Parent Connection: October 20, 2011

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Art Day Tomorrow!

Followed by a Pep Rally

October 20, 2011

Connection

Breaking News

Basketball Shooting Clinic

Island School is hosting a clinic with The Basketball Doctor on November 1-4, from 6-9 p.m. in the Wilcox Gymnasium. The fee is $150 for four full sessions of professional instruction. Class includes advanced moves and skills, game situations and practicing concepts. All participants receive a workout DVD, a Basketball Doctor T-shirt and a products catalog with great savings.

For more information, visit www. basketballdoctor.net, or call Coach Cheryl Claypoole at 808.635.9226.

Open to boys and girls ages 12 and up.

SCUBA Club Review at Koloa - Sunday, Oct. 23rd

Divers are encouraged to sign up for this dive and get familiar with the gear, explore the Koloa reef and get prepared for a deep boat dive on Sunday, October 30. Open to certified divers only. $36 includes rental of equipment and two tanks of air.

Must have DAN insurance. Contact Joe Corbo by tomorrow to sign up. joecorbo@ischool.org.

Fundraisers for Chorus

Car Wash - Sat. Oct. 22 At King Auto - to benefit Island School Alaka‘i Chorus Trip to O‘ahu.

8:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m.

Cars -$8.00; Trucks/Vans - $10.00 Tickets available from Island School Alaka‘i Chorus members and the Front Office. Or just drive on in!

Pizza Hut Night - Monday, Oct. 24 Purchase any regularly priced items from any Hawai‘ i Pizza Hut on Monday, October 24 and they will donate 25% of the proceeds to us.

Simply present the attached flyer when making payment. All Hawai‘i Pizza Huts participate, so feel free to share the flyer with friends or family on other islands.

Flu Clinic Tuesday for K-8

Reminder for those whose children have signed up to receive the flu vaccination. It will be held next Tuesday, October 25, during school in the Weinberg Gym.

Middle School Volleyball Starts This Week

Students in middle school are invited to come out for the first volleyball intramural meeting and practice today from 3 - 5 p.m. in the Wilcox Gymnasium. Students should bring gym shoes, work out clothes (or a gym uniform), and water. Pick up is at 5:00. There will be a practice and a game on every Monday, from 3-4 p.m. (Oct. 31, Nov. 7, 14 and 28). A tentative VB tournament with other middle school teams is being scheduled on Friday, Dec. 2, from 3 - 7 p.m. For more information, contact Liz Hubbard, at liz@ischool.org.

Pep Rally Friday

The entire school will attend a pep rally at 2:00 p.m. in the Wilcox Gymnasium to honor our fall athletes. The rally is also bringing attention to Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and will include a rally-for-a-cure race and a fun fashion show. Students are encouraged to bring a pink accessory to school to wear at the Pep Rally (hats, boas, sun glasses). Anyone who

Click on the Calendar tab on our website. has a pink Island School T-shirt is encouraged to wear it on Friday.

Robotics Team On Trash Detail

High school students are invited to join the Robotics team on Nov. 19, on their community service project.

They will be picking up highway trash from 8:00 a.m. - noon (location to be determined). This is a great opportunity to earn community service hours. Contact Charlene Steuri for more information at charlenesteuri@hawaii.rr.com.

1st Annual Booster Club Golf Tournament

Saturday, November 12, at 2:00 p.m. at Puakea Golf Course. Open to children and adults of all ages, this inaugural “FUN” raiser event supports the Island School Booster Club! “Experienced” golf balls will be available for those who don’t have their own. After the completion of play, gather for refreshments and prizes at the Samuel & Edith Wilcox Gym lanai. Prizes will be awarded for playing achievements as well as other fun categories! Entry fee is $100 per team of three. For more information please contact Sean Magoun (2460233, sean@ischool.org); or Sam Pratt (651-4226, sam@samuelwpratt. com). ENTRY DEADLINE is Wednesday, November 9th, 2011.

Application forms are attached to this week’s PC.

To contact the publisher of Island School’s Parent Connection, email peggy@ischool.org

I.S. Chronicles

COMPARATIVE RELIGIONS Rattlebone Rock, which they – Mr. Springer’s students visited will perform at 2:15 in the Main the Hindu Monastery in Wailua Hall on Friday, Oct. 28. Parents last week. This is the 5th time are invited.

Bob has taken a class there and they were “greeted as old friends.”

MIDDLE SCHOOL A guide explained Hinduism HALLOWEEN DANCE to the group as he took them – High School Student Government is putting on through the gorgeous grounds and a dance for middle school down into the valley where their students on Friday, Oct. 28, in $17m temple is being built. The the Main Hall, from 6-9 p.m. head of the monastery, Satguru $10 in advance, $12 at the door.

Bodhinatha Veylanswami, met Second graders hiked the Kuilau Trail last Friday.

Students may wear Halloween with them and responded to their costumes that are within the school questions. Another monk talked in PE last week: Eric Potter, dress code guidelines. Forms and about astrology. Christian Potter, Sam Goldberg, Jade Murphy, money are due to Eric Devlin by Oct. a junior, noticed a special feeling Rebecca Stevens, Emily 26. Students may bring one guest. when entering the monastery. “You Threlkeld and Makenna Olson. are instantly relaxed and you feel a Go MS Voyagers!

YEARBOOK – The Yearbook 2011nice calm, steady and relaxing energy 2012 staff is hard at work laying flowing through your body,” he said. the groundwork for a tremendous Kellan Wortmann, a junior, found yearbook. We will soon be requesting he has many misconceptions about photo submissions from our Island monks and their lives. “I found out School ‘Ohana. We will be using that all the monks have iPhones and Jostens’ ReplayIt feature. For a sneak Macbook Pros and that they all are peek, go to www.replayit.com. More very up-to-date with technology,” he info to follow soon. Keep watching said. “At first I wondered why people and take a lot of fun photos! would want to [spend their whole life living in a temple],” said junior, CHEMISTRY – Sophomore Lila DeTreaux. “After visiting the Senior, Ben Steuri, on the Cross CounMichael Rattcliffe was the lucky temple, I now understand how there try course last weekend. winner in an are people who choose that life.” activity done in KIF SOCCER – High school boys chemistry class HAWAIIAN STUDIES – Raina and girls will begin training for the Silver, Moeko Fukada, Ava upcoming soccer season every day from last month. His Zebzda (pictured below), and other 3-5 p.m. starting next week. They’ll start prize was a shirt that spelled hula getting in shape by running. Coaches students Mary Castelanelli and Sean Magoun are “Bacon” using atomic symbols learned gearing up for a great season. from the to make a periodic table lei hipu‘u SPANISH CLUB –High School (see photo above). Ms. Castelanelli from Kumu Spanish Club is selling mini crafted a separate prize for the girls.

Kauka. cinnamon rolls 4/$2 or 2/$1, and The lucky winner for the girls was They picked cans of Arizona Ice Tea for $2 each junior Kezia Kawaihalau. She won a kukui in the freshman lounge during lunch handmade Tahitian pearl bangle. leaves and time the first two A-days of every knotted week during October. Churros, ELEMENTARY STUDENT them together in a chain. “It looks unofrtunately, had to be dropped tribal,” remarked Raina. from the choices because they became COUNCIL – Next week is Spirit Week. Students in PK-5 are invited to unavailable. Come on over and get a dress up as follows: Monday- Funny PHYSICAL EDUCATION – snack!

Day, Tuesday-Twin or Triplet Day, Congratulations to the following Wednesday-Anything Day, Thursdaymiddle school students who ran DRAMA – Fourth graders are Crazy Hair Day, Friday-Sports Day. the three mile cross country course rehearsing their Halloween play,

Parent Page Mahalo to

Parent Association Friday, Oct. 28

Free Tickets

offered to Island School Mothers and their high school Daughters for

Miss Representation http://missrepresentation.org/the-film/

7:00 p.m. at the KCC Performing Arts Center “A relevant and important documentary that deconstructs the insidious role of visual media in the widespread, unbalanced depiction of women and girls, Miss Representation is destined for long-term festival play and could make a significant social impact on broadcast and DVD.” - Sundance Review To get your free tickets, email liz@ischool.org First come first served - only 20 tickets.

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MAKE A DIFFERENCE DAY AT LYDGATE: This Saturday, October 22, from 7:30am to noon lunch included. Volunteers welcome.

USED BAND INSTRUMENTS WANTED: Mickey, our band leader, is looking donations of old and/or used band instruments. Contact Liz if you have one to contribute - liz@ischool.org. Mahalo.

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♥ ♥ ♥ Randy Chinen, Mark Koenig, Prata International, Inc., and Linda Turner for donations to help support the Alaka’i Chorus trip to O‘ahu in January. ♥ ♥ ♥ Ernie & Debra Blachowiak, Nancy Golden, Mark & Barbara Hubbard, Paul & Nausheen Juma, Wade & Kim Lord, Arthur & Dorothy Shaw, Bill & Cynthia Wickersham and alumni Capt. Jennifer Proudfoot USMC, ‘o2, and Kelsey Ritchie, ‘06, for contributions to the Annual Giving Campaign, and Alexander & Baldwin Foundation for their matching gift.

♥ ♥ ♥ Laura Cushnie for parting with some much-loved Halloween decorations and donating them to the drama department. ♥ ♥ ♥ Debra Blachowiak for donating items for Art Day, a book for the LRC and some printer ink cartridges. ♥ ♥ ♥ Kim Medd for her donation of an enlarger and supplies for the darkroom. ♥ ♥ ♥ (belatedly) the Island School Alaka’i Chorus parents and students who donated to and worked the fundraising booth at Fall Roundup. Also to Ian Cowden’s family, who donated the use of their Karaoke machine. ♥ ♥ ♥ Sam & Robin Pratt for their donation to the 1st grade technology fund. ♥ ♥ ♥ Steve Massaro of IT Kaua‘i for addressing our parents at our PA Parent Seminar on Facebook 101. ♥ ♥ ♥ Sidro of Hana Hou Tree Service for donating 65 coconuts for Art Day. ♥ ♥ ♥ sophomore Tyler Keith for raking the keiki playground every morning since the start of school as community service. ♥ ♥ ♥ JR Louis and family for mowing the guinea grass in preparation for the Xcountry race on campus last week. dience,” “Arabian Nights,” and “Variations on the Death of Trotsky.” Subject matter is fairly sophisticated, but kid friendly. I.S. Theatre at 7:00 p.m. Tickets $7 in advance, $10 at the door. Contact peggy@ischool.org.

HIP-HOP DANCE WORKSHOP – KUGA is hosting a 2-day dance workshop, Nov. 19 & 20, at Island School.

Keeley and Osea will be teaching original hiphop styles of dance: Popping, Locking, Old School and Freestyling. $60/ Both days. $40/ for any 3 classes; $15/ drop in for any class scholarships available for those who qualify.

Check their website for details on price breaks and special arrangements for children under 8 years of age. Questions: visit http://www. kuga808.com or email Lila at kuga808@me.com.

Are We Too Tuned Into Our Kids?

Gottlieb notes that rates of anxiety and depression have risen in tandem with self-esteem. Jean Twenge, a coauthor of The Narcissism Epidemic and professor of psychology at San Diego State University, says, “Narcissists are happy when they’re younger, because they’re the center of the universe. Their parents act like their servants, shuttling them to any activity they choose and catering to their every desire. Parents are constantly In this article, she recounts noticing an ironic pattern telling their children how special and talented they are. in her patients. “Here I was, seeing the flesh-and-blood This gives them an inflated view of their specialness results of the kind of parenting that my peers and I were trying to practice with our own kids, precisely so that they compared to other human beings. Instead of feeling good wouldn’t end up on a therapist’s couch one day. We were about themselves, they feel better than everyone else.” running ourselves ragged in a herculean effort to do right In early adulthood, this becomes a big problem when by our kids—yet what seemed like grown-up versions of people don’t know how to be a team player or deal with them were sitting in our offices, saying they felt empty, limits. They can resent being criticized by their boss and confused, and anxious. Back in graduate school, the clinical focus had always been on how the lack of parental need a constant stream of praise. Twenge says: “They attunement affects the child. It never occurred to any of us grew up in a culture where everyone gets a trophy just for participating, which is ludicrous and makes no sense when to ask, what if the parents are too attuned?” you apply it to actual sports games or work performance.

Who would watch an NBA game with no winners or The upshot of Gottleib’s article is that parents who losers? Should everyone get paid the same amount, or get do too much for their children might be unknowingly promoted, when some people have superior performance? handicapping them rather than preparing them for They grew up in a bubble, so they get out into the real world adulthood. She references a social scientist from and they start to feel lost and helpless. Kids who always Swarthmore College: “Research shows that people get have problems solved for them believe that they don’t know more satisfaction from working hard at one thing, and that those who always need to have choices and keep their how to solve problems. And they’re right—they don’t.” options open get left behind.”

If this has piqued your interest, you’ll want to read the article in its entirety. http://www.theatlantic.com/ She also quotes Jeff Blume, a family psychologist with a busy practice in Los Angeles: “A kid needs to feel normal magazine/archive/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-inanxiety to be resilient. … We’re confusing our own needs therapy/8555/4/ with our kids’ needs and calling it good parenting.”

“Child-rearing has long been a touchy subject in America, perhaps because the stakes are so high and the theories so inconclusive.” So says Lori Gottlieb, therapist and author, in an article in the Atlantic. Psychologists have long recommended a diversity of parenting styles, from bonding to strict discipline, from child-centered to parent-centered.

The underlying goal, however remains the same: “to raise children who will grow into productive, happy adults.”

Gottlieb goes on to say, “What seems to have changed in recent years, though, is the way we think about and define happiness, both for our children and for ourselves.”

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