day. The rooms come fully equipped with stocked kitchens, fireplaces and plush bedding for a cozy night’s sleep.

WHERE TO EAT For breakfast, head to Crepe Montagne, a cozy French creperie offering sweet and savory breakfast crepe options, made fresh before your eyes. PureBread is the perfect lunch stop, where you can grab a cup of coffee and some freshly-baked goods to enjoy on the go. For dinner, Caramba Restaurant offers a fun dining experience with a variety of food options fit for every palate. Big portions of pasta and pizza make it easy to share. And a stay in Whistler wouldn’t be complete without cooling off with a cone of your favourite flavour from Cows Whistler.

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Keeping Unvaccinated Kids Safe When Travelling

by Claire Newell, Travel Best Bets

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fter almost a year and a half of living with the pandemic, everyone is eager to return to some sense of normalcy.

For many families, this includes travelling. However, for families with children 12 and under who currently aren’t able to get COVID-19 vaccines, travel is still complicated and hesitancy looms. Here are some important things to consider before booking your next family vacation.

VACCINES

Federal experts who warned about the dangers of travel earlier in the pandemic now say fully vaccinated p ​ eople can travel without the need to quarantine for 14 days upon arrival back into Canada. However, experts still advise against any nonessential travel for unvaccinated i​ndividuals. And, unfortunately, vaccines aren’t yet available for children under the age of 12. This means that while parents who are vaccinated are protected, travelling now may still put their younger children at risk.

QUARANTINE CHANGES

As of August 9th, fully vaccinated Canadians will be allowed to return to Canada without the need to quarantine for 14 days. When it comes to fully vaccinated parents and guardians travelling with children under the age of 12, who are not yet eligible for any of the Health Canada-approved vaccines, they can breathe a small sigh of relief. Instead of forcing those families to keep their young kids in quarantine for two weeks, they can carry on as usual, provided the children stay away from locations or situations where young

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children congregate, like at daycares, schools or camps, for at least 14 days. The government has not provided a detailed list of locations to avoid, but parents and guardians should use common sense. The goal is to reduce the risk of transmissions in indoor group settings. Outside activities are always a safer bet.

Regardless of vaccine status or whether you are travelling with young kids, keep in mind that everyone entering Canada, whether they have been immunized against COVID-19 or not, must submit a pre-arrival PCR test (anyone over the age of 5) and a quarantine plan through the ArriveCAN app or web portal prior to entry.

Airlines will be responsible for ensuring that passengers have fully submitted their information before they board their flight.

Travellers crossing by land must be organized and have their documents uploaded and saved before they make their way into the country.

This cannot be a last minute consideration. If you are planning to travel, ensure that you are sorted out before you leave.

IF YOU DECIDE TO TRAVEL

Not all vacations or trips carry the same level of risk. It would be safer to travel by car to a vacation rental than to fly to a busy hotel or to spend the week at a crowded beach. What should be top of mind is thinking about the number of close contacts you’ll likely have during the course of your trip. The simple fact is: the more contacts you face, the higher the risk.

HOW TO LOWER TRAVEL RISKS

Encourage everyone in your family who is eligible, and those who you are planning to visit, to get their vaccines.

Many COVID-19 infections come from household contacts.

Check the COVID-19 spread rates in the city where you plan to visit. Locations with high rates of community spread, mean a higher risk of someone in your family being exposed to COVID-19. If the intended destination has a high rate of spread, be extra cautious by practicing social distancing, frequent hand washing and wearing a mask. Keep in mind that outdoor activities are safer than indoor ones. ​ On a plane, bus, train, or other form of public transportation, make sure everyone in the family wears a mask, even those who are fully vaccinated–and keep them on at the airport or in the station.

Try to travel by car whenever possible. While the airline industry has taken amazing steps to help lower the risk of COVID-19 transmission (air exchange, HEPA air filters, electrostatic spraying), travelling by car will limit your contact with the public. During any rest stops, remember to wear masks and wash hands with soap and water for 20 seconds. Also, consider packing your own food and snacks.

If you fly, I recommend booking direct flights whenever possible. This will limit the need to change planes and walk through busy airports. Keep your masks on for the entire flight, and consider opting out of meals on short flights so you don’t have to remove them. And don’t forget to bring disinfectant wipes to sanitize all the high-touch areas around you.

Along with toothbrushes, diapers and portable cribs, be sure to tote along the important pandemic essentials. Pack at least two masks per child in case one is lost or being washed after use. When packing hand sanitizer, include a travel-size dispenser that can be stored in a purse or backpack as well as a larger container for refills.

COVID-19 has affected everyone and the past year has been stressful for families. The urge to travel might be tempting, but the pandemic is not over yet and it’s important to consider the risks. As the vaccine rollout plan proceeds, your family will be able to enjoy a relaxing trip soon. ​

CURRENT REQUIREMENTS TO VISIT SOME COMMON DESTINATIONS* Mainland US: All travellers over the age of 2 must have proof of a negative COVID-19 antigen or PCR test from within 72 hours of departure.

Hawaii: All travellers age 18 and older must register for the Safe Travels Hawaii online program before their departure. They must upload a negative COVID-19 test result from an approved lab within 72 hours of their flight to Hawaii.

Mexico: All Canadians need to do is complete a risk-factor questionnaire.

When coming home to Canada: Currently ALL passengers (over age 5) must pay for a pre-flight PCR test taken within 72 hours of their return flight to Canada. *Requirements are subject to change and reflect the status on day of print.

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The Inner Conflicts of a Feminist Mom

by Jeanne Petit-Humphries

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with glee when I saw her wearing pretty clothes. So why is it that when I saw her emerge from the change room this time, dressed in a skirt and shirt, I couldn’t sputter out a “No” fast enough?

The irony is not lost on me that only a few years ago I remember begging my daughter to wear a dress or a skirt, anything but her ratty jeans and dirty sweatshirt that she had worn for three straight days. When she was eight or nine I would gush

If you haven’t already guessed, my daughter was wearing what the fashion world is increasingly putting forward as clothing for girls—the shorter-than-short skirts, underwear that covers even less and shirts where the only purpose seems to be to highlight what lies underneath. If I was an optimist or foolish enough to give the fashion world the benefit of the doubt, I could believe that perhaps clothing designers are worried that our daughters are going to overheat, or that girls (and their bodies) deserve total freedom. The problem

heard a woman snicker the other day as my fourteen-yearold came out of the change room. She wasn’t laughing at my daughter, but at me. I’m not surprised given the look I must have had on my face as my daughter stepped out. It only took a split-second glance at my innocent baby for me to say “No” and point her back into the changing room. Why the woman snickered is up for discussion, but I’d be willing to bet that she too had experienced that moment when one’s beliefs and reality collide.

my three daughters were babies. The difference now is, my teen daughter is no longer being offered girls’ clothes, but clothes for women.

Truth be told, my grumbling has taken on new levels lately.

Because my daughter looks like a woman, people believe that she is one, even though she is still a child. The fact that she is perceived as an adult can have many repercussions, going from rather innocent to worrisome. For one, people have expectations of her behaviour that may not coincide with her developmental capabilities. Sure, she looks like an adult, but she may not realize the ramifications of the clothes she buys. She may believe, as some people assert, that sexualized clothing can empower women. And yet, I cannot help but question if the sexualization of young girls in the media and by the clothing industry has more to do with consumerism than feminism.

Trust me, the irony is not lost on me that I regularly tell my daughters that they can be anything that they want to be, that they are equal to men, that they can wear what they want, and in the next breath, tell them that under no uncertain terms can they buy or wear certain articles of clothing. I know I am not being politically correct here. We live in an age where people should be able to wear whatever they want in schools, at the workplace and on the street. I know this and fully support this…in theory.

is that my rational brain knows this is not the case. One only needs to look at boys’ clothing to know that the (lack of) clothes destined for girls is not so innocent.

Arguably, the clothing industry’s sexualization of girls is not new. What is changing, however, is the age at which girls are being sexualized by the fashion world (and others). Case in point: they sell very skimpy underwear to six-year-old girls now. At that age, in my humble opinion, girls should be hanging upside down from tree branches, jumping into puddles or rolling in the grass and not worrying about panty lines. They also sell padded bras to girls who need no more support than their male counterparts. Given that “adult” clothing is starting earlier and earlier, it is no wonder that by the time girls reach the mature age of 14 they are being sold clothes that, at best, make them look like adult women.

I’ve been told that the problem is not limited to girls. Dressing boys is an equally complex process these days for parents who do not necessarily want to see their sons transformed into camouflaged soldiers, vampires or scary looking dinosaurs. My sister has two sons, 3 and 5, and they both gravitate towards the girls’ clothing sections because they like the butterflies, sunshine and bright colours. Who can blame them? Have you ever stood in the middle of a children’s clothing store and noted the difference? On one side one can find dark colours, and on the other, the occasional yellow to break up a sea of pink and red. The genderization of children is not new to me—I have been grumbling about it ever since

I am a feminist and will always believe that men and women are equals. The problem is, if I assert that message strongly, then in theory a woman should be able to walk down the street shirtless (as many men still do) without eliciting any response—but this is still not the case. In fact, it is still hard for many women to walk anywhere without having men look at them, make a comment, brush up against them, make them feel uncomfortable or worse. I see how some men—grown men—look at my daughter, and I just want to wrap her up in my arms because she is still, and will always be my baby—despite attempts to portray her as the opposite.

My daughter does not always agree with my rails against the clothing industry, and I have been accused more than once of being “very uncool.” I can only hope that my daughter will one day forgive me for my apparent contradictory stance on women’s rights. That she will understand that her mother is an ardent feminist who believes in total equality, but who frequently also must say a very vehement “No” to clothes that condemn her to continued oppression and inequality. ​​ Jeanne Petit-Humphries has advanced degrees from the University of Toronto in French Literature with a specialization in Women and Gender Studies, and is very proud of her three daughters who, despite occasional eye-rolls, are increasingly understanding of the need to be feminist even when it can make you seem “unfashionable.”

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8 Best Cars for Carpooling Kids

by Connie Peters, shebuyscars.ca

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ooking for a vehicle that can pack in more kids as you return to the back-to-school carpool routine? I hear you. I have 3 kids and often have a few extras tagging along as well. Whether it’s afterschool playdates, soccer games, or field trips, us parents often end up driving our kids’ friends places too, sometimes on a very regular basis.

This is why I had a minivan through all of the years that my girls were in car seats, and then we transitioned to a 3-row SUV to accommodate the extra kiddos coming along with us almost everywhere we went.

To help you maximize your space, here are my all-time favourite cars that accommodate six or more passengers—from budget-friendly, to earth-friendly, to luxury and even performance vehicles.

2022 KIA CARNIVAL The Carnival is a brand new vehicle offered by Kia and it doesn’t look like any other minivan on the market. Kia designed it as a Life Utility Vehicle, and it has so much luxury you don’t feel like you’re inside a minivan.

What I love: Second-row reclining seats with footrests and heated and ventilated seats. Don’t tell me your older kids wouldn’t live for this on a road trip. Plus, Drive Modes for you, including Sport!

Starting Price: $34,795 Seats: Up to 8, depending on trim Drive: Front-Wheel Drive Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 40.2 Fuel Economy: 11 L/100 KM 2021 TOYOTA SIENNA For this model year, Toyota introduced a beautiful, more-SUV-looking body style–and even better, all their trims for the Sienna are now Hybrid. This means you’re saving money and saving the planet, what more could you want?

What I love: Lots of console storage up front for your purse, and 16 cup holders throughout to keep everyone happy.

Starting Price: $39,990 Seats: Up to 8 depending on trim Drive: Front-Wheel Drive with All-Wheel Drive available Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 33.5 Fuel Economy: 6.7 L/100 KM

Minivans I know, I know, you don’t want to be the “minivan mom”, but just hear me out. There are several reasons I adored my Honda Odyssey when my girls were small and child-seat aged. Minivans have the most cargo space of almost any vehicle when the passenger space is all occupied.

They also tend to cost less to purchase, insure and fuel up than a 3-row SUV. Sliding doors are the most convenient thing since sliced bread, I’m not lying. Just ask any parent of a door-slinging child how they feel about narrow parking spaces in between two cars, or even in their own garage. Sliding doors also make it so much easier to lift toddlers, infant car seats and that giant diaper duffle into the car, hands free.

While I truly adore the Honda Odyssey—and not just because I’ve owned two of them, and I love their body style and interior functionality, I’m going to have to also choose these two as my favourites, and I’ll tell you why.

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3-row SUVs You will find a large variation of passenger and cargo space as well as price points with these 3-row SUVs. Some are meant for occasional extra passengers, and some are more comfortable for everyday 3rd row

use. Your choice will depend on budget, of course, but also whether or not you need that third row every day or just occasionally for carpooling.

MITSUBISHI OUTLANDER 2022 The Mitsubishi Outlander is not just a great small SUV, it’s also coming soon in a plug-in electric hybrid (PHEV) model. And, it has a standard third row to boot!

The newly redesigned for 2022 Mitsubishi Outlander is chock-full of value. It has so many excellent features for the price, all while looking fantastic.

Starting Price: $31,998 Seats: 7 Drive: All-Wheel Control (AWC) which essentially means All-Wheel Drive Towing: 1,500 to 3,500 lbs Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 33.5 Fuel Economy: 8.9L/100 KM KIA SORENTO The Sorento really surprised me with its killer exterior design combined with so many features comparable to its price. If you like this one, a step up in size (and price) would be the Telluride, but it’s difficult to get your hands on one, and the Sorento quite honestly, has the better exterior design.

Top trims include leather, second row captain’s chairs and a panoramic sunroof.

Starting Price: $33,995 Seats: 6 or 7, depending on trim level Drive: All-Wheel Drive Towing: 2,800-3,500 lbs Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 12.6 Fuel Economy: 9.7 L/100 KM MAZDA CX-9 The CX-9 looks and feels premium, but it comes with a more moderate price tag than many of its competitors. The top trim even gets you a second-row middle console, and heated seats for your picky passengers.

Starting Price: $40,300 Seats: 6 or 7 depending on trim Drive: All wheel drive Towing: 3,500 lbs Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 14.4 Fuel Economy: 9.1L/100 KM

Luxury & Performance So here’s where you’ll find that fun-to-drive factor and performance, combined with luxury. Of course, the price tags will match your expectations in all cases. But, if your budget can handle it, why not go all out and be the star in the carpool lane.

VOLVO XC90 T8 R-DESIGN PLUG-IN HYBRID The XC90 combines electric motors and a turbo-charged engine to create a powerful, luxury ride. It even lowers with air ride suspension when you put it in Polestar Engineered Drive Mode, which feels very sporty.

Plus, it’s a plug-in hybrid meaning you can get up to 40 kilometers in pure electric range. That means I could go all week without putting

gas in it if I plugged it in at home every night on my normal level 1 plug.

Starting Price: $61,250 Seats: 6 or 7, depending on trim level Drive: All-Wheel Drive Towing: 5,000 lbs Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 15.8 Fuel Economy: 9.2 L/100 KM TESLA MODEL X Being a pure electric vehicle means you won’t ever have to stop at the gas station again. The Model X has a third row, and the coolest gull wing doors making it stylish, yet functional.

Starting Price: $124,990 Seats: 5, 6 or 7 Drive: All-Wheel Drive Towing: 5,000 lbs Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 12.7 Fuel Economy: None!

MERCEDES-AMG GLS 63 I’ve tested the Mercedes-Benz GLS 450 and fell in love with the luxury and the space it offers. The AMG version just gets more fun behind the wheel. This beast has 3 rows, seats 7 and performs on the drag strip too (I’m kidding, don’t take your family car to the drag strip).

But if you want to, Mission Raceway offers Friday Night Street Legal Racing, and you could test out the 0–100MPH time of 4.2 seconds in this family hauler.

Starting Price: $160,900 Drive: All-Wheel Drive Towing: 7,700 lbs Cubic Feet of Rear Cargo Space behind 3rd row: 17.4 Fuel Economy: 15.7L/100 KM So which of these economical, earth-friendly or performance carpool lane regulars suits you best?

Connie Peters loves test driving new cars every week while mom’ing around the Lower Mainland. Find her on Instagram at @xoconniepeters to see her daily car content.

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SPECIAL NEEDS

The Importance of Inclusivity How kids can support their neurodiverse friends at school

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s we ease into a new school year, adjusting to early mornings and packing lunches once more, new kids and new teachers are getting introduced to my atypical, neurodiverse, different, unusual, quirky, non-verbal, highly sensitive, curious, funny, goofball of a special kid.

According to the National Symposium on Neurodiversity, “neurological differences are to be recognized and respected as any other human variation.”

So this means that Autism and ADHD or Tourette Syndrome and also PraderWilli Syndrome create diverse individuals who vary from the norm, but are still within human variation. People who are neurodiverse, in other words, are not weird, though they may be rare.

My son, Colwyn, is neurodiverse.

He has a dual diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder and Prader-Willi Syndrome(PWS). He’s also just a kid. He is quirky, like we all are. He has interests and passions. He can be fickle, and he can be steadfast.

The list of behaviours or characteristics of Autism and PWS are useful tools, but they do not define Colwyn.

For those who teach him, or are in class with him, it’s important not to make assumptions based on labels or even behaviours, but look at and listen to the kid who is standing before them.

Colwyn is good at teaching people to be open and accepting. He loves it when people get him right away especially if he can show off his goofy sense of humour and be truly accepted.

So here are a few reminders to help us work toward being open and easy with neurodiverse kids: 1. Slow down and listen. Colwyn does speak but he is quiet, he often whispers and he only speaks part of the word.

He also signs and uses an iPad to communicate as well as his whole self: eyes, hands, smile. If you meet a kid who is quiet, try to stop and listen; slow down a little, give them time to say what they 28

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want to say. When someone takes the time to understand him, he’s so elated he literally skips down the street.

2. Remember that processing speeds are different, so avoid repeating instructions and wait. By repeating “Please go and get your iPad from the living room,” I reset Colwyn’s processing and so we wait longer while he decodes the request.

by Yvonne Blomer 3. Allow for more time. A friend, Noelle Allen, recounts a time when she told her son Samuel, who has Down Syndrome, to be “Quick as a bunny,” when getting ready for school and he responded, “No, slow like a snail.” Not only is Samuel letting his mom know his preference, he’s using his sense of humour to make his point.

4. Recognize the unique needs of neurodiverse kids. Just as cyclists benefit from bike lanes because they create a unique and designated space for the cyclist, so too do neurodiverse kids benefit from special programs and adaptations to accommodate their needs and lifestyles. The school system, teachers and helpers, classmates, people at parks and in stores now recognize that Colwyn is different. Most guess Autism. This recognition is great, because most people know how to adjust their behaviour, rather than expect Colwyn to. Beyond recognition we also need to provide access and support to the environments in which neurodiverse people learn, work and live.

5. Recognition is an important step.

We also must implement changes.

To return to my bike lane metaphor, the increase in cycling traffic in areas with bike lanes can improve the lives of city and street users. Lorne Daniel, founder of Greater Victoria Placemaking Network says, when speaking of city infrastructure that, “Streets with protected bike lanes, wide sidewalks, mid-block street crossings and such are more inclusive and create a more equitable street.” His view of city planning can work as a metaphor for how to be equitable and inclusive of neurodiverse people.

Curb cuts are another example. A curb cut is a wedge cut out of the elevated curb to allow smooth passage to the street. It was meant to benefit

people in wheelchairs but helps people who are visually impaired, carrying heavy bags, pushing strollers or walkers, people who are drunk, movers and delivery people. It’s important to allow for more equitable access at every level of society—from shopping (Thrifty Foods now offers sensory friendly shopping days); to schools (SD61 has protected the special ed program at Arbutus Middle School) and movie theatres (some now offer sensory friendly screenings). The hope is we will continue to move forward in creating a liveable world for all diversities including my dancing, stomping, skipping, neurodiverse kiddo.

6. My last major tip is to see the person and let them be who they are. I fall into the mom trap of taking everything too seriously and letting every little anxious screech feel like the end of the world.

The more seriously I take everything, the more serious it becomes. The more I laugh, dance and teach my son to accept himself, the happier and more relaxed we all are. If someone is a bit surprised or uncomfortable when Colwyn is too close, I say something like, “Hi, this is Colwyn. He’s interested in your…moustache, bald head, dog, leash, curly hair, face…etc.”

At the dentist recently Cowlyn wore sunglasses, had Van Morrison on the iPad, held his own tiny mirror and entertained his hygienist. I heard a few quiet “a booos” come from his cubical, as well as lots of laughter, goofy gasps, a relatively quiet howl and the repetition

Yvonne Blomer is a Victoria writer and the past Poet Laureate of Victoria. Her most recent books are Sugar Ride: Cycling from Hanoi to Kuala Lumpur and Refugium: Poems for the Pacific. of the name Angus. When the dentist came to see him, I joined Colwyn and his dad and after we talked about his teeth, he gave his dentist an epic high five and with the tiny mirror gripped in Colwyn’s hand, the dentist had a look. The appointment ended with Colwyn wearing the dentist’s magnifying specs to look at his hands, followed by him visiting all the other cubicles. At worst, we are disruptive and silly. At best, Colwyn makes people laugh, gets his teeth cleaned and builds on existing relationships.

Most days I’m living in the moment with Colwyn whose favourite song, activity or person is always the song, activity or person right in front of him.

He keeps us grounded in the present.

Big shifts like the start of school rattle my nerves but Colwyn soothes them with his delight. Sure, he struggles a lot and must work hard for every milestone and that will likely never change, but his struggles are eased by good people, supportive spaces and his awesome attitude.

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